Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009

Subject: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: GUEST,Lisa Null
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:18 AM

Kaelan Paton, son of David Paton and grandson of Sandy and Caroline Paton, has disappeared in a tragic water accident just up river from the town of Falls Village CT. I have just talked to Caroline and am reposting a message from Kaelan's sister Linnea from Facebook:

My little brother, Kaelan, is missing.

Kaelan and his friends skipped school this morning to go to Toymaker's Cafe for breakfast and then would go to school late to catch the rest of their high school classes.

Instead they biked to the Great Falls and went swimming.

The water was high.

Some how or another as far as I've heard - one of his friends was drowning. Kaelan went in again to rescue him. The other boys called 911. The fireman pulled two out of the river.

But my brother is still missing - there have been search parties out all afternoon.

We don't expect to find him alive if we find him at all.

Your prayers and support for me and my family would be much appreciated at this time.

Love,
Linnea

There is also more news on this sad story in the Republic-American (Waterbury)
http://www.rep-am.com/News/420220.txt

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Charley Noble
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:30 AM

Very sad to hear.

Condolences to you, your family, and all the friends.

Charley Noble

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: DebC
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:31 AM

This is such sad and tragic news. I don't have the words to express how I feel right now. My heart goes out to Sandy, Caroline, David, Linnea and the rest of the family.

My thoughts are in Sharon right now with the Paton family.

Debra Cowan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: sciencegeek
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:34 AM

How terrible.... please accept my heartfelt wishes for a good resolution to this situation, though I do understand that life can be most unkind.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: JedMarum
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:35 AM

So very sad. I am so sorry to hear the news.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: wysiwyg
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:42 AM

I'll keep watch with you.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Eve Goldberg
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:45 AM

Sending lots of love to Caroline, Sandy, and the rest of the family. You'll be in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: kendall
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:55 AM

Oh my God! What next? What a tragedy. My most heartfelt sympathy to you all.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Maryrrf
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 10:01 AM

Oh no! I am so sorry to hear this.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 10:01 AM

best wishes to all family members & friends

sandra

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: karen k
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 10:28 AM

Thanks Lisa for posting this. I spoke to Caroline, Linnea and David this morning. I just came on Mudcat to post this and am now glad that I did not have to do the initial posting. I'm going up to Sharon tomorrow morning. Was just there over the weekend at a Paton family reunion and spent some time with Kaelan in a good conversation just like I used to have with his dad as a teenager. Sandy told me in an e-mail last night that Kaelan went in first and got out. His friend went in and had trouble so Kaelan went in to help him and did but then he disappeared. The water was very high and wild. They never should have been there. Helping his friend was the kind of kid Kaelan was. I just don't have the words.

Needless to say everyone is heartbroken and dealing with this senseless tragedy as best as can be expected.

karen kobela

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Mary Katherine
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 11:04 AM

Profound condolences to the entire Paton family. Losing a child/grandchild is a tragedy beyond all comprehension unless you've been there.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Anne Lister
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 11:17 AM

So very sorry to hear this - sending as much sympathy and warm wishes as possible.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: Leadfingers
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 12:41 PM

Trying to save his friend ? And lost ! A REAL Bummer

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: jacqui.c
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 12:50 PM

We know a little of how this feels. Anything we can do - just ask.

Love to you all.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing
From: katlaughing
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 01:12 PM

Love and condolences to all, esp. Sandy and Caroline. As a grandma I cannot even imagine how terrible and heartbreaking this would be.

luvyaKat'leen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: nutty
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 01:17 PM

Condolences from the UK - The Paton's are an integral part of the 'folk family'. This is such a sad loss.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: SINSULL
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 01:34 PM

There are no words. Caroline and Sandy, if I can do anything just ask.
Mary

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Fortunato
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 01:48 PM

My sincere condolences to his family.

Chance Shiver

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Sorcha
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 01:49 PM

I'm so very sorry, Caroline, Sandy, and family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Barry Finn
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 02:01 PM

My heart felt condolences to all of the Paton family, espically to David & his wife. A parent should never have to suffer the loss of their child.

Barry

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Azizi
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 02:09 PM

I also send my condolences. My heart goes out to you.

Azizi

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 02:12 PM

Oh my. Every time I talk to Caroline, she talks about her grandkids. I know how much of a tragedy this is for her and Sandy and the whole family. There's nothing to say; it's simply awful. I'm so sorry.

Dan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Deckman
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 02:36 PM

Thinking of everyone ... Bob Nelson

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,jennifer woods
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 02:49 PM

my thoughts, prayers, hugs are with all of the Patons -- Kaelan -- he registered with me as a person. Such a neat kid -- my heart is bleeding for David, Sandy, Caroline, Linnea and all.

jennifer

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 02:49 PM

Greater love than this no man has....
A true hero.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Little Robyn
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 03:24 PM

This is too sad.
Thinking of you all.
Robyn
Folk on Sunday
New Zealand

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Don Firth
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 03:24 PM

Sandy Paton was one of the first people I met when I became involved with folk music in Seattle back in the very early 1950s. Shortly thereafter Sandy left Seattle to ramble the world and become a major force in folk music. I have never had the honor of meeting Caroline or any of the young 'uns, but I did see Sandy again at the 1960 Berkeley Folk Festival where he was one of the featured performers. He introduced me to several well-known singers who were there. Even though we didn't know each other that long, I feel that he was a major force in the course of my musical life.

I lost a nephew in a motorcycle accident a few years ago. Tim and a few friends were out one evening to enjoy a ride on a summer evening, when it all went wrong. So I have some idea of just how devastating this sort of thing can be to family and friends.

My heart goes out to Kaelan's parents, to Sandy and Caroline, and to the rest of the family.

There are just no words that are adequate.

Don Firth

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Rasener
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 03:30 PM

The sort of thing all parents dread.

My thoughts are with you and a sincere hope that he is safe.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: maeve
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 03:43 PM

Sandy and Caroline and family- Kendall and Jacqui spoke so warmly about Kaelan. He sounds like a young man worth knowing. Life is so hard sometimes.

maeve

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Willie-O
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

oh my gosh. I'm so sorry.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 04:43 PM

Prayers and Blessings to hold you close to each other
Blessings and Light to guide through the night
A hand to hold and a tear shed together
Watching and waiting with you all....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bill D
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 04:56 PM

......I can add nothing to what has been said.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Alice
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 04:58 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this tragic news.
My sympathy goes to all the family.

Alice

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Elmore
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:07 PM

My heart goes out to the Paton Family. Greg Doucette

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bob Hitchcock
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:11 PM

My deepest sympathy to all the Paton family.

Bob Hitchcock.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:12 PM

It is so sad to hear this. I hope that somehow we will find out that Kaelan is safe.

John

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: SussexCarole
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:18 PM

Thinking of you all at such a difficult time

Carole & Andrew

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:32 PM

Duane & I took pictures at the family reunion Saturday evening. Kaelan had a great time. I was devastated to receive an email from Sandy this morning, telling me about the tragedy. Kaelan was so full of promise--a really exceptional young man--articulate, intelligent, gentle, funny. I can't imagine anything worse than the sudden death of a young person. I called Caroline right after work today. Kaelan's body has not yet been recovered, but they are considering it a recovery mission, no longer a rescue. Some of the family had not yet left from the reunion & some are returning, so the Patons are not alone. My heart hurts.

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: paula t
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:52 PM

We don't knpw each other, but I would like you to know that I am thinking of you all. A desperately sad thing for a family to cope with.

Paula Tindall
xx

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Art Thieme
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:55 PM

Sandy, Caroline, David, Rob, all you fine people,
What a tragedy. We're so sorry! Please, know that we are with you.

Art and Carol

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 05:58 PM

Thoughts and prayers to Sandy and Caroline and the rest of the family.
Tami

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Ruth Archer
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:00 PM

Just dreadful news. My heart goes out to you all.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Jeri
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:04 PM

Nothing I can say. All my sympathy, my friends.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: meself
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:07 PM

Deepest sympathy ...

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Deckman
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:13 PM

Sins ... you've got a PM. Bob

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Nancy King
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:14 PM

What terrible news. I'll be thinking of you all, but wishing there was more I could do.

Love to all the Patons,
Nancy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Hollowfox
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:23 PM

Every thought that I had in reading this has already been posted. My heart goes out to all of you, good thoughts and prayers likewise. And a candle when I get home. Mary

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:26 PM

Sandy and Caroline......Every good thought you have sent to me over these years I return to you.   They did me a lot of good and I'm hoping they will do the same for you.

All My Very Best,

Spaw

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: karen k
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:32 PM

Still no recovery. The waiting is horrible. More rain on the way which is not good news. Kaelan was a wonderful, gentle and caring young man with amazing potential. This is a tragic loss for everyone who loves him. Smooth paddling Kaelan. I love you.

karen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Joybell
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:57 PM

All my thoughts too. From another grandmother.
Joy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Spleen Cringe
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:57 PM

So sorry to hear your news. Every parent or grandparent's nightmare. My thoughts are with you.

Nigel

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Sheryl Kennedy
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 07:35 PM

Our thoughts are with you and your family at this unspeakably sad time.
Sheryl Kennedy and Family

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Barb'ry
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 07:42 PM

So sorry

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: bseed(charleskratz)
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 07:50 PM

Sandy and Caroline, I can't find the words... it's unbearable to think about for me; for you it must be sheer hell.

Charles

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: C. Ham
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 08:12 PM

What can one say? My heart is with the Paton family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: JedMarum
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 08:41 PM

One of friends or perhaps a family member has posted this video.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Charlie Baum
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:04 PM

Nothing I can add, except more hugs and sympathy. Caroline may have been Kaelan's grandmother, but Kaelen seemed more like a son to her than a grandson; she took a very active role in raising him, and I remember her telling me about him with beaming joy. May those memories gather 'round once more.

The Housatonic will never seem so innocent again.

--Charlie Baum

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,rumanci
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:15 PM

I am so sorry to read this. What a brave lad you raised.
Supportive thoughts and my heartfelt sympathy.
rum

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:24 PM

Adding my thoughts, prayers and condolences.

There really are no words....

Janie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 09:30 PM

My heart bursts. My ties go back to Sandy and Caroline whom I first met when my son Gideon was a babe in arms, 40 years ago. I've seen their boys David and Rob grow up into fine young men. I never met Kaelen but I heard David talking about him with such pride and love that the news is gut-wrenching. My prayers go out to all the family.

Love,

Jerry

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Marie Dufresne
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 10:02 PM

I haven't been visiting the mudcat often lately--there are absolutely no words --the Patons have been like family to us here in maine for so many years and so many good times.
Sandy,Caroline,David & Rob hearts and prayers are with you I know how precious family is to you --I am so so sorry

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Guest, Patricia
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 10:07 PM

There are no words. Prayers are with you, still praying for a miracle. Prayers for comfort for the family. What a tragedy. What a heroic boy.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: oldhippie
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 10:38 PM

Our thoughts and prayers are with the Paton family at this difficult time.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 17 Jun 09 - 11:43 PM

Vanessa and I send our hertfelt sympathy.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Peace
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:26 AM

Please accept my deepest sympathies and sincere condolences. This is a terrible tragedy. I'm sorry.

Bruce

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Mark Clark
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:36 AM

Shock and sorrow here in Iowa. Sandy & Caroline please know that our prayers are with you.

      - Mark

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Padre
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:39 AM

Gail joins me in sending our deepest sympathy to Sandy, Caroline, and the entire Paton family.

Tom McHenry+

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Barbara
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:40 AM

Oh my friends, my heart goes out to you. How terrible. I hold you in the light.
Blessings,
Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: nager
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:01 AM

Such sad news ... my deepest sympathy from Australia

Paul

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:14 AM

All my sympathy to the Patons.

"Farther along we'll understand why.."

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:39 AM

There is nothing I can say that will comfort or ease the pain. I will never understand why young people are lost. And my heart rails against the injustice.

For each ecstatic instant
We must an anguish pay
In keen and quivering ratio
To the ecstasy.

For each beloved hour
Sharp pittances of years,
Bitter contested farthings
And coffers heaped with tears. [Emily Dickinson]

The sorrow and pain of his loss will be as deep as the joy of his life was high.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: georgeward
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:45 AM

Dearest Patons,

It is no surprise at all that any one of you would try to help a friend in trouble. No surprise to anyone here, I imagine. May you find the strength to help each other through this. And may we find enough ways to help.

I love you all,

- George

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: eddie1
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:08 AM

One of the worst pains in the world is for a parent to haave to say Goodbye to a child, For a grandparent to lose a grandchild is a step even more painful. It's not "supposed" to be like that.
To the Paton family, I've never met you, never e-mailed you, never called you but, through the pages of Mudcat I feel I know you. Please accept my deepest sympathy.

Eddie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Anglo
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:43 AM

I can only echo George Ward. I just heard the news, and have very little to say except to add sympathy and condolence. I am reminded of Gamble Rogers, much older, who also drowned trying to rescue someone. And the song "Don't take the Heroes" but so often they're the ones to go.

John R

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: SylviaN
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:20 AM

My heart goes out to you.

Sylvia

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: sian, west wales
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:06 AM

This tragedy tears at the heart. I've never met the Patons but am eternally grateful for all they've done, and am keeping them in my prayers.

sian

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:13 AM

Here are a few photos I took of Kaelan at the Paton family reunion on Saturday, June 13, 2009--3 days before his death. The young folks sat together & they had a great time.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mudder_bbc/sets/72157619803374081/

My favorite memory of Kaelan was an evening when he joined Sandy, Caroline, & me for dinner & a movie. He was in 5th grade then, the same age as my students. He & I had a lengthy discussion about literature. He was informed, articulate, fun! He recommended a fantasy series that I, subsequently, read & purchased for my library. Many of my students have enjoyed it & I like to tell them that I bought it on a young person's recommendation. What a terrible loss this is!

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:16 AM

Sorry, folks. I was hurrying & blew the link. This one should work:

Photos of Kaelan

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Lorraine
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:27 AM

My thoughts and love to all involved. Caroline-Sandy if you'd like to just talk at any point please feel free to call. You have my numbers I think. I'll send them again in case. Hugs and love
~Lorraine

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Keith A o' Hertford
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:48 AM

I am so sorry for you all.
Vey best wishes,
keith.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: John Minear
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:28 AM

Such loss is beyond bearing. May all of our thoughts gather round and help bear you up, now and later. John

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:37 AM

I don't have any words that haven't already been said.

Holding you in our hearts, thoughts and prayers.

Linn

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: fat B****rd
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:31 AM

Best regards and condolences from Charlie in Scotland.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Neil D
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:38 AM

Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. So very sorry.

                                 Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Ebbie
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:44 AM

I am so sorry.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Waddon Pete
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:49 AM

......Thinking of you all.

Peter

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Severn
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:50 AM

My thoughts and prayers go out to all the
family, as well.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Becca72
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:56 AM

Having just experienced something similar, I offer my heartfelt condolences and a shoulder to cry on if needed.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Big Mick
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:10 PM

I spent yesterday at the hospital with my Dad. I came home to find this and I am beyond grief stricken. As has been stated so eloquently by so many, to be a friend with these wonderful people is to be a part of a very large family of friends. Caroline and Sandy embrace you with loving arms and just pull you in. In my own case, they have become something we call "chosen family". I have sat in that wonderful house on Sharon Mountain, over a cup of coffee and watched Caroline dote on Linnea, and saw the pride in her eyes as she spoke of her grandkids. Knowing that this searing pain is something that they will have to bear, and that there is nothing that those of us who love them can do to ease it, is one of the worst feelings ever. What I can say to, beloved "chosen family" is that I share your grief, and you are in my constant and loving thoughts and prayers.

David, and family, I have always said I can tell a great deal about people by the children they raise. In the case of your parents and grandparents, it is clear they have raised exceptional children and grandkids. Look to the love they have given you for the strength you will need in the coming days, weeks, and months. And know that you carry with you the love and sympathy of all of us that your family has touched.

Mick Lane

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:12 PM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,stallion
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:16 PM

Deepest sympathy from all of us

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: ClaireBear
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:46 PM

My heartfelt condolences. Prayers flutter on the breeze from California to you. May they bring a tiny spark of comfort.

Claire

P.S. This passage has helped me though some difficult times, although I have never had times as difficult as yours:

"The death of each of us is in the order of things: It follows life as surely as night follows day. We can take The Tree of Life as a symbol. The human race is the trunk and branches of this tree, and individual men and women are the leaves, which appear one season, flourish for a summer, and then die. I too am a leaf of this tree and one day I shall be torn off by a storm, or simply decay and fall — and become part of the earth about its roots.

"But, while I live, I am conscious of the tree's flowing sap and steadfast strength. Deep down in my consciousness is the consciousness of a collective life, a life of which I am a part, and to which I make a minute — but unique — contribution. When I die and fall the tree remains, nourished to some small degree by my manifestation of life. Millions of leaves have preceded me and millions will follow me: but the tree itself grows and endures."

— Herbert Read

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:55 PM

Hugs to the whole family, nothing more I can add, you are all in my thoughts x
Lucy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 12:59 PM

Is that you, Hawker?


Someone asked me how much good a note in a thread like this, from a rank stranger, can do. I replied:

When I was new here, the Patons personally invited me to come to a festival. That's how they feel about rank strangers. :~)

I Flow blessings to all who have lost a dear one, young or old, recently or not so recently. This is a community that stays close in the hard times, and I give thanks to be a small part of it.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Morticia
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:06 PM

I am so sorry, my thoughts are with you all

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Tradsinger
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:17 PM

I'd like to add condolences and sympathy from England.

Gwilym

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Joe Offer
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:17 PM

I don't know what to say, Sandy and Caroline. I'm sure this is so hard on you. May the love of your friends and family give you comfort at this time.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Beer
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:18 PM

Been away all morning and someone just sent a p.m. for me to have a look. I just did, and I am very sorry for your loss. Strenght to all concerned.
Adrien

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Little Hawk
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:39 PM

I'm very sorry to hear about this and can only send my sympathy to the entire Paton family. I almost lost my own life to deep water one time. We know that we all die sometime...but it's a terrible blow to lose a child or a grandchild. May you find strength and comfort to get you through this tragedy.

George

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:56 PM

Oh, no- prayers ascending. Light]

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:19 PM

Thinking of you all with deepest sorrow and prayers for comfort.

Dani

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:56 PM

With my background, I still at times think of God as a loving Father figure. At numerous times thru life, when I've seen someone suffer a loss like this, I've heard someone say, "God must have had a reason".
My mind forms a different picture. I see God greeting Kaelan with open arms, saying "Kaelan, I'm so proud of you for what you did; but I'm so sorry that this took you from your family and friends much too soon."
I'm so sorry, and I know you will miss Kaelan with all your hearts.
                      Dean Elkins, in Michigan.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Duane D.
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:04 PM

I was in northern NJ yesterday when bbc phoned me to tell me this sad news. My heart has been sick and sad ever since. I share the sadness and sense of loss with the Paton family. bbc and I attended the Paton family reunion dinner on June 13, 2009, as guests of Sandy and Caroline. While there we took many digital images. I looked through all of mine last night and found ten of Kaelan. I added these into a set on my flickr gallery for the Paton family and friends and it may be viewed here.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: olddude
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:06 PM

I have no words other than
my prayers are with you and your family and deepest sorrow for your loss

Dan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,The Bristow Family
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:32 PM

A Child is born to shine their light. Kaelan's shown brighter than most. I had the privilege of knowing Kaelan as my son was a good friend of his. He brightened not only the room but each soul with his smile and his joy. Fate works in strange ways and I must say I am baffled as to her reasons. He must have a greater purpose in a better place than here.
"...Though we may stand on the shore and wave a tearful farewell, murmuring there...there he's gone. Know there are others, on a distant shore, who are waiting...watching, hopefull to raise the cheer, there...there he comes!..."

Our hearts are with you and with Kaelan
Karen Bristow

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Cool Beans
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:44 PM

I am so very sorry.
Marty

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bobert
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:22 PM

Though everything has allready been said add my feelings of deepest sorrows for your loss and may the Good Lord be with you all during these difficult times...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Matthew Edwards
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

This is indeed heartbreaking. My deepest sympathy to all the family.

Matthew

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

There are no words. We're so sorry to hear of your loss.

Love

Khatt and Paul

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: My guru always said
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 05:15 PM

I am so sorry to hear this news, sending positive thoughts and have a candle lit in hope.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Richard Taylor
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 05:28 PM

Sandy, Caroline and the Paton family, on my own behalf and that of the members of the Folk Song Society of Greater Boston, please know that we are thinking of you at this tragic time.

Richard

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Kent Davis
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 06:31 PM

Now is the time of anguish and tears. In the days to come, may the God of all comfort bring calm to your soul and may you remember, and cherish, the courage of his death and the joy of his life.

Kent

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Mrrzy
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 06:33 PM

The day before we knew the final truth about Dad was probably longer than the 25 or so years since his death... I am so very, very sorry you are having to go through this. I will keep thinking of you, and those are beautiful pictures, thanks for posting them.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: skarpi
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:20 PM

úff , I saw the picture of the water .......


Very sad to hear.

Condolences to you, your family, and all the friends.

and may god stay by your side .

All the best Skarpi Iceland .

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Bob and Amba Coltman
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:39 PM

Sandy, Caroline, David, what can we say? Our hearts ache for you and we are with you in spirit in these terrible hours. Love,

Bob and Amba

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:45 PM

There are no words....but words are all we have.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Art Thieme
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:48 PM

This evening I spoke with Caroline and David. The great support of so many of you is truly appreciated there in Sharon. Our own grandson will be one year old on the 20th of this month. The sadness of Kaelan's passing has, for us, highlighted the wonder and love Carol and I have for young Byron and his sisters, Siera and Chloe, and of course for Chris and Kat. ---- The Personal emotions I feel since hearing this sad news are complex, surprisingly intense and varied.

It is good to have this thread to try to come to grips with my own feelings now.

Thanks Mudcatters! --- Art

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: topical tom
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:21 PM

I am so sorry to hear this sad news. Somehow I missed this thread and someone pointed it out to me. All my sympathy and prayers go out to the Paton family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:06 PM

Sandy and Caroline - -I have mot you but have heard so much about you that I feel I know you.   There are no words I can use to help --- but please know my heart is with you....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: maire-aine
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 10:43 PM

I am so sorry. You'll all be in my prayers.

Maryanne

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Michael Harrison
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:19 PM

I am but a petty rhymeister left without words - so filled with sorrow for you. I send you prayers.

mwh

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,Sandy Paton
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 12:39 AM

Dear friends:
    Please know that your thoughts and words do help. We will try to write more when the weeping stops.
    Sandy and Caroline

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Big Mick
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 01:11 AM

It is incredible to me that you, in the middle of this, take time to honor us. This is a perfect example of why we all love you and your family so very much. Know, dear friends, that we weep with you.

Love,

Mick

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: KT
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 05:37 AM

Dear Sandy & Caroline, I'm so very sorry. Holding your family in my heart. KT in Alaska

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Allan C.
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:02 AM

Others have said it as well or better. My thoughts are with you, Sandy and Caroline, and with the parents of that brave young man.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Zany Mouse
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:59 AM

There is nothing left to say - it's all be said. Positive thoughts winging their way across the pond.

Blessings
Rhiannon and Mick

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Mooh
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 07:18 AM

Very, very sorry to hear of this.
Our hopes and prayers for you all.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 07:31 AM

Sandy and Caroline, our thoughts and prayers go out to you and all the Patons. We are grandparents too. We feel your loss almost as if it were our own. Loving thoughts to you. Roy & Elaine.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Uncle Phil
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 08:06 AM

Please add our sympathy and condolences, and add two more names to the circle gathered around you here.
Phil and Michelle

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Gloucesterman
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:23 AM

A quote from one of my father's sermons:
    The reality of grief is the solitude of pain, the feeling that your heart is in pieces, your mind's a blank, that "there is no joy the world can give like that it takes away." (Lord Byron).
No child should predecease a parent, let alone a grand-parent.
When you mourn him least, you'll remember him best. It will come, I promise.
Godspeed.
David Coffin

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: katlaughing
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 10:12 AM

Brave youth can bring such courage which brings such sorrow with never a thought for themselves. Many years ago, I knew a family who lost three sons in a matter of minutes as they went to rescue each other from the Colorado River. Somehow their family did carry on, for many years and they were well remembered and loved. I can just *see* Sandy and Caroline's spirits in those photos of Kaelan; there is a gleam in his eye and it looks as though a smile came easily and lit up his whole being when it did. Sometimes, those bright spirits burn out too quickly by our estimation.

SandyGramps, thank you for taking the time to post and please do not feel any onus to do so any time soon...take care of yourselves and just know we are here for you.

luvyaKat'leen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: momnopp
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 11:06 AM

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Paton Family}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Holding you in love and light.

JudyO/momnopp

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: M.Ted
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 01:43 PM

I am so sorry to hear about this--this is the worst fear of every parent, grandparent, uncle, aunt or caregiver. You have my greatest sympathies, and all my prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Mark Ross on the MONDAK border
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 03:58 PM

I've been out of touch here on the Plains playing for a Buckskinner Rendezvous. My best to Sandy & Caroline, we never know when these things will happen do we? Cherish those around you for you know not when they will leave you.

Mark Ross

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Burke
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 04:38 PM

I haven't been around much, but I was alerted to this thread. I'm so sorry to hear about this.

My prayers are with all of the Paton family.

Knowing a family that lost a father in very similar circumstances, I'll also hold the boy he was trying to save in my prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Jan and Ken
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:01 PM

To the Paton family - we met so briefly but you are high in our thoughts so many times- and we often relate the story of your kindness, warmth and hospitality. No words can say how much we are thinking of you this has really touched our hearts - and today when our grandsons came to visit I gave them an even more special hug - because I was also thinking of you - and felt priviledged and humbled that I could hug them - please keep on hugging Kaelan in your hearts and remember all the joy he gave you in the years you had together.

I am weeping as I write this but send you all the love possible from here in England.

Very much in our thoughts

Jan and Ken

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:37 PM

Still keeping watch with you.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,ScuttleBob
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:39 PM

Oh, Dear Friends, My heart breaks for & with You All! And all these warm words from so many who have been touched by your Music, Your lives and sense of family. I wish I could be with you-but my thoughts & prayers are joined with this Greater Family that surrounds you...in love and careing.
Be strong, be well...
I Love You All
Bob Z

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Naemanson
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 03:40 AM

Did they ever find him? I lost a student this year in the ocean and they never found him. It adds to the sorrow and grief.

Sandy and Caroline, I only met you briefly, one face in thousands, yet your love and gentle hearts touched me and still ride with me. I wish you peace and relief from your grief.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: adventure
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 07:51 AM

David, Caroline, Sandy and Family,

We are thinking of you all......

Sincerely,

Peter and Joanne

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 08:01 AM

Hi, folks,

Duane & I shared hugs, tears, & chat with Sandy & Caroline last evening. To date, Kaelan's body has not been found. Sandy & Caroline are bearing up, but this will be a long, long haul. Kaelan leaves a hole in the life of his loved ones that, although, over time, may hurt less intensely, will never be filled. He was such a special person. To die, at fifteen, with so much potential unfulfilled is a crushing blow. Your love, thoughts, prayers, & good wishes are deeply appreciated. The phone may not be answered, but Sandy is sitting at his computer, reading. To communicate with Caroline, letters might be more appropriate.

love,

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Lighter
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 10:00 AM

Sandy, we've met only in cyberspace, but I trust that you and Caroline will accept my sincere condolences anyway. I am so sorry to hear about this terrible tragedy.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,Bob Tedrow
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 12:11 PM

I am very sorry to hear the news. My families deepest sympathy.

Bob Tedrow

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Michael S
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 05:39 PM

I had held back from adding to this thread. I didn't know Sandy and Caroline, and didn't know Kaelan and his parents. I talked to Sandy and Caroline once, many years ago. It was a formal context, an interview. They were very friendly, but I know it's not a very personal connection.

Then I found myself checking in here frequently to see if searchers had found Kaelan. I have two teenagers. My daughter is Kaelan's age, and also just completed the 9th grade. There's a kinship among everyone who loves someone else deeply, and eventually it seemed OK to me to express my sorrow.

So, finally, I came here, as so many others did. I am so sorry and I hope that there is peace and acceptance at the end of grieving. My thoughts are with this family, that has offered so much.

Michael Scully

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,DADGBE sans cookie
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 11:32 PM

My God! Sandy, Caroline, David, Robin my heart aches with you and for you.

Ray Frank

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: open mike
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 12:33 AM

oh, no, another water tragedy for one of our young men.
If there is any chance that our two fellows are together
above, that is something, at least, to hope for.

hugs to all, and thank you for raising a son and grandson
to whom generosity and helping friends was such a powerful
priority. my sorrow joins yours....

oh, silly words.....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Glen Reid
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 09:43 AM

Such a terible tragedy. My most heartfelt condolances to Sandy Caroline and David.
Sincerly, Glen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 11:20 AM

Still holding you all in the Light-
Allison

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Partridge
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 11:48 AM

So very very sorry to hear this. Words seem pathetic as they hit the page. I just dont know what to say.

Please know I'm thinking of you and yours
much love

Pat xxx

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Rowan
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 07:00 PM

As a member of the local Search & Rescue group I've been on two searches for people who were never found. Although I approached those situations with professional attitudes, the sadness was profound, and I wasn't a member of the family, for whom "excoriating" seems the most accurate, if inadequate, expression.

My thoughts are with you.

Rowan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Skivee
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 07:17 PM

It's so sad to hear of this continueing tragedy; a cold echo of the Kendall, Jacqui, and Big Mick's recent devestating losses.
My heart goes out to you all.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Norma - Frankie's Grandma
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:25 AM

I am the Grandmother of Frankie, the friend whose life was saved by Kaelan. I can not really put into words how we feel. When my daughter called me from the Hospital, she was so hysterical, I could not understand her. However, I did hear her screaming "Frankie's all right! Frankie's all right!" I felt a cold chill roll over me, then relief..but then she screamed: "Kaelan is lost! Frankie is asking for Kaelan..he said he was there, and then he was gone!" The cold chill returned, and it remains with me.

As I understand it - and no one is exactly clear about it, Frankie was being swept by the current, and Kaelan ran ahead to some rocks, and extended his hand. Frankie grasped it, but the current was too strong for him to get out. Kaelan jumped in, and pushed Frankie to a rock, which he grabbed. He was losing his grip, and worked his way into a crevice by the rock, and turned around for Kaelan, but Kaelan was gone... The joy of having Frankie still with us is so strong, but at the same time, it is so painful to even try to imagine the anguish you all must be feeling...I have tried to do so, but the prospect of even trying to imagine it is more painful than I can bear to go to at this time. All I can say is that Kaelan is and always will be such a hero to Frankie and all of us - he is devastated by Kaelan's loss, and I know he thinks of it all the time - as do I. This is a loss of such magnitude; it brings a pall over everyone and everything. I have asked all my friends for their thoughts and prayers on behalf of Kaelan Paton, a hero to whom all of us owe such a great debt. God Bless him. We are still praying for a miracle... Kaelan gave one to us...His memory will be with us forever...

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: open mike
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:46 AM

Sincere condolences to his family, mother, father, grandparents, friends and especially for those who were with him on that day. treasure your memories.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:50 AM

Dear Norma,

I hope you (as well as Frankie and the rest of your family) know deep in your hearts that it is not only possible, it is absolutely OK to rejoice that one was spared, even while you grieve that one was lost. The relief that Frankie lives is a separate emotion from grief of the tragic loss of Kaelan. Frankie did not intend to put himself in danger, nor did Kaelan. This was an awful accident, but an accident, nonetheless. None of the boys would have gone into the water initially, or to rescue one another, if they had thought there was serious risk that any of them would be injured or would die.

My heart aches for all of you. I have a 15 year old son that I realize could be Frankie or Kaelan.

May all who love all of these children know they are surrounded by light and love, and find some measure of comfort in the midst of profound sorrow.

Janie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Deckman
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 12:56 AM

MY GOD .... bob

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Guest: Lisa Null
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 01:32 AM

Sandy:

As you know, I have spoken with Caroline and we will talk ourselves in time. It is not easy for me to put in words what I feel.

I remember a few minutes of stolen serenity on a bench outside in early May as people sang and plunked in the distance. You were the chauffeur bringing one of your grandchildren somewhere or other or perhaps picking him or her up...I took it for granted. I have watched your grandchildren grow, knowing they were enriched by not just one but two generations of love and care. This is so rare and so important. You and Caroline have given them the very best of yourselves. Kaelan's time was short, and it doesn't feel long enough, ripe enough... but he was the best he could be while it lasted, and you helped see to that. Take pride that you gave him so much and that he grew up as well as he did.

I lost my brother when he was just a few years older than Kaelan-- this is not something one ever gets over. All I can say is I love you like my own family and that some of the most beautiful flowers bloom but for a short time.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 07:04 AM

Norma,
Thank you so much for writing! Most of us know little of what really happened that day & your post helped me to understand. I agree with everything that Janie wrote. There is & should be joy that Frankie was saved; may he savor a long, full life! I think that times like this serve to remind us to hold our loved ones near & to recognize that we just get one day at a time; life is precious!

Lisa,
I am sorry for your loss. Growing up, I lost a close friend to a motorcycle crash the weekend after school closed. As trite as it sounds, our best part is to just love each other through these times--making ourselves available to hug, to listen, to show that we are with those who grieve.

best,

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: nutty
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 09:36 AM

Some years ago I wrote these words to be spoken at my funeral.
Others have asked to use them when speaking for their loved ones.
They seem to be relevant for both young and old.

If they give you comfort, please, feel free to use them.


When my life is done
And my spirit's at rest
And there's nothing on earth that can save me
Don't weep and don't mourn
Send me off with a song
And reflect on the pleasure that knowing you gave me

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Naemanson
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 09:46 AM

In December we lost a student at school. He was one of my students, very personable with a great future. His loss tore out my heart.

About halfway through the next quarter one of his friends told me they had been together in the surf on kayaks and then he was gone. They never found him. The friend commented that he wanted to go into the surf to find him but that the other people on the beach wouldn't let him go. I told him that Jerod would not have wanted him to risk his life that way.

Then, in March, one of the members of my Academic Challenge Bowl team went on a church outing to Tarzan Falls. Apparently he slipped on the rocks, hit his head, and was gone before anyone saw anything. They did eventually find him but it was too late.

I will never forget this school year. It has been the most difficult, emotionally, that I can imagine. I have spoken with veteran teachers who tell me they have never experienced anything like this and hope they never will.

All this is the long way of saying that I hope someone remembers to comfort Kaelan's teachers, mentors, friends, and anyone else who him in their hearts. He sounds like he was a great kid, as special as those two were to me. I hope they can find their own peace.

And Sandy and Caroline, I am still thinking of you and hoping for the best for you and for Kaelan's parents.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Big Mick
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 10:08 AM

Norma's post touches me deeply. We are but a week or so short of the one year anniversary of the accident that my daughter survived and her best friend did not. I know in an all too familiar way the awful pull of conflicting emotion. Frankie needs support and understanding so that he gets that this was simply an accident.

Mick

Subject: Abrazos: Kaelan Paton Missing -
From: wysiwyg
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 10:55 AM

Norma,

My husband and I do a fair bit of pastoral counseling and crisis ministry, and it is from this context I share the following.

It sounds to me like Frankie is still in the shock phase of processing what occurred, and that right now he has not yet started the phase more commonly known as survivor's guilt. Processing and healing from that (through that) will almost certainly be an issue to address, thoguh just companioning him as he lives and addresses present-time is most important now.

In companioning, caring adults can help implant the knowledge that Kaelan, his good friend, gave his life not "in vain" but would, as a good friend, certainly want to celebrate all the wonderful things Frankie will experience as his life unfolds-- from what I have heard about Kaelan, and from what we know of youth in general, I would bet that he would want Frankie to embrace life and "make him proud."

Kids that age make huge use of "sideways" wisdom; wisdom offered in relaxed understatement provokes thought, as opposed to the type of insistent agree-with-me communication "middler" adults so often offer instead "for their own good." This is exactly the type of wisdom a grandparent is so often in a position to offer-- our maturity lends a bit of credibility to young people searching not for answers, but for promising clues they can investigate for themselves.

I celebrate all that Kaelan's grandparents gave to nourish that young man, and I celebrate how you will continue to nourish your young Frankie.


Abrazos,

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Sandy Paton
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:18 PM

Thank you so much, Norma. Your story of what happened is exactly as one of the other boys gave it to us, and, apparently, to Jim Moore, who wrote the fine articles in the Waterbury Republican-American. We're grieving, of course, but proudly, knowing that he did what he did to help Frankie, knowing the danger involved.
    He was a wonderful young man, and such a great grandson to Caroline and me. Thank you for sharing a little of his greatness with our friends on the Mudcat Forum. That was very thoughtful of you.
    Sandy Paton

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Greg B
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:34 PM

The story puts me in mind of another hero's manner of leaving us...
Stan Rogers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Barbara Shaw
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:46 PM

Dear Sandy & Caroline, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandson. If there's any comfort to be had in this poem/song I wrote, please read it with the love intended.

Not Mine For Long
Barbara Shaw, 2004

Not mine for long, I always knew
Those two bright cheeks and smiling eyes
So wise, so piercing to my soul
Would one day grow forever old
And move beyond my range of view.

In little steps in little ways
The days went by and I was sure
Those pure and joyful times would fly
And one day we would say goodbye
And move on to the coming phase.

Moving out to change the world
To learn and play and push the edge
To jump the hedge of home and heart
And find new routes and roads to start
To view the tapestry unfurled.

Becoming person of the earth
Whose worth is yet to be displayed
Who stayed not longer than a flash
With us whose memories are ash
That rose in triumph at the birth.

Moving out and quickly gone
Drawn to the ultimate design
Not mine for long, I always knew
Yet mine forever, always true
Moving out and moving on.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Stringsinger
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 03:51 PM

Sandy and Caroline, deep condolences. I am saddened by your loss.

Frank Hamilton

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 04:07 PM

My deepest sympathy! As he died a hero may his memory shine in your hearts with pride after the initial grief has passed! Greater love hath none than he who lays down his life for a friend! God bless.....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Amergin
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 04:52 PM

The Final Note

It is a celebration of your life
And the mourning of what might have been
It is a joyous cry of your love
And the tearful anger of your death
It is the alleviating conclusion
Of a transitory moment of anguish
To find yourself galloping blissfully
Through the golden orchards of Tír na nÓg
It is a moment for those of us who linger
To gather the tokens of your life
In tear stained photographs
And the scattered recollections
Of the fleeting seconds
We depleted at each other's side
It is a occasion to weep at your departure
As the piper resonates his concluding note
Duplicating the banshee's dying requiem.

Nathan Tompkins

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Cool Beans
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 04:54 PM

Gamble Rogers

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 05:44 PM

Barbara and Nathan - beautiful poems.

Norma, thanks so much for posting. I echo what Janie and the others have said. Cherish him and you will always honour Kaelan.

With gratitude,

kat

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Sheryl Kennedy
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 09:48 PM

To the Paton Family

I continue to think of you morning and night, and in between. I send my love and condolences again, and always.

Sheryl Kennedy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: MaineDog
Date: 22 Jun 09 - 10:42 PM

I am a poor, wayfaring stranger while trav'ling through this land of woe,
Yet, there's no sickness, toil, nor danger in that Fair Land to which I go.
Jim

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 10:17 AM

Still keeping watch with you.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: jacqui.c
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:09 PM

Linnea has just been on to Facebook to say that Kaelan's body has been found downstream of the covered bridge in Cornwall today.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Tinker
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:26 PM

Gentle blessings sent
encircling
flowing
loving
holding

standing with you for comfort and strength

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: maeve
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:28 PM

Thank you, Jacqui. It's a horrible and necessary step in grieving his loss and rejoicing in his life.

Caroline, Sandy, and all- We weep with you.

maeve

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:35 PM

Now Kaelan can rest in peace and his family and friends can mourn. My prayers go out for the Patons and for Frankie and his family.
Mary

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:51 PM

Thank you Jacqui for your 12:09 PM post just now.

I'll add some tears to the mix; mine are mingled with the joy of continued celebration of Kaelan's character, his life to date and the life, moving forward, of his friend Frankie. Sandy, picture them if you will as a salute from the crowd as your boy passes by.

Kaelan's parents and siblings also have been lifted up in prayer on a regular basis, and will continue to be.

[a number of long, nonverbal meditations here]


Love,

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Marc Bernier
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 01:36 PM

RIP

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: catspaw49
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 01:51 PM

You are in my thoughts every day and though I know there are no words to help, I hope you can find some peace in this time.

Pat

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: M.Ted
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:26 PM

So sorry that it ended this way. Our best thoughts and prayers go out to you in this most difficult time.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:31 PM

So sory, Sandy,Caroline,David. Loving thoughts from Elaine and me. Roy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Amos
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:39 PM

Deepest condolences, Sandy, Caroline and all your kith and kin.


A

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,Julia
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:52 PM

We are wordless and weeping...our hearts share your loss
Know that loving arms enfold his spirit and yours

Julia & Fred from Maine

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Anne Lister
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:28 PM

So very, very sorry. Sending our love to all of you who are grieving.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: ranger1
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:39 PM

Sandy and Caroline, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Tami from Maine.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: kendall
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:47 PM

Tragic is not a strong enough word.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:49 PM

I am so relieved for the family that he's been found. The waiting can be much worse than the knowing... I will be thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: My guru always said
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:52 PM

So very sorry to hear that this heroic young person is no longer with us. My thoughts are with his family and friends, sincere condolences. Candle lit.
Hil

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 04:21 PM

We knew it would end this way, but we wish it hadn't. Sandy, Caroline, and the whole family - our hearts and our care are with you. It's hard to celebrate a life that was only fifteen years when it ended - but I know that you will, even as you grieve his loss. You have our love.

Dan and Geeta

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Neil D
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 04:46 PM

Words escape us, so very tragic. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. What a true hero he was.

                                        Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: artbrooks
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 04:54 PM

I was waiting to say anything - not entirely sure why...maybe hoping. Now there really isn't anything to say.

Art and Jenn Brooks

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:17 PM

I am so very sorry to hear it. May this bring some kind of closure, and some degree of peace.
I'm sure I speak for others when I say I would like to know more about this young man who died in such a noble and tragic way. If any of his friends or family would share any memories of Kaelan, I for one would be grateful. In your own time and on your own terms.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Tim Leaning
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:24 PM

Condolences and Prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Noreen
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:40 PM

So sorry to hear of this unimaginable sadness, Sandy, Caroline and all your extended family.

Kaelan looks to have been a wonderful boy and a credit to you all. His presence and warmth will always be with you, in your hearts.

Thinking of you with love.

Noreen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:45 PM

I'm so very sorry this horrible thing has happened to such a wonderful family. I'm keeping all the Patons (and Frankie and his family too) in my thoughts and heart. Just wish there was something I could do to help.

Love,
Nancy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:47 PM

Dear David and family,
Words can't express my sympathy. Though I never met Kaelan, I know that he had to be an incredible human being.
-Chris Costello

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Nancy King
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:49 PM

Whoops -- didn't realize I wasn't signed in. "Guest" at 5:45 was me.

Nancy King

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 06:34 PM

The last time I saw Kaelan was at NEFFA. Susan and I were in the process of dragging a half-ton of CAMSCO stuff from the booth to the car. Kaelan's was the only offer of help we received. Typical of him. He was a good kid, and I'll miss him, too.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Dharmabum
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 06:41 PM

Haven't checked in for months,only to find this tragic news.
My deepest condolences to the Pattons.

There's a song written by Dave Carter titled "When I Go",
The last verse has always provided a little comfort.

Sigh mournful sister,whisper & turn,
I will rattle like dry leaves when I go,
Stand in the mist where my fire used to burn,
I will camp on the night breeze when I go,
& Should you glimpse my wandering form out on the boarderline,
Between death & resurrection,& the council of the pines,
Do not worry for my comfort,do not sorrow for me so,
All your diamond tears will rise up & adorn the sky beside me when I go.

DB.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST,Todd and Evie
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 07:32 PM

Feel very out of touch with Dave but am aching to reach out and hold him. Such a profoundly sad time....our thoughts have been with you all over the past week. The mighty river has broken our hearts.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: lisa null
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 08:40 PM

I keep wishing I could be with you all, a silent and helpful friend sharing what words cannot. Songs keep flowing in and out of my mind, Last night I sat alone on the back deck and sang at the moon for you, for Kaelan, for us all. "His bright smile haunts me still."

I'll be in touch again when th madness subsides, Lisa

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Gweltas
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 08:55 PM

Kind thoughts and prayers are with all of the family from Cornwall in the UK. May God give you comfort and consolation at this sorrowful time.
XX

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST,laura schmidt classmate of david
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:01 PM

my heart breaks for you all.because i went to school with david i know the love of your family. i wish you peace and love at this terrible time and always

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,Riki Schneyer
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:16 PM

Words fail...Everything I try to say sounds just plain stupid. I'm just so sorry. Milan and I send big, big love to all of you.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,nomi solo
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:36 PM

dear sandy and caroline,
a hero's death, we can never be prepared for such sadness. our daughter reminded us of a small memorial in london england called postman's park. This memorial began with an idea by g.f. watts who in 1887 wrote to the "Times" proposing a project to mark the queen's jubilee. he stated it would be of national interest to collect a complete record of the stories of heroism in every-day life. though his idea was not taken up officially, he himself commemorated the actions by erecting this park, a 50 foot long gallery with a tiled roof. here are engraved on tiles names of many youths who gave their lives in heroic actions.
may we all remember kaelan, with or without a tile, but in our hearts and our actions.
with loving sympathy
nomi and dick solo

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Guy Wolff
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:42 PM

Hello Sandy and Caroline,

I am so sorry to hear this and an amazed with the power of the river this time of year he saved his friend .It shows what kind of young man he was . You have so much to be proud of in your grief . Tons of love to you both and let David know how very sorry I am . What a terrible loss , Yours Guy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Janie
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 10:09 PM

Wish I had words of wisdom and solace, but I don't.

I don't know how you as parents and grandparents live with the blinding pain of such startling and unimaginable loss - except that somehow you do - because regardless of the pain, you wake in the morning.

The heart beats, unbidden. The breath breathes, even in those times that hit literally like a knife in the gut, and you think that you just can not bear it. Those times when the imagination runs wild, then you realize you have to reel it in.

For what it is worth, remember this.   It is true regardless of spiritual belief or the lack there of.   Kaelan is free from all suffering. Whether he is in a "better place", or dwells now only in your hearts, he is OK.   Free of pain.   Free of suffering.

Remember that.

Remember that he abides always in your hearts and memories. Remember that he lives on in every life that he touched, in every memory that anyone has of him. We are as shaped and influenced by the young as much as by the old.   If in no other way, each of us is immortal in that the effect of our lives on others does indeed ripple out in wider and wider circles, and down through generations.

I don't know you, Sandy and Caroline. I only know who you are, and doubt seriously that you recall me from our brief introductions at a Getaway.   Regardless, the simple act of reading this thread, contemplating your loss, reading the posts of those who do know you, your family, and Kaelan, changes and influences me, as it does everyone who reads here.   Kaelan lives on, even in someone like me, who never knew him at all.

Nothing that I write here can touch your pain and loss, but in the event it brings some measure of comfort in the midst of your terrible pain in the time ahead, I wanted to share these thoughts.

Janie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: JennieG
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 12:46 AM

Sandy and Caroline, we have never met but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

JennieG

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Paul Burke
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 02:02 AM

Hopefully with time you can take some good from the tragedy. Celebrate his life while regretting it was so short.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Bryn Pugh
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 07:59 AM

So sorry to have read this. Sincere condolences.

May he rest in the arms of the Great Mother, and know the All Father's smile.

May the Great Mother and the All Father comfort you, and bring you Peace eventually.

So mote it be.

Love and Blessings, Erica and Bryn

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Elijah Browning
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 09:04 AM

what needs to be said there are no words for.
All our love from the Chris and Kat Thieme and family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 03:34 PM

There's a parish supper tonight that I expect to be full of young people. I'll be thinking of Ezra and Kaelan as I circulate, which will be a form of walking prayer for their families.

(((Paton Clan)))

(((Morse Clan)))

~S~

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Ebbie
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 03:36 PM

This sentiments of this song were a comfort to my sister when her daughter died. May it help just a little bit now.

          Alive and Well
                                    Ebbie

I heard my mother as she lay dying speak
of winged angels that fears dispelled
And though in sorrow my heart is crying
I know her spirit is alive and well

       For as sure as the bright sun and the stars above me
       As sure as stories that people tell
       I know the spirit that's giving and loving
       I know it will always be alive and well
        Oh, I know it will always be alive and well

Though loved ones' passing may leave me lonely
As one by one they heed that bell
Still I'll remember one glad thought only:
I know their spirits are alive and well

When breath forsakes me and none can hold me
(And when that may be, no tongue can tell)
And though my heart cease, that will set my soul free
And I know that I'll always be alive and well.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Partridge
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 05:31 PM

there are no adequate words, just so very sorry - I cant imagine the loss

much love xxxxx
Patrish

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: SussexCarole
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 06:59 PM

All our love to you all at such a sad time. "Sweet Dove of Peace"

Carole & Andrew x

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 10:27 PM

Many years ago, one of my first influences of traditional music came from a lovely album I rescued from a library sale in my new home near Chapel Hill NC.

I learned a song from it, and brought it to my first Getaway, not brave enough to sing in front of people, but hoping to hear it. Where the first workshop I went to was led by Caroline Paton, who of course already knew the song because it was a Folk-Legacy album.

Naturally.

And as you can imagine, she gracefully encouraged me to sing it.

Tonight I met with a group of people with whom I now often sing, mostly traditional music. We sang song after song of love and devotion, and redemption, the here and the hereafter. I though how different and difficult, and at the same time how amazingly healing the music will be for you, Caroline, and for Sandy, and for all the people you love.

Don't ever lose sight of the power and beauty you have brought to the world, including but not exclusively that of your beautiful grandson. All the sorrow and sadness cannot erase one speck of the grace, and love you have wrought, and which surrounds you tonight.

I sang this for you all tonight, sending love:

_____________________

We'll camp a little while in the wilderness
in the wilderness
in the wilderness
We'll camp a little while in the wilderness
then we'll be going home

Then we'll be going home, oh!
we'll be going home
We'll camp a little while in the wilderness
then we'll be going home.
____________________________________

Dani

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Rapparee
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 10:38 PM

There are no words. Just know that we all care.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: alison
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 02:48 AM

so very sorry - thinking of you all at this time

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: freda underhill
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 07:42 AM

yes, a great tragedy, my thoughts with you as well.

freda

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 12:50 PM

Any word yet on arrangements?

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: karen k
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 08:38 PM

Sunday, July 12, 2009 1pm - 7pm Hosatonic Valley Regional High School. Service, meal, music and a contradance. All are welcome.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Gorgeous Gary
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 08:49 PM

*hugs* and deepest sympathies.

-- Gary

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: emjay
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 08:55 PM

I cannot even imagine the pain and the sadness. My heart goes out to this family and I have tears in my eyes for family and this young man though I've never met any of them.
Martie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: topical tom
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 09:00 PM

Sandy, Caroline, and family: I am so sorry that this happened. I know that there's nothing we can really say to alleviate the grief but, as someone so aptly put it, words are all we have. Love and prayers are in my heart for you.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: bbc
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 09:27 PM

Yes, Susan. A memorial, open to all, is planned for Sunday, July 12th at Housatonic Valley Regional High School
in Falls Village, CT, from 1-7 pm. It will start with a memorial service & then progress to a song circle, a vegetarian potluck meal (in memory of Kaelan), & a contra dance. Kaelan's dad, David, hopes that this may become an annual event, in Kaelan's memory. Duane & I visited Sandy & Caroline today & helped get some cds ready for the Old Songs Festival. We saw David today for the first time since Kaelan's death. Naturally, he & his folks are still actively grieving. It was good to be with them. A non-profit fund has been established to help with the family's expenses at this time (Simple cremation costs more than $2,000). If you wish to contribute, checks can be made out to "Kaelan Paton Memorial Fund" & can be mailed "Care of" Sandy & Caroline Paton, Folk-Legacy Records, Box 1148, Sharon, CT 06069. Buying music from Folk Legacy, either online or at the Old Songs Festival, will also help out.

best,

Barbara

---

The memorial for Kaelan on 7/12 has been relocated from the Housatonic Valley Regional High School to Sharon Center School - on Hilltop Road in Sharon.(Posted at Sandy Paton's request)

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Greg B
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 09:58 PM

Good-night, sweet prince; And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: karen k
Date: 26 Jun 09 - 05:10 PM

Correction to bbc's post above:
The tax deductible fund being set up by the Paton's local bank in Kaelan's name is to be an education trust fund for Kaelan's two younger sisters, Shannon, 13 and Juliana, 10. Kaelan's dad David and sister Linnea will agree together on how and when any funds are used. The fund will not be used for family living expenses.

The family notes that anyone who can join them July 12th for Kaelan's memorial celebration is very welcome.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: karen k
Date: 26 Jun 09 - 05:22 PM

Oops - one additional note. In order to obtain tax-deductible status on any contribution, checks must be made out to "Kaelan Paton Memorial Fund."

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Ken Schatz
Date: 26 Jun 09 - 06:37 PM

My thoughts are with Kaelan, Linnea, David, and Sandy and Caroline and all the Paton family. I am so sorry to hear it.

Love to you all,
Ken Schatz

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,Guest David Jones
Date: 26 Jun 09 - 09:49 PM

I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. Words collected by Gale Huntington come to mind,

"Row on Row on another day may shine with brighter light,
Ply Ply the oars and pull away, there's dawn beyond the night".

Love to David, Sandy and Caroline.

David Jones

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Jun 09 - 11:55 PM

I have a stupid question? Is Linnea also our Mudcat linnea? Just wondering. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: open mike
Date: 27 Jun 09 - 03:26 AM

How wonderful that Kaelan's memory will be honored by a vegetarian feast and contra dancing.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: My guru always said
Date: 28 Jun 09 - 02:47 AM

Kaelan has been in our thoughts along with all his family and friends. We visited Postman's Park in London (nomi solo mentioned it earlier) a couple of days ago and read the tiles there. I thought that maybe others would like to read them here too, so I took some photos (you'll need to zoom) and added them to my photo page.
Hil

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Celtaddict
Date: 29 Jun 09 - 11:09 PM

I know there are no words that can help someone bear the unbearable. But Sandy, Caroline, David, Robin, Linnea, you are in my thoughts, and in the hearts of many. Peace.
Janet

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST,Susan Tanner
Date: 02 Jul 09 - 01:09 PM

Sandy and Caroline:

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family at this very difficult time. I know it must be small consolation to know that your grandson is a hero to his friends, and to those of us he never met for his bravery and quick actions. May he watch over all of us.

With my deepest and sincere sympathies,
Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: open mike
Date: 02 Jul 09 - 01:33 PM

Reminder..all are welcome to join the memorial which is planned for
Sunday, July 12th at Housatonic Valley Regional High School
in Falls Village, CT, from 1-7 pm.
memorial service, song circle, a vegetarian potluck & contra dance.

Kaelan's dad, David, hopes that this may become an annual event,
in Kaelan's memory.

A non-profit fund has been established. If you wish to contribute, checks can be made out to "Kaelan Paton Memorial Fund" & mailed
"Care of" Sandy & Caroline Paton, Folk-Legacy Records, Box 1148, Sharon, CT 06069. Buying music from Folk Legacy, will also help out.

The tax deductible fund being set up by the Paton's local bank in Kaelan's name is to be an education trust fund for Kaelan's two younger sisters, Shannon, 13 and Juliana, 10.

---

The memorial for Kaelan on 7/12 has been relocated from the Housatonic Valley Regional High School to Sharon Center School - on Hilltop Road in Sharon.(Posted at Sandy Paton's request)

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Barry Finn
Date: 02 Jul 09 - 03:59 PM

Thanks open Mike, though I only knew David slighlty over the yrs & knew Sandy & Caroline much better, I do see some of David's old friends from many yrs back & will pass this along to them

Barry

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 03 Jul 09 - 08:18 AM

Like the rest of this comunity, I don't to know what to say, can't imagine how you are all feeling, sending hugs is all I can do.

(((())))

RtS

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST,maddy
Date: 03 Jul 09 - 04:25 PM

The memorial for Kaelan on 7/12 has been relocated from the Housatonic Valley Regional High School to Sharon Center School - on Hilltop Road in Sharon.(Posted at Sandy Paton's request)

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: open mike
Date: 03 Jul 09 - 04:41 PM

i hope everyone gets notified of the change of venue
Sharon Center School 80 Hilltop Road in Sharon, CT

it looks like it is near Hwy 41, a.k.a. North Main St.

perhaps a mud elf could change the thread title?

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: JohnB
Date: 03 Jul 09 - 06:16 PM

No one should have to go through this with a child, let alone a grandchild.
Please accepy my heartfelt condolences to ALL the family.
JohnB.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Crowhugger
Date: 03 Jul 09 - 09:56 PM

I'm yet another at a loss for words. To Sandy & Caroline my deepest condolences.
Val.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Eve Goldberg
Date: 03 Jul 09 - 10:46 PM

Sandy and Caroline,

You and your family are in my thoughts. My deepest condolences to all of you.

Sending lots of love,

Eve

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Mem.Sharon Ctr School
From: GUEST,Liz Lewis
Date: 04 Jul 09 - 02:26 PM

Dear Paton family,

I just heard the sad, sad news via an e-mail from Bill Lehrman. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I won't be able to make it on the 12th, but know that I'll be with you in spirit.

Much love,

Liz

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Mem.Sharon Ctr School
From: bbc
Date: 04 Jul 09 - 09:06 PM

Thanks, maddy & open mike. We were surprised at the change & just spoke with Caroline. Evidently, repairs need to be done at the high school--hence the change. For those who may want to Mapquest directions, the zip code is 06069-2150.

best,

bbc

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Mem.Sharon Ctr School
From: Nancy King
Date: 04 Jul 09 - 10:40 PM

I wish I could be with you on the 12th, but it is not to be. Just know I'll be there in spirit, thinking of your family with sympathy and love.

Nancy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Mem.Sharon Ctr Sch
From: GUEST,Pamela from Ithaca
Date: 05 Jul 09 - 07:45 PM

At the time of Kaelen's Memorial next Sunday I'll be singing a concert at our local
Hospice Center in Ithaca. My way of being there in spirit will be to sing Blessed Quietness
in Kaelen's honor. I've been deeply moved by the loss of this young man, and by the gathering of a deep a broad community of music and dance... not to mention the generosity
and good hearts of Kaelen's friends on Facebook.

Sandy and Caroline, I do wish that I could be there to offer you hugs. All I can offer is my deepest love for you both.

Pamela

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Mem.Sharon Ctr Sch
From: MikeT
Date: 05 Jul 09 - 08:55 PM

Just saw this, no words, but love and more love to you.

Mike

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: GUEST,Bruce Pratt
Date: 07 Jul 09 - 08:09 AM

Dear Patons. Janet and I were out of the country and I only learned of your loss a few days ago. I am heart-scalded, as I know of no family who more loves rivers. I recall a conversation with Sandy--I think it was at a Folk Next Door Concert--about our mutual love for songs about rivers and for the peace one gains from watching them run. David's love of paddling and your clan's respect for the beautiful waterways of this land make this tragedy all the more searing. As the father of a firefighter/legislator/whitewater guide, my respect for what Kaelan did to save others knows no bounds. There is no greater love nor courage than to imperil your own life to save and serve others. I regret that I cannot attend the memorial, but my grateful heart will be there. May songs and friends give you strength.
Bruce

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: katlaughing
Date: 08 Jul 09 - 12:14 PM

Still sending you love and support, Sandy, Caroline, and family.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: open mike
Date: 08 Jul 09 - 01:11 PM

my heart goes out to all who adored this wonderful boy.
Here are some of the memorial pages on facebook. His
aunt is making prayer flags for him. how sweet.

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=93026512010
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=211538685579
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=117946301829

I send my prayers to all his family and friends..
hopefully this time of remembrance will bring
healing to all.


there are pages also on you tube with videos dedicated to him.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ig8ya1wc6ns

blessings to all.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: GUEST,Valentine
Date: 12 Jul 09 - 11:49 AM

Caroline and Sandy, David and Catherine --

This is such a burden to bear. Singers across the country are with you. We all hold you in our hearts.

Valentine

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: GUEST,Terri & Joe Bianchi
Date: 12 Jul 09 - 02:16 PM

Dear Katharine and family, We our very sorry to hear about the lost of your dear son. I tryed to call you but we found out it was the wrong number when that person called us back to say we must be trying to call you,sorry.I Prayed alot as soon as I heard about this story on the news then even more when he was found especialy for the parents and everone who knew him.If there is anything I CAN EVER DO PLEASE LET ME KNOW KATHERINE.My Heart is heavy as I TYPE THIS AND I PRAY you will find PEACE IN GOD TRUSTING THAT HE IS ALWAYS WITH YOU and your family.With Deepest Sympathy and Prayer,Terri and Joe Bianchi [from falls villiage]

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: open mike
Date: 12 Jul 09 - 02:41 PM

With special thoughts for all involved
0n this, the day of the memorial I sing
"Forever Young" for Kaelan and for you all.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: maeve
Date: 12 Jul 09 - 03:03 PM

I know you are surrounded by loving family and friends today. Many, many more around the world are thinking of you.

maeve

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 12 Jul 09 - 04:05 PM

Thinking of and praying for you and your community today.

Dani

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 10:52 AM

Today my wife Ruth and I are swinging into what passes for a normal day around here. But, it's not just another day. Yesterday we drov e up to Sharon for Kealan's memorial service. Over the years, I've become somewhat of an unintended funeral attender. I sing with the Men's Chorus in my church and as often as possible, I go to funerals at our church and sing with the choir. When my gospel quartet was still active, we often sang a home-going ceremonies, Christian and even Jewish. My two son-in-laws are Muslim and we've attended their funeral services as well. All that said, I thought the memorial service for Kaelan was the most beautiful I've ever attended. Even though the service was held in a school auditorium and many of the people in attendance aren't church-goers, we had church yesterday. At least my definition of church. There was great crying at times and great joy, as well. When a wonderful black woman sang I'll Fly Away and people locked arms and swayed to the music as they sang along, it felt like they could leviate the building. The testimonies were extremely moving, and filled with warm humor. Caroline sang a musical setting for the familiar reading that St. Paul wrote in 1st Corinthinas, her voice quavering with emotion, but strong, and the whole service was moving blend of testimony, poetry and song. Letters were read from Sandy to his grandson, and David to his son, as well as from several other family members.

After the service, we gathered in the cafeteria for a vegetarian buffet with a dangerous, long, long table of deserts. It was a time for me to see many friends I've not seen for years including Ed Trickett, Sally Rogers, Dalas Cline, Bill and Andy Spence, George Ward, Patricia Campbell, Karen Kobela, Priscilla Herdman and countless others.

We must be getting old. We get together at funerals.

Sunday was a beautiful bookend to a very spiritual weekend.

Jerry

I'm posting this message on the Kitchen Table thread too for those who might miss it here.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 12:17 PM

Thank you Jerry, well spoken.

Many of us were thinking about the service I know and were anxious to hear some report. It sounded like it was a beautiful day and I hope it provided the solace such things are supposed to do.

Again, Jerry.....Thank You


Spaw

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 02:33 PM

Yes, thank you, Jerry. It really does sound as though it was beautiful and I hope it brought solace to his family and friends. What a remarkable young man and remarkable family as well. May their god/s be good to them all.

luvyaSandyGramps and Caroline,

kat

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Sandy Paton
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 04:58 PM

For those interested in the complete story, this is from the sports section of today's Hartford Courant. A Town Remembers Kaelan Paton

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Jeri
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 05:12 PM

Sandy, we've got your back. Wish there was more I could offer.
The piece by Jeff Jacobs is beautiful.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Barry Finn
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 05:33 PM

That piece by Jeff was beautiful, I'm in tears after reading it. David & Catherine were very lucky to have a son like Kaelan & he was so lucky to have them as parents. I pray that all your hearts rest a bit easier in the future.

Barry

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: GUEST,Guest, David Jones
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 08:28 PM

The incredible gathering in the packed auditorium said it all. So many, young and old, all there for Kaelan and his family. The service was very moving, Caroline sang as beautifully as she has ever sung, David was magnificent, and Sandy hung in there, God bless him. A letter from Frankies grandmother was read, she must be a remarkable woman. Sisters, Aunts and Uncles were there and so many old friends, Ed Trickett came in from Chicago, it was great to see him, he sang "Gently down the stream of time".
I told my neighbor about Kaelan, he told me of something from the Talmud, not quite sure what the Talmud is, but it says, "He who saves one life, saves the world".
Hope the service helped and brought some peace to the family and friends of Kaelan.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 11:23 PM

Thanks for the link, Sandy. The tears are freshly flowing...beautifully written.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Peace
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 11:30 PM

What a fine article and heart-felt testament to a very brave young man. I'm wiping my eyes just now.

Bruce

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Art Thieme
Date: 13 Jul 09 - 11:50 PM

All of you,

Need I say that I wanted to be with you? In ways not explainable, I was there.

So many old friends, and favorite voices, are here in these heartfelt reminiscences. Thank you.

Art and Carol

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: Slag
Date: 18 Jul 09 - 06:17 PM

I am so sorry for you and all who grieve. I've been out of the loop for a while and it wasn't utill Susan brought this to my attention that I learned of the trajedy. My heart goes out to you. That Kaelan was attempting to save another's life tells me volumes about him and the family he represents: true-hearted and brave. God's peace, love, blessings and assurances to you all. This young man, a hero in every sense of the word.

Tom

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline)Memorial July 12
From: GUEST,Bobbe Rose (formerly Garovoy)
Date: 30 Jul 09 - 02:23 AM

My son Aaron just told me today about your family losing David's son Kaelan. It has been many years since I have seen all of you. My remembrances of the Paton's are of a close-knit and loving family. From what I have read about Kaelan, it seems that he made a positive impression on all that knew him, he was brave, loyal and loving as well. Such a tremendous loss for you and all who knew him. How fortunate for the world to have had him in it. I wish your entire family peace.

Sadness flies on the wings of the morning, and out of the heart of darkness comes the light.
- Jean Giraudoux

Subject: RE: Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009
From: GUEST,his mom Catherine Palmer Paton
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 11:50 PM

Only viewing this as we come up to the 3rd year since Kaelan's passing, since I am not as versed in what's accessible to everyone on the web. Many thanks to all who have shown support for our families over the past few years, with both Kaelan and Sandy having journeyed beyond the earth plane. I hope to find ways capture the story with the inspiration from many of the moving tributes and sharings we have been blessed with to help us cope and bring others hope as well when facing many kinds of struggles. Feel free to contact me on Facebook and may the spring of 2012 be one our country and world finds inspiring even in the face of many challenges. peace and love to all...Catherine and family

Subject: RE: Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009
From: maeve
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 07:17 AM

Catherine- Thank you for posting here at Mudcat. I'm grateful you've been able to read our words honoring Kaelan and all of the dear family members.There are many people around the world who think of you all more often than you can know.
Kaelan's legacy lives on in the people who loved him, as does Sandy's.

Blessings and music to you all.

Maeve, in Maine
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JOY BE WITH US   James Stephens

Joy be with us and honour close the tale;
Now do we dip the prow, and shake the sail,
And take the wind, and bid adieu to rest.

With glad endeavour we begin the quest
That destiny commands, though where we go,
Or guided by what star, no man doth know.

Uncharted is our course, our hearts untried,
And we may weary e'er we take the tide,
Or make fair haven from the moaning sea.

Be ye propitious, winds of destiny
On us at first blow not too boisterous bold;
All Ireland hath is packed into this hold,
Her hope flies at the peak. Now it is dawn,
And we away. Be with us Mananaun.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 07:41 AM

What a lovely message, Catherine. Thank you so much for writing it.

Bonnie

(Maeve, your verse is beautiful.)