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Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

ChanteyLass 05 Feb 14 - 09:21 PM
gnu 05 Feb 14 - 01:51 PM
frogprince 05 Feb 14 - 11:48 AM
VirginiaTam 05 Feb 14 - 11:19 AM
billybob 05 Feb 14 - 07:54 AM
ChanteyLass 04 Feb 14 - 09:11 PM
GUEST,pete from seven stars link 04 Feb 14 - 03:10 PM
Nigel Paterson 04 Feb 14 - 05:08 AM
Janie 04 Feb 14 - 01:23 AM
ChanteyLass 03 Feb 14 - 08:48 PM
gnu 03 Feb 14 - 01:30 PM
GUEST,pete from seven stars link 03 Feb 14 - 01:13 PM
billybob 03 Feb 14 - 07:35 AM
Nigel Paterson 03 Feb 14 - 06:09 AM
Nigel Paterson 03 Feb 14 - 05:27 AM
gnu 02 Feb 14 - 03:27 PM
GUEST,pete from seven stars link 02 Feb 14 - 02:23 PM
gnu 02 Feb 14 - 08:14 AM
Nigel Paterson 02 Feb 14 - 06:16 AM
ChanteyLass 01 Feb 14 - 09:40 PM
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Sandra in Sydney 01 Feb 14 - 08:47 PM
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 09:21 PM

VirginiaTam, ouch! A couple of weeks seems like a long time to wait when you feel pain. I hope you get it all sorted out.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 01:51 PM

VTam... got no words.. all I can do is listen and hope.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 11:48 AM

Wendy, Virginia Tam, Pete...all of ya...You're all in mind each day. Thanks be that some folks here are better than I am at contributing some genuine helpful perspective for those here who are really hanging on to the rail for dear life.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 11:19 AM

Count me in as a member of the Wendy Admiration Society. What a terrible fix to be in. Feeling anxious that your health and Billy's health by proxy will suffer for it. I still can offer no advice. You can only do what you feel is best for you and all concerned.

Sending my love and good wishes to all here.

I've had 3rd injection of anti-TNF, last week. No change for the better as yet. Pain is as bad as ever. Feet and hands are showing deformity now.   In fact, I feel worse re unrelenting fatigue. I go to sleep almost as soon as I get home from work most evenings and can barely move on the weekends.   Add near constant sore throat and nightly nose bleeds, the husband man is worried and wants me to go to the GP.

I don't have the energy even to do that. Surgery too near to take taxi and too far to walk.

I see RA consultant in a couple of weeks. We shall see what she has to say.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 07:54 AM

Janie, from the bottom of my heart................
THANK YOU!!!!

With love

Wendy xxxxxxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 09:11 PM

Janie, wish I'd written that!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 03:10 PM

so much so well put Janie, but without any redundant wordiness. pete


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 05:08 AM

My Dear Wendy, I've read & re-read Janie's words, so redolent with knowledge, wisdom & experience. I hope you find them comforting, thought-provoking, enabling. As Janie also said: "Wendy, don't ever call yourself a coward". I can't reinforce that strongly enough.

Thanks Gnu...& Pete, yes, my own work. Wishing you a speedy recovery. As you often hear folk in the UK say: "There's a lot of it about!"
                                                                  With Love,
                                                                                 Nigel.
                                                                                 xxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 01:23 AM

Haven't been posting, but have been reading, sending good thoughts, chuckling, commiserating.

Wendy, don't ever call yourself a coward. Families can be so complicated. You have so much on your plate and I don't think you appreciate the courage it takes to engender and actually personify the sense of responsibility - the values many of us have, but don't necessarily put into practice when the going gets tough. What you have taken on with respect to caring for your mother is certainly about love, but also about putting your values regarding family responsibility into action. And those values also come into play with how to deal with your brother. It really is true that sometimes discretion is the better part of valor. It may also be the reality that you need your energy to care for your mother and husband and an overt dust-up with your brother is simply too overwhelming to contemplate at present. Particularly if your experience with him is that nothing would likely get resolved even if you confront him. Not dumping on or judging your brother, mind you, just sayin....Sometimes we have to choose our battles. However tense or conflicted your relationship with your brother may be, especially with regard to your mother, it is a relationship and is important. Families. Everybody has one. Personalities. Everyone has one. All of us have family members who present challenges to us either as a family or as individuals. They are still family, and there are no generic blueprints. Love and light to you and your entire family, Wendy. Just trust that you are awesome and will find your own internal wisdom regarding how you process this. Ain't no right or wrong or weak or strong in these matters. Just figuring out what seems likely to work best among a universe of imperfect solutions.

What I probably can best offer that might help rather than that long paragraph above is a very heart-centered {{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 08:48 PM

What gnu said!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 01:30 PM

Nigel... what art!

Wendy... glad for your respite and I hope you can cope with the problemS with more ease as time goes by.

Pete... sorry to hear that and I hope you get better soon.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 01:13 PM

good one , nigel. your own composition?
I just been to doctor....chest infection. lot of it about at the moment. hope you get some better sleep and feel brighter, wendy.
blessings all   pete.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 07:35 AM

Morning,

it is a lovely sunny day here, my car is out of action so I cannot go off for a drive, but I can walk round the garden and pick snowdrops and enjoy the warmth of the sun.

Billy took me to Lowestoft yesterday to see our son and his family, I took lunch and cooked a huge roast beef dinner in his very small galley kitchen , such a laugh ,too small for more than one helper at a time! It was really lovely to see Reuben age 6, who is growing taller by the day. He is the most beautiful boy ( why do they get the long eyelashes? )

It was so good to have a day away from home. I am afraid since the " bugging" incident ( I chickened out on the confrontation option so far, coward that I am ) everytime my brother visits , I am on edge and have to check everywhere when he goes home just in case!! I am not usually a nervy person, but I am sleeping very badly and I am feeling very unwell. I am sure he knows I found the recorder but nothing has been said on either side.I am afraid I am sure the motive was the cost of the carers but I had an occupational Therapist visit last week to assess mother and she has said she needs 24 hour care as she is at risk of falls or harm due to the dementia, she also agrees that she is happy and content in our home and residential care would distress and confuse her.

Just very worried about Billy as I am sure he is just as upset as me but also worries about how it is affecting me. Thank goodness we have just a brilliant and strong marriage. He really is my rock!

Enough of negative thinking, off to the garden, snowdrops to pick and feel the son on my face.
Lovely poem Nigel, love to Linn ( did you ever get a little package that I put in someone else's secret Santa?)

Love to all the crew,Spring is coming

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 06:09 AM

A few lines to help us through the vagaries of Winter.


                                                            JANUARY

January days, January greys, long to feel the warmth of the sun.
As each day goes past, a little longer than the last,
My winter blues will soon be on the run.

January cold, January bold, standing at the head of the year.
For some a fearful time, closéd windows etched with rime,
Ashen faces bear a frozen tear.

January stays, January's ways are fickle, challenge all to raise a smile.
But February's here, means that Springtime's joy is near.
And January's gone it's yearly while.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 05:27 AM

I can't type for laughing!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 03:27 PM

Thanks, Nigel. Haven't been back to the joke thread after I was told that joke was offensive* to those without a sense of humour. Their loss... I got a million of em. Most are far more offensive than that and far less offensive than many I have read on the joke threads.

* It wasn't offensive at all unless yer a cranky SOB in a real foul mood and ya just stubbed all yer toes on a coffee table in the middle of the night while half asleep and then jammed all yer fingers in a door before ya sat on the toilet while the seat was up and got cold water up yer ass. A pox of piles upon them!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 02:23 PM

bluegrass is not my usual fare, gnu, but I played a couple and was impressed, and bought a smile to my face.
btw, I thought your contribution on the joke thread was funny...can of peas too..


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 08:14 AM

The Cleverleys have many more YT vids than those on their playlist/channel. Search the name and you'll find over twice as many. You'll not be disappointed.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 06:16 AM

Thanks Gnu & thanks again. Having listened to/watched all the music links you posted, it's the Bluegrass/Country (unsure of my genres here) versions that hit the spot every time for me. Great singing (adore the close harmony), virtuoso instrumental accompaniments & breaks & perfectly timed, beautifully understated humour...what a winning combination. This uniquely American Art Form makes me want to unlatch my guitar &/or mandolin case, grab whatever lies within & leap up onto the stage & hopefully find the right key PDQ!
       Spaw....agree, agree, & thrice agree...WTF, time to 'tear it up a little' & launch the liberty boat. I've just had one of the most entertaining Sunday mornings in years, apart from the footage of Bruno Mars in his underpants. That 'collided' somewhat with my porridge!
       Very proud of all of you, my Dear Friends. Very proud of what we have achieved & continue to achieve. This moment of levity in no way detracts from our voyage & the course we have set ourselves. Indeed, my feeling is that it enhances our ability to reach out & be reached.
            Take good care of yourselves,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel
                                                                        xxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 09:40 PM

I'll echo Sandra!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 09:37 PM

I've been in a quiet mode for whatever reason for a while, but I've still been following you all, and "pulling for" you all, daily; all calm on this part of the deck just now; just have to see whether it will take a few minutes with the snow blower to get us down the gangplank in the morning. : )

             Dean


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 08:47 PM

what Pete said

love from sandra


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 10:50 AM

sometimes, linn, it seems like everything is just too much when so much crashes down on you. hope things sort out for you and you get some rest    pete.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 11:04 PM

It's not that planning this memorial is a hardship...I have plenty of resources. It's just that...I don't know. I'm having trouble getting going on it. I've thought about it . It's not as if this memorial is goodbye...Tom will be with me forever. And, quite honestly, after it's accomplished, I'll be Abe to get on with converting a lot of cubic footage into small green pieces of paper with historical figures on them. I might also be able to just figuratively curl up in thebfetal position and suck my thumb.

I was very weepy today. Memories were crowding in on me. And that's not a bad thing... Uncle Orin dying was One. More. Thing. I'm just feeling over extended. I HAVE been at a gallop since at least October.

My sister sent the photographs taken at Mom's funeral by my mother's cousin's daughter. I look tired... I wonder why...

I'm so glad I went over to see Cesar at Tangibles (antique shop) today. I hadn't talked to him since right after Tom died. We had a .lovely talk. he's been such a good friend to Tom and I. Unfortunately he'll be in the DR for the memorial.

Anyway, glad I got to Maine to see him. Was a little late for the Press Room session, but I really needed that, too. Where would I be without music? It was a good session.

I'm going back to my book and opera on Pandora...

Linn


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 09:27 PM

Aw, Linn, I'm sorry about your uncle.

About Tom's memorial, I don't know what you are planning, but I hope everything falls into place more easily than you anticipate.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 07:28 PM

Yeah gnu, but as you well know, sometimes you need to take a break and say, "What the fuck!"..........Thanks

3200 --- Lots of posts on the best thread Mudcat ever had!


Spaw


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:53 PM

I know this thread is about healing and caring and consoling. But... others have posted music so I wanna share sommat that has simply lifted my spirits in music and also comedically... these guys are a treasure and a comfort... a distraction when needed. If you enjoy their entertainment, I have posted well. If not, well, nothing venture...

Here is the original... I like it... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cv6tuzHUuuk


Here is the Bluegrass version... I like it a lot... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PS0P7w4YCDI


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:38 PM

AND... at the risk of thread drift, check these guys out.They do covers of everything from you name it to rap and they do it well. Their musical abilities and comedic cover parodies are, in my opinion, unequaled. If you want a break from life, here it is. This is FAR from the best of their many cuts and vids but it follows my previous post. I am gonna post my fav next post but this one demonstrates some of what they do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lyuTsquH9Q&feature=fvwp&NR=1


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:26 PM

Friday night. Let's just chill... relax... take a moment... don't do anything at all.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 02:12 PM

Brave on, Linn. Gotta be rough for you but it's just what ya gotta do.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 01:21 PM

My sister called last night to tell me my uncle in Kentucky died Wednesday. He was my mother's younger (80) brother. Pneumonia -- the older person's friend. He'd survived Korea and a couple tours in Vietnam with the 101st Airborne, but heart problems and pneumonia got him two months after Mom.

Ach. For whatever reason, I'm not doing that well today. Took a clonazapam (anti-anxiety) early, but I'm not sure it helped much.

I'm having a bit of trouble, too, coordinating Tom's memorial. I'd just like to wake up and have it all set to go... Maybe giving me a chance at some point to just curl up in the fetal position and suck my thumb. (Figuratively speaking.) I'm feeling a bit overextended...as if there are too many things still to do and I'm having trouble multi-tasking.

Dealing with minor annoyances... NEVER give anyone a prepaid debit bank card. They are really more aggravation than they're worth.

Of course it just might be the fact it's JANUARY.

I'm heading over to Tangibles antique shop to see Cesar, whom Tom worked with for a long time, before I go to the Press Room session.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 06:24 AM

hugs to Tam & good wishes to all

sandra


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 30 Jan 14 - 08:30 AM

My thoughts too VT,

Why is January such a bad time? Too many people with sadness!!

UP SPAW and Tommy!

With love Wendy xxxxxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Jan 14 - 06:38 AM

VT, I can do no better than echo Spaw's words. Please accept my comforting thoughts,
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 09:13 PM

Pete, thank goodness for the bi-pap machine.

VirginiaTam, I wish I could write something to alleviate your grieving.

Hmm, I haven't sent this message lately. UP, SPAW!


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 02:20 PM

VT... my condolences.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 11:46 AM

Best thoughts to you, her partner, and her parents. Much the same started this voyage..........

My Grandfather used to call this "Old Black January."


Spaw


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 07:05 AM

Too much death this week. After falling apart over the news re Pete Seeger Tuesday morning, I received more sad news this morning.

One time friend and former colleague. She was early 40s young, vibrant, devestatingly funny, loved traditional music, art and history and was quite the liberal thinker.

She fell ill with a brain tumour in September 2011. Had surgery and full compliment of chemo and radiation. Siezures left her unable to work. She and her partner had to move from the area and in with her parents. She was an only child.

She took a turn for the worse last week and passed this Sunday while in hospital.

This January is too sad.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 06:45 AM

I'll second that

sandra


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 06:26 AM

'Inspirational' is not a word I use lightly or regularly, but this page IS just that. Much to read, much to think about. Wonderful words, written by some wonderful people. The accumulated knowledge, wisdom & experience written here is invaluable..."Words for Life".
                               With Love to you All,
                                                             Nigel.
                                                             xxxx


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 05:30 AM

Good to hear, Pete.

Spaw... wonderful words.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jan 14 - 04:28 PM

I think perhaps, that another way of expressing it is, that a loss can break a heart ,but the positive memories can bring healing over time.
tommy still steadily recovering, but the bi-pap machine does most of his breathing at night. otherwise, its generally up, so UP SPAW and blessings all    pete.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 28 Jan 14 - 07:16 AM

I talked about something similar discussing the death of my best friend, mentor, big brother, Denny. It came to me in a strange enough way through the question of a 12 year old boy. I did the eulogy for Denny and I had the very large crowd laughing...........


The funeral drew a huge crowd and when I spoke, I spent twenty minutes and got lots of laughs, because we had had many good laughs together over the years. But I ended with something that my nephew had asked. It was a good question and since he was there, it was a good place to answer it. Ricky said to his Mom (Connie), "What's it like when your best friend dies? Uncle Pat must have a big hole in his heart now." At the end of that eulogy cum comedy monologue, I told the crowd what Rick had asked and said:

Great friends cannot leave a hole in your heart. They can only fill it with the memories of a lifetime. Maybe that's all our hearts really are.......A collection of wonderful memories and love for those we bless and who bless us with that most special status......True Friend.



Spaw


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jan 14 - 06:02 AM

"The hole in my heart after all these years is not nearly as precious, nor as vivid as are the memories."


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Jan 14 - 11:51 PM

Time does, or at least can, heal. Kaye died 23 years ago this evening. She had just turned 42. Her boys were 8 and 9 years old. I was 39. Several times this month I have thought about the approaching anniversary, but today, it wasn't until I wrote the date down on some signature page at work that I realized the date and that today is that anniversary. The hole in my heart after all these years is not nearly as precious, nor as vivid as are the memories.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 27 Jan 14 - 01:07 PM

Amen to that, Spaw. Just gone 5 past 6 (pm), so I'll raise a glass shortly.


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Jan 14 - 09:07 PM

Many of us only knew Ralph here but I posted to his obit thread.....No harm in having it here either I suppose..........

*************************************************************
"Ralphie" was always a fine contributor here. He came to Mudcat in 2001 and always had knowledgeable and passionate comments PLUS could many times be counted on to have some funny things to add in the BS fray.   

Not long after he arrived he and I PM'ed a few times when I saw he might be getting a bit ...... I dunno' what but I'll use "overwrought" by some of our resident jackasses......er, uh, trolls. I think the following response showed everything I needed to know about him in a nutshell. Intelligence, self knowledge, and above all(for me)....humor.....wait, I'll make that humour just for him.

Pat. I'm honoured!...Have had 6 messages so far.
As a Brit, I find this whole forum, not only useful, but also fascinating.
I've even got wound up meself over a couple of topics (Celtic Music?) Only because I hate to see injustice, of any kind.
But, by and large, I feel very happy here...I'll even forgive you for being American....By the way...can we have our country back now?
Best wishes from "Der Fatherland"....
I hear you've not been well, so, GET BETTER!! Best Wishes and thanks for the welcome Ralphie

Travel well Ralphie. It was a pleasure and an "honour" to have you here with us.

*************************************************************

Spaw


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Jan 14 - 07:36 PM

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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jan 14 - 05:19 AM

Great post, Spaw. Desperate, when one 'turns back the pages' of our personal histories, only to discover that some of those we knew & maybe even loved, are with us no more. To discover further that the circumstances were so excessively painful is an added twist that makes absorbing the news that much harder. Take all the time you need, my Dear Friend. You have quite a bundle of memories on which to ponder & reflect. Ann & I send our sincere condolences & Love.
       Tomorrow (Monday 27th), Ann & I will be attending Ralph Jordan's funeral. He was 'Ralphie' on MC. If you're up & about at 11:30 UK time, give thanks for a superb musician; a matchless sound engineer; an irrepressible supporter & friend of Nic Jones & a Gentle Man in every sense of the word. Ralph will be sorely missed by all those who knew & worked with him, myself included.
                               With Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 25 Jan 14 - 09:12 AM

How wonderful Nigel! One of the things I have enjoyed lately is catching up with school friends on a site about my hometown here on FB. There is also a downside. One of my best friends in high school and for a few years after. I previously knew had died. I wasn't around and didn't hear about it til years later. We had drifted apart as our lives changed. He'd married another mutual friend, had kids, and all that normal family thing.

So I run down his wife on this site I found and sent her a note. She wrote a nice note back and we agreed to stay in touch. I ran across another friend the next day and she had lost her husband last year and they were very close. We chatted back and forth and I mentioned talking to "Jenny" the day before. She tells me what a strong support she had been for her AND that "Rich" had committed suicids the day their divorce came through. He had also lost his longtime job and was depressed............I didn't let her know I didn't know that and am thankful I didn't say anything to his wife. "Phyllis" then tells me that "Betty's" husband, also a mutual friend and schoolmate, had died two years ago.

Geeziz..........A suicde and two sort of shocking and sudden deaths.....

I am taking a bit of a break from the site to absorb this....LOL.....I mean really......You gotta' laugh a bit here because I was so damn innocent and enjoying the old times so much I forgot we had all aged and that carries all the problems life has brought us. It is what it is and my eyes are open now and far more prepared to continue enjoying the reminiscing with a more realistic mindset.

Realistic mindset....... Sometimes I forget one of my two core beliefs.....There is only what is. What should be never existed..... The world is ever so capable of delivering jabs, body shots, and upper cuts, in a powerful flurry. Gotta' keep your legs and know the truth that defeats it.....There is only what is......

And then, like Nigel, we can relish the joy of the rounds where we win. Much love to the crew of "Jane's Rainbow!"



Spaw


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