Janie,

If you have any kind of spiritual practice -- whatever it is (yoga, meditation, church, 12-step, etc., etc., -- get back to it. It will help.

I expect you might be backing away from singing because it opens up the breath and opens up the grief. Once, when I was trying to get in shape to record an album, everytime I did vocal exercises I would break down sobbing. This was disconcerting, to say the least. I finally just let myself cry.

And don't set yourself any time limits. Grief is different for each of us and has no universal time table. And we all have grieved -- or will, if we have escaped so far.

If it will help you to PM me, go ahead. I check the Mudcat messages a couple of times a day.

Sharyn