I detest innuednos and assumptions. When I was divorced the first time, at 21, I went out a lot, alone. (IT seemed a lot safer back then:-) Anyway, I found things worked a lot better if I was just really up front with the guys, sometimes blatantly so.

One time, in a forerunner of an upper crust yuppie type bar, a silver & turquoise salesman asked me to have a drink with him and go back to his room. He offered me jewelry! I told him I'd be happy to ahve the drink, but I didn't want his jewelry, wouldn't go to his room, and if he thought the drink was going to mellow me enough to have his way, he was sadly mistaken.

Usually when a guy asked if he could buy me a drink, my standard response, admittedly a crass way of putting it, was "Yes, but don't expect me to fuck you for it!" Surprisingly, most of them seemed relieved that it was brought out into the open; often we went on to have a really enjoyable evening together with them being respectful and non-pressuring.

I don't envy anyone looking these days. There was a cover article in the Utne Reader in 1987/88 called the "New Monogamy". It was about married couples who were staying together, even though they didn't want to, because of the fear of AIDS. I am thankful everyday that my kids made it safely through that landmine; I lost too many friends to it.

WWhowasKC: you get that motorcycle and I bet you won't have any lack of men approaching!**Big grin**

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