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Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

GUEST,Peter from seven stars link 15 Mar 15 - 04:55 PM
gnu 15 Mar 15 - 03:50 PM
gnu 15 Mar 15 - 03:43 PM
GUEST,Manuel 15 Mar 15 - 08:12 AM
ChanteyLass 14 Mar 15 - 06:44 PM
Sandra in Sydney 14 Mar 15 - 02:18 AM
ranger1 13 Mar 15 - 10:52 PM
ChanteyLass 13 Mar 15 - 07:24 PM
Nigel Paterson 13 Mar 15 - 04:33 AM
GUEST 12 Mar 15 - 06:32 PM
GUEST,Mysha 11 Mar 15 - 06:34 AM
GUEST,Manuel 09 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM
maeve 08 Mar 15 - 04:18 PM
maeve 08 Mar 15 - 01:32 PM
GUEST,Manuel 08 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM
gnu 07 Mar 15 - 10:53 AM
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GUEST,Manuel 07 Mar 15 - 08:09 AM
ChanteyLass 06 Mar 15 - 09:27 PM
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GUEST,Peter from seven stars link 06 Mar 15 - 04:22 PM
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gnu 04 Mar 15 - 01:58 PM
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 04:55 PM

Pic to raise a smile, Sandra. Don't look like folk will be dying out in your neck of the woods !.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 03:50 PM

Roight! That one took. Maybe the other one couldn't make it though tha snow and tha gale. She's solid white by times. St. Pat drove the snakes out of Ireland. I wish he would fire up his snowblower and drive the snow out of NB.ca. I NEED some GREEN!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 03:43 PM

Buddy b'y. She's stove in here. Blowin a piece and snowin two. Nere movin outside a tha house cept ta scuff off in fronna Mum's back door on the side of her house that faces where a Nor'easter lays it's ugly egg every hour or so eh. Mine's on tha back and up at bridge level so she blows clean.

WTF? Did that not post?


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From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 08:12 AM

Wish I were using my time as commendably as Sandra. Can we hope, Sandra, to see one of the pics of the children?


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Mar 15 - 06:44 PM

Always good when young people get involved in music as audience members or musicians!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Mar 15 - 02:18 AM

& I had lunch with some early members of Australia's oldest folk club - friends who joined in the mid 50s (when the club started) & late 50s talking & listening to the reminiscences.

Last night I presented a (very small - 9 audience members) but perfectly musically-formed concert. Then I caught up on a week of lack of sleep!

Tomorrow I'll be taking pics at a children's traditional Australian music session. We've presented the session several times & I love watching the kids enjoy the songs & music.

sandra


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From: ranger1
Date: 13 Mar 15 - 10:52 PM

It's ok, Chantylass, as long as you don't toss your cookie!

Have lifted my winter-weary spirits greatly this week with new music. Yesterday, I got our own Lonesome EJ's CD in the mail (it's great, by the way), and tonight J-boy and I went to see Anna (Roberts-Gevalt) & Elizabeth (LaPrelle) at a really nice little venue with great acoustics in Portland. It was great seeing the variety of ages in the audience, first folk concert I've been to where the majority of the audience may actually have been younger than me! I'll go to bed tonight with my head full of music.


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From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Mar 15 - 07:24 PM

Eek! That was me babbling about dragons on 12 Mar at 6:32 PM! I didn't realize I'd lost my cookie.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Mar 15 - 04:33 AM

No need to be afeared o' dragons...we've got Gnu, Maeve & Janie! I think our dear, departed Pat P. would've made a fearsome adversary for dragons too.

Still here, reading, thinking, hoping, laughing, shedding a tear.

Triumphs & disasters...joys & sorrows...no matter what broadsides Life batters us with, there's usually someone aboard with knowledge & experience to offer wise words of comfort or a timely epithet.

Keep your eye on those sails, Mysha. We don't 'encourage' the unknown, but a little advance warning is always helpful (-:
                                                       With Love to You All,
                                                                                       Nigel
                                                                                       xxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 12 Mar 15 - 06:32 PM

Sailing into the unknown? Can't have that! Everyone knows, "There be dragons."


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Mysha
Date: 11 Mar 15 - 06:34 AM

Just trimming the sails a bit to keep us from sailing into the unknown.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 09 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM

Thanks for your last two posts, Maeve. The grief one can feel on the passing of a total stranger! The obit thread was started, I note, on 23 Feb, the very first day of a very hectic visit by me to Trinidad and Tobago. No wonder I missed it. RIP, Pearl.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Mar 15 - 04:18 PM

Now the penny drops- I might have realized that Moira's friends are The Admiral and Pearl in this thread: 2015 Obit: Pearl O'Neill (Mrs Admiral)

Very special friends to many, and great friends of good music.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Mar 15 - 01:32 PM

Glad to help, Manuel. Moira and her husband live far from us yet are long-time friends.

Moira tells me that sadly, although not surprisingly, her good and dear friend Pearl, died about 2 weeks ago. Her husband Tony is coping and has loved ones to support him. Perhaps we can still offer thoughts and prayers on his behalf, as well as Moira and other friends who are grieving this loss.

Wendy- I suspected that you of all people would have tried the picture cards already- and it was worth trying! I hope you can find peace knowing that your health matters to all who love you. If I am sick, I'm on my own. Please accept appropriate care. You're still strong and capable even when you may need some caring yourself.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 08 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM

Maeve, thanks for going out of your way. You are kind.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 15 - 10:53 AM

I posted but... oh well. Glad to hear about the test results, Wendy. Disconcerting about the poor bedside manners of the staff re the other, tho. Hope all is okay.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Mar 15 - 09:36 AM

Manuel- Mudcat had a crash and lost about 2 months of posts. I'll check with Moira and ask her how things are going with her friends.

Maeve


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 07 Mar 15 - 08:09 AM

Have been unable to keep up with all the posts to this thread in recent weeks and hope I have not missed any from Moira, whose friends (Pearl and Tony, if memory serves me right)remain in my prayers. One wonders how they are doing.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 09:27 PM

You may not be a very happy bunny, Wendy, but at least you are a live one and will be for many years to come.

It's hard to have to be treated for something which doesn't make you feel ill. I hope the medicine gets your BP where it should be and the specialist can help you keep it steady.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 05:35 PM

Sailing - paddling with the all the good mates on this ship and the accompanying boats in the flotilla.   Old Ties and Companions


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 04:22 PM

I,m seeing doctor..s...for high blood pressure too. Been on tablets since last week but our home moniter is still registering high. I do hear that it is quite common as we get older. I suspect stressful situations don't help none, so here's wishing you some peace and calm moments, Wendy. Hopefully, with the sun appearing more often now, you might get to chill at the beach hut sometime.          Blessings.          Pete.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 06:39 AM

Oh what a can of worms...................

Got all the blood tests back and everything is clear, whew!!
But the blood pressure was still high, the ECG was ok I think, although he did keep looking at the screen and looking puzzled and then, just as I thought I was off out the door the Dr asked if there was any history of heart problems in the family?

So ok dad had a massive one when he was 55 but he was working for the Ministry of Defence in a very stressful job and was a heavy smoker, then my brother had a heart attack last year but had a very unhealthy life style. But, I am now on tablets and have to go to see a heart specialist!!

Not a very happy Bunny!!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 02:55 AM

Hi,

"do they communicate I wonder?"

Wendy, judging from the way my mother's medicine prescription regularly turn out to be bungled when I fetch them from the GP's practice, I would say the answer is: Hardly.

Curiously, when prescriptions and appointments were all done in doctor's handwriting, which the layman would consider unreadable, there hardly seemed to be any problems, whereas it appears that now that everything is communicated by computer, coordination has become much more difficult .

Then again, that's probably an "unwarranted generalisation" (Does that translate correctly into English idiom?)
But at least, when we're feeling the urge to drag their keyboards away from them and fill in the forms ourselves, we'll now know it's not just us.

Bye
                                                               Mysha


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 06:40 PM

Wendy, I hope that 24-hour care comes through. Your family has worked hard and deserve the help.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 04:02 PM

and from here also. ......still has her lovely smile........not to mention a loving, thoughtful daughter and supportive son in law.            blessings       pete.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 01:58 PM

Wendy... thoughts and prayers.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM

It stopped with the neck warmer, gloves and hat. I rethought having left off the neck warmer after I kicked snow down the back of my neck multiple times, though!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 07:56 AM

Sandra, last August the mental health social worker said they were transferring mum to the community social worker as her team was possibly going to be closed . Somehow the transfer wasn't carried out! Yesterday the care company rang the continuing care team and hopefully they will be looking after mum's case from now on, fingers crossed. Maeve, yes we have tried pictures and cards etc, but we are past that now, we just have to interpret mums facial expressions and if she stands up hold her arm and see where she takes us!If we get continuing care then we will be funded for 24 hour care, it is very difficult to obtain but I am learning to jump through hoops! As long as we can keep her at home with us. It is beginning to wear Billy and I down but who knows how much longer mum will carry on? She has been living with us for four and a half years now and the deterioration has been getting worse almost daily, BUT she still has her lovely smile!

Wendy xx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 07:06 AM

Wendy- Could you use picture cards to help your mum communicate her needs? Thinking of you and especially your mum. She has excellent defenders in your family!

Tami- Good for you!

Maeve


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 07:02 AM

closed her case??? was there a reason?


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 06:12 AM

Whoot, Frogprince that was just the post to lift our spirits! Tami how far did the stripping off go? Looking forward to the photos on FB !!

Linn, sending hugs from me too, glad to see you back on The Rainbow xx

I had the blood tests on Friday and the ECG yesterday just need to battle with the receptionist from Hell to get an appointment to see the GP, ( that he said I must have this week, do they communicate I wonder?)

Mum is much weaker day by day, only taking fluids no more pureed food, she weighs 6 stone 5, just like a little bird. She has no speech so understanding her needs is becoming very difficult. Also I found out this morning that social services had closed her case last August, no wonder we have had no follow up visits!!

Onward and upward!!

fondest love

Wendy

Oh and the aromatherapy oils worked on the neck, lavender, geranium and petit grain !xxxxxxxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Mar 15 - 11:06 AM

sounds like things might have got pretty interesting before the finish line...


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 08:35 PM

The last one was quite warm, actually. I left my anorak in the car before I even started, by the top of the first hill, I'd asked the volunteer at the trail junction to hold onto my neck warmer for me, and by the end of the first 1/3 or the course, I'd ditched my hat and gloves.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 07:06 PM

Tami, I thought I'd write "Cool," but on second thought "Cold" more appropriate.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 12:13 PM

Good job, Tami! Hope you find your moose leather.

Linn


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 08:46 AM

Well done, r1!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 07:47 AM

In the good news department, I just finished the last of the three snowshoe races I'd signed up for. What an amazing experience! I was one of only 35 people who ran all three races of the series. It was tough, but a good challenge. I blogged about the experience, if anyone gets bored. They're posted in most recent order, so you'll have to scroll down to reach part 1.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 07:20 AM

Nigel, so sorry to learn from you post of 21 Feb, which I'm just seeing, of the unfortunate experience of our youthful travellers in Bolivia. However, as we the older heads know, the experience shall prove most valuable hereafter. I, myself, was breezing through Trinidad, just off the northern tip of South America, for the better part of last week. Very happy to be back aboard with all.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Mar 15 - 05:44 PM

Oops, my post didn't post!

Hugs from me, too, Linn. I hope there'll come a time when I can get back to The Press Room to give you a real hug.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Mar 15 - 10:39 AM

Count me in. I've been following Linn on Facebook on a nearly daily basis. All I can say is that you are in my thoughts and prayers, Linn, and, given the support on Facebook, the same goes for many others. Bless.


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From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Mar 15 - 06:57 AM

adding to the hugs heading to Linn.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Feb 15 - 04:06 PM

very sage frogprince. losing the loved one hurts, but the memories of that one sweet.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Feb 15 - 09:40 AM

That hug sounds like a good idea; have another. Sometimes life might feel easier if we didn't grow to love someone a lot, but I wouldn't wanta recommend avoiding it.


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From: Janie
Date: 28 Feb 15 - 07:31 AM

Glad you are planning on going to the bereavement group Linn. No pat on the head here, but a warm hug. And I can only imagine how this winter weather and isolation and that goes with feet of snow piled everywhere can add to feeling beleaguered.

And likely it eventually will be alright   But 'alright' will be something different from what it was before you lost Tom.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 04:08 PM

You and I both know that changing that filter is easy, but MOST people don't. The number of people that don't know how to change a headlight bulb is pretty high, too, and that's a very simple procedure. So take the damned compliment, you earned it!


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From: Bat Goddess
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 02:44 PM

Pete, I never was out of touch with the internet -- I had my iPad. It just made doing my primary email a little more complicated. The stressful thing was not having access to any of my writing, my archives, various address books, financial information, archived email, letters, etcet etcet -- my LIFE!

Tami, the washer filter is easy. It's a little plastic casing between the shutoff at the pipe just above the washer and hose that goes into the washer. You shut off the water (and, thanks to the plumbing work done last summer, I only had to shut the water off here instead of down cellar, too), unscrew the filter housing (well, a little more complicated -- unscrew the hose first so the housing can be unscrewed), pop in the new filter (they come in packs of two), and reconnect everything and Bob's your uncle.

Except I SHOULD have opened the filter package first. It's one of those that requires either an industrial strength machete or a small nuclear device. As a result of the delay between taking everything apart and popping the new one in, I may have put it in upside down...or not gotten the seal right, or something. Therefore, the leak. And I Just. Did. Not. have the patience to do it all over again right then. The laundry was done. I just shut off the water in the laundry room and popped the clothes in the dryer.

That was Monday. I haven't had the energy or patience to deal with it yet. Maybe tomorrow.

Called to sign up for the April grief group and, wouldn't you know it, the person I needed to talk to was out of the office today. So had to leave a message. (One more thing hanging.) I'd been looking forward to talking to her, too.

Linn


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 02:12 PM

*Pat, pat* There, there. Everything's going to be alright.

Linn, you're one of the most capable people I know. Most people wouldn't even attempt to replace the filter in the washing machine themselves, much less consider it simple. Things will slow down, spring will come (no idea when, might not be until July this year...), and in the meantime, you have friends you can call and kvetch to.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 01:08 PM

Oh dear linn, bereavement is heavy enough without being literarily snowed under, and metaphorically with problems. Hope the return of internet access improves things for you and for a lifting of your spirits.      Blessings.         Pete.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 09:29 AM

Haven't been here (or, indeed, spent much time at Mudcat) for some time. I've come to the conclusion that the second year of widowhood is...more complicated than the first. Not necessarily worse. Not really "better" (whatever that's supposed to mean). Just different. And, well, complicated.

I had trouble going into the holidays this past November and December. Part of it was that my computer was in the shop for the entire month of November (along with my LIFE -- access to, well, EVERYTHING; I didn't think I would lose anything, but even that wasn't CERTAIN). And I came out of it with the newer computer that I'd bought a year ago and my backup and secondary computer arrangement totally reconfigured. The rest of the emotional complications stemmed from the fact that 2014 seemed more like the first "Other Anniversary", Christmas, and New Year's without Tom than did the holidays right after Tom died. Back then I was on autopilot, still numb, and, of course, I had to go to Milwaukee for my mother's funeral the week before Christmas.

I think I'm still stumbling through life. The weather this January and February certainly hasn't helped. "Beleaguered" is the one word that sums up this winter. I lost (literally; I have a clue where under the snow it is) my mailbox over a month ago and have to pick up my mail at the post office. My porch light got snow in it and doesn't work and it's looking like at least another month will have to go by before I can even assess what needs to be done. I thought I'd lost my driveway alarm due to piled up snow but, surprise!, I heard it this morning. (Probably wild turkeys rather than a vehicle.) Everything is more complicated -- even when the driveway is freshly plowed and snow is removed from in front of the oil intake, the driver decides the driveway is too narrow for his truck and I have to call my plow guy to work miracles so I can keep the house warm. A simple washing machine filter change results in a leak. The toaster oven kicks the bucket for no apparent reason. It's like being nibbled to death by ducks.

I thought I had skipped the part of grieving where you get angry with your loved one for abandoning you, but when I started reading Gail Sheehy's book, "Passages For Caregivers" (which I should have read when it came out in 2010 -- but caring for Tom distracted me and I forgot about it), I started screaming at Tom for not being here so I could read it aloud to him. I was surprised, too, a couple weeks ago when I had a full blown "grief day" which I not only didn't recognize until early afternoon, but I couldn't embrace -- I had things I HAD to do. (So I did them, then sort of collapsed afterwards and was asleep, exhausted, at 7:30 p.m.)

I'm in a bit of an odd space this morning, but can't do anything about it -- too many other things that HAVE to be done, including leading the Press Room session from 4:30-9:00. One thing I CAN do, though, is (after writing another check to my plow guy) see if I can sign up for another grief group that starts in April. I did one last year and it helped me understand the grieving process. Maybe this one will help me better understand this second year which is so different from the first. I wish I could figure out how to slow down from the gallop I've been at for the past four years or more. I wish someone would pat me on the head and say "There, there. Everything's going to be all right." Even if it's total bullshit.

Linn


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Feb 15 - 11:54 AM

Apologies to all Southern Hemispheric Catters for my Northern Hemispheric verses. Maybe there's an opportunity here (thinking of you, Sandra (-:) for a corresponding, SH version...three, three line verses. They could stand alone, or it might be fun to interleave NH with SH. Anyone up for the challenge?
      Chantey, I'm sure if you made your way to Peru right now, you'd be welcomed with open arms. I concede that at age 19, some things can be easier to achieve!
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel
                                           xxxxx


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