I have a problem in etiquette. My neighbour, the one who cuts down our trees and has been rude to me in the past, runs a hotel as a pub, and sometimes has music. When this has been after midnoght and amplified, I have been one of the neighbours who has complained. I cannot go round there to drink because of this.

At this moment he has an Irish band playing in the front garden, very pleasant. If I go out in the sun to enjoy my front garden, I will also enjoy the music. Who will not be receiving any reward from me commensurate with my enjoyment. What do I do?

Penny