Hey akenaton:

We all speak for ourselves, as we're the ones we know best. People who've had marriages that were a nightmare sometimes jump to the conclusion that ALL marriages are a nightmare. People who've had marriages that have allowed them to transcend their ordinariness and find a richness they could never know on their own sometimes glamorize marriage, as if anyone who hasn't had a beautiful one is somehow lacking in grace. I've had both... a first marriage that was a nightmare that would scare the crap out of Stephen King and a second marriage that makes fairy tales about princes and princesses sound mundane. I guess it's fair to say that marriages are like everything else. It depends on what TWO people make of them. Some people may not be cut out for marriage. It's best that they never try, then. But, some of us have been blessed beyond all measure. And, blessed is the right word... no sense being prideful about a good marriage... it is a blessing, not an accomplishment..

Blissful Jerry