Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 12:27 PM

Just found out that our eldest daughter has been diagnosed with a grade 4, inoperable tumour in her lung. She lives in Dubai...we in London, which adds an extra layer of logistical problems to sort out. Prayers, thoughts, meditations...whatever you do in a crisis, spare us a minute or two in your 'quiet times', we really do need all the help we can get,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 12:31 PM

Nigel and Ann, I don't know what to say. But good thoughts and prayers will be in my heart for you and your daughter.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Maryrrf
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 12:32 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this - I will keep you in my prayers and meditations.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 12:35 PM

I'm here with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: saulgoldie
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 12:54 PM

Very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers to you.

Saul

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 01:26 PM

And from me.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 01:30 PM

So sorry, Nigel and Ann, to hear this. Will offer up heartfelt prayers for you all at Holy Communion. God keep you. Eliza

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 01:46 PM

Oh dear! Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Raptor
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 01:48 PM

Thoughts and Prayers on your way.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 02:03 PM

You have my thoughts and prayers.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 03:37 PM

All of the above and kindest regards from Charlie in Dunfermline.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 03:41 PM

Good thoughts coming from Maine for all of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 06:09 PM

More good thoughts from Maine.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: LilyFestre
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 07:09 PM

And from Pennsylvania too.

xoxoxoxo


Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 07:29 PM

Also from North Carolina, Nigel. Holding all of you in my thoughts and meditations.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 08:10 PM

<3

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 09:41 PM

And, from Colorado, too. Thanks givings for peace, comfort, and a way through what may come.

kat & my Rog

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bobert
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 09:46 PM

Good thoughts from North Carolina...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ragdall
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 10:01 PM

Nigel & Ann,
Good thoughts for your daughter and for you, from Northern Canada.


rags

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 10:17 PM

Geeziz Nigel..........I am so sorry and you can be assured you have all my best for your family. And I can offer you the extra kick-ass power of the second "T" which will bring more good mojo!


Spaw Patterson

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 10:39 PM

Prayers from RI, too, for the best possible outcome and the ability for all to accept whatever lies ahead.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 11:04 PM

you have my prayers my friend. I am so so sorry to hear this new
so sorry

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 12 Jan 12 - 11:37 PM

"Inoperable" doesn't mean nothing can be done, it means they won't do surgery. My best wishes are that they are able to help your daughter in some other way.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 04:20 AM

Good thoughts from France



David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Dharmabum
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 05:46 AM

From us also.

DB.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: billybob
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 06:22 AM

Love and healing thoughts from me too (((( xx ))))

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Monique
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 07:17 AM

Good thoughts from me too.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: My guru always said
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 07:25 AM

So sorry to hear this, sending positive thoughts.
Hil

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 10:42 AM

Nigel, email me when you can. No parent or child should have to go through this.

BM

PS Said some prayers last night. I hope they help.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 11:20 AM

Ann & I are overwhelmed by your Love, Care & Concern. Mudcatters at their very best.
We send you all our Love, Hugs & Kisses & a million thankyous,
                               Nigel & Ann Paterson xxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: open mike
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 11:46 AM

sending best wishes winging their way to Dubai...and to you!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 03:28 PM

as, im sure with others,prayer offered with yearning heart and moist eyes.
we have a friend who we really thought would not survive some years back but last year was given the all clear.i wish it was always like that but sometimes it is.God is gracious,keep hoping.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Crowhugger
Date: 13 Jan 12 - 05:47 PM

Warmest healing thoughts to her.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 14 Jan 12 - 11:13 AM

All things are possible. Healing vibes on transmit.....be strong the Mudcat Mojo is a powerful medicine.

Frank xx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Jan 12 - 01:27 PM

Trying to hope this is not devastating news. Sending some good energy to your daughter and those caring for her.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jan 12 - 02:35 AM

adding my bit to the Mudcat mojo

love from sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: John J
Date: 15 Jan 12 - 10:25 AM

What a dreadful weight to bear.

My very best wishes and kind thoughts to you all.

JJ

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jan 12 - 04:14 AM

Doing our best to remain positive...not always succeeding...our lives 'on hold' for the moment whilst the doctors do what they need to do. Taking it a day at a time. Much Love to all Mudcatters who are supporting us...it's good to know you're out there,
                                                       Nigel & Ann Paterson xx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 19 Jan 12 - 04:43 AM

May you all find the strength to come through this trial.
You have my prayers too.
keith.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 19 Jan 12 - 07:11 AM

The power of prayer can work miracles and we pray for one for your daughter.
Pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: wysiwyg
Date: 19 Jan 12 - 07:26 AM

Watch close for the blessings. You will see things we can only see in these challenges, and they will mean so much to you, later.

Love,

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jan 12 - 11:42 AM

Still praying, hoping. and sending love.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 19 Jan 12 - 01:39 PM

Ditto that.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 12:47 PM

Our Daughter, Jane, begins her chemotherapy treatment this coming Monday. Six sessions, spread over 18 weeks. She is very upbeat & positive...We're all very proud of her. And we're all very proud of The Mudcatters too...where would we be without you. Ann & I would love to meet you all one day. Probably be the biggest 'Group Hug' in history!
         I won't be able to post over the next month...would anyone be willing to keep the thread active in my absence? Maybe, one or two of you could take it in turns. Jane's treatment enters a critical phase now, so she really does need as much Love & Support as you can spare.
         From the Bottom of our Hearts, Ann & I thank you & trust that your lives are free from pain & distress,
                      Nigel & Ann Paterson xxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 12:55 PM

I'll take care of that for you, Nigel. No thanks necessary.

We'll keep Jane, Ann and you in our thoughts and prayers.

Bruce

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 03:13 PM

Best thoughts and regards as always from Charlie in Scotland.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 06:28 PM

Take care of you and yours.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 06:33 PM

Nigel
You daughter and your family are in my prayers every night. Please know that you folks are very much loved. Anything we can do just let us know

God Bless
Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 10:56 PM

Well, I'm going to thank you, Bruce! It helps me remember to pray when threads are refreshed, even though I don't always add a comment. Nigel, Ann, I'll continue to pray and hope for the best possible outcome for your daughter and strength for all of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 20 Jan 12 - 11:04 PM

All our best to Jane. Let every speck of cancer be eradicated by these treatments.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jan 12 - 04:40 AM

Thanks Bruce...now we know things are in good hands. And continuing thanks to all of you who are staying with this thread. Jane starts her chemo this coming Monday. Six sessions spread over 18 weeks. She remains incredibly positive which is a great credit to her. I would be falling apart by now!
                                  Much Love to All,
                                                             Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 21 Jan 12 - 10:15 AM

Keeping the good thoughts going.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Jan 12 - 02:36 PM

More thoughts and thanks givings from here, too. I *see* the good cells flowing through her body, leaving room only for good health and relief.

kat in Colorado

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Jan 12 - 03:36 PM

continued prayer.God bless. pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 21 Jan 12 - 08:48 PM

Every night before I fall asleep I say a prayer for Jane.

Sounds like you have one incredibly strong gal there.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 21 Jan 12 - 10:31 PM

Still have my good thoughts and mindfulness, Nigel, for all of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jan 12 - 12:41 AM

& mine

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 22 Jan 12 - 07:23 AM

I have put her name on our church Friday prayer list. We will ontinue our prayers for her and those who support her.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 Jan 12 - 01:12 PM

Still here of course.......Strong daughter you have there Nigel. Bruce and many others will keep this one going.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jan 12 - 10:50 PM

Continuing and grateful for the reminders.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Jan 12 - 10:00 AM

Looks to be the thread's doing fine, Nigel. When you can, please let us all know of Jane's progress.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 23 Jan 12 - 06:13 PM

I only saw this thread this afternoon. Today will have been the first day of chemo. Nigel and Ann, may the healing hand of the Almighty be on your child Jane, particularly during the next 18 weeks. I intend to keep her and you very much in my daily devotions.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: alison
Date: 24 Jan 12 - 06:18 AM

more thoughts and prayers from over here in Oz

slainte

alison

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 24 Jan 12 - 11:23 AM

Hope you recieve a positive outcome, healing thoghts to you and your family.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 24 Jan 12 - 11:41 AM

Still here in Dunfermline thinking of you .
Charlie fB

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 24 Jan 12 - 02:51 PM

Ditto.

Jane and your family were in my prayers last night.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 24 Jan 12 - 09:09 PM

Nigel, in a posting of 18 Jan 2012 you told a friend (Tom) of the illness of your wife's daughter and of your having to care for grandchildren. Am I to presume that it was Jane you were there talking about and that the grandchildren in question are her children? I post this with the good intention of giving more of an identity to the main person for whom we are all praying.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jan 12 - 09:28 PM

My continued thoughts and prayers.

And, could a mod change the thread title to reflect who we are caring about please? It seems rather impersonal even tho it was obviously not intended in any way to be such. These threads are about friends. They should be named in the thread title. Sorry if that offends in ANY way ANYbody. Just the way I feel... late at night... caring about friends.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Jan 12 - 12:17 AM

Gnu, I'm with you on wishing the names of people were in the thread title.

And my prayers continue.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Jan 12 - 03:50 PM

Refresh in case Nigel has a minute on computer. Keep on hanging in, buddy.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 26 Jan 12 - 02:51 PM

Keeping this thread up top.

Thinking of you and family, Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 27 Jan 12 - 04:43 AM

Thinking of Jane, Nigel, and Ann this morning, as well as looking for wisdom for Jane's doctors.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bonzo3legs
Date: 27 Jan 12 - 04:53 AM

Warmest healing thoughts, any alternative healing?

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Jan 12 - 06:33 PM

another prayer offered for healing and resilience in this troubling time. pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 28 Jan 12 - 08:43 AM

Still here and sending healing thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 29 Jan 12 - 07:28 AM

Good morning, Jane and family. The sun is shining and your friends are thinking of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jan 12 - 05:33 PM

Yes, indeed. Sending love and continuing prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 30 Jan 12 - 12:58 PM

ChanteyLass, I gladly take the baton from you and move on into another day of prayer for Jane.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 30 Jan 12 - 01:22 PM

Still sending you love and healing thoughts.

David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 30 Jan 12 - 02:04 PM

Still in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 01 Feb 12 - 04:32 PM

Jane is still prominent in my daily devotions. But, c'mon Mudcatters, we need to keep this thread near the top of the list every day. So, dear Sandra in Sydney and you, my buddy banjoman, let us hear from you again as soon as time permits!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 01 Feb 12 - 08:05 PM

Just stopped in to say I hope everything is going well.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Feb 12 - 11:18 PM

Thank you for that good news, 999. Prayers continue!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Feb 12 - 06:44 AM

back again with more good wishes

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 02 Feb 12 - 12:48 PM

Thinking of you all right now.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 02 Feb 12 - 02:04 PM

ChanteyLass, what good news? I thought that 999 was merely hoping (not reporting) that all is going well!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Feb 12 - 08:33 PM

Oh, you are right, Manuel! I read 999's post very literally and thought he'd "stopped In" at the home of someone who had good news and told that person he hoped everything was going well. On rereading his comment I guess he meant he was "stopped in" at Mudcat. Sigh. Regardless, prayers continue! (This is what happens when I read and post at 11:18 PM.)

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 03 Feb 12 - 09:29 AM

I wish I had. As yet I've heard nothing from Nigel, but I expect he has no access to a computer. I'm sure though that if he gets around to one Mudcat will be somewhere on his touch-base list.

Also, if a mod could pls remove my 02 Feb 12 - 11:27 PM post? I'd meant it for another thread. Screwed up. Sorry.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 04 Feb 12 - 07:11 AM

Good snowy Maine morning to you, Jane, Nigel, and Ann. We know you'll stop by Mudcat when there is time and energy left over from taking care of family needs.

For now, just breathe and love and remember that you are not alone.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 04 Feb 12 - 09:41 AM

what maeve said.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 04 Feb 12 - 11:31 AM

Ditto what Maeve said.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Feb 12 - 01:15 PM

another prayer offered.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Feb 12 - 01:17 PM

And again!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 04 Feb 12 - 04:12 PM

Thinking of you here in potentially snowy Scotland.
ATB from fB

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 05 Feb 12 - 05:51 AM

It's a dark Sunday morning in Maine, but somewhere the sun is bright.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 05 Feb 12 - 04:48 PM

And now it's getting toward dusk in Maine. Still keepingyou all in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 05 Feb 12 - 05:51 PM

never really done prayers since i was a kid, But I'll try. so sorry for you.

al

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 05 Feb 12 - 06:25 PM

Maeve, it's still shining brightly here (albeit from the west at this time of day) in Central America, from which a quiet prayer went up for Jane, and others, at the crack of dawn.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 05 Feb 12 - 07:11 PM

Hoping for the best as well!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Jeri
Date: 05 Feb 12 - 07:37 PM

I always think I've posted because I thought at the thread, then find I never said anything. I'll hold Jane in my heart, and hope things go well for her.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 06 Feb 12 - 06:42 AM

Still offering prayers for you and all your family.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 06 Feb 12 - 10:58 PM

Same here, Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 07 Feb 12 - 11:58 AM

If, as Nigel said, there are to be six chemo sessions in an eighteen-week period, the second session must be a week or less away by now. I pray that it will prove of great benefit to her.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 04:54 AM

Sure hope so, Manuel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 06:36 AM

Dont stop praying. Your prayers never go unheeded

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 08:26 AM

Thoughts still coming from Maine.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: KT
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 05:52 PM

Thinking of you all, and holding you in thought and prayer.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Joybell
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 05:59 PM

Thoughts and best wishes from me too.
Joy

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 07:29 PM

Just think of us as mice; for each person's post you see, there are ten, twenty, an hundred more of us thinking, praying, hoping on your behalf.

Squeak! ~()>

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Feb 12 - 11:59 PM

That's for sure!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 02:56 AM

another squeak

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 03:27 AM

Still peeking in from time to time. Every time I see the thread title My thoughts got to Nigel's daughter and the family, friends and medical professionals looking after her. More healing energy to the entire orbit of folks surrounding her with love and care.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,moira(flyingcat)
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 04:31 AM

I've just seen this thread and add my best thoughts and prayers to jane, nigel and ann for what they are all going through. I found the support I got from catters and f/b friends when my brother was so ill helped so much. My sister in law was astonished that so many peoople were praying for him. I'ts like a warm blanket flowing over you.
Hope everything is going well Jane xx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 05:18 AM

More prayers and thoughts from freezing France.


David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 12:38 PM

Nigel, I'm still saying prayers for Jane and the rest of y'all. Don't mean I'll be attending church, but if there is a big kahuna, I don't expect that will matter.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 01:55 PM

Still on deck here.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,suzi
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 06:20 PM

Prayers and healing thoughts coming your way for your daughter, and strength for you, her mum, and her children too. Luv and ((((HUGS)))) x

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Feb 12 - 06:31 PM

the Lord bless you and keep you..and give you peace. numbers 6 vs24-26

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 10 Feb 12 - 08:45 AM

Another mouse checking in.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Feb 12 - 09:20 AM

Still praying . . .

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Maryrrf
Date: 10 Feb 12 - 09:30 AM

Also checking and sending good wishes for your daughter.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 10 Feb 12 - 02:34 PM

What Mary just said.
Charlie

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: rumanci
Date: 10 Feb 12 - 02:39 PM

Holding you all close with prayers and thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 12 Feb 12 - 12:05 PM

Sunny sky and cold winds in Maine, where I'm thinking of Jane and her family; many prayers, many voices, are gathering 'round you all.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 12 Feb 12 - 12:54 PM

Thinking of you all, Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 12 Feb 12 - 08:22 PM

Walking alongside...

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Feb 12 - 10:17 PM

Praying again.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 03:42 AM

Returned home late last night (12th Feb.) Grandchildren in fine form...a little TOO fine on occasions! Jane has her second chemo treatment today. We won't know anything much for at least a week or two. Apologies for the extended silence...no computer. Ann & I are overwhelmed by your Love & Support. We thank you all from the bottom of our Hearts. More news as & when...
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 04:03 AM

patiently awaiting the next installment

love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 07:31 AM

Dont forget to include her in your prayers again today.
Keep going

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 07:43 AM

Did not forget, banjoman!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 08:14 AM

Time gives us perspective to put things in. I trust you are all hangin' in OK. Keep your spirits and your hearts positive.

Keep well.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 12:17 PM

"Time gives us perspective to put things in". Bruce, you're so right...problem is, we don't know at this stage, just how much time we've got. We are 'hangin' in'...just...each in our own particular way. For Ann & I, one of the hardest things is just getting on with the daily chores. The laundry piles up, the dusting doesn't get done, sink's full of washing up. All these humdrum activities simply fade into the background...our every waking thought & every ounce of energy occupied by Life's greatest challenge.
          It's good to know that you're all out there...stay with us, please,
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 01:27 PM

Certainly, Nigel... Ts&Ps continue. Keep the faith.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 04:35 PM

Good thoughts still continuing Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 10:26 PM

Thanks for taking the time to check in, Nigel. Holding all of you in mindful awareness every day.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 10:33 PM

still with you and praying
pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 10:45 PM

In my thoughts, in my heart and in my prayers

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Feb 12 - 10:56 PM

In my prayers, too. Thank you for the update.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 14 Feb 12 - 05:28 PM

Another boost for Jane, Ann, and Nigel

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Feb 12 - 03:48 AM

Ann & I visited Jane yesterday, following her second chemo session. She looked so well (my Grandmother would have said: "Bonnie"). The mismatch between internal & external...one of Life's great ironies.
                            Stay Close,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Feb 12 - 04:22 AM

thinking of you

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 15 Feb 12 - 08:31 AM

♥♥♥♥

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 15 Feb 12 - 08:37 AM

Nigel, glad to know that she is nearer, in terms of geographical fact, than before, so that you are now back at home and yet able to visit with her at the facility where she is undergoing the chemo. The prayers continue unabated.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 15 Feb 12 - 09:55 AM

I'm thinking often of you good folks, all of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Feb 12 - 07:03 PM

Sending love and more prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Feb 12 - 06:13 AM

As a musician, 'Time' has always been a friend.....now, it takes on extra meanings which I don't much like,
                        Struggling a bit today...we both are,
                                                                               Love to You All,
                                                                                                      Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 16 Feb 12 - 10:48 AM

Nigel, now that we speak of friends, let us never forget: "What a friend we have in Jesus!" With Him as our friend, we shall never walk alone!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Feb 12 - 01:50 PM

Concentrating on the Now, Right Here, Right Now, I am giving thanks for a lessening of stress, worry, all pain and suffering. This, or something better, for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be!

With much love,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Feb 12 - 11:39 PM

In spite of all our prayers, some days are bound to be worse than others. I hope all our prayers mean that there will be fewer bad days. I'm sorry that this was one of them. And I'm still praying.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 03:14 AM

Woke up early this morning with a head full of thoughts & 'what ifs' which I really didn't want to confront or have to deal with. However, one of the thoughts needs to be shared here. This 'Ship of Hope' which I launched on Jan. 12th, whilst we know it's probable final destination, the time taken to reach our ultimate port of call remains, and will almost certainly remain, unknown for some time to come. The voyage could be longer than we had anticipated, the seas hostile & rough, supplies could run low...it feels unreasonable of me to expect all of you currently 'on board' to remain so until we drop that final anchor. Maybe you could join me in my metaphor & let me know how you feel about this.
                                                    With Love to You All,
                                                                                    Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 06:48 AM

I think I speak for most contributors to this thread - when I say that we signed on for the journey no matter how long it takes. You need support and prayer for yourselves as well as for Jane, and I know that you are included in all our prayers and best wishes.
Your ship of hope has a first rate skipper in yourself, and a trusting and dedicated crew. We will keep you in mind even if you feel you may have to stop contributing to this thread.
Bset wishes to you both
Pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 07:09 AM

I ain't leavin. I don't post every day but I am onboard every day. This is the first thread I look for. Some days, I only read your post(s) and go on.

Heave round to the wind. (I ain't a salt at all... just recalling a song about getting home in a storm.)

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 07:35 AM

Here for the duration Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 07:42 AM

Still with you in Scotland, Nigel.
The Very Best Regards from Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 10:08 AM

"it feels unreasonable of me to expect all of you currently 'on board' to remain so until we drop that final anchor."

Nigel, I was on-call for 15 years as a volunteer firefighter. Of the 8760 hours in a year I spent 2000 of them working at a job I couldn't leave. I also spent 500 hours out of the province or otherwise indisposed. That left 6260 hours when I answered the pager. I don't think keeping your daughter, your missus and you in my thoughts for however long you need it will be much of an inconvenience if you know what I mean. In the words of my grandmother, "Are you daft?"

Friendship doesn't look at clocks.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 10:32 AM

Still thinking of you and your family every day.
Read your posts even if I don't contribute.
Sending good thoughts and hugs.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 01:08 PM

Nigel, thanks for telling us of your thoughts and concerns for us. I echo what Pete/Banjoman said...in it for the long haul, that's what life really is anyway, isn't it? Prayers, good thoughts, thanks givings...these cost nothing and whatever good we each send out can return to us threefold or more. That's NOT why most of us offer it, but it is said to show you it is NOT a burden to help in this way, as we are each able. Fair sailing through thick and thin, stormy, sunny, and in-between to land on the shore, wherever and whatever that may be, we are here with you.

With all good wishes for Peace Profound,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 04:34 PM

most all of us currently have or have had stormy seas to traverse.this leads to empathy with others tossed around on an ocean of turmoil, and prayer infused with love and compassion.God bless you.
pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Feb 12 - 09:50 PM

I'm not jumping ship! Prayers!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 04:21 AM

My Dear Friends...What a Crew! I couldn't have hand-picked a better one! As we voyage together, along with your intercessions & words of wisdom, perhaps we could also include the occasional: "You'll never guess what happened to me today" type of thing or a simple reflection on how your day has gone...I'll endeavour to do the same. Whilst my feet are firmly planted on the deck of this wondrous vessel, I don't want to forget what dry land feels like.
            With Much Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann Paterson.

PS Please don't feel obliged to engage or play with this nautical metaphor once it's served it's purpose.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 08:10 AM

What others have already said, Nigel....

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Maryrrf
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 09:07 AM

I also remember your family daily in my prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 09:12 AM

Good morning, Nigel and Ann. I reckon it's spring here in Maine, because:

*The skunks are on the move, with their "perfume" wafting along the road
*Black-capped Chickadees are singing their spring song
*We have tulips, crocus, and daffodils on our windowsills
*Our bantams have begun laying again
*The seedling tomato we potted up in November is full of ripe, golden, "Garden Peach" tomatoes... inside...by our south windows.

Carpe deum!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 09:31 AM

Can't make up its mind here whether it's gonna be winter or become spring. Knowing Canada, it'll get right nasty later, thaw for a few hours, freeze overnight and be just fine for skating whether or not ya want to. Only fell on me arse once this winter. Had nowt to do with weather. It ain't the vodka that gets ya, it's those darned steppes.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 11:41 AM

Saturday afternoon...a wet, chilly East London...not much to lift the spirits, so a clumsy attempt at poetry will have to suffice.

"Walk beside me, hold my hand.
We're using time that wasn't planned.
Don't walk behind & force my pace,
There is no need for us to race.
And if in front your feet should stray,
Hold back, slow down, don't run away.
So walk beside me, touch my face
And feel the warmth of my embrace
As walking side by side forever
Binds so tight that none can sever".

       Ann is spending the weekend with Jane...just Mother & Daughter together, so I had them both very much in mind as the lines above took shape.
       Much Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 05:04 PM

if that was clumsy nigel it was very good clumsy.
i did,nt realize you are almost a neighbour;i live in the dartford area so like you had wet weather.nice and breezy AM so made the mistake of putting the washing out!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 05:08 PM

Holdings hands is what this thread is about.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 08:55 PM

ditto

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Feb 12 - 09:24 PM

I was thinking about all things nautical today, but mostly the music. Today was the start of the first weekend since Mystic Seaport reopened on Thursday, so that's where I spent the day. The weather was beautiful: not too cold but with a brisk wind. Now I'm home, remembering you, and praying.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Feb 12 - 05:55 AM

SUNday is certainly living up to it's name...wall to wall blue skies...barely a cloud to mar the view here in London. Too early to splice the mainbrace, but much to admire when the countryside is bathed in glorious sunshine & yes, my spirits have been given a boost.
                   Much Love to You All,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.

PS Thanks gnu...hit the nail right on the head!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Feb 12 - 06:06 AM

ChanteyLass, my apologies, I forgot to say that your references to: "...all things nautical" combined with Music & finally your prayers fitted so well with the sun streaming through my window.
            With Love,
                           Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 19 Feb 12 - 06:23 AM

Sunday - weather is fine & sunny. Played music at vigil service last evening & met a priest visiting from Africa. He gave a sermon about people ignoring each other in Church. Reminded him of the wealth of people (This site) who really do care for each other. Anyway - his prayers are now included for Jane.
It suddenly dawned on me that a lot of people are praying for me, and probably lots of others on this thread who have health problems.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 19 Feb 12 - 10:42 AM

To no one in particular:

"The little boy lost in the lonely fen,
Led by the wandering light,
Began to cry; but God, ever nigh,
Appeared like his father, in white."               

William Blake, "The Little Boy Found" (A M Wilkinson, "William Blake: Songs of Innocence and of Experience", University Tutorial Press, 1958.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Feb 12 - 09:20 PM

I am glad you had a sunny day and that your spirits brightened. I wish you many more sunny days.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Feb 12 - 05:18 AM

Monday morning & the sun is still shining. Two days in a row...that's nothing short of a miracle for the UK! My mind is suddenly filled with an image of Jane, standing in some wide open space, way out in the countryside, bathed in sunlight. As she stands there, the rays of the sun gently heal her...wouldn't that be something.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 20 Feb 12 - 08:25 AM

Nigel - try to retain that image - healing can come from all sorts of places.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 20 Feb 12 - 03:44 PM

The sunshine just broke through the clouds.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Feb 12 - 09:12 PM

Praying for more sunny days and healing rays.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Feb 12 - 12:25 AM

As jacqui said, that is a GREAT visualisation to hold onto!

Your poem went straight to my heart. How beautiful, loving, and poignant. Thanks so much for sharing it with us.

Our part of Colorado is laughingly called the Banana Belt for its mild winters. Yesterday we had a raw, cold wind with huge grey clouds filling the sky. This morning we woke to 2-3 inches of snow, BUT a bright sunny, deeply blue Colorado sky and it was gloriously beautiful. Most of the snow is gone and the sun has remained.

Each night, my grandson and I read to one another over the telephone, then I sing him a couple of lullies, and we say a prayer of giving thanks, part of which includes, "...we give thanks for blessings for all of our families and friends..." May it be so for all of us, esp. Jane, Nigel, and Ann.

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Feb 12 - 05:46 AM

You wonderful people never cease to amaze me...your words of wisdom so eloquently expressed...your intercessions & your desire to 'crew this ship' on it's voyage of hope...it takes my breath away. I'm reminded at this point that I always write in the 'first person', but rest assured, my beloved wife, Ann is standing shoulder to shoulder with me at the helm.
            I've received PMs, emails, handmade, thought- filled gifts...what more could I ask for.
            We voyage onwards, but there are rough seas ahead. The latest weather forecast anticipates testing times.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 21 Feb 12 - 05:48 AM

Keep this thread active with prayer and good wishes.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Feb 12 - 05:59 AM

Keeping the thread active or 'alive' becomes a metaphor in itself, don't you think?

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Feb 12 - 11:07 PM

This is the first thread I opened tonight. With Mudcat being slow, I am picking and choosing more carefully than ever. I wanted to make sure you knew I'm still praying!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Feb 12 - 05:14 AM

You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Feb 12 - 07:51 AM

I'm not a "God-fearing" man...not too keen on labels either, but if pushed, I would describe myself as a Humanist. I worship at the church of Life & Nature. I do, however, believe fervently in the power & integrity of The Human Condition, which includes our desire & ability to 'do whatever is needed to alleviate the suffering of others'. This thread underscores that 'desire & ability' in ways I have rarely experienced in my 64 years. Please continue with your intercessions, your prayers, your meditations, your positive thinking...whatever it is you do when you reach out to that 'needy other'. Ann & I try to visualise all of you every day...a sea of smiling, welcoming, compassionate faces. Knowing you're all there is a great comfort...stay close,
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Feb 12 - 09:45 AM

Nigel, that's about where I'm at, too. But you said it better than me.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Feb 12 - 03:54 PM

continuing to pray whatever your faith position.i appreciate you inviting those of us who do believe on board as well.pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Feb 12 - 04:48 PM

You're a good man, Pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Feb 12 - 07:58 PM

Keeping at it!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 03:22 AM

Good people are Good People, pete. You're surely welcome on our 'Ship of Hope' with it's Rainbow Crew. Ditto what 9 said.
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 05:52 AM

Difficult couple of days...tests...paucity of any meaningful information...feels like we've both let go the helm & allowed our ship to drift with the wind & tide. I'll be in my cabin if you need me. In the meantime, Bosun Bruce, would you take command please?
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 06:21 AM

Sometimes that's the thing to do in a storm, Nigel. When the winds die down a bit you'll take care of what's next. Keeping watch here.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 07:51 AM

We got you covered, Nigel. Love and prayers for you all.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 09:47 AM

Thanks Bruce...don't take your eye off that compass now. And keep a sharp lookout for squalls ahead.
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 02:43 PM

"...don't take your eye off that compass now"

Bruce, that's not a literal kind of thing. Put your eye back in your face, and keep watch. Got it?

Whew!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 06:48 PM

Now I'm praying for meaningful information from tests. It seems a shame to have to endure them and not get clear results.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 07:09 PM

"Bruce, that's not a literal kind of thing. Put your eye back in your face, and keep watch. Got it?"

Sheesh, Maeve, tell me NOW!


Nigel, Ann and Jane surely know by now there's a gang of us pulling for all of them. And we'll continue to keep doing so. Our mamas didn't raise no quitters (and neither did theirs). Good people do good things. This is a good thing.

We'll keep taking care of the thoughts and prayers for y'all and you three take care of business.

LABW [love and best wishes],

The gang.

PS I don't presume to speak for the group, and I pondered this post for a while as a result, but I think it safe enough given the quality of the folk hereabouts.

LAVBW

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bobert
Date: 23 Feb 12 - 07:22 PM

Hang tough and kick butt... One day (and kick) at a time...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Feb 12 - 04:04 AM

Maeve & Bruce, your humour is so welcome. Even in the bleakest of times, there are still opportunities for laughter & smiles.

Bobert, You've got it in one...I don't think Ann & I could cope any other way. There are, however, one or two butts that I would like to kick more than once on the same day!
               Much Love to All,
                                        Nigel & Ann
                                        xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Feb 12 - 04:32 AM

We've just made 200 posts...that really is quite amazing. And I forgot to say earlier that I haven't composed anything new for months, until yesterday afternoon, when I managed to cobble together 36 bars of an instrumental piece. A modest beginning, but at least it's a start. I really felt the need to create.
                                             With Love,
                                                            Nigel & Ann
                                                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 24 Feb 12 - 08:25 AM

Create away! It's good for the soul.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Feb 12 - 04:23 PM

wishing you continued creativity that will encourage you through.
still praying .pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Feb 12 - 06:35 PM

We are still on board with prayers!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Feb 12 - 06:05 AM

Creating something new, which in my case, happens to be a piece of Music, takes me to a 'different place' for an hour or two & reminds me that despite everything, Life DOES go on. Over the past few months, our Lives have been changed in ways we could never have imagined or anticipated, but by acknowledging the fact that "Life Goes On", actually enables us to support Jane all the better.
                                                 With Love to You All,
                                                                               Nigel & Ann xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Feb 12 - 08:57 AM

"I managed to cobble together 36 bars"

I did that one week in the 1960s. And 'cobble together' is the right term for it, buddy. Worst hangover I ever had.


Music is a key to understanding, or at least a method of sorting things out. When my youngest had that cyst growing in her head, I turned to music and my guitar because there was no where else to turn. Often there IS no where else to turn. And writing/composing lets ya say what ya want without the need for words, none of which ever seem 'right' anyway.

When you finish the piece, I hope to hear it.

BM

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Feb 12 - 01:31 PM

I can't play an instrument or carry a tune, but music has helped to heal my spirit on many occasions.I wonder if creating it feels like a prayer.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 25 Feb 12 - 04:03 PM

Still here and with you in Dunfermline.
Charlie

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 26 Feb 12 - 07:19 AM

Been away for a few days but not forgotten to keep you all in mind

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Feb 12 - 10:20 AM

The piece I'm working on is inspired by this thread & the Good People who have become such a vital & integral part...my Rainbow Crew. Please be patient, I don't work very quickly, but when it's finished, you will be the first to know. It's dedicated to all of you...the best way I know to say thank you for your compassion, love, prayers, healing thoughts...anything you've done to make Jane whole again. A working title might even be: "The Rainbow Crew"...what do you think?
               With Love,
                              Nigel & Ann
                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Feb 12 - 12:07 PM

Sounds good to me. More prayers!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 26 Feb 12 - 12:30 PM

I agree with ChanteyLass.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 26 Feb 12 - 01:11 PM

Looking forward to hearing it.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 03:49 AM

Still thinking of you. Rainbow crew sounds like a great idea for the title. Hopeful creating the piece is helping you relax just a little in this very hard time.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 04:13 AM

Nigel,I'm going into town this week,I'll be near Notre Dame.

I'll light a candle for you.

David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 11:12 AM

the rainbow in genesis has to do with renewed hope; and a crew is a collection of people working together-in your context toward that hope realized.so IMO a very apt title.
praying pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 11:13 AM

David, I'm assuming the 'Notre Dame' to which you refer is in Paris. A beautiful city that Ann & I have visited many times, including Notre Dame. Whether one is a 'believer' or not, it is virtually impossible not to be overawed. Your candle will shine some welcome light into a shadowy corner of our lives.
                                          With Love,
                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                         xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 08:08 PM

lovely town to visit, David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 09:21 PM

A candle in Notre Dame! Lovely!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Genie
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 11:56 PM

Nigel Paterson,
I'm not especially good at visualizing (being stronger in auditory processing), but as much as I can I will keep your image - Jane standing in some wide open space, way out in the countryside, bathed in sunlight, with the rays of sun gently healing her - in my mind. And if I can "audiolize" some healing music to go with it, I will do that too.


Prayers and healing thoughts coming to all of you.

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 05:22 AM

I've never met another Mudcatter in Paris,BOO HOO!

As for believing,I'm a bit of a floating voter.

But,it's a great feeling to go into Notre Dame,find a quiet corner and sit, and let one's mind go wherever it needs to.

Healing thoughts and ....well,you know!

David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: alanabit
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 05:32 AM

Nigel - what the rest said. Willing kindness and warmth to your daughter.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 07:16 AM

Ann & I went right back to the start of this thread & re-read every post. There's something very special happening here. We still find it incredible that so many Good People are prepared to support us, intercede for us or simply pass the time of day with us. Despite the horrors that we read in our papers & watch on the TV News, my belief that Humankind is fundamentally good in it's intentions remains unshakable. The microcosm that is this thread proves that over & over, day after day after day.
          With Love to You All,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 10:44 AM

Back at ya Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 10:47 AM

Jacqui took my line.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 11:43 AM

I've spent several hours today shredding redundant paperwork. Although somewhat noisy, I found it surprisingly relaxing & distracting. Had to stop eventually as the shredder became hot enough to cook on! I do recommend it as a short term panacea...the operative words being: 'short term'. The all-encompassing reality of Jane & her health confronts us, which ever way we turn. As each day passes, that realisation bears down upon us insidiously & inexorably.
                With Love to You All,
                                              Nigel & Ann
                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 12:36 PM

I refuse to shred my mountain. I am gonna wait until the 8th anniversary of closing my company and have bonfire. Might even invite Revenue Canada. There's one auditor there I would like to accidently nudge into the fire.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 08:41 PM

Do whatever comforts you! Prayers!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Bobert
Date: 28 Feb 12 - 10:01 PM

Hanging with ya!!! Just quietly...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 04:28 AM

gnu, there are a couple of doctors who might be joining your 'Revenue Men' on the bonfire. I rather like the idea of an 'accidental' nudge! And just for the record, I shredded all my cell phone bills going back as far as 2001. At least now they might be recycled into something useful!
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann
                         xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 11:14 AM

I've made my Rog promise to cremate everything of mine which he or my children and friends don't want. (I don't like the idea of anything I've held dear just going into a rubbish heap or sent off to charity, though I have no problem doing either as I live and breath!:-)I 'spose that could include a lot of paper, but I tend to shred on a regular basis.

Nigel, I hope there will be a way for us to hear your composition, soon. When I first started writing for publication etc., I found my best stuff came out of great strife, joy, or challenges. The high emotions fed the creative muse. Now, for my own sake, it's better that I do it as a matter of course, though there are still those *sparks* which guide and inspire. I am glad you have found such an outlet as you, Ann, and Jane go through these rough seas.

With thanks givings for ease of hearts, minds, and spirits,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 12:29 PM

For inclusion under the title: "You'll never guess what happened to me....." Last night/this morning (00.01) to be precise, Mrs.P & I are safely tucked up in bed & the phone rings. As you can imagine, with our current situation being what it is, a call at this hour tends to up the old heart rate a notch or six. It wasn't the hospital, it wasn't our Son-in-Law...it was our telephone service provider reminding us, courtesy of a recorded message, that they would be coming round next week to upgrade our landline...AT ONE MINUTE PAST BLOODY MIDNIGHT!
I lodged a very strongly worded complaint as soon as they were open for business this morning. As soon as I hear anything, I'll let you all know just how far between their legs they were prepared to put their tail!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 03:55 PM

LOL Nigel. Go get 'em melad.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 06:17 PM

"I am Nigel, hear me roar..."

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 06:23 PM

Midnight? The actual phone company? How bloody RUDE!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Feb 12 - 06:43 PM

Something else to pray for: no foolish calls in the middle of the night.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 04:04 AM

Except for a strike on the D train,my line,all went according to plan.

I slipped into Notre Dame,not too many people,and lit a candle,sat for about half an hour,then went home.

I hope it helps just a little.

Still sending possitive vibes to you,Nigel and Ann

David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 06:37 AM

Its womens world day of prayer tomorrow (Friday) so we have asked our local service to remember you in their prayers.
Found out today how sharp a rabbits teeth are when one of the little blighters (we have three) decided to attack?
Its great to hold a small animal and it can be very relaxing - may be worth a try to releive stress.
Love & best wishes
Pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 07:29 AM

Pete, a big hug from my Darling Wife is the best stress reliever I know. Not sure whether that puts her in the 'small animal' category though!
                                                               With Love,
                                                                              Nigel & Ann
                                                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 09:30 AM

"...a big hug from my Darling Wife is the best stress reliever I know..."

I hereby prescribe mutual hugs with your Darling Wife, to be enjoyed a minimum of four times per day; to be increased as needed.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 10:59 AM

Maeve, have been to the pharmacy, your prescription has been dispensed. Hugging has commenced! By the by, to anyone reading this post, 'Hugging' is NOT a euphemism ;)
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 01:33 PM

{{{{{{BEAR HUG}}}}}}

(ya'll join in!)

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 10:35 PM

Okay, Kat, I'll join! Virtual hugs and real prayers!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,It's c-c-c-c-old
Date: 01 Mar 12 - 11:48 PM

"Hugging' is NOT a euphemism"

Yeah, riiiight. Never been in 50 below, have ya!

Love ya, and think of y'all every day.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 02 Mar 12 - 09:35 AM

Still thinking of you, hope things are not to bad.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Mar 12 - 10:56 AM

Jane has had two scans this week. We await the results with bated breath.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann
                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 02 Mar 12 - 04:52 PM

I am sure everyone who reads this thread does too, Nigel. Fingers crossed.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Mar 12 - 05:32 PM

still here ,still praying.pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Mar 12 - 10:19 PM

Gasp! Can't hold my breath. Need it for praying.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 11:18 AM

There's something I've been wanting to say for weeks, but words like 'mawkish' & 'maudlin' keep getting in the way, but finally, here goes.
         In high school I was bullied incessantly from the age of 12 until 16. The physical pain is long gone, but some of the psychological wounds remain unhealed to this very day. Gradually, over time, one by one, my 'friends' deserted me. Understandable really...if they were seen fraternising with me, they got beaten up. Why am I writing about this? Well, all You Good People reading this have become/replaced the friends I lost (And never regained). I know the circumstances are completely different, but it's your persistence, loyalty, compassion, love & humour...qualities I have always looked for & treasured, that you bring to me every day via this thread. It's strange yet true that a large group of people, most of whom I will never meet, have become the dearest, most trusted Friends a man could ever wish for. May the goodness You bestow on Jane , Ann & Myself be reinvested one hundredfold on your Families & in your Lives.
       With Love to our Rainbow Crew,
                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 11:46 AM

Needed Kleenex after that.

#################

"By the by, to anyone reading this post,
'Hugging' is NOT a euphemism ;)"

Suuurrree, pal. We believe ya!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: LilyFestre
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 11:59 AM

Mudcat is full of amazingly caring, supportive people! It's a family all of it's own. Mostly good folks with a couple of nuts thrown in to keep things interesting! ;)

Still thinkin' lots of good things and keeping you all in my prayers.

Much love,

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 01:17 PM

9... I'm Puffs man, myself. Puffs Plus Lotion, actually. they come on sale at Costco quite often. Higher quality tissue. And, they are not interlaced, which I prefer. When I reach for a Kleenex in the dark and get a half of one and have to fumble with the box, all the while becoming more awake and more pissed off... just try Puffs.

Thank youfor sharing, Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 02:22 PM

Nigel, you should make one of those It Gets Better videos!
Praying!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 04:04 PM

i used to get some of that treatment nigel around the same years.i was fortunate though in that i joined a boxing club.the bullies did'nt know what to do with a straight left!
mind you it did'nt help much at sea cadets when a boy from the "approved school" challenged me and kicked my face in.no gentlemanly fisticuffs there!
i bowed out of that organization after that.
God bless pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Mar 12 - 08:59 PM

Nigel,

We are honoured by your sharing and grateful to be those friends to you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 04 Mar 12 - 06:30 AM

I suspect that GUEST's post at 2:58 was intended to be in a different thread.
********************
Good morning, Nigel, Ann, and Jane. Doves are calling outside as clouds of American Goldfinches gather in the cherry tree.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Mar 12 - 07:58 AM

I seem to have lost a post somewhere, I know I commented on David's plan to visit Notre Dame!

still sending best wishes & hugs

love from sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 04 Mar 12 - 08:22 AM

This one, Sandra?
*******
Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney - PM
Date: 27 Feb 12 - 08:08 PM

lovely town to visit, David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Mar 12 - 08:55 PM

Still here. Still praying.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 04:27 AM

Sandra/maeve,Yes I did shuffle into town to do what I said I would.

It was just like an early Spring day.Not too many people,and yes you're right Sandra,it is a lovely city to visit.

Still sending good vibes to Nigel/Ann.

PS.Hello to everyone here.

David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 06:15 AM

Yes, there was a 'rogue post' at 2:58, but the mods dealt with it very quickly. I've written to Joe & the Gang to thank them. This Thread has become something akin to the internet equivalent of Hallowed Ground as far as Ann & I are concerned. Could be one of the most significant days, Monday 5th March. Jane had two scans last week & the results are due today.
                         Stay Close,
                                          Much Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                         xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 06:39 AM

Here we are, walking alongside.

Maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 07:07 AM

May the results bring you some good news, praying hard for you all.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 09:25 AM

Still here and sending good thoughts to you all.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 01:24 PM

Thanks everyone...no news yet.
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 01:34 PM

I don't pray much but, sincerest thoughts & prayers for all.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Mar 12 - 10:55 PM

Holding my breath--and praying.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 03:39 AM

waiting with you

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 04:02 AM

Positive news...the Doctors have curtailed the spread of the cancer & the existing tumours are no larger...they've managed to press the clinical 'pause button'. (The operative word here is 'pause'.) In practical terms it gives The Family an opportunity to 'regroup' emotionally & consider what plans could be realistically made for the immediate future. The 'Big Picture' remains, but at least a significant part of that picture, has, for the time being, been modified in Jane's favour.
                        With Love to You All,
                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 04:25 AM

You have gained a precious breath in time, Nigel. I'm sure Mudcat friends will be here as you all make good use of it.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 04:49 AM

Beautifully put, Maeve...exactly so.
                                                    N&A xx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 05:46 AM

great news - I hope you are able to make the most of every minute this news brings.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 08:19 AM

Good news for you all Nigel. This gives, at least, a breathing space. Good thoughts still with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 08:22 AM

Can't add anything to those post so, ditto from here.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 10:11 AM

Some light on a tough journey. Good to hear, Nigel. Thank you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 11:29 AM

Glad to hear the news, positive thoughts still being sent your way

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 04:44 PM

thanksgiving for this positive news and prayer for the future.
God bless pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: catspaw49
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 09:06 PM

Very happy here too Nigel.

I'm sure you know this but let me say it anyway. There are many of us here doing as I am.....following this thread every day and thinking of you and your family. I/We don't post all the time but sometimes I/we just don't know what to say. In whatever way we all do it, we are all behind you and I sincerely hope you can feel that.

Also I still think an extra "T" in your name would enhance things but I think you're doing pretty well without it. Now if you need one I know that both Micca and myself would be happy to share!

Big 'Cat hugs to all............


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Mar 12 - 10:51 PM

Releasing my breath and praying!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 12:23 AM

Phew! ChanteyLass, glad you did...yer face was gettin' red!**bg**

Nigel & Ann, really glad to hear the good news. Continued thanks giving for the perfect outworking for the highest good of all concerned.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 05:45 AM

I was watching Liverpool being beaten by Arsenal last weekend and heard the singing of "You'll never walk alone". Somehow my mind went to this thread and how appropriate a theme for it this would be. Any thoughts?
Still keeping the prayers going
Pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 10:43 AM

Yes Pete, I agree, but for me it has to be the 'Gerry & the Pacemakers' version! Maybe this would be a good time for Rainbow Crew members to suggest some appropriate song titles (any genre) that 'chime' with our Thread. Thank you for the continuing prayers.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 11:13 AM

My Dear Spaw, I know without a shadow of a doubt that You're all out there. And I know too that finding the 'right words' can be terribly difficult. It's not necessary to check in every day...I can visualise you all in an instant & you become this huge human 'shawl' which Jane & Ann & myself can wrap tightly around our shoulders.
       Now, about an extra 'T' in my surname...over the years, I've become very attached to my single 'T' spelling. Doubling the 'T' is something I just could not do, regardless of any perceived benefits!! I'm grateful for the offer of an additional one, but adopt it I can't. If, however, you made me a 'T', I would happily display it with my other 'treasures'!
      ChanteyLass...how is your breathing? Normal inspiration/expiration from now on please!
      These lighter moments are an absolute delight,
                                                                              With Love,
                                                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                                                             xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 11:54 AM

I check the thread everyday, Nigel. Just don't always post. I'll send a rough cut to you in a minute or so.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 12:04 PM

Sent.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 03:12 PM

"I check the thread everyday, Nigel. Just don't always post."

Me too. Same for others I expect.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 09:32 PM

I'm breathing fine now, but, Kat, my cheeks are always red. I have rosacea!

I don't see any problem with having just one t in your name. I named my son Forest with one r. I wanted to name him after something in nature and I would have named a girl that, too, if that's what I'd had.

I like the idea of trying to think of some appropriate songs. For now I'm drawing a blank. But I'm still praying!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Mar 12 - 09:53 PM

Although I am limited to posting but once a fortnight, I check in often and celebrate your time among real flesh and blood buddies as well as all your sincere virtual friends here who love you with spooky action at a distance.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Mar 12 - 04:28 AM

To all the good people who are following this thread but have never posted, let me say that you are most welcome. Of course, it would be great to hear from you, but Ann & I appreciate your discreet presence nonetheless.
      
To Bruce, rough cut received & much appreciated. It's quite uncanny how you get the Music & the time you send it, just right. My special folder is beginning to bulge a little!

To ChanteyLass, I think Forest is a beautiful name for a son or daughter. For me it has overtones of strength & dignity. I'm reminded of an actor named For(r)est Tucker from way back, but can't remember if he was 'r' or 'rr'!

And to all of You who check in every day, but don't necessarily post every day, Ann & I know you're there...it's similar to taking a walk in the country with a close friend & enjoying the countryside for what it is...what words there are become almost superfluous & unnecessary. It's the 'being there in the moment' that becomes important. Your words, thoughts & intercessions are key to the Love & Support You give us, but simply 'being with us in the moment' is important too.
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 08 Mar 12 - 06:25 AM

Nigel - I remember seeing Gerry Marsden at the Lowlands in West Derby Village (Liverpool) long before he was famous. (That dates me a bit) I also saw a group called the Huyton Quarry Men at the Cavern ( I think it was there)around the same time.( You know who they became?)
Check the words of I watch The Sunrise - there is a thread on this the words always provoke a lot of thought and we have played it on all sorts of occasions - happy and sad.

Best wishes

Pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Mar 12 - 07:55 PM

Forrest Tucker and most men with that name use a double rr.

Praying, natch (naturally)!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 12:01 AM

Forest Whitaker, a superb actor, imo, spells it with just one "r." CL, you may not know, Spaw was referring to his last name and Micca's, both of which have two "t"s.

Nigel, Ann, and Jane...I love checking in here. I can't find the quote, but I think it was the late Rick Fielding who said something about Mudcat being full of best friends you've never met. Well, now you've met us.:-)

Best of love and peace to you all,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 12:46 AM

good news accompanied by many good words (& some whacky words!)

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 03:33 AM

Kat, that quote:       "....Mudcat being full of best friends you've never met". sums up our thread perfectly. Ann & I WOULD like to meet all of you though. I'm playing around with this fantasy where I have unlimited access to vast amounts of money...I hire the largest marquee available...have it set up in the same space I visualised Jane being healed by the sun...pay for all your travelling expenses (business class or better) & accomodation...hire some of the world's best musicians (a mixture of genres) to entertain us, but with enough time for some of us to do our own thing too...hire some of the world's best chefs to feed us...we meet, have the party to end all parties & celebrate Jane's life. If YOU were making all the arrangements:

1. Where in the world would you site the marquee?
2. Which bands/groups/soloists would you book?
3. Which chefs/cooks would you hire?
4. How many of you would like to sing/play a number or two?

Don't forget, money is no object, so indulge yourself!
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 04:07 AM

Pete, we are obviously of a similar age, and that comes with a bonus attached...we've both lived through the era of some of the greatest 'popular music' (used in the broadest sense possible) ever written. As for the 'Quarry Men', yes I & hopefully most of the Western World at least, know what became of them! I found the words to 'I Watch the Sunrise' very moving & appropiate. I hope this is the hymn to which you were referring:

      I Watch the Sunrise

I watch the sunrise lighting the sky,
Casting its shadows near.
And on this morning bright though it be,
I feel those shadows near me.

But you are always close to me
Following all my ways.
May I be always close to you
Following all your ways, Lord.

I watch the sunlight shine through the clouds,
Warming the earth below.
And at the mid-day, life seems to say:
I feel your brightness near me.
For you are always . . .

I watch the sunset fading away,
Lighting the clouds with sleep.
And as the evening closes its eyes,
I feel your presence near me.
For you are always . . .

I watch the moonlight guarding the night,
Waiting till morning comes.
The air is silent, earth is at rest
Only your peace is near me.
Yes, you are always…    (Can anyone explain the final 'O' with the diaeresis please?)

                               Thanks Pete,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                                xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 07:27 AM

Lovely idea Nigel. How long would it last?
Lands End or anywhere in Florida.
Oysterband, Snow patrol, Munford and sons, Missing Andy, all the Waterson Carthy family, the Wilsons, KT Tunstall, Richard Thompson, Billy Bragg, the list would be endless
Anyone who can cook better than me, our friend Craig Smith for one

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 10:11 AM

Beautiful song! Couldn't find it on youtube with the Quarrymen, but THIS is a beautiful rendition, imo.


Where? Somewhere in the Scottish highlands or Yorkshire.:-)

The Chieftains, Mark Knopfler, Donovan, David Francy, Jean Redpath and a slew of Mudcatters

Anyone with delicious vegan recipes!:-)

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 10:32 AM

Have to include Tom Paxton but Maggie & I would be willing to contribute a couple of songs. (Maggie is "She who is always obeyed" and we will be celebrating our Ruby wedding anniversary later this year. Seems like only last year, but it was 1972.
Still praying (both of us)

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 12:22 PM

As we're exploring a fantasy, along with the unlimited budget, musicians, bands, chefs, cooks who have found their place in the Great Concert Hall/Kitchen in the sky can be re-born & resurrected for the occasion.
          Kat, that recording you've linked to is really beautiful. I said a few days ago that I wasn't a "God fearing Man", but I'm certainly not immune to the sentiments & depth of expression that this Hymn conveys. Thanks again to Pete for bringing it to our attention. That final 'O' with it's diaeresis appears to be some sort of typo, unless, of course, it's a special abbreviation. On the recording, the final word is: 'Lord'.
          GUEST 'I Don't Know' asked how long our Fantasy Party would last. I can only think at the moment that it would have to include at least one sunset & one sunrise. This could have a bearing on where in the world we pitch the marquee.
          Having asked all of you to suggest locations, musicians, chefs etc., I'm having a bit of a struggle on my own behalf...more to do with who I leave out, rather than who I include. Paul Simon, Johnny Silvo, Jean Redpath, The BBC Concert Orchestra get my musician's list underway...much more thought required.
                With Love to You All & The Best Of Weekends,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 10:42 PM

Jean Redpath would be on my list, too. She was supposed to be coming to the Blackstone River Theatre in RI in April (I think) but had to cancel due to illness. And Gordon Bok would be on my list, too. He had to cancel his Stone Soup appearance tomorrow because of illness. Anyone know any more about these two fine performers? I hope they are both soon well. I'd like Bob Franke, Si Kahn, the Johnson Girls, and Mudcat's own Debra Cowan and John Roberts on the list of performers. Oh, and Eric Bogle. Then I'd like to add some of my own favorite local performers, Joyce Katzberg, Bill Harley, Atwater-Donnelly and . . . Uh-oh, this is like the awards thank-you speeches: I know I'm leaving out someone. Since I can't carry a tune or remember lyrics, I won't be performing, but I will be singing along, albeit off-key.

As for place, I'd like it to be on an island that has a good climate, all the amenities for comfort but not luxury, and not be too crowded (before we arrive) or too remote.

I'm an omnivore but lean toward vegetarian choices, but Kat's vegan foods would be fine, too. And Kat, I didn't know about Micca's last name. In fact I don't even know what that last name is! While I've begun to figure out some of the Who's Who on Mudcat, in some cases I still don't even know who is using his/her name or, like me, a nom de plume, and in some cases I'm not even sure if posts are written by a man or woman! In my case, at least, that last should be obvious! One thing I do know, and that's that I'm praying! ; )

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 11:04 PM

Well, if it's our fantasy and it can include those who've gone on, I want Rick Fielding to be there! And John Lennon. From those among us still, Art Thieme would be a must as well as many other Mudcatters.

CL, if you are on facebook, check out the Mudcat there. Folks have been posting who they are in real life & Mudcat.

Nigel, when I looked at your text in mod form, the O still showed up funny. I took it out, but not sure where you want a final "Lord?" It is in the first chorus text, so I figured the later ellipses included it. Please let me know if that's not correct.

Good weekend to you all, too!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 09 Mar 12 - 11:51 PM

Definitely Paul Simon!

"This is the story of how we begin to remember
This is the powerful pulsing of love in the vein...."

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Mar 12 - 11:06 PM

I want to add Emmylou Harris, Holly Near, and Jez Lowe to my list. Getting back to food, I would prefer organic plant produce, free range chickens, grass-fed beef (though I rarely eat beef), wild-caught fish) dairy products with no hormones, etc. I may be an omnivore, but I try to make the best choices.

Kat, funny you should mention Mudcat on FB. I friended it and once in a while saw the Mudcat logo with a message on my Wall, but that hasn't happened for a while, and I knew nothing about the identities page. I went to it and saw no place for me to add mine. Then I went to Mudcat's Wall and had to request to join! I requested that and hope to be able to post soon. I have no idea what happened to my original connection to Mudcat on FB, though. I don't think I posted anything that would make me get unFriended!

Nigel and Ann, well, you know . . . . I hope you are having a calm and restful weekend and enjoying reading our ideas for a folk festival fantasy.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Mar 12 - 01:23 AM

Glad to hear you were "friended," CL. Second that on Holly Near, plus Ferron...oh, I'd love seeing/hearing both of them!!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Mar 12 - 05:23 AM

Yes, thank you CL...enjoying the reading & the fantasising. Today (Sunday), Ann, Jane, Alex (one of Jane's sons) & myself are going out for a traditional British Sunday Roast...can't wait!
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann
                                                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 11 Mar 12 - 07:58 AM

I would go for Emmylou Harris too,Gillian Welch and The Civil Wars.

Bon Apetit, Nigel & Ann

David

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 11 Mar 12 - 11:37 AM

Ah, man, with Yorkshire pudding and gravy? Food always gets my attention, Nigel, especially roasts. Hope y'all have a great meal.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Mar 12 - 06:10 PM

Stop! You are making me hungry!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 03:04 AM

roast beef, yum

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 03:36 AM

Very pleased to report that the Trad. Roast Lunch was excellent...and served in one of the nicest restaurants we've been to in a long time...a converted boat house, right on the banks of the Thames. Good food (reasonably priced by London standards), ambience, wonderful views of the River with plenty of boating activity to watch, & the bonus, which all Brits & visitors appreciate...the sun shone the whole day! Jane's been having a rough time after the last chemo session & Sunday was the first day she felt more like her 'old self', so the meal + good weather+ good company gave her a much needed boost.
                         With Love,
                                        Nigel & Ann
                                        xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 07:03 AM

So pleased you had an enjoyable day. May you have many more.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 08:10 AM

Its amazing what a bit of bright sunshine and good company can do. We pray that you have many more to come.
I would include Willy nelson on the guest list for the "Do"

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 08:22 AM

Good to hear, Nigel.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 09:04 AM

ditto

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 11:49 AM

I omitted to say regarding our 'Fantasy Do' (thanks Pete), that as it is a fantasy, in the marquee, Time can be manipulated to suit our needs, so we can compress or extend ad libitum, so the number of musicians playing, the socialising...eating, celebrating, has no time boundaries. Once you step outside the marquee, Time is exactly where you left it...you rejoin the 'Real World' seamlessly & effortlessly.

I want to add Alex Campbell, Noel Murphy & Jennifer Warnes to my musician's list.
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 12:07 PM

Can we add Jackie Leven, Sandy Denny, Bon Jovi and Ed Sheeren.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 12:24 PM

Great to hear you sounding good, Nigel. Will there be dancing?
If yes then Jr. Walker* is the man.
Thinking of you and yours
ATB from Charlie.
*With the All Stars of curse.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Mar 12 - 10:15 PM

Glad to read Janie had a relatively good day! I'm hoping there will be more, better days ahead.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Mar 12 - 03:08 AM

The Musical Entertainment side of our 'Do' is taking shape very nicely. FB asked if there would be any dancing...OF COURSE...just don't expect me to appear on the dance floor any time soon. In my head I'm Gene Kelly, Fred Astaire, Ginger Rogers, Rudolf Nureyev & Margot Fontaine all rolled into one...the problem is, all that wonderful 'head dancing' NEVER reaches my feet...I'm quite convinced that my feet belong to someone else...exchanged at birth, that kind of thing! Those of you who are not terpsichorially challenged, sand off the soles of your dancing pumps & start stretching!
          Now food...I would like to hire Phillip Harben & Fanny Craddock with her husband, Johnny...not so much for their cooking skills, more to do with entertainment value!
          And finally, a heads up for Thursday 15th March...I may be off line for a few hours, possibly the whole day. Broadband in our area is being upgraded to fibre optic (FTTP for those what know about these things).
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx
PS to FB: Do 'The All Stars' need exorcising?

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Mar 12 - 04:54 PM

we can always imagine a great concert.i would have loved to hear hendricks live-i imaging the strict folkies leaving!a lot less known is the gospel bluesman glen kaiser from chicago-great voice and player.
with prayers-pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Mar 12 - 10:14 PM

I want to add Sweet Honey in the Rock.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 14 Mar 12 - 08:00 AM

Saw Bob Dylan live at the Odeon Liverpool in 1964 (I think) Should include that set.
Keeping up with the prayers.
The weather seems to have gone down hill in Southern England. In hampshire its cloudy and cold. Hope its a bit better where you are.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Mar 12 - 01:51 PM

Jane's Doctors have cleared her for flying...she is in the air as I write, returning to Dubai for a short break to see all her friends. There is a poignancy in that first sentence that touches me to the very core of my being...no more to be said for now,
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: maeve
Date: 14 Mar 12 - 02:02 PM

Good for Jane! I hope she sees all the friends she needs to see. Meanwhile back at the ranch... you two get some rest as you touch base with the rest of your world.

Maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 14 Mar 12 - 04:19 PM

Good news. Thank you, Nigel.
As regards the All Stars they'll get plenty of exorcise trying to keep up with the frantic rugs being cut.
Best as always
Charlie fB

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Janie
Date: 14 Mar 12 - 10:30 PM

Gonna cut and paste something that many consider a cliche because it is so often repeated. Familiarity may breed contempt. We forget to really tune in and hear the wisdom.

One day at a time
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry - two days that should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is yesterday with its mistakes and cares, faults and blunders, aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone!

The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow. Tomorrow's sun will rise, whether in splendor or behind a mask of clouds. Until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow. It is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day - Today. It is when we add the burdens of two eternities - yesterday and tomorrow that we break down.

It is not necessarily the experience of today that disturbs one's peace of mind. It is often the bitterness for something that happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.

Let us therefore live one day at a time.

Author Unknown


Nigel, you can dance like Fred Astaire!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Mar 12 - 03:59 AM

My Dear Janie...thank you very much for the Words of Wisdom, I haven't actually seen them before...beautifully written & your timing is spot on. The Leo Sayer track brings back many happy memories from times past...I'm still not entirely convinced it would help me to dance like anyone, let alone Fred Astaire!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Mar 12 - 11:03 AM

Janie, thanks from me, too. I'd not read those. I can dance was great!

Here's to Jane having a good and safe time with her friends.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 15 Mar 12 - 02:34 PM

Still in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 12 - 02:38 PM

Ditto. Every day.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Mar 12 - 11:31 PM

I think it is wonderful that the doctors decided Jane is well enough to fly! You wrote that this is a short break. When will she come back?

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Mar 12 - 04:32 AM

Jane will be away for ten days, she then has to return to the UK for her next chemo session. Jane, her husband & their four children have made many good & loyal friends during their time spent in Dubai. The next few days are going to be an emotional roller-coaster ride, knowing, as she does, that this might be the last time she sees many of them. Ann & I are thrilled that she received clearance to make the trip...we just hope she doesn't exhaust herself, there will be A LOT of socialising, parties, etc., etc..
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 17 Mar 12 - 01:34 PM

That just may help in dealing with the emotional strain of it all. Hope so.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Mar 12 - 01:35 PM

Ten days! Wonderful for her and her friends in Dubai. Let us know what you hear from her. In the meantime, I'm still praying!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 18 Mar 12 - 06:26 AM

"May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand."

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 18 Mar 12 - 08:18 AM

Jane - have a really great break.You are all in our thoughts and prayers

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 18 Mar 12 - 10:12 AM

Bruce, that's the only prayer I don't feel daft saying aloud. Nigel and Ann please accept more good thoughts from here in Scotland.
Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Mar 12 - 11:46 AM

Our Dear Friends, what would we do without you & your Love, Thoughtfulness & Compassion. Your Wise words, Your Prayers...your Friendly & concerned chatter.
       We spoke to Jane on the phone today ( Mothering Sunday in the UK). She is enjoying every moment of her holiday, but finding it quite tiring...resting, sitting still or even sleeping during the day was anathema to Jane...now she is having to learn how to re-prioritise on what she expends her energy. Gnu, you might just be right.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Mar 12 - 12:43 PM

I'm glad to read that she is learning early in her trip that she needs to take it easy.
Praying!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Mar 12 - 08:37 AM

'Taking it easy' is something of a new experience for Jane!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Mar 12 - 02:26 PM

The piece of music I'm presently composing, working title: 'The Rainbow Crew' is approaching the 100 bar mark. That's about 4 minutes at the current tempo. Judging by the way it's developing, I think I'm approaching the mid-point. Another week or so should see the essential composing finished. After that it's all down to detailed editing, mixing & a final 'polish'. Other working titles have included 'The Ship/Voyage of Hope'. If you have any suggestions for a title, do let me know.
                                                            With Love,
                                                                           Nigel & Ann
                                                                           xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Mar 12 - 03:40 PM

Ooo! You are making progress!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 19 Mar 12 - 05:14 PM

Bless ya, Nigel. Make it perfect as you can. Music says things words don't.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Mar 12 - 06:14 AM

Yes, CL, the piece is coming together nicely. I've learned over the years that when you listen to what you're working on the next day (and the days after that) & it still sounds ok, then it probably is ok...so far, I'm in that happy position. My challenge now is to introduce some new material (whilst not losing sight of what already exists) to move the whole thing forward & then 'weave' all the themes together as the ending approaches.
       Bruce...rest assured, this piece will be as good as I can make it. 'Perfect'...I doubt it, but 'striving for perfection' can be a great motivator! 'Music says things words don't'. I love the written word, but as you so rightly say, there are times when Words have to step aside & allow Music to 'say' what needs to be said.
       A little update on Jane in Dubai. She's getting round to see all her friends, but in the company of one of her closest friends who travelled from the UK with her, in the role of a benevolent 'chaperone'. Jane is getting the rest & nourishment she needs, whilst still fulfilling her social calendar. She returns to London at the end of this week. Leaving her friends & Dubai behind is going to be particularly tough.
                                                                      With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Mar 12 - 09:26 PM

I am glad she has a close friend with her and that she is getting rest and nourishment. You must be looking forward to seeing her.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Mar 12 - 05:46 AM

Yes, CL we are. Sunday lunch is booked, although we don't know where...hope it's the same place we went to last time. The location right beside the river was terrific & the food wasn't bad either! It's a beautiful Spring day in London right now...if we get the same weather next Sunday, a short walk beside the river is definitely on the cards.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 21 Mar 12 - 04:25 PM

Things sound "on the level" for now. Sounds good.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Mar 12 - 07:30 PM

Smiles and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Hawker
Date: 21 Mar 12 - 08:04 PM

Holding you all in my thoughts x

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 21 Mar 12 - 09:40 PM

Is there any chance we could have a room at the Festival for Buddy Rich and Max Roach? OK, not a tiny room, but one for a small symphony orchestra?

I guess we all of us walk to different drummers. I'm walking along with you.

Last night I had the strangest dream,
Of tangelos and tangerines,
And Ringo's Yellow Submarine
And Nigel, Ann and Jane;

No matter how the rivers flow,
How swift, how silent, almost slow,
We those of us who let you know
Do so and don't explain.

Be good, buddy.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Mar 12 - 06:04 AM

Bruce, always room for Buddy Rich & Max Roach. And as for a small symphony orchestra...no problem at all. Your poem (or could it be a lyric?) has touched Ann & I very deeply...it's exquisite & so totally personal. Ann & I have good days & bad...good moments & bad...it's the waiting & not really knowing that insidiously wears away at one, bit by little bit. Ann is crafting, I'm composing, the daily chores ARE now getting done...but our 'Big Reality' is never far away. We can keep it at bay for just so long & then, like some great emotional tsunami, it invades our every conscious thought. We're coping, but it doesn't get any easier. Without our Dear Mudcat Friends, we really would be cut adrift.
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Mar 12 - 06:10 AM

still lurking & wishing you all well

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Mar 12 - 08:42 AM

Sandra, you're more than welcome to lurk as much as you like...but today You posted, for which we are most grateful,
                                          With Love,
                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                         xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: fat B****rd
Date: 22 Mar 12 - 04:32 PM

If Bruce can have Buddy Rich and Max Roach can I bring the Balfa Brothers? Allons danser!!
More good thoughts to you all from Happy Feet Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Mar 12 - 05:50 PM

prayer and best wishes for a good flight home and feeling refreshed and renewed for the next round of treatment .God bless pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 12 - 09:54 PM

'Bout that tsunami---Hugs!

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 23 Mar 12 - 05:07 AM

Hope your family manage to have a good weekend and your daughter is not to tired after her trip, the weather is going to stay nice so enjoy it as much as you can.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: banjoman
Date: 23 Mar 12 - 07:34 AM

Enjoy the fine weather. Keep up with the prayers and healing thoughts
Pete

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Mar 12 - 07:08 PM

Thinking 'bout you lots today.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: David C. Carter
Date: 23 Mar 12 - 07:15 PM

Yeah,Me too.
I don't say too much,but my thoughts are still with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: gnu
Date: 23 Mar 12 - 08:09 PM

Every day. Peace and strength.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Mar 12 - 09:12 PM

Hilary came home today, right? I hope she does not seem much worse for the wear. That must be a rough distance to travel even under the best of circumstances. More hugs and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Mar 12 - 12:55 PM

I would like to add 'La Boutine Souriante' to our roster of musicians. Their Music is so redolent with sun & joy, it fits perfectly with this beautiful afternoon in London.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Mar 12 - 10:05 PM

Sorry about my slip-up with your daughter's name! And it wasn't even late when I wrote that!

Ice cream. The festival needs ice cream. Lots of flavors.

Subject: RE: BS: Healing thoughts & prayers please
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Mar 12 - 05:15 AM

Absolutely agree CL...Praline...Chocolate Chip...good old Vanilla. There is a wonderful Italian Ice Cream Parlour near us where they make all their own products on the premises...has to be the best in the World!
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 04:50 AM

Joe has thoughtfully added my name to the end of thread title to aid similar thread differentiation...thanks Joe.

Ann & I spent many happy hours with Jane & her friend Gill yesterday. Jane has returned from Dubai, invigorated & refreshed...she was a joy to behold...&, once again, the sun shone all day!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,I Don,t Know
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 07:00 AM

So pleased you had a lovely day yesturday, praying you have more.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 07:28 AM

That is wonderful news, Nigel. You're all in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: MGM·Lion
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 09:33 AM

Belated best wishes, Nigel and Ann and Jane.

Sorry have only just cottoned to this thread, now name has appeared. I don't normally read such, as I don't do prayers!

~Michael~

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 07:39 PM

"invigorated & refreshed"

I thought and hoped so. Enjoy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Mar 12 - 08:38 PM

More prayers, and hugs to all of you. I am happy to read that she is invigorated and refreshed rather than worn out from her travels.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 03:04 AM

Michael, your belated best wishes are just as valued & welcomed as any of the other intercessions in this thread. It's good to hear from you,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann
                                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 09:24 AM

Kind friends all gathered 'round, there's something I would say:
That what brings us together here has blessed us all today.
Love has made a circle that holds us all inside;
Where strangers are as family, loneliness can't hide.

You must give yourself to love if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

I've walked these mountains in the rain and learned to love the wind;
I've been up before the sunrise to watch the day begin.
I always knew I'd find you, though I never did know how;
Like sunshine on a cloudy day, you stand before me now.

So give yourself to love if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

Love is born in fire; it's planted like a seed.
Love can't give you everything, but it gives you what you need.
And love comes when you're ready, love comes when you're afraid;
It'll be your greatest teacher, the best friend you have made.

So give yourself to if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

Give yourself to love, if love is what you're after;
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.

by Kate Wolf, sung here by Holly Hanson

best wishes

freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 10:27 AM

freda, that is the perfect song for this thread. I've always loved it. Thanks for posting it.

Nigel and Ann, so glad to hear she is doing so well after such a busy journey. Good days are so precious.

Much love and thanks givings to you all,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 12:58 PM

Dear Freda, thank you very much indeed for posting a song that fits this thread so perfectly. Simply but beautifully sung by Holly Hanson too. I wrote recently that Jane had returned from Dubai, refreshed & invigorated...this is turning out to be something of an understatement. Ann & I saw her Sunday last & again today...her conversation is animated, very little now seems to be 'off limits'. There is an abundance of humour & a genuine desire to communicate openly & frankly. The transformation in her demeanour is nothing short of amazing. Jane's oncologist told her today that what was to be a six session chemo treatment plan had been shortened to four, so yesterday's session has turned out to be her last. She will be monitored closely on a 'maintenance programme' from now on. What I wrote earlier too, about learning to live with her cancer is becoming a reality...Ann & I can scarcely believe our eyes & ears.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann
                      xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 03:21 PM

Sounds encouraging AND uplifting!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 04:25 PM

ditto-the Lord bless you all.pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 04:37 PM

Nigel, I'll send you a good joke in an hour or so. Has to do with a Canadian sailor, two Manx cats and a butter churn.

It's good to see your spirits having a somewhat easier time of it. Please say hello to both your gals for me.

Needless to say, but I'll say it anyway, y'all are in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 09:36 PM

Lovely and beyond, Nigel.

I rarely post,but check in daily and continue to envision all of you surrounded by love and light.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Mar 12 - 11:12 PM

Oh, that is wonderful news!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 28 Mar 12 - 07:07 AM

yes, joyful news!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 28 Mar 12 - 08:35 AM

What great news!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Mar 12 - 09:00 AM

amazing news, keep up the good work, Jane

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 29 Mar 12 - 06:39 AM

Great news but dont stop the prayers and healing thoughts. Enjoy the moment

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Mar 12 - 09:57 AM

Thank you for that cascade of good wishes. Ann & I are also learning to live with Jane's cancer. That whole process just got a little easier.
          I recently received a PM that has touched me very deeply. It reminded me that all you Good People have your own problems & anxieties to cope with & yet you still find time for Jane & Ann & me. I'm left feeling humbled & profoundly grateful & a little guilty too. The words to express what I'm feeling right now escape me for the moment. You truly are the greatest set of friends a man or woman could wish for. There is nothing 'virtual' about this...for Ann & I, it's as real as it gets.
          The piece of Music that celebrates our Friendship is taking longer to finish than I had imagined...it's leading me to Musical Places I had not planned for, although there's nothing fundamentally wrong with that, providing I keep a gentle hand on the tiller.
          With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Mar 12 - 02:52 PM

Yo, 9! Send me that joke too eh? If I have heard it, no matter on accounta I don't remember it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 29 Mar 12 - 03:47 PM

I do not post often but do check in and think of you often, and remember your family in my prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Mar 12 - 09:12 PM

While I look forward to hearing you musical piece, take all the time you need. You have a lot going on! And of course my prayers continue along with those of so many others.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 30 Mar 12 - 11:49 AM

Still here - following the thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Mar 12 - 01:04 PM

Bruce, my apologies, I meant to respond far quicker than this. Your earlier post had me laughing out loud...something that has been in rather short supply of late. Thank you for the laughter, it was a real tonic...should be available 'over the counter', free of charge!
            Ann & I wish You & your Beloved Wife the best of weekends,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxx

PS: Don't forget, if you want to wake up with a smile on your face, go to bed with a coat-hanger in your mouth!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Mar 12 - 10:59 PM

Ouch! (to your PS)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 30 Mar 12 - 11:05 PM

I had a naph wiff that. Sphilly idea that coathanger.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Mar 12 - 04:52 AM

gnu, don't forget to remove the coat-hanger BEFORE you eat breakfast!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 31 Mar 12 - 08:08 PM

Ya gotta spell things out for Gnu.

In my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 01 Apr 12 - 02:27 PM

Sometimes, I gotta be spelled off too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 01 Apr 12 - 03:31 PM

We're away for a couple of weeks after to-morrow, but, I'll try and log in for updates.
Wishing you all good thoughts as always.
Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Apr 12 - 09:31 PM

Adding my good thoughts, too. I will be around and expect to continue to check in daily. Even if I don't always write something, my prayers will continue.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Apr 12 - 05:46 AM

Ann has been staying with Jane these past two weeks. By all accounts, they have enjoyed every moment spent together. Jane is allowed to drive, so apart from shopping, they have also been able to explore some of the lovely Surrey countryside. We all met for lunch yesterday (Sunday). We chatted non-stop & there was plenty of laughter. It's good to see & hear Jane laughing...laughter & Jane are synonymous. When she received her initial diagnosis in January, there was precious little to laugh at. Things are not so desperate at the moment, our Ship has entered calmer waters, but stay close...check in when you can...post the occasional "Hi, I'm still here" type of thing...it all contributes to the overall support you have provided so generously & selflessly,
                                  With Love to You All,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann
                                                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 02 Apr 12 - 01:28 PM

"Hi, I'm still here" type of thing... every day.

Nice to hear of laughter.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 Apr 12 - 03:28 PM

Laughter and calm water --- GOOD!

Still here. Perhaps others would like to join me in Lighting A Candle. I made a "Mudca" group on the Gratefullness site (it wouldn't allow enough letters for the "t")which anyone may light a candle at and also leave a message. Just click on one of the unlit candles.

With you all in mind, Nigel, Ann, and Jane,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 02 Apr 12 - 05:49 PM

Hi, Nigel. I spent the day with my mother...because she's here now and the farm chores will always be waiting for me. Thanks for the glowing report regarding Jane spending time with Ann.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 06:38 AM

Hi -still about and just checking in.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 06:39 AM

We set sail on January 12th...it's now 3rd april & we've crested 400 posts. Truly amazing. Truly amazing too, that Ann & I have been allowed to garner so many loyal & compassionate Friends. I'm feeling somewhat over-emotional as I type...had one of my own doctor's appointments this morning (muscle stuff that is annoying/irritating, but NOT life-threatening). Jane's situation came into the conversation & I broke down in the consulting room. My Doctor allowed me to sit there & take all the time I needed to settle myself. She sat there, calm & steady, not saying much, but what she did say was absolutely appropriate...kind, gentle words that calmed me. We over ran the allotted time considerably, but at no time did I get the feeling that my Doctor wanted me out. I could leave when I felt ok to do so. It's been quite a morning!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 03:54 PM

Hi, Nigel. I will be gone for a week, but I will be thinking of you all. Just so's ya know.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 09:32 PM

Nigel, I love how all of you are focused as much as practical on celebrating the Now. Now is the most powerful place to live our lives, always.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 10:44 PM

I'm still here and still praying and pleased to read your posts since Jane returned. I am reading your posts every day but my life is going to be more hectic than usual for several weeks as it does at least twice a year with some good stuff, so I have less time to write. But I always have time to pray. Even if at some point I don't get to Mudcat, your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers. (How hectic is my life? Well, yesterday I got my hair cut so I will spend less time in the shower!)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Apr 12 - 11:26 AM

Bruce, have a good time & travel safely, my Dear Friend.

Janie, I agree, 'Now' is where everything happens. I would want to add to that: "Reflect on the past, it's a treasure trove of experience. Be prepared for a future, on the assumption that there will be one, even if it's only tomorrow"

ChanteyLass, pace yourself...get done what needs to be done & make sure there's always some time remaining, just for yourself (in or out of the shower!)
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Apr 12 - 02:23 PM

freeresh

On accounta we are still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Apr 12 - 10:11 PM

What gnu said.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 12 - 04:08 AM

Wishing You all a very Happy Easter. Let's drop anchor here in Respite Cove. If the weather holds, maybe some of you could go ashore & see the sights. We set sail this coming Tuesday at first light. Ann & I will stay aboard & take turns with the watch.
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Apr 12 - 03:18 PM

wishing you settled seas   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 07 Apr 12 - 12:02 AM

Ah...the calm and peace is nice. Still keeping watch.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Apr 12 - 03:31 PM

Right back atchya, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Apr 12 - 04:49 AM

It's raining, but the sea is calm & I do believe the glass is rising. Don't forget, we set sail at first light, Tuesday morning. Until then, go easy on the grog!
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann
                               xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Apr 12 - 09:38 PM

I'm ready to board.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 10:49 AM

Welcome back on board, ChanteyLass.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 01:20 PM

Spinning or fly rod... both?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 01:30 PM

I'm no expert at fishing gnu, so bring both. Fresh fish on the table for supper...sounds wonderful, providing you can remove ALL the bones!
       Hope you've all got your sou'westers handy...I think there could be some squalls before too long.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann
                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 03:10 PM

How's Jane doing, Nigel?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 10:22 PM

May you dwell in your hearts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Apr 12 - 04:48 AM

Welcome back Bruce...I trust You & your Good Lady are fit 'n' fine. Jane is doing remarkably well, all things considered. She is allowed to drive, so she can get out & about a bit. Over the Easter weekend, we were all able to take a short walk in the countryside...weather was good & the views were great. Ann & I are off into Central London today to see one of Jane's friends who is taking a break from Dubai. A nice lunch together in Covent Garden.
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Apr 12 - 06:57 PM

glad to hear she is doing so well.God bless you all.which bit of countryside did you go to?. pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Apr 12 - 11:05 PM

me too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Apr 12 - 08:10 PM

And I hope your lunch in Covent Garden was delicious.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Apr 12 - 04:56 AM

Pete, Surrey is the countryside through which we drove...plenty to see & do.

Hello Sandra...Jane really has 'grasped the nettle'. Her PMA has touched us all in a positive way...brave girl.

ChanteyLass, aspects of the meal were delicious, but overall, I was somewhat underwhelmed! The restaurant is owned by a VERY well known celebrity chef. A case of 'Talking the talk', but not quite 'Walking the walk!' However, nine of us crammed round a table intended for eight made up for any food shortcomings!
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 06:12 AM

Learning to live with (Jane's) cancer is similar in some respects to learning how to 'let go' as your Children work their way through school, go to college/uni & eventually 'fly the nest' to marry, seek work or just experience independence...stand on their own two feet.
         With the spread of Jane's cancer curtailed for the present, Ann & I have decided to 'take a step backwards' thereby giving Jane & her Family the independence to live their lives as they choose...we've been so closely involved (at times, probably too close) since January. Now is as good a time as any to 'take a back seat', whilst always waiting in the wings, so that we can respond quickly if anything 'unexpected' happens. We have discussed this with Jane & she feels too that it is the right course of action for all concerned. 'Lessons in Life'...you just never stop learning.
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 06:59 AM

Good to hear of your decision and wish you and Jane every happiness. I will keep watching this thread but will not contribute so often as I think you probably need some time for yourselves. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 10:21 AM

You all will continue in my thoughts.

Got a tree full of grackles, sparrows, starlings, a pigeon, three mourning doves (which have got to be the most laid-back birds I ever saw), chickadees, downy and hairy woodpeckers, nuthatch but no partridge, 'cause it ain't a pear tree. Both Canadian and snow geese are back, and the blue jay. The cardinals have disappeared--about six weeks back, sun's shining, river's flowing and the wind ain't doing much to speak of.

Later.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 12:30 PM

Bruce, your post would make a beautiful painting...or a song...or a poem...or a carefully executed piece of needlepoint. A sylvan scene to wonder at.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 12:56 PM

About that dinner: I once declined the opportunity to dine, at extra cost, at a celebrity chef's restaurant on a cruise ship. Many people in my tour group saw it as a once-in-a lifetime opportunity. I said I was very much enjoying the included meals in the regular dining room and didn't think the extra cost could possibly be justified. Or, as I put it, "Just how much better can the celebrity chef make a steak, lobster, or any other food taste?"

Nigel and Ann, I think you are wise to step back even though that must be hard to do. Jane must know that you love her and will be there whenever she needs you. And I'm sure the Mudcat community will be here for you whenever you need us. Continuing prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 01:02 PM

Wise move, Nigel.

Continued Ts&Ps.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Apr 12 - 11:28 AM

Its "tax day" here in the Colonies and I am thinking that your family have ALL been heavily taxed lately so getting a rebate right now is a good thing and I'm so glad to hear it! We'll all be here and still sending our best but for now just give us an occasional update and enjoy some of the living you've been missing.

Much Love,

Pat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Apr 12 - 12:59 PM

What PatSpaw said.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Apr 12 - 01:17 PM

I agree. Not that Spaw gives a rat's ass, of course.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 06:15 AM

Jane has the results of some more scans this week. If everything is ok & her Oncologist is happy, she will go to Dubai for about a month, after which, she will return to the UK for further monitoring. As & when I have news, I'll post immediately, but with these calmer waters, the sails set & the barometer rising, we have an opportunity to sit back & enjoy the view & savour the air,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann
                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 06:19 AM

Happy sails to you...

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 10:35 AM

Deep sighs, here. A time to rest up, gather more energy, and enjoy the Spring? May all good things come to pass.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 02:40 PM

Still sending best thoughts from Dunfermline.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 03:30 PM

Just getting ready to shut down for the evening (to0 tired to do much surfing, reading of mudcat, facebooking) and thought I'd peek in here to see how things are.

What a lovely way to end my internetting after a long fractious week. Very happy for all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 04:36 PM

Great news!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 09:38 PM

Thank you for keeping us updated. I hope Jane gets to make her trip.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 01:30 PM

As ever, thank you All for your thoughtfulness & compassion. The results of Jane's tests were the best we could have had, under the circumstances. The tumours are still no larger & the cancer has not spread any further than the previous scans revealed. She is on a plane to Dubai as I type this, returning to the UK mid-May to continue with her Maintenance Programme. The Royal Marsden Hospital really are taking such good care of her. Jane & all of us have to live with the thought that the cancer could 'flare up' at any time, but, for the moment at least, we are all doing our level best to live our lives as normally as possible. Ann has a landmark birthday coming up soon which we will be celebrating in Dubai with all the Family...I know they're planning something special, but even I'm not privy to the details!
                                    Much Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 01:39 PM

Extend to Ann a happy birthday from the gang, Nigel. We're still thinking of Jane and of course you and Ann. Best wishes, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 09:47 PM

Smiling!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 11:14 PM

I don't know where I heard this, Nigel, but I'll share it.

"The present is completely open, and we are living it, right now."

Ya'll are living the present well, mindful that the present is actually all we are ever guaranteed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 11:17 PM

Significant Birthdays are good! An excuse (not that one is needed) to celebrate.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 25 Apr 12 - 08:09 AM

I'm glad the latest tests have a good result Nigel and Ann. I've just been at a beautiful little folk festival in St Albans, a small historic town north of Sydney in a valley surrounded by low, tree covered mountains and the beautiful Macdonald river. What a peaceful weekend, with lots of folk music and a night sky full of so many stars, stars that I don't see living in the city.

I hope Ann enjoys her birthday!

best wishes to all

freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 25 Apr 12 - 09:49 AM

So glad to hear that the latest tests are positive.

Many happy returns of the day to Anne.

Good thoughts still coming.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Apr 12 - 05:04 PM

likewise best wishes.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Apr 12 - 11:40 AM

Ann says a big thank you for your birthday wishes & likewise from me too.
Freda, the Macdonald River photo is absolutely beautiful. The tranquility positively oozes out of the shot. I know exactly what you mean about seeing stars...REALLY seeing stars for the first time. Our location couldn't have been more different. Ann & I were in the desert, well away from the centre of Dubai...we'd never seen so many stars (no light pollution)...we lay back in our folding chairs & gazed up in wonderment for ages...stunning experience.
       Janie, simple words that belie a deeper meaning...very grateful...you captured our mood precisely.
       We will be away soon for a few days. If one or two of you could stop by & check that the old ship remains steady on her course, that would be much appreciated.
       In the meantime, Much Love to You All
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 26 Apr 12 - 11:43 AM

Consider it done, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Apr 12 - 02:00 PM

Not to worry Nigel.........if not 999, there are so many that check here every day or two it will stay up without a problem.....unlike 999 who can't.....LOL...............Sorry B, but that line just was just laying there....had to be said..........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 26 Apr 12 - 02:24 PM

I understand, Grasshopper . . .

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Apr 12 - 06:06 PM

I'm sure we will continue to check in to refresh the thread. Have a wonderful trip.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Apr 12 - 06:26 PM

Every day. Every day. Rest and relax on your time away.

Song in here, 9?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Apr 12 - 07:42 AM

As always, we're in safe hands,
                                              Much Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 27 Apr 12 - 04:08 PM

AS ever, best thoughts and regards from Dunfermline
Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Bobert
Date: 27 Apr 12 - 04:11 PM

And best thoughts from this ol' hillbilly, as well...

Travel safe...

B~

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 28 Apr 12 - 04:11 PM

And here I am....the little blue pill for 999! Its pretty amazing where I'll stretch for a joke. Sorry......Thinking of all of you!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Apr 12 - 05:20 PM

I'm here, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Apr 12 - 04:20 AM

and me

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Apr 12 - 04:27 PM

maybe you will finish that peice of music.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 29 Apr 12 - 07:38 PM

Hi, Pete. I spoke with Nigel a few days back about that piece of music. It's taken on a character and dimension of its own. We could be waiting just a wee bit longer, but the wait will have been worth it.

Trust you are well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Apr 12 - 11:05 AM

I'm pleased & not a little relieved to say that the piece of Music I've been writing, now finally entitled: The Voyage of 'The Rainbow', is finished. By that, I mean the overall composition is complete...I still have a considerable amount of editing & general 'tidying up' to do before I'm happy to reveal it to the World! It is dedicated to everyone who has contributed to this thread, in recognition of your Love, Care & Support. I'll post as soon as I'm ready to go public,
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Apr 12 - 08:46 PM

Smiles!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 01 May 12 - 03:13 PM

Cool, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 May 12 - 04:39 PM

well done nigel.i trust it has been theropuetic forming a song.

thanks 999.i am physically well but sadly have been expecting to lose my mum anytime so if at anytime i drop out for awhile it is not lack of interest.
God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 01 May 12 - 04:41 PM

Lovely news, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 02 May 12 - 08:20 AM

thinking of you all, and Pete, may those stars shine on you and your mum.

freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 May 12 - 11:51 AM

what freda said

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 02 May 12 - 01:34 PM

Ditto from me

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 02 May 12 - 06:18 PM

"i am physically well but sadly have been expecting to lose my mum anytime so if at anytime i drop out for awhile it is not lack of interest.
God bless   pete."

I am not big on prayer, Pete, but I'll add your mum to the names Nigel, Ann and Jane. I am sorry for your sadness. I have admired your character and fortitude in the face of scathing remarks made to you in some threads, and now to see that you are facing a similar family situation with verve and courage, your support for Jane and her parents lends new meaning to the term Christian.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 03 May 12 - 02:47 PM

Ditto and ditto for you, pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 May 12 - 03:46 PM

thanks so much for your kind thoughts and encouraging words.i am very touched .my mum is elderly so i guess it is not the same as the threat to a young life and i appreciate how much that must weigh on parents.
blessings on yer   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 May 12 - 11:01 PM

Aw, Pete, hugs to you and your mum.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 May 12 - 08:54 PM

sending hugs & good wishes to pete & family

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 04 May 12 - 10:04 PM

Nigel,

I don't know when you'll read this but I hope you don't mind that Pete is included in the voyage. Let me rephrase that: I know you won't mind, but I hope you'll excuse me for including Pete before speaking with you.

Three weeks ago my grandmother started bicycling eight miles a day. As of now, we have no idea where she is.

The roughest roads/sea lanes make for the best and most touching stories. Looking forward to hearing from you, and hearing that your little sweetheart--don't matter how old they get, they're our kids--is doing well.

I still think of you all every night. And say prayers, although unlike some people, I ain't quite sure who I'm saying the prayers to. Don't matter, because I know who I'm saying them for.

B

PS Pete is a really good guy, and he could use some words of kindness, as could we all. Keep well, Nigel, and the thread will continue until your return.

The cabin boy, the cabin boy
The d-----------------------

Sometimes I get carried away. Reminds me of a night I attended a St Patrick's Day event. I'll tell you sometime. But not here. :-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 12 May 12 - 04:57 PM

Nigel, I think you and Ann will be back tomorrow. Here's hoping the trip went well for all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 May 12 - 02:00 AM

As am I.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 13 May 12 - 06:44 AM

Not been around for a while - glad that the ship is still on course. Its amazing just what can be acheived with prayer and healing thoughts so - to the other Pete - we have added you and your family to our prayer list.
Best wishes
banjoman(Pete)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 May 12 - 05:46 PM

Ann & I are back home, safe & sound (no pun intended!)...jet-lagged & very tired, but very happy following our holiday with Jane & her Family. Give us a day or two to reset our body-clocks & I'll write again,
                                  Sweet Dreams,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 13 May 12 - 06:55 PM

Just returned home and you took time to check in? Thank you, Nigel and Ann! "very tired, but very happy" is very good music to our ears!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 May 12 - 06:59 PM

Indeed!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 May 12 - 07:56 PM

I'll third that!!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 May 12 - 10:22 PM

Yes, yes, yes!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 May 12 - 04:46 AM

Ann & I are saddened by the news of Pete's ailing Mother. We send him our warmest thoughts & want him to know that we share his voyage. On 'The Rainbow' we travel together, caring & looking out for each other. Initially, this thread was just about our daughter, Jane, but over the past few months, it's taken on a broader 'feel'. 'The Rainbow' is about all of us, our trials & tribulations...successes & failures...love & laughter...tears of sadness...tears of joy. No one needs permission to come aboard.
          Our holiday with Jane took us to the beach, the shops & malls, some excellent restaurants & seemingly endless cups of coffee, drunk in the company of a seemingly endless group of friends! She remains positive & determined to live each day with as much energy as she can muster. Jane returned to the UK yesterday with Ann & myself to continue her treatment programme.
          'The Voyage of The Rainbow' is not quite ready for general publication, but if any of you would like to hear a 'rough mix', PM me your email address & I'll attach an mp3. Your privacy will be respected & your email address will NOT be shared with another living soul, you have my Word! On the other hand, if you're prepared to wait a week or two, I will make a link available to my Music Channel on YouTube. It's good to be home,
                                           Much Love to You All,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 May 12 - 12:31 PM

very gracious of you,nigel and ann.mum still surviving,frail but still eating.just celebrated 61st wedding anniversary-telegram from the queen pleased her.we never thought she would live to see it.
glad to hear or your enjoyable trip and jane doing well.
i'm not up on the tec stuff so ill wait to hear the rainbow voyage!
love and prayers   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 May 12 - 04:56 PM

I hope Jane's treatments go well. I am also not good with technical stuff so I will wait to hear your song.

Pete, I'm glad to read that your mum is still eating and that she received her telegram from the queen. It sounds like it brought a smile to her face.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 May 12 - 08:40 PM

Nothing to say, Nigel, just letting you know this little bit of the peanut gallery is still present and holding all of you in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 May 12 - 06:51 PM

Listened to the tune. NICE! Thanks, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 May 12 - 04:54 AM

Very pleased to report that Jane's treatment continues to hold back any further spread of the cancer. She's feeling well enough to do some voluntary work at a local school at which she used to teach. To quote her own words: "It makes me feel more normal".
       Yesterday (Wednesday), Jane, Alex (one of her sons), Ann & myself spent the day together celebrating Ann's Birthday. A really delicious lunch, followed by a matinŽe performance of 'The Duchess of Malfi' (weird, but strangely compelling!), finishing off with Traditional Afternoon Tea at The Savoy...our calorie intake went off the scale! It was wonderful to see Jane in our Family Quartette, enjoying Ann's Birthday...normal people doing the normal things one does to celebrate a special Birthday.
       Thanks to gnu for listening.
       Special thoughts & Love to Pete & his Mother.
       Janie, your expression: "peanut gallery" put a smile on my face that never entirely went away!
       Our course is set. The weather is fair. Our voyage continues.
       Much Love to you all,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 May 12 - 07:26 AM

normal is good -

keep up the good work

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 17 May 12 - 10:01 AM

Getting my rosary out and will make a visit to church. We gotta get you healed up my brother

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 May 12 - 07:52 PM

Mmm. Traditional afternoon tea at the Savoy. Yum!

Glad to read that things are going as well as they are. I hope that continues to be true.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 May 12 - 12:35 PM

Jane had her first volunteer session today & thoroughly enjoyed it. An altogether positive experience, working with children again in a happy, productive atmosphere & making contact with teachers with whom she used to work. We have no idea for how long Jane will be able to sustain this effort, but to echo ChanteyLass' words: "Glad to read that things are going as well as they are. I hope that continues to be true". Things are going well at present & the longer that persists, the better,
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxx

P.S. I would like to add Ilnur to our crew list. She is a former student of mine who has just been given some worrying health news.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 18 May 12 - 03:32 PM

Nigel and Ann,the very best thoughts and regards to you, Jane and all those you care for,
Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 May 12 - 03:45 PM

thanksgiving for janes stable condition and prayer offered for llnur.
how is that pronounced?
God bless pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 May 12 - 10:11 PM

What Pete just wrote!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 18 May 12 - 10:20 PM

500 posts, Nigel. That's a lot of Ts&Ps. Well desrved. I am glad to have been part of it and hope that the positive energy continues.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 May 12 - 05:39 AM

Day one for this thread was 12th January. By the end of the 12th there were 23 posts...a pretty impressive start. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined that I would be sitting here on 19th May, writing post 501 (that is, unless someone squeezes in 501 while I'm writing this!). The collective power of this online community is something I have never experienced before...more profound, more inclusive, more safe, more worthwhile than anything 'masquerading' as religion. I went to church as a child...most people did in the village in which I lived, but it wasn't long before questions were forming in my mind that needed answers. The answers didn't come & round about the age of 12, my Father was summoned to the vicarage & asked to remove me from the congregation because I was a 'trouble-maker'. At school, R.E. was taught by an ordained minister. He didn't answer my questions either, so our teacher-pupil 'relationship' deteriorated rapidly, resulting in frequent punishments. His preferred method was to bind & gag me & sit me on top of an old safe in his office. He would then proceed to rail at me about hellfire & damnation & what an evil little so & so I was.
          I started this thread because Ann & I felt so desperate & helpless following Jane's diagnosis, but as the days have turned into months, I am becoming increasingly aware that I need all you good people too...people I can trust, people I can rely on, people who, despite their own trials & tribulations will still take a moment to find out how we're doing.
         I cannot adequately express what your kind, caring words have meant to Ann & myself & to me on a very personal level. You've put back a measure of trust in my Life that has been absent for too long.
         With Much Love,
                                 Nigel & Ann (And Nigel personally)
                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 May 12 - 05:44 AM

Apologies to Pete...Ilnur is pronounced Il-ner,
                                                                      Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 19 May 12 - 09:25 AM

Beautiful post, Nigel. Y'all are still in my heart and thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 19 May 12 - 09:54 AM

Nigel Jane and Pete's mom in my prayers daily ...
I have no doubt that things will be fine .. Going at it full guns

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 19 May 12 - 10:39 AM

Religion never works ... Faith, never fails

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 May 12 - 04:55 PM

sorry to hear of your early negative experience of religion nigel.i hope it has not completely stopped you enquiring.blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 May 12 - 07:11 PM

Nice post Nigel....it really is.

I'm proud to say I was the first recipient of Mudcat power and what I believe is that there is a warmth and kindness that frees within us a kind of power that we all have hidden. Its the knowledge that we aren't alone but are in the thoughts/prayers of so many others. Now I don't know if there is any actual affect medically but the simple and yet hard to find belief in each other is the strangely tangible thing we hold close. Through that the virtual hugs become real and our spirits are lightened and transferred to all around us.

Or maybe something fell somewhere...............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 May 12 - 12:01 AM

Nigel, you were a victim of abuse by your clergyman. I am sorry that happened to you.

I haven't belonged to any organized religion for a long time. I've looked at a few faiths other than the one in which I was raised and found some good things about some of them, but I've decided that none of them worked well enough for me to want to join. That hasn't stopped me from continuing to seek, pray, and listen.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 May 12 - 08:01 AM

Just tried to post & it's disappeared! Have written to Joe, but when It's 'gone', is it 'gone'?

Nigel.

---

Hi, Nigel - Your message probably never made it to Mudcat. It might still be on your computer if you use your "back" button judiciously, but it's been twenty-five minutes and I'm guessing it's gone forever. When you post a long message, always highlight [CTRL-A] and copy [CTRL-C] it to your computer's clipboard before you submit it. Then, if the message doesn't "take," you can reload the thread by pushing F5 on your computer and then paste [CTRL-V] the text into the message box and submit. It's not a bad idea to push F5 and reload the page before typing a long post. Don't feel too bad - I just lost a long message I was trying to post on Facebook. You're in good company. -Joe, in Dublin-

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 21 May 12 - 11:04 AM

So Joe....You managed to complete your CIA mission in Egypt and are now about to try and infiltrate the IRA....Is that right? I mean like I'm just passing along the gossip to you. If this is wrong let me know. Then again if you're CIA you won't admit it will you?   Yeah........Well good luck anyway I guess..........maybe......


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 May 12 - 11:16 AM

Spaw, if I read your post, will you have to kill me or will I simply self-destruct??!!
                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 May 12 - 11:42 AM

OK, here goes second attempt.
             I've never spoken publicly before about my early experiences with religion & I realise I'm in danger of highjacking my own thread, but your posts demand a response. Spaw, ChanteyLass, Bruce, Dan, Pete...thank you, as always, your words touch me deeply.
             Pete, I've been searching since my early teens & am now content with what I've found & where I am, spiritually speaking.
             Dan's wise words: "Religion never works ... Faith, never fails". At the risk of repeating myself from an earlier post, my Faith resides in people & nature. Despite too many examples of "Man's inhumanity to Man", I have an unshakable Faith in a Goodness that resides within most of us, so.....I have Faith in my Mudcat Friends...I have Faith in the Doctors who are treating Jane...I have Faith in my beloved wife, Ann...I have Faith in my ability to create new Music. God in his/her various guises plays no part in my Faith. I am a member of the Human Congregation & it is there my Faith had it's genesis & it's essence remains.
             Much Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann (And Nigel personally)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 May 12 - 11:38 AM

Nigel, have you posted a link to the music piece?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 May 12 - 12:50 PM

Bruce, the link for 'The Voyage of The Rainbow' will be posted on 29th May...have adopted all your mixing suggestions, you have a good 'ear'...thank you very much!
                                                                            Kindest Regards,
                                                                                                    Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 May 12 - 04:43 PM

Oh, good! We'll get to hear it in a week! I'm looking forward to that!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 May 12 - 05:31 PM

thanks for outlining your spiritual position nigel.not one i would favour as a christian but which i respect never-the-less and appreciate you taking us all on board.blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 May 12 - 03:44 AM

Pete, one of the qualities I hope for in a good & trusted friend is the ability to "Agree to Disagree". I think we've both 'ticked the box' on that one (-:
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 May 12 - 04:18 AM

Latest news about Jane; she has joined a medication trial. It's a drug that is already licensed in other countries, but not yet in the UK. She has been told that she is a 'perfect candidate'. Jane has committed herself to a long-term programme...two years, but it means she is monitored very regularly & very closely (more so than if she was just 'in treatment'). It is somewhat intrusive in terms of the number of clinics she has to attend each week, but after much consideration, Jane felt it was the right course of action, as does the whole Family.
          I know it probably seems a bit weird that 'The Voyage' will be published on a specific date, but the fact is, I need help with the upload & 29th May is the first available date I can see a Trainer at my local Apple Store! Getting audio from LogicPro to YouTube is, for me, 'a challenge too far'...having an expert sitting at my elbow gives me a much needed confidence boost.
         With Love to you all,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 May 12 - 11:04 AM

great news about the medical trial.

always good to have a tame expert around. Where would I be without my Personal Help Desk who is always there when I need him - well, almost always, sometimes I do have to consult another techy friend to get an answer when I want it! And I have another couple of friends who can also help.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 May 12 - 11:23 AM

The news about Jane's coming treatment is great, Nigel. I have a good friend who attended and still attends a clinic for lupus, and although it is trying, it's been a big help to keep her keeping on. It's good to hear that the medicos are thinking in terms of years.

"Getting audio from LogicPro to YouTube is, for me, 'a challenge too far'...having an expert sitting at my elbow gives me a much needed confidence boost."

I laughed when I read that statement. There are days when I wonder at the abilities of people who can whiz around computers. I'm a bit past the stage where my cure for everything computers is the on/off switch, but not really that far removed from it. I'd offer one small bit of advice: write down everything the guy/gal does, then do it from your written page before you leave. You'll feel like Enrico Fermi must have when he used a slide rule to predict where things would go next when they created the first sustained atomic chain-reaction at the University of Chicago in December of 1942. It didn't get away from them, good thing for the squash courts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 May 12 - 07:09 PM

I hope this course of action works out well, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 May 12 - 09:33 PM

I, too, hope the medication trial works well for her.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 May 12 - 04:12 AM

Thank you, Sandra, gnu & ChanteyLass. The medication trial is another act of Faith, writ large! Guest (23rd May, 11.23am) I was intrigued by your reference to Enrico Fermi & squash courts. Needless to say, Google came to my rescue. Amusing to ponder him conducting some of his experiments in squash courts & ironic in the extreme to consider that a Nobel Peace Prize winner became intimately involved with the Manhattan Project. I doubt I shall feel as elated as Mr.Fermi when he made his 'squash court discoveries' when I upload on 29th, rather, a quiet sense of satisfaction of what I hope will be perceived as a job reasonably well done.
       Nice & warm here in London, averaging out around 25℃...time to sort out the weeds & get the front door painted.
                                        Much Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                         xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 May 12 - 05:10 AM

Today is going to be a mixture of happiness & sadness. This afternoon (Friday) we will be attending the funeral of a teacher (Helen) with whom we used to work, but at her funeral will be loads of former students & teachers (If the posts on FaceBook are anything to go by), many of whom we have not seen for years. We have been asked by Helen's Family to dress colourfully to celebrate her Life...she was a larger than life, dynamic, inspirational Drama teacher. It's a gloriously sunny day which fits perfectly with Helen's personality.
             Hope the sun is shining on you too today,
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 May 12 - 03:18 PM

In fact, it's a little foggy here in Rhode Island. I had my car's fag lights on as I crossed the Newport Bridge on the way to and from caring for my grandchildren. However, there's sunshine inside me, and it sounds like Helen and her family want to bring out the sunshine in all of you. Good luck with that!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 May 12 - 12:53 PM

Helen's funeral was beautiful. The service was in Humanistic style...tributes, readings & Music by Mozart, Helen's favourite composer. It was our first experience of this type of funeral & I have to say that it was a deeply moving, dignified 'final curtain' for a highly respected Drama Teacher. The sun shone & many of Helen's former students, some of whom have gone on to be professional actors, attended to pay their last respects. There was more laughter than tears, even though the sadness of the occasion was always in the forefront of one's mind.
         We wish you all the best of weekends,
                                                                  With Love,
                                                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 May 12 - 10:32 AM

Apologies to all...the link to YouTube for 'The Voyage of The Rainbow' has had to be postponed until 4th June. My own health issues have suddenly & unexpectedly taken precedence... glucose & BP significantly higher than my Doc likes to see...bugger!!!
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 May 12 - 11:13 AM

wishing you a speedy recovery   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 May 12 - 11:49 AM

no need to apologise for what Doctor says, just do what your doctor says

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 28 May 12 - 01:19 PM

Take care, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 May 12 - 07:08 PM

Right! Do what you need to do to care for yourself.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 28 May 12 - 09:43 PM

Y'all still in my thoughts--like every day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 May 12 - 05:46 AM

Looks like it could be Diabetes...one more confirmatory blood test to go...bugger!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 30 May 12 - 06:24 AM

Diabetes is manageable, Nigel. We'll be here in the meantime.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 30 May 12 - 04:08 PM

Diabetes ain't near the problem it used to be as maeve has pointed out. More of a pain in the butt (that you don't need, of course) these days. Keep us up to date.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 30 May 12 - 09:11 PM

Dang it, Nigel, life is one darn thing after another!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 May 12 - 04:08 AM

Thank you, my Dear Friends. Janie's comment fits for me & Ann. Yesterday, Ann was expecting to be discharged by her Oncologist...she had a Malignant Melanoma removed five years ago & has been fine ever since. But she was told (for the first time), that because the cancer had spread (also safely taken care of at the initial op.), she can never be discharged & has to be monitored every six months for the rest of her Life. Naturally, Ann felt very disappointed that this particular medical episode couldn't be finally 'put to bed'. We were also told, again, for the first time, that a recurrence was always going to be a possibility, which, ironically puts her in a similar situation to Jane. Ann was not a very happy bunny when we were driving home! It certainly is 'one darn thing after another'. Nobody warned us that retirement could be like this!
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann
                                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 31 May 12 - 05:55 AM

Nigel- My husband and I have reason to understand the "one darned thing after another" perspective. I choose to adhere to the approach that "has to be monitored every six months for the rest of her Life" means a party twice a year.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 31 May 12 - 09:17 AM

Nigel, I will e-mail you later today. I have a joke that fits this situation, but I'd rather it not be on the thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 May 12 - 11:13 AM

Looking forward to the email, Bruce.
Maeve, if you could package & market your take on optimism, both You & your Husband would make a fortune!
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 May 12 - 07:02 PM

Ain't that the truth Nigel? Given two glasses partially filled with water Maeve would see 4 full glasses! I'd just drink the damn things................

Hang in Nige....It might get worse but then again this could be the first step back up.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 31 May 12 - 09:08 PM

Well, gentlemen, all I know is that two glasses partially filled are exactly that. A burned down house is forever gone, a partially filled glass won't transform into 4 full glasses, and no amount of cheery imagining will change either one. One might find a different perspective, though- depending upon the awareness with which each sip and gulp is tasted, savored, gulped and swallowed... and whether one drains the glass or sits watching it in fear of the day it's empty.

It's no use fluttering our hands in dismay, wishing the nightmare under the bed would just go away- but shine some light under there and you will find living gold amongst the dust bunnies and fangs.

Someone here will have the words you need, Nigel. Spaw has earned much wisdom through his years of living, so his words carry experience and stubborn strength. Mine are but wild, wee things from the dark woods.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 May 12 - 09:44 PM

It does seem like your plates are filled with things you would rather be without. Sending love and prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Lilyfestre
Date: 31 May 12 - 09:49 PM

I know first hand how much it stinks to have the recurrence hanging over your head but by being monitored, she can rest easy knowing that if it should come back, they will have found it relatively quickly making it easier to take care of if necessary.

((((((Hugs & Stuff))))))))))

Michelle

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jun 12 - 05:15 AM

To all of you who've posted since my last on 31st...such wise words...such eloquent words...such loving words...I've read them over & over, like I want to make absolutely certain I can't ever forget them. Indelibly etched in my mind so that I can take them with me everywhere I go. The recent news about Ann's health has hit us both hard...feels like a huge step backwards. We're both trying to be as positive as we can...Ann feels well, Jane feels well, we're all doing & enjoying most of the things we usually do. In that respect, Life is normal & familiar. What I can't expunge entirely from my waking thoughts is a shadowy spectre, somewhere over there, in the corner, barely visible, but prescient nonetheless (I'm speaking metaphorically, I'm not having some sort of psychotic episode!!). What Michelle says is absolutely true, but at the moment, we both feel threatened & insecure.
          Note to Bruce: The joke you emailed was not only well-timed (there you go again!), very funny (and poignant too) & the line about the cat, well, we need him/her over here NOW! I'm waiting for the Pest Control Team to arrive as I write...we have some additional, underfloor members in our household who have turned up, uninvited!
          Going to do our best to enjoy the extended bank holiday that stretches out before us,
         With Love & Gratitude,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jun 12 - 05:32 AM

when I see my cancer surgeon every 6 months I regard it as an opportunity to chat with him & his friendly receptionist. I've recently passed the period when it needs 6 monthly visits cos it can come back in he early years, but I've resisted that idea of seeing him very 12 months!! Maybe next year ...

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 12 - 09:25 PM

Really. Life truly is one thing after another. Life is movement, always changing, never ideal, often rocky and rough. It helps me so much to realize and acknowledge that there is nothing terminally unique about facing adversity, even wave after wave of it.

Pain is part and parcel of life. Resisting rather than accepting that, in my experience, creates and increases suffering and misery. Regrets or resentments about the past, and fear of the future rob of us of today. There is a crass but apt saying "If you keep one foot in yesterday, and the other in tomorrow, you piss all over today.

George Bernard Shaw. "Life wasn't meant to be easy, my child, but take courage: it can be delightful!"

I think, but am not certain the following take-off is Robert Penn Warren "Life wasn't meant to be easy. It was meant to be life."

Nigel, you, Anne and Jane give all of us a gift by sharing here, and allowing us to share, thereby anchoring and reminding us to work toward perspective, delight in the moment, and helping all of us, not just yourself and your own family, to pull on the anchor chain to call us back to the present, and the opportunities for delight in the midst of all life brings.

I am grateful to you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 Jun 12 - 09:36 PM

I dunno' if I'm pissing on today but I am trying not to piss myself laughing! Fact of matter though is that you nailed it in one Janie.

I too am grateful Nigel.......and watch where you piss!!! LMAO


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jun 12 - 07:48 AM

You Good People never cease to amaze me. You make me laugh...You make me cry...You comfort & reassure me...You make me think & reflect...You remind me, over & over, that I have Friends on whom I can rely, Friends with Warmth & Love in their Hearts. Friends for whom Compassion is a given & not a burdensome duty.
       Spaw, you're absolutely right, Janie "nailed it in one", eloquently & profoundly. Many wise, beautiful & funny words have been written in this thread. It is fast becoming 'a thread for Life & Living'. The accumulating wisdom is priceless & has become a 'Life Library' which I visit every day, often more than once.
       Jane remains positive & talks openly & freely (certainly with Ann & myself) about her health. The time we spend with her has become ever more precious. We laugh...cry sometimes, often when we're least expecting to, but above all, we are living our lives. Janie's words express what I'm trying to say: "....to pull on the anchor chain to call us back to the present, and the opportunities for delight in the midst of all life brings".
       With Much Love to You All,
                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 12 - 05:39 PM

Well, I am pissed. I was usre I requested in this thread tahat 9 send me that joke but it appears I didn't. 9 (or Nigel), please do? Thanks in advance.

Keep the faith eh?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Jun 12 - 10:38 PM

Janie is one of the Wisest of the Mudcat Wise Wimmin and an incredibly beautiful writer. She did get it right on the button. We have had such sharing and opportunity for learning in this thread.

luvyallkat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Jun 12 - 08:41 AM

Janie, your beautiful prose, grown & nurtured by your experience, knowledge & insight, calms me & allows me to 'take stock' before surmounting the next hurdle.

Sandra, I don't remember you mentioning before that you too were being treated for cancer. You sound very positive when you describe the relationship between your Oncologist, Receptionist & Yourself. And as you so sensitively say: "....maybe next year".

The 'launch' of 'The Voyage of The Rainbow' has had to be postponed yet again. All being well, she will be afloat this coming Friday, 8th June. My med. tests (Diabetes confirmed), keep clashing with the Apple Store. Just had a slightly bizarre thought, will it be safe for me to visit a store called 'Apple', now that I'm diabetic....??!! Awkward attempt at humour...trying to lighten my mood...only got the diagnosis this morning (Wednesday).

It's Jane's Silver Wedding Anniversary today. We all so want twenty-five years to become twenty-six.
                Much Love to You All,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 06 Jun 12 - 03:09 PM

Type (stage) 1 or 2 diabetes?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Jun 12 - 07:15 PM

It may take a while to adjust to the diabetes diagnosis, but now that you know you can start doing what you need to do to take care of yourself Many people use the expression "control diabetes." I prefer to say that I manage it. Best wishes that you will soon find what works best for your body.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Jun 12 - 07:29 PM

congrats to jane and husband and a prayer for you and ann in the unsettling health setbacks of late.God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Jun 12 - 06:40 AM

happy silver anniversary, Jane

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 05:31 AM

You always think that you're the only one with a particular problem, until, that is, you begin to write about it on Mudcat. Since January, Ann & I have realised increasingly that we are not alone...we share similar, if not identical, 'trials & tribulations' with so many of you. I like to think of us all living on 'Mudcat Avenue'...good neighbours dropping in for a coffee & a chat, getting together for a yard sale (Our younger Daughter lives in Charlotte, NC), spending lazy days at the seaside with a watchful eye on the kids! Life was like that when I was a child...beach games...lying in the un-cut grass in the fields behind our house, gazing up at a clear blue sky (the sky was always blue when we were kids wasn't it?). Something's got lost along the way...everything seems so serious now... except on 'Mudcat Avenue'. Blue skies, unlatched doors, even some un-cut grass (to which the Resident's Association turn a blind eye), coffee on the stove. I know that I have to live in the 'Here & Now', but just occasionally, I think it does no harm to remember the time when Grandma & Grandpa were still alive. My 'Here & Now' is not very comfortable at the moment, which is why, I suppose, I want to reflect & be 'somewhere else'.
         My thanks, as always, for your Love & Compassion,
                                                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                                                       xxxxxxxxx
         PS The coffee's just about ready.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 02:09 PM

'The Voyage of the Rainbow' was uploaded to YouTube this afternoon. YouTube are doing what they have to with these things, so the link is not yet active. However, if you go to Nigel Paterson Music on YT (my Music Channel) & are a bit of a wizz with computers, you might be able to discover where she's moored!
                                                       Happy Hunting,
                                                                               Nigel.

PS I'll post the direct link as soon as it becomes active.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 02:15 PM

I'm totally daft, try this:
                                    http://www.youtube.com/user/NIGELPATERSONMUSIC

If someone could create a 'blue clicky', I'd be most grateful.
                                                                                          Nigel xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 03:23 PM

http://www.youtube.com/user/NIGELPATERSONMUSIC

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 05:31 PM

Posted a brief remark on YouTube. Basically, it said beautiful.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 05:49 PM

Basically, it would. Thanks again, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 09:28 PM

That's a lovely composition, Nigel. Thanks for making it available for us to hear.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 08 Jun 12 - 10:46 PM

Nigel, for a deep down belly gut larf, even in your current situation, just CLICK HERE. (Should take you to a posting by the Late & Great Rick Fielding.)
Much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jun 12 - 05:08 AM

Big thanks to Bruce for the gracious comments & for creating the 'clicky' (should be able to do that for myself by now!)
Big thanks also to maeve, kat & gnu for your gracious comments...touched doesn't come close.
To gnu...I won't find out until Monday whether it's Type 1 or 2.
To kat..."deep down belly gut larf....." ABSOLUTELY! Wonderful piece of comedy writing. Would work equally well on Radio or TV. Laughter is such effective medicine & it's free!
       'The Voyage of The Rainbow' was dedicated to & written for everyone who has contributed to this amazing thread, including all those good people who visit but choose not to comment. To that end, I will not be promoting it commercially. I want to retain a sense of exclusivity, which would be sullied if I prepared a score to sell. This piece is for You, it's for Jane & her Family, my beloved Ann & our Family.
                Much Love,
                Happy Listening,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jun 12 - 10:36 AM

Jane has returned to Dubai for what will almost certainly be the last time. Just time to celebrate her Wedding Anniversary, tie up some loose ends & say her goodbyes. Her condition remains stable, i.e. the cancer still has not spread any further. She seems determined to put all her energy into each day as it comes, making each day count, making each day a day on which she can look back with a measure of satisfaction & pleasure. The whole Family will be back permanently in the UK, once Jane's children have finished this term's schooling. After that, as my late Father used to say: "Press on regardless".
                         With Love,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jun 12 - 05:11 AM

Here is the individual link for 'The Voyage Of The Rainbow':

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=28WGELL3Ewk

Or if you can bear the thought of listening to some of my other pieces too:

          http://www.youtube.com/user/NIGELPATERSONMUSIC

I C&P'd the urls from YT straight into the 'clicky maker', but they didn't turn blue (my favourite colour as it happens). Expert Musician...Crap Clicky-Maker...what am I doing wrong?
It's finally stopped raining & blowing a gale & the sun's come out. As one of my college friends often used to say: "Have a Weekend!"
                                        With Love,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 10 Jun 12 - 06:10 AM

'The Voyage Of The Rainbow'

Nigel Paterson Music

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jun 12 - 10:41 AM

Maeve, you're a genius...thank you...how do you do that? Little words in short sentences please!
          Love,
                Nigel
                xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jun 12 - 07:08 PM

Nigel... just to the bottom right of the box I am typing in now is "Make a link ("blue clicky")". Try it out. Hint... I open things in a new window (like, where it says "test this link") and I copy the link before I do so. PM me, or maeve, I assume, if you need any help.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Jun 12 - 07:20 PM

Ditto here, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Jun 12 - 11:30 PM

I've let this thread slip by until now. When I felt the need to post regarding my wife, Nigel responded right away. I feel somewhat shamed. But I just read all of this thread, and it has been good for my heart just now. I really think it will help me face my own current journey, if I can also come aboard with yours.

And, Nigel, the composition is profoundly beautiful.

                   Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Jun 12 - 01:50 AM

Dear Dean....WELCOME ABOARD! But first things first....no shame, ok? You haven't been neglecting this thread, you've been caring for your Wife, so please....no shame. You are now officially a member of the crew of 'The Rainbow' (You might also consider moving to Mudcat Avenue when we finally drop anchor). Travel with us...there is wisdom, knowledge & an abundance of Life's experiences here, a 'Life Library', 'The Book of Mudcat', it's all here, just a click away. With respect to your own thread, I must ask; is your Wife responding to her treatment? You said that you weren't out of the woods yet, but is that bright light beyond the tree-line visible?
       And finally, thank you very much for your generous praise regarding 'The Voyage'.
       Time to splice the mainbrace!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Jun 12 - 07:19 AM

Just returned from my Doctor...Diabetes Type 2 confirmed. One more blood test, then sort out the meds. Looks like it will be a combination of diet, plus one tab. per day. Don't feel too bad about that at all...quite relieved in a strange sort of way!
    Jane & her Husband will be back in the UK later this week & next week, her Sister & one of our Grandsons arrive from America (Charlotte NC). It's always fun when both the girls are together, so Ann & I have something to look forward to,
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 11 Jun 12 - 08:58 AM

What a very gentle, lyrical and rhythmic piece of music is your Voyage of the Rainbow - I love it! Your love of life and nature seeps through the music.

Sustaining thoughts for all of you x

freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Jun 12 - 10:34 AM

that's a good diagnosis, Nigel

thankyou for the music, freda described it perfectly

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Jun 12 - 11:01 PM

Having been away and off-line for a long weekend and tired when I returned home, I just listened to your Voyage of the Rainbow. It's lovely. Well done!

Type 2 is what I have. I started on one pill daily and followed all the directions for exercise and diet, but my meds were increased to two pills daily and eventually to three. I felt like a failure. At the same time I was angry at my body because I knew I was doing everything I was supposed to do but apparently getting worse in spite of my changes. I thought, "Why am I even bothering to do all this if I am getting worse, not better?" However, I kept at it and eventually my condition improved. Much later I read an article that said that doctors often start patients on a low dose because they don't want to over-medicate. Then they increase the meds if needed. If that happens to you, be assured that this is common in the treatment of people who are newly diagnosed.

And while I was away, I kept your family and those of other 'Catters in my prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Jun 12 - 01:03 AM

Just taking a few strokes at the oars before I turn in.
                     Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Jun 12 - 07:54 PM

The other day I read and re-read this thread. This kind of thing renews my hopes for a better world. Calling for blessings on the heads of all. :)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Jun 12 - 07:16 AM

Thank you to all who've listened to 'The Voyage'. I'm beyond pleased that you like it! Since it was published, I've received some of the best reviews of my Music career! I'm very touched & increasingly sure I don't deserve such fulsome praise, but nevertheless, accept with gratitude.
       Good to hear from Freda, Sandra, ChanteyLass...we have such similar, shared Life experiences (song title pops into head: "You'll Never Walk Alone")
       To Dean: stow the oars, no need to row, the wind is set fair, enjoy the breeze on your face. But, if the weather changes, your rowing skills could well be in demand! I'm also imagining your Wife, up on deck beside you, sharing the breeze, listening to the water lapping at the hull.
       To Ebbie: It's interesting to contemplate just what a profound effect a thread like this can have. We've never lost sight of the reason why I first posted, back in January, but in terms of breadth & depth, this thread continues to develop, almost on a daily basis. If, as you say, your hopes for a better world have been renewed, then we need to hoist a special flag to mark such an auspicious occasion. Your Blessings are graciously received.
       With Love to You All,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Jun 12 - 04:08 AM

Dean & Kat's needs are far greater than mine, Ann's or Jane's. By comparison, we're doing pretty well at the moment, so we're going to 'drop anchor' & row on over to D&K,
                           See you there,
                                                With Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Jun 12 - 07:46 PM

Glad to hear that you are doing pretty well at the moment, but I'm not sure how you quantify these needs. Anyway, I'm still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Jun 12 - 08:01 PM

Much appreciated, Nigel, but one thing I learned, from anudder Mudder, is we all have needs of great personal extent but no need for comparison "triage." One thing this place has is plenty of good thoughts, love, etc. to go round. So, I say dip yer oar in wherever or sit back and relax...it's all good and no limits!

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 Jun 12 - 10:16 PM

Finally had time listen to "Voyage of the Rainbow", Nigel.

A lovely composition. Thank you for allowing us to listen.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 05:55 AM

ChanteyLass, Kat & Janie...you always manage to say the right thing just when I need to hear it most. I agree, CL, quantifying my/our needs is not an exact science. Our current situation seems to revolve around two 'criteria': Stability & our take on Normality. Thinking of Jane first, her condition is 'stable', in as much as the spread of her cancer has been halted & she is able to engage in about 80% (her oncologist's estimate) of what she would recognise as 'normal living'. If I 'triage' that against Dean's situation & our Dear Kat, my feeling is that, in the here & now, our 'needs' are of a lower order & I am beginning to feel unsettled about distracting folk from other, more acute threads. However, quoting Kat: "So, I say dip yer oar in wherever or sit back and relax...it's all good and no limits!" So true Kat, so true. The fact that You could write that, whilst having to deal with Fibromyalgia, fills me with awe & wonder. Your selflessness is a true measure of your character.
          Ann & I are so fortunate to have you all as Dear & Trusted Friends,
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann.
                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 08:32 AM

Hi Nigel,
I have been following your thread and have been inspired by all the wonderful comments by the truly lovely people here on Mudcat,now I too have need of support , but have found it by reading all these posts! My darling husband Billy has to start Chemotherapy for CLL ( type of Leuchemia) so we are reeling at the moment.Hope you wont mind me sailing along with your gallent crew, I will sit quietly in the bow of the boat and listen in!
With love to you and Ann and Jane
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 09:58 AM

There's something about a "world" where "Billybob"'s name is Wendy : )

Looks like a hot sunny day, good for stretching out on the Michigan sector of the deck.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 11:12 AM

Wendy, consider yourself 'signed on' from this very moment. Feel free to sit where you choose & 'listen in', but I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if before long, you were 'writing in' too! There are many good, wise & experienced 'Life Sailors' aboard, only too willing to hear your story. In the meantime, on behalf of our "Gallant Crew", Ann & I are holding you in our thoughts & wishing your Darling Husband Billy a positive outcome with the chemo.
               With Love,
                              Nigel & Ann
                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 11:51 AM

Start with me Wendy. And there a lot of others happy to listen although it might be only just that.......listening and good thoughts. And on that I seem to need to address my cousin Nigel here when he says, "I am beginning to feel unsettled about distracting folk from other, more acute threads."

Don't........I have found that when this group especially and human beings in general open their heart to others, the working capacity of that heart is pretty unlimited. Now you know that's true but you don't want to have anyone feel "put upon" or whatever. So lemmee say that if I think you're over the edge, I'll send you a note. Until then.................


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 12:56 PM

Spaw, I don't know what I'd do without you (and everyone else too), but right here, right now, Spaw has the floor!
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jun 12 - 05:42 PM

Wendy, I'mm adding your husband to my list. Hugs and prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 04:48 AM

What a lovely start to my day,thank you xxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 09:42 AM

Still with ya, Nigel, Ann and Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 09:55 AM

Top o' the mornin' to ya!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 12:37 PM

Top of the Afternoon to you too! Ann & I drove to the seaside (only 17 miles away) to treat ourselves to a nice lunch. Car died as we parked...couldn't lock it...it wouldn't restart...called the AA...nice guy turns up, but looks warily at our keyless entry/starting system. He checks the basics, battery (good), cleans the battery terminals...car still as dead as the proverbial Dodo (great bird name for a Musician!) Inspiration strikes...he holds the fob right up close to the starting button & hey presto, everything bursts into life! We missed our lunch, but were able to drive home with no further problems. Phoned my local Toyota agent...apparently the keyless entry/start/stop can be affected by other radio frequencies...never experienced that before. The key fobs also had new batteries following a recent service. We shut the car down at home...waited a minute or two, it fired up perfectly & the doors locked/unlocked as per usual....not quite the way we'd planned to spend a sunny afternoon by the sea! Give me 'The Rainbow' any day, not a battery or wireless device in sight.
               With Love,
                              Nigel & Ann.
                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 12:49 PM

There you go Wendy, what did I tell you! Holding you & your precious Billy in our thoughts & wishing you both a restful weekend.

To Dean: It's nice & sunny (but a bit too windy) on the East London part of the deck too. Think we'd better reef some of the sails.
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 06:21 PM

my mum died yesterday;thankyou to you all for your prayers and expressions of kind concern.
it was late jan when they eventually diagnosed correctly ,and forcaste 8 weeks at most.she obviously well exceeded that ,reaching her 84th birthday and having a new great granchild in her arms ,which bought her great joy-and was wonderful to see.and we thought we would not see it.
i will catch up later.bless you all . pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jun 12 - 06:40 PM

Wendy, Pete, Nigel, Dean, Spaw, Rick, Little John, kat, Barry, Art, Severn... and so many more over the years aided by the community of compassion and support at this here Mudcat Café from far and wide... innit quite something? Brings a tear to my eye to witness it all.

Thanks.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Jun 12 - 03:24 AM

Dear Pete, Ann & I are saddened to hear of the death of your beloved Mother & send you our Love & sincere condolences. Your faith in God will bring you much-needed comfort & support. You've been voyaging with us for some time now...stay with us, particularly as you chart your way through the unsettling seas ahead.
                Our Hearts go out to You, your Family & Friends,
                                       With Love,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Jun 12 - 03:37 AM

gnu, couldn't agree more...a 'Community of Compassion'. There is something about MC that has attracted a wealth of good & honourable people, all of whom have their PHd from The University of Life. Certainly brings tears to my eyes...all too frequently!
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 17 Jun 12 - 01:23 PM

I'm sure sorry to hear that news, Pete. I ain't much for praying, but for you I'll try.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Jun 12 - 02:39 PM

Aw, Pete, I'm sorry.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 06:15 AM

Sending love from Essex to you Pete, treasure the memories of your beloved mother, how wonderful she held the new baby in her arms, may that little child bring much happiness to you at such a sad time.
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Jun 12 - 10:19 AM

Losing your mother is never easy no matter what age you are. Mine died when I was 18 and she 43. My Dad told me that night I that I would never have a day I didn't think of her.......and he was right.......and that is good......

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Jun 12 - 10:45 AM

My condolences, Pete. Spaw is right...you never stop missing your mom. Time and memories help, but still it is a massive loss. Be sure to give yourself plenty of time to grieve and remember.{{{{hugs}}}}}

Nigel & Ann..how's it going?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jun 12 - 02:05 PM

Dunno how I missed that, Pete. My condolences.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Jun 12 - 05:49 PM

thanks again.who'da thought people you've never met would be so loving.touch me deeply.
funeral is tuesday.nice to know prayers and good thoughts are with me.

nigel-only just listened to "voyage..."and other tracks.very good -but must confess dance yer socks off is not this old rockers cup of tea!.the others-beautiful.

wendy-prayer offered for you both.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 21 Jun 12 - 09:27 PM

{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} to you and your family, Pete.

I can imagine what it meant to your mom and to her grandchild for her to get hold that great grandbaby. My lovely neice by marriage was 7 months pregnant when Daddy died. They had sent him and Mom an ultrasound photo that clearly showed Roxie's facial features. Dad took such joy in looking at that picture, and handed it around to visitors proudly. "See my new great grand-daughter? Isn't she beautiful?" My parents raised my nephews after my sister died, and it also brought great solace to Matt that Daddy so delighted in Roxie in utero.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Jun 12 - 11:14 AM

I have come to admire Nigel very much on this voyage. He has opened his heart (and his thread) to others who are going through difficult times, and that speaks for his spirit. You are in my thoughts each day, and I expect that will continue. You too, Pete and Dean and Dan. It's always good to know you're not alone when stuff happens.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Jun 12 - 11:21 AM

999: Amen, brother! : )

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jun 12 - 11:22 PM

Lovely, Janie.

My dad got to hold my grandson when he was born. My dad was literally shaking because he never thought he would see a great-grandchild. (Mom didn't live long enough to see me married, let alone a mother.) We made sure my dad was sitting down in an armchair when he held him. Even then my dad was reluctant, but we assured him all would be well. I will never forget the look of wonder on my dad's face.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Jun 12 - 03:13 AM

It's been six days since I last posted, but it feels twice as long as that. I've spent three of those six days with my GP & two Diabetic Nurse Specialists. We weren't cohabiting, but it did seem as if I was spending a disproportionate amount of my time at the clinic! The initial diagnosis has been revised 'up' & it has been suggested that I start getting used to the fact that Type 2 could become Type 1 sooner rather than later. That news took a bit of digesting...went through a range of emotions, ranging from anxious & scared to bloody angry! It's now Saturday & acceptance is knocking on my door. It is only a gentle knock at present, but acceptance is the only way to go.
          I've missed your company, your wise, comforting words, your humour...Bruce, ChanteyLass, Wendy, Spaw, kat, gnu, Pete, Janie, Dean, Dan & everyone else who voyages with us. Singling out individuals is a perilous task, but Bruce's post of 22nd June has touched me very deeply. Several of us have exchanged emails, where we have been able to share intimacies that can only be shared one to one. Intensely personal aspects & moments from our lives...so precious.
          Lest we forget, the lady for whom this thread was started, our Darling Jane, remains stable, no further spreading of the cancer & the lung tumours appear to be shrinking. We really don't know whether 'cure' is a word we dare think of, let alone utter, but she has energy & a sense of purpose & is living her life much as she always has done. In January, when she received her diagnosis, everything about her changed. Jane was still called Jane, but the Jane we knew & loved was in a dark & frightening place. Now, the sun shines from her face once again...still taking things a day at a time, but with a hint of 'lightness' that was not apparent before.
          Time, I think, to conclude this Saturday Digest. Ann & I send our Love to You all, hoping that Life is treating you kindly & that you will continue to voyage with us,
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Jun 12 - 03:59 PM

I'm sorry to read about the change in your diagnosis. I can only think that the stress you have been under has caused your own condition to accelerate.

In addition to the professional advice you are getting about meds, nutrition, and exercise, I hope somebody has mentioned meditation. That could mean a traditional form of meditation, but for you it might also mean music and Mudcat! At least I hope we are easing your level of stress.

I'm glad to read that Jane is doing well, and I am full of hope for her continuing to do so.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Jun 12 - 10:40 PM

Nigel: For 28 years I've walked a few hundred miles, tent camped in rustic settings, crawled through mud in a cave, hot air ballooned, skinny dipped, done small construction jobs, listened to her singing in a big choir group and occasional solo settings, and made love like rabbits, with a lady who had already been totally insulin dependent for about 27 years before I met her. She retired a year and a half ago from a career as an occupational therapist. The damn diabetes has been a pesky nuisance the whole time, and I wouldn't wish it on anybody; but on the grand scale of things...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Jun 12 - 06:16 AM

One of my diabetic friends who is over 70 carries his needle in a toothbrush holder & has been known to remove it from his pocket while talking to friends & jab himself without people really noticing!

The only thing that holds him back a bit is a childhood bike accident that left one leg shorter & stiff. There have been times in the recent past that his leg has caused him big trouble & further operations, but the diabetes - never.

Diabetes support organisations have lots of info. Other 'Catters have diabetes too & can offer tips & info.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jun 12 - 02:23 PM

Good news re Jane. Good news from those who "know" diabetes. Yes, it sucks this thread even exists but it has been a "good" thread overall. Like I said, this communal sharing and support is heartening, to say the least.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Jun 12 - 02:02 PM

Yes, good news in several different guises, undeniably so. The Diabetes diagnosis has forced me to look closely at my diet (not necessarily a bad thing) & my M.O. in general. Because my 'situation' is only one week old, everything is still a bit raw & 'unprocessed' & there is a fair amount of info. to digest. I'm getting there, ChanteyLass, Dean (best four lines I've read in a long time!), sandra & gnu. I don't handle 'change' very well, particularly when it involves the workings of my own 'bod', but get there I will.
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Jun 12 - 03:47 PM

I hear ya, Nigel. My diet, such as it has been, is to remove sugars from my diet, most starches and fats. WTF is left? Wanna take me out for supper? Line up some lettuce, slightly underdone with a hint of carrot and garlic to bring forth the flavour of the green leaves. Sounds a treat, huh?

I have many diabetic friends, and please believe me when I tell you handling it's a do-able thing. Just need the right frame of mind.

Best wishes to you, Ann and of course Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Jun 12 - 06:04 PM

If you can access it, I recommend watching the docu "Forks Over Knives." My doctor told me about it. Some astonishing findings re' diet and ailments. Now, when you are looking at changing your diet anyway, would be a good time to watch it and/or get the companion book, imo. (I don't like change, either!:-)

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Jun 12 - 06:09 PM

9... "Just need the right frame of mind."

Yup. You can do it, Nigel. Well, actually, you WILL do it. And, it will be fine. Just some more shit to deal with but you CAN deal with it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 06:04 AM

gnu, you've reminded me of that ubiquitous 'T' shirt that did the rounds a while ago: "Same shit, different day". I guess for me it would have to read: "Different shit, different day!" Thanks, Bruce & kat...Bruce, you made me laugh...good, morning medicine.
         I've touched on this next issue before, but I think it's time to raise it once again. In one sense, this thread has almost run it's natural course. It began as a plea for help & support when our daughter, Jane received her cancer diagnosis. The help & support, the wise & comforting words poured in in abundance. At times, almost overwhelming, but always sincere & profoundly meaningful. Over time, as Jane's condition has stabilised, our 'remit' has broadened considerably. Jane remains ever-present, but we have also been able to explore many of our own, frequently deeply personal issues. Sometimes for the first time 'en publique'. The fact of the matter is; Jane could live for several more years, maybe, even live out her 'allotted span'...we just don't know.
          The flip-side is, that since January, we've established & nurtured a dialogue, one which I find invaluable. ChanteyLass wrote earlier about Meditation. She was absolutely right, Mudcat & Music are a form of Meditation for me. It has become a part of my life that I would be loath to lose, but do you feel the same way? Is it time to drop anchor for the last time, can we maintain the interest, energy & commitment that has kept the thread alive & so vibrant? Do write in with your views.
          Much Love to You All,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 07:49 AM

Nigel

Many years ago I was helping some people in a small Newfoundland town to move their furniture from one house to another. One of the fellows decided to drive with the then-empty truck to a place from which the bay could be seen. One of the brothers was pointing out the sights to me and he began to tell me what each of the craft in the bay was: that's a dory, that's a schooner, that's a punt, that's a dragger, that's a trawler . . . . I must have had a puzzled look on my face because the other brother came over, put his hand on my shoulder and said, "Don't let him confuse you Bruce, them's boats!"

I don't recall ever being in an organization that had more than one leader. In keeping with the extended metaphor of this thread and its possible closure, that's your decision, captain, and I'll abide by your call.

I'll add just this: I like coming here because it's peaceful. The thread's a kinda harbour filled with boats, each one from other seas and each one with different needs and and abilities to express those needs. It's one of few threads wherein people have a common purpose and with few digressions keep to that purpose. In brief, I'd like to see it stay open.

B

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 08:35 AM

Nigel, everything B just said, sometimes we just bob up and down in the boat listening and finding solace in all the wise things said here.
Billy has a bone marrow scan next Wednesday and starts his treaatment on July 9th.Being selfish I hope I can climb aboard as often as I can.

much love to you, Ann and Jane

Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 09:21 AM

Well - Captain's orders and all shore leave requests granted but we all need a safe haven sometimes (and even in dry dock tha needs tha barnacles scraped tha knows?) so for all the crew and the silent partners and errant cabin boys I hope this voyage continues.
Good people, great hearts.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 11:08 AM

Devil's advocate has never been a role I've played with any ease, so it is with the greatest of pleasure (this should be hollered from the masthead), I announce with the utmost alacrity:"Onwards we voyage!"
          It was never my intention to close the thread, but because it's emphasis has changed, I felt some clarification was needed so we can set a new course...although I think we've already done that & nobody really noticed!
          The last words today come from Rumanci: "We all need a safe haven sometimes (and even in dry dock tha needs tha barnacles scraped tha knows?)"
          And Bruce: "It's one of few threads wherein people have a common purpose and with few digressions keep to that purpose".
          So, the wind is set fair & the barometer is rising. If we get a move on, we should just catch the tide,
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 11:08 AM

As a Mudcatter who has been mostly silent throughout this thread but often present, I too would like it to stay open and continue. There is real grace here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 11:14 AM

Just pipped you to the post Ebbie.
       "There is real grace here." Sentiments you don't hear too often anywhere on the web. Thank you, Ebbie.
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 03:25 PM

Ebbie needed relief from Kendall's bagpipe thread which I have been trashing lately. She is right of course.......and how many others are there lurking and enjoying?

As opposed to a few months ago, mostly things are going better for a lot of 'Catters and this thread sort of stands for all the bad times turning better........I'm no Pollyanna and I know of lfe's cycles so all will not always be well.......But when they are on the upswing we can enjoy them all the more by seeing how far things have come. When it gets tougher we can look back and see the support and love that will always be here.

I'm glad and I thank you for keeping this thread open and also for that moving PM.....I was pleased beyond words......and I still am. Now if you need diversion you can do a "Reverse Ebbie in the Pike Position" and go mess with Kendall who is always fun to mess with!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 05:22 PM

"Reverse Ebbie in the Pike Position" Oh dear. That sounds painful.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 06:02 PM

Depends on the size of the pike, Ebbie. Some of them can bite real nasty. I once was trying to get the lure out of one's mouth and lowered the line and my Newfie buddy hollered "STOP!" He took the rod and said "Watch this sonnyboy, cityboy, mainlander." He took a stick about an inch in diameter, held it in front of the pike's face and lowered the the fish to the ground. It's tail hit the ground and it propelled itself to the stick and bit it in two. Me buddy says, "Yer welcome fer yer fingers Sport." "Sport" is what they calls them fellahs from down south in the big city.

Maybe I shouldn't but, WTH... he threw the pike into the woods and said, "Reel in faster and ya won't be wastin our time, eh?" I asked why he didn't throw it back in. He said, "You'll just catch the boney fucker again and we wants is TROUT, ROIGHT? Besides, it'll bring bears." I asked if it was bear season and he said, "No. But it's self-defense season." Always thinkin, eh?

Like the Newf in Texas... The Texan asks the Newfie where he's from and the Newfie says, "You know where New York is?" the Texan says, "Yeh, yeh, I know where that is" The Newfie says, " Well b'y, you just drive north of there about 6 hours, turn right for 3 hours and catch a 6 hour ferry and you're there in Newfoundland."

The Texan says "That's got to be close to China!"

The Newfie thinks about this and then says, "I think you might be right. I work with a Chinese guy and he goes home for lunch every day!"

That is typical Newfie humour.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Jun 12 - 10:19 PM

Wendy, I hope Billy's treatments go well.

Nigel, I forgot to mention laughter. Look for opportunities to do that.

I'll sail on any waters to which you want to travel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Jun 12 - 12:33 AM

Thank you Lassie for keeping Wendy and Billy in the fore.

Wendy, you are always welcome here and we'll expect to hear from you next Wednesday and even more when the treatments start. You might want a separate thread as a bit of a journal. We're always around to talk to and are generally pretty good at listening. So keep us informed or Spaw gonna' be on your case. Spaw can be a sorta' nasty kind of bully with a bad attitude sometimes so don't cross him.

Just ask Kendall.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 27 Jun 12 - 06:56 AM

My Dear Spaw,
Thank you, maybe I will start a new thread, I will see how we get on,but I am very happy sailing along with the crew, it is amazing all the support and love here on mudcat, I have to thank my dear, sadly departed,friend Dave Bryant for introducing me to this wonderful family .I often just read though the threads, get news of old friends and new,in times of trouble the wise and thoughtful posting are so uplifting.
Sailing on....
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 27 Jun 12 - 11:46 PM

Sailing close to shore...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 08:17 AM

Jane had the results of her latest scan this morning. The cancer remains 'in stasis'...no spreading or further deterioration of any kind. Jane's oncologist pronounced herself very pleased with the way things are going. Weekly visits to the hospital have become monthly. Can't see to type through my tears,
                                                    Much Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 08:19 AM

Very cool...........

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 08:37 AM

Wonderful news Nigel
lots of love and healing thoughts
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 08:56 AM

Nigel, in the parlance, that is way way cool.

YAHOO!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 05:43 PM

pleased to hear positive medical reading nigel.
blessings on you wendy and billy    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 05:44 PM

Hi, Pete. How are you doing?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jun 12 - 08:08 PM

Well, okay, Jane! I'm already looking forward to the time when monthly check-ups become quarterly.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jun 12 - 04:34 PM

Yeah, Spaw WAY cool!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 29 Jun 12 - 06:44 PM

Real good to hear!.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Jun 12 - 04:59 PM

thanks 999 for asking-on the whole not bad;some low times but i plan to get back to playing and singing at sessions and open mics next week-whether they like it or not!
i handled the funeral better than i expected and the ressurrection hope was emphasized.thanks for your [attempt at?]prayer.
i listened to olddude on youtube tonight making a lovely job of "..wayfaring stranger".i had fogotten the lyric goes
"....im going home to see my mother..." kinda reassuring!
blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 30 Jun 12 - 05:08 PM

Pete... 'on the whole not bad"

Good to hear. Keep the faith.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jul 12 - 08:03 AM

very good news about Jane -

love & hugs to all who sail on this thread

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jul 12 - 08:22 AM

Dear Pete, it's a much over-used expression, but Time IS a great healer. You never forget, but the grief & pain gradually ebbs away. The experience is as individual as we are; there are no 'rules' about how long it should take, whether they be the expectations of others or those we impose on ourselves. Life goes on & your Life is there for the living...didn't know you played & sang, so get up on that mic & show 'em what a REAL singer sounds like!
          Holding you in our thoughts with Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Jul 12 - 04:26 AM

Jane returns to Dubai today, but this time it really will be her final visit as an 'expat' resident. She returns to the UK with her Family towards the end of July. We spent Saturday with her...a very happy time (her sister was still over from NC) & she had enough energy to go fruit picking: strawberries, raspberries & gooseberries. No prizes for guessing what was on the dessert menu that evening, accompanied by generous helpings of clotted cream!
       Jane talks openly & freely about her cancer, the fact that it's still there but apparently inactive for the moment. We suppose that the drug's trial has had a positive impact on her condition, but the research assistants & oncologists are remaining pretty tight-lipped, which I'm sure they have to for all sorts of professional reasons.
       On Sunday, Ann & I visited Buckingham Palace. The State Rooms are opened to the public for a short time each year. A large palace, yes, but it really did feel like a lived-in home, not a museum to the Monarchy. Tea, Coffee & expensive profiteroles (for Ann), taken in the gardens 'out back', rounded off the day beautifully & not a Corgi in sight!
       Onwards we sail,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 02 Jul 12 - 11:32 AM

Nigel, say hi to Liz from me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Jul 12 - 12:01 PM

Bruce, will pass along your hi just as soon as. Better still, send her one of your CDs & broaden her Music education. The acoustics in the Music Room seemed very favourable!
                         Love to You & M.
                                                    Nigel.
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Jul 12 - 09:34 PM

Ooo, clotted cream!

I hope Jane and her family's flights are smooth.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 Jul 12 - 10:53 PM

Nigel, I don't know how I missed the latest update. That is great news! I want to tell you, you and your family have been shining examples of living in a state of Grace that comes from acceptance, fortitude, hope, belief, and love of one another. With that Guidance anything can happen not least of which you have touched hearts and minds all over the world and you have left a record of it here for all time and, last, but not least, you have *documented* it in the universal language of music so anyone can share in the journey. What Beauty. Thank to you all for sharing with us.

Much Love, Light, Peace, & Healing Energy,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jul 12 - 04:46 AM

Our Very Dear Kat,
                            I really don't know from where I'm going to find the words to reply to your moving, gracious & so eloquently written post, but reply I must. For the thread, Ann & I thank you from the bottom of our hearts. A longer, more detailed, personal reply will be sent by email.
                           You are a Woman to be admired, respected, loved & emulated,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 03 Jul 12 - 03:08 PM

I'm still thinking of you and yours, Nigel.
As ever all the very best from Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Jul 12 - 02:30 AM

To all our American Mudcatters...HAPPY 4TH!!
And a very special HAPPY 4TH to the crew of 'The Rainbow'
Charlie, very good to hear from you. Lang may yer lum reek!
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Jul 12 - 02:35 AM

Charlie, I know that seasonally, L.M.Y.L.R. is somewhat misplaced, but it's the health & prosperity aspects I'm sending you!
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 04 Jul 12 - 12:22 PM

Just as long as my rum doesn't leak !!
Thank you, Nigel and Ann. Your concern for others is what makes this site worthwhile.
Love and best from Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 04 Jul 12 - 12:44 PM

I agree, Charlie and thanks for your kind thoughts on my thread, too. This is a great place, isn't it?

Nigel, thank you so much. I try to be a reflection of what I receive and I have received an abundance from Mudcat and its members, my friends, so your praise counts doubly so for everyone else on here including yourself and family.

Much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Jul 12 - 03:38 AM

I joined Mudcat sometime around Oct/Nov '05. My sole intention then was publicity-seeking in connection with my folk music days. It took a while for me to appreciate that Mudcat offered much more. Kat's word:"reflection" is most appropriate. I posted on Jan. 12th this year that Ann & I needed help & support & in abundance it arrived & continues to arrive. Our care & concern for others is a 'reflection' of the care & concern Ann & I have received from so many of you Good People. I have never engaged in a dialogue of this nature before. It has been & continues to be, one of my most life-affirming experiences.
                   Most Sincerely & with all the Love we can muster,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Jul 12 - 11:51 AM

Kinda' reminds me of a great song by Ken Hicks and done so very well by Sandy Paton on one of the Golden Ring albums........

ALL THE GOOD PEOPLE
(Ken Hicks)

This is a song for all the good people
All the good people who touched up my life.
This is a song for all the good people
People I'm thankin' my stars for tonight.

This is a verse for all the good people
Who knew what I needed was something they had
Food on the table, a heart that was able
Able to keep me just this side of sad.

This is a song for all the good fellows
Who shared up my time, some good and some bad
We drank in the kitchen and shared no competition
Each knowing the other was a good friend to have

This is a song for all the good people
All the good people who touched up my life.
Some helped in small ways, and some helped in hallways
And some always told me you're doin' all right.

This is a song I sing for my lady
For my lady who puts up with me
My ramblin' and roamin', my late night come-homin'
She is the sunshine that flows down on me.

This is a verse for the pickers and singers
Whose songs and whose voices have blended with mine
On the back steps and stages, for hugs and for wages,
It's some kind of sharing and some kind of fine.



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Jul 12 - 12:54 PM

Cousin Spaw...you certainly know how to make a grown man cry...beautiful, absolutely beautiful. It fits so well.
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 06 Jul 12 - 07:52 AM

What beautiful words, I will try and get that album, sounds like a lovely song to sing,and I may need to sing a lot over the next few months to keep Billy's spirits up!He had the bone marrow biopsy on Wednesday and usually so uncomplaining he said it was very painful.
But he is being very positive about the chemo, that starts Monday and another day the hospital on Tuesday then just one day a month for six months.Samantha ,our daughter is getting him an ipod and down loading all his favourite music so he can close his eyes and go to good places in his head!
I am not sure about starting a new thread , I feel very safe with the crew aboard " The Rainbow" but healing thoughts and prayers will help us on the voyage.
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Jul 12 - 01:31 PM

Wendy, very pleased to hear that treatment has started. That sense of 'something moving at last' is still very fresh in our minds when Jane was diagnosed back in January.
Starting your own thread is always an option, but I'm touched that you feel:"... very safe with the crew aboard " The Rainbow". Good thoughts, Prayers, Humour, Anecdotal Musings...it's all here...one of the wisest, most well informed & friendly Crews with which I've ever sailed (If the sailing metaphor becomes too wearisome, just write what you want to write the way you want to write it!)
                Holding You & Your Beloved Billy in our Thoughts,
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Jul 12 - 02:52 PM

continuing to pray for you;jane'nigel'ann'wendy'billy.
God bless pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 06 Jul 12 - 06:40 PM

It's so hot on deck, everyone who can is just sitting in any available shade. But things are flowing nicely for me & mine. Keeping all you good folk in mind.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Jul 12 - 08:42 PM

I'm still cruising along with all of you good people on this and other threads and sending healing thoughts and prayers wherever they are needed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 06 Jul 12 - 10:37 PM

I am partial to the Sandy Paton version of the song Spaw posted, but I can't find it on youtube, so you may hear a close rendition done by Hal An Tow...my ears tell me their tune is slightly different on a few notes than what Sandy did on the Golden Ring cycle still available at Folk Legacy Records, folks. Still a beautiful song.

I like the soft, wafting breezes I'm getting right now. So lovely being here. Thanks for being here and being so inviting.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jul 12 - 04:31 AM

Pete, Dean, ChanteyLass & Kat...it really brightened up my Saturday morning to hear from all of you. I love those times when everything goes quiet for a day or three & then the next moment, there is a rush of posts. Just recently, too, positive news & good progress reported from several different quarters. Before I go (our neighbours are visiting this morning & we're nowhere near ready!) I must recount this 'Random Act Of Kindness'. Ann & I were returning to our car, & as usual, we were walking along, holding hands. A lady, a complete stranger, stopped & told us in, what can only be described as 'glowing terms', how beautiful it was to see older people walking hand in hand. It was a magical moment, full of sincerity, brief but remembered for a lifetime.....and then she was gone. I'm left wondering why the simple act of holding hands made such an impact on this Dear Lady....priceless.
             A Happy, Healthy Weekend to All,
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann.
                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 07 Jul 12 - 01:33 PM

Obviously the lady didn't realized that when long-married folks hold hands, it's as a deterrent to punching each other. : )

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jul 12 - 01:14 AM

Dear Dean, if it came to a punching fight between Ann & me, she'd win hands down (no pun intended). She's much stronger than me....correction....her arm muscles work far better than mine! (-:
       I'm making a broad assumption that the humour in your post is an indicator of a 'lightening of the load' as Judy continues to heal & your lives gradually work their way back to the way they were. It certainly sounded like that on your own thread.
       Worth saying too....through all the years that Ann & I have been together, we've traded plenty of banter, but no punches. I can still run faster than she (just), so I'll keep that in reserve....just in case!
                                 With Love,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jul 12 - 06:01 AM

Good one, froggy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Jul 12 - 06:24 PM

And Nigel, your assumption is well founded. : )

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Jul 12 - 05:34 AM

lots of good news & wisdom here, & good company!

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jul 12 - 04:47 PM

i hit the big 60 tomorrow.i intend to keep growing old disgacefully!
not organized much as so soon after losing my mum but i intend to have a belated open mic/jam party soonish.if perchance anyone lives close enough and available at the time;be good to see you.
hope you are all doing ok.God bless pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Jul 12 - 11:04 PM

goodonya! enjoy the belated celebration at the appropriate date.

sandra (who hit 60 five months ago)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 15 Jul 12 - 09:18 AM

Happy Birthday, Pete. And may you have many more.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 15 Jul 12 - 10:46 AM

Been away for a few weeks sorting out our Ruby Wedding Anniversary. Have not forgotten all those people who have contributed to this thread which seems to have developed into something which Nigel never envisgaed.
Keep the best wishes and prayers going
Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jul 12 - 11:13 AM

Happies atchya, Pete!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jul 12 - 08:19 PM

Happy birthday now, Pete, and happy birthday again when you celebrate.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Jul 12 - 12:40 PM

Ann & I have been visiting friends down in the south-west for the past week, hence the absence of posts (very rural, no internet access). Will write more tomorrow when I've recovered from the long drive (in foul weather!). Thanks to Bruce for keeping his 'weather eye' open on our behalf,
                              Very glad to be home,
                                                               With Love,
                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 16 Jul 12 - 03:44 PM

Hello again Nigel and Ann and a belated Happy Birthday to you, Pete.
ATB from Charlie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 12:12 AM

With Nigel & Ann's permission, I would like to introduce my friend, Connie. She's not in the cyberworld, but she knows of Mudcat mojo and is in need. Her oldest son and only daughter are both gravely ill. Ben has Parkinson's and had a stroke last Friday. He's in hospital, can speak mosly okay and move around, The Parkinson's is slowly taking its toll though.

Out of the blue, seemingly, Linda went in for chronic pain and was found to have Stage 4 cancer. She's had some surgery, may have more to go, plus chemo, but it's a dicey situation.

Connie is one of my best and oldest friends. We've been through a lot together, but this is much more than anything else we've experienced. I'll be telling her about this thread and you, Nigel and Ann, as I know she will relate to what you've all been going through.

Anyway, if folks have a wee bit extra, a gentle sailing might be good for Connie. She is a bit infirm herself, but is being strong for her kids. I know she could use some virtual shoulders to give her strength.

Thanks, again, Nigel and Ann. Much love and gratitude,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 05:09 AM

Oh my, kat. I wish I had words. Ts&Ps seem so little at times.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 07:27 AM

It certainly puts your own life into perspective when you read about folk like Connie, her children & all they are having to endure. Like gnu, I'm struggling for words that might bring even the slightest crumb of comfort. This is a perfect example of what Banjoman mentioned above...how the thread has developed into something I could never have envisaged. The sense of Community is palpable. I'm sure Kat will do whatever is necessary to bring Connie & her Family aboard. We have unlimited accommodation & an accumulation of wisdom, love, humour, experience & pragmatic common sense to ease the most burdensome of life's loads.
       To all of you who continue sailing with us, thank you, thank you, thank you.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 08:35 AM

Dear Kat,
sending love to your friend Connie and her children,I am sure the wise crew on this ship will bring her comfort and hold her in their thoughts and prayers.I have gained so much from reading this thread and thank Nigel so much for bringing us all together.
Billy started his chemotherapy a week ago , he had a few setbacks on the first two days but had wonderful staff at the hospital who were not only careing for him but looked after me sitting with him!He ran a fever on Wednesday and was admitted to the hospital , but came home again on Friday.
This week he feels much better and we hope to be able to go away to Norfolk for the weekend, so fingers crossed that the blood tests tomorrow are positive and he gets the Dr's agreement to go away.
So 1 treatment done, 5 to go!!
love to all the crew,
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 11:23 AM

Wendy, Jane's first couple of sessions of chemo were by far the most unpleasant. She was scheduled for six sessions, but in the end, had four, so there is always a possibility that your Billy might not need all six too. Waiting for the blood test results can be something of a nerve-strecher, but, as you say, fingers crossed & you get the all-clear for Norfolk. Norfolk plus some sunshine will do both of you a power of good!
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 12:25 PM

prayer offered for connie,linda,ben.
likewise may God bless wendy and bob with a positive result and a good weekend.we were in norfolk recently.if you are in swaffam area there is a lovely restored church called st marys,houghton on the hill.they have a web site;interesting story.

though no particular update on jane we still remember her and yourselves nigel and ann.God bless pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 06:46 PM

Thank you, my friends. You are wonderful people.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 09:46 PM

Billy, Linda, Ben, Connie, Wendy and so many others, focusing thoughts and good intentions on you.

My family knows first hand how meaningful and supportive is the knowledge that people who are essentially strangers are praying, focusing, caring with attention and intention.

Call it agape. Call it loving-kindness. Call it unconditional positive regard.

It takes nothing away from the support of those who know, love and/or are personally involved by virtue of family or 3-D community to say that mojo of the Mudcat ilk is in a separate and powerfully sustaining category.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 18 Jul 12 - 11:10 PM

Beautifully put, Janie. You are such a wise woman and eloquent writer. We're blessed to have you among us.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 05:10 AM

Pete, I was away when you had your birthday...a very belated Happy Birthday. A 'different' kind of birthday, following the death of your Mother, but your memories of her could form the basis of a special celebration, even so. I'm heartened to see that you are planning some gigs...there'll be 'something extra' now in the way you perform your songs.
      Kat, Janie gets it right every time doesn't she?
      Janie, your use of the word: 'agape' resonated strongly with me. I c&p'd this from Wikipedia:
" [aˈɣapi]) is one of the Koine Greek words translated into English as love, one which became particularly appropriated in Christian theology as the love of God or Christ for humankind. In the New Testament, it refers to the covenant love of God for humans, as well as the human reciprocal love for God; the term necessarily extends to the love of oneÕs fellow man. Many have thought that this word represents divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtful love. Although the word does not have specific religious connotation, the word has been used by a variety of contemporary and ancient sources, including Biblical authors and Christian authors...." Your contributions add an intellectual polish to our ('our' is significant) thread, for which we are sincerely grateful.
      Jane & her Family return to the UK today for good (There have been a few false alarms regarding the 'final return'). She will undoubtedly return for holidays to see her friends, all being well. Her cancer remains 'in stasis'...long may it remain so. She has recently discovered Matcha Green Tea & speaks very highly of it's beneficial effects to her overall demeanour. Not sure whether her oncologist is aware of this, but she has more energy & drive than we've seen for months. Impossible to tell whether it's the new medication or the Matcha Tea (or both!). What is important is that she feels well & she's living her life in much the same way as before her diagnosis, back in January. We just wish that all traces of the cancer could be removed, restoring her health completely & absolutely.
       Much to read here today & on which to reflect,
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 05:28 AM

How wonderful it is to be held in so many hearts and prayers!
Billy has just phoned me from the hospital and his results are brilliant, he feels great and the sister told him to go and have an enjoyable weekend in beautiful Norfolk.
We will have at look at St Mary's church Pete,thank you. Best of all we are looking forward to a walk on Holkham Beach!
Love and healing thoughts to you all,
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 06:11 AM

Great news.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 04:42 PM

cause for thanksgiving from nigel and wendy.
i dont think we've been to holkham beach,though have been to wells next door ,and blakeney and boat outing to see seals.
wishing you a great weekend.   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 05:59 PM

BTW...... i'm still here of course and truly enjoying this thread. I love your "voyage" Nigel.......spot on. Do you all notice how much freer it is when we give up ourselves and open up to the thoughts of others?   Pretty neat ain't it?

Later, Ill tell you why I think that happens here far more than it does other places both in the virtual as well as the 3D world.

Much good news for now and I hope katmyluv will pass on all of this as i know she will. "Connie" ceretainly has her plate full and I too send good thoughts their way.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 07:26 PM

Yes, Spawdarlin', thanks...just got off the phone with (my) Connie. She had company (her niece & nephew-in-law came over to mow the grass) and sounded tired, so I just passed on that GOOD people all over the world are sending T&Ps and she is most grateful.

I told her the good news about Jane and she knows there is hope. Her son, Ben, is struggling to get the words out of his head and actually speak them; seems some wired are crossed from the stroke.

love to you all,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 07:55 PM

To anyone hurting now: May your burdens be lighter than the softest feather.

I have loved this group since forever. Especially Augusto's voice.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 08:32 PM

Bruce, Lovely music.

I don't suppose there is a translation of the lyrics available somewhere?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 08:48 PM

I think he had a great voice, too.
Google Translate's version is a little more awkward than this from Bing Translator's. It makes sense if you shift the meanings slightly. "Pescar" is "to fish", I believe.

To play a kite a chalk white,
the old wall was nothing
to smile a lie
to be great.

You grow up, you learn
you grow up, you will be taken
you grow up, you'll love it.

It was a nothing a green field
a run and then a pescar on the River
It was a nothing to smile
a lie to be great.

You grow up, you learn
you grow up, you will be taken
you grow up, you'll love
regret will remain
by that age, of that age.

You grow up, learn,
you grow up, you will be taken
you grow up, you'll love
You grow up, learn,
you grow up, you come
you grow up, you'll love
you grow up, you learn.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 09:41 PM

So many people to pray for! It is a good thing that so many more people are doing the praying.

And by praying I don't necessarily mean down on the knees, hands clasped or palms touching, though of course that is fine. I also mean turning one's thoughts throughout the day to those who need them.

What a fine crew! All hands on deck!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Jul 12 - 09:53 PM

Still aboard and thinking of all. And yes, Bruce, that song touches somethin'.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Jul 12 - 07:55 AM

Guest Date: 19 Jul 12 - 06:11 AM was me, I think. Can't be sure. Long time ago.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 22 Jul 12 - 11:39 AM

I'm still treading water and trying not to tread on barnacle scrapings ;-) and thinking of you all too
rum xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Jul 12 - 06:05 AM

best wishes & love to Connie & her family

love to everyone

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Jul 12 - 02:01 PM

Good news, good Music...much has been & is, happening since I last posted. I mentioned earlier about 'our thread'. I mean that unequivocally. The course that wittingly or unwittingly we have set has lead us to several new & unexpected harbours, allowing us to take on board new crew members. I think it was Wendy who said she felt safe here...Ann & I do too.
       There is one question to which a satisfactory answer will never be forthcoming:" How many other people are there who read/have read this thread; perhaps finding help & comfort along the way, choose not to post. I want them to know that they are equally welcome here nonetheless.
       We have been aboard 'The Rainbow' for just over six months...a 'calm sea & a prosperous voyage'. Long may we travel together,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Jul 12 - 02:17 PM

Thanks for the link, Bruce. Love the voice and the video is great too.

This ship is in serene waters but she can weather 'most any storm that should come along. She is sturdy and roomy, experienced and wise...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Jul 12 - 03:01 AM

Beautifully put, Ebbie, that's just how I envisage 'The Rainbow' too.
       Possibly spending Saturday with Jane. The Olympic Cycle Road Race passes close by her apartment, so if this glorious weather holds, should be a good day for all sorts of reasons,
                  With Love,
                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jul 12 - 06:08 AM

Just celebrated our Wedding Anniversary. Everything on the day went well up until lunch. We had literally finished our first course (in a very pleasant restaurant in central London) & my phone rings. Our burglar alarm has been activated & we must return home immediately. We have keyholders but they couldn't be contacted. It took an hour to get home...one of the most anxiety-provoking hours I can remember! Opening the front door & having a good look around, nothing seems to be amiss. Speak to the security company & reset the alarm. A short while later, my neighbour makes contact & admits that it was probably him who set off the alarm. Turns out he was using a high-pressure hose to clean down his brickwork & his aim strayed to include some of our windows, thereby tripping the alarm. Our Special Day was spoiled big-time, but we intend to 'encore' the meal in every detail...hopefully this time, making it to the 'final curtain'! Some things you just can't plan for!
          Hope Life is treating you kindly,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Jul 12 - 08:48 PM

I'm sorry your celebration was interrupted. I hope your neighbor will let you know before he tries that again, and I hope your next attempt at celebrating is completely successful. By the way, congratulations on your anniversary, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Jul 12 - 11:15 PM

Happy Anniversary, no matter the upset. At least it wasn't a real burglary!:-)

May your next time out find a full and satisfying evening coming to a close with you comfy and mellow in the Captain's quarters which we have decked out special just for this occasion!


*Hope you like the South Seas décor*

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Jul 12 - 11:37 PM

if birthday celebrations can stretch to a Birthmonth, why not wedding anniversaries?

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jul 12 - 06:33 AM

Happy delayed anniversary.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jul 12 - 08:20 AM

likewise congrats.

in facing disapointment
a love that goes beyond
in sticky happenstance
cement the marriage bond

and so we come to celebrate
this marker of the years
in which we've been together
in laughter and in tears

a care and trust thats tried and true
as each to other yield
and more so now than ever
a sacred marriage sealed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Jul 12 - 06:22 AM

Thank you all for your best wishes. We will have to wait until the Olympics are finished before we can 'encore' the meal...the trains we need pass right through Stratford, 'Olympic Central'.
    I like the idea of a 'South Seas' theme in my cabin, kat. It would compensate for the erratic UK weather!
   Great idea Sandra...fully support that one.
   Beautiful poem Pete. It really sums up our relationship.
   Jane's health remains stable. She has her next set of scans towards the end of August. It's always quite tense as these times get ever closer & even tenser waiting for the results.
   Ann & I are currently overdosing, watching the Olympics on TV. Team GB has not got off to the best of starts...hoping that things improve. Don't forget, It's the taking part that's more important than winning. That saying always seems to apply more to British athletes than almost anyone else, or am I being overly cynical?
                        Much Love to You All,
                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jul 12 - 08:40 PM

While waiting for test results, meditate. Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out.
Okay, I know. It's easier said than done.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 30 Jul 12 - 09:16 AM

Hey, Nigel, you're back. I apologize for missing your special day with Ann--story of my life. Happy Anniversary.

Test results: oh, yeah. Hurry up and wait.

As for Team GB, you have the best athletes in given categories that your countries can produce, so no matter how they show in the medals, they'll have competed and it doesn't get better than that. Since the summer olympics began in the late 1800s in Athens ( 1896 ? ), Canada has won a total of 58 gold medals. Win or lose, we always welcome the athletes home. By comparison, the USA has won 930 golds in that time and the UK 206. I haven't been watching this olympic because of the TV thing. It isn't plugged in.

I feel it deep inside that Jane's results will be good once again. Her outlook is positive and that's the sides of yourselves Ann and you show her. Winning teams are winning teams, buddy. Olympics or life.

BM

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Jul 12 - 06:23 AM

My Dear Bruce, You & your Beloved have been part of our winning team since 12th January.
      ChanteyLass, as you say, easier said than done. It's only recently that I've realised I tend to hold my breath at times like this (I do start breathing again before I turn blue!)
      With Love,
                     Nigel & Ann.
                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 01 Aug 12 - 09:23 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann
Happy belated Wedding Anniversary,and lots of positive thoughts for Jane and the results.
We had an amazing weekend in Norfolk, walked the glorious Holkham beach and toured the beautiful gardens at Sandringham, such wonderful weather that weekend ,we were very lucky!
I am off to Greenwich Park tomorrow to see some Olympics!!So we are having some fun time before Billy starts his second round of treatment on Monday,hopeing for calm waters and peaceful sailing.
love to everyone aboard and healing thoughts
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Aug 12 - 05:41 PM

glad to hear you had a great weekend.i've just had a few days at winchelsea with assorted weather but a good break.cycling in beautiful countryside and playing a couple of acoustic nights among other things.
prayed that round 2 goes well for billy-
and for peace for nigel and ann as they wait for janes next set of scans ,and glad janes health remains stable.
God bless pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Aug 12 - 06:54 AM

Thank you very much, Wendy & Pete. You've both mentioned places I haven't visited in years & brought back some happy memories. Ann & I will also be spending a day at the Olympics. We managed to get tickets for a day at the Paralympics in September.
       Felt happy & slightly depressed yesterday. Received my notification from the Pensions people, so now I know what my State Pension will be worth.....extra money in the bank (Happy)...fast approaching sixty-fifth birthday (Slightly depressed!)
       Holding you both in our thoughts,
                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Aug 12 - 07:26 AM

Sixty-fifth? Oh, to be so young again... : )
Are the years measured in metric system there ?
Can't see far for the fog on the Martha's Vineyard side of the deck this morning, but that will probably clear before long.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Aug 12 - 05:37 AM

Dean, the image you conjure up of Martha's Vineyard shrouded in fog is so evocative...can't get it out of my mind. It's even pushed the Olympic images into second place! Not sure what you mean by: "Are the years measured in metric system there ?" Can you explain a little more please?
          Jane is well enough to take a holiday, so she & her Family have flown off to Turkey for a couple of weeks. Ann & I remain glued to the TV, watching the Olympics. For the first time, Team GB are actually winning some medals!
         With Love,
                        Nigel & Ann.
                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Aug 12 - 06:20 AM

""Are the years measured in metric system there ?" Can you explain a little more please?"

I assume he alludes to some conversion factor from Imperial. Glad to hear about Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Aug 12 - 09:52 PM

I always love it when the Olympics host country wins.

I am glad that Jane is well enough to travel to Turkey. I hope she and her family enjoy their trip. I am sure that you will be glad to welcome them back when they return.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 05:01 AM

I posted the following on FB yesterday. I'm reposting it here in the hopes it might stimulate a more informed debate!
       " I've been enjoying watching The Olympics on TV very much & rejoice in the ongoing successes of Team GB, but I've just had a look at the Olympic Creed: "The most important thing in the Olympic Games is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle. The essential thing is not to have conquered but to have fought well." We seem to have moved far, far away from those noble thoughts."

         I had a text from Jane in Turkey...she's doing just fine.
         With Love,
                        Nigel & Ann
                        xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 06:36 AM

Morning Nigel,

Must agree with you about the Olympic spirit, however we had a brilliant time at Greenwich watching the dressage,and everyone was cheering all the riders from all the countries and all the competitors were supporting each other so maybe the spirit of the Games is still there but the TV pundits are not portraying it very well? Must say well done to all the volunteers who are the most happy smiley people I have ever seen!Hope you and Ann enjoy your day at the Paralympics, it will be a great day out.

Billy had his second day of treatment on Monday and now on the chemo tablets till Friday and so far he says he feels good, so fingers crossed.

I do hope Jane and family have a wonderful holiday,
Thought I might make a pot of coffee, anyone like to join me,
Wendy x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 11:48 AM

Coffee for me, tea for Ann please Wendy! Very pleased to hear that Billy's treatment is going well. Some of our friends are volunteers at the Olympics. From what they've told us, they've had the best of times too. Ann & I spent a day at the Greece Olympics in 2004...the volunteers there were fabulous too...they helped in so many ways & as you say, their smiles were permanently etched on their faces!
                                                    No sugar for either of us, thanks,
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 12:52 PM

I am speechless my dear friend, I will be praying lighting candles and anything else I can do ...

I am so so sorry

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 01:50 PM

I misread the order of the thread ... I am sorry and glad things are going better

Old timer's disease kicking in I guess for me

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 01:57 PM

a big sigh of relief, I thought a relapse happened. I am glad I am just a clutz and started reading in the wrong order ..

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 02:03 PM

The news is beyond good. YEAH!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 08 Aug 12 - 02:03 PM

Dan my friend; that's what happens when a certain favorite 'Catter insists on jumping out of airplanes without telling his wife!

Hey, y'all- I'm not posting very much these days (working very hard), but I am following along and keeping everyone in my thoughts and prayers.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 06:55 AM

Jane continues to enjoy her holiday...plenty of sun, sea, sand & r&r.
       Rather selfishly, I'm more concerned at the moment with my own health. I was diagnosed with Polymyalgia Rheumatica some years back now & combined with the more recent diagnosis of Diabetes, it transpires the chance of me having a stroke or heart attack has been increased by a significant factor. I've just had a 24 hr. ECG (wired up to a portable mini-computer), this to be followed soon by an Echocardiogram. To be perfectly frank, I feel quite scared. I know this is counterproductive, but it's a very difficult emotion to get control of.
             Much Love to You all,
                                              Nigel ( My beloved Ann's here of course, but this post feels very singular & personal) xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 07:53 AM

it is scary, but we are all here (she sez. speaking for the whole crew)

No doubt someone will be able to relate to the 2 conditions on their own or combined, but I don't have any personal experience of either so I can't offer any advice.

love & hugs to you (& Jane & Ann)

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 09:45 AM

Thanks for responding so quickly, Sandra,
                                                                Much Love,
                                                                                 Nigel.
                                                                                 xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 11:43 AM

Sent you an e-mail, Nigel. Hang tough.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 12:37 PM

Of course you are scared! It might help to focus on being glad the risk has been identified and you are being monitored and evaluated to figure out what needs to happen to reduce the risk. Continued good thoughts to you and yours.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 01:27 PM

Hot tea is all I can advise beyond well wishes.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Aug 12 - 10:58 PM

I don't like the sound of that (the chances of you having a stroke or heart attack increasing significantly). I have decided that you will be one of those people who beat the odds. Also, as you learn to manage your diabetes (I don't like the expression "control your diabetes"), your odds will improve, I hope.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Aug 12 - 03:58 AM

Thank you all, my Dear Friends. As ever, you're there...you write something that reassures me & touches me deep inside, especially the hot tea gnu! Where would us Brits be without our hot tea? I'm probably worrying unnecessarily; it's more likely my GP being thorough. Ann & I changed our GP about eighteen months ago (previous bloke spent more time looking at his computer screen than listening to us) & our new, Lady Doctor is superb. She listens, she takes an obvious, active interest in our health issues & doesn't make us feel that she wants us out the door in five minutes, tops! Plus which, we can write to her via email.
      Jane returns from her holiday next week & goes straight into hospital the same day for her next set of scans...she likes to fill her day! The results will be available in just a day or two.
      Bruce, your email received, read & re-read...reply on it's way just as soon as I finish here.
      Reading your posts & replying has made me feel a little easier about things...the ultimate 'silent conversation' (Isn't that part of a lyric by Paul Simon?...or was it 'dangling conversation?)
                     With Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Aug 12 - 09:04 AM

reaching out & sharing a problem/thought/fear is good, especially when so many wise & caring folks are in your life.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 13 Aug 12 - 10:29 AM

my first mouthful of hot tea in the mormninmg is one of the delights of my life. Nigel, I hope it's the same for you.
Best thoughts to you and yours as always and, as my deAAR old dad used to say 'Keep b-----ing in, son'.
CHARLIE.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 13 Aug 12 - 10:32 AM

ME SHIFT KEY HAS JUST BOUGHT THE FARM.
ATB AGAIN TO YOU, NIGEL, ANN AND JANE

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 08:11 AM

sorry to hear of your compounded health problems nigel.wishing you peace and stability.

my belated birhday bash is on sat at horse and groom,wilmington ,kent.
dont suppose any of you live close enough but if perchance you do it will be nice to put faces to unseen friends!.
God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 08:46 AM

Pete, will you be at a racetrack or a bar? Either way, I wish I could be there, but it just isn't to be. I hope you have a wonderful day at either the horse show or the pub. :-) And once again, happy birthday.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 10:13 AM

Yes, Charlie, first cup of the day is always the best.
Sandra, I'm surrounded by love, wisdom & experience, here on MC. It doesn't matter which way I fall, there's always someone there to 'catch' me.
Pete, I wish you the best of all possible belated, birthday bashes. Thank you for your good wishes.
Bruce, If I could afford it, I'd send you the air fare & we could all meet up at The Horse & Groom & help Pete celebrate in style...perhaps a little Music thrown in for good measure!
            With Love,
                           Nigel & Ann.
                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 10:16 AM

Thank you, Nigel. Hey, man, we'll be there in spirit.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 05:31 PM

Feeling alone --
the army's up the road
salvation a la mode and
a cup of tea.
Aqualung my friend --
don't you start away uneasy
you poor old sod, you see, it's only me.

Not everyone's cup of tea. Da dee da dee da deeeeeeeeee da dee dee da da da deeeeee... er some such.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 08:18 PM

Nigel...been there. Echo is a piece of cake...nothing invasive, only a tad uncomfortable. You are/will be fine. Just remember to breathe now and then.

Sending you all lots of love, light, and life,

In Peace Profound,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Aug 12 - 09:25 PM

I haven't checked in with a post for awhile but I couldn't be happier with the way things are going for everyone......except Nigel. So let me post and ramble a bit.

Initially, you have reason to be scared. There have been so many studies done and knowledge accumulated over the years that they now are able to see and tell us how interactions of conditions often fit together and how things that used to be unnoticed are now linked. Now while that makes it scary when you have these things, it also makes them more readily dealt with by the medicos. And since you know you have them you can also do "right" things to help yourself.

I don't know how to phrase this exactly, but let me tell how "bad" I am. Ii 1997 I had 4 arteries virtually completely blocked and got a super rush job on a quad by-pass. Coming out of that surgery I had an atrial arrhythmia which couldn't seem to be treatable with drugs.   After 6 months of being very ill I had a mapping and laser ablation which made some significant difference but I still had the atrial fib which I have lived with since (14 years). I soon also began feeling tired and then about 6 months after I came to Mudcat (1998) in May of '99 I became extremely sick quickly and was life flighted out to a large hospital in Columbus. I had a dissected aorta which is what killed John Ritter. Mine was about an inch shorter so failed to reach into the heart. Getting out of the hospital weeks later, on the very day I came home, I went back.....bleeding internally somehow from a bleed they couldn't readily find. Turned out to be a carcinogenic small bowel tumor which had ruptured becasue of the stress my body had been under. They removed about a foot of small bowel. In 2001 I still felt pretty lousy at times and found my mitral valve was leaking. Had a new one put in in June 2001 and things got better.

All of this had weakened my immune system so that over the next 6 years I was hospitalized about once a year for infections or multiple infections which could also ruin the new heart valve. Obviously I also had mild emphysema and congenital heart failure. Breathing became even more labored at one point and I spent two separate bouts in the hospital getting that sorted out where it also became obvious after a stress test and echocardiogram that my refraction rate (heart function) had dropped below 30 (55+ is normal) and put me at even greater rish for Ventricular Tachycardia which will drop you in your tracks. So we put in an ICD (Internal Cardio Defibrillator) which will zap my heart to try to put it back in rhythm.

There's more, but I'm tired of typing. Now if you were to meet me on the street and go have a cup of coffee (or tea for you) and we'd talk and such, if you didn't know any of this you wouldn't know it by looking at me or hanging around. I look pretty decent for a 63 year old even though my charts read as though I should be bedridden and get around well and all of that. As they found more and more they also had new things and techniques to help me. For my part, I have some bad days but most are pretty good and I try not to review the above litany (and more) except to say, "Damn ain't I lucky to be alive," and enjoy every moment with Karen and the boys.....and my friends both in 3D and here.

They'll do some tests on you and do some things for you or to you to help you live a little longer. I feel bad because I know I won't live as long as I would like to but we kinda' got to accept that one......and that is the hardest part. I love my life, whatever it is and I don't want to leave it! But what the hell.....it was never going to last forever anyway. So I'll make damn sure every day I get I enjoy to the max!!!

But you knew all of that.....You're a good man Nigel. You'll be right as rain after the initial fear passes no matter what's going on. Truth.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Aug 12 - 06:46 AM

Spaw, I don't know where to start. That you should have had to endure all (and more) of the above beggars belief. That you have retained a positive, optimistic outlook on life is nothing short of miraculous. Your 'Litany', as you describe it, is also testament to the human body's ability to go catastrophically wrong & yet, with appropriate interventions, it gathers itself & the next phase of one's life begins. What you've written is not a 'ramble', it's a vividly personal account of one Man's triumph over adversity, written with honesty & openness & a candour of rare quality. 'Inspirational' is a word I reserve for very special occasions. Your post is truly Inspirational. I am deeply moved that you have involved me so intimately with your fears, your struggle & pain & your cry from the rooftops: "Damn ain't I lucky to be alive".
       Kat, Gnu, Bruce, Spaw, my life is enriched by the ways you have chosen to live your lives.
       With Love & Gratitude,
                                          Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 15 Aug 12 - 07:58 AM

so sorry that now its you who are unwell Nigel,but you have been so supportive and careing of all of us, now it is your turn to be cosseted and pampered!I am glad your new GP is a proper family Dr, do you remember the good old days when the Dr knew all about you, your parents and grand parents,the GP who helped me into the world also was there for the birth of my mother!They knew all the history of past illnesses and certainly looked you in the eye ( no computer to distract from the person)We have been very lucky as our GP is a family friend and noticed when Billy first was ill that he "wasnt his usual self".
If you feel the need of some bracing sea air we are not far from you at Frinton on Sea, would love to make you and Ann a cup of tea at the beach hut!
Healing thoughts and love
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Aug 12 - 08:49 AM

Thanks for your kind words Nigel........and if you can I would certainly take Wenndy up on the tea! I know I would if I were there. This thread has taken on a life sort of like the long running "Mother Of All Threads" but for a far different reason.   Meetings in 3D of people in this group would indeed be sort of extra special.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Aug 12 - 06:39 PM

Spaw's post is inspiring point blank. And, something stood out for me... "There have been so many studies done and knowledge accumulated over the years that they now are able to see and tell us how interactions of conditions often fit together and how things that used to be unnoticed are now linked. Now while that makes it scary when you have these things, it also makes them more readily dealt with by the medicos. And since you know you have them you can also do "right" things to help yourself."

Why? Well, because I have had a bad few months and I saw a doc yesterday ("walk-in-clinic" doc as mine is on holiday) who told me some stuff about my "stuff". A few things she said (English lass as it were) triggered me and I went surfing. Well SOB! I put things together and I am gonna beat on my doc when he gets off holidays! It's bloody obvious that he should have been checking for certain things.

Right... back to reality. I can nudge my doc to consider some things as long as I don't tell him I diagnosed myself based on web surfing. BUT, the web has certainly opened my eyes. It is a great source of info and I suggest to any and all that they consult the internut. Of course, ya gotta take it all with a grain of sea salt... >;-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 18 Aug 12 - 09:11 PM

This thread has been so supportive it just continues ti impress me. Gnu, I'd like another report and a little about what on with you. PLUS, I could use some updates from everyone else.

In the meantime, just a bit of humor. Do you all know Lonesome EJ? He's a great guy and we've been friends here since we both showed up back in '98. We used to do some "Mudcat Real Time Story Writing." There was a period where we had one going all the time and I always wrote well with Leej and I playing off each other. If you're bored sometime, read this thread, The Mudcat Juke Joint.

A few weeks ago he smashed his hand and I completely missed the thread. Lots of folks had posted but when I read it I saw I was "expected." Spaw also has this reputation he has to keep. So being Leej (Lonesome EJ) I couldn't just say get better, so I posted some scatalogical stuff that took the thread off "elsewhere" for awhile. Leej is also one of the funniest guys on the 'Cat and when he came back he posted this......cover your keyboard and don't drink anything......here ya' go:

shit. See? My left hand inadvertently hit the submit key before I could complete my sentence.
I wish some of you could see what a pathetic shadow of my former ambidextrous lifestyle I am currently bumbling through, and maybe I could get some fucking mudcat mojo up in this bitch instead of a load of comments about my ass and polishing turds. I don't know why everybody else starts a "mudcat mojo" thread and gets sincere well wishes and prayers and invocations to the Great Spirit and such goings on, and I get turd polishing jokes.

I laughed and laughed.....beautiful phrasing. So I decided he did need some healing Mojo so he got this:

*********************************************************************************************

You DO need some real Mojo Leej.......Let me take this laptop into the john and I will send the following chant which I shall repeat 7 times. This powerful prayer chant was transcribed by Lord Windesmear in 1921 after a prayer vigil with Joseph Pujol the French flatulist, aka Le Petomane.

They were about 45 minutes into this session with the god Creppita when Pujol began speaking in tongues repeating the chant I will post below. When it was over, both passed gas and lit matches in the great god's honor. They also noted that many aches and pains they had each been suffering were gone! Over the years they developed this healing technique and it is what I will now do for you.

More importantly, I will pass on the procedure so you can do it yourself. First you must be comfortably seated on the can. Then light a match and say, "I seek your favor Great Creppita." Repeat til the match burns out. I need to warn you here not to use one of those fireplace matches as I did once. By the time it burned out my left leg had gone to sleep and I fell off the crapper.

When the match is out, repeat this chant 7 times:

Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
Booda loop, booda loop, poit-poit, fflllluuuubbb, BBBRRRAAAAWWWWMMMPPP
ZZZZIIIZZZZZ FLEEP

Now fart after the 7th time and if you can smell it over the burnt match, your prayer will be answered.

I will offer the prayer for your healing. You need to do this as well or it may not work as well. Good Luck Leej.

**************************************************************************************************

He says now he tried it but has no eyebrows.....................


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Aug 12 - 03:37 AM

Spaw, a veritable 'Tour de Force'! I wish I had your gift for humour...skilfully crafted, elegant scatological prose with flights of imagination that would have put the Monty Python team out of business!
       As for updates, there's not much to tell from a very hot East London. I'm still waiting for the results of my first ECG. I'm slowly but surely getting this Diabetes thing whipped into shape. Learning a lot about the GL Diet (sometimes referred to as the GI Diet).
       I haven't written anything new for weeks...my 'muse' has deserted me & I have part-composed pieces that really do need finishing.
       Jane returns home later this week & goes straight back to hospital for her next scan. I'm hoping to be able to write something positive about that by the end of the week.
       In conclusion, echoing Spaw's words, how are you all doing?
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 19 Aug 12 - 09:15 PM

Thanks for your update, Nigel. A number of friends are paddling alongside.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 19 Aug 12 - 09:23 PM

Yo, Nigel. This part of "you all" is doin' ok. Please give my regards to Jane. Anyone can be 'brave' for short periods of time. It's much more difficult to extend that over months (or years), but she's doin' it. And that's one place the rubber really hits the road

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Aug 12 - 11:44 PM

Nigel, the GI diet is a good way of living - it's not a "diet"

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Aug 12 - 12:23 PM

Yes, I agree Sandra. I don't view GI (GL) as a 'diet', it's what I now eat each day, so it constitutes my diet (if you see what I mean!) As you say: It's a good way of living.
Courage Bruce, yes it certainly is about courage. The changes Jane has gone through since January regarding courage have been nothing short of amazing. Sometimes, Ann & I find it hard to keep up! It's our courage that's brought more into question these days.
Maeve, if you're paddling alongside, throw us a line & come aboard...don't work harder, work smarter!
            With Love (from a hot, humid London)
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 20 Aug 12 - 01:41 PM

We're here, too, just paddling along and admiring the view. Just so you know.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Aug 12 - 04:30 PM

I don't paddle but I do keep an eye out.

Hoping things go well all round...

g

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Aug 12 - 10:48 PM

Drifting along in what i hope will be peacefull repose tonight with sweet dreams of you all.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 06:43 AM

went paddling in the sea yesterday with the grandaughters,joyful! A lovely sea breeze is what you need Nigel, its hot and humid at night here but the warm breeze off the sea is wonderful! maybe I can try and send some inland to East London to cool you both down?
Billy is doing really well and no nasty side effects so looking positive towards treatment three at the start os September.
Healing thoughts to you and hope Jane has good results this week!
and love to Ann
Wendy x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 11:04 AM

So good to hear from so many of you. I really needed that. There are days/weeks when everything overwhelms me & I can't see the wood for the trees...been a bit like that recently.
       Wendy, I think Ann & I might like to take you up on your offer of a cuppa by the sea. I don't know Frinton all that well, but I spent many childhood holidays on the beautiful beaches of Walton on the Naze. I'll PM you & perhaps we can arrange something. It's also very good news that Billy is responding so well to his treatment.
      Thanks & Love to All.
      Keep your hand on the tiller & your eye on the horizon,
                                                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 11:08 AM

"It's also very good news that Billy is responding so well to his treatment."

Absolutely wonderful news. I'm happy for you and your son, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 11:28 AM

Sittin' in the crows nest, keeping a thoughtful eye on you all.
                   Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 12:50 PM

I appreciate the updates and even moreso when the news is good. My best thoughts for continuing with a smoooth sail..............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 03:26 PM

and I've had enough of scraping barnacles - they scrape back! - so now I'm mending sails and knitting new fishing nets while lurking and keeping an eye open for paddlers and bits of green stuff falling out of the crow's nest and thinking positive thoughts for you/us, everybody.
Love to all - great crew this! - best of the best.
rum xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Aug 12 - 05:46 PM

"and I've had enough of scraping barnacles..."

Bruce is in that bad a shape?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Aug 12 - 07:05 AM

Lovely, funny, friendly posts to read this morning. Awoke feeling melancholy, not depressed, but very reflective with the following words running around in my head:

"The first school I attended is not there anymore,
But I'm still here.
The shop my Father bought my first guitar from is not there anymore,
But I'm still here.
My Parents are not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My Dearest Friend & Music Collaborator is not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My first Wife is not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My Teacher Training College is not there anymore,
But I'm still here.
Many Friends & Colleagues are not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
My greatest Musical Influences are not here anymore,
But I'm still here.
I'm still here to live my life with Ann, my loving, caring Wife.
A life enriched by Friends afar who steer a ship by yonder star.
I know not when my life will end, but when it does, my Love I'll send
To all of You who've cared for me, true Friends for all eternity."

             With Love to You All,
                                           Nigel.
                                           xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 22 Aug 12 - 07:08 AM

Lovely, perceptive words, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 Aug 12 - 08:22 AM

Perfect Nigel. Absolutely and beautifully perfect.............

Thank you


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 22 Aug 12 - 04:49 PM

Eternal words. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Aug 12 - 10:00 PM

Nice! And I'm still sailing along!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Aug 12 - 11:53 PM

crying softly at the perfect beauty and perception of your words.

Remember we get back what we reflect. I think you have been a very bright Light for a lot of folks and deserve every bit of good and friendship.

Thank you for sharing so much with us.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 23 Aug 12 - 06:07 AM

Beautiful words,
thank you Nigel,
Its a lovely sunny morning here, funny how everyone has a smile when the sun is out!Happy day to all the crew
Wendy x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Aug 12 - 07:12 AM

I've just got off the phone after talking to Jane. Her test results confirm that nothing has changed...her condition remains stable, 'in stasis'. The cancer has not spread & where it had spread to is now referred to as 'minimal'. She also had a complete health check: bloods, BP, cardio etc, etc...all good & normal. Her Oncologist is very pleased with her progress. She continues with the drugs trial...the Doctors monitor & Jane lives her life with a renewed vigour. The best news we could have hoped for.
         Good News, second edition; we also heard from our eldest Granddaughter this morning that she has passed her GCSE exams with a stunning set of results...10 passes at 'A*' plus one 'A'. VPG: Very Proud Grandparents! All in all, 23rd August has turned out to be quite a day, (actually, just the morning...what does the afternoon hold?)
               With Love to You All,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Aug 12 - 11:35 AM

Nigel, are those the standard academic achievement exams there? Required for secondary school graduation? Whichever, the young lady most certainly "done real good"!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Aug 12 - 12:10 PM

I love to hear/read good news. YAHOO.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Aug 12 - 02:19 PM

glad to hear the good news of janes condition remaiing stable and congratulations on grandaughters GCSEs.
God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Aug 12 - 05:45 AM

Thank you all, once again. Yesterday certainly was a good news day.

Dean, the GCSE examinations are taken at age 16. Our Granddaughter will now go on to study for her 'A' (Advanced) Levels for the next two years, after which she will leave school & go on to University. School Students in England may leave school at age 16 if they choose, but most elect to stay on for a further two years. There are an increasing number of vocational courses in addition to the traditional, academic pathways.

The only 'fly in the ointment' yesterday were my ECG results. There are 'anomalies' which require further investigation. So, Echocardiogram on 3rd. Sept, followed by a referral to a Cardiologist. My GP assures me there doesn't appear to be a major problem, she just wants to dot all the 'is' & cross all the 'tees'. I find her reassurance reassuring!
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann
                                     xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 24 Aug 12 - 06:47 AM

Wonderful news about Jane Nigel, and congratulations on your clever grandaughters results!
There always has to be a fly in the ointment I s'pose, but your GP sounds very up to date and its better to check these things out before they become a problem.Will be thinking of you on September the 3rd and sending positive thoughts!
The Clacton Airshow is on here so may pop down to the beach and watch the Red Arrows and the fantastic Battle of Britain Flight! Picnic time I think
Wendy x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Aug 12 - 10:08 AM

she just wants to dot all the 'is' & cross all the 'tees'. -

definitely a very good Doctor, you're lucky to have her keeping an eye on you.

& lots of good news in your last few posts

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Aug 12 - 06:49 PM

Good news for your daughter and granddaughter. Whatever the afternoon of the 23rd held, I hope it was good, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Aug 12 - 07:03 PM

Chiming in with another *Big Smile*

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 24 Aug 12 - 08:17 PM

LOVE the good news and hope the other news turns out okay.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 25 Aug 12 - 04:27 PM

Huzzah !! many rtimes.
Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Aug 12 - 05:50 AM

The afternoon of 23rd turned out to be one of those unexpected, serendipity moments. Here it is in a specially edited format: Bought Ann a 'good' (i.e. v. expensive!) watch several years ago...it needs repairing...visit jeweller who quotes £400.00...visit second jeweller who quotes £120.00...revisit first jeweller full of righteous indignation, but see the manager who just happens to be a watch specialist...manager inspects watch carefully & announces: "I can repair that myself now"...he disappears into their workshop at the back of the shop & reappears five minutes later with one, lookingasgoodasnew, watch...total cost: £0.00!
         Rounded off the day rather nicely! Mind you, there is probably one member of staff at the original jewellers whose next appraisal is not going to go too well!
         With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Aug 12 - 06:18 PM

Smiles!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Aug 12 - 07:38 PM

more smiles

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Aug 12 - 08:49 PM

Smiles indeed.

For the record and for those it may aid in future:

I recently took two "talking watches" which I purchased from CNIB to a master watch and jeweller's shop. After a LOT of messing around by THREE people, including "the master" who was called to the shop by cell phone in this emergency, it was too much. I left but gave my phone number at leaving as they were "researching." I recorded the telephone message... "...your watches have only one battery each and if the watch isn't working properly it cannot be fixed and must be replaced."

Now, anyone with even a small brian would... nevermind... I went to another shop and they replaced both batteries in each watch in ten minutes and charged me about what would have been the same. I have two talking watches and three spare "in a pinch" batteries... and the address of a good watch guy.

So, talking watches got two batteries, no matter what someone who wants to sell you a watch says. >;-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Sep 12 - 04:58 PM

we been in devon for a week at a picture post card cottage that was'nt what it was cracked up to be, and in fact should have had a warning that it is unsafe for kids and disabled.so if anyone is tempted to book bear shola at upper ottery be warned.it is in a lovely part of the country however and we had a good time out and about.
at a petrol stn almost home i broke my ignition key.thankfully car still started and yesterday i went to vauxhall garage who were unable to fix it without the code[and would have charged a lot and took days if they did]but did suggest the locksmith across the road.sure enough he patiently extracted the end of the key and furnished me with a new one for £25.smiles and relief here too!
blessings everyone   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Sep 12 - 01:20 PM

Good smiles indeed. Nothing new to report from the bridge.
Yesterday, Ann & I spent the day at the Paralympics, a wonderful & unforgettable experience. I felt compelled to write some lines in an attempt to pull together some very mixed emotions. I published this on FB yesterday, but hopefully it will get a wider audience here.

                                        'Talk' by Nigel Paterson © 2012



DonÕt talk to me of transfer fees, injured knees, teams that squeeze
The most from ÔdivingÕ to the ground, advantage seeking sometimes found.
DonÕt talk to me of sky-high wages, sordid pages, petty rages.
Managers whose jobs change weekly, sometimes leaving not so meekly.
DonÕt talk to me of bulging egos, where the tax goes, who the hell knows.
Referees whoÕre not impartial, should there be a new Ôfield marshallÕ?
DonÕt talk to me of lifestyle choices, angry voices, flash Rolls-Royces.
Players rolling on the ground, ÔmiraculouslyÕ, no injuryÕs found.
          ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀
Talk to me of years spent training, when itÕs raining, bodyÕs paining.
Sacrificing loved ones, home life, husband, girl-friend, partner, new wife.
Talk to me of body defects, illness infects, teams that expect
Everyone to pull their weight for Country, Family & Mate.
Talk to me of limbless swimmers, palsied winners, young beginners.
Athletes whoÕve inspired a Nation, disregarding birthÕs creation.
Talk to me of Super Human, super Man & super Woman
Talk to me, your eyes aÕglisten,
Eventually the World will listen.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 05 Sep 12 - 01:45 PM

It is a thoughtful and positive piece, Nigel. On my computer all of the single quotation marks read as an odd gobbledegook, so here it is transformed to what you thought you posted!
*********************************************

'Talk' by Nigel Paterson © 2012

Don't talk to me of transfer fees, injured knees, teams that squeeze
The most from 'diving' to the ground, advantage seeking sometimes found.
Don't talk to me of sky-high wages, sordid pages, petty rages.
Managers whose jobs change weekly, sometimes leaving not so meekly.
Don't talk to me of bulging egos, where the tax goes, who the hell knows.
Referees who're not impartial, should there be a new 'field marshall'?
Don't talk to me of lifestyle choices, angry voices, flash Rolls-Royces.
Players rolling on the ground, 'miraculously', no injury's found.
          ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀
Talk to me of years spent training, when it's raining, body's paining.
Sacrificing loved ones, home life, husband, girl-friend, partner, new wife.
Talk to me of body defects, illness infects, teams that expect
Everyone to pull their weight for Country, Family & Mate.
Talk to me of limbless swimmers, palsied winners, young beginners.
Athletes who've inspired a Nation, disregarding birth's creation.
Talk to me of Super Human, super Man & super Woman
Talk to me, your eyes a'glisten,
Eventually the World will listen.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Sep 12 - 02:33 PM

Beautiful........simply and yet eloquently beautiful..........May I send it to a Special Ed. Physical Apps teacher who coaches Special Olympics? Joan is a good friend and I will caution her regarding copyright.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Sep 12 - 03:54 PM

Wonderful, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 05 Sep 12 - 05:00 PM

Nigel
that is so beautiful, wonderful words.How amazing to have been there, I wondered if I could get last minute tickets ,they are releasing them every morning. Billy and I have been watching every evening and think these games have been more meaningful than the Olympics! Truly inspirational people!

Billy had treatment three this week, halfway there!So far a little weary but apart from that no adverse effects! I trust Jane is still feeling well and that you and Ann are doing well! That cup of tea is on its way, I will pm you about the dates you gave me,(maybe the 30th?) just seeing how Billy gets on this week!

With love to the crew
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Sep 12 - 02:49 AM

Please feel free to share 'Talk' with anyone you choose. Just respect my copyright & include my name.
       Ann & I have watched most of the Paralympics on TV, but it's only when you actually go that it really hits you. One of the most joyous & moving experiences of our lives.
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Sep 12 - 06:20 AM

I'm so pleased that my poem, 'Talk', struck a chord (no pun intended!) I've written short poems ever since I learned how to write. Usually just for Family, something to put inside a birthday or anniversary card, certainly not for public consumption. As an adult, I've discovered that poetry helps me express some of my deeper thoughts & feelings in ways that prose just can't match. Finding the courage to share some of the poems publicly was something I agonised over for months! I don't consider myself to be a 'Poet', I just enjoy (and sometimes need to), write poetry. What puzzles me is that I can't write a decent song lyric to save my life! What I have learned is that Lyrics & Poems, whilst sharing many similarities, are not the same thing at all. Thank you all for your generous praise. That you liked 'Talk' or it moved you, or you wanted to pass it on, leaves me feeling that writing it was time well-spent.
       Wendy, very glad to hear that Billy's treatment is progressing well. Our 'cuppa date' on 30th is still looking good from our end.
       Jane has had some of her drugs' treatment stopped, it being deemed unnecessary any more...that always feels like progress has been made. She remains on a closely monitored program, but the gaps between the tests & scans are gradually being extended...another sign of progress. In January of this year, we were practically planning her funeral. So much has changed in eight months.
      Hoist the Mainsail!
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 07 Sep 12 - 08:29 AM

It's good to read your update, Nigel. Worlds of change for you, yes indeed!

As for "Lyrics & Poems, whilst sharing many similarities, are not the same thing at all"; I agree, yet I also suspect that some of your poems might well be "convertible" to excellent lyrics in the hands of a trusted fellow songwriter. Worth some thought, perhaps. It can be daunting to hand off your poem-child (over which you've lovingly labored/laboured.) It's also a delight when you find someone with whom you can collaborate to make a song.

Sail on!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Sep 12 - 09:14 AM

it certainly is the sort of update that encourages.

i was a poet before being a songwriter.the snippet i posted awhiles back became a song-my first,i think.i just set it to a medium fast 12 bar.i was a complete non singer at the time.i must admit some surprise that you have,nt done something set to song.be that as it may;you certainly compensate by some impressive instrumental music.
bessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Sep 12 - 02:29 PM

Wendy and Nigel... >:-D

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Sep 12 - 07:59 PM

What gnu said!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Sep 12 - 05:56 AM

The one person with whom I could've collaborated, writing songs, died from a brain tumour eight years ago.Almost certainly, one of the most talented & successful composers of film & TV Music of whom you've never heard. His name was Ian Hughes. I played guitar for him on many recording sessions, from simple demos for aspiring 'stars' to full-blown orchestral scores destined for the silver screen or TV. We did write one song together (I'm sure I've mentioned this in an earlier post). It was for the Eurovision Song Contest, but didn't make the cut. I still have our original, 'work in progress' cassette, but nothing on which to play it!
      Pete, it surprises me too! But I think I probably work better when I keep Poetry & Instrumental Music as separate entities. In truth, they both satisfy different needs within me.
      Maeve, you're so right. Handing over my 'poem-child' to the safe keeping of a, another would be something like taking a young son or daughter to their first day at school & letting them go in at the gates.
      It's beautifully warm & sunny here in London & the forecast is set fair for Sunday too, which is the best possible news because it's Jane's Birthday. It will be lovely if we can eat, drink & mingle, 'alfresco'.
      So good to read your comments...so good to feel you near.
      Wishing you all a sunny weekend too,
      With Love,
                     Nigel & Ann.
                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Sep 12 - 04:56 PM

Happy birthday to Jane!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 12 - 05:02 PM

Happies atchya Jane!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Sep 12 - 08:16 AM

Jane's birthday could not have been a happier day. The sun shone; we DID get to eat & drink alfresco. Cakes were cut, candles were blown out, brief speeches of thanks attempted, slightly hampered by tears. Fortunately, she has a large garden, because the number of people dropping by to wish her well must have topped sixty at least. A truly wonderful day for so many reasons. I would have loved for all of you to have been there.
                      Thank you for your Good Wishes,
                      With Love,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Sep 12 - 11:34 AM

a perfect day.

wishing you all many more

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 12 Sep 12 - 11:59 AM

Another Virgo. Best wishes, Nigel. Hello to Ann and Jane also.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Sep 12 - 09:35 PM

"I would have loved for all of you to have been there."

I would have loved to have been there! My guess is that I'm not the only one here who feels that way!

I'm glad Jane's birthday was happy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 13 Sep 12 - 03:27 PM

So glad Jane had a very Happy Birthday, the sun shone and it was a beautiful day here too, so belated Birthday greetings from Billy and me xxx
Its our grandaughter Bunny's 6th birthday this weekend, and I am making cupcakes for the 30 children in her class who are invited to her party this weekend! Goodness how times have changed, a childrens entertainer has been booked( a young man aged 5 has said he has seen him before and he is rubbish!!)The Church hall booked, balloons and streamers, party plates and goody bags purchased! The stress of it all for the mummy and daddy! My memories of my seventh Birthday, a table of six little friends in grandma's garden, jam sandwiches, victoria sandwich cake and home made lemonade, lovely!!

love to you and Ann ,Nigel

Wendy x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Sep 12 - 03:43 PM

Yas made me smile, Nigel and Wendy. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Sep 12 - 01:04 PM

methinks that kids birthday parties is the new growth industry!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Sep 12 - 02:28 PM

Such good news......I hate to bring a downer but I wonder if you all might hold a thought for another Mudcatter that many of you know. Mrrzy has been around the 'Cat for a long time, a Village regular. Some of you maight be aware that she lost her Mom recently, a holocaust survivor. What you might not know is that Mrrzy lost her father in the Lebanon embassy bombing in 1979.

On top of her Mom's death we now have the middle east exploding with the deaths of embassy personnel. Its hard to go through the anniversay of her Dad's death for her I know but to have this happening has got to bring back unwanted memories.

Hold a good thought for her. I sent her a note and you may or may not wish to do the same. She hasn't posted since the 8th.

Many thanks all you good people!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Sep 12 - 05:15 AM

A very timely & much needed post Spaw. Thank you for bringing Mrrzy's situation to our attention. Ann & I will be writing to her immediately.
                With Love to you all,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Sep 12 - 06:37 AM

Thanks, Spaw. It must be difficult.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Sep 12 - 10:37 AM

Thanks, Spaw. She's been on my mind since this happened.

Nigel, thanks for asking in the other thread. I'll post more later today, but, yes, things are better!

luvya'llkat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 07:11 AM

In addition to being retired, I am, as of today, officially an O.A.P (as per UK legislation). Feel free to come up with some suggestions as to what O.A.P might stand for but remember, I do have my sensitive side!
                                  Love to All,
                                                    Nigel.
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 07:25 AM

an Olde Pharte? which is what I became in February when I got my Seniors Card earlier this year.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 08:40 AM

Happy Birthday Nigel (and olddude and 999).
Personally, I think you're all
ONE-OFF ADMIRABLE PERSONALITIES
Love and hugs to y'all.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 10:47 AM

Thanks, Rum & Sandra. The spelling of 'Olde Pharte' is particularly appropriate when you take into account the historical side of my early days in Folk Music. And 'One-off Admirable Personalities'...well, I feel I hardly deserve such grandeur, but will, nevertheless, accept it most graciously.
       Ann & I are off out this evening to sample the delights of a very good, local, Chinese Restaurant. Got to keep my eye on the carbs & added sugar, but I'm not expecting that to spoil my evening one jot!
       Much Love to you all,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 02:50 PM

likewise a happy birthday and blessings on you.

i have previously expressed my sympathy to mrrzy on her own thread.
certainly a very painful time on top of past horror.
pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 09:28 PM

Happy birthday, and I'm sure you'll find good use for your pension!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 09:51 PM

Happy Birthday, Nigel. Lang may your lum reek.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Bobert
Date: 17 Sep 12 - 09:56 PM

Happy B-Day, Nigel...

Hope it has been a good 'un....

B~

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 22 Sep 12 - 05:30 AM

Hope your Birthday was a Happy and contented day Nigel,
It has taken me a week to get over the shock of the Birthday party for Bunny our Grandaughter!Goodness my respect for teachers has gone up 100%!!Do all little boys just "run"? Maybe the disco was the wrong move to start the afternoon, also the balloons loose on the floor, well it started everything with a bang!!As for the tea, what a mixture , everything on one plate savoury,cupcakes, sausages,chiocolate! Oh well I guess it all goes down the same way.
Magic Marvo lived up to his name, Magic and marvolous, he had control of the children from the start, Bunny made a wonderful assistant and was very shocked that she has magic "blow" and could mend the rope that was cut in half just by closing her eyes and blowing on it.
Maybe giving the boys balloon swords was a mistake but the party was over by then and Magic Marvo probably thought the mothers would go home and not say yes to the millionth cup of tea that i was making for the helpers!!
A good time was had by all the children, but mummy and I needed a Gin and Tonic before bedtime!Happoy days
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Sep 12 - 06:04 AM

Thank you all for your Birthday Wishes. Have been unwell this week...unable to rehearse much for the 'Big Gig' tonight. I'll write at more length after the weekend, assuming I survive the concert! Just to add to the pressure, it's being filmed for the BBC...hastily inventing new ways of 'faking' my Mandolin playing!
                                                Much Love to All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 Sep 12 - 10:32 AM

I'm sorry to have missed the birthday wishes but here's one just a tad late!

What I can wish you is feeling better and doing well at the "Big Gig" tonight. May the muses of times past and future bless your mandolin and allow it to sing regardless of how you feel.

We all love you Nigel!



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Sep 12 - 10:34 AM

I'll second that!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 22 Sep 12 - 03:55 PM

Third... break a leg, eh?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Sep 12 - 02:10 PM

Thanks everyone, the gig & the filming all went off with very few hitches, at least none the audience were aware of! I'll write at more length by the end of the week...totally weekend-lagged!!
            Much Love,
                            Nigel & Ann.
                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 24 Sep 12 - 07:05 PM

WTG Nigel. Get some rest. It's always darkest when the sun's gone down and the lights are off.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 25 Sep 12 - 06:53 PM

need some healing thoughts for Billy tonight,he is in Colchester Hospital with a fever, chest infection due to being neutropenic ( sorry if spelling is wrong) three weeks since his chemo and we were feeling quite positive.But he came home this afternoon feeling really umwell.
We also look after my mother who is 89 and has dementia, she came to live with us when my father died eighteen months ago,so I had to leave her with a neighbour while I drove Billy to the hospital.
Spent five hours at the hospital and have just got home,need to clone myself so I can be in both places at once!!
rant over,so glad the concert went well at The House Nigel, will look forward to seeing you on the Beeb.
love to all
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Sep 12 - 07:06 PM

Wendy, you certainly have those thoughts coming. It does seem lotsa times that, when it rains, it's half a dozen of the other. : )

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 25 Sep 12 - 07:29 PM

Wendy - my thoughts, prayers and all the positive feelings I can muster your way and beyond xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Sep 12 - 08:00 PM

What froggy and rum said. Ts&Ps, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Sep 12 - 09:07 PM

I cannot imagine what you are going through, Wendy. Thoughts and prayers for both of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Sep 12 - 10:36 PM

Wendy, add my healing thoughts and prayers to all the others. I'm sorry to read about Billy's setback and hope his condition improves quickly.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Sep 12 - 03:00 AM

Thanks each, had a funny old night, thunder and lightning and teaming rain, couldnt sleep so landed up in Mudchat at two in the morning sharing a crazy conversation with leadfingers!
The sun is out this morning with beautiful blue skies,and I woke mum up with a cup of tea and was rewarded with a beautiful smile!onward and upward
I phoned Billy to see if he had a good night.He was in the sisters bad books because he had piled up blankets because he felt cold,she pointed out it was because he had a fever and left him with just a sheet!
sailing on...............
much love
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Sep 12 - 05:30 AM

You're amazing Wendy......Hang in......LOL.....Like you have a choice!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Sep 12 - 06:05 AM

phone call from Billy, " In here till Friday! Bring me ipod please!" hope the nurses like The Jersey Boys, he will sing along!! :-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Sep 12 - 05:33 PM

sounds like he,s "turned a corner"prayer offered for continued recovery.   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Sep 12 - 07:03 PM

I think it is time to thank Nigel for starting this wonderful thread! Thank you for bringing so many people together in harmony,for the love and friendship, the care and love that has been holding us all as one.Nigel and Ann we have never met but you have made a family(or crew)that in times of stress have given us so much support.I hope you are feeling better today Nigel and that the weekend gave you as much joy as you have given us.
with love to you and Ann and all your family,and all the crew as we sail away,
much love
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 28 Sep 12 - 03:34 AM

Nigel, we have not heard from you all week, I do hope this means you have been resting and are feeling better ,it sounda like the concert went very well, but as you were unwell during the week before it must have been very stressful!It is a beautiful sunny morning here at the coast so I am sending sunny thoughts to London :-)

Billy is still in hospital, unlikely to be home before Monday, he is very weak and feels faint if he gets out of bed,but the staff at Colchester General are wonderful, I cannot praise them enough! They get so many people finding fault, all I can say is even after a twelve hour shift(and often longer) the nurses are still smiling and incredibly kind. Sounds selfish but I feel less worried when he is being so well looked after, I feel useless when he is unwell at home!

One good thing coming out of this is Mother seems to have switched on! Not saying the dementia is improoved but she seems to be aware that I am having a bad time and is less withdrawn and asks if she can help in any way!! Every cloud has a silver lining!!

Sailing on

much love Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Sep 12 - 06:33 AM

Apologies to everyone for my silence. After last weekend's gig, Ann & I travelled down to a remote part of South-West England for a few days R&R...no internet...no mobile phone service, that type of remote! Much to read since I last posted & clearly it is Wendy & Billy who are most in need of our Love & Support.
      One of the great strengths of this thread is the shared ownership. It doesn't matter if me or anyone else can't post for a few days, there are always plenty of other crew members on deck, ready, willing & able to keep us on course. I'm very grateful for Wendy's thanks, but as I've said before, I view the thread as 'ours', rather than 'mine', so I want to thank Wendy too.
      And to all of you aboard The Rainbow, my heartfelt thanks for your loyalty; for your love & care; your selflessness when you too have had more than enough with which to contend. You are a rare & precious group with whom to sail through Life's stormy waters.
    With Love to you All,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 29 Sep 12 - 09:22 AM

No need to apologise for safe havens together. I wish the same for us all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Sep 12 - 01:45 PM

"rare & precious"

Aw shucks...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Sep 12 - 01:47 PM

After I hit submit I wondered if that will translate okay. I understand a few words and saying don't. >;-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 01 Oct 12 - 02:20 PM

Billy came home an hour ago, had a cup of proper tea( his words and he is American?) and a power shower in "his" bathroom!! Lovely phone call from his sister in New Jersey to welcome him home,so this drama over for now!!
Thank you to all the crew who have been so kind and helped me get through a horrid week. So now I am ready to be here for all of you!
sailing on
much love
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Oct 12 - 07:45 AM

Very pleased to hear from you Wendy. Billy clearly is on the mend if he's asking for a "proper cup of tea"! The intimate relationship between us Brits & our Tea is a phenomenon not fully understood or appreciated beyond these shores (-;
      So here's to no more horrid weeks; cheers!
                                                                      With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 03 Oct 12 - 02:40 PM

Great news, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 04 Oct 12 - 03:31 AM

Going to see Billy's Consultant today, fingers crossed x
A nice sunset cruise this evening might be nice!
Sailing on
much love
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 04 Oct 12 - 03:33 AM

I'm just checking in. In a word, is everyone doing OK?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Oct 12 - 05:58 AM

I'm doing ok, thanks Bruce, despite the fact that Ann is in Charlotte NC for three weeks, visiting our other Daughter. I actually quite enjoy doing the household chores 'solo'. I take my time & bit by bit, the washing & the cleaning gets done, maybe not quite to Ann's exacting standards, but they get done...eventually!
      Still smarting a little following a less than complimentary review of our performance at our 'Big Gig'. However, a few dedicated 'Halliard' fans rose to our defence to redress the balance. The one thing that the reviewer can't despoil is our songs. With a little luck & a fair wind, they'll outlive his sarcasm, him & probably the rest of us too!
      Always good to hear from you...how are things with you?
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & (absent) Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 04 Oct 12 - 05:20 PM

"With a little luck & a fair wind, they'll outlive his sarcasm"

If I have them somewhere, I'll dig up two reviews from the same performance. One was a rave and the other was a bomb. That was the last time I read reviews--about 40 years ago. I'll send via email if I can find them.

Y'all had a good time and that's what matters most--well, that and your fans had a great time. Doesn't get better than that, regardless what a review says.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Oct 12 - 02:16 AM

Bruce, the reviewer missed the point of the evening entirely. It was a celebration of Nic's award, his musical journey, his enduring legacy & the fact that he is out there, performing again for the first time since 1982! How do you best celebrate...you surround yourself with Family & Dearest Friends, many of whom just happen to be Musicians. 'The Halliard', with whom Nic began his career, was just one part of the genius that was & still is, Nic Jones. It wasn't a concert that lent itself to conventional review. It was a unique, intimate & very affectionate tribute to a singer/guitarist who has triumphed over almost insurmountable odds. Did we have a good time?....YES INDEED! A night to savour; a night to remember for a lifetime.
            With Love,
                           Nigel (Ann says Hi from NC)
                           xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Oct 12 - 10:44 AM

A quick update about Jane. All is well, nothing has changed, her drugs' program continues, along with it's regular monitoring. She is living her life much as she did before her diagnosis, but she has had to scale down her activities, both domestic & social. She does get tired more quickly & she simply has to put the brakes on & rest.
                     Much Love to you All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann in Charlotte NC
                                                    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Oct 12 - 11:41 AM

resting is always good.

love to you & family

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Oct 12 - 07:15 AM

Good updates as well, Sandra.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Oct 12 - 07:29 AM

definitely good updates

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Oct 12 - 06:29 PM

been away for the week.glad to read encouraging health reports.
blessings   pete'

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 08 Oct 12 - 05:14 AM

all looking good here, lots of love to Jane Nigel xx
sailing on
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Oct 12 - 02:16 AM

Thank you, everyone. As always, very good to hear from you all. I've been spending more time over on Spaw's thread these last few days. Kat has posted some informative & encouraging updates, but I know nothing about his current situation. I'm putting my trust in his Doctors & making an uninformed assumption that he will make a complete recovery very soon. He has been a regular & most welcome contributor to this thread. His wit & humour uniquely intertwined with homely common sense throws light in some dark corners.
                Holding Spaw in our thoughts,
                                                             With Love,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Oct 12 - 07:22 AM

Been away for a few days in darkest Devon, catching up with some of my Music buddies from the 60s. Soo much to talk about. I lost count of the number of times one of us said: "Do you remember when.......?"
       I've come straight over from Spaw's thread where the news appears to be good & very positive. The Mudcat Mojo at work yet again!
       I hope everything is well with you all. Jane is fine; I'm fine (Diabetes finally stabilised); Ann is fine in NC, although I think Bumper (The Family Hound) is walking her legs off! She'll come home much fitter than when she left, or she'll be totally shattered!
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann (Temporarily residing in Charlotte)
                                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Oct 12 - 08:50 AM

I'm fine (Diabetes finally stabilised) - YAH!!

& a few other YAHs!! to Ann & Jane

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Oct 12 - 02:47 PM

Great news.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 15 Oct 12 - 02:50 PM

Really great news Nigel for you and Ann and Jane, hoping Spaw is also improving.

Billy had Chemo number four today and the research sister( he is on a trial) said the blood tests last week showed no sign of the CLL!! They are thrilled but we know it is early days, two more treatments to go and a bone marrow test three months later but fingers crossed for the future.So tea party at the beach hut in the spring I hope!

Thanks to all the crew for the love and support

sailing on

Wendy and Billy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Oct 12 - 07:03 PM

Oh, Wendy! That is GREAT news!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 15 Oct 12 - 09:01 PM

Great news, billybob. I'm very happy for you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Oct 12 - 11:19 PM

That is great news, Wendy and Billybob.

Nigel, it all sounds like goooood medicine!:-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Oct 12 - 01:02 AM

excellent news, Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 12 - 11:22 AM

That is indeed the best news, Wendy & Billy. Been waiting & hoping for something along those lines for some time now. Yes Kat, some gooood medicine working it's gentle magic.
       We also need some gooood medicine for Julia Jones, wife of Nic Jones. Their daughter, Helen, posted this on FB yesterday:

" Hi this is Helen, just to say that Mum (Julia) has fallen off a ladder and is in hospital and out of action for a while. She's broken her arm in two places and fractured her lumbar spine and pelvis. I think that's what they said."

That is one big OUCH!! Can we summon up the Mudcat Mojo for Julia, Please? I was with them last week for three days & Julia didn't go near a ladder....was it something I said?! (-;
                     Much Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Absent Annie (Home, middle of next week)
                                                      xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Oct 12 - 02:51 PM

"She's broken her arm in two places and fractured her lumbar spine and pelvis."

I have heard of "If yer gonna do something, go all the way." but that is just waaaay toooo much! Ouch? And just one? Not my word of choice. But I am of Irish decent (yeah, I know).

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Oct 12 - 04:57 PM

Oh dear, what a horrid accident, much love and healing thoughts go out to Julia. Mudcat Mojo works wonders as we know so well!

Thanks for your good wishes all,
sailing on
with love
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Oct 12 - 10:29 AM

With the exception of that last big ouch where I send my best as well, the news over her on the Rainbow Thread seems pretty upbeat ......and everyone deserves a well done!!!!

I want to thank all from this group who have posted here and elsewhere about me. I'm home and really have no idea what is happening or did happen or why or where we go from here. When I'm a bit more in the typing mode I'll give you a rundown but for now I'm in a holding pattern and also still a bit tired from the whole damn mess.

Let's all just stay on the higher roads for awhile and think the best for each other!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Oct 12 - 11:26 AM

Welcome Home; Welcome Back; WELCOME SPAW! Be you Thrice Welcomed. We really have missed your wit, wisdom & company. Beyond pleased to know you're back home. Plenty of R&R...post when you're ready & not a day sooner, ok?
      So good to hear from You in person,
                                                             With Love,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann (Coming home Sunday; 3 days earlier than planned)
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Oct 12 - 05:45 PM

Got Ann's return date totally wrong. She has to stay longer & won't be back until Sunday 28th. Thought I only had a couple of days to get the house straight. Turns out, I've got more than a week...even I can manage that!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann (eventually!)
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 18 Oct 12 - 06:02 PM

Spaw... "the higher roads"... that's what I have been doing, even when I take the low road. Learned it from you.

SO nice to read yer post. Get strong and get back. Missed ya, bud.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Oct 12 - 04:56 AM

Jane had her latest scan this week. Nothing has changed, the cancer remains 'in stasis' & her Doctors report being very pleased with her progress.
       Julia Jones is out of bed & being encouraged to walk, although this is proving very difficult initially. She has had an op. to insert pins in her wrist. It was not her arm that was fractured.
    In Spaw's returning post above, he refers to: "The Rainbow Thread". I'm wondering whether we are due for a name change, bearing in mind how the thread has metamorphosed since it's inception in January. Please let me know your views,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 19 Oct 12 - 05:44 AM

such good news Nigel,so pleased for Jane,and for you and Ann, I know how it feels to have worries about a child,20 years ago my daughter was diagnosed with Crohns and was terribly ill for some years, operations and many hospital stays, then six years ago she had "Bunny" followed closely by Prudence. We had been told that having babies could bring on a remission and since then she has been wonderfully well, no medication, no illness!!As a parent I am sure we all have the "why not me" moment,but the joy that we all feel watching our babies grow up into wonderful adults outweighs the worries.
Sending positive thoughts to Julia for a speedy recovery and so pleased that Spaw is back on board the Rainbow!
How about " The Rainbow Thread of Healing Thoughts" must be many mudcatters who need them but have not thought to visit here? Just a thought!

On a happy note , Billy and I are celebrating our Silver Wedding next week with a barn dance party, it is ages since I have sung with a band but I would like to sing a song for Billy , any ideas??

Sailing on

Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Oct 12 - 01:25 PM

glad to hear of continuing encouraging news.
congrats to wendy and billy.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Oct 12 - 04:38 PM

Wendy, has to be: 'Stand by your Man"
                                                         Nigel xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Oct 12 - 04:15 PM

Thamks Nigel :-)Love it!!
Wendy x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Oct 12 - 09:06 PM

Change the name? No. This thread is this thread. Yes, it is more than it started out to be. It grew because of all who read it, joined in, posted, monitored it for every single update and shared the down and the UP.

"Healing thoughts & prayers please"

You cannot change that.

We're all in this together... Red Green

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Oct 12 - 01:20 PM

It's about time I caught up on this thread. Let's see, while I was away Jane's condition has remained stable, Nigel's diabetes has become stable, Billybob has come home, Spaw has been in but is now out of the hospital, and Julia Jones has broken several body parts but will hopefully heal. Anything else I skimmed over to quickly? Love to all of you!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Oct 12 - 05:10 AM

Gnu, your impassioned plea has pushed my thinking into overdrive. And you know what? I think you're right, the Thread is the Thread. True, it has changed over the months for the very reasons you list. I've changed enormously over my 65 years, but I'm still called Nigel Paterson! So following the principle: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it", 'Healing Thoughts & Prayers' it shall remain.
          Good to hear from ChanteyLass. I think your summary just about covers where we're all at presently.
          I'm off now to MFR Studios to continue work on an unfinished piece 'In the Greek style',
          Much Love to You All,
                                           Nigel & Ann (Still in NC)
                                           xxxxxxxxxx


PS:   MFR aka My Front Room!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Oct 12 - 05:14 AM

I mentioned Julia Jones, wife of Nic Jones earlier & the horrible fall she sustained. The latest info. I have is that the poor lass will have to spend at least the next five weeks in hospital, immobile! She will not be able to move until the pelvic & lumbar fractures have healed. Wish she'd never gone near that perishing loft ladder!
         With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann (Home this coming Sunday)
                                        xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 24 Oct 12 - 05:40 AM

Healing thoughts to Julia,five weeks is a long time to be be immobile! Any address Nigel so we can send cards?
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 04:23 AM

Wendy, if you, or anyone else for that matter, would like to send get well messages to Julia, she can be emailed at: [e-mail]   Julia's daughter will print off the messages & take them to her Mum. This email address was placed in the public domain by Julia's daughter specifically for the purpose.

       Special thoughts for Jane today, more scan results due.

       Much Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Almost Home Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 11:00 AM

Jane's scan results were not what she was hoping for. Her Oncologist does not appear overly concerned, but 'activity' (Doctor's word) has been detected. Further scans & a review over the next couple of weeks. After so many months of 'stasis', this change comes as a very unwelcome visitor.
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 06:05 PM

Will hold Jane and you and Ann in our prayers Nigel,I hope that the scans over the next two weeks will bring you all peace of mind and that the Dr is just being very careful.I am mindful that having to wait is very stressful for you all.
with love from us both
Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 06:22 PM

amen to that.God bless. pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 06:30 PM

Rough to hear of Julia and upsetting to hear of Jane. With Julia, we know it's managable albeit damn rough. With Jane, it brings back that "unknowing" BUT it got turned around before and it will get turned around again. I know this may sound silly, but... I just know it will be okay.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 07:51 PM

I hope Jane stabilizes again soon. I guess it is good to know that her condition is being carefully monitored, but it must be hard to find out that there is a new concern. Sending more prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Oct 12 - 08:52 PM

Nigel, my apologies. I have not been keeping up because 'no news is good news'. Read and re-read Gnu's post. My deepest love to you and your family. It'll work out, buddy. Believe that.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 01:26 AM

I will be carrying your Love & Optimism around with me every waking minute of every day. I nearly always write in the singular, but Ann is here by my side through thick & thin; even when she's in NC!
       Jane & all of us have learned much since January about living with cancer. The positive mental attitude that that has engendered is something we all need to keep in the forefront of our minds.
       As always, you're all there, just when we need you, you dear, dear Friends.
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 02:42 AM

adding my love & optimism!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 05:51 AM

Jane sent me a long email yesterday & I thought a brief quotation from it would add something to our understanding of her current situation:
    "........the doctor was calm and not hurried or overly concerned. They are discussing my case next tuesday and together the lung team will decide on the best course for me."
       She's come such a long way since January. Ann & I are very proud of her.

       With Love to You All,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 12:31 PM

i guess sometimes positives can emerge from adversity.blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 08:19 PM

Nigel, just lots of hugs and love. Ann will be home Sunday? Thinking of you all,
Wendy and Billy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 10:17 PM

Still sending prayers!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Oct 12 - 11:42 PM

Will be pullin' on the oars a bit now, 'til we get a forecast for fair winds.
                   Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Oct 12 - 01:51 PM

Ann arrived home safely on Sunday. Had she been a day or two later, 'Sandy' would have enforced an even longer stay in Charlotte.
      
       How are all our American & Canadian Friends doing with this ghastly hurricane? Are you all safe & sound? The pictures we're seeing on the BBC news look pretty devastating with cleanup costs running into the billions. Do let us know that you're ok,
                      Much Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 30 Oct 12 - 01:56 PM

Welcome home to Ann!

Most of the 'Catters most affected by the storm system will not yet be able to contact us, so I'm trying to be patient. Here in Maine we have a fierce storm system with lightning, rain, hail, and thunder.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 30 Oct 12 - 01:59 PM

Welcome home Ann,
Bills sisters in New Jersey are all ok thankfully, been watching CNN all day, those poor people!
sending prayers
Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Oct 12 - 09:03 PM

I'm fine in RI and hope all other 'Catters are, too. I didn't even lose power, but over 116,000 people in this small state did. My son and his family are fine, too. They lost power which was restored within 24 hours. There are threads about the storm and its effects with a lot of info.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 03 Nov 12 - 08:50 PM

Just sending thoughts and prayers to Nigel and Ann,
No words from you since Ann got home.
Hope this means you are spending precious time together, but remember we are thinking of you and Jane
With much love
Wendy and Billy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Nov 12 - 04:42 AM

Apologies for my absence. Ann & I are becoming increasingly concerned about Jane's prognosis. She has a very important meeting this Thursday where 'the way forward' is to be discussed. She is scared; we are scared. It's beginning to feel like we've all been transported back to January.
                        Keep us in your thoughts,
                                                               With Love to You All,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 06 Nov 12 - 05:57 AM

Thinking of you Nigel, Ann and Jane,sending positive prayers for Thursday.
Much love Wendy and Billy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 06 Nov 12 - 03:45 PM

I hope the whole process repeats and good news abounds... for good. Keep the faith, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 06 Nov 12 - 04:20 PM

best wishes,hopes and prayers.pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 06 Nov 12 - 04:26 PM

Nigel, keep the faith. Please give my best regards to both Ann and Jane. Hold each other close and stay positive.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 05:04 AM

Heartfelt thanks to all of You, our Dear, Dear Friends. Ann is going with Jane to her consultation tomorrow...or was...Jane just phoned as I was typing this & the consultation has been cancelled in favour of a PET scan next week, so the waiting goes on.
       Stay Close,
                      Much Love to You All,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 08:37 AM

waiting with you

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 11:48 AM

Nigel,feeling so much for you all, cancellations and waiting are the hardest part!Billy and I have found the ups and downs rather like a roller coaster, last months chemo seemed to go well and the blood tests at ten days were great, then today the consultation with the consultant where we expected to say"still good so next treatment on Monday next" instead the neutrophil count was down so may have to put the treatment back!
Billy was very despondant on the way home ,umlike him.
So cup of tea and some uplifting music on the CD player and sailing onwards!
All our love to you, Ann and Jane,will keep thinking positive thoughts and prayers for you,
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 04:38 PM

Wendy, I'm still praying for Billybob, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 05:25 PM

thoughts and prayers for all of you encountering delays and uncertainties.

trees in november look sad and bare
branches are empty,leaves on the ground
foliage fallen,carpets the earth
scattered and drifting without a sound.

life can be hard,our hope falling down
sometime like trees,we desolate stand
forgetting that sap is still in the trunk
renewing hope by an unseen hand..

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 05:28 PM

Well said, Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 07 Nov 12 - 05:35 PM

Pete...just " Thank you"
Wendy xxx( was having a bad moment)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 07:31 AM

Jane's PET scan should be over by now (12:20 local). Results on Thursday.
       Thank you all for the recent postings. Beautiful poem, Pete...I think I favour poetry over prose when I need to express some of my deeper, more unsettling feelings.
       Special thoughts for Wendy & Billy...& for Kat.
                                  Stay Close,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 07:49 AM

You're never far from my thoughts, Nigel. In the parlance, hang tough.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 11:16 AM

Been sending you and yours my love and good wishes for healing for us all. I am doing better. Thanks, Nigel.

Pete, beautiful poem/message. Thank you for the reminder.

luvya'llkat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 11:44 AM

Time tp ost on this check-in. Wanted all to know I do read this thread religiously and continue to be inspired by it. Also to say that none of you are ever far from my thoughts. I too await news from Nigel and expect only the best.

As for me, I have a bone marrow biopsy and scan tomorrow which may or may not tell us what's going on with my enemia. I'm feeling pretty fair although I opted to come home at only 8.6 and should have gone for two more pints....LOL......


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 11:48 AM

Spaw I know partying with your vampire friends is a hoot but you should limit it to the holidays this year.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 04:39 PM

pausing to name before God those unwell and awaiting test results.
we look after a special needs boy called tommy who has myotonic dystrophy and is currently in hospital with pnemonia.this is always a worry with his condition but he,s "turned the corner" now hopefully but anyone with a prayer to spare-thanks
God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 06:07 PM

Pete, you got it, buddy. My email address is

irishancestry (at) gmail (dot) com

Write me if you can. I have an idea for Tommy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 06:16 PM

Nigel... all... be as well as you can be. Just got two bad rounds of bad news tonight about friends and relatives. I guess all one can do is say what I said... be as well as you can be.

Thanks for this thread, Nigel. Means a lot to a lot of Mudcatters.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 07:19 PM

Nigel, I'm still here full of hope for your daughter Jane. And for you, Spaw. Now for Pete's young friend Tommy. And Gnu, for your friends and relatives, too. I've got lots of hope for Mudcatters, their families, and their friends!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 13 Nov 12 - 07:41 PM

and I'm never that far away either - keeping everybody close in thoughts if not always immediate deeds. Hugs to all.
rum xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Nov 12 - 05:49 AM

I've said something similar before, but you are indeed a unique group of very special people. I often feel that the sum total of all our Life experiences would contain more than enough Wisdom & Knowledge to produce a 'Book of Life'. It would be a book that could answer all those questions that begin: "What can I do?...this has happened", & if not answer, then offer words of comfort & solace that renew one's hope.
       To everyone who has ever contributed to this thread, a heartfelt & sincere thank you; you have shone light into the darkest corners of my Life; brought me comfort when desperation seemed the only option; opened my mind to ways of thinking & being of which I was unaware, or maybe reluctant to adopt. The Thread remains an on-going experience that has become as much a part of my Life as breathing. It has become an ever-changing, ever evolving Constant. That sounds like a contradiction in terms, but I'm sure you understand what I mean.
       As I've also said before, I write in the singular, but Ann is always present, right by my side, so you can always substitute 'We' for 'I'. For all practical purposes, they are synonymous.
                   Much Love to You All,
                   Stay Close,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Nov 12 - 11:30 AM

Hoping so much for those good clinical results for Jane and others here. At the same time holding forth for peace and strength for all, however the chips may in fact fall.
                         Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 12 - 06:12 PM

"I write in the singular, but Ann is always present, right by my side, so you can always substitute 'We' for 'I'. For all practical purposes, they are synonymous."

To know you are not alone and have the love and support of Ann "always present"... that, in itself, is comforting to me. You are a lucky man and she ain't doin too bad needer, eh buddy b'y?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Nov 12 - 07:29 PM

That's an important point Nigel. I too am blessed with a best friend for a spouse. It is almost unimagineable that I would do anything of any sort without her. Even when either of us is at the doctor, the other is in the exam room most of the time. Our Docs don't mind and I don't think I'd go to any doctor who did.

Speaking of which, they did the bone marrow today and that wasn't too bad.....except for two periods of about 3 seconds each and one other of about 5 seconds that was a major "WHOA!!!" Serious discomfort but so short it really isn't a big deal unless you're some sort of wimp......like me. LOL.....Results in a few weeks.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 12 - 07:55 PM

Spaw... my fingers are crossed for you. Hmmm... there won't be any discomfort... I have fingers like a baby.

Explanation : my doc is from La Belle Province and he often says things translated from Quebec French that are lost on anyone who don't parlez... even those that talk Acadian French (and Shaques - local... VERY local). Gee, I still don't think I explained it, but I did laugh before he shoved his

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 15 Nov 12 - 03:46 AM

Thinking of you, Ann and Jane today Nigel. Praying the results are good XXXXXXX
Love and prayers for Spaw,Tommy and Gnu.

Will be thinking of you all all day as always

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Nov 12 - 03:36 PM

Wendy... for me? No need. Essentially, I just have a doc with small fingers... a blessing, actually. >;-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Nov 12 - 04:52 PM

thanks all.tommy did have a bit of a dip earlier but was doing much better this evening. pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Nov 12 - 05:07 PM

Very glad Pete.....good thoughts still coming!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Nov 12 - 05:41 PM

I hope it continues, pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 15 Nov 12 - 10:44 PM

Haven't looked in for a few weeks, caught up in what amount to petty concerns. The posts from the last three weeks give renewed perspective and lead me to better appreciation of just how petty many concerns in my own life that seem major from a small and short perspective really are.

To Nigel & Family, Wendy & Billybob, 'Spaw & Karen, and others I have surely missed naming in this hasty post: Even as I join my focused care and concern for you with that of others, I am also grateful for the gift of your sharing.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Nov 12 - 05:09 AM

Jane's PET scan results have turned out to be something of a mixed bag. The increase in 'activity' in her hip bones is confirmed, but the Doctors profess to be "Not overly concerned". Her current medication has been stopped & a new drug instigated immediately. The Oncologist is exploring the possibility of a 'rogue gene' being the initial cause of the cancer. If this turns out to be true, then Jane becomes an ideal patient for the new medication by virtue of her age, overall level of fitness & the fact that she has never smoked. The Doctors report an encouraging level of success with the new drug given the criteria I've just outlined. Jane remains very positive about her situation. She is determined that the cancer will not rule her life...she is living with it, not dying from it.
      We live in the hope that a 'rogue gene' will indeed be found. The results of that investigation won't be available just yet.
      There is a certain sense of optimism & hope within our Family that feels different from simply 'clutching at straws'.
       Holding all of You in our thoughts as You hold us,
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Nov 12 - 06:40 AM

" Mixed bag" Optimism and hope sounds good Nigel.Hope that the Oncologist finds the rogue gene and this new medication is successful.
I admire Jane's positive way of living with the cancer so much, she is indeed inspirational to us all,

Billy is on the last day of cycle five today and is working as usual,he has a very positive attitude and fingers crossed the trial he is on has very good chamces of remission.I must say how lucky we are in the care of our loved ones, the staff of our hospitals should be praised for their dedication and sympathetic reassurance.
How far cancer treatments have come in the last 20 years!

At the begining of this year, when you started this thread, we were strangers, the year has been full of ups and downs, good news and set backs, now the year is drawing to a close and I have new friends to share worries and highs with, once again "Thank you" Nigel for bringing us all together.

Thinking of you all and keeping you in our prayers

with love

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Nov 12 - 02:19 PM

Ditto Wendy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Nov 12 - 03:58 PM

a mixed bag but sounding more hopeful than negative.with a prayer that the best,most effective treatment is identified and effective.blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Nov 12 - 10:14 PM

What Pete said.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Nov 12 - 01:58 AM

me, too

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Nov 12 - 07:12 PM

tommy allowed home today on more antibiotics-doing well.thanks for the kind thoughts and prayers on his behalf.

bruce-i found you on you tube tonight.good stuff.even my wife said "thats quite nice" which is a very complimentary remark from becky!
blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 18 Nov 12 - 07:50 PM

Good to hear.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Nov 12 - 07:51 PM

Hooray for Tommy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Nov 12 - 07:23 AM

Pete, very pleased to hear the good news about Tommy (One of our Grandsons is named Thomas, which frequently morphs into Tommy, especially if Ann is around!)
       There won't be much in the way of updates regarding Jane for a few days; maybe even a week or two. The new medication takes a while to establish itself & then her Doctors can begin scanning again.
       Whilst Ann & I retain our trust in Jane's Doctors to create an appropriate treatment plan for her, it is noticeable how weary & worn we are all getting. The effort required to 'keep on, keeping on' doesn't get any easier. The spectre of cancer is always there, hovering in the shadows.
       Much Love to All of You, our Very Dear & Special Friends,
                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Nov 12 - 08:44 AM

i hope you manage to grab some rest and have more peace in the waiting.pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Nov 12 - 10:29 AM

ditto what Pete said.
             Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Nov 12 - 09:05 AM

xxxxx and hugs
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 21 Nov 12 - 02:42 AM

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Nov 12 - 05:19 AM

Wishing all our American Friends & our Daughter & Family in Charlotte NC, a very Happy, Peaceful & Joy-filled Thanksgiving,
                                    With Love,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Nov 12 - 06:04 PM

likewise,happy thanksgiving to american friends.my wife went to american friends for dinner and i have just consumed the contents of the doggy bag and am stuffed!.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Nov 12 - 06:24 PM

I too hope my American friends have had a great Thanksgiving.

More importantly, I wish my friends (both those I know and those I don't) posting to this thread are able to feel the love and embraces so freely offered and lovingly given by those who understand what they are going through. In the parlance, hang tough. Understand, when you hurt for those you love, we hurt for you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: olddude
Date: 22 Nov 12 - 10:00 PM

Love you all, I hope you all had a wonderful day ... I did, it was quiet but really nice

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 23 Nov 12 - 08:51 AM

We enjoyed Thanksgiving from afar in the UK by Skypeing Billys four sisters in New Jersey,wonderful to see all that food!!!!!

Billy's blood results were really good this week, onward and upward only one more chemotherapy to go on the 10th of December!So something to give thanks for!

sailing on with love to all the Rainbow Crew

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Nov 12 - 09:15 AM

amen!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Nov 12 - 11:27 PM

Glad to read it, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Nov 12 - 04:54 AM

So pleased to read your news, Wendy. As you say, onwards & upwards,
                      With Much Love to you both,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Nov 12 - 12:17 PM

Thought I better post since I said I would.....LOL......Plus the thread needed a "Refresh" as it has been a few days without news.

cLet's hear from some of the rest of you! I've been missing the updates. Of course there are times when there are none but I like the thread!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 30 Nov 12 - 06:50 PM

Good news, Wendy!

I'm with Spaw. I check this thread every day it's on the board. Often, I don't post. Can't really explain why. I figure it's obvious. Just me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 30 Nov 12 - 06:54 PM

Hi, everyone. Like gnu, I check this thread daily. Sometimes I send a PM; you're all always in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Nov 12 - 07:05 PM

Most of my post from above seems to be missing but its on the Catspaw thread as well so I'll transfer it back here. I put it in here first because this thread has been so important to many of us....

Regarding this thread and the anemia/breathing problem.................I had a bone marrow biopsy two weeks ago to see if there was a reason there for this anemia which is causing the breathing problem. As it turns out, there is!

I have some lazy-ass bone marrow which ain't keeping up with the needed supply. Mostly all the things we associate with Leukemia. At this point it ain't. The condition is called Myeloplastic Dysplasia Syndrome. The good news is that it is a pre-cancerous diagnosis and may or may not become Leukemia at some point in the future. The lesser news is that if it does it is a type that does not respond well to most of the known treatments.

We are starting weekly injections to stimulate the marrow which obviously needs a swift kick in the ass. We'll see how that goes first and move on from there. My hemoglobin and platelets are better than they were but still very low. I'm breathing better and doing better overall but I look forward to hopefully boost my red blood cell output with the shots. It will probably take awhile to see/feel the effect of those. Hopefully there will be some!!!

Biggest problem right now is the trip to Columbus (100 mile round trip) which will be weekly. My back has been bothering me since that 2 month stint in the hospital a couple of years back following the botched appendectomy. The trip gets uncomfortable for me plus it is another 100 miles on the car and the gas. So I need to get some more info then talk to the insurance folks about a closer location for the shots or home health care to do them.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 30 Nov 12 - 09:48 PM

My wife also had a bone marrow biopsy just a few days ago. She has tended to anemia for a long time, and has been testing a bit more so. We'll see the doc for results a couple of daya after we get home.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Nov 12 - 11:02 PM

I've already commented on Spaw's thread. Frogprince, my best wishes to your wife.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Dec 12 - 01:33 AM

& mine

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 Dec 12 - 09:55 AM

Keep us posted Froggy.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 02 Dec 12 - 05:02 AM

sending good healing thoughts Frogprince, those tests hurt,hope all goes well,
with love, Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 Dec 12 - 11:56 AM

me, too, Frogprince...lots of love and light

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 08:32 AM

Apologies for my absence. Ann & I have been away looking after two of our Grandchildren whilst Jane was taking a short break, prior to a biopsy at the end of this week. A lump has appeared on her lower back & for the first time since her initial diagnosis, she needs pain killers. The biopsy is not the problem (non-invasive ultrasound), it's the outcome that is weighing heavily on all our minds.
       Dean & Spaw, I've neglected you both...that bothers me; I'm sorry. But enormous thanks to all the other Rainbow Crew members who have rallied round...you are irreplaceable.
       We've just returned home; the larder is bare; we need to get to the shops pronto! I'll post again soon,
                With Much Love & Healing Thoughts,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 08:48 AM

Nigel and Ann,

so sorry to hear that Jane has more worries, will hold her in my prayers and hope this is just another hic cup and nothing serious.

Wish I lived a little closer, could have had a hot meal ready for you on your return and filled the larder!We will get together in the spring and hopefully have news of a good new year for everyone on this thread who has had health scares.

much love

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 12:25 PM

seems like uncertainties abound at present.best wishes to,and prayer for all concerned.   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 12:48 PM

I'm holding fast and holding you all close for what that's worth - love, hugs, thoughts and prayers a constant backdrop even if the scenery changes and other acts begin.
rum xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 12:51 PM

Sometimes words are hard to come by, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 01:29 PM

Bruce, my Dear Friend...yes, the right words are hard to come by. The photo you've published says everything that's needed & not a single word has been spoken.
                         Much Love to You Both,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Dec 12 - 10:29 PM

Redoubling my prayers for Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Dec 12 - 05:09 AM

sending more good wishes & love to you all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 04 Dec 12 - 05:28 AM

I agree with Nigel about our friend Bruce's link.........yeah......kinda' perfect.................I'll go with Bruce. This means I'll have to pick up the check I suppose?

Best thoughts to all........Wonderful thread..............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 04 Dec 12 - 08:17 AM

Nigel, re that posted picture; you never need apologize to us for having your heart and mind taken up with ine of your very own. Just now "The sun is shining, For me and my gal" on St.Martin.
             Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Dec 12 - 04:11 AM

You're so right, Dean, Ann & I are more than preoccupied with Jane's health. She has a prelim meeting tomorrow & then the biopsy on Friday. The tension in the air is palpable.
          Thank you for your kind words,
                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                         xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Dec 12 - 06:00 PM

I can only agree with all of you. Love to all. Glad to know every single one of you.

Nigel... hang tough.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Dec 12 - 08:08 PM

Remember to breathe.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Dec 12 - 04:37 AM

Breathing & Hanging Tough.....Breathing & Hanging Tough......Breathing & Hanging Tough. I should write this Mantra on dozens of stickies & festoon our house.
          To borrow Gnu's words: "Glad to know every single one of you".
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann.
                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Dec 12 - 05:34 AM

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Dec 12 - 08:19 AM

love & hugs from me, too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 06 Dec 12 - 06:16 PM

Nigel: you, Ann and Jane have the unmitigated love of everyone on this thread. Our hopes and hearts are with you all. Don't forget that, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri
Date: 06 Dec 12 - 07:13 PM

I'm still here too. Please assume I'm reading this and hoping for the best, although I usually don't have much to say.
I'm paying attention.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 04:33 AM

More than ever before, Ann & I need your Love, Thoughts, Prayers, Meditations; anything that might direct positive energy in Jane's direction. Suffice it to say, we are far more worried about her health today than we were three days ago.
          Please come closer; Please stay close,
                                        With Love to you All,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 05:28 AM

thinking of you

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 06:41 AM

We're here and you have all our best Nigel. I'm still offering that second "T" if you think it might help. Much Love to all.....

Spaw---aka, Pat Pat(t)erson.....Remove "t" if needed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 07:32 AM

I'm following this thread closely, Nigel and Ann (and everyone else); walking alongside as well as one can from a geographical distance.

You have the strength to handle old and new challenges, and the support to ease some of the emotional burden.

With warm respect and concern,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 01:50 PM

thinking of you in your worries. God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 02:48 PM

SEnding love,
Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Dec 12 - 08:03 PM

Aw, Nigel, like so many here, I'm still on it. Today I drove on a road I drive on occasionally and noticed the a side street was named Paterson St. with one t. I immediately thought of Jane, Ann, and you. I probably would have done so even if the street sign had said Patterson. My prayers continue.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Dec 12 - 06:55 AM

Next post is 1000.......And today there is more energy flowing to more people and the grand companionship created............wow.......Hoping for the best now for Jane but also thinking how much Jane has created and given to all of us.........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 08 Dec 12 - 07:50 AM

No words - just open heart.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 08 Dec 12 - 11:13 AM

Still here, nearer and nearer for love, compassion, and the sharing brought about by Jane's thread know no distance, no time, no barriers. You and your family have given us so much. May our sharing help you through this and whatever may come. I give thanks that Jane is healthy and whole. I give thanks for this, or something better, for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be!

With much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Dec 12 - 12:56 PM

Thoughts & prayers continue here as well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Dec 12 - 03:21 PM

Here with you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 05:16 AM

Ann & I spent most of yesterday with Jane. She stayed in bed. Seeing her lying there, in pain & listening to her voice that sounded frail & strangely child-like was a total anathema. She has devoted her adult life to her husband & her four, bright, energetic children, energy which she has repaid in spades...clubs, teams, parties, shopping, school trips...you know the drill. Jane has kept physically fit too, playing netball right up until two weeks before her initial diagnosis. The contrast between then & now is stark & frightening. We are pinning our hopes on her current distress being pharmacological rather than pathological. The latter we can barely begin to consider, let alone talk about.
       And You, our Dear Friends, are a great source of strength & comfort. The physical distances that separate us melted away months ago. Ann & I wish Life's Blessings for every single one of you.
       With Love from our Hearts to Yours,
                                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 07:06 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann,

sitting here at the other end of Essex and wishing to be nearer,hopeing so much that Jane's medication is the cause of her present debilitation.You have given all of us so much love on this thread,certainly your thoughtful comments have helped me over the past six months.Please know that all those positive words of kindness are sent back to you and multiplied!

May you all find strength and know that you are in our daily prayers and that Jane will soon be feeling much stronger again.

Wishing you both all the blessings that you have been sending to us.
with love
Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 07:58 AM

I love the word Hope. It embodies nothing but positive thoughts for any outcome and assures us that those who send it will always be there sending more. Hope isn't cheap and actually is all encompassing. I always feel this group here may send prayers or thoughts or whatever their personal belief empowers them to do, but the one thing everyone on this thread sends in virtually every message is Hope.

So I end this one simply sending my best Hope for Nigel and Ann and Jane and the entire family. Its a good thing.....Hope.

All human wisdom is contained in these two words, 'Wait and Hope."
― Alexandre Dumas


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 09:07 AM

Love and Hope - two of the best four letter words there are and Hugs.
Constantly.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 09:23 AM

Radiating positive vibes...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 11:30 AM

Love & Hope...clinging firmly to both. Interestingly, Jane managed to get up today & she has eaten solid food for the first time in four days. We are having to learn to recognise the positive & negative changes in her condition as 'micro events'. Tiny changes that bode ill or bode well. Additionally, we are all recognising that we are becoming emotionally exhausted. The proverbial 'Good Night's Sleep' is an effective panacea, but not always easy to achieve. So in between my last post & this, I can report positive movement, not forgetting the 'micro' caveat.
         A warm welcome to Frug. Your first post I think (Could be wrong). Hope it's the first of many.
         Thanks Bruce for the blissful email. You really have a way with words that go straight to the heart of the matter.
         To Kat, Rumanci, Spaw, Wendy: Love, Hugs & Kisses,
         With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 12:11 PM

That is wonderful, Nigel. You know, I think about you, Ann and Jane every single day, no kidding. It's strange. Sometimes I'll be playing guitar, washing dishes, trying to understand the logic of geese or staring into space, and boom, there y'all are.

I banged my foot into a chair leg a few days back. I kinda squinted my eyes, gritted my teeth and worked hard to avoid voicing a string of expletives mostly gathered from friends of my youth who had colourful vocabularies in English, French and Italian for just such occasions. Infinitely small potatoes in light of the concerns you carry and the courage you continue to show. Semper fidelis, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 12:57 PM

I'm still here, been here all along - more love and hope from Staffordshire. Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 04:23 PM

I wish I could hold Jane's hand, if that would provide any comfort.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 09 Dec 12 - 10:12 PM

Nigel, I don't go on Mudcat as much as I used to and rarely post, but I have been following this thread and adding my prayers to all the rest. I suspect that there are many who quietly wait and hope with you and your family from a distance.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 12:35 AM

sending the usual love & hugs, & hope

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 07:30 AM

I'm no doctor, but it would appear that Jane's problems over the past few days have been a pharmacological crisis, rather than pathological. We spoke on the phone this morning. Up until yesterday, she wasn't even able to pick up the phone, let alone make a call. Her voice was bright & strong; she's eating again & feels so much better. Jane was warned that the latest course of chemo would have unpleasant side effects that might last for a few days, but none of us imagined just how severe these would be. Looks like the Mudcat Mojo has worked it's magic once again.
      I'm so pleased too that 'Catters return to post...it's wonderful to hear from everyone of you.
      With Love,
                     A much less anxious Nigel & Ann.
                     xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 07:50 AM

brilliant news

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 12:09 PM

been very tied up last few days so when i began reading i felt a little of the pain that you had but was pleased to see a much brighter picture emerge.
love and prayers pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 02:04 PM

So pleased Nigel, that is heart warming news, those side effects can be horrid so to hear Jane is feeling much better today is wonderful!

Good news here too, Billy had his last Chemo treatment at the hospital today so four more days of chemo tablets to go this week and then fingers crossed for the tests in the New Year, however I can make you laugh I hope, I made a batch of gingerbread cupcakes to say thank you to the team at Colchester hospital,glammed up a bit as it is Christmas ,so was wearing silly shoes, slid on the corridor floor and landed up spread eagled, BUT I saved the cup cakes!! Think they will remember me?

Love and smiles,

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 08:21 PM

good save, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 08:37 PM

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas . . .

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 09:33 PM

I wish I had a magic want and could make heal everybody. Until I get one, you have my continued well-wishes. I'm very glad things are getting better!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 09:39 PM

DITTOS!

Made my day and I needed that! Great news all round.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 09:55 PM

Wait and hope with a lot of love and look what happens! Bumps in the road and we'll always be here......Happythoughts your way tonight Nigel. Very happy thoughts!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 10:49 PM

I'm glad Jane is starting to feel better and that Billy's completed his last round of hospital chemo. Wendy, ouch! Sorry about your fall, but glad the cupcakes survived!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Dec 12 - 11:31 PM

But the buns are all black and blue... : )

So glad to hear the positive stuff from all of ya.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 11 Dec 12 - 12:13 AM

I'm in the midst of my annual Holiday baking frenzy. Fresh apple cakes, pumpkin-cranberry-walnut bread, shortbread (a very plain and rich recipe, more biscuit than cookie (by USA definitions - not so sweet and a bit thicker than a typical cookie, shortbread or otherwise), blackstrap molasses cookies, savory roasted pecans, and who knows what else if I find time in this next week.

Virtual gifts of love to all of you from my virtual kitchen. Wish I could cross the street, knock on your doors in 3-D, and say, here is a little comfort food, seasoned with my gratitude to know you in the season for a little indulgence.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Dec 12 - 03:12 AM

Okay Rainbow Warriors!!! Let's all order up from Janie. I miss my Mom's homemade caramels at Christmas. How about you whip up a batch of those Janie???? Huh> Huh? Oh PLEEEEEEZE...............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Dec 12 - 05:55 PM

You are keen on a whippin... kinky, you.

Well... better than just a freeresh when the thred is one from falling off. Sue me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Dec 12 - 08:21 PM

Before a family member was found to have diabetes, I used my sister's recipe for cinnamon-sugar nuts sauteed in butter...pecans, walnuts, etc. omg they were good!!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Dec 12 - 11:01 AM

Very appropriate that we have some food related posts...Jane is eating normally & last night consumed a three course restaurant job! Her food intake is more than just a return to normality. She lost 4 kilos in weight last week; had that risen to 5, her Oncologist would've halted her treatment, so regaining the loss is uppermost in her mind. Next week the Dear Girl is going to have to endure five consecutive days of radiotherapy to zap the nasty critters that are invading her hip bones.
      Janie & Kat, I can barely keep from salivating on my laptop. Those recipes would prove to be temptation beyond endurance, even for a diabetic! (I have the will but no power!)
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Dec 12 - 11:32 AM

We just saw my wife's doc as followup to the bone marrow check. No sign of any problem with her bone marrow. Some of the batch of meds she currently needs may be pushing her toward anemia. She'll get some doses of intravenous iron over the next couple of weeks, perhaps followed by periodic shots to stimulate her marrow to a little more production. Not bad news at all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 12 Dec 12 - 06:45 PM

Whoop de doop good news Nigel and froggie, Billy doing well too!
I still have a sore behind after the cup cake incident but feel like dancing, what was that dance in the 20's? Was it the black bottom or the cake dance?
Dancing off............
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Dec 12 - 06:58 PM

Whoop de doop good news Nigel and froggie, Billy doing well too!

very nicely put, Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 12 Dec 12 - 11:03 PM

Thinga are lookin up. I hope up continues for all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Dec 12 - 11:27 PM

frogprince, i had three sessions of iv iron last summer. tell her to take along a good book or two. they cannot put it in too fast, so it took from 2.5-4 hrs.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Dec 12 - 07:03 PM

Hmmm; Kat, we're looking at 5 sessions, and they said just approx a half hour for each.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 04:56 AM

It warms my heart to read & feel the optimism in the most recent posts. Sadly, that optimism doesn't extend to the Paterson Household. It turns out that Jane's course of Radiotherapy is for palliative care only. In reality, we are in much the same position as we were in late January, early February. Jane's cancer is treatable but not curable. We are haunted by the thought that this could be her final Christmas. No one knows how much time she has left; no estimates, no futile guesses. The 'Day at a Time' approach is the only way to go, but it begins to feel that we are simply standing still, waiting for the inevitable. My thoughts & words are coloured too by the appalling, catastrophic Murder of the Innocents at Newtown, Connecticut. My American Friends, please help this ignorant Brit form a greater understanding as to why 'The Right To Bear Arms' is clung to so passionately by such a significantly large percentage of the American population.
       I'm sorry that this post is so gloomy on this bright, sunny, Sunday morning (at least here in East London).
                        Keep safe; stay close,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 06:21 AM

Nigel & Ann, please consider this to be simply in the fwiw department. During those times of standing still, try simply to soften around the pain so that you neither resist or nor cling, but accept. And in that moment of accepting what is in the moment, realize it is ok to accept all of that moment, not only the pain and anticipation of loss at some point in the future, but also the love, laughter, and delights for the senses that are there to be had in the same moment.   

And Nigel, don't worry in this thread about gun control in America. There are currently two threads, and many others that are archived where the debate on that issue, often rancorous, rages on.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 06:31 AM

normally i would be at church at this time but tommy has a bug so i stayed home.maybe that was in some way providential as i have just read and pondered your post ,nigel,and lifted my thoughts in empathetic prayer for you.
tommy has myotonic dystrophy and when we took him on we were told that he would not live long and we have had some close calls and all the time we know that humanly speaking he is deteriorating-but not as fast as expected.
we also have a friend who was expected to die 4/5 year ago but is at present in remission,i think.she has however recently had treatment abroad which family and friends have paid for.
i think you are probably right in expecting the inevitable and it is painful emotionally for all concerned and physically sometimes for jane.living in the present situation could be for quite some time yet,-though of course we can not forsee as you have said.
try not to let what will happen to all of us at some time steal the precious times and the potential times of joy in the now.
God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 07:13 AM

Dear Nigel, Ann, and Jane,

What we have is this minute, right now, polished with memories and hopes. That's all we ever have. All that changes is our response to events of life and death. Posted here with love to you, this is a reminder to "Take Joy" my husband and I have placed in our home:

"Fra Giovanni's "Letter to a Friend"
Here's a beautiful calligraphic version...click

"I salute you. I am your friend and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not got. But there is much, very much, that while I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven! No peace lies in the future which is not hidden in this present little instance. Take peace! The gloom of the world is but a shadow. Behind it, yet within our reach, is joy. Take joy! Life is so full of meaning and purpose, so full of beauty . . . that you will find earth but cloaks your heaven. Courage then to claim it, that is all! . . .

And so I greet you, with profound esteem and with the prayer that for you, now and forever, the day breaks and the shadows flee away."
                  ******************************
"Letter to a Friend" attributed to Fra Giovanni, 1513
~ Fra Giovanni Giocondo [c.1433-1515] was an early Italian Renaissance pioneer, architect, archaeologist, Franciscan friar, and classical scholar.

*Take Joy! is an excerpt from FRA GIOVANNI's, "Letter To A Friend: A Letter to the Most Illustrious the Contessina Allagia Dela Aldobrandeschi", Written Christmas Eve Anno Domini 1513. However, there is some debate: "The British Museum stated in 1970 that it had "proved impossible" to identify Fra Giovanni, the purported author of this letter. It is possible that it was published in the 1930s, "with Christmas Greetings" from Greville MacDonald, son of novelist George MacDonald, and Mary MacDonald".   [wikipedia]

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 07:21 AM

That is so beautiful and wise, maeve. Thanks for posting it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 12:29 PM

Janie, Pete, Maeve, you bring tears to my eyes; fill my heart full of love & once more restore my courage & strength to live in the moment. True Friends bringing thoughts & words redolent with truth & wisdom. I was particularly low this morning. My mood has lightened & the 'dark corners' don't seem quite so dark.
       Life's Blessings on All who meet here,
                                                                With Love,
                                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 03:36 PM

Dear Nigel and Ann.
If I don't post here all that much it doesn't mean that you and yours are not in my thoughts.
With the best possible regards and a wish that you have the best possible Christmas.
Charlie X

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Dec 12 - 07:25 PM

Sometimes I can do no better than the words of others and in this case I love what Janie and Maeve have given us. Nigel my friend, hold tight and hold on to each other and hope for the best possible outcome whenever that time arrives. You'll find us still here and still sending our best thoughts, love, and caring.

Much Love,

Pat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Dec 12 - 07:32 AM

everyone is saying what I wish I could find the words to say.

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Dec 12 - 06:19 AM

i trust renewed courage continues
blessings to all    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 18 Dec 12 - 09:23 AM

Just sending lots of love to all your family Nigel,
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Dec 12 - 10:31 PM

I have nothing to add, but I am still here and praying.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 06:47 AM

Maeve, the calligraphic version of 'Letter to a Friend' adds yet more beauty to already beautiful words. I rarely look back as far as the 16th century for comfort & inspiration. Clearly, I need to adjust my thinking!
       Thank you all for being with us; for sending your Love; for your prayers; your meditations; your positive thoughts. Jane had what could be termed an unplanned scan yesterday, with a promise from her Consultant that he would make the results available immediately. We are waiting for a phone call as I type. The last few days have been particularly tough for Jane. Extreme reactions to the chemo coupled with ineffective palliative care do not a happy person make.
       Our whole Family will be together for Christmas. It's the first occasion for several years that everyone's been in the UK at the same time. We cling to the hope that Jane will be well enough to enjoy this rare 'gathering of the Clans'.
       Sending Much Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 10:10 AM

sorry to hear that jane is having such a tough time of it at present-i hope it will level off and she will be at least sufficiently well to participate in the family gathering.
do you have any hospice at home in your area?we have ellenor-lions in our locality whose nurses call at home to moniter and assist in concert with other drs and agencies.tommys ellenor nurse is very helpful.i,m sure you are too far out for them but i,m sure they could advise of any other such in your area if needed.blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 10:47 AM

Hey, Nigel. Howzit? My thoughts are always with y'all, and one of them is "I wonder if he's (meaning you) been writing music?"

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 11:52 AM

Pete, have to answer your post with a pm.
Bruce, as always, good to hear from you. Yes, I've been busy 'scribbling' away! You can hear some of my efforts at: https://soundcloud.com/nigel-paterson-music.
       Pleased to report that Jane's Doctors have modified her pain control & whilst not pain-free, she is feeling more comfortable.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 02:32 PM

Glad to her it, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 05:05 PM

I'd like to add my support to Nigel, Ann and Jane, Billy and Wendy, and everyone else who may be undergoing treatment, or looking after someone who is. Patients and carers alike need support.

If I should wake on Christmas Day to find
All the power of nature mine to do with as I please,
I would not cease from labour until every anxious mind
Lay calm and every restless heart found ease.

With my best wishes,

Henry

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 07:30 PM

Thank you Henry. Welcome.

Let me a minute to refresh where I'm at. I've returned twice to the hospital for overnight stays, the last being a week ago After. the first shot nothing really happened and my hemoglobin actually went down when I had the blood work last Wednesday before the second shot. I went in to the hospital and got three additional pints. When I left, my hemoglobin was 9.3 and I felt much better.

Today I went for the third shot. From what I have read and heard from medical friends, Aranesp works reasonably quickly but in terms of bone marrow this means 2 to 6 weeks or so. I was hoping that I could at least maintain or maybe drop only a tenth or two. I awaited the bloodwork results and found I was at 9.8. My joy knew no bounds. We'll see where we are next week and what the Doc has to say and go from there but this was at least encouraging and I ain't felt too encouraged lately.

To all my fellow travellers aboard this thread...........Please keep posting. I think of you all and check in often. I think I'm going to leave a note more often though........even if I have nothing to say. Best thoughts to all and a request for Nigel to give Jane and Ann a "Spaw Hug" and I'll send him a really big hug to pass around. Matter of fact, ALL of you need to be considered as "Spaw Hugged!"


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 07:42 PM

watching & sending love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 08:55 PM

A Janiehug back at ya', Spaw!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 09:07 PM

Hugs, love, hope - holding fast here and feeling better for being Sp.a.whugged too! Backatcher all.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 10:58 PM

Nigel, I'm glad Jane's pain has been eased somewhat and hope even more can be done.

Spaw, hang in there!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 19 Dec 12 - 11:29 PM

It's late, so I'll post an update, tomorrow.Glad to hear the better news from you, Spaw and that Jane has some relief.

Henry, your poem is beautiful. thank you for sharing.

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Dec 12 - 08:11 AM

Henry, the poem is beautiful, lovely sentiments!
Spaw, thanks for the hugs,
Hugs all round from me!!

Billy and I went to a concert last night, first time out together for months, we saw The Mellstock Band,A Celebration of Christmas,readings from Thomas Hardy and Dickens, lovely singing of traditional songs and carols, we had a wonderful evening. They are at Cecil Sharp House on Saturday so do go if you are in London?

Love and hugs to all the crew,

Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Dec 12 - 01:55 PM

pleased to read of encouraging updates.
good one henry.    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Dec 12 - 02:21 PM

Yes indeed, Spaw, hang in there. Nobody wants to see AHEM! DECORUM GNU!

It's Friday, I have just aquired 5 lobsters weighing in at 7 pounds in total and I am having a shot myself. I dunno if it will help my hemogobblins but I'll just have to keep at it to find out.

OH! YES! Happy Winter everyone! And, on this festive occasion, God bless us all.

And I give special thanks to Him for $6 a pound (COOKED) lobster. I think I'll get cracking in short order.

Wish youse all were here. With yer own lobster, of course.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Dec 12 - 11:03 PM

I'll be away from home for about a week. I'll have only my smart phone. I'll be looking at Mudcat and thinking of everyone here but probably won't add comments.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Dec 12 - 07:09 AM

A Seasonal welcome to Henry P; Beautiful poem. You are officially a member of the Rainbow Crew!
       As we approach the end of what has been one of the toughest years for Ann & myself, I want to express my thanks & eternal gratitude to each & every one of you. Your posts have comforted, informed, amused & conveyed Love & Care above & beyond what one could ever reasonably expect from a fellow human being. You have become True & Trusted Friends on whom I rely & depend. Oblivious to your own health issues & problems, you've stood shoulder to shoulder with Ann & myself, strengthening our resolve, drying our tears & shining much needed light into those dark corners of our lives, into which one is so reluctant to look.
       For us, 2013 holds no 'miracle cure'. Jane's treatment continues. We progress through good days & bad; good weeks & bad. 'Treatable, but not Curable' has become something of a Damoclean Sword.
       Ann & I send you our Love. It is our fervent wish that the New Year brings to you all: Health, Happiness, Peace & Life's Blessings on your Family & Friends.
                              With Love & Gratitude,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 23 Dec 12 - 08:43 AM

I think this place and this thread have become the source for all that Nigel has said for ALL of us. Karen and I have gone through so much at times and been given such strength from Mudcat over the years that we realize the great benefit. The difference here is that this thread has become a wonderful collection of others willing to share in positive ways for each other and open to all who play that way. We refuse to allow each other to become negative if we possibly can.

Have the best of all this Holiday Season and allow the New Year to renew the power and the hope.

Much Love,

Pat and Karen Patterson

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Dec 12 - 11:58 AM

I agree, PatSpaw, and I have to admit, I feel a bit sheepish. I didn't write a usual holiday letter this year because I had a hard time thinking of positive things to write about. It has been a struggle and I haven't been able to do much, esp. on my own. I've become very dependent on Roger.

But reading Nigel's beautiful, poignant words, and your own, I realise I am always blessed because of Mudcat and my friends here and, of course, by my family, etc.

Thanks for the shining example of grace under pressure to Nigel, Ann, and family and to everyone else who has contributed to this thread.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 Dec 12 - 04:39 PM

kat... cool... thanks.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 23 Dec 12 - 08:46 PM

The title song for the latest Mudcat Seasonal CD. On the CD performed by Animaterra's Womens Chorus, and, I think, written by Animaterra.

Thank you Noreen and the other folks joining in.

What folk music is, really, and the power of just being folks aware of connection.

With gratitude to all, and wishing each and every one of you peace and joy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Dec 12 - 11:19 PM

this is an amazing thread where I get inspiration each time I open it.

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 07:48 AM

The lovely song to which Janie linked (Date: 23 Dec 12 - 08:46 PM) is "The Comfort of Singing Voices" written by Alouette Iselin and arranged by Animaterra. Bradfordian took a line from it for the title of the latest seasonal Mudcat cd, "Until the Dark Time Ends".

Nigel and crew- My words are sporadic and there's very little singing going on here, but all the thoughtful attention I have in me is yours.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 08:05 AM

no singing here, either I'm listening to the midnight news which means it's 12.04 on Christmas Day.

love & hugs to maeve & everyone on this thread.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 08:58 AM

wishing all a joyful christmas that takes the edge off from all the worries of lfe and peacefulness in your homes. God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 09:52 AM

I'll second that, pete. Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 01:46 PM

thanks maeve.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 02:41 PM

I have no words. I am just here. Thanks all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 24 Dec 12 - 03:50 PM

Pete said it all. Love to all.
Charlie and Ann Stenger.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 25 Dec 12 - 04:44 AM

Its Christmas morning here,

Wishing everyone on the Rainbow all the blessings of Christmas, a peaceful and precious New Year.

Thank you everyone for the being here,a difficalt year was made easier by your love and kind thoughts.

The sun is shining here in Frinton, may it shine on us all and bring in a happy day.

Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Dec 12 - 09:15 AM

Merry Christmas everyone.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Dec 12 - 06:23 AM

Janie, thank you so much for the link to: "The Comfort of Singing Voices". The final line of the chorus: "...when the dark time ends." goes right to the heart of the matter, particularly after Christmas Day spent with Jane, her Sister, their Families, Ann & myself. We were twelve in all. Jane managed to spend part of the day with us all, stretched out on a sofa, gifts at her feet, which, for the most part remained unopened. It was heartbreaking to see this dynamic, energetic young Lady brought so low. Our Grandchildren did their best to make merry with the giving & receiving of presents, but I found the juxtaposition of Jane's frailty & the Youngster's excitement almost too much to bear. Ann & I spoke very little during the drive home; we didn't need to, our thoughts were practically audible.
         Stay close, my Dear Friends. I have a feeling that Ann & I are going to need You more than ever in 2013. Your continuing Love & Support is beyond price. Take good care of Yourselves,
         Wishing You All a Happy, Healthy & Peaceful New Year,
                                                                                           Nigel & Ann
                                                                                           xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Dec 12 - 06:50 AM

no words, just love & hope

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Dec 12 - 12:37 PM

i hope that jane did derive some comfort and emotional strength from having family around her,even though she might have been exhausted by it too.
sometimes silence is more expressive than speech and a loving look ,more eloquent than words.
posted with a prayer    God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Dec 12 - 05:20 AM

Dear Pete, you've summed up our situation perfectly. Jane loved her house-full of Family & she was, all too quickly, exhausted & emotionally overwhelmed. The unspoken thought that this could be her last Christmas was palpable & I'm sure, added to her ultimate distress later in the day.
               I intended to mention in my previous post that it is a measure of the trust & respect that our Thread has increasingly engendered that some usernames have been 'sloughed off', enabling me to meet you, as it were, 'in the flesh'! Your right to privacy is yours & yours alone & I am touched & grateful that you have chosen to relinquish that right on my behalf.
                            With Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 27 Dec 12 - 05:55 PM

What sandra said... hang tough.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 02:19 PM

still here xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 08:00 PM

Nigel & Ann, my thoughts and hopes are with you!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 08:47 PM

I once held a priceless vase once--OK, priceless to me ($250,000-ish), no kidding. Was in New York and I was 17. It was some sort of Chinese dynasty thing. I tried to compare it to an Ode On a Grecian Urn and got lost. When we hold the lives of others we will feel our own degree of trust and confidence. When they hold our lives we become their children.

That stuff I wrote in my last email to you is true. This world has angels. Wouldn't be a world without them.

Please say hello to Jane for me. She has one seriously wonderful heart. And so too do you and Ann.

I think this may be the most important thread ever on the Mudcat site--no offense if you feel differently. The first time Pete wrote (that I saw) I laughed at his honest presentation of how he felt about God, the heavens and the universe. Later--about ten minutes--I felt the greatest sense of shame. Regardless my 'thoughts' of his thoughts, what the heck kind of person did I see myself as that I could have the arrogance to judge another person in that manner. Pete and I since have become friends.

Nigel, the honest baring of your soul has enabled so many of us to do the same. I meant what I said in my last email. It's as true as I can say things.

Bruce

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 06:44 AM

What I wrote on 12th January 2012 to start this thread was a 'cri de cœur', the personal outreaching of a scared & distressed couple, suddenly thrown into a medical maelstrom, at the centre of which was Jane, our eldest daughter. Everything seemed to happen so fast. A month before her diagnosis, Jane was playing Netball, swimming, taking the kids to school, cooking, cleaning, fulfilling the rôles of Wife & Mother with her customary energy & verve. The inexorable decline in her health over the ensuing months has to be one of Life's great cruelties; so unexpected; so persistent; so horribly immutable & defiant.
       The day before yesterday, Jane had to be admitted to hospital. Her treatment up to this point has always been administered as an Out Patient. At the moment & we are clinging to the fact that it remains a 'moment', she does need 24 hour care.
       Bruce says above that this thread: "..... may be the most important thread ever on the Mudcat site.....", & he goes on: ".... the honest baring of your soul has enabled so many of us to do the same." If our thread has engendered that depth of impact on peoples' lives, then we have created something of great, enduring value. I know how important this thread has become in our lives. Dear Friends, only you can assess it's importance in yours.
       The next 48 hours could well be the most critical for Jane yet.
       With Love & Eternal Gratitude,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 07:29 AM

I don't know if we are more grateful to have shared stories or to have shared yours or to have helped each other in more ways than I can count...........I do know and am absolutely sure that of the many threads which of this type that have run here over the years, none are on the level of this and the feelings it has brought to us all. None have engendered and built such a strong sense of love and community

Nigel, we will always be here for whatever we can provide as we know you will be for us. Much love to you, Ann, Jane, and the entire family as you move forward into this critical time.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 08:07 AM

Still here, as I'm sure a lot of us are. Don't forget to take care of yourselves.

The other Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 08:16 AM

again I've got no words, apart from hope & love

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 08:24 AM

Holding all of you near in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 08:47 AM

From my dark time to yours; I send what lovely light I can find. There is so much when one lifts eyes to see.

We've had nearly a year of both the worry and the joy. May you all see much joy as the ship sails onward.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 09:57 AM

Having a bad day today, Billy has low blood counts and ulcers in his mouth caused by the chemo, booked in for a blood transfusion for next Monday, then my mother taken ill in the night with a high fever so I called the Dr out at 2 in the morning and sat by her bed all through the night.
Feeling very sorry for myself I popped in to see how everyone on board was doing and have reread the thread from the very first post!!

So now I am "computered out" but feeling so much better, how far we have travelled together,so many bad days that have been lightened by the love of the fellow crew members!

Love and thanks to you all, thinking of Nigel, Ann and Jane today with special love,

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 10:04 AM

Nigel, while I was reading from the begining you were posting so I have only just read that Jane is in hospital.

Sending you all our love.hope and prayers,

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 10:35 AM

Wendy, I have been amazed at your strength and support for others while you yourself have such a load to carry. There is nothing that can rip the heart or soul more than a sick child. It is such a sense of helplessness. But I'll tell ya, gal, it isn't and never will be hopelessness. I don't think anyone here knows that word.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 29 Dec 12 - 10:00 PM

The moon is bright and nearly full - and has, is or will be shining on all of you just as it is shining overhead right here, right now, at my particular latitude and longitude.

Sending hope, care and thoughts of comfort on moon beams.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 12:13 AM

thoughts of comfort on moon beams - what a lovely image, thanks for posting it, Janie

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 06:59 AM

Janie's moonlight was streaming down through the skylight last night, between swirls of falling snow. The Great Horned Owl was out calling; thinking of you, Nigel, Ann, Jane, Wendy, Billy...all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 07:20 AM

Can't say anymore than those heartening posts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 01:37 PM

sounds a lovely picture maeve- like a beginning of a story that draws the reader or listener in.
with a prayer for you and all those going through such a tough time at present.
we have friends in norfolk and the mum is expected to die anytime now .seems to be so much of it lately.
God help us all-seems a sad world sometimes.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 02:09 PM

Sure Could Use a Little Good News Today

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 09:10 PM

Dear Nigel and Janie, I am continuing to pray for both of you and all your loved ones, the ones who are ill and the members of your family who are worried and stressed.

Here the moonbeams are bouncing off snow. I hope some of them will bounce in your directions.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 30 Dec 12 - 11:50 PM

May Light, Love, and ease of comfort be with you all as you gather for Jane. May the best possible outcome be for the highest good of all concerned.

With love and thanks-givings,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 05:45 AM

I was up all night with my mother, but my thoughts and prayers in those wee small hours have been with you and your family Nigel.
Love,love,love

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 06:16 AM

A belated welcome to Sandy McLean. Join us on our Voyage through Life's vicissitudes with a Crew of some of the wisest, compassionate, funniest, most caring Folk it's ever been my good fortune to meet.
       Bruce, your link to Anne Murray was perfect. Considering the song was released in '83, the lyrics are just as relevant now. Couple that with the fact that I've always loved her voice & voilà, a moment of calm. The power of Music....never lets me down.
      Janie & Maeve, there is a poem/song lyric here just begging to get written....Moonbeams, Owls, Snow. The foundation is laid already. With your permission, if any of us feel inspired, may we summon our Muses & put pen to paper?
    Ann & I visited Jane in hospital yesterday. She's very poorly & has lost so much weight that the Doctors have had to stop the chemo. That, combined with other issues, pushes me ever closer to using the word: 'desperate', something I absolutely refuse to do until it really is my only option.
    Our New Year Wishes & Hopes for All : An easing of pain; diseases conquered; distress comforted; dark places filled with light; tears replaced with laughter & joy & a restoration of balance in all our lives that we may enjoy Life's Blessings with a true sense of inner Peace,
         With Love from our Hearts to Yours,
                                                                Nigel & Ann (31st December 2012)
                                                                xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 07:13 AM

Oh my dear Nigel...........May I take on that New Year's wish for all as well? A beautiful wish and I thank you. It also makes clear that difficult as these times are for you, you're seeing things clearly even through tear flooded eyes.

May you be granted the solace you all need and know the love we have for your family......and for each other on this Voyage.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 07:23 AM

Nigel,

The guest above was me,

Billy is having a transfusion in the hospital today, not sure if they may keep him in? I am at home with a very poorly mum so feeling a bit lost, but as usual your wonderful words and compassionate spirit have lifted my mood,thank you. Billy and I listened to Anne Murrey last evening and echo your thoughts, perfect!!

I hope you and Ann are being cosseted and looked after, and wish all your New Year wishes and thoughts returned to you many times over.

You, Ann and Jane are constantly in our thoughts,
Peace, love and God's blessings

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 07:41 AM

love & healing thoughts to Jane & her family, & to Billy & his

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 08:03 AM

ever still here with a head full of everything positive and a heart full of love with music and moonbeams now weaving in amongst all the hope and hugs and tears as well - thank you to all whose wise words help everybody else and the grand good company you are whilst holding fast and standing firm - I think I'd better go scrub some decks and do something useful.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 09:06 AM

I have been very little on Mudcat lately but am grateful to maeve for pointing me here. Alouette has been humbled time and time again by the power of her song, I am merely the conveyer of it- you all have given it wings and strength.

Nigel, I don't know you, but I humbly ask to join the circle. I have been in the dark myself, and remember well the power of Mudcat's angel wings. Bless you and your family for allowing us to be a part of this dark journey, and know that all over the earth there are loving hearts and minds and voices keeping vigil with you and your family and especially Jane.

May peace be with you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 11:16 AM

best possible new year to all-those down under who have already had the fireworks and to those of us still to see it in.
nigel i thought you expressed your wishes and greetings with a great deal of sensitivity and eloquence.    blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Big Al Whittle
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 11:47 AM

Thinking of you....and sending my best wishes and hopes to and for you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 03:08 PM

Big Al said it beautifully. Love from Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 03:25 PM

Would that we could somehow divide up the sorrow, or each take the burden for a bit, to lift it from those here who are feeling the full constant weight just now. Words are too easy. But our hearts are with you.
            Dean and Judy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 04:19 PM

Kinda' reminds me of the chorus to Richard Farina's song, "Pack Up Your Sorrows."

But if somehow you could pack up your sorrows
And give them all to me
You would lose them, I know how to use them
Give them all to me

ALLISON......Dear Heart, we all know your heart and what it can surround. Old Friend, you are indeed welcome and as a longtime member we are pleased to have you aboard as your compassion is well known and always appreciated.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 04:24 PM

The posts are truely heartwarming. For everyone, I am sure. Thanks you all. I don't have a dog in this (these) fight(s), but, if your posts warm my heart, they must warm all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 04:36 PM

An allegory, compliments of Susun Weed and her website.

"Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us."
― Meister Eckhart

When I contemplate Eckhart's quote, above, I am often reminded that fear - especially existential fear - and sorrow are often synonyms.

We are as light to one another. This mystically inclined atheist says "blessed be" to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 05:37 PM

thanks for posting the link, Janie, & Meister Eckhart's quote.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 07:40 PM

New Year here,
God bless you all
XXXXXXX
Wendy and Billy, ( with a glass of champagne and thinking of you all,wishing you all much love xx)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 07:50 PM

Fifty minutes late, but backatcha.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Dec 12 - 11:59 PM

Nigel and Wendy, I wish I could hold your hands while you hold the hands of your loved ones who are suffering.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jan 13 - 06:19 AM

So many moving posts from so many Good People...I don't know where to start with my thanks.
          Allison, join us on our voyage. You brought us a gift of Music. There is something very special about the unaccompanied voice, particularly poignant when delivered with simplicity & deep sincerity.
          Maeve, thank you for the SSAA & SATB arrangements for 'The Comfort of Singing Voices'. I would very much like to arrange an orchestral version of this beautiful song, but require the Composer & Arranger's permission (All copyrights respected). If it is felt that an orchestral version is inappropriate or detrimental, please let me know & I will leave well alone.
         Janie, 'Grandmother Spider & the Web of Life'. I have read & re-read & will need to re-read again. It is a beautiful allegory, full of wisdom & potent images. It touches me on many different levels. Your phrase: '..... mystically inclined atheist.' Is how I would describe myself. May I have your permission to adopt ' mystically inclined atheist' for myself?
       Wendy & Billy, Ann & I are holding you in our thoughts. You have so much with which to contend. We hope that 2013 will see an easing of your burdens.
       Spaw, thank you for reminding me about 'Pack up Your Sorrows'. I used to sing the song in the Folk Clubs, back in the 60s. If I pause for a second, I can still 'hear' the audience joining in with the chorus. It's a truly great song.
       A little update on Jane's situation. She has contracted two infections whilst in hospital, but the fever & frighteningly high temperature associated with them are beginning to subside. She has, for the first time in nearly a week been able to eat a little. Her weight remains worryingly low.
       2013 begins with many rivers yet to be crossed; many mountains still to climb, many physical & emotional challenges to overcome. Nevertheless, with your Love & Support my Dear Friends, Ann & I begin this next phase of our Voyage, secure in the knowledge that our Faithful Crew our going about their duties with their customary fervour.
       With Love & Heartfelt Gratitude,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jan 13 - 06:35 AM

Nigel, send a PM to Allison regarding your thoughts on an orchestral arrangement. As the arranger, she is in more direct contact with composer, Alouette Iselin than I am these days. Allison sent me the original arrangement for my chorus. If Allison is busy, send me a PM and I'll get you in touch with Alouette.

Healing is to Jane as Spring is to our snow-locked farm; it will come.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jan 13 - 08:45 AM

"Healing is to Jane as Spring is to our snow-locked farm; it will come." Beautiful words to help me through the day. No snow in London; it's actually wall to wall blue sky, bathed in glorious sunshine. Chilly, but very pretty.
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

PS Thank you very much to whoever it was in Admin who has taken the trouble to divide this ever increasing Thread into pages: extremely helpful.
                                                                                 N.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 01 Jan 13 - 01:39 PM

I'll be talking with Alouette and see what she says- my guess is you'll have her blessing.

Love to all this snowy (In NH, USA) New Year's Day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jan 13 - 10:40 PM

& love to all from Sunny Sydney on the second day of the New Year,
Pic of Sydney Harbour on 1st Jan 2013

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Jan 13 - 05:50 AM

That's kind of you, Allison, thank you.
Sandra, what a great set of photos. You are clearly a Lens-woman for whom 'point & shoot' is no longer an option!
      I have some personal good news that I'd like to share. One of Hollywood's most respected film makers has shown an interest in one of my pieces. Nothing more than a brief email at the moment, but it gave me a much needed boost when I was feeling particularly low.
    The fever & infections that have so beset our Darling Jane over the last few days appear to be on the wain, but her food intake is a cause for concern. She is desperate to return home, but until she has regained her weight loss, the Doctors won't be discharging her anytime soon.
       With Love,
                      Nigel & Ann.
                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Jan 13 - 06:12 PM

thanks, Nigel I like taking pics & I live in a very picturesque place - inner Sydney, near the harbour.

Fingers crossed for a successful series of emails with Hollywood.

It's good to read Jane is in better health. When her appetite returns or when the medical team can fill her with lots of good nutrition or good nutritious food, life will be better!

love to you all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jan 13 - 08:02 PM

Good news on two fronts. Let's hope this is a sign.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 02 Jan 13 - 10:43 PM

Glad to hear the fever and infections are under control. Chemotherapy is always challenging but can also turn into a very nasty and frightening ordeal. Very hopeful in hospital they will get her hydrated and nourished, then change out her chemo to a regimen she can tolerate.

Nigel, it is just about impossible that any thing I post here is a unique or original perspective or employs unique or original imagery. If ever I should post something and follow it with (copyright- date- name), then please ask permission. Otherwise, quit the asking permission already!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jan 13 - 05:05 AM

Point gratefully taken, Janie!
                                           Love,
                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 03 Jan 13 - 09:37 AM

Nigel, I just got off the phone with Alouette. She is honored that you would like to make an orchestral arrangement! She would love a copy when you finish it, and a recording if it's ever recorded. And of course, if you make a million pounds from it, a wee fraction of the profit would be gratefully appreciated! (she is a self-employed psychiatric social worker, suffering from the insane policies of a broken health care system, and could use it!)


She also wants me to tell you that you and your daughter and family are in her thoughts and prayers. Mine, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 03 Jan 13 - 10:09 AM

Thank you, Allison. Go to it, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 08:17 AM

Morning Nigel and all,

I do hope that Jane is still improving, those nasty side effects and infections can be very worrying,we have been keeping you all in our prayers this week and checking in here daily.

Such good news about your music,Nigel, two new projects to work on will give you so much satisfaction and help to keep you busy and as you say, give you a much needed boost!

We have had a difficalt week, since Christmas, my step son came for lunch on Boxing day and had a "bug"coughing all day ( I was not a happy bunny!!)My mother was taken ill with the infection on Friday night and we have had to send for the Dr twice, then Billy had a blood transfusion on Monday and had a dreadful chest infection so is on 5 different antibiotics??Our daughter, son in law and the two little girls have all had the same nasty chest infection so we are the " dont come near us" family!!

But the good news is that while Billy was at the hospital for blood tests yesterday his consultant saw we were there and called us into his room( No appointment!!) and said that the results are looking good, he doesn't want to see Billy for 5 weeks. He has booked a CT scan and Bone marrow biopsy for 8 weeks and says they will be the "acid test" so FINGERS CROSSED we are looking forward to the New Year with a little optimism.

Here's hoping similar good news for you all,

sailing on, with all our love
Wendy and Billy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 11:13 AM

That is great news, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 11:55 AM

Fingers and toes crossed, for all, here too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 02:38 PM

been in norfolk for a couple of days following our friends bereavement but good to see things looking a bit brighter here though sorry to hear the "bug" is hitting your family now ,wendy.
its been all round ours too.hope theres no round 2!   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 07:22 PM

That is very hopeful news to have, Wendy, whilst ya'll hunker down and heal up from that bad respiratory infection.

Hope your Mom has weathered the worst of it and is on the road to recovery.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 09:24 PM

Nigel, Wendy, I am still reading this thread and full of hope for your family members.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 04 Jan 13 - 09:38 PM

LOL...Yeah, keep that chest thing over your way Wendy, but the other news sounds pretty encouraging and very hopeful. Tell Billy Ol' Spaw send the lad a big hug.....and you too {;<))


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jan 13 - 05:18 PM

From second from the bottom of the page to first on the top.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Jan 13 - 11:14 AM

looks like round 2 is going round our area.some of my family sick and tommy not well again and we are waiting to hear from a doctor.we heard the local hospital even turned people away this week so we hope he does,nt have to go in while he,s down.
hope it dont spread anyone elses way.    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 06 Jan 13 - 12:05 PM

Oh dear Pete,

so sorry to hear that your family has this bug again! It is a really bad one and the cough seems to go on and on! Funny no one is talking flu this winter?But it seems to me that a very high temperature and shakes and shivers sounds like flu.

Hoping that Tommy does not catch it and that he doesnt have to go into hospital

xxxxxx Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Jan 13 - 11:03 PM

Oh, Pete, I hope Tommy stays well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jan 13 - 07:42 AM

Is it only in the UK that we have to endure these dreadful 'bugs'? (Apart from 'Flu which seems to be universally troublesome). Wendy & Pete, you've certainly had more than your fair share & the level of concern always goes up a notch or two when children & seniors become infected. Ann & I wish you all a speedy & complete recovery. I remember a very eminent Doctor saying in a TV interview some years ago that the human body can heal itself of something like 90% of infections, if we are prepared to wait & let nature take it's course. I cannot vouch for the veracity of that opinion & speaking personally, I for one am not a patient patient! If I don't feel well, I want it sorted, pdq!
      A brief update on Jane. She is back home, which is better for her overall, but nothing fundamentally has changed. Food, feeding, keeping hydrated remain ongoing issues. Her chemotherapy is still on hold because she has not yet made up the weight loss. Ann & I are seeking support for ourselves from Macmillan Cancer Care. Jane & her Family have been offered similar support.
      Take good care of yourselves,
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 07 Jan 13 - 08:01 PM

The moon isn't up yet, but it will be, and the stars are out. Stretch out your senses and experience, all of you - us - the radiant support, the care-the concern- that we wrap around one another.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jan 13 - 08:21 PM

Nigel. First man I ever wanted to hug and give a back pat to.

There's a cue for me to talk about patting Pat in a joke but but I just don't feel like him. Read bwteen the lines, Spaw.

Re Bugs? They had to shut down one of the hospitals in my city to CLEAN IT. It was rife with infectionssss. "Free"... bullshit... health care comes at a price in Canada.

Aw, WTH... (((Nigel and all)))

Thank all of you for sharing. It DOES mean a lot to me. Don't wanna explain it... don't have to. Youse know. God bless all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 08 Jan 13 - 06:26 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann

Good news to hear that Jane is back home, with a break from the chemotherapy I do hope she has a chance to build up her strength , lots of loving care from her wonderful family and some good home cooking must boost her up.

I am so pleased that you and Ann are going to be supported by Macmillan, they are a fantastic group of nurses who will take care of you as well as Jane and her family. In my experience they help in so many unexpected ways.When someone is very ill it is often the carers that go downhill and they need support and advice from someone who has no emotional involvement but provides a listening ear and sometimes a shoulder to cry on.

You may know that my lovely mum has Dementia, over the last year I have had an Admiral Nurse ( a trained mental health professional who is there for the carer not the patient) I can phone her at any time when things get rough and we meet often for coffee and I can be honest with her about my feelings of frustration, sometimes anger, and most importantly she understands how ones feels the loss of a loved one who is with you in body but certainly not in mind! I can honestly say that I would not have got through the last six months of looking after mum while my husband was having chemotherapy. She has solved what seemed to me, insurmountable problems with sensible simple solutions, organised someone to stay over night so Billy and I could have a weekend away. The most important advice on day one was" Wendy stop feeling guilty!!"

The bad news? I had a letter the day after Christmas telling me that the service of Admiral Nurses in N E Essex is stopping at the end of January because of funding cuts !I am devestated, not just for me, I have good support systems in place that allow me to employ carers so that I can continue to run my business and therefore have some respite from being with mum 24/7. But I am very aware that there are lots of other people who are housebound looking after a relative with Dementia and the Admiral Nurse is their only contact! So I am on a mission, letters to the powers that be that have made this decision, our local MP, number 10 and also a reporter on the Daily Telegraph who interviewed me in December about my brilliant Admiral Nurse and how she has helped me.

So Nigel, take all the support and help you can, you and Ann must be kind to yourselves,the Mudcat Rainbow Crew all send love and prayers everyday and somewhere in the world they are thinking of you every minute of the 24 hours!

Much love,
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Jan 13 - 03:32 PM

Nigel, I too am glad that Jane is home and hope she regains her strength and weight soon.

Wendy, I wish you success in your campaign to retain good services for your mother and others.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jan 13 - 05:48 AM

Janie, your beautiful words conjure up such potent images. It occurs to me that what we have created here & continue to maintain is our own 'Spiritual Internet'. It runs parallel to & is, of course ultimately dependent on Mudcat & the Internet for us to share & communicate in 'the real world', but away from that, all the connections we have established are active & vital & discreet, but as tangible as if we were all physically in the same space together. I derive great comfort & solace when, in a quiet, peaceful moment, I pause & simply imagine all of us, standing side by side together. No words are spoken; we become an entity with strength & power one hundredfold greater than the sum of it's parts. The geographical distances that keep us apart simply melt away.
       Wendy, is there any chance that the decision to withdraw the services of the Admiral Nurses might be reversed? I hope that you will be able to join with others, similarly affected, & bring as much pressure as possible to bear on 'the powers that be'. You say you are devastated; I'm certain that is something of an understatement! Ann & I wish you all the luck in the world with your campaign.
       Gnu, I'm more than happy to be hugged by you. It would be reciprocated in kind! Plenty of practise in a Family that thrives on Hugs & Kisses.
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 09 Jan 13 - 06:39 AM

Hugs,hope,thoughts and love still on overdrive here to you all hanging tough out there. Wendy, I wish we didn't always have to fight for the smaller things that make all the difference to the rest of the road when the load is already heavy but I hope you win and I'd be there at your side too if I could. Nigel, Ann, Jane well - you know.... so do some of the rest of you. Love y'all for being here, there and for each other.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Jan 13 - 08:18 AM

Wendy, you are one of many around the world fighting stupid decisions by systems that value money more than people so cut essential services to save the great god Money. Keep up the fight & best wishes.

more love & hugs to you & your family & friends, & to Jane & her family & friends

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 09 Jan 13 - 08:26 AM

Thanks both,
I have e mailed our local MP Douglas Carswell he is usually very supportive over local issues. There is a debate on Dementia in the House of Commons tomorrow so I will watch with interest!

Sorry to say mum is still very ill and I am waiting for another Doctor's visit, they came out last night to her. Her oxygen levels are very low and she should have gone into hospital but with the Dementia we all agreed it would be too distressing as she would be very confused, so have decided to keep her at home and shoulder on!

Meanwhile Billy still has the cough but is much improved. I hope Jane is feeling stronger today Nigel.

Knowing you are all here with me side by side is a great comfort, thank you again Nigel for your wonderful thoughts.

Sailing on with a cup of Earl Grey,(kettle is on, help yourself)

with love

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 04:27 AM

For the first time in my life, I 'phoned The Samaritans Help Line last night. I'm home alone; Ann is staying at Jane's until the weekend but I have Doctor's appointments here in London. Making the 120 mile round trip three times was not a viable option.
    I was out getting some shopping & bumped into a colleague from my teaching days, who informed me of the death (from cancer) of a pianist with whom I'd worked, on & off, for over twenty years. What shocked me almost as much as learning of her death was the fact that she'd died 18 months ago & I had heard nothing via the local musician's 'network'. By the time I returned home, a list was forming in my mind of the Family members, close friends & colleagues, all of whom have succumbed to cancer. I stopped when I passed the twenty mark; it was all too distressing & overwhelming. A little later, I made my call to The Samaritans. I talked, a lady with a calm, gentle voice listened & said the right things at the right time. I went to bed a little earlier than usual & actually slept quite well.
    It's just after 09:00 & I'm feeling ok; a sense of balance & perspective has been restored. The emotional tsunami of yesterday has been displaced by something akin to rational thought. So, as Dear Wendy says: "Sailing on".
             With Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 05:15 AM

Good on you for calling for help - often all we need is to be listened to.

We are all fortunate to have so many resources - friends & family & support in "real" life & on phones & the internet.

stay balanced until the next time you need to reach out.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 10:33 AM

Smart move, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 11:17 AM

Yep, exactly the right thing to do. Much as we can help, sometimes a listening ear and a voice is needed and that's why the Samaritans are there. Well done, NIgel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 12:36 PM

Is this the most honest site I have visited? It must be.

There are tales of true endeavour here.

This is one place where we are all truly in it together.

Best wishes to everyone.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 04:24 PM

Saturday 12th January is our first anniversary. Twenty three of you responded to my initial post on the same day. Many of you '1st Dayers' still post regularly. I like to think that everyone who has posted visits our Thread from time to time, along with other Folk who have never posted, but voyage with us nonetheless.
       We've come a long way since January 2012 & none of this would have come to pass, were it not, My Dear Friends, for your Love & Dedication; your Care & Concern; your Wisdom & Knowledge & your ability to draw deeply from The Well of Life.
       Ann & I have some difficult days & months ahead, as do several others aboard our Reparative Craft.
       Come close; stay close. Together, we can achieve so much.
       With All our Love & Eternal Gratitude,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 04:36 PM

Nigel, your compassion has touched so many hearts. And that's the truth!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 04:55 PM

Indeed, 9!

henryp... "This is one place where we are all truly in it together."

You got that right, Clary.

Support, education, and comeuppance when ya need/deserve it... I've had all three and am better for it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 05:59 PM

A little something on the "up"side. Not sure if I mentioned here that the necessary treatment at the time of my wife's heart attack was hard on her kidneys, and took that function down to a borderline issue. We've known for a while that she was gaining back enough to make that less worrisome. She saw the doc for that again today. He
said she is most of the way back to full function, and scheduled her next for 4 months from now.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 06:29 PM

gremlins somewhere i think as 2 posts got lost.
sadly tommy did have to go into hospital locally but later taken to evilena childrens hospital and is on a ventilator.he came off the assisted breathing early this morning but this evening had emergency procedure to put him back on it.physios shifting a lot of crud but due to the myotonia he is still at risk.the medical staff are wonderful but he is not a straight-forward case but needs continuous assesing.prayer much appreciated.
blessings on you all   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 06:39 PM

Ya got 'em coming, Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 07:00 PM

Prayers here Pete,
Lighting a candle for all our loved ones,good news Frogprince xx

Nearly midnight here, but will be awake sitting with mum, so sleep peacefully Pete and Nigel, I will take the night watch.

With love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 07:59 PM

Prayers and loving hugs and thoughts from here too Pete. Good to hear from froggie about upward progress (flycatching?) - love and Wahey! smiles to J too - and Wendy - stay warm and safe - I'll take the dog watch xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 08:10 PM

Once again, the power of the Mudcat circle shines brightly. Much love and healing, Nigel, Wendy, and all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 08:41 PM

I'll be on Middle Watch. So many worried minds, hurting hearts tonight. Remember Janie's quotation:"Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us." ― Meister Eckhart

We are, each in his or her own way, part of that light and further, responsible and eager to share the glimmer with one another.

Think of Rapparee and his wife as well; her mother has slipped off away the dock at last.

Kate & Anna McGarrigle and Linda Ronstadt : Heart Like A Wheel

Jody Stecher and Kate Brislin- "We Shall Meet Someday."

Gordon Bok's "Gulls in the Morning"

Jim Reid - I Saw The Wild Geese Flee

Bok, Trickett, Muir- "Hymn Song"

Steeleye Span- Somewhere along the road

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 09:26 PM

Nigel, I am glad someone at Samaritans was able to help you. I am sorry about the loss of your coworker. Frogprince, I am glad that your wife's kidney function is improving. Pete, I hope Tommy improves. Wendy, I hope your mom has a peaceful night. You and your loved ones are all in my heart, and I hope I didn't leave anyone out.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Jan 13 - 11:39 PM

I don't think it possible, Chantylass, for you have left anyone out.

It seems to me that the open heart is absolutely inclusive.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Jan 13 - 12:24 AM

love to all from me

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Jan 13 - 09:07 AM

This is a beautiful crew here.......Makes me happy knowing that! My best thoughts to all.....Sounds bland, but sincerely meant.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jan 13 - 02:18 PM

Spaw + bland in same the sentence! Not every day ya see that.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Jan 13 - 02:55 PM

Well geeziz Gnu, this ain't the kinda' thread where I can just throw in a quick fart reference for a cheap laugh!!!

Besides, I think Al Roker has cornered the market after telling how he popped a shart at the White House and left his underwear in a WH bathroom. So old Al went Commando the rest of the evening. He yells the damn story and every US news channel plays it a dozen times a day for 3 days..........

Fiscal problems, gun control, more and more obstructionist crap from the GOP, and they're reporting that Al shit himself. Even YOU can do that Gnu!



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Jan 13 - 05:36 PM

Dan (olddude) has a threade going but he's been along here with us from the beginning. Seems he's been diagnosed with bladder cancer.......Let's get a few things his way as well.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 04:46 AM

Sure, Spaw...Dan- and Tinker as well as the rest are all held here. By the way...Isn't it funny that our modest Janie so neatly sums up how many of us feel?

Good morning, to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 11:12 AM

Ann & I wish all of you aboard The Rainbow a very happy 1st Anniversary. It is a time to celebrate friendships old & new; a time to acknowledge the fundamental goodness that has become the core of our Thread; a time to thank each & every one of you for your gracious, compassionate words, often putting your own needs into second place. Such selflessness is a rare commodity in this hasty experience we still call 'Life'.
    I need to remain within the sanctuary of our 'Magical Metaphor' to continue. As I look to the horizon, there is a small, dark speck of cloud. As each day passes, it appears slightly larger & nearer, but a speck it remains for the present. Be prepared, we may be dropping anchor sooner than I had envisaged, My Dear Friends. In the meantime, go about your duties. The Rainbow is a fine ship; all her sails are set; she remains on course, but the barometer has fallen, just a mite, but sufficient for me to notice.
          With All Our Love on this auspicious Day,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 12:14 PM

Sometimes it is hard to know what to share or say. Would it be supportive or hurtful and frightening, Nigel, for some of us to share from our own family's experiences with journeys similar to the one your family is now on?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 12:15 PM

as ever, I am apostrophe challenged.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 12:39 PM

Well, Janie, look at this way... every one you get right is an apostrophy.

Maybe not as good as Spaw but I didn't have to go so far for it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 12:58 PM

Janie, Ann & I would welcome the sharing of these experiences. Be assured, it would be supportive.
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 03:18 PM

Dear Nigel

One year of the Rainbow Crew, I popped in on day two just to send love to you and Ann and, of course Jane.For some weeks I just sat on deck reading the compassionate words of wisdom from these(now) friends, not knowing what the next few months had in store for my family and me.

In Febuary my darling husband Billy had an operation for skin cancer, a melanoma on his back, which was more involved than we had thought and he was 6 weeks to recover.We were lulled into a false sense of well being then in March were told the CLL ( leuchemia) that he had been diagnosed with 7 years before had become a major concern and he needed chemotherapy.which he said he would not do!! However with the consultant and myself ganging up he did agree and you all know that he completed the six months treatment in December and we await the bone marrow biopsy in 8 weeks to see how the treatment has worked.

All through this we have looked after my dear old mum, Dementia has its lows(lots of them) but also we have times of hysterical laughter when mum has some lucid very funny thoughts, often saying things about family members that maybe she has supressed over many years, so now the truth will out!!

She has been very ill since Christmas and I have been very down over the past three weeks, but the Rainbow Crew have been here for me and I cannot thank you all enough, wish I could get you all in a big room and tell you how much your support and friendship means to me, HUGS all round.But Nigel all I can say is "Thank you" and you are in our thoughts every day and will be thoughout the coming days and months.

with much love

Wendy xxxxxx

PS after three nights without any sleep,zombie like, I have just got mum to eat a homemade shepherds pie, first food since Monday !!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 03:20 PM

It is hard to believe that it has already been a year except perhaps for when I look at the number of posts on this thread. They didn't get here overnight. Now let's continue together to work for another year. Rather than one day at a time, I'm thinking in terms of one year at a time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 03:43 PM

And love to you and yours also, Wendy. Wish I could offer some instrumental help or respite.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 05:13 PM

thankyou so much for your prayers and interest.tommy still deemed too unfit to take off ventilator although it is now assisting rather than breathing entirely for him.he sleeps a lot but has some more alert spells.i taped some of my songs for him and that seems to help him and amuses the nurse who has picked up on some of it and sings along!
when he becomes sufficiently alert they will try removing the tube again
as i read the above posts i lift my thoughts to God for your needs and pressures,and thank him for your kind interest and friendship.
,pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 05:40 PM

Bless you Pete,

Will be here through the night, get some sleep, The crew will keep us all sailing on

xxxx Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 06:04 PM

As Wendy said, pete....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 06:20 PM

Nigel, we'll be here whatever the winds that blow. Now that I've discovered this thread, I try to check in every day, though I don't always post. Wendy, Dan, Pete, remember that you, too, are being held in the hearts and minds of friends the world over.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 07:34 PM

So glad you decided to sign on fulltime Allison........So many fine folks sailing along here come what may. Full sail, reeefed down, spinnaker set or storm jib.....We all do our jobs and we can make it through together!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 08:02 PM

we can make it through together! yes

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 12 Jan 13 - 09:37 PM

Rapparee and his wife are sailing along with us all. Sending sleep to all who need it; light in the darkness, and hope in the Slough of Despond.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 06:03 AM

I don't usually make New Year's Resolutions & what I'm about to write is more akin to a Life Resolution, but it is my intention to maintain this thread beyond the end of Jane's Voyage. Originally, I assumed this would be a modest form of support for Ann & myself that would have it's own natural cadence. However, over the past year our Thread has grown in breadth & depth. It has become important to many more people than I ever expected. Indeed, I don't think I ever considered the possibility that other Folk might find Love, Help & Support here. I couldn't have been more wrong! I don't think it's possible or even necessary to attempt to quantify or define just what it is We have all created. What I will say is that it feels important, right & necessary that our Voyage continues.
      Today, my thoughts are focussed particularly on Wendy & Billy; Dan; Pete & Tommy; Rapparee & his Wife & several others of whom I'm aware, but who wish to remain anonymous.
      ChanteyLass summed it up perfectly: " I'm thinking in terms of one year at a time." I'm inclined to add: "....and the next, & the next &........."
                              With Love to You All,
                                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 11:43 AM

Nigel, you set the tone at the beginning and it was reflected back to you, Ann, and Jane. That so many have found solace, etc. here has a lot to do with your eloquent, raw/honest, beautiful writings and the soul which shines from them. I think I can safely say this is the Best of the best threads on Mudcat.

I know I've been kinda quiet of late, but I do read this every day and I am giving thanks for the Guidance we all receive.

much love to all,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 02:34 PM

During my father's year long illness with Melanoma Mudcatter's held all of us, and especially Dad and Mom in their thoughts and prayers. Although neither Mom nor Dad have ever been on Mudcat, I kept them informed that many from across the country and around the world were holding them in deepest positive regard. I really can not convey how meaningful the knowledge of those kindnesses from complete strangers meant to them.

At some point along the journey they opened a package to find a Mudcat Shawl done by Jacqui. It meant even more to my father than did the prayer shawl he had received from his church - I mean, one anticipates support from one's church, life-long friends and family. That shawl was the covering that stayed on the back of Dad's recliner, or wrapped around his shoulders or legs right up until he was confined to bed in the last 2 weeks of his life. Mom now has it carefully heirloomed and put away with the American flag that drapped the shrine at his Memorial Service.

That thread was also a blessing to me - a place where I could look for support at a time when my job in the family was to offer support and care. It was a place to share our story and to share a little something about my beloved parents and sister. Sometimes what we most need is to be able to tell our story and know that someone is listening with attention.

There is so much listening here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 03:36 PM

Pete, it is good to read that the ventilator is supporting Tommy's breathing. I hope he continues to need it less and less and soon can be off it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 03:39 PM

Nigel... your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 07:50 PM

I've also teared up reading Janie's post

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 08:01 PM

Well, I ain't opening this thread again until I have a box of Kleenex with me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 08:21 PM

Half-senile old coots like 999 and me tend to respond like that to things like this...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 08:25 PM

Thanks, froggy, for not considering me a half-senile old coot... HEY! Wait a minute????

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 13 Jan 13 - 08:59 PM

This is in many ways a collective thread of caring and sharing, and very powerful for that - thank you Nigel.

Awkard long sentence alert.

Fwiw, I sincerely hope for the many people posting here who are currently dealing with their own personal situations that those of you who wish and would find it supportive to reach out for focused support or need to share a focused narrative that you will not hesitate to post a separate thread also. I, for one, while holding all of you inclusively in my meditations, welcome such threads that help me to specifically recall and focus my attentional processes, and help me contemplate and relate on a very personal level.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 06:08 AM

I woke up this morning to bright sunshine, my brother stayed last night to sit with mum so Billy and I had the first good nights sleep since Christmas, also yesterday was a good day. I sent Billy off to spend the afternoon with Samantha and the grandaughters and he returned home with a roast dinner so I didnt have to cook.

While he was out I had a long and fullfilling phone call with our lovely vicar Robert and he is going to visit with mum sometime this week.

The absess on my wisdom tooth that has been a constant pain for a few days has gone overnight! Billy has just made me breakfast in bed!!

So sending very positive and loving thoughts to all the crew,
Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 07:03 AM

Smiles for a good day for you, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 01:06 PM

Janie, you raise a very important point. Mudcatters must always retain their right to create their own threads as & when necessary. I would be deeply unhappy if this thread were to create an atmosphere of usurping an individual's right to post individually & independently. By extending the thread, I have to own up to my own selfishness; I don't want to lose touch with a single one of you.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 06:33 PM

i too was very touched by nigels and janies post and then warmed by wendys recounting of a good day.when the way is dark such shafts of

light shed a   little sunshine into our lives.

pleased to report that tommy was safely taken off the ventilator yesterday and appears to be making progress and is expected to move from intensive care to high dependancy tomorrow.thanks to you all again. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 06:40 PM

Nigel,

some time ago someone asked me if I thought I should start a thread for Billy amd me, but I thought then, and still do, that I felt safe here with the Rainbow crew,maybe not everyone who knows us on mudcat is sailing with us,but the enveloping love and support means so much to both of us.These friendships are long lasting and we will never lose touch!

Janie, very happy to be included in a collective meditation,and thank you we had a very good day,Billy saw his skin cancer consultant today and he does not want to see him for three months!

I feel stronger and better able to cope,thanks to the crew

sailing onward, through snow and sleet tonight with a happy heart,

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 06:49 PM

Oh dear, Nigel - and others - I wasn't thinking that at all! I apologize for not expressing myself well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 06:56 PM

For any who are going through, or have been through chemo, or know someone who is, you may want to check out the link in a new music thread HERE.

Love & Light,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 07:01 PM

Pete, wonderful news, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 07:01 PM

Janie,
never apologise,your lovely words inspire and help us .
Pete, good news, hope tomorrow goes well,

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 07:07 PM

pete... good news!

"By extending the thread, I have to own up to my own selfishness;"

I don't wanna hear any more of that.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 09:13 PM

Glad to read the good news from Wendy and Pete.

When I have another medical crisis (none currently, thank goodness) I will probably start my own thread but mention ir here to let people know about it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 10:07 PM

Some of you know Bugsy from western Oz....He's having cancer surgery and I told him about this thread but his thread is over here.......Bugsy's thread

He could use a few good thoughts...a real good guy!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Jan 13 - 10:55 PM

Bugsy is a Good Bloke!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 05:36 AM

Janie, I clearly need to apologise to you too for grasping the wrong end of the stick, big time! On reflection though, I think, inadvertently, we have uncovered the potential to do more for the common good. Our thread remains, as is, but it can also serve as a 'hub', a conduit of news & information provided by individuals about their own threads & alerting us to the needs of others, of whose whose plight we may not be aware. ChanteyLass said that she would probably start her own thread if the need arose, but would still post here to let us know. Spaw has let us know about Bugsy. Almost certainly, I would have missed that.
    Positive news from Pete & Wendy; very good to read. Kat, thank you for the link to that wonderful story about Music & Cancer. If you haven't done so already, click on the link & be prepared to be moved & inspired.
    Janie, your post of 13th & Wendy, yours on 14th., in common with others, moved me to tears, but helped me to think & reassess my own situation. Today, the final words belong to Janie: "There is so much listening here."
          With Love,
                         Nigel & Ann.
                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 05:58 AM

If there's any spare thoughts, a musician friend of mine is having surgery today (UK) for bowel cancer. The hope is that its been caught before it spreads at all. His name's Richard.

Thanks

Paws

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 06:07 AM

Paws, I think you'll find there's enough good thoughts to include your mate Richard...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 07:16 AM

sending a few more spare thoughts to Richard

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 10:49 AM

sending prayers and thoughts to Richard too
xx Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 11:28 AM

Paws & your friend Richard, you are most welcome to come aboard. I see you've already been greeted by Pete J., Sandra & Wendy. We all hope & trust that Richard's surgery is successful & that it was an early intervention. Paws, when you have a moment, read through some of the earlier comments in our Thread; get to know some of the most warm-hearted, generous spirited folk with whom it's ever been my privilege to correspond. A word of warning though, a few are definitely borderline crazy, but we find room for them, just the same! (-;
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 05:03 PM

Paws, of course I'll have good thoughts for Richard, and Spaw, I'll make sure I wander into Bugsy's thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 05:24 PM

Thanks, people. Richard is through the surgery successfully and is doing as well as can be expected: the docs think they've "got it", but need to do all the tests to be sure.

All down to your (and some of his other friends) help, I'm sure.

Much appreciated.

Paws

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 06:29 PM

have just read of and expressed a prayerful hope that richards op had gone well and that any residual cancer will be effectively treated.

pleased to find tommy today not in high dependancy but straight to ward and much better.beckys [and tommys] GP was ,she heard, also very pleased as he had feared a long spell on ventilator for him might have proved fatal.thank God - and some kind friends!.

nigel- i hope that as the rainbow sails on that you will find some "fair havens" on the voyage where you,ann, and jane are able to replenish and take on board whatever is needed when the sea is stormy.
God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 06:36 PM

WellPAws, we'll still be thinking about you and sending good mojo Richard's way for awhile yet! Never hurts does it?


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 08:28 PM

Glad tidings re: Tommie, Pete, & rowing hard for Richard. May he have fair weather ahead.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Jan 13 - 10:05 PM

There are times I know things. Richard will be ok.

Bruce

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Bugsy
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 12:05 AM

THanks for all the tboughts and prayers that have come my way.

My mate Roy is going for tests today to see if his cancer has spread. he currently has asophageal(?) cancer. If it hasn't, he MAY be a candidate for surgery. If it has he's been given 6-9 months. He's one of the friends I said makes me feel lucky to only have Kidney Cancer.

Thoughts and prayers for him would be much appreciaated.
He's told me he will let me know the outcome this afternoon (West Aussie time) and I'll pass on any info as soon as I hear. He's a Great Singer/Songwriter and an alround good bloke.

Cheers

Bugsy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 07:38 AM

Just having a coffee if anyone would like to share, it is a big coffee pot!

I have just caught up with everyone and send the most healing thoughts to all, (such good news Pete,) so this crew is having a powerful effect. I am really so in awe of the collective love and kindness that the is being focused here, it is indeed a very important place in the mudcat family and is the first place I go to every morning and last thing at night.

At the moment my main concern is my dear mum, and when I am awake with her during the night the Rainbow is where I go to find companionship and support.

Long may we all sail together through fair weather or bad,

with love

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 11:49 AM

The Dr has just been to see mum and says her chest infection is no better but also that mum has had a minor stroke which has affected her speech, we had thought that the speech problem had been caused by the chest infection making the dementia more complicated? Not quite sure which is worse? She is her usual smiling self, she is quite amazing!!

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 06:02 PM

tommy is not as well as yesterday and has been moved to high dependancy tonight.hopefully it is only a blip as we were able to walk him in the ward a little and he puts up a fight everytime the suction come near his mouth!

prayer offered for roy as he awaits news.
wendy-you must get worn out but it must be a blessing that mum is smiling through it all.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 06:16 PM

Pete, sending all our love tonight,

When I make a cup of tea in the early hours, I will wish you and Tommy good thoughts, you may well be awake too,

much love

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 06:24 PM

sending more love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 08:04 PM

will echo Sandra.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 08:14 PM

Nigel, Ann, Jane and all of your family, holding you very close in my meditations tonight.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 09:50 PM

Adding Roy to my list and stepping up my prayers for Bugsy, Wendy's mom, Tommy, Paws's friend, and of course Jane. And a general prayer for anyone else who needs it!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 11:09 PM

Ditto that.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Jan 13 - 11:23 PM

here, too...love and hugs

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Jan 13 - 06:48 PM

tommy a lot brighter today thanks .pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 17 Jan 13 - 07:04 PM

Good news, Pete. Bless ya, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 17 Jan 13 - 07:39 PM

sweet dreams Pete have a good night

xxx Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ed T
Date: 17 Jan 13 - 08:18 PM

Good thoughts from here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jan 13 - 10:41 PM

At any point in time for some storm clouds may gather and the waters roil while for others, the sun may appear, the wind may calm and seas subside. It can give the illusion we are on different boats, sailing separate waters.

A paradox. Existence is paradoxical. We are in fact all still rowing the same boat. Together.

Love and light to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 18 Jan 13 - 02:40 AM

Damn but you're good Janie..............

All my best to so many fighting in the middle right now. May tomorrow bring better.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 18 Jan 13 - 03:22 PM

Thanksgiving and terror of loss
Make all but my love of life dross
And keep me in mind of the ones who are kind
And all of these just shareable thoughts.

I went to see Nic Jones last night. It was the most emotional concert that I have ever been to - I can still hardly speak. He sang this.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jan 13 - 01:26 AM

pete, hooray for Tommy and hoping this continues. Also hoping the best to all on this thread and others.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 19 Jan 13 - 04:58 AM

Couldn't think of anything that hasn't been said, and said better, in so many of the posts. I pondered. Finally, I happened to read a past post of mine just above the box I am now typing in. I am now content with simply this... still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jan 13 - 05:56 AM

Only four days have passed since I last posted & there's been so much activity. Things beginning to move in the right direction for Tommy & Pete.Then there's Roy and Bugsy, Wendy's mum, Paws's friend & probably a whole host of other Folk we haven't yet met! Forgive me for singling out one particular person......Wendy. She seems to have a most onerous burden to bear, yet her posts are full of optimism & light. You've come a long way, Wendy, since your first, tentative posts.You have grown into a shining beacon of hope, compassion & support. I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say you have the Love & Respect of the entire Crew.
       Henry, those beautiful words from Nic Jones resonate very strongly with me too.
       Janie, you wrote about paradox. You're timing was just about perfect. Jane's overall condition has worsened considerably. The cancer continues to spread, but not content with that, it has mutated as well, so a completely different Treatment Plan is now in place & herein lies the paradox. She has not been out of the house since before Christmas; unable to eat & drink & barely able to move from one room to another. Two days ago, she cooked a meal for her whole Family & yesterday, Ann, Jane, Jane's husband & myself had lunch at a local Italian restaurant. Jane polished off her main course AND had most of her desert too. By the time we returned home, she was understandably tired & duly slept for an hour or two; but her new treatment regime does not begin until next week! The pre & post Christmas 'paradox' is wonderful to see, but so difficult to explain. Life, in all it's many guises, never ceases to amaze & enthral me. I can live with the paradoxical & indeed, would find Life & Living less dynamic & vibrant without it, but it does tend to raise more questions than it answers!
       So, my Dear Friends, set the the sails; chart a course, onwards we sail,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Jan 13 - 05:35 PM

Good to hear from you, Nigel, and especially good to hear that Jane has been much better the last day or so. Perhaps the chemo regimen she was on was particularly intolerable to her system and it has taken time for her to begin to recover from the effects. May the ensuing treatments not only be effective in holding the cancer at bay, but much better tolerated!

Still pulling at the oars for all and with all.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 19 Jan 13 - 05:41 PM

Row, row, row your boat... lots a rowing of the collective boat going on here.

Nah... I still can seem to say anything poetic or "depthful".

Right. I'm just "here".

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jan 13 - 07:57 PM

Like others here, I continue to keep Jane in my thoughts and prayers. I wish there was more to do. If I had a magic wand, I would wave it in her direction.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jan 13 - 07:21 AM

Janie, you could well be right on several counts. The orally administered chemo seems to have been particularly troublesome. This week, Jane returns to intravenous delivery; small doses, different drug, over an extended period of time. The thought that fills our heads through every waking moment is that none of this treatment is curative. An extension of Life; a forestalling of the cancer for an undetermined period is the best that's on offer.
       Gnu, it's not the depth, it's the quality. What you bring to our Thread is a unique take on Life, full of quality & qualities found in no other posts. You're where you're needed most...here!
       ChanteyLass, if you DO find that wand, start waving pdq!
       From a very snowy, cold London,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jan 13 - 08:47 AM

Nigel,

thank you for your kind words, must say that if you were to see me in the early hours making tea and trying not to wake Billy then finding mum back in a deep sleep and not drinking the cuppa that minutes before was the only thing in the world she needed, you might not be so kind and complimentary!! Can anyone explain that when you are woken in the night and simply must get back to sleep, sleep never comes? Cannot get up and do the hoovering or ironing as that would wake the house , as would putting the TV on or turning on the light to read a book!

So pleased to see that Jane was able to go out to the restaurant with you, here's hoping that the new treatment has no nasty side effects.

Sitting by a lovely log fire watching the snow fall in the garden,wishing you all a peaceful Sunday

much love
Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jan 13 - 02:59 PM

Aw, Wendy, can you get a mini-book light, the kind that clamps on to the book or to a clipboard if you want to write instead of reading? Something like this:

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jan 13 - 03:01 PM

Oops! hate it when I click on Submit instead of Make a Link! http://www.barnesandnoble.com/p/mighty-bright-clear-xtraflex-led-booklight/16651005?ean=9781935009061

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jan 13 - 06:21 PM

love it, thank you xx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Jan 13 - 06:45 PM

Just know that I continue to check the Rainbow's heading, and think of you all, each day.
                         Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Jan 13 - 10:22 AM

My heart, love and good thoughts are with you all.

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jan 13 - 02:40 PM

Like froggy said, every day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Jan 13 - 06:51 PM

stayed in london over weekend and we went to funeral in norfolk today,back to the hospital to find tommy still getting stronger and giving the nurses a hard time!.in late but checking in as you have still been in my thoughts while away.
God bless   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jan 13 - 01:01 AM

Nurse Ratchet would make Tommy behave

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jan 13 - 05:32 PM

I hope Tommy continues to improve.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Jan 13 - 07:48 AM

I've spent most of my adult working life concerned with time; time, that is within the context of Music. It was a detail largely predetermined by myself, over which I had complete control. I now find myself in a situation where a different aspect time has been wrested from my grasp; all control has gone & worse still, I have no knowledge of how much time remains & no one to whom I can turn who might provide that elusive answer.
      Much has happened & is happening this week, none of which can I bring myself to write about, not even in the most general terms; it's just too close to an inexorable truth I'm not ready to face.
      As ever, writing in the 1st person, but substituting 'we' for 'I' is something you may care to do.
      Janie, I will be replying to your profoundly moving PM just as soon as.
      With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 23 Jan 13 - 08:08 AM

Nigel and Ann,

Sometimes we just have to endure. I'm there too.

Love,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Jan 13 - 10:52 AM

Can't think of anything to say but "still here".

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jan 13 - 06:17 PM

nigel-i can almost feel the pain and helplesness expressed in your post.still praying       pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 23 Jan 13 - 06:51 PM

Nigel and Ann

keeping you and Jane in our prayers

with love

Wendy and Billy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Jan 13 - 10:19 PM

Nigel, what you said brings to mind a profound exchange I read somewhere in the distant past. A mother said to her daughter, "I have loved you since you were born." The daughter replied, "I know that, mom, but I have loved you all my life."

You have no idea how much I wish I could take some of this weight from you.

B

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Jan 13 - 12:09 AM

Nigel, I, too, have been feeling the unbearable which you all face. Words are inadequate, but please know a flow of empathy, love, and what comfort there can be in such a situation, continues from here to you all. Be kind to yourselves,,,it is a fragile time for all.

With much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jan 13 - 06:24 PM

I'm still here with you, too, Nigel, and still wishing I could do more.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Jan 13 - 09:13 PM

As I think I said much earlier in this thread, I am not Buddhist but there are many practices and principals stemming from that philosophy that have been helpful to me personally, and which I have observed to be helpful to others in my work as a psychotherapist.

I stumbled across the work and writings of Stephen Levine 25 years ago while seeking ways to cope with my older sister's diagnosis of breast cancer and my own, less serious but very scary diagnosis and treatment for cancer during part of that same period.         


Softening the Belly... of Sorrow
by Stephen Levine • New Mexico

Reprinted from: Unattended Sorrow: Recovering from Loss and Reviving the Heart ©
by Stephen Levine (Rodale, 2005.)

(Note to Mudcatters: I copied this from another website that reprinted it - Janie)

We hold our grief hard in the belly. We store fear and disappointment, anger and guilt in our gut. Our belly has become fossilized with a long resistance to life and to loss. Each withdrawal, each attempt to numb our grief, turns the belly to stone. Have mercy on this pain you have carried for so long, the pain that sometimes makes you want to jump out of your body.

Quite naturally, in the process of girding for self-protection, our belly guards old wounds and steels for the battle. Over the years, we have buried the ache of impermanence and the remnants of fear and helplessness there. A shield develops across our abdomen, which mirrors the armoring over our heart. As we soften around the sensations and gradually move into them, they melt at the edge. It's not opposing the hardness but rather meeting it with soft mercy, knowing that we cannot let go of anything we do not accept. But sometimes, as much out of exhaustion as self-mercy, we momentarily let go of the rigidity that holds our suffering in place. Our belly softens just for a moment, and we get a glimpse beyond grief.

When we soften the fear-hardened belly, letting go of the tightness gives us space in which to process afflictive emotions. When we begin to soften to the knot of sensations that accompany a sense of loss in the belly, heart and mind, there is a gradual release of pressure. As we soften to the fear, anger and distrust that hardens us against life, we discover a lifetime's worth of grief in the belly. This is our unattended sorrow, from beyond which some inherent mercy calls upon us to release the heart.

As we soften the belly, letting go of trying to control the rise and fall of each breath but instead observing it as sensations come and go with each inhalation and exhalation, we begin to free level after level of holding. In the levels and levels of softening are levels and levels of letting go. Let old holdings begin to float in the new openness created by softening, as there arises a new willingness to heal, to go beyond our pain. As we begin to soften the belly, we unburden the body and mind of their automatic withdrawal from and walling-off of pain. As these burdens begin to lift, we find ourselves a bit lighter and the road ahead that much easier to travel; we're a bit more able to continue on with our lives.

"Going on with our lives," though it may seem somehow sacrilege, is in our own time the work we do to honor the life we share with all who have ever been born and will ever die. By opening into the possibilities of the heart, expanding the space that is able to absorb all that is let go of, we are able to find our own true compass of what is appropriate to our own healing and go mercifully on with our lives.

Gradually, our attention settles into the abdomen and begins riding the rising and falling of the ocean of our breath. On the inhalation, the belly rises with the tide. On the exhalation, the tide goes out. A liberating awareness begins to settle in as we soften to the breath and to the distrust that hardens us to life. Let thoughts come and let thoughts go in a soft belly, without holding, and without resistance.

The healing practice of attending our sorrow is done by: Sitting quietly, closing your eyes and just letting your attention come into the sensations of the body. Feeling the body you sit in, you begin to bring your attention into the abdomen, feeling the belly rise and fall with each breath. And you begin to soften the abdominal muscles, letting go of whatever holding tightens your belly and maintains your suffering, softening the tissue all the way into the belly.

Make room for the breath as it breathes itself in soft belly, noticing how much grief there is in the form of resistance and an ache held deep in the belly. So much fear and armoring. Let it all float in soft belly, not hardening it to suffering, just letting it be in soft belly, in merciful belly.

Let go with each inhalation, softening the belly. Let go with each exhalation, making peace. Soften the belly to uncover the heart. Each exhalation lets out the pain. Make room for our life in soft belly.

Expectation, judgment, doubt and all sorts of old griefs congregate in the belly. Softening allows them to disperse. Pains, fears and doubts dissolve into the softness, the spaciousness of a merciful belly. Even the hardness floats in the softness. And there's nothing to change; we are just attending to ourselves; there is no urgency in soft belly.

There is room for our pain in soft belly. The spaciousness in the belly mirrors the opening of the heart.

When you open your eyes, maintaining this increased awareness, notice at what point the belly tightens once again. At what point does the sense of loss reassert itself and you feel a need to protect against further pain? At what point does the armoring reestablish its long presence?
Soften with the eyes wide open to the world, softening to the pain we all share and the legacy of healing exposed in our deepening softness.

Many people say they come back to softening the belly dozens of times a day. And it's a better day for it. Some begin the day with this exercise for fifteen minutes or more and notice how this softening in the body produces a deeply relieving letting go in the mind.

There are considerable gradations of our capacity to stay soft and work with things that we don't think we can. When we think we're not up to our grief, that's a form of grief. When we distrust ourselves and the process, our grief sometimes misinforms us about our capacity to work with it. When we soften to that grief, we find that even when we feel hopeless, we are not helpless.
Softening the belly won't perfect us, but it can set us free. It initiates a letting go which frees the mind to open the heart.

We hold our unattended sorrow hostage in the belly, marbled in the muscle tissue with fear. Our resistance to life and our impatience with ourselves rigidifies the belly and excludes the possibilities of the heart. It makes shallow the breath. But softening the muscles, softening even the flesh, letting go of the age-old tension held there as if our life depended on it, invites the breath, invites life, deeper within.

When we come back again and again throughout the day to a soft belly, a sense of ease increases, which allows the quality of being loving to flow unimpeded, as natural as breathing.
Softening the belly demonstrates how self-mercy affects our reality.

In a soft belly, there is room to live and to grow, as our nature allows. Room to let go of the judgment that considers us somehow imperfect, room to send with each softening breath loving kindness into the grateful heart.

Stephen Levine has written a number of books. I have looked at many of them, bought a few that I couldn't make my way through, but found a couple of them extremely helpful and those couple are books I still go back and read and draw from in my work and in my personal life.
In particular, I recommend Healing into Life and Death

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Jan 13 - 09:46 PM

Nothing much I can say to add to the beauty here. We are all here Nigel, and here we will remain.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Jan 13 - 10:13 PM

Something I've never written before; so Spaw, if I may crave your indulgence:

    "Nothing much I can say to add to the beauty here". Ann & I are here & here we will remain.

                  With Love & Deepest Gratitude to All our Precious, Precious Friends,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

PS   Janie, I'm writing this at 03:06. I was awakened by an uncomfortable ache....in my stomach! True!!
                        N x

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 03:12 AM

Janie, Thank you!

Nigel and Ann, still here,

much love,

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 04:29 AM

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 02:05 PM

How well I know that ache in the belly, my friends. Nigel, I am here keeping vigil still. Holding you and your loved ones in the light.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 07:19 PM

still thoughts and prayers   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 07:29 PM

The Keekee birds are froze solid here but there is warmth and comfort on this thread. That may sound odd but the warmth and caring that I witness herein warms my heart. Much more than the "block heater"??? on my Ford truck... remote start my ass!

That wasn't a direction, Spaw... just a whine.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 07:30 PM

Walking...swimming alongside.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Jan 13 - 08:12 PM

maeve just reminded me of this,; I don't know if it's familiar outside the U.S.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 04:51 AM

Beautiful song, I had not heard it before, started my day in a thoughtful way,
Thank you

Wendy,Still here Nigel,
xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 04:55 AM

Thanks Dean. Yes- that's the feeling.

It's dark and bitter cold here, but I know there is light for all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 05:11 AM

thanks for the link, I know "Never Turning back" but didn't know who wrote it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 05:55 AM

Thanks froggy... beautiful tune.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 07:44 AM

Janie, I can't thank you enough for the trouble you've gone to to bring "Softening the Belly... of Sorrow" to us. A remarkable piece that resonates with me on several different levels. I have not come across the work of Stephen Levine before. A writer I have found helpful & insightful in the past is Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, particularly when one is dealing with end of life issues.
    Dean, 'Swimming on the Other Side'. A beautiful song, beautifully sung & played. And you're right, I don't think it is particularly well known in the UK. Thank you for thoughtfully providing the link. From this musician's p.o.v., it has a James 'Tayoresque' feel to it.
    Maeve, Gnu, Wendy, Sandra, Pete, Allison, Spaw, Chantey Lass, Kat, all of you who have come on board, next week is going to be particularly stressful for Jane: five consecutive days of radiotherapy delivered to her brain. Scares the hell out of all of us & yet Jane is remarkably sanguine about the forthcoming treatment.
    Today, I want to finish by re-quoting Bruce: "I have loved you since you were born." The daughter replied, "I know that, mom, but I have loved you all my life." Truly a pearl amongst a sea of tears. Bruce, you don't need to do any more than you do already to lighten my load. Knowing that You; knowing that all of you are out there, so far yet so near is more than I could have ever hoped for. Your resilience & steadfastness is breathtaking,
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 07:51 AM

hugs to Jane & her family & friends next week

ssandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 08:58 AM

Fervent hopes for good results from the radiation therapy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 03:24 PM

As always, I am hoping for the best possible results from the five days of treatment Jane will have. It sounds like truly a "One Day at a Time" experience. I wish her and all her family fortitude.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 03:42 PM

Just updating my best thoughts to you and yours, Nigel.
Charlie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Jan 13 - 11:35 PM

Nigel, remember, if you need to rant, weep, etc. , it's okay...don't "be brave" on our account. We can be your strength.

I don't know if there is any significance, but at 345 am, my time (7 hrs behind London time), early Saturday morning, I woke up with you all very clearly in my mind.

Much love and thanks givings for the best possible outcome for all concerned,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 06:33 AM

Kat, at that time (London time) on Saturday morning, Jane would have been taking a short drive (her husband driving) to watch her eldest daughter play in a Netball match. As Ann has come home for the weekend, we don't know whether she actually made the match. Netball is a game Jane played (and loved) into adulthood, right up until about a month before she received her initial diagnosis. So yes, something significant was (we hope!) happening in that Jane was going to watch her daughter play a game they both love & at which they both excel(d).
       Charlie, good to hear from you. How was Burn's Night?
       ChanteyLass, you used the word: "Fortitude". The Oxford English Dictionary defines "Fortitude" as: "Courage in pain & adversity". You couldn't have chosen a more apposite word.
      
       As most of you know, my working life has been devoted to Music. What most of you don't know is that some years ago, a complete career change presented itself. I went back to uni, part time & for six years, trained as a Psychotherapist. Whilst on my final clinical placement in a hospital, my own health gave way & the therapist became the patient.
       My point is that, despite a wealth of knowledge & experience of 'The Human Condition', it counts for very little when one's own Family is concerned. That's where you Good Folk come in; that's why I used words like 'steadfast' & 'resilience'. I know well enough how to support others, but I'm rendered impotent when it comes to supporting myself. Ann & I can't cope anymore without You All. Kat, you wrote: ".....it's ok, don't be brave on our account. We can be your strength". As I said above: "Your resilience & steadfastness is breathtaking".
      With Love & eternal Gratitude,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 08:08 AM

Hey, Nigel. Much as I love living in Scotland, we don't do Burns night. At my grandchildren's primary school it was Haggis,neeps and tatties for school dinner but many of the kids prefer a packed lunch. Most of the classes had a Burns themed lesson on Friday but my only contribution was a glass of Jameson's.
I've just realized that Jameson's is NOT scotch. Forgive this weary sassenach, please Mudcat Caledonians.
Best as usual, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 08:15 AM

Nigel,

have just re-read the last two posts from you, I wish I had the words to express how both Billy and I feel for you, Ann and Jane and her family, just so pleased that they were able to go to the netball game and be "normal " for a day! We know how your life is turned upside down by a serious illness.Often Billy has commented to me that the only time we go out together is on a trip to the hospital, and conversations with family and friends are about either Billy or mum's health. So I will attempt some "normal " conversation...

The sun in Frinton is shining from a clear blue sky, yesterday was beautiful in the morning and after I had finished my last client, Samantha and David and I took the little girls for a walk along the greensward to check out the beach hut. Lots of dog walkers on the sands and even two speedboats heading for Walton Pier! Hot Chocolate at the hut and all was well when we opened up, I always wonder how a little wooden shed on stilts can withstand the North Sea and East winter winds.Bunny and Prudence are a joy to be with and ask such funny questions,this morning talking on the phone Pru told me that the snow had all gone and WHY was it not summer today then? Summer seems a long way off, but the daffodils are venturing up in my garden,I must go and see if the snowdrops are out yet? Lots of little finch type birds have been at the bird table to investigate if that pesky squirrel has left them any nuts!

Will be holding Jane in my thoughts this week, and sending you and Ann all the strength I can muster. Wishing you a peaceful Sunday

With love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 01:09 PM

I didn't have to wear my longjohns today, just in case anyone was wondering.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 06:48 PM

Sadness tonight, softened by time and cherished memories on this 22nd anniversary of the passing of my older sister. Tomorrow, though, will joyfully celebrate the 60th journey of my younger sister around the sun.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 06:52 PM

"I didn't have to wear my longjohns today, just in case anyone was wondering."

And thankfully I didn't have to wear your longjohns either. Thanks, gnu.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jan 13 - 07:31 PM

9... that's what friends are for. We're all in this together... Red Green (Steve Smith.)

Keep yer stick on the ice, eh?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 28 Jan 13 - 06:53 PM

Can't have this 'un droppin' off the screen!

Speaking of refresh, about your long johns, gnu....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jan 13 - 07:46 PM

Well... longjohns are required for the -40WC we have had for a bit but we got 8C comin Wed and rain and 11C comin Thu! IT's JANUARY!??? This Global swarming is gettin weird.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jan 13 - 09:10 PM

I've been thinking of Jane a lot today.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 29 Jan 13 - 04:17 AM

Day 2 for Jane,
love and hugs Jane,Nigel and Ann

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Jan 13 - 06:14 AM

Bruce & Gnu, thank you for lightening the mood. The humour was much needed & much appreciated. Laughter is in pretty short supply in the Paterson household at present.
       Yes, day two for Jane. Day one seems to have passed without anything unduly unpleasant occurring, so let's hope for more of the same today.
       Several of you have taken the trouble to PM me. I'm moved by the intimacy of your writings, encouraged by the wisdom of your words & overwhelmed by the depth of your compassion,
                  Stay Close,
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jan 13 - 10:24 AM

With the time difference from here to there, Day 2's treatment may also be done. I hope it went as well as Day 1's.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jan 13 - 04:40 PM

Fingers crossed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jan 13 - 07:53 PM

Still pulling at the oars along with the rest of the crew. Looking around and - Oh! Everybody, Look! Off to port! Dolphins playing along side. And do you notice the play of light from the sunbeams breaking through the patchy clouds?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 30 Jan 13 - 11:14 AM

sunbeams here too!
Ho hum, drove to hospital for Billy's consultant appointment and we were too early!! One week too early, and I thought mum had the memory problems?

Love the Dolphins,

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Jan 13 - 06:04 PM

we were glad to take tommy from hospital on monday - although frustrated that the delay in getting the discharge bits meant driving home in the london rush hour.from there we went to evilena childrens hospice for further recouperation and training for us re new equipment.becky and i came home today while tommy continues his "holiday".he is pretty much back to his usual self now.thanks again for your interest and prayers.
while we were away i continued to remember in prayer,nigel,ann,and jane and everyone else.God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 30 Jan 13 - 06:40 PM

Backatcha, Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 30 Jan 13 - 07:40 PM

Good news Pete,

with love
Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Jan 13 - 09:15 PM

Wendy, I went to a doctor's appointment one month early! And I have my mammograms done annually in the same building. The doctor is a breast surgeon. I haven't needed surgery, but I have had a few questionable mammograms and needed stereotactic (needle) biopsies. Several months after my arriving one month early and returning on the correct date, I went in for another "routine" mammography. Instead, I went to the breast surgeon's office! I put it down to tension. Breast cancer killed my mom and some other family members.

Pete, I'm glad that Tommy is out of the hospital

I am continuing to think of Jane and hope her second and third days of treatment have not been too awful..

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Jan 13 - 11:44 PM

I am continuing to think of Jane and hope her second and third days of treatment have not been too awful..

what ShantyLass said,

sandra (who recently stopped just outside the physio's office to check her diary - I was a week early. I slunk away before they could see me)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 11:13 AM

Days 1,2 & 3 of Jane's radiotherapy have gone as well as we could hope. It is distressing for her, but not painful. The process involves wearing a close-fitting mask so that the laser can be accurately targeted. Jane then has to be strapped down firmly so that no movement is possible. Mercifully, each session lasts for about ten minutes only. Whilst prone & immobile she visualises many of the beautiful places she has visited in the Middle East; our Dear Darling Daughter suffers from claustrophobia! The visualisation technique is the only way she can cope with this constrained form of treatment. It's good to see Jane eating more. Her oncologist has encouraged her to eat anything & everything she fancies; the more calories the better. The chemotherapy part of her treatment can't be restarted until she's regained as much of her weight loss as possible.
       Some lovely posts above...positive news about Tommy; Wendy, ChanteyLass & Sandra bringing us some smiles, despite the underlying seriousness of the situation & Janie with the dolphins, a visualisation for us all, to which I want to add: don't lose contact with your 'Inner Child'. The ability to play is just as vital in adulthood as it was in childhood. Swim after the dolphins & PLAY!
       With Love to You All,
                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 06:28 PM

My Dear Nigel,

The "inner child" here went out to play! I went to see Les Mis the film, with my daughter last night! Oh the joy of going to the "pictures" such Fun!! We got two for the price of one thanks to our mobile phones, and, because we had two scoops of icecream each and a fizzy drink, earnt so many points that we can get a free ticket next time( as long as it is on a Tuesday?)I have to say ,loving the stage musical so much, I went with an open mind to not compare! But I thought the film was wonderful and loved that it was filmed quite a lot in Greenwich at the Royal Naval College so near to where I spent my childhood.Got back home to find that Billy had a rather difficalt evening with mum, but they were watching a concert of Glen Campbell at the Festival Hall ( circa 1970 something) and ,bless him, Billy was delighted that Samantha and I had enjoyed our girls night out!

Hope Jane gets through Friday with her fantastic determination that she has shown throughout!Thinking of you all,as always,

Fondest love

Wendy xxxxxxxxx (still looking forward to tea at the beach hut in the spring)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 07:46 PM

Speaking of dolphins and what lies below, a shorter version of this was on FB. THIS is the original, amazing footage with text commentary and a great message. The whole 8+ minutes are worth watching, but the close-up action starts about 4 minutes in. Perhaps a few minutes of respite for us all.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 08:34 PM

Nigel, your family makes me happy to ever have come here. And all of you like myself are fortunate to be crewing here. My very best thoughts to all.

As for my situation...........

After several weeks of testing and transfusions I have been being treated for the past 5 weeks with weekly shots for Myeloplastic Dysplasia. Basically, the bone marrow isn't producing the required red blood cells. The drug, Aronesp, isn't working as much as we had hoped but it seems to have started to do a bit of something.   The Doc wasn't pleased however and we're upping the dose for a month and see how it goes. I hope the progress keeps up.

If not we will start on Vizada, a form of Chemo, which knocks out the nasties and allows the goodies......or something like that....LOL.....Anyway, the MPDS that I have can and probably will develop into Leukemia but of a type that doesn't respond well to treatment. The Vizada is about the only thing which has shown doing much both in terms of forestalling the onset of the Leukemia and improving to some degree the morbidity rates.

So we're going along for now and seeing what is working. Hopefully the Aranesp does better and we'll move on from there. Whatever it is and however it goes, we're taking it one step at a time.   Like Woody said, and I intend to take his advice, "Take it easy.....But take it." HEY! Matter of fact....Let's all do that.......

Take it easy...But take it.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 08:45 PM

Spaw, good luck with the increased dosage for your treatments.

Kat, nice video.

Wendy, I'm glad you enjoyed a night out.

Nigel, I was wondering if your daughter's treatments would involve restraints and a mask. I know someone else who has undergone similar treatments. I, too, have claustrophobia and would try to visualize something pleasant. I am so glad that she has only one day of this left.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 09:08 PM

I've got my fingers and eyes crossed in hopes of a good response for you, Pat. You still having to make that long drive to stay "in-network?" Orion is bright in the sky here tonight. Very clear sky, the atmosphere well-scoured by the high winds of the last couple of days. I think it may be snowing in your neck of the woods, but even if you can't see it, Orion will soon be directly overhead where you are also. My aim ain't that precise from such a distance, but I tried to concentrate on the triple star cluster, Rigel, it being the brightest and a triple and all, eh? May as well aim for the mostest. Anyways, while I've never figured out if Rigel marks Orion's left foot or the left corner of a bad hem job on his tunic, moonbeams and starlight channeling love and light to all, and tonight, especially to 'Spaw, Karen and the boys.

Good to hear from you, Nigel, and to hear that Jane is tolerating the radiation treatments. She is obviously determined and resilient. Probably like her loving parents. May she have and be able to execute wonderful food cravings!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 10:22 PM

Thank you Janie and CL.....but Janie Bud, not to worry yet......LOL.....and I just realized I'm also DYSLEXIC!....LOL....The chemo drug is Vidaza not Vizada............


pSwA

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 10:27 PM

go ahead - blame dyslexia on poor keyboard skills. See if I care!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 13 - 11:01 PM

Gee... I just feel inadequate. I have no words for any of you except to say I like to hear good news and don't even wanna her anything BUT good news. But, that is life. Had a bunch of bad news today... but... that is life. Sometimes, that is all there is to say other than... I am still here and I am in for the long haul because there are no finer people I would want to row my oar beside. Thanks.

Time to thread a bit... rant... cajole... listen to music... and hope the f***** power doesn't go out again tonight! It's a tad windy here.

God bless youse... yer a good bunch.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 01 Feb 13 - 05:50 AM

As gnu alluded to, it is a very humbling experience to spend thread time with truly beautiful people. It speaks to a goodness found in the human character too often overlooked in our day to day lives. I think no one will visit this thread and remain untouched by the thoughts of others or the depth of compassions we may not have known we had within ourselves. It ain't quite a miracle on 34th Street but it's darned close.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 01 Feb 13 - 10:22 AM

More good news: my friend Richard who I requested thoughts for a while back is out of hospital and recuperating. There's been a couple of minor hiccups (an infection and some nausea) but he's improving now.

Yesterday he got the test results on the tissue and its all clear, the surgeon removed the only tissue that was cancerous.

So thank you to you all for being so positive....it really does help.

And best wishes to all those still in the throes of surgery / radio / chemo.

Thanks

Paws

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 01 Feb 13 - 11:06 AM

that's great news, Paws!!

Spawdarlin'...I told you you can quit being the evil twin, now! luvya

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Feb 13 - 11:29 PM

Paws, your post about Richard makes me happy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 02 Feb 13 - 03:16 AM

Lovely to get some good news, thank you Paws,

Hoping all went well this week for Jane, Nigel

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 02 Feb 13 - 03:29 AM

Wonderful, Paws.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 12:47 AM

We're still waiting anxiously to hear from a few and especially how things have gone with Jane. I know I've been sending the best mojo I got everyday.

I have received a number of PM's regarding my situation and let me assure all of you that I'm doing fine with the whole thing and it just ain't time to worry yet. I'll let you know when and we can all worry really hard for about 15 minutes then and get it over with. Maybe we can schedule it.

Love you all and my love to all,


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 01:47 AM

The moon is rising.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 03:56 AM

Apologies to you all, my Dear Friends. Depression has slowed me almost to a standstill. Spending far too much time sitting, staring into the middle distance, unable to do anything.
Kat, I haven't watched your video.....I will.
Spaw, I should've written immediately; you are in great need of support & I fell short of the mark.
The news about Richard is very good to read, thank you, Paws.
Jane has completed her five sessions of radiotherapy without undue distress. Followup consultation next week. She found the energy to make it to the kitchen on Friday & baked a cake. Her sense of achievement was palpable (and almost unbearably moving to witness).
                            With Love to You All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 06:58 AM

Nigel and Ann,

Thinking of you

xxxxxxxxxxxx

With love

Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 09:58 AM

That is pretty fine news about Jane as things could have been infinitely tougher. And the fact she baked a cake? Yeah, I bet she felt good. You and Ann have a strong minded daughter Nigel. Good vibes still coming from Ohio.

And Nigel.....There is no mark to fall short of. You and this crew have proven your capacity to support and to care and to love. Never make your level of caring a goal when everyone knows how wonderful you've shown it to be.   Guilt is the one thing we will not allow aboard.

And that goes for the rest of you!!! Keep the voyage alive..........and this thread on the page....LOL


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 11:48 AM

I'm still here, heeding Spaw's call to make sure it stays on the page...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Feb 13 - 09:09 PM

Nigel, when you are ready to tell us more, we will be here to read it. Share in your own good time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 04 Feb 13 - 01:20 AM

Friends are here in the dark of night...depression can be a way to sort fears from reality. It's Janie's quote about the light that's visible because of the darkness. We must face it on our own, but we are not alone.

Whether we put the fears onto paper, play them on an instrument, or carve words to speak them, the agony of depression is at once anesthesia and exploration of What Is...yet is never All That Is.

The cold of tonight's winter wind brings fresh breath to stagnate lungs. Breathe in...out...in...out...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Feb 13 - 05:32 AM

cool summer breezes here - from my fan!

but still thinking of everyone

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 04 Feb 13 - 09:16 AM

me, too.

Maeve, that is beautiful, thanks for sharing it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Feb 13 - 08:59 PM

maeve, what you said is beautiful. More importantly though, it is very, very wise.

Love to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Feb 13 - 12:45 PM

im sure we have all been in the place where it all seems just too much effort.glad janes treatment went quite well and that she even had enough energy to do the cake.sometimes the loved ones looking on and feeling helpless take it worse than the one directly afflicted.
yet the knowledge of such love will give encouragement to the sufferer.blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Feb 13 - 04:04 PM

Some beautiful & comforting posts here. Maeve, I read & re-read, as Janie described them, your:"...very, very wise" words. As a direct consequence, I am endeavouring to compose my way out of my depression. Today, I have roughly two minutes-worth of a new piece residing in my computer. I'm content with the results so far & my mood is lighter. Without all You Good Folks & my Music, I really would be adrift & rudderless,
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Feb 13 - 09:18 PM

And we are still here and will be when you need us.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 04:43 AM

Still here Nigel xxx

Sunny here in Frinton this morning, we are off to the hospital for the consultant appointment ( hopefully on the right day after last weeks arriving one week early) may throw my hat in first to see if it's thrown right back?

Many wise and wonderful people on this thread,

Love to you all

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 04:08 PM

i hope it was a positive,encouraging appointment wendy
.pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 05:25 PM

Hi Pete,

thank you, yes some positive thoughts, the Leuchemia count is down from 200 to 2.5!! But the other blood counts have not come back up, probably because of the chemotherapy, but not so low that Billy needs a blood transfusion. Bone marrow biopsy on March 4th and CT scan, then another big follow up appointment two weeks later to see how Billy has done on the trial so fingers crossed for a while!

Hope Tommy is still doing well?

Still here thinking of Jane and her lovely parents

with love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 07:20 PM

I'm checking in, spending less time in front of the screen these days and more time teaching, reading, being with family. My heart is with all here who are waiting for the dark times to end.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 07:22 PM

Good job billy and of course Wendy too. Keep it up and so will we. The news across the boaard here isn't too terrible right now but we're all goin' to keep keep this boat moving forward.....making waves!

Okay......Got a request.......

I went in for my weekly Aronesp shot and after increasing the dosage last week, this week I have continued to improve. We were at Connie and Wayne's on Sunday and I did pretty fair.....at least a good bit better than I had been and I had already gone past my record for being without a transfusion.   Today I feeel better that I have in months and was figuring thqat maybe I had picked up as we'd been hoping and would be on my way to avoiding the Vidaza.

My hemoglobin DROPPED a tenth.......I was dissappointed to say the least.   And yet, as we left I walked at a reasonble clip to the car with Karen.....she has been coming around and picking me up. AND all the way to the car I am talking and jumping around the ice patches. I haven't felt this good in months and yet the damn Hemoglobin went down. DAMMIT!   We stopped at our favorite Thai restaurant that we used to stop at every month but haven't been there in 3 or 4 even though we've been to Columbus weekly.....and we enjoyed the meal!!!! I'm telling you it was a damn good day and a way above the norm week.   Dropped a damn tenth...........

Okay....I may not be thinking the thing hard enough SO.................

This week when you think of this thread even though you may not be posting at the time....let's say it just crosses your mind.......Think "UP SPAW." That's it......just think "UP SPAW" whenever.............okay. You can do whatever other things we all do differently and personally in our prayers or Mojo or best thoughts or whatever ta' hell VooDoo You Do or I Do.........But also think "UP SPAW."

Now I'm prepared for the possibility this may not not work but let's give the Aronesp an assist the next 7 days. Hey......who knows? Can't hurt.


Spaw.....as in "UP SPAW"

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 07:32 PM

"UP SPAW"...of course. Similar felicitous thoughts are rolling for each one here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 06 Feb 13 - 08:05 PM

Way-hey, UP SPAW rises!

I had some good news at the kidney doc's today. All numbers are normal for me, but creatinine went up. Good news, it's probably due to low BP, so i get to reduce another med. Really relieved.

love to you all

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Feb 13 - 06:52 AM

Great to hear good news.

UP yours SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 07 Feb 13 - 09:00 AM

UP SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 07 Feb 13 - 11:29 AM

Nigel - you're not alone.

You know that everyone here one is willing you and your family to bear this awful load.

You have the strength of us all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Feb 13 - 09:33 PM

It's always a pleasure to read good news from some of you.

In addition, UP, SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 07 Feb 13 - 10:39 PM

Ditto!!!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 07 Feb 13 - 11:54 PM

When I say "UP SPAW" it reminds me of a German wedding I was at. They spent the night with a polka party at the grange. i heard a lot of "Oop-pah" or something similar. Quite an image...Spaw swinging round at a polka dance!*bg* UpSpaw! May it be so!

We've had an air inversion cross the valley, so very washed out gloomy skies until today. Big, warm, beautiful Rocky mtn. sun. I could just *see* it shining on all those in need. Wishing you all the best.

In the meantime, whether you agree with Tibetan Buddhist practices or not, here is a favourite HEALING MANTRA with beautiful images, text, and music. I find it very calming.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Feb 13 - 07:06 AM

we all doing our best to SPAW UP the drop
tommy doing well,thankyou for asking wendy.becky has been dozing in his room as he needs more checking for his breathing on the new equipment.she thinks i might not wake up if i do it!.are you still up at night with your mum?.
blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 08 Feb 13 - 07:22 AM

Glad Tommy is doing well Pete,bless Becky ,I know the feeling! I have turned the " baby" alarm off for the last two nights as mum is able to walk out to the bathroom safely in the night now so I am sleeping better at last!However last Friday woke up in the early morning and heard a high pitched whistle that sounded like the fridge door was left open so I assumed mum was up and about in the kitchen( not very safe) so jumped out of bed and ran downstairs to find mum fast asleep, no one in kitchen but the dustcart was reversing down our lane and that was the noise!!Those baby alarms work a little too well!

SPAW UP you go

with love to all

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Feb 13 - 10:11 AM

Thanks for all the UPS!!!

So good to keep hearing of progress for so many. Pete brings up a point that we often need to remind ourselves about......Caregivers are in need of a some backup too. Many here are Caregivers and I suppose you could argue that this group is here to help in that support function. But I think we need to throw out some good vibes, prayers, Mojo, or VooDoo, to them.

Personally, I am sorta' in awe of how they do what what they do without completely freaking out and wearing out. I know what Karen often goes through with me and reading above about Becky and Pete and Wendy just triggered the suggestion in my lame brain that we all need a rousing "GO TEAM" sent out to all of them be they parents, sisters and brothers, ........To ALL of those who are weary to the bone yet we stupidly call them tireless because that is what they seem...........To everyone from the Nigel and Ann to all who have told of loved ones they have cared for...........

THANK YOU
GO TEAM

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 08 Feb 13 - 11:10 AM

Good point Spaw. I am in awe of my Rog and how he takes care of me, goes to work, and a myriad of other things. Since last summer, he's had to take on a lot more in caretaking me. I am grateful, but worry about the stress on him.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 04:03 AM

Up Spaw, up Spaw, the only way is up.
Up Spaw, up Spaw & down another cup.
Down another cup my boy & down it to the dregs,
Then sleep it off upon your bunk & dream of grog filled kegs!

       With Much Love & Healing Thoughts,
                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 06:25 AM

Up Spaw, up Spaw & raise another glass.
Up Spaw, up Spaw, you've fallen on your arse!
The grog has proved too strong my boy & gone straight to your head
So get ye down below the decks & get ye straight to bed!

       Love & Hugs,
                           Nigel & Ann.
                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 07:33 AM

very poetical, Nigel!

sending good wishes to the sick & their caregivers

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 08:23 AM

UP SPAW!
With my spotty rural internet it's been hard to load this thread very often, but somehow today, even with Nemo blasting through, 8'm able to be here (UP SPAW)!

I know I'm blessed with good health and healthy family, so I am more than willing to put my energy towards all of you in need of it (UP SPAW).

So, here's to the healing, the ailing, and the caregivers: GO, TEAM!



UP, SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 09:08 AM

Just checking in to wish everyone well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 01:17 PM

Well if all this doesn't do it, especially with the additions from Nigel so musically spoken, then I'll just have to figure this is the wrong medicine or I need an additional one!

Thanks for all the UPS!!! LOL.....Surprised I can type being that grogged UP..........



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 08:14 PM

Yer on the grog? I'll raise a jar wit ye. Here's to you and here's to me and if we chance to disagree... you know the rest.

Take care of youse and yours.

Bless all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 09 Feb 13 - 08:30 PM

UP SPAW and at 'em! and UPS to everybody here along with the usual and sincerest repetitions of love, hope and hugs and you're never far from thoughts all of the time xxrum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 05:10 AM

It would be good to hear from all those Crew Members in America & Canada who have been deluged by the snow storm. Assuming you have power & your internet is up, a quick check in just so's we know you're ok. If you know of anyone who is cut off, no power etc, etc & can't check in, let us know too, then we can paint a rainbow around them, keep them safe & warm & maybe, who knows, perhaps the snow will melt a little faster.
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

PS Up Spaw & at 'em, but stay away from the grog!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 05:33 AM

Still having light fluffies here. Approx 40cm but the wind was 60 to 90kph so we had some drifting. Didn't lose power. Cleanup begins in about 3 cups of tea.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 05:34 AM

Hey, Nigel. We had a foot of the white stuff for the third or fourth time in a month and are eagerly anticipating the onset of winter.

Summer scene in southern Quebec.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 05:40 AM

This is what happened the last time gnu had three cups of tea.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 07:04 AM

Hahahahahaaa!

Tandem shovelling. Been there, hated it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 08:32 AM

did you say summer scene bruce!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 08:52 AM

Good morning all and UPSPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 11:11 AM

Hey, Pete. Howzit? Just fooling around with the summer scene remark. Gnu would understand because that's often what people think the country is like year 'round. We had a wee bit of snow--a half meter in places. Nothing major. At least nothing to prevent people getting out and about.

Good 'seeing' you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 12:01 PM

I could tell that last photo was a fake; if gnu had peed that hole in the snow, the snow around it would have been yellow.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 12:35 PM

good thoughts needed for one of my best friends, had some chemotherapy recently for some months, now having stem cells taken tomorrow, he is a very well known folk musician in the UK , but would not like me to mention his name. But mudcat mojo is going to help I know. Pete, I think you may know who he is so pm me and I will give you more information.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 08:17 PM

Good thoughts on their way to your anonymous friend, billybob.

Nigel, there is a thread about the recent storm In the US and Canada here. thread.cfm?threadid=149449&messages=108 In the US, Connecticut may have got the worst of it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 08:42 PM

billybob best friend - best wishes... T&Ps.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 08:55 PM

Hello, all. Here in New Hampshire it was just a blizzard out of the good old days. We didn't even lose power! Alouette and I and a few of our friends attended the village church service this morning, at the request of a dear woman celebrating her 90 th birthday today. All she wanted for her birthday was for the five of us to sing a sweet song we do called "Here in this place" by Peter Fischmann, about the beauty of rural New England in February. The chorus goes:

Here in this place, I have all I ever wanted.
Here in this place, I have everything I need.
I have love, I have beauty, I have grace,
Here in this place.

I am grateful that I can sing this song with a full heart- every word is true. May it be true for us all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Feb 13 - 10:11 PM

Thank you so much, Allison.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Feb 13 - 07:00 AM

hi bruce-we went to the toronto area some years ago [i know its a long way from you] and the first day there i went for a cycle along the lake.it was very refreshing but perishing cold,even without snow.

hi wendy-is this folkie a regular at footscray or kemsing sessions?
apart from those i mostly do open mics.i dont know how to do a pm but maybe if he wanted me to know he will mention it.
posted with a prayer-God knows who he is.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 11 Feb 13 - 07:36 AM

I too lived in Toronto for a year in 1980, we were on St Clair, loved the city in winter, a different cold to the UK!I remember taking the children to see Niagera falls when it was frozen very beautiful!

Pete my friend is very well known in Kent, thank you for your prayer!
Now we have heard that my brother in law in New Jersey has had a heart attack. What is going on ? Is it because the year has a 13 in it?

Sailing on with love to all aboard,

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Feb 13 - 07:42 AM

adding my good wishes to the UK folkie - & everyone!

sandra

Pete, you need to be a member to send a Personal Message. If you want to join Mudcat, send an email to [e-mail] & he will join you up.

To send a PM you either click on the little blue PM in the From: line or go to your personal page & search for the member's name.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Feb 13 - 07:38 PM

Wendy, I hope your brother-in-law recovers quickly and fully.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Feb 13 - 08:04 PM

Rise Up Thread!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 04:37 AM

I guess I've been taking a bit of a back seat over the past few days...been concentrating on composing. Apart from the fact that it's something I enjoy immensely, the 'creative process' has helped lift the severe depressive episodes I have been experiencing over the last month or so. What is also pleasing is to read your posts, safe in the knowledge that our Thread is in good hands.
       So we have information about the snow storm in America & Canada; beautiful words from a beautiful song (would it be considered a hymn?)...more folks in need of our thoughts & prayers...interesting personal anecdotes & a cheery sprinkling of humour. Nourishment for the Heart & Mind.
       Jane is 'between treatments'. She has finished with the radiotherapy, but can't resume chemo for another couple of weeks. She remains cheerful, but needs plenty of timeouts to rest. Jane is trying to set herself one, achievable task, job, a pleasurable, personal moment. One special thing for each day. So far, she has not missed a day. She is a wiz in the kitchen, so that's where she often ends up, but what the hell, her sense of satisfaction & achievement is worth it's weight in gold. Jane has even gone out of her way to make (and buy) diabetic friendly food, just for me. With everything she has on her mind, she still makes time for others. I love her so much.
      Keep warm, stay safe,
                                       With Love,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 11:44 AM

Who wouldn't?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 12:42 PM

lovely to read of janes positive and thoughtful spirit and enjoyment of accomplishment in the kitchen when she might justifyably not have found the energy.good too,nigel ,to see that your music construction is countering the depression.
continueing to wish the best to the well known folkie and to wendys brother in law.[i,m sure the 13th is incidental!]

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 03:58 PM

Something else that has spoken to me for several years now . David Tamulevich, on the right, wrote it; they're in our area, and we get to see them fairly often

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 05:56 PM

Let me report that the UP campaign has met with moderate success!!! I was overjoyed to find that I maintained the same number from last week. When you have been going down pretty regularly that's damn good. We'll see where we are next week and continue on from there. Throw in the occasional UP thought if you get a chance and I thank you for all the ones given last week that seemed to help!!!

Nigel, tell Jane I know something of what she feels.   I love to cook and those times over the past years when things have been bad, I never felt right or myself again until I was cooking. It brings on the feeling of normalcy and usefulness like nothing else for me. Everyone has something different I suppose but I can really identify with Jane in the kitchen.   

Sending a giant cast iron soup kettle of great thoughts Jane's way today!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 06:10 PM

UP HIGHER, SPAW!
Frogprince, that's one of my favorite songs by Mustard's Retreat.
Nigel, I think Jane's plan to do one special thing each day is wise. And as she moves around her kitchen, she might gradually rebuild some strength.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 06:41 PM

"It brings on the feeling of normalcy and usefulness like nothing else for me."... cool. I can relate to that, Spaw.

Wire brush sideways.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 13 Feb 13 - 09:41 PM

My heart feels warmed by all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 14 Feb 13 - 07:39 AM

Note to self ........ when mother sits down make sure her glasses are on her nose and not beneath her derriere!!

whoot,
rowing on......

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 Feb 13 - 09:33 PM

Ah Wendy, a good sense of humor is a precious gift to remember we have on occasion, eh?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Feb 13 - 10:01 PM

Well. Billybod,


there are advantages to hindsight....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 15 Feb 13 - 07:23 PM

Up Spaw, Jane, billybob, tommy, et. al.!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Feb 13 - 09:13 PM

I heard a song on the TV program, "Judging Amy," many years ago that just struck me hard with a combination of tune and lyrics. I like the writer, Peter Himmelman, who did all the music for the show. It took him years to record it and it finally hit YouTube.

The song's name is "The Best Kind of Answer." Why am I posting this stuff here? Because there is something in the lyric that speaks to me about the transcendency of real love......that love is all powerful and can heal our pain and transcend words. This isn't to say I don't like to say the word. On the contrary! But it's like knowing that people in this group love each other and their families.
The kind of love that you know is there when you just look into the eyes of someone. Nigel and Ann......Is there any doubt that Jane knows how much you care just by looking at the two of you? Wendy? Know what I mean? I know Janie does.....and Maeve though none of us have met.

The song says the best kind of love can wash away pain, and the best kind of answer has no sound.   I believe that......I really do. Enjoy.

The Best Kind of Answer


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 12:29 AM

By the time I heard that chorus a couple of times, I was picturing a number of good moments in my life that had little or nothing to do with words.

May the whole "crew" have a night of quiet rest; then UP ye all.: )

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 03:08 AM

Just checking in to let you all know that Ann & I are ok, but we're becoming increasingly concerned about Jane. The cancer has made her bones so brittle that she may well have broken her hip. She's been back in hospital this week. I'll know more after the weekend. Ann's been with her all week, I've been at home because of my own appointments. There is a building momentum with Jane's state of health of a kind that is starting to make us deeply anxious. Methinks that spot on the horizon is closer than we thought.
             With Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 04:56 AM

Nigel and Ann,

just sending " the best kind of love"

xxxxxxx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 07:16 AM

Oh dear. My thoughts & prayers continue.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 09:02 AM

More from Staffs as well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 09:10 AM

Best love and good thoughts as time inevitably passes.........Holding you tight.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 10:32 AM

Sending "Courage" "Courage" by Cindy Kallet & Grey Larsen- lyrics here.

"Going Away"- Utah Phillips- Sung by friends
Maeve

PS- Thanks, Pat.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 02:36 PM

thoughts and prayers- nigel,ann,jane in these hard times.

lovely songs maeve and poetic expression.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 06:14 PM

Keeping you in my thoughts, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 06:59 PM

Yes, we'll land on the shore/yes we'll land on the shore/yes we'll land on the shore/and be safe forever more

Holding you all in the light and giving thanks for ease and comfort through the rocky shoals.

much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 08:21 PM

Love, hope, hugs all positive, upward and safely anchored. Holding fast.
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 09:02 PM

Like so many others, I'm sending love. I am sorry the seas have turned so stormy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Feb 13 - 11:58 PM

I should have included a link...there is a sample of "Sisters now our meeting is over" as sung by Libana. Of course one can replace "sister" with whomever. It's a beautiful song.

CLICK, choose the cd entitled A Circle Is Cast, then scroll down to the last song.

Much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 07:36 AM

Tried to write something cogent this morning, there are so many wonderful posts, full of love, compassion & music...my tears got in the way. So moved by the presence of all You Good People & so horrified & scared by what Jane showed me yesterday. She has a tumour the shape of a small American football on her right hip. It was all I could do to stop myself from exclaiming out loud. I settled for a muted OMG. X-ray, scan results tomorrow, but she has received no chemotherapy since December because of her weight loss & the administration of steroids. Ann & I are haunted by the thought of what further damage the unchecked cancer could be perpetrating. The hip tumour may well be partial evidence; who knows? What to do, what to do?
                With Love to You All,
                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 08:24 AM

Nigel and Ann,

just sending love and hugs,hope you both have a peaceful Sunday, be kind to yourselves today to give you strength for whatever tomorrow brings.

always in my prayers and thoughts

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 08:30 AM

Dear Nigel- I'm so sorry. I offer the following:

"Bear where thou goest the word of love
Say all that words can say
Changeless affections strength to prove
But speed upon the way"

"Row On"
Listen here...

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 11:53 AM

Breathe love in. Breathe love out.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 07:52 PM

That 11:53am post was me, on Mom's computer up in West Virginia. Home now and logged in, and still sending light and love.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 08:21 PM

Nigel. I recently went thru such trauma. Not with someone so close as you are experiencing so I can't imagine your despair. The only words I can offer are these. Love her. Accept the future now, all the while hoping for a miracle, as we must. Talk with her of good things of the past, whatever those could be (only you can know of them) and how they matter to you and to those she loves. Most importantly, reinforce the good things of the past to provide the solace of knowing it was ALL worthwhile... EVERY minute of it.

I'll stop there. I am no priest and I certainly ain't no saint. Just an ordinary guy who wishes he could shoulder some of your burden and knows he can't.

I ain't religious much at all needer, but... God Bless.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 17 Feb 13 - 08:33 PM

gnu, not everyone with religious credentials has what it takes to give counsel like that.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 06:05 AM

Geeziz.....That's unbelievably great coming from a gnu. Maybe we need to consult with a yak and a warthog as well and forget about the religious leaders.........

Nigel, I'd say I can only stand behind gnu...............Then again maybe not literally as that could be bad...........Damn good advice though.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 06:15 AM

Ya had me scared fer a minute there, Spaw. Side by side? Great. Shoulder to shoulder? Fer sure. But I'd be straight up nervous if ya ever got my behind... er... got behind me.

Freudian slap?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 07:53 AM

sending more love

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 10:43 AM

Therein beats the heart of a poet. Beautifully said, gnu.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 11:08 AM

I'll second that.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 02:46 PM

well i reckon i will third it.
even as a practising christian i still feel inadequate in the face of suffering.i know the theology of how it came about but i know that that usually dont make it better.
another "God bless" wished on the paterson family.,,,pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Feb 13 - 04:07 PM

I am sending love again, too. There are so many caring thoughts on this thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Feb 13 - 12:10 AM

Such a wild roller coaster ride. It is one thing to know you or a dearly beloved is bound to die much sooner rather than much later. But there is no way to know, with cancer, just how near or how far away the crossing of the bar may be. Relish each day, embracing both the joy of the present and the love you share, and the fear and anticipatory grief, but live in the present. Let Jane lead the way and set the tone. Reminisce? Yes. Look to the future and what it may hold? Yes. Live in the precious present? Always. Let the present be exquisitely sweet.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 09:17 AM

nothing to add but checking in again with thoughts and prayers   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 09:19 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 10:15 AM

Nigel, what can I say except that you are such a loving father and that will mean so much to her.

..and in the meantime..

x freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 01:17 PM

Still here,

as you said so well Freda

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 03:11 PM

Nigel, I do so wish I could say something profound right now but please accept my very best thoughts and wishes as always.
Charlie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 07:59 PM

I'm still here too (though I wasn't last night when Mudcat was offline, but I still thought of you, your family, and many others).

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 09:43 PM

I've maintained the same Hemoglobin level now for 5 weeks which means the Aronesp is at least working but not enough to forestall the chemo crap. Y'all have done a great job as I had been been losing weekly and being transfused every 2-3 weeks....AND I THANK YOU!!

Otherwise I can only echo the wise woman from the mountains who said above so beautifically......Live in the precious present? Always. Let the present be exquisitely sweet.

Nigel and Ann.......We're always here living the present and sending our love and hope for all of you to be doing the same.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 20 Feb 13 - 10:03 PM

Up Spaw!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Feb 13 - 03:41 AM

I'll second that & add a hug.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Feb 13 - 05:48 PM

WAY UP, SPAW, again. I'm glad we've helped, but I hope we can do more.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 08:03 AM

Morning cheer to all friends here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 08:47 AM

Nigel, wazzup buddy?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 10:27 AM

Been 5 days now since Nigel posted...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 01:47 PM

Sending love and thoughts Nigel

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 02:05 PM

5 days. Yeah. Every day gets a little more anxious, don't it? I am hoping Nigel just needs a break.

Spaw's gonna need a flashlight and a map soon.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 02:55 PM

whenever you do check in nigel you will know that friends have thought about you and yours and have prayed.God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 03:09 PM

Exactly right Pete.........The important thing is that we do keep sending our best thoughts to Nigel and Ann because they will be needing to know we are always here............and we are.

Love and Hope


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 03:29 PM

Always following, and ever mindful. Hoping for at least peace and comfort for these good people.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 08:30 PM

I'm still here too with the rest of you.I can wait. I can be patient. I can also keep sending good thoughts, prayers, and love.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 22 Feb 13 - 10:30 PM

Sometimes the wind fails or fades. We are all pulling at the oars now, Nigel and Ann, keeping a steady course, and here as wanted or needed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 04:29 AM

I'm so sorry to add to your collective anxieties by not posting. 17th Feb. does seem a long, long way back. Reading through your posts since then, there is so much I want to comment on, so much thanks due.News, beautiful, compassionate outpourings; simple, sincere support; links to Music; the list seems almost endless. I've always wanted to & tried to respond to you individually, within each post. It would be more manageable for me to take an 'all embracing' approach, rather than individualising. Life being what it is, there will always be exceptions to this. What energy I have is divided up between Jane, my Marriage with Ann, Our Thread, mine & Ann's personal health issues & my Music. That 'energy supply' seems to be depleting in proportion to the rate of deterioration in Jane's health, so keeping on top of everything gets just that little bit harder, day by day, week by week.
       In the last week, further complications have come to light regarding Jane's health. I can't write about them publicly, but suffice to say, I have nothing good or positive to report.
       I want you to know that my love for all of you grows deeper as each day passes.
       I want you to know that my gratitude knows no bounds.
       I want you to know that without Our Thread, life, with all it's current awfulness, would be an unbearable nightmare.
       I want you to know that you have made a difference to my life, to Ann's life & through us, to Jane's life.
                         With Much Love to You All,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 05:36 AM

Nigel, you and Ann are stuck with us whether you use your precious store of energy to post or not. Row on!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 05:52 AM

YEAH! What maeve said.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 07:25 AM

Nigel, you and your family have been in my heart and my thoughts on a daily basis even when I have not been on line. At present I am traveling, visiting friends and performing in Brasstown, North Carolina. But you and I and all of us here are linked together, whether or not we are posting. One thing I learned, right here on Mudcat during my own bereavement:
LOVE NEVER DIES.

So, UP SPAW AND ALL Y'ALL.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 09:01 AM

love to all

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 11:04 AM

One day at time, Nigel. Don't neglect yourselves either.

Keep it UP Spaw!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 11:32 AM

As Maeve and others have said, we're thinking of y'all whether or not you are able to post. Part of friendship is understanding.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Feb 13 - 05:17 PM

What the others have said!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Feb 13 - 04:38 PM

we all continue endeavouring to take some of the strain as you face stormy weather nigel,and friendship makes no demands on anothers time and energy,so dont be under pressure to post.catch up and find encouragement here when you can.
blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 24 Feb 13 - 04:52 PM

Beautifully said, Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Feb 13 - 05:14 PM

I'll 3rd Pete's remark!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Feb 13 - 09:29 PM

The moon is a tiny fraction from full here tonight. Clear skies, and the temps very mild. A good night to send caring thoughts on moonbeams from this little plot of earth.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 05:21 AM

Two moments of lightness & brightness. Last week we took our two Granddaughters to see the stage show of 'Mamma Mia'. They are NOT 'Abba generation' kids by any stretch of the imagination, but they absolutely loved it. This gives me the opportunity to 'come out'...I love the Music of Abba too; there, I've said it! I realise that some of you may be shocked to read this admission, but it is my considered opinion that Björn & Benny have written some of the finest popular songs of last few decades, bar none.
          Our second 'moment' was the arrival of Jane's younger sister, all the way from Charlotte NC. She brings laughter & sunshine with her, wherever she goes. She has to fly home on Tuesday, but the few days she has spent with us have been a real tonic.
         Tomorrow, Tuesday, Jane has a 'key' consultation with her oncologist. Be with us on Tuesday, please,
          With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 05:37 AM

Dear Nigel,

How lovely to read your last post,just proves that music lifts our spirits in a wonderful way and to share ABBA with the grandchildren is great, our grandchildren have been singing along to the DVD of the film since they were tiny and ,yes, I sing along too!

We had "a moment" on Saturday, as you know we are not able to go out often as we look after mum and, all last year avoided crowds because of Billy's chemotherapy. But we went to see Patricia Routledge and Piers Lane in " Admission one shilling" the story of Dame Myra Hess and the war time concerts in The National Gallery. It was a lovely evening.My son is the Theatre Manager ,St Georges in Great Yarmouth, a beautifully restored Wren Chapel now a Theatre and Arts Centre, so we shared the evening with seeing him.

So glad your other daughter is here,enjoy the rest of her visit.
Will think of Jane tomorrow as always,

much love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 05:59 AM

Good on yas.

Nigel... here every day I can be. If I don't get to read up, I still think about yas. Even Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 10:09 AM

I'm with you there, Nigel, I like Abba's music as well!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 11:30 AM

I'm with you and Pete, Nigel. This oughta bring a few thoughts and maybe a few tears. Easy song to share: The Way Old Friends Do .

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 03:24 PM

I liked Abba's music and it's far reaching appreciation is clearly evident. Don't care for it as much these days but I can still tap my foot to some tunes if that's what's the best choice is.

I like any kind of music that I like and dislike anyone who judges me upon what I like... >;-)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 08:12 PM

fun days & lovely memories, Nigel

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 08:23 PM

i,m no abba fan bruce,but that was a lovely song.
thinking of you nigel for later today.    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Feb 13 - 11:31 PM

I enjoy ABBA's music, too. I wouldn't spend money to hear it but I smile, tap my foot, and hum along when it's on a radio, and I borrowed the Mamma Mia DVD from the library.

I'm glad you have had some lighter moments. You, too, Wendy.

I plan to be here tomorrow, though probably not until quite late. And one reason I'm so late tonight is that I had trouble connecting to the Internet tonight. I hope that doesn't happen again. I don't know what caused the problem, but I jiggled some cords and clicked some switches and everything's working at this moment. Anyway, I hope the angels hold Jane's hand during tomorrow's consultation.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 04:27 AM

Nigel,Ann and Jane,

thinking good thoughts for you all today,

much love

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 06:44 AM

Nigel, you had far better things on hand with your other daughter bringing her obvious lightness............We're all just a cheering section!

But we cheer pretty loud sometimes and I want to thank all those who do!

Wendy......What a fine time!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 01:31 PM

I received a beautiful email recently, the subject of which was: "How be Ye?" I couldn't get those three words out of my head. I felt compelled to write the following:


How be Ye, this cold & frosty morn?

How be Ye? Time has passed since thee was born.

How be Ye? My trusted, dearest Friend.

How be Ye? When 'End' doth mean: 'The end'.

How be Ye? When the laughter turns to tears.

How be Ye? When days are left & no more years.

How be Ye? As the sun begins to set.

How be Ye? Must remember, can't forget.

How be Ye? As the vigil takes it's toll,

How be Ye? Sick at heart, bereft of soul?

How be Ye? As the darkness gathers in.

How be Ye? A fight that's lost, not one to win.

How be Ye? When the time to go arrives.

How be Ye? 'Twill be our Love that us survives.

                   With Love to You All,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 02:02 PM

Nigel, I am without words to say what I want to say about that wonderful piece of work...........Geeziz......that's beautiful........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 02:14 PM

Beautiful indeed, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 02:49 PM

Nigel,

So beautiful

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 04:10 PM

Ditto... ditto... ditto... I am speechless, Nigel.

No... wait... I don't know if this makes sense. This is the first time I read something like that which is so beautiful, I knew I was going to cry but I didn't. Damn close but then a calmness came over me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 04:49 PM

Just beautiful, Nigel.
Love flowing.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 06:24 PM

Just now reading your poem, Nigel.

I am crying, it resonates so much. Seeing rainbows through the tears when I look off over the waters to the west.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 06:27 PM

Nigel, that cuts all the way to the core; it's at once so beautifully, and so frankly, expressive.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Feb 13 - 09:23 PM

Beautiful indeed. And remember, we'll be here no matter what and no matter how long you need us.

(Unless my Internet connection dies. I had trouble again tonight. But even if it does, I'll still be thinking of all of you.)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 11:00 AM

Deeply moving words, Nigel.

More good thoughts coming South.

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 12:50 PM

you wrote that nigel? i seem to remember ,or am i mistaken,that you had said you were not gifted in composing words.seems that you certainly are.
it is late afternoon now so presumably janes appointment has happened.i hope there was some encouragement.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 04:42 PM

The news following Jane's latest consultation is not good I'm afraid. The cancer is an extremely aggressive type, the most aggressive in fact. She begins another course of chemotherapy next week. If this programme of chemo proves ineffective, Jane's oncologist said there was nothing more they could do for her. If the chemo is effective, we are looking at a prolongation of life, not a cure. Desperate, desperate times.
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 09:05 PM

I wish the news had been better. Sending love that will continue no matter what the future brings.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 09:40 PM

Email me.

Bruce

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 09:53 PM

Holding you all in heart and mind on this February evening...Love and caring from another far-away mud pal.
KT

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Feb 13 - 10:43 PM

I doubt anyone here can relieve the pain all of you are going through now and,sadly, that which is yet to come. The many words from you yourself and all of us can only provide scant solace but we have nothing else...........I wish we did. I give you my best in love and friendship for strength and for the best possible outcome whatever that may be for you and Ann......and for Jane.

Your post from the other day reminded of this song verse by Patrick Sky..........

For you the years will heal all the wounds that have been opened
Just like time will cleanse the fields of all the flowers that have ripened.
Of all these things you can be sure.......
Only love will endure

Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 01:12 AM

There are no words that can help, but I too am holding you and your family in my prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 03:58 AM

love

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 04:21 AM

Love from Billy and me xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 07:25 AM

Oh.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 09:32 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann,

I am away from my computer caring for an ill relative, but found a way to check on you. I wish you ease of heart, mind, and body as you sail into unfamiliar seas.
Continued love and the blessings of family and friends surround you.

"Round our skiff be God's aboutness..."

More when I'm home,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Maeve
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 09:37 AM

'Twas I in the previous post.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 10:58 AM

any encouragement from that consultation was certainly slim but as you sail on into yet more turbulent waters it may be that there may still be some settled sea beyond the current horizon,please God that it be so. pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 12:47 PM

A little confused. Is the "Maeve" who posted twice today (so beautifully the first time)the "maeve" who often posts on this site?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 01:20 PM

SPECIAL REQUEST NEWS

Yo Folks!!!!

Just got a call from kat at the hospital. The infectionn in her fingers is staph and it is beyond the antibiotic stage. They are going to cut them open and clean/scrape them out.   I'm sure additional antibiotics will come into play in the process but taking this step is big.....and absolutely critical/necessary/lifesaving. I am not being dramatic here.   

How serious do hospitals and Docs take this? If I go into a crowded ER and say, "I'm running a fever and I have an artificial mitral valve," I move past bleeding old ladies to the head of the line.

As you all know kat has had heart problems and surgeries and staph infections anywhere in your body tend to go pretty quickly to the heart and destroy valves. One can very easily find themselves in a very narrow window here so let's all get real damn serious with whatever mojo you send out....Do it NOW!

Kat and I came here at about the same time over 14 years ago and we've been Buds ever since. She's got everything I can send. Join me.........Can't type anymore.....Do it..............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 01:59 PM

SOB! That's absolutely terrible news!

Hard to comprehend that she has been "let be" by the docs and it has come to this. DISGUSTING! Heads should roll IN COURT and it should be investigated by the medical association and government.

Donuel.... maeve is indeed tending a sick relative. Probably her post. She needs to be kept in our thoughts and prayers as well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 02:30 PM

sending out every Mojo thought I can muster

xxx Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 08:49 PM

Guest, Manuel- Yes, my member name is "maeve", but I've been signing my important posts more correctly as Maeve for some time.I'll post the rest of that lovely little song when I have time.

Spaw- Thank you for the update on our kind kat. Count on me.

Nigel & Ann- Home again briefly,and dipping my little oar with all my might.

Rest and peaceful dreams for us all tonight,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 09:34 PM

Deepest care and concern from the center of my heart for all. We need a good rowing song!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 10:24 PM

Maeve, thanks for taking time out to clarify for me at a time of night when you must be weary. I do hope things go well for your ailing relative and I look forward to seeing the remainder of the song.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 10:26 PM

Earlier, I quoted from this simple, lovely song:

Round Our Skiff

Round our skiff's be God's aboutness
Ere she try the deeps of sea

Sea-shell frail for all her stoutness
Unless Thou her helmsman be

Text: Trad. Hebrides    Music: © 1984 Kathy Wonson Eddy
"Kathy kindly sent me this song among many others a few years ago: she is a great source of liturgical choral music. I have sung it with our chorus and another smaller group, but Carol and I wanted to keep it in our repertoire, so here's a third way to sing it. Kathy lives in Randolph, Vermont." Gordon Bok

(Round Our Skiff is recorded on the album Herrings in the Bay)
http://www.timberheadmusic.com/disc/roundourskiff.htm

mp3 sample here

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Feb 13 - 11:41 PM

Spaw, thank you for the update on Kat. I haven't got to her thread yet, but I'm already increasing my Mojo. Maeve, I'm sorry about your relative being ill. And of course my prayers for Nigel's Jane continue.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 03:45 AM

what ChantyLass said

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 05:02 AM

Oops! Sorry Manuel. I musta been dazed and confused by the news about kat.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 08:06 AM

The news about Kat is very worrying. I think Spaw's post is a clarion call to action. Everything positive that we can send her way in copious quantities. She has been most gracious & caring to Ann & myself over the last year, now it's our turn to send loving, healing thoughts to Kat. Maeve, Ann & I are holding you & your relative in our thoughts too.
                      Much Love to You All,
                                                       Nigel & Ann.
                                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 09:55 AM

Maeve,so very generous of you to share this with all here. And Gnu, all's well, I do understand.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 11:45 AM

gnu, Nigel, ChanteyLass & all- Thanks for your kind thoughts when so many are in dire need.
Manuel- I am glad to share the song; thanks.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,SINSULL
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 02:02 PM

Nigel and Ann,
I include you and your family in my prayers.
Stay strong.
Mary

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 02:55 PM

I've just returned from a long road trip, tired but happy with the trip and happy to be in my own sweet, dear home. I am seeing this news and the news of Kat for the first time and I only wish I had wings that would fly me to the sides of those who are hurting and in need of healing.

Nigel, all I can do at this moment is stretch imaginary arms around you and hold you and your wife and daughter and her family tight, with love flowing. You are such an inspiration and we have all grown through you.

Kat, you know I am with you in healing love.

I think it's time for a healing song circle. If folks here would like it, I'll start a thread and suggest a time (I'm thinking this Sunday, 3/3, at around 8 pm Mudcat time).
I'll wait and see what some of you think before I take the plunge and start the thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 05:56 PM

with prayerful thoughts for kat as she faces such a serious procedure and for spaw in his worry for her.not forgetting jane in her affliction and uncertainty and nigel and ann in their anxiety.God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 07:40 PM

I'd like that, Allison.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 08:15 PM

The healing circle sounds good to me, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 09:24 PM

8PM Mudcat is a tad late in yer eastern readership... no?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 09:49 PM

Of course, what was I thinking? The circle can start whenever it starts, and last for as long as it lasts, but for those who would like to feel that we are singing together, how about 4:00 pm Mudcat time? That would be about 9:00 pm in the UK, for example, I think?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 01 Mar 13 - 11:14 PM

4:00pm Mudcat time works for me. Anytime on Sunday after, say, 9:00am Mudcat time works for me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 02 Mar 13 - 05:22 AM

good for me too!so Sunday at 9 pm here in the UK, I will be there

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 02 Mar 13 - 06:02 AM

Not sure whether I'll be here or not on Sunday afternoon but I'll be round to join in later if I'm not!   What a fine idea Allison. We used to do those a lot around here......Good idea!!!



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 02 Mar 13 - 07:51 AM

9pm Sunday, I'm in.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 02 Mar 13 - 10:51 AM

OK, Here you go: Healing song circle 2013

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Mar 13 - 05:59 PM

Got it!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 12:15 PM

Up thread!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 01:51 PM

Allison, I think the Song Circle is a wonderful idea. Sadly, Ann & I will be out until quite late on Sunday, but we will be with you in mind & spirit. My song choice would be James Taylor's 'You've got a Friend'.
                               Much Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 03:12 PM

Nigel,

your song choice sums up this beautiful thread perfectly,

sending love to you and Ann and Jane

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 05:52 PM

what Wendy said.

love to all from sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 05:55 PM

quite a few friends .blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 06:02 PM

You've got a friend indeed, Nigel- quite a few in fact.

We're singing here- and we'll all be singing in our hearts for you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 03 Mar 13 - 06:37 PM

Mine... Bill Withers... Lean On Me...,

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Please swallow your pride
If I have faith you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me (call me)If you need a
friend (call me)call me(call me) if you ever need a friend

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 04 Mar 13 - 12:38 PM

No falling off the page...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Mar 13 - 09:36 PM

Still rowing. Still singing.

Spaw, I so hope the latest numbers on the blood work are, at a minimum, holding their own.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 04 Mar 13 - 10:41 PM

Aw well Janie.....they're not. I have gone 7 weeks without a transfusion (I was going only 2) of 2 or more pints. The Aronesp is working but below what it needs to be doing. Last Wednesday I was 8.0 on Hemoglobin so I knew it wasn't going to be long. The good thing is that the Doctor felt it has taken hold some butwe will be starting the Vudaza the3 end of the month.

I was still hanging in Sunday but I sstarted calling to get the transfusions scheduled this morning and I have 2 pints going in tomorrow morning. We had to make another 100 mile round trip to Columbus to have the blood draw for the type and crossmatch and we'll do it again tomorrow. Of course Karen drives that route daily but all these extra trips are getting pretty old. We have great insurance through Karen's job at the hospital, buy we need to use their Docs which are ALL in Columbus. Hard on Karen, hard on the car, hard on the wallet...........But whaddaya gonna do?   Damn Aronesp is $2700.00 per shot and I can assure you the chemo will be equally bad. I'm hoping after awhile we can work something out to get the chemo shot closer to home but I'm not holding my breath.

Gotta' go to bed so I can get up and shower at 5.......Forgive any typos........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Mar 13 - 11:53 PM

Love you, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 04:06 AM

love & hugs to you & Karen, spaw

lots more good wishes winging your way.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 04:16 AM

Love and hugs from Billy and I to you Spaw and Karen xx

Billy had his CT scan and bone marrow biopsy yesterday ( results in 2 weeks) and our round trip was only 32 miles, made me count our blessings when I saw your post. Also all his treatment for 7 years has been on our good old National Health Service, hate to think how much money it has cost?

Hope today goes well and you both get home tonight safe and not too tired

rowing on

much love to all the crew
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 12:14 PM

Love and light to Spaw and Karen- looks like you'll have plenty of time to sing "100 Bottles of Beer on the Wall,", "The Ants Go Marching One By One" and all of your favorite commercial jingles!



Or you can just sit back and close your eyes and picture all of your dear Mudcat friends who love you and wish you health and comfort and happiness.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 03:32 PM

as wendy said,certainly makes you count your blessings.the NHS is far from perfect but at least treatment seems to be more accessible.wishing effective help for spaw,billy,jane and some restful peace for their loved ones supporting them.God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 04:33 PM

Ts & Ps to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 05:08 PM

Home.........Feeling better already but a decent sleep and a about a 12 hour assimilation and I'll be in top notch shape.....or at least feeling decent. We did the drive yesterday and today and Karen goes to work again tonight.............Gawd I love her and I have no idea what I would do without her. Of course from the time I met her and on, I never did know what I'd do without her. While in Columbus we also got the weekly Aronesp shot so that's it for the week!

Wendy, with this renewal of energy I'll be keeping things crosssed and holding out good thoughts for some good news from the marrow biopsy and scan. Waiting is the pits.

And to Allison and Janie and gnu and pete and Nigel and the entire crew.....THANKS!!! This is a great crew and a fine boat to sail on.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 08:31 PM

Aw, Spaw, I'd hoped your situation would be better than you described. The driving sounds distressing, too. Wendy, I'll hope for good results on billybob's bone marrow test.

And Nigel, I'll still be here when you are ready to check in again. And I mean when You are Ready. No pressure. Take your time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Mar 13 - 08:49 PM

Yo. Spaw... UP yours with love.

I often say, "Yer one of the good guys." to people I respect. No need to say it to you... it's a given.

Thanks.

Now... EVERYBODY HEAL!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 06 Mar 13 - 07:29 AM

Up Spaw!

Still here, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 06 Mar 13 - 08:12 AM

Haven't been into this thread in the longest time. That will change.   

Good thoughts going out to all those in need right now.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 07:53 AM

A brief check in...much goodness, love & compassion here to encourage & comfort. Ann is with Jane, I'm home in East London. Jane had her first chemo session since December this Monday past. Scans & consultations to follow with further chemo if deemed necessary or advisable. As Spaw says: "Waiting is the pits". Jane is unable to walk unaided now. It's hard to believe that just over eighteen months ago she was playing Netball, driving the girls to school, keeping house, socialising.....cancer is such a cruel, insidious disease.
          Stay close, my Dear Friends, we really can't do this without you,
                           Much Love to You All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 07:58 AM

love to you, Nigel, to Ann, Jane & her family

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 03:34 PM

We're right here, dear Nigel. You and Spaw and Kat are in my heart all the time. You are loved!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,maeve
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 03:43 PM

Far away but here, Nigel and Ann.

maeve on borrowed 'puter

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 03:46 PM

I am here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 03:56 PM

We're with you all, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 06:05 PM

Billy and I are here too, not too far away down the A12 but very close in our hearts.

Wendy and Billy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 07:06 PM

I'm standin' in the circle next to gnu and 999, all hands joined.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 07:35 PM

me too - still praying.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 09:52 PM

Holding all of you, Nigel, very deeply in my heart and mind.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 10:03 PM

There it is. We are here... to wit... from another thread... one of the nicest posts I have ever been privileged to read...

Subject: RE: BS: kat needs a little mojo, please
From: Megan L - PM
Date: 06 Mar 13 - 04:44 AM

I remember once on a tour of our local croft museum the man was showing us carding and weaving, at one point he cut a length of the spun yarn and handed it round everyone pulled and picked at it in their curiosity till it fell apart. One person pointed out how fragile the strand of yarn was, how easily it was pulled apart and unravelled.

The auld lad guiding us round nodded acknowledgement of what had been said. He then pointed out that when that frail thread was woven together with all the other frail threads it made a fine blanket strong enough that we could toss someone up in the air and safely catch them. That is the wonder of Mudcat individually we may be weak but when we come together to become the Mudcat blanket the strength and warmth we generate spreads like sunshine round the world.
********************************************************************

We are here. We want to be a wool blanket.

Thanks again, Megan L. Those words will resonate thru my very soul for the rest of my life.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 07 Mar 13 - 10:06 PM

She has a way with words does that gal. Beautiful.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 05:00 AM

We have been voyaging together for nigh on fifteen months...almost impossible to believe it's been that long. That you have all chosen to stay the course & take precious moments out of your day to send Words & Music of Love, Comfort, Care & Compassion, says much about the type of People you are. That I will likely never meet any of you grieves me. That I have you in my life fills my heart with Joy & restores my faith in Humankind a thousand times over. Your capacity to do Good is boundless & as it's recipient I stand humbled, grateful & moved to the core of my being, a blanket hugged tight around my shoulders.
                From our Hearts to Yours,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 06:07 AM

Can I just say "Ditto?" Seriously Nigel, your comment is wonderful but moreover I think it applies to and might have been written by all of us on this voyage.

I have personally been the recipient of so much from so many around here for such a long time....since 1999! And I too am saddened that most of us will never meet but I value these friendships as some of the best in my life. This group on this thread has crystalized all the best of what Mudcat can offer and the power to both give strength and draw it from each other at the same time is something I find quite singular.

For all of that and more, thanks to "all the good people" who enrichen my life.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 06:28 AM

Checking in, just to let you know I'm here.

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 06:31 AM

That guest was me, sans cookie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 06:46 AM

Sans cookie syndrome is going around. I had a bad bout of it when I got my new laptop. The nasty virus comes embedded in WIN8 and until you s*** it out completely, it can flare up at any moment.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 07:09 AM

Spaw, couldn't agree with you more. You've demonstrated your skill of finding 'Le Mot Juste' on many occasions,
                              Nigel xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 10:31 AM

nigel,as spaw inferred you also have become part of that big blanket wrapped around others, though this thread began out your own great concern for jane.God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 02:11 PM

love this big blanket, remember when we were little and made a tent with the blanket and felt warm and safe from everything outside?

Still here Nigel
sending so much love to you and your family, to spaw, Pete and all the crew on board

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 08:54 PM

"Faith is the bird that feels the light and sings when the dawn is still dark."    Rabindranath Thakur-(aka Tagore)

"A main purpose of life is to make connections."    Robert Frost

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,maeve
Date: 08 Mar 13 - 10:26 PM

"Be like the bird that, passing on her flight awhile on boughs too slight, feels them give way beneath her, and yet sings, knowing that she hath wings."


― Victor Hugo

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Mar 13 - 12:24 PM

I've been off Mudcat for two days, but, Nigel, you and others here have not been out of my thoughts and prayers. After posting on some other threads I started to open this one, I realized I'd lost my internet conncetion. I jiggled some cords and I'm back for now. Anyway, even if I'm not here (on Mudcat) for you, I am here with you in spirit and sending my love.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 09 Mar 13 - 01:26 PM

me, too, Nigel...here in Spirit, Love, and Light.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 09 Mar 13 - 06:34 PM

Joining you all in the blanket fort- and Kat, too! So much love to go around, and more to spare. Remember the Magic Penny:
Love is something, if you give it away,
you end up having more!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 09 Mar 13 - 08:27 PM

Wendy... "remember when we were little and made a tent with the blanket and felt warm and safe from everything outside?

Thanks, Wendy. Thanks, Megan. Thanks...

I like our blanket as woven by the wonderful people who have posted to this thread. Thanks. It helps keep ME warm and safe too.

Bless you all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,maeve, still sailing to another virtual isla
Date: 11 Mar 13 - 08:07 AM

Nigel, Ann, and Jane- We are still beside you in spirit. I know you are looking for and making use of every bright reflection on the water as you navigate through these tricky channels.

Warmly,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Mar 13 - 08:24 AM

the blanket tent is a wonderful image.

Years ago I attended a folk club in an unheated building on a cold Sydney winter night (much warmer than a snow-season winter night, but still cold!) so a member went to his car & brought in 2 ginormous toasty blankets & half the small audience snuggled under one, the others under the second! Cosy!

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Mar 13 - 01:50 PM

hoping the warmth of this collective blanket provides some sense of security and comfort to those suffering the icy blast of misfortune at this time.blessings   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Mar 13 - 08:00 PM

I like the idea of the the blanket tent being set up on Nigel's boat!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 11 Mar 13 - 11:22 PM

And a warm blanket wrapped around you and your's also, maeve.

Soft-belly...open heart. Love.

Nigel, I'm rendered silent in many ways because while I imagine your family's journey is similar to what we experienced during my family's journey with my beloved sister, I also know your experience must be different, because you are a different family, and your personal experience is even more different because you and Ann are the parents, and I was (am) a sister.

What I can do and will continue to do, is keep pulling at the oars with the rest of the crew.

Holding all of you in my heart with great tenderness.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Mar 13 - 11:34 PM

I've taken out a hand knitted wool blanket knitted for me by a special person in my life from my bed chest (handmade chest by artisan gnu) and it's to be laid over and under sheets and a quilt until warm weather in lieu of my father's woolen army blanket which has kept me warm since he passed. I also have taken out of my chest the green and white woolen blanket knitted for me by another lover and it will cover my legs while I type until warm weather. Me knees is toasty as I type. Feels good... warm... safe. Wool seems to be all the rage these days. Seems there is strength in these woollies.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Mar 13 - 03:17 PM

still here,still hoping and praying.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 12 Mar 13 - 06:40 PM

wrapped up safe in the blanket handmade for us many years ago by Billy's mother, sending love and comforting thoughts to all the crew, but thinking of Nigel, Ann and Jane and family on this bitter cold night in England.In our prayers tonight as always.
Wendy and Billy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 02:52 AM

sending warm & woolly hugs to all

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 05:53 AM

I've read & re-read dozens of your posts...a veritable plethora of Love, Wisdom, Experience, Humour, Anecdotes, Advice, Compassion...the list is practically endless. As the saying goes: "All Human Life is here".
      I love the blanket theme. A dearly loved Mudcat Friend made two blankets for Jane & Ann some time ago. Hand made treasures are so special. I am immediately reminded of my Father wrapping a large towel (stand-in blanket!) around me after he had washed me in the tin bath in front of the fire. This would be followed by a big hug, some energetic drying off & straight into my pyjamas & dressing gown...no central heating in our house, back in the 40s!
    Jane is getting weaker by the day. She is in considerable pain, despite regular analgesia. She has been offered a few days at the local hospice to get the pain under control, but refuses to go. Her right as an adult to refuse, but Ann & I know through our experiences with our Parents, she would be so much more comfortable & her dignity protected.
    I may be wrong, but I think this part of our Voyage may ending sooner than we had expected.
             Thank you for your Love, Your Hugs, Your Blankets, the quotations from Frost & Hugo.
             Please keep within hailing distance,
                                                                   With Love to You All,
                                                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 09:16 AM

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 11:01 AM

Oh, Nigel.

Could it be that Jane is thinking privately that if she goes into the hospice she may not come out?

Stay strong. Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 06:52 PM

Oh my dear Nigel

my Godmother too refused to go to a hospice, but eventually did, her pain was controlled and she came home and returned to St. Francis Atte Bower a number of times, her pain was gone and she came and danced at my daughters wedding.
But I know you dont need to be told that , you know how wonderful the hospice movement is. May you and Ann,with your wisdom,guide Jane in the right direction.
Holding you all in our hearts, our dear friends, God bless you

With all our love and thoughts

Wendy and Billy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 08:34 PM

Oh, my friend, in my heart I am wrapping a blanket around you and Ann and especially Jane as she travels this journey and you with her. Let the warm memories of your father's care remind you that love never dies, and your love for Jane and hers for you will keep you wrapped in love for all time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 08:42 PM

I have my blanket about my shoulders. I turned down the heat on this "warm" spring-like day and opened the windows to blow out the stale stink of winter. I am allowing the passive stored heat in the house to bring things back to "non-chatter".

Dearest Nigel... I feel comfort in your words. I shall not explain that. Some things, eh? Bless.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Mar 13 - 09:23 PM

Pete Jennings took the words right out of my mouth--er, pen--er, keyboard.

Nigel, I wish Jane, Ann, and you continuing strength to face whatever lies ahead.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 06:14 AM

Jane suffered an extreme reaction to a chemo session yesterday. The infusion had to be stopped immediately after literally just a minute or two. Here is part of an email from Ann which sums up the situation:


My Darling Nigel
Latest news is that Jane has signed a paper to the effect that if she has a cardiac arrest ( a real
possibility ) she does not want to be resuscitated. Now that there is nothing that can be done
for her she has had enough,but still resisting hospice care.........

Lots of love
Ann xxxxxxxxx

Pete, you're absolutely right, that's precisely what she thinks. The sad truth is that that is almost certainly now what will happen. It is our fervent wish that Jane spends her final days & hours, free from pain, dignity preserved, surrounded by her Family, in a peaceful environment with caring professionals waiting in the wings for when they are needed. I spoke to Ann this morning & she intimated that Jane might be having a change of heart.
         Wendy, I know St.Francis Hospice well. My Father spent his final days there.
         All of your most recent posts are filled with so much Love & Tenderness. I am rendered speechless.
         Gnu, "Some things..." Without knowing, I know & understand.

         I suspect we shall be dropping anchor soon,
                      With Deepest Love to You All,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 06:37 AM

As the fire burned in the dark, I snatched a covering from our bed. After we managed to get outside to the cold and the snow, I saw it was the star quilt made by my grandmother. Let it cover us all; warm, soft, strong... made with love and the fabric of time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 07:15 AM

that blanket has room for us all and all the hugs and love possible

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 07:26 AM

no words, just love to all

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 07:37 AM

Nigel, Ann,


holding you both in my heart,

no words,

All the love I can send

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 08:30 AM

Here and thinking of you all.

xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 08:53 AM

This might also be a good time to listen to Nigel's own music:

https://soundcloud.com/nigel-paterson-music; "The Voyage of The Rainbow", "All Hands on Deck", "On Solid Ground", "Meditation on The Comfort of Singing Voices"... so many!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 09:51 AM

Fine idea maeve.....There are so many songs and words on this thread that at this point I think it ranks as one of the best Mudcat has ever had while at the same time being one of the most unusual. What sets it apart is what created it and sustains it. The amount of love and care embodied here is beyond what has ever happened before. It was all about Jane but soon became about so many.

As these coming days pass, our love and support are all we can offer even as we know that nothing else is within our power. This will be a legacy Jane has created through wonderful, loving, parents, that has given more than she would ever believe possible and has meant more to me and so many others that words escape me to describe it.

We hold each other as we hold Jane, Nigel, and Ann.......Wrapped in a blanket of comfort and love. And right now we pull the blanket tight. I love you all.


Spaw, aka Pat Patterson

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 09:54 AM

Thinking of you in this most difficult of times .... blankets of love!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 10:52 AM

Was thinking about you today as I do most days, Nigel, and I tripped over this:


Most of the important things in the world
have been accomplished by people
who have kept on trying
when there seemed to be no hope at all.

Dale Carnegie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 11:59 AM

Beautiful words and thoughts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 12:11 PM

There's no way we can presume to relieve this sort of pain. I just hope that in some measure we can help you to bear it.

               Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 12:12 PM

Wise, wonderful, moving words from so many of you since I last posted, earlier today. And we have a new Crew Member (I hope I'm right), you are most welcome, Frug.
Maeve, thank you for highlighting my Music. All the titles that Maeve has listed were written when I needed the Sanctuary of Music the most. I need that Sanctuary more than ever now.
My Dear Bruce, perfect quotation from Dale Carnegie...there certainly does seem to be no hope left.
Spaw, my namesake (I can forgive the double 'T'!). My Father was always addressed as Pat, despite the fact that his first name was Laurence. I have dim, childhood memories of one relative calling him Laurie. He was Pat to everyone, including my Mother.
The latest news on Jane is what we have been expecting for some time. Her Oncologist has given her three weeks maximum, but with a warning that Jane could die at any time. Three weeks could suddenly become three days, three hours, three minutes. Jane's Husband, Ann & Jane's children are at the hospital as I type this. Physically, I'm ok, but mentally very fragile. I carry with me your Love, your Blankets, your Care & Compassion; everything a man could ever need to see him through this maelstrom.
       With Deepest Love to You All from both of us,
                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 12:24 PM

Well, I guess we've all been expecting this news, truth to tell. Same happened with my lovely sister, Kathleen, back in 2002: we'd been expecting it then but it didn't make it any easier.

My thoughts are with you as we approach the shore.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 11:04 PM

The suchness of opened hearts....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 11:04 PM

in wordless prayer for you,i guess most of us revisit our own painful losses as we travel with you - the fellowship of the brokenhearted.we are all feeling for you and with you, to some measure,,, your pain.
God bless you      pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 11:22 PM

Knowing really doesn't help much, ecxept to give you the time together to say see ya later, we love you. A priceless gift to some. you have all shown such courage, love, sharing. may our shoulders continue to add solace for tears, hugs, etc. you,nigel, let your emotions out. we'll be here for you. may jane find peace and rest through and from this incredible journrey.

perhaps we'll land on Avalon, a place between two worlds visited on commemoative dates. with much love and solace,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 14 Mar 13 - 11:24 PM

Dear Nigel and Ann,
Gazing out at a sliver of a crescent moon tonight, so beautiful against the deep blue twilight sky, thinking of you both, and Jane... hoping that somehow, the love in all of these hearts gathered here can reach you, and comfort you in some small way...
May it be so...
KT

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 12:54 AM

Hugs, hand-holding, whatever you need that I can do . . .

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 04:26 AM

waiting with you all

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall , Wakefield
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 11:20 AM

I feel like a fraudulent , voyeuristic marathon runner who has only just managed to jump on board a race ( holding on to his blanket) for the remaining laps ! Sadly this is my first contribution ...and it's just to say that my thoughts are with you ALL . I have spent time reading the comforting words of genuine love, warmth,hope and affection flowing from a group to a family and back again. This is a group and a family who are so bonded and I have found it all to be so very uplifting and inspirational.

Jane , Nigel and Ann are very much in my thoughts . I hope you are ALL able to find some comfort in this little poem I found which I would like to share with you . It seems to describe what MUDCAT supporters have done , are still doing and will continue to do ! I think it also reflects what Jane ,Nigel and Ann are also achieving in respect of their own lives even in such difficult times . Thank you for lightening my life through your heavy burden.


WHAT'S LIFE          BY JESSICA LEE WORKMAN


Life is a challenge - meet it
Life is a gift - accept it
Life is a sorrow - overcome it
Life is a tragedy -face it
Life is a adventure -dare it
Life is a duty - perform it
Life is a mystery - unfold it
Life is a song - sing it
Life is a opportunity - take it
Life is a journey - complete it
Life is a promise - fulfill it
Life is a beauty - praise it
Life is a goal - achieve it
Life is a puzzle - solve it
Life is love - love it .

David

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 11:34 AM

Welcome, David. It's never too late to join our thread. You've made quite an impact with your first post. Thank you very much for your kind & thoughtful contribution,
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann.
                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 12:32 PM

Welcome aboard David. Nigel is quite right and I can only echo his words wth an addditional "Welcome Aboard!"   Very nice post too.


And Nigel.....Did I mention ever that my name is Patrick? My parents decided that since I would probably pick up the "Pat" nickname anyway they would just simplify the whole thing. Most people are surprised when I say my name is Patrick. This used to be funny as it took a few seconds for it to sink into the person filling out the form. One lady asked me once, "Do you know that a lot of people named Patterson are called Pat?"..........What do you say to that?....LOL


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 12:53 PM

Pat, If my thinker had been working fast enough, I would have liked to have just looked at her with the most innocent blank expression I could muster, and say, slowly, "That never occured to me".

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 01:47 PM

Welcome, David.

Nigel, I'm working on that project you requested.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 04:11 PM

What else can I add? Please accept my very best thoughts and kind regards.
Charlie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 05:38 PM

spaw & frogprince - I knew a bloke named Adam years back who always used to get out his notebook & pen when someone asked "Where's Eve?" & reply "That's good, no-one has ever said that to me before, I'll write it down!"

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 08:21 PM

No words to add. Just here with the rest of the crew.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 09:44 PM

I am in "here mode". Oddly enough, I just changed into my bedclothes and wrapped my first blanket over my legs.

Dearest Nigel, I shant try to say my feelings with words. My thoughts and prayers....................

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Amos
Date: 15 Mar 13 - 11:17 PM

I cannot offer much. I would I were with you. If I were I would offer you this song by the American Buddhist ne'er-do-well, Al Grierson:
____________________________________

'Til the Circle Is Complete

Both the turning of the season and the ticking of the clock
Say the planet's one year older -- so are you.
But I'll leave the speculation and the silly idle talk
For another time and someone else to do.
There'll be a celebration at the end of every street,
When we claim our bread and roses, and the circle is complete.
So if destiny should drag you down, or dress you up in style,
May you never be too weary
To walk another mile.

And may you never cease your growing,
And your learning as you grow;
May the things that you discover
Be the things you want to know
May you gain in strength through sorrow,
And may all your love be true;
May you turn your hand to something
That you really want to do.

May your friends encounter fortune,
And your comrades find release
Though they see the hopes of others disappear
May your parents die contented, and your children live in peace,
Though the hands of desperation hold them near;
Should the future find you lying with a lover by your side
Or left alone with broken arms, and all your dreams denied
May your footsteps ring like rifles through the darkness of defeat,
May your spirit never falter,
'Til the circle is complete.

And may you never cease your growing
Your learning as you grow.
May the things that you discover be the things you want to know.
May you gain in strength through sorrow,
And may all your love be true;
May you turn your hand to something
That you really want to do.

May your life be like a love song in the act of every breath,
Be a poem to the purpose that it serves;
May you set your shoes to dancing in the hour of your death
And meet it with the courage it deserves;
May your shadow pass in pirouettes of such amazing grace
That the tears of those who mourn you disappear without a trace.
In the smoke that shapes their sorrow to the fading of your feats
In a ring around the rainbow,
Where the circle is complete.

And may you never cease your growing,
Your learning as you grow.
May the things that you discover be the things you want to know.
May you gain in strength through sorrow,
And may all your love be true;
May you turn your hand to something
That you really want to do.


May you turn your hand to something
That you really want to do.

____________________________________________


Warm regards to you all.


A.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 05:32 AM

Amos.......Wow.....YA' know generally I poke a bit of fun at your posts but that one is just way too good. There are some lines in it that are inspired and say things so perfectly it sorta' took my breath away. Nice piece........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 05:51 AM

Indeed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 07:26 AM

Still here, still singing, still holding you all close in my heart.
Amos, David, your words add beauty and grace and warmth to the blanket fort.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 08:23 AM

Still here,

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 11:00 AM

How beautiful Amos. Had never heard it.

Til the Circle Is Complete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 11:17 AM

posting with a prayer.   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 08:43 PM

Thanks, Janie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 16 Mar 13 - 11:10 PM

Imagining all of you closely gathered now, Nigel, if not physically, in heart and mind, allowing the love to flow and noticing moments to savor in the acute here and now.

I don't care what the song is supposed to mean, I only know what it means to me, so Jane, imagining you with diamonds on the soles of your shoes.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 07:43 AM

Amos, thank you for reuniting me with Al Grierson. I haven't seen those words in a long time. You said you couldn't offer much...something of an understatement I think!

Thank you everyone, for being there, for checking in so regularly, for your unstinting loyalty, for your prayers, thoughts, visualisations, music links. You always manage to say the right thing at the right time. I take you with me, where ever I go, a huge flock of Guardian Angels, hovering, holding, protecting, loving.

The Palliative Care Team said that Jane could die at any time. What time does she have left? Minutes, Hours, Days...no one knows. Ann & I are spending as much time with her as we can, but now the news is out, relatives & friends are wanting to visit in ever increasing numbers, so time alone with Jane is a precious commodity indeed.
       Stay close, My Dear Friends,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 08:32 AM

You're right about the guardian angels, Nigel. We're here, hovering round, holding you and Ann and Jane on this journey.

This song seems most appropriate. I don't know who these singers are, but they certainly do it justice:

There are angels hovering round,

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 11:32 AM

So beautiful, Alison,
Thank you

Still here Nigel, and will continue to be

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 11:57 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann - many stand with you in your vigil, many of us have known what it is to stand by and wait for a loved one's passing, knowing it is inevitable. We are with you in spirit through this dark and difficult journey as Jane makes her way to the other side, where we all will go sooner or later.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 12:28 PM

one thing i've always liked: what if this life is our cocoon stage? the next could be a beautiful land of butterflies...food for thought.

stll here, sending ease of mind and heart plus Peace for all.
may her passing be gentle and peacefull. so mote it be.

much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 12:32 PM

yes it is an emotional roller coaster.you just dont know.my mum lived much longer than anticipated and each day is precious but it was very draining.i hope the outpouring of love by your friends gives strength,nigel.

that was a beautiful song alison.i listened to their rendition of "hard times" too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 04:38 PM

Here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 07:32 PM

I'm here too
All ways
Always

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 09:03 PM

rum.... much better said... poetry of the highest calibre. So I'll say it too...

I'm here too
All ways
Always

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 17 Mar 13 - 09:43 PM

A few years back, I got a call saying that my wife had had a traffic incident on the way home from work. Not speaking of a tragedy here. She had slipped into insulin reaction, and a young woman deputy sheriff spotted her weaving around the road, fortunately at low speed. The deputy got enough look to surmise the sort of problem, and nudged my wife's car into the ditch where it stalled. The car had only minor damage on the side, and my wife was unhurt. Later that night the deputy herself came to our house to see if my wife was ok. She mentioned the feeling that my wife's guardian angel was on duty that evening. I said yes, I know she was. That was when I hugged a deputy sheriff big time.

Some of us may be raggedy excuses for guardian angels, but for what we're worth, we're not going anywhere.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 03:03 AM

guardian angels wrapped in warm woolly blankets.

sending more love

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 06:35 AM

A simple, but heartfelt thank you. Words are not coming easily, thoughts & emotions are overwhelming me.
       We were able to spend only a few minutes with Jane yesterday. She could listen, but not really speak, responding with the occasional nod. It is beyond my understanding how Jane clings so tenaciously to life.
      'There are Angels Hovering Around', it's always the Music that goes right to the heart of the matter for me. Allison, love you for that link.
      With Much Love to You All,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 08:35 AM

returning the love to you & Ann & Jane & family

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 08:55 AM

This is truly the hardest part Nigel. No way to heal a wound still being inflicted. I've been there and done that and this is the worst of times for all of you......Jane too. That so hurts me to say, but I know it true.

Love and Hope that Jane's pain is eased as she so well deserves. We all love you and I know all of this motley crew sends their best and cover you with the warmest of blankets.

Much Love


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 12:38 PM

A tender heart and tears here, with and for you, Nigel, and Ann and Jane. Keeping vigil with you in heart and mind and spirit, along with this wondrous community of mudcatters. KT

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 12:45 PM

still here,
Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall , Wakefield .
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 01:53 PM

I wish I had the means to trully express all my warmest feelings which go out to you and your family at this time .

I send you much sincere and heart-felt love.

David

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 06:13 PM

also still here with feeling thoughts and prayer    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 08:32 PM

Oh Nigel.

Here with the rest, holding vigil with love and great tenderness for all of you.

May you dwell in your hearts.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 18 Mar 13 - 08:36 PM

Nigel and Ann, Dear Ones, keep singing and talking her through this, as you are able. Hearing is the last faculty to go...it's of great comfort. There are groups around the usa who sing people through their final leaving and there have been feelings of great relief for those left behind, also.

May Peace be with you,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 12:38 AM

Still here - confirming Kat's post. Love from Maine.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 08:38 AM

Still hovering, singing, sending love...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 08:39 AM

Yes, this is the hardest part. You've all been there with your own Families & Friends. It's different for each & every one of us, but there is a commonality that binds us close when a Life is gradually slipping away.
       The Palliative Care Team have revised their estimate. They are now expecting Jane to live on for another seven to ten days. Looks like our Darling Daughter is in no rush to "slough off this mortal coil".
       Thank you for the PMs; the emails. Thank you all for accompanying Ann & myself on our voyage.Thank you for making this final vigil so calm & tranquil. I said some time ago that our Thread will continue after Jane has died. Ann & I would like to dedicate it to her memory & to the memory of all those special departed who leave unfilled voids in all our lives.
                      With Much Love from our Hearts to Yours,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 10:08 AM

seconding what Allison said

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 03:13 PM

bless you nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 03:53 PM

I would think it wholly appropriate Nigel and we will need a new thread title when that time comes. I'd thought of the idea myself but felt I'd wait to bring it up but the idea certainly gets my vote. I'll bet it gets everyones vote.

What news of Billy? Anyone else with some updates? I will let you all know more in a day or two on my part.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 06:17 PM

So agree Spaw,this thread will always be for Jane, the love and friendship Nigel has inspired means so much to everyone here and must continue in Jane's name.

Billy sees his consultant tomorrow, it has been a long year and I am so proud of him.We have fingers crossed but rowing on!
Hoping your update, Spaw will be positive.

My thoughts ,as always, are with Nigel, Ann and Jane and her husband and children, wrapping you all in this blanket of love and wish you a peaceful night, God bless you

with much love from us both
Wendy and Billy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 06:34 PM

Spaw... I kinda think I know what you have in mind, if I may be so bold as to say so. If I am correct, my vote is cast. Of course, there is only one vote and that belongs to the person who starts the thread, if he wants to start a new thread... he may not... and that is, of course, Nigel.m He may wish to continue this thread with an "update in the title" or whatever he might think of.

"I said some time ago that our Thread will continue after Jane has died. Ann & I would like to dedicate it to her memory & to the memory of all those special departed who leave unfilled voids in all our lives."

Like rum said...

I'm here too
All ways
Always

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 08:32 PM

i've been thinking along those lines too. Nigel, i'd be honoured to help with such, when the time comes.

now and always, here for you.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 09:35 PM

I'm still here, too. I've been reading this thread daily but can think of nothing to add to my previous posts. I am still sending my love.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Mar 13 - 10:43 PM

Our common thread....a distillation of what it means to live and love.

Sending love, care and concern to all.

Somehow tonight, I especially think of Jane's children, her love, care and concern for them, and the difficult and inevitable act of letting go and trusting in the circle of life and death.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 04:28 AM

The hospital said yesterday: "Not long now".
                                                                   With Love,
                                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 04:52 AM

Holding you all in my heart, Nigel xxxxxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 05:21 AM

Good morning, Nigel and Ann. A bouquet of images borrowed for your comfort:

Here in Maine this first day of Spring is covered by several inches of snow. Even so, it is Spring
Many of your friends here may seem as far away as Spring seems to us,
yet we are sending love,
patience, and joy for the time you've had with your Jane.

Thinking too of Jane- may she experience peaceful release when she is ready,
and much joy in the morning. .

Maeve
.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 06:33 AM

Just back after a short break.

Had you in my thoughts and now I'm here.

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 08:34 AM

waiting with you

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 12:02 PM

Hovering round....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 12:30 PM

its a shock,and a screwed up stomach,even when you,re expecting it.we all feeling for you nigel.

maeve - beautiful images.
pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 05:16 PM

May the abundant love in this thread be with all of you Nigel. Wishing you comfort, and peace.
KT

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 05:33 PM

the road goes ever on

Some peaceful hills nearby.
If it presses your buttons:
"I lift up my eyes to the hills from where shall come my help"

Following the thread alongside, with everyone else.


Paws

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 07:57 PM

May the long time sun shine upon you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 08:17 PM

Hold her hand, if it's your place. No explanation required.

My thoughts and prayers to you and yours, Nigel.

I'm here too
All ways
Always

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 11:05 PM

"Hold her hand, if it's your place."

When there was no way to know if my wife would live, that was all I knew to do for her...and all I knew to do for myself.

All ways
Always

          Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Mar 13 - 11:12 PM

froggy... I remember that trying time. That was not good. I am so happy for you to this day.

All ways
Always

g

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 11:04 AM

Just a brief up date as several have asked via PM and e-mail.......The Aronesp shots are not working all that well and after 2 pints 2 weeks ago I may need 2 more by next week. So next week I am also scheduled to start on the Vidaza. Its is also used for chemo but also works on the Myeloplastic Dysplasia, a pre-Leukemia condition. I'm hoping for good result although it may take awhile to do the job.

As my hemoglobin count drops below 8.0 I really begin to feel it as it makes the blood less able to carry the oxygen to the the lungs. There are a couple of strange side effects that kick in as well when the hemo drops. I look forward to whatever good the Vidaza brings in raising the hemo level and reducing the need for transfusions. The need to be in Columbus for a week for the Vidaza shots daily I do not look forward to but we'll see what we can do to change that at a later date.

Next week I may be posting less or more....hard to tell...LOL....depends on how I sleep at Connie's house and how tired I am if I don't ! LOL.......Altogether though, it could be a whole lot worse so hold me a good thought and I will do the same for all of you.

Nigel and Ann......You are of course first and foremost in my mind and in the hearts and minds of most of this group. I don't make that up nor do they just say that here. You know those PM's and e-mails I mentioned? ALL, repeat ALL of those folks said it too, ie., "the first thread I open" which is a common comment of many. Much Love.........



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 11:24 AM

UPSPAW / Peaches

much love to and yours and to Nigel, Ann, Jane and hers.

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 12:12 PM

Up Spaw!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 01:48 PM

have been in wordless prayer to the backdrop of "all hands on deck"on " the voyage of the rainbow".beatiful pieces.

hope things begin to look UP SPAW.    Peace and comfort to all    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 07:01 PM

Spaw...

All ways
Always

g

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 07:39 PM

Thanks for the update, UPSpaw. Been thinking about you a bunch and telling myself there is no use worrying. Hope you rest well and sleep dreamlessly while staying with Connie. Just glad you don't have to try to make that drive back and forth everyday or fork over the dough for a week at a motel and bad food. Maybe take a Jacqui shawl with you to wrap up in as a reminder, when the going is particularly rough, of how many are holding you close to our hearts for what comfort that brings?

Hoping for good results. Any idea of how long it will take to know how effective the Vidaza may be in staving off the progression? Love to Karen and the boys also.

Nigel, Ann, Jane and family, as with so many of the rest of the crew - Love, mostly wordless. May our collective love, care and concern feel palpable to you and perhaps contribute to defining a sacred space around you during this time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 07:55 PM

I got my mojo workin Spaw!

Frank

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Mar 13 - 11:51 PM

Spaw, is it possible for you to learn to inject yourself with Vidaza?

Nigel, I sometimes post "Just breathe" on threads like this, but I am finding myself holding my breath and have to remind myself to breathe. I hope you are breathing, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 04:00 AM

Jane is still with us. The Family have been keeping vigil at her bedside.

       "Not long now, the doctors said,
       Our Darling Jane chose Life instead"

       Her tenacious grasp on Life is, at one & the same time, awe inspiring & heartbreaking.

       No time to write more....back to the hospital,
                                              With our Love to You All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 04:37 AM

Still here with you Nigel

All ways
Always

love and prayers

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:40 AM

Oh, Nigel, what a weary, blessed time. Still holding you close.

And you, Spaw, the Intrepid, are also daily in my thoughts. Up you go!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:49 AM

thanks for sparing the time and energy to post nigel.
we continue to remember you in our thoughts and prayers.    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:54 AM

I open this thread in a new tab each morning and it stays open until I close my machine down at night.

Nigel and Ann - here keeping vigil. Nothing more to say that seems relevant or necessary.

Spaw - good thoughts always there for the treatment to work.

I would just like to add how much I admire you all for the grace that you show in such dark times.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:54 AM

Not a day goes by . . .

Ditto what Pete said.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 08:56 AM

love to all

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 10:15 AM

Our prayers are with you and your family, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 10:24 AM

what jacqui said.

love you all, esp.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 12:52 PM

Here with you all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 12:58 PM

Here... in quiet companionship....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 04:41 PM

Thinking of you all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 06:48 PM

Still here

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 06:55 PM

here in the chorus and at the oars with the rest of this crew, rowing as softly and tenderly as I know to do.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:08 PM

Ditto pete.

Here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:17 PM

I am, as always, reading, and like many, wishing I could do more than wish.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 07:49 PM

I'm on the seat next to Janie keeping the boat straight
All ways
Always here
Love

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 13 - 09:48 PM

Nigel, are you and Ann getting any sleep? Keeping vigil must be harder and more stressful than I can imagine. I am here with all the others sending love.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 06:35 AM

As always, wonderful, moving, tender posts. I have returned home for one day.
Jane lives on. She sleeps peacefully, pain-free at last (a doctor from the Palliative Care Team told me that it is much harder for them to get pain under control with younger patients). There are moments when she will open her eyes & seem to be aware that there are familiar faces around the bed. There has been an average of ten Family Members sitting vigil, taking turns in groups of two or three. No set times, each group stays for as long as they choose, but all the time mindful that we don't want Jane to be left alone. We talk to her a lot & Jane does make minute facial gestures that could indicate she is hearing us (based on the knowledge that the auditory senses are the last to go). Nevertheless, real or imagined, this is a comfort.
               Jane's 'Sleep of Sleeps' is now entering it's fifth day. As I sit typing, I expect the 'phone to ring any moment....but it doesn't.
               I want to respond personally to all your posts, not just yet, but as soon as I can manage. It would appear we still have some shallows & narrows to navigate first.
               With Continuing Love to You All & Special Love & thoughts for Spaw,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 06:44 AM

Still with you, Nigel. Get some rest. Pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 06:50 AM

Still here.

Paws

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 06:52 AM

Dear Nigel,

as Pete says, do try to rest, not easy I know, we are all here, wrapping you in a warm blanket of love, Ann and Jane also. Take comfort that Jane is peaceful and in no pain and is enveloped in all the love your wonderful family are protecting her with.
God bless you all,

with all the love we can send

Wendy and Billy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 07:13 AM

"groups of two or three"... "talk to her a lot"

She is blessed by such love and care.

Rest as you can, Nigel. That rest needn't be taxed even with posting any updates. We'll be here when you have time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 07:23 AM

Agreeing with gnu. As I and many have told you, now is not the time to be concerned with anything but your needs, including the need to spend as much time with Jane as you can. We're keeping watch and will be here whenever you need us.

I'll be at a workshop, singing all day, and I will offer my song up to you and Ann and Jane and Spaw and Kat and all who have been keeping this warm, nurturing, blanket-fortified ship afloat.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 09:36 AM

Keeping Vigil

This long waiting now weighs heavy- sacred burden that will bless
As the loved ones watch her leaving, sailing off into the West.
Sleepless nights within this dreamtime shape the end of many dreams,
And the music of the living traces nighttime's salty streams.

It is love that makes this journey. It is love that finds the way.
And the arms of friends and family lift the light of this new day.
Gone the pain- and soon, the worry. Feet dance lightly on the sea,
While the songs of those in witness light the dark so we can see.

Maeve- for Jane, Nigel, Ann and all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 11:00 AM

And that, Maeve, is sublime, bless your heart.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 02:24 PM

beautifully expressed and constructed verse ,maeve.
in all the sorrow it is at least good to know the pain control is fully effective.God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 06:18 PM

Lovely, maeve.

still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 07:33 PM

Ditto Janie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 08:21 PM

Still here
xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Mar 13 - 09:41 PM

still sending love to all

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 02:30 AM

Wonderful, Maeve.

I agree with others that it is good to know that Jane's pain is under control. It is also good to know that so many people are keeping vigil at Jane's bedside while we keep vigil from a distance.

And Nigel, we'll be here when you are ready. No pressure!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 04:24 AM

My Dearest Friends, our belovéd daughter, Jane, lost her battle with cancer last night (Saturday). She died peacefully & painlessly, surrounded by her Family.
       Come to us, be with us, for we are truly bereft.
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 04:46 AM

My sincerest condolences to all.

Rest in peace, Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Suzi
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 04:58 AM

So very sorry Nigei, Ann and of course Janes loving family. may Jane rest in perfect peace. Xxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 05:46 AM

My Dear Nigel and Ann

Cannot find the words to say what is in my heart,God bless you both and may Jane rest in everlasting peace, free from pain but held in your love for ever.

Sending you our love
Wendy and Billy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 06:09 AM

Goodbye, Jane. Well done the life and the battle. You are loved.

Sail away lady, sail away.

Nigel and Ann- Your deep sorrow is reflected and felt by many friends.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall , Wakefield
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 06:28 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann ,   I am so very,very sorry to hear of your immense sad loss . Jane , you , Ann and your family are uppermost in my thoughts . I trust you may come to find rest , peace and comfort in the times to come.

The support and genuine affection you have received ( and your reciprocal sincerity and warmth to others here ) are all testimony to the high regard in which you are all held....and I know it will continue to be so .

With sincere condolences.

David

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 06:56 AM

Oh, dear Nigel and Ann, deepest love and sympathy flowing your way. Still here, still singing, still gathered and hovering.

The evening of the day my beloved Byron died, our friends gathered with me and sang the night away. I felt wrapped in their love and support, as I hope you do now, in this dark time. You are deeply loved, and love never dies.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 07:02 AM

My heart bleeds for you Nigel and Ann and the whole family.
Sincerest condolences and strength to sustain you now.
Rest in peace dear beloved Jane
Love, hugs, all ways
Always
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 07:13 AM

Please allow me to add my best thoughts,condolences and kindest regards to those of all your other friends here.
Charles Stenger

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 07:30 AM

No words - still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 07:38 AM

I'm so sorry, Nigel & Ann. So inadequate...words...

For what comfort it may bring, still here.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 07:40 AM

I'm sorry, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall , Wakefield
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 08:18 AM

FAREWELL

Farewell to Thee ! But not farewell
To all my fondest thoughts of Thee ;
Within my heart they still shall dwell
And they shall cheer and comfort me.

Life seems more sweet that Thou didst live
And men more true Thou wert one ;
Nothing is lost that Thou didst give ,
Nothing destroyed that Thou hast done .

ANNE BRONTE ( 1820 - 1849 )

David

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 08:58 AM

I'm also thinking of Spaw, away for treatment, who told us, ..."hold me a good thought and I will do the same for all of you."

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 09:03 AM

It always hurts......but Jane no longer hurts and her pain is gone. For her family and friends the pain is so much greater. But even this great pain will be reduced with time and the love that was Jane will endure on and bring happier memories of more joyful times.

We wish you that healing peace which love brings over time and we thank Jane for letting us share this terrible journey for she has brought together a caring group of friends that she never met and most of whom will never meet each other. That in itself is a wonderful albeit painful legacy but one for which we are thankful.

We are here Nigel and Ann and we will be here to go the rest of the distance wth you with love and hope. Much Love.


Spaw/Pat/Patrick/Guy in Ohio

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 09:15 AM

Deepest sympathies.

Frank

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Megan L
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 09:20 AM

I remember as a child being very upset by the death of a school friend, Mum told me something then that I have held onto for the rest of my life.

She told me that when we are born the candle of our light is lit. it is as thin as a wax taper yet as we grow with each good choice we make, each wise thought or word that crosses our lips the thin taper gets dipped once more. With each dip the candle glows brighter and the number of dips is not solely dependent on age but on the light within the person.

Many see the end of life as the candle snuffed out but she told me that every person who loved one who died, every person who can share a memory of their kindness or wisdom carries a small piece of their candle added to their own.

As long as one person can remember something the person said or did the light from their candle will continue to light our path and drive away darkness.

Now is the time to do what you have to do but dont forget to be kind to yourselves and remember while you grieve each one of us is here to carry her candle one more step.

Thinking of all the family
Meg

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 09:30 AM

Here is some of the music mentioned early in the thread:

"You'll Never Walk Alone" G&PM

Close to you ( I Watch the Sunrise)- Maureen Hegarty by Father John Glynn

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 10:50 AM

so many beautiful thoughts

so much love

rest in peace, Jane, find peace Nigel & Anne & family

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 10:56 AM

I'm so very sorry, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 11:11 AM

Nigel and Ann, I am so sorry. Even when it is expected, the blow comes hard. Jane's suffering has ended, and a part of the journey is over. Now begins the long process of healing.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 11:38 AM

Arms spread wide: {{{{em>hug}}}}

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 11:46 AM

Would that we could be with you in the flesh, to embrace you; that we could really offer more than words to give you strength, until healing can begin. Know that yours are not the only tears.

                   Dean.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 11:51 AM

"Is There Something I Can Do" (Five Star Iris)

Whoever made the claim that words could ease the pain
Never watched your tears fill up an ocean
Never saw your face, the moment you found out
That you'd have to live without, until heaven

Is there somethin' I can do other than being here for you to ease the pain
If I can keep you from fallin', fallin' down'
I'm sorry to sound selfish but I feel so helpless
Is it okay if I stay here with you and cry for awhile

Whoever made the claim that words could ease the pain
Never watched you fall apart, never put you back together
When you were broken down, into a million pieces
Scattered on the ground

Is there somethin' I can do
What can I say, what can I do

Music and Lyrics by Alan Schaefer and Dexter Green

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 12:06 PM

i give thanks she had a peaceful passing. My sorrow for you knows no bounds as does my love. What an incredible family you have to have such a special soul as Jane's, bringing a world of strangers together, as Spaw said, to become friends whilst she traveled the ulimate Journey.

With love, condolences, and a promise to continue with the others and you,

Kathleen LaFrance

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: SINSULL
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 12:07 PM

I have no words to comfort you. This is a brutal loss. I keep you and yours in my prayers.
Mary

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 12:57 PM

also feel like there are no words at this time of deep loss - just that friends are still here,as has already been expressed.
God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 01:15 PM

My thoughts are with you and with the others of Jane's family.

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 08:55 PM

I am so sorry. Thank you for letting us share your journey this far. I will be on board wherever this ship sails next. There is a new star in the heavens to help guide the way.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Jeri
Date: 24 Mar 13 - 09:20 PM

My condolences.
Of all you can give someone, or all you can do for them, just being there for them is perhaps the only thing that matters. Thanks for sharing this journey with us.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 04:20 AM

I'm reading...crying...re-reading...listening...trying to visualise all of you...crying some more. Can't write much yet...hurting too much...the loss of our belovéd Daughter, Jane has hit us hard...lost many relatives & friends over the years, but this is of a different order & the order is wrong...aren't children supposed to outlive their parents? Can't conceal the anger in my grief. In time, we will find ways of living with the pain, I know that to be true, but right now, feelings are raw.
                        Knowing & feeling your Love & Compassion,
                                                                                           Nigel & Ann
                                                                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 04:33 AM

I was also re-reading & crying

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 04:57 AM

Ditto Jeri.

Nigel, no need to conceal your anger. As for the tears, I doubt if there are any dry eyes in the Café.

Here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 05:09 AM

exactly, gnu...Nigel, swhout it out, write it out, however it helps let the anger out along with the tears.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 06:26 AM

Nigel- It is your and Ann's time, Jane's husband's and childrens' time- of grieving. Feel what you feel, express that which you can express, and remember that there are many friends thinking of you all.

My grandmother outlived six of her nine children. "It's not supposed to be like this!" she said. She found ways to remember them while continuing to find joy in her life. You can too.

Make some music. It doesn't have to be beautiful or complete or be shared with anyone else. Hug Ann as often as possible. Focus on your breathing, on the world's beauty, on those who love you. Appreciate the depth and range of your emotions. Speak your love.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 07:10 AM

Gnu's right. Not a dry eye here yesterday. We've all shared this journey with you since 12 January last year and to me it seems like we've lost one of us.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 07:27 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann

Everything that has been said by others,

Jane has brought us all together to be here in times of trouble and sadness, but to be here to travel together on the Rainbow to hold you and Ann in our hearts as we go through these troubled waters together.

So much wisdom, so much love, such a wonderful crew of beautiful people.

sending you both a blanket of love

Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall, Wakefield
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 11:06 AM

Please forgive me if others have alluded to these LINES in previous postings. I was a late starter on this prolonged metaphorical , nautical journey...but I hope this provides some comfort or food for thought.


                  THE SAILING SHIP

What is death ?
I am standing on the sea shore ,
A ship sails in the morning breeze and starts for the ocean.
She is an object of beauty and I stand watching her .
Til at last she fades on the horizon and someone at my side says :
"She is gone ."

Gone ! Where ?
Gone from my sight - that is all .
She is just as large in the masts , hull and spars as she was when I saw her
And just as able to bear her load of living freight to its destination.
The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me , not in her .


And just at the moment when someone at my side says ,
"She is gone "
There are others who are watching her coming and other voices take up a glad shout :
" There she comes "
- and that is dying . An horizon and just the limit of our sight .
Lift us up , Oh Lord , that we may see further .

BISHOP CHARLAES HENRY BRENT ( 1862 - 1926 )

David

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 11:10 AM

I've always liked that, David.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 01:57 PM

I've been sitting, unable to post for a while, too full of the combination of sorrow and of appreciation for what I've seen in people here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 05:40 PM

Right on, gnu. Like the line in Janie's post said, "Is it okay if I stay here with you and cry for awhile..." Sometimes that's all there is to do.
KT

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 05:49 PM

David Nutall.... I can barely see to type... thank you. I had never read that before. I have heard same expressed in many ways but never in such clarity.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 10:01 PM

Holding all of you to the Light.

Janie

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 25 Mar 13 - 10:55 PM

Goodnight to Nigel and Jane and to all of your loved ones near and far. We're still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 06:43 AM

Good morning to Jane's loved ones.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 07:45 AM

Here with you Nigel and Ann

Wendy
XXX

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 07:51 AM

ditto & I'll be thinking of you while I'm away at a festival for the next week.

love to everyone

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 11:32 AM

I'm still here, too, wrapping you in a blanket of love.
That was a lovely poem, David. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 11:52 AM

Nigel and Ann, my wife and I are still here in the circle around you.

(And UP SPAW.)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 12:09 PM

A beautiful, hand-knitted 'Hug Scarf' arrived this morning, completely unexpectedly, from....of course, Jacqui. Within the hour, I was off to the shops, as we say: "As snug as a bug in a rug"! Or that could be rewritten: "As snug as a bug with a hug". Not my best work I know.....!
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 01:31 PM

Dame fine work if ya ask me.

Good work by jacqui.c, too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 09:21 PM

jacqui has such a big, generous heart.blessed be Dear Ones

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 09:35 PM

Brava, Jacqui.

I'm atill here, too, with so many others.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 26 Mar 13 - 09:59 PM

It is a chill night here on the northeast Piedmont of North Carolina. After a mild winter, spring is slow to arrive. The sky is clear and the moon is full, shining down behind dark tree branches that appear to starkly etch it's surface.

Sending deep care and concern on those moonbeams, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 12:42 PM

Here with you all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 04:17 PM

Dear Nigel and Ann. Here in Maine we are collecting maple sap and boiling it outside to make syrup for the year- one of our delights. As the sweet, steamy fragrance rises on this chilly spring day I'm hoping you will find sweet pockets of amber beauty in the form of good memories.

Still here together.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 04:50 PM

Maple Slurpup... mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! I get mine from La Belle Province at $12.49 a litre! Half or less than most retailers here. Of course, I also like to go to a sugar camp and partake of the festivities and buy directly from the camps. Although, right now, I wouldn't eat any off the snow with the temps as warm as they are... good way to end up with a sore throat and maybe a cold.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 04:56 PM

...and if I found any amber spots in the snow, I would examine them very carefully before "slurpuping"...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 07:01 PM

"Don't go where the Huskies go and don't you eat that yellow snow.".......Frank Zappa

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 07:28 PM

Are you getting the sleep and rest you need while at Connie's, Spawser?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 07:39 PM

Just thought I would say goodnight Nigel and Ann,
Hope you have a peaceful night with restful dreams and comforting memories,

with love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 08:58 PM

Thinking of you, Nigel and Ann, and all of your family.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 09:27 PM

Goodnight, Spaw. Goodnight Nigel and Ann. Goodnight Crew.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 10:02 PM

In our family, in the old Minnesota farmhouse, it was "Good night, sleep tight, don't let the bedbugs bite".

My sister had a high school friend stay over one night. When she heard that, she shrieked "Do you have bedbugs??"

Sleep tight, the seas are calm.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Donuel
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 11:06 PM

I know so very little,
but this I know; We are born from love for love our whole life long. All the countless thousands of words of feeling aimed at you and yours, prove that you will never be alone without love.
Perhaps singing so you can; hear, dance, play along, love will even whisper so you can sleep.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 11:10 PM

As I contemplate why I am not already fast asleep I can't help but mull over why I have checked on this thread almost every day for a year at waking and at going Oggies... first and last thing I did most days and many times during the waking hours.

I was uplifted. I was dashed. I was upset. I was comforted. I felt anger. I felt joy. I was unnerved. I was calmed. I felt helpless. I felt empowered...

This journey, here and there, has been shared by so many good folk. So many wonderful posts. Meaningful, enlightening, caring posts made by people of the same description.

Thanks.

gnightfernow

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Mar 13 - 11:11 PM

frogprince, that's we said in Colorado and Wyoming, too.

good night all, may peacefilled rest be yours.

Peaches, tell Connie hi and give yerselves and Karen big hugs from me.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 06:53 AM

my thoughts and prayers have been with you while our internet has been down and will be so if i am away over easter as planned.God bless pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 07:11 AM

Good morning, dear ones,
Here in the hills of New Hampshire there is still well over a foot of snow on the ground. Spring is in the air, but the forecast suggests it will be late April before we see any crocuses or daffodils. We are weary of winter, but we have hope that Spring will return.

Nigel and Ann, it is early yet in your bereavement. The winter of sadness and anger and depression will run their course. But Jane will always be in your hearts, and you will never stop loving her, and her love for you lives on in your hearts. Your gentle Spring will return, not the same Springs as you may remember, but hope and warmth and light are not gone forever.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 10:33 AM

Good morning my friends.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 06:41 PM

Some wonderful, hope-filled, humourous posts here. They really do bring a sense of joy back into our lives.
             Jane's funeral will be held at 1.00pm (UK time), Thursday, 11th April. If you're up & about, maybe pause for a second or two & join our Family over the miles that separate so many of us. You will be most welcome.
                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 07:25 PM

I think that will be 9AM eastern daylight time in the U.S.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 07:35 PM

I wont be where I can log on to Mudcat at that time, Nigel, but will definitely be there regardless. Have it marked in my appointment book.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 10:07 PM

I should be awake. My thoughts will be with your family.

Have people in the UK set there clocks ahead one hour for summer? If not, when will you do so? We have done it here in the US.

I used this site to convert the time. I hope it is accurate. http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 10:32 PM

Just woke up in my chair, snacked, and on my way to bed. I'll be taking Mum to the doc at that very time but I will take pause, Nigel.

What rum said... too asleep to remember exactly how it goes.......... here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 28 Mar 13 - 11:03 PM

Remembering the gathering after my sister's funeral, and it was joyous. I think officially wakes are pre-funeral but here in the USA they are often sad and solemn formal occasions at funeral homes. People flocked to the house post-funeral, however, to truly celebrate her life. Old friends from long ago gathered, plus family from near and far and neighbors and newer friends we didn't know. Old friends included many of the people the three of us sisters melded with in our twenties, the period when we truly became heart friends and not just sisters. Kaye had left and come home. Annie and I still lived far away and had not been with this crew for many years. Fiddles, banjos, guitars and basses appeared, there was singing, clogging and dancing in the hallway, cherished and joyful memories shared, pictures and photos passed around. A true reunion of not just blood family but of the communities in which she had been embedded and to which she had contributed so much across time. The ladies on the church committee who set up the food and some neighbors were somewhat agape, but still appreciative and celebratory. There are memories that still bring tears. But Kaye's post-funeral Wake was a truly joyful celebration of her life, and the memory brings me great joy and solace, even this many years after her death.

May it be so for you and yours, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 04:45 AM

Lovely, Janie.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 06:39 AM

Janie, your description of the post-funeral wake evokes vivid images & deep emotions. Ours will be post-funeral too, but sadly, no singing or dancing. Even so, it is the intention that the day will be a celebration of Jane's Life.
       For the record, clocks in the UK go forward one hour this weekend (30/31 March). I embrace BST with open arms!
       'Gather' with us on 11th, if you are able. Ann & I will be thinking of you all, our Dear, Precious Friends,
                         With Love,
                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 06:47 AM

We will be thinking of you at that time Nigel and Ann.

The sun is shining here in Frinton, hope it is shining on you both in East London. I may walk the grandchildren down to the beach hut later for a hot chocolate, dont forget we will have that date for a cup of tea at the hut some time soon.......when you are ready.

much love to you both

Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 06:48 AM

I'll be thinking of you all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 08:22 AM

Me too.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 08:46 AM

I'll be with you, singing the Comfort of Singing Voices.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 10:34 AM

i'll be there and try to tune up my croaky voice to sing the same, if not i'll try land on the shore.

much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 08:34 PM

Good night, my friend. We're still with you through this hard time.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 10:07 PM

Goodnight, Nigel & Ann, 'Spaw, Billybob and family, and also to all the rest of this fine crew. Some will sleep well, some fitfully or not at all, some will soon be rising even as I head off to bed. That's the way it is with ship's crew.

Still here and so appreciative of being a part of this crew and this chorus.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 05:57 AM

Good morning,

woke up to fluffy snow here in Frinton, just like a silent cosy blanket falling from the sky.

Billy saw his consultant a few days ago, good news on the leuchemia count, back to normal, red cells and platelets still very low and the bone marrow biopsy needs to be repeated, but the CT scan was good, so sailing on.

Still here Nigel and Ann ( hugs)

with love
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 07:30 AM

Fingers and toes all crossed, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 09:14 AM

Good news, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 12:20 PM

My Dear Wendy, Ann & I are so pleased to read your encouraging news. Something to celebrate, something positive & good to hold on to.

       Spending much of my time preparing some Music for Jane's funeral. We're going to play a shortened version (with the other writer's permission) of 'Meditation on 'The Comfort of Singing Voices', to underscore a moment of quiet reflection in the middle of the service.
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 12:35 PM

I'd bet that the crew here could arrange to all be here during some of those hours on the 8th for a bit of a broadband wake of the Mudcat kind sharing songs and words and the best that a friendship can bring together.

How about it fellow crew? Can we all be here between 6 AM and Noon Mudcat time on the 8th? I will be for sure. My first round of chemo ends on Tuesday and will make it something good for a marking point. Let's bring our thoughts and prayers, our songs and stories, and have a 'Catter's Wake for the Paterson family.

I'm in.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 01:11 PM

The 8th?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 01:15 PM

Great news, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 01:57 PM

i'll be here, Spawdarlin', but it will be on the 11th a THURSDAY!

Wendy, great news!!!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 02:51 PM

Thanks kat and all.....Geez, can't even get the date right.....***sigh***......Okay, try again!

Catter's Wake for Jane
6 AM til Noon Mudcat Time (or whenever)
THURSDAY   APRIL 11th

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 05:01 PM

Wendy, that's good news about Billybob.

Spaw, I hope your chemo goes well. And I should be around for at least part of the wake for Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 10:58 AM

My wife and I are on the way to her father's house (half hour drive, then probably to the home of one or another of his long-time girlfriend's descendents for Easter dinner. But thinking of you all this morning.

       (UP SPAW!)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 11:17 AM

Here's the 1800th post for Spaw as he rises (to healing and the bait) yet again.

Wendy- Thanks for such welcome news.

Nigel and Ann- I'll be here on the designated day, and will sing the new song.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 03:39 PM

Yes! Thank goodness you fucked up again, Spaw. I would have had to cancel an appt with the cable company! and you know what they could do to me for trifling with them. As it is, I do have a committment for A11 but I think I can work around it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 07:15 PM

Still sailing and rowing with all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 07:52 PM

Sorry- the 1800th post at Date: 31 Mar 13 - 11:17 AM was mine...dunked my salty cookie somewhere.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 01 Apr 13 - 07:55 PM

Up, Spaw.
Good news, Wendy!
Goodnight, Ann and Nigel.

Row b'ys, Row!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Apr 13 - 03:24 AM

it's good to be back home/mudcat & catch up with everyone.

good news Wendy

keep up the good work, spaw

& much love to Nigel & Ann & their families.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Apr 13 - 04:06 AM

back from a cold winchelsea caravan but otherwise nice time.my thoughts and prayers with you.may memories bring solace as well the inevitable sadness.
good to hear encouraging report on billy .blessings on all .    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 02 Apr 13 - 11:51 PM

Goodnight, friends. Updates welcomed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 04:23 AM

Morning crew,
spent a beautiful sunny day yesterday, walking through the woods at Marks Hall Essex, taking photos of where mum was stationed in WW2 for a memory book I am making for her. ( letters from 1943 thread)

Still here Nigel and Ann XXX
UP SPAW

Wendy

xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 07:33 AM

also still here.
it is those long term memories that mean so much to the elderly.my dad loves to recount those days.i plan to take him on another tour of romney marsh soon and revisit his farming,country life youth.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 11:20 AM

I've been sick in bed with the flu for the past few days, but I've been here in spirit.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 04:52 PM

I've been here, too, although I am having a computer (laptop) problem. Not the internet connection this time but a screen that fades to dark if it is not opened to exactly a certain narrow acute angle, the degree of which seems to vary from minute to minute. Sometimes I can barely poke my nose between the keyboard and screen. Anyway, the date and time of Jane's funeral are in my old-fashioned calendar book, so I'll be thinking of her, Nigel, and Ann at that time whether or not my computer is functioning.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 04:57 PM

Wendy... good on ya! AA... hope ya got tissues with moisturizer.

Nigel... see ya when ya get back. Take care.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 01:09 AM

Hope you are on the road to recovery, Allison. Enjoying the memories vicariously you are sharing Wendy, on the other thread. Holding Spaw close as well as the rest of you in my heart. Aching for you Nigel and Ann,....and headed for bed now, way tooooo late.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 05:41 AM

checking in again with best wishes.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 06:00 AM

With Jane's funeral getting ever closer, I won't be posting much, if at all, for the next week or two. Stay on board 'The Rainbow', no need to set a course, she knows exactly to where she's heading next Thursday. I have it on good authority that fair winds & a calm sea are guaranteed.
                  Ann & I carry you all in our hearts, our Dearest, Most Caring & Loving Friends.
               
                  Until next Thursday then,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 07:50 AM

See ya when we see ya, Nigel. Thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 08:55 AM

Sailing with you Nigel and Ann, with love.

Billy had a call from his research nurse this morning, the results are back from Leeds University where the Trial he has been taking part in is based.
They have said he is in remission! I am feeling a little numb at the moment, but want to thank everyone on The Rainbow for sailing with us this past year, just sending so much love to you all.

Nigel and Ann, without you both and Jane none of us would be here together in calm or rough seas, so thank you , thank you.
Bill and I will be with you on Thursday and sailing on.

With much love from Billy and I

Wendy
XXXXXXXXXXX

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 10:44 AM

It's a beautiful clear, sunny day on the Michigan area of the deck. Just a bit cool, but the warm blanket here is more than adequate.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 04:09 PM

Wendy, here's a favorite poem for you:

James Hogg (1770-1835), also known as the "Ettrick Shepherd". He was born in Ettrick, in the Scottish Borders.

    A Boy's Song

    Where the pools are bright and deep,
    Where the grey trout lies asleep,
    Up the river and over the lea,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Where the blackbird sings the latest,
    Where the hawthorn blooms the sweetest,
    Where the nestlings chirp and flee,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Where the mowers mow the cleanest,
    Where the hay lies thick and greenest,
    There to track the homeward bee,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Where the hazel bank is steepest,
    Where the shadow falls the deepest,
    Where the clustering nuts fall free,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Why the boys should drive away
    Little sweet maidens from their play,
    Or love to banter and fight so well,
    That's the thing I never could tell.

    But this I know, I love to play
    Through the meadow, among the hay;
    Up the water and over the lea,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 07:48 PM

Wendy, your post caused happy chills to run down my spine.

Nigel, I know you know you and Ann are tucked tightly in all the hearts that make up this crew also.

Spaw, got you tucked in especially close right now.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 09:47 PM

Glad to read that Billy's in remission.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 03:17 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 06:44 AM

GREAT NEWS, Wendy!

UP SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 07:38 AM

Meh, it's just the flu. This thread gives me perspective. Thanks for the good wishes, though!

Nigel, we'll be keeping watch even when you aren't a visible presence.

Wendy, that is wonderful news. Holding you close.

Spaw---- you know. UP YOU GO!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 10:34 AM

When my first wife fell seriously ill, my boss said simply "go and do what you have to do and come back when you can".

Do what you have to do, Nigel, we'll be here waiting for your return.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 03:35 PM

reckon i know how it is nigel,it has been good of you to post at all at this time.you will see that friends have been here when you feel ok to post again.
good news wendy
hey spaw and up you rises!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 05:02 PM

Holding you all close'

much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 08:10 PM

Got you tucked in right next to 'Spaw, Kat. Whether you have energy and mobility to post much right now about how you are faring, know that you are surrounded by a sturdy and supportive crew.

Thinking about what a broad and beamy boat this is, and in terms of the heart, caring and concern, always at safe harbor to the extent safe harbor means surrounded by fellow travelers who are paying attention and joining together with loving kindness.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 05:56 AM

Wendy, I hope your numbness is receding, to be replaced with hope & optimism.

Spaw, holding you in our thoughts with Love & Care. As my namesake (the 'T' issue is of no consequence at times like this!), please get well.

Kat, may the healing rays of the spring sunshine warm you & restore you.

Most of Jane's funeral arrangements are done now. Just a few small details to attend to &........

Be with us on 11th, 1:00pm (UK time) if you can. Sing, rejoice, give thanks for a beautiful lady who brought joy into so many peoples lives. Her generosity, kindness & zest for life lives on in her Children,
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 07:24 AM

Bless you, Nigel. We will be there. May you feel our loving arms around you, hear our voices raised in song, and know that you are being supported on Mudcat angel wings!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 01:18 PM

Sending all the best to the kind folks here. I'm not online much, being very busy with some tricky caretaker responsibilities, but I do keep track of this thread.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 02:19 PM

Sending out energy to you, maeve.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 04:26 PM

I will be there!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 05:22 PM

may the children be comforted and blessed,with you,nigel and ann also.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 07 Apr 13 - 12:13 PM

I remember feeling stunned that life rolls on, even though I couldn't understand how that was possible.

Nigel, as we have noted, I'm not a religious believer either, but am certainly culturally Christian and faith based songs still bring much comfort, and healing tears as metaphor. I think immortality is real - in memory, and in influence, even after those with memories have passed on themselves. The following brought tears to my eyes, as well as solace. Hope there is some solace for you also.

Life Goes On

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Apr 13 - 02:09 PM

A few years ago I took ago I took Qi Gong classes at my local Y. Among the participants were a woman,, M, and her adult daughter, S, who was the mother of a school-age daughter, A, who was too young to participate in the classes. Regarding M and S, I thought, "How nice that a mother and daughter are taking these classes together, although sometimes I thought M was being overly protective. S was very thin and often said her lower back hurt. I told her that one yoga technique was to simply bend over, resting torso on thighs and lowering head toward floor. (We were seated during this portion of class.) She tried it and said it brought some relief and did it again during the next several weeks of classes. I occasionally wondered why a woman so young and slim could have such severe and frequent back pains but never asked because I didn't want to pry. Then for a few weeks M and S were missing from classes. One week our instructor told us that S had died from cancer. I went back through the online obits to find hers. After her diagnosis she had embraced alternative therapies and shamanism. Mary returned to class a few times, really to say goodbye to us and say that A and her dad were doing as well as could be expected under the circumstances. That was the last I saw of M until few weeks ago when she appeared in a yoga class ((My Y no longer offers Qi Gong.) The class was too hard for M, but I told her about some other classes that are better for an older beginner and she has been coming to some of them. She now meets her granddaughter when she gets off the school bus and cares for her until her father gets home from work. The point of all of this is that yes, life continues, but sometimes it takes a few years to get back on track and head in a new direction, though of course she will always miss S. And I'm aways delighted to see M when she comes to a class and happy that she didn't give up after her first too-hard yoga class.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 06:19 AM

thanks for the post, ChanteyLass.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:16 AM

Still with you all each day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:42 AM

ChanteyLass & Janie, between the two of you, you've managed to fill my afternoon with joy & tears in about equal measure. I love good stories that are told directly from one's Life Experiences & I love good songs that derive their genesis from Lifes' Experiences. You gave me/us, both.
          I spent most of this morning getting a beautiful photograph of Jane enlarged & framed. It will stand alongside her coffin on Thursday. I cried at the copy shop & I cried at the picture framers & then I cried some more because the framer refused to take any money for his work. He said he couldn't imagine what we were going through & the framed photo was a gift that represented his condolences. That, from a complete stranger....I'm crying again.....
                                           With Love to You All,
                                                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 02:10 PM

that was so lovely of the framer.when we lost a dear friend who was an artist we had one of his paintings framed.he had given us the norfolk seascape not long before he died.the framing was expensive but sets the painting beautifully.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 08:29 PM

Nigel... afetr reading your post, me too. Be well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:47 PM

Kindness is good, especially from a stranger. Crying is good, too. Let your tears flow. Keep the hankies handy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,alison
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 01:06 AM

so very sorry for your loss

alison

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 03:58 AM

What a wonderful thing for the framer to do. I was talking to my step-granddaughter the other day, who was concerned about all the bad news in the world. I told her that there are a lot of good people doing good things - they just don't make good news. I will pass on this amazing piece of generosity to her.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 06:46 AM

A good samaritan indeed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 11:06 AM

kindness of strangers.

love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 04:02 PM

thoughts and prayers still with you nigel.

janie- only just played "life goes on".i would not have thought myself a bluegrass fan,but that was beautiful.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 04:22 PM

Janie- Thanks for your kind thought.

Nigel- Please check your email when you have time. I have sent that which you requested.

Peace to all,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 10:18 PM

Waning... but, checking in at last call or nearly so as per usual.

Nigel, Spaw, Wendy, kat, maeve and near a dozen others that I know of in our community who are hard put at the moment (yeah, seems a lot of it is going around)... peace and rest to you tonight as your are able. Bless all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 04:22 AM

Morning,

Nigel and Ann, still here as tomorrow draws closer,

holding you both in my heart

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 06:04 AM

"She should have died hereafter;
There would have been a time for such a word,
To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow......"

(Macbeth, act 5, scene 5)

                                     With Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 06:10 AM

sending love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 07:31 AM

I wrote this poem for Ann the day before Jane entered hospital for the very last time. Ann is happy for me to share these lines with you. The poem is entitled: 'We sat & Watched'.




"We sat & watched our Daughter sleeping, unofficial vigil keeping.

Saw the covers rise & fall, movement slight, scarce seen at all.

All the time the question: Why? Unanswered still, e'en though we cry,

Why Her? Why Us? Our Family? Is this our fate, our destiny?

Life's living rules have all been changed, the order has been rearranged.

The Child dies first? That's not the way & we're unable to delay

Nature at Her very worst, our Darling Girl left so close nursed.

And when the end comes, as it will, still half a life left to fulfil.

A coterie of things not done, no sharing in the joy & fun

Of living out a normal life as Mother, Sister, Child & Wife.

Insidious, remaining hidden, entering her life unbidden,

No cure, no cure the doctors say, they cannot make it go away.

And if we could, we'd take her pain & if we could, begin again.

By re-creating life anew, a miracle not ours to do".

                   With Love & eternal Gratitude to All of You, our Dearest Friends,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 07:48 AM

I'll read it late in the day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 07:56 AM

xxxxxxxx
wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 08:48 AM

Dear Nigel, you express so much in those words, pouring out the baffling mystery of how such a thing can happen. Blessings on you. Know that we are here, today, tomorrow and every day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 01:52 PM

still here and thinking of you all
always
all ways
with love
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 03:45 PM

praying but not finding the words...bless you    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 03:54 PM

"praying but not finding the words..."
Pete, I think if your heart is trying to get it out, that's worth more than the words.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 04:26 PM

Nigel, your poem brought tears to my eyes.

A few days ago I posted about M, S, and A. Yesterday I saw M and told her I'd related her story as I knew it and told her a little of what I've gleaned of yours from this thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 01:40 AM

Dearest Nigel and Ann,

A day has arrived that no one ever wanted to happen. As we crewed along together we only wished and hoped for the best but then the best became that which we wanted least. Jane is now free of the pain which she never deserved. Your pain, and ours as we care deeply for your family, continues. Over time the healing will begin. Let it begin now.

As I thought about about some appropriate song, and as it so often happens, two came to me together and from a source I never expected.......an album of lullabyes froma contemporary artist. The first I will leave now and the other later today. This one is a beautiful old standard. As I listened I realized that after her great struggle Jane has reached and is now cradled in her valley of love.

Simple Gifts



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 03:42 AM

Nigel and Ann,

thinking of you and all Jane's family and friends today, will light a candle at one oclock

with much love

Wendy and Billy

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 03:47 AM

Thinking of you on this day, Nigel and Ann...Know that you're being held by so many who care....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:44 AM

Still here with you, Ann and Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:47 AM

Nigel & Ann, will be "there" in heart and mind today, as you come together with beloved family and friends in celebration of Jane's life. I'll be joining in on the chorus of "The Comfort of Singing Voices" with Allison.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 06:20 AM

Nigel. Just read your poem again. Powerful. Tears again. I'll be thinking of you and yours today.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 06:31 AM

also thinking of you and hoping for some solace amidst the sadness.
pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 06:48 AM

I'm here. I'll be going out shortly but I'll still be here.

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 07:11 AM

I am here and thinking of you.

Frank

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 08:21 AM

Hovering, thinking of you all, singing:
Angels Hovering Round
Blessed Quietness
Alleluia, the Great Storm is Over
Will the Circle Be Unbroken
http://www.myspace.com/music/player?sid=80644685&ac=now
And of course, The Comfort of Singing Voices.

This is an extraordinary community and I'm privileged to be gathered in love today with you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 08:33 AM

Singing "How Be Ye?".

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 08:41 AM

Here with you , what beautiful singing!

xxxxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall, WAKEFIELD
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 09:36 AM

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,David Nuttall, Wakefield
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 09:45 AM

You are very much in my thoughts...particularly around 1 p.m. today.I trust you are able to find some peace,calm and solace in the times to come.

David

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 09:51 AM

Spaw, beautiful choice. I'll join in, though Rog may be here for lunch.

Ann and Nigel, our blanket surrounds you all with LOVE, LIGHT, and PEACE.

kat and Rog

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 01:28 PM

One more storm weathered- the crew is still keeping watch.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 01:40 PM

Allison, you are indeed a fine song leader. Wonderful stuff........Ant what a crew choir! You're directing a world wide crew here Allison and we may not all be good but we're loud huh?

If one looks back over this thread you'll realize the wide world of beliefs and religions too. No matter how we see things differently we also see much the same.   Life can be great and also horrendous but what makes it move is the love we get and the the love we give. We believe in living and loving each each moment until a time comes when we muust leave the wonderful things and places we hold so dear and fly back home wherever that might be according to all those divergent beliefs. Sadly for us and especially for Nigel and Ann, Jane's time has come to fly back home..........

Daydream Land

Thank you Nigel for allowing us to share part of her journey and yours. May you and Ann soon fill the holes in your hearts with the greatest and most beautiful memories. We love you.......and we sail on.


Spaw/Patrick Paterson.......I drop one "T" today in your honor

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 01:44 PM

Just sat down and tuned into the interworld. Thought of youse and those joining in here in cyberspace many times. Bless all. Sang, hummed and whistled one song most of the day except in places like the bank and the doc's waiting room.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:39 PM

..and when it was over the light still shone and shone. And the light sought a place to rest and looked into the hearts of all those present. But the hearts were already filled by the light and so it found a place to rest in the eyes of those present as a twinkle. Never doused, the twinkle ignited to a flame with memories and hence the light shone forever.

Memories are made of this .. I hope your pain eases soon.

Frank

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Little Robyn
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:43 PM

Sending love from NZ.
Robyn

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:51 PM

adding mine from Australia

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 09:54 PM

I didn't sing, but I thought of Jane, Nigel, Ann, and the crew often today. I hope Jane's family finds comfort in the many happy memories of Jane that they have. In the meantime, grieve away.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 10:22 PM

Allison, I got an error message when I clicked on the link but would really love to hear what you posted. Try it again?


Saying goodnight now, to all, hopeful that Nigel and Ann are sleeping restfully and without dreams, and in the knowledge that family and friends are circled round.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 11:21 PM

Last call for me. I am nearly asleep as I post. I can only assume that Nigel is asleep well ago... at peace with all or, at least, tuckerd well out. Whatever... as long as you get some rest, Nigel.

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 03:09 AM

a new morning,a new beginning.grey and light clouds rolling by outside with blue sky peeping through from behind them here in kent england.a brightening horizon wished for nigel,ann and family though the clouds will be slow to clear. bless you    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 03:50 AM

This is the song Allison tried to link- here including scenes of the Camden area.- written and sung by my friend David Dodson of Camden, Maine: The Farthest Field

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 04:56 AM

Thanks maeve. How beautiful!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 06:29 AM

A sketch of yesterday: The day began with rain, but ended in sunshine....240 good folk filled the Church for the Service of Celebration, at least 20 had to stand....many were from the locality, but there were those who had voyaged from Australia, South Africa, Denmark, Dubai, Scotland, America, Doha, Canada, Malaysia....a service planned to last just over an hour, actually lasted nearly two....humour, tears, many, many tears....every adult & child who paid tribute, made it to the end of their reading without additional support (just!)....the cremation that followed was for Family only, brief, yet dignified, my Darling Ann read a poem, her voice breaking with emotion, but gaining in strength, line by line...we filed out to be greeted by sunshine & blue skies; a perfect metaphor for Jane's personality....at the wake, tears, laughter,reminiscences, good food & drink, hugs, kisses, more tears when the time came to part....finally arrived home in the wee small hours, straight to bed to sleep dreamlessly, deeply....awoke to a new day with new pages in our Family Book of Life, as yet, blank, but soon to be written upon.

       There is much more I need to say by way of thankyous, gratitude, love. Yesterday, Ann & I took you all with us every step of the way. For the moment, 'The Rainbow' rests at anchor, sails furled. In a while, let's begin to consider a new name for our Thread...not just yet...too soon to make changes.

                                                Much Love to You All, our Dear & Trusted Friends,
                                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 07:15 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann,

you surrounded her with love and support all the way, so much caring and all the strength and comfort that this world could provide. I'm very sorry for your loss, but know that you gave her so much while she was here.

thinking of you and all your family and friends

freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 08:35 AM

Thank you, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 09:30 PM

That so many people came to the church for Jane's service is a tribute to you and your family. There must have been a lot of love there.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 09:36 PM

What freda said.

And would value hearing how others in the crew and their loved ones are faring. Holding all of you to the light, whether you choose to share here or not.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Apr 13 - 10:41 PM

thanks, janie. i am improving, somewhat physically...my hand looks and feels great, other parts not so much. i lost all strength, so pt is slow because of pain from fibro, etc. rog is completely stressed even though his yrly said he was excellent. basically, it's tough right now.

my love and thanks to all,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 13 Apr 13 - 04:43 AM

Morning,

Kat sending you love and healing thoughts from a beautiful sunny spring morning in the UK.

Nigel and Ann, hoping you had another peaceful nights sleep,going to enjoy this sunshine and spring clean the beach hut this afternoon, so remember tea and company some time soon?

much love

Wendy
xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Apr 13 - 05:01 AM

Our Very Dear Kat,
                            It's a beautiful sunny morning here in London. If only we could package up some of that warmth & brightness, we would dispatch it Special D. You & your belovéd Rog could bask to your heart's content & maybe feel some relief from the pains that so beset you.
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 13 Apr 13 - 08:49 PM

Still here, In hover mode.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Apr 13 - 10:33 PM

Well, Kat, your typing is improving. I hope the rest of you soon follows suit. Keep healing.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 14 Apr 13 - 08:46 AM

Just saying good morning.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Apr 13 - 02:17 PM

Followed by "good afternoon".

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 14 Apr 13 - 02:26 PM

Hover.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Apr 13 - 06:15 PM

we have been in norfolk over the weekend visiting friends,but not forgetting friends here.prayerful thoughts continue.God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Apr 13 - 11:57 PM

still sending love

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 03:18 AM

A very good Monday morning to all our Dear Friends from Ann & Nigel in a warmer, sunnier (although the rain is still lurking in the background), East London.

Without your Love, Support & Words of Wisdom, getting through the last fifteen months would have been immeasurably more difficult & painful. That a group of people, scattered hither & yon around the globe could have such a profound effect is nothing short of miraculous (Not a word I use lightly or regularly!). Our gratitude is boundless & our Love for All of You, constant.

             Looking forward to our continuing voyage in a few days time,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 04:56 AM

Good morning to you. And all else.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 05:41 AM

Just checking in.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 08:07 AM

Guest was me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 02:57 PM

Nigel and Ann, good afternoon. i hope you have had a chance for some restorative sleep as i've just done. it works wonders, at least for your body.

much and thanks to all...feeling better.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 04:45 PM

Sounds better kat and I agree with you on Nigel and Ann.

A note on me as an update. I start another round of Vidaza next week and after the last one I don't look forward to it but on the other hand..........My hemoglobin has actually gone up twice since then but I credit the blood for the first raise. I was at 9.2 last week and was hoping to drop less than a few tenths this week. Today my red count was up (!!!) just a bit and my hemoglobin has gone UP to 9.6!    Seems significant to me and the best thing we've seen. We'll see what happens next week and I don't want to get too excited but DAMN!!! Maybe all those "Ups" are catching up with the Aronesp. I see the Doc next week........cross your fingers.

I know the endgame to this is a complete loser but I'm going to keep my pieces on the board as long as possible!

Thanks all!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 08:57 PM

Up, Spaw- Thanks for your update. You'd be surprised how often you are on my mind.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 09:19 PM

Kepp it UP spaw. (and maeve, I don't think he would be a bit surprised!) Up maeve and the relative you are tending also. May you also have some rest and sleep, and some laughter.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 09:53 PM

I'll be staying aboard and sending love to all who are here. Glad to hear good news from Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Apr 13 - 10:55 PM

Great news, Spaw. Blessings to all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Apr 13 - 10:28 AM

keep up the good work, spaw!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 16 Apr 13 - 10:47 AM

Good news Spaw,

sending love and sunny days from the UK

Wendy
xxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Apr 13 - 11:06 AM

UP PEACHES!

luvyadarlin'kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Apr 13 - 11:43 AM

i hope things start to look UP SPAW.
Blessings and consolation to sick and sorrowing friends    pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Apr 13 - 12:53 PM

Up Spaw!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 16 Apr 13 - 02:33 PM

UPSPAW! Glad to hear some good news.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 17 Apr 13 - 12:21 PM

Refresh

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Apr 13 - 04:00 PM

refresh! - may those weary sorrowing be refreshed.God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 17 Apr 13 - 07:34 PM

Let's anchor the boat in a lovely cove for a little while and all jump out and go skinny dipping!

....Or at least have a picnic on a bright sunny rock and watch the birds and sea lions.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 17 Apr 13 - 10:29 PM

i'll sit in the shade, if you don't mind...otherwise i cld look like a cooked lobster!lovely spot, so peacefull and soothing.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Ebbie
Date: 18 Apr 13 - 12:18 AM

One of the fun things to do around here (Juneau, Alaska) is to cruise around in a boat and watch the sea lions hauled out on some sunny, rocky beach. It is a real community: bellowing, muttering, burping, quarreling, some aggression and lots of hurt feelings. But there is also a real feeling of peace, the knowledge that they are in just the right place.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 18 Apr 13 - 05:38 AM

Lovely, enjoying the peace and beautiful anchorage
xxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Apr 13 - 07:34 AM

Special healing thoughts for my Dearest Friend, Spaw. The motto of the Paterson/Patterson clan is: 'Huc Tendimus Omnes', which translates as: 'We all Strive for This'. I know you are striving, Pat. I'm sure all those who care for you are striving too; striving to make you well & allaying your fears.
                            Holding You in our Loving Thoughts,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 18 Apr 13 - 10:47 PM

Hope those O2 levels are going up, Spawzer. Am I correct in assuming these treatments happen over several days and that you have been staying with Connie again? Hope you are getting rest and good sleep.

Sun or shade, this magic place has plenty of either and great companionship all around.

Nigel and Ann, come rest a bit among your good companions.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 05:33 AM

Yes, Janie, it's rest we need. I think the phrase: 'Running on empty' just about sums things up. With Jane's funeral behind us now, we have had to change tack into house moving mode. Not us, Jane's Family. Since their return from Dubai, they have been living in rented accommodation until their own house, (which they had rented out), became vacant. To save money, we've done the job ourselves: moving, cleaning, repairing, decorating etc, etc. A number of friends have 'put their shoulders to the wheel' which has been a great help. Apart from a few small bits & pieces, I'm pleased to report that it's very nearly Job Done! Money saved, but large amounts of energy expended. I'm glad they have returned to this particular house. It is full of happy memories, great parties & wonderful Family Gatherings.
         So, in Janie's words, Ann & I would like to: ".....come rest a bit among our good companions".
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 06:04 AM

Well... Rent'e pi haul une bush la! which translate from Acadian French (Shaques) Come on in and haul up a stump! which translates... oh, I am sure youse all get it.

Moving... big job. But, physical toil is good for the soul as well as the body. When it's done with family and friends, even more so. Enjoy the rest.

Up yours Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 06:32 AM

Feet up and rest, Nigel and Ann,

I have just managed to rent my mother's bungalow out to bring her in some much needed income to spend on extra care. I thought clearing everything ( her personal possessions and bedroom furniture all came with her to our house two years ago, but all the other furniture was in situ!)and then decorating would be easy to do ourselves and save money!!

It is only a two bedroom bungalow but that is a lot of magnolia paint!! I also thought sticky back plastic in all the kitchen cupboards would be a doddle...... bring back Blue Peter please! Then we had to put in a new bathroom , the 70's blue doesnt turn the renters on! New bedroom carpets and hours polishing the parquet floors in the sitting and dining rooms completed and someone moved in last week, now Billy and I need a rest too!

So cushions out on deck, who is ready for a Pimms?

With love

Wendy
xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 11:13 AM

wishing rest and renewal to the weary and worn. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 02:26 PM

Just over there, on the shore of the cove, a clump of crocuses has just sprung up.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 02:29 PM

Cookie, cookie, where was my cookie when I posted that? : )

       Dean

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Apr 13 - 09:36 PM

Nigel and Ann, you have family motto? In Latin, no less? Wow, I'm impressed! But then I'm ChanteyLass, not ChanteyLady!

Yes, drop anchor or tie up at the dock and rest. The crew will rest, too--or not. I can only speak for myself.

UP, SPAW and STAY UP!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Apr 13 - 02:12 AM

I like the idea of having a rest!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Max Johnson
Date: 20 Apr 13 - 05:03 AM

I haven't been around for a while, Nigel, and have just seen this news. May I offer my deepest and sincerest sympathy and condolences?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Apr 13 - 03:11 AM

Beautiful photo, Dean. My all-time favourite spring flower.
Wendy, I like the idea of cushions on the deck, but could you find me a non-alcoholic version of the Pimms please!
Max, welcome aboard. Your sympathy & condolences are graciously accepted.
ChanteyLass, by the powers invested in me, I pronounce you 'ChanteyLady'. Arise, ChanteyLady, your People await you!

It's a beautiful sunny morning here in London. Quite chilly, but perfect for the Marathon Runners. Much Love & healing thoughts to the bereaved & injured of Boston at this time.
                                       With Love,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 21 Apr 13 - 09:15 AM

I'm sorry I have not been here lately but have been with you all in spirit. Yes, a bit of rest and some Spring sunshine is definitely in order. Sending light and love to you all!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Apr 13 - 12:28 PM

just registering my presence and well wishes...pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Apr 13 - 08:47 PM

Aw, thank you, Nigel, but I think all my friends on this side of the pond would think I was putting on airs, so I'll just keep posting as ChaneyLass. When choosing my Mudcat name I considered Pirate Queen, but that seemed over the top and I thought it might already be taken.

It was a lovely sunny day around here. Thank you for sending the sunshine on to us!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 06:49 AM

I think the time is approaching when we could consider a new name for our Thread. Please give it some thought, & post when ready. My initial thoughts are: 'Jane's Rainbow' or 'The Rainbow Community'.
                               With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 06:52 AM

We are actually having a spring here. Haven't had one in at least several years. It was either a late winter turning into summer or vicey versey. Two years ago, we went from winter to HOT in less than a week in early May. When it's sunny, it's cool (frost this AM). When it's rainy, it's warm and muggy even tho the temp is only in the high teens. I assume the "muggy" at such temperatures is only because it hasn't been muggy since last fall. When one gets chapped lips and knuckles from the dry cold for several months, muggy is a "feels like" kinda thang eh? And, I live in 40/40 country... that's windchill/humidex (+-40 C).

Hope all a youse are doin as best yas can.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 08:25 AM

i,m sure everyone here will be happy with whatever you decide about the thread ,nigel.my thought though is that naming jane in the title would be a memorial of sorts of something positive to her memory,that has spread out to bring love and encouragement to yourselves and many others.God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 12:18 PM

I'm with Pete - keep Jane's name in the title.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 02:14 PM

A friend just put this on Facebook. I just sat there and melted down.

As to the thread, yes to including Jane's name. I would suggest enlisting the help of a mod to enable an extended title, that new people can recognize for what it is, such as "Jane's Rainbow: a thread for all those in need of support and comfort"

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 02:28 PM

Some better around here each day. I think this is a well deserved break of sorts but don't forget to update and keep us posted on yourself and/or friends and relatives you have talked about here.

For me...........

Second round of Vidaza started today. Last week my hemoglobin had risen to 9.6 and I had my usual Aronesp shot. After feeling so damn bad it was nice to feel a bit better. I looked back at some past records and found that a year ago my Hemoglobin had been at 9.8 during a routine physical (there is nothing routine when you have all the weird crap going on that I do) I was at 9.8 back then so this was also some good news to have at least gottten back there. I have felt pretty good all week and my color is greatly improved.

Today I met with the Doc after the lab tests and found that I would NOT get an Aronesp shot today because you can't take Aronesp if your Hemoglobin is above 10.3-4 and mine is at 10.5! Can you believe this shit? 10.5! I wanted to kiss everybody I met. My white count was within range for the first time, my red count was up, my platelets while still low actually doubled. I will do this week on the Vidaza regimen and be in for regular blood work next monday. As Vidaza kills red blood cells as it works, I figure two things. First I might hopefully get through this round better by starting higher and second, this seems to actually enhance the Aronesp and the weekly shots are effective at least more than before.

So now we get through this week and see where we are next Monday and the follwing Mondays for 4 weeks and evaluate again prior to round three. I don't want to get too excited. Like I said, I know this game is a loser but I'm going to keep playing the board as long as I can.

Thanks to all of you for the UPS! Great folks on a great thread. Let's hear from some others if you have any news not posted.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 03:40 PM

UP SPAW

Billy saw his skin cancer consultant today (after all the chemo for the leukemia we forget about the melanoma!)All looking good so come back in 3 months!

Nigel, what ever you think for this thread is good for me, but Jane has to be there!Without her we would be drifting on our own in a huge ocean!!

with much love to you and Ann

Wendy
xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 11:23 PM

"Call me anything you like, just don't call me late for supper," as the old saw goes.

Change the name or leave it, I don't have an opinion. If it gets changed, however, just make sure I can still identify it to bookmark it.

Love you, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 11:33 PM

FaNeFFingTasTic, Spaw!!! (and wouldja throw the darn gameboard away?LOL)

JANE has to be in the title, imo!

luvyabucketskat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 11:46 PM

Nigel, please keep Jane's name in the title. She is the reason this thread was created.

SPAW, you are welcome to all my UPS. Were they delivered in the usual big brown truck driven by someone in the brown uniform?

UP, SPAW, again!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 05:33 AM

My Dear Spaw, that is the best news I've heard in a long time...really lifted my spirits. Clearly you, your docs & the drugs have all been striving in their own particular way. You are on the way UP!

There is a growing consensus that the new title of our thread should include Jane's name. That would be my wish too. Dean's suggestion: "Jane's Rainbow: a thread for all those in need of support and comfort" has considerable appeal. I'll write to Joe for guidance, but in the meantime, Joe, if you're reading this, any words of wisdom?

An acrostic for Spaw:       U nique
                                       P edagogic
                                       S cintillating
                                       P ulsating
                                       A mazing
                                       W underkind

                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 05:54 AM

Great news, Spaw and Wendy!

Keep it up, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 07:08 AM

I like the (proposed) new title & the good news from Spaw & Wendy.

I'll steal gnu's line - Keep it up, Spaw.

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 09:45 AM

This game is not a loser, Spaw, it just ends sometime...UP!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Apr 13 - 04:45 AM

beautitul vid frogprince.
UP SPAW. encouraging news from you and wendy .blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Apr 13 - 11:35 AM

Spaw, we really would just as soon you stick around for a while yet...

So far your sense of humor hasn't driven us more than half or two thirds of the way up the wall...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 07:58 PM

Thread title changed per request from Nigel Paterson.

Nigel, blessings to you and your family.

-Joe Offer-

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 08:48 PM

an apt choice of words nigel.likewise blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 10:20 PM

And a very nice title change it is, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 10:33 PM

Lovely!

(and lovingly.)

Still here, whether I post or not, and so appreciate the presence of so many, whether they post or not. When I have to choose between time to think about what to post and time to intentionally reflect with loving kindness, the latter is the priority. But still with the crew constantly and checking in everyday to read and reflect.

How be all of ye?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 06:47 AM

Dean, it's you we have to thank for our new name, slightly shorter than your original suggestion because available space is an issue. I hope everyone is happy with our new appellation. Thanks to Joe who was swift to respond &, as ever, cheerfully helpful.
       So, my Dear Friends, the faithful, loyal crew of The Rainbow, it's time to cast off & set sail. Through the magic of metaphor, our new course will set itself, guided, as it is by need & Life's vicissitudes.
       Janie, 'How be Ye' is a phrase I find myself using more & more. It has become part of my daily conversations with Ann, often the first thing I say in the morning. Ann & I be well in body & mind, nurturing our memories of Jane with Love & Care & a surprising amount of humour! So Janie, how be thee?
       And in conclusion, I echo Janie's words: "How be all of ye?
                                                                   With Love to You All,
                                                                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 10:43 AM

As to the title, nothin' wrong with making what I was thinkin' a bit more concise.

My wife and I "be" very well these days, thanks; the recent doctor visits have all taken just long enough for the docs to say "everything looks good, see you in __ months", with one doc saying "discontinue those pills" and another saying "cut back to one of those every other day".

UP SPAW!
                  
               Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 07:39 PM

A lovely new name, fitting for this motley crew! I now be better than I "been", still recovering from a week of flu, the most sick I've been for a long time. Every day feeling a bit better, but quite draggy. Heading to the shop tomorrow to try to find some immune-system-boosting vitamins, and to buy more fresh fruits and veggies, which I crave! So I haven't been computing quite as much, but you've all been on my mind.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 08:10 PM

How be me? I be likin the new title. Almost gets the water in my eyes to my cheeks and it would if I didn't stifle myself because it's only proper.

Thanks, Nigel. For sharing the journey. And for sharing the next. And for giving us all a place to share whatever journeys come to be.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 11:22 PM

I be well! Well & fit for the new voyage

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 04:48 AM

Billy and I be well, thank you Nigel and Ann, love the new title! May Jane's Rainbow sail on and on through calm and troubled waters bringing love and comfort to all who sail with her

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Up Spaw! Get well Allison x

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 11:49 AM

Well a grand new name that hits me as just abiut right for a crew that's ragged but right, so to speak.

Just finished another round of Vidaza and did much better this time around probably because I went in with my blood in better shape to handle the drop. I'm doing fairly well but I'm anxious to go in Monday for blood work and most probably an Aronesp shot. If this is in fact working as we hope it is, the next week should tell us a lot. I'm hopeful as I feel a bit lousy but overall a lot stronger than before. Maybe I'll get multiple weeks of feeling better..........

The flu sucks Double L......pulpy OJ, broccoli, arrugula, oysters....all flu killers........folic acid too.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 12:07 PM

love the name! it istantly reminded me of the Patons' Golden Ring Cycle, specifically, "This a song for all the good people..." lovely song.

I trusted my docs and upped a med I had wanted to dump. Can't believe the change! Lost almost four lbs in water wgt. (plenty more to go) have more energy, too. we were talking hospital yesterday. by monday i think they will reall be happy.

luvyakakay

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 03:24 PM

we be pretty well,though i have high blood pressure but otherwise feel pretty much ok.tommy is doing well again.he turned 14 this week.when we took him on he was not expected to live that long!
sailing on.blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 08:09 PM

Keep it UP, Spaw and Kat!

Abby Sale and his lovely daughter drove an hour to come kidnap me this afternoon to go hear a band of which Abby is fond that was playing at a street festival only blocks from my house that I otherwise would have ignored attending. After the band's set ended we all retired to a Tappas bar where the service was lousy but food, drink (once they arrived) and company were grand, and Abby even led us in the singing of a chantey - something quite rare to occur in public in Mebane, North Carolina.

Today was a good day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 10:06 PM

kat... good news. Hope it continues.


"oysters" Spaw? I heard they make ya stemie... two birds eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 28 Apr 13 - 04:51 PM

gnu, thanks. It doesn't look as good today. If there isn't one already, I may start one.

Thanks and luvyakat

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 29 Apr 13 - 09:00 AM

"pulpy OJ, broccoli, arrugula, oysters" All of them favorites of mine! I eat broccoli by the bushel; I guess it needs oysters to really work! I'm still draggy, but up and off to work today. Thanks for the tip, Spaw-me-dear! UP you go!

Kat, I am holding you in light and love and seeing you feeling whole and well. Many blessings and love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Apr 13 - 05:01 PM

Had a bit of a wobble today, probably just feeling sorry for myself, but I had made a cup of tea for mother and a slice of cake for us both. So when mum came into the kitchen I said" here you are mum take your cake into the sitting room and I will bring the tea." She went into the hall and simply didnt know where the sitting room was, pure panic on her face! I got her sitting down and gave her the tea and cake, then went upstairs and had a good cry, horrid, horrid dementia!
Feel very selfish but I really miss her and yet she is here! I know she is very happy and has no idea how I feel and that is the most important thing but, sometimes I find it really so very painful .

Sorry for the rant but I cant share this with anyone else, thanks crew

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Apr 13 - 11:27 PM

Aw, Wendy, I'm sorry about your mother's confusion.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 12:28 AM

Wendy, my parents both died before I was 23 and hard as that was, I feel that I may have been spared so much else. I listen to you and others and wonder how you do it. Anytime you want to rant and ramble I'd be proud to listen.   I'm not sure I could do it...............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 12:28 AM

Wendy (((((((hugs))))))))).

Hope you are stabilizing Ms. Kitty.

Up Spaw!

Wind is picking up a bit as we move out of the lee of the cove. The jib is starting to fill....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 12:38 AM

more love & hugs to Wendy, kat, & spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 05:34 AM

My Dear Wendy,
                        Please don't apologise for ranting. You have a deep-seated need to rant as much as you need. I'm with Spaw, I don't know how you cope with the dementia that at one & the same time, 'takes your Mother from you' & yet physically, she remains with you. I can only guess at your frustration & your inner turmoil. I am moved to read that you choose to share your distress here. For sure, you have chosen wisely.'The Rainbow' is well provisioned for the heart & soul as well as the mind & body.
         Kat & Spaw, rest easy in your bunks, there are enough of us to trim the sails, check the course & keep an eye on the glass. Rest easy & recover. Healing takes time, take all the time you need.
         Janie, you're right, we're on the move again.....
                                                                               With Love,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 06:43 AM

I wish I had words, Wendy. Ts & Ps.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 04:27 PM

you might feel selfish,wendy,but selfish is not what you is!
you are dedicated to your mum,continually caring for her despite having other pressures.not every son or daughter even tries.God bless you,-i reckon theres a "well done good and faithful servant" over you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 May 13 - 04:59 PM

Just had to say how much better I feel today and each day after the chemo. It is taking less than half the time to recover, maybe even less. Now I wait til Monday to see what the blood says! The worst part at this point is the belly after a week of 15 shots. Feels like I pulled stomach muscles plus very warm to the touch. Better today though than yesterday.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 May 13 - 09:52 PM

Eyes and fingers crossed for good blood counts, Spawser, and especially glad to learn of faster recovery times. Guess we ought not poke you in the belly just now as if you were the Pillsbury Dough Boy, eh? In that case, get to the galley to conjure up one of your wonderful seafaring dishes to serve up to a hungry crew!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:10 PM

"less than half the time to recover, maybe even less"

YEEHAAAWWWWW!

Poke Spaw?... eeewwwwww!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:21 PM

good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:32 PM

I agree! That is good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:57 PM

Good idea Janie and it fits in with my schedule for Friday! I've had the urge for some Cioppino and I make great Cioppino. I've got shrimp, scallops, oysters, clams, crab, and lobster ready to go. No mussels but a couple of cod loins. I'll cheat using clam juice into a basic red sauce (garlic,red onion,Romas,Basil,Oregano,Bay) with a full can of anchovies plus extra fennel, wine and some sugar.

Cook it all up for awhile and serve it up with Lemon slices and Garlic bread for soppin'........Ya' know originally Cioppino was made to use junkfish and leftovers/not sold shellfish from the market. Nowadays their ain't no way to do it cheap.....but you can still make it GREAT!

Get your bowls ready...........Who's making some good Garlic Bread. We need a salad too. And dessert! And a good red wine. Sign up!


Spaw

PS.....This is one of those times I really wish we WERE all together in the flesh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 01 May 13 - 11:14 PM

How many times have I been told, and passed on, "Take care of yourself first, or you will not be able to take care of any one else?" A lot and every one is true. Wendy, love yourself FIRST, then that LOVE will be a natural which flows out to others. I know several of us have already benefited from it. Look at me, typing IS getting better like gnu says!**bg**

Thank you to the biggest group (in my world) of beautiful, bountiful, love & light-filled people I count as my friends. You are all priceless and I cherish you.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:07 AM

We luvyou Kat, glad you are getting better and Spaw ....keep UP!

Glad to report that I feel so much better today, all your love has lifted my spirits,so thank you. Also Billy and I went out last evening to a concert!!We saw my favourite folkie Vin Garbutt, wonderful humour, I laughed and laughed, but beautiful touching songs.
It was great to catch up with him and Pat, they met 40 years ago at my old folk club Farningham in Kent, ah where did the years go?

Sailing on
with much love
Wendy
XXXxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Billybob lost my biscuit?
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:09 AM

oooh that was me,
Also wanted to thank Nigel for his lovely words! xxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 02 May 13 - 07:22 AM

I've been reading regularly and thinking of you all, though I didn't feel the need to add to what others have said so well.

Earlier in the year I butted in with an appeal for my friend Richard who has now made a complete recovery from bowel cancer (checkups, obviously, but its as good an outcome as could be hoped for). Thank you all for your comments on this.

Now I know of two others who would appreciate your thoughts.

One is a local singer, Terry, who's just been diagnosed with mesothelioma, not good: and his partner, an English player of the mountain dulcimer would probably appreciate the collective support.

The other is a Morris dancer whose long-term partner, Kate, has terminal cancer and only a few weeks to live. Although the caring situation is under control with Macmillan nurses and so forth, its obviously a huge strain for both of them. This latter has only one outcome, unfortunately, so any dancing thoughts you may have available would be welcome.

Some of you may know who I'm talking of, though I believe none of them are actually 'catters. But I don't think that matters.

Thank you.

Paws

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 May 13 - 07:40 AM

I feel so silly about this, so many others are dealing with much bigger issues, but I really need some warm fuzzies right about now.

My father died very suddenly five years ago at the age of 62, without a will. The understanding was that I was supposed to be his heir, but he never told my brother this. I get on really well with my brother, and didn't feel like this was an issue at the time, so I never said anything. Why create rifts when we both felt such sorrow at his passing? New Hampshire law is clear: no will, all heirs inherit equally. My brother was executor, as he lives closer. All I really wanted was the property. I offered to buy my brother out a while ago, but he dithered. Now he's willing, and I no longer have the money that I'd been hoarding for this. We agreed that we have to sell it. It's stupid, but it's like I've lost my dad all over again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 May 13 - 10:48 AM

big hugs!

sandra (sending warm fuzzies)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 May 13 - 11:26 AM

so good to hear of richards recovery.prayerful thoughts for terry and kate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 May 13 - 12:03 PM

ranger1, i still mourn the loss of the old Victorian farmhouse my parents had to sell when they divorced. it not only was a major part of our family, but it also had a commmunity personna. So, imo, you have nothing to worry about, no problems. Have a good cry and a lots of hugs frofrom all of us!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:22 PM

Glad you are still around Wolfhound/Paws......It is so damn tough as we age and find friends, many of them too young, are so ill. We all know death is coming but that doesn't make anything any easier. It is simply rhetoric. Tell your friends there are many others who care deeply for the situation they are in and while there is so very little we can do, we all know the power of supporting thoughts and prayers or just the plain Mojo that happens.

We're not a prayer group or anything even remotely like that but we do care and all of us have had the experience of knowing others care too, even those we have never met.

Keep us posted, huh?

RANGER......old friend.......Sometimes life just sucks so bad you think Hoover should be your name. Wish I had some advice. For a long time I tried to keep some remembrance of my parents until one day I saw that the best remembrances were inside of me. And guess what? From that day on those memories multiplied at an unbelievable rate. I mean really! Even now with both of them gone 40 years I have things almost daily that trigger some tale of something related to one or the other.......today was one about a Baby Grand and my Dad.

It gets better. Much Love,

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:34 PM

r1... awwww. Have you told him you really want to keep the property in memory of yer dad and want to work out a deal? Sorry if that is too persona;. I'll not comment again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 02 May 13 - 06:01 PM

Thanks, Spaw: I don't really do organised prayer groups myself, it doesn't press my buttons, though I know it helps others and that's fine.
I turn to my garden and my four-legged friends, but after losing a dear friend who became like a big sister a couple of years ago, I'm appreciating the sense of support here more and more.

So I'll keep dropping by and reading: if it helps focus, Terry's partner is Liz, and Kate's partner is Phil - both have their own circles of close friends, but both will need all the extra they can get in the next while.

Ranger1, you're very lucky to have such fond memories of your parents and I really hope it works out for you.

Oh and if that party ever happens, I have a couple of dessert recipes which seem popular, so I'm happy to contribute raspberry cheesecake and chocolate torte as required (sorry don't do diet versions!)

G'night now.

Paws

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 May 13 - 07:50 PM

Dear friends, thank you for the warm fuzzies. After posting this and reading the responses this evening after work, I decided that I would just call my brother and tell him to give me a solid figure. Then I will see if I can come up with the money to buy him out. I told him it was all I wanted out of the estate and all I'd ever wanted. We'll see what happens from here. What the heck, at least I will have tried, which better than just giving up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 May 13 - 08:20 PM

Hope it works out, r1.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 02 May 13 - 09:27 PM

2000.....and we have once again cleared the breakwater with the larders filled and the sails repaired. We are again doing what we learned and will try to care for Jane's Rainbow as she left it for us.

In all my time on Mudcat we have done so many good thoughts threads and fought over most of them that I lost count. It took one strong force to bring this together. The need is filled here and we will carry it on. Good mojo...........

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 May 13 - 10:42 PM

When I saw the number of posts, I wondered who did 2000. I'm not surprised that it is Spaw, not to be confused with Paws!

Paws, prayers are on their way for your friends who are ill and their caretakers.

Ranger1, I think it is good that you have taken action. I hope you and your brother can work something out.

Wendy, this morning I went to a talk about dementia, most specifically Alzheimer's. I don't know if that is the form of dementia your mother has, but I was thinking of you. I heard many things I already knew about Alzheimer's but also one that was new to me, though it has nothing to do with being able to locate a certain room. If it never helps your mom, it may help someone else. Apparently people with Alzheimer's at some point start to perceive anything black as a hole. Since most wheelchairs are black, they go rigid when a caregiver tries to lower them into wheelchairs because they think they are going to be dropped through a hole. One patient lived in a home with a black mat in front of the toilet and would walk around to the side and sit sideways on the toilet so she wouldn't fall through the hole (mat).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 May 13 - 04:27 AM

Oh my goodness ,thank you, I didn't know about black but it really makes so much sense!. I know that in the evenings I need to keep bright lights on( I am a candle and table lamp girl) because otherwise mum thinks it is night. Now it is so light early in the mornings we need black out curtains otherwise she is up with the lark and dressed by five oclock!
Shiney floors, like in hospitals look wet so a person with dementia with stiffen up in case they slip and that itself can cause a fall! One tip I had was to have darker tones on walls if you have a pale carpet, mine are cream and the walls were coffee and cream and mum cant work out where the floor ends and the walls begin!

Its the start of another day here and mum sounds a bit wheezy so when her carer comes I will see if I can get a Doctor's appointment as it is a holiday Monday and I don't want to go three days without her seeing a Doctor?

Once the lovely carer arrives I am off to the salon to be an aromatherapist for the morning, soft music, scented candles, so I am able to escape for a while each day, so don't worry about me :-)

Sailing on,

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 May 13 - 02:29 PM

Good info on dimentia! There oughta be a thread?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 May 13 - 11:10 PM

Glad to pass on some info! Today I sent an email to my son telling him about some of the things I heard--just in case I develop this condition. I told him if I ever got a black wheelchair I want him to put a light-colored pad on the seat.

It's hard to believe Mudcat has no thread on this subject already. Should I start one, perhaps labelled "Dementia tips?" I am not good at finding out if threads already exist and would hate to start a duplicate thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 May 13 - 04:41 AM

We seem to have transitioned from 'Healing thoughts & Prayers' to 'Jane's Rainbow' without a hitch. It's always good to hear from folk who may have posted some time ago & then revisit weeks, sometimes months later with an update (often good news).
          Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined we would crest the 2000 mark & still be going strong. The breadth & depth of your posts are quite remarkable. A tangible sense of trust & confidence has steadily grown over the last seventeen months, so, particularly new visitors realise very quickly that they will be welcomed, supported, informed, advised, comforted....we do our best to help with the multitude of skills, training & experience from which we can draw.
         'The Rainbow' sails on, not troubled by wind or current, crewed by some truly precious & gifted individuals. The sun is over the yard arm; I raise a glass to you all (non-alcoholic of course!),
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann.
                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 May 13 - 05:10 AM

& I raise my lemonade to you!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 May 13 - 06:29 AM

Nigel... 17 months. Gosh. 17 months of sharing and caring by many. Quite the crew.

CLass... yes. Past threads will be linked to if any exist. I just searched "dimentia" in the entire base and came up empty. "Alzhemer" produced several but the last one which may be of value is almost two years old to the day. I think it's a good idea so go for it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 May 13 - 05:17 PM

Nigel, lovely to hear from you. You built this ship and did a fine job.

Gnu, will do!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 May 13 - 05:21 PM

"Alzhemer"... there ya don't go, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 May 13 - 05:16 AM

ChanteyLass, thank you for your kind & generous words. Never really saw myself as a 'shipwright'; certainly not in the literal sense. I'm happy to accept that I laid the keel, but 'The Rainbow' has been built, maintained & crewed by the finest group of people who ever sailed the internet! Ann & I need you all just as much now as we ever did. Externally, we're putting on a brave face, internally we're both hurting badly. Neither of us is remotely close to accepting the fact that Jane is no longer with us. We see her face at every turn. Yes, we do talk about how we are feeling, in private, at home, but it's going to take a while before we actually begin to grieve. We're stuck in the: 'Still can't believe it's happened' stage; expecting her to suddenly reappear,as if she's just been on holiday for a few weeks.
             Good & loyal Friends, take care of the ship. Ann & I will be on light duties for a while.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann.
                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 May 13 - 06:19 AM

She "appears" every time you think of her. She will always do so but the hurting part lessens; it ebbs and rises as do the tides. With a good captain and crew, the ship stays afloat. This ship will sail forever.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 May 13 - 07:51 PM

Gnu said ut well. And Nigel and Ann, remember that this crew will be here for you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 06 May 13 - 09:55 PM

"Neither of us is remotely close to accepting the fact that Jane is no longer with us. We see her face at every turn. Yes, we do talk about how we are feeling, in private, at home, but it's going to take a while before we actually begin to grieve. We're stuck in the: 'Still can't believe it's happened' stage; expecting her to suddenly reappear,as if she's just been on holiday for a few weeks." Nigel

After my friend, Juneau's Buddy Tabor, died last year a number of us had the same reaction, I think. As one friend said a few months later, "I haven't even begun to accept it."

Complicating the processing, I think, was the fact that Buddy each year went on tour (He was a musician) for a few months and we kept feeling it was just about time for him to return. Perhaps, since Jane had her own home and family, you are experiencing somewhat the same kind of feeling?

Just keep remembering you have a great many people holding you close.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 May 13 - 03:50 PM

i dont think time heals completely but we slowly recover .may precious remembrances bring comfort. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 09 May 13 - 07:23 AM

Been I while since I checked in, but I'm still on board.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 May 13 - 09:40 PM

What Mr. Jennings said....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 May 13 - 05:42 AM

good morning all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 May 13 - 05:44 AM

& good evening to you!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 May 13 - 05:58 AM

I expect pretty much everybody is still peeking in when there is some activity. Just seems like that kinda crowd.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 10 May 13 - 07:03 AM

"Mr. Jennings"! I'm honoured, Janie!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 May 13 - 08:12 PM

I'm stiil popping my head up on deck and looking around each day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 May 13 - 12:16 AM

Indeed, it is that kind of crowd. And I'm part of it.

I went to a wake tonight. One of my cousin's son was walking with his wife and another woman along a sea wall in Gloucester, Massachusetts, when a wave swept him and the other woman into the sea. His wife called 911, but the Coast Guard and local police could only retrieve the bodies. My cousin, of course, is devastated as are her daughters and her son's widow.

I still can't imagine what it is like to have a child die first. None of us expect that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 May 13 - 04:43 AM

Sending love to your cousin and her family, no words can mend the shock and grief,

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 May 13 - 06:11 AM

i remember how devastating it was when i lost my brother in 1990 .amazingly my mum and dad gave up smoking at that time despite their grief.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 May 13 - 08:11 AM

"I still can't imagine what it is like to have a child die first. None of us expect that."

       ChanteyLass, our hearts go out to you & your Family. Your words ring painfully true.
       Sending you Much Love & holding you in our thoughts,
                                                                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 May 13 - 07:05 PM

Thank you, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 May 13 - 03:33 AM

Ann & I will be in Charlotte NC in the not too distant future. We wondered whether any of you who live within striking distance would like to meet?. PM me for the details & we'll take it from there.
                               With Love to You All,
                                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 12 May 13 - 10:05 AM

Oh, Nigel, how I wish I could! I live over 1000 miles away from NC, and have a very busy May and June, but will be thinking of you!

I'm still here, but it's May. Not here as often, but think of you all every day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 May 13 - 07:32 PM

love to ChantyLass's family

sandra (back to the oars)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 May 13 - 10:51 PM

Thank you, Sandra.

Nigel, I wish I could get to North Carolina to meet you and Ann. Then I could give you real hugs instead of virtual ones. If you ever get to Rhode Island, or even New England, or if I ever get to the UK again, I'll try to meet you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 May 13 - 06:32 AM

Wishing everyone on board a very Good Morning from a rather overcast East London (We're good at 'overcast' in the UK!)
       Our trip to NC hangs in the balance. The flight costs have really rocketed. The cheapest fare we've found so far (round trip for two) is in excess of £1500.00!! travelling 'restricted economy'. The only carrier who can fly us direct is US Airways; neither of us is keen to make stops. Our NC based daughter is looking at booking for us, but she is encountering similar prices. As our lovely son-in-law would say: "Drat & double drat!"
       It's Ann's birthday on Thursday, so a nice lunch on Thursday & tickets for 'Top Hat' (The musical) on Friday. Celebrating & Grieving simultaneously...not easy, but we're going to give it our best shot.
                     With Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 May 13 - 07:26 AM

yes,it is hard to get fired up too much on celebrations so soon after a loss.my 60th was soon after mum died and i did,nt do the party till september ,but i think you are right to carry on despite the sadness and wish you a great time.blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 14 May 13 - 02:39 PM

Tomorrow at this time we will be well on our way to Maui. Actually by Hawaii time we will be about there by this time. We won't be taking anything connectable except a cell phone, so you probably won't hear from me for approx 13 days. With what this bunch has come to mean to mean, I won't be forgetting you all in the meantime.

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 May 13 - 03:24 PM

So sorry, Nigel. I have been mostly absent from Mudcat lately so missed the sad news. I don't know if I can offer any real comfort. I don't know if I found it for myself since losing my daughter (age 23) in 2005.

What I can say with the passing of time (so the saying must be true about it healing all wounds) I feel the anger, outrage, disillusionment, sorrow a little less robustly now. The moments of despair are fewer and further between. And I have been able to find some joy in memories and in doing things I know my Andie would have loved. I just consciously ask her to come along and imagine how she would engage with these events.

But then I get a punch in the gut like this morning. Just after talking with TSO about getting the videos of Andie's concerts onto DVD before the VHS tapes disintegrate, BBC R 4 played a little clip of Pachelbel Canon in D. That snip was used in the opening of something Andie sang in high school Bach to Rock choir concert. A full blown memory flooded back of her smiling face, singing, hair style and the clothes she was wearing. I just fell apart on the drive into work. I have not looked at the videos since before she passed away. I cannot bear too. Yet I remembered every detail of that little bit of the the concert. And I counted it a blessing that I could remember it in such detail.

There may be times when your future will be peppered with these kinds of memories. Even the tenor of your feeling about them will probably change as mine has.

I hope my rambling here, offers you some comfort. If not, please just ignore it. Every person must grieve in the way that most suits them.

Sending you and your wife much love.

Tamara

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 May 13 - 03:30 PM

Nigel... "Celebrating & Grieving simultaneously...not easy, but we're going to give it our best shot."

Reload and fill the air fulla lead!

Sorta like priase the lord and pass the ammunition but a bit closer to my home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 May 13 - 04:42 AM

Tamara, every one of your heartfelt words make perfect sense. Beautifully expressed. A shared experience which reminds me, yet again, we are not alone.
Gnu, thank you for making me laugh. Humour, once more in short supply. We learned last night that Jane's Father-in-Law has died. We had rather hoped that Death had moved out of our neighbourhood, but it would appear s/he's not done with us yet. 2013...those last two digits are beginning to live up to their superstitious reputation.
             Bowed, but unbroken, we send Love to You All,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 May 13 - 06:01 AM

Oh my.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 May 13 - 06:44 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann,

sending out love and thinking of you and Jane's family,
you are in the hearts of all the Rainbow crew,and we are always here.

with much love

Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 15 May 13 - 10:19 AM

perhaps her f-i-l didn't like her going alone or he needed some extra help from her? Either way my condolences to all of the families.

uvyakat


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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 May 13 - 12:06 AM

((((((((hugs)))))))))

Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 May 13 - 05:10 AM

special love & hugs to Jane's husband & children, Nigel & Ann & families & friends.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 May 13 - 07:02 AM

Still here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 May 13 - 01:11 PM

Sorry I'm not posting as much but things are a bit tough right now and don't get into long stuff right now.

Nigel and Ann.....Don't know what to say except to send hugs and good thoughts. And to the rest of you in this crew, forgive me. Hemoglobin and red blood cell count has dropped but on the best possible note, at least it has been about 2 months since the last transfusion which was MUCH longer than before. More Vidaza next week......

Sailing on and happy to be aboard!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 16 May 13 - 03:14 PM

Checking in after being away for a bit ~ sending loving thoughts and caring to all of you who are struggling right now. Truly, holding you all in heart and mind as I go up into the mountains today. KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 May 13 - 07:02 PM

Up Spaw!

sending love

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 May 13 - 11:23 PM

I'm sorry about Jane's father-in-law. That is more heartache too soon. My love to you and all of your extended family who are mourning again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 16 May 13 - 11:51 PM

Mom wrote us all a letter - each one of us before she died. It was beautiful ... but ripped my heart out. She said she was blessed to have such wonderful kids. I still can't cry ... I think I just hurt so much that stuff inside shuts down ...

tough week. I will be fine , like her I am a man of faith. But boy does it suck. She was everything to all of us. Loved loved kids .. any kid .. could do no wrong. Young neighbor girl would bring her toddler twins over to see mom. The little people's feet would not touch the floor cause mom would be carrying them .. Love kids, loved her family, loved God ... strong feisty woman who never hurt anyone in her life. The first there when anyone was in trouble and the last to leave. Never had money but certainly had what counted in life. I could never ever live up to the bar she set for us to follow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 17 May 13 - 12:09 AM

My daughters are taking it hard. They adored their grandma. They say I am a rock ... no I am not. I just can't afford to lose it .. all that does it make them hurt even more .. I refuse to lose it .. so I rely on my faith .. for me and Mom, that has always worked for lifes turmoil.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 17 May 13 - 12:18 AM

If there is one good thing it is no regrets. Mom never hung up the phone without hearing whoever was on the other line saying "I love you Mom" or I love you Grandma. She knew it and heard it all the time. That I am so thankful for .. never ever stop telling those you love that you love them .. never stop ... And like Mom always said, words are important but deeds speak even louder .. don't say it .. show it. Never go to bed without saying "what have I done right today"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 May 13 - 02:54 AM

love & hugs, olddude to you & your family

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 May 13 - 03:39 AM

Dan,

your mum would have be so proud of you, remember all the love and fun you shared, I have been reading on the other thread just what a wonderful lady,and very funny, your mother was.

Please know that those tears will come and you can share them on the Rainbow! The crew here share all our sadness as well as our joys.The most loving and supportive group of people sail on Jane's Rainbow,

Sail with us, share with us,we will listen
sending you love and comfort

Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 May 13 - 05:05 AM

Wendy, I can but echo your words; so eloquent & full of love & compassion.
Dan, your posts convey so clearly your pain & distress. Be strong in public if you feel that's what's needed, but make some private space for yourself. Every tear you shed is a measure of the Love you felt for your Mother & she for you & your Family. Talk, cry, remember, laugh, talk some more, cry some more, remember things & times you thought were long forgotten. The Carousel of Grief does eventually begin to turn more slowly.
      Wendy's right when she says: "The most loving and supportive group of people sail on Jane's Rainbow...."
      We're here when you need us,
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann.
                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 May 13 - 05:57 AM

Dan, my friend... it can't be said any better that the above posts have said it. Anyone who has read your thread or your posts herein knows her heart her spirit, as well as yours, are true and good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 May 13 - 08:07 AM

Thank you gnu.....well said. Sums it for me too. We love you Dan.......


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 May 13 - 12:53 PM

thoughts and prayers dan,from one who lost his mum last year and feels the pain.with reference to a certain other thread,-dont let them drag you down toward their level.you are a much better man than them and i,m sure will do your mum proud.   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 May 13 - 10:23 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 May 13 - 06:54 PM

Sailing on......calm waters ahead.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 May 13 - 02:03 AM

good to know

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 May 13 - 06:48 AM

The BBC have been covering extensively the appalling tornado in Oklahoma & surrounding districts. The images & reports are almost too much to bear. Are all our American crew members ok?
                   Nothing much we can do other than send thoughts of Love & Comfort to the bereaved & injured. The thought of those children in their school is particularly distressing.
                   Standing shoulder to shoulder with all our American Friends,
                                                With Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 May 13 - 07:10 AM

Nigel

as usual your words convey everything we are thinking.
God bless the people in Oklahoma,

Wendy & Billy
xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 May 13 - 06:07 AM

Good morning, How goes the good ship and crew?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 May 13 - 07:23 AM

Good Morning, Maeve. The Paterson section of the crew reporting for duty. All is 'ship-shape & Bristol fashion', here in East London. There is a gradual sense of 'normality' creeping back into our lives, but it's a slow, slow process.
       Still foremost in our thoughts: Spaw, Dan, Wendy & Billy, Kat, the Good Folks of Oklahoma & all of you who make up this illustrious crew.
       Go about your duties, my Dear Friends with renewed vigour,
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 May 13 - 11:42 AM

Glad to hear some good news.

Very sad to hear jacqui is in hospital. See the thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 23 May 13 - 12:36 PM

But the news is pretty good so far for Jacqui and I just left my advice to here (Don't do this again). We'll move Jacqui up a bit for awhile. A few extra good thoughts from here can't hurt!

Good news from you too Nigel......if there is such a thing. I guess we all think at times that normalcy is no longer allowed so we hold onto the grief awhile longer. You've crossed over that divide I think and I want to tell you it is okay!

I'll be back in to touch base and update where things are with me.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 May 13 - 08:07 PM

One foot in front of the other in spite of sorrow. Keep at it, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 May 13 - 08:53 PM

Yees, Spaw. A glitch, thank goodness, and things seem as well as can be for now all round. Deep breathe taken.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 May 13 - 02:37 PM

Feeling very down today, sorry folks!

Just feeling sorry for myself, I have been working on the memory book for mother but instead of enjoying delving into the past, I have got to the late 40's early 50's, so am depending on my memories now and I am feeling sad that I have lost the mum I knew then.

I should be feeling grateful to still have mum with me ,and ,of course the good news about Billy being in remission but somehow I feel in a black hole at the moment, not like me at all.

Also it is two years since we lost my father and I still feel very numb, haven't been able to grieve his loss at all? Maybe because looking after mum and Billy has taken all my time and care?

with love to all the crew

Wendy
xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 May 13 - 02:53 PM

Wendy,
I'd venture a guess that you've diagnosed the causes of your blues right there in your latest post. Be wary of "Shoulds"- they'll bite you without warning and in most cases have little to do with living a real life. Can you take a break?

Long distance hugs,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 May 13 - 05:10 PM

wise words maeve.

what you may feel now wendy ,does not reflect what you are - a dedicated and thankful person. God bless   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 May 13 - 09:51 PM

Not posting hardly at all, but still here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 24 May 13 - 11:05 PM

Me too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 May 13 - 11:29 PM

me,too. listen to maeve....shoulds have no place where they belong.

[[[[[hugs]]]]]

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 May 13 - 03:06 AM

Don't SHOULD on yourself, & don't MUSTurbate!

Something I learnt at a meditation session about 20 years ago.

sandra (who even now hears occasional inner shoulds)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 May 13 - 05:10 AM

Well said, maeve. But, it's hard not to sometimes and ruing doing it can make it worse.

I just hope you soon find yourself "rising up".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 May 13 - 08:18 AM

There is a thread above the line I started with the title: What does music mean to humans? It has links to vids of people with dementia stimulated by music from their past. Dunno if this might help or hurt just now, Wendy. If you go to it, I hope it helps.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 May 13 - 03:42 PM

What others have already said about shoulds, Wendy.... Sending love to all and doing my best to appreciate gentle breezes that move this ship along where ever she needs to sail.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 25 May 13 - 09:39 PM

Back with you all; Wendy, Spaw, and all, you have may continuing best wishes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 May 13 - 10:24 PM

Aw, Wendy, love from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 26 May 13 - 09:05 AM

I've just seen a thread regarding Mudcat's kind Waddon Pete,
who has had a stroke: Peter Twitchett (Waddon Pete) Perhaps we can keep him in mind as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 26 May 13 - 10:54 AM

Just checking in after a week away on hols...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 May 13 - 12:03 PM

maeve... most assuredly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 26 May 13 - 12:18 PM

Greetings from one who is silent but present most of the time. Today is my mother's 87th birthday; she is a brilliant, loving, courageous woman who finished raising three geeky, emotional children from 1975 on when my father left the family. Ironically, today is also the 5th anniversary of his death, not the first but the last goodbye after so many.
My mother will be coming for supper, injecting her rainbow energy into what would otherwise be a day of regretful memories.

Love to you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 May 13 - 02:28 PM

Wendy, Happy birthday to your mum.

Maeve, thanks for the tip about the other thread. I'll wander over there soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 May 13 - 04:01 PM

sending all our love to Pete , one of the nicest people on the UK folk scene. Croydon Folk Club at the Waddon was brilliant. Pete is a superb entertainer, shadow puppeteer, singer and lovely friend!
Get well soon Peter

Feeling much better myself today, went out and attacked the garden!!

Sailing on

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 May 13 - 05:45 PM

AllisonA.... ENJOY!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 May 13 - 06:05 AM

Want to thank everyone who posted such supportive messages, it helped me lift my spirits so much. Don't often feel that bad ( in fact never before?)

Thanks to Maeve,her idea, we are going to have a week away at the end of June. I have arranged for 24/7 care for mum.She will still be at our home but with "live in" carers that she knows and likes. My daughter will pop in every day to make sure all is well.

We are going to stay in Somerset where my cousin has a holiday apartment and has said we can use at anytime! So how lucky are we. So looking forward to 7 days with Billy, good books and a few glasses of good wine!

much love
Wendy
xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 May 13 - 06:32 AM

ENJOY!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 May 13 - 06:03 PM

ditto- and well deserved i,m sure. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 May 13 - 09:51 PM

Uh-oh--my last post. I meant to say happy birthday to Alllson A.'s mum, not Wendy's.

Wendy, have a relaxing time away, and I hope you come back feeling refreshed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 May 13 - 05:26 AM

me, too!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 May 13 - 06:48 AM

CL... we all knew what ya meant.

Oh, and, welcome to the club. There are lots of us. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 May 13 - 01:33 PM

Is our thread gradually winding down to a natural conclusion?
Have we achieved what we set out to achieve?
Is the time approaching when we should go our separate ways; remembering everything & everyone, safe in the knowledge that 'Jane's Rainbow' will be here, nevertheless & can be revisited should the need arise?
       Speaking personally (not for Ann), I am emotionally exhausted & need to 'step back' & 'sit under a tree & watch many sunsets'.
       Please let me know what you think, publicly or PM. I am tired & sad & really need to hear from you.
       Maybe someone else could 'take the wheel' for a time?
                  With Much Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel (Ann's here, but this is a very personal comment from me alone)                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 May 13 - 01:41 PM

Nigel

rest up please,
we will carry on sailing,the Rainbow will be here for those in need,
you have captained us so well, but time to go ashore, or simply rest on deck I think.

Much love

Wendy
xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 May 13 - 01:57 PM

Thank you, Wendy....maybe one day in Frinton?
                                                                        With Love,
                                                                                       Nigel.
                                                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 May 13 - 02:01 PM

Hey... ya need a break, take a break. As for me, I will check in but I have taken on two new projects plus I think we had our last good chance of frost and my transplantin starts in two or three ales... gotta lubricate the old back, eh? Also, one of the projects is rather taxing so I might not comment very much over the coming weeks unless dramatic changes take place.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 May 13 - 09:24 PM

Whatever you need, whatever you want, Nigel. Whether I post here, elsewhere, or not at all, you and Ann will be in my thoughts. Sending more love your way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 May 13 - 11:11 PM

Ah Nigel, this thread can sail itself, doesn't need a captain or a helmsman. It is guaranteed to sail on, a full complement of crew aboard. There may be times when it sails below the horizon, but is sailing nonetheless, a full crew aboard. The wonderful magic is that when called up, the ship and crew will appear immediately to any who summon it, not on the distant horizon from whence it might take days to join, but right here, right now, whenever that now is.

There is no "duty" to what this thread represents. You do not need to feel like you have to be a steward. Jane's Rainbow is here. It will stay here.

Love never dies and this thread is a testament to all the different ways of loving, caring, joining, holding, and letting go that encompass what we humans experience as love.


Remember, Nigel, that you are wrapped in a virtual circle of care and concern, as are all the rest of the crew. There is no pricetag, and no duty attached to that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 May 13 - 06:43 AM

Janie... I got teary eyes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 May 13 - 07:22 AM

Nigel- We hereby declare you to be on guilt-free leave. Check your PMs, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 May 13 - 05:26 PM

Mudcatter Skipy has had a stroke. Kindly add him to your thoughtful moments- I will picture him singing as he regains the power of speech. There's a thread upstairs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 30 May 13 - 05:37 PM

Healing thoughts Skipy
xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 May 13 - 07:37 PM

T&Ps to Skipy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 31 May 13 - 05:41 PM

Just checking in here for a bit of quiet time. Just released from hospital after 24 hrs in A and E following a cardiac scare. Move over folks I need a little sleep!!

Frank xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 May 13 - 05:52 PM

Get thee under the sheets!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 31 May 13 - 06:00 PM

Zzzzzzzzz

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 31 May 13 - 07:07 PM

Sleep well Frug,
the crew will look after you while you sleep

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 31 May 13 - 10:55 PM

Glad to see you took gnu's advice! (in this instance, anyway:>)

Keep us posted, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 31 May 13 - 11:00 PM

Bless Frug's little heart : ), and may all the crew sleep well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 May 13 - 11:52 PM

Hey, Frug, I'm sure there's a hammock on board with your name on it. Sorry about the scare!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 01 Jun 13 - 05:22 AM

Hi folks - just had 10 hours recovery sleep. To fill you in .... as many of you know for nearly 2 years I have been nursing Sassy through her recovery from major head trauma. A consequence of this has been that i have been less than assiduous in attending to my own health. several times last year I was asked if I had Asthma as I was wheezing. I put it down to a chest infection and did nothing. 6 weeks ago whilst having a small break with the family I experienced major breathing difficulties and on visiting the Doctors a long standing and deep seated infection was identified. Several courses of antibiotics and steroid treatments, whilst improving the situation did not resolve the issue. Chest X rays showed fluid build up outside the lungs and an enlarged heart and raised a potentially overactive thyroid ... also the GP noted an increased level of an enzyme which is a precursor to a heart attack. hence the visit to A and E. Thankfully, and without going into too many details, emergency treatment had a dramatic effect for the better and an imminent heart attack was averted. I am very lucky and although very knackered. I am now in possession of appropriate meds which will control things whilst I try and achieve equilibrium.

Spooky eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 13 - 05:29 AM

I hope you equilibriumiate rapidly and are fully equal soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jun 13 - 05:34 AM

Lucky you! You've just found out why carers/parents/health professionals need to keep in good health so they can help folks.

I assume someone in the health field has suggested you make more regular visits to your doctors as well ask taking these medications?

keep looking after yourself so you can look after your wife.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jun 13 - 06:16 AM

There is much here deserving of comment, but I'm going to restrict myself to reflecting on Janie's post of 29th. I have referred to 'Jane's Rainbow' as 'our' thread for a while now, but, in truth, it's been almost as hard to 'relinquish the captaincy' as it has been to let Jane go. I felt it remained my responsibility to keep the thread alive; drive it along. I now understand, completely & utterly, for the first time, that my stewardship (Thank you, Janie) is a burden from which, as of this moment, I am relieved. I become one of the Crew; one of many, getting on with my daily duties. We have no rank, no special privileges. What we DO have is each other. Janie expressed it so eloquently: " The wonderful magic is that when called up, the ship and crew will appear immediately to any who summon it, not on the distant horizon from whence it might take days to join, but right here, right now, whenever that now is".
       I apologise for underestimating your Love, Determination, Loyalty & Compassion.
       I/we are in the very best of Hands,
                                                            With Love,
                                                                           Nigel.
                                                                           xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 01 Jun 13 - 06:59 AM

Amen to that, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 13 - 08:09 AM

Do us a favor, Frug, and take good care of yourself going forward. No more close calls like that, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 02 Jun 13 - 04:36 PM

I've just heard from Liz that her husband Terry, who I mentioned earlier has mesothelioma, is in hospital and has been put on the Liverpool pathway.

They both need any spare good thoughts you all might have for a while, to add to the many supportive friends already rallying around in their community.

Paws

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jun 13 - 05:54 PM

Paws... yupper.

Nigel... ya mighta been the cappy on accounta you were the one that laucnhed this tub but I always treated and respected you as part of "the crew"... as one of "us". As in...you an me are just the same poor guy rowin a dory in a big blue sea ceptin that there are a lotta hands on the oars. I can't speak for anyone else but this has been said many times above... thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Jun 13 - 12:24 AM

Got it, Paws! Liz and Terry!

The inmates are taking over the asylum. Wait . . . . No . . . . The crew is taking over the ship, and it is not a mutiny but a peaceful new arrangement of equality. All Hands on Deck!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Jun 13 - 05:43 PM

Hi Crew! Sorry if I haven't been around although I have been reading. I am so impressed with the way we all continue to sail on and that others have come in including a good friend, Frug. He was duly warned and pleaded with when he wrapped himself tightly around his dearest Sassy as a caregiver but obviously didn't get the message. I am happy too that it finally hit him to take care of himself before it was too late. Frank my friend.....I expect better of you in the future and suggest you stay aboard the Rainbow with us as your advice and counsel can be a great assist!

I was enjoying the way things have been developing here and happy to see how it has become even more with the age. Nigel and Janie have warmed me with some really beautiful thoughts and I can see the vessel and crew just getting better.

I'm just falling into a pattern right now where I have 2 weeks of feeling at half-assed followed by a week of chemo which is okay except the damn shots are rough. 15 shots in the stomach , 3 a day, is not pleasant. Then I go way downhill with excessive pain from the shots, nausea from the drug and the pain combined.....after about 9 or 10 days we're back to fair, another few days to pretty good (Almost there now), and then I get my 2 weeks of A#1 okay.

It pretty much sucks but it is the deal and I'm happy we're making progress. Of course that too is the frustration in a way. This is a "quality of life" treatment because the MDS/Leuk has no cure. I'm not bitchin' here(well damn Spaw, it sure seems like it!)but it would be more tolerable if I had any expectation of a good outcome!   It is sorta' like going to the Doc with a broken leg. The Doc gives you a hammer and tells you to smash your hand once a month.   You say, "Will this fix my leg?" Doc says, "No, but it will take your mind off of it until we amputate it"

Enough with the bitching! My numbers keep going up although the weekly number may drop after chemo, it gets better as the weeks go by and I go into each new chemo treatment with better numbers than the last.....DEFINITE progress. Hemoglobin still low but very close and platelet count has only a short way to go to be in range, low but in range!

More later if you can stand it.....LOL


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 13 - 06:59 PM

Spaw, buddy... ye trow it an we'll clean it up. You vent at will. Please.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Jun 13 - 08:48 PM

Pat, I am no good at loosing best friends, but I love your style AND YOU

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 03 Jun 13 - 09:09 PM

Like Spaw I have been reading more than posting, but I don't have his excuse. I am a quiet sailor on this good ship, and am just checking in to nod and smile and occasionally burst into song.

Loving you all so much...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Jun 13 - 11:06 PM

We can do more than stand it, Pat.

Early on when you first posted about your diagnosis I did some reading up, and suspect others have also. Let us know what you need from us, and I expect that need will vary. You already know this is a crew along for the full ride, ready to laugh, cry, stand up and shout encouragement, or simply ask if a mate wants mustard on their hotdog. Some one among us can find a chorus that will fit, and the wind from our voices will always be sufficient to fill the sails.

Love you. Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 12:18 AM

sending love & good wishes to Paws's friends, Liz & Terry.

spaw, as gnu, kat, Alison & Janie said. love to you all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 03:09 PM

ditto from me too.been away for a few days and catching up .blessings on all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 04:25 PM

Is this the place to insert a little self anxiety about impending treatment for a stubborn illness?

I have been recommended (pending results of bloods and xray to ensure i don't have TB or lung fibrosis) for anti-TNF therapy as my autoimmune conditions (RA, Sjogrens, PMR) are not responding to chemo, anti-malarial and steroid cocktail.

The potential life altering /ending risks are daunting. These being cancer, lymphoma, heart failure, blood abnormalities and (peculiarly for American patients) multiple schlerosis.

I now have to decide if I want to risk one or more of these potential threats and which biologic treatment to try out of the 5 offered. 4 are self inject and 1 is hospital infusion.

I'd be grateful for any good thoughts here, as well as, experiences with this type of treatment first or second hand. Perhaps they should be put on the "So that's why I feel like crap" thread, even though it has been dormant for some months now.

Thanks all.

Trembling Tam

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 04:44 PM

This is a perfect place for your request, Tamara. Welcome on board!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 07:05 PM

Tam and Spaw ,Frug,Terry and Nigel and Ann,Pete and Tommy,thinking of you, it is rather late at night so...
lots of love,sleep tight and sweet dreams
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 10:18 PM

Keep it UP, SPAW.

Virginia, more good thoughts on the way from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jun 13 - 11:24 PM

Yer in my, thoughts, VTam.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 05:31 AM

and mine

love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 07:19 AM

Able Seaman Paterson checking in. A very warm welcome to Tamara; a good place to 'sling your hammock'. I can empathise very strongly with your situation. I was diagnosed with PMR some years ago & for the last two years have been trying to 'taper off' the steroids, which, whilst they relieved the PMR symptoms, have caused permanent or very slow to recover from damage (Diabetes, Osteopœnia, Fatty Liver, Depression). So far, I've made three attempts, each of which takes months, because the tapering has to be done so gradually & each attempt has failed as I approach the lower end of the dosage. All the symptoms return & I'm back to square one. As this third attempt to rid myself of steroids has failed, the only alternative seems to be immuno-suppresants (chemo), the thought of which does not exactly fill my heart with glee! As you probably know, PMR can disappear just as quickly as it appears, but in a minority of cases, it hangs around, sometimes for life. I am resigned to the fact that I may have to take some sort of medication 'in perpetua', if so, then I want any side effects to be as few & benign as possible. Tamara, the only advice I can give you is ask questions of your Doctors. If you don't get the answer you want, ask again, be persistent, explore as many options as possible. I wish you good fortune as you venture forward on this rather bumpy, bendy road. Post again when you're ready, there is much wisdom & experience to be found aboard 'The Rainbow'.
       My Dear Pat, I echo the words of encouragement expressed by so many over the last few days. Through all the medical complexity of your condition, I am always struck by your refusal to allow it to overwhelm you, although I suspect there must be times when it feels like it could. Your outlook remains strong & positive & as ever, peppered with humour. I have learned much from you about facing & dealing with adversity. Continue striving, my Dear Pat. You are precious & much-loved,
                                                                With Love to You All,
                                                                                              Nigel.
                                                                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 08:52 AM

Unfortunately, I've just heard that Terry, a fine Northumbrian singer and composer, died last night in hospital. His wife Liz has an excellent local support network, but I'm sure a few extra thoughts for her won't come amiss at this time.

Paws

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 09:02 AM

sending love & good wishes her way

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 09:02 AM

Good thoughts and condolences to her and those who knew him best. Tough news for you Paws......so sorry.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 11:44 AM

Condolences, Ts&Ps, Paws.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 03:08 PM

sorry to hear that.good to hear that there is lots of support.how valuable are loving friends.
wishing you wisdom virginia tam as to best treatment.   
tommy is doing well at present,thanks wendy.   blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 09:51 PM

My sympathy to Liz. Nigel, whatever treatment you pursue, I hope it helps more than it hurts. And Pete, I hope Tommy continues to do well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Jun 13 - 10:06 PM

still here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Jun 13 - 04:02 AM

Sincere condolences & loving thoughts to Terry's Wife, Family & Friends. Another good Musician gone to the Great Concert in the Sky. Paws, thinking of you too. From your post it sounds like you knew Terry well.
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel.
                                                                xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Jun 13 - 04:12 AM

My apologies, Paws. I missed your obit thread About Terry Conway. Regardless of the fact that you didn't know him well, another sad passing & I am grateful you've brought it to our attention. He may be gone, but his Music will live on.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel.
                                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Maeve, away from home
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 01:38 AM

Refresh...Holding each one here in my thoughts.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 06:20 AM

Me too, maeve... me too. >;-|

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 11:24 AM

Checking in & wishing well to all those good Folk who visit, but choose not to post. You are most welcome, nevertheless.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel.
                                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 11:36 AM

Checkin' in almost every day, swabbing a little of the deck at a lazy pace, and noting those to whom I will be sending good thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 12:25 PM

My thoughts at the very moment are with the two ducks I just saw waddling up my street. They were carrying a canoe and had life jackets on. 10C, real wet and darn windy.

QUAAAACK!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 10:46 PM

Just stopped in for a quick round of hugs - both to give and to receive. Anyone who needs one, consider yourself hugged. Been having a rough couple of days myself, but I'll weather it, others have it worse than I do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jun 13 - 11:08 PM

r1... my Ts&Ps are also with you and yours at this time. I don't usually hug but I am learning... (((r1))) I'd send another special hug and a belly scratch herein but you know I already have elsewhere.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Jun 13 - 04:43 AM

Hugs Ranger,morning crew, breakfast cooking in the Galley, how do you like your eggs?

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxx :-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 09 Jun 13 - 06:05 AM

Thanks to all for good wishes and my best thoughts out to those in need and even those not in need. Condolences to those in grief.

Only 4 days off of the hydroxychloroquine (anti malarial, taken to control Sjogren's) and now waking several times a night feeling like my eyes have shards of glass glued to them and that my mouth and throat have been rubbed dry with cotton and steel wool. Salivary gland spasms are most uncomfortable, excruciating jaw pain. I drink a litre+ of water from late evening to morning. Sjogrens does terible damage to gums and teeth too so lots of toothbrushing, flossing, and mouthwashing going on to protect.

I am less likely to go blind now the drug has been removed. Though I am a bit worried about what the auto-immune exocrine disablement will do to heart, lungs and other vital organs. Joint pain and brain fog ain't much fun either.

I still have not made decision as to whether I will partake of the anti-TNF, but I do know which one it will be if I do. The monthly self inject, Golmumab seems the simplest. They all pretty much do the same thing and carry the same risks.

GP appt on Wednesday next to talk about this and some other problems which may or may not impinge on my decision.

Thanks again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Jun 13 - 07:11 AM

Thoughts and prayers, VT.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Jun 13 - 07:42 AM

with a prayer for wisdom in choice of medication and for some relief from the very unpleasant effects you describe. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Jun 13 - 03:06 PM

Bits of news! First, I was too sheepish to mention this but last Tuesday I was feeling pretty decent and Karen had done a lot of work in her side beds so I went out to look. Long story, short----I was so proud of myself for getting down a small slope so well that I was short on my step up to a sidewalk. Beautiful three point landing if you're a complete jackass. Scraped skin off both legs, hit hard on one knee and one ankle. The knee had a golf ball sized knot. The ankle was missing serious skin, about 1x4. Simultaneously hit with my left chest and left upper cheekbone. I was carrying a pan and by the time I dropped it my hands never got involved. I have some bruised ribs(as if I don't already have enough trouble breathing) and had a walnut sized lump on the cheekbone which has now dissipated down to the chin. Lump gone but I look like I lost at the Saturday night fights.

It was rough week as I sleep exclusively on my left side but it is improving greatly and I beginning to feel better. Saturday was my birthday and she may not need me she sure did feed me now that I'm 64! I didn't do squat and Karen did all the house stuff and supper----Ribeyes on the grill, lemon pepper scallops grilled as well, and some shrimp fresh from the gulf in a Thai marinade and glaze also grilled. Baked potato and she made a scratch peach pie......Spectacular meal. Yesterday we went for another birthday cookout for David (Connie and Wayne's son) son and I as we share the birthday.   I wore out pretty quick but it was good day. I'm feeling better everyday and almost back to where I was before tripping with my size 13's leading the way............

Today we went to Zangmeister Oncology/Hematology Center for my weekly blood test and Aronesp shot. Hemoglobin has risen to 10.5, the highest yet, and red blood cell count is as high as it has been as well. PLUS the platelets are almost there at the lowest end of the range which is real progress. Much as I hate the Vidaza (another round next week) I think it and the Aronesp are working.

Thanks to all of you for everything......and especially for making this this feel like the 'Cat used to be. Thanks for the UPS and thoughts and prayers.

AND TAM----I love ya'.....I wish I had some advice of any type but you have my best thoughts.....but you already knew that. The rest of you go back to doing that voodoo that you do sooooooo well (thank you "Blazing Saddles") and let's keep her trimmed for a long voyage together. BTW, the info paragraphs I'm also posting at FB .... These last two are for us.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jun 13 - 03:14 PM

Started reading, Spaw, and I got rather concerned but I was smilin by the end. Great update! UP, UP and stay downwind as much as possible eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 10 Jun 13 - 03:28 PM

Go the Spawster ! Go man Go! You have so much good will blowing your sails its a natch!

Frank

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jun 13 - 09:15 PM

I've been away for four days, but all of you, individually or generally, have been in my thoughts. R1, Virginia Tam, and Spaw, I hope you all continue improve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jun 13 - 09:41 PM

I've also been away - we had Public Holiday long weekend so naturally I was at a Festival & had a great time.

I'm just catching up on my favourite thread.

Sending lots of love & hugs to spaw & everyone.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 10 Jun 13 - 11:03 PM

It's a shame about the fall, Spaw, but good news on other fronts! So good to hear! Warm greetings to the rest of you, too, from another who checks in way more than I write ~ Kind regards to all ~ KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Jun 13 - 03:18 PM

UP SPAW - rather than falling down!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 11 Jun 13 - 04:57 PM

God yeah. Read about Spaw's tumble on FB and was horrified by it. All that raw skin, purple bruises and stuff. I mean GROSS. Who wants to read that shit at stupid o'clock in the morning?

:)

Love ya too man. Glad all that other even badder stuff is settling down. Take better care of yourself.

Thanks all for good wishes.

Still feeling awful rough. Waking in morning feeling like I've been hit by a bus. Everything hurts. But it is to be expected. Take away one of the immuno suppressanst and I guess the inflammation rises. Optometrist and GP appointments tomorrow. We shall see whats up.

Huggles you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Jun 13 - 10:01 PM

Virginia Tam, I'm sure you will be getting a major outpouring of best thoughts; it hurts just to hear what you're going through.

Spaw, good to hear the clinical stuff is on the "UP" side, but sorry you're too stupid to pick up your friggin' feet...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Jun 13 - 11:09 AM

sure does sound rough for you V Tam.hoping it improves for you.pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 12 Jun 13 - 12:52 PM

Good thoughts for VT and 10.5 for Spaw is much improved...but Froggie's right about the feet!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 12 Jun 13 - 04:05 PM

special up for Kendall who knocked his head, took a tumble and bruised his dignity as well as his hip.

optometrist referred me to opthamalogist due to slightly high mercer reading. My dad had glaucoma, I've been on an eye altering med so she just wants to be sure nothing is missed.

BUT - my prescription has not changed. YIPPEE!

Visit with GP:
BP is high but probably due to prednisolone. Given all drugs I am on, wants me tu come in once a week for BP check and see if it settels as steroid is withdrawn and anti-TNF commences.
Possible angina pain to be looked at with cardio risk assessment as BP is monitored.
What I thought might be diabetes (tremours, weakness, dizziness in the morning surrounding making and eating breakfast) he thinks is low blood sugar and not diabetes. Simply because it only happens in morning. Also probably due to steroid.

But I am getting fasting insulin and chloesterol bloods done 3 July.

So I will contact RA nurse, ask about chest xray and TB blood test and tell her I am ready to start Golmumab. I need to get inflammation down because it is making be feel really bad.

High and constant pain I can pretty much handle.
General unwellness, nausea, brain fog, and malaise on top of pain, I cannot.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jun 13 - 09:54 PM

Yeah, VTam.. I hear ya. Pain is really a minor problem compared to the rest... the uncertainty and trepidation... the "unease" of the mind... that is the worst part of it all. I wish you well with dealing with it and getting things sorted out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Jun 13 - 11:18 PM

Not around much and not checking in as often as I would like, but still here, regardless, and including all of you daily in my thoughts and meditations.

I continue to be so grateful for this place share and care.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 07:22 AM

checking in & sending hugs to Tam & spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 11:06 AM

likewise,blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 11:44 AM

A lovely, sunny, good afternoon from East London. Special thoughts for Spaw & VTam. Both beset with complex conditions. Please know, both of you, that your welfare is of concern to all who voyage on 'Jane's Rainbow'.
                                                 The best of weekends to All,
                                                                                           With Love,
                                                                                                          Nigel.
                                                                                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 12:00 PM

Funny thing Nigel.....I think we all need to focus on VTam because when I read all she's going through right now and the complexity of the med situation and how all this affects her physiacally and mentally, all I can think is, "Damn! I'm glad that ain't me!!"

Tam we are all thinking about you and sending the best. I've only got a about a 50 watt transmitter but I have it cranked up full your way. Thoughts for the others too, but I hope you get all this worked out and that it actually works well when you do! Hang in!

Another round of Vidaza starts for me on Monday so I'll be around pissin' and moanin' about the damn shots for a couple of weeks.......LOL.....Just ignore me and send an UP or two to keep the stuff and the Aronesp working! Will also see the Doc on Monday and see what she says.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 01:51 PM

Oh Spaw, I am sure I am not facing anything like what you are going through.

But thank you and all others too. Found a trick (I hope) to knock the edge off sugar drop in the morning. When I wake up at stupid o'clock (3-4) in the morning I will eat a couple of Carrs water table biscuits. It kills the nausea and I don't get the shakes so bad when 7am and breakfast time rolls around.

So far it has worked pretty well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 03:49 PM

You are all on my mind and in my heart as I deal with my own family needs. Please add Joe Offer and his wife Christina to your thoughts/prayers:
*************
Subject: RE: BS: Eldercare
From: Joe Offer - PM
Date: 13 Jun 13 - 04:55 PM

"My lovely mother-in-law, Valeria Slowick, died today, sometime after midnight. She was 98 years old, and she lived a full and wonderful life. The last two years were difficult for her and for us, but I'm glad we were able to keep her at home. We had some wonderful caregivers to help us with her over the last year..."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Jun 13 - 03:58 PM

Of course, m.

Spaw... UP yours UP yours UP yours!

VT... you've found one crumb of the crux of the biscuit? Good!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 15 Jun 13 - 02:02 PM

All out hugs to Joe and his wife. Happy they had blessed time with lovely mother and mother in law. Care those memories long.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 15 Jun 13 - 05:23 PM

With deepest condolences. My love and best wishes to you all.

Frank xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jun 13 - 06:42 AM

Sending love to Joe and his wife,
RIP Valeria

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 09:52 AM

Dunno if anyone mentioned Skipy...

Thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 10:37 AM

Ann & I send sincere condolences & kindly, loving thoughts to Joe, Christina, their Family & Friends.
            These words of Joe's ring out loud & clear; so full of meaning & memories:

            "She was 98 years old, and she lived a full and wonderful life".

                                             With Love,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 11:40 AM

mum in law was blessed also in having a dedicated daughter and son in law before departing this lfe.blessings joe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 11:48 AM

I have passed my best to Joe on FB but it never hurts to let people know you care.......and we do.


Update on me: Healing okay after dumbass fall. Rib still hurts and light bruising still but overall about healed up. GREAT NEWS on the blood work.   My red count is climbing closer to normal, my hemoglobin entered the low normal range as did my platelet count which is 147! Other numbers coming in line and the Doc was all smiles.   We discussed my dislike of shots and she signed for a port. She never suggested it before as she was afraid my health would cause problems. So I get the port this week and next week I do the Vidaza through it. I got this week postponed. NO MORE SHOTS!!!

Doctor Sundaram also said we would back off the weekly blood tests and Aronesp to every 2 weeks and hopefully then to once a month. She was very pleased at progress and that I responded to this and then dropped this bomb she didn't mention before----Only about 20% respond to this treatment.

Thanks for all the good thoughts!

And for my mates aboard this compassionate cruise, I want to say thanks even more and tell you how lucky I am to be a part of this crew. UP YOURS!!!!!! LOL....Many thanks


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 11:52 AM

:) :) :)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 03:56 PM

"----Only about 20% respond to this treatment."

Well, Spaw, you have to realize that most of the percentages are based on normal people...

(Okay, so I'll admit that I'm very happy to hear your news)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 05:09 PM

We always knew you were extraordinary, Spaw. Very good news, both the response to the treatment and to the port. Hurray!!!! Hope you don't have to keep falling down and knocking yourself silly, not to mention black and blue, to keep getting such good results.

VT, you are always in my thoughts and meditations. I can't know, but do have some idea of what you deal with each and every day.

Maeve, may you and your family have moments of respite and joy.

Still rowing and singing with the crew, for all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Jun 13 - 05:42 PM

Spaw... like I said on FB, short version... UP yours and happy to hear the good update.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jun 13 - 04:17 AM

Spaw, I cannot find the words that adequately express how I feel about the amazing, positive response to your treatment &, as it turns out, against the odds too! Such good news. My eyes are filled with tears of joy.
                                        HUC TENDIMUS OMNES! My Dear Friend (I'm beginning to think that two 'Ts' may be better than one!)
                                                 With Love & Much Happiness,
                                                                                              Nigel.
                                                                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 18 Jun 13 - 12:57 PM

Good news, Spaw, and you get port prescribed by a doctor?? I'm on my way!

Pete

PS. Joking apart, what is a port?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Jun 13 - 02:05 PM

Pete, a port is a piece of medical equipment that is surgically implanted so that medicine can be given intravenously without inserting a needle every time a patient needs the medication.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jun 13 - 02:30 PM

Pete... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jun 13 - 05:02 PM

On board The Rainbow, Port or Starboard, take your choice!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Jun 13 - 08:21 PM

Any port in a storm for those sailing on the Rainbow. Getting the port is good news, and it's about time!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jun 13 - 04:30 AM

excellent news from spaw.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 19 Jun 13 - 12:38 PM

Thanks Ranger1. Medicine eh? He'll be mainlining whisky, I reckon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jun 13 - 08:25 AM

Going ashore for a few days, Billy and I are going to Porlock in Somerset to chill for a while. I have a full time carer staying with mother so hopefully all will be well at home? After a rather difficult two years I am looking forward to it just being the two of us!

Love to all the crew. UP Spaw!!

Will catch up when you dock in port!!

with love
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Jun 13 - 08:42 AM

Thanks Wendy.....and have a great time. The two of you deserve it. We'll look forward to hearing all about it when you come back!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Jun 13 - 10:29 AM

Ditto Spaw. Just relax.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Jun 13 - 12:50 PM

keep it UP SPAW.
Hoping you both have a wonderful and worry free break in that lovely part of england,wendy.   blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 20 Jun 13 - 02:03 PM

Fantastic update news Spaw my friend ..... just fantastic .... keep that spirit burning bright.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jun 13 - 04:31 AM

Wendy & Billy, have a wonderful time in Dorset, a beautiful area. In fact, most of the South West of England is pretty damn gorgeous, even if it rains! Have fun, rest & relax, take good care of each other. See you back on board when you return,
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Jun 13 - 12:18 AM

Watch for an American stowaway. Dorset sounds soothing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jun 13 - 01:06 AM

go kat!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jun 13 - 07:10 AM

So glad the two of you are taking a little holiday, Wendy. Enjoy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Jun 13 - 12:40 PM

Kat, stowing away would be a smart move, Dorset, Somerset, Devon & Cornwall all have much to offer in the soothing department. We have Family in Truro, Cornwall & Ann's Mother lived in Taunton, Somerset, so we've visited the South West many times. Wonderful scenery, slower pace of life, bursting with history, myth & legend. Can't recommend the area highly enough.
                                          With Love,
                                                         Nigel.
                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Jun 13 - 01:44 PM

If I win the Jackpot, Northern France, Wales, England, Scotland, Orknies, Iceland, Ireland.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Jun 13 - 01:53 AM

Gnu, I hope you win the jackpot. Kat, you should win one, too, so that you can travel in style. Might I suggest the QM2, though the crossing from the UK must be better than the crossing from the US. Going east means losing an hour of sleep almost every night. Going west means getting an extra hour of sleep almost every night! I've heard westbound passengers are much happier than those eastbound, who are downright grumpy. If you do stowaway, that still might be the ship to pick. Gnu, if you go to Iceland. say Hi to Skarpi for all of us. I did a two-week tour several years ago (before my pension was reformed), but i wasn't on Mudcat at the time and didn't know Skarpi existed!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 Jun 13 - 05:37 PM

Sending another wave of encouragement to keep the Rainbow moving along.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Jun 13 - 03:53 PM

This is the only thread I check regularly these days. Fair winds and peaceful harbors to all on board.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jun 13 - 07:29 PM

Right back atchya, m.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Jun 13 - 11:04 PM

What gnu said, darlin' maeve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Jun 13 - 03:08 AM

me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 25 Jun 13 - 07:35 AM

Same here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 25 Jun 13 - 04:25 PM

wishing fair winds and calmer seas for the crew than has been for many of the voyagers on board the rainbow.
pete[7 stars on unwieldy wheel!]

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Jun 13 - 04:12 PM

Me too on reading this thread. I love your spirits and am always in awe of the support that flows freely from this crew.

I had a port put in on Monday and it hurts like hell post install. But after a few weeks all that surgical pain will have healed and the best part is that they are already using it for this round of Vidaza. NO MORE BELLY SHOTS!!!! It works fine and I look forward to it healing as does Karen who has to listen to me bitch! LOL.....My wife, buddy, pal, lover, and best friend.......Love is a wonderful thing...............


Only one minor problem.....They put the port in on the starboard side. I've mentioned this to several of the medicos and they simply stare at me. I don't bother explaining.............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Jun 13 - 04:40 PM

that made me laugh spaw.if your port is in your starboard,no wonder you are all at sea!
glad its coming together and that you,re blessed with a loving,caring wife.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Jun 13 - 07:26 PM

At least that opening in Spaw isn't apt to emit anything. It's good to know that you can look forward to at least a little less of the misery you deserve.

Singer/songwriter/comedian Don White tells. in his book "Memoirs of a C Student", of an conversation with his son, who was about to depart for college.
"...I took a paper napkin and I wrote these words on it: "One excellent decision." I held it up for him to read and then I folded it in half and then in half once more. I handed it to him and said, "Put this in your wallet. You only get one of these. Use it when you are deciding who to marry".

Sounds like Spaw is one of those of us here who, if only by dumb luck, came up with the right decision on that one. It sure does help in life.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Jun 13 - 09:37 PM

Spaw... "Love is a wonderful thing"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Jun 13 - 09:50 PM

Spaw, I'm glad you have your port.I am sorry about the pain. And I am embarrassed to admit that even though I'm ChanteyLass, it took me a few seconds to get your joke!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 27 Jun 13 - 06:51 AM

Don't worry, CL, it took me a couple of minutes as well, sidetracked by the thought "starboard side of what?". The mind was boggling!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Jun 13 - 09:41 AM

He can't stop! I have him cast for his biopic with several titles we are working through, including "A Crap for All Seasons." We had an even better one, but my muse was being impatient, my scribe was off feeding his fat gullet with corn on the cob. When we think of it, will post it. Feel free to offer UP.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Jun 13 - 10:20 AM

a storm in any port?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jun 13 - 12:29 PM

I've enjoyed reading your posts so much. The conversational flow is full of love & warmth. I am comforted. Our 'new normal life' without Jane is a strange place; one that will take some considerable time to get used to. Ann is crafting, I'm composing, but.........onwards we sail, come what may.
                        You are greatly loved, my Dear Friends,
                                                                                    Nigel.
                                                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Jun 13 - 09:13 PM

Nigel, Dear One, and Ann,

It is my true belief that we receive, ten-fold, what we give out in life so looky where all this is coming from. You have lead concious lives and helped many, it has been your turn to receive.

I had some good news today...don't have to see the kidney specialist for three months!!! He's happy with what we are doing. This a relief!!
Thanks to everyone for your help!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Jun 13 - 09:36 PM

Always good to hear from the Able-Bodied Seamen aboard The Rainbow. Hurray, Kat, for the good news, and I hope you are no longer falling. Nigel, I am curious. What kind of crafting does Ann do?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 02:42 AM

that's what I was wondering

sandra (felt toys, small patchwork & applique things, knitting & more)

ps. YAH to kat

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 06:24 AM

good to hear of more encouragement,kat.
thinking of nigel and ann in the emotional adjustment.glad the creativity is of some help.
God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 07:16 AM

Dearest Kat, I'm thrilled to hear your good news & deeply moved by your compassionate words. Pete, 'emotional adjustment' just about sums it up. As the days pass, I understand more clearly that it is a continuous process of adjustment & re-adjustment. One might also say: 'Emotional Evolution'. What is very clear is that our lives are in a state of flux & will remain so for who knows how long. The creativity does help. Without it, we would both be in a much darker place.
          Which leads nicely into ChanteyLass' question. Ann spends the greater part of her crafting time making greetings cards. Each card is different & often takes several hours to produce. She attends classes from time to time to keep abreast of new techniques & ideas. Naturally, I'm biased, but I think her work is exquisite; head & shoulders above shop-bought. Ann also makes scrap books for Family members. The scrap book is usually produced to coincide with special life events: 18th birthday, older birthdays, graduation etc..I get involved too, typing captions for the dozens of photos & sometimes processing/editing the photos. The finished article is always considered highly desirable & much appreciated by the recipient. It's become something of a tradition within the Family.
                                       With Love,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 07:52 AM

Great news, kat!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 12:33 PM

Yay Kat. I like readng good news too. I have special good feelings for all the folks on this thread.

Going through some stuff with My poor Hilary. Denied SSDI again. Lawyer says they have to go to court. SSA left of lupus (which should have been the clincher) in her list of conditions. SSA claims she could still do her former telephone job, even thogh medical report states she would need a 10 minute break every 45 to 60 minutes due to pain, fatigue and brain fog caused by her autoimmune conditions.   Lawyer says this is common and 85% of cases of her age have to go to court.

She did however get PAC (free publich health care)letter today. So appointments, tests, and meds are free. But not specialists, which is a bit worrying.

Anyway her fight continues.

Love to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 03:36 PM

VT... youse are in my Ts&Ps.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jun 13 - 09:15 PM

I enjoyed reading about Sandra and Ann's crafts.

Virginia, I hope the court case comes out in your daughter's favor.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Jun 13 - 04:57 AM

those who are craft-inclined might like to visit &/or join
Cup of Kindness , descendant of the late lamented site The Annex where Mudcatters went to discuss non-musical matters.

Mudcatter ragdall is the administrator.

sandra (knitting in the crafty section of the oars & sending good wished to Tam & her family)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Jun 13 - 09:34 AM

Geeze.....What a pick-me-up this morning just reading this. I mean it. I'm not "low" or anything just got a free boost from just coming aboard. The Rainbow is about the only reason I check in every day and I've been out for a couple of days so this was a big treat......nice to see things flowing along as Nigel put it.

The port is still healing and very bruised. May I tell you how much I hate Coumadin/Warfarin? Yeah....I do. I've been on Warfarin since 1998 and it makes every invasive procedure a pain in the ass. You have to bridge off and the back on the stuff using Lovenox (shots in the belly twice a day) so this time there is a certain irony that to get off the belly shots I have to take more! Lovenox uses a much shorter and is not a problem though. Looks like Monday before I can get the area wet but using it this week was wonderful and when it has been in for awhile it will be even better. OTOH I find the Vidaza a bit more nausea inducing through the infusion but again it beats that belly pain!!!! I mean, I don't mind needles but I thought I was having my stomach area "tenderized" every three weeks.

Waiting the extra week and forgoing the Aronesp dropped my numbers but not terribly, so I am anxious to see where we are on Monday. After that I should be back on track and if things go right I may be able to skip a week on blood tests. Let's hope so. Once again, all those "UPS" built up and have done one helluva' job. Down the road I'm going to explain that a bit......but I'll save it for a later date!

UPS to you all.....as opposed to my general "Up Yours" which has an entirely different sentiment attached.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jun 13 - 10:52 AM

Spaw, that sounds like the good mixed with the bad, but mostly good I guess. I'll keep Upping you.

Sandra, I just browsed Cup of Kindness.Nice! I loved being able to see the photos although I couldn't enlarge them without joining. I probably won't do that. I already have too many internet addictions! Also, while I used to do embroidery, needlepoint, and a few other odds and ends, it has been years since I have done anything crafty. I may drop by to browse again, though.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jun 13 - 11:12 AM

"... has an entirely different sentiment attached." I know different and I think I can safely say that view is held by the 99%.

Love these UP reports!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST, pete from seven stars link.
Date: 29 Jun 13 - 04:28 PM

checking in with a prayer for all those enduring medical difficulties,most of them beyond my comprehension - but i get the gist of how hard it is for you.

my mum used to make homemade cards and went to classes also till the creeping cancer prevented her continuing.homemade are so much better,especially when you know they were lovingly made for you.we had a lot left over when she died and any we use now have added significance.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jul 13 - 11:32 AM

Very proud of Ann, our youngest Granddaughter & a wonderful group of friends, all of whom participated in & completed the 5k 'Race for Life' for Cancer Research UK. Thousands of runners, joggers & walkers (Ann's group took the third option!) met on Epsom Downs (and many other places around the country) for this annual fundraiser. It was a fun day, but also very moving to be surrounded by so many people, directly or indirectly affected by cancer. The motto this year was: "Cancer, we're coming to get you'.
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 13 - 02:23 PM

Nice posts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 01 Jul 13 - 02:51 PM

two of my daughters done it. one with a pushchair,the other with litteun on her back.my oldest daughter has been in hospital having an internal lump removed.hopefully clearing out any danger.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Jul 13 - 04:14 PM

Good for all the walkers (and pushers). We lost my wife's sister to cancer a little over 10 years ago. A few years ago our niece, her daughter, did a cancer benefit triathalon in her memory. She put quite a bit into building up for that.

Pulling for your daughter to come through this without further suffering, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jul 13 - 08:56 PM

My prayers are with your daughter, too, Pete.

Thank you and congratulations to all who have participated in fundraising events. I know that more people are surviving cancer, but too many are not. I'd like to see a cure within my lifetime.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Jul 13 - 04:43 AM

Pete, Ann & I send Love & Healing Thoughts for your daughter.
ChanteyLass, agree with you absolutely. A cure for all cancers in our lifetime would be a truly wonderful thing, but it's such an insidious, malicious malaise. Jane's ultimate demise was brought about by a mutation of the original rogue cells. Her Oncologist actually admitted that the team couldn't keep up with the speed of the mutation. When you're facing an adversary, capable of that type of behaviour, you really have your work cut out. Cancer Researchers around the World, we salute You!
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann.
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jul 13 - 04:56 AM

Ts&Ps atchyas, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 02 Jul 13 - 04:19 PM

thankyou all,crew.i think melanie is recovering ok-ish,but we await confirmation of the ops success. pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jul 13 - 05:10 PM

Fingers and toes too, pete!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Jul 13 - 06:28 AM

Morning Crew, just catching up on all the news as we are back from our holiday.

Pete, sending good thoughts for your daughter, Nigel and Ann, well done to all those walkers, such an important cause, it touches us all as we know!And of course Up Spaw!!

Billy and I have returned home rested and stress free,Billy looks so much better, we had a wonderful break, late breakfasts, lots of sleep, great picnics
( Woolacombe Bay I love you) We caught up with old friends in Porlock where we stayed and went out with West Somerset Morris for a very entertaining evening in the depths of Exmoor.Had some great pub food in the evenings and a few glasses of wine.The scenery on that coast is spectacular and we had a hair raising drive from Lynmouth to Ilfracombe via Woody Bay, the track is "just" wide enough for one car, very interesting when you meet someone coming the other way!

More importantly my mother was fine, her live in carer was wonderful ,I don't think mum even noticed we were absent from home!! So now I know it works I can do it again!

Lovely to be back on board the Rainbow,

Much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Jul 13 - 07:18 AM

more little holidays for Wendy & Billy is an excellent idea.

sending good wishes to Pete & Melanie & all the crew.

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jul 13 - 03:07 PM

Wendy... wonderful news! Made my day!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jul 13 - 04:00 PM

so heartwarming to hear such a lovely report of your holiday wendy.
continued blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Jul 13 - 09:11 PM

Wendy, I am glad to know that you enjoyed your trip and that all went well for your mother while you were gone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Jul 13 - 07:51 AM

Good job I had the holiday, spent all yesterday at Basildon Hospital, my brother had a heart attack in the early hours, rushed to the cardiac unit and had the artery unblocked and a stent fitted. All going well so far going to see him this evening.

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Jul 13 - 09:53 PM

Oh, Wendy! If it's not one thing it's another! I hope your brother recovers quickly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 06 Jul 13 - 08:47 AM

Me too Wendy.....You have a bag that is way too full....but I was glad to hear how well your vacation worked out!

My best to all as well. We have a bit of a mixed bag but things seem pretty decent for the moment. I'm still trying to heal the port....damned Coumadin slows everything. Looking better every day though!

Some extra good thoughts to you Pete......


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 05:43 AM

Wendy... oh my. Hope all turns out well.

Spaw... heal to port! Full sails!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 08:36 AM

Since the port is starboard, I'm heeling to starboard although healing to port............wait........uh........yeah...............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ron Davies
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 09:26 AM

(Very belatedly), thoughts and prayers for all who need them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 02:01 PM

Heel to starboard all want or have to but ya just gotta heal to port man!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 06:26 PM

It occurs to me that what we do here, is help one another to
walk on.

Row together. Walk together. Sing together. such respect and support for each person or family's journey.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 07:03 PM

like the vid janie
never heard of her before - gospelling the blues!
,,,happiness is knowing your blessed..

trust your brother continues to mend well ,wendy.you obviously needed that break at that time before the added concern.

UP SPAW Glad its coming together better.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Jul 13 - 08:47 PM

And, Janie's video was made during a rhythm and blues cruise! How appropriate for those of us who sail aboard Jane's Rainbow!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jul 13 - 05:05 AM

Rats!... "Heel to starboard all YA want or have to... "

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 08 Jul 13 - 07:02 AM

Well my brother is home thank goodness, bit shocked and fragile but how lucky he was to go to Basildon hospital! Fantastic place and wonderful staff.
Now to look at his musicians lifestyle, no more take aways and late night Indian restaurants after gigs for him! Big sister on the case!!

Thanks for all your kind thoughts
much love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Jul 13 - 08:09 AM

Good news Wendy. Heart disease really does make us pay for our lifestyle.....***sigh***...........Go get him Big Sis!

ALSO......I just read that ART THIEME is having some infection problems again. He's in the hospital and his son says they are working at getting this one cleared early so he doesn't have a repeat of the last time. So let's send out some Rainbow Mojo towards Art and Carol out in Illinois.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Jul 13 - 08:54 PM

Wendy, I'm glad to read that your brother is home. I hope he heeds the advice from his medical team and big sister.

Of course good wishes go out to Art and Carol, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jul 13 - 06:13 AM

A rather belated Welcome Home to Wendy & Billy. Wendy, I trust your Brother is making a full recovery....'Big Sis'; 'Big Daughter'; 'Big Wife'....you really do have to spread your energies far & wide. Keep some of that R'n'R you garnered on holiday in reserve.
         Janie, I love your words: "....Row together. Walk together. Sing together. such respect and support for each person or family's journey". May I add: "Laugh together, cry together, think together?"
                      With Much Love to You All,
                                                             Nigel.
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Jul 13 - 06:25 PM

Art... we need ya bud. Hang tough. Yer one a the good guys whats looked up to by many in this here madhouse. Kinda like Spaw when he ain't bent over showin us his ass and askin us ta pull his finger... not that he always asks er nuthin eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Jul 13 - 06:43 PM

pausing to offer a prayer for the bereaved and unwell,with thanks for their kind thoughts for others,and for some better outcomes for some.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 11 Jul 13 - 03:08 PM

Glad to read that Wendy's brother is on the mend. And that Pete Twitchett posted to his thread.

I am paddling with big flippers (badly swollen feet) on a little skiff behind the Rainbow, trying to catch up with all the events since my last read.

Also worrying about how I am going to get my feet into the specially decorated boots for step daughter's wedding next week. Right now I can barely wear crocs. Started prescribed diuretic today.

Need special wishes and ideas for foot reduction by next Tuesday, please. I have cut the salty foods, meat, dairy and bread. Have to drink lots of water because I am perishingly dry since being taken off of Hydroxchlorquine. Sjogren's coming back with vengeance. I am spending evenings with feet elevated above heart trying to keep hips straight.

Gotta go lie down again. Boring! :(

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jul 13 - 03:48 PM

Hang tough, VT.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 11 Jul 13 - 05:15 PM

hope it works out VT and the feet reduce and its a good day.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Jul 13 - 11:52 PM

What gnu and Pete said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Jul 13 - 06:48 AM

What gnu and Pete and ChanteyLass said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jul 13 - 05:53 PM

greetings all from a very warm and sunny england.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Jul 13 - 07:40 PM

Selfishly too preoccupied with my own life to give time to think of anything truly thoughtful to post, but want to let you know I check in several times a week and catch up. Don't have my wits about me well enough to post without fear of forgetting to include some one who has posted regarding a trouble, trial or tribulation, and know that personal noting/acknowledging by others is powerfully supportive. So....while not leading any verses, I'm still here with the crew and in the chorus.

Peace be with all.

Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jul 13 - 10:40 PM

Hello, fellow crew members! I wish smooth, or at least smoother, sailing for all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 05:15 AM

Janie & ChanteyLass have said it all for me. Very preoccupied with my own health issues at present, mainly around transitioning from one drug regime to another. Combine that with the heatwave in London at present (unbearably hot, humid nights = very fragmented sleep), so 'zombie' would sum me up pretty well!
             Much Love, Hugs & Kisses to you All,
                                                                      Nigel.
                                                                      xxxx

PS. Don't forget, Folks, in the UK, AirCon in the average house is still the exception, rather than the rule!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,maeve, avoiding the current trojan
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 07:31 AM

"PS. Don't forget, Folks..."
Same over much of the US, Nigel. AC costs money to buy and to run- money many of us do not have. Our little machine is the result of a barter with a neighbor. We don't run it in the morning or at night, just when we take refuge from planting and tilling outside as we eat lunch.

Thoughts and blessings raining down to cool those who suffer from the heat, to comfort those in physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual pain, laughter to those who are sad, and companionship to those who are lonely.

"Take Joy!"

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 09:10 AM

I've been a bit too pre-occupied myself lately as my prodigal son Michael has returned home and within 48 hours the Sheriff showed up at my door.......***sigh***.......Anyway, we got that all cleared up and we're working on the college idea. He's morose over the breakup of a long term relationship but we're giving some time and space and he's doing better already.

Healthwise.....The port is in and it works but we're giving it time to heal properly. When you have been on Coumadin as long as I have it causes problems in even the simplest of surgical procedures. And when you have such a lovely combination of assorted bodily failures everything becomes a balancing act where you trade a bit od this to fix that. Hopefully you make the right choice and if not you equally hope to have time to correct!!!

Right now I am feeling pretty damn good (knock on wood) and we're decently balancing. I'm working at regaining strength too. That botched surgery a couple of years ago and the following two months flat on my back took more out of me than I can believe. But working at doing things right now and seeing progress on the blood problems cheers the hell out of me. Thanks for all the UPS .....and thanks in advance for a few more. LOL

We too have the heat wave and no central air. We have new window shaker in a large size which keeps part of the house very comfortable though plus the fans keep the colder air moving about. Hopefully this heat breaks on schedule by Saturday.

AND NOW-----I talked to katlaughing yesterday and dear kat is going through a tough period. Like me, she too has assorted issues but her balancing act is out of whack right now. UPS, thoughts, prayers, and any other Mojo you got needs sent out to the Western Slope of Colorado!

I love you all,


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 09:19 AM

Up Spaw, VT and Kat! Still having a "heatwave" in the UK and it's due to last all week.

We used to call it summer...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 10:23 AM

glad to hear its on the UP SPAW.
UPS and a prayer for the others too who are still struggling through.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 12:18 PM

good news from spaw - keep heading UP.

less good from kat - sending lots of love & gentle virtual hugs

love to all on this thread from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Jul 13 - 06:11 PM

Nigel, I hope your new medication works well for you, and Spaw, I hope your port soon finishes healing.

My condo unit in Rhode island has central air conditioning, and while I was still working and later when my health was poor I used it sparingly. For at least the last three summers and so far this summer I have not used it. Nor have I used any window air conditioners or fans. It's an environmental issue and a desire to use my money for other things. (I'm solvent, but we all have to make choices!) And I'm lucky to know it is there if I need it! This summer is hot and humid with little breaks, and in this state we have been warned that there may be power brown-outs because of the high energy use by air conditioners.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,VaTam in Ambleside
Date: 17 Jul 13 - 02:54 PM

Oh everybody. Step daughter's wedding went very well. However, my feet now really could serve to paddle the Rainbow. Who needs sails or oars? I have massive foot power.

Love and hugs and good energy to all on board.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jul 13 - 09:54 PM

VaYam, I'm glad the wedding was lovely, but I am so sorry to read about your feet!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Jul 13 - 09:14 AM

Best to our Tm doing the "VT Flipper Stomp." Hope the performance is short.

Hope we hear from Nigel soon. Med issues and adjustments to certain scrips can be a serious problem as well as the problems. Sometimes the cure is a bigger problem than the disease.....Anyway.....

Going to make a few calls today and check on Kat.......My next round of Vidaza starts Monday but this time with port!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Jul 13 - 04:50 PM

pleased to hear wedding went well.hopefully the feet will heal up soon.you got more than enough to cope with i'm sure VT.
best to the rest of the crew too.    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Jul 13 - 10:50 AM

once again I'm adding my good wishes & helping the good ship Rainbow move forward

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 21 Jul 13 - 02:58 PM

I have been meanin' to at least speak up and let folks here know that I'm still checking in here almost all days, and pullin' for the crew members who need it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 21 Jul 13 - 03:17 PM

Sometimes what we can offer one another is distraction by way of a window into each others' lives.

My 90-year-old mother has gotten through surgery, rehab, and the first couple of weeks at home, with daily and overnight visits from yours truly for the last six weeks. I chose not to post about her here for privacy reasons, but you should know your stories helped me deal with my own stress and worry. Thank you.

Now a fun sort of busy has commenced, with three different bantam hens hatching out broods starting one month ago, with the second batch starting hatching on Friday, and the third expected to begin tomorrow.

Our last house chicken, who can not stand, much less walk, has been in our care for nearly three years. I've been working with her on rehab (swimming in a sand box, learning to push herself upright, learning to tell us when she needs water, food, cleaning, a different position, etc.) . She has amazed us all by becoming so strong she can stand on one knuckle and a wing. She has given further cause for rejoicing at her restored health by laying her first two eggs this week.

Although our outside work days here on the farm begin by three or four in the morning and end somewhere around 7 in the evening, I keep all of you in mind- the seen and the unseen, ailing and healthy, those who raise high many reasons for joy and those struggling with sorrow.

I am happy right now, looking through the north window out into the young apple orchard, watching my dear husband teaching yet another young man how to plant and tend fruit trees. We've never met him before. He stopped by to ask about the giant pine cookie slabs we have for sale with the potted trees, and an hour later he's deep into the orchard tour.

Peace to you all,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Jul 13 - 09:56 PM

Spaw, good luck with tomorrow's Vidaza treatment. Maeve, I'm glad to read that your mother is home and doing better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 21 Jul 13 - 10:38 PM

Thanks for that one Maeve! And CL thanks for those wishes.

Was talking with Nigel and he reminded me of a time many years ago. For a number of reasons, all pretty trivial but together in a pile they looked mountainous, I decided to unplug the computer and the TV and and damn near everything else until we all had our bearings again. This included some teenage foster kids who began to freak out. A month later we all felt better for the experience.....or maybe they were fibbing in fear I might make it permanent......LOL.

I was glad to hear that Nigel and Ann were going to do a "bearings check" of their own.....and I think all of us on this crew would agree. In the meantime I think Maeve gave us an idea. I have a few tales of recent happenings that haven't been told including one I had not planned on but.......I think I will. I'd bet dollars to donuts some of you have the same but you're too sheepish to say so.....Yeah? I dare you!

Let's also not forget to keep checking up and checking in. Anyone got anything additional on Art Thieme. Kat is doing better right now with some new thing the Doc is trying. And I quite selfishly will ask for any UPS you might find lying around. What's the plan for Tam to not do the stomp? Pete, Billy and Wendy?

I gotta' tell you that this group is about the only reason I come here anymore......a few others but this is the biggest part of it.

Love to you all and GO FOR IT NIGEL.....BIG UPS TOU YOU!!!!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 11:41 AM

UP, UP, all ye sailors.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 11:56 AM

Stopping in for a communal hug for any and all who need it, myself included at the moment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: LilyFestre
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 12:11 PM

There is a thread in the music section above....our sweet Kat has passed.

:( I'm so sorry to share this. :(

Michelle

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 12:13 PM

Thinking about you all this morning. UP, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 12:26 PM

UP we go again!.
lovely stories maeve.
we,ve had the teenage troubles with foster kids also,spaw.we see some of them still - and still helping them out!
our latest addition came to us one day old.we call her "angel" as the mum did,nt designate a name till a few weeks after birth.
not my idea, but becky is baby mad.but its gone better than expected.
so thats some of what we,ve been UP to.   blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: LilyFestre
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 12:56 PM

Ok....someone please tell me what UPs are???!?!?!?

Spaw...how'd it go with the port?

I still have mine (3 years now) and am keeping it as long as I possibly can...love it!

Hope it made things easier for you!

Michelle

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 01:38 PM

Just so so sad to hear about the passing of our dear Kat, this crew has lost one of the most loving and supportive people,always here to give wonderful and thoughtful words to us when our troubles were overwhelming us, she never complained although her health was so worrysome.

God bless you Kat RIP

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 02:49 PM

All my hugs and love to all of you
always in my thoughts and prayers you know that

love Dan

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 03:30 PM

Again, though I don't post all that much, checking in to this thread knowing there are such wonderful, loving folks here. Feeling so sad about our dear kat- I only hope she has a clue now, just how much she has meant to this group. Ups to everyone, and especially to you, Spaw.
KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 09:57 PM

Yo... haven't been in for over a week I think. My AV blocked me but Max seems to have fixed it. So, I am only up to speed on kat. I found out at the MC FB page. Ain't got much ta say just now that I didn't say there and on the thread here.

Luv ya kat. Yer one a tha good uns!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jul 13 - 11:17 PM

Thank you, Michelle, for letting us know about Kat on this thread. I posted there first before coming back to this thread. BTW, all the UPs have to do with Spaw who, after certain treatments, was having trouble getting the results on his blood tests that he needed to continue treatments. (I hope I've got that right. You probably understand it better than I do, and I'm sure he will correct my errors.) He requested we send UP, SPAW, thoughts.

Okay, crew, we've lost one of our own. I think we need to set another sail. Forget the real names for sails. Let's call this one the Katsail.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Jul 13 - 12:56 AM

Katsail is the real name for the new sail. It's a big sail to catch any winds winging their way from Colorado.

sasndra (pulling on the rope, to coin a non-nautical phrase)


halyard (sail raising) shanty by Peter Kasin

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jul 13 - 01:05 PM

condolencies thoughts and prayers for family and friends bereaved at this time,   pete,

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Jul 13 - 01:13 PM

Up Spaw! How d'ya get on?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 23 Jul 13 - 04:27 PM

I haven't been around much lately- staying away from the computer more, with the summer weather keeping me outdoors and such. But yesterday's news about Kat was a big wakeup call for me, reminding to pull my own weight on the sloop of friendship, lest I miss the chance to say farewell. I'm grateful to return to find this thread alive and well, and so grateful to Catspaw and Micca who were there when I made phone calls yesterday to hear some friendly voices.
Sending love across the miles to all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jul 13 - 04:01 AM

AllisonA... hey, somebody's gotta man the dories eh? We needs cod fer eats b'y! Ya can only eat so many fish cakes. I mean, I could eat em every day but then, would the ship's stock last til dock? I must go below and count up the barrels a salt fish. Where's me clothespin?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Jul 13 - 08:04 AM

I'm on a Vidaza week but the news about kat drove me right down....... Thanks for those UPS and all your support. I will miss her forever as will Jane's Rainbow...... Kat was the Mudcat originator of the healing thread idea at Mudcat.......................


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Jul 13 - 08:49 AM

what a memorial - creator of the Healing threads

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Jul 13 - 06:28 PM

and what a lovely,positive,encouraging and thoughtful idea    pete,

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Nathan Tompkins
Date: 24 Jul 13 - 06:44 PM

What an amazing thread! This is the shit that Mudcat has always been about. People coming together from across the globe and being a real if if virtual community. I am glad that this spirit still exists.

Kat has always been of the idea that positive thoughts/energy can lend to positive healing....sigh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Jul 13 - 04:24 AM

Spaw... that alone helps to heal.

I waited for updates on her thread without refreshing for (too) long periods of time simply because I didn't want to pry, to be pushy, to upset her in any way. I knew by her abscence that something wasn't quite right. Even tho I refreshed and ask "How ya doin?" or "It's been X days? Whhassup?" or "Update?" or whatever on several or more occasions, I wish I had more often just said "Hey darlin. Hope yer doin okay."

There. Said it out loud. It's been buggin me since I heard the news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 25 Jul 13 - 07:19 AM

It would seem a good time to also keep Max in mind. He's facing some challenges, I think.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Jul 13 - 09:32 AM

love & hugs to Max

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Jul 13 - 09:14 PM

Absolutely. What Sandra said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 26 Jul 13 - 06:53 AM

Bit worried. 3 to 4 hour long angina pain from 3 someting am to 7am this morning. Worst ever experienced. Swollen extremeties for more than a month. Sudden severe headache, jaw aches, neck aches (come and go), palpitations, feeling faint after even minimal exertion such as brushing teeth, getting up from chair, etc. This is very sudden in the last week. Mobility has been a problem with RA and PMR but this is different.

I think Kat's passing has knocked the wind out of my sails. She was only 5 years older than me.

Saw GP nurse two weeks ago. She couldn't get any of her BP monitors to work on me. Just scolded me about needing to get more exercise.

Saw GP this morning. No diabetes - YAY! Cholesterol only tiny bit high. He put me on Beta blocker and angina under the tongue spray. I ordered a BP monitor today. Will collect from Boots on Sunday.

I started near vegan diet beginning of the week, cut sugar, salt, dairy, and caffiene. Rediscovered Grape Nuts. YUM! Scheduled for ECG noon Tuesday day before we leave for Sidmouth folk week.

Cutting it fine, eh? Good will and energy please.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 26 Jul 13 - 09:02 AM

Hoping for the best results for your health, Tamara.

Up, Spaw and may you find comfort in music and with your family as you feel the loss of our friend Kat.

Nigel, thinking of you as you transition between medications. Take the time you need, but do remember you have many friends on The Rainbow and around Mudcat. Let some of us know how you are by PM if you don't feel able to post here. Did you see my little house chicken story? She laid her third egg right in my lap!

Max, thank you for taking action to take care of your health needs. We are so fortunate to have had Mudcat's circle of friends for all these years- it exists because of you. We will keep it oiled with compassion, music, and laughter as you regain your health and make choices for your future.

May we all find joy in the shining hearts of those we treasure and by whom we are in turn loved.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Jul 13 - 04:11 PM

I gotta ditto m on all counts.

Now... chicken house story? Do tell. Sounds like a good one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Jul 13 - 09:38 PM

Double ditto from me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Jul 13 - 10:12 PM

Pulling at the oars with you, Tamara, and with all others.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Jul 13 - 10:59 PM

me, too

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 27 Jul 13 - 03:54 AM

4 hours in emergency medical assessment unit. Not a heart attack. BP was damn near perfect. Pulse great. ECG good, heart enzyme blood tests (x2) clear.

But I am being referred to cardiology to determine what is causing the angina, which definitely has gotten much worse. I think it is the perishing heat and the inability to shift excess water.

Anyway, thanks for thoughts. Hugs to you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Jul 13 - 04:12 AM

Tamara,
this heat, mainly the humidity is really taking its toll, difficult to walk, I walked up the steps from the beach yesterday to the top of the cliff and had to sit on the bench to get my breath! Made me feel like an old woman! Whoops ...... I am Whoot!!

Much love and lots of healing thoughts coming from me to you Tam, Spaw, Nigel and all those in need, always have love to share here!

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 27 Jul 13 - 06:02 AM

We sing for peace, join hands and raise your voice
In friendship stand with those who have no choice
Unite in song, wish for a safer world
A oes heddwch? Dymunwch am heddwch

This is a verse from the Peace Anthem sung by 700 strong voices at the 2013 Street Choir Festival held in Aberystwyth last weekend.

The Welsh translates - roughly - as;
Will there be peace? We all pray for peace

It applies equally to those with cares who need peace of mind. I hope it may help.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 27 Jul 13 - 06:24 AM

Just dropping by and wishing well to those here in need.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 05:40 AM

Me too, Pete. I stop in every day, at least once.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 07:55 AM

Good morning every one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 01:08 PM

Helloo Rainbow crew. Not doing too bad. How 'bout you?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 02:30 PM

Better now after hearing yer not doin too bad, VTam.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 04:19 PM

Glad to hear things are not too bad, after reading of how bad it was earlier,tam.wishing you continued better health.

we finally heard that the tumour removed from our daughter , melanie was benign.thankyou those who offered a prayer, or expressed good wishes.      blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 09:40 PM

Virginia Tam, I am glad it was not a heart attack. I hope the medical people can help you avoid going through something like that again.

Pete, I'm also glad that Melanie's tumor is not malignant.

As always, UP, Spaw.

Max and Nigel, I'm sending positive thoughts to both of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 10:05 PM

big sigh of relief, Pete, but not nearly as deep a sigh as your own, I'm sure.

Be well in heart and mind, my friends, regardless of the state of the body, as we sail the seas of life, singing and pulling together.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 10:16 PM

Great news, Pete!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Jul 13 - 11:56 PM

great news from everyone!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Jul 13 - 05:20 AM

Sending much love Pete, such brilliant news for you and Melanie

My brother is getting better slowly, thanks all ,

Up Spaw !!Thinking of you Nigel,

With love,
Wendy xxxxxxx ( still relaxed from our holiday )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jul 13 - 05:28 AM

Glad to hear it (both), Wendy.

I think it but don't say it often enough... UP yers, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: freda underhill
Date: 29 Jul 13 - 10:50 AM

hey, what a lovely thread. can I join? good thoughts and support to all who need it.

freda

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jul 13 - 09:39 PM

Welcome aboard the Rainbow, freda!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Jul 13 - 10:42 PM

this is the place to be, freda

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jul 13 - 10:53 PM

Lovely freda, you have been sailing with us all along, you just didn't know the crew had a name.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Jul 13 - 06:47 AM

How much muck can a bucket chuck with only one truck? Not too effin much! I swear they only got one pipe length (22' long) of trench done on my street yesterday in 13 hours... only had one dump truck on the job! I am on a dead end street and my neighbours are getting ticked off with having to move their vehicles elsewhere from 7AM to 7PM+ Monday thru Friday.

The point is, I have nothing to complain about and I wish all of you could join me in the dory I shall row today. For those who can't, The Rainbow is a fine ship to sail in and I hope the seas are as calm as can be.

Up yers, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Jul 13 - 09:01 PM

Scrambling into that dory right now! Hand me an oar!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 30 Jul 13 - 09:25 PM

I'll be sailing on two boats at once tomorrow afternoon; part of me will be on the ferry to Martha's Vineyard, to spend about five days with kin and friends at the brother-in-laws summer place.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Jul 13 - 10:52 PM

I got a job!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 04:52 AM

goodonya, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 07:55 AM

Great news, Janie!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 08:43 AM

Janie, hooray!

Frogprince, so close to RI and yet so far!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 10:02 AM

Well done, Janie. Whatcha going to be doing?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 11:48 AM

Gee....LOTS of good news floating by right now! I have been checking in but just haven't posted much. I was pretty well gobsmacked over kat's death and my functioning level was below par.

I want to thank all of you and my many other friends on the 'Cat for the calls and PM's and notes of personal encouragement. Kat and I were very close.......I am happy to tell you also that kat will be going a few places now. Roger decided to send her ashes to friends in all those places she wanted to go but never got there. I have Bill and Rita taking some to the Getaway of course and more going to England and Micca. Some will go to the Maine bunch where she had many friends and some will go to Heather Fielding. Some are going to OZ with Sandra and Freda handling that. I imagine we might find a few more places but I think that's about right for doing what she wanted.

I'm doing the chemo recovery week and it is about right on schedule. Just about back to whatever normal is anymore. The port made a lot of difference and once again thanks for the UPS!!!!!

I love you all and I love this journey we are on together. So glad Freda has come aboard. Did anyone tell her about the first month of kitchen duty?


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 02:04 PM

Damn! Another flood of tears! What a great thing to do... send her ashes hither and yon. Brilliant idea as they say across the pond. What an idea! We have a law here that says ya gotta pay a load of money to a funeral home fer a coffin in which you have be creamated and then these ashes must be buried at a graveyard at expense. Arrogant and insulting $ grabbers.

My creamation will be paid for by Dalhousie University, Halifax, NS. I hope I get cut up and experimented upon by a, nay, a number of, female med students. After all, I will already be a stiff.

Yes, that is TERRibly crass and PI. What's yer point?

Glad to hear things are as normal as can be expected, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 31 Jul 13 - 10:38 PM

Big smiles, Spawzer. I'll be at the Getaway and now know to get in touch with Rita and Bill. Don't know what they may have in mind, but could definitely get into going out into the bay in a kayak, if that is appropriate.

Keep us posted when the numbers come in from your latest bloodwork, Darlin' 'Spaw.

VT, may you have moments of joy and contentment, and days that you can hold onto to get you through days that don't seem worth holding onto.

Essentially the same thing, Pete, with somewhat less pressure, more service and significantly less management responsibilities, and able to work 40-50 hours instead of 50-65 hours per week - at a substantial cut in pay. But I only made the decent wage for a few years and had not got used to it, and in my field and at my age, I am very fortunate to have secured another job. I know a lot of folks in my sector who are out of work. Somehow, over the past several years I have managed to keep landing on my feet - this job does not necessarily qualify as "sticking the landing," but I definitely need to work for a pay check for at least another 4 years. After that, I can bring enough in from my private practice to adequately subsidize retirement income for as long as the brain cells function well enough.   I have much for which to be thankful. Lots of folks in my field are out of work and unable to find work.

All this is minor stuff compared the life-endangering issues folks deal with here.

Somebody lead us in a chanty now, to get these sails up to take advantage of a fair wind.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 01:18 AM

That is awesome, Pat. What an amazing way to deal with her ashes...that way she gets to go to where she could not in life, and be a big part of the earth. Thank you for letting us know.

In spite of the pain...the sorrow...the heart break of loss....this is still the best bloody thread I have seen here in a long time. This is what the cat has always been about.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 03:04 AM

Seems like tears are just below the surface all the time lately... But the plan to travel-with-Kat is perfect; I have no doubt but that she would be/is smiling.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 06:11 AM

Well said, Amergin.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 07:46 AM

And we are all glad you are here as well Nathan. This IS the 'Cat we all recall.........and often miss.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 10:31 PM

Janie, for an outward bound chantey and with some of Kat's ashes going to Australia, my suggestion is South Australia. Stan Hugill leads it here. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZoQfH7rCXUY

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 11:46 PM

Good one, ChanteyLass! One of the few chantey's I really know, and the first one I learned - being mostly a landlocked hillbilly.

Up Spaw! and Up All, me mateys!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 01 Aug 13 - 11:49 PM

worried about my brother Spaw. You are in my prayers ..

love ya
Dan

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,alison
Date: 02 Aug 13 - 01:42 AM

another late comer to this thread, but good thoughts, prayers and big hugs to all who need them.

special thoughts for you 'spaw ........... we go back a long time.....

slainte

alison

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Aug 13 - 05:57 AM

14C at 5AM! Oh, how I love August. The last full moon, I knew it was gonna stay hot or not. NOT! LOVELY NOT HOT! Now, twas 30C yesterday but the humdiddly was near 45% and there was a slight breeze. Tolerable while in the shade. Even mowed the two front lawns at 7PM and didn't work up much of a sweat although I took about 6 breaks to stretch and calm my aching back. Forecast highs are 21 to 24C (but more humid) for the next 7... I love NOT HOT August.

I wish NOT HOT for all in the good ship. While you are all on my mind, foremost at this very instant is Max. I soooo want an update but I know it will come and I pray it's positive. If you happen to read this, Max... thanks... yer one a the good guys.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 02 Aug 13 - 03:07 PM

So glad you're here alison.....and you're right, we do go back......back to those "Radio Days" and even well before. Another of my wonderful friends that I will probably never meet in 3D but with whom I've shared so much it doesn't seem to matter.

When you live through another person's highs and lows, joys and sadness..........I guess the only part missing are the those real world hugs.

Much Love


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Aug 13 - 09:27 AM

Morning friends.    I'm headed to the galley to get coffee brewing and water on for tea. Can I bring anyone a cup?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Aug 13 - 11:11 AM

Yeah, I could use a cup. Feeling pretty fair on this gray day. I always liked gray days.....Tom Paxton wrote a good one about them......Just because it isn't bright doesn't mean things are bad.....

Even a gray day,
with a cold wind,
Train late again
Even a gray day,
is a good day now.

Even a black night,
with a hard rain,
With plans down a drain,
Even a black night,
is a good night now.

Fresh out of answers, I threw in my hand
Stood with my back to the wall
But thanks to your kindness that I understand
That it could have been no life at all

Now even a hard time,
with a thin shoe,
And my bills coming due,
Even a hard time,
is a good time now.

Yes even a weekend,
in a strange town,
And the snow comin' down,
Yes even a weekend,
is a good friend now.

Fresh out of answers, I threw in my hand.
Stood with my back to the wall.
But thanks to your kindness that I understand,
That it could have been no life at all

Now even a gray day,
with a cold wind,
My train late again,
Even a gray day,
is a good day now.
Even a gray day,
is a good day now.

Best to all the crew and let's hear some of the latest news huh?

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Aug 13 - 01:01 PM

Lovely! Thanks, Spaw.

Got any skim milk for my tea? No? I'll have a beer instead. What's on tap? Nevermind, whatever it is, I'll have two.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 03 Aug 13 - 02:55 PM

Juneau, in southeastern Alaska, has a lot of gray days. I deal with them very well by considering them 'silver' days. The sun isn't far away, after all- only about a mile - straight up. (UP, Spaw!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Aug 13 - 03:08 PM

"The sun isn't far away, after all- only about a mile - straight up."

EBBIE! What a lovely thought!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Aug 13 - 05:33 PM

I'll take coffee or tea, whichever is easiest, Janie, and thanks! Need any help in the galley? Oh, wait, I just remembered I have some shortbread cookies in my ditty bag. Mind if I get out a plate for them? Help yourselves, sailors! I'm sorry they don't go too well with beer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Aug 13 - 07:51 PM

Shortbread cookies? Oh, I'll give up the beer fer yer shortbreads and tea.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 04:24 AM

Anyone like baked cheesecake? I have some left from Billy's 65th Birthday Party!! We had 30 family and friends join us at the weekend to celebrate his birthday and good health! We have a lot to be thankful for this year so it was good to celebrate with our loved ones.

Oh and there is a bottle of champagne, anyone good at opening?

love to all,
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 06:00 AM

Gettin pretty classy in the galley!

Glad to hear about the bonne fete, Wendy. Happies at the Bday boy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 06:05 AM

Cause to celebrate indeed, Wendy. Happy Birthday Billy!

Max, Maeve and loved ones, Nigel, Spaw, VT and all others for whom the sea may be a little or a lot roiled, still singing along with and for you and hauling at the sails.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 07:04 AM

I will sing along with you Janie....AND billy is a lucky guy if for nothing else than getting baked cheesecake!!!!

I'm ashore for a blood test and Aronesp shot today s I'll be anxious to see where things are at. I let the balance scale tip and spent bad day getting things right but today I feel good and look forward to a few hours alone with Karen.

So glad you're all here..............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 10:55 AM

UP Spaw! And enjoy your time alone with Karen. Here's hoping the numbers look good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 01:13 PM

Hey Wendy, I'm expert at opening champagne. I'm on my way.

Tip: Put a tea towel over the cork, grip it tight and turn the bottle (rather than the cork) on a hard surface - like a kitchen worktop. The friction of the bottom of the bottle turning on the surface keeps the champagne calm, so no wasteful spray.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 03:02 PM

Up Spaw,
toasting your good health with the bubbly stuff! Hope the numbers are good!

Thinking of Nigel, and everyone of the crew, wishing them good health and lots of love

Wendy and Billy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Going round the deck picking up empty champagne glasses and clean cheesecake plates!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Aug 13 - 05:54 PM

I've sent a couple of emails to Nigel- hoping to check in.

Janie, thank you for your kind thought.

Regards to all,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 06 Aug 13 - 12:56 PM

Nigel - a very honest and touching programme today. And - ultimately - a happy one for you I hope. Thank you for your story.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Aug 13 - 08:26 AM

Good morning, crew. Sending sunshine from Maine.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 07 Aug 13 - 09:26 AM

Nigel, if you are on board, just listened to the programme about Nic Jones, made me cry! But how wonderful to know you have such a fantastic friendship, bless you both.

Wishing you well and love to you and Ann

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Aug 13 - 02:47 PM

we celebrate with you too, wendy, and share your thankfulness.
UP SPAW and all others needing some fair wind and calmer seas. pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Aug 13 - 08:28 PM

How is everyone doing? I hope bodies, minds, and hearts are healing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 06:36 AM

I'll be okay by mid-morn, I think, thanks. A good day for all and sundry is wished.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 06:53 AM

Just recovering from a blowout meal + beaucoup de vin last night, celebrating our wedding anniversary. Great food, great wine, great wife.

Hoping everyone is well...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 09:33 AM

Happy Anniversary Pete
xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 07:01 PM

Can't beat that, Peter!

Sad news above the line - another long time Mudcatter who hadn't been around for a while has died. I didn't know karen k well, but always looked forward to seeing her at Getaways and she was one of those lovely positive presences on Mudcat and so supportive of others in the folk music world of the Northeast USA.

Will the crew join me in a simple and peaceful chorus to sing....

May the long time sun shine upon you
All love surround you.
And the pure light within you
Guide your way on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 07:12 PM

Of course, Janie. I missed the thread until a while ago. Sad, She was cool. IS cool. RIP.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 07:30 PM

Haven't wandered above the line yet, but I will look for that one when I do. In the meantime I'll croak- -er, sing along.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Aug 13 - 08:03 PM

Karen's thread

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Aug 13 - 07:03 PM

Life is one thing after another.

Time is one minute after another.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Aug 13 - 09:32 PM

The 'Cat is taking some serious hits lately...........yeah, Janie......I'll sing with you..............

May the long time sun shine upon you
All love surround you.
And the pure light within you
Guide your way on.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Aug 13 - 06:47 PM

Just a check in....too much humidity here but hopefully that passes in a day or two. Hope all is well with this fine crew......Keep posting.....sing some too!

Much Love for this special bunch


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Aug 13 - 10:27 PM

At 'Spaw's suggestion, some of Katlaughing's ashes will be sent to me by Roger for several reasons, and one of those reasons and responsibilities is to represent those who participate here, in Jane's Rainbow, whether they may participate by posting, by reading, or by focused caring attention of one or more of us who participate by posting.

I lovingly reject Spaw's characterizing me as executive officer of this thread. We are a versatile and flexible crew, all concerned with community and caring, and clearly I am one in a chorus - one of many at the oars or manning the sails.

Addressing what I have been charged to undertake on behalf of "Jane's Rainbow," please share with me via pm any words, poems, songs, gestures, you want to contribute when I scatter the ashes of Kat with which I am charged on behalf of all of us. I don't know exactly when or where that will happen but will keep you posted.

I came to Mudcat in the fall of 2002. I haven't gone back to research the early, formative days and years that forged Mudcat into the community it became - wasn't really aware there was at one time controversy -or a back story - to threads such as this. I doubt I ever will research it unless I have to time to explore the sociological evolution of Mudcat. Remember, Mudcat was also there on the early frontier of social networking. Obviously, though, this thread wouldn't be here were it not for Kat's advocacy early on.

Legacy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Aug 13 - 06:45 AM

From me... just say "luvyakat".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 13 Aug 13 - 05:09 PM

huggin you all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Aug 13 - 10:02 AM

love & hugs

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 14 Aug 13 - 11:27 AM

I guess I am still reeling ... I can't think about Kat's ashes. I keep waiting for her to post ... I can't read the threads .. I cry .. she was a dear friend to us all I miss her so

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Aug 13 - 12:33 PM

Dan- We need some songs.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Aug 13 - 02:23 PM

Yeah, Dan. I had a long post written and I kinda shortened it ta what I wrote here

Subject: RE: BS: Katlaughing's Ashes
From: gnu - PM
Date: 13 Aug 13 - 06:27 AM

Amergin... wonderful. Tears again.

*************************************

Fact is, I saw the thread title and only had a calm, fond feelin. First time. Then, I opened it and only got a few lines into that beautiful ode and it was tissue time.

Understood, Dan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Aug 13 - 09:34 PM

A chorus for the crew, with lots of room for simple harmonies.

For the Birds

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Aug 13 - 11:19 PM

nice tune Janie.i am wondering what that droning thing in the background is called - very effective anyway.
wishing comfort and consolation for those grieving.
may precious memories draw the sting out and soothe the wound.
blessings    pete.

Subject: ADD: Child of the Wind (Bruce Cockburn)
From: maeve
Date: 15 Aug 13 - 06:37 AM

Thank you, Janie. Your link lead me to this one:
"Child of the Wind"

Bruce Cockburn: Child Of The Wind - Slice O Life, Live Solo (2009)

I love the pounding of hooves
I love engines that roar
I love the wild music of waves on the shore
And the spiral perfection of a hawk when it soars
Love my sweet woman down to the core

There's roads and there's roads
And they call, can't you hear it?
Roads of the earth
And roads of the spirit
The best roads of all
Are the ones that aren't certain
One of those is where you'll find me
Till they drop the big curtain

Hear the wind moan
In the bright diamond sky
These mountains are waiting
Brown-green and dry
I'm too old for the term
But I'll use it anyway
I'll be a child of the wind
Till the end of my days

Little round planet
In a big universe
Sometimes it looks blessed
Sometimes it looks cursed
Depends on what you look at obviously
But even more it depends on the way that you see
Hear the wind moan
In the bright diamond sky
These mountains are waiting
Brown-green and dry
I'm too old for the term
But I'll use it anyway
I'll be a child of the wind
Till the end of my days

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Aug 13 - 05:49 PM

Thinking particularly of Morgan and Roger, and Nigel and Ann tonight. All of us are feeling the aftershock of so many needs and heartaches- let us feel even more keenly the joys and triumphs to which we have been as clouds of witnesses.

I find some comfort in handling the amazing wild birds we transport to the area sanctuary- a female loon and juvenile heron this week- and in training our newest bantam chicks.

I need some music writing but have no private place for it.

Love to ye all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Aug 13 - 07:34 PM

Love to ye, m, and to all. Thanks, m. Yer one a the good ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Aug 13 - 08:10 PM

Well said, maeve. thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Aug 13 - 09:55 PM

It's good to remember, good to sing, and good to cry. Love to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Aug 13 - 11:08 PM

We're all in need of some reflection and soft sounds.....Life has so much harshness and at times becomes so slicing and piercing that we have to slow down, breathe deeply, remember how to love and how to care and how we enjoy great friendships.   

I smile when I think of you all and this thread.........I hope you do the same.

And I'm doing fine!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Aug 13 - 05:32 AM

Glad to hear it, Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Aug 13 - 05:59 AM

Just sitting on deck, feeling peaceful and sending a huge hug and love,

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: kendall
Date: 16 Aug 13 - 06:48 AM

I can't imagine anything worse than out living our children. Love on all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: LilyFestre
Date: 16 Aug 13 - 10:41 AM

Just sitting here thinking how lucky we all are to have met one another here, feeling thankful for all of you and sending out love and hugs to all who need them.

<3

Michelle

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Aug 13 - 10:46 AM

Re what Kendall said: My wife's father is alive and doing quite well at 95. But two of her siblings are gone, one twenty years ago and one over ten years ago. As a bunch of you know, we very, very nearly lost my wife about 14 months ago now. I was torn apart, not only with the thought of losing her, but with the prospect of having to tell her father that the third of his four children was gone. I'm very thankful that it didn't come to that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Aug 13 - 10:46 AM

Yup. <3

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Aug 13 - 01:43 AM

see the memorium thread for my friend John Dengate who died 17 days ago, several days after attending the 99th birthday of his mother, Kit, subject of one of his best songs Bare Legged Kate

Kit's husband died in the 80s & she lost her other son a few years ago.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Aug 13 - 08:55 PM

Sandra, I love Gordon Bok's tender treatment of "Bare legged Kate". I'm thinking of your frined's mother, Kate.

Also thinking of our crew member, 999. I miss his contributions and am sending my high regard and encouragement.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 18 Aug 13 - 12:09 AM

Just checkin' in....feeling the need to be touched by the strength and love and goodness of this fine crew. Blessings and kind regards to all....
KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Aug 13 - 12:56 AM

Lovely Sandra, and my deep condolences. Especially thank you for sharing him and his music.

The only way to avoid loss is to not live and not to love, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Aug 13 - 05:30 AM

Echoing all the posts...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 18 Aug 13 - 10:07 AM

Can I echo a gnu echo? And I mean can, not may. I know I may do it, but can I do it? And would I want to if I could? I want to for sure but I fear what this might do to me..........Screwit.....I'll give it a shot and hope for the best.

Echoing gnu.

Hmmmmm..........seem to still be okay............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Aug 13 - 04:30 PM

Sumbuddy get on the speaker tube, to spaw down there in the engine room, and see if he sounds coherent to you... : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Aug 13 - 08:18 PM

Sandra, that song is lovely. I am sorry about your friend and also sorry about his mother having to cope with his death.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 07:08 AM

My only comfort at this moment is knowing I'll be okay in several hours, I hope... just had goodbye hugs with Amos and his cousin Gabe. What a night of stories, laughs and music! I even partook of ale and those who play must pay... wish I could pay with Visa right now.

I wish all of you could have been here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 07:22 AM

That's lovely, gnu. Wish I could have been there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 11:57 AM

Wonderful, Gary! I know you made good music.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 12:26 PM

thanks, Maeve, Janie, ChantyLass & gnu

John Dengate & family According to John's wife Dale, Kit was touched that I'd invited her to the memorial concert at my folk club - we can't have a memorial without the woman who brought him into the world, & besides the rest of his family will be there!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 02:00 PM

SiS... lovely!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 08:12 PM

Sandra, in the song Take Your Bulldozers Away, does D. M. R. stand for Department of Main Roads? Does that song have to do with this "Green ban" entry in Wikipedia? "Another example of a Green Ban in Sydney was the proposed North-Western Expressway that was planned by the Department of Main Roads in the early 1970s. The expressway would have cut through the working class residential areas of Ultimo, Glebe, Annandale, Rozelle and Leichhardt. In July 1972, the Save Lyndhurst Committee requested a Green Ban from the Builders Labourers' Federation to prevent the destruction of historic Lyndhurst (built 1833-1835) in Darghan Street, Glebe. Many battles with police took place, including a confrontation between police and squatters on 18 August 1972. The Federal Labor Whitlam Government purchased the Glebe estate in 1973 from the Anglican Diocese of Glebe to preserve the area. In 1978, the Wran-Labor Government decided to abandon much of the inner-urban expressway link and the 19th century character of Glebe remains intact."

Gnu you wrote "I wish all of you could have been here." I wish I could have been there, too. (Pout, pout.) Next time, invite us! I'm guessing you live only about 9 hours and one border crossing away! I might have even been able to give Maeve a ride!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Aug 13 - 11:18 PM

maeve is trying to stay younger and skipped a birthday. I'm not sure when it was but I ain't lettin' her get away with it. All you caregivers in real time that are rowing along with the flotilla need to be celebrated and fed high calorie birthday cake made with real butter in the icing to keep your strength up - it takes so much energy to be a caregiver...

Hope Max is OK or moving in the direction of OK.

Join me now in this or another song...Well, I got oil in my vessel and my lamp's trimmed and burnin"....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Aug 13 - 09:43 AM

wiki has it correct, ChanteyLass - the Green bans saved a lot of Sydney & the world when the ideas spread.

Jack Mundey head of the BLF was a friend of John's

Across the Western Suburbs- by Denis Kevans & Seamus Gill, © 1973

Happy (recent) birthday maeve

good wishes to Max & everyone who might be needing support & comfort

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 20 Aug 13 - 11:25 AM

Just checking in...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 20 Aug 13 - 12:18 PM

just wanted to say how much I love you people

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Aug 13 - 09:12 PM

Pete and Dan- Thanks for checking in. And Dan- we too, you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Aug 13 - 03:14 AM

Ann & I have returned from a long stay with Family & Friends in Greece. Will write again soon. Got to get some sleep first...long journey....remote island....etc, etc.. Absolutely devastated to read of Kat's death. Will have much more to say after a good night's/day's, sleep.
            Very glad to be back on board,
                                                          Love, Hugs & Kisses to All,
                                                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 21 Aug 13 - 08:18 AM

Welcome home, Nigel and Ann. Your presence is warmly welcomed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Aug 13 - 04:30 PM

Welcome back Nigel and Ann

We have missed you but hope your visit to Greece was wonderful and restful and healing
much love

Wendy and Billy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Aug 13 - 04:44 PM

thirded!.
i'm sure you will have something interesting and meaningful to post.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Aug 13 - 07:58 PM

Just learned of kat? Gosh! Didn't realize you had been away that long. I guess it just seems to me that you are here in spirit every day. I know I think of "you" every time I check this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 22 Aug 13 - 02:33 PM

Hi peeps. I am still lurking.

Welcome back Nige and Ann. Sorry it is to sad news.

Here's hoping for smooth sailing for all on board Jane's Rainbow.

Signed Tam of the giant right foot.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Aug 13 - 07:49 PM

VTam... sorry ta hear you are of the giant right foot. I hope it gets sorted.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Aug 13 - 06:29 AM

I have to begin with apologies...several PMs & emails as yet unanswered....they will be!
Where to begin...it has to be with Kat. Some months ago, in one of her many, loving, comforting posts, she made reference to Avalon. A little reading around the Arthurian Legends revealed just how perfect that reference was for Ann & I & as so often happens when my emotions are threatening to overwhelm me, I turned to poetry. What follows was begun when Jane was still alive, but not completed until after her death. I would like to dedicate it to Jane, Kat & her belovéd husband.
                  
                                 'Shall we Meet in Avalon?'

And shall we meet in Avalon, or does our journey voyage on
To places never, ever seen where only those who've passed have been?
At journey's end, what will we find, comfort for the tortured mind?
Respite for the restless soul, with passing time, will we be whole?
Shall we be whole to laugh again, despite the anguish, tears & pain?
Shall we be whole to smile & say: "It's time, tomorrow is another day?"
Another day, a different course, (Death's trade winds blew with awful force.)
Our future waits, as yet unknown, but we are two, we're not alone.
The Love we share that binds us tight, enhanced by Friend's illumined light.
Wisdom, Care, Compassion, Healing as breakers struck & left us reeling.
Calmer waters now surround, recedes the risk to run aground.
This voyage complete, we sail again, more mindful now of other's pain.
More mindful now of what we've lost and how to bear & count the cost.
                                                                                             
                                                                           (March-August 2013)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Aug 13 - 08:13 AM

Lovely.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Aug 13 - 10:05 AM

thanks, Nigel it brought tears to my eyes

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Aug 13 - 12:19 PM

I was not mistaken, nigel, when I predicted you would post something of meaning and interest. well composed also.       blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Aug 13 - 08:47 PM

Great work, Nigel.

Hmm, around the 19th I tried to post something which never appeared here. (The same thing happened with a post I tried to put on another thread that same night.) The one on this thread was something like this.

I'm lighting a candle for Maeve's cake and several others for those who are dealing with health problems (their own or a loved one's) or the loss of a loved one.

I hope the seas are calm while these candles burn. I don't want to set the Rainbow ablaze.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Aug 13 - 06:17 AM

Beautiful, Nigel

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 25 Aug 13 - 01:40 PM

I have been following but not posting as this was another chemo week.....more later.....FIRST.....I too want to welcome back Nigel and Ann and was glad to know that perhaps their sojourn has provided some solace and peace. Nothing can ever be perfect again but we move along through life with the certain knowledge of the value of friendship and the strength we can gain through the love and compassion of those friends.

Nigel, that is a tremendous piece of work. Your craftsmanship as wordsmith wraps me in awe and sincerity pierces your work in a way which brings an oddly joyous pain. Thank you.

As for me...........This has been my best chemo week ever. I am stronger now than we started and that, combined with the port, has made this week far better than any before it. Karen Wayne, and Connie, all noticed the difference as well. I'm hoping this is a trend! My numbers are all looking better and I think I will not see the drop-off as much as before and the Aronesp will get a bigger boost. If so, we may be able to back off the Aronesp and later, slow down the chemo. No guarantees though. Of course also no transfusions since early April(I was averaging a pint every 3 days then).

I did encounter a problem on two occasions this week when I had friends asked, "How long will you need the chemo?"   I couldn't find an easy way to tell them except the truth. So when I said, "The rest of my life," there was silence and both asked what I meant. I told them exactly what it meant and tailed it with, "You play what you're dealt but be assured I'm playing this hand out as far as it goes." As this will come up occasionally I keep trying to think of something better. The thing is it could be 3 days, 3 months, 3 years, or possibly longer, which brings it back to my original idea which is, it ain't time to worry yet.

Right now things are doing better and my biggest worry is getting Mike's college paid for which may not happen but we're doing our damndest to make it work. My love to all of you and I hope your news is good too. I proudly sail upon this voyage of life with that certain knowledge of the value of friendship and the strength we can gain through the love and compassion of those friends.......all of you!



Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Aug 13 - 01:56 PM

I hope the UPward trend continues, my friend. Thanks for the UPdate, Spaw. Bless you and yours.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Aug 13 - 04:09 PM

Good to hear "ups" from so many of the crew; may the "ups" continue, except for Virginia Tam's foot; "down" may it go.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Aug 13 - 09:13 PM

What frogprince said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Aug 13 - 05:48 AM

In my thoughts today especially are: Spaw, Virginia T, Roger & Kat's Family, Wendy (Do we still have time for a sojourn by the sea?), Maeve & all on board for whom life is in any way difficult or troublesome.
         My meds. changeover seems to be going reasonably smoothly...tapering off the steroids & replacing them with Methotrexate. Upside, almost no appreciable side effects. Downside, seemingly endless blood tests for several more months until the changeover is complete. I've been wondering whether the opposite of Spaw's port exists, you know, like a tap/faucet. I could draw off the blood myself & just drop it off at the clinic! (Needlephobics of the world unite!)
       Readjusting to the pace of life in London after an extended stay on a small, very beautiful Greek island is proving to be more difficult than it used to. We're just about on top of the basics: food shopping, cooking, laundry & the washing up.......eventually! Life DOES go on, albeit forever changed, but live with it we will, given time & your Love & Support.
                     Love, Hugs & Kisses to All,
                                                             Nigel & Ann.
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 Aug 13 - 06:32 AM

Day by the sea is certainly still my intent Nigel, the next 3 weekends are busy, mother will be 90 on the 31st so a small family teaparty is being planned. Then the following weekend we are taking her to a very special church service at Little Rissington where they are dedicating a bench to remember my father. It will be an RAF service and dad attended it every September for 50 years to remember his friends from WW2.
The following week we are off to Salisbury to celebrate my cousin 's 70th Birthday, hoping to take mother to that to, but am not sure if two long car journeys will be too much?

This weekend has been lovely with four generations gathering together, seeing the "littles" swimming in the sea and having bacon butties in the beach hut was a joy and bought back memories of doing the same thing when I was young. The great thing about Frinton is seeing the same families every summer over the decades, the young of the sixties now being the grandparents and the sandcastle rituals carrying on just as before! Who can build the biggest and trying to defeat the rising tide!

So maybe late September Nigel, I will pm you nearer the time, we are both looking forward to meeting you and Ann in person.

Up spaw, sending love xxx

much love to all the crew

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Aug 13 - 09:11 PM

Hello, fellow crew members. I hope you are all in good spirits in spite of the challenges some continue to face. Fair weather or foul, let's keep this ship afloat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Aug 13 - 05:18 AM

ChanteyLass, your cheery greeting has brightened up my Wednesday morning no end! Also helped by the fact that the sun continues to shine, here in London. So are we in good spirits? I think 'yes' is the answer, a little muted perhaps, but 'yes', nonetheless.
          Ann & I are planning to visit our other daughter & her Family in Charlotte NC around Thanksgiving time. We tried to organise this last year, but circumstances made the trip impossible. Hopefully, this year it will go ahead. Do any American Crew Members live within striking distance of Charlotte & if so, would some sort of a get together be possible/desirable? I don't have firm dates yet, but will post as soon as I do.
                               Much Love, Hugs & Kisses,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 28 Aug 13 - 04:48 PM

My mum passed away in May. My aunt Gracie had to move to a nursing home as she has dementia. Thing is, she will go for more than a week perfect normal but then fades out. No one told her mom passed away. Her brothers ordered us not to in no uncertain terms. Mom and Gracie were joined at the hip. They were sisters that never were apart for more than a few days. She is now calling us wanting to talk to mom.
I can't even visit her as I cannot lie to her ... My God what a mess. I think it is not right but her brothers are the ones that have the power of attorney and health proxies. If I tell her ... family chaos

I am lost .. I hate this .. I lost two mom's

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Aug 13 - 06:33 PM

Dan, it's not real easy to know what to say about that. Sometimes with a dementia patient, each time you tell them that a loved one has died, they will suffer serious grief...and then, before long, want to talk to that person again anyhow. One would have to know your aunts personal condition right at this point, to judge what would be best for her, and even then it might be hard to say.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Aug 13 - 08:46 PM

sending love & good wishes

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Aug 13 - 08:58 PM

Oh my! That is truly rough, Dan. But, if she thinks of you the way you think of her, visit. And, when she asks, lie? Tell her whatever... tell he yer Mum has a flu and would like to visit but does not want to pass on the flu but she'll be in touch when she is better and then change the subject? You could tell her the truth, but, as has been said... gosh. That's a rough one. As rough as they come.

Dear me. I feel your pain, Dan. My "advice" above is pathetic because I am just grasping at ideas. I hope someone herein can provide something better than my thoughts.

Thanks for sharing, Dan. It's something all of us should think about and banter and brainstorm about.

I may not be able to help in a tangible way, but I am here alongside this wonderful crew of sailors and it gives me solace to sail with them. If nothing else, Dan, I hope it does the same for you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Aug 13 - 09:31 PM

Dan, I agree with Frogprince's writing that "Sometimes with a dementia patient, each time you tell them that a loved one has died, they will suffer serious grief...and then, before long, want to talk to that person again anyhow." I went through that with my uncle when he would ask when his wife could visit him. I finally learned to say that she was busy today (with others in Heaven, I thought to myself), but had sent me to visit instead and to let him know that she was well and missed him, too, and would be with him again as soon as possible.

Nigel, I wish I did live near Charlotte or could travel there to meet you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Aug 13 - 07:54 AM

Dan,do still visit your aunt, you don't need to lie, just move the conversation on with " I am sure she is missing you too" or something similar. My mother has dementia and never asks about my father anymore, although she remembers him, they were married 67 years. She talks about him and recognises his photo, I think deep down she knows he has passed away but after the first weeks of grief she seems to have moved on .However my brother had a heart attack a few weeks ago, he is the apple of her eye and saw her 4 times a week. I was dreading telling her he was ill. The first week I said he had car trouble and she accepted that and didn't ask again where he was.He has only seen her once a week but she does not appear to miss him.
Dementia affects people in so many different ways but one thing I am sure of is that they will never react the way you expect! Three golden rules, be guided by them, never disagree , and don't ask any direct questions. Very difficult to do but it does work!

Your relationship with your aunt is important to you both, just visit and talk about mutual memories , or just hold her hand.She loves you and will be happy to see you.

with love Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 29 Aug 13 - 10:21 AM

Thank you all, I cherish the advice
xxx

Dan

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 29 Aug 13 - 01:26 PM

When Judi's mom had was suffering from dementia she used to say that she was worried about Norman, her husband who had passed away some years earlier, because she hadn't seen him for over a week.

We settled on replying that he'd gone out and would be back soon, which calmed her down, and five minutes later she'd either forgotten her anxiety or said the same thing again.

Not sure there's a correct way of handling such situations...we just muddled through really. Didn't make it any easier I'm afraid, oldster.

Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Sep 13 - 06:41 AM

Dear Dan, I'm so sorry to read about your desperate situation. I can but echo Wendy's wise words & remind you that you have the love & support of the whole Rainbow Crew. Pete Jennings' post makes good sense too.
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel.
                                                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Sep 13 - 07:22 AM

Ditto Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Sep 13 - 09:04 AM

well said everyone.

more love & hugs to Dan

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Sep 13 - 08:54 PM

Yes. From me, too, Dan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: rumanci
Date: 02 Sep 13 - 09:15 PM

Onward,upward with loving thoughts for a stalwart crew pulling together. I took shore leave for a while - needed a re-fit! - but my heart and mind stayed with you all.
rum xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Sep 13 - 07:24 AM

To lighten your hearts!! We celebrated mothers 90th birthday at thw weekend. I had two birthday cakes and ninety candles. I was going to put 50 on each but my granddaughter of 7 said" No nonnie, you must put all the candles on one cake.So .............

The flames were six inches high, the wax melted and covered the cake, we spent forty minutes hacking the wax off!! The cake was lovely minus icing!

Mum had a wonderful time,but I will never live it down!!

Much love Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Sep 13 - 08:13 AM

Should have said " put half on each" as mum was 90 not 100!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Sep 13 - 10:28 AM

That's nice! Good thing you had two cakes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Sep 13 - 05:45 PM

memories are made of this!
what might be a disaster could be a delight.you still had your cake and eat it too!

I can understand your predicament , dan. sometimes it seems easier to be untruthful or economical with the truth.
with a prayer for wisdom through this.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Sep 13 - 09:42 PM

Haven't had time tø post (pardon weird symbols - rate of death oƒ computer is speeding up and keyboard now has a mind oƒ it's own) but have been checking in, rowing, singing, celebrating that whiçh warrants it and holding all in my thoughts and meditations. Sorry to no† be able to address each personally on the forum. Know that all of you are addressed personally in my heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Sep 13 - 10:26 PM

Wendy, next time you'll need a great big sheet cake!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Sep 13 - 05:59 AM

I love the (mental) pic of the wax-encased cake!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Sep 13 - 07:13 AM

Janie... long shot but... hold right Shift and press left Ctrl.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 04 Sep 13 - 11:56 AM

One cake good, two cakes better!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Sep 13 - 09:15 PM

The crew has been quiet for a few days. Too much grog? How is everyone?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 06 Sep 13 - 10:33 PM

Doin' fine here; hope that "no news is good news" for others of the crew as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 05:47 AM

Lovely morning here,

I have been trying to blue clicky a photo of mothers cake on fire but being a luddite could not do it!

However I have sent the photo to the mudcat page on Face book if anyone would like a laugh!!

Sailing on and taking mother to a RAF church service in the Cotswolds tomorrow

much love

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 05:57 AM

All things considered, I think Ann & I are not doing too badly. Yesterday was special & a first for the two of us. The original head teacher (an Oxford Alumni) for whom Ann worked, a wonderful lady now in her nineties, invited us out to lunch at The Oxford & Cambridge Club in Pall Mall, London. Originally, of course, a 'Gentleman's Club', now welcoming both sexes happily through it's huge & totally anonymous front doors. There is absolutely nothing on the exterior of the building, not even a discreet brass plaque, to indicate that 'this is the place'. If you are a member, you know the address & that is enough. Ann & I have never visited such a club & really didn't know quite what to expect. Despite the grandeur of the setting, it was friendly & welcoming. I had to observe the dress code (Jacket & tie...I possess one of each!), but other than that, a very pleasant, extended lunch, followed by coffee in one of the most beautifully decorated lounges we have ever seen.
          Back in the real world, we are approaching the first 'anniversary' since Jane died. Monday 9th September would have been her 48th birthday. She shares this date with her eldest son, so we will be celebrating, but in a changed & different way. Like going to the club, we don't really know how the day will go...a slightly awkward mix of happiness, tinged with sadness I imagine.
          Much Love, Hugs & Kisses to All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 06:21 AM

I am staring at the keyboard. I know that must sound poorly but... there it is. I know someone will have something better to say so I shall defer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 10:03 AM

You'll get through it, Nigel, because it's the only thing to do and it won't be the last such occasion you'll have to face. Think of the good times.

I'm taking some shore leave so I'll be in Palma, Majorca, Monday to Friday. On Monday evening I'll raise a glass to you and all here.

Hasta la vista!
Pedro.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 11:59 AM

Told ya.

Pedro... heh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 01:50 PM

it seems strange that we talk of celebrating the life of those we have lost.
and yet such a positive aspect may deflect some sorrow, and even worse ,destructive bitterness.
in your case ,nigel, it seems that being thankful for what you and ann had ,rather than harbouring a bitter spirit, has evidenced your caring and thoughtful comments on this voyage we share in.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 06:21 PM

Nigel and Ann

xxxxx
and hugs

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 09:25 PM

That's a definite ditto, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 10:35 PM

The first year after a death in the family is almost always the hardest. I am sure it will be a bittersweet day, Nigel.

If you haven't checked in at the "Not such a happy birthday to me" thread lately, you might want to wander over there and add some encouragement for Charlie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Sep 13 - 10:51 PM

gnu said - I am staring at the keyboard. I know that must sound poorly but... there it is. I know someone will have something better to say so I shall defer.

When my good friend John Dengate died 5 weeks ago, all I could reply to his wife was - 'very sad news - love to all. I have no other words at the moment'.

I still haven't been able to say much more to her tho we've had many emails & have met up several time, most recently last week when she gave me his ties to use in quilting. She said I'd expressed my admiration for John so many times over the years that I didn't need to say anything more.

His songwriter & poet friends have all found the words to express what I feel.

It's the same here.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Sep 13 - 06:16 AM

As always, your gentle wisdom & compassion supports & comforts us. Yes, we will get through tomorrow; there is much to celebrate, much to remember & much to be grateful for.
      Gnu, when you posted: "I'm staring at the keyboard........". Sandra, your post which includes the words: "I have no other words at the moment". ChanteyLass:"Bittersweet...." Pete:"it seems strange that we talk of celebrating the life of those we have lost". Wendy, your hugs & kisses. Pete J., enjoy your shore leave. Your toast is reciprocated.
      Each of these fragments come together to form a single entity which is tangible, embraceable & so meaningful.
      The sea is calm & there is just enough wind to fill the sails. Onwards we voyage......
                               With Love, Hugs & Kisses,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 13 - 07:15 AM

I think you have just filled the sails with more than enough wind, Nigel. Thank you, and others. Onward...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Sep 13 - 08:28 AM

Still aboard, humming softly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Sep 13 - 10:43 AM

Me too Janie......The 'Cat has been so slow lately that I haven't waited it out and not bothered trying repeatedly. Glad I made it today!

This thread is always close to my heart. I have seen some postings by Wendy on FB and greatly enjoyed her pictures and have touched some other bases as well but it frankly pisses me that this site seems to have slowed down so much and become less useable than I can ever recall. I think it bothers me more now than before because of this thread............

I'm okay. Things have developed into a pattern of sorts with the treatment. And that makes me think of Nigel's comments above.

My Mom and I were very close and when she died I was 18 and in college 250 miles away. We'd been expecting this for a long while but my Mom was always very positive to everyone except perhaps my Dad who played along with her attitude towards the outside world. When I got back home finally late in the night, Dad and I talked for several hours. The one thing he said that struck me then and now was, "Not a day will go by that you don't think of her."   He was more than right.

At first it was so far out in front of my thoughts it was painful. But as the grief process took place the pain lessened and some happiness in her memories took over. The dates of importance began to kick in and again at first they were at best bittersweet but as time passed two things happened. The daily thoughts still occurred as they do even today but they are brief thoughts relating to something or nothing....brief thoughts that bring me a warm feeling. Special dates became more numerous and they came with happier memories and limited sadness or melancholy. Those times which at first caused me so much pain became more numerous and gave me real joy in the stories I recalled of her. Now I value those special days as times I can tell stories about her and bring her back to people who never knew her. And she's back without tears and often with smiles and laughter.

Same thing when my Dad died a few years later. And as I've gotten older and lost close friends, they too have entered the pattern. Awhile back I wondered if perhaps I was too involved with dead folks so I asked Karen and a couple of others if this might be the case. They didn't think so and had never really noticed. They just enjoyed the stories most of which had me as the "butt of the joke."

I have no idea if any of the above makes sense in any way. If it does I'm glad and if it doesn't simply write it off as the ravings of a lunatic mind .............

I love you all!



Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 08 Sep 13 - 01:49 PM

Wendy, I've been admiring the light too. There is such clarity to the air and the colors and the sharpness of the mountains against the sky. I found myself telling someone this morning that it is 'Autumn air'. And perhaps it is.

Nigel, you and your family will be in our thoughts tomorrow. I find anniversaries difficult. The hardest one for me is the relentless slipping into the past. I have many happy memories but sometimes...

Two thoughts: About whether to tell your Auntie, Dan, that her sister has died, I once read that it is not to the old but the young whom one must fear to deliver bad news. The old have had many losses and have learned to cope.

And regarding your planned trip to Charlotte, North Carolina, Nigel, Bobert lives not far away. If/when you meet him, I think you'll find him a joy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 13 - 02:19 PM

Spaw... ya must be batshit crazy on accounta I understand and appreciate every word (of your wonderful post). Thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Sep 13 - 10:54 AM

I am there in spirit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Sep 13 - 06:35 AM

Ann & I made it through 9th ok. We shared some tears, sitting in the car as we were about to return home from shopping. A day that we were both dreading, turned out very differently. Jane's eldest son, who shares the same birthday, cooked (he has inherited his Mum's love of & talent for, cooking) an enormous dinner for 15, including cake, candles, the whole kit & caboodle. I received a tax refund & Ann's brother invited us to spend a week in Truro, down in the south-west of England.
                                        Happy Birthday, Jane & S. Jane, you would've been so proud of what your son prepared & how he conducted himself.
                                        As Wendy would say: "Sailing on......"
                                        Love, Hugs & Kisses to All,
                                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Sep 13 - 06:36 AM

I thought it very well expressed, spaw. blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Sep 13 - 08:13 AM

Very pleased to hear the day turned out well overall.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Sep 13 - 05:39 PM

Me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Sep 13 - 05:45 PM

me three!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Sep 13 - 06:50 AM

Wishing the whole Crew a very good morning, appropriate to your time zone. I spent my tax rebate updating Logic 9 to X(10!). Now all I've got to do is compose something!
         Quiet aboard at the moment...hope that is an indicator of 'calm waters' in every sense.
         With Love,
                        Nigel.
                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Sep 13 - 12:01 PM

a very good use for a tax refund

it's almost 2 in the morning here - I really must get to bed as I have the alarm set for 7.30 - I could change it to 8, but that makes a huge rush for shower, brekkie & the 9am bus ...

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Sep 13 - 07:41 AM

To all my American Friends & those from other countries equally distressed, my humblest, shamefaced apologies for allowing 9/11 pass without so much as a single word. Tax rebates & new software, that's what I was prattling on about. I'm appalled that I could be so forgetful & thoughtless.
          Sending you much love & caring thoughts, belated though they may be,
                                                   Nigel
                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Sep 13 - 03:41 PM

also neglectful, but belatedly wishing healing for painful remembrances of that horrific event.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Sep 13 - 04:57 PM

I recall 9/11. Can't forget. Not the shock of it on TV. I get emails every year from a lot of people I put up at my house when the planes were grounded. I took them by the truckload (Ford F150 - yes, sitting in the truck bed too) back to my house from the Moncton Coliseum to shower and what have you and have a proper bite. As many as a dozen at a time. I put up several families overnight who had small children. So did a lot of my fellow Monctonians as well as people all across Atlantic Canada. Home cooked meals and sundries of all kinds were delivered to the stranded by Atlanic Canucks and, a few years later, George Bush actually touched down in NS and said thanks. I think he was on the ground for nearly an hour. I'd say more about that but... you know.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 14 Sep 13 - 07:28 AM

Just staggering back up the gangplank.

Good on yer, gnu, do tell more...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Sep 13 - 02:00 PM

2nd that.stories of goodness in the face of evil are inspiring.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Sep 13 - 04:55 PM

Well... here is THE story. I did what every single one of you who has particpated in this thread would do... I tried to help as best I could. End of story.

Oh... there is a downside. Unfortunately, a number of children saw the Bodhrans on my fireplace mantle* and wanted to know what they were and I played them for them so I am responsible for spreading the Bodhran further. Sorry. I taught some of these children, and two adults, Hran by email and they are pretty damn good now that they are teenagers and beyond.

* The altar.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Sep 13 - 11:12 PM

That little "alter" makes a very appealing picture, gnu. : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 06:04 AM

Thank you, froggy. Only the Hrans remain. Arthritis. Couldn't sell the Hrans... nobody would buy em.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 07:17 AM

The pictures on the TV news of the appalling floods in Colorado are distressing & very worrying to view. Do we have any Colorado Crew Members & for that matter, Colorado Catters & if so, are you safe & well? I appreciate that any info. might have to be provided secondhand, but first or secondhand, is everyone ok?
                                                             With Love & Concern,
                                                                                             Nigel.
                                                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 08:33 AM

As far as I know, Nigel, any Coloradian 'Catter's are safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 09:11 AM

Cami Sue has relatives there and she's posted on FB that things are very tough but their houses were okay although numerous outbuildings and other equipment were lost.

Sorry I've been posting a bit less but 3D has taken some time that was unexpected and a bit out of the norm. All's well, just a bit busy. The nice thing is that I check in here and keep finding we are sailing on a beam reach in a fair breeze.........Kinda' nice ain't it?

Monday begins another chemo week and they have pretty well fallen into a pattern....***sigh***....but they also are helping out and I feel better and haven't had blood since early April, about 6 months.

Let's enjoy this point of sail while we can. Squalls can come up quickly and there are too many oil tankers who don't have much concern about small sailing craft. LOL.....This thread keeps me coming here and you all are in my thoughts every day.

Enjoy them all!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 09:33 AM

Yo, Spaw, good to hear from you. Love the attitude, bud. I am having a hard time to post??? and navigate around this page???

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 09:45 AM

some of them tankers been dumping sludge and muddying the waters?.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Sep 13 - 09:52 PM

Good to hear from you, Spaw, and I hope you do well next week, too.

I have been meaning to ask what Nigel asked--about 'Catters in CO, but usually when I think of it I'm not at my computer, and when I am at the computer I'm so tired my mind almost goes blank!. Thanks, Janie and Spaw, for news about folks in CO. I have been thinking mostly about Katlaughing's family there.

Gnu, thank you and all others around the world who helped people who were stranded during 9/11.

I was at work, teaching second graders that day. Anothe teacher came to my classroom door and asked me to come into the hallway for a minute. Then she told me what had happened. Throughout the morning I debated what I should tell my students and when. Right before lunch I knew they would be eating with children from other classes, and I had no idea what they had been told and what they would tell my children, so I told them briefly and matter-of-factly what had happened and reminded them that they were safe and if they wanted to see me during lunch and recess they could. None did. Throughout the day the classroom intercoms were filled with announcements for one child after another to come to the office for early dismissal as anxious parents took their children home. Not one parent came for any child in my class. I hope that was because they trusted me to care for their children. When I got home there were two messages on my answering machine: one from my son (already married and himself a dad), and one from my penpal-since-childhood friend in Lincolnshire, UK. While both figured I was safe, they wanted to make sure that I was okay emotionally, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Sep 13 - 04:28 AM

Good morning, just put a pot of coffee on if you would like to join me....

we were away for the weekend celebrating my cousin's 70th birthday. We took mother and stayed overnight, the first time we have taken her away for two and a half years!Must admit I was rather nervous to see how she would cope being in a different house, 200 miles in the car, and comfort stops at the motorway services. (But she met Pudsey bear at Fleet and we took a photo! )

All my eight cousins were at the party and they were so supportive , they took over and Billy and I were able to relax and enjoy ourselves. I didn't get to bed till the early hours, such fun. Mum said she woke up and thought" this isn't my room" but when she saw her clothes hanging on the wardrobe she knew she was ok!!

Yesterday my cousins son took us to a lovely restaurant in Salisbury for brunch and mum coped really well.It has made me think that we could maybe do more outings if we have other people with us to help.

Today we are having tea with our beautiful granddaughter Bunny, she is 7 today. How she changed our lives seven years ago, what joy and happiness little ones bring! Being with my cousins and some of their grandchildren made me think how the next generations will carry on the love and family ties that my mother and her parents instilled in us.It feels good!!

Have caught up with the crew this morning, we too remembered September the 11th and lit a candle. Thought of Billy's family in NJ and the friends they lost.

The sun is shining here on the Essex coast, sending love and sunshine to you all, specially Spaw, Nigel and Ann.

much love,
Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 16 Sep 13 - 12:36 PM

Though I don't post much, I still check in here, to this place of comfort and caring, with hope for calm seas for all. Spaw, thinking of you as you begin another round, wishing you comfort and healing. Nigel, as always, peace and kind regards to you and Ann, as you continue the journey, and to everyone, a good day and a good week.
KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Sep 13 - 01:13 PM

Wendy.... wonderful! Thanks for sharing. I did not cry but I am blinking a lot while I type.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Sep 13 - 06:14 AM

That was refreshing. As is this.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Sep 13 - 12:36 PM

I guess just about everyone remembers where they were at the time. I was driving a truck round the London orbital motorway when I heard it on the radio. it took some time before I realized that this was actually happening as cindy kent was relaying what was happening. at first I thought premier radio was broadcasting a drama - such was the unbelievable horror - of what was being relayed.

lovely account of your trip, wendy.
blessings all. pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Sep 13 - 04:24 PM

Wendy, I'm pleased to read that your trip went so well. I hope that you are able to do more outings. I had seen on Facebook's Mudcat page that you (at least I thought it was you) had something you wanted to post here, so I was concerned, but now I'm relieved. I wondered who else might be needing this thread. It's good to meet all of you here again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Sep 13 - 08:35 PM

love to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Sep 13 - 09:44 PM

Lovely, Wendy. Gladdens the heart and fills the sails.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Sep 13 - 06:51 AM

I can but echo what everyone has said about Wendy's post. Uplifting, heartwarming & so full of love & compassion.
       As always, this thread is a joy to read. Checking in every day is as much a part of my daily routine as brushing my teeth! Life really would not be the same without it, i.e. the thread & the whole Mudcat experience.
                                             With Love,
                                                            Nigel
                                                            xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 20 Sep 13 - 05:55 AM

Just checking in. Last week in Mallorca it was a bit too hot, back here in England however...still, at least we can get a good cuppa!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Sep 13 - 07:13 AM

Please keep kind Charlie in mind:
*****
Subject: RE: BS: Not such a happy birthday to me
From: fat B****rd - PM
Date: 19 Sep 13 - 03:17 PM

I'm sorry to have to tell you, my fiends, that the Doctors have few options to help Ann much now. Transplant surgery is always risky and Ann does not have much time left.
I'll do my best but it would be more difficult without your suport.
I'll keep you posted, thank you. Charlie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Sep 13 - 07:21 AM

I could never go there, Pete... "Discover 257 things to do & 1238 places to stay..." Sounds too busy for me. Especially if it's hot.

My thoughts are of Charlie (fat B****rd) and Ann. Hang tough.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Sep 13 - 07:43 AM

Charlie. Thinking of you and Ann

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Eldergirl
Date: 20 Sep 13 - 12:17 PM

God bless and keep you, Charlie and Ann. Peace and kindness to you both.
I know I'm a newbie here but have been reading through this whole thread over the past week or so, heartbreaking and heart-lifting in equal measure, no not equal, the lifting wins, you guys are a wonderful crew. Blessings always, xx el

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Sep 13 - 12:39 PM

For those who haven't already done so, it might be best to contact Charlie on his own thread in case he doesn't have time now to get to other threads often. His thread is "Not such a happy birthday to me." I think you can find it here. thread.cfm?threadid=151393

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Sep 13 - 02:08 PM

Thanks CL. I shoulda done that. Just not firing on all cylinders, I guess. Ooooh, who am I kidding? I threw a rod and totally mangled he camshaft of my mind years ago. The only thing that seems to work any more is the exhaust. I am just a gasket away from the mental junkyard.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Sep 13 - 06:39 PM

Eldergirl, welcome on board,

you got it, the crew here are the most wonderful group of loving people you could ever want to meet.

Billy has been very unwell for the last few days, high fever and in bed.He insisted on going to the family party last weekend and has been very unwell since. We saw his consultant Wednesday and he said it is unrelated to his leukemia, all his blood results are good, but he has a virus?

So, what with running the business, looking after Billy and mum, I am going to have a very large glass of white wine, and try and sleep. Tomorrow is Sunday and I hope to have a day of, sort of, rest!!
Don't often admit it but I am shattered, lost count of how many times I have run up the stairs, so why am I not thin??

Hoping for a good nights sleep resting in my hammock

Love to all this wonderful crew

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 22 Sep 13 - 07:45 AM

Sorry I haven't been commenting. I have been reading the thread. Brain often not functioning well enough to compose anything useful beyond, you guys and your experiences do touch my thoughts even when I am not actively reading the thread.

On the Tam front - Apparently I have developed an asthma type reaction to the beta blocker Bisoprolol Fumarate. Itchy lungs and coughing so bad this past week my chest and back muscles are sore. This happened before. Going to GP tomorrow.

Still can't shift the swelling in my feet. The right one in particular. So evidently the beta blocker hasn't helped with that problem. Must force myself to by the ugly slipper like shoes so I can at least keep going to work.

One good thing. Very little angina pain the last couple of weeks.

On the work front - should I invest in the shoes as I may be made redundant (AGAIN) just before Christmas. Gotta love how Local Authorities time their restructures.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Sep 13 - 10:33 AM

Wendy, VTam... my heart goes out to you. And to others not having a good go of it just now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars links
Date: 22 Sep 13 - 11:24 AM

seconding gnu ,and offered prayer. God bless pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Sep 13 - 08:30 PM

Wendy and VTam, my heart goes out to both of you, and to Billy, too, of course.

I don't know how much those slipper-like shoes cost, but it sounds like physical comfort would be good for you if you can handle the price. I hope your position does not disappear.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Sep 13 - 04:39 AM

what gnu, pete & ChanteyLass said

love & hugs to Tam & all who need them

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 04:16 AM

All Hands on Deck, All Hands on Deck! Wendy & Billy need us; Charlie & Ann need us; Virginia Tam needs us; Spaw needs us & there must be others I've forgotten. Pray, meditate, light a candle, sing; think positive thoughts....please do whatever it is you do at times like this.
       I will be offline until the weekend (builders, electricians etc.)
       Leaving everything in your more than capable hearts, minds & hands,
                                           Much Love to All,
                                                                      Nigel.
                                                                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 04:22 AM

Dreaful lurgy strike! Tam very probably has a very nasty viral infection in lungs. Unpleasant, but not too much to be worried about. It is being monitored. Thank you all for good thoughts, energy and upliftings.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 04:30 AM

those nasty lurgies are always around.

but medical science beats them!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 05:05 AM

Brain groggy this early and before I've finished my first cuppa joe, but heart open and beating and arms pulling at the oars with and for the rest of the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 05:46 AM

mmpphh... ditto Janie. Football...TV... late.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 06:10 AM

Haulin' away with the rest of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 03:54 PM

Fer Pete and all...

Haulin in NF!

I absolutely love that short version. Did sommat like that with me on Hran and two buddies singin along one very drunken night on George Street (look it up) in St. John's, NF and got asked to do it three more times that night. (Ya gotta understand that, on George Street, as local legend has it, there are more pubs per inch of street than anywhere else in the world. That being said, FEW people stop in at any one pub for more than two drinks at most but many visit many pubs so the turnover allows what I said above about being invited up on stage to do a particular tune multiple times. I didn't mind... hey, you entertain, ya get a free drink on the house and maybe three from the patrons! Maybe that's why I am old before my time?) Ahhh, memories.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 04:58 PM

tommy caught another chest infection and was ambulanced to hospital yesterday, dangerously poorly but thankfully is greatly improved today. from past experience we know this can be deceptively encouraging. please God the doctors don't discharge him too soon.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 05:48 PM

Dear Pete,
         sending much love to you and Tommy, hope the Dr's are listening to your concerns and keep him in hospital until you are happy for him to come home.
you are always sending so much love to all of us, please know that we are all here thinking of you.

much love

Wendy and Billy ( who is feeling a little better today, thanks for all your kind thoughts)

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 08:46 PM

Hauling away, too, for all those who need it--Tommy and Tam and Ann and Spaw and Billy and . . . and . . . who am I leaving out?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Sep 13 - 08:55 PM

Hummin' the Volga Boatman, to help us all keep together on the oars. : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars links
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 04:16 PM

the doctor did decide to keep tommy in today and he seems to still be progressing, so subject to a good night we expect him to be discharged tomorrow. thanks all.   blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 04:44 PM

"still be progressing" Good to hear!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 08:49 PM

ditto

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 03:07 AM

Morning crew,

the sun is shining in a bright blue sky here in Essex,
hope its a sunny day for you and Tommy Pete,
thinking of you and hoping all goes well,

love to all,

Wendy xxxxxxxxx
( taking Billy to see Dr this morning,if we can get appointment? First day he has got out of bed and made the tea so he must be feeling better ;-) )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 06:50 AM

mmmm.... tea me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 07:47 AM

Haulin' on the bowline here...got my own worries but plenty of thought give to friends and strangers here.

Hear a cheerie song of harmonies from our own Sarah Morgan (gone too soon), Moira Craig, & Carolyn Robson - click right here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 11:06 AM

Sheesh, Maeve; women fully dressed head to toe, not even dancing...what kind of an excuse for entertainment is that???

(That's real purty; thankee, ma'am)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 01:55 PM

froggy be bad! if you want THAT kind stuff, go to www.benakednakednaked.com

Thanks m... that's great stuff and I gonna share that in a group I am in on Facebook. These guys are mostly into Rock big time but I throw everything folk at them. It's the least I can do to attempt to broaden their horizons. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 08:32 PM

Lovely, maeve. Hauling along beside, for and with you and all the rest of the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 08:59 PM

Yes, lovely harmonies, Maeve, and I'm thinking of you.

Good news that Billybob felt well enough to get up and make tea.

Waiting for news about Tommy.

And of course still concerned about Tam and Charlie's Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 07:31 AM

Charlie said he would check in on his thread later today. So will I.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 06:27 PM

yes, tommy home yesterday and generally recovering today, though he was a bit poorly in bed this evening. thanks for asking.

glad billy feeling better.

I did post on charlies thread- hard times.

blessings all. pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 07:26 AM

Hard times indeed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 08:56 AM

I'm glad that Tommy is home. I'm sending love to both of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 01:20 PM

As am I. I like maeve and Janie "haulin" line a lot. I check this thread a lot but lately haven't been posting much. My thoughts are with all and especially now as we all seem to be having some issues. Now is the time for that support we all give freely and need so much. I never think because someone hasn't posted lately they are not reading and caring. I know you are and I hope you know I do as well. This thread is the only reason I come here anymore.......

I'm okay but the past few weeks have been a bit rough. The last chemo session hit me harder and took longer to get past although the previous one was a breeze.....go figure.   Doing well now so again....go figure. The one thing I am sure about is this beats the hell out of how I was last April!

Okay Gang....I'll be checking back of course and posting more at least til the next chemo in Mid-October. I love you all!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 02:20 PM

Yay for Tommy and the Spaw

For all your good wishes I am in awe

Was on the mend or so I thunk

Until under fever again I sunk.

I was actually well enough to sleep in my own bed Thursday and Friday night without too much coughing. Was trying to give TheSilentOne some peace as he had work. This evening, I have fever again and sweats. Streaming nose is back and wracking cough. My rib cage hurts so much.

Not one to be ignored, my right foot is big as ever.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 03:17 PM

well put spaw, and glad that it's a lot better.
I hope you get some kind of respite, tam. must be very wearing, bearing continuous pain and discomfort.
thanks again for the well wishes .tommy steady but not fully well.
anyone wanna confess to watching x factor?. the 16 yr old temera is a friend of my granddaughter.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 06:41 PM

I dunno where to start or what to say. Just came from Charlie's thread. Before that, kat's ashes thread.

Happy for the good news and... I am here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 12:04 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 11:37 AM

A song for us all from Ed Trickett and friends:

Hymn Song

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 11:59 AM

I sought comfort in music this morning, and know some others may also find it here.

Snow Gull- Ann Mayo Muir

Two Fine Friends by Judy B. Goodenough- Ann Mayo Muir and Hot Soup...

Hard Times Come Again No More- The Chieftains

Here Comes the Sun- James Taylor with an amazing mix of musicianshonoring YoYo Ma.

Hearth and Fire- Gordon Bok

I'll leave you with one more link. Enjoy in the golden light of peace.

No Longer Mourn for Me & Culloden, Ensemble Galilei

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 10:23 PM

Spaw, I'm sorry your recent chemo was a rough one but I'm glad you are doing better.

Tam, I wish I had something that could take your pain away.

Pete, I hope Tommy continues to improve and is soon well again.

Maeve, thank you for the music.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 04:50 AM

Back on line...builders gone, electricians gone, gassman in attendance...no hot water or CH!

Echoing what ChanteyLass has said.
I've just come from Charlie's thread & it's there I want to concentrate my energies for the moment. He & his belovéd wife, Ann fill my thoughts. Powerless to do anything, but not powerless to think & hope.
                Holding you, Charlie & Ann in our loving thoughts,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 06:51 AM

Thinking of all, especially Charlie and Ann today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 04:33 PM

I'll join along in the big push for Charlie and Ann. I feel damned good today so I bet I can send some increasingly strong mojo!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 08:44 PM

Up yours Spaw! Glad to hear you are up for it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Oct 13 - 08:01 AM

Good morning crew. I apologize for mis-measuring the coffee this morning - a bit on the weak side.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Oct 13 - 11:20 AM

Still no hot water or CH, but that pales into insignificance when I think about Charlie & Ann.
Janie, the coffee was just fine. Can't take it too strong.
Spaw, you said you felt "dammed good today". How I rejoice to read those words.

A chorus for the crew: "In this windy old weather, stormy old weather, when the wind blows we'll all pull together". I forget the song from which this comes, but I'm sure one of you will remember.
                Much Love to All,
                                          Nigel & Ann
                                          xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 01 Oct 13 - 11:55 AM

Windy Old Weather?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Oct 13 - 01:39 PM

Just checkin in.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Oct 13 - 04:37 PM

likewise..blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Oct 13 - 05:51 PM

Off to bed soon, but just checking in........

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 05:29 AM

Pete J, thank you. How could I have possibly forgotten dear old Stan Hugill.... and the title's in the chorus. Do I have any functioning synapses remaining?
             Depending on your time zone, good morning, good afternoon or good night.
             Stay well,
                           With Love,
                                          Nigel
                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 05:44 AM

Good morning, sir.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 08:06 AM

good night!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 01:14 PM

and Good day    : )

Okay, I understand the reason for the Good Morning and Good Night in close proximity, but now I'm sitting here with "You say hello, and I say good by, hello, good by" stuck in my head. : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 05:04 PM

there are a lot worse songs to get stuck in your head-
oh, and goodnight!.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 08:32 PM

I know many of you are following fat B****rd Charlie's "Not such a happy birthday to me" thread. If you haven't also seen jacqui.c's "Good thoughts please for my daughter-in-law" thread, you might look at that one, too.

Spaw, I wish you many more days like Sept. 30.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Oct 13 - 08:51 PM

I just saw bubblyrat's thread above the line. Serious OUCH!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 06:27 AM

Just come from Charlie's thread. His most recent post is so full of courage, humour & love. The character of the Man is positively monumental.
    Off to visit jacqui.c now.
                                          Much Love to you all,
                                                                         Nigel
                                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 10:44 AM

I could not agree more Nigel.....Down the road he'll need us far more and I hope he will come over here and join the crew.

Side note...Except for some pain in the ass mouth sores related to the chemo, I feel better than I have in over a year. My current treatments cost about $13,000. per month but the support this place gives me is priceless.

Thank you all!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 11:25 AM

Spaw... "... I feel better than I have in over a year.)

That just made my day! >:-D

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 11:25 AM

Hey, Spaw, I'm not sure that I wholly agree that you have a pain in the ass mouth!

LOL.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 12:29 PM

UP UP UP SPAW. Blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 02:07 PM

UP Spaw.

from me too

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 10:06 PM

Happy Dance, Spawser!



I'm headed out early tomorrow afternoon to the Getaway up in Maryland, then over to the Eastern Shore to visit my sis, then to WV to visit Mom so won't be on-line much for the next 10-14 days. Heart and mind always present, however.

Y'all take good care of yourselves, ya' hear!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 10:28 PM

Stay UP, SPAW, or better yet, get UP higher.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 03 Oct 13 - 11:36 PM

Glad things are going good, Pat old friend....

I have been on a downswing lately...nothing major just coping with my own mind....it's amazing how things can go so amazingly well on some fronts...like on the literary and art front for me....but crappy in others....like in the personal front...but then I view this thread and realise that many others have things alot shittier than I...it's hard to remember that when you're feeling sorry for yourself.

My best wishes for you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Oct 13 - 01:23 AM

sending a hug to Amergin

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Oct 13 - 03:18 AM

Hugs from me too..........

thank goodness for the Rainbow, the best crew joined together by love and strength for others in need.

Sunny morning here on the east coast of England after a spectacular thunder storm last night.

Sailing on

with love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxx

Bacon and eggs anyone? Pot of coffee on.........

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Oct 13 - 05:19 AM

SpawPatSpawPatSpawPatSpawPatSpawPat....Gnu said it for me: "... I feel better than I have in over a year.
                That just made my day! >:-D"

      May you feel the same (or better!) tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, the day after that, the day after........you know what I mean.
      Welcome, Amergin. Any friend of Pat's is a friend of mine. Come & visit again soon.
      Wendy, the thought of bacon & eggs & some fresh coffee is tantalising in the extreme. I'm sure if I open the front door, I should be able to savour the aroma, if the winds are favourable!
      After weeks of inactivity, I've finally started work on a new piece this morning. Just eight bars of an intro., but it's a start.
                                                Love & Hugs to All,
                                                                            Nigel
                                                                            xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 04 Oct 13 - 05:34 AM

Years ago, sunny Sunday morning on a caravan site in the South of France. Went to the camp shop and bought some bacon. As it was sizzling away in the frying pan, caravan door and windows wide open, the aroma starts drifting around the site. Pretty soon there was a trail of people heading for the shop...

Yum, yum!

Up Spaw, up y'all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Oct 13 - 04:50 PM

I was in and read about the thunderstorm but it was too early to post. Well, make sense... at least as much as usual... you know what I mean. I'm here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Oct 13 - 05:36 PM

I am sure it will be another piece well worth listening to. nigel.
is it a commission or just personal artistic pursuit?
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Oct 13 - 12:10 AM

Hugs to Amergin from me, too.

Good start, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Oct 13 - 08:03 PM

its ten to one in the morning and I have a large brandy,

when mum went to bed tonight she could not remember where her bedroom was , and put her false teeth in her glasses case, heartbreaking!!

Wish I could sometimes just have my " old mum" back just so she knows how much I love her. Sometimes when her carer goes home she clings to her and asks " when will I see you again" as if the carer is the most important person in her life!

Just having a silly moment, will be better in the morning, I know that others have much more troubling times ( Spaw and Charlie etc etc )

Just thanking the gods and stars for the Rainbow crew, I know you share tears and smiles together.( Nigel, wonderful news , waiting to hear the new music, and so wanting to meet you and Ann at the beach hut even in the east coast autumn winds)

Better go to bed.

fondest love and loving thoughts

Wendy

xxxxxx

ps Billy is much better after 4 weeks of a rotten virus, if I can get a new passport we are hoping to plan a week away and have been recommended Cape Verde islands ????

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Oct 13 - 09:39 PM

"Just having a silly moment" No you're not, Wendy; you're having a moment that would make any normal person very sad. I bet a bunch of us would wish to be able to give you something better than "virtual hugs". Hope the getaway trip works out for you, and good to hear that your main squeeze is doing better. Don't know anything about those islands, but I do have a weakness for going to islands.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 04:04 AM

This for Spaw

  
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 04:21 AM

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             ;/_o__\   /_o__\;
        -----|`     ) (     `|-----
            _: \_) (\_/) (_/ ;_
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         jgs .'   '  :  '   '.
                '    :   '
                     '

Lifting the Crew of Good Ship Rainbow up on this sunshiny Sunday morning. I am feeling much better. Only the little niggling cough I had prior to the flu strike. Yesterday, I did much housework and today will resume while the energy lasts. Right foot only got a little swollen yesterday, probably because I was moving around most of the day. But feet hurt like crazy last night and kept me awake. Don't care. Feeling good about getting flat sorted out, clean and tidy before the winter blahs set in.

I made pancakes this morning. Anybody want some?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 05:42 AM

Am standing in the pancake line as I type (not easy when you're as cakhanded as I am!). Some lemon juice, but no sugar please. VT, it's heartwarming to read such an upbeat, energised post. Please keep back some of your energy, just for yourself, something personal & totally self-indulgent!
       Wendy, have sent a PM re. meeting.
       Sending everyone sunshine & warmth from London. It's beautiful outside today.
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 07:03 AM

froggy said it well. Matter of fact, I can't add much of anything to what's just been said by others save my good thoughts for all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 07:10 AM

Beautiful day here in Staffordshire as well, Nigel. I'm also in the queue - lemon juice and LOTS of sugar for me please, VT. Gotta keep sweet somehow...

Still haulin'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 03:12 PM

Wendy what you are going through with your Mum is heartbreaking indeed.   Makes me miss my Mamma so much. She is still cognitively all there at 86 years. But she is an ocean away.

My daughter Hilary has been through some major life changes. Turns out the fiance was not a very nice person at all and may have been contributing to her illness by way of causing her much stress. She has not moved far away into very sunny warm clime and in with friend from university. She has a job that is paying very well and says she is happier and feeling physically better than she has in over a year.

This news may be contributing to me feeling better. That stress stuff is a reall killer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 03:39 PM

Hilary... "says she is happier and feeling physically better than she has in over a year."

Tamara, that is wonderful news! Your current renewed good health is another welcome bit of news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Oct 13 - 09:07 PM

Wendy, I'm sorry about your mother's setback. I am glad Billy is starting to feel better.

Tam, your news is good and I'd like to see it get even better. Your scrolling messages are a delight. I have no idea how you create them and doubt that I would understand an explanation! Oh, and I'm bringing real maple syrup for those pancakes.

I'm glad some of you are enjoying sunshine. It's drab and misty here today. I was supposed to take a twilight evening cruise, not on Jane's Rainbow but on this https://schoonerargia.shutterfly.com/ , but because of the weather the cruise has been rescheduled.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Oct 13 - 05:25 AM

VTam... good to hear about your daughter and you.

The weather here is dark. Oh I could check it by opening the door or clicking on Environment Canada but I have to leave in an hour and I don't wanna tire myself out before I even wake up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Oct 13 - 02:47 PM

pleased to hear generally more encouraging news.
that clever stuff made me smile ,too, tam.
i'll have some icecream with the maple....
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 06:42 AM

I woke to the sound of wind and rain. Shuffled to the hob and put on a pot of tea. Looked out back at the pines being shook back and forth by the wind and a thought gently edged it's way into my semi-conciousness. CRAP! I raced out into a torrent of a million drops of wind blown rain and ran... walked as quickly as possible... to my Early Girl, gently picked her up and deposited her in the garage, picked up the fruit from where she had lain for Dog knows how long and returned to the warmth of the kitchen. Brekky shall be a bacon and tomatoe sandwich. I wish you all could join me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 07:26 AM

I've been away at a festival & am so pleased to read all the good news.

As I've just finished my evening meal, I'll regretfully decline the offer of the yummy bacon & tomato sandwich

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 10:00 AM

Gnu's Early Girl, for us non-gardeners.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 10:33 AM

Ol' Spaw sends out his absolute best along with happiness for all and with a special one today for Wendy. Our favorite double caregiver needs a boost I think.   Truthfully Wendy, I don't know how you do it! Take good care of yourself please. I feel for your Mom's situation. Alzheimer's is a cruel disease.

I'm freakin' great....at least for another week before I get to bitch, piss, and moan, about the side effects of Vidaza. Ten days of crap but worth it as my numbers and feeling better prove.

And finally, if you don't know Amergin you've been missing out. He's a wonderful, hairy, tattooed beast of a man with a heart of gold and the soul of a poet.

Looks like we need more coffee.....or at least I do. Never reallu got into tea.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 12:10 PM

Yay Spaw. Wish my news was as good. But at least it is not the Big C.

Saw a new RA consultant nurse today. My inflammation markers are sky high. Everywhere she touched screamed with pain. She is sending the paperwork for funding for me to start Golimumab. Will take 6 to 7 weeks to come through at which time Healthcare at Home will contact me to deliver meds and arrange for nurse to visit and teach me how to self inject.

She said something that no other doctor or nurse has told me. That the heart pain and problems I am having may well improve with the new meds as immune system is not merely attacking joints. It attacks organs too. Which I knew from reading but as no one seemed to want to listen to my complaints about anything other than joints, I just let it go. Assumed it was not showing in bloods that I was as sick as I felt.

So looking forward to end of November to see if this new treatment will make me feel better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 12:46 PM

Sending sunshine that follows rain to all on board today. I'm happy for those getting medical care and seeing the possibility of a holiday.

I startled my husband by laughing out loud at the irony of it as I checked online for the level of health care tax credits we'll qualify for; we are too poor to get any help with the required health insurance. Nothing. Zip... so I reckon we can't have any more health care. That means we'll be healthy, right?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 04:07 PM

heres hoping tam. blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,amergin
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 05:13 PM

Christ, Spaw...no need for that...making me blush and laugh at the same time....might burn my beard hairs red. hairy tattooed beast of a man indeed...lol!

Tam, I am so sorry to hear about the condition you're in....I hope it improves with the new meds.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 09:28 PM

m... I thought Obamacare was supposed to help everyone?

As for all the other posts, I have just spent three days in one day dealing with shite and, while having read the other posts and feeling I wish to commiserate with each and all, I just don't feel up to more than saying... I wish I could help all and sundry. I gotta go wring out my misery. Today sucks but it will be tomorrow soon if I can sleep this sum bitch off. gnightgnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 10:00 PM

Spaw, enjoy this week! I hope the next one is not as bad as you anticipate.

Tam, I hope the new medicine is a big help to you.

Maeve, I'm so sorry that the Affordable Health Act won't benefit you. What a disappointment.

Gnu, I hope the morning finds you feeling better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Oct 13 - 10:50 PM

I suspect the AHA will help quite a few- we simply don't fit the plan. I shouldn't have mentioned it and won't from now on.

Up Spaw, huzzah Wendy, wring away and take heart gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Oct 13 - 08:21 AM

Bright, sunny and very frosty. I hope this new day is a good one for all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 09 Oct 13 - 09:36 AM

Not happy for Maeve. Surely Medicaid should pick up where the ACA doesn't apply. But I read of similar situation with friend of daughters. She is 31, full time employed working with horses at very small stables in Virginia. Does not earn enough to get tax credit and is not eligible for medicaid. Is this a state by state problem where medicaid has not been extended?

Hello everyone. I am feeling tired but determined to go back to work tomorrow, though husband thinks I need another week off to recuperate from that flu. Yeah I am still coughing.

Hugs to you all. That's all I have to give today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Oct 13 - 01:15 PM

Tam, Spaw, gnu , Maeve,Nigel,Pete lots of hugs to you all.

Thanks for all your concerns and love, but at least I have my health,and yesterday I closed the salon, took a day out and went to the beach hut. It was the most beautiful sunny day and I was the only person down there. Had a good friend join me for an hour and coffee and cakes! Then I sat in the hot sun and read a good book, watched the golfers in the distance and listened to the sound of the sea.

So got home feeling recharged and ready to get on,Billy is feeling so much better, my brother saw the heart consultant who is pleased with his progress, mum saw the Dementia nurse who says for someone with such advanced Alzheimers she is contented, happy and very well looked after, so I guess that is a compliment?

We hope to plan the holiday for January, subject to live in care for mother being arranged and the Cape Verde islands are certainly looking like first choice.

So on the whole my life is fine compared to most of the crew, sailing on, and sending all my love and positive thoughts to all,

much love

Wendy
xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Oct 13 - 04:37 PM

God news is welcome!

Now. As for me, pay no attention. I was just in a bad mood and that is small potatoes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Oct 13 - 05:37 PM

glad to hear God news is welcome, gnu[?], but I suspect you left an "o" out!.
I reckon you deserve a lift, wendy.
blessings all.   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 06:38 AM

Guest??? But, it says gnu now? how did I lose my cookie and then get it back without logging in?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 10:55 AM

gnu, take your small potatoes, bake 'em, and stuff 'em...

with bacon and cheese...

A good morning to all the crew, from a cool but sunny spot in Michigan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 12:46 PM

A horribly hurried check-in. Rushing between hospital appointments (routine, but far too frequent ) & looking after our two youngest grandchildren (who live 60 miles away). Barely time to stop for a cuppa!
                                     Much Love to You All,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 05:17 PM

AHA! I was laptopgnu!

froggy.... JUMP!

But... that does sound tasty.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 06:01 PM

Sending love to Charlie, see his post Obit his wife Ann,

I know the crew will be there for him, that is why we are all here,

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 08:51 PM

As did I Wendy. And from here as well I send the very best. Over time I think we want to see if Charlie might join us here. I hope so...........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 09:08 PM

Tamara, I often think of you. I have some idea of what it is like to live with these still little understood auto-immune disorders from friends and clients. A cascade of issues, and what treats one symptom often makes another worse. Spaw, I'm glad you are doing well, or were at last post. Wendy, Tommy and all others, sending light and love.

In the gospel workshop at the Getaway, some one led us in a hymn I had not heard before, "There are Angels Hovering 'Round." Beautiful spontaneous harmonies arose on the chorus. When people come together in community to offer care, concern and support, we are as angels hovering 'round one another. When people row together, or join together in song, we realize our connectedness to one another and the great web of life. I am grateful for all this community, and especially to all of you who share so freely of your experience, strength, struggles, pain, hope and acceptance.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Oct 13 - 10:33 PM

Charlie's (fat B****rd's) obit thread for his wife Ann is here. thread.cfm?threadid=152456

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 07:20 AM

Turkeygiving Weekend here. SiL has invited us for a bigbird scoff tomorrow, drat! Sunday is NFL football, darnitalltaheck!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 08:09 AM

I managed to post on Charlie's thread yesterday & so wanted to post here too, but MC went awol. Anyone else have problems yesterday?

Janie, your words go straight to my heart. I'm imagining all of us hovering around Charlie & being with his belovéd Ann. I've said before that I'm not a 'God fearing man', but Janie you've struck a powerful chord, deep within me...powerful images that are impossible to ignore. Tears are coursing down my cheeks for Charlie, for Jane, for all my Dear Departed & for the whole Crew's Dear Departed too.
                                        Much Love to You All,
                                        Totally emotionally overwhelmed,
                                                                                           Nigel.
                                                                                           xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 10:35 AM

I couldn't recall hearing that song, so I went to YouTube and found this version of There Are Angels Hovering 'Round. Lovely. I hope it brings comfort to all. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVQL5IpzgGg

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 12:23 PM

Perfect, ChanteyLass, just perfect. Even this Godless individual couldn't fail to be moved by the beauty & intensity of the singing. Thank you.
                                                                         With Love,
                                                                                        Nigel
                                                                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 02:15 PM

lovely song- new to me. already posted on charlies post for anns passing. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 02:56 PM

Oh yeah... 36 seconds in...sniffygnu had ta pause the YT vid. I said my piece on Charlie's thread. I hope that, if he wants to join this thread, he does so in his own time. I am sure this thread will endure until then and far beyond. How can it not, given such a compassionate, caring membership?

Sorry to anyone who might feel my last post flippant but a simple refresh of this page after it has fallen off the page is, perhaps, more so. I didn't post yesterday because I didn't have anything to contribute and not because it was down... it was up when I looked in.

Carry on. Smoke em if ya got em. Pass the tissues. I need more than one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Oct 13 - 11:13 PM

sorry, gnu, I need a new box, the tissue sitting on my computer desk has had quite a workout in the past few days.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Oct 13 - 10:12 PM

How's the crew? I'm sailing along. Literally. I was on a two-hour cruise on a gaff-rigged tops'l schooner this evening. By far the largest ship of sail I've ever sailed on. I wish all you all could have been with me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Oct 13 - 06:05 AM

Sounds lovely, an evening cruise!!
There are Angels, quite beautiful too, I am going to start singing it!

Billy and I took his son Paul ( my stepson) to my son's theatre in Great Yarmouth on Saturday. Christopher is the general manager of St Georges Theatre, worth a look if you google it. We saw Stephen K Amos, we don't usually go to comedy nights but it was Paul's choice for his birthday. So glad we went, my face still hurts for laughing so much.

Mum was looked after by a very good friend and was very happy, so we are gradually getting a social life back with the generous help of others.

So there are angels all around us , you just need to look!

Much love to all the crew

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Oct 13 - 10:16 AM

Ain't been on a boat fer ages. Sounds fun.

Laughter is the best medicine soooo, yuks to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Oct 13 - 01:09 PM

Today my best thoughts go out to Linn and Tom (Bat Goddess & Curmudgeon) and hope they find some peace in the current situation. Time is finite for all of us but although we pay lip service to that, we sometimes can't really see it til it is driven home. All my best to them.

As for me, I feel as good as I have felt in better than over a year! I'm on Day 2 of my eighth round of Vidaza and this time the side effects are once again different but somewhat the same. Best thing is the Vidaza appears to be working with better numbers as we go. A few days after the chemo week is over the worst of it clears and I start feeling better again. The worst days are Friday thru Sunday. This week we get to celebrate our anniversary Friday and I'm sure we'll just have a barrel of fun!!! Oh well......we celebrate something every day as I'm blessed with a spouse who is my best friend. Damndest thing is that she says so too........go figure.

All my best crew as we sail on......


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Oct 13 - 08:27 PM

Congrats in every way, Spaw. Yer an inspiration. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Oct 13 - 09:50 PM

Keep it UP, SPAW!

Wendy, good to read your post. I'm glad you were able to get out for an enjoyable evening with your family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 12:36 AM

Good to heat that, Pat, ya cranky old man! ;)

Glad to hear you're doing well at the moment...and congratulations on the anniversary!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 05:42 AM

See Me
Feel Me
Touch Me
Tea Me

Well, that's the way I sing it this time of the morn. I hope your tea is hot.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 05:54 AM

So many good & positive posts to read. As we say in that most British of ways: "It warms the cockles of my heart!"
       Ann & I will, finally be in Charlotte NC later in the year...dates firmed up, flights booked. As I said before, if you are within striking distance & you'd like to meet, please PM me.

Wendy, as Gnu said: "Laughter is the best medicine"

Pat, so pleased to read that you are feeling so much better. The timing couldn't be better, what with your Anniversary & all. Many congratulations to the both of you.

ChanteyLass, your sea trip sounds magical. Would there have been room for the whole Crew aboard? That would've been really something!
                                                                      Much Love & Many Hugs,
                                                                                                            Nigel & Ann
                                                                                                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 06:58 AM

Just checking in and sending good thoughts to all. Hey, Nigel, I used to have a colleague who lived in Raleigh NC (a hundred and something miles from the East coast) and he reckoned the seafood was fantastic.

Up Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 10:45 AM

Pete, I can say without fear of contradiction, the seafood in Raleigh is, indeed, fantastic. As always, I speak from personal experience!
                                                                Musically,
                                                                               Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 12:59 PM

I have often thought I would like to travel the Eastern Seaboard of the US in search of the AMAZING seafood meal deals friends and relatives have spoken about. Of course, if I really wanted to chow down on the best there is, well... here are the directions... take the ferry to Port-aux-Basques, NF, turn right, follow the sign to Margaree BUT ya gotta call first (used ta hafta, anyway) ta find out if the restaurant is open today and at what times. Me zon, me zon, me zon! I mind back in about 95 when a decent seafood platter would run $20 here. In Margaree, $8 and buddy, she was some shockin good! Lots of er in a Captain's Platter... salmon or halibut, cod or haddock, tongues n cheeks, scallops, shrimp, fish cakes. And fresh? Keep yer peepers peeled ona way downa winding road and ya'll see the holding ponds. They pump seawater inta the ponds where they keep the catches until shipping and from which the restaurant gets fresh fish daily... when they are open. Never better an I have eaten seafood from Boston to Nain, Labrador. (Footnote... seals come from the sea but they are not seafood and they taste like ****!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 02:52 PM

lots of good news heartening stories.   blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 03:27 PM

This is another way to cheer up someone in the Mudcat clan: Mudcat Secret Santa- Xmas 2013 - Join Us!

Creativity, perseverance, and an open heart are all that's needed...plus postage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Oct 13 - 10:04 PM

Nigel, the Argia holds only 39 passengers plus 3 crew members, so we would not have fit, and we are all members of the crew here.

Gnu, you are making me hungry!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 17 Oct 13 - 01:13 PM

Hello me mates. Sending all love and good feelings I can muster.

Sniff... not much to share as I've been wallowing in pit of homesick self pity that feels something akin to empty nest syndrome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Oct 13 - 09:11 PM

Please keep Charlie and his and Ann's children in mind tomorrow (Friday):
****************************
"Subject: RE: Obit: My Wife Ann
From: fat B****rd - PM
Date: 17 Oct 13 - 03:02 PM

It's Ann's funeral tomorrow, Friday October 18th, at the Dunfermline Crematorium. Her 4 sons will be carrying her in and her two daughters walking behind with flowers. It will be a service lead by a Celebrant and will consist of a couple of bible readings, a poem and, just maybe, those who can joining in with Rosemary Clooney in "You Are My Sunshine". In her own words we will "shuffle out" to "Always Look On The Bright Side Of LIfe"!
Afterwards off to a local hotel for "refreshments" and sausage rolls etc.
Think of us as you always have and accept my thanks once more for the good and helpful words.
Charlie "

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Oct 13 - 09:55 PM

Tam, hugs to you.

Maeve, thank you for the heads up about Charlie. I haven't got to that thread yet tonight. I start at the bottom and work my way up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Oct 13 - 03:47 AM

more hugs for Tam & all who need them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 Oct 13 - 07:16 PM

Last night Billy took me out for dinner to our local Italian restaurant. My brother came to see mother so we went out for a " normal" evening, very precious for us. I even admitted to BB (Billy) that I have been feeling very down recently, watching mum deteriorate in front of my eyes, it is so hard sometimes to feel (and act) cheerful when you are grieving for someone when they are there , but so distant. Dementia... I hate you!!!

We had a really lovely evening ,talking about the holiday we hope to have in January in Cape Verde, and laughing about stories of holidays in Greece when something silly and unexpected happened, after 26 years of marriage we have had lots of those!! So came home feeling so much better and full of plans.

Tonight had an email from BB's sister in new Jersey , her husband had an operation this week for melanoma , and I quote " The surgeon said it was textbook surgery but in the middle his heart stopped, so they could not proceed with the planned operation, he was in intensive care for two days once he was stable, they don't know why his heart stopped"

BB has four sisters in NJ but he is the only brother. Just feel I should get a ticket and send him home for a visit, his sisters love him so much and miss him every day!!

After his chemotherapy last year and looking after my mother with me I cannot even to begin to tell you how wonderful Billy is and I know he will say he wants us to have a holiday because he knows I could really do with a break, but I think he should go home to support his sister. I would love to go too , I too love his sisters, they are lovely, but it is impossible for me to just drop everything, my business and more importantly my mum.

so give me some support crew, if ever I needed you, now is the time!

Love to you all,( Up Spaw)

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 08:35 AM

Good news and sad news, Wendy. Hope it gets better for youse... and all herein.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 09:15 AM

love & hugs winging your way, Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 10:45 AM

The old adage may be "It never rains but what it pours", but sometimes it seems like it never rains but what it floods.. Glad that you've at least been able to sneak in some good happy moments, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 12:56 PM

How about a big Spaw hug Wendy? Think that'll help? Take one anyway! Karen said she'll send hers too and she gives good hug! Take it from me, I know!

Just finished Round 8 of chemo and there is some possibility that that in a few months, after Round 12, I may get a break if the numbers are still good. Now for just a brief moment, let me whine. Here we go. WHINE ALERT:

I feel like I've been shit at and hit. The one thing I do know about this damned drug is that it has no real pattern save for one. Last time for instance I began feeling rough on Tuesday but this time I still felt great until Thursday AM when the walls all caved in. On Friday it was the absolute pits and also sadly our anniversary. But we talked and hugged and Karen made a good meal that I could barely eat. I am so blessed to have her...............Now today the bottom has fallen out and THAT is the only thing I do know about the Vidaza. By Friday I'll be bad and Saturday worse. Sunday will be pretty blah with marginal but much needed improvement until sometime Wednesday when the curtain lifts as though it was never there. Damn but I friggin' hate this! I really hate every bit of it except my Oncology infusion nurses who are really wonderful.   And my wonderful best friend that married me 27 years ago. WHINE ENDS

Maeve, I saw that post of Charlie's the other day and also a post he'd made on another good thoughts thread running where he said he'd recently been the beneficiary and had to start giving back. Hope we see him back here soon. Tam.....Get better huh? (;<))


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 05:29 PM

I hope it don't pan out as bad and as long as you anticipate, spaw , and blessings on you for thinking about others when you have it so rough yourself.
no easy decisions .wendy. billy , I guess will have to decide, but he will know that you support whatever decision is made. blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 07:47 PM

Spaw,

your hug and Karen's made me feel much better!

Sending so much love to you, Sunday here now, so UP SPAW!!Huge hug from me xxx

much love to all the Rainbow crew and thank you

xxxxxxx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Oct 13 - 09:11 PM

Thanks for the call Spaw, all my love to you and Karen. You know if you need anything you give me a shout

love to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Oct 13 - 07:45 AM

Hope you at least closed yer eyes, Spaw. >;-) I only ever personally knew two people who went thru heavy duty chemo and only one of them described for me what you have decribed. I wish a better way to deal with your ills was already found. As for your "sharing", I wish there was a better way to lighten your load but I doubt one will ever be found so you share as much as you can or want to because I know everyone here will shoulder as much as they can for you.

Karen... yer a saint.

UP SPAW!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Oct 13 - 11:08 AM

and UP again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Oct 13 - 11:50 AM

Hugs to all, but especially Wendy and Spaw this first chilly morning of the season where I live.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Oct 13 - 05:25 AM

Good morning, crew. This will bring our ship back out of the fog into the sunshine.

Up Spaw! Courage, Wendy, Tamara, and the rest of us! One step at a time, Charlie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Oct 13 - 06:36 AM

well, it's heading towards Wednesday here - so spaw is heading towards feeling a bit better (tho my Wednesday & his Wednesday are hours apart)

so sending lots of love & hugs to spaw who definitely still needs them & to Karen who probably wouldn't say no to a bit more love & a hug or 2.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Oct 13 - 01:54 PM

Just finished shovelling Mum's driveway next to the house. Her backdoor is east of the chimney and that side of the house faces S30W. Fall winds are N to W. Leaves fall here in fall. The fall winds blow them by the chimney and they fall from the east face of the chimey to the east side of her door. This upsets her as she can't easily brush them away with her cane before she enters. Now, most people would simply accept falling fall leaves and wind but, well, I gotta shovel leaves. So I do. I am a good son. I gotta be. She's small but she's got a cane... with an ice cleat attachment. >;-)

Enjoy your leaves and wind.

UP SPAW... but stay downwind eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 22 Oct 13 - 03:39 PM

Gnu You are a good son. Your Mother is very fortunate to have you nearby.

Karen, thank you for looking after our old Spaw.

Spaw keep kickin ass and thank your nurses from the crew of the Rainbow.

Hugging Wendy and fat B****rd.

My mood has improved a bit. Lately, the right foot has let me put some of my old shoes and boots on. I wore boots at steampunk event on Saturday. I was happy.

Can't shake this blinkin 3 month long cough, though.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Oct 13 - 06:41 PM

lets hope that the cough condition falls in line too, soon ,tam.
never heard of steampunk.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Oct 13 - 10:00 PM

Wendy, Spaw, VTam, I have been thinking about you but found it difficult to post for a few days. I'm back here to tell you and others that while my posts stopped, my love and hugs did not. Wishing you comfort and ease.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Oct 13 - 06:12 AM

October 23... was there something I was supposed to do today?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 24 Oct 13 - 05:50 AM

Friday now so hopefully everyone's feeling good about the coming weekend.

Up Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Oct 13 - 08:55 AM

Pete where are you, its Thursday here hoot!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Oct 13 - 10:42 AM

Thanks to all for all the UPS! Well, it is Thursday where I am and I too wonder where Pete is....LOL....And if it is not Friday and Pete thinks it is then I want some of whatever he's smoking!!!! LOL.....Just kiddin' you Pete!

And yesterday was Wednesday and the curtain began to lift through the day . Today I feel pretty fair and getting better all the time. This damn Vidaza throws me a curve at every round. Some new side effect shows up and sometimes some of the previous ones don't. My numbers for the Monday following treatment were pretty good and that seems to improve through each session. I was told by the Doc that after 12 sessions and if my numbers are holding I can get a little time off maybe. This was #8.

Sorry I haven't been posting but those weeks just drag me out. My best to all! Let's sail on!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Oct 13 - 11:57 AM

Up,Spaw; UP, one and all. Off in a few minutes to take my good gal to the cardiologist. Routine visit, and all recent word has been good. But I'm going to pull his chain a bit as to whether he can see fit to prescribe some alternative to the statin she's taking. The stuff has some linkage to memory and confusion issues, and since last year's episode, she has a tendency to do quite a few little odd things for little odd reasons, without further encouragement. She's still "herself", and not at all a heavy care burden, but she can't quite sort details reliably on any task that's at all complex, unless it's stuff that's established by long habit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Oct 13 - 01:20 PM

just looked up steampunk festival.looks quirkily interesting.
UP SPAW .enjoy the breather, replenish strength.
wishing wisdom for the docs, frogprince.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Oct 13 - 09:33 PM

Spaw, here's hoping your numbers hold. Frogprince, I hope the doctor will replace the statin with something that works better!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 09:49 AM

It's definitely Friday today!

I could have sworn it was Friday yesterday - it just felt like it for some reason. Does that happen to anyone else or am I going barmy?!!

Up Spaw again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 10:19 AM

Oh! Yeah! I remember. I was supposed to stick a note on the fridge to remind me to go for my flu shot today. Saved a piece of paper and some ink. Hey, ya gotta look at the bright side, eh?

Glad to hear things are looking UP for some. I hope they stay UP!

Today is boiled ham dinner as I snagged Georgia grown greenie beanies at the Coop yesterday for $1.99 a pound. God bless America! On accounta I loves me greenie beanies.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 11:29 AM

I've fallen way behind, checking in & posting. Will try to do better when 'things' ease up. Best I can do at present is to say that 'things' are in a state of flux. Ann & I are ok, but there is much movement within our Family: jobs, schools, houses...too many loose ends for my liking, not helped by certain individuals shirking their responsibilities & expecting Nanny & Grandad to chase round after them & pick up the pieces.
          Nevertheless, you are all in my thoughts, each & every day,
                                                With Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann (Grandad & Nanny!)
                                                               xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 01:01 PM

Sounds like you could use at least a few hugs Nigel!   On the one hand I envy you both your "grand"ness and on the other hand I think, "Better you than me!"


Much Love to All......and I feel great!



Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 03:10 PM

Ah Spaw,glad you feel great, maybe all those Ups are working?

Pete, I never know what day it is till I tune into Breakfast on BBC 1 in the morning!

Frogprince, hope the Dr sorts out the " not statins" x

Talking of Numbers,after a week of dry lips and mouth, Billy checked his blood sugar this morning ( he is diabetic as well as the other problems) and found it was 22! Quick visit to the nurse at the surgery and a new prescription. So now do I need to prick his finger every morning? Men !! But we love them!

Nigel, bet you love being a "grand" just like we do but..........

sailing on

much love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 03:42 PM

Blood sugar of 22? Yikes! More people than not would be laying there still, or with muscles jerking, glassy-eyed.
At our house, fingers get pricked a minimum of four times a day, sometimes a couple of more times if the sugar level is being contrary.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Oct 13 - 08:56 PM

22? Yikes! However, I think blood glucose is measured on a different scale in some countries. In the US, 22 would probably mean comatose!

I know what day it is by recalling which yoga class and instructor I had the day before!

Nigel, your family members must know how lucky they are that they can rely on you! But it isn't always good to know that you are needed!

Gnu, enjoy your green beans.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Oct 13 - 07:05 AM

Glad to hear that, Spaw.

22! Hope it can get sorted.

Froggy... anything yet?

Nigel... ya do what ya gotta do, and can do, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Oct 13 - 08:48 AM

The cardiologist had looked over results from a blood sample from last week, gave her and EKG and "once over", and says everything looks excellent. As for the meds, we'll stay with the statin. There was really no question but that the cognitive glitches are basically from circuit damage from the extended "down time" last year; I just wanted to sound him out as to whether the statin might be a little more detriment she doesn't need. He made a pretty good case that, all considered, she is getting the regime that's best for her.

Off in a few minutes to meet some other folks from our local art association at the Flint (Michigan) Institute of Art for an exhibit of Toulouse Lautrec.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 26 Oct 13 - 10:22 AM

Lucky Froggie!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Oct 13 - 08:46 AM

Thank you all for your friendly, comforting, wise words. Yes, I love my 'Grandness'; I love our six Grandchildren (The UK 4 & The USA 2) to bits & back again...same goes for Ann too, of course. Doing "what we gotta do & can do" is closely tied up with the phrase: "In a state of flux". There is so much I want & need to say, but couldn't possibly in any public forum. I have to visualise the Crew, together in one place; let's say, the Mess Deck on board The Rainbow. We could talk freely whilst retaining our privacy (Time for that hug, Pat).
       It is not my intention to tease or tantalise, but I've said just about as much as I can without aggravating the situation further. Over time, it may be possible/appropriate to be more open, but for the moment, gather round, stay close. Ann & I need your Love & Friendship in abundance,
                                     With Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Oct 13 - 10:12 AM

want another hug?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Oct 13 - 11:00 AM

froggy... great news. Nigel... glad to hear yer gettin by.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Oct 13 - 11:20 AM

Hugs for Nigel and Ann. And anyone else who needs one. I've been sending most of my mojo to Bat Goddess and Curmudgeon in New Hampshire lately, but plenty of hugs to go around. And UP, Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Oct 13 - 06:14 PM

adding a few more hugs for those who need them

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Oct 13 - 09:51 PM

Hugs from me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Oct 13 - 12:03 AM

I don't do hugs. High fives, hand shakes, nods and winks, thumbs up, pats on the back, tears, sniffs, attaboy!s, n such. Hugs? Not for me. But, if anyone really needs one... (u)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Oct 13 - 06:11 AM

Here, Wendy made these lovely warm scones and I found a jar of jam in the galley to go with them - no sugar added, btw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Oct 13 - 08:07 AM

I brought coffee. I think there's some decent tea here somewhere, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 28 Oct 13 - 05:44 PM

Is it King Cole Orange Pekoe from Sussex, nb.ca? I am rather particular about my tea.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Oct 13 - 09:52 PM

Welcome, guest. Unfortunately, the tea you request is not to be found in the galley. But this is a crew supporting one another in efforts to accept life on life's terms. Sometimes, it is absolutely not too much to ask for at least the perfect cup of tea. We are not so far from shore at present that a dory can not be dispatched to refurbish the larder. Anyone else want to add to the grocery list?

In the meantime, how about leading us in a song with a rousing chorus, or one conducive to sweet harmony? 'twill perhaps make the cup in front of you taste less bitter than it might otherwise taste, and take one's mind off of seasickness.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 07:26 AM

laptopgnu "Is it King Cole Orange Pekoe from Sussex, nb.ca? I am rather particular about my tea." My bad.

A song... can't sing. Just woke up. Need tea. You start and I'll mumble along a bit later.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 08:00 AM

The posts on page 55 are some of the most playful I've read for a while. Somehow, we manage to get the balance just about right...serious when we need to be, but never averse to the callings of our inner child. It's one of the many aspects that makes our thread the sanctuary it has become,
                  Much Love to You All,
                                                 Nigel.
                                                 xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 11:44 AM

Afternoon crew,

my daughter was in London over the weekend ( had tickets for X factor, don't ask !! But she saw someone called Ga Ga??)

Anyhow she popped into Fortnum and Mason for tea and brought me a lovely box of macaroons, num num. I am happy to share......

with love

Wendy xxxxxxxxx
Oh and Billy has got his blood sugar down to 9 Hoorah!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 12:46 PM

My vote for the ship's biscuit is chocolate covered coconut macaroons (Mrs Crimbles). And a cup of TyPhoo tea.

Yum yum.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 02:14 PM

9! Wonderful news.

If I am gonna eat cookies, which I RAREly do, I gotta go all the way and pig out on shortbread. Morse's "King Cole" Orange Pekoe tea blended in Sussex, nb.ca only, as required by law. Well, in my Clan it is. Them there little elves what make the Tetly tea and dance around with bells on their feet? We are required to crush them like bugs. And that there Red Rose "Only available in Canada you say?" crap? Well, a story is called for...

Many moons ago, Mum, Dad and I travelled to Ontario, visiting friends and relatives along the way. We landed at Aunt Rose (yeah, I know) and Uncle Al's house. No, this is the stry about the tea, not about the Rattle Snakes, tho that's a good one. Aunt Rose made tea after supper. Red Rose tea (BTW, she had red hair). My old man took a sip and, in his usual demure, shy manner, asked Aunt Rose, "What the hell is that?" She told him. "How many bags did you use?" She told him. Up and out to the trunk of the car for a box of 60 gauze bags of KC. He handed it to her and said, "I can't drink dishwater." You shoulda seen the look on Uncle Al's face when she promptly made tea for my old man. She wore the pants in the family so he was absolutely gobsmacked that she complied! You shoulda seen the look on her face when he asked if he could try a cup of real tea. Tension? Knife? Nay. At least a chainsaw. I could go on but youse all get the pic, I'm sure.

Hmmm... I have shortbreads in the freezer. And real tea too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 03:24 PM

ChanteyLass is obviously quite right as to blood sugar readings being done differently. Much differently. Here, 22 would mean so low that you might not live long, and 9 would be so low that you probably wouldn't live long.

If you put enough cream and sugar in tea, I can enjoy it. Otherwise my British genetic background is too far behind me for that stuff. Coffee I drink either black or with a little cream.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 06:23 PM

shortbread in the freezer?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 07:04 PM

Sandra... of course! ALL cookies and cakes must be frozen to be sloooowly enjoyed. Besides, I ain't et me a cookie since Xmas.

Minds me a tha story a the Xmas cookies. Heck of a story, that. This year's Xmas cookie story is already shaping up ta be even better. Mum let me in on the ruse just two days ago. BTW... it involves Macadamia nut cookies.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Oct 13 - 09:23 PM

I will gladly accept any tea and cookies being offered, and thank you!

If I get too picky, someone might toss me overboard!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Oct 13 - 12:59 PM

Will be checking in as often as I can, but not posting much (unless circumstances demand to the contrary). I'm very late with some new compositions & unusually, the dead-lines are not of my own making. It's nice to be busy, but it's going to interrupt my visits to 'The Rainbow' for a while.
       Come & join me in the 'studio' (My front room!)
                                                                               With Love to You All,
                                                                                                               Nigel
                                                                                                               xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Oct 13 - 06:41 PM

my daughter was also at x factor on account of her and her daughter being friends of the probably, front runner, tamera and her mum.
don't like to be critical but wasn't lady ga ga pretty awful.
becky and I have 3 daughters and 14 grankids, plus another girl we fostered insists her baby is a grandchild too!
being grands can certainly be hard sometimes, often holding it all together.
UP SPAW and all the crew. blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 31 Oct 13 - 11:54 AM

How funny Pete, if we had known they could have met up, my daughter is best friends with the exec Producer Beth. They used to work together at a production company years ago, and Dermot is a Colchester boy so they all know each other from years ago!

My daughter said Ga ga is a lovely person, but I really didn't get the Bridget Jones knickers?? Am I getting old? No already there! Hoot.

Our wedding anniversary today, 26 years, so going out to dinner and my daughter and grandchildren are " nanny" sitting. Seems life has gone full circle since she used to baby sit my daughter.

Will toast the crew with a glass when the sun goes down.

with love

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Oct 13 - 02:56 PM

Enjoy, Wendy. Congrats.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 Oct 13 - 06:28 PM

ditto. hope you had a lovely evening.
we may be getting old, wendy, but I like to think that we can think critically on music, but its nice to hear ga ga is a nice person.
a stage persona is I guess deceptive. I was watching some of the Hendrix documentary last night. now he was definitely a brilliant muso and he did not need all those stage excesses. and off stage he is said to have been shy and sensitive.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Nov 13 - 08:09 AM

A very good morning to you all from a rather overcast, East London.
Congratulations, Wendy & Billy. May you have many more happy years together.
New pieces are taking shape (slowly!). Composing is one of the greediest devourers of time I've yet to encounter.
                               Much Love to You All,
                                                                Nigel.
                                                                xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Nov 13 - 03:06 PM

but time well spent, Nigel, as you birth more fine music into the spheres. Congrats Wendy and Billy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Nov 13 - 01:58 PM

Hi, Crew Members! It's sunny but brisk here. As I look toward the shore, I see the brightly colored leaves have started to drop from the branches. Let's raise some canvas and get underway!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,laptopgnu
Date: 03 Nov 13 - 05:30 PM

The canvass. Our sail. That that fills with wind to propel ourselves forward. Our canvass is the empty page on which we paint the words that fill out hearts and propel our spirits forward. Raise the canvass UP! Fill it with words of comradery and love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Nov 13 - 09:18 PM

A much lovelier autumn than had been predicted. I've been traveling a lot at different elevations, plus have the pleasure of driving through considerable mileage of two lane country roads throughout the week. Mid September through mid October the fields and roadsides from the Piedmont of NC up through the tidewater and coastal plains of Virginia and Maryland, and the lower elevations of the Alleghenies were lovely with bidens, perennial sunflowers of assorted species, white and lavender wild asters, purple New York Ironweed, more late goldenrod species than any one person could key out, perennial ageratum, assorted large seed pods with their interesting shapes adorned by seeds with white parachutes, and the distinctive and early scarlet of sumac leaves. The trees blanketing the southern mountains of West Virginia in mid October were breath-taking on my way back south from Mom's, even on a cloudy day. The last two weeks here on the NC Piedmont, on my daily drive have been equally lovely. My yard is cleared of leaves at the moment, but until late afternoon, I had a carpet of many colors out there from fallen leaves of maple, oak, dogwood, hickory and wild cherry on a windy weekend. The squirrels have already eaten most of the red berries on the dogwoods, but they were pretty while they lasted. The berries on the nandinas and holly are only preferred as survival fare by squirrels and birds and will last until at least mid January. On both species, the berries are ruddier by the day, and will be bright red soon enough to bring delight to the eye just when it is most appreciated in an otherwise subtle winter landscape.

Each fall now, I am reminded of the brilliant and terrifying beauty of the structure of my sister's emaciated face and body during her long dying time, of the vibrancy and depths of her deep and stark brown eyes. I remember the suffering, but also just as readily now recall, after all these years, the beauty and affirmations of love and connectedness, of exquisitely joyful times during her last two months where there was the joy of being fully present and fully together, immediately with no holds barred. Like the dogwoods, she up and went brilliant in the premature autumn of her life, and brought the rest of us along with her.

I'm in tears just now - but they are not tears of anguish. Feeling sorrow, yes, but the tears bring heart's ease, as does writing this and sharing these memories of sorrow and joy. I feel the gentle rocking of the water under the hull of the boat as we set out from harbor, and love the sound of the wind in the sails.

A little local (to me) landlocked chanty.... Beauty Lives

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 05:24 AM

Janie,

How beautiful your words, thank you

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 02:13 PM

Ya know them there seagulls that stand around in fast food parkin lots waiting for french fries when it's minus git yer Long Johns on? How come their feet don't freeze?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 02:44 PM

it is interesting....the other day, I was on a friend's fb page....local Irish musician Colleen Raney. A friend of hers was talking about how her best friend's son was killed...a week after his 32nd birthday. he was a popular man. He was the bass player, a vocalist, and songwriter of a popular Irish band called the Calvinist Band. He was killed in a car wreck in Bantry, Cork. His organs helped 9 people...including his heart which was flown to Dublin. Her story inspired me....and so I asked for more information, explaining what I do....and I ended up writing a poem....

I showed it to her...and she loved it...showed it to his mum...and showed it to his bandmates...who all posted it on various fb pages...and so it's been going around Ireland. I made a video of me reading it...the poem references the Memphis Belle which was the focus of one of their songs...the video has also making it's rounds...

I've had many people thank me...including the mum...and it just blows me away, that my words can make a difference in their time of grief....I had not heard of Taidhg Burke Neff before his story was mentioned on fb. so my words have filled the sails for a family (and friends and fans) I never met...I am astounded....

Taidhg Burke Neff-The Lost Calvinist

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 03:36 PM

Ah..yuh...now somebody hand me a hanky or tissue or somethin'; that snuck up on me.

A lazy, chilly but pleasant day for us here on the Michigan sector of the deck. May the wind be fair for everyone's sails.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 08:16 PM

Janie, I wish I could have held your hand and your sister's hand. Maybe someday we'll meet and I'll give you a hug. Amergin, good work.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: rumanci
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 08:28 PM

Sorry not to have posted for a while but I've been lurking - good at that many may say. Thanks all for some beautiful words, thoughts, images and smiles and hope.   UP Spaw and y'all. Love and hugs
rum xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Nov 13 - 09:10 PM

I'll second that, rum

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Nov 13 - 05:06 AM

Some exceptional posts here. Janie's & Amergin's to name but two. Deeply personal, deeply moving, creating a plethora of images & emotions.
         Janie, you wrote: "....as you birth more fine music....". Those six words go right to the heart of why I compose. For me, it is almost literally like giving birth to new life, in the hope that one or two pieces might just outlive me & be remembered & performed after I'm gone.
       Some of you know already that Jane was my Step Daughter. When Ann & I decided to marry, Jane & her Sister agreed that 'step' was not a word they liked. To them I was 'Nigel' (Introduced to friends as: 'our Mum's husband') & 'Grandad' as the Grandchildren gradually appeared on the scene. For that reason, I've always referred to Jane & her Sister as my daughters & for all practical purposes, that's just what they are.
       My first Wife, (who I lost to breast cancer) & I were unable to have children, so, as you can imagine, Ann's two daughters were a golden gift, swiftly followed by six, Golden Grandchildren.
         At the risk of sounding maudlin & sentimental, the pieces I write could be construed as my 'Children', which perhaps explains why I wrote: "...one or two pieces might just outlive me & be remembered & performed after I'm gone..."
         I've been wanting to write about this for ages, but my courage failed me. It was an emotional step too far, but, for a multitude of reasons, now feels the right time to reveal a part of my life that has remained unspoken of for too long.
                                    With Love & comforting sense of relief & release,
                                                                      Nigel
                                                                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars links
Date: 05 Nov 13 - 07:54 AM

I would be surprised if your music were forgotten when you are gone, nigel.
my dad often comments that my mum never found out who her "real" dad was ,only finding out late in life that the man she knew as dad was not so, biologically.
I usually comment that the man who done the job was the "real" dad.
in similar way ,whether the biological father is still around or not, I am sure you are to all practical purposes ,dad and granddad by being the loving supportive person you are. blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Nov 13 - 11:34 AM

Thanks for sharing.

Well said, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Nov 13 - 09:42 PM

Jane was your beloved daughter, Nigel, and her grandchildren are your beloved grandchildren.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 02:24 AM

well said, Janie

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 04:25 AM

Pete, Gnu, Janie, Sandra....hugs all round & a kiss on both cheeks (old Family tradition!)
         The sanctuary of Music calls....it's times like this when I remember the 'good old days' of manuscript paper, a piano, some HB pencils, an eraser & a flask of tea. Truth to tell, I had to be dragged, kicking & screaming into the digital age (Thank you, Mr.Gates). My 'digital sanctuary' has, however, a 'reality' about it (if that's not a contradiction in terms) that sheets of quarto scoring paper never had, so, back to the Mac.
         Voyage well, my Dear Friends.
                                                      With love & a warmed Heart,
                                                                                                 Nigel
                                                                                                 xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 06:07 AM

Different art, Nigel, but I used to have a darkroom where I spent many a lonely hour developing films and producing prints. That all changed when they made a digital camera worth using (some of the early ones were awful) and it was game over for "analogue" photography IMO.

Digital vs. analogue photography argument is still raging in some quarters but with my Canon EOS1000D and Epson Stylus Pro printer I can produce great prints in minutes rather than hours in a non-chemical-laden atmosphere. Mind you, I still fill sketchbooks with notes and doodles!

Score away: the tools you use are secondary to the finished product, which I'm sure will be well worth listening to.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 06:11 AM

GUEST at 6.07 was me, sans cookie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amos
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 01:31 PM

Woes and strange situations, hard passages and triumphs of the heart...where would we, any of us, be If It Hadn't Been fer Love?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 02:00 PM

Hello all.

Some lovely warm expressions here by and/or for Spaw, Wendy, Nigel & Ann, Janie, Frogprince, and others. I am uplifted.

Thank you all.

Funding approved for my biologic meds. Going with Golimumab. Waiting for the home health care company to arrange delivery and nurse visit to show me how to do my first injection. Please be soon.

Pain and stiffness everywhere is pretty bad but I am still able to go to work. It is the overwhelming fatigue and brain fog which are the most difficult to get past. I am in work by 8am but not fully mentally functioning until 10.30. And wiped by 8pm.

Still, most weekends I have been chipping bit by laborious bit at organising, cleaning and ironing. Even a little accomplishment boosts my spirits.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Nov 13 - 04:11 PM

that's a lovely positive spirit, tam.
lovely helping of bluesy folk, amos.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Nov 13 - 05:50 AM

I am inspired VTam. Ihope the meds arrive soon and bring some relief.

Nice tune, A.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Nov 13 - 04:14 PM

Tam, every little bit is a win as you say

love form sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 07 Nov 13 - 07:20 PM

Golimumab...wasn't that the ugly little guy who wanted the ring of power so bad...

Whatever it is, here's hoping it brings some relief.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Nov 13 - 06:33 AM

Hope you are also able to make a little music, Tam.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Nov 13 - 12:26 PM

Goddss... Poor old Mudge. Big warm thoughts going out to to Tom and Linn who must be going batty with the worry ;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Nov 13 - 06:59 AM

VTam... Linn's (Bat Goddess) last update is far from batty. A snippet : "But mostly I'm thinking about what will make him happy and comfortable. I love him."

Says it all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Nov 13 - 09:41 AM

First, my thoughts go to Linn and Tom right now. The sure knowledge that time is finite is a very tough corner to turn. Many here have had to turn that corner and when it is between the you and the person you chose to share your life with............All my best and most heartfelt cares go to them now. We love you both Linn and Tom.

And now.............for something completely different........

The 'Cat is pissing me off no end lately. Slow, unreliable, and sometimes just non-existent, it wins the trifecta of crappy websites. I've had a cable modem for years and my current computer is very fast and powerful and yet this damn site which I have spent so many hours with for so many years is barely useable! I have lost posts recently and most times I just get tired of waiting for the damn thing. If I post to one thread it is probably the only one I can get because if it is the second post I make, well, just fuckit!

Well I feel better now! My best to all of you operating on the assumption this post takes and if it doesn't then ta' hell with it and I'll try again some other time. Of course you won't know that because this didn't load! If this site keeps giving it to me as it has can someone send some Vaseline?

Love y'all!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Nov 13 - 07:39 AM

Spaw... I open another window while threads and posts are loading and I copy texts before I do (beats using the back button to retrieve my texts). Doesn't always work but it helps.

Vaseline? Wimp!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 11 Nov 13 - 08:34 AM

gnu and Spaw - have I told you lately that I love you? Two very different and very special men.
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 11 Nov 13 - 06:39 PM

Feeling frustrated and helpless this evening. My younger sister called me - she's having a crisis and I'm too far away to hug her in person. Not a damn thing I can do for her other than that, but it would be nice to at least be able to do that one little thing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Nov 13 - 08:16 PM

Mojo on high for assorted Tams and Tammys, Wendy, Billybob, and one and all.
                      Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Nov 13 - 09:20 PM

My mojo is working hard, too, for all of you. Sail on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Nov 13 - 05:47 AM

Thank you, SINS.

I think you did, r1.

Rain, wind, cold. Warm and bright in here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Nov 13 - 02:23 PM

Love and hugs Ranger

and to all the crew,xxxxxx

doing ok here at the moment, have got an extra day of care for mother, so on Mondays I can go out with my daughter. Yesterday we made a Christmas log and popped it in the freezer, had lunch at Beth Chatto ( beautiful gardens have a google!) then took the little girls for their swimming lesson.
back home at6, and felt like an evening in the kitchen, one huge casserole and two apple crumbles to freeze, then a large Gin and Tonic!1 So thanks for all your loving thoughts.

Thinking of Tom and Linn xxxxx

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Nov 13 - 04:02 PM

looked it up, wendy.
some great photos on the site of vistas and seasons at the gardens.
reckon we might try and get there sometime.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Nov 13 - 04:50 PM

Message from my sister this AM that she is doing better today. Thanks for the support, friends.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Nov 13 - 07:17 PM

If you come to Beth Chatto Pete, let me know and come to our house for something to eat, the gardens are 20 minutes from us,Or any other crew members who find themselves in NE Essex.
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Nov 13 - 07:41 PM

Not long in, me, from the NE cold wet winds of the North Atlantic swirling, mixing, depositing wet snow on my nape, and then stalling in combo with westerlies from Lower Canada and southerlies from the US Seaboard such that nare a strip o wind exists and all is silent yet making exposed skin and clothed joints ache. A young man would revel in such weather. Tis a night to be in the DEEP woods to feel FRESH and ALIVE!... to have ale and venture forth in squinting darkness to explore what is and where it is at night on such a night.

Been there, done that. I choose the warmth herein. Thanks for sharing it with me. I mean, it's frigging nasty wet and cold even without any wind eh? Screw that! I am gonna have ale and cook a nice scoff and watch some of the comedy shows I taped on the PVR and crank up my furnace... NO splittin kindlin an startin yer birch bark fire. I ain't a pup no more.

I hope youse all are comfy too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Nov 13 - 06:03 AM

A found poem by and for gnu:

Gnu Snow

Not long in, me, from the Northeast
Cold wet winds of the North Atlantic
Swirling, mixing, depositing wet snow on my nape,

And then stalling in combo with westerlies
From Lower Canada,
Southerlies from the US Seaboard

Such that ne'er a strip o' wind exists
And all is silent, yet making exposed skin
and clothed joints ache.

A young man would revel in such weather.
Tis a night to be in the DEEP woods
To feel FRESH and ALIVE!...

To have ale and venture forth in squinting darkness
To explore what is and where it is at night on such a night.
Been there, done that. I choose the warmth herein.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Nov 13 - 06:10 AM

A found poem by and for gnu:

Gnu Snow

Not long in, me, from the Northeast
Cold wet winds of the North Atlantic
Swirling, mixing, depositing wet snow on my nape,

And then stalling in combo with westerlies
From Lower Canada,
Southerlies from the US Seaboard

Such that ne'er a strip o' wind exists
And all is silent, yet making exposed skin
And clothed joints ache.

A young man would revel in such weather.
Tis a night to be in the DEEP woods
To feel FRESH and ALIVE!...

To have ale and venture forth in squinting darkness
To explore what is and where it is at night on such a night.
Been there, done that. I choose the warmth herein.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Nov 13 - 06:26 AM

Hoping a cheery Mudelf will erase the first, now corrected, 06:03 AM version of the poem...and thanks for so doing.

Gnu, you are such a gifted writer.

We're feeling the cold here, too, and the edge of desperation that is driven in with winter's leading edge of bitter cold. We are grateful to have an excellent and efficient woodstove to keep us warm, a winter's worth of firewood in the cellar, with water access down there as well. I'm especially grateful for a working washing machine, yet longing for working sinks and for a shower, at the same time.

Do read the latest, suddenly peaceful post from Linn/Bat Goddess regarding care for Tom/Curmudgeon. That is Love in action.
Curmudgeon In Hospital - Nov 2013 [update 7 Nov]

Sending encouragement and light to you all,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 13 - 07:02 AM

Thank you, m. Just thought I'd post some drivel to pass time. Sometimes, just taking one's mind off one's mind for a moment helps ease one's mind. Mind you, some may be irked by mindless drivel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Nov 13 - 08:01 AM

This story seems to fit in this thread:

http://news.yahoo.com/canadian-makes-trans-atlantic-crossing-history-205255240.html

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 13 Nov 13 - 08:30 AM

Back here after another hiatus, just providing a bit of ballast and telling you all how much I love you! I am awash in humble gratitude, as finally I feel that I'm living a charmed life at the moment, with a beloved husband who tells me hourly how much I mean to him, a lovely home, a happy home-based business- so you are my family in need, and I send you my strength and my love. Wish I could do more.

Allison

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:44 AM

Extra thoughts and prayers from me for Tom and Linn as time grows short. Peace and love to them. And to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:00 AM

Second that, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:57 AM

me too..................
Linn and Tom, hugs and peaceful thoughts and love

Wendyxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 08:16 PM

Stopping in for hugs. And to ask for some good thoughts for Julia L, her mother had a massive stroke on Tuesday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 08:49 PM

(((Tami))) Losing Tom has hit me hard.

Thanks for letting us know about Julia's mother. I'll call Julia in the morning.

"Who Will Sing for Me?"

"Rolling Home to Old New England"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 09:59 PM

Thoughts flying to Julie L. and her mom.

Will post on Tom's obit thread when I've figures out what to write.

Keep sailing, Rainbow, through waters whether peaceful or troubled.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:31 PM

{{{Hugs}}}} maeve, Tami, Jeri, Linn and all who knew Tom firsthand and loved him.

Maeve, that is a particularly nice recording of "Who Will Sing for Me." I especially liked the instruments and the instrumental arrangements. Do you know who the band was?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 04:44 AM

Janie, according to the comment of the person who posted that file, the musicians were Doc Watson, Earl Scruggs, and Ricky Skaggs. My favorite rendition was by Merritt Herring, but the tape he gave me burned.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 05:00 AM

I'm more than grateful to Maeve for bringing Tom & Linn to my attention. I've just come from his thread. Another sad day. From what I've read, Tom was much loved & admired, both as a person & as a Musician. I wish I'd known him. My heart goes out to his Wife, Linn, their Family & Friends.
             Beautiful Music, Maeve, thank you. Thinking of you & trying to share your distress,
                                                                   With Love,
                                                                                  Nigel
                                                                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 05:16 AM

I've just listened to "Who will Sing For Me" again. An inspired choice that has filled my eyes with tears for Tom, for Jane, for all our Dear Departed.
       We have a ship to maintain. A crew to cherish. Onwards we voyage into a largely unknown future, but safe in the knowledge that we have each other. How precious.
                           Thinking of Tom & Linn,
                                                               With Love,
                                                                              Nigel
                                                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 03:01 PM

thanks for the invite , wendy. becky tends to be reticent meeting people she don't already know but if we do venture out that way , would be good to meet if she were agreeable.

every time I read about a loss, I feel for the bereaved , even when having no former knowledge of those involved. wishing comfort and consolation on the bereft. God bless    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 07:32 AM

Reading Linn's post on the obit thread brings me comfort and peace. Her post after the Pressroom session last night especially so.

Peace and love to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 05:17 AM

Allison, so good to hear from you. A really uplifting post that brings a ray of sunshine to some rather gloomy days.

Wendy, our day by the sea looks increasingly destined for 2014. We're determined to make it to Frinton (Many happy childhood memories of Frinton, Clacton & Walton-on-the Naze). Family commitments at present are complex & very fluid, meaning that putting something in the diary that's actually going to stay PUT is next to impossible!

Echoing Ranger1's post...Julia L & her Mum...sending Love & Healing Thoughts.

Gnu, the imagery invoked by your earlier post lingers in my mind. Your writing draws me in. I could be sitting in a chair opposite you, smelling & tasting the food (scoff, a word I haven't heard used for many a long year).

May the shorter days & longer nights pass quickly. I yearn for the Spring,
                                    With Love,
                                                   Nigel
                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 07:43 AM

Nigel and Pete,

The advantage of living by the sea, it is always here, and a warm welcome chez Wendy and Billy also, we have been known to have hot soup and bangers and mash at the beach hut in the winter, great after a brisk walk wearing many layers!! Sometimes is the best time as the summer trippers are gone and a deserted beach and winter sky can be spectacular. Short notice is often the best way to arrange a day out in this house so watch the weather forcast and pm me at any time! We have a few outings to look forward too, my son is 40 next week so we are off to a hotel on the 30th to celebrate. He has Giles Brandreth at the theatre on the 6th December so we are going for a jolly evening. Best of all I am going to the carol concert in aid of Children and the Arts in Sloane Square on the 9th with some wonderful readings by Brian Blessed and Penelope Wilton and others.

I too dislike these dark evenings, feel a bit trapped indoors if I am honest. Bless mum, she is deteriorating quite quickly now, much more confused and not as happy in herself. Last week she shouted at me and threw something at me . I know that it is totally the dementia and not my lovely mum but I had to take myself upstairs and have a good cry.However I read the letters that she wrote to my father during the war and reminded myself of the vibrant young woman she was then. I have finished her memory book it covers her life from 1923 when she was born until this autumn when she had her 90th birthday, full of memories from her letters, memories from my cousins, and many many photographs. The last page has a photo of Scarlet ( Bunny) Reuben and Prudence, my grandchildren with the message saying" nanny we love you this is your book of memories with love from all of us"

Mum spends many hours reading the book, she takes it everywhere, last week she took it to the day centre and the manager read it to all the people there, it stimulated memories and they had an animated morning remembering where they were when The Crystal Palace burnt down, what they did during the war, the fancy dress party when the Queen was crowned in 1953 and lots more!

I really enjoyed putting the book together and I am going to send a copy to all my cousins for Christmas, it is our story too.

sending love to all the crew
coffee pot is on help yourself

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 02:28 PM

Wendy, I suppose it is inevitable that your mother's condition would become worse, but it must be so hard for you to observe. I send you hugs and a wish for the courage to continue watching her as she changes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 04:42 PM

sounds like she had a great time at the day centre when the thoughtful manager shared your project and it became a blessing to other seniors also. just shows how a good thought can spread.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 06:01 PM

Thanks for the hugs, friends. I, and I know Linn, will appreciate them.

We had such a good session yesterday, with musicians from near and far showing up. One thing I know for a fact continues on are the connections Tom made happen. Friends we wouldn't know without him, things that happened because he was here. All of these things that occurred because of Tom make his life remarkable. He virtually built a community here.

He lost his voice a few years ago, but when I think of him now, I can always call up that voice. I can see the impish glint in his eyes. I know Linn has many good friends, and she'll be OK. The love the two of them shared isn't the type that makes a person need it.

No one lives forever. Tom had a good life, and he certainly made many lives better. Maybe that's how we achieve immortality in this world.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 07:04 PM

Jeri... he did indeed.

Wendy... as I said on your thread... wonderful. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,laptopgnu
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 08:29 PM

guest = gnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 11:41 PM

someone wrote about shedding tears for people we've never met

sandra (dry-eyed now)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 07:13 AM

Just checking in (and getting it back up top).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 10:10 AM

What is said about counting your chickens?? tempting fate saying I had some outings planned!

Mum fell getting out of bed yesterday, about 7.30. Our Dr eventually arrived at 4 in the afternoon, diagnosed a broken wrist and told me to take mum in the car to the local A and E. We pointed out she couldn't stand so the GP said she would phone for an ambulance, she was in the house for 4 minutes!!

The paramedic noticed at once mum had a fracture of the pelvis, the hospital at Colchester were wonderful. The consultant decided that mum would be best at home in familiar seroundings so we came home in a private ambulance at 2 in the morning.The care was amazing unlike the GP !!!

So I am trying to arrange 24 hour care at home, haven't slept for about 31 hours but mum is tucked up in bed with her arm in a cast and, more importantly, happy to be home.

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 01:53 PM

OH DEAR! I am so sorry to hear that, Wendy. I was about to post about how much your project has done and will continue to do and then read about the fall. I am, of course, happy to hear the ensuing care was good and that she's home.

Jeri... "Maybe that's how we achieve immortality in this world." Can't think of many other ways.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 02:15 PM

sorry to hear that ,wendy. seems GP's are a mixed bunch. my mums had mis-diagnosed her condition, which maybe reduced her chances.
on the other hand becks doc is so dedicated he offered to come out over xmas last year as tommy was not too good.
hope something sorts out for you, so you can get some rest.
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 09:07 PM

Oh, Wendy, I'm sorry! I'm glad your mum was able to come home so soon and hope that arranging for 24-hour care can be arranged quickly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Nov 13 - 05:29 AM

I'll second that

sending love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Nov 13 - 06:22 AM

So sorry, Wendy. Hopeby now you have gotten a bit of rest yourself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 05:46 AM

My Dear Wendy, I've looked back to the early days of our thread & read your first, tentative postings. Now, your openness, honesty & disarmingly frank disclosures bear witness to your great strength of character. Despite all you have to endure, you always manage to find something positive or humourous to say. You are a credit to your Family & an inspiration to us all.
    With Much Love & sincere admiration,
                                                             Nigel
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 05:53 AM

Geez, Wendy, it never rains...

Don't forget to look after youself.

Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 04:52 PM

checking in and wishing well to all the crew.    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 06:56 PM

Ok all, it is 11.30pm on Thursday. Mum is tucked up in bed with a lovely young lady carer holding her hand while she sleeps. Billy and I are cosy in bed with glass of wine and watching TV.

What a week, as BB said to me just now. we sat up all night again on Tuesday, but last night our daughter sat with mum and I must admit I don't remember anything after my head hit the pillow.

I have arranged pretty much 24 hour care, found a physiotherapist who came today and got mum standing and is phoning the Community Matron to arrange Occupational Therapy to come and assess mum and arrange any equipment we may need.

This afternoon my cousin Michael and his wife who live in Salisbury arrived out of the blue to see mum, they sat and chatted and she loved to see them. Then BB and I had supper with them and laughed and reminisced , it was really lovely.

Mum is very poorly, bad chest infection and very sleepy but safe and contented. She enjoyed Michael reading the memory book to her ( she was there when he was born in 1943 and he has always been like a big brother to me)We are blessed with a wonderful close family.

Thank you for your lovely words , this crew is a wonderful family too!

much love
Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 10:49 PM

Wendy, you should change the row of xs at the end of your post to zs! And I'm glad you are finally catching some!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Nov 13 - 01:43 AM

"We are blessed with a wonderful close family". Wendy, you can't ask for much more than that.
             Sleep tight,
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel
                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Nov 13 - 07:08 AM

Thanks for the update, Wendy. It's comforting to know she is so well taken care of and is content. Nigel said it re your family... "... you can't ask for much more than that."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Nov 13 - 04:16 PM

lovely to hear things coming together and you getting the needed rest, wendy.    blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 04:57 AM

I'm glad you have arranged such good help for your mum, Wendy. That sounds like it would be just what my mum needs. Enjoy your times of rest.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 07:23 AM

Dear Everyone, I felt an urgent desire to express my gratitude for your Loyalty, Love, Compassion, Wisdom, Humour, Selflessness & the dozens of other positive qualities you regularly display. The fact that so much good has been done, so much comfort apportioned, so many smiles generated, so many tears gently wiped away, bares testament to who you are & what you stand for. Your candour is, at one & the same time, breathtaking & profoundly moving. There is a unique serendipity in losing Jane & finding all of You.
          On 'The Rainbow', there is a door that remains permanently open (well above the water-line, I hasten to add!) through which all may enter. There is a welcome waiting I've rarely experienced in 'real life'. Good People thinking Good Thoughts, saying Good Words & doing Good Deeds, often in the most trying of personal circumstances.
          It's only four days until Thanksgiving. I give thanks for each & every one of you. I give thanks for what we've created. I give thanks to Max for having the vision to create Mudcat. A universal, all-embracing Thank You.
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 10:18 AM

I'd say something but I cannot possibly say it any better. I've been a bit lax in posting here lately but I have kept up with the voyage and the crew. 3D has been pretty full and a bit trying at times lately but all is well here too.

There is much good news aboard ship and just the camaraderie of reading gives much warmth when we are going through a bit of roughness and loss on the 'Cat. If I am less vocal of late it comes from the fact that I often have no words that could be better than those from all of you...........Thank you all for being here.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 10:26 AM

and thank YOU Nigel,
without Jane's Rainbow where would we all be??

sitting comfy by mum , who is having 40 winks in her chair ,listening to Classic FM feeling rested and spoilt as Billy has been shopping and is cooking roast lamb for dinner this evening.

Up Spaw, glad you have been here all the time just reading.

much love

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 11:23 AM

Linn, hold unto the rail tight, and know we're all still here hanging on with you.

Wendy, so glad you have the care reinforcement in place; it was obvious how badly it was needed.

The winds have been howling some, but this is a tight ship!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 05:01 PM

And Spaw said better than I could what I have been thinking.

Today marks the beginning of another journey around the sun for me. My son and his girlfriend drove over from Raleigh this morning, took me out to brunch and stayed for a good long visit.

It has been a long time since I had time for a life. A recent job change to a less stressful work culture environment, colleagues who actually do the same work and therefore understand and support one another, much shorter commute and fewer hours. Several years of fretting about my adolescent son, who is turning out to be just fine - caring, responsible, thinking - and the gentling and acceptance of grief and age related transitions in extended family and family of origin offer real hope that this next trip around the sun may allow for more "breathing room" than have the last several.

For most of us here, somewhat older and hopefully a little wiser, the holiday season is a mixed bag - a time to remember, miss and celebrate those we love, living and dead, a time to practice mindful acceptance. And more now than when we were younger, an opportunity to experience deep and conscious thankfulness in a way that we didn't have the life experience to do when we were younger.

I could not ask for better traveling companions. I am grateful to all.

Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 07:12 PM

And we are grateful to you Janie.....Happy Birthday and I want to "see you in 3D" in the coming year.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Nov 13 - 07:43 AM

Thanks... just thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 26 Nov 13 - 06:22 AM

Keeping our heads above water...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Nov 13 - 07:12 PM

midnight here,so Thursday in a minute,

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone over there in the West.

A time to give thanks and count our blessings . I do give thanks for all the crew, friends I may never meet, some I hope to meet, soon if possible in our beach hut,to retell stories that we have shared here on board Jane's Rainbow ship. A crew of loving compassionate folk, whose love of music has brought them together to form this wonderful family.

Much love and thanks to you all

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Nov 13 - 07:50 PM

Oh I meant to also say,

thanks for my lovely son Christopher who is 40 today the 28th of November .Happy Birthday xx

How blessed I am

Wendy
xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Nov 13 - 08:24 PM

Happy birthday to your son Christopher.

When I think about things I am thankful for, I, too, think of being thankful for all the wonderful people I've met on Mudcat, and particularly on this and similar threads.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Nov 13 - 09:08 PM

A most Happy Birthday to Christopher!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Nov 13 - 09:26 PM

Happy Birthday Christopher! Michael turned 21 on the 25th. Now we no longer have "kids"...........Kinda' strange feeling. Anyway.....

Happy Thanksgiving and pass that on to everyone you meet....Just say, BITE THE BIRD!!"

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 02:13 AM

birthday greeting to all

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 07:18 AM

Happy NFL Day to my neighbours south of the border.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 12:02 PM

Well,...I'm fine, and not really in need of fuss, but I have been in the hospital for a couple of days. suddenly, in the evening, I had rather intense aching all over chest, neck, upper back, and shoulder. Not extreme pain, but spooky. Soon got a little chills and tremors. Scooted to the emergency ward, just a couple of miles. They soon determined I wasn't having a heart attack. They found quite a bit of excess fluid around the heart, but not enough to do damage or interfere with the heart function. I actually felt perfectly fine by the following noon. They are kicking me out by the end of the day, on medication, to see a cardiologist in one week for another echocardiogram. Worst case, they drill for fluid.
The painful part, we would be in the air right now, on our way to St.Barts for our 30th wedding anniversary. But I already have revised reservations to try again in April. Gotta do other
things right now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 12:36 PM

I trust all the US crew members had a great thanksgiving. I heard that its bigger than Christmas over the pond. I understand it has a specific application but I think a thankful day is a great idea, that hopefully carries over after the event. the rough times can take the edge off an attitude of gratitude, but hopefully not for ever.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,laptopgnu
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 02:40 PM

froggy... you take GOOD care of you. Yer one a tha good ones!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 07:53 PM

Spaw, happy birthday to Michael!


Frogprince, I'm glad you went to the hospital promptly! I hope your treatment goes smoothly, and I'm glad you were able to rearrange your travel plans.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 09:01 PM

WHEW: Some of this day turned out to be...interesting...
At 2:30 we were standing there with all our stuff, waiting for discharge papers...
A nurse-practicioner was the first to arrive to tell us...
another cardiologist had looked at my records, and caught the fact that I have a little kidney damage from long term arthritis med. Said no way should I have any of the pills that might clear out the fluid. Plus, they want to see just what the fluid is.
We had already arranged a care person to shuttle my wife between home and hospital morning and night, and see that she gets proper meds and insulin amounts. It's been no problem for me to keep track during the day.
So now they tell me that tomorrow...sometime tomorrow...they will be drilling for fluid. Twenty miles away in the Flint facility. I call the care agency to see if they can cover the situation. I put down the phone to wait for their answer. I'm told the procedure will be done here instead. Call the agency back to tell them. Accidentally turn off the ringer switch on our wonderful new "smart" phone and don't discover the fact for a couple of hours. We give the lunch lady orders for both myself and my wife. This entails someone going down to the cafeteria cashier with 5 bucks for the guest tray, which my wife had been doing with no problem. Wife comes back with big batch of food she has purchased in the cafeteria. That was the least problem, but...
We have care arranged, and I have managed to climb most of the way back down the wall. Someone hang me a hammock in a quiet place aboard.
Did I mention that I love this crew?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 10:49 PM

Glad another cardiologist took a look, Dean. Sorry you had to postpone your trip, but thinking I'm glad these symptoms declared themselves before you left, instead of while y'all were far away from home.

Tie your hammock up right over there, and rest a spell.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 06:30 AM

You take care, Froggy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 06:53 AM

froggy... exasperatin day! I hope you got a good rest over night. Glad the second opinion came before you got sprung.

I hope the drilling goes well. (Yes, it was.) >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 11:01 AM

Humble apologies to my Family & Friends in America. Wishing you all the Happiest Thanksgiving Day. One day late, but sincerely meant & sent.
      Struggling with a few health issues...very annoying because they take me away from my 'puter & that takes me away from You. Nothing that I & a few Docs. can't handle, but I'm a few dimes short of a dollar at the moment,
                                                          Much Love & Happiness to You All,
                                                                                                                Nigel
                                                                                                                xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 12:34 PM

Dean,
SO sorry but so glad it happened before your plane took off.
One day at a time. Not particularly helpful but true.
You and your lady are added to my list of evening pary fors.
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 01:56 PM

Nigel.. I wish I could spare you a dime of health, buddy.

Yes, these are poor puns/references. Sue me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 02:09 PM

Geeziz Dean......Now that you're on top of the thing, stay there. Get all the testing they might want and the bet to the bottom.....tops-bottoms........Sounds like I'm talking about pajamas instead of health problems. Anyway I add you and to your wife..........wait...you've already done that too...........Look, you are BOTH now getting my best thoughts and then I'll throw whatever is left to Nigel as he's proven himself a tough old bird and able to get by on less.

Love to ALL of you......And in that I have an unlimited supply!!!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 07:08 PM

Surgery done,I'm fine, no pain, can't really manage anything but iPhone just yet
. Thank s all, dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 08:57 PM

That's good, Dean. Now's the time to rest and heal.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 09:01 PM

Okay, Frogprince, I'm glad to know that you were stopped and treated instead of going home. Smart phones can be wonderful and horrible almost simultaneously. Good luck to you and your wife from now on! Same to you, too, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 09:17 PM

lucky froggy! sending good wished to him & his family & to Nigel & everyone

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 09:22 PM

That was PRAY FORS and I will.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 11:13 PM

going to dig out my rosary again for all my brothers and sisters here that need help. Love you all ... Dean please you are scaring me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 11:19 PM

you all own a big piece of my heart

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 12:30 AM

So look Dude......Could you maybe have my chunk appraised and send me the cash?


Spaw

(Love ya' Bro)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 05:38 AM

Thinking especially of Dean & his Wife. Spaw (owe you a PM), & Gnu for making me laugh. I'm waiting for the results of a recent bowel cancer screening. It's the routine test offered to all folks in the UK between the ages of 60-74. But with my propensity for anxiety & depression, the waiting (probably about another week) is playing on my mind. The situation is made more complicated because my other med. probs. are renowned for generating 'False Positives'. If that happens, then the batch of tests to eliminate the FPs are extensive & invasive. The 'stats' are very much on my side, but I take small comfort from that. I think it was that great comedy icon, Spike Milligan who said: "I have a hero's body, but cowards' legs". That's about where I am at the moment....just want to run away. Spaw has thrown me a life-line with the words:"....he's proven himself a tough old bird...." Flightless I may be...I'm working on 'tough'. Trying not to let you down, Pat,
                                              Much Love to You All,
                                                                               Nigel
                                                                               xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 07:20 AM

No Rain

All I can say is that my life is pretty plain,
I like watchin' the puddles gather rain
And all I can do is just pour some tea for two
And speak my point of view but it's not sane
It's not sane

I just want someone to say to me, oh,
I'll always be there when you wake, yeah
Ya know I'd like to keep my cheeks dry today
So stay with me and I'll have it made
And I don't understand why sleep all day
And I start to complain that there's no rain
And all I can do is read a book to stay awake,
And it rips my life away but it's a great escape
Escape, escape, escape

All I can say is that my life is pretty plain,
Ya don't like my point of view,
Ya think that I'm insane
It's not sane, it's not sane

I just want someone to say to me, oh, oh, oh
I'll always be there when you wake, yeah
Ya know I'd like to keep my cheeks dry today
I really wanna really gonna have it made
Oh oh oh

Blind Melon

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 10:20 AM

Good groove gnu.....

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 10:53 AM

love it GNU

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 10:57 AM

Yup, Spaw. It's one a them there songs that MAKES ya groove, even if the genre ain't yer cup a tea.

Not too sure if the lyrics I copied are correct but, given the vocal track mix-in, I never could/would be able to tell anyway. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 11:31 AM

I don't post much here, but I read daily. Nigel - deep breaths, my friend. And a big hug. Dean - so glad they caught your problem before you got in the air. Big hugs for both you and Judy. Spaw - you are frequently in my thoughts, especially when the dog lets loose an SBD on the couch next to me. Just kidding about the farts (or am I?). Big hugs for you, too, just because. And big hugs for anyone else who needs them.

That said, I could use a few myself. Thanksgiving plans with the family fell through due to weather, and this past week is always the hardest one of the year for me - last Monday my dad would have been 68.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 12:34 PM

BIG cyberhug, r1.

Peace and love to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 02:12 PM

Okay, guys: let's have a competitive Ranger-hugging match : )

At least I can get to the laptop again; much easier posting!

I will have some plumbing attached for a day or so yet, but I'm fine save for the annoyance of being kinda immobilized. They got 20 liquid ounces outta me. They've been trying to culture any life forms from the stuff, and haven't found a sign of anything I can take home for a pet. Most likely bet as of now: something virusy that messed with me and went it's way, with no reason to expect any recurrance.

Nigel, Spaw, and all, I'm good for pumping some mojo for you all again.
          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 06:05 PM

Hard to post these days, but I do read and keep each person in mind as I go about my day.

Tami, we missed Thanksgiving with NH family too. There are some we won't get to see again. Need a late feast? We just hosted an unexpected meal for family...including my mother who may very well not see another Thanksgiving. You're welcome to drive up for a Thanksgiving lunch.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 07:12 PM

Tami, (((HUG!)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 07:21 PM

Maeve, (((HUG!)))
for you, too. And anybody who wants one.
Master rhyming, gnu. When my mom died, I figured that would pretty much be the last time I felt that unconditional love. I've been lucky to find good friends, but not one love. The ones who have must be the luckiest of us all, I think.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Nov 13 - 08:00 PM

Hugs from me, too, Tami!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Dec 13 - 04:00 PM

Sending hugs to all.

Find myself wishing our lives and proximity to one another were such that we could occasionally spend a weekend together, one-on-one, or at least in very small configurations, just being together, having some fun, and reaching a place, often late at night with a couple of glasses of good wine in us, when we could intimately talk and touch hearts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 01 Dec 13 - 05:24 PM

Hugs all around from me, too. Like Tami, I haven't been here much, but I love you all and think of you often.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Dec 13 - 06:03 PM

Maeve, thank you for the lunch invite! I would have taken you up on it, except I didn't find it until this afternoon. And thank you everyone for the hugs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 04:45 PM

An hour or so ago they yanked out the tube that went in under the breastbone to my heart. Then my head slowly came back down from the ceiling. Again, I'm fine, but for the moment I'm about as tender and shakey as just after they installed it. Nothing else in this whole episode hurt nearly as much as that yank.

They've completed all bioping and culturing of the sap they tapped out; nothing scary in there at all. They've almost promised to kick me out of here tomorrow. "Tis a comsumation devoutly to be wished" (Did I remember that anywhere near correctly?)

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 06:25 PM

here's hoping the symptoms soon fall in line with the diagnosis.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 08:37 PM

Oh, Dean, that's good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Dec 13 - 04:10 AM

Dean, very pleased to hear your positive news. Don't like the 'yanking' bit...sounds ghastly! You said: "They've almost promised to kick me out of here tomorrow." Hoping, hoping, hoping that's just what they do. Correctly remembered or not, wonderful quotation.
       Janie's post on 13th Dec. lingers in my mind. To meet, spend time together, talk face to face would, indeed, be an occasion to savour. A touching of hearts & minds.
       Got the 'All Clear' from the cancer scan. Huge relief. Two more years & I have to do it all over again (until I'm 74). Still, it's all in the name of early detection, which has to be a good thing because the cure/survival rate is about 90% if detected early enough.
                            Love, Hugs & Kisses to All,
                                                                   Nigel.
                                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 03 Dec 13 - 06:44 AM

Ouch, Dean! Good news on the biopsy front.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Dec 13 - 06:47 AM

froggy... ouch! I hoped they told ya it was gonna hurt. I had a young intern tell me "This might sting a bit." Then, the old supervising doc leaned over me, looked me in the eyes and said sternly, "This is going to hurt." I replied gratefully, "Thanks.". He was right. Glad to hear things are looking good.

Nigel... glad to hear the coast is clear. "To meet, spend time together, talk face to face would, indeed, be an occasion to savour. A touching of hearts & minds."... I think we are, as best we can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Dec 13 - 07:52 PM

Nigel, what gnu said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Dec 13 - 04:31 AM

gentle hugs to froggy & nigel

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Dec 13 - 06:53 AM

ChanteyLass, I've thought hard & long about Gnu's: "........ I think we are, as best we can." He's absolutely right. Your 'nudge' above is much appreciated. It's taken me quite a long time to understand & appreciate just how meaningful & effective our 'Glorious Separation' is. We are united by that very separation.
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Dec 13 - 11:56 AM

Yer more than welcome.

Right... hop to it froggy!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Dec 13 - 10:41 AM

Wendy, how are you all coping with the storm surges down the east coast. I just saw some BBC footage shot at Walton & it looked pretty fierce. Are you, your Family & the beach hut ok?
          Sending large amounts of protective thoughts your way,
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel
                                                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Dec 13 - 11:35 AM

likewise, hope all's well, wendy. I didn't know it had been so fierce your way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 06 Dec 13 - 12:15 PM

This is actually the first time I've had breathing space (at least breathing space AT THE COMPUTER) to be able to read this thread from just before Tom died on November 14th (three weeks...three minutes...three years...my sense of time is totally screwed up) til this morning.

Thank you all so much for your prayers, hugs, support, good thoughts, comfort... I may not have been reading here, but I felt them all...

Those who don't read Curmudgeon's obit thread or my scribblings on the de-clutter thread (which also acts as a support group) may not know that my mother in Milwaukee (age 85) passed away a little over a week after Tom. For the past several years she has known that if she died, I couldn't leave Tom to come to her funeral -- and she was okay with that. I just wish she'd given me a little bit more time to come to grips with losing Tom before she let go. At least her funeral isn't until Dec. 16th, so I don't have to fly out until a few days before. Could use some prayers that the weather holds, too!

I'm getting things accomplished...packed some stuff off to Goodwill, giving other significant things to friends, donating his wheelchair and other equipment...trying to get some household repairs done, too (like the electrical work that was scheduled for the day he died).

I still cry when I least expect it and that's frustrating only when I'm trying to talk to someone (and I haven't yet mastered the art of talking intravenously). Yesterday was a weepy day; don't know why. (Three weeks? Why then more than any other day since November 14th?) I've learned to, well, enjoy the sobs, my eyes tearing up, tears running down my cheeks. Remembering. I seldom cried as a child and for the next 60+ years, mostly cried from frustration. Could never seem to cry to gain that sort of release that I needed, such as when my father died. I no longer seem to have that problem...

Looks like I'll be a regular here...

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Dec 13 - 02:19 PM

Linn- Welcome, welcome, welcome!

Warm greeting to everyone. Just doing the next thing here, minute by minute.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Dec 13 - 04:45 PM

Linn, I can't begin to tell you how pleased I am to read your post. A courageous, moving, testament. It is my earnest wish that over the ensuing weeks & months, you will voyage with us on 'Jane's Rainbow'. There are several here who know you well. Can't do better than Maeve: "Linn- Welcome, welcome, welcome!"
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel
                                                                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Dec 13 - 07:20 PM

Linn, tears are supposed to be healing. I hope that you find that is true. And they can sneak up on you at any time. I think they are better than numbness.

I'm glad you are joining this motley crew!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Dec 13 - 09:20 AM

I've had a few too many tears recently - tears for people like Tom who I've never met, tears for characters/situations in books (novels???, I call that soppy!) or for situations in the news & the real world (definitely not soppy.)

Last week the daughter of friends died. I'd only met her once briefly, at the funeral of one of her parent's contemporaries, & she didn't attend the next funeral of another of their contemporaries who she had also known all her life. She died of cancer, & I assume she was too sick to be there.

Liz was 45, married 10 years with 3 children & it was seeing the youngest child (5 yrs old?) holding her father's hand in the church that brought more tears, tho I'd already ruined several tissues before seeing them. There were a lot more tears at her funeral than the previous funerals, the Catholic church was full of people, many of them her age, some with their children.

I've been to too many funerals this year - one of my contemporaries & 2 older friends, & then this funeral.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Dec 13 - 01:01 PM

Nigel... "A courageous, moving, testament." Indeed.

Thank you, Linn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 07 Dec 13 - 02:14 PM

This has been a year of funerals, it seems. Even before Tom died, we had lost 8 friends or spouses of friends since March. And then Tom died and my mother died.

It's been a rough year -- and certainly not just for me.

The "good thing" about going to Milwaukee for my mother's funeral is that I will get to see some elderly relatives (and friends of my mother) whom I didn't think I would see again. And get to spend some time with my sister (and with my brother and his family, though less than with my sister).

A friend who lost his wife earlier this year (one of those 8 friends Tom and I lost) had a life-changing experience when he and his wife read "Immortal Diamond" by Richard Rohr and has been passing out copies of the book. Took me awhile to start reading it; at first after Tom's death even while reading a lightweight mystery, I'd read the same page 3 or 4 times while talking aloud to...who? Tom? the Universe? myself? the cats? Then I got so I could concentrate a bit while reading, but nothing too heavy. Just started "Immortal Diamond" earlier this week. Despite it being marketed through some Christian websites and Rohr being a Franciscan, it is not what I'd call a "Christian" book -- thank goodness. I've been thinking I was a religion of one, that there was probably no other person who shared my particular religious/spiritual beliefs. (And there may NOT be an exact match...but who cares?) Anyway, what I'm finding in the book are so many of my beliefs articulated.

I believe in the continuation of life, that we existed before we were born and that we will exist after we die, transitioning from our current existence to another one. I also believe that quantum and particle physics and the existence of an infinite number of parallel universes is where science and religion come together. (I have no idea if Rohr makes any allusion to any of this; I'm not that far in the book.) Tom may be in another universe. Tom and I might be together in yet another universe. Tom and his first wife might even be together in another universe. Infinite probability and infinite improbability. (Oh, yeah, and the answer is "42"...)

Friends brought their very wise three-year-old to the hospice on the day Tom died. She'd danced a goodbye full of symbols at the funeral of that other friend's wife earlier this year. Anyway, the next day her father told me she had said a couple things the previous day. One was "Tom Hall loves me." Simple statement. (I don't think Tom had ever really spoken to her; the Press Room is no place for conversation during a session.) And then, just after Tom died, she asked her father, "Where did Tom go?" Steve said, "Well, where you you before you were born?" And she replied with a profundity I've not encountered from many adults. She said, "Right here. I was right here." I get goose bumps every time I tell that story.

I know that Tom has continued on his journey. And I know, too, that he is "right here"... (I'm crying again.) But I'm missing his physical presence...being able to read to him (and reminisce about things the reading reminded us of), of telling him about the eight turkeys walking down the middle of the road when I came home the other day, of the fog in the trees down the hill from the bathroom window, sharing dulce de leche ice cream, agreeing that some singer-songwriter being played on the folk show can't even sing...

I've got to get away from the computer and get a few things done.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Dec 13 - 05:15 PM

Linn, I am reminded of a dear friend who spoke with me about a dream she had several weeks after her brilliant and fabulously curious scientist spouse died of pituitary cancer. In her dream, he appeared in the form of a sphinx, both flying and swimming through the cosmos, a delighted smile on his face at the prospect of new territory to explore.

maeve, I often imagine some of the little juncos and white throated-sparrows at my winter feeders spent the summer at your place.

Dean, are you home now?

Nigel, in a little bit, check your pm's.

I baked a fresh apple cake, redolent with cinnamon, nutmeg and cloves, and wonderfully moist, with a carmelized buttermilk glaze. Just freed it from the tube pan and it is here in the galley. Fresh pot of coffee made, tea bags and hot water out, (yes, that is a bottle of fine cognac on the sideboard for those so inclined.) Come on into the mess as you have time. Maybe a little caroling around the table?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Dec 13 - 06:53 PM

pausing to offer a prayer for those recently bereaved, and for those not so recently. reading of such, evokes feelings of our own loss of loved one, but we would not want it any other way than being able to identify and empathise with those mourning over their dear ones.
pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 07 Dec 13 - 06:57 PM

Oh, Janie, that apple cake sounds a treat! (Especially with cognac available...)

I was just reading M.F.K. Fisher aloud to Tom (or to Rufus, dishragged across my knee), working on "An Alphabet for Gourmets" which Tom left me in the middle of...

I think, when I'm in Milwaukee for my mother's funeral, I need to introduce my sister to the winter joy of port and Stilton (or Gorgonzola...or Gouda).

It's been another sort of weepy day for me...not that that is necessarily bad.

Eight wild turkeys in my down-the-hill (and across the road) neighbor's yard when I went out, eleven still in the yard when I returned.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Dec 13 - 12:35 AM

Oops; shoulda told you all that they did, in fact, get me out on Tuesday; they got me out the door moments before the dinner tray would have arrived, so we scooted to a little restaurant and at least had a decent, if not gourmet, dinner for our anniversary. We had friends on standby, one to drive us home and one to bring our car, which had been sitting in the emergency entrance lot all week. But the doc said there was really no problem with my driving home (just a couple of miles) so we let them off the hook. (The restaurant was right on the route home).
We just got back from a concert by singer-songwriter Joe Crookston at the Flint Folk Music Society. The man is very, very good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Dec 13 - 04:00 AM

Wonderful and comforting sharing, as usual, herein.

Glad to hear yer sprung and on the mend, froggy.

I'm cold, even with a hoody on and the furnace in "warm-up-the-the-house" mode for over an hour. I guess it's time to adjust the nightly temp setting upward. It happens every year in late fall round these here parts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Dec 13 - 08:53 AM

Leaning into those big hugs. Sorry I have been absent. It has been on purpose. Too much physical (off work 2 weeks and doc put me on gabapentin) and emotional pain.

Wallowing in private around the holiday. I was anxious that any posts about Thanksgiving would make me more sad. Homesick to the extreme around this time of year.

Add to that, worrying myself silly about my parents in law here in UK. Mum's dementia getting so bad and poor Dad (in his mid 90's and pretty frail) is sometimes beside himself trying to cope with her. I think he is finally starting to see some sense about either moving with her into assisted living facility or in with his son Chris and me or his daughter and her husband.

I started the monthly Simponi (anti TNF) injections 27 November. Literature says it can take from 4 to 6 months to take effect.

All best to everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Dec 13 - 08:08 PM

4 to 6 months, Virginia? Wow! Hang in there!

Frogprince, glad you made it home and had a decent meal on your way.

Linn, the port and Stilton should go well with Janie's apple cake.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Dec 13 - 01:31 AM

big but very gentle hug to Tam

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Dec 13 - 06:11 PM

just checking in to wish well to all the crew. pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Dec 13 - 07:50 PM

Me too, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Dec 13 - 08:21 PM

Goodness, I have been away from the Rainbow too long! Nigel, thank you for thinking of us, we went to the beach hut on Sunday, a beautiful sunny day and, miracle of miracles, our hut is fine but the huts either side were badly damaged ,as were most of the others. Being on stilts the sea surged underneath and pushed the decking skywards in most cases and the huts at Walton near the coastguard station were mostly washed away. My brother was told to evacuate his flat on the quay in Harwich but fortunately had no damage on his return.

But all this is nothing compared to the sadness and illness that other crew members have had. Welcome on board Linn, you will be enveloped with love on this ship!

Mother is progressing well, we have had a few hiccups with the 24 hour care, but she is walking with a frame but getting very frustrated with the cast on the arm as she does not understand that she fell . The pelvis fracture isn't giving her very much pain and the main problem is getting her confidence back. The dementia however has gone down a level, maybe due to shock? She is very tearful and confused.

But Billy and I have managed to visit Christopher for his birthday and again last weekend saw Giles Brandreth at Christopher's theatre
( very funny he was too!) Samantha and I went to the carol concert at Holy Trinity in Sloane Square on Monday evening. It was compared by John Suchet and Brian Blessed read " The night before Christmas" It was a lovely evening.

Have to admit the past three weeks have been " not the best" I have felt very down worrying about mother, but am counting my blessings and sending my love to all needing a hug!

Oh and Billy had a positive visit to see his consultant today, all his blood tests were good, still in remission!

Not long till Christmas, a time for the little ones, nativity plays, carol singing and sharing love and peaceful thoughts, and thanking Nigel for Jane's Rainbow.

with love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Dec 13 - 05:59 AM

My Dear Wendy, can't tell you how relieved I am to read your post. That seemingly boundless optimism you possess,leaps out from every word. Need all the optimism I can lay my hands on at the moment.
                      'Jane's Rainbow' set sail on the 12th January 2012. What a voyage we are having. What lies beyond the horizon? Whatever it may be, there is Wisdom & Love in abundance on which we can rely & turn to when Life's storms batter us & threaten our very existence.
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel
                                                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Dec 13 - 06:40 AM

Can't add much to Nigel's post. Only that I still check in.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 12 Dec 13 - 11:45 AM

And I'm still here as well...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Dec 13 - 02:27 PM

So sad today to hear about the death of my lovely friend Derek " The Amazing Mr Smith" He made so many people laugh with his incredible sense of humour, I remember him standing in front of a window at our Folk Club in Thorpe le Soken with a bird cage on his head singing " I taught I saw a tweetie bird", much to the consternation of the folks standing at the bus stop on the pavement outside the pub.

Not many people knew he was a fantastic musician, and a lover of nature. He spent hours sitting on our lawn looking at the frogs and newts in our wild life pond. A wonderful observer of people, a dedicated scientist before he became a full time entertainer. I first met him at Farningham Folk club in 1970, he played at all the folk clubs I organised and last played for us in the marquee in our garden at one of our " house concerts"

I shall miss his friendship and the laughter he gave us and send love and condolences to his daughter Rosie.

Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Dec 13 - 02:41 PM

glad to see that most things are going well, wendy, and I trust those down feelings will soon pass. just having a lot to cope with can get us down, even when we do count our blessings.

the voyage has at times been stormy, but with the encouragement of crew members we remain buoyant, even though sometimes we think we might go under.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Dec 13 - 05:14 PM

Wendy, I'm sorry your mom's having more difficulty coping but I'm glad Billybob's test results were satisfactory. I am also sorry about the death of your friend Derek.

I've been away from Mudcat for a few days due to a minor health blip of my own. I'll try not to get too graphic! Many years ago I was diagnosed with irritable bowel syndrome. I've kept it under control with diet for so long that I rarely think about it except when I have very occasionally had to boost my system with an over-the counter remedy. However on Tuesday night I realized I had a problem. I made a late-night pharmacy run. Still later, really very early Wednesday morning, I knew my attempts weren't yielding results, so at about 4:30 AM I drove myself to the county hospital which is only about 5 miles away. Tuesday there'd been snow, but by then the roads were clean and dry and the emergency room was not busy, so I was seen quickly. Among other things, my heartbeat was a little high and my magnesium level was low. I was given magnesium tablets and put on an IV. My heart calmed down. I was treated for the IBS and sent home feeling slightly but not completely better in about two-and-a-half hours with instructions to take more than the usual number of doses of a stronger-than-my-usual over-the-counter med for at least two days and should never be far from the bathroom! Tonight I hope to take my last dose of that med and be out and about tomorrow--if I have finally caught up on sleep!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 03:46 AM

good to read you were able to get effective treatment quickly, ChanteyLass

best wishes for a good sleep & a great day tomorrow

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 11:17 AM

Hope you all will pull whatever weather strings you can influence so I can have an uneventful flight to Milwaukee for my mother's funeral. I really hate flying between New England and Milwaukee any time between October and May -- and I've gotten delayed in May! I'd really like to be back, as scheduled, next Friday so I can get to the Friday Press Room session and the monthly sea music (and seasonal) session the next day.

I'm packed; traveling light. Have a couple minor errands before I head to The Press Room. I'll probably leave the session early to go to friends' house where I'll catch a few zzzs before they drive me in the wee hours to Manchester for my 6 a.m. flight. Jeri will come everyday to get the mail, feed and water the cats, and reassure them that I'm not leaving forever.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 11:31 AM

When's the flight, Linn?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 11:40 AM

Her flight is tomorrow at 6 AM, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 01:47 PM

comparatively minor, chantylas, but very wearing. my mum suffered with it so I know it can get you down. hope it goes back to being more managable soon.
hope it all goes to schedule for you ,linn.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 07:17 PM

Linn, I'm tugging on those weather strings.

I'm continuing to feel better but still not sure I am "normal" yet. And I've almost put night and day in their proper places again--just a few hours off today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Dec 13 - 08:36 PM

onward & upward!

sandra (pulling on the lines, too)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 14 Dec 13 - 06:29 AM

ChanteyLass, I had that IBS, oh, a long time ago, 1997 I think. I'd been working in the Netherlands for a few weeks so my diet had changed whilst I was there (lots of dairy foodstuff). I remember driving home to Bedford from Luton airport thinking I was going to die from the pain - every bend in the road brought more agony. Doc thought I had appendicitis until he got the results of the scans.

Fortunately for me, the tablets he prescribed worked very quickly and it hasn't reoccurred. But it wasn't funny.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Dec 13 - 07:14 AM

Apparently, Mother Nature isn't a Mudcatter. Just looked at the US Weather Service national loop. There may very well be delays. I hope Linn doesn't have any problems getting on the ground.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Dec 13 - 09:16 AM

I don't think she's as concerned about getting there as she is getting back, but I'm hoping for a delay-free, stress-free trip for her in both directions.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Dec 13 - 08:18 PM

Pete, the wrong kind of dairy and not enough fruits, veggies, and whole grains were my problem--I think. I had been very busy and because I had plenty of food on hand, I didn't bother to go to the store for what I should have. Instead, I ate what I had on hand. I was also getting low on milk, so I was eating a lot of cheese for protein and calcium. Without the fruits, veggies, and whole grains, I think that's what did me in. I was careful not to eat stuff that would make my blood glucose crazy but never gave a thought to the IBS!

I hope we hear from Linn about her flight out. Now let's concentrate on her flight back! Maybe it will take off on time and catch a strong tail-wind so that she lands early!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 07:09 AM

if we all breath out strongly at the same time ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 07:33 AM

I suppose Jeri will have to take a shovel to Linn's today. We're only suppose to get about 30cm today but the temp is rising to -3C so it might be heavy snow. My back is not amused.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 07:34 AM

Hehee. This struck me funny. Environment Canada : "Snow at times heavy beginning this morning."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST, Bat Goddess
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 09:26 AM

Well...I flew out of Manchester, NH at 6 a.m. and finally landed in Milwaukee at 6 p.m. (EST). And in between was quite an adventure...with too many people and not enough oxygen. (Finally figured out a couple flights into the odyssey that dry, rebreathed air was what was complicating things, though not badly).

Got to BWI and found my connecting flight to Milwaukee had been cancelled. The sent me (immediately -- it was boarding, so no time to stop in the loo) first to Louisville, then (on the same plane) to Orlando (that leg of the flight the plane was full of exuberant kids). Spent about three hours in Orlando because the flight to Milwaukee had been delayed. Sure wasn't dressed for Florida! But, at least, I had time to grab something to eat besides the peanuts served on the plane. Finally got on a jam-packed flight to Milwaukee. Lot's of turbulence in between, but we landed safely in light snow at 6 p.m. EST. Arghhh! Then a looooooooong walk to the central part of the terminal. My sister hadn't made it back to I crossed over to the cab stand and headed to her place.

Sooooo good to finally get there! We talked, ordered Chinese which took another hour to get there.

Oh, yeah, when I finally got to sleep, I slept well.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 10:08 AM

Hurrah, Linn has landed!

Thanks for checking in, Linn. We're heading for 18 inches of snow here.

Yesterday I painted a picture for the first time since the fire.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 12:15 PM

Yay Maeve! Glad you've arrived, Linn.

I'm crawling up out of the bout of dark depression I'd slid into starting in late October. Unfortunately, that means I'm behind on so many things now. Sigh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 01:39 PM

good that you are surfacing from that debilitating pit, ranger1.
hope you can catch up without wearing yourself out.
blessings all      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 01:55 PM

Good to hear that that which went up, and had to come down, came down safely. We're looking at a few hours of driving, starting Thursday mid day, with forecasts that I could be happier about. From southeastern MI. into IL., then on to southeastern MN.
Everyone here feeling fine, & thinking of each of you with struggles.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 06:37 PM

I'm glad you got a mini-Florida vacation this year, Linn!

Tami, good luck with all of the doings - and give us a report in the declutter thread every so often!

My year has been particularly rough at work. At home everyone is healthy and thriving, but the reorganization at my university library last summer managed to throw a lot of workers under the bus into some really bizarre new jobs. I'm looking for a new job, hopefully at the same university to keep my health benefits and retirement in place.

SRS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 07:47 PM

Lots going on with people here today! Be well, stay well, Everyone!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,laptop gnu
Date: 15 Dec 13 - 08:44 PM

SRS. Oh my! That troubles me. Many herein are hard put but to hear you are between a rock and a hard place as well? I mean, I never thought I would hear such. It's kind of a shock. I guess it can happen to anyone these days. Sigh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 03:28 PM

I found my friend Chris dead in his apartment today. The police took statements, multiple statements. I am exhausted.
HR drove me home and my manager delivered my car. i feel like I am in a fog.
RIP, my friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 05:13 PM

Mary, so sorry to hear that. If you need any thing, you have my phone number. You're not so far away that I can't deliver a hug in person.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 06:46 PM

Thinking of you tonight, Sins.

Love,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 06:50 PM

sending love from us too Sins.

wendy and Billy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 06:55 PM

more love & hugs heading your way, sins

samdra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 08:13 PM

Sinsull, that is tragic - the last memory of a friend should be of a happy time. (That's why I never go up to view the body at open casket funerals.) I hope you can share stories with others and all come out with a better mental image.

gnu, it is five months since they hit the "reset" button at work, with the new dean playing favorites and treating us like checkers on a board, jumping people over others without consideration of qualifications or job experience. The job I created over the years, duties added by me or suggested by my boss as the need was perceived, there are now four people doing that job as a marketing department. Guess who had to train them, and hand over huge amounts of information and files? I still get questions about how to do stuff. Why am I not there? Because my MA is in English, not an MLS, but for this job the MLS is not necessary. The job description lists everything I did but has two extra words: "librarian preferred." I'm now in the basement preparing to digitize old analog recordings and to sort through institutional repository data dumps to determine what photos were put in (without the proper metadata.) I reported to the dean personally for 16 years and now I'm in the basement, out of sight, out of mind. Just visualize the guy in Peabody's Improbable History sweeping up after the horses.

SRS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Dec 13 - 09:09 PM

Maggie, I hope you find a new position that works for you.

Mary, what a situation to be in! Finding a friend dead is bad enough. Dealing with all those questions could only make it worse. Listen to some good music, and sleep well tonight.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 06:26 AM

My sincerest condolences, Mary.

SRS... that sounds terribly disheartening. I am at a loss for words.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 06:36 AM

Geez, some heavy stuff going on at the moment. Sins, SRS, good thoughts winging their way to you both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 09:39 AM

Sister MarySins....I am so sorry. That's something no one should have to endure. There aren't any words I can find to assuage the pain you must feel as the numbness passes. I'm a phone call away.

Much Love...


Pat

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 10:48 AM

Just "love, love, love" to all, seems it is needed all round today

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 01:46 PM

Ditto Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Bat Goddess
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 03:30 PM

Mein gott, Mary! Wish there was something I could do -- you've got a cosmic hug coming your way. My thoughts are with you, too.

Mom's funeral and interment went without a hitch yesterday -- although the organist was making a valiant, though unsuccessful attempt to turn the hymns into polkas... The snow held off until early evening.

Got to see cousins and kids (now adults, of course) of neighbors whom I haven't seen for almost 50 years...and some elderly relatives I hadn't expected to see again.

Hope to have lunch with a cousin and see a few other people (though it looks as if my high school classmate and I won't get closer than the phone -- dealing with cleaning out her mother's old apartment and dealing with her mother now in assisted living are taking up all her time.

Have to check AccuWeather to see what I might run into on my 6 a.m. escape on Friday.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 04:56 PM

Things have rolled out a lot faster than I expected. Chris' aunt and uncle arrived to clean out the apartment. I picked up the kitties and we visited the vet. He and i are both bloody. Found out one kitty has two paws on each front leg and she knows how to use them.
Shots up to date. New kitties in bedroom upstairs with multiple beds and nests, clean litter and food and water. Downstairs kitties are curious (Alice) and pissed off (Fred) . Literally - I picked him up for a long cuddle and he peed on me.
I am taking tomorrow off to decompress and help the cats get settled.
The family and police have me as a point of contact so I have been on the phone since 8AM and am very weary.
Chris is to be cremated and buried in his hometown. I hope he has the peace in death that he never had in life.
RIP my friend.
Meantime, a Christmas card arrived from a friend I haven't heard from in many years. A bright spot in my day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 05:43 PM

almost felt the shock, sinsull, when I read your news.
peace and rest hopefully to you soon.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: jacqui.c
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 05:48 PM

Mary - will ring you tomorrow. Take care of yourself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 06:40 PM

Just got an email from Chris' sister. She wants to send a catered something to the office for his friends.So nice for the office and his friends. So nice for the lady who has cooked his breakfast every morning for three years. They will use her business for the catering.Brenda was the one who called 911 when I fell apart.

Kitties are settling down. A big sigh of relief. All is as it should be. A long chatter AT the Captain really helped. He listened, offered no advice and assured me that I did good. I am so lucky to have him and Jacqui and a few others who discreetly stand by if I need them.
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 07:59 PM

Mary, I'm sorry I missed this until now. So hard for you, but you always do the right thing... and a little more than that. Hugs from me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 08:49 PM

Linn, the best thing about funerals is seeing people you haven't seen recently. I hope all goes well with your flight home.

Mary, how lucky Chris's kitties are that you are a cat person!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 09:07 PM

you certainly did well, Sins - more hugs heading your way

& a few extra to Maggie

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 17 Dec 13 - 10:59 PM

Mary, that's such a brutal thing to happen to anyone. So glad you have the really solid people there for support. We'll be thinking much of you here.
                        Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 05:50 AM

I'm taking some shore leave, but before I go, I wish you all Happy Holidays, Season's Greetings, Happy Christmas. I have some gifts to give:
    To those of you who grieve, I send Peace of Heart & the comfort of a warm hand to hold.
    To those of you who are unwell & in pain, I send Healing Thoughts & the hope that your recovery is swift & complete.
    To those of you suffering with depression, I send you light to brighten the darkest corners & the strength to stand & face the world.
    To those of you who maybe alone this Christmas, I send Friendship & laughter & the sanctuary of Jane's Rainbow.
    To those of you with complicated Family situations, exacerbated by health issues, I send the Courage & Strength to endure & the Wisdom to Understand when you have done as much as any human being could.
    To you all, I send my Love & Gratitude. You have made Jane's Rainbow what it is today.
                      Wishing everyone a Happy, Peaceful, Healthy & Music-filled New Year,
                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 06:51 AM

SINS... ya done good. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 08:55 AM

Thank you all for the support.
I slept last night so today is all bright and happy. Spent the night downstairs with Alice and Fred. Spent an hour upstairs with Kitty and Momma. Everyone is eating, drinking, purring and cuddling. So we are off to a good start.
Now to write a short summation of Chris' life with his work friends for the funeral.
Tomorrow I go to work and start getting back to normal.
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 10:47 AM

Glad you got some rest, SINS.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 02:43 PM

Stopped in to deliver physical hugs and visit with Sinsull. She's doing OK - she was on the phone with Jacqui when I arrived.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 09:37 PM

Sorry that I have been missing in action. Hugs to you Sins. You have people around you to offer love and support because you give so much of the same.

Linn, may you have a smooth and undelayed trip home, and even in your time of double sadness, may you hold the love and caring you got and gave among family and old friends close around you.

Tam, I hope you feel the loving energy of all our care and concern wrapped around you like a warm, soft fleece that you can reach out and hug to yourself on the worst days, offering comfort and at least some hearts-ease even when there is little physical ease to be had.

Thank you, Nigel, for your lovely gift.

maeve, pull up here a minute to the warmth around the galley stove and let me bring you a cup of tea. Put your feet up, just a little while, and rest here among friends who cherish you.

Up Spaw.

Stilly, I am so pissed off for you. Absolutely fuming. Not words of comfort, I know. Just what I am feeling.

Pete and Pete, Wendy, Chantylass, Gnu, Ranger, Sandra, and all who sail along here, thank you and hugs to you.

A motley and also hearty crew, all of us doing our best to live life on life's terms and not only helping one another to stay afloat, but moving a fine ship along such that it's sails sometime gleam in the sun and wind. The Old Ark's A'Movin

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Dec 13 - 11:40 PM

Nigel, Janie, lovely thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 05:05 AM

agreed chanteylass.

tommy is in hospital with pneumonia again. he is however looking like he will beat it again, despite the x ray looking alarming. but we don't get complacent as he can dip again. we don't want him in critical condition again, but we do know that a teenager with myotonic dystrophy is always in danger, so anyone with a prayer to spare....
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Bat Goddess
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 06:57 AM

Yesterday morning stopped at Goodwill to pick up reading material for the flight home, then on to lunch with my sister and a cousin who, until Mom's funeral on Monday, I hadn't seen for going on 50 years.

Drove around a bit and discovered that neither my sister nor I had actually ever been to Greendale, one of the three Greenbelt communities (for middle income working families) that had been built during the Roosevelt administration (1938-ish). The town is celebrating its 75th anniversary this year. We did a quick swing through before lunch, then came back afterwards to further check out the Vistor's Center which is also the test kitchen for Taste of Home magazine and others. Then we drove around a few other places closer to our youthful home in West Allis.

Back at home had enough time to set up a visit with a childhood neighbor family (house on the other side of next door) and 2 possibly 3 of the kids we grew up with. I also called my 93 year old great aunt -- the only one of my grandmother's siblings still alive -- and talked for quite awhile, though we won't visit. The funeral Monday sapped her energy and she's still recovering, so talking on the phone is better than sitting in her living room.

By that time it was quite dark so my sister and and I went out to check out the Christmas lights around Milwaukee. There were some pretty exuberant displays close by, but I was disappointed in the downtown displays. (And quickly realized I really don't know Milwaukee anymore...downtown has changed so dramatically since I worked downtown in the late '60s. So many of the buildings I knew along Wisconsin Avenue are gone or changed dramatically.) Shorewood had some good lights, but Whitefish Bay was better -- combinations of some pretty interesting architecture and lighting displays. Then down into the Valley to check out the very impressive lights around Miller Brewery and on to Washington Highlands, another interesting neighborhood.

Went to bed not long after we got back to my sister's apartment -- had to be up early this morning to check in with Southwest and print out my boarding passes...which I'm waiting to do right now (have about 15 minutes to wait until it's 24 hours before the flight). Alas, as you can tell, I woke up a bit early and couldn't fall back to sleep for another hour's rest. Sigh. Tomorrow will be an even earlier morning.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 11:28 AM

You got em Pete!

Lovely posts, guys.

Great update, Linn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 11:44 AM

A real prayer, Pete. Not just a spare.
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 02:04 PM

Pete,
sending love and prayers for Tommy, hoping he will be at home with you for Christmas.

You are always here with love and blessings for all of us, so sending blessings to you and your family for a healthy and peaceful Christmas from Billy and I. xxxxxxx

Much love to Sins, Linn, Gnu, Spaw, Nigel, Tam, Janie, Ranger and all who need a hug at Christmas.

Still trying to go onward and upwards, mum is progressing mobility wise but the dementia is worse, finding speech almost impossible and it is so frustrating for her and now my brother is questioning the cost of her carers? Hope we don't fall out just as Christmas is near, but how do I convince him that mum's income and savings are for her to be confortable and safe and not for an inheritance?? Harsh I know but I am finding it very hard not to tell him what I think!! My father worked hard all his life to give mum a secure future and I promised him the day he died that I would look after my mother.

Christmas a time for peace and love ( difficult sometimes ?)

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 04:44 PM

must be difficult not to let a little sarcasm slip, wendy. my dad will be 89 next month, still living more or less independently and a bit cranky , so some people tend to avoid talking to him. my brother and I try to discourage him from being so tight spending on himself, even though we assure him we are not worried about what he leaves us.
I do know he appreciates that I see him most days ,and I am sure that even in your mums dementia ,she will know what a lovely daughter she has.

worryingly tommys x ray today showed no improvement. in himself ,he swung from vigorous resistance to the face mask, to later weakness and sleeping. beckys back has been feeling the strain this morning when a friend she expected to help did not turn up, and staff didn't help much. she made an official complaint. I was visiting dad, not knowing she was struggling.
thankyou for your support. bless you    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 06:34 PM

Date: 19 Dec 13 - 11:28 AM guest was me.

Pete... more prayers. As many as I got.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 09:19 PM

Yesterday I walked to my local hospital for a small op (Day surgery) which was delayed for an hour as the printer was not working - surgeons, anaesthetists, nurses etc all held up cos the printers did not give them the paperwork they needed!

So those of us who arrived at 6.30 for the 7am ops waited. I normally get to bed around 2, sometimes later (the previous night at 4am) so I had gone to bed around 10pm (soooo early) I'm not an early bird so it was interesting to see the folks entering & leaving the 24 hour gym & the other folks out at that ungodly hour.

I was up & walking around well before 11am when my friend collected me. Small scar, no pain, but it could be a pre-cancer (9 out of 10 are ok, but...) I would have preferred 99 out of 100, or even 999 out of 1000.

I'll be seeing the surgeon on Monday, but he is unlikely to get the pathology results until after Christmas. At the moment I'm not worried, but I'm very good at getting worried at later dates & the holiday season is never my favourite time as my normal events shut down (craft groups, & other regular events) & everyone has family around & I'm one of those without family mentioned by Nigel. But I do have friend, even tho some will be away on their summer holidays others are around.

And Mudcat is always here

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Dec 13 - 09:44 PM

Pete, prayers are on their way for Tommy.

Sandra, sending some for you and good results on your test.

Linn, still hoping for good weather for your flight. I know it's supposed to be okay on the East Coast but have no idea what's predicted for your departure point.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 03:13 AM

Hope the results are good, Sandra.

Light snow (1 cm this morn) and wind 15 kph so Linn should be ok.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Bat Goddess
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 04:40 AM

So far, so good... Ice and freezing rain expected -- maybe in the hour (according to AccuWeather) before take off from Milwaukee. Lousy weather this afternoon, but I hope I'm home by then.

Both flights currently (3:40 a.m.) on time...

Wish me luck!

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 05:15 AM

I erred but it still sounds pretty good. Good luck, Linn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 06:18 AM

What 'ave you erred, gnu?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 07:31 AM

'erring. After all, I am a 'erring Choker.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 10:19 AM

Sending light and love to you all- for many of us, this is the darkest time of the year, and we feel it. Light is returning, and my wish for you all is that we and our loved ones, all of us, feel the light inside ourselves. This place is indeed a beacon of light!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: jacqui.c
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 03:55 PM

Good thoughts to Pete and to Sandra.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 05:59 PM

I have been at the hospital most of the day and we have been clearing up both ends for tommy. we are hoping the antibiotics are kicking in and the yellow mess he threw up during a tube feed was infection exiting. feeds stopped today ,on fluid drip till tomorrow.
thanks again for your prayers and well wishes.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 08:13 PM

Holding Tommy in my heart, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 08:22 PM

Pete, Sandra, Sinsull, and all- Here, thinking of you all.

Five years ago this week my Truelove and I did not burn to death.


Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 08:24 PM

I am with Janie... big time... big time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 08:26 PM

Prayers still headed Tommy's way from Rhode Island. It's a little state but my prayers are BIG!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 08:39 PM

thanks for the good thoughts, folks

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 20 Dec 13 - 08:42 PM

Just back from the session (which I left early) and I'm here eating supper (left over pizza from lunch) before going upstairs and collapsing.

I had started to fade (it's been a loooong day and it started in another time zone) and thought it would be a good idea to actually be HOME when that happened...

I had uneventful flights, thank goodness. On time, too. First flight, though, I've ever been on where the plane had to be de-iced first (in Milwaukee). Gotta ask my pilot friends what is used -- saline? alcohol? secret chemical combination?

My friend Lorna played hooky from work and picked me up in Manchester, took me back to her place in Dover to pick up my car, and I drove home via Pizza Spinners. I guess I never really ate anything for breakfast and the cup of coffee, glass of Sprite and 2 packages each of honey roasted peanuts and pretzels (can you tell I'm flying Southwest?) didn't really go too far. I got home at 1:30 p.m.

Made my way through over two hundred emails, but somewhere in the middle checked my phone messages. Only a couple because people knew I was out of town, so I thought while I was there maybe I should erase some of the earlier messages. A couple messages in was Tom from the day before he died asking if I was on my way to the hospital...and bawled my head off. Needless to say, that message was saved. Anybody got any idea what the best way to digitize that message and Tom's (pre-vocal cord cancer) message on the voicemail message (at Comcast)?

Anywho, I'm heading to bed.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Dec 13 - 07:13 AM

Linn... use a mic and the 'sound recorder' in your programs. You might have to fiddle with the recording volume and distance between the answering machine and mic. Glad to hear you return trip was good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Dec 13 - 07:30 PM

I'll be seeing my surgeon in a few hours - what looked on Thursday like a smallish scar with several splotches of blood has developed into a gi-normous & itchy purple & red bruise! I realise it is part of the healing process, but I'm pleased it's hidden from view. It looks like I've been attacked with a large piece of wood rather than a thin scalpel.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 12:20 AM

What news, Sandra? (when you have it. Holding you quite close in my thoughts and meditations.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 02:23 AM

My surgeon admired the bruise, well, maybe not admired it, but he wasn't unphappy & explained it will twake a few weeks to vanish completely! And the results from the pathology lab - there was nothing nasty in the vein which was removed!

YAH!!

thanks to all for your concern & love

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 04:22 AM

Sandra- Exactly what I had hoped to read this morning! Thanks for the update!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 04:30 AM

tommy still ill and moved to evilena kids hosp on ventilator ,unable to breath for himself yet, and not tolerating feed. slight reduction of whiteout on last x ray but not out of danger. thank God for the far better staff at evilena, who are working on him.
thanks all, blessings    pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 06:38 AM

Sandra... great!

Pete... thoughts and prayers big time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 07:08 AM

Good thoughts on their way to Tommy in London, Sins, Sandra and all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 08:08 AM

love & good thoughts winging their way to Tommy & others in need

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 11:07 AM

Tommy is at the top of my list right now. Not fair that he has to spend Christmas in the hospital.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 01:58 PM

Pete,

I do hope Tommy is a little ( or lots) better today.

just sending love to all on board

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 01:59 PM

Hello and warm wishes for a holiday seaons filled with making good memories and / or calling them up.

I have some good news re Chris Mum and Dad. Pam has relented and is permitting someone to come in and clean for 1 hour every other week. Age Concer got them hooked up to a community group which brings in meals 2 days a week. All of this is a boon to Arthur who is feeling less isolated by Pam's need for constant supervision. Their friends are stepping in more too. They too Arthur to have his cateracts surgery and stayed with Pam while he was in for a while after as he recuperated. They meet every other week for a meal out too. God bless friends.

Good news re my kids. They both have real jobs. Hilary will soon have health insurance and may even be considered for a management post. Her partner and his 2 young school aged children have moved in with her into a 3 bed house, near the kid's school and near community swimming pool. She is feeling so much better physically and is even making noises about wanting a baby.

My son has been hired part time by the company for which he has been doing contract work over the last couple of months. Fingers crossed this will soon become full time and he can get health insurance too. He is happy in relationship with a lovely girl who actually shared some classes with sister Andie. She is around the same age Andie would be. Funnily, my son looks so like my little brother Timmy and his girlfriend looks like she could be the younger sister of Timmy's wife. If we ever have a family reunion I am going to be doing constant double takes.

I am still pretty sick and in pain but I feel a lot happier knowing my kids are well and happy.

Hugs and many happies to you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 07:57 PM

lots of good news

big (virtual) hugs back & good wishes for less pain & more good health

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 08:58 PM

Pete, I'm still sending prayers for Tommy

I love the good news from Sandra and Virginia.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 09:34 PM

Good news from Sandra. My best thoughts to Tommy.

I wish all of the crew of this wonderful vessel the best of the holidays!

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Dec 13 - 11:40 PM

So good ro hear the "up" reports on medical and employment situations. I join with everyone wishing recovery from all this for Tommy, and comfort for Pete and all the family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 05:36 AM

pleased to report that tommy is on the up. he will be in still, over xmas, but part of his special needs is an aversion to too much festive fuss anyway. he is breathing for himself with the ventilator only as back up. his bladder and bowel functions are now working , which was a concern with his myotonia as these and the respiratory could have shut down. thank God he seems to seems to have pulled through again.
thankyou friends for your prayers and kind thoughts. I was very touched by your concern.

good to hear that circumstances with tams family are encouraging, and please God, there be some relief from the pain and sickness too.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 05:46 AM

Great news, Pete, may he continue to improve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 06:05 AM

very good news about Tommy - I wish him a steady progression of good health & the appropriate amount of festivity with his family.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 06:06 AM

Overall, pretty good news, especially about Tommy, thank goodness!

I was delighted to read, "...even making noises about wanting a baby."

Milk and cookies for all says I! Merry Ho Ho as best you can. Bless ship and all who sail on her.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link.
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 05:22 PM

Not so good this evening. The up has downed somewhat.    Seasons greetings to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 06:39 PM

Pete, still sending good thoughts out to Tommy.

Merry Christmas, everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 07:37 PM

ditto

what a beautiful christmas tree

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 07:52 PM

Pete... my minute of prayer with eyes closed is all I can offer. My heart goes out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Dec 13 - 08:27 PM

Christmas Day here.

We watched the midnight service from Westminster Abbey, beautiful music. Thinking of Tommy in our prayers, Christmas can be bitter sweet, holding you in our thoughts Pete and hope the morning brings in a sunny day.

much love for a peaceful Christmas to all the crew

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 01:08 AM

Sending extra helping of good thoughts for Tommy, Pete, and steady care, concern and gratitude for all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 08:58 AM

Good thoughts for Big Mick and family this Christmas morning. Thoughts for Big Mick

And Happy Christmas to all of the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 04:19 PM

Dear friends,

Warm thoughts and cheers from me in Maine. I couldn't post a reply to recent posts before- power has been out since Monday due to the ice storm that left an inch (measured) of ice on all surfaces, every tree and twig. Branches are tearing off and falling, trees explode with the cold, and when the sun showed its face today the world was filled with prismatic diamonds.

Thinking of the good news and the worries expressed here, and sending blessings as needed.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 06:10 PM

Maeve,
I have been worried about you and the chickens. A wood stove is a blessing in an ice storm.
I saw that a couple not far from you were overcome by carbon monoxide and had to be hospitalized. Stay safe.

Master Tommy, rest easy. One breath at a time young man. One at a time.

Merry Christmas, all.
Mary

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 06:51 PM

Thanks, Sins. We are just fine. With that excellent wood stove, plenty of stove wood and water stored, and two people used to living simply, we enjoy such times and manage to lend a hand to neighbors when needed.

The chooks are tired of coop living, but happy and healthy otherwise, with a delicious Christmas dinner of veggies and melon trimmings. The inside chicken showed off her hard-won ability to stand and walk a few steps with a great excitement of clucks and feathers. You'd like her, I'm sure.

We could worry about our many fruit trees, all of which have inch-thick ice armor on and around every twig and branch, but it would do no good. We'll just see what happens. Snow tomorrow on top of ice- more exploding trees and power outages, I'd guess.

Stay warm, everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 07:27 PM

I'll stay cool thank you, & return your stay warm!

give the inside chook a pat from me

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 11:44 PM

Pete, I hope Tommy's evening set-back is nothing more than the "normal" set-back that affects many sick people in the later hours and that each morning he becomes stronger than the last and future evening set-backs become milder.

Maeve, I knew you had that wonderful wood stove and am glad to read you have water stored. When I used to live in a rural area we had a hand pump attached to the water line where it entered our basement! It sounds like you indoor chook is getting stronger and stronger. Shows what love and care can do!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 12:17 AM

Fervent hopes that Tommy is improving.

Lovely posts, maeve. Those fruit trees are Maine trees, and I fervently hope the worst they experience is nature's pruning that will only make them stronger and more resilient over the years of their lives.

Equally fervent identical hope for all sailing the seas of life.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 08:13 AM

Still just checking in... with thoughts, prayers and hopes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 09:06 AM

Continuing thoughts for Tommy. Posted to Mick of course but I got a nasty message from a newish 'Catter saying I was "inappropriate." Of course I am......I'm Spaw!

Maeve you have given many of us great joy of late which is not unusual for you.....but always so nice to hear. When you mentioned doing a few things for the first time since the fire, you made me very happy.

I hope all the crew is enjoying the season and that our thoughts and prayers for each other and many others have the effect we hope for. A new year arrives shortly and this thread passes a 3000 post milestone. I am thankful for Jane's Rainbow and the crew who sail her.

Much Love to All


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 12:40 PM

Tommy really improved yesterday and we were very hopeful. He is still reasonable but less than yesterday. We and medics had hoped to attempt removal of ventilator today but it has been deemed as not safely viable yet.          Lovely poetic descriptions of the ice assault.    Thanks for the prayers and thoughts of support.             Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 12:43 PM

3000.

Glad to hear that Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 12:50 PM

Only half my post? That's a new one...

Glad to hear that Pete. At least Tommy hasn't got any worse - after your last post I wasn't looking forward to your next. More good thoughts on the way to London.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 01:04 PM

I tried to access big mick thread, but hospital wi fi blocked it......pornography content!!!         Hopefully that is due to a popup and not what you wrote , spaw !!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 01:12 PM

Pete... Tommy and you and yours cross my mind every time I think of, open Mudcat or open Mudcat on Facebook. Nuff said.

3k posts! Thanks, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 02:02 PM

I hope not Pete.....I've said many of the same words on this thread though and it seems to have accepted them. If it was me, I'm sorry....

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 02:33 PM

I'm definitely in bereavement overload...

Just found out two days ago that friend, musician and folk scholar Bob Webb, who lives in Phippsburg, Maine, was in hospice...and this morning it was confirmed that he passed away yesterday (Christmas) at home surrounded by his family.

At PMFF the end of September he was trying to shake what he thought was a nasty bug...

This is a bit too sudden (for me, at least) to absorb...

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 05:35 PM

Linn I thought of you as soon as I saw a photo Charlie posted on FB of Bob at the PMFF. You really have been hit hard recently. I'm sending more hugs.

Pete, I'm sorry Tommy can't come of the ventilator yet. This really does seem to be another one-day-at-a-time situation. Hugs to you both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Dec 13 - 07:19 PM

lots more hugs to Linn, & Tommy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 27 Dec 13 - 02:10 PM

As you say chantylass, day by day. Even today he seemed to be doing well and then throw us into a panic with another setback. Again they hope to remove ventilator tomorrow, pending how he does tonight.                                 Spaw, I was only attempting to be lightheartedly jesting...I don't suppose it was you.            Sorry to hear of this latest loss, linn. I know how it can compound bereavement.       Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 27 Dec 13 - 02:21 PM

Thinking of you Pete, sending lots of positive thoughts and prayers

xxxxx Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 28 Dec 13 - 06:45 AM

Still here, Pete, with you and Tommy every day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Dec 13 - 04:36 PM

Pete... words won't convey my hopes for Tommy, you and yours. Bless all of you. Hang in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Dec 13 - 08:03 PM

Sending higs, Linn. Pete, here with the rest of the crew, pulling as strongly at the oars as I can for your darling Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter at tommys bedside.
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 01:49 PM

Tommy taken off ventilator appx six hours ago. They did not have high hopes of a successful transition to the bi pap breath assist but went for it anyway lest his muscles got to lazy.so far it,s going better than anticipated but the night will be a better indicator of whether he can stay off ventilator.    Thanks crew.   Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 02:13 PM

Thank you for taking time to send us an update, Pete. Sending a stream of ongoing support from The Rainbow!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 02:50 PM

Positive thoughts for you and Tommy, Pete. Thank you for the update.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,gnu on laptop
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 02:54 PM

Thanks for the update. Positive energy from here. Hang tough.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 04:37 PM

Lots of love. Pete,

thinking of us with positive thoughts,

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 04:45 PM

Thinking " from " us ! Sorry Pete xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Dec 13 - 08:21 PM

Prayers for Tommy being said now!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Dec 13 - 02:08 AM

fingers crossed

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 30 Dec 13 - 08:00 AM

Come on Tommy!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside.
Date: 30 Dec 13 - 04:29 PM

Yes, Wendy, positive thoughts of you all, too!       Tommy is still off the ventilator and began weaning slowly off continuous bi pap too. Still lots of thick secretions that physios are working on but all in all today has been a good day, thank God,   .....and you all too.   Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Dec 13 - 09:05 PM

I'll keep praying for each day to be better than the one before.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 31 Dec 13 - 06:32 AM

Me too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Dec 13 - 06:48 AM

Count me in. Glad to here it, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 06:04 AM

Now then, no falling off the page!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 08:12 AM

Good thoughts needed for Ralphie ,see thread above the line!

Hope all is well with Tommy Pete ?

Happy New Year crew! Lets all have a group hug and wish those who are ill or saddened, a sunny, healthy day!

With love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 01:08 PM

Tommy was doing really well but another mucus plug today put him in danger and left him weakened. We are hoping that he revives so he don't have to go back on ventilator. Just when we thought his recovery was underway, we find him to be still at risk. Thank you friends for your concern and prayers.         Blessings. Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 04:59 PM

Thoughts and prayers, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 08:01 PM

Excellent idea, Wendy, joining in. Pete, especial hugs and meditations for Tommy and for you and your family.

All the New Englander's, Mainiacs, (and are you going to get the same weather, gnu?) and midwesterner's sailing along, hope the hatches are battened down, propane or wood piled high,and that you are able to stay snug and warm over the next few days whether the power goes out or not.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 08:23 PM

Oh, Pete! Prayers for Tommy are continuing--and continuous!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 09:21 PM

Our weather is just cold! -29C, -39WC this morn. Small snow tomorrow. Blizzard warnings in NS, tho. I dread Monday. +6C and rain forecast but that's days away so that could change. Last of power outages (thousand without power) near Saint John, NB repaired early today. Some were without power since before Xmas.

Still thinking of Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Jan 14 - 09:44 PM

thinking of those who need support & comfort - including those in extremely wintery parts without electricity

sandra (in hot humid Sydney)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 05:17 AM

Safe home from NC yesterday morning. Jet lag, West to East always messes me up. Much to read here. Will write again when I can keep my eyes open long enough to do so! Special thanks to Maeve for alerting me to Ralph's plight.
    Wishing all of you Dear People a belated Happy Christmas & a Music-filled New Year,
                                                    Nigel.
                                                    xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 05:48 AM

Welcome home, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 06:03 AM

Hope it was a great trip, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 03:14 PM

Hope it was a good trip, Nigel. Very sorry we couldn't arrange to meet - next time, for sure!

Pete, imagining Tommy (and you and his mom and all who love him) surrounded by healing light and love. It must be hard, sometimes, to make your own heart start beating again, as you watch, love, wait and hope.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 06:19 PM

we came home tonight to see, and make arrangements for 8 yr old harry who has not seen much of us, though enjoying staying with our daughters and their children. with 14 grankids he has a few playmates!
tommy unfortunately was put back on ventilator today, which means he is safe at present but there is always risk of becoming dependant on it and not being able to breath for himself. it has been traumatic and frightening for him, not being able to understand why he is subjected to treatment like deep suction.

warm thoughts for friends in freezing zones at this time.
blessings all      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 07:29 PM

My heart goes out to Tommy, and all of you of the family, and I know that's true for all the circle here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 07:30 PM

Have to put the record straight, jet lag or not. Maeve alerted me to another post entirely; apologies & an explanation have been sent! The sad news about Ralphie (see his obit thread) came from one of my oldest & dearest Catter Friends,
            Greatly saddened but grateful, nonetheless,
                                                                              Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Jan 14 - 10:53 PM

I am sorry that Tommy is back on the ventilator, but at least he is safe. I continue to pray.

Gnu, stay warm!

Nigel, catch up on those ZZZs!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 05:10 AM

Still here. Still sending thoughts and prayers to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 07:10 AM

So sorry Pete. Lifting young Tommy and those providing his care in my thoughts.

Condolences to Ralph's friends here on the Cat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 09:36 AM

Feeling a bit down this morning for no real reason...probably just the past couple months catching up with me. I'll try to shake the mood by getting some more things checked off the To-Do list...

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 10:05 AM

sending a hug to Linn

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 10:49 AM

I see the Cookie Monster got me several posts back.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 08:06 PM

Linn, lots of love from BB and me, we think of you often, though we have never met.

Early hours of the morning here, don't ask..... things not so good with mum here at the moment, but compared with others I am blessed.

Pete, sending blessing to you and Tommy and your family.

Nigel, welcome home.

I had a fun surprise today, Essex girl sent a CD of me singing on BBC Radio Medway 35 years ago that I had never heard before!! Whoot! was that really me, Oh how young, how carefree!!

Lights out, should go to sleep!

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 09:27 PM

Linn, you are "Feeling a bit down this morning for no real reason . . . ." I think you have lots of real reasons! Sending hugs.

Wendy, "things not so good with mum here at the moment." I'm sorry. Hugs to you, too.

I imagine everyone else here is waiting for an update on Tommy, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Jan 14 - 09:28 PM

lucky you Wendy, I was talking to a friend last night whose 70th birthday presents included several CDs of his radio performances from back in the distant past. His retired radio presenter friend kept copies of everything he ever broadcast & my friend was also tickled to hear his young self.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Jan 14 - 07:25 AM

In my thoughts today: Wendy & her Mum; Pete & Tommy; Linn; Virginia Tam; Ralphie, Sheena, their friends & Family. Hoping all is well with Stateside Crew members affected by the snow & frighteningly low temperatures & any UK Crew affected by the floods & wind. Mother Nature most definitely NOT in a good mood at the moment.
       Thank you for the welcome home. Our time spent in NC this year, was, naturally enough, 'different', but, by & large, Christmas resembled most of the Christmases from past years, the only noticeable difference being our conversations were punctuated by longer than usual silences; silences that were, nevertheless, pregnant with thoughts & memories.
                           Keep warm...stay safe,
                                                             With Love,
                                                                            Nigel
                                                                            xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Jan 14 - 08:16 AM

we don't need to seek warmth here - we seek coolth as JennieG calls it.

love

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Jan 14 - 10:24 PM

Wishing a measure of coolth, to all y'all experiencing high summer right now!

Well remember that those first holidays are particularly poignant, Nigel. It is when all the family is gathered round that the empty chairs are most evident, especially those just recently vacant.

May you dwell in your hearts.

Hope Tommy can sense he is surrounded by people pulling for him, our hearts raised in full chorus together for comfort and hope.

Not a big deal, but if you have a few random good intentions to spare, will ask they be directed to my mother, who is having knee replacement surgery tomorrow. No problems anticipated, and hopeful her quality of life will soon be significantly improved. She has no health problems unusual for some one of her age, but she is in her mid 80's with some kidney, hypertension and mild cardiac issues that are not uncommon at her age. The risks of anesthesia is always a bit higher for elderly patients than for younger patients. My nephew happens to be an anesthesiologist, and while he is not the attending, he has arranged to be there, and the nurse anesthetist attending will be the second wife of my brother-in-law (my deceased sister's husband and father to my nephews, and himself an anesthesiologist.) She is in as good hands as anyone could want, and I even feel silly asking for any energy from you at all - but this is my beloved mother, eh? I figure y'all will forgive me and also indulge me my brief anxiety.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 01:15 AM

good thoughts for a comfortable recovery after the excellent surgery

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 06:12 AM

No forgiveness required, Janie, this is the Rainbow. Hope it all goes (went?) well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 06:15 AM

Janie... feel silly? Tut tut! Mums are Mums, period! Of course we'll be wishing her well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 06:54 AM

Sandra, not sure what advice would provide you with some coolth (Love that word). A temporary relocation to Maine might bring some much-needed relief, but could prove expensive...visualising icebergs...below deck on The Rainbow is usually a nice, comfortable temperature. I always say: "If it's too hot to sleep, then it's too hot!"
         
         Janie, all surgery comes with a measure of anxiety & this particular op. concerns your "Belovéd Mother". All very close to Home. Echoing Pete's words: "No forgiveness required". Your Mother certainly does seem to have a great team in attendance, which augurs well. "She is in as good hands as anyone could want....". Keep hold of that thought; take a deep breath, let it out long & slow & know that many here are holding you, your Family & particularly your Mother, close to their hearts.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel
                                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 06:55 AM

How be ye and your mum, Janie?

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 07:34 AM

I'm here too, sending love and good thoughts for your lovely mother Janie.

My mum has gone downhill since Christmas, another chest infection . They noted enlarged lymph nodes on her lungs when she had the fall in November but decided,at 90, investigations would be too distressing?
She was doing so well, plaster cast off before Christmas and walking really well on her zimmer frame, but this week she is mostly sleeping and very unresponsive in the day and very anxious and confused at night! Billy has ,as usual, been wonderful but we are both very tired and finding having a carer in the house 18 hours a day rather difficult.... no private life at all.

BUT... I know I am blessed to have mother with us still and she is usually very content.

Rant over,

Much love Janie and to Tommy, Pete, hope things are looking better this morning.
Going below to make large pot of coffee,

With love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 08:48 AM

I keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Chris' memorial is Saturday. The kitties are still spitting and arguing and I am having strange dreams that wake me about 3 AM. Then I toss and turn until it's time to get up.
Temporary but really annoying.
One day at a time. Anybody want a cat or two or three?
LOL
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 04:02 PM

No cats for me, SINS, but I hope you find loving homes for them.

Janie, prayers for your mum? I'm on it, though by now her surgery is probably done, so I'll also hope for a quick recovery.

Wendy, thank you for filling us in on what's happening with your mom. This has to be tough on all of you.

Nigel, longer pauses than usual in conversations during the holidays? I'll bet there were lumps in some throats and blinking back some tears, too. That reflects love.

And Sandra, if I could send some of this chilly air to you, believe me, I would!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 07:12 PM

Mom's surgery went just fine, they had her up and already starting to walk and rehab within just a couple of hours after she "woke up." I know my worry was unwarranted.

Wendy, I know you are engaged in a long labor of love. Any labor, even of love, gets exhausting. I hope the sun-downing you mother is doing eases up soon - sounds like delirium on top of the dementia. Wish we could literally sail up and whisk you away for a bit of a break for a few days.

Will be thinking especially of you, Sins, on Saturday. Wish I knew a remedy for the periods of strange dreams and disturbed sleep. Maybe tucking in here aboard ship, around a cozy stove in the galley, gouty foot propped up, and the circle occasionally changing some come into to warm and have a cuppa and others head up on deck for their watch?

I am reminded by several of this loving crew here that sorrow unshared or unspoken feels so much harder to bear.

How is Tommy?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 08:03 PM

Not unwarranted, Janie, All surgery has its risks. I hope your Mom recovers as quickly and effectively as my Dad did. For him, the knee surgery was life changing.. Up and about in a matter of weeks and never looked back.

No more gout - some effective diet changes have worked. But I do miss Jack Daniels on a winter night.

And how is Tommy?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 08:31 PM

Janie... good to hear.

I have thoughts and prayers for all. I may be away for some time but I will check in every day if not more often.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 07 Jan 14 - 08:50 PM

janie
my prayers on the way for you and mom

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from tommys bedside
Date: 08 Jan 14 - 01:11 PM

Been having connection problems, so only just caught up, and wishing well to the too hot, too cold, and the loving souls wanting health and brightness to their loved ones.       Tommy was taken off ventilator yesterday and the procedure went well, and his condition progressed and he has got brighter. However he had a hard time of it last physio session which deteriorated him somewhat so things still not certain. thankyou crew for pulling along with us.   Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 08 Jan 14 - 05:41 PM

And sending " Blessings" to you and Tommy Pete,

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jan 14 - 07:22 PM

Still sending thoughts & prayers for Tommy every time I see this thread.

And good to all.

Bless and be safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Jan 14 - 09:57 PM

What Wendy and gnu said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: rumanci
Date: 08 Jan 14 - 11:52 PM

still here - still pulling - hope, love and ups to all - big hugs too and constant thanks for the good people here....rum

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Jan 14 - 01:24 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jan 14 - 06:33 AM

Rum, good to hear from you.
Thinking just of Tommy & Pete today. Not a lot of energy to spare, but what there is, it's theirs.
         With Love,
                        Nigel
                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Jan 14 - 10:47 AM

For us all:
"We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day."

~ Edith Lovejoy Pierce

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 09 Jan 14 - 11:19 AM

Tommy still progressing but the turn out from anti biotics has made him red sore underneath.......but when we thought he might not make it this time.....blessings. Friends. Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Jan 14 - 12:17 PM

"still progressing"

One step at a time... if need be. My thoughts and prayers a day at a time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 10:46 AM

Progress is good. Still haulin' and keeping our heads above water...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 01:06 PM

I have missed a lot lately I see but the beauty of this place is that it works collectively all the time. I'm sure some of you are also like me.....if we're gone for a bit, some of our everyday thoughts are still here. Sometimes I try to get in but I get tired of waiting on the 'Cat. Sometimes even sitting here is a trial. Ain't that some crap?

Most times I am doing well and after starting an IV iron program, I really do feel much better. Over Christmas everyone said I looked and acted better than I have for at least 2 years. 'Course when I think of 2 years ago............LOL.....In all seriousness, I went through a really tough period through December but by Christmas I DID feel really great and acted much better too.....more like me. This past week has been a Chemo week and I feel better coming out of it than usual which may be related to the iron but something has helped out this time. Note though that in this game the Chemo ALWAYS suits up.

The Vidaza seemed to have quit working in November and as there is only one other drug I can use, that was extremely troubling. The iron has made a tremendous difference now and the numbers look really good again.   Insert BIG SIGH OF RELIEF here. So I was feeling bad for awhile but it brought Karen and I to the conversation we both knew but had yet to voice in detail. Even with (or because of?) the wonderful relationship we have it was one of those things that still had to be said between us. A few tough moments but we are now, if possible, even closer. Folks, I be married to one superfine woman/best friend/buddy/pal/lover.   Not real sure how I got this lucky........

I'll try to be more diligent than I have of late as I feel pretty good nowadays (except for the Vidaza weeks dammit) but please know you are always with me and I with you.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 03:44 PM

pleased to report that tommy is doing even better, and may even be able to come home next week, at this rate of recovery. this was a surprise to becky and I ,as we thought he would move on to high dependency for awhile before leaving hospital.

UP SPAW !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 04:26 PM

Maeve, that simply beautiful quotation from Edith Lovejoy Pierce has stirred the poet in me (If that doesn't sound too pompous). How be ye in the 'Polar Vortex'? Looks like it's coming our way, but a milder version (so 'they' say)

Pete & Tommy, what a transformation & maybe coming home next week. That is progress with a capital P. The human body never ceases to amaze me.

Spaw, I've missed your posts...it means so much to read your profoundly moving words. You & Karen really do have something special. I don't want your diligence, I want you well, happy & living your life full of love & emotion, just the way you describe it above. Your courage & optimism are an object lesson in 'Real Living'.
                                              With Love to You All,
                                                                              Nigel
                                                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 04:49 PM

Spawser, I've typed so much and then deleted it. Finally realized simple is best. Bunch of us sailing along with you, paradoxically in the same boat, and at the same time, in separate boats, but closely along side.

I don't know how subtle it is necessary to be here on this vessel (these vessels). Will risk erring on the side of caution. No matter where your attention and thoughts may be at any given moment in time, all indications thus far, are that you are accompanied by an able crew prepared to follow your lead in terms of what you want or need at any given time.

Love you, young and ancient soul,

Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 09:20 PM

It's good to read that Tommy is coming along and may be coming home in a week or so, hopefully less. Hugs to Tommy and to you, Pete.

Spaw, I'm glad to read that you are feeling somewhat better than usual after your last round of chemo. Hugs to you and Karen, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jan 14 - 10:50 PM

love to spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Jan 14 - 05:22 AM

Up Spaw!!

Pete, great news,

Sailing along, nice and sunny at the seaside this morning, might go to the beach hut for hot chocolate after I finish work at lunchtime!
Nigel, THIS spring, beach hut !!

Much love

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jan 14 - 05:26 AM

Pete... as soon as I saw your old Mudcat handle, I knew Tommy had made a turn for the better. Sounds great!

I knew you were feeling a bit better, Spaw, as soon as I saw all those upper case letters on that other thread. >;-)

A good way to start my day.

Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 11 Jan 14 - 07:20 PM

Thinking especially of Sinsull tonight, and the family of her friend whose memorial service they all attended today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 03:46 AM

On the 12th January, 2012, I wrote: "Just found out that our eldest daughter has been diagnosed with a grade 4, inoperable tumour in her lung. She lives in Dubai...we in London, which adds an extra layer of logistical problems to sort out. Prayers, thoughts, meditations...whatever you do in a crisis, spare us a minute or two in your 'quiet times', we really do need all the help we can get,
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann Paterson.

A second post appeared four minutes later (999). Twenty three posts by the end of the day, followed by a constant stream. At the time of writing that first post, the thought had never entered my head that over the next fifteen months, I would lose so much & in so doing, gain so much.
            Today is our second anniversary, my Dearest Friends.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 04:01 AM

That's lovely Nigel. An ongoing legacy of lifting each other born out of your experience with your daughter's illness and passing.

Pete - wonderful news re Tommy. I have been watching this thread.

Janie and Wendy - your mothers are in my thoughts too.

Up Spaw

Linn - What can I say?

May 2014 bring warmth and joy for all of you.

Yesterday I (miraculously) sang 5 or 6 songs non stop with nary a cough and only a little hoarseness by the end. Wheeeeee! Suddenly (and I think this is due to the lack of rain) I am in much less physical pain and stiffness.

Yesterday it was boiling hot in the flat due to the recent installation of cavity wall insulation. It was sunny if not warm outdoors. The combination of bright sun and indoor heat may have made the difference. I certainly feel happier too. Sunshine does that to me. Or maybe the anti-TNF injections are beginning to have effect.    I've only had two (monthly) doses so far. Early days.

Last night I felt well enough to share a bottle of bordeaux with TheSilentOne as we caught up on Dr. Who. Today - more sunshine. Life is good at the moment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 06:27 AM

Yeah, maeve. I had forgotten about SINS. I hope things are cool too.

Nigel... rainbows appear on rainy days.

VT... >:-D

Everyone... thanks. That's all I have the mental capacity for at the moment. When one watches NFL playoff football from 5:30 to past midnight whilst whetting one's whistle, well...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 08:34 AM

lovely news for Tommy & his family (which I forgot to mention earlier - oops) & from Tam

hugs & love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 09:18 AM

There is much good news to celebrate today and that is only right. I noticed last week that this "anniversary" was coming and did much what my wonderful friend Nigel did. I looked on down for a day or two and I am happy and pleased that so many of those names I still see here today.

Other names brought a ting, and sometimes far more than a ting, of sadness as I thought through situations they brought to this thread. At the time they had no way of knowing when they first arrived with support for Jane that their own stories would be told and lived......and sometimes not with the outcomes we would have liked.   Sometimes the outcomes brought great joy, other times great sadness. Kat tested our mettle as did the final days of Jane herself. The best part, if there was one, is that we collectively banded together and gave what we could. Through it all we became stronger for these experiences and I truly believe I am never alone as I have this place, this vessel of hope and support and the folks who sail in her, by my side and more than that, within me.....a warmth no other heat source can match.

Sitting here now I find myself feeling as though I need to thank Jane for what she has given us and for what we would all give back if we could return her to her loving family. Since we cannot........Thank you Jane. Thank you for your loving parents and my dear friend Nigel who brought us your story. We owe you much we cannot repay except by continuing on the voyage......and we will. Your spirit touched us all and continues to so every day.

I send Spaw "UPS" to all of you aboard, no matter what your current situation. Feelin' down, ill, really bad? Make it a double! Feelin' pretty good and ready to kick the world square in the ass? Save your free UP for later or pass it on.   It is a great anniversary for us Shipmates. The very best to you all!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete at tommys bedside
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 11:38 AM

That's where I am, and becky ,and tommy, sitting in his cruiser chair. He has just had a shower which before yesterday he had not been well enough to enjoy for appx four weeks, having been confined to the bed.still needs to build his strength up but still doing well.            Pleased to see your beach hut is ok, Wendy, after those coastal storms.       Blessings all.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 12:05 PM

Tell Tommy he is our "Anniversary Boy" here aboard Jane's Rainbow!

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 12:41 PM

Beautiful words, Spaw. Now... stop makin me tear up eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 01:15 PM

UP Tommy!

UP Spaw!

And my thoughts are especially with Nigel and his family. I never forget July 23, the day my sister died in 2002. It was a Tuesday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Jan 14 - 08:29 PM

I hope SINSULL will post to let us know how the memorial service went.

VirginiaTam, your news warms my heart and brightens my evening.

Pete, it is good to read that Tommy is continuing to improve.

Pete J, I'm sorry about your sister. I wasn't visiting Mudcat in 2002.

And Nigel, I'd rather you'd had no need to start this thread, but it has certainly been a blessing to so many of us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Jan 14 - 07:11 AM

There is much I want to say to all of you. After several false starts, the only way I can express what I'm feeling is to say: Thank you. Thank you for your Loyalty. Thank you for giving up your time. Thank you for your Wisdom. Thank you for sharing your Life Experiences. Thank you for your Love & Friendship. Thank you for your patience. Thank you for making me laugh. Thank you for drying my tears. Thank you for your generosity of spirit. Thank you for not shying away from the truth, when to do so might have been an easier option. Thank you for your courage. Thank you for your compassion. Thank you for your Prayers, Meditations, Candles, Positive Thoughts, sensitively chosen Music, anything you have done when you've put Ann & I first, ahead of your own needs & problems. Thank you for keeping 'Jane's Rainbow' afloat & on course.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jan 14 - 03:17 PM

Nigel... re my small contributions... you are FAR more than welcome. These pale in comparison to what you and others have given me in this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Jan 14 - 06:18 PM

can only add my amen ,or here here, to whats been said about jane, nigel and anne, and this thread.
only just seen your post tam, great to read about your UP.
been at the hospital all day. tommy been tired and a few things to sort relating to his condition, and his equipment, but still planning discharge tomorrow if these things get sorted sufficiently.
thankyou crew, blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 14 Jan 14 - 04:24 AM

Every day I come on board The Rainbow, often I just sit and read the wise words of compassion, feel the love that is always here.

Sometimes I share how we are faring and when times are hard a loving response is always sent.

The friends I have made here I have never met but mean as much to me as friends I have had for most of my life.

Thank you Jane and thank you Nigel and Ann.May The Rainbow sail on and on.............

Much love to everyone who is sailing with us

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,999
Date: 14 Jan 14 - 06:14 AM

I seldom post, Nigel, but I read the thread frequently and keep Jane, Ann and you in my heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Jan 14 - 10:03 AM

Appropriately our old friend 999 posts at this point. 3100 postings.

Nigel......Well said and I think most of us can share those same thank yous. Be happy at what you brought to life through a tragic personal loss.

Good news about Tommy!!!

Wendy, your solid postings have many times been the very backbone of this voyage. You and Maeve so often carry just the right tone and message. Along with Chantey Lass the three of you continue to supply so much positive energy, the rest of us owe you much and thank you.

Sandra, Tam, Janie.......I should write postings on each of you.......We have such a fine crew here I am always so damn amazed...............

Gnu......Kiss my ass.....and I mean that in the nicest way.......and I have no idea what the nicest way to kiss my ass is.............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Jan 14 - 02:46 PM

Thanks to 999 for posting. Many here are thinking of you as well.

Spaw, Nigel, the wholeheckofamightyfinecrew- Dealing with some horrible and wonderful experiences here. I read this thread most days, and most days cannot post. Please know you are in my heart.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 12:24 AM

Often speechless, but always here, as is the case for many folks. Very gladdened that at present there is a fair wind blowing for so many.

May we each and every one take pleasure and solace in every fair wind, and also find that which is fair in every wind that blows, and every sea that rises.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 02:20 AM

often wiping away tears while reading posts here

I'm heading to a 4-day festival in the morning (eek, 18 hours to sort stuff & pack) see ya when I get back

love & hugs to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 06:18 AM

Great news, Pete!

UP yours, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 06:58 AM

Maeve, you pipped me to the post; so good to hear from '9' & agreed, in the thoughts & hearts of many of us.

Janie, like you, I check in most days...like you & Maeve, I am often lost for words but desperate to say something meaningful.

Sandra, wouldn't it be amazing if we could collect all the tears shed & transform them into a balm that would cure all ills, comfort the distressed, ease all pain & suffering. I long to live in such a World.

Yesterday, Ann & I asked our Doctor for a Bereavement Counsellor referral. We've muddled along as best we could, but the enormity of what happened in March last year has finally hit home. We've been kidding ourselves that we were 'ok', clinging desperately to the 'day at a time' mantra. Only time will tell.
                                                With Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 11:45 AM

A good move Nigel. I think we all will agree that you and Ann shared a personal loss far harder than most. No one should have to bury their children. You have the support of this crew and my personal best thoughts as you begin your journey. The two of you deserve the very best and I hope this step helps to get you there.

Much Love

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 02:07 PM

I am with Spaw. Good on yas.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 02:40 PM

Nigel and Ann- Good. Wise move...we'll be here and you'll make a different sort of journey exploring the depths and dizzying heights of your loss and love for your family and one another.

Nigel..."we could collect all the tears shed & transform them into a balm that would cure all ills, comfort the distressed, ease all pain & suffering. I long to live in such a World." That's the germ of a song, young man.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 03:15 PM

Sorry to say, we have a set back. Tommys lung has weakened again and he has infection in his feeding tube site which is feared could be dangerous so an op to change it was scheduled today. This has been put off till tomorrow due to other emergencies. However he dipped badly tonight which caused a flurry of activity, and if it had happened during op might have been fatal. Needless to say ,it is worrying, so all prayers appreciated.                        Nigel...wishing you and Anne solace and comfort.         Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 05:12 PM

Oh my... all I can say is... nope, I got no words. Only hopeful thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 05:35 PM

best wishes heading your way, Tommy & Pete

andra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 07:39 PM

Pete, I am a long-time admirer of yours, as you may or may not know. Although I 'have no truck' with religion, I have all the time in the world for good people, and that means people like you. BM

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 07:50 PM

Yeah.....I got off that truck a long ways back myself. But time, good thoughts, encouragement, love, and hope, are all things that require only living fully as a part of the human experience.

All my best thoughts and hopes to Tommy right now.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 11:24 PM

Nigel, I think you made a wise decision to seek out a bereavement counselor. That's why they exist! People shouldn't have to handle some things alone. Grieving is a journey, and this will be one more step in that journey.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 06:44 AM

More good thoughts going several places at once.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 08:51 AM

Pete xxxxxxxxx much love and prayers
Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comf
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 12:50 PM

The op went ahead this afternoon and though he is still coming round , it seems to have gone well.the x ray prior to the op was clear of the whiteout shown on the x ray of the previous day apparently. There was a lot of infection to clean out ,so op took a lot longer than scheduled but hopefully he will start to mend now. Thanks for your prayers and kind thoughts. Bless you.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 01:43 PM

Thank you Pete, for keeping us informed re Tommy. Still lifting him in my thoughts and wishing all good energy towards his healing.

Lunch time today I really bad reaction to chemo I took this morning. Battled on through work regardless. Still sick so no dinner tonight. Maybe bowl of cornflakes later. Decided to take tomorrow as a flexi day. Need recupe time.


Love and hugs to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 02:49 PM

Mods, kindly clear out my duplicate post just before this. Thanks.

Pete- What a relief to have that muck cleaned out! I hope this will enable Tommy to heal.

Tamara- Thank you for taking care of yourself. Rest easy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 07:23 PM

More love and healing thoughts and prayers to Tommy, Pete, Tamara .

Oh and

Spaw,

Nigel and Ann and

All the crew,

Billy is sleeping, mum is asleep with a carer holding her hand,

I have my kindle and a glass of wine . So I will take the night watch,
God bless all, sleep tight,may the morning bring in a sunny day

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 09:27 PM

I wish that night and the sunny day that follows for you too Wendy. As a matter of fact Wendy that's a great idea you have there for whole crew. I'll second that!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 10:01 PM

Just thoughts and prayers for all. It's all I got but I send them with all my heart. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 10:03 PM

Pete, glad Tommy's op went well, but it must have worried you that it went on longer than expected.

VirginiaTam, I hope you feel better soon. Sorry the chemo set you back.

Wendy, I wish you a sunny day, too. Enjoy your wine!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jan 14 - 12:15 AM

Made a long post, then deleted it.

In each of our lives, great storms, little storms, and more often storms that aren't epic, but go on and on. As we sail that is the case also. With each clearing or break in the clouds, or even remarkably beautiful play of light on clouds layered on clouds in the angled light of morning or twilights, may we lift up our wings and fly.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCANAmQizdc


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKjgJ3oLJqE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFGO4iKh-aM&playnext=1&list=AL94UKMTqg-9Dp38Ds6I3G60UakegICiJ1

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Jan 14 - 08:25 PM

Thanks for the music, Janie.

Goodnight and sweet dreams, all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Jan 14 - 08:33 PM

Thank you Janie.........And I hope this finds Tommy still on the comeback.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 06:28 AM

G'mornin all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 07:27 AM

My thoughts are focussed on Pete & Tommy, as they are, each & every day. Hoping, hoping, hoping that Good Health will be Tommy's constant companion. Hoping, hoping, hoping, Pete, that your Faith will guide & sustain you.

Janie, your knack of choosing "La Musique juste" is quite uncanny. Thank you & thank you for introducing me to two singers who are new to me (very out of touch these days).

Spaw, just as Janie manages to find great Music, your knack of finding "Le Mot juste" is equally uncanny. I read & re-read your posts. They are for all to read, but I always have that feeling that you're speaking directly to me too. Like the way a good actor can make you feel that you're the only person in the auditorium.

Wendy, I feel I know You, Billy & your Mother as if we'd been neighbours for years. You have allowed us into your world with your movingly intimate posts. I've laughed & cried in equal measure.

Virginia T., despite the complexity & persistence of your health issues, you continue to search for positive outcomes, frequently putting others' needs ahead of your own. I applaud your courage & fortitude.

Gnu, would you join me up on deck? The air is crisp & fresh & the sound of the waves gently breaking against the bow, makes Music that none could play, but all can appreciate. I would enjoy some time in your company.

Maeve, ".....a germ of a song". If I write the lyrics, would you like to compose the melody? If I'm to achieve anything at present, collaboration seems to be my only option, for I can create nothing 'in my solitude'.

          To you all, I send my Love & Gratitude. Just knowing that you're there, regardless of how near or far you may be, is a great comfort,
                                                                        With Love,
                                                                                       Nigel
                                                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 07:44 AM

Nigel- What a good post!
And a tune for your song- of course.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 08:00 AM

I have to post this. Pure joy! A happy tune.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 12:10 PM

Tommy sleeping peacefully this afternoon. Tube removed from him this morning and he has seemed much brighter and less tired. He is on bi pap breath assistance because of the weak lung.....hopefully a temporary measure...........hope you are having a better day today tam.........peace and comfort to you Nigel, and creative juices flowing again.......blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 01:42 PM

Glad to hear it, Pete!

Nigel... I am honoured.

maeve... thanks.

VTam... enjoy your fav sweets. The senders must be reeeeal sweeties.

Janie and Wendy... I echo Nigel ineloquently.

Spaw... you know. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 01:44 PM

Dancing a jig. Great visit with TheSilentOne's parents in Strat u Avon today. Dad was a awake in chepper mood and Mum was more lucid than we have seen her in months.

Jigging more. Walked to and from the pub (lunch) without angina pain or pain in hips and ankles. What's more, I took stairs alternately. Usually my ankles and hips make ascend and descend one step at a time.

Spent the near 3 hour trips to and from Strat u Avon, singing. Kept voice and only had one coughing bout near end of the trip home.

Once back foud lovely surprise from couple of US mudcatters waiting. See Mudcat Magic thread.

Very good to read the very good news about Tommy.

Love and hugs to all you magical mudcatters.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 03:34 PM

Joyful indeed maeve.    May each and every one of us, each day, be open to the opportunities for joy. Even nanoseconds of joy are potent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 06:07 PM

Friday's yoga class was followed by a 15-minute breathing meditation. My focus was on Tommy.

VirginiaTam, I'm glad you had so much energy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 06:48 AM

a lot of good stuff!

keep up the good news

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 01:07 PM

I'll second that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 01:59 PM

And I,ll third it......ESP the big lift for tam.             Tommys discharge is planned tomorrow.    He has been a bit. Cranky today....sure sign he,s feeling better

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 06:59 PM

Oh, good for Tommy and you, Pete!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 07:04 PM

Cheers all around!

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 08:47 PM

just a bit? may he continue healing & expressing his personality.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Tinker
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 09:55 PM

Okay I'm a little shakey. Could be so much worse. Spent all day yesterday with my son getting him a usded car. He let this morning for Oxford, Oh and had an accident 3 hrs shy of getting there.

Ben's okay. No other car involved. The car -- we'll see. It's just 10 days over a year since my daughter totalling her car when we were on the way to North Carolina.

He has friends going to pick him up, but .....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 10:34 PM

Welcome aboard, Tinker. I'm so relieved that your son is ok. Time for a cup of tea and some slow breathing.

Hugs from Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 06:14 AM

Things do NOT always come in threes Tink! Glad Ben is okay and now try to concentrate on breathing....LOL.....Glad you came by today. Keep us posted.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 10:47 AM

I found another quotation that may speak to some here:

"If stories come to you, care for them. And learn to give them away where they are needed. Sometimes a person needs a story more than food to stay alive."   ~ Barry Lopez, " Crow and Weasel"

And a song from a Canadian singer, Dan McKinnon "Simple Things"

And it's simple things I send to all on board the Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 01:36 PM

Thinking of Ben and you Tink,

Cars can be replaced, sons cannot! So pleased Ben is safe,

Welcome to The Rainbow, the best place to be comforted and share troubles,

much love to Pete and Tommy

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 07:17 PM

Oh my, how an evening can change your world!

I thought I would spring clean mothers bedroom, so, with her carer, we took down the curtains, washed the windows and paintwork, put up some new curtains that were a lovely shade of duck egg blue, all well with our world .

Then as I was standing on a chair , I thought the top of the wardrobe needed dusting, so took down great granddads tin box, inch of dust, two speakers, unplugged and not needed and very dusty, mum's hat box with Buckingham Palace hat(much prized) and very dusty, and found in far corner funny little black thing ( luddite that I am !!) Turns out that my brother, who I have had issues with over spending mothers money to pay for her care, has been bugging mother's bedroom and my home

I think he is worried that his inheritance might be going ? Spending mothers money on 24 hour care? But all I care about is looking after my mother, even so, it does not excuse bugging my home?

I am sure it is illegal as he has bugged the carers, and Billy and my daughter are livid!!

What do I do next? Solicitor? Police ? Oh dear ,if ever I need a voice of calm....... here I am! Need to know what to do in the morning?

Bewildered and very unhappy

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 08:19 PM

Wendy- I would also be livid, but there will be time for anger later. Right now you need to be calm. Any chance your brother knows about your posts here? if so, watch what you post.

Yes, I would contact my solicitor in your place, but I wouldn't allow anyone at the house to discuss the issue where they will be overheard by bugs, nor would I make that call from home. Careful and calm is what's called for.

The ducks egg blue curtains sound lovely. You are taking the best loving care of your mother, so rest easy tonight.

Hugs,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 08:33 PM

I join Maeve....good advice. Stop conversations inside that might be picked up and check other rooms too. Turn a radio on in the kitchen and talk there. Go outside to call your Sol.

Now try to relax and maybe make a note or two of things you need to ask or say in the AM.

We all love ya' and you've already gone through far worse than this!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 08:50 PM

What maeve and spaw said, Wendy.

Family issues can be so complicated. Sending double dose of love and and caring.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 09:22 PM

Tinker, I'm glad Ben is okay but sorry for the accident.

Wendy, how awful! I would be irate and anxious! What a nasty thing for anyone to do!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 01:39 AM

adding to the love & hugs heading your way, Wendy

Gidday, Tinker - welcome to the Rainbow. I hope you & Ben are feeling calmer by now

love
sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 06:05 AM

I'll ditto all that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 06:23 AM

missed your post yesterday, Tinker. Glad Ben is OK.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 08:28 AM

Welcome, Tinker. I echo the many post regarding Ben. Cars can be fixed or replaced...options for us Humans tend to be a bit more complicated!

Wendy, I am horrified by your discovery. As has already been said, pay careful attention to your postings. My gut reaction is seek legal advice. Unspeakable that you have been subjected to this gross intrusion.I hope it's ok to say, on behalf of everyone, that you have the love & emotional protection of the whole Crew,
                                                             With Love,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann
                                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 02:25 PM

Wendy... That is just awful. I shouldn't think it is wise to confront your brother, without first taking some professional advice. Maybe Citizen's Advice can help.

I hope you find a resolution soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 03:04 PM

Oh, Wendy, that's just...reprehensible.

Pete, so happy to hear the news about Tommy.

Tam, glad you're feeling better.

Tinker, we've already talked, but I'm glad Ben's OK and that you boarded the Rainbow.

Now for a feel-good story: I belong to an online photo-a-day group, and another member is the mother of a six-year-old who happens to have autism. As a way to both connect with her daughter and to get Delilah to be more creative, Jennifer, the mom, started having Delilah decide how they were going to interpret the day's prompt and come up with the subject. Delilah has quickly stolen the hearts of everyone in the group, and we enjoy our daily glimpse into how she sees the world. Jennifer was hoping to have a camera for Delilah for Christmas, but a major vet bill happened (Delilah's dog Baxter needed surgery) and money is tight for them at the moment. I'd bought my mom a digital camera for her birthday a couple of years ago that she can't use due to tremors in her hands from her stroke, and we decided at Christmas that Delilah should have the camera. It arrived half-an-hour ago (thank you USPS tracking!) and I'm waiting excitedly to hear from them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 06:04 PM

Bless you all,

Have had a really horrid day, decided after a sleepless night to try and set my feelings of sadness and anger aside and have a cool head and think as clearly as possible.

Firstly I am pretty much sure that this lovely safe haven is, indeed ,safe and my brother will not come here. but I think he may see my face book page, where I said I thought I had found a Dictaphone that might have belonged to my grandson. Then my son commented that I had found it two years ago and sent it back in the post, I then made a joke about MI5!!This all before BB and I managed to work out how to use the darn thing and then listened to the recording. We are positive that it was placed there by my brother, after a lot of rustling noise his is the first voice you hear and it was   on Sunday evening, you hear him saying goodnight to mum and then the carer putting her to bed. It is voice activated and records for 72 hours.

Back to today, I have seen the police, who would arrest him and question him if I make an official complaint! As if I can do that, the ramifications are horrible?

The second option is for the family to confront him with: ok, we have found this, why would you do this? We are worried about you, we think you need help and we wish to facilitate this for you, if not we will have no option to go to the police and put it in their hands. My son and son in law are prepared to do this as we agree that Billy and I cannot do it.

I have had to inform the care company as they have a duty of care for their employees and if they choose to take action that is out of my control!

Tonight I had a phone call from him that was very out of character asking how I was and how Billy was, made me think he has seen my facebook page, normally he is not at all interested in our welfare, there has been a history of very irrational behaviour in the past.

I am sure he will not read this,but if he did he would see how much hurt and distress he has caused.

Rainbow crew, I love you all, thank you for being here and loving thoughts to you all, sorry to burden you with this stupid tale of woe, onward and upwards.....

With much love

Wendyxxxxxx
( mum is sleeping soundly with her carer by her side, that's all that matters)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 09:51 PM

Hoping to see an update from Pete abpt Tommy soon.

Wendy, good luck with Plan B.

Ranger1, what a nice thing to do! I'm glad you thought of it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 10:03 PM

I echo all 3 points from Chantey Lass! Well said CL.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Jan 14 - 10:57 PM

I neglected to say in my post UP SPAW!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jan 14 - 12:46 AM

once again I second ChantyLass - second both posts, I hasten to say

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jan 14 - 12:48 AM

second post was from Ranger1 & I second that, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Jan 14 - 06:37 AM

I reverberate Spaw's echo.

"( mum is sleeping soundly with her carer by her side, that's all that matters)"

Yup. That's the spirit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jan 14 - 11:17 PM

Wendy, rocky coastline. You have the helm here with all crew on board. No foolproof course when it comes to all the complicated currents. Just know you are not sailing alone.

VT, I love how when a day, week, or even an evening bubbles up as an opportunity to celebrate, you do so. Also love your honesty when it is hard. Radical acceptance, eh?

Tommy home?

Nigel and Anne, slogging through gray waters and heavy swells, keep rowing. Keep sailing. You are not sailing alone even though your journey is your own.

Darlin' Sinsull - Wise Woman - Be strong as you need to be for yourself, and also come below whenever you like and feel comfortable doing so. Tea, coffee, a shot of scotch, or a good, ribald, sarcastic, a simple silly circle of love and laughter, or/and a serious and heartfelt touching of hearts. Whatever you need here awaits you. This is a ship where there is a little magic - magic happens when hearts are open.

This boat or flotilla has the wisdom and collective heart of many and offers what we need - connection and empathy. Not sympathy. Not being told how we ought to feel or think, not judged or admonished. Just a simple acknowledgment that life is full.... That a full life includes pain, fear, suffering, loss and confusion, nothing remarkable about that except that in each case, it is our own lives and the lives, fear, and decline and deaths of those we love, personally and up close. Sometime shocking, and sometimes not. But what all of us desire and strive for are full lives, and this ship - this flotilla, celebrates the fullness of life. All the resilient ways we find to accept and embrace what it means to live and to die. To love and rejoice and to suffer and fear. To just keep sailing on, knowing we are not alone.

Awesome!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 23 Jan 14 - 04:25 AM

Awesome? Oh Janie that is you, thank you.

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jan 14 - 10:51 AM

just got our internet fixed this afternoon and came here first.
wendy, I was flabberghasted to read of your sinister discovery. I don't suppose he was worried about your mums care at times you might be absent? , after some of the care home stories. sounds a bit of a stretch , but possible. but as he has been worried about his inheritance ,it seems unlikely. wishing you wisdom.

we bought tommy home on Monday, and we thought he might have to go back when sats readings went low and we had to suction mucus plugs out of him, but today he is on his feet, bright and awake all day so far. yesterday he slept most of the day, perhaps understandable after being so low for so long .the trend seems to be up.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Jan 14 - 01:23 PM

"but today he is on his feet, bright and awake all day so far."

YEAH BABY! GO GO GO! UP UP UP! ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL TO HEAR!!!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Jan 14 - 08:47 PM

YAH, Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jan 14 - 12:06 AM

Oh, good for Tommy! I hope he can keep on improving!

Great post, Janie!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Jan 14 - 06:17 AM

Hugs & Kisses & big Smiles for Tommy & Pete.
                                                                     Much Love to you both,
                                                                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Jan 14 - 03:21 PM

Day by day. Rest well Tommy, and restore and rejuvenate. Same wishes for you and his mom, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 Jan 14 - 10:35 PM

Take it easy Tommy and don't overdo. After a long illness and all the time in the hospital, it is way too easy to overdo.

Lots of happy folks here on the Rainbow. Continue getting better.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Jan 14 - 03:48 AM

YES, still seems to be steadily recovering, thankyou friends.
hope, wendy ,your present worry is resolving best as can do.
UP SPAW.    BLESSINGS ALL    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Jan 14 - 07:45 AM

Life's unexpected surprises (of the pleasant kind), can really give one a boost. A niece who I had lost touch with over twenty five years ago, has tracked me down, courtesy of the internet. I'm having lunch with her & her Family in a couple of weeks time. The last time we were together, she was still at school. Now, she's married with a son & daughter at high school. I think it will be one emotionally charged lunch!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel.
                                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 25 Jan 14 - 09:12 AM

How wonderful Nigel! One of the things I have enjoyed lately is catching up with school friends on a site about my hometown here on FB. There is also a downside. One of my best friends in high school and for a few years after. I previously knew had died. I wasn't around and didn't hear about it til years later. We had drifted apart as our lives changed. He'd married another mutual friend, had kids, and all that normal family thing.

So I run down his wife on this site I found and sent her a note. She wrote a nice note back and we agreed to stay in touch. I ran across another friend the next day and she had lost her husband last year and they were very close. We chatted back and forth and I mentioned talking to "Jenny" the day before. She tells me what a strong support she had been for her AND that "Rich" had committed suicids the day their divorce came through. He had also lost his longtime job and was depressed............I didn't let her know I didn't know that and am thankful I didn't say anything to his wife. "Phyllis" then tells me that "Betty's" husband, also a mutual friend and schoolmate, had died two years ago.

Geeziz..........A suicde and two sort of shocking and sudden deaths.....

I am taking a bit of a break from the site to absorb this....LOL.....I mean really......You gotta' laugh a bit here because I was so damn innocent and enjoying the old times so much I forgot we had all aged and that carries all the problems life has brought us. It is what it is and my eyes are open now and far more prepared to continue enjoying the reminiscing with a more realistic mindset.

Realistic mindset....... Sometimes I forget one of my two core beliefs.....There is only what is. What should be never existed..... The world is ever so capable of delivering jabs, body shots, and upper cuts, in a powerful flurry. Gotta' keep your legs and know the truth that defeats it.....There is only what is......

And then, like Nigel, we can relish the joy of the rounds where we win. Much love to the crew of "Jane's Rainbow!"



Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jan 14 - 05:19 AM

Great post, Spaw. Desperate, when one 'turns back the pages' of our personal histories, only to discover that some of those we knew & maybe even loved, are with us no more. To discover further that the circumstances were so excessively painful is an added twist that makes absorbing the news that much harder. Take all the time you need, my Dear Friend. You have quite a bundle of memories on which to ponder & reflect. Ann & I send our sincere condolences & Love.
       Tomorrow (Monday 27th), Ann & I will be attending Ralph Jordan's funeral. He was 'Ralphie' on MC. If you're up & about at 11:30 UK time, give thanks for a superb musician; a matchless sound engineer; an irrepressible supporter & friend of Nic Jones & a Gentle Man in every sense of the word. Ralph will be sorely missed by all those who knew & worked with him, myself included.
                               With Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Jan 14 - 07:36 PM

Up, Up, Up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 Jan 14 - 09:07 PM

Many of us only knew Ralph here but I posted to his obit thread.....No harm in having it here either I suppose..........

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"Ralphie" was always a fine contributor here. He came to Mudcat in 2001 and always had knowledgeable and passionate comments PLUS could many times be counted on to have some funny things to add in the BS fray.   

Not long after he arrived he and I PM'ed a few times when I saw he might be getting a bit ...... I dunno' what but I'll use "overwrought" by some of our resident jackasses......er, uh, trolls. I think the following response showed everything I needed to know about him in a nutshell. Intelligence, self knowledge, and above all(for me)....humor.....wait, I'll make that humour just for him.

Pat. I'm honoured!...Have had 6 messages so far.
As a Brit, I find this whole forum, not only useful, but also fascinating.
I've even got wound up meself over a couple of topics (Celtic Music?) Only because I hate to see injustice, of any kind.
But, by and large, I feel very happy here...I'll even forgive you for being American....By the way...can we have our country back now?
Best wishes from "Der Fatherland"....
I hear you've not been well, so, GET BETTER!! Best Wishes and thanks for the welcome Ralphie

Travel well Ralphie. It was a pleasure and an "honour" to have you here with us.
*************************************************************

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 27 Jan 14 - 01:07 PM

Amen to that, Spaw. Just gone 5 past 6 (pm), so I'll raise a glass shortly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Jan 14 - 11:51 PM

Time does, or at least can, heal. Kaye died 23 years ago this evening. She had just turned 42. Her boys were 8 and 9 years old. I was 39. Several times this month I have thought about the approaching anniversary, but today, it wasn't until I wrote the date down on some signature page at work that I realized the date and that today is that anniversary. The hole in my heart after all these years is not nearly as precious, nor as vivid as are the memories.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jan 14 - 06:02 AM

"The hole in my heart after all these years is not nearly as precious, nor as vivid as are the memories."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 28 Jan 14 - 07:16 AM

I talked about something similar discussing the death of my best friend, mentor, big brother, Denny. It came to me in a strange enough way through the question of a 12 year old boy. I did the eulogy for Denny and I had the very large crowd laughing...........


The funeral drew a huge crowd and when I spoke, I spent twenty minutes and got lots of laughs, because we had had many good laughs together over the years. But I ended with something that my nephew had asked. It was a good question and since he was there, it was a good place to answer it. Ricky said to his Mom (Connie), "What's it like when your best friend dies? Uncle Pat must have a big hole in his heart now." At the end of that eulogy cum comedy monologue, I told the crowd what Rick had asked and said:

Great friends cannot leave a hole in your heart. They can only fill it with the memories of a lifetime. Maybe that's all our hearts really are.......A collection of wonderful memories and love for those we bless and who bless us with that most special status......True Friend.



Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jan 14 - 04:28 PM

I think perhaps, that another way of expressing it is, that a loss can break a heart ,but the positive memories can bring healing over time.
tommy still steadily recovering, but the bi-pap machine does most of his breathing at night. otherwise, its generally up, so UP SPAW and blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 05:30 AM

Good to hear, Pete.

Spaw... wonderful words.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 06:26 AM

'Inspirational' is not a word I use lightly or regularly, but this page IS just that. Much to read, much to think about. Wonderful words, written by some wonderful people. The accumulated knowledge, wisdom & experience written here is invaluable..."Words for Life".
                               With Love to you All,
                                                             Nigel.
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 06:45 AM

I'll second that

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 07:05 AM

Too much death this week. After falling apart over the news re Pete Seeger Tuesday morning, I received more sad news this morning.

One time friend and former colleague. She was early 40s young, vibrant, devestatingly funny, loved traditional music, art and history and was quite the liberal thinker.

She fell ill with a brain tumour in September 2011. Had surgery and full compliment of chemo and radiation. Siezures left her unable to work. She and her partner had to move from the area and in with her parents. She was an only child.

She took a turn for the worse last week and passed this Sunday while in hospital.

This January is too sad.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 11:46 AM

Best thoughts to you, her partner, and her parents. Much the same started this voyage..........

My Grandfather used to call this "Old Black January."


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 02:20 PM

VT... my condolences.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jan 14 - 09:13 PM

Pete, thank goodness for the bi-pap machine.

VirginiaTam, I wish I could write something to alleviate your grieving.

Hmm, I haven't sent this message lately. UP, SPAW!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Jan 14 - 06:38 AM

VT, I can do no better than echo Spaw's words. Please accept my comforting thoughts,
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 30 Jan 14 - 08:30 AM

My thoughts too VT,

Why is January such a bad time? Too many people with sadness!!

UP SPAW and Tommy!

With love Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 06:24 AM

hugs to Tam & good wishes to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 01:21 PM

My sister called last night to tell me my uncle in Kentucky died Wednesday. He was my mother's younger (80) brother. Pneumonia -- the older person's friend. He'd survived Korea and a couple tours in Vietnam with the 101st Airborne, but heart problems and pneumonia got him two months after Mom.

Ach. For whatever reason, I'm not doing that well today. Took a clonazapam (anti-anxiety) early, but I'm not sure it helped much.

I'm having a bit of trouble, too, coordinating Tom's memorial. I'd just like to wake up and have it all set to go... Maybe giving me a chance at some point to just curl up in the fetal position and suck my thumb. (Figuratively speaking.) I'm feeling a bit overextended...as if there are too many things still to do and I'm having trouble multi-tasking.

Dealing with minor annoyances... NEVER give anyone a prepaid debit bank card. They are really more aggravation than they're worth.

Of course it just might be the fact it's JANUARY.

I'm heading over to Tangibles antique shop to see Cesar, whom Tom worked with for a long time, before I go to the Press Room session.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 02:12 PM

Brave on, Linn. Gotta be rough for you but it's just what ya gotta do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:26 PM

Friday night. Let's just chill... relax... take a moment... don't do anything at all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:38 PM

AND... at the risk of thread drift, check these guys out.They do covers of everything from you name it to rap and they do it well. Their musical abilities and comedic cover parodies are, in my opinion, unequaled. If you want a break from life, here it is. This is FAR from the best of their many cuts and vids but it follows my previous post. I am gonna post my fav next post but this one demonstrates some of what they do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lyuTsquH9Q&feature=fvwp&NR=1

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:53 PM

I know this thread is about healing and caring and consoling. But... others have posted music so I wanna share sommat that has simply lifted my spirits in music and also comedically... these guys are a treasure and a comfort... a distraction when needed. If you enjoy their entertainment, I have posted well. If not, well, nothing venture...

Here is the original... I like it... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cv6tuzHUuuk


Here is the Bluegrass version... I like it a lot... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PS0P7w4YCDI

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 07:28 PM

Yeah gnu, but as you well know, sometimes you need to take a break and say, "What the fuck!"..........Thanks

3200 --- Lots of posts on the best thread Mudcat ever had!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 09:27 PM

Aw, Linn, I'm sorry about your uncle.

About Tom's memorial, I don't know what you are planning, but I hope everything falls into place more easily than you anticipate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 31 Jan 14 - 11:04 PM

It's not that planning this memorial is a hardship...I have plenty of resources. It's just that...I don't know. I'm having trouble getting going on it. I've thought about it . It's not as if this memorial is goodbye...Tom will be with me forever. And, quite honestly, after it's accomplished, I'll be Abe to get on with converting a lot of cubic footage into small green pieces of paper with historical figures on them. I might also be able to just figuratively curl up in thebfetal position and suck my thumb.

I was very weepy today. Memories were crowding in on me. And that's not a bad thing... Uncle Orin dying was One. More. Thing. I'm just feeling over extended. I HAVE been at a gallop since at least October.

My sister sent the photographs taken at Mom's funeral by my mother's cousin's daughter. I look tired... I wonder why...

I'm so glad I went over to see Cesar at Tangibles (antique shop) today. I hadn't talked to him since right after Tom died. We had a .lovely talk. he's been such a good friend to Tom and I. Unfortunately he'll be in the DR for the memorial.

Anyway, glad I got to Maine to see him. Was a little late for the Press Room session, but I really needed that, too. Where would I be without music? It was a good session.

I'm going back to my book and opera on Pandora...

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 10:50 AM

sometimes, linn, it seems like everything is just too much when so much crashes down on you. hope things sort out for you and you get some rest    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 08:47 PM

what Pete said

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 09:37 PM

I've been in a quiet mode for whatever reason for a while, but I've still been following you all, and "pulling for" you all, daily; all calm on this part of the deck just now; just have to see whether it will take a few minutes with the snow blower to get us down the gangplank in the morning. : )

             Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Feb 14 - 09:40 PM

I'll echo Sandra!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 06:16 AM

Thanks Gnu & thanks again. Having listened to/watched all the music links you posted, it's the Bluegrass/Country (unsure of my genres here) versions that hit the spot every time for me. Great singing (adore the close harmony), virtuoso instrumental accompaniments & breaks & perfectly timed, beautifully understated humour...what a winning combination. This uniquely American Art Form makes me want to unlatch my guitar &/or mandolin case, grab whatever lies within & leap up onto the stage & hopefully find the right key PDQ!
       Spaw....agree, agree, & thrice agree...WTF, time to 'tear it up a little' & launch the liberty boat. I've just had one of the most entertaining Sunday mornings in years, apart from the footage of Bruno Mars in his underpants. That 'collided' somewhat with my porridge!
       Very proud of all of you, my Dear Friends. Very proud of what we have achieved & continue to achieve. This moment of levity in no way detracts from our voyage & the course we have set ourselves. Indeed, my feeling is that it enhances our ability to reach out & be reached.
            Take good care of yourselves,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel
                                                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 08:14 AM

The Cleverleys have many more YT vids than those on their playlist/channel. Search the name and you'll find over twice as many. You'll not be disappointed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 02:23 PM

bluegrass is not my usual fare, gnu, but I played a couple and was impressed, and bought a smile to my face.
btw, I thought your contribution on the joke thread was funny...can of peas too..

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Feb 14 - 03:27 PM

Thanks, Nigel. Haven't been back to the joke thread after I was told that joke was offensive* to those without a sense of humour. Their loss... I got a million of em. Most are far more offensive than that and far less offensive than many I have read on the joke threads.

* It wasn't offensive at all unless yer a cranky SOB in a real foul mood and ya just stubbed all yer toes on a coffee table in the middle of the night while half asleep and then jammed all yer fingers in a door before ya sat on the toilet while the seat was up and got cold water up yer ass. A pox of piles upon them!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 05:27 AM

I can't type for laughing!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 06:09 AM

A few lines to help us through the vagaries of Winter.


                                                            JANUARY

January days, January greys, long to feel the warmth of the sun.
As each day goes past, a little longer than the last,
My winter blues will soon be on the run.

January cold, January bold, standing at the head of the year.
For some a fearful time, closéd windows etched with rime,
Ashen faces bear a frozen tear.

January stays, January's ways are fickle, challenge all to raise a smile.
But February's here, means that Springtime's joy is near.
And January's gone it's yearly while.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 07:35 AM

Morning,

it is a lovely sunny day here, my car is out of action so I cannot go off for a drive, but I can walk round the garden and pick snowdrops and enjoy the warmth of the sun.

Billy took me to Lowestoft yesterday to see our son and his family, I took lunch and cooked a huge roast beef dinner in his very small galley kitchen , such a laugh ,too small for more than one helper at a time! It was really lovely to see Reuben age 6, who is growing taller by the day. He is the most beautiful boy ( why do they get the long eyelashes? )

It was so good to have a day away from home. I am afraid since the " bugging" incident ( I chickened out on the confrontation option so far, coward that I am ) everytime my brother visits , I am on edge and have to check everywhere when he goes home just in case!! I am not usually a nervy person, but I am sleeping very badly and I am feeling very unwell. I am sure he knows I found the recorder but nothing has been said on either side.I am afraid I am sure the motive was the cost of the carers but I had an occupational Therapist visit last week to assess mother and she has said she needs 24 hour care as she is at risk of falls or harm due to the dementia, she also agrees that she is happy and content in our home and residential care would distress and confuse her.

Just very worried about Billy as I am sure he is just as upset as me but also worries about how it is affecting me. Thank goodness we have just a brilliant and strong marriage. He really is my rock!

Enough of negative thinking, off to the garden, snowdrops to pick and feel the son on my face.
Lovely poem Nigel, love to Linn ( did you ever get a little package that I put in someone else's secret Santa?)

Love to all the crew,Spring is coming

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 01:13 PM

good one , nigel. your own composition?
I just been to doctor....chest infection. lot of it about at the moment. hope you get some better sleep and feel brighter, wendy.
blessings all   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 01:30 PM

Nigel... what art!

Wendy... glad for your respite and I hope you can cope with the problemS with more ease as time goes by.

Pete... sorry to hear that and I hope you get better soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Feb 14 - 08:48 PM

What gnu said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 01:23 AM

Haven't been posting, but have been reading, sending good thoughts, chuckling, commiserating.

Wendy, don't ever call yourself a coward. Families can be so complicated. You have so much on your plate and I don't think you appreciate the courage it takes to engender and actually personify the sense of responsibility - the values many of us have, but don't necessarily put into practice when the going gets tough. What you have taken on with respect to caring for your mother is certainly about love, but also about putting your values regarding family responsibility into action. And those values also come into play with how to deal with your brother. It really is true that sometimes discretion is the better part of valor. It may also be the reality that you need your energy to care for your mother and husband and an overt dust-up with your brother is simply too overwhelming to contemplate at present. Particularly if your experience with him is that nothing would likely get resolved even if you confront him. Not dumping on or judging your brother, mind you, just sayin....Sometimes we have to choose our battles. However tense or conflicted your relationship with your brother may be, especially with regard to your mother, it is a relationship and is important. Families. Everybody has one. Personalities. Everyone has one. All of us have family members who present challenges to us either as a family or as individuals. They are still family, and there are no generic blueprints. Love and light to you and your entire family, Wendy. Just trust that you are awesome and will find your own internal wisdom regarding how you process this. Ain't no right or wrong or weak or strong in these matters. Just figuring out what seems likely to work best among a universe of imperfect solutions.

What I probably can best offer that might help rather than that long paragraph above is a very heart-centered {{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 05:08 AM

My Dear Wendy, I've read & re-read Janie's words, so redolent with knowledge, wisdom & experience. I hope you find them comforting, thought-provoking, enabling. As Janie also said: "Wendy, don't ever call yourself a coward". I can't reinforce that strongly enough.

Thanks Gnu...& Pete, yes, my own work. Wishing you a speedy recovery. As you often hear folk in the UK say: "There's a lot of it about!"
                                                                  With Love,
                                                                                 Nigel.
                                                                                 xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 03:10 PM

so much so well put Janie, but without any redundant wordiness. pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Feb 14 - 09:11 PM

Janie, wish I'd written that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 07:54 AM

Janie, from the bottom of my heart................
THANK YOU!!!!

With love

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 11:19 AM

Count me in as a member of the Wendy Admiration Society. What a terrible fix to be in. Feeling anxious that your health and Billy's health by proxy will suffer for it. I still can offer no advice. You can only do what you feel is best for you and all concerned.

Sending my love and good wishes to all here.

I've had 3rd injection of anti-TNF, last week. No change for the better as yet. Pain is as bad as ever. Feet and hands are showing deformity now.   In fact, I feel worse re unrelenting fatigue. I go to sleep almost as soon as I get home from work most evenings and can barely move on the weekends.   Add near constant sore throat and nightly nose bleeds, the husband man is worried and wants me to go to the GP.

I don't have the energy even to do that. Surgery too near to take taxi and too far to walk.

I see RA consultant in a couple of weeks. We shall see what she has to say.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 11:48 AM

Wendy, Virginia Tam, Pete...all of ya...You're all in mind each day. Thanks be that some folks here are better than I am at contributing some genuine helpful perspective for those here who are really hanging on to the rail for dear life.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 01:51 PM

VTam... got no words.. all I can do is listen and hope.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Feb 14 - 09:21 PM

VirginiaTam, ouch! A couple of weeks seems like a long time to wait when you feel pain. I hope you get it all sorted out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,sandra in sydney still cookiless
Date: 06 Feb 14 - 04:17 AM

I'll second the previous comments

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Feb 14 - 07:37 PM

As Valentine's Day approaches, I figure ye lads could use some advice. Ya know that job of trimming the rose stalks so that they will take water? Well, here ya go eh? That's TWO dozen roses and the Baby's Breath clipped in one swat! No chainsaw required. Efficiency I says, me.

My thoughts to all.

Keep yer stick on the ice... we're all in this together... I'm pullin for ya. So sayeth Red Green. (You Tube Red - cool guy.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 06 Feb 14 - 07:46 PM

gnu used that to trim the roses, 'cause his kitchen shears are too dull from cutting the padlock off the tool shed when he lost the key.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Feb 14 - 09:21 PM

*chuckle*

Also, great idea, gnu! I grew flowers for market on a small scale for several years, have a lopper just like that one, and wondering now why I never thought about using them to trim the ends of bouquets! I would have been in bed well before 3:00am and much less bleary-eyed on Market day if it had occurred to me.

Are you having time and energy to make any music, VT? It often amazes me to realize you are still going into work. I can't say I know what your experience is like, only that I have a couple of friends and have had a number of clients over the years with some of these hard-to-diagnose-much-less-treat, auto-immune disorders, and from them have an inkling of how debilitating and frustrating it can be to live with the myriad symptoms, including the pain. Hard to come to terms with the reality that not much is really known yet, and the effectiveness of treatments, much less side effects, are still a bit of a crap shoot.

Linn....nothing really can be said. Continue to hold you in my thoughts.

Pete, how is Billy faring?

Anyone have word from maeve?

Feeling the whole crew gathered 'round. Some one lead us in a round to row to?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Feb 14 - 06:41 PM

funnies, gnu and frogprince.
I,m sure I heard once about a man who cured himself of a serious illness by getting a lot of comedy vids, booking himself into a hotel and laughing himself better...not sure if it was a true story or not.
tommy is still making good progress, and up and about on his feet much more, thanks.
thoughts and prayer, tam. sounds really bad for you. I reckon husband man is probably right. could he perhaps borrow a wheelchair.....just a thought.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Feb 14 - 08:40 PM

Janie, Maeve's posted on the obit thread for Bob McQuillen which is above the line. I don't know if she's been posting on other threads.

Pete, it's good to read that Tommy is making progress.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 06:32 AM

Janie.. Not much creative expression going on at all. All energy is for work, which actually is a boon because it is the most effective distraction from the pain. I suspect when (if) the weather gets better, so will I. Rain and I do not get on well.

Pete.. I have a walker/transit chair. I can't currently use as a walker because a) I can't get it downstairs from 1st floor flat and b) pain in hands a wrists is near as bad as in feet and hips. Nearly impossible to get evening appts which the only time husband could drive me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 06:57 AM

Glad to hear Tommy is progressing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 07:20 AM

Forgive me, but today I want to concentrate my thoughts on the Good Folk of Britain who are beset by floods. Houses & contents ruined, livelihoods ruined, the Farming Community: "Ripped apart" as one distraught Farmer wept into the reporter's microphone. Livestock lost, land so saturated that it will take 'forever' to drain, swollen, unmanaged rivers, bursting their banks again & again. Road & rail communications severely compromised. Thousands of exhausted, good people who really are "At the end of their tether", with no tangible end in sight. As each day passes, the weather forecasters apologetically promise more of the same: more rain, more wind, more high tides. And as if this wasn't enough, ministers & politicians, inept, inert & seemingly paralysed to act. The fact that action should've been taken years ago (and maintained), is a question to which one never gets a straight answer. A parting thought: has anyone from the UK Government been talking to anyone in the Netherlands Government? They know a thing or two about water & land management do the Dutch.
                                           With Love to You All & hoping you are all safe & dry,
                                                                                                                         Nigel
                                                                                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 07:40 AM

Well said Nigel, we have been counting our blessings here on the east coast, cannot imagine how those poor people can be feeling? Weeks and weeks of water! How can anyone get over the stench ? Hate to think what is in the water, dead animals ,human waste etc . Has anyone started a fund to help? After the gas explosion in Clacton the local people were collecting clothes , toiletries, money within hours for the folks made homeless. That was just a few families, the Somerset disaster is so huge it is heart breaking.

Sitting here in the warm and dry wondering what we can do?

With love

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 08:32 AM

Environmental tragedies abound. Perhaps one of the best things we can do is acknowledge that this is part of the world we have created and convince others such is the case. One of the biggest problems is the failure to believe what is happening.

In the meantime, my thoughts and wishes are for those affected directly get what they can in $$$ and support from the rest of us.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 10:47 AM

Well said, all.

I know a mudcatter near the west coast whose home was flooded badly and his power was out for far too many days. Sewage was all that came out of the power outlets. That was back in early December.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 11:11 AM

The day we learn to live in harmony with nature, respecting it's 'rules' & behaviours, instead of continually trying to bend or break them to suit OUR 'rules' & behaviours, is the day Humankind might actually grow up a little.
         Spaw nailed it: "Environmental tragedies abound. Perhaps one of the best things we can do is acknowledge that this is part of the world we have created and convince others such is the case. One of the biggest problems is the failure to believe what is happening". Eloquent, succinct & above all, the truth.
                                              Keep Safe,
                                                             Nigel
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 11:14 AM

Adding my own thoughts of care and concern. I was only peripherally aware of what a beating the UK has been taking this winter, and from a friend's postings in Wales, sounds like today is even more dreadful - sounds like the equivalent of a hurricane, only worse because it is winter and cold.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 03:36 PM

heard today that its been the worst weather in terms of wind and water for 300 yrs.
wishing well for everyone and especially tam in her pain and discomfort.       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Feb 14 - 03:47 PM

The cold is the problem because it isn't cold. It's too bloody warm. When BP spills that much oil into the waters of the Gulf Stream from The Gulf, shit happens... bad shit... and it's just gettin goin. Wait until the oil shows up on the beaches of the eastern seaboard of the US and in the Bay of Fundy and on the shores of Iceland, Britain, France and Spain. They had to cough up $20B to Obama and that pittance will never pay for the people of the southern US who will die from this horrible and avoidable transgression upon Mother Earth. These people and the rest of those affected and those soon to be affected are SOL. Not to mention those immediately affected after the Gulf oil spill because BP's cash flow and stock dropped... Libya, Egypt, Syria... sickening.

Sorry for the rant but we are under the gun here in nb.ca on fracking, the pipeline, offshore drilling, the raping and herbicide spraying of our forests, and so on. Sometimes, I just get so PsO I wanna POST!!! even tho this thread is meant for other purposes. Does the/my care and concern for the Brits that are hard put by the weather have anything to do with my rant? Up to the reader, I suppose.

I'll shut up now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Feb 14 - 12:08 PM

Hmmm... I have to develope a better method for watchin me mouth.

Hope things are looking up for all.

I checked in with the Mudcatter I mentioned above. He hasn't had any big problems since December but he's still working on getting back to normal.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Feb 14 - 03:21 PM

sometimes it helps to get it off your chest ,gnu.
at least this is an empathy thread rather than one of the others where some posters want to be argumentative.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Feb 14 - 04:42 PM

Thanks, pete. Means a lot to me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Feb 14 - 05:16 PM

Love you, gnu, and appreciate your retrospective self awareness. We all cut loose every now and again, somewhere or another.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Feb 14 - 06:11 AM

Gnu, I think this is the perfect thread for you to rant, rave, vent & release those angers that build up inside all of us at various times in our lives. I think it's the perfect thread because your chances of being castigated & vilified for expressing your anger, passionately & clearly are virtually nil. I think most of us aboard understand & recognise that anger is an essential part of the Human Condition. It's an honest, authentic reaction. It's only when the written or verbalised anger takes on physical expression...we act out our anger & lash out, that problems occur. Anger is a huge source of energy. Can you now redirect that energy into something creative, something that would leave you feeling content & satisfied? I recognise your anger, I respect your anger. There is space & a place for it here.
                                                                                    With Love,
                                                                                                   Nigel
                                                                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Feb 14 - 08:21 AM

Now youse are about to tear up me eyes. Thanks. Onward...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Feb 14 - 10:52 PM

Up thread! Up Spaw! Up All y'all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Feb 14 - 01:44 AM

I'll second that

sandra (no longer cookieless, thanks to Joe Offer)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Feb 14 - 05:57 AM

Gnu, that's why we come aboard, to share our feelings, much better to have a rant with friends here than bottle up on your own.

love and hugs

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

( who had a brilliant meeting with her Admiral Nurse yesterday and now knows what to do about the brother problem!!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Feb 14 - 05:07 PM

sounds good, wendy. some resolution to the quandary at last.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,gnu on laptop
Date: 11 Feb 14 - 07:44 PM

Good to hear, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Feb 14 - 08:17 PM

Hey, gnu? Whose lap are you sitting on?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 05:34 AM

I sit on the lap of winter. As I type, it is -20C about 2m away. The only thing between myself and frostbite is an R12 wall and nuclear power. But, it is gonna warm up... so it can snow. Wild predictions abound in the media, delivered in ominous hype by weather terrorists who desperately need ratings. Environment Canada says "... we could get some "heavy at times" snow, maybe some rain, and expect strong winds in coastal regions... we'll see." Jonna Brewer of the CBC Radio show Early Morning just said that she heard as much as 55cm and high winds. 'Wailin' Kalin Mitchell of CBC NB TV was in fine form last evening and even said 80km winds. I haven't made a final forecast for Thursday night and Friday personally but my preliminary forecast is "It's February in New Brunswick. I need a turnip for my chicken stew."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 06:10 AM

We had about 1cm of snow in a 40 minute flurry yesterday. All the snow this winter is falling as rain, and lots of it. "Experts" say the flood waters could take weeks if not months to dissipate. We aren't in a flood zone, thankfully, but thousands in the south-west are waist deep in water. Poor buggers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 10:38 AM

Cheering for Gnu. So happy for Wendy with news from the Admiral nurse re brother.

Grey and rainy in England for more than a month with only brief reprieves. And of course it contributes to the physical pain as well as the low mood. But something wonderful happened yesterday while I was at work which I didn't discover until this morning.

The leylandii with dead patches in it viewed from our first floor flat lounge and kitchen windows is gone!!!! Can't believe how much more light in our kitchen and lounge even on a grey day.

Can't wait until the sun comes back.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 01:27 PM

here's to more light, and hopefully warmth, gnu and tam.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 02:17 PM

Well, I didn't say it wasn't sunny. Nare a cloud in the sky. And, I'd guess it's about -8C with a 10 - 15km breeze. I was just out supporting the economy and saw many young folk with their coats open and sans scarf. They will learn. Especially the lad who thinks women appreciate his hairy legs. In my youth, he would have been given pants in sympathy or avoided or perhaps even sent for an assessment of mental accuity.

I see Brits wading in waist deep water on my TV and am not just taken aback with empathy but I also wonder just how cold the water is or how tough they are. I hope Mother Nature lays off ASAP.

Better days ahead for all I trust and hope.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 04:18 PM

Well talk about Mudcat Mojo! Downgraded to about 20cm of snow tomorrow eve/night, 70kph, then 30mm of rain, and + (yes +!!!) 7C on Friday. Snow Saturday but not much.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 06:23 PM

Isn't light wonderful, VT? Spring and blue skies will surely come again.

Glad you have some support and ideas re the situation with your brother, Wendy.

Not quite 30 years ago we were flooded - water waist deep in the living room. We cut down some rather large trees with axes to get them out of the way, then attached a come-along to the front axle of our truck on one end and tree higher up the slope on the other, and wenched the truck up the mountainside to keep it clear of the flood waters.   We had moved my car to higher ground at a friend's house up on the ridge before the flood, thinking the road might get covered and we might want to hike out a little further up on the slope, but never dreamed the water would actually reach the house or driveway which were well above the road. Two days later we rescued ourselves and our two large dogs by kayaking out through what were usually the woods well above the river. I shudder when I read the news reports and look at the photographs on the news services. What I most remember was my shock and the sense of unreality when we did get out, drove up onto the ridge at the top of the valley and realized the rest of the world wasn't flooded. My heart goes out to all across the pond dealing with this devastation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Feb 14 - 07:08 PM

good news from Wendy & Tam (let there be light!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Feb 14 - 11:15 AM

G'morning, crew: "UP" spaw, "UP" one and all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Feb 14 - 08:27 PM

I'm on snow watch for the next five hours (to 02:30). I managed to keep Mum calm and it's such a chore as the media, especially the TV, hype up storms for ratings. But, I think she'll be okay.

UP all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Feb 14 - 05:36 PM

stormy here, but not flooding, thankfully.
also UP all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Feb 14 - 06:12 AM

Last night was very rough, here in East London. No significant rainfall, but winds gusting between 60-80 mph. My neighbour is a 'radio ham' & the sound of the wind blowing through his aerial array could've come from a horror movie soundtrack...very spooky!

The flooding in the South West & the Thames Valley remain the major areas of concern. Some news footage taken yesterday showed water levels had risen almost to the height of a front door. Imagine that volume of water invading the ground floor of your property. Neighbours/Communities are rallying round & helping each other where they can & the Emergency Services, bolstered by the Military, are working round the clock to protect, pump & repair. Heartbreaking interviews on the news...good people who've lost so much. As one man said, he wasn't bothered about replaceable items like 'fridges & TVs, it was all their personal possessions: photographs, family mementos, a special chair, all ruined by the filthy flood water (often contaminated by sewage). There is a stoicism within the beleaguered towns, villages & individual households, but it is increasingly obvious just how 'flood weary' they are becoming. The ground is saturated; the water table full to overflowing. The phrase one hears increasingly is: "Since records began".
          Ann & I are amongst the lucky ones, safe & dry, despite the fact that a tributary of the Thames flows 200m behind our house! The forecast for the coming week is more benign, so a little respite for some. I want to see records broken at the Winter Olympics, not in Meteorology.
         Keep safe...take good care of yourselves,
                                                                      With Love & many UPs,
                                                                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 15 Feb 14 - 06:21 AM

With you all the way with that, Nigel. As I write, there's a big bright thing in the sky. Now what could that be?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Feb 14 - 06:11 AM

Almost off the board. I'll take that as 'steady as she goes'. Good enough fer tha girls I goes wit sir.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Feb 14 - 04:43 PM

Up

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Feb 14 - 05:16 PM

We been down to winchelsea and rye overnight. beautiful sunny day.
I don't think it is expected to stay that way but hopefully it will be on the up....and UP ALL .    blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Feb 14 - 06:40 AM

up, up & away - including the rain clouds

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 17 Feb 14 - 11:15 AM

Beautiful day here in Staffs yesterday, but the rain's back today. Still, the days are getting noticeably longer. Springs a-comin'.

UP!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Feb 14 - 05:30 PM

I decided awhile back that I would not post again til I had the time to sit back and read this thread once again from the beginning. The 'Cat has been fighting me since the cold really set it and I think the old girl has some bad moments like the rest of us. BTW, I was delighted to first read the latest good news from so many fronts.   Ups for you all!!!

So I did get the time and the 'Cat's cooperation and I have enjoyed the read. I cannot tell you how much I have learned from this thread and from all of you.......and all of it has been important to how I am doing from that knowledge and support. But as we sail on I have had other experiences which I'll share here to help explain what I know now that I didn't know before.

Let me tell you about Rich. Rich and I were good friends in high school but went to different colleges. We worked several summers together during the college years and hung out together in our early 20's. We did about as crazyass shit as you can imagine on every level and we somehow survived those years though I'm not sure how. I have a warehouse full of "Me and Rich Tales" that I will never forget....or tell. Life overtook us and we drifted apart. Rich married Jan, his High School sweetheart, and started a family and by the time we were 40 barely saw each other although were always happy to do so, like two little kids with a shared secret.

A few years ago I sadly found that Rich had died. I didn't know any details or how to find Jan but I kept it in my mind for many years. Facebook has a site of folks who grew up in the same town as I did and I found many old school chums. All too many were now widows and widowers. One good friend, Vicki, knows everything about our class it seems and when I asked about Rich and Jan she gave Jan's info and then talked about Rich. Things had been going badly for him and he committed suicide. I was dumbstruck. I have talked to Jan and all but the idea stays in my head that sometimes we just need a friend or some support like we try to be around here. Perhaps if Rich and I had stayed in closer contact, I could have been that person for my old friend. Perhaps not. We don't know nor can we know. As I often say, there is only what is.

But oddly enough this voyage of Jane's Rainbow and the death Rich's death came together to finally make me realize, even after all I have gone through before, that the only thing I am absolutely certain of, that I can believe in and be assured of, is that in the final analysis there is only time. And there is only what is......what should be never existed.

There is also friendship which makes the time ever so valuable. Thank you all for the friendship and the time you have given and that we spend together here. Let's sail on together........


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 17 Feb 14 - 06:20 PM

Spaw, a lot of that post will be spinning around in my head for awhile. I'm sure a lot of us have had experiences, or sequences of experience, just similar enough to make that ring a bunch of bells, and bring back a lot of things. What a bunch of you here did for me in June of '12, on the thread I had started, was much the same as how this thread has gone.

How about we start a contest, seeing if we can one-up each other on how much this thread has meant to us?

....nah...    : )

                Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Feb 14 - 08:06 PM

well, it means a lot more to me than it does to someone who has never read it ...

there is only time. And there is only what is......what should be never existed. thanks, spaw

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Feb 14 - 12:26 AM

What sandra said.

Thanks and hugs, Spaw.

And may rain fall in Oz where ever it is most needed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Feb 14 - 04:47 AM

drought pics & stories

Australia is famously the land of 'drought & flooring rain'- tho the rains seem to be in Britain at the moment.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Feb 14 - 04:53 AM

Thanks, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Feb 14 - 04:54 PM

UP SPAW..very moving account.   blessings all pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Feb 14 - 10:47 PM

Thank you, sandra in sidney.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 19 Feb 14 - 10:32 AM

Sandra! Leave Sidney alone!

LOL!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Feb 14 - 01:01 PM

Ya' know, you'd think after all these years I'd have caught that........Goodonya' Pete........LOL......Sorry Sandra!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Feb 14 - 05:29 PM

Leave it up the loikes a ye to make a crude joke. And thanks for the chuckle.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Feb 14 - 06:10 AM

sniff.

apology accepted

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Feb 14 - 08:43 PM

I've continued to read this thread but haven't had anything to say lately. I hope things are going as well as possible considering what some of you are dealing with.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 Feb 14 - 09:28 AM

LOL.....I was sort of wondering the same thing Lassie! I hope the news remains good! Hopefully too the change of seasons coming up will bring some new life after this really bad winter.

I hope it also brings something a bit faster to the old 'Cat who has seemed to be a bit slower and less reliable the past month or so.

Best to All!

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Feb 14 - 11:40 AM

Ya know, Spaw, since Bill Gates called and told me that IE 9 & 10 have severely vulnerable security problems and that I had better get the latest version RFN and since the new version won't run on Pista, I switched to Google Chrome on a trial basis. Mudcat loads far faster. GC? you ask. Still kickin it hard when it won't do what I want it to do but real men don't read the directions. Oh, they ask questions when they get entirely frustrated... even if that approach takes longer than readin the directions. I did try Firefox and Opera but importin my favourites was a nightmare so here I am, struck in the middle. Hey, even if ya don't like GC, just use it for Mudcat.

Either that or quit yer weenin ya saggy assed old fart.

Have a nice day, all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Feb 14 - 07:43 PM

well, I did begin to wonder if tommy was going down again as he had gotten very drooly, but so far so good. he has been off school since hospital, but the plan is to start him back tomorrow on shorter days.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Feb 14 - 05:32 AM

Progress! Thanks for the update.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Feb 14 - 04:30 AM

what gnu said

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Feb 14 - 05:35 AM

Great news Pete, hope Tommy has a good day at school,

Sun shining in Frinton, Happy days all

with love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Feb 14 - 06:06 AM

"And there is only what is......what should be never existed". Spaw, I wish I'd known you fifty years ago. Those words would have helped so much, back then. Eleven words that convey a universal truth which I have taken to my heart. It's never too late to be given such a gift.

'Jane's Rainbow' is in fine fettle, crewed by some of the finest folk it's ever been my good fortune to meet. I am honoured, touched, moved to call you: "Friends". I call upon your Friendship as the 1st anniversary of Jane's death peeps above the horizon, just one month away. Ann & I would appreciate your views & ideas as to how we might mark/acknowledge/celebrate the 23rd March. We've both experienced many bereavements throughout our lives, but nothing quite like this. As a guide I offer three words: "Simplicity, Sincerity & Dignity". Everlasting Love overarches all we think, say & do.
                               With Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Feb 14 - 04:47 PM

Nigel, re March 23, a feast with her fav foods attended by family and friends? Lots of pics and memories and stories and music?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Feb 14 - 08:49 PM

Pete, I hope Tommy's return to school goes well.

Nigel, I can't think of anything brilliant at the moment, but are you thinking of a commemoration involving just a few people or several people? Of course, by the time you answer this, others will probably have posted their brilliant ideas!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Feb 14 - 09:39 PM

Hope Tommy's first day back at school was a good experience.

I have nothing to offer Nigel. Families are different, and within families, how grief and loss are dealt with are different. And as you have already commented, losses of different family members are also different, often dependent on whether the the death of a loved one was/is "timely" or not. In my own family, but this is only my own family, we tend not to do anything specific, but will call one another (none of us live remotely near one another) and acknowledge our memories and emotions on the anniversaries of the deaths of those we love, as well as on the birthdays and major holidays that remind us acutely of an "empty chair." Sharing our loss. Sharing our love. Reminding one another, essentially of what 'Spaw shared so eloquently.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Feb 14 - 05:42 AM

Thank you, gnu. Thank you, ChanteyLass. Thank you, Janie. Ann & I can begin to gather our thoughts, which, until now were distinctly lacking. My invitation for ideas & inspiration remains open.
                     With Love,
                                    Nigel & Ann
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 25 Feb 14 - 11:31 AM

Ahoy fellow crew members.

Saw rheumatologist yesterday. Only about 10 minutes with her and most of that she was messing with computer that sould not open my most recent blood tests. Sent nurse away to collect them from another PC. Told me, after I made ususaly complaint about pain and fatigue being worse than ever that if bloods do not show reduction in inflammation then funding for my anti-TNF treatment would be removed.

She did not look at my hands (or my feet which I told her are now showing deformity).

At end of appointment a nurse came in with print out of my blood work taken from another computer and luckily the inflammation is down to 27 from 67. That is a drop of 40 points. Doctor couldn't explain why I still feel so bad and didn't really want to talk about it. My guess is it can't be infection as this would show in the blood work as inflammation. Anyway, doc approved an appointment with anti-TNF therapy nurse in 3 months time.   

I'd cross my fingers if I could and wish that my symptoms to take a clue from the blood tests long before end of May.

4th injection of anti-TNF this coming Friday.

Love, good wishes and warm sunny days to you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Feb 14 - 12:36 PM

tommy done 2 partial days at school now and seems to be doing well. thanks for your kind thoughts.
we are much the same as Janie regarding lost loved ones anniversaries, though will probably go to the grave around those times. my prayer for you, nigel and anne, is that memories of happy times with jane will ease some of the sting of loss.
sorry to hear of a less than satisfactory appt with the doctor, tam.
hope you get some improvement. will the warming weather help at all?.
blessings      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Feb 14 - 09:55 PM

VirginiaTam, I am sorry that in spite of blood tests that indicate "improvement" you are feeling more pain and fatigue. I am glad the medical treatments will continue and hope that soon you will feel some benefit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Feb 14 - 05:46 AM

good news from Pete & mixed news from Tam.

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Feb 14 - 06:31 AM

I am still here, eching previously posted thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Feb 14 - 10:22 PM

I've been "down" for some time, sometimes badly so. I went to see a doctor about it, and she had a blood test done for vitamin D levels. She called today and my vitamin D level was 18.6 out of a minimum of 30. I'm taking 1,000 IU of vitamin D3 twice a day and it might be helping already. The doc told me that most people in the US and Canada don't get enough vitamin D from either sunlight or food. Others might ask their doc for such a blood test.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 27 Feb 14 - 06:38 AM

UP Rap!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Feb 14 - 02:50 PM

Okay... for the fourth time today! Where the hell are my posts going???!!!

Rap it UP!

http://www.last.fm/music/Four+Men+and+a+Dog/_/Wrap+It+Up

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Feb 14 - 02:51 PM

FINALLY! And it has happened on on other threads too. About 9 posts disappeared.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Feb 14 - 09:05 PM

Rapparee, I'm glad you got a diagnosis and it only took a blood test to do it! I hope you notice improvement soon.

Gnu, good luck with future posts. Yours must be disappearing into some void.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars
Date: 27 Feb 14 - 09:18 PM

Yeh,I,ve lost a few posts in the past, which is frustrating if you wrote quite a lot.                Blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 06:03 AM

VTam, your health issues appear so complex, I'm at a bit of a loss as to what I can write that will be meaningful & offer at least, a crumb of comfort. Your persistence & optimism in the face of multi-layered problems denotes considerable strength of character.

Pete & Tommy, I hope your days are running more smoothly now, with less anxiety for Tommy's health. Your persistence, too, in the face of adversity, really does you credit.

Rapparee, very good to hear from you, despite your initial news being not so good. As a taker of large doses of Vit D myself, I have felt the benefits. I trust you will experience a similar, positive outcome.

Sending greetings to everyone who visits, but chooses not to post. If something/someone has touched or helped you, so much the better. Please come back, anytime.
                              With Love to You All,
                                                             Nigel
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 11:42 AM

I'm still here with the crew all the time, though sometimes the cat may have my tongue. UP Tam, Rap, Tommy, Spaw, and one and all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 12:39 PM

"VTam, your health issues appear so complex, I'm at a bit of a loss as to what I can write that will be meaningful & offer at least, a crumb of comfort. Your persistence & optimism in the face of multi-layered problems denotes considerable strength of character."

I say ya done real good! I echo all a them words fer sure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 12:42 PM

Me too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 06:32 PM

yep, an encouraging word can be a tonic.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 07:37 PM

Sometimes, when I come to Jane's Rainbow, I feel very in awe of the wonderful words of wisdom that the crew write. So many stories of brave and strong people, that I feel so much love and respect for. So I sit back in the corner and wish that I had the strength and courage that they modestly show to us all.I have had so much support from you all and I know that the problems I have had to face have not been my own but my lovely husband Billy's and my darling mothers's dementia.

But today , I am at a loss, Mother is so very ill, a horrid chest infection, she cannot speak, words are a struggle, and she cannot swallow anything but liquid.
Billy has a dreadful cough and ear infection so is on very strong antibiotics and steroids and then found out today that the company he works for is closing the sales force so he has lost his job.

Feeling very lost , giving Billy all the positive thoughts I can but needing a hug!!

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 07:48 PM

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Hugs all around, for that matter!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 08:18 PM

Walk On. Never Alone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 10:28 PM

Oh, Wendy! That's so much to go wrong all at once! Sending love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Feb 14 - 10:48 PM

Wendy, words seem like so little when I think of your circumstances. Know that there are a whole circle of hearts feeling for you right now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 12:04 AM

No words to offer to anyone at present, but along with so many, pulling at the oars.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 05:47 AM

Sitting alongside Janie, pulling for all I'm worth. When we're done with that, it'll be time to rig the sails & set a course that'll take us directly to Wendy. She lives quite close to the ocean, so I'm looking for volunteers for a shore party. Be ready to carry Love, Hugs, Tea, some tasty morsels from the galley, Laughter & Smiles, Peace of Mind, indeed, anything that you can think of that will ease her burdens. Fate's waves have dealt her a massive blow.
         If only this fantasy/metaphor could be transformed into reality...if only...if only.
         Wendy, I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say: "We're here, we're with you, we love you & we send that love in abundance. We can find you if you get lost, don't worry. Please remember, you are NOT alone.
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 07:33 AM

Thank you, thank you, every one for your loving thoughts.

This morning ,after a good nights (unexpected,) sleep we are far more cheerful than I could have imagined yesterday. To be honest Billy could have retired last August, but he loved, and was really good at, his job. Brilliant at meeting people and very honest he enjoyed meeting and helping small businesses owners. He kept working all through the months of chemotherapy, in fact I think it helped him deal with it because he had to get up and get going each morning.

Now he has a few weeks to sit back and take stock. I cannot imagine him doing nothing but maybe a part time occupation that he can enjoy will beckon and some free "golden" time to share with me sounds rather lovely! I am lucky having my own business as I can work when I want to so going to the beach hut together on sunny afternoons sounds good to me!!

Mother is content and happy and unaware that we are all so worried about her.But we are very lucky with the support from her carers and the local Dr.so are able to look after her at home with us.

And of course I have the wonderful Rainbow crew,sending love to you all and sailing on,

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 08:45 AM

Great Googilly-Moogilly!!!

Wendy.....I don't think I can find any words at all and the best I can send is a really gigantic Spaw hug PLUS I will trust Nigel to deliver one for me in 3D......Got that Nigel?

"Now he has a few weeks to sit back and take stock. I cannot imagine him doing nothing but maybe a part time occupation that he can enjoy will beckon and some free "golden" time to share with me sounds rather lovely! I am lucky having my own business as I can work when I want to so going to the beach hut together on sunny afternoons sounds good to me!!"

You're a true gem and a lovely one. You've found the silver lining.

Much love to all


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,gnu on new PC
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 09:34 PM

Gosh... gee. Rough. Damn! I got squat. I can barely walk but it ain't nothing compared so I'll share some good tunes.

Spaw said "Great Googilly-Moogilly!!!"

So, for anyone who don't know... this ain't it but it's close and it's all ya need ta know ta explore Frank.

Frank had some GREAT tunes, man.

Dental floss rules.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 09:49 PM

Okay... this new PC is messing me up. I think this will work.


Great Googilly-Moogilly!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Mar 14 - 10:51 PM

Wendy, I'm glad you are able to look at things from a different angle.

Gnu, what do you mean you can barely walk? What's going on? It's winter, Man, and there'll be more snow to shovel! Get better and I mean quickly!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Mar 14 - 12:51 AM

what ChanteyLass said!

with lots of love & hugs to them & all the crew

sandrr

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Mar 14 - 04:28 PM

pleased to hear you are coming out of the storm a bit, wendy. looking out for others needs can seem heavier than those needs themselves. I guess that's often the price of having a loving heart.
its raining this evening but we have had some sunshine lately ,so hopefully you and billy will get chance for some refreshing, calming sea air by the beach hut. blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Mar 14 - 02:51 PM

Up

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Mar 14 - 02:37 PM

liked the freaky funk reworking of stairway to heaven, gnu. interesting sounds.
I enjoyed the music on your site, nigel, which I visited a few days ago.
hope everyones ok   blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Mar 14 - 03:36 PM

Up, Up, but not away! ( aweigh, on the other hand, can be a good thing...) : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Mar 14 - 04:48 AM

Spaw, yup, 3D hugs available 24/7.

Gnu, the Zappa track is from a parallel universe...what a voice!

Maeve, many 'Ups' back to you.

Wendy, so good to read your positive news. In your earlier post, you sounded so lonely & vulnerable.

Pete, very pleased you enjoyed the Music. I hope you're ok too.

Frogprince, enjoyed your play on words. Can I hear Andy Williams in the 'dim & distant', singing: "Up, up & Away"?

Chantey & Sandra, greetings & hugs from good old London Town.

I'm sending you all a package full of the glorious, spring sunshine that's streaming through my window this morning. If you need more, just ask!
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Mar 14 - 08:05 AM

I am gonna need a LOT more. -30WC (-30 C windchill) and it isn't windy. It's sunny but it's 'parka' sunshine so it don't butter the biscuit no how no way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 06 Mar 14 - 01:33 PM

Thanks for the clips gnu......Apostrophe in my opinion is the finest album Zappa ever made and deserves a special place in some music hall of fame. It uses roots of jazz, blues, rock, and even trad, to create a collection of work unequalled anywhere else. Then add in the musicality of the band and the arrangements. It is beyond all doubt the tightest of any rock style album ever and Frank goes on to use odd instrumentation and electronics to outstanding effect.

You can enjoy the whole thing just for the listening or then break it down and take it apart and lose your mind in amazement at the talents of Frank Zappa and the sheer "on it" tightness of the band. Then throw in some very memorable lyrics and phrases............many have entered mine and others lexicon.

If I see some ripoff of a more expensive object I ask, "Is that a real poncho or is that a Sears poncho?"

I get soap in my eyes in the shower and I sing loudly, "I can't see....(BWA_DA WABA BWOP DAH BADOP BWADOP)....I can't see ....(BWA_DA WABA BWOP DAH BADOP BWADOP)....

And probably 30 others all from this album. I love Frank and there are other good albums like Weasels Ripped My Flesh but none touches Apostrophe.


Okay.....enough of that! Many UPS to all and how about some warmer and happy days extending to this crew as Spring comes to Jane's Rainbow! Love to you all!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Mar 14 - 02:39 PM

"Apostrophe in my opinion is the finest album Zappa ever made and deserves a special place in some music hall of fame..."

Accolades abound. There is even one song that I don't like half of! Takes a rebel to push even MY boundaries. I agree that it deserves a high pedestal among all works of music, as objective and assuming as that may be. Add to that the fact that Frank was SO amazingly intellectual and debated politics, governance, law, religion... you name it... with some of the great names and, IMHO, trash media interviewers, it saddens me that a man who only ever did one drug (tobacco) died from that one drug FAR too young. RIP, Frank. YOU had a Crystal Ball.

On a lighter note. I am delighted with my plan. Mum is 87 and not so well. She is saddened by the fact that she can't get me something for the big day. She is having a more than usual bad day today, so... I went shopping for birthday presents for Mum. I got 2 pairs of PJ pants, 6 pairs of HD socks and Kaspersky 2014 Pure 3.0. I put the items in one a them there gift bags what I got at the Dollar Store and covered it with the fancy white paper. I will take the bag to Mum's tomorrow AM and act real surprised like when I open up the bag and say things like "OMG! JUST WHAT I WANTED! HOW DID YOU KNOW?! AND SOCKS! AND KASPERSKY!!! I love you, Mum. Thanks." I hope she gets a laugh out of it.

Yesterday, as I usually do on her and my Bday and at Kissmeass, I gave her two dozen roses, white and red, a big hug and a 'thanks for looking after me' for, well, this year it will be 57 years and nine months. Hmmm... part of that should be 'putting up with me' I suppose.

Maybe not the right place to post this prattle but I think it's heartwarming and worth sharing with this scurvy lot of tars. Warms MY heart. If it don't warm yers... prepare to be boarded!

Yes, I am celebrating early. Why do you ask? Anyone coming over for BBQ style back ribs? I got a BIG pot boilin and the sauce is near done and there's lots of cold ales... well... a fair few left. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Mar 14 - 02:52 PM

Hahahaa! Just thought of this. My buddy's lad was about 14 and I asked, when he said sommat stunnedasmearse, "Who you jivin with that cosmic debris?" He was a puppy in full headtwist. I asked him if he know who Frank Zappa was, knowing the answer. I played some for him. He freaked out. I let him access my LPs after I showed him how they should be handled. Anytime my buddy visited me after that, the lad would immediately ask if he could play some records. Warmed my heart. Not too often a kid gets access to THAT many works of art. Imagine a kid (some 15 years ago) listening to Mario Lanza... Torme... Pavarotti... Makem... Roger Miller... The Cars... Zappa... Deep Purple... Alice Cooper... Jethro Tull... Patty Wynette... about 3000 to choose from. Now, kids get fed Beeber or whatever the hell his name is. Sigh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Mar 14 - 08:54 PM

Gnu, it warms my heart even on these cold days to know that you are so good to your mother.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 14 - 09:21 PM

Mum had a great laff. I loved it!

Now. What is this about the good ship sailing out of sight over the horizon? I had to refresh three days to get back here! Decorum!

Skip to 3:25 in on this and you will understand why I revere MISTER Zappa so. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpJOkWG6Bmk

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 14 - 09:29 PM

BTW, I understand this isn't a music thread, but if ye scurvy lot ain't gonna ply yer oars and... oh, I am just keepin the thread on the page. I coulda posted MC Hammer. Hmmm... no, I could never do that. But 80+M views? WTF is
that?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,sandra in sydney on the library computer
Date: 07 Mar 14 - 09:42 PM

the Big Storm a few days ago might have fried my lovely iMac - the new modem spoke to my friend's laptop but not to my lovely iMac. waaahh!

So the Mac doctor will be calling on Monday - cheapest option will be wireless - expensive option will be a new iMac - but maybe he can fix whatever is wrong & I'll only be paying for a house call

It's good to catch up on the Cat - especially this thread - clever Gnu -

hugs to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Mar 14 - 12:07 AM

HEY! IT's MY BDAY so I can post whatever I want. Within reason, of course. So I'll just post some Elephant Talk.

Not to detract from the overall thrust of this thread in any way. Hopefully, some variance, some dalliance, brings some abatement from the... you know... no? No matter. I shall kept this thread... hmmmm. No, I won't. Change of heart. See yas when I sees yas.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Mar 14 - 11:00 AM

Did anyone get the licence number on that beer wagon?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Mar 14 - 02:49 PM

Sandra, I hope your computer woes are soon sorted. I have a love/hate relationship with technology. I love it when it works and hate it when it doesn't.

Gnu, others have refreshed this thread, too, but of course your efforts are greatly appreciated. I tend to let a vital thread (yes, I consider this a vital thread) skip one day before I refresh it and try to do so with a comment, though I often can't think of one and have to resort to "Refresh." If a deadline is approaching, I might refresh it daily. That's assuming I get to Mudcat daily, which I try to do if too many other things aren't cluttering my waking hours. When I don't get to Mudcat, I feel like I've missed out on something. (OCD-me? Maybe slightly!)

Thanks for the video about Zappa's collection and the Elephant Walk. That music was cool, but I prefer this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkSfPxk_xKY

Oh, and gnu, happy birthday!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Mar 14 - 09:20 PM

CL... excellent! Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Mar 14 - 07:33 AM

Gnu, I missed your birthday. Many, many happy returns. I hope you had the best of days & celebrated in style. The piece you wrote about your Mother was touching, funny & painted a clear picture of the love you two share...a real joy to read. You also said earlier: "Hopefully, some variance, some dalliance, brings some abatement from the... you know...". I agree absolutely. I love it when our thread becomes conversational. I love it when folks post Music links. I love it when Spaw & gnu 'go at it'! I love the humour & pathos. I love the intimate, deeply personal posts that take one's breath away. I love Jane's Rainbow because of the love & support Ann & I have received. I love Jane's Rainbow because of the love & support given to others. Jane's Rainbow would not exist without all you Good Folks who check in & post...you are the wind in our sails, our navigator, you keep watch in fair weather & foul. A Crew to end all Crews.
             With Love to You All,
                                             Nigel & Ann
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Mar 14 - 05:02 PM

different elephants...different genres ....great music.
agree with nigels remarks re gnu and his mum.
we been down winchelsea over the weekend. we changed to a bigger caravan, mainly because tommy has more equipment so needs more room.
it felt sad having finished clearing out the old van and leaving it for the last time. my mum had been very particular with it and we had left her ornaments there as fond memories. and it felt a bit like letting go of something of hers that we had still retained. of course we do have more room in the new van for the ornaments too!
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Mar 14 - 06:25 PM

Pete... more room... more room is good room.

Thanks for the thumbs up, guys. I did post some things a bit OTT but there it is. It was what it was. Glad it was taken as meant in the spirit intended. I am slowly getting back to slightly (?) abnormal gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Mar 14 - 01:18 AM

Power came back 3 days earlier than anticipated. Tree tops and lots of branches down in the yard but no trees on the house and no actual whole trees down in my yard. Nature did what nature does. Pruned, and past time for it.   The wind is delightfully scented of pine from the downed boughs and treetops in my yard. I'm sitting pretty and ready to row or sing.

UP!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Mar 14 - 05:17 AM

Nature did what nature does.

we keep rowing, we keep singing

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 02:21 PM

I just thought this could use a refresh, to help counterbalance the shit that seems to permeate the cat these days.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 05:07 PM

Exciting and also anxiety provoking for this Mom. My responsible son (for a 20 year old) and an equally responsible friend are embarking on a two week adventure this coming weekend. They are long boarding (refers to a skateboard designed for traveling instead of tricks and X sports) with the intent to travel from the Blue Ridge mountains of North Carolina to the North Carolina Coast over a period of 2 weeks. They wisely decided to change their original plans from traversing the northern part of the state to the southern part of the state a couple of weeks ago for two reasons. The first being we are having a harsher, colder and longer winter than we have have in North Carolina for at least the past 15 years and the weather is likely to be less threatening further south. The second is they are less likely to encounter fear, hostility and agression further south. Over-all, I am relieved they have changed their route, and also think the southern route is safer simply in terms of torrain and wider highways once they are out of the mountains. The 1/3 leg of the journey, however, will be in much higher mountains, narrower roads and generally more demanding and dangerous road torrain for skateboarders and I am a bit anxious. So is my youngin'. Please visualize motorists who are alert and kind and non-resentful of people traveling along switchbacks who are not in vehicles and might cause one to put on the brakes without resentment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 07:42 PM

Janie,

sending good thoughts for their adventure and angels to keep them safe xx

Went to the hospital today for Billy's three month check up, his consultant was very pleased ,blood counts good and he looks so well. Billy asked when the three month visit could be extended to six and the consultant said never, he wants to see him every three months as he is in remission. Brought home the reality that there is no " cure" for CLL But we came home happy, took our daughter out for a lovely lunch then sat in the garden enjoying the sunshine.

This evening mother had a bad moment, reduced me to tears saying " please take me home" after an hour of saying "this is your home mum" I tried a new tack " of course mum, we will go home in the morning" rewarded by the most beautiful smile .

Then I went on facebook to Harvey Andrews page and listened to a beautiful song he had written. sung at a BBC recording by a lovely lady singer and Brian Willourby ( cant do blue clicky but it is called " Someday".) Lifted my spirits as music always does. Beautiful song, beautifully sung, it is on U tube if you can find it crew?



loving thoughts to all the crew
Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 08:03 PM

Wendy... tears of sorrow and of joy. Thanks for sharing. Good info re yer as I may be at that soon.

I have a problem(s) and I may not post here for a while. I will keep up daily, but posting is not something I may be up for. Posted this just so you know I am still here but standing out in the yard by the apple tree watching the robin get drunk. Cider Robin.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 08:04 PM

Sorry, spelling was dreadful, Look for " Someday " by Harvey Andrews , performed by Sue Graves and Brian Willoughby at Twickenham Heartbeat.

Beautiful xxxx

Wendy, sailing on

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 08:27 PM

Thank you for your good wishes, Wendy. Much appreciated.

Is this the song and performance you noted?
Someday, performed by Sue Graves and Brian Willoughby

Thinking of you and your Mum. Always learning, eh? Reassurance -finding touchstones for not only ourselves but for our loved ones whose anchors are now not always where those of us in the present can discern immediately. Challenging labor. Labor of love. Hit or miss, as long as the labor is guided by love there is no failure. Frustration? Yes. You are so insightful in rising to the day-to-day challenges of how best to manage and care for your mother. Hard, frustrating and demanding. Day to day, moment to moment, tend to yourself also - I think I understand you do so, understanding that you can not care for others as you do if you don't care for yourself also - but it must feel exhausting sometimes. The night is mild, the breeze gentle and the stars are bright. Come sit a spell here on deck, feet propped up, and sip on this nice warm cup of herb tea. We can spike it a bit if you like, up to you. You too, Linn and VT, and any other ladies and gents perhaps needing a little petting and making over, even if you don't realize it. Breathe in deep of the spring salt air and the gentle breeze. Let go with the gentle rocking of the waves on calm and sheltered seas. .....hhmmmm, hhmmm, hhmm, hhm every day, flashes like a stray blue jay....(Bruce Colburn)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Mar 14 - 09:17 PM

Janie, I'm sending your son and his friend my hopes for their safety.

Wendy, I am glad that Billy is holding steady and hope he continues to do so for a very long time. And clever you to find a way to put your mum's anxiety at rest.

Gnu, I'll miss you, wish you the best, and hope you will return here soon

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 13 Mar 14 - 03:42 AM

Thanks Janie,

yes that is the song

thanks too for your uplifting words

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Mar 14 - 08:48 AM

Janie, I can understand your concern for your son's trip, but as we say: It sounds like he's got his head screwed on the right way". What a great adventure! I'm sending him whoever or whatever it was that protected me during my rock climbing/mountaineering days.

Wendy, gnu's said it for me. Your sensitivity to your Mother's needs are remarkable. A lesson in Life & Living for us all.

Amergin, thank you for the refresh. Feels like a vote of confidence (-:

Gnu, thinking, hoping, wondering about you. Whatever your problem(s) is/are, it is my earnest wish that you be relieved of this burden soon & return to Jane's Rainbow to continue your voyage with us. You will be greatly missed in the interim.

I spent most of yesterday at a TIA clinic. I suffer from Hemiplegic Migraine, the symptoms of which closely resemble a stroke. Following the presentation of a new symptom after a recent attack, my GP made an urgent referral. Pleased to report that, after a battery of tests & scans, all symptoms would appear to be Migraine-related. However, it transpires, this type of Migraine doubles my chances of having a stroke, so as a precaution, I have to take 75mg of Aspirin each day. I feel relieved, but have not quite achieved 'peace of mind' status....yet! As Wendy would say: "Sailing on."
                                                                   With Love,
                                                                                  Nigel.
                                                                                  xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 13 Mar 14 - 03:22 PM

For Wendy and others, video just shared on facebook from a highschool friend.

It starts out heartbreaking, but ends with a miracle, so please stick it out until the end.

It may have already been shared on here and I missed it. If so, beg pardon.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrZXz10FcVM

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Mar 14 - 03:40 PM

echoing nigels thoughts and trusting that you will achieve peace of mind, nigel. glad it is less of a problem than suspected.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Mar 14 - 05:57 PM

Hope you soon feel more settled in mind Nigel.

VT, thanks so much for that video. Truly wonderful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Mar 14 - 10:29 PM

Virginia Tam, that video warmed my heart.

Nigel, you stick to that daily aspirin regimen!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Mar 14 - 01:47 AM

Nigel, I'll second what ChantyLass said!

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 14 Mar 14 - 08:35 AM

Thank you for the video, Tam,

Nigel, good news, keep well. ( Had a cup of tea at the hut yesterday, in very thick sea mist, think it is called a " Haa" ? Very spooky but peaceful. We could hear the chug of boat engines but could not see the water! Last night could hear the fog horns in Harwich into the wee small hours. Does sound travel better in the fog?)

love to Gnu xx

Sailing on in sunshine this morning

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Mar 14 - 09:19 AM

Wendy... it's the pitch that does the trick. A lower pitch will 'penetrate' fog better. I seem to recall a man walking home in the fog. He could hear low piano notes only and that's how we came to use foghorns in the manner we do.

Still checking in when I can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 14 Mar 14 - 10:30 AM

Not a lot to say but still haulin' away...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Mar 14 - 09:05 PM

My boy is on his way. Just left for the drive to the mountains. They will arrive late tonight, stay in a cheap motel and start out tomorrow morning on their longboards. Weather will be good tomorrow and quite bad for several days after. I'm the farthest west and therefore the last stop on their trip out of their home region. Good of them to check in with each parental household on the way out of town to allow hugs and good wishes.

Just want to note, especially to pete from seven stars, that I do not confuse the risks my own healthy boy is choosing to take, nor do I confuse my own accompanying fears, with the circumstances of Tommy and you, his mother and your family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Mar 14 - 05:55 AM

It is a beautiful sunny morning here in Frinton, I am in the salon and have one of my favourite clients due in a few minutes for a lovely relaxing aromatherapy, relaxing for me too with all those lovely oils. Then at lunchtime off to the beach hut with Billy for some lunch. I will read my book, he will sleep. Thanks to mum's carer we can have a few hours on our own. Just to reassure you my life is, generally, good and today will be a happy one!

Sending love to all the Rainbow angels,may your day be happy, healthy and contented!!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 14 - 06:17 AM

On that note... happies to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Mar 14 - 07:05 AM

I'll second that, gnu: "Happies to all". The sun's shining here in East London too, Wendy. Had a good 'domestic' day yesterday. The roof of our house needed some attention, as did the roof of our garden shed, which took a bit of a battering in the winter storms. All fixed cheerily & professionally by Dave & Dan...gawd bless 'em! Had to get the water company in as well to 'spring clean' the drains (details withheld, engage imagination if necessary!).
          Wishing you all the best of weekends,
                                                                   With Love,
                                                                                  Nigel & Ann
                                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Mar 14 - 08:34 PM

Hey, Crew Members! Zany Mouse has hit a health snag. Check out this thread if you haven't done so yet. thread.cfm?threadid=153972

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: RichM
Date: 17 Mar 14 - 07:12 AM

I come late to this vigil, this memorial...

Your situation moved me to tears. I have lost both parents and a brother to cancer, and am a survivor of my own serious bout some 40 years ago.

I am so so sorry for your loss. It is so unfair when a child dies before a parent.

My best wishes to you and your family. Hold on to each other.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Mar 14 - 06:24 PM

RichM, you are more than welcome to join us aboard 'Jane's Rainbow'. The finest, wisest & most compassionate Crew ever to sail life's seven seas. Please feel free to post again, we'd love to hear from you. Equally, feel free to read & reflect. We're a diverse bunch with plenty of 'miles on the clock', experientially speaking.

          Thank you for your kind words. Ann & I are holding on to each other, literally & metaphorically as the 23rd draws ever nearer.
                                                                     With Love,
                                                                                    Nigel & Ann
                                                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Mar 14 - 06:59 PM

beautiful, tam. thanks.
Janie, trusting your healthy ,risk taking boy has a great time that will remain with him in years to come in happy memories and positive life affirming experiences.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Mar 14 - 10:24 PM

Having some 'puter issues. In the hunt for a suitable reconditioned iMac but could take a week or so. If I am unable to refresh or post for the next few days please know I am still aboard, singing, rowing, sailing.

I just looked up all the definitions of "celebrate."

It seems that what we do in this place is celebrate one another and life within all definitions and meanings of the word.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Mar 14 - 06:48 PM

So! Fell off the page eh? I hope that means everyone is doing well and has no need to post. Me needer but I figgers I gotta come up wit sommat what ta post so here's a couple.

Medicinal

And, from a Facebook page I am a member of...

I wanted to get some specific pics, like plantations, but after I found out yesterday that the mighty JDI had impaled himself on his own sword, I kinda got all warm and fuzzy inside and, well...

http://vimeo.com/89610786

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Mar 14 - 07:42 PM

Wishing calm seas and a steady breeze in the sails for all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Mar 14 - 06:44 AM

Sending love to Nigel and Ann as Sunday draws closer, keeping you both in our hearts

with love

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Mar 14 - 07:12 AM

Gnu, thanks for the Zappa link. I haven't listened to any of his output for years. As a consequence, I'd forgotten just how creative & ground-breaking he was. He produced a number of tracks with full orchestra which attracted some flak from the 'serious music' critics. His approach to orchestration was verging on "Everything but the kitchen sink", it has to be said, but Zappa loved working on a 'large canvas'. Yah boo sucks to the Music snobs!

"It seems that what we do in this place is celebrate one another and life within all definitions and meanings of the word". Janie, I couldn't agree with you more. Even when celebrating feels like the last thing one wants to do, a post will appear that changes everything. Sometimes a wise homily...sometimes some gentle humour...often a combination of the two. Either way, "Les Mots Juste" have an almost magical way of appearing, when they are most needed.

Dean, I'm relying on you to chart us a course that will bring us the calm seas & steady breezes we yearn for.
                   With Love to You All,
                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Mar 14 - 08:36 PM

Haven't had much time to spend on the computer for a few days. Too much going on, but it's all been good. I didn't get to Mudcat, but I've been thinking of the whole crew and missing you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Mar 14 - 04:15 AM

poor tommy. he fell over indoors and would not weightbear so we took him to a an e, thinking it would probably be a minimal injury, as he don't talk much but we ought to get it checked. they found a knee fracture and some unidentified lines in his leg. he is home with a temp cast till proper one next week. the possibility was suggested that his deterioration was affecting his bone strength .
we have care in today ,and we are booked to see the x factor show at the o2 . not really what I would pay so much to see, but as we know tamera and her mum I agreed. she got signed to simon cowells label last week. I expect she will do that modern pop stuff ,that I don't get!   now ,I could let her have a few songs........
blessings all      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Mar 14 - 06:39 AM

Oh dear. I hope he's doing okay, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Mar 14 - 11:49 PM

Dear Nigel and Ann,

In this dark night my thoughts are with you as you celebrate Jane together with friends and family. May joy and shared blessings be yours.

Far away in many ways,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 12:06 AM

Pete, I'm sorry to read about Tommy's injury. I hope he heals well.

Nigel, I lost track of the date until I read Maeve's post. By now you have probably decided how to spend this day. perhaps it involves some music that she, your wife, and you enjoyed together, even some songs from her childhood.

Sending more love and hugs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 04:24 AM

Today is Jane's 1st Anniversary. Ann & I will be spending the day with our Grandchildren. Our eldest Grandson is a superb cook/chef, just like his Mum. Lunch will be late, but well worth waiting for. I'm going to have to let my Music take over...if you visit soundcloud.com/nigel-paterson-music   the first two pieces were composed for Jane. She heard "The Meditation". It helped relax her when she became housebound. The final section was played at her funeral to provide a moment of quiet reflection. "The Sleep of Sleeps" was written after her death. It is a musical metaphor, open to many interpretations.
            Stay close today as Ann & I navigate this uncharted course,
                            With Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 05:38 AM

thinking of you both & your family & friends

sending love

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 06:38 AM

My thoughts and prayers for you and yours, Nigel.

The music is peaceful. I read the bio again while listening. It appears you have never retired. Good thing.

Retired, professional musician (do we ever REALLY retire?). My career began in the early 60s with the legendary folk group, 'The Halliard'. In '79, graduated as a Music Teacher (Studied Composition & Orchestration with Harold Dexter & Annea Lockwood) & Classical Guitar at Trinity College, London. Taught for a few years, but decided to freelance: Playing guitar (Sessions, Shows, Cabaret); Arranging & Composing for Chappell & Co., Boston Music, I.M.P. & latterly, Warner Chappell. Completed my full-time career back in Teaching at a High School in East London, retiring in 2004. In 2011, I set up nigelpatersonmusic.com to sell sheet music (Member of the ePartner scheme initiated by Faber Music). I now spend my time composing; some of the pieces end up on the website as scores/sheet music for download. I am a member of The British Music Writers Council (Musician's Union) No. 2725.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 07:12 AM

With the time difference I expect you will soon be with your grandchildren at lunch, Nigel and Ann. Holding all of you close and sending hugs. Will listen to your compositions a bit later in the morning, after a cuppa when I am more alert.

So sorry about Tommy's fall, Pete.

maeve, you have especially been on my mind this past week.

My son and his friend had to end their adventure a week early - his friend injured his back - not serious but very painful and could become serious had they pushed on and over-worked it. While they are disappointed, they still had a grand and challenging week of skateboarding through the beautiful Blue Ridge mountains (they had to stop just as the torain was getting easier.) They met many wonderful people, kind and supportive, had a newspaper article written about them in one rural county on the path, and are ready to attempt another long distance skate as soon as time, money and Nick's back allow.

Can't believe we have more snow in the forecast! I supposedly live in the South!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 02:07 PM

thoughts and prayer with nigel and ann today. may the fond recollections alleviate the bitterness of loss.

tommy is not too bad as the painkillers keep him reasonably comfortable, but gets a bit grumpy stuck in bed. thanks for asking.

Janie- early finish for your sons adventure ,but sounds like a good time, apart from his friends injury.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Mar 14 - 09:31 PM

Nigel, both musical pieces understandably have very different moods, but I liked them both. Thank you for sharing them with us. I'm sending more love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Mar 14 - 07:39 AM

Thank you all for being with us yesterday. Ann & I both agreed at breakfast this morning that Jane's 1st anniversary was not as 'difficult' to bear as we had both imagined,(It's all too easy to slip into a self-fulfilling prophesy mode). The time spent with our Grandchildren was relaxed & fun with memories of Jane slipping into the conversations naturally & easily. Unfortunately, the 'chef' had decided to take the day off, so we ate out. Fortunately, 'The Bank of Nanny & Grandad' is open on Sundays!
         One final hurdle in the diary of 'firsts' is next Sunday: 'Mothering Sunday' (Commonly referred to as Mother's Day). It is heavily promoted, commercially, so one is constantly reminded on TV & when shopping. Let's hope the spirit of yesterday prevails.
         On a lighter note...gnu, can you take over my PR & publicity please? That way, I don't have to resort to 'shameless self-promotion' (-; (-; Sheet Music sales are modest to say the least, so Cancer Research UK does not benefit to the extent I'd hoped for.
         In my thoughts today, especially are Maeve, Pete & Tommy, Janie, her son & his friend.
         We send our Love to all our Dear Friends,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Mar 14 - 07:29 AM

Morning all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Mar 14 - 08:19 AM

Good morning, Janie. How's it looking in your neck of the woods?
                                                                                                   Nigel
                                                                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Mar 14 - 06:37 PM

Don't post often herein but I read at least once a day.

Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Mar 14 - 07:13 PM

good to read that sunday was not as heavy as expected and that indeed was lighter than expected, nigel. may the same prevail on mothers day.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Mar 14 - 09:28 PM

Just finished listening, Nigel. Had listened previously to 'Meditation." Had not listened to Sleep of Sleeps previously. Found myself closing my eyes and listening solely with the heart to both.

Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Mar 14 - 06:39 PM

likewise, and left comments. pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Mar 14 - 07:43 AM

Nigel,

Billy and I were thinking of you and Ann on Sunday, I am glad it was a day full of memories and with your family around you.

Pete, so sorry to hear about Tommy, hoping he recovers quickly.

We have had a stressful week with Mother, the dementia is progressing really quickly and the " take me home" moments are more regular and very distressing for us all.Billy took me to lunch at the local Marina yesterday, a beautiful special place on the Walton Backwaters .It is usually not very busy in the winter but yesterday there was a coach trip from Kent so crowded. We had a lovely lunch and then were talking over our situation when I just started to cry and could not stop !! Not like me at all, poor Billy was in a tiz and didn't know what to do. I am sure no one noticed but I felt so stupid!! However we are going to London on Saturday to stay at Katies flat in Borough Market and the young are taking me out to lunch on Sunday, so I am sure that two days away will cheer me up!

I have contacted my lovely Admiral Nurse and we will meet up soon, I really want Mother to stay living with us for as long as possible but will be guided by her advice?

sailing on, its a heavenly sunny day here, will take a walk by the sea and blow the sadness away.

with love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Mar 14 - 07:08 PM

Let those tears out, Wendy. When you cry it may seem like you are falling apart when you are really doing what your body and mind need to do to keep going.

I'm sending love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Mar 14 - 08:19 PM

Can't add one thing other than my love to CL's post.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Mar 14 - 08:22 PM

"blow the sadness away" all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Mar 14 - 08:25 PM

(((((Wendy)))) You're doing the best you can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Mar 14 - 09:02 PM

Your mum is blessed to have such a caring daughter. Bless you.   Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Mar 14 - 04:16 PM

up for Wendy & all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Mar 14 - 04:57 PM

Ups and {{{{{hugs}}}}} for maeve and t.l.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Mar 14 - 01:18 PM

Hugs all around!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Mar 14 - 07:52 AM

Free snow! U-shovel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Mar 14 - 07:58 AM

Much here to comment on, but I can't for a few more days. I've been confined to bed for the last few days. The Polymyalgia & Dystonia have flared up something alarming. General situation seems to be slowly improving...first day up, showered, shaved, dressed but feeling like my brain has been replaced by a few kilos of mashed potatoes! Best I can do for the moment is hugs & kisses all round,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 31 Mar 14 - 09:08 AM

Rest easy, Nigel.

Thank you to Nigel, Janie, ChanteyLass...UP to all.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 Mar 14 - 05:49 PM

Wishing you a speedy recovery, Nigel, and restorative rest.    Blessings all. Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Mar 14 - 06:07 PM

Best wishes Nigel... and all. I am heartened at the camaraderie in this group.

Now, seriously, this free snow won't last so get it while the getting is good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Mar 14 - 08:34 PM

Aw, Nigel, I hope the worst is over and you are much better soon!

Gnu, thank you for the offer, but I think I'll pass .Let us know if you get any takers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Apr 14 - 01:10 AM

hugs & kisses back to Nigel, & I'll also refuse gnu's offer of snow as it is getting a tad cooler here in early autumny Sydney

sandra (liking the lower humidity)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Apr 14 - 10:46 PM

I hope everyone got through April Fool's Day with only jokes that made everyone laugh and no mean "jokes."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Apr 14 - 06:39 AM

Mean? My power was out for 6 1/2 hours. I didn't mind it but Mum did. That's kinda mean. Worse, there are still 10k without power, mostly in two villages/areas, and many will be without until the weekend. It's the kiddies and the seniors I feel sorry for. Cold temps wind wind and the government had cut snowplowing services so badly that many people couldn't get to the Red Cross or community 'warming centres'.

But! This AM, it's NOT!!! snowing or raining or... Temp is suppose to go up to +2 so some of the ice will melt.

I dunno why most everybody is shoked and surprised that we had a stretch of 'weather'. Hey, we knew the forecast for a month. "In like a lamb, get ready." they say, eh?

Small potatoes considering the woes of others in this thread and the various sorts of devastation around the world, natural and man made (especially the bullets). I count my blessings and wish the same to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Apr 14 - 08:25 AM

a bit of an April Fools fun from Australia & Canada - passed on by JennieG

Read this on the ABC news site today - a wombat dairy!

I thought it was a corker. The best April Fool I found online today was from West Jet, a Canadian airline, who announced a new class for flyers - Kargo Kids, whereby kids fly in the cargo compartment while their parents (and everyone else) rides in quiet child-free comfort in the cabin. It was on youtube,and was hilarious.

she's not wrong!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 02 Apr 14 - 08:33 AM

Best wishes to Nigel, sending lots of love and healing thoughts

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Apr 14 - 06:53 AM

Hope you are feeling a bit better every day, Nigel.

Morning everyone. Coffee is on in the galley.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Apr 14 - 06:53 AM

A positive outlook, gnu.    Blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Apr 14 - 09:59 PM

Nigel, I too hope you are feeling better.

Gnu, I'm glad the power came back on. Those must have been a long six-and-a-half hours for you and your mum.

Sandra: good ones!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Apr 14 - 06:59 AM

CL... actually, Mum took the power outage better than she did worrying about the possibility of one. Thanks for the concern. The crews had everyone back on line yesterday, two days sooner than promised. It was very tough for a lot of people, especially kiddies and their parents and, more so, elderly people.

Spring is teasing us. I hope it comes for all of us, metaphorically speaking, of course... wouldn't wanna leave out those below the line (southern hemisphere). >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Apr 14 - 05:05 PM

Up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 06:17 AM

Sending encouragement and gentle sunshine to Nigel and to all who may need some.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 05:45 PM

Likewise wishes, blessings all. Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 06:37 PM

Best to all and especially Nigel who gets all my best coming his way. Aging kinda' sucks...............Just spent a week in the hospital trying to fix the unfixable once again but alas.....Aging kinda' sucks........No......It definitely sucks!!

But the look of Spring is arriving in Ohio which is encouraging and Karen who has been having real problems with a root canal which is still infected looks to be better. She looks totally worn out with her job, her health problem, and most of all the effort it takes to keep me going so give her a good thought!

Much Love


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 07:04 PM

Spaw, been wondering where the heck you were! My best wishes for everyone here who needs 'em.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 07:41 PM

UP spaw, UP Karen, UP Nigel and all; may you all enjoy spring sunshine, and dine on fine wombat cheese !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 08:14 PM

Best wishes for Karen, Spaw, and everyone else here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Apr 14 - 09:21 PM

Whoa - I feel like I have been semi-asleep at the oars.

Sing with me for us all Just because I thought some Johnson Girls would be good here

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bassen
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 06:39 AM

Hi guys.

As a veteran lurker who's been around since the late 90s but only posted infrequently, I felt like saying I use this thread like I used to use the whole Mudcat. Here I find people interacting in kindness and generosity. I find evidence that we have more in common than we think. I was always more of a reader than participator but such is my nature. The way I use the Mudcat now, I start on "Messages since last visit" and go down the names list, finding the threads that a small handful of names have posted on (looking at you 'Spaw). Names from the "old days". More and more, I pretty much just end up on this thread. Even though most probably don't recognize my moniker, I'm thankful that I still belong to this family, however noisome and contentious some of the more distant cousins have become. Best wishes and good thoughts to you all.


Bassen
aka
Sverre Johan Svendsen

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 08:11 AM

Bassen- Welcome, welcome, welcome indeed. Thank you for taking time to post. Please don't be a stranger.
Another poetic and affirming thread is Sunshine Thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 10:28 AM

love & hugs to Karen & spaw

Bassen - it's good to read your post, welcome to the Rainbow.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 06:51 PM

Billy and I are in Norfolk, for a week. We have hired a small cottage but tonight have our daughter and her husband and two girls and our son and grandson with us. My cousin has hired a large house with swimming pool (lovely) with all his family . So today there were 21 of us having lunch, then swimming then dinner. I cannot tell you how much laughter and fun there was. Reliving old family memories around a huge kitchen table.

Mother is safe at home with her carers. But Billy and I are having a rest surrounded by our wonderful extended family.

Sending all our love to the Rainbow crew. Wishing you all a peaceful and contented night.

much love

Wendy and Billy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 07:27 PM

What wonderful posts! I shall sleep more soundly tonight after reading them. Thanks all. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 08:57 PM

Lovely, Wendy. And what gnu said.

The 3rd anniversary of Daddy's death was a few days ago. It didn't seem appropriate -and I didn't have a strong need to remark on it at that immediate time Talked with Mom tonight about plans for the family to go up to the University the Saturday in May for their annual memorial service for people who donated their bodies. Family emergency prevented us from going up the year his ashes were scattered and due to a glitch in the University's system we were notified of the date last year.

Will be a long day at that Saturday, driving to Morgantown and back to Mom's - and also a lovely day. Looking forward to it. My nephews, who my parents raised after Kaye died are riding up with us, sans grandnieces (who I delight in, but are so young that they demand alot of attention.) I have no doubt it will be a good trip and a good visit and it will be settling to finally have an image and memory of where Daddy's ashes landed. It would have been OK regardless, but definitely better to finally have a mental space with a visual image.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 09:27 PM

Stay on board with us, Bassen!

Janie, I've been playing the Johnson Girls CD with that song lately. Coincidentally, I spoke briefly to one of them, Bonnie, at Mystic Seaport on Saturday. Maggie no longer sings with them. I believe she has moved too far away to make rehearsals and performances possible. She was not on their third CD. Even with 4 voices instead of 5, they sound great. Your weekend sounds like it will be a positive experience.

And Wendy and Billy, I hope the rest of your weekend away from home continued as well as it began.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Apr 14 - 10:02 PM

My fingers didn't walk well on the keyboard in that last post. Glad you could translate and forgive the typos.

One of these days I'm gonna make it to Mystic. Any combination of the Johnson Girls works for me. Any song that moves us together, or reminds us that we are much better off joined together works for me also. Seems right now that seas are calm for some and quite rough for others. What matters, regardless,is a stalwart crew and that we have in spades.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Apr 14 - 01:55 PM

UP spaw, UP ,Karen, wishing healing, wholeness and restfulness all round.

trust billybob, that a delightful time continues in nelsons county as you are assured of reliable carers for your mum.
we are planning to go to the caravan at winchelsea for a few days tomorrow, with tommy in plastered leg....if we can manage.

hope you have a clear trip, Janie, though probably tinged by some sadness.
I think that is the first time I have heard ladies doing sea shanties, and a nice job they do of it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Maeve, away from the farm
Date: 07 Apr 14 - 02:17 PM

Wendy, so glad you will have some respite. That would be wonderful... Not an option for us.

Janie, hope your family trip brings sweet memories of your dad, and new memories of your family time.

Can't write more now...UP for all on board.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Apr 14 - 03:55 PM

Pete, I hope you can manage that trip to Winchelsea. There's a will, so I hope there's a way.

Maeve, I hope options open for you sooner than you think.

Janie, the Johnson Girls have been booked for this year's sea music festival, but even when they are not booked they are usually there for the festival and sing a song or two at the late-night pub sings and also the January Chantey Blast afternoon. Anyway, I look forward to meeting you whenever you do get to Mystic.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 07 Apr 14 - 08:34 PM

Home again.

ChanteyLass- Nope, I'll be on call more and more. Thanks for the thought, anyway.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Apr 14 - 08:49 AM

That last Guest post was mine...cookie now restored.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Apr 14 - 07:18 AM

Gotta be tough being an hour away. But, at least the travelling weather is getting better, maeve. Hang in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Apr 14 - 12:17 PM

Thanks, g.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Apr 14 - 02:02 PM

Thanks, g.

Nigel could use some encouragement ...perhaps music links, poetry, something for laughter something for comfort, a destination for which to set sail. So could we all, eh?

Maeve with cookie for now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Apr 14 - 02:30 PM

Music? Well now! I know of a lovely Canuck lady musician who has a theme(s) that runs thru her music. Empowerment of women and education of young adults thru her songs. Her amazing song 'Birmingham' brought a great impetus to the awareness/promotion of battered women's plights/rights in Canada. Here is another such song which DOES reach young people on more than one level on more than one issue. Whilst some may view it as just a rock song to be played at HIGH volume and danced to, I view it as a triumph by this artist and socially conscious individual. It speaks volumes.

Again, it is rock music. Speakers on ELEVEN!

Amanda Marshall, Sunday Morning After (Snake Tottoo)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 14 - 12:16 PM

Thank you so much, Maeve. Physically, I guess you could say I've 'run aground'. Several clinics to attend over the next couple of weeks...beginning to feel a bit like clutching at straws, medically speaking. Gnu, I'm going to listen to your link. I think Music links would be the most helpful, along with some poetry. Somehow, I've got to get this old brain of mine back in gear. Thinking clearly & short-term memory are the main issues. A recent CT scan showed some damage, but I'm still waiting for comprehensive feedback from my Doc. Don't these people understand how waiting for several weeks, not knowing what's actually 'going on' is soo anxiety provoking? I apologise for blathering on...feeling very down & debilitated.
            With love & hugs to you all,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 14 - 12:34 PM

Amanda Marshall rocks! It's official...you heard it from gnu & now me. What more provenance do you need? Just attempting to control an on-stage fantasy..... my old Fender Tele slung round my neck!
                      Nigel
                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Apr 14 - 12:57 PM

Up, Nigel! "... apologise for blathering on..." No need - you never need to apologize. That's why we are here. My thoughts and prayers to you (and to all, of course). As for the wait, take solace in the fact that they review the files in the order received and they do it twice on accounta they wanna get it right. Besides, and I know this might sound like 'real' blather, ain't nothin ya can do about the wait or about the opinions.

I've come to find therapy lately in hitting that there You Tube and watching comedy stuff before bedtime and early in the morn for 15 to 30 minutes. Try it. Here's a suggestion... copy and paste...

Christmas Presence (Part 1) - Simon's Cat

Enjoy, relax, laugh together with me, with us? It's just a silly bit of fun but it helps me. I hope it may help you (and, perhaps, others).

Bless all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Apr 14 - 07:02 PM

back from winchelsea and carrying tommy in/out car, in/out caravan, and my back is still ok!. I think the sea air done us all good.
on Monday night someone mentioned the halliards, and I thought....I know that name! I think it was a song about bedlam someone sang. anyway nigel, I hope the lingering uncertainty aint driving you up the wall!
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Apr 14 - 09:02 PM

Nigel and all: here's a poem that I hope will lighten your load briefly and give you a chuckle. Sorry about the 15-second ad at the start. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yB0Wm7CsDv0

Good job, Pete! I'm glad you were able to manage the trip to Winchelsea with your back unharmed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Apr 14 - 05:47 AM

Paste this into your browser. Life will never be quite the same....

http://www.reshareworthy.com/amazing-quartet-blew-audience-away/

                               With Love,
                                              Nigel
                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Apr 14 - 10:59 AM

Just watched 'em, Nigel, and then called my wife to see & hear 'em.
Amazing!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Apr 14 - 12:10 PM

Great vid!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Apr 14 - 08:36 PM

Oh, fun!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Apr 14 - 10:29 PM

love & hugs to Nigel & everyone!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Apr 14 - 06:39 AM

Thank you for the links...I did more than just chuckle. Been said many times before, but laughter definitely IS the best medicine. Big hugs for Chantey & Gnu.

Pete, that song by The Halliard was 'Mad Tom O'Bedlam'...the folk equivalent of a 'show stopper'!

A long overdue welcome to Bassen. There's a great crew aboard 'The Rainbow' who I've grown to love, respect & trust. I hope you will voyage with us & experience some of the same.
                                     With Love to You All,
                                                                   Nigel
                                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Apr 14 - 09:38 PM

Up, Up, Up!

hope this is good for a chuckle.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Apr 14 - 05:10 AM

Janie, your timing was perfect. Off out soon for an important consultation with one of my Specialists, so the laughter (not a chuckle in sight) gave me a boost...thank you.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel
                                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 14 Apr 14 - 09:57 AM

Afternoon all,

back from a wonderful week in Norfolk, early nights, long lie ins, great food and shared the days with our extended family.

Only rained on one afternoon so Christopher took us Bowling, in 30 years of being together I have never bowled, imagine Billy's face when I beat him ( he was also beaten by Prudence age 5!!) He has begged me not to tell his sisters in N J as he will never live it down!

Spent a lovely day at Blickling , picnic by the lake and a stroll round the house and gardens. A day at Holkham Beach reading my book and watching the sea, even saw the Wells lifeboat go out. Had fun driving round the lanes near Cromer and Sheringham and Trunch       ( memories of the Kipper family made me smile!!)

The grandchildren enjoyed meeting again the grandchildren of my cousins family, there was 5 acres of garden right on the clifftop so tree climbing, badminton and building dens took up many an hour. Swimming every afternoon and then 24 sharing dinners round four tables pushed together to make one huge table, much wine for the adults and some frightening cocktails made by Ciaran and Christopher!!

Mother was so well looked after while we were away, eating much better and although she seemed very glad to see me on Sunday, I don't think she really missed me?

Just catching up with all the Rainbow crew and the news, much love to you all, positive thoughts to Nigel, Spaw, Karen, Tommy and Maeve.

Good to be back on board.

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Apr 14 - 03:29 PM

Good one, Janie!

Nigel, I hope your consultation went well.

Wendy, congrats on your bowling success!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Apr 14 - 06:06 AM

Wendy, your post was a joy to read. So many place names that bring back fond memories of my walking days. Is the Sheringham Little Theatre still open for business? It's good to have you back on board & a bonus to read your uplifting news.

      The consultation (with my Neurologist) went well, if 'well' is the right word! She is a real gem. She gave me her email sometime ago, just in case I needed to contact her directly & quickly. In my experience, Doctors rarely grant that sort of access. It always has to be via 'the proper channels'.

      Thinking particularly today of Wendy & her Family; Spaw & his Family; Pete & Tommy...anyone in our esteemed crew who needs a little extra TLC.

      Sending you all some warming, UK sunshine,
                                                                         With Love,
                                                                                        Nigel
                                                                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Apr 14 - 06:16 AM

Heartwarming posts!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Apr 14 - 09:38 AM

Nigel, so glad your consultation went well and hope you are enjoying the sunshine and feeling much better.

Yes The Little Theatre in Sheringham is alive and well. Christopher ( my son) has meetings with the manager quite often as he runs St George's Theatre in Great Yarmouth. Sheringham has a great success with " rep" but the Gt Yarmouth audience don't seem to be embracing plays at the moment but folk and comedy seem to be very popular.

He was telling me that he was at a meeting in Sheringham recently and was with his assistant manager Tom when he recognised a slightly scruffy chap talking to one of the staff. Chris said that he knew he had met him before but could not remember his name and he was coming over to say hello. One of those embarrassing moments he thought? So when John Hurt came over and shook his hand he had no idea who he was till Tom whispered in his ear ! He lives nearby and is a supporter of the Little Theatre.

Sun is shining in Frinton, Billy has taken the little girls to the beach hut while I catch up in the salon.

My love to all, sailing on with calm waters

with love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Apr 14 - 07:22 PM

Refresh tired bodies, Rejoice weary souls, Solace to us all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Apr 14 - 05:41 PM

I,ll second that!    Blessings.   Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Apr 14 - 09:47 PM

Sail on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 06:33 AM

.....with a steady course..

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 07:17 AM

... of course...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 07:18 AM

Wishing all who voyage with us regularly & all who pop in occasionally, a Happy Easter/Happy Bank Holiday (UK),
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel & Ann
                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 01:52 PM

Have typed posts on successive days that haven't posted. I suspect the problem is I have too many windows open moving among different sites and have forgotten to hit submit before heading back to some place such as youtube to listen to music.

Spring is here - and I am determined to enjoy the reckless abandonment and risk taking the wild and the cultivated plants in my yard are taking in the much more variable weather than they are accustomed to.

Headed for the mountains in a few days, joined by my sister Annie. No one could wish for a better travel companion. 2 days of boring workshops that are business for me, then 3 days of wondering the mountains to enjoy spring ephemerals and stop on a whim at roadside and obscure museums and libraries on the search for both genealogical information and understanding of the culture, conditions and times of our ancestors, Native American and European alike.

Will be scattering some of Kat's ashes along the way, in wild and beautiful places. Sometimes to the sound of Annie's fiddle playing a mountain tune, and if a flat rock is handy on which to dance, I'll probably flatfoot or clog a little in joyous remembrance. Not just in remembrance of Kat, but in celebration of all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 02:09 PM

Happy Easter to all of the Rainbow Crew from me, too!

Janie, thank you for letting us know your plans for Kat's ashes. It sounds like you've found a wonderful way to celebrate her life!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 02:41 PM

Oops. While I'm sure I will also be "wondering" the mountains, I meant to type 'wandering.'

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 04:09 PM

Wandering wonder. I like that.

Nice to think of the ashes going here and there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Apr 14 - 07:15 PM

Checking in from a cottage very close to Saline Beach, St. Barts. Would that the bunch of you could be here with us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 20 Apr 14 - 11:05 AM

Warm felicitations to all my shipmates and wishes for warm sunshine and healing rains of Spring. Sorry I have not posted of late. It has been very occasional lurking only until cognitive functioning kicked in again.

Still on anti-TNF with no physical relief. Just finished course of anti-biotics and still on anti-histamin. In the last week and bit, I've been on every anti-Tamara meds going. I know because still having allergic reaction to something. But it is not terrible. Bit of discoid rash on my face. Not itchy, just .... weird.

Otherwise I am good. I have a job that is interesting and provides much distraction from pain. Outside of work I am keeping busy with steampunk creations, inventions and modifications.

I finally put my pride aside and purchased a very small mobility scooter. One that can live in the boot of the car. I figured since the anti-TNF does not appear to be relieving the physical downside of illness, then I may as well buy the scooter now, while I am still working and have money to pay for it. I got the VAT amnesty which brought the cost down a bit.

Anyway back to steampunking modifications. I am currently working on making steampunk camouflage for the scooter when I take it to SP events. I have a veritible storm of ideas brewing. I've seen some pretty mean looking machines among SP friends. I want someting really unique. Something along the lines of the love child of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and HG Wells Time Machine. I already have this garden ornament clock/bar ometer/thermometer thing Tam's walker/transit chair which I have punked up even further. Kept the clock in the centre but outer rings have time travel gauges. One starts at "BANG" and finsihes with "RESTAURANT, END OF UNIVERSE." The other is a Chronogovernor. Well it is a start.

From Late Feb to just before last weekend in March I worked on new Far East steampunk outfit and my pride and joy, these Octopus Puppet twins Oskarpus Krakenworthy the Third and Oktavia Pussywillow Krakenworthy

The eyes took the most time. I had to create a socket to place them in then attach a fingerpuppet tube to back. So their eyes move with intenral manipulation. Adorably creepy. Oskarpus now has a little gun and holster and Oktavia will have a small porcelain Victorian doll.

So I have been very busy, but brain has been quite nonverbal while it has been creating and solving problems.

Hugs to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Apr 14 - 11:51 AM

VT... cool!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Apr 14 - 02:32 PM

I had to go google steampunk - a term I have heard used but didn't know what it signified. Learn something new every day!

Very cool and creative, VT. Appreciate you sharing images of your artistry!

Hummingbirds working the azaleas on this coolish, breezy, sunny spring day. Easter/Ishtar. Rebirth. Renewal.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Apr 14 - 09:02 AM

cute, in a creepy sort of way! tam.   I remember you mentioning steampunk before and I had to look it up. interesting stuff.
also interesting post, Janie. hope you continue to have a refreshing, renewing trip.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Apr 14 - 08:57 PM

VT, every time I see someone using a mobility device, I think that person is setting an example for me and everyone else. Those people don't give up or accept confinement, and I hope I won't either. I am glad that structures have been altered to accommodate these devices. I am sorry, though, that pain is making this necessary for you. I am glad to read that work is a distraction, and I enjoyed those photos. Good work!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Apr 14 - 04:40 AM

I've just returned from the National Folk Festival where I saw lots of mobility scooters & wheelchairs which enable older/less mobile folkies to participate.

One of my younger friends (40ish) has Cerebral palsy & has used elbow crutches all her life. Recently she developed a spur from the crutches & needs to occasionally use a motorised wheelchair. So she was zipping around the large festival site, getting to everything she wanted to attend & was not tired! She normally takes days to recover from a festival or other heavy activity.

best wishes to all, onward & upward.

sandra

ps. a great time was had at the Festival.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Apr 14 - 03:11 PM

Sorry I've been AWOL. This is one of the few threads that keep me coming back to Mudcat. Just stopped in to bask in the warmth. Things are stressful with my mother lately,both her physical health and her mental health are not good, so any warm thoughts, white light, and/or prayers for her are very welcome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Apr 14 - 04:19 PM

Sending all possible mojo for any and all Tams or Tammis aboard! : )
                            Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Apr 14 - 09:13 PM

Prayers on their way to you and your mother, Ranger1.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Apr 14 - 11:18 PM

Tami and Mom.   {{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Apr 14 - 05:57 AM

(((*)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Apr 14 - 02:23 PM

prayer offered for you and your mum, ranger1.
tommy has reached age 15 today. when he came into our care about 11 yr ago we were preparing ourselves to lose him before his teenage years, being told that most myotonic dystrophy children don't survive.
we have certainly had some near misses but is still doing surprisingly well.
his cast came off yesterday for x ray and the doctor thought it was healing nicely. had tommy not been special needs, he would have just been told to be careful and not overdo weightbearing, but for safeties sake another cast was applied ,to be worn anther 4 weeks.
but he did go back to school today and seems to have been ok.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bassen
Date: 23 Apr 14 - 04:51 PM

Just got back from choir practice, we finished off 3 hours of nitpicking Haydn by singing two of the movements from Brahms' Requiem - haven't sung those since we performed it last fall. Even for us nonbelievers there is such comfort in that music, and it was also a comfort to find we still remembered it! All good thoughts and energy generated by the music to those in need. Ich will euch trösten!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Apr 14 - 08:44 PM

Happy birthday to Tommy, Pete. I'm glad the doctor is taking extra precautions, but truthfully I can't imagine telling any 15-year-old boy to limit weight-bearing! At that age, they tend to ignore advice like that! And I'm glad he is returning to school.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Apr 14 - 05:28 AM

what ChanteytLass said

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Apr 14 - 07:57 AM

Happies atchya, Tommy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Apr 14 - 08:11 AM

Sending love to Tami, I know how stressful looking after your mother is, so take care of you!!

Happy Birthday wishes to Tommy xxxxxxx

sailing on,

with love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Apr 14 - 05:29 PM

thanks.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Apr 14 - 08:19 PM

"Row on, row on, another day
May shine with brighter light
Ply, ply the oars and pull away
There's dawn beyond the night."

In other words, refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Apr 14 - 10:38 PM

Happy belated Birthday, Tommy!

Sis and I are very much enjoying ourselves on day hikes through the southern mountains, Mostly Smoky Mountain National Park. The spring wildflowers are incredible and the creeks are full and singing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Apr 14 - 06:06 AM

Glad I shoveled the back steps yesterday... it's -2C at the moment. Woulda been an awful icy mess if I hadn't.

No... there really isn't much going on here. No news is good news, eh?

Take care, all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 26 Apr 14 - 02:17 PM

Thanks for all the warm thoughts, white light, and prayers. Mum's still in the hospital, it's ulcerative colitis that had gone untreated for at least four months, and she was sick and tired of being sick and tired, as well as burned out from being my gran's caregiver and not getting any (or enough) help and being really bad about asking for help from the rest of the family. She's part of a double-blind study where they're using a hyperbaric chamber to aid healing. The problem is that it is a double-blind study and she may or may not actually be receiving the oxygen and her doctor doesn't know if she's receiving the oxygen, either. Hopefully it helps.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 26 Apr 14 - 08:17 PM

I hope she is getting some sort of treatment, or at least good care and respite. Doesn't seem likely they would include some one in the study that getting no treatment at all could cause greater harm. In the meantime, take care of yourself!

Watching the geese and mallards on the Oconaluftee River from the balcony of our motel. Headed home tomorrow. Have hiked the high country and the low country in the mountains. Feel satiated. Sent out good thoughts and thoughts of gratitude to and for all of you from the highest point we reached, and imagined this good ship sailing in the clouds that wafted around us, all hands aboard and soaking in the magic of these ancient places.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 26 Apr 14 - 08:40 PM

Not to worry, Janie. They're trying a couple of different therapies for her.

I was feeling a lot less stressed, but then my usually very dependable car broke down on my way back to Maine last night. Luckily, it was in the next town over from my mom's brother's family and my youngest cousin came and rescued me, as well as recommending a good mechanic. I was able to drive the car to the garage, but no one's going to be there until Monday. Silver lining: I got to spend some time with my cousin, who has the house to himself while his parents are away on vacation, and we talked until the wee hours of the morning. Conversation continued today, as well as a lesson on how to use some of the mysterious buttons on my camera, and he delivered me and Bandit back to my grandmother's this afternoon. Gramma gets the pleasure of my company for a few more days, and I have plenty of leave time saved up, so I'm still getting paid.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Apr 14 - 07:45 AM

good to read that there was a silver lining in that cloud. trust the car gets fixed fine. another prayer offered, and wishing the best for you and yours.   blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Apr 14 - 10:03 AM

Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Apr 14 - 04:11 PM

My life is welcome to return to boring any time now. Gran to hospital by ambulance this morning. Atrial fibrillation, she's there at least 24 hours. Trying an IV drug to help heart back to normal sinus rhythm, if that doesn't work, internal echo cardiogram to check for blood clots and then a minor shock to see if that does the trick. Good thing car broke down on Friday and stranded me here, otherwise no one would have been here with her. Waiting to hear if Mum will be discharged today, and my car will be fixed tomorrow afternoon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Apr 14 - 07:10 PM

Oh my, Tami, I guess this is what it takes to be thankful that your car broke down! I hope you mother, grandmother, and car are all fixed up soon and that your life does indeed become dull--or at least normal!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Apr 14 - 07:13 PM

I didn't think that last post had worked, so I went back to this thread to check. Not only did it take, it was #3,500! The rainbow sails on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Apr 14 - 07:14 PM

Oops! Poor grammar there. The car will be fixed tomorrow afternoon, waiting to hear about Mum.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Apr 14 - 10:03 PM

Ahhh, Tami. You are wise. Wisdom doesn't make a road less rocky, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 12:09 AM

Having some of my own struggles. Definitely different from what we have talked about here. I am the 62 year old parent of a 20 year old son and we are seesawing across apron strings out of sync with one another. He saws through a section and I snatch it back, shouting in my own need, "Not yet!" I loosen a knot and he grabs the end, shouting in his own need "Not yet!" Intellectually I trust us both and know that eventually it will work out, but it is hard in the meantime. Through no fault of his own, he is going to need to be much more independent much younger in many ways than is the case when one's children are only separated age-wise by one generation from the parents.

I feel silly even asking for your empathy, and also know that none of you will begrudge my asking. No big, threatening waves coming at me, just the normal and very predictable choppy waves of any life.

Some one give us a good song to keep time with the rowing or the managing of the sails!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 06:32 AM

For Janie and her son...and all on board.
Swimming

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 04:35 PM

Refreshhhhhh

Anyone have more music links for us?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 05:20 PM

No music links, but I have good news. Mom's being discharged tomorrow and Gramma's heartbeat is back to normal and they may send her home tomorrow, as well. I am hopefully going home tomorrow to my own bed, my cat, J-Boy, and my job. We do have someone staying with the invalids for a bit, so not to worry.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 05:25 PM

And before I forget: Thank you, all you lovely, lovely people, for all the prayers, good mojo, white light, warm thoughts, and support. I, and my family, appreciate it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 05:49 PM

great news of an overall upturn, ranger 1.
wishing you some ease of mind, Janie.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 08:26 PM

Mandolin Orange Hey Adam

A couple of kids who live in my neck of the woods.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 08:45 PM

Great news, Tami!

Maeve, that clip was delightful. I've just shared it on FB.

Janie, keep doing your best to keep the lines of communication open between you and your son. Between the two of you, you are sure to work things out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 08:49 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlthNE11yvk

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 09:36 PM

Oh yeh, Chantylass.

I forgot to say how much I enjoyed that video, maeve. Also, your crested irises bloomed this year for the first time! Brought a smile to my face and lovely thoughts of you every time I stepped out the back door and gazed at them.

Our marvelous old dog, Amy, is dying. Renal failure. I went over to my ex's tonight to spend a little time with her. I hope to be able to go over when the hospice vet comes to euthanize her, but that may need to happen while I am out of town this weekend. We have never had a dog that we didn't experience as a great dog, and it is always so hard to say goodbye.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 09:40 PM

Oops. Previous music link didn't take. Paul Thorn. That's Life

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Apr 14 - 09:44 PM

I like the good news. Not so much the bad news. Hugs either way. Another long day here so I'll just say gnightgnu and bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Apr 14 - 08:11 AM

I'm sitting here, reading your posts, sometimes smiling, oft times thoughtful, sometimes crying, but always deeply grateful that you're all here, traversing the Seven Seas of Life. I picture you as you tackle your daily chores. I empathise with you when Life's swell threatens to overwhelm. I imagine a gathering on shore where we meet, eat, drink, sing & talk together. I am thrilled when folk return after a long absence. I guess, in a rather disjointed way, I'm trying to say that I need Jane's Rainbow as much now as I did, back in January 2012. My needs have modified over time, but You, my Dear Friends, are just as precious as you've always been. Trim the sails. Scrub the decks. Check the compass, we voyage onwards, ever onwards.
                                                       With Love to You All,
                                                                                       Nigel

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Apr 14 - 06:32 PM

some very pleasant music, that I would not otherwise have looked up. thanks. blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 01 May 14 - 08:36 AM

Could use a hug. Our sweet old dog died during the night.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 May 14 - 03:19 PM

All the virtual hugs you need, Janie. (((((Janie and family))))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 May 14 - 05:40 PM

Nigel, Janie, all... bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 May 14 - 07:33 PM

Aw, so sorry, Janie! (((Janie))) and the rest of your family, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 May 14 - 08:19 PM

Thanks, maeve, gnu and Tami. I know that compared to what so many of you are dealing with, the loss of a beloved 4 legged family member doesn't compare.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 May 14 - 09:34 PM

It counts every bit. Family is family, regardless of number of legs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 May 14 - 11:44 PM

Oh, Janie, hugs from me, too. I agree with gnu. Our animal companions are family members, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 May 14 - 11:45 PM

Oops, I guess it was Tami I agreed with!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 02 May 14 - 05:58 AM

Very difficult anniversaries this week. I can't believe Andie has been gone 9 years.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 May 14 - 05:22 PM

(((Tam)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 May 14 - 09:04 PM

Hugs from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 May 14 - 05:30 AM

I have been AWAL from the Rainbow for a week, stood on my laptop ( don't ask............. note to self, don't go on FB in bed then put laptop on floor and tread on it when getting out of bed during the night, it is expensive !!)

So I have been catching up on the crew this morning and sending hugs and love to every one here xxxxxxxx

Beautiful sunny morning in Frinton, tomorrow the local bluebell woods are open for the day so we plan to take mother.

much love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 May 14 - 03:29 PM

Rise again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 May 14 - 06:42 PM

Hugs from me also, Tam.

The memorial service we attended at WVU for people who have donated their bodies was very nice. I had a bit of a meltdown, which surprised me. Different triggers that left me awash with emotion at times of an intensity I didn't know was still there. Blind-sided myself. That's OK.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 May 14 - 08:58 PM

Yes, janie, that is okay and not really surprising. Hugs for you, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 May 14 - 08:13 PM

Etta James- Willow Weep For Me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 May 14 - 08:50 PM

hmmm, I know I posted sometime last week ...

anyway, it's easy to re-post a bunch of hugs to everyone

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 May 14 - 09:30 PM

Up again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 May 14 - 12:08 PM

The page can... FINALLY! ... be displayed. This is the third browser I have tried. Too bad I have only that to report.

Carry on. Smoke em if ya got em.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 May 14 - 12:34 PM

wishing happy remembrances to counteract the sad feelings of those remembering loved ones.       blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 08 May 14 - 10:57 PM

And like cream, let this thread rise to the top!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 May 14 - 10:55 PM

Refresh the cream!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 May 14 - 09:21 AM

Arise, Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 May 14 - 09:24 AM

sailing along on a cream coloured sea

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 May 14 - 09:51 AM

Talked with Mum last evening, she sounds better than she has in months. My Gramma is on way too many meds, the doctors aren't listening to what the family is telling them: my grandmother has had an irregular heart beat most of her life, stemming from rheumatic fever when she was a young child. Also, she is 89 and still very sharp mentally and has no desire to deal with the physical and mental side effects of the drugs they are giving her. Her regular doctor is siding with the family on this and they will be weaning her off them. Had a lovely chat with Gramma earlier in the week and entertained her with all my spring flora and fauna discoveries. She tells me how much I remind her of her father with my woods knowledge.

And to celebrate this lovely May morning, a song from Mudcat's own Anne Lister (who I will be seeing in concert this evening! Much excitement!): May Morning

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 May 14 - 10:29 AM

Good news, r1. Hope all gets sorted.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 May 14 - 11:38 AM

ditto to gnu.
blessings on you, your mum, and grandma, ranger.
anyone else been unable to get this thread up , the last few days ?.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 May 14 - 07:58 PM

Pete, I haven't delved into Mudcat for a couple of days. When I tried to go to it, it was moving so slowly that I decided to save myself some frustration and went onto other things!

Tami, I'm glad your mother is doing well and that your grandmother will be treated as she and her family wish. I heard Anne Lister in Providence Saturday night and enjoyed her singing. She sang that song.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 May 14 - 01:27 AM

Yeh. Mudcat has been having some problems that appear, from what I can read but not understand very well, have to do with the host servers Max is using now. Several savy people talking stuff I don't understand about "pings" "host servers" "mirrors" etc. They appear to be speculating based on their much greater technological understanding and programs they have run or can interpret. Very frustrating, but considering what we pay for our subscription fees and that Max is doing all he can to keep a very significant website running on a shoestring budget and volunteer time (his own and that of others,) it is hard to complain.

In any event, the 'Cat has been down for extended periods of time lately, and has been very slow for the most part, for months. We get much more than most of us pay for. I probably don't contribute an average of $50 a year to Mudcat if I were to look at my financial contributions over the nearly 14 years I have been here.

I get annoyed that Max is not communicative at times. But really, that is being unreasonable.

I understand that no one here is complaining, though all of us are likely to feel frustration. Just sharing my flawed understanding about why it is so hard to get on to get our "fix", and beyond that, our concern that we can't communicate at will to reinforce our community.

I think we just have to trust that we all hold one another, and many others in our hearts and minds, sometimes at the front of our minds but always there in our conscious, caring, and loving awareness that we sail on this ship of life, this ship of consciousness, however one chooses to think about consciousness.

Like others, I may not post for several days or even several weeks. I can safely assume that others, just like myself, are on board or sailing along side in the convoy. such a large crew that one can take a rest or disembark for r&r, know there is still a full complement of hands on deck, and that all one has to do is whistle to jump on-board again, either as a crewmember pulling hard at oars or handling ropes and sails, or as a passenger or shipwreck survivor, in need of a little or a lot of succor.

Even though I don't post as often as I once did, and often post simply to indicate I'm still here, I trust that all of you are "present" often, even when not posting or when Mudcat is down, and that you trust that I also am "here", often, whether posting or not.

Knowing there is unconditional care and concern for us matters to our strange species. Within close personal relationships in 3-D, with family and friends, it is sometimes hard to see the unconditional aspect, and sometimes hard to allow it to flow to those we love and have expectations of, even though it is often there. One of the potential benefits of an on-line community is there is a detachment possible that allows for one to feel care and concern and receive care and concern unconditionally. We are all looking to get our needs met, but we do not have the unrealistic expectations of one another that we tend to have in 3-D of the people we know up close and personally.

This place here on Mudcat is like a focused lens used to set a dry leaf on fire. A place to ask for and give objective care and concern, from the heart and from our awareness and compassion for one another. In recognition that the phrase "we are all in this together", means we are never "terminally unique" in what we think, feel or experience, and are never as alone as we sometimes may think we are.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 May 14 - 11:37 AM

so well expressed, Janie.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 May 14 - 06:34 AM

Beautifully put, Janie. I too have experienced the frustration of 'the Cat stuck in the Mud'. I have zero understanding of the technical complexities with which Max has to contend & would feel churlish if I complained. I don't contribute to the running costs as often as I should; something I intend to rectify. I get out more than I put in...that imbalance tweaks my conscience & needs to be sorted, pdq!
          Greetings, Love & Hugs to you all from sunny London,
                                     Nigel (Ann's in NC with her daughter) xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 May 14 - 11:41 PM

Back up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 May 14 - 07:12 AM

Beautiful day in Frinton, finished work for the day, mother is at the day centre so Billy and I are going to take our lunch down to the beach hut and enjoy the sound of the sea.May even have a glass of wine?

Hope you all have a peaceful and healthy day,

Love to all the crew

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 May 14 - 09:54 PM

Mmm. Wine. Enjoy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 May 14 - 10:27 AM

I'm visualising Wendy & Billy, down at the beach hut. The sea would be far too cold in which to swim, but I think I could be persuaded to get my toes wet. I'm reminded too, of family holidays, spent at Walton (Just down the coast from Frinton)...beach cricket...woollen bathing costumes...sand in the sandwiches...candy-floss...our old, very unreliable car...my Father rushing headlong down the beach & performing a spectacular 'racing dive' (I was always impressed, no matter how many times he 'encored')...my Mother sitting in a deck chair, suitably unimpressed by my Father's antics...simple pleasures from a simpler time...memories I dearly treasure.
                         With Love,
                                        Nigel
                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 May 14 - 09:32 PM

Lovely vision. Trust it was a lovely day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 May 14 - 09:42 PM

Hope you enjoy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 May 14 - 06:15 PM

did they tap into a ginger baker drum solo maybe...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 17 May 14 - 09:13 PM

We saw April live a few years ago in a house concert. She danced and fiddled at the same time. She also fiddled and sang at the same time. I kept expecting her to dance, fiddle, and sing at the same time, but if she ever does that she didn't that night. : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,gnu w/o cookie
Date: 18 May 14 - 10:31 AM

Having a hard time to get to the thread and, even then, to get pages to load properly so I can see the posting box. Soooo, if I don't post much, it's Mudcat's fault. I hope seas are calm for all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 May 14 - 11:11 AM

Nigel, I enjoyed reading about your pleasant memories. I could visualize everything.

Janie, about that video--I wish I could do that!

Frogprince, I too have seen April and I think she did sing, play fiddle, and dance simultaneously, but only briefly. This was further complicated by the fact that she needed a cord attached to her fiddle because for some reason whatever she uses to transmit her fiddle sound cordlessly wasn't working that night. She had to do all three things without tripping over the cord.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 May 14 - 02:13 PM

Nigel, guess what, there are people in the sea!! Crazy or what? We were at the hut Thursday, all day yesterday and this afternoon. Billy took Bunny and Pru " shrimping" no catch but pebbles! But we enjoyed a lovely family lunch in the sun. Walton doesn't change when you are on the beach, still see fathers and uncles braving the cold North sea. The town is a little run down but still has memories of lovely summers for me.

It is three years today that my dear father passed away so we took mum to the cemetery to put flowers on his place of rest. Amazing ,she knew where we were and why!! We all shed a few tears, but later she sat in the garden and her beautiful smile shone through. ( pics on my FB page, please feel free to find me, I still cannot blue clicky, so Rainbow crew I am Wendy Ann Simon on FB)

We are sitting in the garden enjoying the evening sunshine with roast lamb smell wafting from the kitchen.
Life is good!!

sailing on

much love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 May 14 - 02:26 PM

that must have been special for you, wendy.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 May 14 - 06:06 AM

Nice posts! Bless all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 May 14 - 09:20 PM

Rise up singing!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 21 May 14 - 11:20 PM

Not particularly appropriate to this thread, which is more of a personal nature....I'm a social worker, 40+ years. Very tough day, but not nearly as tough for me as for the family in need of support on a number of levels that simply are not available.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 May 14 - 04:42 AM

sending hugs to you & good wishes for your clients

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 May 14 - 02:18 PM

we have a lot to do with SW,s ,as foster carers, and they all seem to be under pressure with more cases than they can cope with in a normal working week. they are often piggy in the middle, trying to get resources and finance from ever tightening purse strings. then there is the blame game, where either they should of taken a child into care, or if they do, they are too heavy handed. not the most straightforward of jobs.
blessings...and wisdom!       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 May 14 - 04:18 PM

I feel terrible about not being here more often but 3d got pretty tough for awhile. I couldn't take all the slowness of the 'Cat and I've thought about just saying goodbye to the fine old girl as I the darlin' cat is but a shadow of what once was. But thinking about it kept making me want to come back just for this thread which I have been reading but on the several posting occasions I had to wait and wait and it dropped my messages.

But I can't leave this place alone for what it means and the reasons for this thread. So I promise you all I will be here and post at least twice a week. I'll let you know what's going on here and maybe just offer up some still pretty good SpawHugs.

I love you all.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 May 14 - 08:27 PM

Janie, I think your post is appropriate. This thread seems to me to be about caring, and while most of us post about caring for ourselves or people close to us, I'm glad there are people like you who care enough to be upset when people you are not close to need care you cannot provide despite all your efforts. That must be incredibly frustrating.

Spaw, stick around! I'll be happy to read your posts when you can manage them, but if they don't "take," come back some other day. Don't keep trying and letting frustration build. (At least, that's how it works for me!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 May 14 - 05:48 AM

The Cat has been frustratingly sloooooooooooooooow - but it is always worth getting here.

Max has ordered a new server - see thread "This page can't be displayed"

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 23 May 14 - 05:08 PM

Up Spaw

xxxxx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 May 14 - 05:41 AM

So glad you're back, Spaw. We need you here. I echo your sentiments: "But I can't leave this place alone for what it means and the reasons for this thread". It's been a frustrating time with the Cat's performance, but today, everything seems hunky-dory.
ChanteyLass, I couldn't agree more with your comments about Janie's post.
Janie, I reckon Social Work must be one of the most challenging callings. Impossible not to 'take some of your clients issues home', no matter how hard you try. The caring doesn't stop when you leave to go back to the office or finish for the day & despite your best efforts, 'the system' falls short...that's tough...really tough...on so many levels.
         Sending Love, Hugs & Kisses to you All,
                      Set the sails...splice the mainbrace...plot a course for the sun,
                                                                                                                  Nigel
                                                                                                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 24 May 14 - 09:46 AM

So...............Whatever you can cross, keep crossed.

This is the end of another chemo week and that has always been my lowest point. Made changes in daily meds and diet to better work the balance between the CHF, Intestinal thickening, COD, and the MDS. Today (and this week) I feel better than I have in a couple of years.....and even before the MDS. I look better, have a lot more energy, less O2 demand..went out and ran around yesterday PM and didn't even pack any along....Hard to tell what happens next.

We'll see what the numbers do over the next couple of weeks and know more then. Balancing this crap is a hell of a juggling act and about half of it I know as much about what to do as the Docs. We upped the Lasix but with the water being the best source for stool softeners and the thickening of the intestinal walls, the added Lasix took that water away as well. So I modified my diet. Then I modified the Lasix dosage (okayed by the my cardio guy) to some alternate day dosage levels and things are moving, so to speak.LOL Better yet, there seems to be no fluid at all around my heart....This is serious progress.

Then add that the current chemo has a strong fatigue factor and so is then accompanied by a steroid has obviously helped. I really wanna' see the numbers now....Keep 'em all crossed Folks.

I know, and you should too so there's no confusion, MDS is not curable but I going to buy all the time with Karen I can. While this past year has been great together, there has been far too many 10 day periods of chemo misery and many days spent low in numbers before I can get blood. Nobody my age beats this. Not Nora Ephrom, not Carl Sagan, and not me. But June the 8th is my birthday and my wish is for one more year and especially one where I feel like I do now. Next year I'll repeat that and see how long we can do it!

Sorry, I'm still pissed over the 'Cat but that's just because I do really miss what it once was. Time passes, things change, and as Tom Wolfe wrote, you can't go home again. I'll get over it.......

Hugs once again for the crew here and follow Nigel's good advice: Set the sails...splice the mainbrace...plot a course for the sun.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 May 14 - 12:42 PM

"This is serious progress." UP SPAW!

BTW... I know how it is with Cat scratchin. That's been my problem too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 May 14 - 09:07 PM

Yes, UP, SPAW! Stay focused, and stay UP on our ship's highest yard!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 May 14 - 05:56 AM

My Dear Spaw...that's one helluva post...I've got everything crossed I can cross without falling over! Your determination & fortitude in the face of such adversity marks you out as a Man of unfailing courage. I can but sit here in awe...thinking...wishing...hoping for every scrap of positive change. Drink deep from the Water of Life. Turn your face to the sun...feel the breeze as it ruffles your hair...hold Karen close & remember, there are many here who love you. Many here who would rush to your side & stand shoulder to shoulder...up, up UP on the barricades, fighting your battles with you.
             My Dear Friend, you are in my thoughts constantly, each & every day,
                                                   With Love,
                                                                  Nigel
                                                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 May 14 - 04:34 AM

beautifully said, Nigel

UP, spaw - hugs & kisses to you & Karen

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 May 14 - 04:59 AM

Nigel has a gift of putting into words everything we are wishing and thinking.

UP SPAW

sending love and sunny days

sailing on in calm waters

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 May 14 - 06:06 PM

Hi Rainbow crew,

I put this on my facebook today, thought I would share here because I know you are the most caring and supportive people I know, please feel free to send or share this with anyone who needs help looking after a loved one with Dementia.

Last week the media was full of reports about Dementia, since my father died three years ago Billy and I have been looking after my lovely mum, she came to live with us and, as family and friends know, her dementia has progressed in stages. In November she had a fall which she has in her body recovered remarkably well, but her Dementia has become such a liability that she needs 24 hour , one on one care. This is not a rant from me, I am very lucky that we have wonderful private carers that sit with mum when I am at work and by her bed every night. I also have a wonderful daughter, son and stepson so BB and I can escape to their homes for a day or weekend. I am hoping you will read this because I am very aware of carers who have no such support, who carry on day by day looking after a loved one and are almost prisoners in their own home. They may not have been told about Admiral nurses ( I have my wonderful Admiral Nurse Sam who I can phone or meet for coffee and ask for advice) They may have family and friends who are unaware of the loneliness of spending your life caring for someone who really is no longer the person they know.I remember at my father's funeral my mother's friends promising to see her every week and take her out to lunch and, yes you guessed we haven't seen them since. Lots of good intentions that I am sure were heartfelt at the time.If you know someone who is looking after a loved one with Dementia just think on this......... call by to spend one hour for a cup of tea and tell them to soak in a lovely bath, or have time to weed their garden, or nip upstairs to hoover the bedrooms or clean the bath. All these simple things are impossible to do when you need to be alert to a vunerable relative who must not be left alone for a minute. I am lucky, we have friends who understand that we can no longer go out in the evenings as we used to, they call by for a cup of tea or just for a good old gossip. One lovely friend brings the dinner party to our house ( we do do the washing up ) So please on this bank holiday take a minute to phone a friend and arrange to give them an hour of your time and make them know that care. Have a lovely day xxx

Hope you did not mind me posting this? But sending love to anyone who is in the same place as me and may not have the love and support I have.

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 May 14 - 06:10 PM

Thank you Wendy. You spelled it out with such non-judgemental clarity.

Up Spaw.

Up All.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 May 14 - 08:01 PM

Thank you, Wendy, for your post.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bassen
Date: 27 May 14 - 09:18 AM

My choir performed in the old Norwegian mining town Røros last Saturday. That's a five hour drive one way from where I live. The turn out was okay and Røros itself is always worth a visit. On our way home we held a concert in Hov church at Sunndalsøra. We had bitched about this because we would rather have held two concerts in Røros, but our director had arranged the concert and that was that. The turn out was miserable and we felt that, once again, we were putting a lot of effort into something almost nobody appreciates. But there was one young woman who came in just before the concert started; she sat through the first segment with Haydn Missa Brevis and Mozart Laudate Dominum with her eyes closed. The second segment with soloist and piano the same. When the choir started again, we sang movements IV and V from Brahms' Requiem; her tears started to flow. For those unfamiliar with it, the Requiem was composed as a work of comfort and reconciliation. These two movements are the most lyrical and melodious parts. I'm convinced she came to our concert for the comfort the music could give her. I felt ashamed for our thoughts about not more people showing up. We sang for her that afternoon, all else was immaterial.

And Spaw, I've been around the Cat almost as long as you. I was never much of an active contributor, but it felt like home to me too. I miss the good old days they say never happened. You're one of the reasons I've stuck around as long as I have. If I can echo your wit, good writing and raucous humor back at you in any that helps you now, consider it done.

Bassen

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 May 14 - 09:07 PM

Bassen, I am not a performer, but after reading your post I think that sometimes one audience member is all that is needed--if it's the right audience member.

One of the best folk music concerts I ever went to was several years ago at the folk music coffeehouse I go to most often. It was the last performance taking place before Christmas, and it was pouring outside. Only about five audience members showed up in addition to the volunteers. The performer asked us to move up to the front. Then she had the sound system turned off. Now that's acoustic! She sang songs with choruses for us to sing along on, and sing we did.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 28 May 14 - 12:44 PM

Came in to say Hi to Spaw.
And to share some amazing news - my son is in a rehab where they emphasize self discovery. Yoga, Tai Chi, meditation, relaxation etc as well as traditional 12 steps. He is a new person. Calls and writes me twice a week. Leaves early morning messages on my cell phone and asks for nothing. For the first time in almost 20 years I think he will be OK.
What a joy to laugh and talk and share with him.
SINS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 May 14 - 01:00 PM

My post did not post. Drat! It was for Wendy, Bassen, Nigel and others and all it really said was "Thanks."

SINS... that is great news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 May 14 - 07:08 PM

amazing & encouraging posts from Wendy, Bassen, ChaneyLass & Sins - not that I'm surprised to read such lovely thoughts & inspiring posts (YAH!, Sins) - not that I'm unaccustomed to shedding a tear ...

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 May 14 - 08:55 PM

That's wonderful, SINSULL!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 May 14 - 10:29 AM

New thread... Liz the Squeak is back on Mudcat! The thread is 'Hello chaps...'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 May 14 - 07:24 PM

WOW......First to Wendy with my thanks for such a wonderful post.

AND SINS!!!!! Simply unbelievable is all I can say but I do have some inkling of how you feel. May the feeling hold and get even better.

Bottom dropped out for me the day after I posted but we're coming back. Not sure where the problem is, whether I lost the balance or the daccogen has some strange twists to it.....Whatever it is I got a couple of pints and and we're going along fine.

NEED GOOD AND GOODER THOUGHTs FOR OLD DUDE !!!!

Dan is going in Friday for a single bypass surgery. I would have hoped the Robotic surgeries would have been everywhere by now but they will be cracking his chest which takes some recovery time. Stint doesn't do it so....Let's all send some good vibes to St. Vincent's Hospital in Erie, Pennsylvania for our old friend. I love this guy a lot and I know you do too.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 29 May 14 - 07:42 PM

Dan is one of the best, and one of those whom I've been fortunate to meet in person a couple of years ago.

Sins, that is so good to hear.

And "Up Spaw", and Up all the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 May 14 - 07:44 PM

Sins, I am so gladdened for you! And also for your son. Beaming good thoughts his way and all hope for his journey on the seas of recovery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 May 14 - 08:44 PM

UP Spaw! Haven't uncrossed any appendages or the eyes yet. Do they know yet how the counts look?

Holding our darlin' Dan close in my thoughts.

For all....A little help from my friends

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 May 14 - 09:00 PM

My good thoughts are aimed straight at Spaw and Old Dude--and lots of others, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 29 May 14 - 10:11 PM

Can't turn around no more without Spaw or Old Dude or somebody being sick or surgeried or...wait, I was surgeried a little bit back a ways.

You two just STOP being sick and surgeried or I'm gonna come out there and know the reason why!!! You hear me? I said, DO YOU HEAR ME?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 May 14 - 04:51 AM

sending love & hugs to the wonderful Old Dude.

A few friends have had that surgery so I know it takes quite a while to feel better.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 May 14 - 07:41 AM

Dan is the man. Aces in my books. Kind, generous, caring... could not know finer. When I saw his email box was full when I got failure notices, I was concerned. More so now. Dan... ya just gotta get better again. Thoughts, prayers and love to you, buddy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 30 May 14 - 12:40 PM

Thinking of Dan...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 May 14 - 12:10 AM

It's the wee hours of Saturday morning EDT. Has anyone heard anything about his condition?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 May 14 - 05:04 PM

prayerful thoughts for spaw and dan, as well as the communal UP !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 12:32 AM

I'm finally beginning to embrace where I am now.

One can not embrace where one is now until one has grieved what one chose to leave. I knew that, but did not expect it to take so long.

Feels good and hopeful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 10:19 AM

I've just send an e-card to Dan via the hospital's e-card service. Has anyone gotten an update- while preserving his privacy, of course. Spaw darlin'? (And how be ye, Spaw?)

Janie- Good for you. Growth does take time and energy, eh? Love to you.

Up ye all and joy to crew and visitors to this watery thread.
Maeve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 10:20 AM

"Feels good and hopeful." Feels good to read that.

Thinking of Dan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 01:07 PM

Thinking of Dan & Spaw & feeling greatly frustrated by the miles that separate us. The geography is daunting, but in no way is my love & compassion diminished.
                Sending Love, Hugs & Kisses to a loyal, trustworthy Crew,
                                                                                                       Nigel
                                                                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 04:11 PM

I expect it will be awhile before Dan is up to attending, much less responding to posts. Hoping and expecting the surgery went well, but as Pat already noted, the recovery time is long and the anesthesia for this surgery is deep and can take quite a long time from which to recover.

Up Dan! Up Spaw!

I think I have finally found a bonafide starling/grackle proof suet feeder! I know they have to eat also, but they are such gluttons I can't afford it!

Doesn't take much to make me happy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 06:33 PM

Checking in with thoughts and prayers. Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 08:04 PM

Dan? THE man. The guy goes out of his way to be nice to people he has never met in 3D. No shit. No flies. Just a great guy. I am primed to cheer for the Chicago Blackhawks so, maybe I shouldn't but I wanna let people know how good a man he is. He knew from my posts that I was a true New England Patriots fan (Yankee football... best 'foot'ball in the world) and then... this arrived in the mail.

https://www.flickr.com/photos/15565423@N05/8475316641/

Cool watch too if ya check out the other pics. It sure looks good when I pull it out of my vest pocket.

My fav song is Owens Appalachia.... obviously. Thanks, Dan. You da man.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 08:12 PM

Oh! Some may not know. My name is Gary Owens. Sorry about not explaining that part.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 07:18 AM

Just a heads up (via Meagan L)... in part:

Subject: RE: Why Do Musicians Work For Nothing?
From: Big Al Whittle - PM
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 05:30 AM

... as for my wife - we are in crisis at the moment - bad reaction to an anti inflammatory. things are never less than iffy - this week they're in meltdown. I value your friendships.
******************************************************

A little Mudcat Mojo for Big Al's wife and for him is a good thing. He's one of the good ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Will Fly
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 10:40 AM

If anyone gets news of Dan, please post it here - as I'm sure someone will. He's been a wonderful friend to me, both with music and with our mutual love of old pocket watches and wristwatches. The "Old Pocket Watches" thread seems very empty without him - and England's a long way off from where he is.

And, yes, best wishes to Big Al and his wife as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 08:15 PM

I'm sending positive energy to Big Al's wife in addition to others.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 09:11 PM

Thanks for the heads-up re: Al's wife, gnu. I had stopped checking that thread.

On board ship, it seems, when one turns through a full 360 degrees, all manner of weather and seas - the gamut from sunny and blue and fair, to sweltering doldrums, to choppy white caps and dangerous shoals, to raging storms.

Life. Eh? Glad to have all of you with whom to share the journey.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 05:41 AM

Well put, Janie. I think I'm in the "... choppy white caps and dangerous shoals..." quadrant. With Ann away in NC, I'm not doing very well. An overwhelming depression has robbed me of any creative inclinations. It's now more than two months since I wrote a single note of Music. Ann returns this coming Friday. She'll find our house clean & tidy...I have managed to achieve that at least. Suffering from Diabetes & PMR, leaves me wasted & very debilitated. That's largely the genesis of the depression, in addition to which I feel guilty because I have not been able to offer the level of support several of our Crew members (and friends of Crew members) so desperately need. I should stop now...I'm in real danger of drowning in my own self-pity. Janie's last words above speak for me too: "Life. Eh? Glad to have all of you with whom to share the journey".
                                          With Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel
                                                                         xxxx

PS Thanks to Max, Joe et al for getting the new server up & running.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Will Fly
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 06:13 AM

I located St Vincents Hospital in Erie yesterday, and sent an e-card to Dan. Heard last night, after getting home from a gig, that it had reached him.

It's odd, isn't it? I'm a fairly rational kind of guy - don't believe in second sight or ghosts or mystical things, and I'm pretty grounded most of the time. But I'd been musing on the good people who rarely post or don't post at all on Mudcat these days, and my thoughts turned, among others, to Dan. He'd recently sent me a wrist watch as a present and simultaneously arranged for an old WW2 military chronograph to be mended by our Amish friend Mahlon.

Then, for no reason whatsoever, I opened this thread - which I've never looked at before - out of curiosity. Lo and behold - there was the recent news of Dan! I'm still pretty rational and grounded - but a big thanks to Coincidence, in all its shapes and forms, for getting the news to me!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 11:31 AM

just been listening to most of the dan tracks gnu posted.
some nice tunes. nice fingerpicking.....be nice to be able to do that so well!
paused to offer a prayer for dan, big al and wife, and nigel.
hope you surface from your creative strangling depression soon. your bedlam song got another airing at singaround last night, and you done lots of great tunes since.
tommy finally had the cast removed today. tender and slowly slowly but otherwise healed up, we think, though we are up to London tomorrow checking bone density.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 12:28 PM

Hope all goes well, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 05:29 PM

Reading through all the above posts, so difficult to send love to each and everyone by name..........so love to each and everyone, but very special thoughts and prayers to Nigel, without him the Rainbow would never have set sail and all these lovely people would be adrift on an ocean with no fellow sailors to hold them in their hearts.

Mother has been very ill again this last few days, chest condition worsening and the wrong antibiotics caused an upsetting tummy problem. But today she has bounced back although the Dementia has      gone down another level, very first time she was very angry and waved her fist at me. Pure frustration at our ability to not understand what she was trying to say!

Was really looking forward to going to Essex Girls bar b q on Sunday in London, but I really don't think we will be able to go, maybe I should organise another of our garden " House concerts"

Sailing on,

Love and peaceful thoughts
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 08:13 PM

Ts&Ps, Wendy. It's hard. I had a hell of a conversation with Mum today. And, after I took her out to the grocery, we had a conversation about paying bills by cash or by cheques. Yes, no, yes in just over a minute... and she got POd at herself. Similar happens pretty much every day. Just getting her to tell me if she did like the seafood chowder is a chore. She did like it... of course >;). Patience IS love and that is what it is all about. Love to you and yours. And to all the crew and beyond.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 09:16 PM

Dan posted!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 09:43 PM

Nigel, hang in there! Friday and Ann will both be here soon.
Wendy, gnu, hugs to you both and to your moms.
Pete, I'm glad Tommy's cast has been removed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Jun 14 - 05:38 AM

Thank you Pete...just for the record (no pun intended), 'Mad Tom O'Bedlam' & the rest of The Halliard repertoire were written by Dave Moran & Nic Jones. Nic & I then arranged the instrumental parts to make the songs performable. Thinking of you & Tommy & trusting the bone scan comes back with encouraging news.

Wendy...I'm lost for words. Thank you seems totally inadequate. Through all your trials & tribulations, you find time for me & always raise my spirits. I've said this before, but from your tentative first posts, you've become a stalwart Crew member. You are loved, admired & respected in equal measure. The trite comments I make on FB are a 'smoke screen'. The real me appears only here. Wendy, your candour & willingness to share in such intimate detail has emboldened me to 'open up' & for that, I am truly grateful.

ChanteyLass...I'm hanging in, but it's a real finger tip job! Knowing that I sail in such distinguished company, firms up those old fingertips, so I won't be letting go any time soon.

Gnu, what a meaningful sentence: "Patience IS love and that is what it is all about." I need to learn from that. I'm not renowned for my Patience.

I've left a message on Dan's thread. That he is on line & responding is very encouraging. I hope he visits us here when he is well enough so to do.

My final thoughts are reserved for Spaw. I hope you get to read this because after a little research, I discovered that 'Pat' (Patrick) means: "Scion of a noble family." It's not beyond the bounds of credibility that you could be descended from Scottish Royalty! Rise UP Sir Spaw!
       With Love to You All,
                                       Nigel.
                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Jun 14 - 06:02 AM

adding my bit to the good wishes on the Rainbow

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Jun 14 - 03:51 PM

wishing well for wendy, gnu and their mums.
my dads oddities seem mild by comparison.
"love is patient, love is kind...." I Corinthians 13v 4
or as the old version has it-
"charity suffereth long, and is kind...."
right on gnu!.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 05 Jun 14 - 03:39 PM

Up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Jun 14 - 08:13 PM

Nigel, did Ann make it home? And are you starting to feel any better?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 06 Jun 14 - 11:41 PM

I don't post often, but do read this thread. Never thought I might need it, though.

Yesterday morning my brother Ian (I have two younger brothers) rang to tell me that our brother John is in hospital and is not expected to last much longer. Last night my SIL said he was stable and as comfortable as could be expected, but it's now just a matter of time which could be as short as a few days, or as long as a few weeks.

We aren't, and never have been,a close family, but there is no animosity - just distance, both literally and figuratively. However it's still an odd sensation to outlive a younger sibling.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 06:17 AM

ChanteyLass & everyone, yes, Ann is safely back from Charlotte, NC. I met her at Heathrow yesterday morning...a red-eye special, courtesy of US Airways. She is currently sleeping off the jet lag. We both recover from the East-West flight much quicker than the West-East overnight return.

JennieG, you've come to the right place. Share what you need to share. There is wisdom, experience, love & support, right here. When Life's natural order is turned upside down, it IS odd...very odd. You are most welcome. The Crew of The Rainbow reaches out to you as only they know how.
                      With Love,
                                     Nigel & Ann
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 06:29 AM

JennieG, I can only echo what Nigel has said. His words lead me to muse. This thread is a combination of many 'shoulders'... each broad and always here if and when you need them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 07:35 AM

Sending love to Jennie G, this is the most wonderful place to come for comfort and share your feelings,Nigel,as usual, puts it so well xx

I had a meeting with mum's social worker yesterday, she brought a much younger lady with her who, I imagine is the team leader? I felt railroaded, didn't sleep at all last night. I feel they are pushing me in a direction I do not wish to go! I did have one moment of rebellion, I pointed out that it was 70 years since D day and that my mother had been in the Womens Royal Airforce throughout WW2 and on a day of giving thanks for all those brave people who were so young in 1944, I was beginning to feel that it was inconvenient living to 90!!
Don't know if it made them think but I felt better. I made a point of showing them mum's memory book and opened the page with a photo of a beautiful nineteen year old in her uniform. That is who my mother IS!!The frail , confused old lady still has the same beautiful smile and she is still the same inside.

Rant over, welcome home Ann, love to all the crew, I am off to the beach hut to have lunch with Billy in the rain!!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 05:44 PM

paused to offer prayer for jenny and family.
and to wendy and her mum.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 05:52 PM

Wendy... hang tough and take time to mull things over carefully. You'll make the right choice... she's yer mum. And let them know that. I am sure they will understand. My prayers and thoughts are with you and yer mum.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 07:25 PM

Hi all. I'm around these parts infrequently these days, but when I am, I always check in here, and though I don't often post, I do hold all of you in heart and mind.

Wendy, you said, "That is who my mother IS!!" I love that!! You are SO right! As a former Recreation Therapist at our local home, I know that to be true, and it can't be emphasized enough! She is all that is evident in that photo, and SO much more! All the best to you as you continue this journey.

And the best to everyone else, too. You are all dear folks, and I'm grateful to know you, even if only virtually. Just checking in here is comforting...just knowing you're all out there.

KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 08:11 PM

JennieG, that must be tough.

Wendy, good for you. Stand up for your mum and for yourself.

And Nigel, tell Ann I said welcome home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 12:12 AM

Thank you all.....yours are very comforting. There's no news yet, but every time the phone rings I am thinking "is this the call".....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 07:49 AM

Jenny, I think I can imagine all the reflecting you are engaged in now, the wondering and even anxiety, and the remembering. Holding you, your brother and your entire family in my thoughts.

Oh, you lovely crew! I'm grateful for your company.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 11:18 AM

Keepin' Wendy, JennieG, and all the crew in heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 05:35 PM

we are reflecting in empathy with you jenny.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Jun 14 - 09:25 PM

What, no posts yet today? Sending good thoughts to everyone! Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 04:55 AM

love to JennieG & all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 05:37 AM

Well, after a weekend of non sleep, I gave myself a strong talking too and decided to stop being a wooze and take control. Phoned the social worker and said I felt bullied and requested another meeting for next week then I phoned the MD of the care company and he recommended a solicitor who has a division that deals with my sort of problem. Phoned them and a delightful young lady listened to my concerns and she is coming to see me next week with a lady who deals with finance. Mum still owns her bungalow and it is rented out to bring in a small income, I prefer not to sell it as the funds will start to deplete paying for her care , but we have run out of savings so we have to raise some money asap! Feel so much better and will wait and see what advice they can give me. The only fly in the ointment is my brother, who sees the bungalow as his " inheritance" nuff said on that !!

Billy goes to see his consultant tomorrow, fingers crossed for the blood count, it is eighteen months since he finished chemo, hold him in your thoughts please?

With love to all this beautiful crew, sailing on , the sea is blue as is the sky and the sun is beaming down here in sunny Frinton.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 06:01 AM

Hope ALL goes well, Wendy... et al.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 09:22 PM

At a girl, Wendy! You are a woman of action! And of course Billy is in my thoughts!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 06:59 AM

Whoo hoo !!!!

Billy just texted from the hospital, perfect blood counts, next appointment four months time. I can uncross my fingers now, not the best way to do aromatherapy massage!! Whoot

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 07:01 AM

Wonderful news!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 05:23 PM

what a boost, great !
trust the concerns regarding your mum and her care are resolved as best for her and yourselves.
thoughts and prayers still for jenny.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 06:37 PM

That good to hear, Wendy!

My brother John is holding his own, as the saying goes (I wonder where it came from? note to self: check saying), and my SIL told me that their daughters have both gone home as the immediate danger seems to have passed. They were waiting for a talk with his oncologist to see what happens next. We're geographically scattered; my brother and SIL live about four hours north of here but the hospital is a few hours further away again in Brisbane, our other brother lives in Sydney (six hours south-east from here), one of John's daughters also lives in Sydney, the other lives in Melbourne.   Just as well we have planes, isn't it?

Thank you, everyone, for your good thoughts and wishes, and I am sending lots more back!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 09:41 PM

Good for Billy! Good for John!

I'm going away for a few days, so if I don't post, I'll still be sending prayers, healing energy, etc.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Jun 14 - 05:44 AM

Yah! Wendy, & good news from Jennie, too

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 12 Jun 14 - 07:28 PM

Not such good news today. Ian rang me an hour ago - John died at 7am this morning. I'm feeling slightly dazed right now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Jun 14 - 08:26 PM

So sorry, Jennie.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 01:18 AM

No words, Jennie.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 02:07 AM

I'm so sorry, Jennie. Holding you and your family in thought and prayer....
KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 06:47 AM

Jennie
holding you and your family in our thoughts and prayers

xxhugs xx

Wendy and Billy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 07:16 AM

My condolences, JennieG. Thoughts & prayers to you and yours.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 08:36 AM

Thank you for your good thoughts and wishes.....it's difficult to know what to think and feel. We're expecting notification about the funeral soon, all we know at this stage is that it will be in the town where John and his wife lived for the past several years, four hours north of here. John was only just a year younger than I am, so I can't ever remember life without him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 10:28 AM

Thinkin' of you in Michigan, Jennie; condolences to you and your family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 11:17 AM

love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 11:54 AM

I'm sorry, JennieG. Maybe because I have/had three brothers close to my own age in a large family I have always thought of a brother/sister relationship as being a special one.

When my youngest brother, younger than I by a year and a half, died, one of my losses was that it felt like he was the only one who remembered me from his whole life.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 04:15 PM

Spaw is in hospital!

Up Spaw,

sending so much love to you and Karen

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Jun 14 - 08:45 PM

I had the same thoughts, Ebbie, after my sister, 3 years older, died. Strange that while similar thoughts arose when my grandparents and my dad died, it was still different and more also more intense, with respect to my sister's death.

Very concerned for our darlin' Spaw. A good song to pull together to lift up Spaw and Karen would lift me up also.

Wonderful year for firebugs. Notice they like moist soils. Early this evening, before dusk, they were rising up from the grass in such numbers they appeared as a shimmering and gentle rain shower in reverse. I like to imagine each flash as loving energy going to each of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Jun 14 - 04:42 AM

bbc posted this on Catspaw's birthday thread

He's having a hard time, folks; please pray!

Barbara

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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Jun 14 - 06:41 AM

UP Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bill D
Date: 14 Jun 14 - 12:00 PM

what gnu said ³

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 14 Jun 14 - 12:00 PM

UP, Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Jun 14 - 01:52 PM

New Spaw thread is up. Let's get on the mojo wagon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jun 14 - 07:31 AM

Good morning all. xo, Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Jun 14 - 04:08 PM

My last post has gone or not registered.       So a belated wish for peace for jennie in her loss.                   Tommys bone density test did show weak bones , so we have to be extra careful with him.other tests however showed improvement in that he needs less medicine.         Up spaw.    Blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jun 14 - 05:06 PM

Less medicine is good. I hope for continued improvement. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jun 14 - 07:53 PM

I'll second that

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jun 14 - 08:21 PM

Such a balancing act, eh Pete? Pulling as evenly on the oars for Tommy and all as I can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 16 Jun 14 - 06:17 PM

Thank you to all. Tomorrow we will be driving to the town where John and his wife moved several years ago, 4-5 hours north of here (up in the Cold Country, although it will be warmer than it is here now)as the funeral is on Thursday afternoon.

At least funerals provide opportunities for family get-togethers, don't they? Last time we saw one niece was at our son's wedding earlier this year, she and I joked that we only saw each other at funerals so a wedding was a pleasant change! Now it will be another funeral, her dad's.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jun 14 - 09:03 PM

Funerals are all about family get-togethers, Jennie. At least, in my book. Affirming, in the best circumstances, the ties that bind and the multigenerational influence that always stretches from a past more distant than the oldest among us can know into a future more distant than the youngest among us can understand they will influence. That's my definition of immortality.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jun 14 - 09:25 PM

Sins, are things still going well with your son? Light and love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Jun 14 - 09:37 PM

JennieG, I'm sorry about your brother. This must be a tough loss for you.

Pete, that sounds like mixed news for Tommy. I'm glad he will take less medicine but sorry about his bones being weak.

I posted on Spaw's thread before opening this one, but I'll add an UP, SPAW! here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 16 Jun 14 - 09:41 PM

Yeah!

UP YOURS, Spaw!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 01:51 AM

Rap, I wish we had a "like" button for that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 05:10 AM

Can I please have some positive thoughts this afternoon, Meeting Solicitor at 1.0pm ( UK time) and the social worker at 3.
I have a " I will stand up for myself " mantra in my head but could use some Rainbow magic please!

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 06:02 AM

Good thoughts and rainbow magic headed your way from here, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 06:50 AM

Same here, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 06:57 AM

me, too, me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 07:25 AM

Just posted this on Spaw's thread:

Karen & Pat...Ann & I send love & greetings from London. You are both in our thoughts, every waking moment of every day. Respecting Pat's Celtic heritage, we offer a Celtic blessing:


May the strength of the wind and the light of the sun,
The softness of the rain and the mystery of the moon
Reach you and fill you.
May beauty delight you and happiness uplift you,
May wonder fulfil you and love surround you.
May your step be steady and your arm be strong,
May your heart be peaceful and your word be true.
May you seek to learn, may you learn to live,
May you live to love, and may you love - always.

                                                                         With Love,
                                                                                        Nigel & Ann Paterson

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 07:16 PM

Another post not taken........dunno if I am doing something wrong or signal problem......hope your meetings went ok , Wendy       Blessings all.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 08:40 PM

How'd it go, Wendy?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Jun 14 - 09:11 PM

Yes, please fill us in, Wendy.

Nice, Nigel P. !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 Jun 14 - 07:37 AM

Thanks all, the meeting with the solicitor went really well, we are going to have to sell mum's bungalow, and that will only " buy" us a couple of years care , keeping her in our home which is what Billy and I wish, unlike the social worker ( who cancelled at the last minute but is coming today at 3pm ) The solicitor is going to apply for " continuing care" funding which is very difficult and can take upto a year, mum is borderline at the moment but as she is declining weekly we may get it in time.My main concern is what do we do when the money runs out?

I am more prepared for this afternoon's meeting," I will not be bullied" mantra at the ready! I have realised that dressing my mum beautifully and doing her hair everyday may be a disadvantage, she smiles and waves like the Queen to everyone she meets and spending five minutes with her does not convey how bad her Dementia is to the social worker who has never met her before?

It really should not be about money but about the person being contented and well cared for. I just read a book by Sally Magnerson " where the memories go" Breaks your heart but she understands so well.

sailing on, Up Spaw and love to all.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jun 14 - 08:48 AM

Pete... posting problems here too. Copy before you submit and check to see if it took.

Wendy... I hope things work out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Jun 14 - 04:12 PM

Wendy, you wrote, "It really should not be about money but about the person being contented and well cared for." I say, "Absolutely!"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Jun 14 - 10:24 PM

You are right on target Wendy. Do not gussy your darlin' mother up at all for the social worker. Appearances really ARE deceiving.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jun 14 - 05:22 AM

Suffering from 'Spaw tunnel vision' at the moment. I owe him much. I love him very much. I crave your indulgence.
         Posted this on his thread this morning:

Still here...still thinking...still hoping...continuing to hold you both in our daily thoughts.
    One 't', two 'ts'...doesn't matter how you spell Paterson (and it's many variants)...Pat, you're entitled to wear the tartan of the Clan MacLaren. The MacLarens fought with distinction at the Battle of Bannockburn in June, 1324. It's June, 2014...time for you to fight with distinction again, not to defeat the English, but to regain your health & stand tall, once again, with Karen by your side. The Clan motto couldn't be more appropriate: "Huc Tendimus Omnes"("We all strive for this")
                                                                                          With Love,
                                                                                                 Nigel & Ann Paterson xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Jun 14 - 03:50 PM

hope it's working itself out ,wendy, for you, billy and your mum. it is certainly not about money as far as you are concerned......blessings on you.
UP SPAW.          pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jun 14 - 08:22 PM

Sheesh, Nigel, I had to do a websearch for Clan MacLaren and the tartans! I'm probably not the only one here who wants to see Spaw up, about, and wearing a kilt!

(I have English and French ancestry, both by way of Canada, but if there's any Scottish mixed in, I'm unaware of it. However, I took it upon myself to adopt the Buchanan tartan when I visited Scotland many years ago. I love how colorful it is. The MacLaren tartan's pretty nice, too.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 04:26 AM

Spaw in a kilt...what a glorious thought...'The Monarch of the Glen' so to speak!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 06:49 AM

Spaw in a kilt? No thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 03:58 PM

Sending lots of love out to Spaw and Karen....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 04:20 PM

sadly such things look very unlikely now. the news on the spaw thread is looking very sad. peace to pat and Karen.........blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 04:31 PM

From Janie on Spaw's thread: " ..we're letting Pat go today. He's fought hard, but his kidneys are failing. It's time to say goodbye."

I give thanks for raucous, tender Catspaw- Our Pat.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 06:31 PM

I've just come from Spaw's thread...what maeve says is true...our belovéd Spaw Pat Patterson has completed his earthly voyage. I can't express my thoughts & feelings adequately...need some time...will try again tomorrow.
         Thinking of Karen & her Family & their Friends.
         Sending our love & deepest condolences,
                                                                      With an aching heart,
                                                                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 07:15 PM

Nigel, as I understand from recent posts on Spaw's thread, we don't know yet whether he's still here or not... hold the course for now, I think.

Maeve, on watch.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 08:34 PM

Mudcat friends, I've just received this message from Karen, who asked me to share it with you.

" Pat left us about 5pm.   I want everyone at mudcat to know how much they enriched his life. I am hoping he is out there tonight cavorting with mudcatters that have gone before him."

We'll hear more from Karen when she's able. In the meantime, let's send her all the love we can muster.

love to you all~
KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 08:40 PM

It's the other way around. Spaw enriched our lives. I'm surrounding Karen and all of her family with loving thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 08:43 PM

Oh, and KT, thank you for passing along that information from Karen.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 09:52 PM

I posted a link to Spaw's 29364 posts on the other thread & laughed at some, but started crying again.

RIP Spaw, love to Karen & family

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bill D
Date: 20 Jun 14 - 11:02 PM

..................♥♥♥♥♥ for Karen

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 12:57 AM

Holding all of us up to light and love.

Expect Spaw's remains to push up awesome daisies and fast race cars.

Let us embrace one another now. If you don't need it, I do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 02:27 AM

Not good news to come home to - a feller 'Catter left me a message on facebook to let me know about Pat. Even though we never met in person, it is possible to get a sense of someone from their postings on a site like this and I reckon Pat was one of the good ones.

To echo what someone said at my brother's funeral on Thursday, he was a good bloke.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 04:48 AM

Through the tears I reread some of Spaw's posts on the Rainbow, on March 1st he wrote " great googilly moogilly" and called me a "gem"

Oh Spaw there are many gems on the Rainbow, but you shone as the brightest gem of all, even while you were so ill you sent so much love and support to others. This crew will never be the same but we will join together to cry, laugh and remember you as we sail on.

Up, up,up Spaw!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 05:08 AM

Please forgive the duplication; I posted this on Spaw's/Pat Patterson's obit thread:

"The sweetest apple from the highest bough has been picked by a greater hand". Pat, Patrick Patterson (son of Patrick), you were one of the few people who, within the space of one brief paragraph, could be profane, profound, offer comfort, make me laugh & cry, but always left me with the feeling that something special had just taken place. I will treasure your posts & PMs. I will miss your humour & insight. I will miss your love of life which shone through every word you wrote. Above all, I will miss You, Pat, a man I've never met in person, yet feel I know so well. You have enriched my life.
         To Karen, your Family & Friends, I send my heartfelt condolences & love. Despite the ocean that separates us, Ann & I are by your side, each & every day.
                                     With Much Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann Patterson (two 'Ts' in honour of Pat)
                                                             xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 05:27 AM

JennieG, I didn't mark your brother's passing, nor offer so much as a crumb of comfort. I feel guilty about my omission & hope that you will accept my belated, but nonetheless sincere condolences following your sad loss,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel
                                                                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 08:16 AM

as, im sure we all echo.    blessings and peace to you too       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 09:39 AM

Thanks, Pete and Nigel.

We (Himself and I) spent this evening at celebrations for the 70th birthday of Bill, a man who is the director for my Thursday night choir, and who has been a tower of strength for a very long time in the theatrical and musical life of this town since making his debut at the tender age of six. The choir sang, a small group of us who belong to both the choir and the local uke group sang a song specially written for Bill, and people told stories and jokes and reminisced about Bill, his life and work. Bill and everyone else present (the hall was packed) had a really great time. It was such a lovely way to end what has, frankly, been a shit of a week and an affirmation that, no matter how bad things are, life does go on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 09:42 AM

I have a client coming in 20 minutes, but I can't stop the tears that keep welling up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 10:54 AM

I was just scrolling through the names on this thread, and saw two that are no longer here....Kat, about a year ago...and now Spaw...

This has been a shitty week. I lost two friends that I held dear...

One was a woman that I fell in love with...and then rejected me a few months ago. We started talking again about a month ago...and then the other day, out of the blue she basically told me to fuck off and that she doesn't want to hear from me again. I lost her friendship and she mine, through her own pettiness....and we were very close once.

Now, Spaw....he was a great guy very vulgar, but a huge heart...and I will miss him.

This however is nothing compared to losing a father and a husband...so my thoughts are with Karen and the boys...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jun 14 - 06:08 PM

For those that may not 'know' Spaw.

He was a staunch supporter of Mudcat and Max and Jeff from day one. He led many pledge drives and raised a lot of $ for Mudcat.

He was a staunch defender of all members and guest in Mudcat. His vulgar humour slayed many trolls and twits. He called them out and beat them ferociously with his wit and his eloquence.

He was a man of great compassion and generosity and he counselled many, including me, over the years. He freely shared his wisdom, his knowledge and his shoulder. One could not know a finer gentleman. Why, he could call you a broke dick malamucca motherfucker and you would be overjoyed at the accolade. He was/is a hero of mine. He WAS Mudcat to me and he IS Mudcat to me. That's why I am still here. This thread is one of the few threads he read and posted to when he became frail. Nigel's thread has touched many in many ways. It touched Spaw. It has touched me.

Thank you, Nigel. Thank you, Spaw.

gnightgnu, Spaw... buddy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 12:03 AM

All Hands On Deck!

Just because it is simpler for all of us to hold one another in our mutual embraces of loving kindness when everyone is on deck.

Now, back to work. Sails need trimmed. Decks need swabbed. Who's working in the Galley, and how many meals are needed? Who wants coffee vs tea? Who is in charge of the grog? I don't know a daggum thing about navigating, but will aim for the sun, for now, until some one else can take over to set our complicated course.

Neither the world nor the world stands still for anyone or any reason. That is why we sail together.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 06:23 AM

I'm here, Janie...just so involved in caretaking and land clean-up and fire trash removal and hurting for friends... but here, also.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 06:43 AM

aiming for the sun is an excellent idea, I'll join you & maybe get a photo or 2 while I'm there.

sandra (who loves taking pics into the sun without looking at it!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 07:35 AM

Janie's right, there's much to do aboard. May I suggest we keep the flags at half-mast for a few more days.
       Gnu, your account of Pat accords exactly with the mental image I have of him. Thank you for your closing words...very honoured & humbled.
       Amergin, the depth & candour of your post is profoundly moving. What is even more moving is that you relegate your pain & distress in favour of Karen & her Family. The Crew of The Rainbow embrace you, as we embrace Karen.
       As I wrote, back in May: ".....Set the sails...splice the mainbrace...plot a course for the sun." Our voyage continues. Please continue to lay a place at table for Pat for a little while longer.
          With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel & Ann
                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 01:27 PM

I have been trying for about 45 minutes to find an online obit for Spaw that I can sign and comment on but not even a search for same in his hometown has worked. Anyone?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 03:48 PM

good to read of your lovely evening, jennie, celebrating your respected choirleader, and that it seems to have taken a little of the sting of loss, and encouraged a " pressing on " attitude.
blessings........and peace to spaws loved ones and friends       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 04:20 PM

Here is the link for Spaw's obit. Thanks BM.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 05:22 PM

And thank you, Gnu for posting the link. Will you post it to Spaw's obit thread, please?

Always will be a place set at the table for Spaw, Kat, Jane, and all those who still live in our hearts and minds. I think it is clear that if immortality exists in no other terms, it surely exists in the inpact we have on others, and the way that impact shapes others down through generations.

No matter how we make meaning or whether we understand "Glory" as a reality or metaphor, I'm sure our Spawser had a seat saved, and is saving a seat for each of us from the center of his incredibly human and compassionate heart. Save a Seat for Me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jun 14 - 05:37 PM

I see you already did so, gnu. Good Man!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jun 14 - 03:10 PM

good song Janie.....not heard that before.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Jun 14 - 04:43 PM

Janie... wonderful. "If you make it into glory before I do, please save a seat for me." I have so many thoughts in my head. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jun 14 - 02:41 PM

Just about to fall off the page. We can't have that, now can we?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jun 14 - 07:29 PM

Off course we can't have that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Jun 14 - 09:50 AM

Hoist up the Rainbow's sails,
See how the main sail sets...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Jun 14 - 03:23 PM

on some threads "refresh" is posted to keep it going.
on this thread that word also is apt to the ethos of posters intentions.      blessings all          pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jun 14 - 06:38 AM

Taking the lead from Janie & revising my earlier post, we'll keep places set at table for Kat, Spaw, Jane & all our Dear Departed in perpetua, not "...for a little while longer". The Rainbow's capacity to accommodate is unlimited, relying solely upon us, The Crew & hopefully new or returning visitors, to post, as & when we can.
          With Love,
                         Nigel
                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 27 Jun 14 - 02:55 AM

Are glasses filled, and ready to be raised?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jun 14 - 08:22 AM

JennieG, glasses charged & raised in memory of all our Dear Departed...

Janie, great choice of Music. The Blues always seems to have the uncanny knack of getting to the heart of the matter...no frills, no fuss, sung sincerely & directly to the listener.

Dean, thank you for the timely parody...very tempting to rewrite the whole song, but we'd probably get a call from The Beach Boys lawyers!

Pete, insightfully put...hit the nail right on the head.

'Jane's Rainbow' is guided by need & circumstance, combined with a gentle hand at the wheel; a task with which we all take turns, intuitively & selflessly.
                                                                                       With Love,
                                                                                                      Nigel.
                                                                                                      xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jun 14 - 05:11 AM

Still here every day. Just ain't got nothin ta say.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Jun 14 - 10:33 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 28 Jun 14 - 04:43 PM

Some might be interested to know, as it has been mentioned before by some enthusiasts, that I had my first taste of steampunk tonight. We were in hast

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jun 14 - 08:45 PM

I've been dropping in daily, too. Sail on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 10:26 AM

Up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 02:41 PM

Big meeting tomorrow with the social worker that really upset me the other week....... now she is the one in charge of mum's case?? My Admiral nurse is going to be here thank goodness. Safety in numbers?? Also expecting my brother here any minute and I have to tell him the solicitor says we must sell mum's bungalow. Sparks will fly!!

have felt so wobbly today wanted to stay in bed, not me at all, so I will carry on knowing the Rainbow crew are at my back.

Will go on board later and sit on deck and sail to the Greek islands in my mind.

much love

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 03:33 PM

oops, try again now I,m home. we were in hastings Saturday evening and there was a steampunk performance near the seafront. 5 actors/gymnasts in costume ,and more in the audience. it made a pleasant evening.

oh, wendy. I presume you will have had your meeting now [20:30 GB time]. I hope it went reasonably well ;I suspect someone will not be satisfied, but the main thing is the best outcome for your mum, and your peace of mind too.    blessings         pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 05:07 PM

Deckn swabbed and the foam shaken off the deck chairs, Wendy. Kettle at the ready by the hob, and a fair wind at your back.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 05:28 PM

Meeting with brother over...... he thinks that we just let the care bills mount up and not to sell the bungalow until the care company become demanding!! I rest my case?? Cannot go ahead without him, joint P of A! Oh dear                  

Rant over, round two in the morning.... large Gin and tonic needed but thanks Janie maybe tea is better clear head maybe needed

xxxxx Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 08:39 PM

Oh, Wendy, you have a lot on your hands and must be drained from what has already gone on. I wish I had good advice to offer, but all I've got are hugs which I am sending you now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 10:08 PM

Nope. I'd definitely go for the gin and tonic! Well, one, possibly two. And just for tonight. The tea and the sunshine will be on deck for you in the morning, and all the coddling you need and most definitely deserve!

Remember, the only function of worry is to make you feel bad.

{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}!!!!!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 06:27 PM

Not bad news this time, but happy - Himself and I are having our first grandkid! So nice, after the recent sadness. We have known for a month but were asked not to say anything until DIL was three months along.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 08:18 PM

That is wonderful news, JennieG! "There'll be one child born and a world to carry on, to carry on."

Never heard this arrangement before. I really like it. Hope y'all do too! And When I Die

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 12:17 AM

Glad to hear your happy news, JennieG!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 12:40 AM

YAH, Jennie

& hugs to Wendy

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 03:44 AM

Thank you - it's lovely happy news, and we are so thrilled. It's a trite saying but the world does keep on turning, doesn't it? The cycle of birth and death continues; one family member gone, but a new one on the way.

Hope for the future.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 05:29 AM

Wonderful news Jennie, the first grandchild is a most treasured beautiful gift, you have so much joy to come.

With love to you and your family

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 07:23 AM

Jennie, I'm thrilled to hear your wonderful news. The cycle of Life & Death does indeed continue with 'Hope springing eternal.

Wendy, I'm searching for wise words, comforting words, ANY words that might provide you with some extra support at what must be a frustrating & distressing time. It is my earnest wish that these complicated & emotionally charged issues are resolved sooner rather than later, to the satisfaction of all concerned. May peace of mind, compassion & common sense prevail,
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel.
                                                                     xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 07:59 AM

Thanks Nigel and all,

We had the meeting with the Social worker yesterday, she had already made her mind up which boxes to tick, although she has never spent more than a minute with mum! However I have to admit mum is borderline for this extra funding so I wasn't surprised that she turned us down. Regarding my brother if he refuses to agree to the sale of the bungalow I will have to go to the Court of protection to have him removed as POA. Very unpleasant and very involved. But, and it is a huge BUT, we have exhausted all mums savings and the care bills are mounting up at a frightening rate. My brother thinks I should give up my business and look after mum 24/7. The salon is my sanctuary and I only do part time hours (as you know by the time I spend at the beach hut,) but I do need to work for financial reasons as well as my sanity! I have to say that my "rock" Billy has been wonderful as usual but our " golden times" that we shouted about a few weeks ago seem all too few and far between.

Will need all hands on deck this evening for the next confrontation with my brother, haul away lads and lasses I need calmer waters,

much love and thanks

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 05:46 PM

with a hope and a prayer wendy, as you traverse these unsettled waters. bless you       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 09:09 PM

Wendy, I'm sending more love and hugs and moral support. Keep standing up for yourself and for your mum. It won't be easy; it already is hard, but it must be done and you are the one who must do it. I am glad your husband is with you on all of this.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 10:25 PM

Can guess how much you wish you did not have to go the route that it appears is becoming necessary, Wendy. Breathing deeply along side of you, for what that is worth. Here along with the rest of the crew to take orders from you to help you as you set the uncertain course through stormy seas.

And always, the Rainbow can find a bit of calm water and fair winds with warm sun to shelter in when respite is needed. You are sailing with a true heart, and the crew is aboard.

Families can be so dang complicated!

Holding you, billybob, your mother and your brother in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 07:02 AM

I check in twice a day, usually. Haven't posted my for a while but it doesn't mean youse are not in my thoughts. Just got 'stuff' going on so I just ain't 'chatty' (poor word for it but words escape me these days).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 01:41 PM

gnu, you're in my thoughts too...words not necessary...meet you up on deck at sunset...we can watch, wordless, but full of wonder.
                                                            With Love,
                                                                           Nigel
                                                                           xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 04:01 PM

hope the "stuff" is nothing to heavy gnu.
tea in my hand and typing this to you

a cup of tea refreshes more
when tenderhearted brewed
it aint so much the taste of tea
your spirit is renewed
so if you give such friendship
and if your heart is true
then someone in an evil day
will thank the Lord for you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 09:28 PM

Ditto what Nigel said, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 06:12 AM

Being aware of the 'In Memoriam' thread & not wishing to tread on anyone's toes & with some hesitation:
               "Please lay a place at the table for Ian H., composer, arranger, conductor, song-writing partner & dearest friend. Ian & I worked together on many music projects, large & small. He was a fine pianist, but often consulted me about guitar matters. Ian composed for Film & TV in Europe & the UK, but the big Hollywood break, tantalisingly close on several occasions, never actually came to fruition. I miss his friendship; I miss the endless discussions about the finer points of arranging & orchestration. I miss the unfailing encouragement he gave me when I was struggling with my own writing. His premature death, some nine years ago, leaves an unfillable void. I loved him very much".

                All of us will have had one of those special people in our lives: Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Friend, Teacher, Work Colleague, someone we've never actually met but by whom we have been profoundly touched. It's a lengthy list of possibilities.

                Please say if you think "Please lay a place" is a daft idea...unnecessary...not wanted on voyage etc., etc.. With Spaw, Kat & Jane very fresh in my mind, I remembered earlier times & felt a need to write a few words about other individuals who have played an important part in my life. A personal means of expression...your comments/contributions are valued & invited.
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel
                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 06:37 AM

every one is welcome

without the special people who have been in our life we are nothing.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 09:05 AM

Of course, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 11:59 AM

Not daft at all. Especially if it represents a place in one's heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Jul 14 - 07:19 AM

Wishing all my American Friends a very Happy Holiday on the occasion of Independence Day.
                                    With Love,
                                                   Nigel
                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jul 14 - 11:39 AM

I echo Nigel and add I Hope all on the Eastern Seaboard stay safe as Arthur is packing a punch. Supposed to be 'not bad' here with winds only up to 90km. Lots of rain, tho. Temps in the high teens so I'll be baking Swedish Meatballs and cookies for Mum (I don't do sweet stuff). Been over 40H (Humidex) here for several days so the break will be nice.

Bless all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 04 Jul 14 - 06:17 PM

Gnu, I thought of you and your mum when I read the storm warnings.....take care, my friend. Another friend lives in Amherst, N.S. - I shall email her soon to see if all is well with her, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jul 14 - 11:25 AM

Thanks... The bloody hurricane has kinda stalled. Looking at the various radar sites, I find Arthur to be the oddest storm I have ever seen on radar. Northern half of Maine and all of NB but NOwhere else??? Not bad here but I see one helluva lotta rain in Maine. It's pretty windy but the wind is forecast for this evening. 60 with gusts to 90 kph so it ain't bad.

Even though it's not going to be bad, Mum is upset that it could get worse than it is. I try to calm her down with calls and updates but she is still on edge. It gets to the point that if I don't call enough or call too often, she gets agitated so I try to find reasons for contact. Earlier, I paid some bills and brought them to her. I changed plans in the supper menu on a ruse of the burger still being too frozen. I shall call again in a while and ask her about a cookie recipe, ask her who she thinks will win in the World Cup today... etc.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jul 14 - 11:56 AM

I use a 432g box of cake mix with two eggs and 75 ml of oil. For the people way behind, the Imperial measures are One Betty Crocker, 2 eggs, 1/3 cup oil.

I have a carrot cake mix (spice cake preferred) so I need to add ginger. I now have it on good authority that one should try a 1/4 tsp in the first batch. (Doesn't seem to me it will be enough but I would hate to serve up ginger-ginger carrot cake cookies to Mum.

Also, Belgium and the Nether Regions will win today. I assume this is because the are counties Mum visited (and loved) while my old man was stationed in Germany with the RCAF.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jul 14 - 09:41 PM

Hahahahaaa! This is not totally accurate on accounta the wind whips UP by times but those TV and radio weather forecasters need to stop frightening the elderly...

Observed at: Greater Moncton Int'l AirportDate: 10:00 PM ADT Saturday 5 July 2014

Condition:Light Rain Pressure:99.1 kPa Tendency:risingVisibility:10 km Temperature:11.5°C Dewpoint:10.4°C Humidity:93%Wind:WSW 41 gust 55 km/h

Pffft! Mum is just fine. Thanks for thinking of her. It means a lot to me at this time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 06 Jul 14 - 02:06 AM

Well, that's good to hear! My friend is all right too, so far - if the storm heads north up the Bay of Fundy it will impact on them, but so far it's just rain.

Your cookies sound good, and with the ginger it's better to be safe than sorry......a little will go a long way!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,maeve
Date: 06 Jul 14 - 05:54 AM

We're glad your mum weathered (!) the stormlet, gnu. We only had four inches of rain and a lot of gusty wind here. All of the Meyers lemons and most of the lemon flowers stayed attached though. The snail population is the highest we've seen in 16 years or so...our little bantams have tried hard to gobble them all up.

Some of our robin families are raising their third, possibly fourth broods of the season. I've planted four varieties of tatties/spuds/potatoes layered in half whiskey/whisky barrels due to the high rainfall this spring, and the blight-resistant Yukon Gems will at last go into the larger veg garden hoping most of the heavy rain is behind us.

So sorry to be more absent than active on duty here, folks. Life is challenging- has been for some time. I am always interested in what's going on with all of you but find it hard to post even when I'm home.

As gnu often says, Thoughts and Prayers are ongoing for all.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Jul 14 - 07:03 AM

Thanks again. "Some of our robin families are raising their third, possibly fourth broods of the season." WOW!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Jul 14 - 11:35 PM

Been out of town sans 'puter. Sending light and love to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 07:48 AM

Storm 'Arthur' seems to have been largely ignored by the UK media. Is everyone out there ok? Several of you appear to have been in it's path, or close by. Is this kind of storm a rarity for July? We've had some heavy rain & lightening, but short-lived & not destructive, unless, of course, you're unlucky enough to get struck!
            Take good care of yourselves,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                        Nigel
                                                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 09:07 AM

All good in Moncton. Some trees down. But, not far to the NW, about 100 km, many without power... 50,000 in Fredericton alone.

This is not an unusual summer (or winter storm) for here. 90 kph NE is seldom a problem in my city.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 09:46 AM

Our NC coast handled it pretty well. I was hoping for some rain from it, but it was so small in diameter the rain bands didn't reach here. Earliest date for a hurricane to come ashore on the NC coast since they started keeping records official records, in the mid 1800's. However, there are unofficial records that indicate such storms have occasionally hit the NC coast as early as June.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 12:19 PM

Rain? I had to clean the covers on two catch basins out front that were clogged with (ignorant) peoples lawn clippings and also with leaves and small branches. I had two huge snow shovelfulls* to dump in the compost pile. I shall have (polite) words with the fellow across the way and ask him to send his clippings lawn side or sweep them up.

I enjoyed it. When I saw on the radar that the rain was over, I flung open the windows and Mum Nature serenaded me to sleep with the wind in the trees. B**** woke me up a few times too but 'bad/good' eh?

Common usage here but it's the first time I ever saw it in print. Shovel fulls. Nope. Shovelfuls? Aha! Thanks spell checker.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,rumanci
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 01:01 PM

I sits and thinks and reads and keeps you all close always - sorry I don't say much anywhere

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 01:26 PM

No worries mate! I chatter on aimlessly enough fer a half dozen silent types on good days. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 09:22 PM

It sounds like everyone here is okay. Me, too--just heavy rain in RI on Friday. Some people here lost power, but I wasn't one of them. Saturday and Sunday were beautiful here.

Okay, one hurricane down. Let's hope it's the only one this season.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Jul 14 - 10:48 PM

ChanteyLass wrote - Okay, one hurricane down. Let's hope it's the only one this season.


or that it is the first of a season of little baby ones.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 05:03 AM

Hurricanes? We don't need no stinking hurricanes.

Can't recall the movie that 'line' is from. ?

I use the Canadian Hurricane Centre and the US National Hurricane Center. The Canuck one is better, IMO, but the US one is good though more 'complicated'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 05:09 AM

I'm very relieved to hear that 'Arthur', whilst being a nuisance, doesn't seem to have left a trail of devastation in his wake. Quite what King Arthur & the Knights of the Round Table would have made of it, I really can't imagine! (Plenty of opportunities here for 'Arthurian jokes', but I can't string anything together...need some inSPAWation).

Rumanci, great to hear from you. Just knowing that you're there, thinking, reading, keeping us close in your thoughts...that means a lot to me personally & to everyone else, I'm sure.

                                          With Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel.
                                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 12:35 AM

Up!. This String of Pearls, tossed about on the sea of life.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 05:02 AM

Well,......

Had THE most dreadful hour with the brother Monday evening, very upsetting, he was vile, some of the things he said I cannot repeat, however I kept calm and just repeated " we have to sell mums bungalow"

result........... getting valuation today and giving the tenant notice, the estate agent even "might" have a buyer in mind, fingers crossed.

Very sad that he has said things that can never be forgotten, I am always quick to forgive however Billy is very angry that I have been hurt.

Good news BB has started a new job, fund raising for a hospice, I think three months of retirement was too much and it is good for him to get away from the house at the moment.

Sailing on

much love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 07:19 AM

Very unfortunate to have the added stress, Wendy, but at least there is some good news.

Sail on all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 07:57 AM

My Dear Wendy, your courage & fortitude in the face of adversity never ceases to amaze me. From where did you find the strength to remain calm in such a stressful, distressing situation? You truly are a wonder! The news about BB's job is something good & positive amongst a sea of troubles.

Janie, two voices in harmony, one guitar & a beautiful song. Might the pearls be our 'pearls of wisdom' to which we frequently turn?

Need some support myself. My Diabetes, even though well controlled, is beginning to affect my eyesight & hearing. Early days yet, but the conditions are irreversible & progressive. I've met with the Doctors concerned & they are monitoring my situation closely. Am I worried? Yes. Am I desperate? No, not yet, there is much I can do myself by paying even closer attention to my GL diet in combination with medication. Some ear & eye mojo would be greatly appreciated,
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel.
                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 08:46 PM

Wendy, I'm sorry you had to go through that with your brother before you got the results you were seeking. I hope the bungalow sells quickly to the interested person or someone else.
Good news about BB's job!

Nigel, I am sorry you are facing these challenges. Eye and ear mojo of course from me!

Janie, lovely song!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 07:38 AM

Having re-read my last post, I need to apologise for my abrupt & demanding: "Need some support myself"...sounds like an infant banging on the table when lunch is thirty seconds late.
    Thank you, Chantey...all eye & ear mojos treasured & carefully kept.
                      Very sorry & very embarrassed,
                                                                      With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel
                                                                                     xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 08:13 AM

Not at all, Nigel. Mojo on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 08:36 AM

ditto!

sandra

& congratulations to Wendy - & hugs!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 06:11 PM

not how I read it either, nigel. trusting that any progression of ear and eye loss will be veeeeeeeeeery slow.
bless you wendy, keeping calm in the face of greed induced abuse.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 06:35 PM

Nigel, you certainly have my long-distance support & mojo!

You're always here for others, and when you give so freely, it feels bad to ask for anything. You have the right to do that, and everybody who reads this thread will, I'm sure, agree. Asking is just fine. You're a good man, and I hope your health (and everything else) goes as well as it possibly can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 12:31 AM

Ahhh, Nigel, you dear, dear man....

Hugs to all, but tonight especially focusing my thoughts on Wendy, maeve, gnu, Tommy and VT.

Safe at Anchor

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 05:50 AM

Most fortunate of men am I that I should have your love & friendship. I'm overwhelmed, lost for words, but deeply grateful.
    Pete's right, the sight loss is normally a very gradual deterioration, often taking several years before one has to face up to things like quitting driving. My hearing loss seems determined to push ahead, regardless. The most recent audiogram showed moderate to severe loss over a wide range of frequencies, taking account of my music activities. Ageing plays it's part, but most of the damage has been caused by steroids. Three years of taking steroids (Prednisolone) for Polymyalgia Rheumatica has caused Type 2 Diabetes, Osteopenia & Fatty Liver Disease. For the sake of completeness,I may as well throw Dystonia & an Anxiety Disorder into the mix too, although I can't blame Prednisolone for them.
      
       I've been avoiding this sort of 'medical rant' for ages, but I'm mad as hell at the irreversible damage caused by the steroids. I can't hold it in any longer.
       With Love to you all, my Dear, Loyal Friends,
                                                                         Nigel.
                                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 06:27 AM

Nigel... better out than in. Just like a fart... if ya hold it in, you will eventually explode. Gramma told me that many years ago.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 08:28 AM

Nigel, if anyone is allowed a rant it is you!!

Wishing you calmer waters and safe sailing.

Much has been said already about how much we admire and love you, always here for others now it is your turn please!

gnu.............. just at the right time you are here to make us smile xxx

Sending love and thanks, I just love this crew xxxxxxxx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 01:30 PM

Wendy. Thanks. As we all know, laughter is the best medicine. So, from a Facebook post... I was excited all to pieces when Dad said we were going to visit Yogi Berra (famous Yankee baseball catcher) at his cottage on Lake Ontario. I was 5 years old. I was introduced and said, "You're not Yogi Bear!" I was even more upset when everyone started laughing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 06:02 PM

Good one gnu.      Heard on radio today.........      ...a child asked to write about the sea............""   If you,re surrounded by water, you are an island..... If you are not surrounded by water, you are in continent."                                                                   Wishing fair winds and calm seas to all the crew esp skipper, Nigel !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jul 14 - 05:58 AM

>:-D !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Jul 14 - 06:01 AM

Thanks, Janie.

Nigel- You know you will keep on creating, no matter what. It's a vibrant part of the Who and What of you. With you is spirit.

UP to all and my goodness, Wendy- you are Strong!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jul 14 - 11:36 AM

Hi, maeve. I hope you and yours are okay and staying cool. Power is still out for about 30k (as of last evening) near/in Fredericton.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 13 Jul 14 - 03:03 AM

A Rainbow should be above, not below...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Jul 14 - 07:19 AM

Our part of Maine got about 4 inches of rain, gnu, but no troubles with electricity. When I'm home we're working outside from about 5 AM until dark, so staying cool isn't in the picture - with the bird chorus at dawn and the tree frogs trilling at dusk, we're fine. Need any snails? There are thousands...our chooks are eating them up! I found yet another active robin nest in the pollarded Box Elder in the peony bed.

Nigel, thinking about your friend Ian... Do you not realize you have continued Ian's legacy of encouragement to the crew and passengers right here on The Rainbow, as well as to me regarding song composition? He lives!

Janie- Despite the heat here, we've had so much rain my Bloodroot patch is still in leaf. Last spring the Purple Gem rhododendrons bloomed twice. I wonder if that will happen again?

Fair winds to all,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jul 14 - 11:52 AM

I hear ya, maeve. Livin 'Down Home' brings winters and summers so overtly opposite, it minds me a what my old man used ta say about ridin a motorpickle... freeze yer ears and roast yer nuts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,ChanteyLass on cell
Date: 13 Jul 14 - 09:09 PM

Nigel, thank you for telling us more about your health challenges. It sounds like I should double the dose of mojo I'm sending!

A few months ago I was having trouble with my phone connection to the web. My son came in and set up wifi, which was lovely. Then I started having trouble with that. It seemed to be the power strip that everything was plugged into, so I checked it in another outlet and it wasn't working. Last night I bought a new strip, but I still can't get my connection to work. Using my phone is tedious. I'll read often but post less, and I'll still send mojo, love, and prayers to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 14 Jul 14 - 01:48 AM

Hopping on board the good ship Jane to see how everyone is doing......Wendy, you are amazing, just keep on keeping on! Nigel, I hope you can ahead of those challenges.

We are focussing on our new family member now - our expected grandkid - although my brother who has gone will always be with me. It will be a well travelled kid too, it is currently in Switzerland with its mum who is performing in the Basel Tattoo; she plays French horn with an Australian Army Corps band.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 14 Jul 14 - 06:08 AM

Monday morning, a new day and a new week.The sun is out, the sky is blue, mum is knitting!!!! and beautifully too, she hasn't knitted for months but I thought I would try it after breakfast as I think the colouring book and dominoes are not so popular with her at the moment.I am going to risk going upstairs to change the beds and get the wash on.Sounds mundane? But it is normal, joy oh joy I cannot tell you how brilliant " normal" feels!

We had a visit from my cousins daughter with her children at the weekend. Six under 8's what fun. Saturday at the beach hut, bangers for lunch with added sand in the sandwiches, sandcastles and trying to stop the tide! Then a day at our daughter's yesterday with the silliest games in the garden ( photos on my FB page if you care to look? Wendy Ann Simon) I still cannot blue clicky here ! Luddite me.

So a happy normal weekend, feeling so much better , thank you for all your love Rainbows.

much love and mojo all round

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Jul 14 - 10:43 AM

as you say, a happy normal weekend. I hope you & your mother & other family members enjoy many more.

hugs & mojo & love to Nigel & all other who need it

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jul 14 - 01:55 PM

how lovely, wendy. those knitting skills still persisting even when so much else is fuddled......bless her.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Jul 14 - 08:41 PM

KNIT! Loverly. Thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Jul 14 - 09:05 PM

No comments come to mind to offer beyond chiming in to say 'still here.'

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 15 Jul 14 - 11:31 AM

Wendy, isn't "normal" lovely?

Sorry I haven't been by for a while. Hugs all around, just because I like hugs.

Also would like some of the wonderful mojo here to be sent to a young friend of mine named Lauren who is in crisis at the moment. She's suffering from severe depression and I seem to be the only one aware of what she's going through - even though we've never met in person. Thanks to Janie, I've passed on some resources where she can find help, but a few good thoughts, white light and/or prayers beamed her way wouldn't hurt.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jul 14 - 03:27 PM

Tami, I'm sending some mojo to your friend Lauren.
Wendy, yes, normal can be wonderful. I'm glad you are ale to appreciate it.

ChanteyLass (on laptop at library and still unable to connect online at home)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Jul 14 - 03:52 PM

Lots of love to Lauren Tami

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Jul 14 - 05:00 PM

with a prayer that lauren will emerge from the darkness and into the light.    blessings          pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,I Don't Know
Date: 16 Jul 14 - 11:52 AM

Look in & read often, thoughts with all of you, hope & pray problems soon sort themselves for the better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Jul 14 - 03:03 PM

good to know this thread, and the expression of love is reaching more than just the usual posters. welcome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Jul 14 - 12:02 PM

UP!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Jul 14 - 01:45 AM

Soft summer night here. unseasonably cool nighttime temperatures. Reminds me of summer at home in the low mountains of my earlier years.

Beautiful bug chorus. Really ought to take the time to learn which bugs are singling what, as well as when. Or not. Nature's chorus.

We are each of us part of nature's chorus. Part of the beautiful harmony. I feel so content in the brief moments I realize that.

Gratitude to all.

J

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Jul 14 - 12:28 PM

it is hot here in SE England. last night I was laying in the conservatory, next to tommys room. light flashes began in the distance and working their way closer accompanied by peels of rolling thunder and then heavy rain. a good show, tommy slept through it.
still hot and sticky today.
blessings all.........pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jul 14 - 12:36 PM

Pete, how is Tommy doing?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Jul 14 - 05:04 PM

he is making good progress, thankyou for asking chantylass. he is on his feet much more now and even managed a few stair steps recently.
he has vomited a few times recently but his readings have been generally good, and we think he might have bought on the sick by chewing material picked from changing sheets and nappies, so we have needed to be careful. we had a meeting this week with care in the community nurse and doctor, and his SW about long term and end of life care...........just in case we should get complacent about his myotonic dystrophy, eh !
blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Jul 14 - 09:23 AM

sending love

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jul 14 - 11:49 AM

Thank you for the update. I hope you have indeed figured out the reason for the vomiting and what to do about it. It's good that Tommy is able to get about.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Jul 14 - 03:56 PM

Pete,

sending all our love to you and Tommy.

always here for others, time to send some love back to you xxxx

Wendy ( who has enjoyed a beautiful weekend with her cousin Valerie who has been so supportive and really enjoyed helping with mum)

much love xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jul 14 - 04:15 PM

ooops that was me xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jul 14 - 08:24 AM

Sending much love to all the Crew & welcoming visitors. Ann & I will be taking some shore leave soon. Please take good care of 'Jane's Rainbow' & her precious cargo,
                  With Love,
                                 Nigel & Ann
                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jul 14 - 01:43 PM

Enjoy, Nigel.

I love my new mini-split heat pump.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Jul 14 - 08:03 PM

I'm glad Valerie was able to help, Wendy.

Come back rested and refreshed, Nigel.

Mini split heat pump?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Jul 14 - 05:30 AM

ditto!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Jul 14 - 09:07 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Jul 14 - 11:20 PM

Sending love and good thoughts.

The nature of my work is such that I can't say much about it. Have moved back into public mental health at a time when resources are scarce and treatment teams that support one another are history. Has always been challenging, but I moved out of it when the support dried up, and have had to move back into it to stay employed. Knew it would be hard. Love my work, but the level of need and trauma among clients is so very high, with little these days from agencies to support the clinician in our work. Feel like I'm running on empty recently. Little protection from "secondary trauma." Draining me of the capacity to be present for anyone. Could use some juice. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jul 14 - 05:59 AM

Difficult work. I hope it's not too rough on you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Jul 14 - 08:41 AM

it appears to be a world-wide trend, do more with less personnel & less money & less time & more clients

big hugs & wishes for an occasional bit of peace & serenity amongst the chaos.

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jul 14 - 02:59 PM

Janie, pineapple juice, apple juice, grapefruit juice, all sorts of juice on its way from me!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Jul 14 - 08:50 PM

Thank you, Friends. I know you know how much it means to me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Jul 14 - 06:18 PM

And how's everyone today?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 Jul 14 - 05:13 PM

Back to the top, where it needs to be...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 26 Jul 14 - 06:36 PM

For sure, Ebbie!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 27 Jul 14 - 03:53 AM

With so few BS posts, the Rainbow is dipping perilously close to the line again. Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Jul 14 - 11:08 AM

Thinking of Karen, Tristan and Michael today as family and friends gather to celebrate Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jul 14 - 12:57 PM

Odd that this happened by chance today. I was sending out a broadcast email only for my Canuck friends. I was removing all others and when I saw Spaw was still on this particular list, I had a twinge. Then I edited my contacts. I highlighted Spaw, hit delete and sat crying all over again. A lot of people miss him and my thoughts echo Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 27 Jul 14 - 01:49 PM

Spaw and his beloved Karen, and Tristan and Michael, their beloved boys-now-young-men...all have been carried in my thoughts and prayers today.

Blessings and much love,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jul 14 - 06:39 PM

Not his best but... I needed a laugh so I You Tubed my all time fav.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jul 14 - 10:50 AM

Subject: CATSPAW's Memorial Picnic
From: Big Mick - PM
Date: 28 Jul 14 - 10:41 AM

Dave. Swan and I spent a lovely afternoon with CATSPAW's family telling stories, playing some music, eating wonderful food, and sharing rememberances of Patrick F. "Spaw" Paaterson. We gathered with Connie and Wayne, Karen, Michael, & Tristan, and the family. I restrung a bunch of instruments and Dave and I sang songs in memory of our friend. We also commiserated with one another as to how Rick and Spaw were eating up all the billable hours at LFPS, Layabouts at Large and for hire. As I was stringing instruments, Karen sat down and told Dave and I she wanted us each to have one of Spaws guitars. To say we were shocked takes understatement to a new level. What an honor.

Dave has a great story I have asked him to share. I am sure he will post it here and on our Mudcat. Dave is getting on a plane in a bit and I am jumping in the car for the 5.5 hour drive home. What a wonderful day, thanks to Karen, Michael, Tristan, Connie, Wayne and the rest of the family for a wonderful and memorable day!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jul 14 - 08:26 PM

Thank you for sharing that message, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Jul 14 - 06:29 AM

Thank you too xx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Jul 14 - 04:45 PM

sounds like a fitting memorial.....the event, and the communal spirit and participation.         blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Jul 14 - 01:16 PM

been an interesting [ probably not the right word ]day. we took in a toddler at 3 am as an emergency placement who was collected later in the morning to go to her mum, after being taken from the dad.
hopefully she did.nt catch anything here as we caught a bug. tommy got it bad but is recovered now.
there is difficult stuff in our wider family, but I don't think becky would want me to go into detail, and I think that's wise, but anyone a prayer to spare, thanks.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Jul 14 - 01:30 PM

You got it, pete. Keep the faith. Glad to hear Tommy is cool now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Jul 14 - 06:16 PM

Prayers? I've got some for you, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Jul 14 - 12:53 AM

sending good wished to pete & family

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 31 Jul 14 - 05:48 AM

Sending prayers, love and good thoughts to Pete . Tommy and family.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 Jul 14 - 07:40 PM

thanks all. some of the heavy stuff beginning to settle but no quick fixes expected.   bless you      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Aug 14 - 12:30 PM

Did I post this before?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Aug 14 - 02:29 PM

Quiet these days, but still here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Aug 14 - 03:45 PM

if you did, I missed it, gnu. made me smile......but I,m sure, by having an OTT German exaggerating the differences !.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 02 Aug 14 - 05:22 AM

Tis quiet on board, moored up and all the crew swinging in their hammocks? So I will pop in the galley make some good coffee and have a good English breakfast ready for when you all come on deck!

Then I can update you our news that Billy has had enough of retirement so is working for a Suffolk Hospice fund raising. Works from about 11 in the morning till 5 ish in the afternoon.

Do you think I was finding him too many things to do ? Whoot !

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Aug 14 - 10:02 AM

I know a few "retired" folks who are very busy in their retirement.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 02 Aug 14 - 04:18 PM

Retirement is a time to reinvent oneself. I hope Billy enjoys his new job!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Aug 14 - 04:22 PM

Post at 4:18 was mine. I forgot to log in on the library's computer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Aug 14 - 04:28 PM

good to see that billys health is good enough for the job. hope it proves very satisfying for him.      blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Aug 14 - 12:40 PM

Where did youse scurvy lot go ? I hope yer not posting because the waters are calm. Bless.

g

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Aug 14 - 02:48 PM

I'm here, gnu. Just too busy working long hours as we play catch-up from the long fire and construction years. I seem to be in a meditative, thoughtful, not-much-writing mode these days...exhaustion and stress aren't much help.

UP to all.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Aug 14 - 03:26 PM

Yes, m... I suppose it is the same with most. Many check in but life and circumstance preclude much posting. I am the same way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Aug 14 - 07:05 PM

I'm still here, at least when I can get onto the 'Net and remember to log in!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Aug 14 - 11:24 PM

I look in every day


sandra (memo to self - refresh if the Rainbow is sailing off into the distance)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Aug 14 - 08:43 AM

Me too, every day, just to make sure the waters are calm

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Aug 14 - 06:12 PM

100 yr ago, yesterday, Britain entered WW 1 . anyone here remembering forbears involved ?. to think of all that loss of life to gain a few feet of muddy field.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Aug 14 - 07:22 PM

Uncle Bill got shell shocked in WW1. Minded me of Vimy Ridge.

I posted this on another thread. I lost my business over this crap. I hope it is heeded herein...

Cell phones suck, and my cousin, who was a trucker and used his cell all day on the highway, may not see Xmas. He has been battling a brain tumour for about 4 years. Chemo up the arse... one batch was from Switzerland and he got it because cousin Moira's husband is Dr. Gruber at the NY State School of Medicine. Blue Cross wouldn't pay the $26K unless 4 docs in Moncton said he needed it and they bowed to Gruber on it. Long story short... Rodass (Rodney) is going to die. From a fuckin cell phone. Ahhhh shit... tears cometh again. Sorry for the drama. Just put the cell down and walk away.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Aug 14 - 07:55 PM

Aw, gnu, that's awful!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Aug 14 - 10:54 PM

So sad to read this, g. It stinks.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Aug 14 - 06:45 AM

Thanks. No worries. I was just in a mood last night waiting on the thunderstorms that were slooooow in coming and going. Mum gets upset so I gotta be on deck and I just wanted to go to bed.

Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Aug 14 - 07:26 AM

Hugs, Gnu , Hugs and thoughts for your cousin

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Aug 14 - 06:34 PM

wishing you peace and rest gnu.   blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Aug 14 - 08:07 PM

I am way behind and apologize for that. So very sorry, dear gnu.

Holding all who need held, pete. Hope the seas are not too rough, but we are here, no matter what.

Happy Birthday to our dear maeve! I'd start a birthday thread, but not sure you would be comfortable with that. You can be assured that if one were started it would be filled with good hopes and wishes for one of the kindest and most caring among the Mudcat tribe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,ChanteyLass on cell
Date: 07 Aug 14 - 12:00 AM

What Janie said.

ChanteyLass who doesn't understand why when I Login on my phone I don't stay logged in for more than a few seconds--and even if someone explained it, I wouldn't understand!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Aug 14 - 05:52 AM

Happies atchya, m.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Aug 14 - 08:29 AM

enjoy your birthday, maeve

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Aug 14 - 06:54 PM

best from me too          pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Aug 14 - 08:05 PM

Thanks, all. Janie, your gentleness and caution are thoughtful. In truth, my previous birthday threads have meant quite a lot to me in past years. Even Spaw posted.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 07 Aug 14 - 10:18 PM

Well...hope it's been a good one, Maeve.
I've been on a reticent streak, but honest Native-American, I check this thread daily and keep pullin' for you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 08 Aug 14 - 02:02 AM

I know last time I posted, I said I was having a rough time....and well, while there are still holes in my heart, I am doing much better....got a few gigs coming up (a couple at least involve travel), and new job...some poems published....I'm happier than I've been in months.

I hope you all are doing well....and if not that things are going to get better....so let me blow some of my hot wind from my expansive arse to keep those sails up! ;) Or maybe I will just blow into the canvas.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 08 Aug 14 - 02:49 PM

Happy belated Birthday Maeve xxx

It was Billy's Birthday yesterday, we will celebrate with family and friends on Sunday. I had this brilliant (?) idea to make a cake like a garden shed . Well over here a man's shed is his castle and Billy's shed is the envy of his male friends, it has a bar, fridge and cosy chair and CD player. I too have a shed by the swimming pool. I call it " Greece" it is painted blue and green, has silk vine leaves in the roof and plastic grapes, a real olive tree in a pot, Greek pottery and a phrase book and Greek music on the CD player, Oh well what are dreams made of?
I digress, this shed cake? Two square Victoria sponges upright and filled with raspberry jam and cream, covered with roll out icing ( I cheat ) cardboard door with Bill's Shed written on door. Roof tiles made of chocolate and the wooden plank look perfect with blue icing colouring painted on. It looks brilliant in my mind, photos on FB if it works !So off to the kitchen...

Meanwhile I am smiling ear to ear as for the first time in weeks mother has eaten a whole dinner. After weeks of not swallowing or chewing what ever I put in front of her, cannot tell how many tears I have shed. I have found a company that make pureed meals so tonight she had pureed chicken ,potato and broccoli and had a clean plate! I could put the flags out!

Sailing on

much love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Aug 14 - 05:25 PM

how lovely to read your news ,wendy. hope billys birthday bash goes well, and that he can have his cake and eat it !.
congrats amergin on your poems published, and on the gig opportunities.
maybe treat us to verse or two here ?
we going down to delightful devon tomorrow, so might be missing for a bit.      blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Aug 14 - 04:52 AM

not many folks get to have their cake & eat it, too.

Some years ago a friend made me a birthday teddy bear bread as I don't like cakes. It was made on a pizza tray with a large circle for the tummy, a smaller one for the head, half circles for the ears & small circular tail!

Fresh out of the oven, it came with a lovely block of butter.

YUM!! We started with the ears - I do love a slice of bread with a slab of butter melting into it, especially warm home-made bread. And another slice ...

hmmmmm, I just might have some butter on a bit of bread with dinner tonight

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Aug 14 - 06:21 AM

UPbeat posts!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Aug 14 - 01:05 PM

What Pete said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 11 Aug 14 - 10:32 PM

Hi,

Just a bit out of balance with thunder weather in the night, with lightning striking somewhere in this part of town (some 300m). Looking for a rainbow, to balance it.

Bye,
                                                                  Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Aug 14 - 10:50 PM

Not a rainbow, but a star, Mysha. And a crew sailing with you.

Israel Kamakawiwo'ole

Rest easy. Sleep well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amergin
Date: 11 Aug 14 - 11:14 PM

Sure, Pete....here are a couple poems....one I wrote for Pat. I have posted it elsewhere....but here goes again:

Pat Departs
The tune's distant strains
murmur on light air currents
through open windows
calls him, bewitches to track
the tattered strands of the air.

The fingered notes yank
his heart, pushes him to rise
from his bed, and breathe
goodbye in her ear, as his
lips savour hers one last time.

He walks from the room,
follows the beckoning song
as it calls for him
from the mist shadowed fog line
across the apple orchard.

He follows the song,
tentacles of mist grab him,
cool vapour fingers lock
over his wrists, his ankles
tow him deeper in the wood..

He strolls down the rows
between apple trees, stretched limbs
reach for heaven's floor,
he turns back, one final look,
then steps into the shadows.

nt



And another one:

A landay

The moon gave the sun a lover's kiss,
as her tantric tremours welcomed the rise of the dawn.

nt

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 12 Aug 14 - 03:47 PM

Hi,

Thanks Jane. I guess you're right: It would have been a moonbow otherwise. Anyway, it was what I needed to settle again. "Unsettling" was the word I was looking for, yesterday, but being unsettled, I couldn't find it. It wasn't exactly lightning striking from a clear sky, but it was unexpected and intense.

Calmer waters today, I guess. Thanks: Consider me below making tea.

Bye
                                                                  Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Aug 14 - 10:15 PM

Mysha- Welcome to the Rainbow. Make yourself comfortable.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 13 Aug 14 - 03:15 PM

Hi Maeve,

I've been on board for a while, but I usually sit out of the way on a coil of rope somewhere, so as not to be in the way of the ones who actually know how to support and comfort. But thanks for your welcome.

Biscuit/cookie with your tea, or chocolate?

Bye
                                                                  Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 13 Aug 14 - 04:47 PM

Mysha- Oooh, hot tea! Have any Assam? I'd love a McVities' dark chocolate digestive biscuit if you have any in the galley, thanks! (You are never in the way. You give comfort with clear speech and logical thinking.. and a subtle, wicked (that's good in Maine) sense of humor/humour.)

Thinking of our loyal crew, and imagining Nigel off on a lovely Greek island with family. Nathan, I still love "Pat Departs".

True Love has had a very painful couple of years, so we haven't been able to do our usual two years ahead firewood hauling, cutting, splitting, and stowing.Summer's ending, and the winter firewood is far from ready. Getting kind of worried... which accomplishes nothing useful. I miss having plumbing and I miss making music.

Off-topic distraction opportunity:
A family member has offered to get me a proper chicken coop for our 8 bantams plus future broody hens and chicks (big, expensive birthday present). Anyone have great design suggestions? I know I'd like an attached hardware cloth pen, daylight and ventilation, a hinged roof and sturdy wheels for mobility, a cedar cold frame, cedar compost bins for soiled bedding, and food storage. First need is safety for the chooks, second is looking good since it'll be near our cedar yurt home. (Looks something like this: https://www.flickr.com/photos/oregonyurtworks/2324586915/in/pool-oregonyurtworks/ and this, minus the addition: https://www.flickr.com/photos/oregonyurtworks/2324154983/in/pool-oregonyurtworks/ ) Help me dream!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Aug 14 - 04:53 PM

Drat...I hope I can have a biscuit since I lost my cookie before posting that last. Anyway 'tis I in the hinterlands of Maine.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 13 Aug 14 - 05:40 PM

Hi,

Thanks. Well, Assam and McVities it is. Let me rummage around a bit.
Ah, I found something. Come and get it!

Maeve: Do you think you can do a logs and music event with kinsfolk, friends, and neighbours? During the day make short work of the firewood together, then eat together and make music/sing?

Wow; I hadn't actually seen how big the Yurt was. That inside shot is impressive!
Well, it may be a bit old, but I guess someone has to mention the first option for mailboxes, dog houses, dovecots and chicken coops: Miniature of the Yurt? It may not combine well with both having wheels and all those attachments, but it should give you a bottom line to compare other designs with.

Bye
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 14 Aug 14 - 04:10 AM

Morning all, and welcome on board Mysha, we saw you on the coil of rope and were waiting for you to join in x

Wow Maeve that Yurt looks fantastic. Something that I have savoured here on the Rainbow and also reading the declutter posts ( I enjoy them so much but never write because my life is cluttered all the time)is to see how different our lives are. You all live in such beautiful places and grow your vegetables and do such clever arty things, I am very envious but so pleased to be able to share your experiences. One day when our life is less complicated I hope Billy and I will visit with Billy's sisters in N.J. We haven't been "home" for ten years! When we do I intend to visit Maine and pastures new and hope to meet up with as many catters as I can ,if music is involved maybe I could even see if I can still sing?

Daughter and son in law off to London for three days so I have my two little granddaughters to have fun with.

with love to all, hope Nigel and Ann are having a lovely holiday

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Aug 14 - 01:22 PM

Still here. Hope things are cool with you and yours, all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Aug 14 - 05:57 PM

Hi and wishing all of you a god weekend!

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Aug 14 - 05:58 PM

Er, that was supposed to say good weekend! A god weekend to all of you who are so inclined, though!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Aug 14 - 03:23 AM

some might like a goddess weekend

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 16 Aug 14 - 07:02 AM

It's a wet weekend here in the Small Smoke, for which we are thankful as the drought is biting hard. We aren't expecting much rain, but anything is better than nothing.

Something for which to be thankful!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Aug 14 - 09:17 AM

Jennie - you've has more rain in the Small Smoke than we've had in the Big Smoke! 17.8mm vs 6.6mm - since 9am, over 14 hours

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Aug 14 - 11:33 AM

Sandra, your post was 3900.

Time to refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Aug 14 - 05:04 PM

some interesting turns of phrase ,amergin....imagery but not too obscure.

we back from devon, but our daughter , Katherine, in severe depression following troubles of a serious nature that I alluded to previously, relating to her eldest, Josephine.
prayer appreciated.          blessings all       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Aug 14 - 05:24 PM

... and sent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Aug 14 - 08:03 PM

sending love & good wishes

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Aug 14 - 07:47 PM

Pryers on their way from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Aug 14 - 07:48 PM

Er, prayers. I don't like pryers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Aug 14 - 08:38 PM

Visualizing your daughter and grand daughter, Pete, and all of you, surrounded by light and the caring thoughts of many of us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Aug 14 - 05:13 PM

thanks friends. Katherine was assessed last night and it was decided she would be best at home, with rob, her husband taking time off work to keep an eye on her. medicine prescribed and daily visits from medics. I think she is slowly coming up but still in a deep low at present.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Aug 14 - 07:44 PM

I hope things get sorted as best they can, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Aug 14 - 08:27 AM

Sending your family love and prayers Pete

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Aug 14 - 04:51 AM

Home safe, after 14 hours of taxi, hydrofoil, taxi, 'plane, taxi. Will write soon after a decent night's sleep,
                   Shattered, but glowing!
                                                      With Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Aug 14 - 05:27 AM

Glowing is good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Aug 14 - 08:55 AM

I eagerly & patiently await your report

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Aug 14 - 03:09 PM

Welcome home Nigel and Ann, we missed you both, but we are sailing on in calm waters

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 21 Aug 14 - 08:14 PM

What gnu said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Aug 14 - 06:26 PM

Anyone else?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Aug 14 - 08:37 AM

sure thing, that sounds good.
not as good for my daughter though. she did go into hospital, voluntarily, after hearing dangerous suggesting voices in her head.
that has however subsided and she is on trip out shopping with becky.
hopefully, the general trend is up.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Aug 14 - 12:37 PM

I'm sorry your daughter's condition got so bad, but I'm glad she got help is is doing better. Whatever her treatment is, I hope she continues to follow through with it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Aug 14 - 01:49 PM

Ditto CL, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Aug 14 - 04:33 AM

much love from me too Pete. It is sunny this morning ,hope that your daughter has a happy day.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Aug 14 - 04:03 AM

A half hour from falling off the board. No news is good news? I hope so.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Aug 14 - 05:50 AM

Pete, thinking especially of you & your daughter. A trying time for both of you. Good, sympathetic treatment & heaps of patience will, hopefully, get you through.

      On holiday, Ann & I were surrounded by the love & care of soo many good people. We have been visiting the same Greek island for nearly twenty years. My first, late Wife was Greek & Ann's surviving daughter's husband is Greek too. The combination of Family & many Friends garnered over the years...Greek & a truly international mix, makes for great, extended, multilingual dinners that go on into the wee hours, always ending with songs, laughter & tears. We're left feeling very loved & very special...feelings that linger...feelings that are never completely extinguished. Returning to our 'London Reality' is never easy, but what felt onerous before, now seems less of a burden & more manageable.

    It's good to be home...it's good to be back on board.
                           
    Much Love to you All,
                                    Nigel & Ann
                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link.
Date: 25 Aug 14 - 08:02 AM

such a heartwarming post, nigel. good to see you back, and feeling so refreshed, and with bouyant outlook.       blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Aug 14 - 08:41 AM

Indeed!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 04:18 AM

Even servers need a break sometimes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 05:37 AM

Indeed! (-:

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 06:19 AM

Yer only miss em when they,re not there !    Thank you servers for your service.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 09:11 AM

healing thoughts needed please,

After eight healthy years my daughters Crohns has come back, she has been poorly for two weeks and it is affecting her eyes as well as her tummy. Looks like steroids again!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx[

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 10:03 AM

on their way!

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 03:38 PM

On their way from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 04:31 PM

Janie read your pm

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Aug 14 - 08:01 PM

Ohhh, Wendy. Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Aug 14 - 11:40 AM

from me too, wendy. I just looked it up on wiki, not knowing anything about it. blessings on you and your daughter            pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 06:37 AM

Thank you my lovelies xx

Her GP has responded very quickly thank goodness, saw her Tuesday , blood tests, results Wednesday, steroids Thursday, referred to hospital . Hospital phoned her Friday and prescribed another drug and are fast tracking her for a colonoscopy asap. Say what you will but, when needed, our NHS is wonderful.

I am looking after the little girls this weekend so Samantha can rest in bed. We are hoping that this is a glitch?

Mother is 91 tomorrow, so the girls will help decorate a cake ( not 91 candles this time, remember last year I nearly set fire to the house!) and hopefully we can keep the girls free of worry about mummy, trying to be as normal as possible.

love this crew,

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 08:03 AM

Hugs to you, your daughter and her kids, Wendy. And Happy Birthday to your mum!

Coffee, tea and scones are laid out in the Galley.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 10:23 AM

Ditto Janie sans coffee, tea and scones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 11:12 AM

Tell me what you want for breakfast, gnu, and if the ingredients are in the galley, I'll fix it for you. You deserve it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 01:27 PM

Good plan for the day, Wendy, and I'm glad to read that your daughter is getting good and prompt medical attention.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 02:54 PM

wow, such prompt action is almost a miracle ! or it might be in our area !. hopefully a glitch indeed. happy 91st to your mum, wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Aug 14 - 07:34 PM

Yes, good news to hear of the prompt attention. We all, I assume, wonder about "the system's" response going in. Traumatic in itself.

Brekky? Thanks but no need, darlin.... it shall be the same fare I ingested at 6AM today. A large bowl of beef stew. I eat backwards in increasingly small amounts every two hours. Try it... it's good for you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 31 Aug 14 - 03:30 PM

Photos of Mothers Birthday on my FB. We all had a lovely day and she enjoyed every moment. Samantha is not at all well but hoping the meds will kick in soon,

love to you all

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Sep 14 - 07:31 AM

Wendy, enjoyed seeing the photos of your Mother's Birthday. Very pleased to read that you decided against the full 91 candles. Just lighting them would have taken forever! Getting the right medication & the right dosage for your Samantha might take time. I've learned over the years that Pharmacology is not an exact science. It is my earnest wish that she makes a steady, well managed recovery. I fully endorse your comments about the NHS. Ann & I have had to make increasing use of many NHS clinics, consultants, our lovely GP, as the ageing process has ploughed an ever-deepening furrow. The NHS has, more than once, saved both our lives.

Ok, I'm off to the galley to meet gnu for my first lesson in backwards eating.
                                     Much Love to You All,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Sep 14 - 06:09 PM

Katherine been out of hospital for weekend and her spirits have lifted. too soon to be too confidant, but hopefully the trend is up, and management being attained of her condition.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Sep 14 - 06:02 AM

fingers crossed

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Sep 14 - 08:54 AM

Good news Pete, sending love

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Sep 14 - 05:39 AM

Glad to hear it, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Sep 14 - 02:36 PM

What they said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 12:23 AM

Rap doesn't post here, though he may lurk occasionally. Really doesn't matter whether he does or not. Needs some extra mojo for his beloved partner. thread.cfm?threadid=155476&messages=4

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 12:41 AM

I check in daily, read, and carry every concern in my heart and meditations, but I am aware I am not posting much. So many of you are able to post something individually addressing the concerns of each person. Right now, I simply an not capable of doing that, and I am sorry. Always on board, even if not pulling my weight or earning my keep.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 03:51 AM

I think just being here or checking up when one can is contributing to the journey and crew. We're all in the same boat eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 05:07 AM

definitely!

hugs to Janie

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 06:35 AM

Hi Janie,

Sitting down in the middle of a boat increases its stability.

Bye
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 07:05 AM

Mysha- Brilliant and accurate reply to Janie- Thank you!

Janie, if you're gonna go into uncalled-for-guilt-mode on account of not having the energy to post deeply meaningful and personal replies to each and every post here on the Rainbow, I'd better just quit trying right now.

Piffle, Woman- we're all having struggles or we wouldn't be part of the crew.

Love,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 12:43 PM

Janie,
Guilt is anger turned inward. If you are beating yourself up over not posting often enough (by your standards) here, take a good hard look at what is going on in your life. Why are you angry? Who is the culprit? Sort it out and be kinder to yourself.

Meantime, I am mourning the loss of my youngest brother. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died less than a month later. One day he working full time and fine, the next he was bedridden and wasting away. Never let a day go by without telling the people you love that they are precious to you.
Mary

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 02:30 PM

Janie, I think posting the link to Rap's thread proves that you are pulling your weight. Besides, some of us are on port watch while others are on starboard. We aren't all on duty at once. Mary, I'm sorry about your youngest brother.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 03:03 PM

Mary, my love to you.

Janie, I'm sure I'm not telling you anything new- just saying, "You are cherished."

Starboard, port, bow, stern, peerie peapod alongside, or folk wha' paddle in the waves...canny man or wifie or bairn...thank you to all who travel with us.

Maeve, who does well to post a couple of times in a month of silence.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 04:52 PM

wishing you comfort, mary.
may the memory of the better times , soften the bite of grieving.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 05:57 PM

Hugs to all. Janie, love, at least you're present. I wander off for weeks at a time. Mary, so sorry to hear of your loss. Everybody else, I love ya all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 06:19 PM

Sorry to hear that, Mary.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 12:08 AM

For Wendy...and all who treasure a loved one who is far away in one way or another: "...I'm lovin' you right now"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 05:39 AM

My sincerest condolences, Mary.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 06:40 AM

Gnu, I agree absolutely, but I've been wondering recently if some of us are suffering from what might be termed: "Thread Fatigue"? To quote your words: "I think just being here or checking up when one can is contributing to the journey and crew. We're all in the same boat eh?
    It's all too easy to feel guilty about not contributing/posting. Chasing one's tail for that "Mot Juste". If we do what we can, when we can (guilt-free!), then I see no reason why "Jane's Rainbow" shouldn't continue her voyage for as long as we have breath in our bodies & wind in the sails.

    My Dear Janie...not another word about "pulling your weight" or "earning your keep"...please (-:

    The occasional refresh might be needed, but so be it.

    So, no guilty feelings, no recriminations, we do what we can, when we can, safe in the knowledge that we are members of a crew; a team of likeminded individuals, looking out for each other & ready to respond when Life throws one of those unexpected, curved balls.
                      Much Love & many hugs & kisses to you all,
                                                                                        Nigel.
                                                                                       xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 07:50 AM

Oh Mary, I'm so sorry.   I hope you did have the opportunity to tell him of your love. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 02:26 PM

What Sinsull said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 10:16 PM

condolences & hugs to Mary

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 07 Sep 14 - 11:10 AM

Here's a generally positive report to help lift the mood.

Our family (four siblings) fell apart to some degree when our parents died within six months of each other in 1997-98. One sibling is a sociopath and made life hell for a couple of years. It caused a general chilling effect for the rest of us, and hard feelings from the trouble he stirred up. It took a long time before I was finally able to ask the other two "what were you thinking?" about some of their actions in response to the youngest's tumult.

I think we've all lost track of the youngest, he has separated himself and isolated his child and former partner from our family, but we wish him well. I am grateful that the other three of us are back to being on good terms. When my nephew turns 18 I'll reach out and offer our friendship, and hope his view of the rest of us hasn't been poisoned by his father's behavior. I bring this up now because my recently-graduated son has moved to start a new job in the area where my brother and sister live, and they have welcomed him with open arms and good advice, in those few occasions when it seemed suitable to offer it.

It's good when you can put [most of] your family back together.

SRS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Sep 14 - 11:25 AM

That is good news, Maggie. Not just good, exciting!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Sep 14 - 11:37 AM

Always good to leave a door open and to mend fences.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 14 - 03:36 AM

Ditto Janie and CL. Good and hopeful news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 14 - 03:48 AM

Any plans for Friday night, Amos?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 05:19 AM

The 9th September is special...it's Jane's birthday. She would've been 49. Many memories upon which to reflect & just a few too many 'If only...' It's also special because Jane, being the clever lady that she was, managed to give birth to her first child on the 9th too. Her son, now a strapping 25 year old is forging ahead with his career, so we are compelled to look to the future. The balance between "What was" & "What is to come" is a work in progress, but with the passage of time, a balance will be achieved. To complete the picture, my first, late Wife's birthday was also the 9th September. If I were a numerologist, I'd be having a field day!

                   Much Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 11:33 AM

"a work in progress"

So our journey is. And, sailing together eases that work. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 02:01 PM

Nigel, hugs on their way as you and your family remember Jane's birthday which I imagine must be bittersweet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 04:47 PM

echoeing chanteylas' sentiments. have you been writing anything lately, nigel ?.          blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Sep 14 - 05:59 AM

Yes, ChanteyLass, 'bittersweet' is a word that sums up the day perfectly, but our mood was by no means melancholy. We were greatly cheered at lunchtime to discover that two good friends of ours who used to run "The Best Café in Town" & were forced out of business by some extremely suspect property deals, have taken over the café in our local library. Yesterday's lunch was a happy time, with much 'catching up' & free cups of coffee.

Thanks Pete...new works have been a bit thin on the ground for several months...totally deserted by my muse (if I ever had one!). I am, however, revisiting a piece I started ages ago & never completed...that happened yesterday too...see, I told you the 9th September was a special day!

Gnu...bless you too.
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel & Ann
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Sep 14 - 09:24 AM

(((Sinsull)))
SRS, reconciliation is good stuff

I was just nibbling odds and ends in the galley; did anyone else notice something funny about that potatoe salad ? : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Sep 14 - 11:53 AM

froggy spelled 'potatoe' properly! Homeland security is probably in the white van across the street from him by now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Sep 14 - 04:01 AM

All flags to half mast on 'The Rainbow' today.

                                                                   "We shall remember them"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Sep 14 - 06:23 PM

Thank you, Nigel, for remembering.

Potato salad? Maybe just a bit salty. It went down well with a glass of water though. (Grin.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 03:57 PM

my daughter Katherine is still in a bad way and has had dark thoughts that might be dangerous for her, if she were not in hospital.
so anyone care for a prayer, thankyou.    bless you all      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 07:55 PM

Still here, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 09:24 PM

& me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 09:32 PM

Indeed, Pete, holding her especially, and all of you in my thoughts. She is where she needs to be to be safe right now. It can take time, but she will get better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Sep 14 - 05:12 AM

Our Very Dear Pete...Janie is right...Katherine is in a safe place where she will be cared for, 24/7. Her recovery will almost certainly take a while. Progress is usually made in tiny increments with recovery & relapse going hand in hand, but ultimately, recovery will triumph.Your love & patience will be rewarded. There are many of us on 'The Rainbow' who are thinking of you & Katherine at this very moment...know that we are here.
                                              Much Love to You Both,
                                                                                  Nigel
                                                                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Sep 14 - 06:12 AM

Thoughts and prayers from here, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Sep 14 - 11:31 AM

I'm still here, too, Pete--well, in Rhode Island, but my heart is with you and your daughter.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Sep 14 - 06:05 PM

Been on shore leave for a while, looking after the grandaughters while mummy is feeling poorly.But my thoughts have been on the crew and hoping for good health and good news for you all, as anniversary dates have come and bought tears but also happy memories.

Thank you Maeve for the special thoughts, much love to Pete, Janie, Mary and of course Nigel and Ann.

As the health of my daughter is still uncertain I am thinking I may need respite care for my mother so, just in case, I visited a nursing home on Friday last. The only one in the area that had been recommended! ( I did do a reccy 3 years ago and the homes I saw were horrendous) However this one is like a 5 star hotel and ticks all the boxes. The good news is they have a dementia club once a week so mum can go from 11 till 4 and enjoy the activities etc. Then if we do need respite she will be familiar with the surroundings and staff. One more step forward?

On a happy note Billy and I took the little girls to their first barn dance on Saturday and they loved it, danced every dance!Plus the band were Skinners Rats so Bunny and Pru were delighted to see "Uncle" Barry playing his violin.Happy Days

Sailing on

Much love Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Sep 14 - 06:26 PM

Wendy, the dementia club sounds like it could give you a break even if your mother never moves into that home.

Sending love to all of your family, hoping your daughter improve, and glad you had some fun with your granddaughters.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Sep 14 - 05:14 PM

Climbing to the top o' the mast again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 04:02 AM

67 today...it's just a number...I'm only one day older than I was yesterday!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 04:35 AM

and may you have a good one, nigel.
sounds like you are busy , wendy. we are looking after granddaughters while mummy is unwell also, but she is out of hospital now, and has her son back as of last night, with the plan of having the others back as she, hopefully. continues recovery. dementia club sounds promising. sometimes it feels like juggling, don't it?. you wonder when you gonna drop a ball !    blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 05:04 AM

Happies atchya, Nigel.

Juggling... good description. Hope nobody drops any balls.

I notice this thread will soon stand at 4000 posts. That's a big rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 05:33 AM

Thanks Pete, I often drop them all at the same time, bad juggler I am? But they always bounce back up!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY dear Nigel, hope you have a very happy day

with love and best wishes to all,

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

PS The bungalow is on the market, the brother could not argue with me, mum's solicitor and the estate agent, whoopee at last !!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 04:26 PM

Happy birthday from me, too, Nigel!

Pete, I hope you can keep all those balls in the air and your hands, but yes, they do bounce.

Wendy, I hope the bungalow sells quickly and for a good price.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Sep 14 - 04:43 AM

Thank you all for your good wishes. Ann & I had lunch at our favourite restaurant (Tomassi's in Southend on Sea), followed by a leisurely drive home through the Essex countryside. A light supper...a couple of good documentaries on TV...and so to bed. Simple pleasures that made for a gently memorable day. Many of my Friends & Former Students 'bombarded' me with a plethora of affectionate comments on FB too...I'm still basking in the afterglow of affection from soo many good people.
                                           From my Heart to Yours,
                                                                               Thank you, thank you,
                                                                                                                Nigel
                                                                                                                xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Sep 14 - 05:00 AM

a thoroughly deserved day.

may you have many more days filled with simple pleasures

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Sep 14 - 05:04 AM

Ditto Sandra. Glad to hear the bungalow thing is sorted, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Sep 14 - 11:41 AM

yes, and I expect that's a load off your mind. hope your brother accepts the inevitable with some good grace.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Sep 14 - 02:48 PM

How is everyone today?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Sep 14 - 03:01 PM

Sorry. That was me at 2:48 PM.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars linkast
Date: 20 Sep 14 - 03:19 PM

Not so bad, thanks chanteylass.we at caravan on Coast . Trust the rest of the crew are ok.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Sep 14 - 03:39 PM

I'm okay for now. Found a brick of cheddar in the back of the freezer... June 2011... making mac and cheese. If I don't post again, don't use 3.5 year old frozen cheddar cheese.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Sep 14 - 07:39 AM

4000+ posts of caring, sharing,laughing, crying, helping, advising & listening. Gnu holed it in one: "That's some rainbow".

         'Jane's Rainbow' is far greater than the sum of it's parts & that's down to all you Good People. We've come a long way...we've a long way left to travel.

         Much Love to You All,
                                        Nigel
                                        xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Sep 14 - 07:42 AM

Sorry, Gnu, what you actually said was: "That's a big rainbow"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Sep 14 - 08:13 AM

No need to say 'sorry'. It's some big rainbow.

No ill effects yet so it looks like the cheese is still okay. I had it in a 400F oven for about 20 minutes longer than usual, though, just for good measure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Sep 14 - 11:33 AM

Glad you survived, gnu!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Sep 14 - 06:10 AM

we can't afford to lose you, gnu!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Sep 14 - 08:00 AM

Here I go again......

came back from work on Saturday to find mother's carer very upset. She caught my brother going through my and Billy's mail, left in a pile in the kitchen! Please don't agree with my furious daughter, who thinks I should ban him from the house, that would distress mum who lights up when he walks in.

We haven't confronted him because Billy says he would probably lose his temper and doesn't want to risk a heart attack? I have never seen him lose his temper in 30 years but this might be the straw and the camel if you know what I mean! I have blitzed the kitchen the worktops have never been so empty of clutter and every piece of paper has been removed to a safe private place.

I must have been bad in a previous life? Its like living in a far fetched movie.

Hay ho, coffee on , breath, calm..............

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Sep 14 - 08:10 AM

"I have blitzed the kitchen the worktops have never been so empty of clutter and every piece of paper has been removed to a safe private place."

Wendy, people who do not respect boundaries must have their options reduced. Your strategy is an excellent first step.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Sep 14 - 10:54 AM

I couldn't agree with Maeve more emphatically, Wendy. BRAVA! Well done you.
                                             With Love,
                                                            Nigel.
                                                            xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Sep 14 - 11:06 AM

Ditto maeve and Nigel, Wendy.

Thanks for the well wishes, CL and Sandra.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Sep 14 - 03:25 PM

totally agree. I would have thought he would have accepted how things need to be. bless you wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Sep 14 - 03:48 PM

Oh, Wendy! I am sorry your brother continues to behave badly. I'm sending you love and hugs from Rhode Island.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Sep 14 - 10:44 PM

Just letting out a little chirp to say I'm still here, a quiet bird tucked away somewhere up in the rigging. Watching and caring.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Sep 14 - 07:28 PM

Sail on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Sep 14 - 06:31 AM

another little chirp from the rigging ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Sep 14 - 07:01 PM

Are we becalmed in the Doldrums? I guess that's a good thing here!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Sep 14 - 05:13 AM

ChanteyLass, let's hope it's not the calm before the storm!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Sep 14 - 06:52 AM

Migrating bluebirds are singing in the morning light. Arise, Rainbow!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Sep 14 - 10:40 PM

Can't sleep- Who's on watch?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Sep 14 - 07:10 AM

I'll take the watch, maeve, but I would imagine by the time you read this, you'll be safe in the arms of the dream weavers.
                                          With Love,
                                                         Nigel
                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Sep 14 - 12:02 PM

You'll sleep tonight if you are getting the weather we are. Almost 30C here yesterday. Today, 12, wet and windy. Picked a poor day for painting the kitchen and bathroom.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Sep 14 - 06:58 PM

Home, unpacked, and laundry going from the Getaway. Another weekend of magic and soul-restoring fellowship and music. Wish all of you could be there some year.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Sep 14 - 07:42 PM

I saw Big Mick's video on FB. Sounds truly magical.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Sep 14 - 05:43 AM

C&P from FB:
                  
                   Just realised that September, 2014, marks my 50th Anniversary in The Music Business...performing, recording, teaching, writing, conducting...met & worked with some stunningly talented folk. Don't think another fifty years is a realistic proposition, but I reckon I can 'make it round the block' a few more times! (-: (-:

                Gnu, any chance of a link to Big Mick's vid, please?

                With Love,
                               Nigel
                               xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Sep 14 - 06:26 AM

doubtless a rich treasure chest of fond memories and accomplishments.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 Sep 14 - 09:05 PM

Congratulations, Nigel- quite a milestone! I'm glad you plan to continue!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Oct 14 - 07:13 AM

Congrats, Nigel! For the vid, it's on Micks Facebook Timeline... Mick Lane... https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=590917560. Dunno if it's posted on this site on a Getaway thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Oct 14 - 11:24 PM

Joe O. and Dani sang snippets of this to me tonight after supper. Apparently well known but I had never heard it before.

Somos el Barco

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Oct 14 - 11:26 PM

We are the boat. We are the sea.
I sail in you. You sail in me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Oct 14 - 11:17 AM

Particularly appropriate for singing "aboard the Rainbow", Janie. : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Oct 14 - 11:55 AM

it is a lovely song

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Oct 14 - 05:08 AM

Beautiful song, Janie. The two lines you quote above would make a perfect motto for Jane's Rainbow. Not sure how we'd stand, copyright-wise though.

Your thoughts, prayers, meditations, candles, for my belovéd Ann. She had a malignant melanoma successfully removed several years ago. Several lumps have recently presented, far too close to the site of the original op. Scan this coming Sunday afternoon. Be with us if you can,
                                              Much Love to You All,
                                                                               Nigel & Ann.
                                                                               xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Oct 14 - 06:28 AM

Definitely with you, Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 03 Oct 14 - 06:31 AM

I'm close by, Ann and Nigel.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Oct 14 - 06:38 AM

Thoughts and prayers, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Oct 14 - 07:25 PM

I'm here, too, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Oct 14 - 12:01 PM

with a prayer from me too. blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Oct 14 - 05:11 AM

Ann has spent the weekend in Liverpool at a college reunion, so she'll be returning to London in a state of nostalgia overload! Assuming her train arrives on time, we'll still have time for lunch before her appointment at 4.40pm. Public transport on Sundays is always fraught with engineering works, leading to line closures. Fortunately, the route we will be taking is engineering-free, so it should be plain sailing.

Thank you, all, for your warm, supportive words,
                                                                         With Love,
                                                                                        Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                        xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Oct 14 - 12:57 PM

it is almost 6 pm English time so I expect ann has had her appointment and you will be posting when you are able, nigel.
hoping that it has been a good weekend, and that the appointment has been helpful, and reassuring. prayerful thoughts with you both......pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Oct 14 - 05:27 AM

Hoping Ann's scan was clear, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Oct 14 - 06:00 AM

Despite Ann's train being delayed, we still had time to eat lunch & get to her appointment earlier than the appointed time!
            Janie, we have to wait a few days for the results, but with Ann's previous medical history, they usually bump cancer patients to the head of the queue.
            Pete, yes, by 6pm UK time, we had returned to Paterson Towers AND in true Brit. style, had drunk a mug (the cups come out when we have visitors!) of well-earned tea.
            Ann enjoyed her college reunion immensely, meeting a number of former students she hadn't seen since graduation. Much exchanging of 'phone numbers & email addresses.
                                 With Much Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Oct 14 - 11:36 AM

us English do like a cuppa tea.....usually in a mug !. blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Oct 14 - 09:08 PM

belated good wishes from me to Ann

sandra (back from a long weekend festival)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Oct 14 - 10:01 PM

Will be waiting to hear the results when you have them and are ready to share. I continue to hope and pray.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Oct 14 - 04:00 PM

also continuing in thoughts and prayers. pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Oct 14 - 11:37 PM

Joe Offer posted the following on Facebook about an hour ago. For those of you who may not know, Joe and Christina live in northern California where wildfire is always a danger, but apparently even closer than what has occurred before for them.

There is a wild fire across the freeway from our home. We were evacuated about 3 p.m., and we are staying with friends in Auburn. We think our house will be ok, because the fire is moving away in the other direction. We don't know when we will be able to go home. Please send socks and underwear.

Hoping the fire not only keeps heading in another direction, but hoping no one in any direction are harmed or lose their homes. I know fire is a fact of life in the west and part of the natural process, but still hate for so many people and wildlife to be at risk or destroyed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Oct 14 - 11:49 PM

Thank you, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Oct 14 - 06:35 AM

Havent been on board for a while, so much going on, Billy has asked my brother not to come to the house in the evenings anymore, long story but over stepping the mark and straw and camel gives you a clue. He can still see mum but has to come during the day and take her out in the car.

My love to Nigel and Ann, hope the results are good, waiting is the worst time !

My thoughts are with Joe, hoping they are safe.

Good news for us, Billy saw his consultant yesterday and his blood results are good so doesn't need to see him a for three months.

sending love to all,

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Oct 14 - 08:38 AM

Too bad about your bro but great to hear about the blood test results, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Oct 14 - 12:09 PM

it must be very wareing for you two, but I presume your mum is not that aware of the stress. at least its good news with billy.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Oct 14 - 06:19 PM

what gun & Pete said

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Oct 14 - 10:28 PM

Me, too. What they said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Oct 14 - 09:23 PM

Sailing through holiday weekends in the US and Canada. All's well with me. How about you?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 06:07 AM

Same old same old except it's chicken instead of turkey as it's just Mum and me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 06:54 AM

Happy Thanksgiving, gnu. Enjoy the (very good) food and company of your mum.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 01:14 PM

it has been pretty wet around here the last few days.......bet wendy has not been to the beach hut too much lately !.
we did have a scary moment with tommy over the weekend, and he had a day in hospital, but seems to be recovering well now.
some family problems, which we hope are just short term, probably due to other ongoing difficulties.
blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 02:12 PM

I haven't heard back from Joe Offer as to how things are going for him, but he has posted a couple of times since Janie's note about his Facebook post about having to evacuate due to the fires out in California. Has anyone else gotten an update?

Fair winds to all- how be ye?

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 02:19 PM

Sorry- just reclaimed me biscuit! The previous post was indeed mine.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 10:01 PM

Maeve, Joe's back home. He posted that on Facebook's Mudcat Cafe page on October 9th that the had evacuated from 3-9 PM. I tried to copy Joe's post, but I guess Facebook doesn't let people do that. I think I've tried that and failed before. He also posted photos of the fire, smoke, and firefighting planes.

Pete, I'm glad Tommy was in out of the hospital after just one day. I hope he continues to improve at home.

Gnu, I'm sure your chicken was delicious. Any sides with that?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Oct 14 - 10:10 PM

I ain't takin sides! >;-)

Sad but then good to hear about Tommy. Hope all sorts out.

The chicken dinner was great. I did not have much. Deferred for soup. The soup is delicious... better after a night in the pantry.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Oct 14 - 01:09 PM

thanks, he went back to school today , but then I had to go get him, but he did not seem that bad to me. silly thing is, there are nurses employed at his school, but we still get called to collect.
blessings   pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Oct 14 - 06:31 AM

Pete,
so glad he is home, and back at school even though they sent for you.I guess the school just takes extra caution?

I did walk down to the beach hut on sunday morning for a coffee, the sun was shining for a couple of hours. On Saturday we took the granddaughters to Colchester Castle,what a brilliant place, they gave the girls a tablet computer thingy? and it showed them what the castle looked like and what people were dressed in. How Colchester was first ruled by the Romans and how the castle was built on the site of the Roman temple. We even went into the dungeons complete with sound effects of the witch finder general's trials!! They had a lovely day out of the rain.

Sending love and best wishes to all

sailing on

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Oct 14 - 08:46 AM

"... the school just takes extra caution?" I assume they follow strict policies in such regard. Just glad to hear he is okay.

Wendy... sounds like a good time was had by all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Oct 14 - 09:32 PM

I'm glad Tommy was able to go to school. I hope he is soon judged well enough to spend the whole day there.

I want to go to that castle! That must have been a good learning experience.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 Oct 14 - 07:20 AM

It is a wonderful place, look it up on the internet. Colchester is Britains oldest town and the Roman remains are all over the town, including a stadium for chariot racing! We are only 20 minutes away by car but I had not been inside the castle since I was in my teens! This is the joy of being a grandmother, Billy and I have a brilliant excuse for having lovely days out. Sutton Hoo next, only forty minutes away.

sailing on with love to all

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Oct 14 - 06:11 AM

I've been checking in every day, reading, but not posting as regularly as I would've liked. I'm not very good when it comes to apportioning internet time, so the lion's share has gone to my website, which desperately needs updating, redesigning & kicking up it's cyber backside! It's still 'work in progress', so you won't see any changes yet...need some help & inspiration from those good folk at my local Apple Store.
       I have made time, however, to re-read many PMs, both sent & received...words of love, compassion & wisdom from those still with us & from the Dear Departed...words like: ".....we have so many here who offer so much of themselves, it has buoyed my spirits & my sense of friendship in a way I would have never believed possible in the cyber world....."
       Uppermost in my mind are Wendy & her Family; Pete & Tommy; Gnu; Joe & his Family; Maeve & my belovéd Ann.
       Sending much love...hoping for calm seas & fair winds,
                                                                                           Nigel
                                                                                           xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Oct 14 - 10:05 PM

What Nigel said, sans the need to maintain a website or other business on-line.

here is a lovely song performed by our own Big Mick that just seems to fit - recorded by Genie at a Getaway a few years ago at the Open Mic from her computer.
There Will Be Music

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Oct 14 - 09:31 PM

Over the top--or at least up to it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Oct 14 - 05:49 AM

I have mentioned our daughter Sammy has Crohns disease before, it has come back over the past two months after being in remission for eight years. Sam has lost 2 stone in that time and the hospital has been diagnosing over the phone. Alas the steroid has not improved her condition at all, she is hardly able to leave the house yet the consultants appointment ( fast track ,they said) is December 12th !! I am going to phone his private secretary today and see if we can get a private appointment, she cannot go on like this till December. I will be in her bad books but " its only money" and her private insurance does not cover pre existing conditions. As you know our NHS has been brilliant looking after my husband Billy and I am sure that once she gets to see the consultant they will be equally as good, but I am so worried that they will only speed up when she becomes an emergency? So prayers and thoughts please crew?

Meanwhile BB and I are having the girls as often as possible, so tomorrow we are taking them to see "The nutcracker" ballet and on sunday we are going to our son's theatre to see a production with the BBC's children's entertainers.

Onward and upward,

( by the way mum has not noticed my brother is not visiting in the evenings and Billy's BP has gone down due to less stress!)

sailing on

much love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Oct 14 - 05:59 AM

Oh, Nigel

I meant to ask how Ann was, do hope all is well

much love to you both

Wendyxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Oct 14 - 07:48 AM

love & hugs heading your way Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Oct 14 - 08:41 AM

Ditto Sandra.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Oct 14 - 05:25 PM

posted with prayerful thoughts, wendy, for Sammy and yourself. pleased at least that some of the other stress has been relieved from you both.
blessings on you all       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 12:35 PM

Love you Janie, thank you for this thread

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 01:17 PM

I really miss spaw, our silly phone calls and his crazy laughs he gave me. God is laughing at his stories I bet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 01:51 PM

I guess the older we get, the more bittersweet memories we have from the loss of those we have loved, and that have enriched our lives.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 06:32 PM

olddude, pete... yeah. Sniff. Yesterday was the first time on any forum that I saw somebody post regarding Spaw and I laughed and smiled, then, magically, did not shed a tear. I just reflected upon that and simply smiled... just as I am doing now.

YO! SPAW! Listen up ya broke dick. Now that yer in heaven, slap some skin and send us yer clone. Like a profit with a hardon fer trolls and just regular folk talkin outta their ass. Send us a sign... like an ESPPM or, fer us/them still on the internUt, just an MP3 of your latest BRAAAMMP!

I miss Spaw. He was Mudcat to me for sooooo many reasons. He was my friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 06:36 PM

That was me gnu how I ate his jar of goose berry jam he was waiting for

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 08:02 PM

Oh, Wendy, I am sorry your family is faced with another health problem. I hope your daughter gets help soon.

Good that your mum isn't missing your brother and that your husband's BP has improved, though!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: olddude
Date: 23 Oct 14 - 08:06 PM

In my prayers wendy I am so sorry

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Oct 14 - 05:55 AM

Thank you all, your prayers must be working as yesterday Sammy came with us to see the ballet ( the nutcracker)and managed to sit through the whole performance, she looked beautiful, photos on my FB !It was her first venture out of the house for ages so Rainbow mojo working its magic?

love to all specially olddude and gnu, Spaw is still here in spirit !

love to all ( hugs Nigel and Ann , any news??)

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Oct 14 - 09:47 AM

Lovely news about Sammy! Brightens my day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Oct 14 - 07:30 AM

Some good reading here. As gnu says: "Brightens my day (too)"

We were hoping Ann was going to get her discharge from Oncology at her last appointment. Her MRI was clear, but some enlarged lymph nodes showed up under ultrasound, so we're waiting to see her surgeon. All the health professionals kept saying: "Nothing to panic about" just a little too often for my liking.

Could we send some 'Mudcat Mojo' to my amazing Aunt Chris. At the age of 91, she's been diagnosed with a very rare form of cancer. She's booked for surgery next week. Yesterday, she drove to the shops & walked her dog...she's such a gutsy lady, but the cancer diagnosis has scared her.
                                                 Much Love to You All,
                                                                                  Nigel & Ann
                                                                                  xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Oct 14 - 09:28 AM

big hugs & love to Aunt Chris

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Oct 14 - 11:58 AM

Thank you, Sandra. I am deeply indebted to my Aunt Chris. It's a long story which I will get around to telling...but not yet.

Gnu, I can't remember whether Pat PM'd me the following blessing, or if it was part of a regular post. I am not a 'Man of God', but the words are still redolent with meaning & fit perfectly with the Man I grew to know & love...I can almost hear his voice speaking this:

       "May the good earth be soft under you 
when you rest upon it,
and may it rest easy over you when,
at the last, you lay out under it,
And may it rest so lightly over you
 that your soul may be out 
from under it quickly,
and up, and off,
And be on its way to God."

                                          With Love,
                                                          Nigel.
                                                          xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 25 Oct 14 - 11:59 AM

I'll keep Aunt Chris, Sammy, and Ann (as well as the rest of us!) in mind as I go about a very stressful and decision-filled week. We have sunshine today after days of rain and wind.

Nigel, I appreciate you remembering me. I don't post much, and cannot for privacy reasons, but your generosity in thinking of me is appreciated.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Oct 14 - 12:56 PM

Out of words worth sharing for awhile now, but heart still open and here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Oct 14 - 09:22 PM

Love to Aunt Chris from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Oct 14 - 09:44 AM

Thoughts and prayers for Ann and Aunt Chris, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Oct 14 - 05:22 AM

Thank you, everyone. Hating the waiting...
                     
London's looking beautiful this morning. The sun is shining, the leaves are turning & falling. Autumn is most definitely upon us.

          Much love to You All,
                                           Nigel.
                                           xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link.
Date: 27 Oct 14 - 05:47 PM

Here's hoping, mauve, that whatever the challenges are this week, it goes ok. Thoughts and prayers also to aunt chris, Nigel and Ann, Wendy,billy and sammy, as well as entering into the rejoicing.               We are at caravan at windchelsea with the boys. Tommy don't seem too bad , but his readings are too low sometimes, and we are always aware that at 15 now the danger increases with his condition.      At church in rye yesterday, becky had a strange experience. She 'heard' a voice telling her tommy was leaving, and had a vivid image of him radiant and restored. This was disturbing and comforting at the same time. I suggested it could be a spiritual experience, or maybe a chemical reaction in the brain.                Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Oct 14 - 07:49 PM

Pete, Becky's experience must have been unsettling. I hope Tommy has many good days ahead. He is blessed to have your care and love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Oct 14 - 08:52 PM

As Iris Dement conveyed so well....
Let the Mystery Be

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Oct 14 - 05:47 AM

Good morning all,

the sun is out in Frinton this morning, sparkling on the blue sea, in fact it is unseasonable warm for the end of October.

Sending love and healing to " auntie Chris" and Ann, Tommy, Maeve , Gnu and of course our captain Nigel.

Sammy had a difficult weekend, mainly in bed, she will see her GP on Thursday and insist (?) on a hospital emergency appointment but I am phoning the Private Consultant's secretary to day as a back up. We had the little girls over the weekend and took them to see their uncle Christopher and Reuben. We saw the concert with "Sid " from the BBC and they all really enjoyed themselves, although swatting a fly and breaking a three hundred year old window wasn't in the plan!! Good job Christopher is the theatre manager!!

sailing on

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 03:55 AM

300 year old glass!

Each October I attend a small festival/gathering at Australia's oldest industrial complex taht is still in use, the Old Goulburn Brewery built 1832-36 & each year I check out the glass in the Mill windows. One pane has a pontil mark the size of my thumbprint, another one has a tiny pontil mark & I make sure they are still there as some panes are broken. Fortunately the owners love the history of the complex & would never replace the panes with modern glass.

But I still look!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 05:24 AM

I derive an enormous sense of peace & protection, simply reading your posts. It's like walking into a warm, cosy room, full of my closest, most loved, most trusted friends. There would have to be a log fire of course (-: I'm in that room right now.
          There is some news regarding Aunt Chris. She is due a further biopsy tomorrow & was told by her Oncologist that despite the difficulty of treating the form of cancer she has, once treated, the success rate is better than 95%. Ann & I are hoping for good outcomes, all-round. Ann continues to play the waiting game...test results & a referral to the surgeon who saved her life seven years ago when she was diagnosed with a metastatic malignant melanoma.
         Which brings me to me! I was told yesterday that some of the meds. I've been taking for over three years have been miss-prescribed. The side effects I've endured, coupled with the fact that they have caused life-long complications (which require additional treatment) renders me incandescent with anger & confusion. Someone once said: "If you're angry, take action. Don't become paralysed by the anger". I'm going to speak to my solicitor today with a view to sending a strongly worded letter to the CEO of the relevant health authority...a 'shot across the bow', not the first step towards litigation. Proving negligence is a notoriously difficult, expensive, long drawn-out process, which I can neither afford nor sustain constitutionally.
         Sending love & Life's rich blessings to you all. Could someone put another log on the fire, please?
                            Nigel
                            xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 08:45 AM

Thoughts and prayers for all and another log on the fire.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 05:09 PM

I have just seen and savoured Nigel's posting of last Monday morning. He puts it well. Autumn, Keat's "season of mists and mellow fruitfulness" is in its full glory in England at this time. I and my true love were in London, and Kent, recently and enjoyed it all to the fullest.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 05:14 PM

looks like some gentle light coming through them ol windows, Sandra.
to quote a stones song from exile on main street
" may the good Lord shine a light on you..."
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 10:18 PM

Will try again with a post that I tried to submit about 6 times last evening...

Keeping you all in heart and mind each day. Days waiting for test results have to be some long old days. Prescription med damage...long term use of Arthrotec does bad things to kidneys; fortunately we had one doc retired and replaced with one who was aware, and I probably haven't lost enough to be in trouble.
We're both cruising along fine physically, and Judy continues to do remarkably well considering surviving a remarkably long time "flat-lined". We're nowhere near at the level of invalid care, but numerous little mental disconnects, and frequent difficulty in communicating, can be taxing, especially for the lady herself. Thanks be that she can still enjoy singing in the choir (so long as her friends help see that the stole goes over the robe, there is something about changes in clothing outside our own home...) and that we both can still enjoy morning exercise-followed-by-coffee-with- friends routines, travel, etc.    Keeping you all in heart and mind each day. Days waiting for test results have to be some long old days. Prescription med damage...long term use of Arthrotec does bad things to kidneys; fortunately we had one doc retired and replaced with one who was aware, and I probably haven't lost enough to be in trouble.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 29 Oct 14 - 10:20 PM

Sigh...when I finally get it to submit, it does that...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Oct 14 - 05:05 AM

Some odd things lately. I know Max has taken the server down at times... perhaps a tweaking isn't taking?

Autumn you say? I got yer autumn right here...

Statements
4:50 AM ADT Thursday 30 October 2014
Special weather statement in effect for:

Moncton and Southeast New Brunswick
Snow possible on Sunday.

A significant low pressure system will pass south of Nova Scotia Saturday and Sunday. Precipitation is expected to start as rain on Saturday. As northerly winds develop Saturday night into Sunday bringing colder air, some parts of New Brunswick could see significant snowfall.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Oct 14 - 09:19 PM

Aw, Nigel, I share your anger while I'm still hoping for the best possible outcomes for you, Ann, and Chris.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Oct 14 - 11:43 PM

Still not able to find my own voice.

ON A DAY LIKE TODAY
(Bob Dyer)

On a day like today, in the heat of this late summer weather,
There's a haze in the trees and the sound of the bees in the clover;
There's a hawk in the sky, there's a shine on the wide river's water,
And I feel deep inside something wanting to stay here forever.

CHORUS: But the seasons keep changing,
And the days just keep running away,
And forever's a gift you're forever giving away.

On a day like today, in the last golden days of October,
There's a chill in the air and a light haze of frost on the clover;
There's a fire in the trees, there's a sound in the breeze like a whisper,
And I feel deep inside something wanting to stay here forever.

On a day like today, in the heart of a long, bitter winter,
With the light from the moon making stars on the snow in the clover,
I sit down by the fire in the heat of its slow, dying embers,
And I feel deep inside something wanting to stay here forever.

It's a morning in spring, and the dew on the jewel weed still glistens,
And I almost can hear new life being born as I listen;
I walk down by the spring and I drink from its clear flowing water,
And I feel deep inside something wanting to stay here forever.


On A Day Like Today

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Oct 14 - 06:40 AM

Beautiful, apposite lyrics, Janie. It doesn't matter...your words, someone else's. You took the time & trouble to search out that lovely song & let someone else speak for you. I say: "Why not?"
         I wrote earlier about "Thread Fatigue". When a thread has been running for as long as 'Jane's Rainbow', I think there is also the possibility of "Comment Fatigue" too. There have been many times I've struggled to find something 'from the heart' that was both fresh & comforting. Unlike Janie, I often simply didn't post. Janie, the words may be someone else's, but the feelings & emotions they express are yours.
                                    With Love,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Oct 14 - 07:09 AM

Ditto, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Nov 14 - 07:16 AM

Love & greetings from a sunny, autumn day in London. We are becalmed...but I'm hoping that signifies respite, healing & a lessening of Life's pressures.
                                 Always in my thoughts,
                                                                   With Love,
                                                                                    Nigel.
                                                                                    xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 05 Nov 14 - 07:56 AM

Rainy day in Frinton, but nice to hear that the sun is not far away Nigel,

love to you and Ann
and to all on board

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 05 Nov 14 - 08:08 AM

From what Nigel and billybob report above, I'd much rather be in London than in Frinton at this time!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Nov 14 - 11:58 AM

Typical November hear but 150 km to my NW, 45 cm of snow Saturday and 1000s without power. We got an inch Saturday night and it melted by noon.

Bless all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Nov 14 - 03:49 PM

we are not far from London, and it has been grey and chilly here.
hope you don't get too much of that white stuff, too soon, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Nov 14 - 10:01 AM

Arise, Rainbow.

Maeve, surviving

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Nov 14 - 12:09 PM

Glad to hear you are surviving, m.

As for snow... rain and about 10C here. Supposed to turn to wet snow over night but expect only 4 cm which will melt soon. I heard 25 - 40 cm again to my NW but I haven't checked to see if they are getting it.

Sail on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Nov 14 - 06:56 AM

Gnu, really enjoying your local weather reports. They tweak my imagination & bring me closer to you.

Maeve, consider The Rainbow arisen! I trust that your 'surviving' is as broad-based as possible & if we're in "Light at the end of the Tunnel " mode, may the light be copious & ever brighter.

Sincere thanks to those Catters who have participated in my "In Flanders' Fields" project, raising funds for The Royal British Legion. (PM me for details).

                                  With Love to You All,
                                                                Nigel
                                                                xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Nov 14 - 12:19 PM

Long post... PC crash... recap...

Tweak, eh? Noon... 0C. wind 40 - 60kph, WC (Wind Chill) -8C, 10mm of ice and snow on roof will not melt today.

Tis what I call a nipply day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Nov 14 - 12:26 PM

I am still here and looking at this thread every time I go to Mudcat. I haven't had much to say and still don't, but I continue to send love to everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Nov 14 - 12:30 PM

Oh... that's weird... after I logged back in after the crash and was typing my last post, my post posted as I was typing. I was half way through the next sentence and it doesn't even appear. The 'Cat be scratchin!

PS... CBC Radio's The Debaters is almost over. Highly recommended.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Nov 14 - 01:25 PM

After Jane died, her eldest son became a man in every sense of the word. The burden of responsibility he bore, so stoically, became, after months had passed, almost unbearable. There was nothing I could do that would change things in any meaningful way, so I wrote him these lines:

"And should a salt-tinged tear wash o'er thy cheek,

Think not it doth belie that thou art weak.

Rather, 'tis a sign of love & losing

one who was so close, their loss, confusing.

For We, bereft, our lives persist,

Enshrouded by a frightful mist

of anger, pain & masked emotion,

Forestalled love, defiled devotion.

Stumbling blind, we clutch the air,

With nought to do but Death forswear.

We search for answers, there are none

that comfort bring to anyone;

'tis time that will a healing bring,

'tis time dictates:" Life's Song to sing".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Nov 14 - 02:16 PM

so well written and expressed, nigel. bless you      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Nov 14 - 04:03 PM

And all said "amen".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Nov 14 - 04:33 PM

Indeed, froggy, indeed. Thank you, Nigel

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Nov 14 - 08:25 PM

Thank you, Nigel.

Thank you, All.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Nov 14 - 06:09 AM

Thank you for your posts. I'm hoping you might be able to help...I couldn't come up with a title that I liked for the poem. Any suggestions?
                      With Love,
                                       Nigel
                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Nov 14 - 08:22 AM

Life song

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Nov 14 - 09:09 AM

Beautiful words Nigel

xxxxxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Nov 14 - 10:05 AM

Nigel, I keep hearing your lovely poem as a being for a SATB quartet/chamber music sort of thing.
I like Sandra's suggested title.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Nov 14 - 01:02 PM

Sandra, I like "Life Song" very much. I'll wait a day or two more to allow for any more suggestions & then make a decision.

Maeve...that could be one of the best ideas I've been presented with in a long, long time. The piece on which I'm currently working is nearly finished, so an SATB quartet, perhaps accompanied by an instrumental quartet is a very tempting proposition. Much food for thought here.
                   Thank you all, so much,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                        Nigel
                                                                        xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Nov 14 - 05:27 PM

I thought of a couple of titles but... Sandra nailed it.

BTW... a Honda snowblower should be in the raised position when you check the oil as doing so negates having to clean up spilled oil and add more. Jusss sayin eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Nov 14 - 06:26 AM

Agreed, gnu, I think Sandra has nailed it, but I'll wait another day before I decide.

Is it just the Honda snowblower that needs to be in the raised position for an oil check? (-; or is this a characteristic of all snowblowers? My thirst for knowledge has got the better of me (-;....oh yeah...what's 'snow'?
                                                                Love to All,
                                                                                  Nigel
                                                                                  xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 14 - 01:33 PM

Few snowblowers, if any (?), have the option of setting the angle of the blower. That's why Honda blowers cost so much.

"what's 'snow'?" Pop over tomorrow and you can see for yourself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Nov 14 - 05:16 PM

I saw snow once! it was very pretty & fun!

a friend moved to a town in the Snowy Mountains & the weekend I visited was the week before the start of the skiing season. I hada great time sliding on the snow on my leather-soled shoes & also made a snowball & threw it. Inner-city birds do not have proper snow clothes & I was glad to wear my friend's spare jacket. Kids had made a snow man, too.

As the weather was not obeying the holiday season schedule the snow blowers were out & that added to the fun.

It left me one of my perfect moon memories - full moon seen thru a leafless tree with a mountain peak behind.

sandra (who has seen many pics of the amount of snow gnu & other Canadians & northern Americans get)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 06:21 AM

Sandra, your title: "Life Song" is the one I will use. Thank you very much. The more I see it within the context of the poem, the more I realise how appropriate it is. I'm still pondering whether to compose a SATB setting, along the lines Maeve suggested. Then again, the poem & a vocal setting could happily coexist...why not?

       Please forgive my 'snow joke', gnu. I was born several miles east of where I now live & by now, in the 40s/50s, there would have been a first covering of snow. A 'White Christmas' was practically guaranteed. We lived at the top of a hill, surrounded by gently sloping fields which were perfect for sledging. It was not uncommon for us to be snowed in...shovels & the resulting aching muscles were the order of the day. My Grandmother planned ahead, so the larder was well-stocked...she'd had plenty of practise in self-sufficiency throughout WW2. The snow often stayed until well into February, leaving those strange, rather grubby piles that simply refused to melt. All of which makes my: "What's Snow?" comment, unfunny & clumsy.
                         With Love,
                                          Nigel
                                          xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 08:11 AM

these strange, rather grubby piles?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 08:33 AM

Clumsy? No. I knew you were joking.

It's falling gently now. I don't expect much more than a few inches. It's pretty... when inside looking out. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 02:07 PM

Snowin a banshee here for the last eight hours. Must be 2" on the roof. The wind is whipping it at just over straight down. But, I have enough in stock for just such a megastorm : two years of provisions for two people, gas to run the 6500w generator feeding Mum's emergency panel for a week, firewood for my house for a month, water for a month (not including snow), and, well, let's just say that I am a Boy Sprout... always prepared. And, if anarchy reigns during the ensuing chaos, I have the necessary quip to save harmless those that I love and hold dear.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 02:10 PM

Nigel... a dusting of snow in Mum's driveway.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 06:45 PM

looks like an awful lit of shovelling there, gnu !.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 11:31 PM

Sure looks like more than a dusting to me, gnu! Shovel safely!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Nov 14 - 11:46 PM

Oh Jeez, gnu! And winter isn't here yet. That much snow would shut down my neck of the woods for 2 weeks! Hope the leaves are all off the trees to reduce breakage and power failures.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Nov 14 - 04:05 AM

Sandra, that's exactly what I had in mind, except your 'grubby piles' are much larger than the ones from my childhood memories! Your Postman is made of tough stuff...shorts?!

Gnu, I think you & my Grandmother would have really hit it off, particularly on the 'be prepared/self sufficiency' stakes. Come to think of it, I think you would've enjoyed her company anyway. She used to annoy the hell out of my Mother by disclosing 'family secrets' which my Mother had gone to considerable lengths to conceal...I loved it!
      Clearly, your definition of 'dusting' & mine diverge somewhat...our front doorway was never THAT buried!
      From an overcast, damp, but snowless London,
                                  Much Love to You All,
                                                                   Nigel
                                                                   xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Nov 14 - 04:34 AM

That pic was taken back in the 90s.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Nov 14 - 08:59 AM

Nigel, that postman was taken by a Canadian friend, & there were 3 pics in the series - postie in summer gear, mother in warmer clothes holding handy of toddler who looks like a mini-Michelin man & householder wearing a tracksuit (or similar) beside the heaped up snow!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Nov 14 - 12:01 AM

Good morning! How are you all doing today?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 18 Nov 14 - 07:49 AM

I'm glad, for the sake of gnu, that that scary picture was taken in the 90s and not on 15 Nov 2014!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Nov 14 - 09:59 AM

Good morning, ChanteyLass & Manuel, although for me it's a good afternoon. Ann is spending every waking minute making cards for Christmas. Our eldest Granddaughter has organised a 'card party' for tomorrow night, at which Ann can sell her wares. As for me, I'm wrestling with the final few bars of an octet for Violas. Paraphrasing the famous conductor, Sir Thomas Beecham (sp.?): "Start well...end well...the audience will have largely forgotten what happened in between!" He was certainly right about "end well".
          Much Love to You All,
                                           Nigel
                                           xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Nov 14 - 01:07 PM

Beckey done just about all the Xmas shopping.    Apart from her loving shopping (sexist observations! ), she wanted to make sure it was all done in case tommy was in hospital over the holiday season again. But so far he seems to be doing pretty well.                     There,s something special about getting a well made hand made card, esp when you know the craftsperson. We had quite a lot left from mum, and most are now gone, but some are kept and treasured by loved ones.      Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Nov 14 - 07:55 AM

Glad to hear Tommy is doing okay.

Did someone mention snow?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Nov 14 - 08:54 AM

All this snow talk is making me shiver! Making hot chocolate in the galley, who has the marshmallows?

Trying to get organised for tomorrow nights Chamber of Commerce meeting, don't ask !! My father always said do not join a committee or offer to help! Wise words, but I have been the secretary for 5 years and as the chairman hasn't shown his face for a year I seem to be acting Chairperson, as if I have the time? So we are up to our eyes organising our Late Night Christmas event for December 12th. I have to book the entertainment, two silver bands, a pipe band, folk band and a few solo singers, childrens choirs, dance troupes.( No morrismen so far, so if you are within travelling distance of Frinton you are very welcome!!)all this with a rotten cold and a broken toe.( tried to look after mum, make a Christmas cake, clean the house all at the same time on Monday , and walked into the caster under the settee, OUCH!

So hot chocolate and thirty minutes with feet up.

Love to all,

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 19 Nov 14 - 10:07 AM

Excellent idea, billybob. Hot chocolate is fun. Hope the poor toe mends quickly. My pal Joey broke a toe in a similar accident the day he turned 40!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Nov 14 - 10:05 PM

Wendy, I'll second that OUCH, and Pete I'll second gnu's comment. Nigel, I wish you success with your octet for violas and the same for Ann and her cards.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 04:53 AM

That's a lot of work without a broken toe! I hope it heals up quick like.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 05:41 AM

I've ordered an immediate change of course...we're heading for America. All able-bodied crew members who are not snowbound, please assemble on deck. Bring a large shovel if you have one. Gnu-type snowblowers are equally welcome.

      Seriously, how is everyone Stateside? The footage we've seen on the news in the UK verges on the unbelievable...the extent & sheer volume of the snowstorm takes my breath away...and more to come...gulp!

      Please check in with a brief: "Ok here", assuming your internet connection is functioning!

      Wendy...more hot chocolate & feet up, please.

      More about cards & violas later (-:

      Take good care of yourselves,
                                                   Much Love to you all,
                                                                                    Nigel
                                                                                    xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 06:03 AM

Ouch indeed, Wendy! May it heal quickly.



Fine here, Nigel. Colder than I ever remember it being this early, but snow free.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 07:25 AM

Fairly snow free in Maine on the coast, too, just a bit colder than usual this early in the season.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 08:08 AM

Good morrow, sorry, afternoon,Nigel. Re your penultimate post, I do hope that you are close to breaking the back of those final bars and that the card party was a success. By the way, if the bracketed"sp?" was an indication of doubts about the correct spelling of Sir Thomas's surname, they were, happily, unfounded.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 11:10 AM

We be fine; so far our southeastern Michigan area has just had an inch or two over the last four days.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 11:53 AM

Olddude has a thread about the snow. Not a usual occurrence but not unheard of. When yer snuggled up next to a Great Lake, it's bound to happen. I think the shock of it comes from being so early in winter.

We are due for one but I hope, for Mum's sake, it doesn't come anytime soon. The last one was in 92. If memory serves (50/50 chance of that), we had 1.6m. Again with the memory, I think the pic of Mum's driveway I posted was taken after that storm.

Now, when I was a boy... >;-)

Of course, the big talk around the water cooler is whether or not the Buffalo Bills game on Sunday will go ahead as planned. They have asked fans to help out. Here's a quote from an article :

"Love your football team? Time to put your shovel where your heart is.

Amid forecasts that Buffalo, New York could see one year's worth of snow over three days in the first snowstorm of the season, the city's beloved NFL team has taken to extreme measures to clear its hallowed playing grounds in time for Sunday's big game — kickoff time, 1 p.m. Eastern. An eye-popping 220,000 tons of snow has been dumped on the Ralph Wilson Stadium, enough to fill the team's fieldhouse eight times over, says the Bills.

"We have not had this much snow as far as we know in the history of our team," said Andy Major, the Bills's vice-president of operations and guest experience, in a news release. "It might take three days or so to remove one foot of snow before a game, and now we've got four feet of snow on a 200-acre site, where there's potential for more coming. So right there, it gives you the magnitude.""

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 03:30 PM

are they seriously aiming to clear the stadium of snow so a game can proceed, presumably attended by fans driving to it on dangerous roads...............!?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 03:31 PM

We can send you some of our heat to melt your snow, if you like......we're in the throes of yet another heatwave. I am over summer already, and it hasn't even officially started!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 08:45 PM

I'm fine here in Rhode Island where parts of the state (including mine) got only an overnight dusting a few nights ago. It stuck to the grass, not to pavement, and turning on my car's windshield wipers cleared away the snow left on my car when I wanted to drive.

The football game will probably be played in another city. The powers that be have given up on clearing the stadium in time. Also, warming and possible rain may cause flooding in the area. Let's hope the meteorologists are wrong about that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 20 Nov 14 - 10:27 PM

According to my friend the die-hard Buffalo Bills fan with the season tickets who travels from Maine to Buffalo for every home game, the game's been postponed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter fro
Date: 21 Nov 14 - 03:35 PM

m seven stars link.            I was reading about the buffalo snow and looking at the pictures on ...the mail on line...I see the game has been rescheduled elsewhere, according to that site.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Nov 14 - 05:33 AM

Very comforting & reassuring to read so many responses. The media, of course, tends to concentrate on the worst hit areas (more opportunities for dramatic pictures & hyperbole). Your posts provide a broader view which the 'news hounds' would rarely bother with. All the life boats aboard The Rainbow are at your disposal, should the predicted thaw happen sooner & quicker than desired (being a metaphorical ship, the number of lifeboats is unlimited...naturally!)

Manuel, you were correct about my (sp.?)...one of those words that is so familiar to me & having typed it, the doubts crept in. Thank you for the affirmation. Ann's card party was successful, due largely to the efforts of our two Granddaughters who visited every house in their road, knocked on the doors & delivered a personal invitation. They also made mince pies & warmed up a huge panful of mulled wine. When Jane was still with us, the first card party was her idea. It was an absolute delight & very moving to see her daughters taking up the reins.

The composing of the viola octet is complete, but still to do: editing, a final mix & mastering & score preparation, prior to publication. There are times when I find these processes absorbing & rewarding & times when they frustrate the hell out of me!

                Keep warm...stay safe...much love to you all,
                                                                                     Nigel
                                                                                     xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Nov 14 - 01:20 PM

Glad to read of it going so well, Nigel . Sounds like a lovely event.    Blessings.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Nov 14 - 01:38 PM

What Pete said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 22 Nov 14 - 02:40 PM

Pleasing, Nigel, to hear party was a success and of progress being made with octet. Don't think too much about the frustrations, which serve, after all, to strengthen us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Nov 14 - 02:41 AM

Big day in a small way for me, today. I'm playing guitar & mandolin for a recording session at a local studio. Haven't played 'properly' since 2005. I've heard the song, so I know roughly what will be expected of me...some solid rhythm playing on guitar & the occasional 'fill' on mandolin. I'm looking forward to the session immensely...only three of us...we've known each other for ages, so we'll probably end up talking & drinking tea more than recording! It's a reunion for the three of us. We haven't worked together for several years...life & all it's vicissitudes getting in the way, but a chance meeting in the street; a brief phone call & voilà...take 1.
                      Keep warm, stay safe, much love to you all,
                                                                                        Nigel.
                                                                                        xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Nov 14 - 03:50 AM

a most excellent chance meeting

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Nov 14 - 03:04 PM

Sounds like it is going to be fun.....just so long as it don't descend into "bedlam" !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Nov 14 - 05:54 AM

Pete, I'm going to have to rename you: "Mad Tom"! You obviously know your Halliard Broadsides.
      No, bedlam it wasn't & we only spent half an hour chatting & drinking tea before we got down to work. A scheduled three hour session had to be curtailed due to a very sore bunch of left-hand fingers, but we did succeed in getting a couple of choruses 'in the can'. Not folk music...my friends are writing m.o.r. ballads (we believe that there is still a market for melody & intelligent lyrics). The sort of songs that singers like Adele could do a really good job with. Next session, next week...can't wait!
            Trusting that all is well with everyone,
                                                                     With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel.
                                                                                     xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Nov 14 - 12:54 PM

Sunny and 18C! I have an uneasy feeling about it. 3/4 moon is Saturday. This is the seventh cycle of cold-warm-cold this fall and this is pretty warm. Not that there could be a Buffalo on the way but any amount of snow bothers Mum greatly (yes, I know youse have heard that before) so I do get uneasy feelings these days. The rags are talking about a possible snow on Thursday but the various forecasts are all over the place so I'll have to rely on my 40+ years of experience living here and say... it ain't here yet so we'll see.

Glad to hear your session went well, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Nov 14 - 10:46 PM

Well, I'm still fine but a friend called me this morning (Tuesday) to tell me she broke her upper arm in 3 places yesterday when a steel door of her bulkhead crashed down on it. She was able to walk to a neighbor's house. The neighbor, a retired nurse, drove her to the emergency room and home after she'd been put in a cast and sling and given meds. Tomorrow I'll drive her to an orthopedist's office. She may need surgery. This friend is ill-prepared to dress for this. She lives alone. She does have some elastic-waist slacks but all her tops are pullovers. She has no shawls or capes, but she did think she could find a throw that might do for a shawl. I'm bringing her 3 flannel shirts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Nov 14 - 12:32 PM

OH DEAR! How tragic for her. That's some kinda rough go!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 26 Nov 14 - 03:38 PM

Oh, I can feel for your friend - a broken arm is no fun at any time, but so much worse in cold weather because of practicalities such as getting dressed etc. Perhaps a loose cardigan or jacket might be the thing too.....one could maybe be sourced from a thrift shop?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Nov 14 - 07:19 AM

Wishing everyone "over there" a Very Happy Thanksgiving ,

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Nov 14 - 11:16 AM

Thanks, Wendy; and a Happy Thanksgiving to everyone "over here". : )

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Nov 14 - 06:53 PM

Happy Thanksgiving from me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Nov 14 - 04:55 AM

One day late...apologies to all celebrating Thanksgiving. Sending you much love & every good wish. Trusting the turkey was cooked to perfection!
       ChanteyLass, your friend is one unlucky lady...three breaks...one is more than enough with which to contend. I hope she is comfortable & receiving the best of care.
       Giving thanks for my irreplaceable Friends aboard The Rainbow,
                                          With Love,
                                                          Nigel
                                                          xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Nov 14 - 09:59 PM

My friend is doing surprisingly well. On Wednesday the orthopedist replaced the hospital cast with a shorter, lighter one. He wants to see her again in two weeks. She scheduled that next appointment without consulting me even though I was in the waiting room. She knew the first appointment was at an inconvenient time for me, but since I knew someone at the hospital had scheduled it, I cancelled my plans to accommodate her. Unfortunately, she scheduled the next one for the same time and day of the week, interfering with the same two things on my schedule. When she told me, I said, "What? Why didn't you ask if that time was all right with me?" She said, "Maybe my neighbor can drive me." I told her if her neighbor couldn't, I want her to change the appointment to Thursday when I can be free at any time. I talked to her tonight (Friday) and she hasn't talked to the neighbor or changed her appointment (which she couldn't have done on yesterday's Thanksgiving holiday) yet. Of course I will drive her even if I have to cancel my plans again, but I won't be happy! Someone just nominate me for the Selfish Award!

JennieG, I found another shirt for my friend and a sweatshirt with a long top that buttons, and she found that she could get into one heavy winter jacket.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Nov 14 - 06:06 AM

Someone just nominate YOU??? for the Selfish Award. I think not!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Nov 14 - 06:57 AM

What gnu said & as us Brits sometime say: "With knobs on!"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 29 Nov 14 - 09:53 AM

ChanteyLass, you are far from selfish - "as far", as the Jamaican song puts it, "as the east is from the west"!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 29 Nov 14 - 03:41 PM

Chanteylass, you aren't being selfish - your friend is thoughtless. There's a difference!

Five years ago I broke my arm while on holiday in Canada and for the rest of our holiday there it was cold enough to need warm clothes, but I managed all right. When we came back to Oz light summer wear was all that was needed......I wore skirts instead of long pants, for ease of dressing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Nov 14 - 07:37 PM

Thanks, Friends. I needed reassurance and a place to whine.

I took my friend shopping today. She bought two huge sweatshirts that she can wear over her arm in the cast. She wanted to go to Walmart, so I took her there although I dislike the way it treats employees. However, I looked for a 7-inch (yes, 7) TV because mine died last night. I wanted to see if they had one although I planned to look elsewhere and buy at Walmart only if no other store had one. Walmart didn't have any and neither did any of the other 11 stores I went to before and after taking her shopping! She loves to shop but was understandably tired because of course she's not sleeping well. I hate to shop, but I was on a mission which failed. I have seen the small TVs online, but I don't shop online. Oh, and I told my friend that I normally shop for food and go to the laundromat on Thursdays and will take her with me then so she can do the same. She bought a few food items at Walmart today to tide her over. At my suggestion she also bought a laundry bag with an over-the-shoulder carrying strap since she won't be able to carry her laundry baskets.

I have a thyroid scan scheduled on Tuesday. My endocrinologist has been nagging me to get one, so this year I finally caved. Wish me luck!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Nov 14 - 08:31 PM

Good luck, ChanteyLass, and what others already have said regarding your thoughtless friend.

Reading daily, just not posting. Holding all in my thoughts with gratitude.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Nov 14 - 06:35 AM

Good luck!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 01 Dec 14 - 08:06 AM

Difficulty posting!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 01 Dec 14 - 08:14 AM

That difficulty now, happily gone,I hasten to wish you well, Chantey Lass, on Tuesday. I suspect that preparing for a thyroid scan is unpleasant. May God keep giving you the required strength.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Dec 14 - 03:09 PM

Echoing manuals thoughts, chanteylass, and all the previous relating to your friend.....who I reckon don't know how blessed she is to have a good friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Dec 14 - 04:22 PM

Manuel,the good news I that there is no preparation needed for the thyroid scan--well, I think it's really an ultrasound I'm going to have. I'll do yoga at the Y, change clothes, drive a short distance to the Y, fill out some paperwork, and then I'll be ready! So that is a good thing about this test.

Thanks again for the good wishes, folks!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Dec 14 - 05:52 PM

thyroid scans are easy - they just squirt thick sticky stuff on your neck & rub/squash it in with a monitor thingy. (insert smiley face) and you can watch the screen - which is a very boring image that tells you nuffin'

It's thyroid biopsies that have an ouch! And I'm due for my next scan & biopsy in March.

sandra (expert of 15 years duration!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Dec 14 - 01:02 PM

Sandra... does the pain last for long?

"Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read." Miles Cleverley.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Dec 14 - 09:34 PM

Sandra, 15 years--wow!

This is just a guess or positive thinking: I don't think anything was found. When I had parathyroid problems and needed surgery a few years ago, the technician spent much more time on one side of my neck than the other, and that turned out to be the side with the problem. This time both sides seemed to get equal attention with no hesitation or backing up. If there is a problem, I'll hear from the endocrinologist in a few days.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Dec 14 - 04:14 AM

I was diagnosed with nodes on my thyroid in 1999 & I see an endocrinologist yearly or in recent years every 2 years as the nodes have not grown. The largest node is 1cm.

gnu - they stick in a needle with some anesthetic (technician says 'this will sting') it does,

After an appropriate amount of time they poke in a biopsy needle into places shown to have nodes in the previous scan - sometimes I feel an ouch, sometimes I feel more then an ouch. But I'm sure there are many worse procedures.

eagerly awaiting your results, ChanteyLass

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 06 Dec 14 - 08:22 AM

Gnu, that's a good one. Clever of Mr Cleverly to come up with it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 06 Dec 14 - 08:32 AM

That quote is actually attributed to Mark Twain.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 06 Dec 14 - 10:25 AM

Following that last post (ranger 1's), someone is telling me the quote comes from Groucho Marx. Can someone else clear this up, please.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Dec 14 - 12:42 PM

Twain? Marx? Uncle Miles?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Dec 14 - 08:18 PM

Begging a little sympathy. Typing one-handed. Severe tendonitis in left shoulder. I'm left-handed and can't raise my arm more than 1/2" from side without severe pain. Shoulder, arm and hand throb constantly. Gonna be in sling for awhile. Daily toradol injection for 5 days - will eat the stomach lining beyond that. A wee bit better today after 3 injections. Got enough relief for a little sleep last night.

I iz pitiful *sniff* *whine*

No Christmas baking this year. *second sniff*

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Dec 14 - 11:34 PM

Ouch, Janie! I hope you feel better soon. I'm sending very gentle hugs.

Results from my thyroid ultrasound show that all is "stable" so no treatment is needed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 12:19 AM

Ouch, Janie! Sympathy coming your way, for sure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 05:18 AM

Good news, Chantylass!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 05:23 AM

sending lots of sympathy your way, Janie & gentle cyber hugs

sending congratulations to you, ChanteyLass

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 05:32 AM

Dittos on the OUCH! and the good news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 07:42 AM

Good news for ChanteyLass!

Oh dear,Janie! You will be receiving services from a physiotherapist, won't you?

Nigel, how are the sessions progressing?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 08:58 AM

Oh dear, lots of illness and broken bones, sending healing thoughts and love coming your way from a VERY cold East Coast of England, maybe not as cold as some of you in Canada and the US, but our summer carried on into the autumn and this is the first cold weather we have had!

I had an "almost" accident last week, juggling life as usual, making a cake, coping with mum, and trying to get the house ready for Christmas I overbalanced on the stairs and nearly fell backwards, managed to grab hold of the rail but pulled my ham string so I am hobbling about with a stick. Then yesterday took my daughter to see the Consultant ( at last) she has lost two and a half stone since August as the Crohns has really flared up. She has an appointment for a colonoscopy but not until January 2nd!

On an uplifting note my granddaughters Godmother was given the Keys to the city of London last week, a great honour. She can drive sheep over London Bridge!! Just wondering if anyone has actually done just that ? What fun!

Mother is disappearing more into her own world day by day,the strain of looking after her is becoming more stressful but Billy and I have each other and are coping. He is my rock and I am so lucky !

Sailing on

with much love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 06:28 PM

I call almost accidents doing ballet in mid-air! Like the time I tripped over the cat's eye on the (empty) road & did not fall!!!!

you have had more than your share of bad luck/health problems/family health problems/family problems -surely the gods/goddesses/imps/elves concerned will leave you be next year!

sending big hugs

sandra

baaaaaah

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Dec 14 - 08:50 PM

Loved that link, Sandra! I guess folks do indeed still drive sheep over the London Bridge!

Another ouch goes out to you, Wendy.

And my personal thanks go to all of you who have lifted my spirits.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Dec 14 - 06:25 AM

Since you've got the stick already, you could help with the sheep. Sad to hear about the time waiting for the colonoscopy. Hope things go okay.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Dec 14 - 07:09 AM

Hoping your infirmities don't endure too long, Janie and Wendy, and life gets a bit easier.      Blessings Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Dec 14 - 10:52 AM

Love it Sandra, and Gnu I knew the stick would be usefull, now where to find a flock of sheep?

xxxxx Wemdy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Dec 14 - 01:46 PM

At Ye Auld Sheep Shoppe? At Rent-a-Flock? At U-Shear?

Sorry. I am housebound and a tad bored with laundry and such. The weather here is "sideways". I just saw three ducks going up the street with a canoe. They had oilskins on and were bailing furiously.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Dec 14 - 06:33 AM

Sincere apologies for my absence...many reasons, most of which are tediously yawn inducing. Give me a day or two & I'll try to write something that's worth reading!
               Much love to You All,
                                              Nigel.
                                              xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Dec 14 - 11:49 AM

No need to apologize!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Dec 14 - 09:29 PM

Yes, we'll still be here. Don't rush on our account!

My friend who broke her upper arm in three places saw her orthopedist again yesterday. One of her neighbors drove her which was good because the day and time were bad for me as I complained recently. Her next appointment will be in three weeks at the same time. Oddly enough, that will work for me. It will be New Year's Eve so the Y will close before my favorite yoga class and the library book club which usually meets on the last Wednesday of the month will meet on the 17th, avoiding Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve. And I will insist on being with her when she makes the next appointment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 12 Dec 14 - 10:18 AM

Taking note belatedly, gnu, of your post of 6 Dec. (In the enchanting Yucatan, and distracted, last few days.) Not in any doubt that Twain, Groucho and Miles all said it - perhaps in that same order.

Happy, ChanteyLass, over your results.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Dec 14 - 11:20 AM

That last post would be from Manuel in the Yucatan.

We just saw a beautiful Red fox lope along our northerly property line, down the ravine, and into the woods. A beautiful beast, and welcome to all the grey squirrels he can catch...but Ne touchez pas les poules!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Dec 14 - 01:12 PM

If ya touch the chooks, yer gonna get.... ahem! Sorry about that. I was taught that any fox near a farm should be terminated with extreme prejudice. Same fer yer coons n such.

I recently became a member of a Facebook group whose members post pics and videos of wild animals in NB.ca (and from other places, mostly by NBers away from home). I am fascinated by the diversity and size of such in NB even though I have seen same ovr my many years exploring the wilds of NB. We have, although rare, large cougars (Eastern Panthers), fairly large wolves, and such. Of course, commonly seen are very large White Tailed deer, some HUGE moose, and many others but the pics and videos as of today are quite surprising given the habitat destruction by our GREEDY forestry industry.

Oh, yeah... in the spirit of the season... MERRY HO HO!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 12 Dec 14 - 01:19 PM

Thanks, Maeve, for identifying me. I guess that, though now out of the Yucatan, I remain a little distracted. And may I correct myself also,gnu, while I am at it. I believe that Groucho and Miles, but not Mark Twain, said it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Dec 14 - 07:54 AM

Hardly what I'd call: "Worth Reading", but it's where I'm at currently...mice & rats have decided that our cosy, 1930s, mid-terrace house is where they'd like to spend the winter. The pest control man has other ideas, but there is a smell that just won't dissipate. Our drains are playing up too...the utility company did their thing yesterday; found nothing & have to return today...still waiting.
       New meds...old meds, different dosages...feeling somewhat 'out of body' as things, hopefully settle. Ann's annual cancer review has been changed to quarterly. Her oncologist was slightly concerned, but very reassuring...neither of us felt in the least reassured!
       I've taken on a little session work with a couple of friends. Nice songs...relaxed atmosphere...good to be playing guitar again (and some mandolin too).
       Will post again when I've removed the peg from off my nose,
       Much Love to You All,
                                        Nigel.
                                        xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Dec 14 - 03:52 PM

Better get the jos sticks out ! Hopefully they will get on top of it tomorrow.   Hopefully too, it is only caution as far as Ann's cancer reviews are concerned, but I can understand how such change can be alarming. Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Dec 14 - 07:17 PM

Yeah... rough to hear but not all bad, Nigel. Thoughts and prayers atcya buddy.

And to all.. peace and good will.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Dec 14 - 08:57 PM

sending hugs & love & seasonable greetings!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Dec 14 - 09:14 PM

Thinking of you, Nigel. Have just been listening to your Meditation on 'The Comfort of Singing Voices' and thinking about this wonderful web of humanity that is continuing to be woven here.

Thank you.

And shuddering about the mice - I'm generally not much freaked out by critters, but confess that I turn into that caricature of the screaming, hysterical female on top of the table when I see a mouse in the house. (Barn or field doesn't bother me, but house? eeeeeeeeeek!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Dec 14 - 06:51 AM

Sending love to you Nigel and Ann xxxxx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 20 Dec 14 - 08:16 AM

You and Ann deserve comfort and support, the giving of which I understand to be this thread's very reason for existence. You have mine. At the same time, let me say that I want to think that Ann's oncologist is essentially exercising the abundance of caution of a seasoned professional in increasing the frequency of those reviews.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Dec 14 - 02:12 PM

Love from me, too, Nigel and Ann. I'm hoping for the best outcomes to all your worries.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Dec 14 - 02:26 PM

I'm still on the oars with the rest of the crew, pulling for Nigel, Ann, and all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Dec 14 - 07:02 PM

After a long time , on and off with portastudio, I finally have a finished collection ,and it will be a double cd, which I hope to sell locally in aid of children's hospice at home team. But not yet decided on what to do about duplicating and sleeve packaging.    I know it won't be big, but it is nice to have done it, especially as I was a complete non singer a few yr ago.       Hope those house hygiene problems are getting resolved Nigel.               Blessings all.      Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Dec 14 - 12:03 AM

wow! a new CD

goodonya Pete, for both creating it & selling it for a very worthy cause

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Dec 14 - 08:29 PM

Good work, Pete!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Dec 14 - 05:51 AM

I posted this poem some time ago. World events impel me to re-post as the New Year approaches, in the hope that changes occur for the common good & the future of Humankind:

"The People came from near & far to meet within their Place.
With noiseless feet & heads hung low, pain etched on every face.
"What ails thee, Friends?", The Wise Ones said, "We feel thy great distress".
What can be done, what needs be done to ease your wretchedness?"

Up spake a woman, young in heart, astute, clear-sighted she.
"Make us a Grail from which to drink to ease our malady.
Make us a Grail filled with our tears that we have shed full score.
Make us a Grail so fine & pure for we mayn't weep no more".

Perplexed, The Wise Ones pondered long this deeply felt request,
Concluding that a Grail so fine lay outside their behest.
"To form a Grail to hold your tears, we've neither ken nor skill.
A simple balm we can beget & thus your plea fulfil".

And so the healing balm was made & each received their share.
Returning home, they held it close, so mindful of it's care.
The World a better place became, but that was years ago,
Young Woman, 'tis your time again, The Wise Ones need to know".

I send Seasons' Greetings to each & every one of you. Without your love & friendship; your support during the dark, dark days as Jane slipped slowly from us, Ann & I would be 'in a very different place'.
                                           A toast: "To absent Friends"

                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Dec 14 - 06:45 AM

To absent friends

and to my friend's nana who is fading fast

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 24 Dec 14 - 08:33 AM

Nigel, from across the waters, I raise my glass (with its non-alcoholic contents) to that.

To quote, in parody, a poet who might have been revered: "... are people less friends because one [may never meet] them?"

Stay strong!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Feb 15 - 07:45 PM

Our much-appreciated host Max has a big challenge ahead of him. There has been a computer crash and at the moment Mudcat's records go back to Christmas. Let's do what we can to cheer him on to solve this latest challenge.

I've refreshed one of the fundraising threads in hopes many of us can donate something to cover whatever expenses Max may face with this set-back.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Feb 15 - 08:54 PM

excellent idea - it must be time for my annual donation (well, last one was dated 2014!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 05:55 AM

Thanks for the heads up, Maeve. Donation donated! It hardly needs saying, but without Max, we would not be sailing the seven seas of Life.

A quick update on our Travelling Twosome...they're both well, but very p****d off. They were ripped off by a cab driver in Bolivia. A £20.00 fare for a day's sightseeing turned into £150.00. The girls needed cash from an ATM...cabbie suddenly appeared once the pin number had been input, 'offering to help'. Before they had time to realise what was occurring, he was legging it back to his cab with a nice bundle of pesos. Fortunately, neither girl was physically harmed & a very important lesson learned about allowing a stranger, no matter how 'friendly' or 'helpful' they appear, anywhere near an ATM. Also fortunately, the ATM was outside their hostel, so they didn't get dumped in the middle of nowhere.
             Sending very best wishes to Max for a successful server repair.
                                  Much love to you All,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 07:20 AM

Oh dear. A rather expensive lesson that not all robbery hides behind the anonymity of spam.

The travellers will probably think of the obvious parts rather quickly:
- You need only one set of eyes and hands for the machine, thus the other set of eyes can be used to see what's happening around you.
- Puzzle over how the ATM-s of a country work when no-one is waiting, so you can be quick about it when you need to be.

But there's also the less obvious:
- You can't stop the professional robber, but if significant money only appears by magic from (a purse) somewhere in your clothes, then temptation isn't as strong for the weak and the wavering. In other words: don't ATM in front of someone who already expects money. Get the money beforehand, and of course don't show that there's more than is needed at that particular time.

(More than once I've carried three "wallets" on a journey, just so I would show only the amount of money appropriate for the occasion. A duo, could probably do things like that as well. It does require some foresight, though, about what kind of money will be needed.)


But, please, remember the rule of 3,2,1:
= 3 When you go, take your passport, your ticket and your (access to your) money.
= 2 When you return bring your good health and your good memories.
= 1 While travelling, enjoy yourself.

Currently, kuna tata (Swahili: there is a complication), but for the journey it's of no consequence.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 12:20 PM

Oh dear! I hope they have better luck from now on.

Good info, Mysha.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 12:54 PM

Jambo Mysha,
                     'Asante sana' for the great post. Hope my Swahili is correct. My Father taught me a few phrases when I was a kid. He'd spent several years in Kenya during WW2 & spoke Swahili fluently,
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel.
                                                             xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 12:59 PM

Just occurred to me: what browser do I use most? "Safari", another Swahili word.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 03:37 PM

Nigel, what a sour note for your daughter and her friend. I am so sorry this happened. I hope their remaining experiences are all good ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 21 Feb 15 - 08:43 PM

Karibu Nigel.

But I just used kuna tata because of the more familiar expression. So, tell the two travellers that they are indeed on a safari (in Swahili), that they should continue to enjoy themselves, and ha-kuna ma-tata. (There are not - complications -> No worries!)

Bye,
                                                                  Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Feb 15 - 12:30 AM

I tried to bring up a cached version of this thread to capture the missing posts, but since it was in existence before the gap in data, Google doesn't show a cached version, just a link to the existing version. If you do a Google search on the thread you can see links to a few individual posts that are cached from this period. I think if Max is able to retrieve the data that all of this will interleave itself, old and new.

SRS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Feb 15 - 04:04 AM

thanks for the info, Jeri

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Feb 15 - 07:10 AM

"if Max is able to retrieve the data that all of this will interleave itself, old and new.   SRS "

What happened last time is that all "replacement" threads were overwritten thus lost.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Feb 15 - 05:26 AM

I have no knowledge or understanding of the 'inner workings' of computers & their servers, so from a tech. p.o.v. I'm less than useless. I'm hoping that the missing data is just that; missing, not lost & gone forever...retrievable & restorable, sitting there, waiting to be found. As a self-declared, tech klutz, I find it nothing short of miraculous that we are still able to post. Mudcat survives, bowed, but not broken, very much in need of some TLC (Technical Loving Care). Please support Max, Joe & everyone closely concerned, in whatever way you can.
                   Sending every good wish for a successful outcome to Max & His Crew,
                                                          Nigel.
                  
                   (Copied to the 'Mudcat Crash' thread)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 07:29 AM

Morning crew,
I have been AWOL for about ten days, mum has been very ill, three Dr's visits needed on different days, Hooraah for our NHS! She has bounced back to good mobility but during the days that she was bed ridden I pulled a muscle in my neck ( ok I know, my own fault trying to lift her) so I have been bed ridden myself in horrid pain, actually made me cry!BB and daughter got me an appointment yesterday with our GP and now that has opened a can of worms. Daughter snuck in behind me and told the Doctor to look at my records as I never go to the Dr, well not for some years anyhow! So he took my blood Pressure and it was high ( no surprise really given the past two weeks, mum ill, funeral down in Surrey and worrying about mum while I was away) so now he has booked me for blood tests on Friday and an ECG Tuesday next! I don't do ill, really fed up.On top of that everyone forgot about the bad neck so I am just taking the paracetamol and mixing a nice aromatherapy concoction to self treat! Rant over, Oh and I just knocked a cup of coffee all over myself, first day back in the salon and I smell like Starbucks!!

lots of love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 07:48 AM

poor Wendy who does not do ill - & good on that sneaky daughter.

I hope your neck is feeling better soon - can you have physio or some other therapy for it?

and that your tests have good results.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 08:56 AM

Gentle hugs from Maine, Wendy. I don't do ill well, either! However, your new perfume smells divine, lol!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 12:37 PM

Sorry to hear how it has been so hard, Wendy . At least your mum is mobile again, but sorry to hear of the neck damage moving her.   Sometimes you have to go for it, and hope for the best...it's nobodies fault!.    GOd bless Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 01:01 PM

Wendy... my heart goes out to you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 01:29 PM

Oh Dear, Wendy! And as Sandra said, good for your sneaky daughter:>) sending Hugs!

Nigel, hope the girls have had their one and only misadventure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 01:33 PM

GUEST was me... Norton tossed my cookie and I didn't see it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 01:37 PM

Ah, Wendy; I'm sure we would rather have heard that you had been a bit of a pain in the neck to someone else, rather than having that much pain in the neck. Wishing much more comfortable times for you, and better fortune to those young wandering wenches.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Feb 15 - 07:28 PM

Wendy, it never rains but it pours (or snows, here). I hope your neck pain ends, your BP goes down, and future cups of java stay where you put them. I also wish your mother well. And tell your daughter I said thanks!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 03:27 AM

My Dear Wendy,
                        ChanteyLass couldn't have expressed it better...you certainly don't do things by halves! (-: (-: I'm hoping that by the time you read this, both you & your dear Mother are feeling much, much better. I also agree that your Daughter was right to 'snoop'. You've devoted an enormous amount of time & energy, caring for your Mother & BB, kept your business running & tussled with your brother. It's all too easy with so much on your plate to forget that you need caring for too, so bring on the coffee (preferably in it's cup!) & let's have some more of that personally centred aromatherapy, plus a touch of the good old NHS, courtesy of your GP.
                      A brief update on our travelling twosome. They have made it to Peru, where they will be doing some voluntary work, helping to build a school. That should keep them out of trouble for about a month. They have encountered no further problems. Just yesterday, they posted nearly 100 photos on FB. Judging by the expressions on their faces, they are having the time of their life!
                      Wishing Max & his crew, a calm sea & a prosperous voyage.
                      Sending much love to all who sail aboard 'The Rainbow',
                                                         Nigel & Ann
                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 11:19 AM

A few rhyming lines as we approach the end of February:

January days, January greys, long to feel the warmth of the sun.
As each day goes past, a little longer than the last,
My winter blues will soon be on the run.

January cold, January bold, standing at the head of the year.
For some a fearful time, closéd windows etched with rime,
Ashen faces bear a frozen tear.

January stays, January's ways are fickle, challenge all to raise a smile.
But February's here, means that Springtime's joy is near.
And January's gone it's yearly while.

                                                       Nigel
                                                       xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 12:46 PM

Fun stuff, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 02:30 PM

Good on your travelling twosome doing the voluntary work. Blessings.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 03:20 PM

Great to hear they are doing well, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 05:55 PM

A January/February poem here would refer to hot humid days & nights!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Feb 15 - 07:52 PM

I want to go to Peru and build a school. At least I might have wanted to if I were the age of Nigel's granddaughter and her friend!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Feb 15 - 11:54 AM

Apologies to all Southern Hemispheric Catters for my Northern Hemispheric verses. Maybe there's an opportunity here (thinking of you, Sandra (-:) for a corresponding, SH version...three, three line verses. They could stand alone, or it might be fun to interleave NH with SH. Anyone up for the challenge?
      Chantey, I'm sure if you made your way to Peru right now, you'd be welcomed with open arms. I concede that at age 19, some things can be easier to achieve!
                            With Love,
                                           Nigel
                                           xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 09:29 AM

Haven't been here (or, indeed, spent much time at Mudcat) for some time. I've come to the conclusion that the second year of widowhood is...more complicated than the first. Not necessarily worse. Not really "better" (whatever that's supposed to mean). Just different. And, well, complicated.

I had trouble going into the holidays this past November and December. Part of it was that my computer was in the shop for the entire month of November (along with my LIFE -- access to, well, EVERYTHING; I didn't think I would lose anything, but even that wasn't CERTAIN). And I came out of it with the newer computer that I'd bought a year ago and my backup and secondary computer arrangement totally reconfigured. The rest of the emotional complications stemmed from the fact that 2014 seemed more like the first "Other Anniversary", Christmas, and New Year's without Tom than did the holidays right after Tom died. Back then I was on autopilot, still numb, and, of course, I had to go to Milwaukee for my mother's funeral the week before Christmas.

I think I'm still stumbling through life. The weather this January and February certainly hasn't helped. "Beleaguered" is the one word that sums up this winter. I lost (literally; I have a clue where under the snow it is) my mailbox over a month ago and have to pick up my mail at the post office. My porch light got snow in it and doesn't work and it's looking like at least another month will have to go by before I can even assess what needs to be done. I thought I'd lost my driveway alarm due to piled up snow but, surprise!, I heard it this morning. (Probably wild turkeys rather than a vehicle.) Everything is more complicated -- even when the driveway is freshly plowed and snow is removed from in front of the oil intake, the driver decides the driveway is too narrow for his truck and I have to call my plow guy to work miracles so I can keep the house warm. A simple washing machine filter change results in a leak. The toaster oven kicks the bucket for no apparent reason. It's like being nibbled to death by ducks.

I thought I had skipped the part of grieving where you get angry with your loved one for abandoning you, but when I started reading Gail Sheehy's book, "Passages For Caregivers" (which I should have read when it came out in 2010 -- but caring for Tom distracted me and I forgot about it), I started screaming at Tom for not being here so I could read it aloud to him. I was surprised, too, a couple weeks ago when I had a full blown "grief day" which I not only didn't recognize until early afternoon, but I couldn't embrace -- I had things I HAD to do. (So I did them, then sort of collapsed afterwards and was asleep, exhausted, at 7:30 p.m.)

I'm in a bit of an odd space this morning, but can't do anything about it -- too many other things that HAVE to be done, including leading the Press Room session from 4:30-9:00. One thing I CAN do, though, is (after writing another check to my plow guy) see if I can sign up for another grief group that starts in April. I did one last year and it helped me understand the grieving process. Maybe this one will help me better understand this second year which is so different from the first. I wish I could figure out how to slow down from the gallop I've been at for the past four years or more. I wish someone would pat me on the head and say "There, there. Everything's going to be all right." Even if it's total bullshit.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 01:08 PM

Oh dear linn, bereavement is heavy enough without being literarily snowed under, and metaphorically with problems. Hope the return of internet access improves things for you and for a lifting of your spirits.      Blessings.         Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 02:12 PM

*Pat, pat* There, there. Everything's going to be alright.

Linn, you're one of the most capable people I know. Most people wouldn't even attempt to replace the filter in the washing machine themselves, much less consider it simple. Things will slow down, spring will come (no idea when, might not be until July this year...), and in the meantime, you have friends you can call and kvetch to.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 02:44 PM

Pete, I never was out of touch with the internet -- I had my iPad. It just made doing my primary email a little more complicated. The stressful thing was not having access to any of my writing, my archives, various address books, financial information, archived email, letters, etcet etcet -- my LIFE!

Tami, the washer filter is easy. It's a little plastic casing between the shutoff at the pipe just above the washer and hose that goes into the washer. You shut off the water (and, thanks to the plumbing work done last summer, I only had to shut the water off here instead of down cellar, too), unscrew the filter housing (well, a little more complicated -- unscrew the hose first so the housing can be unscrewed), pop in the new filter (they come in packs of two), and reconnect everything and Bob's your uncle.

Except I SHOULD have opened the filter package first. It's one of those that requires either an industrial strength machete or a small nuclear device. As a result of the delay between taking everything apart and popping the new one in, I may have put it in upside down...or not gotten the seal right, or something. Therefore, the leak. And I Just. Did. Not. have the patience to do it all over again right then. The laundry was done. I just shut off the water in the laundry room and popped the clothes in the dryer.

That was Monday. I haven't had the energy or patience to deal with it yet. Maybe tomorrow.

Called to sign up for the April grief group and, wouldn't you know it, the person I needed to talk to was out of the office today. So had to leave a message. (One more thing hanging.) I'd been looking forward to talking to her, too.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Feb 15 - 04:08 PM

You and I both know that changing that filter is easy, but MOST people don't. The number of people that don't know how to change a headlight bulb is pretty high, too, and that's a very simple procedure. So take the damned compliment, you earned it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Feb 15 - 07:31 AM

Glad you are planning on going to the bereavement group Linn. No pat on the head here, but a warm hug. And I can only imagine how this winter weather and isolation and that goes with feet of snow piled everywhere can add to feeling beleaguered.

And likely it eventually will be alright   But 'alright' will be something different from what it was before you lost Tom.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Feb 15 - 09:40 AM

That hug sounds like a good idea; have another. Sometimes life might feel easier if we didn't grow to love someone a lot, but I wouldn't wanta recommend avoiding it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Feb 15 - 04:06 PM

very sage frogprince. losing the loved one hurts, but the memories of that one sweet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Mar 15 - 06:57 AM

adding to the hugs heading to Linn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Mar 15 - 10:39 AM

Count me in. I've been following Linn on Facebook on a nearly daily basis. All I can say is that you are in my thoughts and prayers, Linn, and, given the support on Facebook, the same goes for many others. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Mar 15 - 05:44 PM

Oops, my post didn't post!

Hugs from me, too, Linn. I hope there'll come a time when I can get back to The Press Room to give you a real hug.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 07:20 AM

Nigel, so sorry to learn from you post of 21 Feb, which I'm just seeing, of the unfortunate experience of our youthful travellers in Bolivia. However, as we the older heads know, the experience shall prove most valuable hereafter. I, myself, was breezing through Trinidad, just off the northern tip of South America, for the better part of last week. Very happy to be back aboard with all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 07:47 AM

In the good news department, I just finished the last of the three snowshoe races I'd signed up for. What an amazing experience! I was one of only 35 people who ran all three races of the series. It was tough, but a good challenge. I blogged about the experience, if anyone gets bored. They're posted in most recent order, so you'll have to scroll down to reach part 1.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 08:46 AM

Well done, r1!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 12:13 PM

Good job, Tami! Hope you find your moose leather.

Linn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 07:06 PM

Tami, I thought I'd write "Cool," but on second thought "Cold" more appropriate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Mar 15 - 08:35 PM

The last one was quite warm, actually. I left my anorak in the car before I even started, by the top of the first hill, I'd asked the volunteer at the trail junction to hold onto my neck warmer for me, and by the end of the first 1/3 or the course, I'd ditched my hat and gloves.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Mar 15 - 11:06 AM

sounds like things might have got pretty interesting before the finish line...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 06:12 AM

Whoot, Frogprince that was just the post to lift our spirits! Tami how far did the stripping off go? Looking forward to the photos on FB !!

Linn, sending hugs from me too, glad to see you back on The Rainbow xx

I had the blood tests on Friday and the ECG yesterday just need to battle with the receptionist from Hell to get an appointment to see the GP, ( that he said I must have this week, do they communicate I wonder?)

Mum is much weaker day by day, only taking fluids no more pureed food, she weighs 6 stone 5, just like a little bird. She has no speech so understanding her needs is becoming very difficult. Also I found out this morning that social services had closed her case last August, no wonder we have had no follow up visits!!

Onward and upward!!

fondest love

Wendy

Oh and the aromatherapy oils worked on the neck, lavender, geranium and petit grain !xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 07:02 AM

closed her case??? was there a reason?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 07:06 AM

Wendy- Could you use picture cards to help your mum communicate her needs? Thinking of you and especially your mum. She has excellent defenders in your family!

Tami- Good for you!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 07:56 AM

Sandra, last August the mental health social worker said they were transferring mum to the community social worker as her team was possibly going to be closed . Somehow the transfer wasn't carried out! Yesterday the care company rang the continuing care team and hopefully they will be looking after mum's case from now on, fingers crossed. Maeve, yes we have tried pictures and cards etc, but we are past that now, we just have to interpret mums facial expressions and if she stands up hold her arm and see where she takes us!If we get continuing care then we will be funded for 24 hour care, it is very difficult to obtain but I am learning to jump through hoops! As long as we can keep her at home with us. It is beginning to wear Billy and I down but who knows how much longer mum will carry on? She has been living with us for four and a half years now and the deterioration has been getting worse almost daily, BUT she still has her lovely smile!

Wendy xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM

It stopped with the neck warmer, gloves and hat. I rethought having left off the neck warmer after I kicked snow down the back of my neck multiple times, though!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 01:58 PM

Wendy... thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 04:02 PM

and from here also. ......still has her lovely smile........not to mention a loving, thoughtful daughter and supportive son in law.            blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Mar 15 - 06:40 PM

Wendy, I hope that 24-hour care comes through. Your family has worked hard and deserve the help.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 02:55 AM

Hi,

"do they communicate I wonder?"

Wendy, judging from the way my mother's medicine prescription regularly turn out to be bungled when I fetch them from the GP's practice, I would say the answer is: Hardly.

Curiously, when prescriptions and appointments were all done in doctor's handwriting, which the layman would consider unreadable, there hardly seemed to be any problems, whereas it appears that now that everything is communicated by computer, coordination has become much more difficult .

Then again, that's probably an "unwarranted generalisation" (Does that translate correctly into English idiom?)
But at least, when we're feeling the urge to drag their keyboards away from them and fill in the forms ourselves, we'll now know it's not just us.

Bye
                                                               Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 06:39 AM

Oh what a can of worms...................

Got all the blood tests back and everything is clear, whew!!
But the blood pressure was still high, the ECG was ok I think, although he did keep looking at the screen and looking puzzled and then, just as I thought I was off out the door the Dr asked if there was any history of heart problems in the family?

So ok dad had a massive one when he was 55 but he was working for the Ministry of Defence in a very stressful job and was a heavy smoker, then my brother had a heart attack last year but had a very unhealthy life style. But, I am now on tablets and have to go to see a heart specialist!!

Not a very happy Bunny!!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 04:22 PM

I,m seeing doctor..s...for high blood pressure too. Been on tablets since last week but our home moniter is still registering high. I do hear that it is quite common as we get older. I suspect stressful situations don't help none, so here's wishing you some peace and calm moments, Wendy. Hopefully, with the sun appearing more often now, you might get to chill at the beach hut sometime.          Blessings.          Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 05:35 PM

Sailing - paddling with the all the good mates on this ship and the accompanying boats in the flotilla.   Old Ties and Companions

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Mar 15 - 09:27 PM

You may not be a very happy bunny, Wendy, but at least you are a live one and will be for many years to come.

It's hard to have to be treated for something which doesn't make you feel ill. I hope the medicine gets your BP where it should be and the specialist can help you keep it steady.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 07 Mar 15 - 08:09 AM

Have been unable to keep up with all the posts to this thread in recent weeks and hope I have not missed any from Moira, whose friends (Pearl and Tony, if memory serves me right)remain in my prayers. One wonders how they are doing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Mar 15 - 09:36 AM

Manuel- Mudcat had a crash and lost about 2 months of posts. I'll check with Moira and ask her how things are going with her friends.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Mar 15 - 10:53 AM

I posted but... oh well. Glad to hear about the test results, Wendy. Disconcerting about the poor bedside manners of the staff re the other, tho. Hope all is okay.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 08 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM

Maeve, thanks for going out of your way. You are kind.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Mar 15 - 01:32 PM

Glad to help, Manuel. Moira and her husband live far from us yet are long-time friends.

Moira tells me that sadly, although not surprisingly, her good and dear friend Pearl, died about 2 weeks ago. Her husband Tony is coping and has loved ones to support him. Perhaps we can still offer thoughts and prayers on his behalf, as well as Moira and other friends who are grieving this loss.

Wendy- I suspected that you of all people would have tried the picture cards already- and it was worth trying! I hope you can find peace knowing that your health matters to all who love you. If I am sick, I'm on my own. Please accept appropriate care. You're still strong and capable even when you may need some caring yourself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Mar 15 - 04:18 PM

Now the penny drops- I might have realized that Moira's friends are The Admiral and Pearl in this thread: 2015 Obit: Pearl O'Neill (Mrs Admiral)

Very special friends to many, and great friends of good music.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 09 Mar 15 - 08:14 AM

Thanks for your last two posts, Maeve. The grief one can feel on the passing of a total stranger! The obit thread was started, I note, on 23 Feb, the very first day of a very hectic visit by me to Trinidad and Tobago. No wonder I missed it. RIP, Pearl.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Mysha
Date: 11 Mar 15 - 06:34 AM

Just trimming the sails a bit to keep us from sailing into the unknown.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 12 Mar 15 - 06:32 PM

Sailing into the unknown? Can't have that! Everyone knows, "There be dragons."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Mar 15 - 04:33 AM

No need to be afeared o' dragons...we've got Gnu, Maeve & Janie! I think our dear, departed Pat P. would've made a fearsome adversary for dragons too.

Still here, reading, thinking, hoping, laughing, shedding a tear.

Triumphs & disasters...joys & sorrows...no matter what broadsides Life batters us with, there's usually someone aboard with knowledge & experience to offer wise words of comfort or a timely epithet.

Keep your eye on those sails, Mysha. We don't 'encourage' the unknown, but a little advance warning is always helpful (-:
                                                       With Love to You All,
                                                                                       Nigel
                                                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Mar 15 - 07:24 PM

Eek! That was me babbling about dragons on 12 Mar at 6:32 PM! I didn't realize I'd lost my cookie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 13 Mar 15 - 10:52 PM

It's ok, Chantylass, as long as you don't toss your cookie!

Have lifted my winter-weary spirits greatly this week with new music. Yesterday, I got our own Lonesome EJ's CD in the mail (it's great, by the way), and tonight J-boy and I went to see Anna (Roberts-Gevalt) & Elizabeth (LaPrelle) at a really nice little venue with great acoustics in Portland. It was great seeing the variety of ages in the audience, first folk concert I've been to where the majority of the audience may actually have been younger than me! I'll go to bed tonight with my head full of music.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Mar 15 - 02:18 AM

& I had lunch with some early members of Australia's oldest folk club - friends who joined in the mid 50s (when the club started) & late 50s talking & listening to the reminiscences.

Last night I presented a (very small - 9 audience members) but perfectly musically-formed concert. Then I caught up on a week of lack of sleep!

Tomorrow I'll be taking pics at a children's traditional Australian music session. We've presented the session several times & I love watching the kids enjoy the songs & music.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Mar 15 - 06:44 PM

Always good when young people get involved in music as audience members or musicians!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 08:12 AM

Wish I were using my time as commendably as Sandra. Can we hope, Sandra, to see one of the pics of the children?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 03:43 PM

Buddy b'y. She's stove in here. Blowin a piece and snowin two. Nere movin outside a tha house cept ta scuff off in fronna Mum's back door on the side of her house that faces where a Nor'easter lays it's ugly egg every hour or so eh. Mine's on tha back and up at bridge level so she blows clean.

WTF? Did that not post?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 03:50 PM

Roight! That one took. Maybe the other one couldn't make it though tha snow and tha gale. She's solid white by times. St. Pat drove the snakes out of Ireland. I wish he would fire up his snowblower and drive the snow out of NB.ca. I NEED some GREEN!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 15 Mar 15 - 04:55 PM

Pic to raise a smile, Sandra. Don't look like folk will be dying out in your neck of the woods !.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Mar 15 - 07:05 PM

Nigel Paterson, what news from your young women traveling friends? Where are they now?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: pattyClink
Date: 17 Mar 15 - 10:59 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 17 Mar 15 - 09:36 PM

renew

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 02:59 AM

Pete - we're taking the same to workshop to the National Folk Festival at Easter as 3 daily sessions & expect lots of musicians!

We're also presenting a Family dance with musos ranging from 7 to 80 & all ages in between.

We're taking a few of our own 2nd generation members along - 2 brilliant fiddlers 13 & 15, 7-year old singer & multi-instrumentalist, 15 year old clarinetist, several dance callers late teens & twenties, 7-year old singer who is also a beginner fiddler,

a great time will be had.

sandra

ps. the grown up members also get gigs - Songs workshop, Tunes workshop & Colonial ball. Naturally the younger members are welcome at all gigs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 07:01 AM

Apologies to all for my sporadic posts. As a good friend of mine said recently: "Life's been getting in the way of Life!"

Sandra...I need to write about the wonderful Music posts...give me a little more time, please.

ChanteyLass...my Granddaughter & her friend are currently in Peru. I wrote in an earlier post that they were doing a month's voluntary work, helping to build a school. It is actually an orphanage. They work in the mornings & play with the children in the afternoons. The Girls are both excellent sportswomen, enabling them to teach skills, establish purposeful training & best of all, have LOADS of fun with a large group of enthusiastic youngsters.

I will do my best to catch up with posting. I have neglected 'The Rainbow' of late...too much other 'stuff' getting in the way.
                            Much Love to You All,
                                                             Nigel.
                                                             xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 09:39 AM

no need for apologies, nigel, and nice to read of the travellers doing well. I hope the life that gets in the way is nothing problematic !               blessings all            pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 03:21 PM

I unhesitatingly join Pete in that good hope.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 08:26 PM

Glad they are doing well and contributing well also! I would never have had the nerve and the confidence in my youth. Doesn't take a prophet to foresee this will be an experience that will be life changing and life enhancing, not only for them, but for many who they will effect (affect?) through their actions and choices.

Shout out to maeve and tl. Come settle for a little while by the warmth of the galley stove. There is aromatic herb tea in that pot covered by the cozy. Shall I pour a cup for you?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 08:55 PM

Reg... always liked Uncle Reg. Nice guy. Loved to laugh. And, he could tease... I'll miss him. Mum is shaken but we all knew it was coming. In the very end, it was mercifully swift and painless due to heavy doses of morphine (a drug seldom administered hereaboutst these days even in such cases). The next few days, as have been the past days, will be hard on Mum as her health is waning but she will be the same strong woman she has always been and take it in her usual gallant stride... she is a rock.

Reginald J. LeBlanc

1924-2015

Reginald J. LeBlanc

Reginald Joseph LeBlanc, 90, of Moncton passed away on Tuesday March 17, 2015 at the Veteran's Health Centre. Born on November 13, 1924 in Moncton, he was the son of the late Edgar and Hélène (Melanson) LeBlanc.

Reginald served in the Royal Navy during the Second World War and was employed for 35 years with the Department of National Defence at No. 5 Supply Depot located in Moncton.

He is survived by his wife for 69 years, Dora (née Martin); two daughters: Patricia Bernier (Paul) of Montreal, QC, and Jeannine King of Moncton; two sons: Paul (Giselle Melanson) of Dieppe and Donald (Marjolaine Samson) of Montreal, QC; four sisters: Violet Corbett (Vern) of Victoria, BC, Dora Owens (Bill) of Moncton, Charmaine LeBlanc of Moncton, and Ida Severen (Ted) of Saint John, NB; two brothers: Roy (Therese) of Moncton and Laury (Therese) of Massachusetts; several grandchildren, great grandchildren, nieces and nephews.

Besides his parents, he was predeceased by two sisters: Lorraine LeBlanc and Angela Richard.

The family will receive condolences at Frenette Funeral and Cremation Centre, 88 Church Street, Moncton (858-1900) from where the funeral service will be celebrated on Saturday March 21, 2015 at 11 am. Visiting hours Saturday from 10 am until time of funeral. Veterans will hold a service of remembrance at 10:45 am Saturday at the funeral centre.

RIP and thanks Uncle Reg.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 11:19 PM

Sorry to hear that, gnu......your uncle lived a long and full life.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Mar 15 - 11:31 PM

Hugs and condolences, gnu, to you, your mum, and all who knew and loved him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Mar 15 - 04:14 AM

sending the same -

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Mar 15 - 07:48 AM

My Dear Gnu,
                     It's times like this when the geography really does get in the way...very frustrating that I can't be with you on March 21st. Much Love & Sincere Condolences from myself & Ann. Thank you very much for posting such a fulsome obituary. We now have much more than just a name. We will be holding you & your Family in our thoughts on Saturday,
                   Love & Hugs,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                     xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 19 Mar 15 - 10:25 AM

Condolences, gnu.

And as one life leaves, another arrives. My great-nephew Gabriel entered this world at 6:58 this morning.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Mar 15 - 12:51 PM

Awwwww... a baby! That's great.

Nigel... fulsome? Wellll, not quite. It has Mum and Aunt Charmaine in a tither*. Flowers or not? Specific charity or not? Mum thinks he is being cremated because the name of the place has such in it. I didn't try to tell her that this conclusion is unsupported in logic as it would simply add to the tither. I also know Mum will not be able physically be able to do the whole two hours but I shall not bring that up until Saturday morning because that can of worms will open the next onesss... is there a family gathering afterward? where might it be? who might be invited?... etcetera. I do have a backup plan. "The son" gets in town tonight so I will call him on the morrow with questions.

Thanks all for the condolences. Youse are a great crew.

BTW... I know Reg is looking down and saying, "What a bunch of bullshit. This isn't any fun for me. Funeral? Have a party or I am leaving. I have better things to do."

* Gramma Owens' Dictionary : A fit of confusion and accompanying annoyment**.

** Gramma Owens' Dictionary : You know.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 19 Mar 15 - 05:31 PM

Congratulations, Tami!

Next week we will hitch up our little caravan and make the long drive to Canberra to attend the Ozzie National Folk Festival and to visit with with our older son Stephen The Drummer, DIL Carly The French Horn Player and our grandkid Euan The Wonder Kid who live in Canberra. We haven't seen them since just after new year when Euan was only two weeks old, he'll probably be walking and talking now......children these days are very advanced, aren't they.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Mar 15 - 08:59 PM

Thank you for the update, Nigel. I had lost track of the girls' plan to stay in Peru for a month and that the month had not yet ended.

Gnu, I am sorry about your uncle. I'm sending comforting thoughts to you and your mum. My father also died on a St. Patrick's Day.

Tami, it must be a joy to welcome a new baby into your family! Hugs to him!

Jennie G, hugs to your grandson, also!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 20 Mar 15 - 03:40 PM

with a prayer , gnu, especially for your mum at this hard time. blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 20 Mar 15 - 05:53 PM

A couple of days ago, one of the youngest nieces turned 11. She got a spiffy new haircut, and off to school she went. Where a bunch of kids then proceeded to ridicule and bully her. I hate that. Not just because she's one of my nieces, but because no one deserves to be treated like that. I went through that crap at her age, too, but at least social media and cyber bullying didn't exist then. Sophie is an incredibly cool kid: she's smart, athletic, an excellent cook, and very creative. She designed a working mermaid tail that she can wear swimming. And one of the many things I love about her is her uniqueness. Unfortunately, that makes her a target for the other kids. I sat down and wrote her a letter last night telling her all the things I value about her and that, even though it seems an eternity away, things will get better and that I went through many of the same things she is going through. I also offered to be there if she needs to talk.

Not looking for advice or anything like that. Just needed to vent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Mar 15 - 07:13 PM

Tami, I'm sorry your niece is going through this. I'm glad she has the support of an aunt like you. As a fat, pimply, bookworm with few social skills, I endured bullying. My son, who was more interested in the arts than all the seasonal youth sports his classmates participated in, was bullied, too. He told me about it. His attitude was that he could handle it better than some others that he knew, and he knew he had my love and support. I told nobody about my experiences. Both my parents had been popular kids and I feared they would think I had somehow brought it upon myself. (I was probably wrong about that.) I didn't want to be a disappointment to them. Even though I never told them, I knew they loved me. If, like my son and I, your niece will eventually (though not soon enough) go to a school that merges with another, she is likely to meet members of her own "tribe," who are also unique.

The cyber-bullying era certainly adds a new, nasty layer to all of this.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Mar 15 - 10:34 AM

Ditto CL, r1.

Thanks again. Suit and tie put away. By the looks of some of my relatives (Mum's side), it won't be there all that long. Uncle Reg was a nice guy. Joined the navy before high school graduation and sailed the day after. I had a sniffle when I hugged aunt* Dora but, when the vets honour guard played taps it was tissue time. Same for others.

* Should that be an upper case "a"?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 21 Mar 15 - 12:06 PM

g- *Yes.
Thought of you today.
Maeve and TL

Janie- Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 05:52 AM

Tomorrow, 23rd March marks the second year of our Darling Jane's passing. She left her earthly body, quietly & peacefully, surrounded by her Family. Be with us tomorrow...the pain of her loss has eased a little, but an un-fillable void remains. It has been said that: "You never forget, you just learn how to live with it". I think that is largely true.
                                     With Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann. xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 07:38 AM

Lest I get no chance to post tomorrow, let me promise from now, Nigel, to be close to you and Ann, in spirit, tomorrow. "I will comfort you", like Simon and Garfunkel's kindly bridge.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 09:07 AM

For all, especially gnu and Nigel and Ann - music from a friend of ours:
Hawk Henries- Earth and Sky

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 09:16 AM

Thanks, m.

Nigel... I will.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 09:37 AM

Nigel, I will be thinking of you and Ann tomorrow and holding you both in my heart. My dad passed away suddenly in 2008 and I still miss him every day. Time eventually rounds the sharp edges off the pain, leaving us with the memories. We'll always miss them, but as long as we keep their memories in our hearts, they never really leave us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 09:45 AM

Lovely piece, maeve, and picture sequence. Is that an Indian instrument ?. Two years is still a short time to come terms with a loss. Wishing you peace and comfort , Nigel and ann.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 10:52 AM

Peter- Hawk makes plays a version of our Native American flute:
http://hawkhenries.com/my-workshops/my-handmade-flutes/


Wendy, how goes it?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 03:29 PM

That is really lovely, maeve. Thanks.

Nigel, have been thinking of you, Ann and the rest of your family all day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 15 - 08:25 PM

Nigel, you and your family will be in my thoughts.

Gnu, how's your mom doing now that a few days have passed since your uncle's funeral?

Lovely music, Maeve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 15 - 04:22 AM

Maeve, I can't thank you enough for the exquisite music & stunning images. They chime perfectly with our mood today.

It never ceases to amaze me how a solo instrument can evoke such depth of feeling. A bravura performance by a true master.

A sincere thank you to everyone who will be 'with us' today. It is a fine, sunny, spring day here in London. A little later, Ann & I will drive to the seaside to have lunch at our favourite restaurant. Top of the 'menu' will be memories of Jane...an opportunity to reflect on what was & not dwell on the 'what might have beens'.
                               With Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 23 Mar 15 - 08:55 AM

Big bear hugs to both of you today, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Mar 15 - 08:59 AM

Thank you, all, for your words of kindness...the beautiful Music...the hugs & the stunning photos.
         Ann & I enjoyed our brief sojourn by the sea. UK Catters & Crew Members may be familiar with 'Tomassi's' of Southend-on-Sea.
         Strange to tell, today (24th) feels like how we thought we might feel yesterday. Ann was very distressed at breakfast & we both wept copiously. Yesterday's distractions, no matter how pleasant, masked our thinly obscured emotions, which had to be expressed eventually. All is now calm & steady in the Paterson household. We resolved to refer to all future 23rds of March, simply as: 'Jane's Day', on which we will do something that we would have all enjoyed.
                Thanks for being with us in your individual & special ways,
                            With Love to You All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann
                                                            xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Mar 15 - 09:25 AM

CL... hard to tell with Mum. She seemed very tired today but I know better than to ask if she's okay. Thanks for asking.

My thoughts are with you and Anne, Nigel. I hope youse enjoy your outing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Mar 15 - 01:34 PM

Nigel, it's probably best to let those feelings out whenever they come. More love to you and Ann, and to your mum, too, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Mar 15 - 01:59 PM

janes day....janes thread......janes heritage.    blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 25 Mar 15 - 08:06 AM

Dear Nigel and Ann

Have been thinking of you both this week and sending love and good thoughts.As Pete said " Jane's Day" and without her there would be no Rainbow, we all owe her so much, bringing us all together . This love and support happens no where else in my experience, so thank you Nigel and Ann.

Having a very low time with worries about trying to get the continuing care for mum , not selling her bungalow and her care bill debt adding up week by week. Plus I am so aware that Billy says little and worries about me, he is my rock but I feel I should put him first much more bless him.

We both need a few days break away from everything and some time on our own, but not possible at the moment.

Rant over,

love to you all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxi

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Mar 15 - 01:49 PM

oh dear , wendy. are property sales still slow ? the properties where my dad lives had a few empty for a long time, then almost suddenly they all sold. hopefully the care providers will be reasonable as you are doing what you can to meet the debt. blessings to you, billy and your mum.         pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Mar 15 - 06:42 PM

Wendy, I have no suggestions, so I'm sending hugs instead.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Mar 15 - 01:07 PM

Hugs are good. We would all like to have the right things to say but life isn't built that way. Sometimes, it's just thoughts that matter.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 26 Mar 15 - 03:17 PM

Wendy- What gnu said so simply and clearly...(((hugs))) to you.

Some of us may also need hugs- my friend John Renbourn has died suddenly. Archie Fisher introduced us, and the result was that John made several arrangements for our chorus to sing. He was a lovely, enormously and broadly talented musician. There's a thread upstairs. Nigel- a friend of yours as well?

Such a loss.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Mar 15 - 06:44 PM

I'm so sorry, maeve. Hugs to you and all who knew him.

Wendy, an extra hug to you, billybob and your mother. Being a caregiver, no matter how much love and commitment one has, is incredibly challenging. I don't think I would be capable of what you and billybob have done and continue to do. I so hope that sooner rather than later the two of you have an opportunity to at least partially recharge.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Mar 15 - 04:12 AM

hugs to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Mar 15 - 06:31 AM

Maeve, thank you for alerting me to the very sad news of John Renbourn's death. We (The Halliard), worked with him many times, back in the halcyon days of the 60s Folk Revival. He wasn't a 'friend' in the strict sense of the word, but I grew to respect & admire his talent & evolving creativity. He was a lovely, gentle-man...a great loss to Music. My sincere condolences to his Family & Friends,
                                                                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Mar 15 - 07:37 PM

Hugs to all who knew John Renbourn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Mar 15 - 10:47 AM

Music from John Renbourn playing in a duet with John James, who posted in John R.'s thread, upstairs. John James and John Renbourn ~ From The Bridge

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Mar 15 - 11:03 AM

John Renbourn & Wizz Jones play "Buckets of Rain"


The Voice Squad singing with Mairead Ni Dhomhnaill recorded in Dublin in Trevor Hutchinson's Studio
Travellors Prayer written and arranged by John Renbourn. Our folk chorus sings this, and in fact we have sung it for John.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 28 Mar 15 - 11:19 AM

My condolences as well to all who knew John.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Mar 15 - 07:25 AM

Me... From: GUEST Date: 28 Mar 15 - 11:19 AM

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 30 Mar 15 - 09:07 PM

Refresh, and well wishes to all the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 31 Mar 15 - 09:42 PM

4th anniversary of Daddy's death. Gentle sadness and occasional unexpected tears during the day. All good. Just want to honor his memory 'outloud.'

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Apr 15 - 05:53 AM

(((Janie)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Apr 15 - 05:57 AM

From me too, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Apr 15 - 06:09 AM

Janie, you're in my heart.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Apr 15 - 09:38 AM

One more belated hug ok (((Janie))) ? A little leftover sorrow can continue to sneak up on ya.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Apr 15 - 04:16 PM

Janie, hugs from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Apr 15 - 04:56 PM

honouring the memory of a loved one is good. it expresses thankfulness alongside sadness.       blessings      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 02 Apr 15 - 06:54 PM

Wishing rest for the weary, comfort for those in sorrow.
Goodnight, all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Apr 15 - 05:17 PM

and a blessed easter to all the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 15 - 06:31 AM

Dear Janie, a very belated, heartfelt potpourri of feelings & emotions as you remember & honour the memory of your belovéd Father. Ann & I know, only too well, how powerful these anniversaries can be. Hold fast to the memories of what we surmise, was a life well-lived,
               With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann
                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Apr 15 - 05:34 AM

Dear Sandra, I said, sometime ago that I wanted to write more about 'Saplings'. Just looking at the photos & imagining the sound of the ensemble was uplifting. The expressions on the participants faces told their story. Musical experiences like this tend to make a lifetime impression on the individual. The 'Saplings' may not make Music their career, but you & your Club Members have given these young folk a priceless gift...they will see, hear & value Music with a greater understanding. Many will go on to appreciate how Music reaches into every corner of our lives & is not an elitist luxury, but an essential ingredient for a healthy, well-rounded life. I send my heartiest congratulations to You All for what you have achieved so far & for what you will achieve in the future...BRAVO!
                                     With Love,
                                                      Nigel.
                                                      xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Apr 15 - 05:58 PM

here here, well put.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Apr 15 - 06:02 PM

Ditto pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Apr 15 - 10:57 PM

I spent 6 days in Canberra for our National Folk Festival where we presented 3 Saplings workshop & a 30-min concert spot.

My favourite among the participants were 2 beginners who had no instruments with them so played lagerphones & did an excellent job.

Nigel, I'll pass your comment to our organisers.

Another illustrated blog article is on it's way. I took 450 photos all weekend & 100 were of the saplings workshops.

The festival also runs traditional music workshops & Saplings were evident in some, including BMC's Waltz-a-thon of 40 or so waltzes!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Apr 15 - 04:35 AM

Dear Sandra, The Musician's Union in the UK ran a slogan campaign some years ago: "Keep Music Live". We were supplied with a bunch of round, yellow stickers which we proudly stuck on our instrument cases, in the back windows of our cars...almost anywhere really to generate as much awareness as possible. You & your colleagues are Keeping Music Live & by doing so, you are "Keeping Music Alive"...interesting the difference made by the addition of a single vowel.
          Any chance of some audio from one of your sessions?

                                    With Love,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Apr 15 - 10:20 AM

Nigel, some of the parents took videos of the sessions, I can ask around as I'd like to post something on our pitifully tiny
Youtube site

Claire is one of our junior tutors - the reason the video is so short is that I occasionally remember my camera can take videos!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Apr 15 - 09:23 PM

Lagerphone's a new one on me, and I enjoyed the short video. I look forward to seeing your photos!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Apr 15 - 09:18 PM

There's a thread about Mystic Seaport chantey singer Don Sineti who had heart surgery in late December. He's home now, but several benefits will be held for him. The first will be at Mystic on Saturday. Keep him and a complete recovery in your thoughts. I don't know why I didn't post about this sooner. I hardly know him, but his music has often brought me joy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Apr 15 - 10:09 PM

sending good thoughts to Don Sineti.

I have one of his CDs & have just moved it from the shelf to CD player to listen again.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Apr 15 - 08:08 AM

Sandra, thank you for the You Tube link...I particularly enjoyed the Senior's Session...would've loved to have been there & played along (-:
                                             With Love,
                                                            Nigel
                                                            xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Apr 15 - 10:41 AM

Hey, Nigel: here they come!

(I believe the gentleman mentioned that he likes these)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Apr 15 - 11:34 PM

according to the note on the lower part of the screen, it's pics of Crocuses for web First blossoms this spring

but Flickr won't let me see them - "Adult content link - you must be signed in' ?????

are these flowers naked? are they showing their male & female bits??

or is it just my computer playing silly games?

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 11 Apr 15 - 11:53 PM

Sandra, I got the same message. Dean, just what the heck kind of pic did you link to?!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Apr 15 - 04:48 AM

ChanteyLass, thank you for bringing Don Sineti to our attention. Not knowing him, a quick search on You Tube revealed a larger than life character with a voice to match...muscular, chanty singing that no audience could resist. I wish him well & trust he recovers completely. Folk Music needs the talent that is Don Sineti.

(I haven't dared to follow Dean's link! (-:)

                                                             With Love,
                                                                              Nigel
                                                                              xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Apr 15 - 11:12 AM

Now that is truly strange, and a little disturbing. The photo still pops right up from the link for me. I didn't include "reproductive organs" in the tags...who knows...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Apr 15 - 11:26 AM

Once more with feeling.   I found "restricted" clicked under "content"; I never went near any of those settings. We'll see if this does it.

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Apr 15 - 12:16 PM

Nice flowers. I can see my utility trailer now. Well, parts of it.
>;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Apr 15 - 05:53 PM

ah, purple haze !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Apr 15 - 09:12 PM

Dean, I tried the first link I got Page Not Found, but the second link took me to the crocuses which are lovely.

Sandra and Nigel, thank you both for your interest in and concern for Don Sineti. Saturday's benefit for him was more sparsely attended than I would have wished, but that may be because many people plan to go to benefits closer to their homes. This one was closest to mine and I probably won't make it to any others. Also some people have sent checks directly to Don.

At this benefit, I summoned up the courage to lead the double-pull halyard chantey A Hundred Years Ago. I had that morning taken the second of four chantey classes at Mystic Seaport. I had written my own verses based on the history of the Charles W. Morgan. I took liberties with the history and rhyming patterns, and it's obviously written by an amateur. I first sang it in the class with a quavering voice but made it through without my throat constricting from nervousness and ended with cheeks flaming with embarrassment. My classmates were kind and encouraging. At the benefit my voice quavered less and so many strong voices joining in was a huge support.

Subject: LYR ADD -Little Blossom by Hank Thompson
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Apr 15 - 03:35 AM

Nigel - Charlie Noble told me Don can be heard across Mystic Harbour!

good onya! ChantyLass, keep composing & singing

frogprince - they are delicate little blossoms!

now is this the place to post the following?

hmmm YES!

Little Blossom by Hank Thompson (for JennieG who has a repertoire of such songs & recitations) with 2 typos corrected.

Oh dear I'm so tired and so lonely I wonder why mommy don't come
She told me to close my pretty blue eyes and when I awoke she'd be home
I guess I'll go down and find daddy I think he went down to the store
That big long room filled with bottles I wish that he'd go there no more
Sometimes he's so sick when he comes home he staggers and falls on the ground
One night when he came in the parlor he kicked my poor dolly around
But I love him and I guess I'll go find him I know he would gladly come home
Then it won't be so dark and so lonesome while waiting for mommy to come
His red eyes gazed wild when she found him her sweet smiling face was still fair
But too late the demon possessed him for he grabbed at the back of a chair
In a moment the whole thing was over the work of the beast was complete
And a poor little innocent blossom lay dying at her daddy's feet

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Apr 15 - 12:26 PM

Good for you chanteylass. Onward and upward !            A moving piece Sandra .          Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 14 Apr 15 - 02:33 AM

Ah, thank you, Sandra......we're home now and our Big Computer (as distinct from the tablets we take on holidays) is cranked up, so I can get that song!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Apr 15 - 06:28 AM

great, mate so now you need to learn it before 2016 National Folk Festival so I can hear you sing it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 14 Apr 15 - 05:27 PM

All right.....I'll try!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Apr 15 - 07:17 PM

Thank you for the encouragement, Sandra and Pete. And Sandra, those lyrics are heartbreaking.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Apr 15 - 04:32 AM

& wot a shame you can't hear Jennie singing that song & similarly heart-breaking songs!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Apr 15 - 08:26 PM

Wish I could, wish I could, wish I could!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 17 Apr 15 - 11:31 AM

Hi... I know I've been away some time, but thought I'd lift Don Thompson mudcat known as Don (Wysiwyg) T and his wife Winnie up to you good folk.

There is a thread above the line that Don is gravely ill to be moved to hospice and Winnie is just out of the hospital herself.

I know you will generate your light in their direction.

Much love to you all.

Tam

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Apr 15 - 07:13 AM

That's desperate news, VT. I'm sure everyone here will hold Don & Winnie in their thoughts in their individual & special way. We certainly will be generating our light in their direction...& yours too,
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel.
                                                 xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Apr 15 - 04:48 PM

Thanks for the heads up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Apr 15 - 06:41 PM

Yes, thank you. They will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Apr 15 - 11:46 PM

sending good wishes

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Apr 15 - 12:58 AM

Thank you so much, VT. Holding both of them in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Apr 15 - 05:11 PM

the relevant thread now indicates that don died this morning. I was quite shocked, as only last month I was asking about him at the singaround he used to frequent, but had no inkling that the health issues were so serious. have posted there already.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Apr 15 - 05:55 PM

Let us we do for others today for tomorrow they may be gone. What we have is this moment.

Thinking of family and friends of Don and Winnie Thompson as they feel their loss and remember the good times they had together.

On a brighter and related note- I spoke with Art and Carol Thieme this afternoon. They are glad to be remembered, and continue to retain both sense of humor/humour and delight in listening to music. (See Art Thieme thread, upstairs.)

Carol's 92 year old mother is failing fast, so kindly keep Carol and Art, Carol's mother, and their family members all in your thoughts as you feel moved to do so.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Apr 15 - 08:49 PM

Refresh. I've written on both those threads above the line. Thanks, Maeve, for pointing us to them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Apr 15 - 10:32 AM

Have just posted this on Don's obit thread: "I did not know Don, but when he was posting, I got the impression that here was a man I would like to meet. My Sincere condolences to his Wife, Family & Friends".
             This 'virtual life' we lead on Mudcat get's less virtual & more 'real' with each passing day,
                   With love,
                                  Nigel
                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Apr 15 - 02:38 PM

I agree, Nigel, that virtual life can get pretty real.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Apr 15 - 04:19 AM

ChanteyLass...I must compliment you for your own additions to existing Chanties. With the demise of working ships in sail, there has always been a danger that the Chanty as a genre could end up, consigned to the annals of history. Yes, we have the recordings of Cyril Tawney, Stan Hugill, Bert Lloyd (sp.?) et al, but there's nothing quite like a strongly lead, gutsy Chanty. That you are injecting new blood into this unique vocal form is to be applauded...brava! brava! Care to write a new Chanty for the Rainbow, fitted to a tune we are most likely to know?
                                    With Love,
                                                   Nigel
                                                   xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Apr 15 - 10:49 PM

Thank you, Nigel. I don't think of myself as a song-writer---yet. I guess I'm a songwriter wannnabe! The very few songs (three!) songs I've written all have nautical themes, and I'm not sure how good they are, and I'd be crushed by an objective negative opinion. Two of my songs were written when I had insomnia during Mystic Sea Music Festivals. I am sure someone here is more capable than I of writing a chantey for Jane's Rainbow, but if one occurs to me, I'll send it to you. The Mystic Sea Music Festival will be in June, so if I have insomnia again, I might come up with something. Would anyone else here like to have a go at writing one?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Apr 15 - 05:19 AM

Two strong, memorable Chanty tunes I can recall from my 'Halliard' days in the 60s are: "Bound for South Australia" & "Haul Away Joe"...anyone tempted? (-: (-:
                                          Musically,
                                                       Nigel
                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Apr 15 - 04:39 PM

Anyone?

If inspiration strikes, I'll let you know.

Hey, where is everybody? Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Apr 15 - 07:34 PM

We's here; at least I is here : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Apr 15 - 11:39 PM

me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Apr 15 - 02:42 AM

Jane taught in Primary & Secondary Schools...her first love was always Primary, a rôle at which she excelled. One of her final wishes was that a bench be erected at her favourite school. It's taken much longer than we would've liked, but today, a bench bearing the traditional inscription: "In Loving Memory of......" will be installed. It will be sited in a quiet, landscaped quadrangle...a perfect place to sit & enjoy a sunny break & have some lunch, or just sit......The bench is for anyone & everyone to use. Students, Staff...anyone.
                                 With Love to You All,
                                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Apr 15 - 08:02 AM

Thanks for sharing, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Apr 15 - 08:28 AM

Nigel, how lovely to have a bench in Jane's memory in a place she loved.

I had a bench in my father's memory put in the churchyard in St Peter's Church in Little Rissington . Dad visited that church every September on Battle of Britain Sunday to remember ten airmen who died in a horrific crash during the war when the coach they were on ran into a broken down lorry in the blackout. My father was one of three who escaped ,badly burnt but alive. He always felt guilty that he was alive.

He also arranged for the churchyard to be looked after by the war graves commission, and fund raised for the RAF stained glass window that is in the church.

So if you are in the Cotswolds, do go and sit on his bench and enjoy the peaceful beautiful churchyard. It says "In loving memory of Reg O'Neil MBE." I shall go again this September and remember his friends.

With love

Wendyxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Apr 15 - 10:35 AM

Nigel, and Wendy, How lovely and appropriate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Apr 15 - 07:50 PM

Wonderful, Nigel and Wendy! Is there anywhere on the Web where we can find pics of those benches?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Apr 15 - 02:53 AM

Wendy, how lovely to hear from you. The story about your Father moved me deeply. The cruel irony of airmen losing their lives in a road accident, which, by good fortune, your Father survived, leaves me lost for words. Sounds as if your Father went on to lead a full & productive life. You don't get an MBE for doin' nowt!
       There is something wonderfully symbolic about a memorial bench...one sits, leans back, perhaps gently touching the inscribed name & in so doing, the dear departed continue to 'support' as they surely did in life.
Dean & Chantey...kind words, thank you. As for a photo, it's possible that one of Jane's children might post on Face Book, but I can't say more than that. I'd love all of you to see the bench, in situ, but a photo would almost certainly reveal Jane's surname, which, for privacy reasons, I feel I must protect. I do hope you are not offended by my response.
                           With Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann
                                                          xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Apr 15 - 08:22 AM

Chantey Lass I have put a photo on my Facebook page, please feel free to look,at wendy ann simon, just ask to be my friend. There is also a photo taken in September 2013 ,mum is with the Chaplain General of the Royal Air Force when he dedicated the bench. My mother was a Waaf in WW2 and I have been reading her letters of April 1945, with VE Day next week , her memories of that day are very interesting. I may post them here if you would like to read them. I put a memory book together for mum three years ago and much of the information was taken from the two hundred letters that she wrote to my father while he was serving in N Africa, Malta (during the siege) and in Italy.

Nigel, dad received his MBE for charity work for RAFA. He raised an enormous amount of money for ex RAF men and women, and was a member from the end of the war till he passed away. His autobiography is quite an interesting read and I learnt so much about him when I read it, that generation kept lots of their memories to themselves, but I am sure the accident had a profound effect on him for the rest of his life.

May many children and teachers enjoy Jane's bench for years to come.

With love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Apr 15 - 06:55 PM

Well Wendy, the tragic event that had a profound effect on your dad, evidently produced positive action on his part. And I am sure we have all been touched by, and interested in the anecdotes and information relating to your mum. Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Apr 15 - 04:01 PM

Nigel, I understand your privacy concerns for your family.

Wendy, your privacy settings prevented me from seeing your photos, and I understand that, too.

For several years I did not set privacy restrictions on my Facebook account. Then I went to Ireland for two weeks and wanted to prevent everyone except my friends from seeing posts that indicated I was away from home that long, so I tightened my settings. When I came home I kept them tight so only my friends could see photos of my grandchildren. And now, as they are reaching ages when they are less closely supervised by their parents, I have stopped sharing any photos of them!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 30 Apr 15 - 06:45 PM

Just back from a partially successful attempt at having a pacemaker fitted. Any catters got experience of such matters. I am bruised battered and bewildered and facing a new attempt in a couple of weeks.

Frank

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 May 15 - 07:05 PM

No experience but lots of wishes that all goes well!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 May 15 - 06:06 PM

Ditto Pete. Frug... OUCH!... thoughts and good wishes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 May 15 - 08:46 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 May 15 - 08:15 AM

Guest, Frug- Frank, they probably had troubles getting the pacemaker in because you have such a big, loving, generous heart.

Pulling for you from here,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 May 15 - 10:36 AM

I'll add my good wishes for a successful attempt

sandra

way back in the 80s or 90s a friend's husband died suddenly & she arranged for a bench in his memory in her churchyear. He was not religious, but every Sunday he took her to church & stayed in the yard or nearby reading his paper until she was ready to go home. They had been married for about 25 years & I think I remember he took her to church all their married life. I think.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 May 15 - 03:47 AM

Jane's bench is now safely installed in a beautiful, sunny corner of her favourite school. We visited yesterday, met staff who had known & worked with Jane & had lunch with the Head Teacher.
                     With Love,
                                     Nigel & Ann
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 May 15 - 02:16 AM

Frank, I have no experience of having a pacemaker fitted, but any operation that is only partly successful, making it necessary for you to return for 'Take Two' must be distressing & very frustrating. You have my very best wishes for a satisfactory outcome, second time around. May your "..... big, loving, generous heart" (lovely words, Maeve) keep abeating for many years to come,
                                                            With Love,
                                                                           Nigel
                                                                           xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 May 15 - 12:23 PM

Nigel... the bench... wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 May 15 - 08:14 PM

Nigel- Check your email.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 May 15 - 06:26 AM

Thanks, gnu, it is a wonderful, six foot, teak (from a sustainable source) creation. The area where the bench is sited is, in addition to break time use & weather permitting, used for small group work, particularly with children who need extra help with reading. Jane would've loved that.

Maeve, I have checked my inbox...thank you doesn't come close...I will reply, but need a day or two to collect my words.
                                                Much Love to You All,
                                                                                 Nigel.
                                                                                 xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 May 15 - 06:54 PM

Lovely, frogprince. Do you know what species and/or variety they are? I'm guessing a reticulated iris of some sort?

Haven't been posting, and only checking in about once a week to catch up, but still always here. Those of you who are Facebook 'friends' are aware that my sister, Annie, has been here and very busy building another shed and doing home repairs/renovations for me from her deep well of generosity with her time, talents and heart while I come home, see private clients after hours, then collapse in a heap of mental exhaustion. And feeling guilt generated from my own psyche that I don't have the energy and motivation she has.

Hope you are already recovering from the 2nd procedure, Frug.

Invisioning Jane's bench, Nigel.

This landlubber sometimes dreams of the wonderful sea chanties Mudcatters have introduced me to, starting with Barry Finn, who I miss so dearly.

Irises from an old, small family cemetery up on a low ridge in eastern Kentucky are blooming in my yard now. Was a special trip at the time, made even more special by the memories of how much delight Daddy took in it. He determinedly climbed up low ridges through pastures and rough tracks that only a jeep or tractor could have climbed with his cane that could be converted to a little tripod seat to rest the back and knees just before they completely gave out, then climbed again to walk among the gravestones of our ancestors and listen to family stories told by his 2nd cousin who he had not seen since a young boy, and who still lived where his family had lived since just after the Revolutionary War.

A little song for all of us. Why Worry Now

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 May 15 - 07:37 PM

Janie... thanks.

Nigel... "it is a wonderful, six foot, teak (from a sustainable source) creation. The area where the bench is sited is, in addition to break time use & weather permitting, used for small group work, particularly with children who need extra help with reading. Jane would've loved that." I have no tears this eve... just a smile. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 08 May 15 - 08:01 PM

Janie, them's crocuses. Last spring I happen to link a shot from that patch after they opened, and Nigel expressed a fondness for crocuses. I happened to spot them just budding like that this time, so grabbed the camera.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 08 May 15 - 08:03 PM

Janie- Good to see you here. :) I think they are a crocus variety.

A friendly hand wave to all.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 May 15 - 08:31 PM

Janie, lucky you to have such a sister, and it's good that you appreciate her instead of taking her for granted.

Nigel, I am delighted to read that not only is the bench beautiful but also that its location is lovely and that it will be used for good purposes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 08 May 15 - 10:16 PM

Janie, I, too, miss Barry. Here's a href= https://youtu.be/R-Ixy62tpAg>the man himself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 08 May 15 - 10:19 PM

I really need to check the preview button before hitting submit!

Let's try that again, shall we? Here's the man himself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 May 15 - 07:14 AM

Here are some extracts from mother's letter to my father on the day after VE day, 70 years ago today!

"Well darling , now that the war is really over in Europe I just cant settle down at all for thinking of you and longing and hoping that you will be home very shortly. On Tuesday we all went down to the village, I'm afraid I got very merry ( but not tight) I went with the girls on the Squadron and some of the boys. There was a huge bonfire in the street and I danced to " Knees up Mother Brown" for ages! At nine o'clock I took myself off into a nice little corner in the pub and had a very special drink to my darling husband. I hope that wherever you were on Tuesday dearest that you all " made merry" Somehow though I cant feel too exited with the knowledge that the boys out East are still fighting. I only hope and pray that it will soon be over for them too."

On the same day my father was in Italy , near Naples, in his autobiography he says he joined his RAF mates in a celebration football match on the beach. No football kit so one team wore shorts, the other Birthday suits! Dad was in goal, defending quite well, till an opposing forward booted the ball from three yards and hit dad in the face. Out for the count but no goal scored! Back to camp for a celebration dinner only to find that the cooks had used all the rations and they went three days before the next ration day. But the bar served free drinks till they ran out.

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 May 15 - 08:32 AM

Thanks for sharing, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 09 May 15 - 05:07 PM

Likewise from here too, as watching the commemoration concert on TV

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 May 15 - 12:33 PM

Lovely, Wendy. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 May 15 - 07:23 PM

me, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 May 15 - 06:51 PM

Lovely letter, Wendy. I'm glad you have it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 May 15 - 03:39 AM

Overdue messages to Dear Friends...
Janie, please do whatever you can to divest yourself of your psychic guilt. Your Sister's efforts on your behalf are clearly born from the love she feels for you & I'd bet my bottom dollar that you do things for her that she can't do. She sounds like a one in a million type of Sister to me & betting that old bottom dollar again, I bet she feels the same about you.

Wendy, your Mother's letter was a joy to read. These touchingly personal insights into the lives of our elder relatives are so precious; an intimate window into a time of fear & uncertainty. I may be wrong, but I think we've largely lost the gentle tenderness with which these letters were written. For sure, circumstance played it's part, but these gems from the past can still inform our present & who knows, guide our future.

Maeve, thank you for being You.
                                                 With Love to You All,
                                                                               Nigel
                                                                               xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 13 May 15 - 08:53 AM

Nigel, thank you for saying mum's letter was a joy to read. As you know she has over 200 that she wrote to my father in the war. They are all very beautifully written and certainly reflect the life of a 19 year old through to VE day when she was 22. I love hand written letters but they are very rare in these days of e mail and Face book. However I believe this thread reflects generosity and kindness of spirit thanks to Jane!

I often look at my mother's letters on the date in the month they were written, picking snowdrops in the woods, waving bombers off on their missions, precious leave taken back home in London, waiting and worrying for the precious blue airmail letters to arrive from my father. Some are really funny, the day she rode an old boneshaker RAF bicycle into the village ( first time on a bike) met a herd of sheep being driven up the hill. Mum had no idea how to brake so turned a swift left and landed up in a hedge, still upright and seated but most worried about the ladders in her stockings!

It comforts me to think of the feisty young Waaf when I watch the dear 91 year old who can no longer speak and is in a world of her own, so near and yet so far.

fondest love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
PS Billy has just phoned from the hospital, blood count perfect, next appointment 4 months , Hooraa!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 May 15 - 01:43 PM

"... blood count perfect, next appointment 4 months , Hooraa!!"

GREAT news!

Unfortunately, I have some sad advice. Knock off the cell phones... BRIEF emergency use ONLY! Some of you know of my tumour which was successfully removed. Cousin Rodney wasn't as lucky. He died early this morning despite the best teams in Moncton and at NY State University Medical School. Even the Chemo injections came from Switzerland.

PLEASE do not post condolences... just remember that cell phones kill.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 May 15 - 07:08 PM

Hooraaa echoed!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 May 15 - 10:22 PM

Wendy, those letters are a precious gift, not just to you, but to all of us of younger generations and offer such insight. So grateful to you for occasionally sharing some of them here with us. When the time comes, I hope you consider having them published, or at least donated and safely archived for the rich history and insight they offer.

Glad to hear such good news re billybob.

No condolences, gnu, per your request, but can I send a hug to you on general principle?

Hope chicks are pippin and the fiddleheads are starting to decorate the landscape in Maine, maeve.

Thinking about the great web of life and the turning of the earth. Those of us north of the equator are watching as the earth awakens again from winter death, dormancy and rest, while those south watch as the big winter sleep approaches, and all of us witness the seasonal changing of the guard among the two-leggeds of the feathered variety. Even so, we all still sail along together.

Pretty awesome, and while I am not here as much, and don't often post when I am here, continue to be grateful for your fellowship.

Nigel, I have probably missed updates and am sorry if I am asking for old news, but wondering about the adventures of your granddaughter and her companions?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 May 15 - 11:46 AM

If you read the obit, you'll see that Rodney "drove truck" for a long time, during which he was mostly entertained by talking to anyone who had the time. The last ten years, as also explained, were a difficult time. ******* cell phones!

http://www.dupuisfuneralhome.ca/obituaries/97991

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 May 15 - 12:32 PM

as per your request , gnu, I will just wish you the best of irish as you remember Rodney at his wake.
wendy, made me smile as you recounted your mum being more worried about tights than accident and injury !. heartwarming anecdotes.
blessings all          pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 May 15 - 08:28 PM

Uncle Rodney sounds like quite a guy! Raise a glass for me at that Irish wake.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 May 15 - 03:41 AM

More overdue messages to Dear Friends...
gnu...sincere thanks for your lovely post following my 'Jane's Bench' post. Ann & I & the Grandchildren too can, most of the time, talk about Jane/Mum/Mummy without shedding tears...I guess we've made some progress with our grieving. Thrilled to bits to hear about your blood work...great news. Saddened to hear about Rodney's death & alarmed to read your caveat about cell phones. There was a huge debate in the UK some years back about the radiation dangers of the ubiquitous 'mobile'. All the service providers claimed there was no hard, scientific evidence...the Government made it's usual wifty wafty utterances & the usage dangers have drifted off into the ether. One story sticks in my mind...the one about cooking an egg if you placed it between two, active cell phones. Never did get to find out the truth/accuracy of that one...from what you've been saying, maybe there's more than a grain of truth after all.
Janie...no, you haven't missed anything vital about our 'Travelling Twosome'. They are currently in Florida, prior to making their way north, up the east coast to spend some time with Jane's Sister, who lives in Charlotte NC. They fly home from NYC on 1st June. 'Homesick' is a word that has begun to appear in their emails. You said above that you were: "...grateful for your fellowship". I couldn't agree more; the Fellowship of The Rainbow (Fellow...ship!) is something without which my life would be all the poorer.
          With Love to You All,
                                        Nigel
                                        xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 15 May 15 - 09:29 AM

Good to read posts from so many longtime Rainbow sailors.

(Nigel thanks...and I believe gnu's post was referring to Wendy's update on Billy's bloodwork. :) )

Janie, one wee banty hen has just gone into her broody trance, so I've given her 4 little eggs to hatch. We've been clearing estates and planting replacement trees in the orchard- we lost two family members and many fruit trees this winter.

Wendy- The letters are treasures far beyond the intense family connections. Thank you.

Waving from Maine where the blackflies are as voracious as ________________ anythingelseyoucanthinkoftofillthe space! :) )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,maeve
Date: 15 May 15 - 12:26 PM

Phooey- Sorry about the nameless post just prior to this- 'Tis I...

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 May 15 - 05:38 AM

Maeve, thank you...one of my rare 'oops!' moments. I completely missed the quotation marks.
         Our Granddaughter & her friend arrive in Charlotte today (Saturday 16th May). They're moving north west quicker than we had realised.
         16th May is also Ann's birthday. Lunch at our favourite restaurant in Southend-On-Sea with the three Grandchildren (they're practically Grandadults!) who are still in the UK!
                                       With Love,
                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 May 15 - 01:46 PM

So sad that I couldn't attend the wake... many stories accompanied by beverages and his brothers Charlie (guitar, vocals) and Jim (fiddle, vocals) played upbeat Irish Trad until the last song which, of course, was The Parting Glass... not a dry eye in the house (or haus as the building is part of the winery owned by his partner Elke... I think that's how her name is spelled... who came from Germany many years ago with her parents).

I was saddened that there was no eulogy (Perhaps something to do with the wake? Ya knows the Irish, eh?). Sad for the obvious reason and because I had to refuse being a pall bearer because I knew I wouldn't be able to stand at the back of the church during a eulogy. I was offered a chair option but that wasn't a good idea for reasons I won't get into. Big crowd, especially considering the obit wasn't in the newspaper until this AM and it didn't even mention the funeral mass. Odd but there it is.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 May 15 - 07:05 AM

By way of redress...apologies to Wendy for missing the excellent news about BB's blood-work; a really positive marker that progress continues. Forever may it remain so.
Gnu, I'm saddened to read that you were not able to participate as fully as you would've liked at Rodney's funeral & wake. I can't say whether the absence of a eulogy is typical or not. Even as a non-believer, I have frequently appreciated a well written & delivered eulogy. Quite how I would cope at an Irish Wake as a teetotaller I really can't imagine! No condolences, but special thoughts, nonetheless.

I have been thinking a great deal recently about the growing list of Dear, Trusted Friends I've got to know through this thread in particular & Mudcat, in general. Dear, Trusted Friends who, I will almost certainly never meet, face to face. Maybe one day.........
                                                With Love,
                                                                Nigel.
                                                                xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 May 15 - 11:28 AM

Well, the priest did a reasonable, though brief, job because he was at the wake.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 May 15 - 03:38 PM

Nigel, the Irish people I know are fond of tea, and there might be sparkling soft drinks and juices available which could be mixed with alcohol but could also be drunk plain. And there's always tap water. I do drink alcohol, but not when I'm driving, and I go almost everywhere alone, so I've had lots of experience with this!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 May 15 - 02:53 AM

if I only knew how to drive, I could be a Designated Driver!

Good news about Billy, Wendy.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 May 15 - 10:28 AM

Last year a fellow musician in our local Songwriters group gave me the honor of singing one of his (many, excellent) songs with him in our concert. I sang it alone on Sunday, to this same friend as he is dying of a brain tumor. I'll sing for him again tonight with the folk chorus to which I've belonged more than twenty years.

Hard work, this- and full of grace.

gnu- You know what's in my heart for you. Blessings.


Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 May 15 - 04:19 PM

blessing to you too maeve, and to your friend in his passing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 May 15 - 06:24 PM

Ditto pete.

Thanks m.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 May 15 - 09:10 PM

Aw, Maeve, it must be hard work indeed to get through a song without breaking down.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 May 15 - 10:00 PM

Thank you, maeve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 May 15 - 10:51 AM

Thank you, friends. The speaking is harder than the singing for me, for I've learned to breathe for singing. My friend responded very well to hearing his song- facial movements are about all he can communicate with and he made the most of them. I gave him a copy of it to have by his bedside.

Harder for me was to sing our own Jean Ritchie's song "Now Is the Cool of the Day" to him while he wept. I suspect it was the beauty of song and lyrics along with his unquenched desire to sing that caused the tears, but no way to know.

Our choral singing awoke strong emotions also, and I watched my friend raise his mostly unresponsive right arm (brain tumor, brain surgery, etc.) in response to one song in particular. His wife sitting close to him could hear him trying to sing at the same time.

A time of sorrow, a time of grace. I'll return as long as I'm wanted.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 May 15 - 11:15 AM

Bless you, m.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 20 May 15 - 02:07 PM

And the tears might also well be that he was touched by the love and kindness of good and faithful friends. Indeed, bless you, m.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 May 15 - 03:20 PM

That's the rub- we are doing our best to meet our thoughts of his needs- we can only trust he knows our intent even though he can't use- or perhaps even think in- words. And that's the underlying reason I mention it here at all. Sometimes all we can do is try to understand a need and meet what we can of it in a loving, respectful and non-self-focused manner. It's a matter of faith in that mutual trust.

Many others are also ministering to my friend, most of all his wife. We can't fix what has happened, we can't remove the anger, fear, grief. We can walk alongside and witness the journey in companionship. We can offer our hearts in song and instrumental music. We can wipe away the tears while supporting the need to express feelings. We can laugh when it's natural to do so, and hold a hand when desired.

That's all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 May 15 - 09:29 PM

Well said, Maeve. And well done as the doing continues. Realize the situations are probably different in many ways, but as the cancer spread in my Dad's brain and his ability to communicate and our ability to comprehend what he was communicating diminished, (and the morphine was upped to produce a coma-like state, it was still clear that the music mattered and that he knew and cherished and was comforted. Not only that, but took joy in it.

I suspect isn't trying to sing. He is singing.

Surrounding him, his wife and all of you who love him with light and love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 May 15 - 10:26 PM

In the whole scheme of things not a big concern, but will still ask for healing thoughts for my Mom. As she notes, she is a tough old bird and among my sister, my nephews and me we have the bases covered, but no fun not being very ambulatory, and at an age when having to rely unequally on assorted joints to compensate for injuries to others can cause problems. Mom took a hard fall last weekend in a parking lot leaving a theatrical production. Sprained her left ankle, broke her right knee cap, has a sprained thumb and a black eye.

The sprain is more problematic than the broken kneecap in terms of ambulating, and she says that if she were still a working stiff, she would be taking ugly leave rather than sick leave due to the black eye.


Sis had had driven down here from Maryland on Saturday, to continue her remarkable efforts to help me with home maintenance and repair. She headed up to WV on Sunday to tend to Mom, and I head up on Friday to relieve her. My oldest nephew who lives with her is gone on a very rare vacation to Arizona but will be back by Tuesday and I will head back home and back to work on Wednesday. My youngest nephew, who happens to be a physician, is also attentive but has a busy work schedule plus two preschool kids. He is managing the medical pieces. Mom has had some joint surgeries and other health issues that could be problematic but have not been so far, and it is a huge relief for us non-medical folks to know he is on top of those potential issues and communicating with her doctors, a huge relief and help for us non-medical ignoramuses.

As I read through what I have written, realize it is not so much about asking for good thoughts for my aged mother as it is an expression of gratitude.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 May 15 - 08:09 PM

Ouch for your mom, Janie. I hope she recuperates as quickly as possible with no setbacks. It sounds like she has a good support team. Good thoughts on their way from RI.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 May 15 - 09:29 PM

Maeve - hugs.

Janie - Poor Mom! Glad she has all of you looking out for her.

I could use some hugs myself tonight. I have a young family member being used as a pawn between feuding parents and it ain't pretty and there isn't much I can do about it. Said young person has a much older sibling who is out of the house and trying to help, but is running into roadblocks. I just wish people would put the needs of the children first. My heart is breaking for the poor kid.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 22 May 15 - 03:35 AM

When I read stuff like Maeve's last couple of posts, I'm reminded anew of how I love this bunch. There are very few days when I don't check this thread and think of you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 May 15 - 06:27 AM

Sending love to Maeve,Janie and Tami and through them to their loved ones who need our Rainbow magic!Just reminds us how wonderful it is to be able to come here and share our joys,fears and sorrows.

Some more good news from me, my daughter ( very ill since August last) gave in to my nagging and saw a consultant privately on Monday. She, the consultant, was very cross that Sam had been so badly let down by our local hospital. She has arranged for an MRI and other tests to be done asoon as possible on the NHS!! Also says Sam is a suitable candidate for a new treatment that is very expensive and probably the local hospital didn't want to fund? So fingers crossed once again.

I must say that the same hospital is where Billy has had such wonderful care and treatment over the past 7 years but in a different department, so praise where it is deserved!

sending love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 15 - 12:14 PM

Janie... she sounds tough indeed! Sad to hear of the injuries.

Tami... I know how you feel.

Wendy... I hope good news continues.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 15 - 12:39 PM

I've been doing research lately. I searched "caregiver" at YT and here is a good one (there are many)... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uSUNMbQz59g

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 May 15 - 07:36 PM

Tami, I hope your young family member's situation is resolved soon and in the best way possible.

Wendy, I hope your daughter soon gets safe, effective treatment.

Hugs to you both and to everyone aboard Jane's Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 23 May 15 - 08:04 PM

The only resolution for him, I fear, will be when he turns 18 in two years and a month. In the meantime, I will support him as much as I am able without getting either him or the non-custodial parent in hot water with the custodial parent.

In other happier news, my beloved nephew Austin, aka The Bean, will graduating from high school in two weeks and I will be flying down to Kentucky to see it happen. Where did the years go?! Seems like just yesterday he was a toddler...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 May 15 - 10:18 AM

Much here on which to reflect...much here that is deserving of comment, which, as so often happens, has been covered by others, far more eloquently & profoundly than I could ever manage. All of which is not helped by the fact that I'm writing this, wallowing in self-pity...PMR out of whack...Diabetes out of whack...Osteopenia causing more problems than I was ever led to believe it would & steroids, don't get me started on steroids! I'm trying to compose my way out of this 'slough of despond' with mixed results...little finesse, loud, rough 'n' ready...a brass player's/percussionist's dream. It's interesting how the internalised anger finds it's way to my hands...not just a case of physically striking the keys harder, but also the harmonic choices...more dissonance; melodies more angular & abrasive. If I get this piece finished, it's going to need as much editing as it did composing. An appropriate working title could be: "Rant for Orchestra".
          Forgive me...I'm in an awkward frame of mind.
                                                                                 With Love to You All,
                                                                                                                Nigel
                                                                                                               xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 May 15 - 10:39 AM

Sorry to hear of your woes, Nigel. I'm glad to hear "Rant for Orchestra" is of some solace. Great title, BTW.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 May 15 - 11:49 AM

You oughta apologize for apologizing for sharing your problems and your frustration here, Nigel : )
Always keeping you and all here in mind and heart.

               Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 May 15 - 06:13 PM

here's also hoping that the orchestral rant relieves some of the pressure as you express yourself through music.   and for an easing of the ailments.    blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 May 15 - 07:39 PM

Aw, Nigel, it often seems like when one body system gets off-balance, it starts knocking down others. I wish this wasn't happening to you, but since it is, this is the place to come, as you well know.

"Rant for Orchestra"--hmm, the title makes me smile, but the sound of the music might make me frown! Any cymbals clashing in that piece?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 May 15 - 11:14 PM

Shake your fist at lightening. Roar like forest fire. The gift goes on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 May 15 - 11:48 AM

Dear friends,

Art Thieme has died. He lived every minute to its fullest. There's a thread upstairs. Thoughts for his best friend and love, his wife Carol.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 May 15 - 03:00 PM

Ditto m.... RIP and thanks, Art.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 May 15 - 02:04 AM

Some love-filled musings...gnu: I might just abbreviate the title to 'Rant', which suddenly reminds me, I used to play a tune called 'The High Level Rant' on Mandolin, back in my Halliard days. Thanks for the kind thoughts.
         Dean: you're right, I am a compulsive apologist. You'd think, after all we've shared on The Rainbow that I could open my heart, guilt-free. I promise, next time I'm feeling so beset, I'll just say what's on my mind, no apologies for doing so. I'm fairly certain that will be a first for me...real progress.
         Pete: Yes, the composing has helped to ease the pressure. My thinking is now more preoccupied with the 'Musical Behemoth' I'm creating...anger redefined!
         ChanteyLass: I'm pleased I made you smile, but whether you'd enjoy listening to the finished piece, I'm not so sure! Yes, there are clashing cymbals & some mighty hits on a Tam Tam. It's something akin to Hans Zimmer meets John Cage!
         Janie: I'm sure I've said this before, but you have the uncanny knack of finding 'le chanson juste'. The alternative title: 'Ludwig's Song' says it all for me. Of all the Classical composers, Beethoven is the man I admire the most. I studied his life & music. Taught some of his music to eager students. Not only do you bring me Beethoven, but Joni Mitchell too, the singer/songwriter I admire the most. Beautifully poetic lyrics, carried on a complex, compelling melody & the arrangement is wonderfully idiosyncratic. No one writes like Joni...she's in a league of her own. "Shake your fist at lightening. Roar like forest fire. The gift goes on". I need those words, writ large, on every wall, in every room of my house.
          A simple "Thank you" to you all, conceals a greater love.
                                                         Nigel
                                                         xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 May 15 - 07:48 AM

I forgot...heartfelt thanks to senders of PMs & emails.
                                                                                  Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 May 15 - 03:20 AM

Our 'Travelling Twosome' fly back into the UK on Tuesday, after two days sightseeing in NYC. I think there will inevitably be a period of 'readjustment', fitting back into the home routine. After roughly three months of new sights, sounds, food & culture; dear old London Town is going to feel so mundane. I'm very relieved that we didn't have to call on any of you to provide emergency bed & board, but it was most reassuring to know there was a veritable army of Folk, willing to help, had the need arisen...thank you, All.
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel & Ann
                                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 May 15 - 07:54 AM

What a wonderful and educational trip save that early "glitch" which was, in a way, educational albeit very upsetting.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 May 15 - 08:53 PM

The young ladies may have a period of readjustment as you suggested, Nigel, but I imagine they will be happy to be home--and soon start planning their next adventure. Gnu, unless I misread, your post was the 4,500th on this thread!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 09:44 AM

The friend to whom I've been singing alone and with the folk chorus to which I belong died yesterday. Thanks for your kind thoughts, and please be encouraged to offer your music to those who have been bereft of music.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 01:15 PM

Bless you maeve. I hope that the comfort and kindness that you have been able to demonstrate to your friend in his passing, proves to be some consolation to you at this time.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 01:41 PM

Sending hugs Maeve xxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 06:44 PM

Hugs to you, Maeve.

I am headed to Kentucky in a couple of days for my nephew Austin's high school graduation. He is the child of my heart, the apple of my eye, and we have shared a special bond from the day he was born. I could not be prouder of him. He is severely dyslexic and reads at about a 4th grade level and has persevered without any encouragement from family in Kentucky. He reads for enjoyment, even though it is frequently a struggle, and we have the Harry Potter and Percy Jackson books to thank for that. I do wonder where the years went, seems like just yesterday he was a toddler who used to climb into bed with me in the morning for a cuddle and now he's a tall young man heading into adulthood.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 06:49 PM

Oh, I'm sorry Maeve. I am sure your singing and that of others has eased her along her journey.

The Continuing in Guam thread contains more sad news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 07:46 PM

Maeve, just checking in after many a day and seeing your post of today. A long, warm, consoling hug from me too. Stay strong!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 08:04 PM

Maeve, holding his family, you and all who loved him in my heart. Such a gift you and others offered him in his last days. Such solace.

Congrats to your nephew, Tami.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 08:05 PM

Maeve, holding his family, you and all who loved him in my heart. Such a gift you and others offered him in his last days. Such solace.

Congrats to your nephew, Tami.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 08:49 PM

You can say that again, Janie   : )


Maeve, bless your heart; ya done good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 09:43 PM

Maeve, the 7.46 pm post above is mine.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jun 15 - 11:14 PM

Thank you, friends. I'm so grateful we worked together to give them music right away rather than putting it off for a convenient time. My friend and his wife needed that particular kind of solace. I've been asked to sing at his service, and I will do that, but this form of love-giving does always make singing harder for me for a while afterwards.

***    ***    ***    ***    ***    ***    ***    ***    ***    ***
                Song for Bill
               
'Tis easy to linger in sorrow alone
Turn away from the ones we hold dear
Far harder to open Grief's door to the world
And let the West Wind take our fears.
    The pain of our losses, hard choices of life
    Mark each step we will take on the way
    But the Love that encircles a generous heart
    Brings clear vision in darkest of days
   
When Grief clings too close as you search for a path
You may stumble as you walk together
Hold fast to sweet music, that high-flying bird,
In the worst sort of hardship and weather.
    A sorrow that's shared can make enemies, friends.
    So give pardon for wrongs felt and given
    Release the old grudges, let them fly away
    And cherish your loved ones still living.
   
Reflections and shadows of previous grief
Will color each subsequent sorrow.
The sadness of losing our family and friends
Will linger through many tomorrows.
    So sing for the heart that is weeping tonight
    The heart that's bereft and forsaken
    Joy comes in the morning to comfort and cheer
    And Contentment one day will awaken.

© Maeve in Maine, 2015

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 06:12 AM

No wonder I couldn't sleep. Our own big-hearted Jean Ritchie has flown away.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 07:39 AM

Condolences, m. Beautiful song.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 09:22 AM

Beautiful indeed, Maeve; that reaches right down to the bone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 03:35 PM

some good thoughts expressed in that piece , maeve. hope the song goes ok for you in the service, it is evident that it will be heartfelt, and rendered with conviction.    blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 04:17 PM

For kind words, thank you.

Pete- I don't know that I'll try that one in the service. It's not a good practice, in my experience, to sing a raw song in the midst of raw emotion. I'll see when it's scheduled and what I am able to sing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 09:33 PM

Maeve, whatever you choose to sing, I'm sure it will be a lovely tribute to your friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 09:51 PM

I love the song, too, Maeve, and echo Tami's thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 02 Jun 15 - 11:04 PM

Ahhhh. Beautiful, maeve.

Even when I could sing, I could not sing at the funeral or memorial service of some one I held dear. Managed, just barely, my grandmother, whom I loved but who moved far away and I did not see often for many years before her death at a very old age. Neither Annie or I could manage it for my Dad, and were fortunate for our own sakes that he understood when we told him we knew we just could not emotionally manage it when he asked us to sing at his memorial service.   

Takes a special kind of love and courage and compassion to do that, regardless of what one chooses to sing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Jun 15 - 11:18 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jun 15 - 08:11 AM

I want to pay tribute to all the fine people who, by their love of humankind & with their selfless actions, often in the face of personal adversity, populate this thread, making it a refuge, a sanctuary, a safe harbour when Life's storms rage. You are my inspiration...my friends...my mentors. My life would be all the more barren without you.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Jun 15 - 04:50 PM

And you, yourself, Nigel, contribute richly to that description.    Blessings.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Jun 15 - 08:26 PM

Yes, Nigel, I feel the same way about you, and I suspect I'm not the only one!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jun 15 - 02:52 AM

Big hugs all round!
      Our eldest Granddaughter has returned safely to London, a little older, a lot wiser & with a head full of new sights, sounds, cultures & friends. She's off to uni. later this year with an enlightening gap year behind her. Her academic 'travels' beckon...a journey along which she will excel. Of that I have no doubt.
                                                                     With Love,
                                                                                     Nigel.
                                                                                     xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Jun 15 - 01:21 PM

Glad she's home safe and sound!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Jun 15 - 07:15 PM

Great news, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jun 15 - 06:09 AM

Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jun 15 - 11:56 PM

Well done, Nigel's granddaughter!

I wish my own son would consider post high school education or a pratical trade in addition to the "University of Life." But that is about my own fears and conventionalism, and not about him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Jun 15 - 03:58 AM

Janie...a brave & enlightened admission. Having never had children of my own, your dilemma, if that's the right word, is not one I've had to face. I can but imagine that what one wishes for one's children & what they actually end up doing, rarely match up. Me, I became a musician...my Parents wanted me to be a PE Teacher...they even had a preferred college. Right up until their deaths, I don't think they were completely reconciled with the path I chose. It was exactly as you said, Janie, it was about their own "...fears & conventionalism".
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel
                                                          xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Jun 15 - 09:51 PM

I did sing "Bill's Song" along with Malcolm Dalglish's "Paradise.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Jun 15 - 02:02 PM

well done maeve, did you manage to hold it together ?. either way it was a tribute and loving expression for your friend. blessings      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Jun 15 - 02:19 PM

Yes. I wouldn't have done it otherwise. I'm told it went over well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Jun 15 - 08:01 PM

Good going, Maeve!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jun 15 - 08:36 AM

Good on ya, m.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Jun 15 - 09:11 AM

well done

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Jun 15 - 06:45 PM

Thank you all.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jun 15 - 04:57 AM

Brava, Maeve, Brava! Your act of great musical compassion & love makes you a very special woman indeed. You have my utmost respect & admiration. I know for a fact I could not have sung a single note in the same circumstances.
         Tomorrow, 20th June, we remember Pat (Catspaw) Patterson. One of the funniest, erudite, worldly-wise men I ever had the great good fortune to 'meet' on line. I have several treasured PMs which fortunately survived the MC crash. As my Jewish friends would say: "I wish his Family long life".
                                                            With Love,
                                                                            Nigel.
                                                                            xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 25 Jun 15 - 12:07 PM

Raising to the top, because we need more nice around here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Jun 15 - 08:23 PM

Ranger1, you are so right about that!

Except for being worn out from a few weekends of folk festivals, I'm fine and hope everyone else is, too. I have nothing on for this weekend which is a bit disappointing but mostly a relief. Next weekend will be busy, though--it's the New Bedford Folk Festival.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Jun 15 - 05:45 AM

These few lines came to me over the last couple of days. They are open to multiple interpretations...they are full of apparent contradictions, yet they are redolent with a personal truth. Dear Reader, make of them what you will. The poem is entitled simply:             'They'.

'They' said it wouldn't rain, but it did.

'They' said I'd feel no pain, but I did.

'They' showed me right from wrong as a kid.

'They' punished when I failed as I was bid.

'They' promised me so much, delivered none.

'They' left me all alone when I was one.

'They' called it "showing off", but it was fun.

'They' gathered round & laughed when I was done.

'They' told me he would live, but then he died.

'They' told me to be brave, but then I cried.

'They' said he felt no pain, but they had lied.

'They' said that time would heal, I'm dead inside.

'They' offered words of comfort from the heart.

'They' wrapped their arms around me from the start.

'They' dried my tears lest I should fall apart.

'They' walked an extra mile, time to depart.

                                                               (© 2015 Nigel Paul Paterson)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Jun 15 - 08:17 AM

beautifully put, Nigel

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jun 15 - 09:23 AM

Ditto Sandra fer sure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jun 15 - 01:35 PM

Well done, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Jun 15 - 11:59 AM

nicely encompassing apparent negatives with affirming positives, nigel.
tommy had some blood tests taken, and a doctor phoned to say that his blood count was extremely low, and was we sure he was not ill at present. we are glad to say he is doing well at present, but we have been told that if he falls ill at all it will be an emergency as his resistance is low. so anyone a prayer to spare, thanks.
blessings all             pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Jun 15 - 04:36 PM

Oh, dear. Praying, of course.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jun 15 - 06:45 PM

Another, BIG, ditto from here!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 30 Jun 15 - 05:17 AM

and prayers from me too, Pete,
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Jun 15 - 10:06 AM

thankyou all.   hows it going with you and yours wendy ?
blessings       pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Jun 15 - 09:46 PM

Those of you who are such direct caregivers, be it of spouses, children or parents, it is such a hard job that I can not do.    So grateful that in the world there are at least some family members who can dig deep enough to do this hard job of love and responsibility in really instrumental ways.

You are not saints. And it seems to me it is sometimes an awful burden to bear when people label you as such. But you keep on doing what love and duty calls you to do when some, like me, can not shoulder that burden. Let us be really clear. It is a burden. Also a burden rarely equally shared among family members, and for very, very many different and overdetermined reasons.

You are not saints. You have no obligation to appear noble, even when you are not feeling noble. But you are heroic and absolutely awesome, none-the-less.

Sometimes, knowing others see you as awesome, even when you are not feeling so awesome yourself, but feeling careworn, overwhelmed, storm-tossed, resentful, or just wanting to scream 'I can not do this another second - may be enough to carry you through to the next minute, next hour, or next day.

All I can offer is a virtual cup of tea, and occasionally a song of encouragement or empathy. That is all any of us can offer. But I truly hope those offerings help, and believe they do, or I would not still be posting here.

Haven't found any tune or song to post that is a proper tribute to you as caregivers. So just posting a song I like, by a group I like, that I hope you will enjoy.
Old Ties and Companions

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jul 15 - 06:21 AM

I couldn't echo Janie's eloquent words more strongly. I too believe that the little things we do & say here can make a huge difference to someone's life. We can't cure; we can't replace; we can't influence the passage of time. Nevertheless, with our loving empathy, we can offer new ways of thinking about an old problem...we can dilute the loneliness that so often accompanies despair...we can 'reach out' in our abstract way & 'touch' someone as if we were standing by their side. Pete & Tommy, I'm sure many of our loyal & dedicated Crew are doing that, right now.
                                                                   With Love,
                                                                                  Nigel
                                                                                  xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Jul 15 - 02:18 PM

Big Ol Life

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Jul 15 - 02:50 PM

Thanks for the kind thoughts, janie and Nigel .   And I enjoyed the tunes. Not my usual musical fare, you broaden my horizons .          Blessings.         Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jul 15 - 05:06 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Jul 15 - 06:29 PM

Top again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Jul 15 - 05:58 AM

'Big Ol Life'...I've said it before, but this is the Sound of America for me. Complex in it's simplicity, melodically & lyrically.The vocal blend is captivating. Watching & listening to the performers is a real joy...they are inhabiting the song from the tips of their toes to their hair follicles! I'd give my eye teeth to spend time, playing with such gifted, committed performers. Live Music at it's very best...thank you, Janie...just what we needed.

'The Rainbow' is becalmed, her sails furled. We seem to have dropped anchor in a quiet lagoon. I imagine we will swing gently on the anchor, pushed gently to & fro by the tide. We need a break from Life's' Storms.
                                                         Wishing you all a restful shore leave,
                                                         With Love to You All,
                                                                                        Nigel
                                                                                        xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jul 15 - 07:21 AM

Agreed on both counts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 11 Jul 15 - 05:14 AM

Morning crew,

thanks Pete for asking about me and mine, it has been a rather difficult few weeks so I have sat on deck just listening!

My daughter had her MRI and the news is good, crohns is in remission, but now ,after a year, they are no closer to finding out why she has been so terribly ill, so are starting again from scratch?

I also had some devastating news about a cousin who has been diagnosed with pancreatic and liver cancer. She is truly inspirational and has a bucket list of "to do" . So last Sunday Billy and I made a mad dash to the Cotswolds to meet her for lunch and visit my father's bench at the church in Little Rissington.She wanted to sit on it with me and have some memory moments which we did.

My mother is becoming more difficult to look after, walks up and down constantly ( big risk of falling so I have to walk too )She is finding eating very difficult so it is a constant battle to feed her and also to get her to drink in this hot weather.

Enough of feeling sorry for myself, I have felt very down for a few weeks. The sun is out the grand daughters are on their way and Billy and I will take them to the beach hut for the day, picnic, tennis on the beach, maybe even time for a chapter or two on my kindle?

much love and thank you for listening.

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jul 15 - 08:08 AM

(((Wendy)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Jul 15 - 07:08 PM

Oops,that guest was me! Thank you gnu for the hug,feel better now! Lovely day with the children at the beach,bless them .Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Jul 15 - 10:15 PM

Sounds like it was a day with some respite and pleasant distraction, Wendy.

This ship of life never lingers overly long to the leeward side of islands, eh? Kettle is on and we have a warm cup of tea for you shortly, darlin' Wendy. Haven't found the perfect song, maybe some one else can. In the meantime, may the chorus of wind and birds and all the crew here, known and unknown, Raise you up

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Jul 15 - 11:55 AM

So not entirely bad at the present, Wendy, but it sounds like you got a lot to cope with , compounded by the bad news for your cousin. I expect she found it a blessing that you travelled over to spend time with her. I suppose some of life's most precious moments are tinged with sadness, but some of the saddest times are lightened with such precious moments.    Blessings.   Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Jul 15 - 10:22 PM

Hugs from me, too, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jul 15 - 08:04 PM

Head's up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jul 15 - 09:53 PM

If I may, would appreciate some good thoughts for my darling and lively 94 year old cousin. USA folks, at least on the East coast, may have been reading news of the devastating flash flooding in the Flat Gap area of eastern Kentucky.

We have every reason to think Lexie is physically safe, as the oldest age of those missing is 74. We also think it is likely her home was seriously flooded, knowing where she lived and based on news reports.    I've been through a serious flood myself. Washed me and my ex-husband out of West Virginia 29 years ago. Devastating.

Not assuming Lexie got flooded out, but very concerned. The flooding washed out power and phone lines so we have not been able to reach her or other family in Flat Gap or Red Bush. Pretty sure other family were on high enough ground to not have their homes flooded.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 12:32 AM

Shortly after I posted my last post, Lexie called. Her basement was badly flooded which wiped out the AC and furnace, but the house proper was spared. Water stopped just short of the floor joists. It will be a mess but not a disaster. Her kids and grandkids were all on even higher ground and are in a position to take care of the damage when the water recedes. She is focused on what near neighbors, who were inundated, and her community needs, and counting her blessings.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 05:15 AM

We're both glad Lexie is safe, Janie. What a relief! Thinking of you all,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 06:01 AM

Yes indeed!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 07:52 AM

Good to hear Lexie is fine, and made me chuckle a little that she's more concerned about the others not as fortunate. Reminds me of you, dear Janie. Sounds like you lot come from good, firmly-rooted stock.

Wendy, big hugs to you. That is not a job I could do. Got a taste when Mum was sick at Christmas. I have many talents, but being a caregiver is not one of them.

Personally, at the moment, I am being stressed by work. Something that doesn't normally happen. Don't want to discuss details, let's just say that I needed to speak to someone about something and I don't like confrontation. It went poorly the first time I tried to approach what was bothering me (I chose a bad time, place, and approach to use), however, a couple of days later, we made a start on working on the issues. But the stress has really gotten to me and has kicked my anxiety into gear again and I'm not sleeping well. Minor stuff compared to what so many others are dealing with, just nice to be able to talk about it with the Rainbow crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 01:58 PM

(((Wendy)))
(((Tami)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 07:11 PM

Janie, you had me worried for a few minutes! I was glad to see your second post about Lexie right after I read your first. I am glad Lexie has family who can deal with the damage.

Tami, I hope you get things at work sorted out soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 07:29 PM

Relationship issues with whoever can be very unsettling, even though we tell ourselves not to let it get to us, so I hope whatever issues are soon amicably sorted, ranger 1       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Jul 15 - 10:36 PM

Remember to breathe, Tami. {{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

Thanks ya'll. We had been trying to reach them or get word of how they fared since the first news of the flash flood was reported on regional news, and are very relieved to know Lexie's house was not ruined.

Between strip-mining and over-logging so many parts of that area - all of the Appalachian plateau, actually - has become increasingly prone to flash flooding of the many creeks that have carved out those narrow hollers that make up the ancient Appalachian Plateau. The entire region has been inundated with rain for the past several weeks. Lexie's kids realized when the last round of storms was predicted that flooding was possible so went and got her to be sure she would not be trapped.

My Dad's family is from Flat Gap and other near communities that were also flooded there in Johnson Co, Ky. Our several times great grandparents moved there right after the Revolutionary War, taking land grants offered as compensation for their war service. I am probably kin to at least 50% of the the folks who live in and around those local hollers (hollows, to outlanders), though Lexie and one of her daughters are the only folks we really know and are close to.

Abusing this thread and audience to wander and reflect a little on my own roots to people and also a region, provoked by the tragedy of one small part of the world that touches me personally. My grandparents were 4th cousins on their respective paternal sides. Lexie was my grandmother's 1st cousin, on Nannie's maternal side. Lexie is 20 years younger, but their mutual grandparents helped raise Nannie, and Nannie helped raise Lexie. Lexie was also more distantly related to my grandfather through his and Lexie's mothers. The ties that bind.

Life in the Appalachian hill country has never been easy. My heart breaks for them. But they are strong and resilient and their community still has a lot of cohesiveness. This is not the first flash flood, and it won't be the last. But they are getting more frequent and more severe.

We have a different kinship here in that it is neither by bloodline or geography. Here on Mudcat we can, and occasionally have, collectively and individually come to the aid of different folks in need in instrumental, 3-d world ways, but mostly our relationships are virtual. Doesn't diminish the kinship and all the emotional and psychological ways community matters in the lives of each of us.

Grateful for ties that bind and enjoin us to sail along with one another on the ship - flotilla really, of care, concern, and unconditional positive regard.

I am often not sure why some songs come to mind, but this one does right now, for whatever reason. On A Day Like Today

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Jul 15 - 06:14 AM

They say that a week is a long time in politics. I think that applies equally to our thread. I last posted on 10th July, since which time, a plethora of posts that demand our attention; stimulate our love & compassion; inform & educate us (thread drift welcomed!); broaden our musical knowledge & tastes & compel us to, yet again, reassess our rôle in life. Becalmed or cresting the breakers, Jane's Rainbow remains a sturdy ship where all are welcome; where all can expect to feel safe & cared for; where all can contribute as they see fit.
          What a Crew! What a Ship! What a Voyage!
                                                                            With Love to You All,
                                                                                                          Nigel
                                                                                                          xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 17 Jul 15 - 12:00 PM

Janie, I...like, totally... : ) love that song; that whole thing, the lyrics, the melody, the harmonies, just melted me down into my socks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Jul 15 - 11:20 PM

Be we becalmed?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jul 15 - 12:14 AM

Calm, perhaps. But not becalmed. Lets dance a little shuffle on the deck. Not a seaman's shuffle necessarily, but one we can all 'shake a leg' to!

To life! http://www.mudcat.org/blickifier2.cfm

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Jul 15 - 12:18 AM

Oops. Botched link. And that is to life also, eh?

Redux. Si Kahn cover by some Mudcatters.
My Wild Rose of the Mountain

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,gnu
Date: 22 Jul 15 - 12:04 PM

That one works VERY WELL! froggy was right.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 22 Jul 15 - 01:09 PM

Axtually, my comment was on that lovely Trickett-Para-Barton video of "On a Day Like Today", which was new to me. But this take on "Wild Rose of the Mountain" is great stuff too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jul 15 - 09:53 PM

Oh, calm is much better than becalmed! And both of those songs are nice.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Jul 15 - 05:39 AM

Love & Greetings from an unseasonably chilly London. I hope all is well with our trusty Crew.
                      Nigel & Ann
                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 Jul 15 - 07:59 AM

Well enough thanks Nigel. We're working very hard here. TL just saw a warbler cleaning insects off of our very tall dill plants.

Warm regards to all on board,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Jul 15 - 10:59 AM

It's been a week of ups and downs for me. On the up side: I repaired my broken futon myself and the guys at the hardware store, when consulted, said that my plan was how they would have done it, as well.

On the down side: our one active nest (this year has been tough on our ospreys) of ospreys got attacked by a bald eagle two days in a row. One juvenile was killed and eaten, and the second only survived because Mama fought back. The juvenile was slightly injured and in shock, and out of the nest and on the ground. The decision was made to send her to Avian Haven (a bird rehab center) because that way she at least has a fighting chance of survival, which she would not if put back in the nest, as the eagle would keep coming back until it finally succeeded in killing her, too. To say I am not fond of bald eagles is putting it mildly. I have more fondness for pigeons and gulls than I do eagles.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Jul 15 - 10:22 PM

Yah on the smart futon repair Tammy. Sorry for your heartbreak re the young Ospreys (what is the plural of Osprey, btw.)

If it helps, I remind myself that unlike we human animals, most other animals do not prey out of malice.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Jul 15 - 11:03 PM

Tami, I'm sorry about the ospreys. Good job on the futon!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Jul 15 - 10:48 AM

Ann & I will be in Charlotte NC in the not too distant future. We would love to meet any Mudcatters who might be within striking distance. As a rough guide, we will be just off highway 521, heading south, just a mile or two from the NC/SC State Line. Please pm me if you would/could meet up & we can discuss details,
                                       Much Love,
                                                       Nigel & Ann
                                                       xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 31 Jul 15 - 11:14 AM

Nigel- Oh, I do wish! Have a lovely visit.

MaeveWhoIsTooFarFrom North Carolina!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Jul 15 - 04:44 PM

Yeah, eagles can be shite. And, yes, they do kill out of "malice" if you consider they are killing a competitor's young (a stretch, perhaps?). I was witness to a number of fights back in the fly infested bog country of Kent County, NB between eagles and bog ravens. I say *bog* ravens because these suckers are BIG. These aren't the ones you see eating roadkill on the highway. These are ravens that rule the prime territory WAY back. I watched an eagle venture to a pond way back one day. The alarm was sounded and ravens came from far and wide and the eagle was a pile of blood and feathers in minutes. They even blocked it from getting away and simply beat the crap out of it. Picked all of the tail feathers off and spread them around for good measure. They didn't even eat it. Then, they all went back to their territories after making a racket with numerous vocalizations. I wish I had owned a camcorder back then.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 31 Jul 15 - 06:09 PM

Oh dear. I fear my comment may have been misunderstood. I too am sorry about the ospreys Tami. I know I get attached to the inhabitants when I have the opportunity to watch nests and dens, and feel angry and disparaging when another creature preys upon them.

Nigel. See pm. Don't know if what will surely be your own tightly packed schedule and my rather inflexible schedule can mesh during your visit, but let's talk and see if it is doable.

Good thoughts to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 02 Aug 15 - 05:48 AM

Maeve, I do wish too! (Nigelwhoistoofarawayfromjustabouteveryonehewouldlovetomeet!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Aug 15 - 06:44 PM

NC is also too far from me, alas. Too bad, because ever since I started to read the Deborah Knott mysteries by Margaret Maron I have wanted to visit that state and eat a slaw dog.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Aug 15 - 06:46 PM

Grr. Don't know why I bother to copy a link and then leave it out.http://www.margaretmaron.com/biblio.html

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Aug 15 - 05:14 AM

ChanteyLass, I regret the fact that the distance between thee & NC prohibits a meeting too...very annoying. Please tell me more about a "Slaw Dog"...I can use my imagination, but the culinary details would be fascinating. In all the years Ann & I have been visiting NC, the aforementioned 'SD' seems to have passed us by. We await enlightenment!
                                          Love to All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.
                                                          xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Aug 15 - 07:33 AM

Alas, history books fail to mention anything about the West Virginia Slaw Wars. The West Virginia Slaw Line

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Aug 15 - 11:03 AM

Janie, the photo is FAR better than any history book...I'm laughing whilst typing...Ann is laughing too...neither of us can stop! So funny, SO FUNNY!
                                           XXXXX
                                                    Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Aug 15 - 05:34 PM

Glad I got out of bed today... slaw line. Who'da thunk it?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Aug 15 - 08:55 PM

The link Janie provided sums it up! Now, I'm capable of spreading cole slaw on a hot dog, but should the slaw be Vinegary, sweet, or creamy? I love trying local versions of hot dogs!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Aug 15 - 12:33 AM

Sweet and somewhat creamy, but don't overdress the slaw - too much dressing makes the bun too soggy, and sweet because if vinegary the dressing is thin and watery and and soaks the bun, turning the already steamed bun into an unpalatable, doughy mess - a textural insult to the mouth and tongue.

I was raised up right and proper, south of the Slaw Line:>)

Heading to the galley....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Aug 15 - 06:53 PM

That helps!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Aug 15 - 11:29 AM

Tommy had a dip this morning and was ambulanced to hospital and in resuss, non too well.   Apparently very busy there , so praying that he gets the attention he needs. Thanks crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Aug 15 - 02:08 PM

Ahh, Pete. All hands assembling on deck. A ship may rest in port for a time, but it seems the nature of life that the ship may not linger over long. Hoisting the mainsail as we head out again into the wild blue sea. Holding Tommy and you and your family in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 09 Aug 15 - 09:43 PM

Amen to what Janie said; hoping for the best for Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Aug 15 - 10:16 PM

As, Pete, sorry to hear that Tommy's had a setback. I'm adding my prayers to yours and those of others here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,ChanteyLass on cell phone
Date: 09 Aug 15 - 10:19 PM

Oops! This and the previous post are both mine.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Aug 15 - 04:02 AM

Pete & Tommy...life has battered you with it's storms, but there is always a safe haven here. Wishing you both calmer seas as the Doctors tend to Tommy's needs.
                                  With Love,
                                                   Nigel.
                                                   xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Aug 15 - 01:20 PM

Oh dear! Ditto, ditto, ditto... thoughts and prayers, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Aug 15 - 02:32 PM

Thank you so much, I,m touched by your thoughts and prayers.   I,m pleased to report that he has been much better today, and hopefully out tomorrow. It is thought that it was triggered by mucous blockage. He does not know how to shift it, and it is not easy to identify till it adversely affects him.       Blessings    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Aug 15 - 09:21 PM

Pete, let us know . . . . Prayers continue.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 11 Aug 15 - 12:48 PM

Thanks for the update, Pete. Tommy's been in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Aug 15 - 09:32 PM

P-Vine and Bobert would not mind some prayers and comfort from the crew. No emergency, but P-vine has had a long run of intermittent but significant health problems over the past several years. Recently doing better and may that continue, but Bobert would appreciate some good mojo that the improvement continues.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 02:07 AM

We bought tommy home last night. I am sitting in his room and he is sleeping peacefully with a very slow tube feed going this morning. He is having antibiotics for ear infection and has pneumonia but as he is brighter, hospital team visiting rather than being kept in . Thank you crew.                With a prayer for bobert and p-vine and blessing on them, and y'all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 06:09 AM

Glad to hear he is well enough to get home. Hope it continues upward.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 06:33 AM

Morning crew,
I haven't been on board for a week or so, had grandchildren so full of beach days and a rather wonderful boat trip around the Walton backwaters to see the seal colony.

However sending much love to Pete and Tommy and Bobert, p-vine and any others needing our healing thoughts.

Good news have AT LAST sold mother's bungalow, to the third buyer, who really did have the cash to buy unlike the first two. Why oh why are some people so dishonest?

Mother is very weak, hardly eating but still walking , walking!! Her birthday will be on August 31st, she will be 92! Amazing lovely lady.

My daughter is on holiday in France and feeling WELL !!! So the Rainbow mojo is working!

much love to all, enjoy your trip Nigel and Ann.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 06:33 AM

Morning crew,
I haven't been on board for a week or so, had grandchildren so full of beach days and a rather wonderful boat trip around the Walton backwaters to see the seal colony.

However sending much love to Pete and Tommy and Bobert, p-vine and any others needing our healing thoughts.

Good news have AT LAST sold mother's bungalow, to the third buyer, who really did have the cash to buy unlike the first two. Why oh why are some people so dishonest?

Mother is very weak, hardly eating but still walking , walking!! Her birthday will be on August 31st, she will be 92! Amazing lovely lady.

My daughter is on holiday in France and feeling WELL !!! So the Rainbow mojo is working!

much love to all, enjoy your trip Nigel and Ann.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 06:37 AM

Ooops, don't know how I did that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 06:44 PM

Janie, I'm adding prayers for P-Vine and Bobert. Pete and Wendy, thanks to each of you for some good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Aug 15 - 07:09 PM

Yay!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Aug 15 - 07:24 PM

Good news is easy on the mind. Glad to hear it.

Mum is much better today. The Tuesday night fall took a toll more mentally than physically. Still... no way she will consider a monitor, hearing aids, vertigo assessment and physio or cataract surgery. "My cousin went through that and the doctor put her through hell!" Sigh. I'd like to say, "Bullshit. You have to do these things for your own good.", but she has 30 years seniority on me so I can't.

Don't commiserate or offer anything at all. Fact is, this woe is miniscule in comparison. I am just venting. Just posting it lightens my load a tad. To have replies adds to my load.

So! Saw a Hummingbird yesterday and another today at the feeder I have next to Mum's apple tree! A small lone male Ruby Throated Hbird. Anyone who knows me knows my love of THE KING OF BIRDS. We used to have oodles all summer long but for three years... SFA! Last year, only a female and two young for three days during southern migration. I believe the pesticide and herbicides are killing them off. I immediately went in my house and called Mum... "Humming Bird Alert." "Okay!" Click. She is nearly blind but she has binoculars beside the kitchen window... I SO hope she saw it. I will have tears if she didn't.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Aug 15 - 08:23 PM

Hooray for your hummingbird! May many more survive!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Aug 15 - 08:57 PM

Fierce little beasties, aren't they?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 14 Aug 15 - 03:28 PM

The specific toxins are made by Monsanto under the names Gaucho and Sancho. They are Nicanoids and when France banned these systemic poisons even their bee population returned.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Aug 15 - 04:22 AM

Here's an unfinished song. Please feel free to add, subtract & edit in any way you see fit (or totally reject if you so wish!). It fits to the tune of: "We're Bound for Botany Bay".

Come all ye who voyage on The Rainbow,
Come all ye who make up the Crew.
We're bound over yonder horizon,
Not knowing what work's left to do.

CHORUS:
                Singing tooralie, ooralie addity
                Singing tooralie, ooralie ay.
                Singing tooralie, ooralie addity,
                The Rainbow's in sail & makes way.

Our voyage started here in old London,
We'd water & food in the hold.
With map table & the meridian
And oilskins to keep out the cold.

                                                                CHORUS

The compass was set for Americay,
For the United States we were bound.
The Union Flag & Old Glory
At the masthead could proudly be found.

                                                                CHORUS


We've all been beset by life's tragedies,
We've felt more than our fair share of pain.
We did what we could to relieve it
And we'd do it again & again.

                                                                CHORUS
(August 2015)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Aug 15 - 08:06 AM

I like it!

I also like the fact that we have a Hummingbird resident in Mum's apple tree and he isn't shy. Comes to the feeder and flowers while Mum and I are sitting and chatting just ten feet away.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Aug 15 - 01:58 PM

Lovely gnu.   Our feathered friends can be a delight.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Aug 15 - 07:47 PM

Nice, Nigel. I'd like to add to it but so fwr I'm coming up blank.

Photos, gnu? Or at least a link to a pic of the same kind of hummingbird?

ChanteyLass being a pain in the . . . .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 05:46 AM

Today, I remember my first, late Wife, Eleni. She died from breast cancer in 1997. We had been through an acrimonious divorce in 1990 & had no contact with each other for several years. An overlooked, minor legal matter lead to an exchange of letters & an eventual, face to face meeting. It was clear from the outset that in the interim, we had both changed & 'grown up'. The legal matter was dealt with in a matter of minutes. We spent the rest of the time catching up & more importantly, apologising to each other for the mistakes we'd made & how we'd hurt each other. I drove home, several hours later, realising this had been one of the most important days of our lives. A week later, Eleni's partner 'phoned me with the news of her diagnosis; something she already knew, but choose not to tell me. We exchanged one more letter, underlining & reinforcing our mutual regrets. Three months later, Eleni died. Ann & I have talked about the details of my first marriage on many occasions, in particular, that one, special meeting. We are both in agreement that it was the best thing that could have happened. It made coping with her death a little easier.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 08:36 AM

Nigel,
I am grateful you and Eleni and Ann have this in common:

Grace and Forgiveness. Such a treasured memory.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 02:07 PM

Bless you Nigel .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 06:14 PM

Ditto, maeve.

I still loathe my ex for what she did to me and to Mum (yes, to Mum... behind my back... it was only about ten years after I divorced the vile piece of shit that Mum told me about "things"). Sadly, I cannot forgive the thirteen years, four months, seventeen days, and eleven and a half hours of... Gee. I seem to be ranting a lot. Must be something in the beer. >;-)

Hbird pics, CL? I have some somewhere but to find them? Ruby Throated Humming Bird. I have posted many stories about The King Of Birds. I recall one thread in which I told a story and Spaw said it was my best post ever. I'll never forget that. Spaw. Sniff...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 06:21 PM

A quick search for "Hummingbird" only yields...

Subject: RE: BS: Hummingbirds
From: gnu - PM
Date: 07 May 05 - 03:39 PM

LTS: "...much more acrobatic ..." Obvoiusly, you've never seen them in action. I've had them hover about a foot in front of me (perhaps looking at their reflection in my sunglasses) and just that is impressive. When they start fighting it's amazing. Your eyes can barely follow them. And, watching them beat up on a cat is unreal. A pair will fly in figure eights at right angles and, when the cat is distracted by one, the other will peck the cat on the top of the head. I watched one of my cats hug the ground under such an attack for about two minutes before making a run for it. She licked a bunch of blood off her paw that day. And she avoided that lilac bush for the rest of the summer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 06:36 PM

For my friend gnu- found using "hummer" as search term.
Subject: BS: I just LOVE hummers!
Good times there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Aug 15 - 09:18 PM

Nigel, I am glad you and Eleni were able to resolve matters and ease feelings at that last meeting.

gnu, I'm sorry you and your mother were so badly hurt by your ex.
And the ruby-throated hummingbird is one I don't need a photo of. It is one I could easily recognize.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Aug 15 - 12:02 AM

Hey crew! A mother whose son is dying is in my thoughts tonight. Lisa The son is also. Probably several weeks, maybe a couple of months. Both of them, and all who love them doing their best to sail ahead into uncharted waters.

Some of you know or know of Lisa Null and some don't. Regardless, I know you all welcome her aboard.

Some one see to the sails, someone else get the kettle on in the galley. I see some of you are already battening down hatches that don't require much going in and out of.   The seas ahead, as we all know, will likely alternate between stormy, tempest tossed and long swells, sometimes soothing and sometimes sickening. Down at the bottom of those swells, seems as if a little ship must surely be swallowed by the ocean, only to find in a little while, the ship is momentarily perfectly balanced on the top of a swell and all creation laid out as a feast for the eyes, the heart, the spirit, the suchness of being.

We are not just one small ship. We are a flotilla, giving heart and courage to one another. That is what it means to be as fully human as each of us can be, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Aug 15 - 12:41 PM

Very well expressed Janice . May the waters ahead be as kind as possible to them. Blessings. Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Lisa Null
Date: 18 Aug 15 - 12:44 PM

Thanks Janie. It's strenthening to go on such a vigorous journey as if it were a great seafaring one. It's true, the ship goes up and then down and then up again. We know we have a new destination to explore but haven't got a compass yet beyond dead reckoning. Be of good cheer, Mate. I'm trying to be!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 18 Aug 15 - 12:46 PM

...Janie....spellcheck don't always get it right.   ,!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Aug 15 - 01:30 PM

Thank you, Janie!

Welcome, welcome to Lisa, well known and highly treasured. I will hold you and your son in my heart. Singing to you long distance!

Maeve in Maine

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Aug 15 - 05:27 AM

Welcome on board, Lisa. I'm very pleased that Janie has introduced you & your son to the Crew. As you may already know from Janie, Ann & I have survived one of Life's greatest storms, but not without the knowledge, experience, love & compassion of the good people who sail with us. We are indeed, a flotilla & speaking personally, we stand in front of you with arms outstretched...ready to help in whatever way we can,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann
                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Aug 15 - 06:16 AM

Welcome Lisa,you simply could not be with a better crew of people!

Nigel, I too had a first marriage that "ended in tears" as my mother would say. When my daughter married her lovely husband she was given away by both my husbands and the father of the bride speech was made jointly by them. Her father had left when she was ten and Billy was ( and still is) a wonderful step father. After the wedding a few friends commented that if their ex's had gone to their children's wedding they would not!!They simply could not understand that both her dads were a huge part of her life. We all treasure the DVD of that wedding because three years later her father died of cancer. He had the chance to see his granddaughter who was born three weeks before he died.I cannot say in all honesty that on the day I felt love for the woman who took my place in my first husbands heart,but she too was at the wedding. It was a wonderful happy day and I know that the 2 fathers could not have been more proud of their beautiful daughter and I was very proud of them both.

much love to all,
Sailing on
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Aug 15 - 11:56 AM

Welcome, Lisa. The Rainbow's a good ship and her crew are wise.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Aug 15 - 05:44 PM

you hear of so many problems and bitterness at weddings where there have been breakups , but you demonstrated grace wendy. bless you.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Aug 15 - 09:25 PM

Welcome aboard, Lisa. I'm glad you've joined the Rainbow's crew. I'm another member who will keep you and your son in my heart and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Aug 15 - 10:49 PM

Welcome aboard, Lisa; I have heard you mentioned respectfully for years, but to be honest hadn't been more acquainted than that. I've just looked up a bit of your singing on Youtube, and certainly enjoyed it. Will be holding you and your son in heart and mind here in Michigan.    Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Aug 15 - 10:40 AM

thinking of all the crew

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 20 Aug 15 - 12:17 PM

I could use a hug. Just began my lunch by checking the news and the first headline I see is Jimmy Carter has Melanoma which has spread to the brain. Yesterday would have been my father's 90th birthday so I was already feeling more emotional about his loss than usual, and this news is so similar that I can't get the tears to stop. Flooded with memories of Daddy's last days and feelings of grief and loss almost as intense as in the weeks after he died.

Gotta get a grip in time for the eyes and face to be clear before my next client at 1:00.

Just typing this is helping. So grateful to have somewhere to express this.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Aug 15 - 03:01 PM

Ah, Janie...it hit me hard too. Streaming hugs and support your way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Aug 15 - 07:00 PM

Hugs from me, too, Janie. And prayers for Jimmy C.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Aug 15 - 07:17 PM

hugs on their way to Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Aug 15 - 06:12 AM

Hugs & comforting thoughts coming all the way from London. Every tear you shed is a distillation of the love you felt for your belovéd Father.
                                                    Much Love,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Aug 15 - 11:46 AM

Carter never invaded... not one shot fired in oppression on his watch. He will be missed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 23 Aug 15 - 01:52 PM

Hello shipmates. Sorry I've been on such a long shore leave. Much much much going on on both sides of the pond regards elderly parents. I think we almost have my 88 year old Mamma sorted out. Going to help my younger brother in Indiana pay for stairlift so she can live at his part of the year and then wth other family in Florida during the colder months.

Things got very bad. She had several falls, needed heavy pain killers including injections. Squatters living in her house stealing her pain meds and food. They are gone thankfully. Took calling the police several times and putting in notice to quit. Her house is crumbling and mortgage is more than value of house. We are hoping to help her sell up and refinance remainder of loan so she is not paying stupidly high interest.

Parents in law in Strat u Avon another problem. Dad (98) is finding it near impossible to cope with Mum (88) who's dementia is getting quite bad. He is finally considering assited living. We are moving to Shropshire end of September which puts us much nearer. But we have no idea what kind of placement and care they want/need. Dad does not want to be separated from Mum. So many places won't let a couple stay together if one has dementia. They have good pension, savings and fully paid off nice flat in theatre area of Strat U Avon. So money is not really that much of an issue. We just want to keep them together as long as possible.

Should they buy a retirement 2 bed bungalow and hire in full time carer/ domestic? Shoudl we be looking at a place with activities Dad seems only to want to sleep though it may be sheer exhaustion from keeping a 5 foot toddler in hand.   Mum has started to wander, constantly tidies things away so they can't be found. Starts to make tea and then puts mugs with milk away in the cupboard. Often doesn't recognise Arthur as her long time husband but only as someone who now lives where she currently is. once when we were visiting she was determioned to go out of door onto balcony in order to get to her house she was certain was behind the trees across the street. I am terrified she will fall from one of the balconies. They are in a first floor flat.

Any advice gratefully considered.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Aug 15 - 06:54 PM

VTam, welcome back. I wish I had information to help you, but I don't. It sounds like you have a lot to sort out. I'm sending prayers for you and your family because that's all I can do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Aug 15 - 07:13 PM

No advice to offer from the oar station from where I sit, VT, but lots of love and good thoughts as your family finds its way through uncharted waters.

And thanks for the good thoughts, all. Did not expect to lose my sea legs. They are slowing returning, thanks to this stalwart crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Aug 15 - 07:54 PM

VT... no words here. Just thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Aug 15 - 08:29 PM

one bit of advice if someone hasn't already suggested it to you father in law - toddler locks on balcony doors.

google search toddler locks windows doors uk or maybe even security locks

maybe a dementia support organisation can offer further practical advice, again if they haven't been consulted.

sandra (12,000 miles away)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 25 Aug 15 - 07:52 PM

Refresh the waves ... rise again Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 25 Aug 15 - 08:07 PM

"Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. I lied." "Why did you lie, my son?" "I was asked a question and, if I told the truth, it would have curtailed me helping the person that asked me the question." "So, you lied to help this person?" "Yes, Father." "Fuckin great job, my son!"

At least, that's how I would imagine it should go.

I used to post about trying to do three good deeds a day. For over a week, I have had a hard time just standing up so the 3-a-day stuff is toast fer now. I can walk at times but I have to walk... I cannot walk slowly and that's how Mum walks, at a crawl, and with frequent stops. It's excruciating pain. Today, while walking Mum around Sobeys, an obviously "distressed" woman was babbling about egg rolls. I asked if I could help. GODSEND! I asked Mum if it was okay for me to leave her and show the woman where the egg rolls were and she agreed. That meant that I could actually walk at a reasonable pace, although hobbling, AND do a good deed. Made my day.

Often, I feel the same way when I visit this thread. I wish I could offer some kind of help, some wisdom, but all I can do is point out where the egg rolls are. BTW... frozen egg rolls are crap. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Aug 15 - 08:34 PM

Have a seat here on the rear deck, gnu, sheltered from the wind for a bit, and in a seat made just for you, with all the correct angles and supports. Clamps to the deck when the seas roll some but not too much, and the clamps release so we can move it down near to the warmth of the galley stove as the need arises. Tea or a dram? Your pleasure. {{{hugs}}}.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Aug 15 - 06:10 AM

VT...the fact that you have 'put pen to paper' & laid out your concerns in some detail has therapeutic, problem-solving value. Don't underestimate the power of your subconscious. The answers/advice you seek almost certainly lie within your good self. Re-read what you posted first thing in the morning...set it aside & get on with your day. DO NOT re-read immediately before going to bed & do not re-read every day. A couple of times will be more than enough. The subconscious never sleeps & given time (different for each of us), new pathways will present themselves.
          I offer the above in the spirit of friendship, based on my life experiences of Psychotherapy, both as practitioner & patient. I retired from all clinical work twelve years ago, something which should be borne in mind when reading my comments. Like Gnu, I can't do much more than "...point out where the egg rolls are."
          I wish you well as you work your way through a complex, worrying set of circumstances,
                      With Love,
                                       Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 26 Aug 15 - 01:38 PM

Nothing to add, except my thoughts and prayers.    Blessings.      Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 27 Aug 15 - 10:49 AM

Hot dang if Nigel wasn't right. Well you all are. Thanks. After years of worrying myself literally sick over my Mom and my parents in law, and hating my job and thie horrible flat we live in, things are finally starting to slot into place.

My Brother has decided to remodel his ground floor to make bedroom and full bathroom for our Mom. No need for stairs or chair lift which was really scary for her. She aggreed for my son (nearest relative) to be her power of attorney so he can get her house into selling condition. Brotyher's wife is home all day now as they now foster kids along with their own. So Mom won't be alone in the house during the day.

Got an email from the sister in law, Dad in law really likes the assisted care place they went to visit on Saturday. Mum in law seemed to like it too. So Sis filled in and sent off application. We are going to talk to Dad about power of attorney so we can take care of the flat, contents and car for him. He has mentioned the last 3 visits that paper work and bill paying is getting very difficult for him. This was Mum's job before the dementia.

Our contracts and papers for our house purchase and this flat sale arrived yesterday. No we need an exchange date so we can plan the move. Please be soon. I don't think I can handle the banshee in downstairs flat shrieking and swaering at her small children much longer.

Though I am going to miss the money, I won't miss the mind numbing tedium, and utter lack of respect for my knowledge and skill in this job. The work has changed substantially in the last year. They don't trust any of the admin to send out a simple email to a colleague without a manager first approving it. It is soul destroying. I only have 6 days at work left.

Whew!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Aug 15 - 01:19 PM

VTam... glad to hear things are coming together!

I like this.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Aug 15 - 06:49 PM

gnu, I hope you accepted the tea or dram (or both?) Janie offered and that it helped.

VTam, I'm pleased to hear that things are moving for in positive ways.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Aug 15 - 08:40 PM

Thinking of Lisa and her son tonight.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Aug 15 - 04:09 AM

VT...very pleased to read that change for the good has come so quickly.
Maeve, add me to your 'Thoughts for Lisa & her Son'. It sounds like they both need support to the max.
                              With Love,
                                              Nigel.
                                              xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Aug 15 - 05:49 AM

Also thinking of friends P-Vine and Bobert, mentioned by Janie earlier... and the rest of yez, always and ever!
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Aug 15 - 07:52 AM

Hi VT,   Get your father in law to do the P of A asap. It took me 14 months!! Also make sure you have both Finance and property AND Health and welfare, two different things now.

See if your father in law has an Admiral Nurse in the area. ( to help the carer not the patient.) They will help him cope and are a wonderful support.

I so wish you were not walking this road, as I know, it is a very long and stressful one.

Wishing you love and stay on board for all the wonderful support this crew gives!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 28 Aug 15 - 08:42 AM

Thank you Gnu. I have seen the Eat Well dishes and will look into getting some for Mum, but after the move, as she is likely to tidy them away somewhere, never to be found until the house is cleared.

Billybob, Chris' sister has P of A over the contents of the flat. They have applied to buy a flat at this assisted living place. There is at least one available, from what I understand. This place has 24/7 on site care staff as wll as management, a restaurant, free laundry facilities, cleaning team, and one (potentially soon to be 2 if they decide to decommission the gym) guest suites, activity and meeting lounge, hair dresser and chiropodist. Dad seems very keen from the phone chat we had today with brother in law.

I've had to come home from work early last 2 days as I am unwell in the extreme. On antibiotics and off biologics and chemo until this supposed infection clears. I think maybe the relief is a stress of a different kind.

Thank you all for your kind thoughts and advice.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Aug 15 - 09:18 PM

What Maeve said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Aug 15 - 05:06 PM

Sounds like the place just about has it all. Hope your own ailments stabilise soon. Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Aug 15 - 06:18 AM

VT...Lisa & her son...Pete & Tommy & all those good folk for whom life is difficult, distressing, complex & awkward to manage: you are thought of, prayed for & held close in our hearts. The geographical distances that separate so many of us can be bridged in a trice thanks to Mudcat & The Crew of Jane's Rainbow.
                                           With Love,
                                                          Nigel.
                                                          xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Aug 15 - 12:44 PM

Ditto, ditto, ditto.......

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bubblyrat
Date: 01 Sep 15 - 06:32 AM

Kind ,healing thoughts please for Nicola Christie ( Mrs bubblyrat if you will ) who goes into Cheltenham Hospital tomorrow for a rather unpleasant procedure which will almost certainly involve the removal of polyps ; I shall elaborate no further. We are both rather worried .Thankyou.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 01 Sep 15 - 08:19 AM

Virginia Tam, Pete, Nicola (and Bubblyrat), Lisa; pulling for peace, strength and comfort for you all.
          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Sep 15 - 11:21 AM

Mrs. (and Mr.) bubblyrat : my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Sep 15 - 08:16 PM

Bubblyrat, please let us know the results. I'm adding Nicola to my prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Sep 15 - 08:51 PM

What Chantylass said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Sep 15 - 08:11 PM

Aloft!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bubblyrat
Date: 04 Sep 15 - 07:57 AM

Thank you all so much ! Nicola is home and recovering , having had FIVE polyps excised . At first ,I was told that she might be kept in hospital, but she was allowed home in the end. That is the good news....bad news is that there are still a lot , not life-threatening,but in need of future attention ; another examination in 12 months time ( I'll be back !! ) . And thanks again. xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Sep 15 - 05:58 PM

Well, that's good and kinda bad news. Great that they are "good" polyps but it sucks that she has to suck that nasty "make ya shit through a screen door without touchin a wire" stuff back again in a year when it's poop chute inspection time again. Overall, great news really.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Sep 15 - 06:22 PM

Thanks for the update, bubblyrat. Sorry there is follow-up needed, but glad it is not needed for a year, and also, that follow-up to keep an eye on the situation is available! Be well, Mrs. bubblyrat!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Sep 15 - 08:25 PM

Hey, look at it this way! Now we have a whole year to pray for, send good thoughts for, (whatever you fancy), Nicola! And let's keep others in this thread in our hearts and prayers, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Sep 15 - 04:34 AM

Jane would've celebrated her 50th birthday yesterday. Ann & I, accompanied by Jane's husband & our youngest granddaughter, had a very pleasant & surprisingly joyful lunch. Plenty of reminiscing & laughter & no tears...they came much later on the journey home when Ann & I had to take our leave. It was a good day with several indications as to how far we've all come with our grieving.
                                                       With Love to You All,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Sep 15 - 06:55 AM

xxxx sending love Nigel

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Sep 15 - 09:46 AM

same from me

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Sep 15 - 12:35 PM

Feeling for you , Nigel and ann, but glad you were able to hold a positive remembrance. Blessings.       Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Sep 15 - 09:46 PM

Lovely, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Sep 15 - 10:39 PM

Nigel, I am glad you were able to get together with others who loved Jane and were so close to her. I am also glad you shared happy memories. And the tears that came later? Well, those are good, too. Shed them whenever you need to.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Sep 15 - 04:06 AM

A heartfelt thank you from Ann & myself...time does heal...slowly, gradually the pain becomes less intense but the memories remain, bright & fresh...need the memories, they are our one true source of comfort.

Remembering our Friends in America. Many of whom have only memories to which they can cling.
             Sending Love to You All,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Sep 15 - 08:36 AM

Thanks for sharing, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Sep 15 - 11:53 AM

Wishing all my Jewish friends in America a slightly belated Happy New Year. May the year to come be full of goodness,
                                           With Love,
                                                            Nigel.
                                                            xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 07:18 AM

Fell on a slick floor at work Monday and have badly shattered my left femur. ,still in fog from surgery severe pain and morphine. Hop e this makes sense. Good thoughts please

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 09:25 AM

Dear sakes, Janie. Sending you an email.
Love,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 11:40 AM

Janie, Janie, Janie...I can't imagine how you even managed to post. Wishing you relief from pain at the earliest possible moment...I wish we could send more than just good thoughts, but it's all we have & they are sent in abundance,
                Holding you close,
                                              Much Love,
                                                                Nigel & Ann
                                                                xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,gnu from Mudcat awe
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 12:48 PM

Oh dear me, Janie! Ts&Ps X 10!

That's http://awe.mudcat.org as Mudcat is down.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 03:38 PM

sending lots of healing thoughts and love to you Janie, bless you
xxx
Wendyn

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 10:13 PM

Janie, please check email and Mudcat PMs when you are able.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Sep 15 - 10:14 PM

Oh, Janie, I'm so sorry. I hope the pain subsides quickly and you heal well and soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Sep 15 - 08:28 AM

Janie, you have a PM and an email. Love from Bobert and the P-vine... and Truelove and me. :)

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Sep 15 - 11:54 AM

I've heard back from Janie. Although her injury is severe, she is feeling some better today. Who can post comforting, encouraging, and/or laugh-out-loud music links for our faithful crew member?

For now let's not start an independent thread about Janie's injury- tempting though it may be since she's been such an encouragement herself throughout MC. I suggest we wait for her to give permission.

Relieved,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Sep 15 - 01:36 PM

Hey there, Rainbow crew: I have permission from Janie to start a separate thread for Janie, because this lovely one is long enough to be awkward on iPad.

Here's a link: Janie's broken leg needs music & laughs


Of course we'll also keep the Rainbow on course for Janie and the rest of us. Please help fill the linked thread with links to cheerful, encouraging, well-crafted music and laughter-inducing videos. I'm sure Janie is not the only one on Mudcat who could use a lift of spirits.

Thanks much,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Sep 15 - 01:37 PM

Can't leave the ship to founder...arise, Rainbow!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Sep 15 - 07:45 PM

Thank you, Maeve, for starting a thread for Janie. I imagine people here will enjoy some of the links people have already started posting there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Sep 15 - 06:54 AM

Maeve, echoing Chantey Lass's post, thank you for all you're doing to support Janie. We were hoping to meet when I'm in NC...she was going to drive to Charlotte. I'm now trying to figure out a way I can visit her. I spoke to her briefly the day before yesterday & she was all in favour. Hoping my eldest Grandson might be persuaded to drive me. The thread that Maeve has created for Janie is a 'Must Visit' (link above). Laughter IS the best medicine...whatever music & funnies (clean!) you can lay your hands on, post away!
                                                   All healing, pain relieving thoughts sent Special D.
                                                   With Love,
                                                                   Nigel.
                                                                   xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Sep 15 - 09:18 PM

Just stopping by to freshen up this thread!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Sep 15 - 09:06 AM

Unfortunately, there's very little I can do to offer significant support, but I appreciate all who have answered Janie's request for music and laughter. Surely others will benefit, so that's good too!

How be the rest of ye?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Sep 15 - 05:32 PM

I am laying low. I still check in but... got other stuff to be at. Carry on. Smoke em if ya got em.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Sep 15 - 05:51 PM

Been the longest short week of work I've ever had. Friday, I cut my finger badly enough to require medical attention. No need to worry or expend any healing energy my way, it was bad enough to warrant a trip to the walk-in clinic, but not bad enough to need stitches, and it is healing nicely after being glued closed. Saturday, I was on my way in to work and got flagged down by a park neighbor. His girlfriend's dog had just been hit by a car and did I know the closest vet? I did, and I transported the understandably hysterical young woman and the injured dog to the vet immediately. And then proceeded to worry about the dog for the next 24 hours. Lunchtime on Sunday, I took a ride over to their house, and Matt came running down to tell me the good news that the dog was going to be OK, followed by Hillary, and Sawyer the Dog himself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Sep 15 - 05:53 PM

Had trouble accessing this thread for a few days. . Adding my best for healing for janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Sep 15 - 10:31 PM

Ouch, Tami! I'm glad your finger was well enough for you to drive the injured dog to the vet's!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Sep 15 - 05:26 AM

did they put a Band-aid on it?

I wonder if Janie needs one? I might take one to her!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 24 Sep 15 - 10:25 AM

Egods... Been through it and more yet to come. Advice please. My 88 year old Mamma 9in Virginia) had a stroke on Tuesday, after being held against her will in her garage for hours by her drug addicted granddaughter and granddaughter's extremely abusive boyfriend on Sunday.

The power, phone, cable, internet had all been cut off due to non payment of bills. The granddaughter has stolen thousands of dollars from Mom, witheld her medications. My drug addicted sister (who is thee mother of the granddaughter) also witholding Mom's meds and trading them for other drugs. Her boyfriend illegally turned the power back on in house.

My son visited Mom on Monday with the Power of Attorney papers she begged him to arrange a month ago. She signed them, he bought her groceries, paid some of her phone bill and had to go back home to work which is over an hour away. My younger brother in Indiana has been racing to remodel his ground floor to accommodate Mom so we could close up her house and move her to a safe place. That is now on hold due to her stroke. Actually maybe totally irrelevant until we know the extent of her condition.

Fast forward to now, Mom has partial paralysis on right side, though may not be affecting the leg. Cannot speak or swallow. She is covered in what the hosptial believes are bedbug bites and had serious yeast infection. She had elevated opiates in her bloods. None of her pain med prescription is opiate based as far as I know, so either the granddaughter or my sister supplied something she should not have had. My son has PoA over her house, car and bank accounts, is working to lock up house, shut off utilities, contact loan holders on car, house and horrendous high interest payday loan the granddaughter forced her to take out. Adult protective services have been notified, but while she is in hospital care we doubt we will get much support or advice from them. Eviction is being served on granddaghter and her boyfriend. Demand for Mom's car keys, title and registration has been issued to the granddaughter.

I already have tickets to fly home on 7 October so am stuck in England until then. I have no job now so need to save as much as possible to help with this mess. Here is my question.

Does anyone know how we can get her free of that high interest loan which has been cleaning out her bank account with an autodebit and other bills. The house is in such bad repair it iw worth aapx $10,000 less than her current mortgage. We hope the bank will just take it and let the mortgage go. We know we will need all of her pension to get her appropriate medical care. We just don't even know how to start with the finance stuff.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Sep 15 - 11:55 AM

Oh dear! I wish I knew but the situation is far out of my league to comment on except I so hope things get better fast.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Sep 15 - 03:16 PM

Virginia Tam, I really do wish we could all gather around and hug the stuffing out of you. Your situation makes me think, "Other than that Mrs. Lincoln, did you enjoy the play?", but without wanting to laugh at all. Can't offer any helpful expertice, but know that a couple of hearts here are going out to you.

             Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,frogprince
Date: 24 Sep 15 - 03:19 PM

...as in, Dean who keeps forgetting that he isn't signed in on this laptop.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Sep 15 - 04:06 PM

Tamara- In a word: lawyer. Adult protective services should be able to steer your healthy family members to lawyers and/or advocates known for successfully representing elders in situations such as your Momma has been in. She also needs security protection from those drug-addled family members who have already proven themselves to be dangerous. I am so very sorry this is happened. She's not the first to be so badly treated, and she's fortunate family has been able to take action to the extent they have.

Standing by,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Sep 15 - 09:13 PM

I think Maeve's got it right, Tamara. It may take more than one lawyer, one for the elder and abuse issues and another for the financial mess. The Legal Aid Society in the region of VA where your mother lives may be able to help.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 Sep 15 - 05:44 AM

Tamara......I simply don't have words!!

All I can do is send you as much love as I can and the strength you will need when you fly home in October xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 27 Sep 15 - 09:00 AM

Thanks all. My son will contact Legal Aid on Monday. Adult Protective Services has been contacted numerous times and an official report has now been filed and we still have not heard from them.

We (the other sibs and my son along with a collection of nieces and nephews and connected friends) seem to be working some sense into my sister and her daughter.

At least they have stopped accusing us of pecking at Mom's flesh and seem to understand why everything needs to be sold ASAP. More importantly why for Mom's sake we have to stop bickering.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Sep 15 - 09:17 AM

Check your PMs, Tam.

Hugs,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Sep 15 - 08:30 PM

Rise up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Sep 15 - 08:30 PM

Rise up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Sep 15 - 09:55 PM

Eine kleine Nachtmusik:
The Wailin' Jennys' Ruth Moody live

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 29 Sep 15 - 04:29 AM

Hallelujia. All family members finally on board re Mom's care. Not so sure if we can get sis to understand how Mom's care is dependent on sale of house and car. But at least we are all talking and not name calling.

My baby brother who is fostering my sister's grandkids, just lost his job (HVAC licensed so another job will come) and the medical insurance for his family and the little bit in food stamps they were getting. So now he has to apply all over again. His lounge/diner is a consturction site because he had started to make a room for mom. Now he has no means to put it right.

My other younger brother is about to be evicted and his car died. He is on disability due to degenerative bone disease in his spine and all right side.

My older brother just diagnosed with protate cancer and he is sole breadwinner (musician in Orlando). He only just got med insurance but does not know how long he can pay for it. His wife has had a stroke.

My daughter was released from 3 week stay in hospital for cellulitis and extremely low platelets. Lupus attack on her spleen again.

There are problems with our house purchase. I won't go into what the stress of worrying about eveyone is doing to my body.

Anyone know how to lift a decades long curse from an extended family scattered halfway across the globe?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 29 Sep 15 - 04:34 AM

Should have been more clear on the older brother's wife. Her stroke was several years ago and mild. She works but only very few hours a week in a Publix as a cashier. Quite a change from being supervisory air hostess for 18 years until TWA went into administration and she lost all her pension.

The curse is long and strong.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Sep 15 - 04:55 AM

No curse, Tam. Life can be hard. Progress has been made- start there and take another step... and another.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Sep 15 - 09:12 PM

Pouring and flooding rain here..and all the while we're pouring, flooding with loving concern for one another.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Sep 15 - 01:37 PM

No words... just thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 Sep 15 - 08:48 PM

Here's the latest from Janie in rehabilitation for her broken femur:

Subject: RE: Janie's broken leg needs music & laughs
From: Janie - PM
Date: 30 Sep 15 - 08:34 PM

"Now able to get out to lobby with wheelchair and much enjoying the links. Thanks, y'all!"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Sep 15 - 09:20 PM

thinking of you Tam & glad that people like maeve are there for you

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Oct 15 - 11:08 AM

Tam, Maeve is right...there is no curse. Please try to disabuse yourself of this thought. Life can be so unspeakably cruel & unfair that we search for reasons as to why, when there are none, none except Life itself. I realise that my platitudes bring you scant comfort, but they are written with the best of intentions, in the hope that you will soon be released from your slough of despond & enjoy life once again,
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel
                                                    xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Oct 15 - 06:17 AM

Ditto maeve and Nigel, Tam. Glad to hear you are making progress, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Oct 15 - 03:33 AM

Thinking of you and your family Tam, as well as everyone else. Sorry to not be posting. Even in the lobby wifi is not real dependable. And for some reason Mudcat and my iPad don't play well. Often can't get long threads to open or navigate among pages.

But here in heart and mind, regardless.

Very much hope to see Nigel next week.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Oct 15 - 03:33 AM

Thinking of you and your family Tam, as well as everyone else. Sorry to not be posting. Even in the lobby wifi is not real dependable. And for some reason Mudcat and my iPad don't play well. Often can't get long threads to open or navigate among pages.

But here in heart and mind, regardless.

Very much hope to see Nigel next week.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Oct 15 - 11:25 AM

As a temporary resident of Mecklenburg County, not far from the SC State Line, I'm hoping that everyone is faring no worse than I in the wake of Jouquin...plenty of rain but no flooding, a light to moderate wind but no downed trees in the immediate vicinity. No need for The Rainbow's life boats thus far.
                      Wishing everyone a safe weekend,
                                                                              With love,
                                                                                             Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Oct 15 - 04:22 PM

Hoping everyone is safe, dry, has power & food & wanting for nothing,
                   Nigel in Mecklenburg County,
                                                                xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Oct 15 - 04:28 PM

Welcome Stateside, Nigel and Ann. Would that we could meet up somewhere! Hope a visit with a mutual friend is possible.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Oct 15 - 09:29 PM

Indeed! Welcome to the US, where it is not always as wet as you might think!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Oct 15 - 11:28 AM

Thank you for your gracious welcome. After so many grey, wet & windy days, the sun is shining brightly & the sky is gloriously blue...a combination with which we are more familiar when we have previously visited Charlotte. I have been in touch with Janie & had hoped to visit her this week, but sadly a car plus driver has not proved possible. As a younger man, I drove in the States, but found the experience daunting & stressful, so I guess you could say I've 'whimped out' of getting myself to Janie's...just when she needs friendship & support the most...not very proud of myself.
          We hope that the good people of South Carolina are restored to something approaching normality just as soon as possible. The footage we've seen on CBS News is a tough watch. We got off very lightly here by comparison.
          With love to you all,
                                          Nigel & Ann in Mecklenburg County xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Oct 15 - 11:46 AM

Nigel- bus? I know Janie would have loved a visit, but I also know she will understand if it's just not happening. You might also leave a PM for Janie in case she's up for a call at her rehab residence.

Extended family in South Carolina is experiencing lots of flooding, with no good drinking water, electricity, etc.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 06 Oct 15 - 02:58 PM

Nigel, Janie will understand. I understand being daunted about driving. I don't drive in population centers larger than Portland, Maine. The Greater Portland has maybe 125,000 residents, if you include the surrounding towns. I can't imagine trying to drive in an unfamiliar place on the opposite side of the road from what I am used to.

Maeve, I hope things improve for your family in SC soon. I heard on the news last night about the potable water issue.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Oct 15 - 04:10 PM

Still often having trouble accessing this thread, so missed a lot till now. Sorry to hear of all the problems tam, but glad there is some movement now....prayer offered, hope there is continuous progress, and that you won't feel that your family is somehow cursed.                   Nigel,          Trust you have a great time in America . The only time we went there was the bridge on foot from Niiagara.....and we're arrested as illegal immigrants !., apparently ignorance was no excuse and we were sent back with some kind of legal papers detailing our offence.          We hired a car while in Canada , but did not venture too far In it.         Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Oct 15 - 04:26 PM

Nigel, I'm afraid to drive in big cities in the US, and I live here! Even driving in Providence, RI, intimidates me! I can't imagine driving on the opposite side of the road. I agree with others that Janie will understand.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Oct 15 - 12:14 PM

I've called Janie twice now & yes, she does understand. We are both understandably disappointed, but this won't be our last visit to Charlotte, so a meet remains on the cards. I investigated the possibilities of buses & trains, but the services were few & far between & at inconvenient times. The second time I spoke to Janie (yesterday), she sounded much brighter. She should be back in her own home pretty soon now. Surrounded by the familiar can be most restorative at times like this.
                   Much love to you all,
                                                    Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Oct 15 - 10:19 AM

Thank you, Nigel! Are you enjoying your visit with family?

Thinking especially of Tam & family and Lisa & son this (very rainy*) morning.

*(Guess I'll be digging tatties and picking apples after the rain clears.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Oct 15 - 12:10 PM

My Dear Maeve, yes thank you, our far too infrequent visits to see Ann's daughter & family (her two son's are now 6ft.+) are always fun & we get the chance to talk together in a way that one just can't do on the 'phone. We talk about Jane of course, but with an increasing sense of acceptance that physically, she is no longer with us. She lead a very full life so there is much to remember & celebrate...time does gradually heal, but it doesn't erase.
                      How are the SC members of your Family coping with the appalling weather? There was talk on the news last night of yet more flooding, on top of what has become an intolerable situation for too many. Ann & I have never experienced flooding in any direct sense, so trying to imagine the impact on one's life is virtually impossible. We do hope that your relatives are safe, dry & not in harm's way.
                     Sending our love to you all,
                                                                Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Oct 15 - 10:34 AM

Yesterday morning I received an email from Bobert...he was playing at the Gaston Public Library at 2pm...might I be able to get there? The Library is roughly a forty minute drive from where I'm currently staying, so a quick call to Uber sorted out the travel arrangements. Not only did I meet Bobert & his lovely wife, I was also treated to an hour of The Blues, played & sung with passion & conviction...punctuated by stories, history & adlibs that kept smiles on all our faces...a meeting & a performance that will live in my memory for a long, long time...my first face to face with a Catter. I shared this experience with Janie first before posting here.
               A musically uplifted Nigel...much love to all xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 11 Oct 15 - 11:38 AM

Nigel, I am very glad you and Ann have met Bobert and the Pea Vine...and quite envious as well. My SC family appear to be fine and have managed to pump out excess river.

Tam, thinking of you and yours. You'll be there with your Momma by now. Sending blessings to all for a smoothish transition.

Lisa, you are in my thoughts daily.

Janie is home, tra la!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Oct 15 - 08:07 AM

Lovely!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bobert
Date: 12 Oct 15 - 05:59 PM

Nice meeting you, too, Nigel...

Glad you enjoyed the performance... I had fun, too...

B~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Oct 15 - 08:50 PM

And it's nice to hear a word from Bobert here; it's way too long since I've spotted one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Oct 15 - 01:46 AM

I'll second that

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bobert
Date: 13 Oct 15 - 09:14 AM

Sorry, folks... Ol' hillbilly been workin' more and computin' less...

B;~(

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Oct 15 - 09:58 AM

Farewell Charlotte...Farewell North Carolina...Farewell America. Thank you for your friendship, your generosity, your openness & honesty, and a huge thank you to C, V, T & G for your hospitality over the last three weeks (I'm returning alone...Ann is staying on for another week). Love & hugs to Janie & Bobert...here's to the next time,
                            With love to you all,
                                                Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Oct 15 - 11:02 AM

Safe travel, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Oct 15 - 07:31 AM

Sorry to be gone for so long. While in the nursing facility had bad wifi connection and also my iPad and Mudcat don't play well together for some reason. So I made few posts and mostly to the other thread.

But all of you have been in my thoughts. Was really sorry to not meet Nigel or to see Bobert and P Vine, but it was pretty fine to actually hear his voice on the telephone!

Glad your family is drying out maeve. Hope their homes were not entirely flooded.

Hope you are home and getting some sleep to recover from jet lag, Nigel.

And holding all of your family in my thoughts Tam.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Oct 15 - 12:04 PM

Safe home...desperately trying not to give in to sleep at 5pm ( London local). Will write again when I can think & focus on my laptop screen,
                                     Much Love to All,
                                                               Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Oct 15 - 06:04 PM

All is as calm as it can be. Nice to hear.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 16 Oct 15 - 09:45 AM

Make much of the priceless tranquility, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Bobert
Date: 16 Oct 15 - 09:52 PM

Nice meeting you, Nigel...

Come back soon, ya' hear???

B~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Oct 15 - 12:33 PM

I'm glad to read that Janie and Nigel and Ann are all back in their own homes and that VTam has arrived in the US. I really appreciate the updates and hope to see more when they and others are able to post.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 21 Oct 15 - 01:05 PM

Arise, Rainbow!

Hoping to hear from Vtam, thinking about Lisa and her son, sending courage and cheer to those who have run low.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Oct 15 - 05:59 AM

Very happy to report that Ann & I were reunited yesterday. She stayed on an extra week...just can't drag herself away from beautiful North Carolina (and Belk, Barnes & Noble, Target, Michael's Craft Shop, Panera Bread...the list is practically endless). These long distance Family visits are particularly precious...every minute to be savoured. Here's to the next time,
                        Slightly jet lagged Nigel & totally jet lagged Ann.
                        Much Love to you All xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Oct 15 - 09:06 PM

Yo. That is all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Oct 15 - 05:46 AM

Gnu, your "yo" is all I need right now (-: (-:

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Oct 15 - 07:20 PM

Welcome home to Ann, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Oct 15 - 11:57 AM

Thanks, ChanteyLass...our respective body clocks are completely out of sync...meal times; sleep times are five hours adrift & to add insult to injury, the clocks go back one hour tonight in the UK! Does this time zone business get harder the older one gets?
                                                    With Love to You All,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Oct 15 - 10:47 AM

I'm always glad to go back to standard time. Seems my body knows what time the sun really says it is:>)

Hope all is peaceful on this Sunday for all the crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Oct 15 - 09:14 PM

Nigel, my body does not like the time shifts, either, and it does get worse as I age. Janie, we are oppposites. I would like to keep the clocks as they are now year round! The later the sun rises and sets, the happier I feel!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Oct 15 - 10:09 PM

Eric

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Oct 15 - 10:28 PM

Yeah. Eric.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 28 Oct 15 - 09:24 AM

Nigel & Chantey Lass, my sympathies go out to you. I, too, could not take this messing around with the clock when it was a fact of my life. Fortunately, it ceased to be that a very long time ago.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 28 Oct 15 - 10:27 AM

Sorry. I was the poster at 9.24 am.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Oct 15 - 06:03 PM

My dad passed away this morning. I found him when I called on him, as i did most days. He was 90 and had got weaker, but I suppose no one is prepared for it when it happens.    Tommy is chesty and excess secretions, so we hope and pray it don't turn into anything worse. Blessings crew.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Oct 15 - 06:35 PM

It's a great loss, Pete.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Oct 15 - 06:46 PM

condolences to you & your family, Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 29 Oct 15 - 06:52 PM

Here daily, thinking of all, especially Eric, Tommy, and Pete and family just now.
         Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Oct 15 - 07:55 PM

Pete, I'm sorry about your dad. My sympathy to you and everyone who loved him.

I hope Tommy feels better soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,simple
Date: 29 Oct 15 - 11:37 PM

Pete from seven stars link,
   Bless your heart for being a good son.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Oct 15 - 07:09 AM

My condolences, Pete. Hope Tommy comes around easily and soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 30 Oct 15 - 07:14 AM

Dear Pete,

so sorry to hear about your father passing.I hope all the happy memories will help to ease the pain of loss.Sometimes when our parents live such a long life we begin to think they will be with us forever.

You have always been so kind here on the Rainbow , all we can do is send back our love in abundance.

Sending Tommy love and positive healing thoughts and blessings to you and all your family

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Oct 15 - 12:02 PM

Sorry to hear about your father, Pete. And echoing good wishes for Tommy's health.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 31 Oct 15 - 02:16 PM

Thank you all. So far tommy seems steady.   Blessings      Pete .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Nov 15 - 06:48 AM

Our sincere condolences & love winging their way to you, Pete & your Family. Lean on your Faith...it has stood you in good stead before & will again, I'm sure.

Apologies for my silence, there's much going on in my life at the moment (mostly good!), but now is not the time to write about it,
                                                             With Love to You All,
                                                                                           Nigel & Ann xxxxx

PS Been trying for three days to upload this post...am aware of server probs...good luck, Joe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Nov 15 - 11:21 AM

Adding my condolences, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 06:33 AM

My eldest Grandson has just presented me with a framed 'collage' of my days with The Halliard. He's collated photos, CDs, press cuttings & personal tributes from Nic & Dave...all beautifully arranged & displayed under glass. He organised it for my birthday, back in September, but it took him a tad longer to finish than he'd anticipated! I have never received such a meaningful & thoughtful gift. The 'collage' comes from all my Grandchildren, but it's realisation is down to the efforts of just one. I feel like I've won an Oscar!
                                                Feeling very loved,
                                                                              Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 07:34 AM

How very thoughtful, Nigel! That's a special expression of love and respect.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 08:48 AM

Today at 1320 MST I must away to the barber-chirgeon to have a tooth (which is not bothering me) extracted. Because the fellow with the pull is an oral surgeon and because stitches will be involved, there will be IV anesthesia -- my third general anesthesia so far this year. I'm getting tired of this! (And the tooth, my last wisdom tooth and so later today I will no longer be wise, really isn't painful or anything but it is rotten.)

My curse upon your venom'd stang,
That shoots my tortur'd gums alang,
An' thro' my lug gies mony a twang,
Wi' gnawing vengeance,
Tearing my nerves wi' bitter pang,
Like racking engines!

When fevers burn, or argues freezes,
Rheumatics gnaw, or colics squeezes,
Our neibor's sympathy can ease us,
Wi' pitying moan;
But thee-thou hell o' a' diseases-
Aye mocks our groan.

Adown my beard the slavers trickle
I throw the wee stools o'er the mickle,
While round the fire the giglets keckle,
To see me loup,
While, raving mad, I wish a heckle
Were in their doup!

In a' the numerous human dools,
Ill hairsts, daft bargains, cutty stools,
Or worthy frien's rak'd i' the mools, -
Sad sight to see!
The tricks o' knaves, or fash o'fools,
Thou bear'st the gree!

Where'er that place be priests ca' hell,
Where a' the tones o' misery yell,
An' ranked plagues their numbers tell,
In dreadfu' raw,
Thou, Toothache, surely bear'st the bell,
Amang them a'!

O thou grim, mischief-making chiel,
That gars the notes o' discord squeel,
Till daft mankind aft dance a reel
In gore, a shoe-thick,
Gie a' the faes o' Scotland's weal
A townmond's toothache!
                  --Robert "Bobby" Burns

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 09:13 AM

Good luck, Rap. When I had my top wisdom teeth out, I came out of the anesthesia demanding butterscotch pudding. The next day, I sneezed an almighty sneeze and popped a stitch. This lead to the discovery that the roots of one of those teeth had been embedded in my sinus cavity when I gargled later that day and salt water came shooting out my nostril.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 04:54 PM

Ouch, Rap! I hope all went well!

Tami, interesting!

And Nigel, what a great gift!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 06:21 PM

Wishing you speedy recovery from the tooth rap,but I am sure your wisdom will remain intact!
Nigel what a treasure to keep forever,a beautiful gift,grandchildren ,how blessed we are to have them! I found out today that our little Prudence is
going to be Mary in the Nativity play,have waited for years to have a grandchild be Mary! BUT! Hold onto your hats,Billy and I are going to the States for Thanksgiving for the first time in 12 years so we will miss the play!
Have big misgivings leaving mother for 2 weeks but have live in care and my daughter will be in charge. So New Jersey look out we are on our way !
With love Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 06:21 PM

Wishing you speedy recovery from the tooth rap,but I am sure your wisdom will remain intact!
Nigel what a treasure to keep forever,a beautiful gift,grandchildren ,how blessed we are to have them! I found out today that our little Prudence is
going to be Mary in the Nativity play,have waited for years to have a grandchild be Mary! BUT! Hold onto your hats,Billy and I are going to the States for Thanksgiving for the first time in 12 years so we will miss the play!
Have big misgivings leaving mother for 2 weeks but have live in care and my daughter will be in charge. So New Jersey look out we are on our way !
With love Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 06:21 PM

Wishing you speedy recovery from the tooth rap,but I am sure your wisdom will remain intact!
Nigel what a treasure to keep forever,a beautiful gift,grandchildren ,how blessed we are to have them! I found out today that our little Prudence is
going to be Mary in the Nativity play,have waited for years to have a grandchild be Mary! BUT! Hold onto your hats,Billy and I are going to the States for Thanksgiving for the first time in 12 years so we will miss the play!
Have big misgivings leaving mother for 2 weeks but have live in care and my daughter will be in charge. So New Jersey look out we are on our way !
With love Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 06:25 PM

Oops,sorry,tried to delete 2 of the above,my phone has taken over !!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 04 Nov 15 - 09:19 PM

All went well, or so I'm told, and I have the tooth complete with gold crown. Apparently the oral surgeon had to take out some bone to get the tooth out. I'm on painkillers (no, really!?) again. This is the third time this year I've had general anesthesia and while it's relaxing I'm tired of the aftereffects of pain, swelling, painkillers, ice packs, and so on.

As for my wisdom: my high school closed, my college changed its name, my first grad school closed, the grad school I graduated from closed, and the program for the third grad school changed when the prof ramroding the program left. If my grammar school closes I won't know anything...and now my wisdoms are gone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Nov 15 - 02:15 AM

poor Rap, losing all the wisdom

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Nov 15 - 01:21 PM

Glad it went well, Rap. Did you beat the Guinness World Record for oldest person to have a wisdom tooth pulled?

Hurray Wendy!

What a truly lovely gift, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Nov 15 - 06:39 AM

Floating gently in a light breeze, the Rainbow holds her course.

Thinking of Pete and his family, Lisa and her son, and the men, women, and families around the world who have used their bodies, minds, and souls to act with honor and courage in times of conflict- we remember and learn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Nov 15 - 09:36 PM

Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Nov 15 - 09:39 PM

Oh, my! If I'd realized my post moments ago was going to be #4800, I would have tried to come up with something profound.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 10 Nov 15 - 08:39 AM

It's the simple things that are the most profound.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Nov 15 - 01:53 PM

You mean me?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Maeve, away from home
Date: 10 Nov 15 - 02:42 PM

Simple you are not, friend gnu. Profound, yes. Simple, no.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 09:21 AM

Off to New Jersey on Thursday, first time for 12 years. Have to admit Billy and I are emotionally and mentally drained, the past month has been the most difficult. Mother has had 2 falls, a choking incident and a suspected TIA, all needing paramedics to come out ( thanks to our wonderful NHS, they were fantastic)

We have organised 24 hour care and my daughter will be popping in every day.

So looking forward to spending Thanksgiving with Billy's four sisters and their families, and maybe a visit to Cape May?

with love to all the crew

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 10:25 AM

Safe travels, Wendy!
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 01:39 PM

Enjoy your travels.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 04:34 PM

Have a wonderful time in New Jersey, Wendy...you & BB deserve it so much.
Travel safely...enjoy every moment,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 09:12 PM

Happy trails to you!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Nov 15 - 04:43 AM

Have a great trip Wendy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Nov 15 - 05:11 AM

I have been experiencing upload problems over the last few weeks...i.e., the upload doesn't 'take'. I am Mac based & recently installed OS X 'El Capitan'...anyone know if there could be conflict between my OS & the Mudcat servers?

I wanted to say this recently:
                                              "Perhaps we could describe gnu as 'simply profound'

Wishing everyone a 'calm sea & a prosperous voyage' (with apologies to Mendelssohn)
                                                With Love,
                                                                Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Nov 15 - 07:21 AM

I'll take that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 06:48 AM

Nigel- Maybe ask Joe Offer via email?

How's Wendy's trip going, I wonder.

Lisa, I think of you daily. Please know that you and your son are in our hearts.

Tam, I wonder what you found when you arrived in the States for your family visit. Have you managed to sort the worst of the worrisome issues? I do hope you remember to take good care of yourself too.

gnu- simply profound sounds about right. You're a fine shipmate.

Janie- Sending you patience and fortitude as you recover a more active life. You had both a-plenty so you should be filled to the brim even when daily challenges seem too much to bear.

Bobert- Missing you here. Courage, laughter, and music are yours.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:22 AM

Been trying to find the words to share this on The Rainbow. My grandmother is slowly fading away. My mother, who has selflessly been her caregiver for the past eight years, is burned out due to other family members who live nearby being unwilling to provide even a five day respite every other month. I don't get down as often as I should, but the stress of being in a situation with so many feuding parties always ends up making me physically ill after every visit.

Hospice had been set up at home, but my mum just can't do it anymore. Her health is fragile, as well, so my gramma may end up in a nursing home. Which of course makes Mum feel guilty. She's deflected a lot of family criticism away from me, because apparently certain family members feel I should drop everything in my life and go down and take over nursing duties. I am not a caregiver. I have many talents, but that is not one of them. Replace the leaking showerhead, reglaze the windows, yes. Administer insulin injections, cook, and clean, not so much.

Anyway, just feeling like I need a hug today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:26 AM

Tami,

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:30 AM

Thank you, Janie. I needed that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:43 AM

Similar health issues here Tami, and many hugs going your way (((Tami)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:55 AM

r1 and m... hugs. It's tough.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 10:43 AM

Thanks, g. You know.

(((g)))

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 06:02 PM

My dad was just getting used to the idea of going into a home of some sort before he died, and we (becky and I ) went to see one place the day before. Maybe grandma. Would be ok with it. Your mum would certainly have no need to feel guilty, as I expect she would visit often. I used to see my dad most days but my brother found it difficult, but he handled the practical jobs side, which would have been challenging for me. We do what we can , and there is no value in feeling bad about what we cannot manage.   Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:08 PM

Tami, many hugs from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 Nov 15 - 01:06 AM

Huge hugs Tami and her mother, and lovely Maeve. The best words of advice I had was from Admiral Nurses "don't feel guilty" Tami I couldn't mend anything unless it involved sewing. Mouse's would never be gently caught and sent back to the woods! In fact I should be sleeping now but a tiny spider just caused me to shreek and wake up BB who is now making tea!! We all do our best to share the worries in the best way we can.We are off to Heathrow this afternoon and I am feeling guilty for leaving mother,but will think of that Admiral Nurse and her wise words!
New Jersey here I come!
With love and hugs
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Nov 15 - 09:02 AM

Thank you all so much!

Wendy, safe journeys.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Nov 15 - 07:03 AM

Good morning from NJ,arrived last night and overwhelmed with love from Bills family. We both had the best night sleep in ages! Keep the Rainbow safe in calm waters,as for BB and me let the adventure begin.
With love
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Nov 15 - 05:19 PM

Hope you have a blast on "shore leave", Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Nov 15 - 07:42 PM

Welcome back to the US, Wendy! Enjoy your stay!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Nov 15 - 01:21 PM

Glad to here it, Wendy. Enjoy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Nov 15 - 10:40 PM

Lifting the Rainbow to the top . . .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Nov 15 - 03:26 AM

best wishes to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Nov 15 - 02:13 PM

My eldest granddaughter re established contact with her birth father after he had disowned her most of her life and never paying maintenance. Now she thinks it's all wonderful. We hope she don't end up a mess all this. Her mum ain't doing too well with the stress of it all.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Nov 15 - 09:32 PM

Pete, I hope the birth father has reformed. If I were the mum, I'd be stressed, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,SPB at work
Date: 26 Nov 15 - 09:15 AM

On Wednesday, my partner's mother died. As she lives in Prague and I in London, I feel I cannot do enough to help apart form being available on the phone every evening.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Nov 15 - 10:21 AM

Thanks, today, for this whole supportive crew. We'll be taking off in a bit to get the father-in-law and take him to his (unfortunately now deceased) girlfriend's granddaughter's home for today's people-stuffing observance.

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Nov 15 - 12:58 PM

Wishing my Family in America & my loyal & true American Friends a very Happy Thanksgiving. The World feels restless...I hope you all find peace within the bosom of your Family as you gather around the dinner table.
                                                   With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Nov 15 - 06:40 AM

SPB- "I feel I cannot do enough to help apart from being available on the phone every evening." But you are doing what you can do, and that's important to your partner. Losing a loved parent is hard. My condolences.

That's a part of what has made this favorite thread function successfully. We have tried to be consistently available for one another. I'm thankful we are here together.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Nov 15 - 06:24 AM

Agreed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Nov 15 - 03:57 PM

SPB, I'm sending hugs to your partner and you. That's all I can do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Nov 15 - 02:03 PM

On a day when I desperately needed a laugh, UPS delivered an anonymous package from Amazon.

I've been live trapping deer mice for the last month or so and had been having fun with it on Facebook, posting little mouse mugshots, naming them, and detailing their personalities. I even started a "guess how many mice Tami catches" game with my friends. Someone with a sense of humor sent me a field mouse finger puppet. I had a suspect in mind, and with a little detective work, I confirmed my suspicions.

I give thanks for friends who know when I need a pick-me-up, and how to do it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 02:17 AM

Lovely anecdote of a lovely thought, ranger 1.    Blessings all.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 06:49 AM

Enjoyed all the game and all the posts at FB, r1.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 12:36 PM

My cousin Sean and I are going to try to do a Storycorps-style interview with my grandmother before she passes. I've sent out messages to the other grandkids asking for questions/stories they'd like to find out about. So far, everyone's on board. We'll try for on camera, but if Gramma's not up to it, we'll just go for voice recording.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 08:43 PM

That is a great idea, Tami. Wish my grandparents would have allowed that. We tried, but all Pawpaw would consent to be recorded was him praying for us for 45 minutes. That was not what we were seeking, but still a precious recording.

Ahhh, SPB. Thank you for inviting the crew to add wind to the sails of your love, care and concern to speed it across the land and sea to those you hold dear and to offer what solace we can.

Turned 64 a few days ago. Instead of losing hair, I am gaining hair. And healthier hair. From what folks say, the enforced rest and attention to better nutrition as the result of the accident has been good for my appearance, and presumably, my health. Having more dreams of being two legged again. Start serious outpatient physical therapy tomorrow. Rarely need pain meds, and even then, only occasionally at night.

I'll paraphrase something I posted on Facebook - Was annoyed to bite into a seeded grape at breakfast, having not paid close attention to the signs in the produce section. Then felt grateful that my life is such that biting into a seeded grape is something about which to feel annoyed.

My life is, and always has been, so incredibly rich. Part of that richness is owed to Mudcat and in particular, this stalwart crew.

To echo Frogprince. Thankful for all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 02 Dec 15 - 10:51 AM

Sending love to all the above, flying home late Thursday. We have had THE most amazing two weeks with Billys wonderful family, had too buy two extra bags for all the gifts!Even the weather has been kind,sitting on the beach at Cape May last Saturday. Going home stronger and happier than we both can remember,
Love you USA
With love to all the crew
Wendy and Billy
Xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Dec 15 - 05:34 AM

Glad to hear the good news, Janie and Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 03 Dec 15 - 12:26 PM

Good to hear Wendy. And well deserved,.      Susan(wysiwyg). Referenced Jamie in another thread relating to the recent shootings. Hope all is well for her and anyone she knows.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 03 Dec 15 - 12:52 PM

Pete, the shootings were in California, and Janie lives in North Carolina. Janie is safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Dec 15 - 01:03 PM

thanks, maybe I misread the post.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Dec 15 - 01:50 PM

No, the way the post was worded did make it sound that way. I just wanted you to know that our Janie is safe so you wouldn't worry about her.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Dec 15 - 09:45 AM

refresh...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Dec 15 - 05:52 PM

very fresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Dec 15 - 07:01 AM

I last posted on 26th November. I am deeply grateful to all of you who continue to post...to offer comfort & support...to raise a smile...to simply make yourself available...to keep Jane's Rainbow ship-shape. I have been doing what I can to support my Dearest Ann. Her grief remains raw. Her heart is broken. Bereavement counselling has proved ineffective. I listen to her most nights as she talks in her sleep, saying what probably needs to be expressed out loud; something she finds impossible to do. I fear she may carry her grief & pain for the rest of her days. All I have to offer is my constancy.
                                    With Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Dec 15 - 08:17 AM

Nigel, I am so sorry for your and Ann's pain, yet am equally confident your already strong hearts will each heal grow in compassion and forgiveness. Death ends what we know of a person, yet our love carries on.

Ann may need a different form of counseling. She may need a different leader or group. She may need counseling based on behavioral changes. She may need something to do with her hands- something to allow her to just Be without words until she can afford to verbally process her feelings-clay, paint, needlework, something to pummel- whatever her body can use for expression, for our bodies often know what is needed before our minds can fathom what has happened.

We each have to find our way through grief in our own timing and manner, but sometimes we need guidance in finding additional help. Sometimes we need a mosquito to faithfully annoy us into opening up safely.

You too, as her faithful support and companion who is also hurting, may benefit from the right continued outside guidance as well as seeking your music and writing. :)

Love,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Dec 15 - 06:22 PM

All of Maeve's suggestions sound reasonable and worth pursuing. The one about working with hands reminded me of Rhode Island's Ann Hood's book Comfort which recounts the sudden unexpected death of her daughter Grace. Learning to knit helped bring her out of the depths of her grief. Of course she also had the support of a good husband, a son who was a few years older than Grace, wonderful friends who stayed with her through her sorrow, and counseling.

I hope you and Ann can find the help she needs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 08 Dec 15 - 09:06 PM

I have no words for you, Nigel, just a great big long distance hug for you and Anne.

Sitting here in the kitchen at my grandmother's. My cousin and I bumped up the interview to today. I think it went well, she didn't want to be filmed, so we just did audio recording. By the second question, she's forgotten we were recording, and she told us at the end that she's had fun doing it and that we had brought up several memories for her that she had forgotten about. Sean took the recording home with him and will edit and/or clean up if necessary. We're thinking about submitting it to Storycorps if it came out well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Dec 15 - 05:34 AM

Thank you, thank you, thank you. It is fascinating that you mention 'working with her hands'. Ann has made greetings cards for years. You should see her work room...a veritable Aladdin's Cave that would set any Crafter's head spinning! She knits too...without these skills I can't imagine how her life would be. The card making & knitting provides a valuable distraction, but more akin to a sticking plaster in the grand scheme of things. We have a wonderful GP who is gently & compassionately 'on the case'. I found bereavement counselling extremely helpful & was fortunate to be allowed an extension to the number of sessions usually granted (Eight sessions would be an average entitlement under the NHS). I shall be spending increasing amounts of time searching for a: ".... mosquito to faithfully annoy us into opening up safely".
       Much Love to our Friends Maeve, ChanteyLass & Tami,
                                                                                                 Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Dec 15 - 05:37 AM

I echo the others, Nigel. "All I have to offer is my constancy." Take what solace you can in your own understanding of just that, as difficult as it is to do.

r1... glad to hear it went well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 09 Dec 15 - 11:35 AM

I've spent the morning entertaining Gramma with videos on my laptop. There is a video of a song by Slaid Cleaves' song "Below" that was of special interest to her. The song was written about the damming of the Dead River in Maine and subsequent flooding of a town called Flagstaff. My grandmother's family was from that area, and she lived in Flagstaff as a young child. The maker of the video used photos from the Dead River Historical Society. Gramma recognized a couple of people in the photos, one of them being a cousin.

We also watched a bunch of silly animated videos titled "What if animals were round?" and a video by a wildlife photographer about meerkats.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 09 Dec 15 - 11:41 AM

Nigel, another couple of hearts are going out to you and Anne from here in Michigan.

R1, sounds like some sweet, rich, experience.

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Dec 15 - 12:52 PM

Felt so sad, Nigel, to hear that ann is still heavily compacted with grief . I am sure your "constancy" will be a great benefit to Ann. With a prayer for the easing of a broken heart.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Dec 15 - 06:40 PM

What Dean said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Dec 15 - 12:37 PM

At Last, something positive & uplifting. Ann has been battling for the last ten years with breast cancer & a malignant melanoma. Yesterday, we saw her breast oncologist & she's been given the all clear & discharged...can't tell you what a relief that was. The melanoma was removed some time ago, but the nature of the beast dictates that Ann will have to continue with three-monthly checkups for the foreseeable future. She is symptom-free, but with a melanoma, you can't turn your back for a second. Grief & cancer is a pretty toxic mix, but following her discharge yesterday, her mood is noticeably lighter. Every little helps...every one aboard The Rainbow helps too. What would we do without you?
                               Much Love to You All,
                                                                  Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Dec 15 - 02:34 PM

That is indeed encouraging news Nigel .    Blessings.          Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 10 Dec 15 - 07:29 PM

Giving thanks for your news, Nigel.

My grandmother was having a bad day today, the day I had to come home. My mum is worn to a frazzle, and I felt so bad about leaving. My uncle has been spending more time helping mum, and he was there when I left, and that let mum get out for a bit. Just to do the shopping, but it was time to herself, which she desperately needed.

I called work and let them know I need three days off in a row so I can continue to make the 150 mile trip to my grandmother's once a week. They are flexible, and were happy I could come home and work my shift tomorrow.

I needed to come home, but I still feel guilty.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Dec 15 - 07:59 PM

The world needs a pill for all the people who do all they can in their circumstances, but feel guilty 'cause they can't cure everything. Guilty is a feeling that often doesn't want to behave reasonably.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 11 Dec 15 - 01:33 PM

This weekend we undertake a medical procedure on our 15 year old we call tiny Tim because he is. Nurses and the doctor will be on call for this procedure that our oldest son had at age 12 that took 8 days in the hospital. It cured him to this day but this procedure is no longer covered by insurance since it has been newly deemed by insurance companies as being observational and elective.

As for Tim he has had 3 major challenges in his life and they have all been political/religious related. At birth we had paid for the freezing his stem umbilical cells but it was canceled at the last minute because of a executive decision of the Catholic board members that very week. Second he was expelled from kindergarten because we could not prove his vaccine record due to the pediatric hard drive crash that took 45 days to reconstruct. And now this. If we could afford a Mercedes we could afford this procedure in the hospital out of pocket but we can't without pulling his brother out of college.

Still we are thankful Tim has not suffered sepsis or dangerous weight loss but has been out of school all this year. His misery is profound but he should have a complete recovery except for all the joie d'vivre he has missed for years.

This holiday may be the first he may be able to enjoy this decade.
He hates hugs but at least soon they will not be painful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 11 Dec 15 - 01:35 PM

(we do not call him tiny Tim but for mudcat purposes we can)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 11 Dec 15 - 01:47 PM

Sending wishes for a good outcome for Tim.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Dec 15 - 06:06 PM

Certainly sounds like caring for tiny tim is full of challenges and frustrations, Donuel. Posted with a prayer               Ranger 1 I would say that a 150 mile trip every week is quite a commitment. Please don't let unwarranted guilt get you.    Blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Dec 15 - 03:37 AM

"I needed to come home, but I still feel guilty." Tami, you most certainly DID need to come home...to rest, to be in your own space & gather your energy to support your Mother & Grandmother. Your Uncle has taken hold of the reins for the moment, so cast that guilt aside. We humans are not 'engineered' to carry the burden imposed by guilt. Guilt is the equivalent of an emotional terrorist...it will rob you of the very energy you need to care...it will make you miserable & it can make you ill. You didn't ask for it, you don't need it & you have done nothing deserving of it's insidious presence. I speak from personal experience. When my first, late Wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, a doctor blamed me for contributing to her condition because I hadn't been ".....an attentive enough husband". The guilt I felt crippled me mentally & physically...lasted for years & necessitated frequent psychiatric interventions. I'm sorry if this all sounds over-dramatic, but I know how hurtful & destructive guilt can be. Take good care on your extensive, caring, guilt-free travels,
                                                                                        With Love,
                                                                                                          Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Dec 15 - 09:18 AM

Nigel - did you or anyone else make a complaint to the Doctor's professional association for that most inappropriate (to put it mildly) comment??

sending good wished to Donuel & his family & to Tami & hers.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Dec 15 - 02:04 PM

Thank you all. I wish I had a day to just curl up and be. But unfortunately, I have to work.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Dec 15 - 09:29 PM

Tami, if you do put your gran's interview on Storycorps, please post a link to it.

Nigel, I'm glad to see the good news about Jane's melanoma.

Donuel, I hope your son's medical procedure goes well. Let us know!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Dec 15 - 01:44 AM

Donuel, both you & Tim are in my thoughts at what must be a stressful time. I trust that Tim will be well cared for, leading to a successful outcome.

Sandra, the incident with the doctor was a fair few years ago when making a complaint was next to impossible. Nowadays, the NHS has procedures in place that make complaining about a doctor's improprieties far easier & quicker, plus one has the assurance that something will (usually!) be 'done'.
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Dec 15 - 09:47 PM

Rise up.

I've been reading but not posting. Sending good thoughts and thinking I need to head to the galley to put on a pot of tea and maybe bake a batch of (USA) biscuits to serve up with your choice of any combination of butter, molasses, honey, apple butter or a good blueberry jam. Have been wrapped up in my own non-potentially lethal trials and tribulations.

Self centered enough that I will probably continue to be a bit of a slacker for awhile in terms of posting my thoughts of encouragement and empathy. But fwiw, do know that whether I post or not, I check in nearly daily, and pull silently on an oar, or situate a chair around the stove in the galley.

Whatever you celebrate during this almost worldwide northern hemisphere season of festival to help sustain us as the hardest time of winter approaches, what we all share here, and what brought us to this particular virtural community is music. I'm a cultural christian and will always love the old songs and love when the old ways meet the new, and when cultures cross. Hope this brings a lift to hearts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=syS9wU1Sr8A

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Dec 15 - 10:44 PM

Janie, I, too, love the old songs of the season, regardless of origin. So I'll see your Bruce Cockburn and raise you a Harry Belafonte.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Dec 15 - 10:49 PM

Oops! More tired than I realized. Wrong song, and certainly NOT Harry Belafonte! So enjoy a song from a different cultural tradition and then go listen to Harry.

That Harry Belafonte Christmas album was a childhood favorite, my gramma had it, and we used to listen to it together while making Christmas cookies.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 04:29 AM

Still checking in regularly. Not much to add.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 06:25 PM

I just ran across Huron Carol for the first time a few days ago on youtube. Lovely song!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 06:32 PM

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 06:38 PM

Excuse my blank post! I meant to hit Home but hit Submit instead! Anyway, I'm still hanging around and enjoying the music. I'm anxiously awaiting Solstice and hoping more sunlight will give me more energy! I hope it perks up everyone else, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 07:22 PM

For Chantylass and all. One Rose/Hot Buttered Rum

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 09:37 PM

Have y'all looked at the calendar recently?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 09:42 PM

let me try that again..

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Dec 15 - 10:01 PM

Dean- "Adult content"?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 06:21 AM

What maeve said, Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 10:56 AM

Maeve & Janie? I really can't get what you're thinkin'. Is the link to our Christmas card coming thru, or?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 12:07 PM

Dean, it's the message we get when we click your link. Don't I remember something similar, perhaps with last year's card? You resolved it somehow. Looking forward to this year's card. :)

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 03:07 PM

Okay, now I think I know what's up. The card is on Flickr, where I've been putting travel pics and stuff. Some browsers must notice that Flickr has no real limits on what they let people post. Rest assured that my link won't get you into any nasties. I tried to put the card on my website as an alternative, but Yahoo has changed the access to the website, and I can't get to it for anything. (And can't find any way to contact a human about that, grrrrrrr.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 04:11 PM

All set, Dean. Thanks for the very nice card!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 09:33 PM

Thank you for the music, Janie. Dean I had the same hesitation about "adult content" as Maeve an Janie, but after reading your response to their concerns I did continue to the site where I saw pretty purple crocus buds. Was that what I was supposed to see?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Dec 15 - 10:26 PM

Chanteylass, if you click the little icon in the far left corner and ask to see all sizes, you'll see Dean and Judy's Christmas card.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Dec 15 - 06:04 AM

Well, I clicked it right away. >;-) Thanks for the card, froggy.

MERRY HO HO!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Dec 15 - 10:08 AM

Been hiding down below deck since we returned from the States, what a wonderful holiday we had, we are both refreshed and strengthened!

Mother has had two bad falls, one while we were away resulting in her mobility being compromised ,so needs to be supported when walking all the time. The second on Tuesday, she was left by the carer in front of the TV ( she hasn't shown any interest in TV for months!) and she found her on the floor when she returned to the room. Mum has a black eye and cuts to her cheek and eye socket as she fell on her glasses. She has been very agitated for the past two days due to the trauma.

I am not happy with the carer as both falls have been when she was on duty, she didn't follow the correct protocol and call careline to send paramedics in the case of a fall and is now very frosty with me as I complained to the care company.They have said they will replace her after Christmas but I am unhappy that we will have her in our home for the next week.

Never mind ,onward and upward, sending love to all the crew, and positive thoughts to all who need some extra strength.

Anyone want a Hershey kiss, no wonder my suitcases were over weight!!

much love Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 17 Dec 15 - 03:35 PM

That's not good at all Wendy .   Hope it don't spoil your Christmas , and your mum feeling serene and secure again soon.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Dec 15 - 07:46 AM

Morning,

thanks Pete, here's hoping things are ok with you and yours xx

I had to call the paramedics again this morning ( 5 minutes and they were there, God bless our NHS staff) mum cannot stand and seems to be listing to starboard so even sitting is pretty much impossible. We think she may have had a mini stroke, however they are letting me keep her at home , avoiding the trauma of hospital if we can!

One day at a time is my mantra at the moment, enjoying the beautiful music on Classic FM , and praying we get through Christmas without any more worries.

Sending Christmas love and good wishes to all on board, that Christmas tree up the mast looks very festive.

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 22 Dec 15 - 10:23 AM

Hi,

I've mostly been sitting on my coil of rope again, as over here things were relatively well, compared to what some of the crew go through. However, this summer my mother stumbled over here rollator (if that's the English word too), had a TIA, and broke her right wrist - order of events can't be reconstructed. She's had therapy since, 10km cycling from here, staying there as well.


Good news: She's now home (5km cycling), before Christmas.
Good news: The wrist is healed to the point where she can write legible again.
Less good news: My mother can now only stand for short periods of time, and needs the rollator to get around the room. I get the impression, this time this is not expected to get much better.

All of this not to solicit pity; my mother's still sound of mind, and I expect she'll be able to remain living mostly independent for some time longer, except for care for some common things she's now unable to do. However, we're now heading for waters we're unfamiliar with. Are there things that other members of Jane's Rainbow's crew have unfortunately found out the hard way that we should try to do or avoid?

And regardless:
Merry December Days to all.
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 22 Dec 15 - 06:27 PM

I don't know what a rolllater is. Wheeled walking frame ?. Wishing well to Wendy and myshas mums,.....and on those caring for them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 22 Dec 15 - 07:30 PM

Hi Peter,

"I don't know what a rolllater is. Wheeled walking frame ?"

Yes, something like that. Not as frame-like as an average Zimmer frame, and wheels on all four legs, but it has a similar purpose.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Dec 15 - 08:22 PM

Just hang onto the love and constantly work at acceptance of whatever the reality of the moment is, Mysha, is all I can offer.

Peace to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Dec 15 - 08:55 PM

Wendy and Mysha, I'm sending love to both of you and to your mothers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Dec 15 - 04:44 AM

I check in several times a week but finding it difficult to offer words of comfort that are compassionate & meaningful. My oldest surviving relative has turned against me & hurt me profoundly. Her last words to me, at the end of a most acrimonious 'phone call were: "I never want to see you again". I cannot comprehend why she harbours such hostility...I always thought she loved me. Whether some form of dementia is to blame I have no means of knowing.

Setting all that aside, I would like to wish everyone on Jane's Rainbow a very Happy Christmas...a very Happy Holiday...Season's Greetings...a very Happy, Healthy & Peaceful New Year...hoping that 2016 will result in our world leaders understanding the 'Big Picture'.
                         With Love to You All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Dec 15 - 07:55 AM

best wishes to all for the season & the following year

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 23 Dec 15 - 01:50 PM

Nigel,

I usually don't understand people very well even if they're not angry, so I can't say much about what may have happened. However, I can say that my uncle two years ago, recently widow(er?)ed at that time, was very cross with my mother, to the point of severing all ties (indeed by telephone). The last few months, however he has sent birthday and Christmas greetings. So, apparently there's always still hope that in time things may change.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 05:59 AM

morning,

Poor mum is very unwell. The Community Matron visited yesterday and has decided that it is time for the end of life team to come and support me.

Wont ask for thoughts etc as I know how wonderful you all are and that all I have to do is come on board for hugs.

fondest love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 08:12 AM

Oh, Wendy. Such a hard path- yet with so many shining moments you have allowed us to see. Thank you. Hugs a-plenty to you and yours.

For Wendy, Lisa, Nigel & Ann, Janie, gnu, Pete, Mysha, ChanteyLass, Tami, Dean, Donuel, Sandra... all those named and unnamed friends who have sailed with us for a moment or for years- Love and attentive listening, companionable silence and good food, great sorrow and great joy have been ours together.

Dr. Daniel Goleman, a famous psychologist and author on "Emotional Intelligence," wrote that "...a prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain."

Thank you all for demonstrating empathy by paying attention to people in pain. Thank you for allowing your joy and pain to deepen your well of compassion. Thank you for offering sweet water from that well to every soul who waves as we sail, comes on board or paddles alongside, or swims a few strokes with us.

Sending blessings through music,
Maeve

"The Parting Glass" | Cindy Kallet and Grey Larsen

Tide and the River Rising (Oars) Cindy Kallet & Grey Larsen
"Tide and the River Rising" lyrics

"Courage" by Cindy Kallet and Grey Larsen    
"Courage " lyrics

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 11:53 AM

Ah Wendy, had a wave of sadness reading your post. Maybe because it is still recent I lost dad. However long you will still have her , will be precious, and she has been blessed to have a deeply caring daughter.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Kampervan
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 12:38 PM

And spare a thought for all of those people who have suffered in some way but who, for whatever reason, cannot bring themselves to actually post to this thread.

For them, I hope that if this Christmas cannot be the best ever then, at least, may future ones be better.

Best wishes for 2016.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 02:19 PM

Yes indeed, Kampervan- I had tried to include all- your own good self as well. I am often one of those who can not post. Thanks for clarifying and expanding.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Kampervan
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 03:05 PM

You're one of the good ones Maeve. Thanks for the thoughts and I hope that you and your family have a great holiday.
Best wishes
K/van

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 04:38 PM

Thank you, Maeve.

J-boy could use some of the Rainbow's mojo. His dad had to go in for emergency surgery this AM due to an infection in the wound from his surgery from just before Thanksgiving. Steve had a hip replacement three years ago that was causing cobalt poisoning, and it was replaced/repaired just before Thanksgiving. He was in a rehab hospital until about a week ago, went in for a doctor's appointment yesterday AM and they scheduled surgery for this AM.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Dec 15 - 06:56 PM

Gee... so much to digest. I have no words except I feel and empathize. Thoughts and prayers to all.

I have my windows flung open to gather fresh air as it's 12C on the Eve. I recall being snowed in for three days on Xmas. So, I am grateful. Good night and joy be with you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 10:26 PM

There's much going on here. Thank you, Maeve, for posting links to music that lifts our spirits. Love to everyone on this full moon Christmas.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Dec 15 - 08:09 AM

I can but echo the fine words written above. We have travelled far...achieved more than I could have ever imagined. As our fourth year rushes headlong to greet us, I wish everyone here a "Good New Year". May you receive relief from your pain, whatever form it takes.
My thoughts & love are directed especially towards Wendy & her Family. Many of us have trodden this path, so it is my earnest wish that our combined empathy brings some comfort & support.
             We know not what the New Year brings, but we can rest safe in the knowledge that we do not stand on the brink, alone & unloved,
                                                                      With Love to my Dearest Friends,
                                                                                                                            Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Dec 15 - 06:22 PM

Focusing on gratitude. So much to be sad about. So much to worry about and to fear. That is why we sail together.

This is a Townes VanZandt song, a later cover by Guy Clark that I particularly like - he turned it into a love song of life.
To Live Is to Fly

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Dec 15 - 03:17 PM

Well, it was balmy on Christmas (about 10C, 13C Xmas Eve!). Green... second green Xmas in a row! I've seen 39 of them here and only one was green before these last two years. I recall one Xmas that we were snowed in for three days.

Of course, smugness get's karma'd. The Kee-Kee birds arrived from their northern nesting grounds after the snow yesterday and brought minus 21WC (Wind Chill) with them. I just hope last year's snow doesn't repeat. We had one stom in early December but NO snow on the ground until January 28. By mid March, we had a whole winter of snow on the ground. On my street, on February 19, two cars could not get by each other. Got my truck stuck trying to let a car pass and if I hadn't had 4X4, I would have had to shovel out me truck.

Still, I look at the floods in England and Colorado and Central/South America, the tornados in Texas where people have been killed... I welcome this cold and snow. I look at the wars and the migrations. I read the hardships of life in this thread. And, I welcome this cold and snow - it's a minor inconvenience.

Bless all. I hope the new year brings us all to a better place.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Dec 15 - 04:41 PM

Well said indeed, friend gnu.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 28 Dec 15 - 05:48 PM

Thanks Janie,

"Acceptance of whatever the reality of the moment is", will of course mostly be my problem. My mother's mind is OK, whereas mine is ... "unusual". Or from a different perspective: During therapy she's had to accept people doing tasks that she used to do herself, but to me it still feels like I'm invading, even if I'm doing it for her. But I'll try accepting things as they are now.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Dec 15 - 06:56 PM

Mysha- Same here, for me. We are not alone. :)

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Dec 15 - 09:33 AM

I hope all our friends in the UK... well, everyone in the UK... stays safe through the storm. Nasty weather forecast!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Dec 15 - 10:46 PM

Echoing gnu's remarks for all those in harm's way from weather.

It is hard, Mysha. My Dad, sister and I found it very, very difficult to overcome our prohibitions in caring for him. Mom needed relief and some opportunities to sleep through the night, but we often failed her.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Dec 15 - 02:51 AM

The worst of the bad weather is way to the North of where we live, so other than plenty of 'normal rain' & some gusty wind, we're safe & dry. A tributary of The Thames flows behind our house, some four hundred yards away, I would guess, but as a tributary, it benefits from the protection of The Thames Barrier, so we have to put our trust in the engineering skills of others.

Maeve, your quotation above: "...a prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain." is a perfect fit for our thread. I think it encapsulates what we do best. I'm also reminded of some words written by our sorely missed Friend, Pat Patterson. He wrote of his amazement at how real our virtual relationships become. Over the past four years, we have created a 'vessel' that can sail wherever she is needed; that can weather the worst of Life's storms. Onwards we voyage,
                                              With Love to You All,
                                                                               Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Dec 15 - 07:17 AM

beautifully put as always, Nigel

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 30 Dec 15 - 05:20 PM

Indeed, eloquently expressed.   Happy new year to all the crew, I case I don't post tomorrow. What's others doing to see in 2016 ? I plan to be at an open mic. It's usually good, so I expect it will be more fun tomorrow night .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Dec 15 - 06:47 PM

as I live in the suburb where zillions of Sydneysiders & folks from other places congregate to celebrate NYE (& go drinking every weekend), I tend to stay home cos getting back is not easy. Also the crowde everywhere are gi-normous which makes the getting back even harder.

I just might wander out 8.30ish to see if I can get near the closest of the vantage points for the world famous fireworks (live link), but maybe not as I've seen the top of the highest fireworks before over the buildings around my part of the harbour.

I'll probably listen to a few CDs, continue with my backlog of blog articles & maybe get on with a bit of sewing.

sandra (10.45 Thursday morning)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Dec 15 - 06:49 PM

here's the direct link to the world-famous Sydney fireworks & earlier entertainment starting at 6pm Sydney time in about 7 hours

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Dec 15 - 07:15 PM

I'll be staying in. I'm on the mend still after putting my back out last week.

Sharing a happy with the crew: got a package from Norway from my youngest host brother. Opened it up to find a flash drive of almost 500 photos and videos, some of him when he was small, some of his significant other when she was small, and the bulk of them are of his son, from sonogram to this Christmas. Trym will be 2 in March. Spent a large chunk of the afternoon looking at happy pics.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Dec 15 - 12:14 PM

How lovely, r1!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 31 Dec 15 - 10:32 PM

Spectacular and thrilling fireworks display, Sandra. Hope you don't mind that I shared it on Facebook.

I will soon be headed to bed. Haven't been awake to see in the New Year in a long, long time.

Having friends over tomorrow for an early New Year's supper. I'm fixing my family's traditional meal of corned beef, cabbage and cornbread. Guests are bringing black-eyed peas and collard greens in keeping with the more common southern US tradition. Didn't have time to go to the bank to get a shiny, new dime to cook with the cabbage.

Took a few very awkward, shuffling steps with a cane in PT today. Bodes well for the New Year. May not seem much to crow about, but I am very excited.

So very glad to be part of this crew and to be sailing into another year in such company.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86_tlA9maA0&feature=youtu.be

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 12:01 AM

Thanks, Janie. I'm a fan of this version of the song, myself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 02:11 AM

Janie - good to know you are starting to hobble around, & I hope your facebook friends enjoyed the pics

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 04:28 AM

My beloved mum passed away on Wednesday morning, very peacefully, holding my hand. All my family, 14 of us were together on Sunday last and were able to say goodbye. My little grandaughter aged 9 held nannys hand and mum waved her other arm in the air"look Nonnie," she said"nanny is dancing with Grandad"Out of the mouths of babes?
Wishing you all a happy and contented New Year.
With all my love
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 04:40 AM

Ah, Wendy . Expected but always so sad. Peace and blessing to you and yours.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 05:49 AM

Our Dear Wendy, Ann & I are holding you in our thoughts. Love & comfort are yours in abundance. Pete expresses our thoughts perfectly: "Expected but always so sad".
                     With love & sincere condolences,
                                                                           Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 07:20 AM

Sorry for your loss, Wendy, but glad it was a peaceful end.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 07:20 AM

Wendy, I'm glad you were able to do so much with and for your dear mother. I'm glad you had a restorative and happy mini-vacation, enabling you to return restored, showering her with all your love. I'm especially grateful family gathered on Sunday, and that you, most devoted and loving of daughters, could hold her hand, witnessing that ineffable and tender departure. Well done, you- Thank you for including us.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 08:14 AM

I can only echo Maeve, Wendy. Sending love.

Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Jan 16 - 04:58 PM

Wendy, peace and comfort to you and all the family.


Ya done good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Jan 16 - 06:09 AM

love & hugs, peace & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jan 16 - 04:26 AM

Glad to hear the news, Janie.

Wendy... maeve said it all. My condolences.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 03 Jan 16 - 06:25 AM

Janie "...Took a few very awkward, shuffling steps with a cane in PT today. Bodes well for the New Year. May not seem much to crow about, but I am very excited."

And so are we for you! That's a huge improvement, and there will be more to follow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 03 Jan 16 - 06:32 AM

For us all- Please take a moment to read and reflect on Desert Dancer's post here: Subject: RE: singing for the dying and at wakes
It's all worth reading, but focus on Becky's Desert Dancer's post of
02 Jan 16 - 11:02 PM, quoting from a piece by Jennifer L. Hollis. It's perfect for The Rainbow's crew and guests.
Love,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Jan 16 - 05:25 AM

I'm going to be 'out of action' for most of January...a combination of radical med. changes (already begun & causing adjustment problems). Surgery (only a hernia repair) & an extensive round of tests for my hearing & heart. In the words of my maternal Grandmother: "I don't have the energy to blow the top off a rice pudding!" I have only to read the posts above to know that Jane's Rainbow is, as always, in good hands, so I have no reservations about taking some 'shore leave' for a month or so.
                                       Sending you all Love & every good wish for the New Year,
                                                                                                                                     Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Jan 16 - 06:32 AM

Nigel, we'll be keeping you in heart and thought.

Keep watch for the sunrise of each coming day,
Collect the little kindnesses you meet on the way
Hold hands with your lady who loves you so true,
Hum a song for the treasure we're rooting for- You!

{Doggerel sent with affection and respect.}

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jan 16 - 03:00 PM

Good luck, Nigel.

I live on Leeside Fuckin Drive, baby! I can see the street sign! It's green! I can see snow flakes! I can see pine needles! I can see pine needles waving in the wind! Right eye gets done Wednesday.

Hmmm... if I can see really good after these surgeries, will I start ogling the fairer sex again? That could be a problem. Not the ogling part but the stomping the primitive urges part. Nah... no problems. A lesson learned eh?

One cataract catawrecked, one to go.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Jan 16 - 04:33 PM

GO, GNU!!

That's the great news TL and I needed today. Thank you!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jan 16 - 04:56 PM

meave.... I hope TL's surgery(s) go well too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 04 Jan 16 - 08:27 PM

My cataract surgeries were a piece o' cake, gnu; may yours both go as well. As it happened, it was six years between when I needed it or each eye.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jan 16 - 07:56 AM

Left eye went perfectly. Right eye tomorrow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Jan 16 - 01:22 PM

Trust today's went well too.   It will make a ...gnu...man of you !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Jan 16 - 06:40 PM

I know this is a love song. But I hear it as a love song to us all from us all.

Agape love.

I don't have words these days for each or any of you but that is not about you each individually not being in my heart and mind. So much going on in every life.

If I needed you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Jan 16 - 07:45 PM

best wishes to Nigel, gnu, TL & all

I had my cataracts removed some years back. I was due to have them done & when I went for my next checkup (6 months after the first) my left eye was so bad I couldn't read the top letter in the chart! tho as I was using both eyes, I wasn't aware of it. Not long after I had both eyes done 2 weeks apart & could use both eyes, tho I use glasses for close work.

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Jan 16 - 10:02 PM

I've been away from Mudcat for several days. My 15-year-old grandson who lives with his mother in California has been here with my son's (his father's) family for almost two weeks. I have spent a lot of time with them.

Janie, I hope the hobbling is going very well.

Wendy, I'm sorry about your mother. My hugs are on their way, though belatedly.

So, gnu, how are you doing? Well, I hope!

Nigel, I'm sorry about your health problems. I hope treatments go well.

Maeve, same goes for your Truelove.

Love to you all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Jan 16 - 04:39 AM

Best wishes to all for a gentle New Year. No conversation here from me regarding TL. Privacy matters. Thanks. :)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Jan 16 - 12:13 PM

Refreshhhhhhhhh

Thinking of Wendy, gnu, Janie, and Nigel especially today..and the rest of yez as well. :D

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jan 16 - 06:46 AM

Doc declared 100% success in both eyes. That's 200%!!! Only gotta wear the patches for 5 nights instead of 7. Thanks for the good wishes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Jan 16 - 08:02 AM

That's great and welcome gnus, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Jan 16 - 08:49 AM

Flying visit as I've been up to eyebrows in USA visit with my Mom and her stroke, (OctobeR) followed immediately by house move from Essex to Shropshire, (November) followed immediatley by critical needs of parents in law in Stratford u Avon (both alternating going into and out of hospital) prior to Christmas. We got 24 hour care in place for a second time (Dad dismissed the first arrangement the day after he got out of hospital and the day after that Mum fell, hit her head hard enough to land in hospital). New and current carer started Christmas eve. Between Dad's hospital stay and now we've been marathon visiting. Deep cleaned kitchen cupboards and drawers as every piece of cutlery, crockery, glass, had been put away unwashed. Presoaked, bleached, boil washed every tea towel and bed linen. Washed all of Dad's stump socks as he had dumped them all in hamper with a sopping wet bath mat when went mouldy. I brought home 6 large bin bags of dirty laundry on Boxing day after cleaning out the master bed room wardrobe. We threw away 4 large bags of clothes to soiled or damaged to salvage. I have been using antibacterial laundry additive to kill the smell (Mum's double incontinence) and ironing everything I can just to be extra certain it is germ free.
Things have settled down for them and Dad is much more accepting of the care package and our help. Dad is pressing Chris and his sis to arrange power of attorney. They will have to make other arrangements re Mum's savings (where Dad has been putting all his money) as she is not mentally competent to sign and papers. They are taking advice form Age Concern. Tomorrow we take some more clean clothes for mum which I altered to fit her as she has gained quite a bit of weight. And we will clear all the drawers and wardrobe in the carer's room to give her more space to put her things. This means more laundry but it shouldn't bee too much. It is the going through Mum's notes and photos and cards that is breaking me. There are probably about 22 more drawers and 8 cupboards to go through. She has been tidying things away in them for 4 years. Found an note she scribbled on back of greeting card dated 1996 stating that she wished for an happy exit from illness and old age with the assistance of brandy and tablets and would her loved ones please not try to revive her. I wept, composed myself then found a photo of her holding hands with her daughter from a few years ago around the time we all discovered she had developed dementia. They both look on the verge of tears. And I fell apart again. I am happy to be doing this for the family though. My sister in law said it was very difficult for her to do this with her mother in law's effects. Didn't think she could cope with sorting through her own Mum's memories.

Wendy (Billybob). I salute you! You have helped your mother make a very graceful end. You gave her a safe place to progress through her illness. No one could hope for a better passing.


All seems settled now that

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Jan 16 - 09:11 AM

Ah, Tamara! I am so glad to hear from you. Such a huge task (tasks!) you are facing, and with grace and loving strength. Thank you for bringing us up to date. Welcome home.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 08 Jan 16 - 04:00 PM

A lot to cope with, tam, but it sounds like it is working out reasonably, and well done you. Blessings ...... Pete .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Jan 16 - 07:53 PM

what maeve & pete said

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 10 Jan 16 - 11:26 AM

Big storm with wind, rain, and snow is arriving here. The good news is that gnu will be able to see it when it moves up to his neck of the woods. ;D

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Lap gnu
Date: 10 Jan 16 - 01:44 PM

VTam... Thanks for sharing. My thoughts are with you.

m... I won't see it. Maybe a bit in the AM. The only problem I see is the southerly wind at 50 gusting to 90kph. Nor'easters ain't no sweat up to 120kph. South winds are not so much fun when the temp gets up to 8C as expected. Last one cost me shingles. A minor inconvenience but I have the "Mum Consideration" (she's been wound up all day... sigh.) Hope all is well with you through the storm. We are now expecting far less rain than was forecast few days ago. I hope the same for you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 10 Jan 16 - 02:01 PM

We're fine. Always ready for storms. Collecting rainwater for washing, cooking something nice for breakfast breads, chooks all cozy and warm.

I was really thinking something more along the lines of..." gnu will be able to SEE!!! it..."

m

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jan 16 - 09:19 PM

Gnu, great to read about your eyes!

VTam, I am exhausted from just reading what you've been doing! Not too exhausted to send you love and hugs

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Jan 16 - 07:53 PM

And just to mix things up a bit -- I will be having cataract surgery on my right eye on January 19!

No, I'm not in competition with gnu. I am simply following the path he has so brilliantly laid out, except I can't see it because of the cataract.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Jan 16 - 04:25 AM

Today, 12th January, is our fourth anniversary. My heartfelt thanks to everyone who has visited, supported, advised, counselled, shared, made us laugh & cry & think. You have sustained this remarkable thread & created an online community of which we can be justly proud.
          I send my love to you all,
                                                 Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Jan 16 - 07:18 PM

Rap, I wish you an outcome as good as gnu's!

Nigel, four years? Wow! A lot has happened to all of us in that time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jan 16 - 04:45 AM

Four years! I share your thoughts.

Rap... good luck. I was offered an Ativan prior to surgery to calm my nerves. I thought "It's free so..." and accepted. Didn't seem to do anything but maybe I just didn't notice. >;-) However, I did have the best night's sleep in a dog's age that night so, for the second surgery, ditto for sure eh?

The storm was an overnight thing. I did peak out at 2:40 and it was windy and raining hard. Then, from about 3:00 to 4:00, it blew like a Banshee. One gust pressurized the house and moved the curtains and the front wall around the living room window creaked (been sleeping there so as not to roll off my back onto my sides - eye patches).

Snowing now. 15 - 25 cm and 40 - 70 kph. Minor storm.

Best wishes to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jan 16 - 06:38 PM

Up, up, up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 16 Jan 16 - 03:07 PM

Snowing outside right now. Not cold or a lot of wind, just gray with snow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 16 Jan 16 - 05:42 PM

We are forecast it in the SE of England this weekend , but I don't suppose it will be anything too major.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars linkage
Date: 17 Jan 16 - 01:42 PM

........and it was,nt. woke up to it, but gone in no time !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jan 16 - 09:36 AM

The weather here has been great so far this winter. Something's definitely up. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 19 Jan 16 - 09:30 PM

We're on death watch here. Hospice nurse told Mum this AM that Gramma will probably pass within the next 24 to 72 hours. I've been trying to get down here since Sunday, but weather didn't cooperate. Arrived at 4:00 this afternoon. We're sitting with Gramma in shifts and holding her hand. I drew the dog watch. I don't mind. It's peaceful at that time of the morning.

She can't really converse at this point, but she knows we're there and can hear and understand us. She kissed my hand when I got here and went in to relieve Mum.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Jan 16 - 10:19 PM

I've sent you a PM, Tami. You'll be a comfort to her, and she to you. I'm glad you're together for this part of the journey.
Love,
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Jan 16 - 11:46 PM

{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Jan 16 - 06:37 AM

Stay strong, r1. My thoughts and prayers to you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Jan 16 - 05:03 PM

Thinking of Tami, with a mind given to odd quirks: I'm sure that in this case a small comforter is offering more than just small comfort.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jan 16 - 06:03 PM

Tami, thinking of you all.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Jan 16 - 09:21 PM

me, too

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 21 Jan 16 - 12:02 PM

Thinking of you Tami. Even the smoothest and most peaceful of passings can be very hard on the loved ones.

To all an sundry wishing you peace and those in the path of the monster storm about to hit the US East I am wishing you safety.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jan 16 - 12:23 PM

Massive storm? Where? http://radar.weather.gov/Conus/index_loop.php

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Jan 16 - 02:26 PM

Going out to see before it makes it to northern New England or your part of Canuckistan, gnu.

Been sitting holding her hand today. Just me and grandma at the moment. Enjoying having her to myself for a bit. Telling her what birds are at the feeder, the eagle I saw down the street yesterday, that kind of stuff. Booted my mum out for bit, she was feeling a bit stir-crazy. Told her we'd be just fine without her for a bit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Jan 16 - 08:00 PM

Tami, I've been away from Mudcat for a few days, so this is the first I've heard about how close your grandmother is to crossing the bar. I am glad that you are able to spend this time with her. I'm sending hugs to you both and to your mother, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 22 Jan 16 - 08:41 AM

Tiny Tim, my youngest is eating better but the cause of his inability to attend school remains unchanged. Since Insurance no longer covers his condition like it id for his older brother we have to give treatments in home.

His bathroom looks like a kill room out of Dexter.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 22 Jan 16 - 05:52 PM

Likewise, with a prayer, wishing peace on you and your grandmother, ranger1.                And to tiny tim and yourself , donuel , wishing you well. Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 06:28 AM

Tami, we're holding you in love and friendship.

Nigel, holding you and Ann as well as you work your way toward health and joy.


Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 09:28 AM

Thank you, Maeve.

My gramma passed last evening. My mom and I were with her.

On the drive home, I needed music, badly. I'd been humming I'll Fly Away and then put in a CD. At about 7:30 PM, I realized it was Saturday and started going through the available radio station to find an NPR station I could pull in so I could listen to The Thistle and Shamrock. I caught the tail-end of Prairie Home Companion, and what song did they close the show with? Yep, I'll Fly Away. Couldn't decide whether to laugh or cry and ended up doing both at the same time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 01:28 PM

It sounds like you and your mum had some precious time with granma before she flew this life.    Blessings. Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 01:39 PM

Those who are wondering about the snow storm that hit the east coast less Maine and New Hampshire... I checked with Janie and she is just fine, always has her emergency kit at hand.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 07:55 PM

Glad you and your mom could be with your gramma, Tami. Sending you much love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 08:20 PM

sending good wishes to Tami & her family.

Good luck to all in the extreme snow!

Amazing pics to one who has only once seen snow.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jan 16 - 11:25 PM

Donuel, I am glad that Tim is eating better and hope that continues. It is a shame you can't get help with his care.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Jan 16 - 09:28 PM

Flying to the top!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Jan 16 - 10:29 PM

Good news: the vision in my right eye is now 20/40 (without an assisting device) and I'll probably be getting a prescription for a "milder" lens soon.

Bad news: due to "trigger finger" in the ring finger of my left hand I may be facing hand surgery. I was referred to a hand surgeon this afternoon. I shall need that month in Hawai'i (February 21 - March 21) to escape surgeries!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Jan 16 - 05:38 AM

good news, & good to get the hand fixed, but maybe you need to tell your body to stay well.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jan 16 - 08:44 PM

I'm glad about your eye but not about your finger! I hope that surgery goes well, too. And Hawaii sounds good. Can you take the Rainbow crew with you?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Jan 16 - 08:51 PM

Now the left hand, and in late April the left eye. When the left eye is done I can hope that I won't need glasses anymore. Right now I just want the hand hurt to stop and my finger to stop locking into place.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jan 16 - 05:55 PM

Wishing you well, Rap, and just research the surgeon well who will be doing the hand surgery. All such surgeons are not created equal.

Annie had multiple surgeries for both carpal tunnel and trigger finger done (the result of a combination of years of fiddle and guitar playing, plus wind and kite surfing which also impact the hands and wrists.) On top of that, she was in a terrible car wreck soon after the first surgeries, and was impacted by the pressure on hands and arm stuff from using a walker. And she has made out just fine - though does still pamper the digits and is very picky about all things related to the neck on a stringed instrument. No surgery will completely erase the effects of years of wear and tear, eh?

Kinda a scary to think about you seeing even more clearly than you already do, if you get my drift.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 29 Jan 16 - 06:31 PM

Good words, Janie.

Post 5,000 in honor/honour of Nigel, Ann, and Jane.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Jan 16 - 12:03 PM

5k!!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Jan 16 - 12:05 PM

BTW... it would be more than 5k if Mudcat hadn't had that glitch where a lot of posts were lost.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Feb 16 - 06:15 AM

I/we are honoured/honored indeed. 5,000 posts is testament to the many good people around the world who have given so generously of their time, wisdom, knowledge, experience & love of humankind. I like to think we have created & maintain something special...a thread that goes the extra mile...a thread that gives much, yet asks for little in return.
          Raising a glass (teacup!) to you all,
                                                                   Love, Hugs & Kisses,
                                                                                                    Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Feb 16 - 01:01 PM

Wassail all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 02 Feb 16 - 10:12 AM

An injection of cortisone directly into the tendon of my left ring finger yesterday was possibly the most painful thing I've ever experienced. It had better help.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 02 Feb 16 - 11:52 AM

Rap- Ouch!!!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Feb 16 - 08:06 PM

To Maeve's ouch, I'll add, "Ow, ow, ow!"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Feb 16 - 05:59 PM

I really don't understand. Ya get yer eye done and the doc messes you up and ya gotta have the fly eye on fer a long time. Then, ya get yer finger shot with a painful injection. What is with Idaho medical care?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars
Date: 03 Feb 16 - 06:15 PM

Tommy been in hospital again with an infection of uncertain cause. Today he was doing well but has high temperature again this evening. Becky has a bad cold as well but insists on being there more than me because I don't take in medical info well.   Prayer to spare ?   Thanks.......      Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Feb 16 - 10:34 PM

Pete, of course I have a prayer to spare. I'm guessing others here do, too. Best to Tommy, Becky, and of course you!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Feb 16 - 05:29 AM

Good guess, CL. Ditto that fer sure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Feb 16 - 02:26 PM

Up again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Feb 16 - 05:42 PM

Tommy has been allowed home now, though not fully recovered so we won't send him to School yet .......but as channtylass says '"up again".   Thanks.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Feb 16 - 06:38 PM

That's welcome news, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Feb 16 - 07:11 PM

I'll second that

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Feb 16 - 07:48 AM

Greetings to all from East London. I'm still officially on 'shore leave', so spare me a thought tomorrow, Monday, when I will be spending the day at the T.I.A. clinic (second time in two years). I will know the results by the end of the day...no tedious waiting. I'll post again when I am able.
                                     Much Love to You All,
                                                                        Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Feb 16 - 08:49 AM

Of course, Nigel. Information can give us tools. Think music as you wait.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Feb 16 - 08:34 PM

Pete, I'm glad Tommy's home and hope he continues to improve.

Nigel, best wishes!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 07 Feb 16 - 09:51 PM

Ditto CL.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Feb 16 - 08:44 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Feb 16 - 10:07 PM

What is the TIA clinic, Nigel. In the USA, a tia referres to 'mini-strokes" but I don't assume it means the same thing across the pond.

Hope Tommy is progressing. Hope Rap's 'sinister' side, in all quadrants are either functioning better or about to, post surgery.

Thinking of you Wendy, as you adjust to life without the long care giving of your mother.

And all the rest of you who I am not naming, sailing along with you, whether you are in safe harbor, sailing clear seas with a fair wind, or battling huge waves (and all in between.)

A little cheery note regarding moi. Have completely retired the wheelchair and only keeping the walker handy in case of ice and snow - figure 6 legs are much more fall-proof than three if there is real risk of slipping.

I think I can actually see the time when I will once again be Moving Lightly Through This World

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Feb 16 - 06:22 AM

Janie, TIA means exactly the same in the UK, the so-called 'mini-stroke'. However, I'm relieved to report that all my tests came back negative. I have suffered from 'Migraine with Aura' since my teens...the symptoms mimic a stroke. Google 'Migraine with Aura' or 'Classic Migraine' if you want further info.. Needless to say, I'm relieved...feeling less threatened.
         Very pleased to read that you've retired the wheelchair, Janie. Tangible, visual progress.
         I want to express my sincere thanks to those of you who've pm'd/emailed me regarding the TIA investigation. I printed off your words of comfort & encouragement & took them with me. The Doctor's consultation room was wonderfully 'crowded'... I felt greatly supported. Both Ann & I shed tears of relief before we made our way home.
       Sending love to our dear, dear Friends,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Feb 16 - 06:31 AM

YAH!!!!

not that I'm cheering a classical migraine, but it is a better option than the other & probably easier to deal with.


hugs from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Feb 16 - 07:07 AM

Pretty good news all around. Hope it continues.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 10 Feb 16 - 01:06 PM

I'll second that.....tommy doing ok but we kept him off school as a precaution.      Blessings.          Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Feb 16 - 03:47 PM

Good words to hear from the crew. Nigel, folks here probably tend to believe in "different strokes for different folks", but we're glad you didn't take that the wrong way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Feb 16 - 10:16 PM

Janie, I think you are wise to use the walker for ice and snow. I still use my cane under (on top of?) the same conditions.

Nigel, sigh of relief here.

Peter, please let us know when Tommy is well enough to return to school.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Feb 16 - 07:41 AM

Dean, appreciate the humour & I can assure you, NOT taken the wrong way. There hasn't been much to laugh about over the last month or two.
                                                                               With Love,
                                                                                              Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Feb 16 - 08:54 PM

So, I pull into the drive, step out of the car admiring the new columns and all the work on the house that was completed today (four new exterior doors, a handrail on the basement steps, stuff long delayed because of things happening).

My mobile phone goes off. It's my wife. My pants are ready to be picked up at the sewing shop and, oh yeah, I'm have a biopsy and they're giving me valium so I'll need a ride home. She'd gone in for a followup on her mammogram.

I get the pants and I leave scorch marks in the air driving to the hospital.

We'll get the results of the biopsy Monday.

And I was getting ready for Hawai'i. And it's my birthday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Feb 16 - 11:13 PM

Let us know about the biopsy. In the meantime, happy birthday, Rap!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 13 Feb 16 - 05:58 PM

listen to the....last line, "and find some comfort here."

GfS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: open mike
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 12:34 AM

nice to see that Jeneve Rose Mitchell has made it to mudcat...we will hear more from this gal!!

I fine myself at my wit's end.....life has taken a turn since this fall when my partner got pneumonia (the new-not-the-old-monia) in November. He was mis-diagnosed twice by the clinic he had been going to, and after crawling into the emergency room, was declared "at death's door" and admitted to the hospital. He was released to home after a short stay, but ever since then he has been struggling with lung problems and complications including congestive heart failure, edema, cellulitis, and massive infections. the holidays were basically non-existant including thanksgiving, christmas, new years, and we have been in and out of hospitals, clinics, doctors, tests, pharmacies...on and on for months and months.

We hear more and more news accounts from some musicians in their 60's who have passed away recently from "complications from pneumonia" and are aware of the severity of the situation. He will be 66 next week.

I have been trying to hold down the fort...doing my jobs as well as his including feeding dogs, cats, birds and horses, mucking stalls, hauling hay, keeping the wood stove going, as well as keeping food on the table. To top it off, on our way home from one of our last trips to doctors in town (about an hour away) he was driving and feel asleep at the wheel. I was able to startle him awake and get the wheels turned back onto the road, but we came dangerously close to going over the edge near a steep drop off and it was very frightening. Now i insist on being the designated driver for all appointments, etc.

Poor guy, it is the only time he gets out any more and having been a professional driver ("big truck")for over a million miles, driving was one thing he felt confident about. Anyway, I am feeling quite overwhelmed and am having a hard time budgeting time to allow for all the tasks that need to be accomplished....laundry, bandageing, chauffering and zoo keeper duties have me in a whirl.

glad to have this group to find a sympathetic ear and shoulder to cry on. now i understand and appreciate what my mom went thru as a caregiver for 15 years with my invalid father (paralized from a stroke and not able to speak or walk much)....at one point she lost all her hair from stress!

I am trying to remain strong and brave but starting to crumble around the edges! thanks for all good wishes....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 09:11 AM

Welcome Aboard, om and partner.

I knew from facebook he had been ill with pneumonia but had no idea he was still so poorly or what that has meant for you.

There is a sunny spot here on the rear deck, sheltered from the wind. Why don't the two of you settle into these chairs we just brought up from below, relax, and watch the dolphins jump in the wake for a bit. Here are two warm lap robes to tuck around your legs.

Thinking of you and your wife, Rap. Hope the biopsy results are benign.

Tommy still on the mend?

Holding everyone in my thoughts and meditations.

And whatever is going on in our lives, don't forget to breathe deeply now and then.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 11:08 AM

om... hope things turn around... soon. Diito Janie on the breathing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 02:46 PM

Om, I'm sorry to read that your partner is struggling with his health, and care giving is a tough task, especially with so many animals to care for, too. I hope Janie's prescription helps.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 04:55 PM

open mike, would that some of were actually close neighbors, so we could each actually do a bit each to take some of the load off. Know that the crew will be keeping you in heart and mind.

                     Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 05:46 PM

Thoughts and a prayer for open mic and rap and their loved ones. Tommy doing ok thanks . It is half term this week but hopefully back to school following week"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: open mike
Date: 14 Feb 16 - 06:05 PM

Dennis (and I ) say thank you....he says anywhere dolphins are jumping is alright with him...and he used to be a surfer and grew up near the ocean, so anything with Vitamin SEA is very healing to him!! just what the doctor ordered!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Feb 16 - 08:30 PM

Bump (gently to the top)!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Feb 16 - 09:18 AM

Bloody wonderful.

Yesterday the doctor called to tell my wife, who is three times a cancer survivor¹, that she's about to become a four time survivor. High grade ductile carcinoma in situ.

She sees two doctors today. We will also be going to Hawai'i as planned -- she says she can worry about it having fun as well as any other way.





1. Thyroid at 17, breast, skin.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Feb 16 - 10:10 AM

"about to become a four time survivor." I'm in favor of that.
Dang, Rap. Enjoy that trip, knowing we're here keeping watch. My husband says, "Life is a hoot, innit?" Warm regards to you both.
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Feb 16 - 10:47 AM

I am also in favour of that and of you kids having a great time in Hawaii.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Feb 16 - 06:23 PM

Her surgery is March 29. We will enjoy Hawai'i first.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Feb 16 - 03:30 AM

sending good wishes to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Feb 16 - 05:22 AM

Dang, Rap, enough is enough!

Will be holding you and Pat in my thoughts, including 'seeing' you relaxing on beautiful beaches by blue water with gentle breezes, away from the cold winds of Idaho.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Feb 16 - 09:49 PM

Oh, Rap, she's got spirit, and it sounds like you do to! Have a wonderful time in the 50th state and a speedy, complete recovery for your wife.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Feb 16 - 01:58 PM

Yep, here's hoping for and wishing you a restful, refreshing holiday , ready for the future .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Feb 16 - 04:15 PM

Hope the lull means everyone are sailing in relatively calm waters for the moment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Feb 16 - 08:35 PM

Pete, has Tommy been well enough to return to school?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 27 Feb 16 - 04:58 PM

Yes, chanteylass, he has been all week, thanks for asking.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Feb 16 - 09:00 PM

Good!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Feb 16 - 09:14 PM

Quickly! We are in Kona and I have an early case of acute bronchitis, for which I have seen a doctor who put me on antibiotics, etc. Pats surgery on the 29th is cancelled for now; they will be doing some MRIing and tumor-directed drugs and do any cutting in a couple of months. I'll probably have hand surgery when we get back.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Feb 16 - 05:27 AM

With meds and sun and time to just be, I hope you'll both return home stronger and refreshed, Mike.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Feb 16 - 02:13 PM

Ditto maeve. So is the cancellation a rethink and rescheduling to facilitate the further investigation and drug treatment ?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Feb 16 - 06:20 PM

Give us yer Lupins!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Mar 16 - 10:23 PM

Refresh! My hope is that no news is good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 03 Mar 16 - 08:12 AM

good morning from a very sunny East coast of England!

I have been away too long, early January! Have just been catching up, so sending love to everyone, hoping sadness is eased and health is improved, so just sending hugs!

The past few weeks have been very difficult with highs and lows. We held mothers funeral on January 20th, at 92 I thought her friends had all passed on, but the church was packed, with people standing. My son read a beautiful eulogy and my daughter read a poem that mum had written to dad in her letters to him in 1943. The RAF sent standard bearers( a surprise that was so touching) There must have been 200 plus people. 60 family and close friends came back to the house and joined us for supper and sharing happy stories of a wonderful lady.A beautiful bitter sweet day.

The following week I went down with a virus and have spent the last 5 weeks in bed, no energy, not wanting to eat sleeping, sleeping, sleeping. Billy has been wonderful looking after me!! The Dr says it will take time to recover, so I am taking things very slowly.The house seems so empty, not just missing mum but for years we have had carers almost 24 hours a day, so it does seem very quiet.

Onwards and upwards, things can only get better. sailing on..............

much love

Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Mar 16 - 08:16 AM

oops, been away so long I had lost my cookie, so Guest was me
xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Mar 16 - 10:11 AM

Sounds like a special tribute(s). Sorry to hear of your bug. I hope you squash it soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Mar 16 - 10:19 PM

Oh, my, your mum must have been a wonderful person to have so many people come to say farewell.

I'm sorry you've been ill. Keep getting better!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Mar 16 - 06:12 AM

Dear Wendy,
                   Such a moving account of your dear Mother's funeral. In a sense, I'm not surprised to hear of your subsequent illness. You invested every ounce of your love & energy caring for your Mother, leaving precious little for yourself. I'm as certain as I can be that the 'bug' is your body's way of making you take to your bed & rest. BB sounds like he's doing a great job.
                   A closing thought...fill your 'empty' house with as many memories that you can recall of your dear Mother & Father. You may find you need to upsize!
                   With Love,
                                    Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Mar 16 - 12:27 PM

A gentle upwards nudge.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Mar 16 - 12:48 PM

Still no change for Tiny Tim but the school is now sending a teacher to the house 3 times a week.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Mar 16 - 09:19 PM

Well, that's something, but I imagine you could use a lot more help. I hope you get it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Mar 16 - 11:34 PM

Hope that bronchitis is less acute now, Rap. When you robbed the plane passengers you were supposed to leave the germs behind, not press them into the handle of your rapier, then wipe your mouth! May you and Pat still soak up lots of sunshine, breezes and wonderous sights at wonderous sites, and arrive home ready for whatever life brings next.

Wendy, hugs.

Especially holding the children, Tommy and Tiny Tim in my thoughts.

Doing sufficiently fair to middling myself that I am up for setting out chairs on deck and in the galley, as it may suit you. Baking the last of winter's apples to pass around to those who favor something a little sweet, plus some mulled wine, a soothing herb tea for them what need some sleep, and a stimulating herbal/black tea blend, not to mention some excellent coffee brewed from beans that were locally roasted at our last port-of-call and still quite vivid tasting.

I know we are also tired of cabbage but I've livened it up with some early spring greens Chantylass found when she rowed briefly ashore. Still early but in a sheltered, sunny lee she found a bit of chickweed, young dandelion leaves, woods sorrel and pepper grass.

I was out foraging a bit also before I came back on board, and have some fresh-dug sassafras root. I believe we have the makings for several spring tonic treats, even aboard this ship sailing the seven seas.

Any fresh eggs yet, maeve?

Warm places below and on deck in sheltered areas facing the sun, brisk breezes on the forecastle, and a few gently swaying hammocks above and below decks for those what need gentle rocking. And at all quarters and on every deck, love abounds.

Change the "I" to "We" etc. Boats to Build

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 08 Mar 16 - 12:41 AM

We were somehow lucky enough to get one of the nations top psychiatrists. The trip down chemical highway doesn't seem to have any effects.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Mar 16 - 07:15 PM

I hope the psychiatrist will be helpful.

Janie, need some help with those chairs? Sounds like you are setting out a wonderful spread. Let's see, what can I add? Maple syrup to sweeten the tea perhaps? Sweet butter to spread on bread?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Mar 16 - 08:04 PM

The vog (volcanic smog) has blown away, at least for now, on the trade winds. I hope it stays away as we think it's been part of the problem.

Yes, the idea is to see what will help the most with the least invasive therapy. Surgery will almost certainly happen, but it may be less radical than first thought, or so we hope.

Tomorrow we visit Oahu and Honolulu, and then a week in a condo on Maui before we return to the hullabaloo.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Mar 16 - 02:12 PM

Donuel... ditto CL.

Maui? Waui! Now, there's also Maui Waui. I might have smoked it back in the 70s but I can't recall. It might have been when I was working in Churchill Falls, Labrador and went fishing on Simms Lake. If I did, I did not inhale as I would have only been pretending to partake so as to bow to peer pressure, so to speak... to be polite and not offend my hosts. Man, that was a great fishing trip. Really man, what a trip, man. I caught one Lake Trout (out of many) that was huge! When I got back to the hotel, I gave it to the barmaid and she threw a party, the highlight of which was stuffed baked trout. Talk about a MUNCHOUT! >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Mar 16 - 07:45 PM

Rap, I'm hoping along with you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Mar 16 - 09:23 PM

I'm feeling discouraged, frustrated, a bit angry, and also a little scared regarding my lack of progress re rehab of the leg. Very little progress in strength or balance over the past 6 weeks. Frustrated with my PT guy and also my surgeon, and also aware of the impact of going back to work full time, seeing clients all day with little opportunity to even get up and walk around the building for a few minutes at a time.

I'm starting to worry that I may never fully recover.

Having said that, I am aware that walking with a cane or with a weird, hitching gait is a pretty mild thing to deal with in terms of what so many others face, or have faced. So just a minor whine in the scheme of things, and I can still haul myself up and down the galley ladder to offer the warm or cold beverage of your choosing, and a lovely scone baked by others on the crew. Just can't climb up the masts to set the sails.

How be all my mates?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 21 Mar 16 - 03:22 AM

Late tomorrow we fly back to face what awaits. Whatever it is, we'll make it through, just as Janie will. It might take a while though.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Mar 16 - 05:25 AM

Janie, if it's ok with you, I'd like to 'phone. Don't worry, I'll keep the time difference in mind! I still have your number from when I was last in NC (and met Bobert).
         Almost certainly, Ann & I have visited Charlotte & NC for the final time. Our daughter has a new job & will soon be moving to Dallas, Texas. We will miss the beauty of NC but are looking forward to beauty of a different kind in TX.
                                                                     Much Love to You All,
                                                                                                       Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Mar 16 - 09:33 AM

Hoping you are making progress with the the bronchitis rapperee, and the most helpful medical path is taken for pat.likewise hoping , janie ,that you begin to discern some progress to allay the frustration.   Tommy has been off school with a supposedly infectious skin complaint , but they ...hospital... were unable to take bloods and did,nt take a swab. We sent him back to school today. We also have a domestic crisis with one of our daughters and she is in bad mental health as a result. Seems to be getting a bit choppy for the voyage at present , let's hope for calmer seas.   Blessings.         Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Mar 16 - 10:40 AM

Janie... have you spoken to your doc/PT about placing you on "lighter duties" (getting the ability to continue PT while at work, say, once an hour)? Of course, management may be an obstacle...?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Mar 16 - 10:42 AM

Pete... glad to hear Tommy is well enough to get back to school.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Mar 16 - 04:42 PM

Good to see this thread again.

Janie, I hope you can get the help you need at work and thought the medical community to continue to improve. Sadly, the greatest progress happens early on, then it slows down. When insurance stopped paying for therapy, I joined the Y and made some gradual progress there, but I had retired and had time to go to the Y several days weekly. In the meantime, pass the tray up from the galley to me, then join me on the main deck.

Rap, let us know what the future holds. I hope it is better than it could be.

Pete, I'm glad Tommy is back in school. I'm sorry about your daughter and hope her situation improves soon.

Except for the occasional cold, I'm rarely ill, but I got hit by something overnight from Saturday to Sunday. It was a GI problem. I don't know if it was a 24-hour virus or caused by food, but it was nasty though thankfully short-lived. I slept most of Sunday and began rehydrating in the late afternoon. I have slept a lot today and have begun eating soft foods. I hope to be back to normal tomorrow, when I have a routine doctor's appointment already on my calendar.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Mar 16 - 11:46 AM

Tomorrow, 23rd March is 'Jane's Day'. She sailed away, charting a course that none of us could follow. We watched in helpless disbelief, powerless to act. Three years have passed. The pain has become a yearning. We remain, keening softly for her memory. Join us tomorrow, just for a few, quiet moments. Bring with you your own memories too. You will be most welcome.
                                                                            With Love to You All,
                                                                                                             Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link.
Date: 22 Mar 16 - 05:31 PM

Ah,.....Nigel , ann ..bless you...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Mar 16 - 10:24 PM

See pm's Nigel. And I will be there, as I expect will most of the crew.

Thanks, Chantylass. I guess I am well past the days when there were sudden leaps and need to just keep my eye on the prize and notice that there is progress, though sometimes so slow it doesn't seem so. I wish, gnu. I'm too tired and too close to retirement to make waves on a worker comp case. It is complicated. the nature of my work is such that the injury no long impedes my ability to do my job. But doing my job does impede my physical recovery because I have to sit for hours on end during therapy and clinical assessments with no time between clients or getting the clinical notes finished to get up out of the chair and at least walk around the building for 5 minutes. Whine, whine, whine.

Pete, always holding Tommy in my thoughts.

Rap, I echo what Chantylass said. May you both be recovered from jet lag by the time you read this. And you know the crew is sailing along beside both you and Pat.

We swim, we sail, we sink, we rise. We lift each other up. Or toss a life preserver.   Sinks and Rises

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 16 - 11:15 PM

Nigel, I'll be with you and Ann in spirit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Mar 16 - 08:10 AM

I am here, keeping you all in my thoughts, without Jane The Rainbow would not be!

Fondest love to Nigel and Ann

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Mar 16 - 01:18 PM

Thinking, indeed, of Nigel and Ann, of the legacy we have here in Jane's name, and of all the crew.

               Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Mar 16 - 03:13 PM

Three years. Thoughts and prayers. Over four years in this ship we have sailed. OP date: 12 Jan 12 - 12:27 PM. Sniff. But, you have done a lot of people some good. Thanks for that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Mar 16 - 05:12 PM

Supportive thoughts to the Imperial Rapparee and his better half.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Mar 16 - 09:17 PM

I haven't mentioned it before, but I have had dental implants and one of them was to replace my front upper teeth -- knocked out when my brother managed to stop the bike I was riding and I hit the street teeth first.

Anyway, after many years I had implants put in. And they're great! Until we went to the last (and closing this year) sugar plantation in Hawai'i and I gently held a piece of raw sugarcane with my front teeth, gently tasting the juice.

To make it short, that front bridge broke clear through the metal the "teeth" are mounted upon. I go in Monday to have the damage cleared away and a temporary bridge installed. Two weeks later the new one should be in place.

How much is this going to cost, you ask? Well, the exam to discover it was USD 62.00. The new bridge, labor, materials and all, is under warranty and it won't cost my anything. The dentist was surprised, saying that in seventeen years this was only the third time he'd ever seen this happen.

But the replacement price is right. Maybe that's a sign things are looking up a bit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Mar 16 - 03:37 PM

Sorry, Your Imperial ness, but I can't resist:

All he wants for Easter is his two front teeth....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Mar 16 - 09:28 PM

And he shan't even get them started until Dingus Day. If you don't know about Dingus Day, shame on you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Mar 16 - 05:29 PM

It's tempting to hold my breath....I had better not, though. Rest assured you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Mar 16 - 07:50 PM

Well, Rap, I've always heard that sugar rots the teeth, but you didn't have to go to that extreme to prove it! I hope when all is fixed, you'll find a lot to grin about.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 29 Mar 16 - 09:34 PM

Temporary fix is in the teeth. Permanent will be on April 13. But I don't look like a 5 year old, either.

We see the oncologist and the surgeon on Thursday afternoon. A port might be put in then, maybe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Mar 16 - 10:24 AM

Dingus Day? Oh... you mean Dyngus Day. Youse are in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Mar 16 - 08:31 PM

Was that the real gnu who last posted? We note that whoever it was did not sign his or her post, so We assume it was not the good gnu. An imposter! An imposter! Guards! Guards!


Emperor Rapparee, Imperious Rex       ®      His mark

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Mar 16 - 08:38 PM

We find that We posted the previous to the wrong Thread, and We request that a mod delete both it and this one.

You have Our thanks.


Emperor Rapparee, Imperious Rex       ®      His mark

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Mar 16 - 10:01 PM

Every ship can stand a swashbuckling someone either on deck or off the bow. Imperious Rex may need new glasses as well as teeth, but it don't matter. Bridges all over the place - bridge deck, in the mouth, and between threads on Mudcat, eh?

Bridges of care, concern and connection - just gets expressed differently on separate blocks in the same neighborhood. Hope y'all come away tomorrow with some degree of clarity regarding treatment for Pat, Rapparee. Also that your own body gets glued back together in reasonable working order.

maeve hasn't posted in awhile. Thinking of you and tl, Dear One.

Stumbled across this Iris Dement song last night. Collective 'I'= 'We.' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSjIkVIUmJ4

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 31 Mar 16 - 07:24 PM

Good news/bad news.

There are two types of ductile carcinoma in situ involved and neither looks invasive (that is, spread to other areas). Surgery, a mastectomy, is suggested and which we thought was best. It should take care of the problem, always the proviso that "you can't really tell until the pathologist reports." In the last case immunotherapy and possibly radiation would also be used.

A two step process: removal and then reconstruction. It's easier that way if there is a spread.

So...the uncertainty of treatment is over. Now comes the long slog.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Apr 16 - 01:43 AM

fingers crossed & sending best wishes to Pat

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Apr 16 - 06:44 AM

Ditto Sandra.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Apr 16 - 09:40 AM

Double ditto; tried crossing my toes, but couldn't quite manage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Apr 16 - 12:30 PM

A friend showed up on our doorstep just now, staggering under the weight of a big box of recently-dug snowdrops. The last year has been brutal, but Spring is here.

Maeve...)Thank you, Janie.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Apr 16 - 06:08 PM

Support and solidarity thoughts for "the long slog."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Apr 16 - 08:51 PM

I guess good news/bad news is better than all bad news, but still . . . I hope for the best possible outcome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Apr 16 - 10:47 AM

Jane, many thanks for your thoughtful attention to the "triage" thread. And continued encouraging thoughts towards your own recovery grind.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Apr 16 - 12:02 PM

Can't say as I ever seen snowdrops round these here parts.

Subject: RE: 50 years of the Australian National Folk Festival
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Apr 16 - 06:34 PM

Request to Sandra in Sydney . Guests are prevented from posting below the line now and so far my request to join mudcat have not been answered, so I wondered whether you could pas on my best to the crew at Janes rainbow should I now not be able to post there anymore.   Blessings.      Pete.

---

This was transferred from the thread where it was posted, as a courtesy; I can't help you with the membership question, but it catches others up on your whereabouts.

Pete, email me and I'll set you up a membership. [e-mail]

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 Apr 16 - 10:07 PM

Tomorrow, 0645 Mountain Daylight Time. A "simple mastectomy."

Things like that are always simple if your not on the receiving end.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Apr 16 - 11:29 PM

Ahhh, Rap. For what it is worth, sending good thoughts through the ether, and will imagine breathing in and out with you, and especially, with Pat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 12:46 AM

simple ...

adding my good wishes

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 03:25 AM

Rapparee, quoting from your post: "Things like that are always simple if your not on the receiving end". So very true. I will be holding you in my thoughts as you navigate this 'medical voyage'. May calm seas & favourable winds speed your journey to a complete recovery.
                                  With Love,
                                                    Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 01:06 PM

Sympathetic attunement for Rapparee and his Empress.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 04:16 PM

Big, wild, whistling wind storm going on here so thought I'd post while I still can- thinking of Pat and Mike as they help one another along the way.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 05:01 PM

Ahhhh...so NOW I understand your post on that other thread, Rap. Fingers crossed and youse are in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 08:42 PM

She was in surgery about an hour and a half and another couple hours in recovery. The surgeon thinks he got it all -- no spread -- but of course the pathology report is the final word. She'll be in overnight and possibly tomorrow night as well.

When I had been up for 14 hours she told me to leave and not come back until someone called or tomorrow morning, whichever came first.

NB, male and female: If you ever need a series of shots about the nipple have them give you at least local anesthesia. Pat, with her very very high pain threshold, rated it without any as 20 out of 10. The doctors, when they found out, said that new excretory orifices will be torn open without anesthesia. Apparently Pat wasn't the first.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 09:32 PM

Ouch, ouch, OUCH! I'm glad the surgery is over and hope the report shows all is well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 09:57 PM

Whew! Good news, Rap and Pat, and hoping to hear the pathology report confirms the surgeon's impressions.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Apr 16 - 09:58 PM

Hope the hatches and the chicks are all battened down, maeve - not to mention you and TL.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Apr 16 - 03:23 AM

definitely good news

sandra (patiently waiting for more)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Apr 16 - 02:23 PM

Good to hear that Empress and Emperor (the Rappareeses) both survived the night. (on another thread)
The one-day-at-a-time can be a tough trudge. Don't do it alone. Warmth and light to both of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 08 Apr 16 - 07:34 PM

Echoing the good wishes which have been sent to the Emperor and Empress Raparree!

And the ouches.......

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Apr 16 - 11:19 PM

She collapsed like a marionette with cut strings going to and from the bathroom last night, but two nurses were there to catch her. No similar problems since. Just a headache and pains associated with such surgery.

IF all goes well tonight she may come home tomorrow. Home health care, physical therapy, and occupational therapy have all been laid on already. We have a walker and a shower chair from her head injury 18 months ago and I have them all ready to go.

Good thoughts are greatly appreciated.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 09 Apr 16 - 07:03 AM

You got 'em, Rap. Gonna be important that you take care of yourself also.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Apr 16 - 07:46 AM

Rap- Always.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Apr 16 - 11:25 AM

Dittos from here, buddy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Apr 16 - 12:20 PM

look after yourself, Rap so you can look after Pat

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Apr 16 - 08:34 PM

She's home! Been here for 3+ hours, most of which she slept.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Apr 16 - 09:11 PM

I'm glad she's home! My good thoughts continue.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 10 Apr 16 - 07:56 AM

Home is very good. Thanks for telling us so we can be happy for you both, Rap!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 10 Apr 16 - 09:51 AM

Home health care comes today for "intake."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Apr 16 - 06:28 PM

Thanks for the update, Rap. Treat her like the queen she is.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 10 Apr 16 - 09:12 PM

They were here and did what they do for intake. The work -- hers! -- starts tomorrow. The therapists are coming! The therapists are coming!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Apr 16 - 09:46 PM

Good! I hope they show up on time!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Apr 16 - 10:25 PM

more good news

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Apr 16 - 11:06 AM

I'm here daily, pulling for Rap, Pat, and all; kicking myself just a bit for not letting you know that a little more consistently.

                Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Apr 16 - 12:11 PM

Hey Frogprince!! You feeling better now? On another thread he described the close call he had thanks to horrendous driving conditions (winter was back).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Apr 16 - 08:49 PM

The weather's much better, and so are I. : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Apr 16 - 01:58 PM

Good to hear, froggy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Apr 16 - 09:40 PM

Pathology report look good, Rap? Taking care of yourself, and especially, letting helpers take care of you as well as Pat?

Is spring springing in your parts, maeve?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Apr 16 - 09:59 PM

We got the path report and saw the surgeon today. Pat has to go back in a couple of weeks.

The report said that there was no indication of any of the cancerous cells had metastasized, and that's VERY good news.

Still, she's weak and recovering from a very major surgery. She has told me to go out of town for a doings back in Illinois next week, and I must obey. However, a good friend is coming to stay with her from the 16th to the 26th -- I'll be gone from the 18th to the 24th. If the path report or the doctor hadn't been so upbeat I wouldn't be leaving regardless of my orders.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 14 Apr 16 - 06:39 PM

That is very good news indeed, Rap! Please pass on my best wishes to Pat......we fellow quilters stick together, you know.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Apr 16 - 09:18 PM

"... and that's VERY good news." Yes, and glad to hear it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Apr 16 - 10:07 PM

AND it was Stage 0! Granted, there were two types and that's why the treatment was so aggressive -- and that this is the fourth and fifth types of cancer in her life. Some people collect stamps....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 02:39 PM

If Wysiwyg were able, I reckon she would be adding frequent posts to this thread. I don't really know her but I can see from previous threads that she has been through the mangle, and then some. So I am sending supportive comforting thoughts along to Wysiwyg and her extended household/family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 04:19 PM

That's thoughtful. She doesn't post here at all, nor is it usually possible for her to access. We are always mindful of those in need, even when they are not part of this small caring community on board Jane's Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 05:11 PM

For what it's worth, Wysiwyg did post to Jane's Rainbow....in January of 2012. She has most certainly been there for others at Mudcat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 06:45 PM

keberoxu- Sorry, you'll have to go elsewhere for an argument. We have offered support to many people known and unknown. This is not like some other threads here.

How are you?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 08:29 PM

Thanks for asking, Maeve. I am smarting, to be honest, and it makes me unhappy to consider that truthfully there are people who are far worse off than I feel just now. Grateful, though, for Mudcat and the members in it. And hoping that the first week at home, post-surgery, has been an encouraging one for Rapparee and spouse: Keep on keeping on there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 09:00 PM

She ordered me out of the house. From the 18th to the 24th. "Out!" said she. "Go to Illinois and give them my best! And be on that Honor Flight!

And I do what women tell me, 'cause it's easier that way.

A friend is coming to stay with her while I'm gone -- arrives tomorrow, in fact. (My brother bowed out of the Flight.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Apr 16 - 10:28 PM

are you allowed to call/email her daily?

enjoy your trip

best wishes to Pat for her healing.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 16 Apr 16 - 09:50 PM

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 16 Apr 16 - 09:53 PM

Rap,
it is good to hear the healing curve is not so steep.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Apr 16 - 05:01 PM

Glad for the good news, and wishing Pat a speedy recovery from major surgery. Hope your trip was a good one.

Update from my last whiny post. Doing well. Now walk with a two legged limp instead of a three legged limp. Throughout the rehab process, progress has not been gradual, it has been in distinct steps - like another switch gets flipped. Just as I get discouraged, suddenly, I can manage something that I could not manage before. Wish I could somehow bookmark this post to come back to as a reminder when I feel discouraged.

I hope to retire in November. My realistic goal is to be nearly back to where I was pre-fall by then, and once I have only the private practice hours, to be motivated enough and have the time to devote to recovering to where I reach a place that I will be physically stronger and more capable than I was even before the accident.

Mom is undergoing complete shoulder replacement surgery on Tuesday. She and we all agree that it is a good option, even though she is 87. Sharp as a tack and otherwise in respectable health for her age. Not worried, but always concerned and good thoughts for her well being always welcomed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Apr 16 - 05:51 PM

I was just wondering, Janie, how you were doing. You must be feeling better, as well, if you can disengage from yourself and look at your progress with an optimistic eye. Keep up the good work.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Apr 16 - 09:48 PM

Yes, I can and will call and email her daily, and she can do the same to me.

Sounds like a good plan, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Apr 16 - 02:56 PM

Wishing all the best for your mom, Janie. Glad to hear you are making gains.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Apr 16 - 09:00 PM

I have been away from this thread for a few days and am delighted to read the good news about Pat's report and about Janie's progress. Rap, I'm glad you will be able to participate in that Honor Flight. Janie, I hope your mother's shoulder operation goes well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Apr 16 - 04:10 AM

Loving Greetings from Nigel & Ann in a spring-like East London.
As ever, Jane's Rainbow continues it's unique voyage, crewed by some of the finest folk on the planet. Our capacity for self-regulation is admirable...a model that could be emulated.
       Without a shadow of a doubt, this glorious thread has played a significant part in our grieving. Your love, compassion & wisdom has helped keep us whole & united as a couple. Our gratitude is boundless & life-long,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                        Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Apr 16 - 05:46 PM

Try again...yesterday's post did,nt take or disappeared, in which I remarked what a lovely mix of realism and optimism Janies post was , and with a prayer for her and her mum.    Blessings    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Apr 16 - 08:40 PM

Mom just out of surgery and the procedure apparently went quite smoothly.

The riskiest part of many surgeries, especially for the elderly, is the anesthesia. Normally it may not be a good idea for a doctor to treat his own family, but in this case we were all very happy that my nephew was able to pull a few strings and schedule himself as the anesthesiologist. She had her own earth angel lterally watching over her and the surgeon in the OR.

Now comes the hard part. The healing and rehab. She is up for it. She really had to fight the ortho to get him to do the surgery because of her age. He just couldn't seem to get that the pain of rehab for a few months, compared to possibly 10-15 years (we are a long-lived family for the most part) of inability to move her shoulder and upper arm without excruciating pain is well worth it.   

As always, my sister Annie is up there and will stay as long as necessary. She never says all the caregiving she has done for Mom, Dad, and me is burdensome or expresses any resentment that I am not more available. I'll go up as I can on weekends and according to whatever schedule works best for her, but she lives 8 hours from Mom's so unless she flies home, my weekends up don't give her a chance to go home. But may give her a chance to head out on a weekend to hit an old time stringband festival.

She is another Earth Angel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Apr 16 - 09:10 PM

Janie, I'm glad your mother's surgery went well. Let the healing begin! And thank goodness your sister is able to help her.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Apr 16 - 08:22 PM

That's wonderful, Janie. And isn't it wonderful to have people who can and are willing to help?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Apr 16 - 05:43 PM

Two weeks into therapy and so on for Rapparee's better half. Hope all is promising, however difficult it may feel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 23 Apr 16 - 08:49 AM

It is, and she is "feeling the burn" because she's overdoing (as usual). I'll be back tomorrow in time for supper.

Oh, yeah -- healing. Here are some photos from the Honor Flight I was on. All but one person from the same National Guard unit that was called up in 1968 and served (except for me) in Vietnam. The one person who wasn't part of the call-up was a US Navy veteran who is the father of one of the guys who WAS called up. This trip WAS healing for more that a few of the guys. Said one to me, "When we got back and got off the buses they immediately had a big parade for us. But ya know, not one of us wanted to march in a parade and listen to politicians make speeches. We wanted to see our wives and families and have a cold beer. Those speeches were an awful thing to do. It hurt! And all they said was how great they were for sending us, like the governor and all had a choice."

Me, I got there late and didn't get in on the parade. I got to sit in the Seatac airport overnight, vets from Korea and Vietnam on one side of the aisle and Woodstock returnees on the other glaring at each other and the cops walking around every fifteen minutes or so making sure that nobody did anything regrettable...the vets wouldn't start anything, they were tired of fighting, and the Woodstock folks were afraid of the kill-crazy, baby-burning, drug-crazed, extremely tired veterans. So we got along pretty well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Apr 16 - 07:56 PM

I am glad you were able to participate in this Honor Flight. Rhode Island has an Honor Flight program and I went to a presentation about it last year. Until then I was unfamiliar with the program; now I can say I "know" someone who has participated in his home state's program.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 23 Apr 16 - 08:23 PM

Interesting thing: We were eating dinner at the Air Force Memorial (boxed sandwiches, of course) when another Honor Flight pulled up in their buses.

They asked where we were from. The answer was Quincy, Illinois. They were from the Quad Cities (Moline, East Moline, Rock Island, Illinois and Davenport, Iowa), about 150 miles upstream from Quincy. Both parties sort of freaked out at the coincidence.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Apr 16 - 06:58 AM

"This trip WAS healing for more that a few of the guys." Says it all right there. Thanks for sharing, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Apr 16 - 12:38 PM

Healing thoughts to Skarpi who was under the weather in Iceland.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Apr 16 - 09:53 PM

Not permitted, Skarpi!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Apr 16 - 11:06 PM

I knew Skarpi was under the weather but it didn't sound serious and I saw posts at FB lately so I assume he is cool. Any news?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Apr 16 - 01:55 PM

This just in...

Skarphedinn Haraldsson I am getting there slowly though ...smile emoticon ....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Apr 16 - 04:45 PM

Thanks, g.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 28 Apr 16 - 01:45 AM

Tiny Tim is finally taking daily walks outside in the park on his own.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 02 May 16 - 09:14 PM

Playing is a healing act. For Bonobos it is. So it is for people.


https://www.superbetter.com/


Ted talks about the founder and her challenges: google it

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 May 16 - 09:02 PM

Had cataract surgery on my left eye this morning. Pat drove me to and from, and she'll drive me to the eye doc's tomorrow for a 24 hour followup!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 May 16 - 08:58 AM

How's the lefteyesight now?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 May 16 - 10:24 AM

it is wonderful to see again.

My left eye couldn't read the top letter on the chart before the op! I hadn't realised my right eye was doing all the work.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 04 May 16 - 10:46 AM

Had my cataracts out a few years back, no problem. My wife will get the pre-surgery measurements done in a few days.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 04 May 16 - 04:47 PM

Did you guys have the surgery at stage 2 or 3 cataract?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 04 May 16 - 05:33 PM

Himself had both eyes done at the start of last year - one just before Christmas, the other in mid-January - and couldn't be happier.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 04 May 16 - 08:16 PM

I don't remember anyone referring to my cataracts by stage number. Mine were done 6 or 7 years apart. The right eye was first, and the circumstances were scary. Apparently I had been depending on the left, not noticing how bad the right was. Then I had some bleeding in the left, and my vision was pretty bad for a while, especially as I was having to drive to work in the dark. The left cleared before too long, and I got the right cataract out soon afterward. No such drama with the left one, it just got to where it needed to be done. Both eyes healed fine in no time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 May 16 - 08:53 AM

Nobody told me anything about stages. Proscenium or thrust or a hybrid? Or in the round? Overland, Wells Fargo, or some other?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 May 16 - 02:51 PM

Skarpi said in another earlier post/thread that he had a lung complaint and could not go to work. Hopefully his lungs are better now?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 May 16 - 06:13 PM

Cataracts used to be classified as to stage of development, even to the point of stating if a cataract was "ripe" enough for surgery. I haven't heard of any surgeon discussing that for years. Your mileage may vary, and I'll never know first hand unless there's a "do it yourself" option.:D

Glad for improved vision for those here, both inward and outward.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 May 16 - 03:38 PM

Bugs! Males. Big claws... 1.5 pounds each at $7 a pound. I got four. Happy Mother's Day. URP!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 May 16 - 07:34 PM

Mother's Day lobsters?

Anyway, glad to hear that Rapparee got the dental work done. And how is your better half?

Happy Mother's Day to all, be they great, grand, or simply mothers....and best wishes for continued healing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 May 16 - 10:27 PM

Pat is feeling very stressed because she feels that she's in a holding pattern. The remaining surgical drain is irritating her, according to the nurse, and Pat looks forward to seeing the surgeon on the 11th and getting it removed -- AND the stuff coming out of the drain is almost clear and reducing its volume daily. Both of those are very good. It also rained today and so she couldn't soak up the sun as she has the last couple of days.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 May 16 - 03:19 PM

I have before posted when tommy s health has been dodgy , but thought I would mention as an article of thanksgiving that last weeks appt in London was very encouraging. He is doing well at present.       My daughter had a bad meltdown recently following her husband leaving and is in hospital. She is very sad but , I think more stable now.       Blessings all.          Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 May 16 - 06:31 AM

Glad to hear it. Sad to hear it. But, good to hear she is getting help and support.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 May 16 - 10:12 AM

good news for Pat, mixed news from Pete.

best wishes to all

sandra

my cataracts were done several weeks apart - first the left then teh right, both healed quickly.

A friend has cataracts which are causing major problems. She can't read for more than a few moments, is in constant pain, has headaches etc, but her specialist won't operate for a year.
She can't do anything (go out, read, watch TV, sew, quilt. etc) so got a second opinion & is due for an operation when her flu clears up. We look forward to seeing her soon. And her seeing us!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 May 16 - 03:22 PM

Surgical drains, ewww, yyyuckkk. Happy to hear, though, that they are doing the job they are meant to do....hope she will be drain-free soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 May 16 - 05:07 PM

My catawrecks were done left eye Monday, right eye Wednesday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 May 16 - 09:39 PM

Lots to catch up with. Mudcat hasn't cooperated very well when I have tried to get on recently and I've been rushed so wouldn't wait for long minutes to see if it would load. Not a complaint - just an observation. As always, greatful for this site.

If I miss some one please forgive. Sounds like your cateract removal was uneventful, Rap, and glad of that. Can imagine Pat's frustration. Hope theport can soon be removed and/or something can be adjusted so it does not irritate, and also glad that otherwise all signs are positive.

Pete, you appear to be so stalwart in the face of adversity, and constant in your love, care and concern. I'm glad Tommy is doing better. Holding you and all your family in my thoughts.

Hurray for Tiny Tim!

Hope spring has spring for you and TL, maeve.

LObsta! I'm jealous.

Spent the weekend at Mom's - she is doing well with her recovery. Wish I could be more help. For Annie, it meant an 8 hour drive home on Fridaay, mow the grass on Saturday, and an 8 hour drive back today. Whew!

Not sure how much help I was, and it is lucky Mom can do more for herself now. The 5+ hour drive, just sitting, resulted in me being really gimpy on Saturday and having to resort to the cane again for longer walks. On top of that, my left hand went completely numb on me late last week - probably an ulnar nerve problem - on top of untreated carpal tunnel. Can move it but no strength, little sensation and very fumble-fingered. I'm left-handed, though fortunately somewhat ambidextrous. So there were some chores I could not do that would have helped Annie out. Fortunately nothing that was essential to helping Mom, and between the two of us, we were able to button what needed buttoned, etc.

Not quite 6 months now before I have Medicare. But who's counting:>)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 May 16 - 05:04 PM

You and me both, Janie -- it drove me nuts when I couldn't visit Mudcat Cafe on a daily basis.

Glad to hear you and your mother had Mother's Day together. When conditions cannot be ideal, you make your peace with what is possible. What a dedication is shown by your sister, AND by you.

Rapparee, I hope Pat had a Happy Mother's Day too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 May 16 - 11:33 AM

Yeh, I had trouble getting this thread for awhile , I suppose because of the length of it , but that's a testimony to the crew !       Blessings.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 11 May 16 - 08:03 AM

Janie- Spring, yes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 May 16 - 08:53 PM

I, too, have had trouble using Mudcat for a few days, but I've missed you all and kept you in my heart and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 May 16 - 03:14 AM

Pat's drains came out yesterday. In about four hours I have to be at the hospital for hand surgery; she's driving. Saw the eye doc today and it looks like my vision will settle at about 20/30 in both eyes. -- good enough to drive without glasses!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 May 16 - 06:30 AM

Glad to hear it, Rap. Hope all goes well with the surgery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 May 16 - 12:19 PM

YAH! Rap

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 13 May 16 - 12:29 PM

Tiny Tim returned to school today on an auditing basis after a year being out. This is the best news as far as a new beginning goes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 May 16 - 04:07 PM

Skarpi was good enough to post, after exchanging contacts with Joe Offer, that he has moved to a different living space which is an improvement over wherever he was before. This is on a different BS thread, which it looks like Joe Offer and Skarpi revived. It also sounds as though he is still in the process of getting better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 May 16 - 04:10 PM

Sorry, that BS thread is titled "what do u see in the sky" and the post is dated 14 April with the statement that Skarpi was ill and "grounded" at home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 May 16 - 04:13 PM

I'm in touch with Skarpi.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 May 16 - 07:53 PM

I'm glad to see some good news on this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 May 16 - 08:21 AM

'tis indeed!

Tiny Tim back at school & Skarpi breathing more comfortably

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 May 16 - 06:03 PM

Good to hear that Rapparee got his eye and hand seen to -- doing better now? And best to Pat on getting the drain out....keep up the good healing work.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 May 16 - 02:20 PM

Donuel... glad to hear it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 May 16 - 04:15 PM

Some encouraging posts from raparee and donuel. Good to read.   My recent post about tommy has proved to be short lived as he is back in hospital with another infection threatening him and low white cells to combat it. He is however brighter than yesterday , but anyone with a prayer to spare.....thanks, blessings.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 May 16 - 08:09 PM

Oh, Pete, I hope Tommy is well enough to come home soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 May 16 - 12:25 PM

Sad to hear that, Pete. Ditto CL.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 May 16 - 02:25 PM

I hope everyone is experiencing fair winds and smooth sailing. If not, Jane's Rainbow Crew is stll here to offer comfort and spiritual support. Whether the health concern is for you or a loved one, whether it is ongoing or new, please let us know.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 May 16 - 03:51 PM

Having well & truly 'let go the tiller', I'm very heartened to see that my 'reckless act' has changed nothing. Jane's Rainbow sails ever onwards, cresting the waves...weathering the storms & altering her course when required. ChanteyLass expresses how I feel to a 'T'.
                              With Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 May 16 - 04:42 PM

Rapparee, how are you coming along, post-surgery?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 May 16 - 06:52 PM

Tommy is still in hospital, still critical, and it's been a roller coaster, with hopes of recovery, and then be prepared for the worst.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 May 16 - 07:15 PM

best wishes winging your way

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 22 May 16 - 10:19 PM

Pete, there is nothing I can do beyond what I have been -- good thoughts winging (do thoughts "wing"?) Tommy's way.

keberoxu (and all), my eye surgery seems to have placed both eyes at 20/30, with means I could legally drive without glasses. I'll know more on the 26th, when I again see the eye doc and should get a new prescription. In the meantime, I continue to put in one each of two drops every day.

I had hand surgery (trigger finger, a tendon condition) a week ago last Friday. The stitches are supposed to come out this week. I'm doing hand exercises and going without a dressing on it (the wound is literally --- that long and has two stitches in it). The skin pulls when I flex my hand and there is some pain in the adjoining fingers. What bothers me most is that during the four (4) hours I was in the hospital -- 30 minutes for the surgery and the rest for prep and recovery -- I seem to have picked up an upper respiratory infection and I've been on antibiotics for it since last Monday.

Go the hospital and get sick -- it's how they stay in busy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 May 16 - 11:26 AM

My thoughts to you and yours also, Pete.

Rap... next time you go to the hospital, don't breathe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 May 16 - 08:27 PM

More healing thoughts, prayers, and gentle hugs for Tommy.

Rap, I hope you continue to recover.

I felt fine when I refreshed this thread, but overnight I seem to have developed a cold, or possibly allergies. Park a car anywhere around here and it quickly turns yellow as pollen covers it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 23 May 16 - 10:38 PM

Next week -- Sunday, in fact -- we're leaving for a week in Grand Teton National Park. We'll have a cabin (wooden) at Colter Bay Village and a week full of excitement and just laying around. For example, we'll be rafting on the Snake River (it's quite mild where we'll be), a wildlife trip into the Lamar Valley one evening for wildlife viewing, and a breakfast cruise on Jenny Lake.

Pat needs the recharging, as do I. And we're planning a week or two up in the Waterton-Glacier area perhaps at the end of June into the first part of July.

Then, in November, perhaps a simple trip to see the Aurora Borealis.

"Don't you ever want to stay home?" you ask. Well, yes, but if we do the doctors'll get us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 May 16 - 10:44 PM

Sending good thoughts, and especially, {{{{hugs}}}}, pete. What a roller coaster it is, indeed.

Glad the eyes are better, Rap, and yeh, nasty bugs in hospital. As soon as Medicare and a medigap policy kick in, in November, my first medical visits will be to try to fix trigger finger and ulnar nerve related hand problems. At the rate you are going, you will soon be a regular bionic man! Pat faring ok at present?

Allergies seem to be hitting many of us harder this year than usual. I'm not much of one generally to take over-the-counter meds., but have learned my lesson with spring allergies - take the antihistamines and Musinex to keep it under control or risk developing secondary sinus and lung infections that can result in real and serious illness.

Mom is doing really well 5 weeks post shoulder replacement. Doing gentle exercises at home but no vigorous PT for probably another 3 weeks. Off of pain meds, has slightly better range of motion even before really starting PT, and most importantly, is not in the severe, chronic pain she had been experiencing for the 6 months prior to the surgery.

How are the chooks, Maeve? And how are you and TL faring? Your lungwort and crested irises have been very happy here this spring.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 May 16 - 11:12 PM

I may be away for a while. Dunno fer sure. Got some stuff to take care of. In the meantime, steady on, eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 24 May 16 - 09:48 PM

For twenty years I have known that Fuchs dystrophy would rob half my vision. Five years ago I arrived at the point where my sight was not dependable due to the variability of corneal thickness and fogginess.

But now that I put salt in my eyes to dry the cornea manually as the cornea pump no longer automatically circulates fluid I can see 80% better. I had been adding fluid from eye drops instead of doing the opposite. A relatively new (10 years) type of transplant could be done in the future if needed.   

The last three self portraits by my mother indicated that she too had Fuchs dystrophy. Each portrait was blurrier than the last.
I am lucky to find this treatment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 May 16 - 01:05 PM

I am pleased to say that tommy is off the critical list now. Today out of bed to sit in his chair and generally so much more aware and alert. White blood cells normal, though ideally ought to be higher to combat the infection. So, not complacent, but much encouraged. Thanks crew for your interest.   That's a very positive attitude , donuel, good to read of some improvement . Same too Janies mum following her recent op.      Blessings all          Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 May 16 - 10:03 PM

Congratulations, Pete! And Tommy too, of course.

On a personal note, as of today I officially do not need glasses to drive. The State of Idaho says so.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 May 16 - 10:42 PM

Pete... thank Dog. I was worried as I am sure we all were. Such good news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 May 16 - 03:47 AM

lots of good news

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 May 16 - 08:40 PM

What Sandra said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 28 May 16 - 02:22 AM

I'm waiting for my dad to die, all the way across the country in Florida. His kidneys are shutting down. He may go this weekend, and he may keep on living for a couple of weeks. I had a nice visit with him last month, and we watched bald eagles at lunch every day for a week. He's happy and comfortable, and he's 96 years old and has lived a very good life. He taught me how to enjoy all the things of life, and he did a very good job of that himself.
Soon he'll be flying with those eagles.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 May 16 - 05:03 AM

Hey there, Joe. It's good you took time for that visit with your dad and the eagles. I'm glad your dad is happy and comfortable. Welcome on board.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 May 16 - 06:17 PM

Ah joe, they will be precious memories. I have just been to my dads place , supposedly to do a bit of sorting but I just mooched round looking at stuff. Feeling for yer.         Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 29 May 16 - 12:39 PM

No one is insulated from loss Joe but you are the kind of person who can protect the good in a bad situation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 May 16 - 07:59 PM

Ditto Donuel. Joe... your sharing gives me strength. Thank you. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 May 16 - 11:24 AM

How is skarpi? Maintaining, or improving?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 May 16 - 04:59 PM

Skarpi tells me he is doing better, thanks. Influenza hit hard.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 May 16 - 08:34 PM

Joe, I too am glad you were able to spend that time with your dad. I hope he slips easily from this world to the next.

Maeve, thank you for giving us that update on Skarpi. I hope he is completely well soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 May 16 - 11:17 PM

May your dad step lightly from this world, Joe, when the time comes to do so.

Holding him, and you, in my thoughts and meditations. Sounds like the apple did not fall far from the tree.

I think you know the folks performing, as well as the songwriter. May this bring you, and perhaps your Dad, quiet comfort. On a Day Like Today

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 31 May 16 - 04:14 PM

Thanks, everyone. Yes, Janie, "On a Day Like Today" fits my situation very well right now. What a wonderful song!

And Forever's is a gift you're forever giving away.

I thought my dad might die this last weekend, the weekend of the Indianapolis 500 race. Until I was nine, we lived in Detroit and my dad worked for a company that sponsored Indy racecars. He spent every May in Indianapolis, and he loved it. He took me to races in Detroit, and I got to see the pits in action and meet the drivers and mechanics - and they all seemed to know my dad.

After we moved to Wisconsin, on Memorial Day we would take down the storm windows and wash all the windows and put up the screens - while listening to the race on the radio. I loved working with my dad, and I loved listening to the race with him. Heck, he even got me to enjoy painting the house with him.

I think that's the greatest tribute I can give to my dad - that I have always enjoyed being in his company.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Jun 16 - 01:40 PM

Your Imperial Rapness, it is grand news to hear of the benefit of the cataract surgery. How is the healing of your hand?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Jun 16 - 03:14 PM

That's lovely joe.       I am pleased to say we bought tommy home today. Although the consultant had said so yesterday, we were not expecting him to , as the previous night he still needed a fair bit of oxygen all night. But last night he did,nt have any so home he is. On his feet with support and happily on his I pad ! There are still some medical anomalies but he is looking well. Thanks for the interest, well wishes and prayers.          Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jun 16 - 09:26 PM

Welcome home, Tommy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Jun 16 - 09:35 PM

We are recuperating in Grand Tetons National Park. A wonderful place to get centered again. I highly recommend it, or some place similar, to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 16 - 10:50 PM

As fine a tribute to a parent as one could offer, Joe. Continuing to hold your Dad, you, and all who love both of you in my heart. That description of the Memorial Day ritual of the windows and screens while listening to the race is gonna stick with me.

Have seen some of your photos on Facebook Rap. Definitely a good place to recuperate. Y'all have had a lot of challenges in the health department over the past several years. Hope you both get a little (big)break in the 'action' regarding health concerns.

Glad to hear Tommy is better, Pete. Would be wonderful if he especially, and all of your family, could get a bit of a long respite.

We sail along, calms seas or storms, in caring company.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 02 Jun 16 - 01:56 PM

So, the hospice people said my dad quite possibly might not live through last weekend. He proved them wrong.

I called him yesterday (Wednesday), and he couldn't talk very long because he was having martinis with his granddaughter (my niece), along with my brother and sister-in-law. Dad stopped cigars quite some time ago, but he still enjoys a good martini (well, actually a gin Gibson with an onion). He lets my brother mix the drinks nowadays, though.

My dad has always known how to enjoy life...and he's having a good time on the way out, too.

Cheers!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jun 16 - 06:13 PM

Pete... great to hear the good news.

Joe... your posts warm my heart and make me smile. Thanks for sharing.

To all... bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Jun 16 - 06:47 PM

Looks lovely rapparee. Hope you get thoroughly recouperated !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Jun 16 - 08:33 PM

Rapparee, that does indeed look like a great place to recuperate--or do just about anything else!

Joe, I don't know that I'd want a martini, but I'd definitely wish your dad, "Cheers!"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Jun 16 - 02:04 PM

Here we are, below the music threads, and after a brief but welcome pause following the policy change "BS"-wise, there are a majority of threads, once again, in which the same noise-makers resume their pack behavior, each trying to out-howl the other. But this thread, thanks be to Heaven above, remains. And thanks, to be sure, to all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 10 Jun 16 - 11:22 AM

Visit MOAB. If they go there they usually don't come back because the folks there don't fight. They just ignore them and shovel it over them. Click on the "d" by the number of posts and scroll on down.

I'm going to go to a certified, genuine, she-ain't-that-sort-and-she's-liable-to-hurt-you-if-you-think-she-is Massage Therapist. She suggested a weekly visit of 15 minutes to work on the scar tissue in my hand. A good idea, methinks.

No one knows what the future holds, but we're already planning trips as far out as November. The next one is to Glacier NP and of course, Waterton.

I like a guy who drinks like that! My FIL wanted his coffin used as a bar for his going-away party but my MIL wouldn't do it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Jun 16 - 05:24 PM

Hmm. Might have worked to buy the coffin early in life and use it as a bar until the time of death!

I was at the Mystic Sea Music Festival Thursday through Sunday and slept much of yesterday and today. This is the first thread I've looked at since I got home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jun 16 - 05:33 PM

Tommy first day back at school and came home really tired . We were sure he would fall asleep early tonight. Not a bit of it! The blighter got himself out of bed and in the armchair with his dvd player till almost 10 ,bless him !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Jun 16 - 11:59 AM

He's recovering, all right!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jun 16 - 10:30 PM

Go, Tommy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jun 16 - 03:09 PM

Ditto, ditto, ditto!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Jun 16 - 05:08 PM

Joe Offer, no doubt I speak for us all when I wish you a Father's Day this year, under whatever circumstances, that you can remember with gratitude and even comfort. Until your post about Snoopy in the Charles Schulz thread, I had forgotten that you are getting over the death of a longtime pet dog as well. Anyone who has outlived a beloved pet companion knows how genuine that feeling of loss is. Add these two situations together, and this time must be a vulnerable one for you and yours. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jun 16 - 06:50 AM

Monday 20th June is the anniversary of Pat Patterson's passing. I miss his wit, his 'take no prisoner' attitude, his intellect & above all, his take on Life. He taught me how to approach Life in a different way. We shared so much more than just a similar surname.
                                              With Love,
                                                               Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jun 16 - 11:02 AM

His birthday was a short while back. June 8. Facebook... https://www.facebook.com/pat.s.patterson?fref=ts

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 19 Jun 16 - 01:16 AM

Bob Offer, December 29, 1919-June 18, 2016. What a wonderful man! I guess the greatest tribute can make to my dad, is that we all enjoyed him so much. I have so many happy memories of the time I spent with my dad. He was always so interested in everyone and everything, and he always was happy and positive. He was generous to a fault, he sang at the drop of a hat, he seemed to know how to do everything, and he was so proud of his family and his friends. I had a nice visit with him for a week in April. We ate outside by the pond at his nursing home every day, and there were two bald eagles across the pond every day. We had such a good time watching them. We had a good time, a memorable time, doing so many things.
Goodbye, Dad. You were such a good man. God bless you.

...and he enjoyed life up to the very end. He was really something.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Jun 16 - 07:51 AM

Holding you and all who loved him in my heart, Joe. Sounds like he was a joy to know.

I think you must be very like your father.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 19 Jun 16 - 01:29 PM

For Joe. Precious Memories

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jun 16 - 09:38 PM

Joe, I'm adding my condolences to those of others. You were blessed with a wonderful father; he was blessed with a wonderful son.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Jun 16 - 09:49 PM

Thank you for sharing, Joe. You touched my heart with your posts and I am sure you touched the hearts of others. I kinda figure your old man had something to do with the fact that you turned out so well that you could relate all of this to us and enrich us in your time of sorrow. You are a good soul, Joe. Once, again, my condolences and adding again my thanks to you for sharing... you have taught me another lesson. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Jun 16 - 10:43 PM

Amens to what Janie, Chantey Lass, and gnu have said; condolences to you and all the kin.

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Jun 16 - 06:12 PM

Amen to what gnu said. My parents have yet to pass: when they do, I will think of your father and yourself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Jun 16 - 11:05 AM

Joe, that's a lovely tribute for a good man

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Jun 16 - 10:52 AM

I stepped away from 'Jane's Rainbow' too soon & for far too long. My posts, such as they are, sound hollow. I need to find a way back because I must make my peace with you all. I regret my selfish behaviour...behaviour that has been repeated over many years. I thought I'd finally 'grown up'. I have cast myself adrift...please, if you will, bring me alongside.
                                                          Much Troubled,
                                                                                  Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 22 Jun 16 - 01:14 PM

Nigel, come aboard! We all need time away sometimes, so no crime there.

I'm not around much these days, but I know you are welcome here.

Be kind to you!

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jun 16 - 09:55 PM

Speaking for myself, I'm not here as often as I once was. Life gets in the way. I'm here when I can be and I imagine that's true of others.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jun 16 - 06:26 PM

This is a resource began by you , Nigel , when you felt in need of comfort and encouragement, and frequently offered the same to all of the crew. What it is not, is a duty or obligation , and if any of us goes ashore or on sick leave ,there are others to man the rainbow. And if any feel adrift others are throwing out a line. Wishing you peace, blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Jun 16 - 03:26 PM

Aloft!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Jun 16 - 04:03 PM

This resource is greater than any one person, regardless of those who got the whole thing started. It only has sense that those who first contributed towards the needs of others will themselves experience shortcomings, will disappoint themselves, and will feel humbled amongst other feelings. What better place to be helped in return?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Jun 16 - 10:58 AM

I've been trying to post since 22nd June...finally made it. I'm most grateful to Maeve, ChanteyLass, Pete & Keberoxu for your comments. Pete, you have hit the proverbial nail on the head. I felt a great sense of duty & obligation which proved increasingly difficult to maintain with the passage of time. After much reflection, I return, not as the thread instigator, but as Nigel seeking your succour, wisdom & experience.
         My wife, Ann is recovering well from a shoulder reconstruction, but her time in hospital has uncovered two, unrelated conditions, one of which is potentially life-threatening, given her medical history. We await the results of further tests & investigations, so until we know the results, any further comments would be speculative at best. My very first post was a 'cri de cœur'...I'm back where I started,
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 30 Jun 16 - 11:44 AM

Nigel, will be keeping you and Ann in heart and mind.

             Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Jun 16 - 05:23 PM

Sometimes not knowing is the worst. Hang in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Jun 16 - 06:52 PM

Wishing you and Ann the very best , with a prayer.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Jun 16 - 10:09 PM

Nigel, I'll pray for Ann, of course. I'm sorry that she is sailing in troubled waters at the moment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 03:23 AM

every now & then I pop in ...

sending good wishes & hugs

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 12:23 PM

I echo the comments of the past several days. Just... 'me too'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 12:58 PM

Prayers on the way!

Just found out that I probably have a replacement on my right knee on August 10. @&$$@@!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 12:58 PM

Prayers on the way!

Just found out that I probably have a replacement on my right knee on August 10. @&$$@@!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 06:16 PM

August 10th! That's the first day of lobster season on the coast nearest me. Oh dear. I shall delay sending you any lobster in case the surgeon fucks up and you pass. Can't waste any Northumberland Straight lobster, eh?

To my nephew just now.

Heard it in Mum's voice when I called her at 8:30. I call her every morning at the same time. There are certain days when I kinda know it's gonna be a bad day. Well, July 1 is one. I went over to clean sinks and mop and such as I couldn't take her out to the stores for a walk as usual and I knew she could "use some company" today. After I was done... well, tears flowed.

But, it's 8 years now and I have dealt with it, to some extent, through writing short stories and visiting his grave every year with a bottle and "having a chat". I have a fair few short stories. I share none. Sometimes, I will share a snippet, as I did today in a forum that has given me some joy and solace since I stopped hunting.

I thought of sharing this with you but I was hesitant. Then I thought... WTF? Share it with some friends and 16k+ strangers? Why not share it with Ian?

So, I screenshot my posts. They are attached. Unless I gotta send them one at a time... ???... I am still technologically declined. Nope looks like I got the whole post.

Hope all is well with you and yours.

Here is the text in the screenshots... no pics attached to this post...

I call this pic "Time for a Smoke". On this day in 2008, Bro left. He was an RCAF Airman. He was unconscious for days before he left. Near a week after they took all the tubes out. He wasn't supposed to last as long as he did. Mum said, "A true Airman... he waited for Canada Day to die."

The pic. Long story that I won't try to look up. Here's a short version. To the right of the pic hangs a nice buck on the back of my truck camper. We celebrated with beers. After several beers, tired from the 'deer work', Bro fell asleep. Not long before he fell asleep, having had a couple of beers, he was in that mood he used to get in. He had his semi 308 beside his chair and he, without me knowing, put a mag in, set the butt on the road with the gun straight up and waited until I was standing about six feet away with my back to him. WHAM WHAM WHAM WHAM!!!!!! I near pissed myself. I took to swearing at him (and continued while I was pissing) and he just kept laughing.

And, then... he fell asleep. I took a smoke out of his package of smokes. I lit it and puffed on it. Then I put it between his fingers. I took a picture... and then I waited. You do the math.
I did not laugh. That would have escalated things. >;-)

Miss ya, Bro. RIP.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 08:01 PM

We sail along, all of us, on the seas of life.

There is a paradox involved. A dialectic.

Arms around you, gnu, Nigel and Ann.

Arms around all of you who post or read here, and grateful to know your arms are around me.

Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jul 16 - 08:54 PM

Rap, keep us informed about your right knee.

Gnu, thanks for sharing your screenshot. What a memory! Tears are fine--just keep a hanky handy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Jul 16 - 08:32 PM

Ach, your imperial Rap-ness, it never ends for you. Hope your better half is recovering well?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Jul 16 - 08:02 AM

Ah memories , so sad and so sweet at the same time.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Jul 16 - 05:24 PM

Nigel, just one other thought:
You mention "Behavior that has been repeated over many years." You have my sympathies about that category of behavior. For me, too, the deepest humiliation is the recognition of behavior that I have sought to improve or alter, certain that I could--and ought--to do better, and to find that its repetition is a fact of life. In this you are far from alone. There is the challenge: to be at war deep inside, or to make peace with oneself. Thanks, all, for listening.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 04 Jul 16 - 05:37 PM

Friends, it is this dissonance within us that Paul spoke of in Romans 7.
Believers or not, you both speak of behavior patterns so common to us all. You are not alone.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Jul 16 - 10:48 AM

Amen maeve !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 Jul 16 - 09:27 AM

She is recovering, but impatiently. Our just-concluded trip to Waterton-Glacier International Peace Park was something we last did 34 years ago, and she was right in the middle of everything. Eventually she may have a reconstruction, but I suspect that just as soon as her schedule allows she'll have cataract surgery (I'm seeing better than she is now, and she used to be the "eagle eye."

My left ring finger, the one operated on, hurts when I bend or use it. I am doing the exercises assigned and have a massage therapist work on the sub-surface adhesions.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 06 Jul 16 - 08:48 PM

It's nice to read through these posts again. My dad died the day before Father's Day, and now we're in Switzerland, hiking in view of the Matterhorn. I'm glad my dad died while I was home and able to talk with him on the phone during his last days. He enjoyed hearing us talk about our plans for this trip, and I'm glad we can take this trip without regrets.
Thank you all for your kind words.
Joe

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 07 Jul 16 - 10:21 AM

Joe, back in 2006 my in-laws visited us here in The Wild West for a couple of weeks. They returned home and that evening my FIL was taken to the hospital unconscious.

He never recovered from that coma. But he'd seen Yellowstone and the Tetons again and visited with his daughter while doing so. We were in MOAB (Utah, not MC) when The Call came. A month in a coma, and then burial in Arlington, Area 64, grave 4720. My MIL is there as well.

But you got to talk with him, chat with him, share your plans. Bill got to visit us.

Yes, I understand.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Jul 16 - 03:28 PM

Rap, speaking of eyesight the doc says mine has improved 50 %.
Objectively maybe only 25%. Healing happens even with degenerative conditions. Even to degenerates!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Jul 16 - 06:15 PM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Jul 16 - 10:49 PM

Yes, a gin and tonic or a Tom Collins would be nice and refreshing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 10 Jul 16 - 04:51 PM

Here is a story I wrote for my agoraphobic son to find in the printer:
   

                                    
            Crossing the dark river of self loathing

Standing above the river bank trail we see the distant opposite shore and nearby islands in the currents. Beyond is the rest of the larger future unknown world. When we were small we learned to swim in still waters but the river keeps on rolling along.

Perhaps a boat or raft would be best but who knows how to build them. Most people travel to eventually pass over a toll bridge far away but we all don't have the money or the time to work and save for passage, while some risk punishment by stealing across .

Many people just wander the trail on this side of the river and some are seen sadly clinging to debris or tree that aimlessly drifts down the river where only a few are rescued. When the desperate isolation equals the risks and fears of the river, the journey begins.

Unseen beneath the water at the river's edge is silt that acts exactly like quicksand to those who rely upon the bottom instead of floating over the danger. Dean got stuck up to his knees in the silt but instead of pushing his feet deeper into the muck he waited nearly a full day to gently float out of the trap millimeter by millimeter.

Older but wiser the next hot summer's day the water felt soothingly cool as Dean set out again. Young, good looking with long dark blonde hair, Dean had bound some reeds together for safety and aimed for the island allowing for the current to pull him far to the right. After briefly paddling with his arms, friendly clouds shielded him from the hot sun but he became doubtful if he would reach the island where he thought he would. He started paddling almost against the current, but that only worsened his angle.

He hated that his calculation was so far off. Now the river looked dark and the island too far away. Paddling even harder with the current still let the island drift to his left. Tired full of doubt and increasing tension he started swimming harder. The island was definitely out of reach when a sand bar he had never seen was now beneath him and connected to the island only slightly under the water. Dean walked fifty meters to safety to see what the rest of the crossing looked like.

Blueberry bushes, bright red raspberries and wild roses hugged the shore and began to sway as a wind picked up. Odd things were caught midway up some of the trees. A board with a round hole in it, wicker furniture and maybe clothes. Further in the shade hid a flooded out shack. Reaching the far side of the island Dean studied the far river bank, four times farther away than he had imagined.


Still mid morning it was decision time, should I spend the night or go for it before it gets dark, Dean wondered. He hated he had been so wrong about the distance.
Hungry, he made a big lunch of blueberries despite the scratches and punctures from vines of thorns and took a nap. When he woke there was a wind and the sky was a little darker. The bound reeds he used were now useless limp and soaked.
He needed something that would float. Back in the trees Dean looked up for anything that would float. There it was, what could be better than a bag of corks he could tie around his chest. "I'm going for it ".

At the water's edge the river felt warm this time as specks of rain surprised Dean.
This time he kicked and stroked one arm at a time through the now black water.
He thought, I wish I had left sooner or not taken a nap or eaten so many berries.
There were waves now that caused him to swallow water. Memories surfaced of his parents urging him to follow everyone else to the distant bridge and pay whatever was asked. Bandits were said to attack travelers on the trail for the toll money they needed. A leg cramp, and Dean feeling nauseous nearly stopped. Why was I so stupid to think I could cross here, the island still looked close compared to the far river bank outlined in a thread of white. No denying the storm had arrived. Dean felt half blind from the splashing rain and waves as the river felt faster deeper and stronger. Dean felt the bump and rolled completely underwater. I should have seen that log, stupid stupid ! What made me think I could do this? Sure others have done it but who am I. Maybe I could just drift and eventually hit the shore, but Dean had seen others give up. Even his dad had given up. Dean kept swimming as he began to feel heavy in the choppy water. A hole in the bag of corks had lost half of its contents. WHY DID I NOT CHECK? Dean was resigned to realizing how serious this crossing had become. Anger turned inward and sapped his strength. Rubbing his eyes he could not recognize anything racing by on shore. He rested a bit and started swimming more vigorously than he knew he could. He felt something with his foot, it was the silt. Knowing better now he floated and bobbed over the danger and grabbed branches that reached into the water. Weighing what felt like a ton, Dean pulled himself up the slippery bank gasping for air as he reached a road.

There he laid back for only a minute when he heard a wagon approaching. He then saw two men well dressed that might be authorities but Dean couldn't be sure.
When he sat up the men both saw him.
"you there, are you from across the river?"
The other man just glared through the rain.
Breathlessly Dean said "I crossed the river twice".
Oh I see, well please go ahead sir.
The other man's face turned into a smile and asked "Do you want a ride? Newtown is just two miles ahead".
Dean smiled for the first time in a long time and said "Thank you Yes".
Relaxed now Dean knew there would be more rivers, borders and cultures to cross.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 10 Jul 16 - 05:05 PM

It has since been edited for errors.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Jul 16 - 08:47 PM

It's quite a story, Donuel, but not very credible, as I can just barely swim at all.

      Dean.
(Forgive me that, but there's something about reading a story when the protagonist shares your name). : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jul 16 - 09:36 PM

Thank you, Donuel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Jul 16 - 08:38 PM

Donuel, I like your story. I hope your son is doing well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Jul 16 - 09:31 AM

I have been away for too long, but for very happy reasons. Firstly I have sat and read all the posts I have been missing and sending my love to all who have been ill and in pain or troubled in many ways.It si good to know that the Rainbow is sailing on with this caring crew.So much love aboard and wonderful people.

Much has happened over this spring and summer. One of my dearest cousins and best friend died and BB and I went to her funeral in Bristol,she had a loving family of four daughters and a son and many grandchildren who I am now in touch with almost daily. Her greatest joy was her family and indeed, she was responsible in keeping our cousins in touch and organised big family parties a task that I seem to have been delegated to continue ! I had a big Birthday in June an "O" (never mind the number before the O , I still never feel like a proper grown up, always thought I would be silver haired and wise, the hair is red and no wisdom at all) But any excuse for a family gathering , so this Saturday we are having a party , the marquee goes up on Thursday, the freezer is full of lasagne, cake and pudding making on Friday! *0 were invited and so far everyone is coming. My lovely friends of 45 years Skinners Rats are coming to play the music and we are having a barn dance!

For my Birthday treat BB took me to Scotland, what a beautiful country, the mountains and lochs, the islands, Rum, Mull, Skye and the peaceful Iona, and the joy of just us two sharing an adventure. WE found a folky radio station and sang our way in the car through the highlands.I am such a lucky, lucky girl!

So I am back on board ready for duty in the galley and I am here to stay.
Sailing on

much love Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Jul 16 - 09:33 AM

miss typed ....80 are invited!!!
oops any spare chairs?

Wendy x

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Jul 16 - 09:52 AM

Welcome back, Billybob!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Jul 16 - 05:54 PM

Indeed!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Jul 16 - 09:32 PM

Glad to have you aboard again, Wendy, and glad you've been having some fun. Happy -0 birthday!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Jul 16 - 04:04 PM

Happies indeed to you , Wendy .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Jul 16 - 05:08 AM

Wonderful posts from Donuel, Gnu, Wendy et al. All demand thoughtful replies, which, at the moment I am incapable of writing. My thoughts & energy are focussed entirely on my belovéd Ann. This coming Tuesday she has to undergo an urgent, major abdo investigation. I'm relying on your 'reading between the lines' ability to spare me the need to write more. Please be with us in that special Rainbow way.
                                             With Love to You all,
                                                                              Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Jul 16 - 06:21 AM

Here, Nigel and Ann. Thinking of you both.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Jul 16 - 06:48 AM

As am I.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Jul 16 - 10:20 AM

Sorry to hear this Nigel , thoughts and prayers at this hard time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jul 16 - 11:47 AM

Here also, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Jul 16 - 09:49 PM

Nigel and Ann -- if positive energy from the mountains can help, you got it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jul 16 - 10:59 AM

Thank you, everyone. Thank you for the PMs & emails.
Rapparee, as a former rock climber/mountaineer with many epic tales from Snowdonia & The Great Glen, positive energy from the mountains is most welcome,
                                                With Love,
                                                                Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Jul 16 - 06:25 PM

Nigel, I haven't been able to get onto Mudcat since before your post on the 17th. When I tried yesterday, I got the message that Mudcat was offline, so Max must have been repairing the site. Now it seems I have only one day to refocus my prayers, so of course I will. I hope the test goes smoothly and you have the results soon so that Ann will know how to proceed, with your loving support, of course.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Jul 16 - 10:13 PM

Nigel, you should try some of the mountains out here. These climbs, for example, are only a couple of hours away. And bring Ann!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Jul 16 - 07:42 AM

On watch, Ann and Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Jul 16 - 08:28 AM

sending love and prayers to you and Ann Nigel, hope that the results are good and you can both relax and stop worrying.

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jul 16 - 08:30 AM

sending good wishes to Ann

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Jul 16 - 03:09 PM

My thoughts and prayers added to the others, for Nigel and Ann. Sorry to mix metaphors, but: Circle the wagons!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 05:00 AM

Still here, Ann and Nigel. Take the time you need. We're not leaving .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 08:07 AM

Thank you, everyone...it is so good to see your names, read your posts & feel your care & compassion. The procedure Ann had yesterday was investigative & proved inconclusive. An abdo CT scan is the next step. We had hoped for answers yesterday. Ann is remarkably chipper, considering the raft of tests, investigations & an op. she's had to endure since May.

I'm grateful to the 'Mudelf' who, unbidden, corrected a typo for me the other day. Great to know that our technical welfare is in good hands too (-:

                              With Love to You All,
                                                               Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 08:38 AM

Rapparee, 'The Tetons' look mouthwateringly tempting. The highest peak in Snowdonia is 'Snowdon' at just over 3000' & in Scotland, 'Ben Nevis' rises to just over 4000', so 'The Tetons' would require a different approach. When I was climbing regularly, the highest difficulty grade I achieved was E2 (for a single pitch climb). Are 'The Tetons' considered technical or friendly? All of this is completely academic, because I climb only in my dreams! Nevertheless, I can't forget the satisfaction of safely gaining a summit...& then having to prepare for the inevitable decent!
             Thanks for stirring up many exciting memories,
                                                                                           Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 08:46 AM

Well, that sucks! But, so happy to hear she remains 'remarkably chipper'. I hope the scan takes place soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 09:20 AM

Nigel, here's a link to data on Grand Teton. But there are many other climbs there as well; here are those in Grand Teton National Park. Almost all (95%) of the climbs in Yellowstone are actually up-hill hiking. However, the Wind River Range and the Absaroka Range is rarely climbed. Or just visit here and get involved in the Pocatello Pump. Here's the latest PDF of the Massacre Rocks Climbing Guide. And there's always City of Rocks.

There's lots of climbing around here. Maybe after my knee operation on August 10 I can start doing some!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 03:27 PM

Having said it before, Nigel and Ann, will say so again:
Sometimes not knowing is the worst.
And again, you are not alone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jul 16 - 05:30 PM

I, too, am staying focused on Ann and others here. What a great crew the Rainbow has!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 Jul 16 - 06:50 PM

We are here in storm, in drought, in fire, in ice, in all weather, fair or foul or fowl. (Sorry :D )

We are here together.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Jul 16 - 05:19 PM

Nothing to add but thoughts , prayers , and hopes for a good outcome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jul 16 - 05:31 PM

That's good news in itself, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Jul 16 - 11:29 AM

Still thinking of Ann and Nigel, positive healing thoughts.

Our little granddaughter , Bunny, had to have an MRI on Monday morning, she is nearly 10 but has had hearing loss since birth, she wears hearing aids and is doing remarkably at school, straight "A"s in her latest school reports. The MRI is to determine why she if deaf and if there is anything that can be done? She was very brave but wanted daddy to stay with her and hold her feet while she had the scan. Daddy held her feet but was very worried that, as he had to remove his belt, his trousers might fall down!
Bunny found this very funny.......ever cloud has a silver lining!!

much love

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Jul 16 - 06:54 PM

I wish there was a 'like button'!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jul 16 - 07:19 PM

. . . or a Love button! Thank you for sharing, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Jul 16 - 08:23 PM

Wendy, he should do what I do: don't wear pants.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 28 Jul 16 - 08:43 PM

Turning my eyes outward I see the conundrum of waiting and worrying.
It has a tendency to spiral out of control sometimes. A trick to counter all that is to take all the things that exist in the universe and make it a denominator, then put the one or two bad things on top as the numerator. You've really cut that worry down to size.

I remember how scared I was of deep water as a kid. I had a dream of a Leprechaun figure sitting at the bottom of the pool, clay pipe and all.
He calmly watched me as I sank to he bottom desperate for air. He said in his Irish brogue "you know you used to breathe the water". I shook my head no. "Try it". I couldn't hold my breathe anymore so I took a slow breath of water. "see, it works". He said he had to go and vanished.
I never had a fear of water again.

Sure it was silly nonsense that I basically told myself but it worked.
Years later this what I did for a living as a hypnotist.

I helped my older son when he was targeted by Internet bullies to kill himself. We invoked a mental journey across a desert and he became immune to all bullies. But I have yet to reach my youngest in any way shape or form and he remains virtually bed ridden. If he had a dreaded disease he would probably have all sorts of support but instead he is an island without wind or trees. He supports one thing and that is his internet and gaming addiction.

I think a support group of internet addicts is needed. But will he help himself. So far he won't.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Jul 16 - 09:00 AM

so far - sending good wishes that the distance gets smaller

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 31 Jul 16 - 08:34 PM

I guess this thread wasn't here when Mudcat member "frug" posted about the medical life-and-death crisis in his family five years ago; now that member started a new thread to report back in this year.

It can be seen that even before this thread was started, this community was in place, in order to be something greater than the total sum of its parts. More power to the Rainbow thread and all that it stands for.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Aug 16 - 06:50 AM

Donuel, I was deeply moved by your intensely personal post. Addiction in all it's forms is difficult to treat, relying, as I'm sure you're aware on the individual acknowledging they have a problem & then engaging in a treatment program. I speak from the standpoint of my own addiction to alcohol & latterly, as a psychotherapist, working with addicted adolescents. 'Internet addiction' is a relatively new phenomenon, but just as destructive, nonetheless. In the UK, CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) is often the first choice from the 'talking therapies' & available on the NHS.
If you were able to get your youngest to see a CBT professional, both he & your Family might find the help & support you so desperately need. Addiction is not confined to the addict alone. Family & Friends also have their own related issues with which to deal. I send you every good wish in your quest for a solution.
                                                    With Love,
                                                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 05 Aug 16 - 01:40 PM

Nigel,

you are a scholar and a gentleman.

1st time I ever wrote those words
thanks

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Aug 16 - 05:25 PM

It is one thing to suffer, yourself, and to need support.
It is another, it seems to me, to watch the suffering of a loved one, and to feel powerless about it.
Thankfully there is room, and comfort, for both here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Aug 16 - 07:13 PM

Donuel, I hope your younger son and your family can get the much-needed help soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 08 Aug 16 - 06:20 AM

Found this in my Facebook feed this AM, thought the crew might enjoy it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Aug 16 - 07:54 AM

Donuel, I can't remember being referred to as a "scholar & a gentleman", so a first for both of us! I'm very touched...wish I could do more,
                                                                      With Love,
                                                                                       Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Aug 16 - 12:34 PM

Nigel, I've oft been called the opposites of those.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Aug 16 - 01:35 PM

And for good reason, no doubt.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Aug 16 - 08:42 PM

At 0545 MDT, the day after tomorrow, I am supposed to arrive at the hospital for a partial (or full, depends on what they find inside) replacement of my right knee.

That's ungodly early, but I think I can get some sleep after I get there.

I'll be in for two nights.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Aug 16 - 09:57 PM

May you enjoy some good sleep, good surgery, good rehab, and good results, Rap.

Donuel- thinking of you and your family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 06:30 AM

In four hours, I will be saying goodbye to Bandit, my loyal canine buddy of the last nine and a half years. He wasn't a young dog when I adopted him, and now old age has caught up with my boy. I knew this day was coming, watched as it slip towards me at glacial speed for about the last year, telling myself I would do the right thing when his bad days started to outnumber the good ones. I kept that promise and made the dreaded phone call yesterday. I know it's the right thing to do, but it sure felt like I was plotting his execution.

We gave the condemned a last meal of raw hamburger, a can of dog food (he'd always been content with kibble and the occasional can of food that the cat would turn her nose up at), and a bowl of vanilla ice cream. As I set my purchases down on the counter at the grocery store I work at in the winter, the cashier (and my good friend) looked at what I had, looked at me and said "Please tell me this isn't what I think it is." She understood when I told her it was time, and offered to drive me today. I'd already called my mom, who will be going with me, but I appreciated the offer. My next-door neighbor made the same offer when I got home. I am surrounded by good people.

Bandit quite enjoyed all his goodies, by the way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 07:31 AM

Tami- Yep, it's hard to do the right thing. You've been faithful and kept Bandit going better than many could have.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 10:35 AM

Sleep well, Bandit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 11:35 AM

(((tami)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 02:15 PM

I had a good chuckle when Rap wrote, "That's ungodly early, but I think I can get some sleep after I get there."

Then, r1's post. I am in tears. RIP Bandit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 03:28 PM

Rapparee, sustaining thoughts and emotions sent your way as you are admitted to hospital.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 04:31 PM

Rap... I hope you get what you kneed. Heal well and fast, buddy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 07:38 PM

Rap, I hope your surgery and recovery go quickly and smoothly.
Tami, if I'd read this sooner, I would have asked you to give Bandit a big hug from me. Anyway, here's one for you. ( )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Aug 16 - 08:26 PM

Rap may your carpenter be an artist.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Aug 16 - 06:48 PM

Thinking of Rapparee; Nigel's Ann; Tami, formerly owned by Bandit; Pete from seven stars, watching over his adult children. And Skarpi, hoping he is all better now after his scary illness earlier this year.

Subject: The flickering candle
From: Mysha
Date: 14 Aug 16 - 12:51 PM

She's gone for me.
After a series of TIAs, my mother's world now seems to be limited to her bed in the care centre, she can't speak words that I can recognise, and she doesn't really react to me any more. I know that when she's not dozing, there might be moments when her bright mind still shines, even if it can't get trough, but I can't really believe it any more.

She didn't want it to end this way, and I don't know whether to hope for a slightly brighter moment before it ends, or for the end of her suffering to come quickly.

                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Aug 16 - 01:20 PM

Mysha, I'm sad for you. There is some hope still in terms of you reaching her. Talk quietly to her, play her favorite music, hold her hand...please also be kind and gentle to yourself.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Aug 16 - 02:02 PM

What maeve said. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Aug 16 - 06:51 PM

Refreshing so others know of Mysha's need.

Rap, how'd the surgery go?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Aug 16 - 07:01 PM

Maeve, any update on Skarpi?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Aug 16 - 09:59 PM

Mysha, I can't imagine what that's like for you--or for your mother. I like what Maeve wrote.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Aug 16 - 02:44 AM

I'll second that - sending good wishes to all who need them

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Aug 16 - 11:54 AM

Skarpi is mostly working hard and not online, but I'll check in to see how things are going. Neither of us tends to be here often. When last we "spoke" he was better, but I think I already mentioned that here. :)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Aug 16 - 03:26 PM

Tell Skarpi to keep well. Someday I'll visit Iceland and want to buy him a drink or seven.

Mysha, I'm sure she knows your presence. Just being there is a good.

My surgery went okay, I guess. I was asleep. Bandages containing silver have been used because "they promote healing better" -- they are also more expensive, I suppose. I'm hobbling around on a walker; there is a very important meeting being held at the church on Thursday and if I can't connect by telephone or Skype (I've asked about it) I may go in person (it has to do with the future use of church buildings by "outside" groups, like local musical groups, among other things). I'm taking high-power pain killers and being very, very, very careful with them!

This is the first time I've had a chance at a REAL computer!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Aug 16 - 05:30 PM

I'll pass along your message, Rap. It's very good to hear from you on this side of the surgery.

I'm delighted you can now be told, "Hi yo Silver, away!" when you head out for the actual or virtual important meeting.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Aug 16 - 07:26 PM

Welcome back, your Imperial Rapness, to real computers, and please DO exercise caution with those risky pain meds. Good to have you back.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Aug 16 - 08:21 PM

Yay, Rap! Thank you for letting us know how you are. Good luck with that meeting!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Aug 16 - 01:42 PM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 17 Aug 16 - 03:27 PM

Hi,

Maeve and others, thanks for the advice.

We're not the touching kind, well I'm not, so she might not experience that as me comforting her.
[Over-sensitive autist: What to others might be a comforting touch, is hard pushing to me.]

She has now been moved to a single room (one she is also familiar with). Let me see what the nurses think of me playing music there. But she now sleeps where last week she merely dozed, thus I don't know whether I can be there to reach her when she is somewhat awake. Should I say it's good for her to be sleeping, rather than be awake and suddenly find herself locked in by her inability to communicate?

And thanks for warning me to take care of myself as well. That seems to be one of the harder parts of taking care.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Aug 16 - 06:32 PM

Hi Mysha,

I understand about touch being uncomfortable and difficult. That's OK. It was just one idea, not required. :)

Perhaps there is a nurse or a hospital chaplain who might answer some questions. Even better might be if a Hospice trained person is available to talk with. Sometimes it helps to have someone you trust listen with you and ask questions for you if it is too hard for you to talk about it- or if you don't know what to ask!

Music might be good even sometimes when she sleeps. If you think the nurses are open to the idea, one or more might be willing to play music at certain times if you can set things up. Could you ask about this perhaps? The staff is always busy, but if you can make it easy (working equipment, but nothing valuable) they are often very happy to help if they can.

Your posts on Mudcat are always thoughtful and interesting. You might find it useful to write or draw, or any other form of reflection and expression) as you sit with your mother, even while the music is playing. No one but you has to see your writing or drawing. It is one healthy way to help yourself say what you would like to tell your mother, or memories you treasure, or what you admire or even what you don't understand about your mother's life.

Taking care of yourself: Yes, it is very hard to do this. For some people it helps to have a schedule for getting something to eat, or walking to somewhere nearby for real food (not from vending machines), or for a coffee, or slowly drinking a bottle of water outside- whatever works for you is good. Sometimes there might be a friend who will sit with your mother while you take a bathroom break. Think about what you need to feel safe and what you need to stay healthy. For me, sleep was hard to get. I found times when I could take a nap in a safe place.

That's a lot of words from a friendly stranger, Mysha, talking with you as if we were sitting on a park bench somewhere. Please choose what might work for your needs, or find other ways to manage this hard, sad time. Each person dealing with illness and grief must learn what is helpful, what is comforting, and what other people can help with. I believe you can survive this time, and I believe you can find help when you need it. You'll do your best, and it will be enough.

Gardenmaeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Aug 16 - 06:49 PM

Thinking of all those we know are dealing with difficult times...and those who have not spoken of their challenges.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Aug 16 - 10:02 AM

This song has meant a lot to me over the years. It give you encouragement to get through the tough times.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 19 Aug 16 - 02:33 PM

imagine my delight at the gift of hearing that song for the first time in my life. thanks Rap

Take care of yourself
what does that even mean?

it means being selfish amidst all the mixed feelings and advice.
it means an unexpected treat or an unlikely event you will enjoy.

things are given to those who give but you have to allow time for yourself to accept what is given back to you.

PS guilt is usually a cruel self delusion.

good luck Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Aug 16 - 04:33 PM

Hope Rapparee's meeting went well,
and how is his better half recovering?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Aug 16 - 06:29 PM

Been away and catching up now. A few of us have been where you are now Mysha, and I have nothing more to add to the excellent comments above except my empathy and a prayer at this time. Bless you, and your mum.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Aug 16 - 02:58 PM

Wonderful words, m, and others. Nice tune, Rap. I was minded of The Rankin Family - We Rise Again but, alas, I could find no video of quality.

Bless all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 20 Aug 16 - 04:43 PM

Thanks all,

For reminding me of a song I have behind me in the CD rack, for reminding me that others got through this as well and that I shouldn't burn myself up in the process, for all the good suggestions, simply for sympathising.

We have the music working; indeed the nurses were quite enthusiastic we do this, provided I supplied the equipment and CDs. Your words encouraged me to reach out a bit more, with several people telling me to ask for help the moment I need it. It has also helped me discussing details I was unsure of, some of which, it turned out, could easily be found out once I knew to ask about them.

It's not that I suddenly know where things are going, but it does feel like taking small steps does move you forward.

Thanks,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Aug 16 - 05:40 PM

Oh, Mysha...Well done! You have accomplished so much for yourself and your mother! Thank you for telling us some of our thoughts and words were helpful. That's a gift you've given to us!

Those kind nurses might enjoy some chocolates or flowers or fruit.

Please tell us as little or as much of your journey with your mother as is useful to you. We're here listening and ready to encourage and support as well as we can... and we understand some things need a bit of privacy also. You could send a PM if that works better for you sometimes.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Aug 16 - 06:16 PM

Have turned into a lurker but have not abandoned ship. Just haven't found words for a long time. Read nearly daily. All who post, know I'm sitting quietly in a hidden corner, watching, listening, caring....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Aug 16 - 08:30 PM

I'm still here, too, quietly. Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 23 Aug 16 - 11:35 AM

I'm pretty much a lurker these days, too, but like Janie, I do check in and read.

Mysha, you and your mother have been in my thoughts.

Maeve, you lovely person, thank you for the kind words you always have for those who need them and looking out for the rest of us. Hopefully, I can deliver a hug in person in the near future.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 Aug 16 - 07:57 PM

Dear Crew of the Rainbow,

I've been asked to tell you that Mysha's mother has died and thus is no longer suffering. We will all understand how busy and confusing are the many things that must be taken care of after the death of a loved one, so please hold Mysha in your thoughts and prayers.

Respectfully,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Aug 16 - 08:44 PM

sending good wishes to Mysha & family - & thanks to maeve for her thoughtful posts here & elsewhere.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Aug 16 - 08:50 PM

Thank you, Maeve, for your update. I will continue to pray but will change the nature of my prayers.

This is my third attempt to post this message.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Aug 16 - 03:38 PM

Thank you Maeve for relaying the sad but eventually expected. I am sure that I am not the only one with moist eyes offering a prayer for mysha.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 24 Aug 16 - 09:12 PM

Thank you, Maeve.

I often quote Bill the Bard at times like this:

Our revels now are ended. These our actors,
As I foretold you, were all spirits and
Are melted into air, into thin air:
And, like the baseless fabric of this vision,
The cloud-capp'd towers, the gorgeous palaces,
The solemn temples, the great globe itself,
Yea, all which it inherit, shall dissolve
And, like this insubstantial pageant faded,
Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded with a sleep.

No more pain....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 26 Aug 16 - 11:26 AM

New day, new challenges, new victories...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 08:02 AM

Thanks, m.

My condolences, Mysha.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 08:24 AM

Holding you and your family in my thoughts, Mashable.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 09:43 AM

Hi Janie- Do you have Autocorrect on your device perhaps?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 09:57 AM

Hey Lady, wanna get mashed? (smile)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 10:41 AM

Thanks, crew. I am reading, I'm just not up to posting anything personal yet.

Bye,
                                                             Mashable

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 11:02 AM

Only you can make all this world seem right
Only you can make the darkness bright
Only you and you alone can thrill me like you do
My rational and mashable yooou.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 11:52 AM

Hi Mysha - You don't have to post anything unless you wish to do so.
We will understand.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 12:36 PM

I have hesitated to say but Dean has still not left his comfort zone but he did have a scared straight moment as a result of a school meeting. At the meeting he presented zero eye contact that resulted in the attendance officer to contact government social services to investigate if he is getting correct treatment.
A new shrink was arranged along with new medication. When the social worker asked him questions he was very communicative with limited eye contact. He also was presented with options from his retiring doctor that included electro shock therapy. He snapped out of it for a short time.

I still identify the internet as a villain who has robbed him of eye contact and an addiction that prevents real world exploration.
If screen time eliminates 200 opportunities a day to make real eye contact it adds up day by day until eye contact is alien and feels impossible. btw he has grown a remarkable 7 inches this year and in no way is he a tiny Tim anymore.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Aug 16 - 10:21 PM

My Knee
by Rapparee
Grade 4

The nurses took the bandages off my knee last Wednesday. They said it looked really good. Now I am supposed to take physical therapy for six weeks.

It still hurts and sometimes it's all swelled up and red. But everybody says I'm doing wonderful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Aug 16 - 11:11 AM

Thoughts and prayers, Mysha and Donuel.

Rap... glad to hear progress is being made.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Aug 16 - 02:26 PM

Donuel, I'm sorry your son is not improving.
Rap, I hope your knee continues to heal.
Mysha, we'll be here when you are ready.
Love to all the Rainbow's crew!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Aug 16 - 04:08 PM

Janie! You probably gave Mysha a much-needed humor break! If unintentional...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Aug 16 - 07:59 PM

Oops. I guess so. Was posting from my iPad and didn't notice.

Sorry 'bout that Mysha. {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Aug 16 - 10:00 PM

Spellcheck Rules!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Aug 16 - 09:42 AM

Yesterday I walked, mostly without a stick, for slightly over a mile.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 Aug 16 - 10:11 AM

Rap, that's worth celebrating! Wow! Gadzooks! Fantabuloso!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Aug 16 - 05:02 PM

You go, Rap!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 30 Aug 16 - 05:19 PM

You know all the things that helps bone growth like types of electricity, walking, diet, but do not apply sideways impact for some time.

Don't even do it by accident.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Aug 16 - 06:54 PM

Wow, Rap! When do you get released to go leap tall buildings in a single bound?

Seriouly, great to hear the surgery went well. Pretty amazing to me that you are able to walk that far already, especially with minimal use of a cane.

Donuel, I have a couple of adults in my practice with what formerly was termed Asperger's. I don't know where on the spectrum Dean is. I do know both of them can get obsessively engaged with computers, software, coding, gaming, etc.

Probably complicates things a bit at this stage of your son's life in trying to impose interventions - teenager and all that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 02 Sep 16 - 03:49 AM

Hi Donuel,

This is really more about me than you, but I need to be sure someone said it. I've read your posts in the past, but I can't recall enough now and don't as yet have the energy to read back. But:

I have a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome. I don't normally look people in the eye, as most people scream so loud with their expressions that I'd rather read their lips, which shows enough of their facial expression to read those peripherally (spelling?). Someone on a little girl's case at one point made the very smart observation that people will often ask or expect different things from what they want: E.g. do parents really need their child to clean the plate, or just for the child to eat enough?

So, what I need to say at the moment, just in case it's relevant, is that it pays to be careful to check what your target is: Does your child need to make eye contact? Or would it be OK to just read the face, or just face the person talking? Or is conversation the important bit, even if it goes sideways? (But if not a relevant remark, just forget about it.)
Most faces are intense, and at times I'd rather not look at them too much for fear of missing what people are saying. I sometimes wonder if I could have practised with that face program the Commodore 64 used to have. (It was clearly a face, but it had few details/expression. And it was clearly not human, taking away a lot of time pressure.)

Oh, and as in most cases: Don't fight the monster when it's there. Fight it when it isn't there, so there's less pressure and more preparation time.

Bye
                                                               Mysha
(Back to handling condolence cards that tell me my mother is dead.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 02 Sep 16 - 12:33 PM

No Asperger's here. Dean is coming out of a simple but extreme neurosis that exaggerated hiding with embarrassment due to a digestive issue. He is back at school half days and far more communicative.
Robert was the one who didn't speak until a blow to the left parietal lobe that rendered instant speech at the age of six. While I struggle, he is a talented teacher and writer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 02 Sep 16 - 12:45 PM

I forgot..

Rob's most annoying autistic artifact is speaking at auditorium levels,
anywhere. He is a natural Tim Conway comic who can fill a room with uncontrollable laughter. I'm jealous and shy but he is completely confident.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Sep 16 - 10:44 PM

Grateful to Jane's Rainbow for being here for us all, even on slow weekends with nobody adding posts. Thanks is too small a word, but thanks, regardless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Sep 16 - 06:59 PM

Looking at Mysha and Janie's posts with fresh eyes I am remembering 8 years ago when Dean had no symptoms and began spending more time on the computer. With an open mind I can see him now and believe it looks like Aspergers hiding behind long hair and avoiding faces. Aspergers is something that can have a sudden onset at puberty. This changes the dynamic a great deal without eliminating all previous assumptions.
Thank you all, this will be explored during an appointment Friday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Sep 16 - 04:34 AM

I wrote these lines after our daughter Jane died. I hope Mysha will take something from them too:

"  'Shall we Meet in Avalon?'

And shall we meet in Avalon, or does our journey voyage on
To places never, ever seen where only those who've passed have been?
At journey's end, what will we find, comfort for the tortured mind?
Respite for the restless soul, with passing time, will we be whole?
Shall we be whole to laugh again, despite the anguish, tears & pain?
Shall we be whole to smile & say: "It's time, tomorrow is another day?"
Another day, a different course, (Death's trade winds blew with awful force.)
Our future waits, as yet unknown, but we are two, we're not alone.
The Love we share that binds us tight, enhanced by Friend's illumined light.
Wisdom, Care, Compassion, Healing as breakers struck & left us reeling.
Calmer waters now surround, recedes the risk to run aground.
This voyage complete, we sail again, more mindful now of other's pain.
More mindful now of what we've lost and how to bear & count the cost.
                                                                                             
                                                           Much Love to all,
                                                                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 16 - 11:24 AM

Beautiful. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Sep 16 - 07:20 PM

We have a saying out here: "The only way to the other side is through." Others can help, can give you support, but only you make the actual crossing. It's actually a very comforting thought because it reinforces the idea that you can actually do it...and you can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Sep 16 - 02:59 PM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Sep 16 - 04:45 PM

and refresh again

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Sep 16 - 08:07 PM

I hope All's Quiet means All's Well, or at least no worse.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Sep 16 - 10:12 PM

I was going to write a poem, but you said hoped things were no verse.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Sep 16 - 06:05 AM

groan

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Sep 16 - 08:26 AM

Ve ave German blood yah.....    Double groan !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Sep 16 - 02:04 PM

THE VIPERS ARE COMING!! THE VIPERS ARE COMING!!






Vitch vindows do you vant viped ?



(from one of the stupid skits always performed at summer camp)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Sep 16 - 10:29 PM

The last few posts made me laugh, and laughter is the best medicine, so I feel good!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 21 Sep 16 - 09:24 AM

Yesterday I saw the surgeon, who cleared me for massage therapy and more strenuous physical therapy. I see him again in February, assuming something doesn't go wrong before then.

Pat gets the cataract in her left eye out tomorrow. She's looking forward (BAD RAPPAREE!!! BAD!!!) to it ever since she thought her friend's lavender robe was gray. The right eye will be done in late October and Ol' Eagle Eye will be back in business!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 21 Sep 16 - 09:49 AM

That's a great report, Rap, and I know Pat will be happy to see clearly all the colors of her fabric stash!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Sep 16 - 08:29 PM

I'm glad to read the good news about Rap and Pat!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Sep 16 - 12:52 PM

Good news, Rap. Now you'll be able to match your socks and coordinate your fashion accessories.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Sep 16 - 02:41 PM

Thanks for the news about Rapparee and his better half.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 22 Sep 16 - 09:24 PM

She's home. The surgeon was two hours late because he had a major problem with a patient at the hospital (Pat was done at a "surgical center"). He didn't specify, but I got the impression it was one of those things that happen no matter how much work you do to prevent stuff like it.

Anyway, I got her home around 4:00 pm MDT. She ate a cookie on the way home (she had been something like 15 hours without solid food) and she slept for two hours. The phone rang and awakened her -- it was the surgeon calling to see how she was doing.

One eye is behind an eye shield and tomorrow at 8 a.m. (!!!) we see the surgeon (who is also our ophthamologist). She will probably get the eye shield off, a quick eye exam with the letter chart, and may get the left lens knocked out of her glasses.

Her right eye will be done on October 25 -- we have to work the surgeries around her travel schedule!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Sep 16 - 05:01 AM

takes me back to my cataract removal. Surgeon & I realised I needed my left lens replaced when I couldn't read the top letter on the chart!

Pat had a cookie, I had an egg sandwich!

enjoy your travels

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Sep 16 - 05:44 PM

Sounds like a very caring surgeon Rapparee .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Sep 16 - 08:22 PM

Let us know how the results of Pat's exam.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 23 Sep 16 - 10:23 PM

20/30 at the moment. Good enough to drive without glasses. However, the eye is still a little dilated and she's putting in drops several times a day. The ophthalmologist is quite pleased, considering how long she waited for the procedure to start.

She sees him again in a couple of weeks; the optician is threatening to pop out her left lens then.

So far she's doing okay. Some vision problems, but that's to be expected as the eye has changed from yesterday morning!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 24 Sep 16 - 06:59 PM

Talking a while back to the worse/verse, wiper/viper peoples:
it doesn't have to be German, after all...

My name is Yon Yonson
I come from Visconsin
I vork in da lumber mill dere
Ven I go up de street
De people I meet
Dey say: Vat's your name?
And I say....ad infinitum
remembering Carl Sandburg's recording (and him guffawing with laughter)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Sep 16 - 09:37 PM

Hooray for Pat and her vision!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Sep 16 - 10:23 AM

A song for Pat    : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Sep 16 - 04:11 AM

When words of comfort elude me, poetry often comes to my aid.

                                              'The Autumn Equinox'

The Autumn Equinox has gone,
Greens & reds & browns & fawn
Leaf-woven carpets strew the ground,
A transformation so profound.
Longer nights & shorter days
Affect our lives in subtle ways.
"Mists of mellow fruitfulness"
As harvest time our tables bless.
Birds fly south on beating wing,
Returning home once more to sing
To other ears, their songs familiar,
Sung so true & sounding clearer?
Shall we survive the closing year
Apparently so bleak, so drear?
With 'winter weeds' in cupboards waiting,
Summer's warmth is fast abating.
Stock the larder, cook the fruit,
For hunger doth our form transmute
And once transmuted, what are we?
Enveloped by a reverie
Of darkened dreams, of cold & shadow,
Spoiléd grain not fit to winnow.
Wind-blown we are nought but chaff,
The stuff of 'when', an epitaph,
But think no thoughts that hint of ending,
Seasons' cycles ever wending,
Draw us from an impotence
Imposed by cold's indifference.
'Lead us forward, kindly light',
Lest we remain embalmed by night.
                                                       (Nigel Paterson, September 2016)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 28 Sep 16 - 07:05 AM

Beautiful words Nigel
Love to all,
Wendy xxxxx ( hiding in the corner with a coffee )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Sep 16 - 04:49 PM

I thought you had borrowed some classical poetry from somewhere to express your thoughts, then reached the end and see that Nigel was the eloquent wordsmith !                  Seems also quite apt today as we interned my dad's ashes in the grave where my brother and mum were laid. Only a small party of us. The minister I asked to officiate done a lovely sensitive job ,and I sang the song I had written for dad some time ago. A season of mingled emotions.                   Blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 28 Sep 16 - 08:29 PM

Yes, like I said 'a scholar and a gentleman' Nigel. Now a poet of truth.

Well, Ketamine works like a charm for depression for about a week. We had a glimpse of an aware and awake outgoing personality but patterns of withdrawal crept back slowly. But alas a turning point
is established for the ongoing treatment next week and beyond.
His improvement is well documented by the school, social services and the doctor to serve as a pioneering case study to establish FDA approval by next spring.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 29 Sep 16 - 04:37 AM

Without the occasional poem, I would, sometimes, be rendered speechless...totally incommunicado.'Clothing' my thoughts & feelings poetically enables me to express 'where I'm at' in a way that regular prose doesn't. I feel safe within my poem; safe enough to write about things I would NEVER place in the public domain in prose. "...a poet of truth", that goes right to the heart of the matter, Donuel. My 'truth' & your 'truth' will always differ, but there are many similarities & commonalities in us all to which a poem may speak. Pete's post above is a perfect exemplar of just that. Yes, I write for myself, but also in the hope that my words will have meaning for you too.
                                 With Love to you all,
                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Oct 16 - 07:42 AM

Donuel, one more PM for you on which to ponder...at your leisure. Thanks for writing,
                                              Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Oct 16 - 01:38 PM

Although I mostly lurk on Mudcat these days, I do check in on all you lovely people. I send warm thoughts and share your joys and sorrows. And now I want to share my joys with you.

After the first eight months of 2016 being less than wonderful, September made up for it. A house concert where I was pulled aside during the break by one of the singers and told I have a lovely voice and should sing more When I told her I panic and lose the words, she asked if I would let her help me with that. Having my given-up-for-adoption younger sister make contact with me after I'd given up all hope of ever hearing from her. Going to The Getaway and seeing old friends and making new ones. Deciding that going to Sally Rogers' Music Theory for Vocalists workshop at The Getaway might be a good idea and feeling like I needed the remedial class, but enjoying it anyway and having Sally drag me into the center to listen when she realized I was feeling lost so I wouldn't feel excluded. Having Sally pull me aside after her mini concert and telling me the same thing that Kat told me earlier in the month. Road trip to Connecticut with my mom to pick up my new dog last Thursday. Getting to know Beau (the new dog).

My mom took this photo of Beau's and my first meeting

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Oct 16 - 09:21 PM

Nigel, I'm glad you found your voice in poetry and shared it with us.

Pete, a sensitive minister and small service sound like good things. Good on you for being able to sing on such on occasion.

Donuel, what is next for your son's treatment?

And Tami, I'm glad your year is getting better. I don't know who looks happier in that photo, you or Beau. And Sally Rogers seems to be as warm and pleasant offstage as on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Oct 16 - 12:26 PM

I give Chantey Lass's post 4 dittoes. I'm looking all over for the "like" button for Tami's post and photos.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Oct 16 - 08:29 AM

Agreed. So happy for you, r1.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Oct 16 - 05:04 PM

Ranger1, that dog looks like exactly the right size: big enough to give the varmints pause, and small enough to scoop up in your arms like you are doing. Many happy hugs and wiggles to you both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 03 Oct 16 - 09:18 PM

Thank you, everyone. He's a little scamp, but we're working on learning some manners.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Oct 16 - 04:58 AM

he has a lovely smile!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Oct 16 - 05:18 PM

Lovely happy photo ranger 1

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Oct 16 - 07:00 PM

Only a few days ago, Mudcatter Keith A from Hertford refreshed his own "chemotherapy" thread, having finally come up for air, so to speak, after his September treatments. His thread is inactive now, however this thread is certainly inclusive enough for all of us thinking of him.

And he had good news, that his better half's treatment had resulted in a cancer-free situation today. Keith's is rather worse, but his treatment continues and we can continue keeping him in our thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Oct 16 - 04:21 AM

best wishes to both Keith & Mrs A

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Oct 16 - 09:35 PM

What Sandra said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Oct 16 - 10:37 PM

Holding Keith and his partner in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Oct 16 - 11:36 AM

Yes wishing them well through this hard time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 11 Oct 16 - 03:44 PM

Keith's (and Mary's) thread is here:
Chemotherapy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 12 Oct 16 - 10:14 AM

ditto to all the above from me too,sending love and healing thoughts.

Good news here, Billy saw his consultant for his 4 monthly appointment today, always a "take a big breath moment" before we go in! The good news , all is well, see you in 4 months. He completed his chemo 4 years ago in December. He is still on a trial , which monitors him on an ongoing schedule, so well done and thank you Colchester Hospital, praise from us both.

with love
Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Oct 16 - 01:01 PM

Great news, Wendy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Oct 16 - 05:07 PM

Hooray for Billy. After the 5th year is complete, will he be checked less frequently?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 12 Oct 16 - 09:23 PM

After the second treatment we are once again in limbo and a low information zone. Just today we learned the compounding pharmacy stopped filling prescriptions the very day we called to have it filled. I suspect the nurse Cratchet type attendance officer who called social services, SS then called and insisted she also be present at a hastily called school meeting both had something to do with the cessation of treatment. that is only an unsubstantiated guess. This is the same woman who openly criticized us for not seeking more aggressive therapy. Now she believes Dean's treatment is akin to chemical shock therapy. But that is the problem with suspicion. Adversaries by intention or accident do not tell you what they are thinking and I am more sensitive to behavioral dynamics than my wife who relies only upon what is actually said. So Dean has opened up quite a bit more but now is in limbo until we hear what our alternatives are from the doctor.

My opinion of busy body do gooders with power in my past probably colors my suspicions but I will keep an open mind and press on.
The best cure for worry is always more information.

Push back from the powers that be to new ideas, has always been my bailiwick. Dean will persevere I am sure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 12 Oct 16 - 10:01 PM

To my knowledge a compounding Pharmacy can be entirely closed for failing an inspection but to have only one specific medicine banned while remaining open is very odd.(?) I should mention a Vice principal also made a derogatory comment regarding Dean's treatment.
My wife was oblivious to these machinations so coincidence or my fertile imagination may still be in play.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Oct 16 - 04:50 AM

good luck, Donuel & best wishes to Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Oct 16 - 08:30 PM

Oh, Donuel, I'm sorry Dean and your family are facing this obstacle in his treatment, and I wish there was something I could do about it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Oct 16 - 06:13 AM

Still here, but recently on Jane's Rainbow, I've been taking the PM route.
Wendy, very pleased to read about BB's progress. Well done everyone at Colchester!
I echo other folk's comments about Donuel & Dean's situation...some of us should get our heads together & write a guide as to how to deal with unhelpful medical professionals (& vice principals who make derogatory comments).
We have some good news to share. Ann has finally been discharged from the breast cancer clinic...a ten year haul, but to hear the words: "We don't need to see you again", ten years seemed to evaporate in a trice.
                                                 Much love to you all,
                                                                                  Nigel & Ann xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Oct 16 - 05:21 PM

"We don't need to see you again" OH HAPPY DAY!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 14 Oct 16 - 06:32 PM

What GNU said.

BFN

Mysha
Or at least, parts of Mysha held together by daily routine, support from others, and the occasional joke.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Oct 16 - 07:01 PM

how lovely to be kicked out!

joke for Mysha - what sits on the bottom of the ocean & shakes?
















a nervous wreck! (my only joke, remembered from the childrens pages of a paper decades ago & trotted out on occasion!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 15 Oct 16 - 11:54 AM

Talked to the doctor and there should not so much as a bump in the road. I probably would have preferred a conspiracy theory to rail against but life is full of random events and authority often has an unfriendly minority.

The school has a 180 page folder in small font describing Dean's unwillingness to participate. Not in the folder is the passive aggressive punishment he received for not participating. If the same care and effort had been given dean in the form of a friend who could treat him with respect and dignity we would be in a different place now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Oct 16 - 02:42 PM

Just seemed a good fit to post.

Turning Toward the Morning

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Oct 16 - 06:17 PM

That's good to hear Nigel . I remember hen you were expressing your worries about ann . A weight off you both hooray !                Blessings all.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 16 - 04:34 AM

Dear Donuel, state schools in the UK are not without their faults & inconsistencies, but based on my own experience, a 180 page folder of 'concerns' would have almost certainly been included in an application for 'Statementing'...a process, once triggered, that provides extra, specialised help & support for the student in question. There are cost implications, so Statementing is a rigorous & often protracted process, but once in place, it can transform that student's life. I was profoundly angered to read that Dean was punished in such an insidious way, rather than receiving the help & understanding he needed. To use your words, dignity & respect were conspicuous by their absence.
             Frustrated by my inability to help in any concrete way, I nevertheless offer my experience & training unreservedly,
                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 16 - 04:56 AM

Pete, thank you very much. A "...weight off" to be sure...& I omitted to say that Ann was recently discharged from her TIA clinic too, so a double weight off.

Janie, unfortunately 'Turning Toward the Morning' is unavailable on UK YouTube. I'm betting we're missing out on something special.

Mysha, thank you for underscoring gnu's post. You signed off with: BFN, which took me straight back to my childhood when TTFN (ta- ta for now) was in common usage.
                                        With love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Oct 16 - 11:45 AM

Awww, who would block access to that song; I would make a substantial bet that none of the trio were behind it. That song is so beautiful musically that it would be hard to resist even if the lyric were an ode to Donald Trump instead of the actual gentle words of encouragement. I've been hooked on it for years.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 16 - 12:07 PM

Dean, pound to a penny, copyright & particularly regional rights are the reason for the song's omission. I just knew it had to be 'right song, right time'...Janie's choices are always impeccable.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Oct 16 - 09:45 PM

Double good news for Ann!

Donuel, I'm sorry that your son has been treated in such a way.

Nigel, let me know if this link let's you hear Turning toward the Morning.

http://tidido.com/a35184374020351/al55f14689a5f3907573837406/t55f1468ba5f39075738374ef

If not, you can still read the lyrics here.
@displaysong.cfm?SongID=7448

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Oct 16 - 05:44 AM

Thank you very much, CL. Unfortunately the Tidido link is also not UK friendly, but I found a performance of 'Toward' on YouTube...not by Gordon Bok, but an iffy cover. The lyrics link DID work...HOORAH! & compensated for the lack-lustre cover. It is a beautiful song, perfectly judged by Janie. I posted above about "...regional rights", that should be "...territorial rights", something about which I have personal experience. Only about one third of my published guitar arrangements appear on my website, the remainder languish in a 'territorial rights black hole'. Very frustrating, but something about which I can do nothing.
                                                                   Musically,
                                                                                  Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Oct 16 - 12:13 PM

I can confirm that Guardian Angels exist. In my case, specifically a Music Guardian Angel. I have received a copy of an album I really wanted. It arrived unsolicited & completely unexpectedly.
               Thank you, Guardian Angel, my head is now reverberating with new songs.
                                                             With Love,
                                                                               Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Oct 16 - 08:54 PM

I'm happy to know that your MA is caring for you, Nigel!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Oct 16 - 09:55 AM

Neat, ChanteyLass, very neat...love it...thanks...put a smile on my face (-: (-:

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Oct 16 - 09:14 PM

Nigel, that was supposed to be MGA for Music Guardian Angel! Auto-correct must have changed it! I use MA often as the abbreviation for my neighboring state of Massachusetts, so I may have "taught" that to auto-correct. I'm glad you got a chuckle out of it, anyway.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Oct 16 - 03:54 PM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Oct 16 - 06:36 PM

This thread is still a wonderful place for encouragement and comfort. That said, should you need some nonsense and belly laughs, check out "olddude for president" BS thread, where Rapparee and Severn are out-doing themselves (and giving olddude a run for his money).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Oct 16 - 09:11 PM

Today my wife had the cataract removed from her right eye and that was the last one. Tomorrow, immediately after the post op appointment, we drive to Reno for the 90th birthday party for her uncle.

Did I say "we"? Well, after 43 years of marriage "I" and "we" mean pretty much the same thing.

(Her uncle joined the US Coast Guard at 14(!) and then the Marines. He made the long walk back from the Chosin Reservoir.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Oct 16 - 09:25 AM

Glad to hear the catawrecks are all done.

Buy the old fellah one for me and say "Thank you, sir."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Oct 16 - 03:14 PM

Great news about your wife, Rap. I'm glad you are the half of we doing the driving, though! Give my love and respect to your uncle. I'm glad he made it home, but it must have been awful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Oct 16 - 07:08 PM

Fair winds and following seas, Mr. and Mrs. Rapparee.

Hope Keith and his household are hanging in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Oct 16 - 08:17 PM

Hey Rap, reassured to know Pat doesn't have a 3rd eye awaiting cataract surgery:>)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Oct 16 - 10:36 PM

Rap, minutes ago public television showed a promo for American Experience. On Nov. 1 the episode will be about the Battle of Chosin! That's the date for it in Boston, anyway. Check your local listings because Providence usually airs programs after they've been viewed in Boston. In my part of RI, I can watch broadcasts from both cities. If I hadn't read your recent post, I wouldn't have known of your family connection to that battle.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Oct 16 - 02:41 PM

A thought for Severn, by the way, who disclosed on another thread the recent passing of someone with whom he made music for many years; it must be like losing a brother. Sorry for your loss, Severn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 29 Oct 16 - 10:42 AM

Keberoxu, Sev's friend Phil passed away a year ago. We remembered him at this year's Getaway - all our ID badges had Phil's photo on them and songs were sung in his memory. Lonesome EJ wrote a song after Phil passed called Any Friend of Hank's in Phil's honor and he played it at the Saturday night concert.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Nov 16 - 10:10 PM

Good thoughts tonight, please, for a good friend and mudcatter who hasn't posted in a long time. He found his lovely and troubled daughter dead in her room tonight. Lost his wife just a few years ago to a long term illness. Without his permission, I won't name him, but I know this crew doesn't need names to hold people close on tempest tossed seas.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Nov 16 - 11:06 PM

He (and I can guess who) is in my thoughts and aura of positive energy.

The party went well, the honoree was indeed surprised. His grandson, the officer, was there as was his 89 year old brother in law from DC and his wife. Carlos said that there WILL be a 90th birthday party in Maryland next year to honor is BIL and he will be there.

One of the things on display was the presentation case (about 20 x 20 inches) of Carlos' bronze star medal (with V for valor) and the documents that go with it. "How," said someone, "did they get that here without you noticing it was missing?" "They stole it," replied Carlos. Actually, they got him out of the house and on the way to the party and then someone went back for it.

The day after tomorrow I fly to Illinois and will be gone most of November. Yes, Pat is coming out about eight days later.

Oh, yes. Driving to and from Reno. Pat insisted on "doing her share" both ways. So much for eye surgery. She has a post-op appointment tomorrow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Nov 16 - 03:28 PM

What a tragedy, Janie. Thanks for letting us know. Circle the wagons, folks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Nov 16 - 05:29 PM

What a terrible shock for this member. Take a long time to come to terms with . What could we say ......

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 02 Nov 16 - 07:50 PM

Y'all 2 are tough as nails, RAp. Glad Pat's recovery is going well. Safe journeys to you both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Nov 16 - 08:54 PM

Janie, of course I'll add my love and send positive energy to the Mudcatter in such sad circumstances.
Rap, good going for you and Pat!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Nov 16 - 08:08 AM

sending good wishes to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Nov 16 - 04:48 PM

What could we say, indeed.

Those of us who have first-hand experience with both trauma and grief, will remember occasions when trauma blended with grief, and the blend was so intense as to make the whole more than the sum of its parts. It really defies description, the feeling is a devastation.

Our simply being present for the bereaved survivor, is, already, something that will make itself felt. Our presence cannot change what brought the person to this pass. And projecting a future outcome does only so much, and no more. Being present with the grieving survivor, respecting the mourning that must be experienced now -- this we can do, and our actions of being and doing must speak for us.

I don't have anything novel and original to say, but I mean sincerely what I say. Hope our Mudcat member/colleague knows that he is not alone at this time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 04 Nov 16 - 07:36 PM

In real time, Dean got his medicine at long last.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Nov 16 - 05:57 AM

good news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Nov 16 - 09:22 AM

This poem was a great comfort to me when my Father died. It has been read at many funerals, but the sentiments expressed are timeless:


Death Is Nothing At All

By Henry Scott-Holland        

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!



Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/death-is-nothing-at-all-by-henry-scott-holland

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Nov 16 - 07:41 PM

Donuel, I'm glad Dean has his meds!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Nov 16 - 05:51 AM

Echoing ChanteyLass' comment, Donuel. As much as I hate taking medication, there are times in our lives when 'meds' are needed...hopefully for the shortest time possible to achieve the desired relief & support.
                                       Love to All,
                                                       Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Nov 16 - 08:15 PM

Nigel, your post was 5,500! Jane's Rainbow sails on. It's good to see so many seasoned seamen (and women) are still aboard, and green hands are always welcome on this ship.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Nov 16 - 12:30 PM

I had no idea, ChanteyLass, thank you for sorting out the maths! I agree, we have a superb crew, but there's always room for more. No experience necessary, come aboard & you'll find a hammock with your name on it.
       I'm currently 'home alone'. Our North Carolinian daughter has a new job which meant a relocation to Dallas, TX. Ann is presently visiting. I'm not fit enough to fly...day surgery scheduled for next Thursday, but I'll be out of action for the whole week. 'Low residue' diet & 48 hour fast before & 2-3 days for post-op recovery. We have great neighbours so there will be more people than usual in our house next week. If I could just have the neighbours in & do without the op., that would be ideal!
                                                          Much Love to You All,
                                                                                             Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Nov 16 - 05:04 PM

Nigel, I hope the surgery goes splendidly. I'm glad you have good neighbors to rely on while Ann is in the US.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 05:23 AM

Thank you for your good wishes, Chantey. I want Thursday over & done with.
                                          With Love,
                                                          Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 07:29 AM

Echoing the well wishes for the surgery and recuperation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 08:45 AM

Well wishes from me also, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 02:38 PM

Sending my own good thoughts, Nigel, to you and to all others.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 05:46 PM

Sending good thoughts your way, Nigel.

I'm just going to sit here in the galley for a bit with a nice hot cup of cocoa with a ton of whipped cream. It has been a rough week, and not just the political issues in the US. Yesterday, a dear friend's father passed away on her son's birthday, and another dear friend's father was in a car accident and is in the ICU. Anyone have any gingersnaps stashed away in here?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 06:38 PM

I need t' speak up more, but there aren't many days that I don't look in here and think of you all. Fingers, toes, and eyes crossed for Nigel's surgery. May Dean's medication continue to make life better for him and the family. And may our favorite Ranger have some better days.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 06:50 PM

Ranger1, I hope your little four-footed friend Beau can comfort you. Maybe there are doggie biscuits on board to go with the gingersnaps....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 07:07 PM

Thanks, Keberoxu. He's good company and he makes me laugh. Dog biscuits make him happy, as does peanut butter, and other dog treats. He also likes his Lambchop.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 08:39 PM

Ranger1, where in this world did you find those cattle? In your photos, I mean? They look like Highland.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 08:57 PM

So many people need hugs or something:
Mrrzy, Mysha, olddude, Nigel, the bereaved parent whose identity is confidential....hugs-or-something to you all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 10:01 PM

ranger 1, I never remember seeing a dog with a color pattern like he has on his back; is he part caterpillar?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Nov 16 - 11:38 PM

Keberoxu, they belong to some friends here in Maine. I was honored to be asked to farm-sit for them last spring. In addition to the highland cattle, they also raise Tamworth pigs, have a large mixed flock of laying hens, a small flock of guinea fowl, a cat, and a border collie. It was mostly fun and a lot of hard work, in addition to taking care of the farm, I was also working full-time at my park job.

Dean, he may very well be part caterpillar for all I know. It's kind of brindle, and then there are the parts where the hair is growing back from when he was first rescued and had open sores that the vet shaved around. The hair has mostly grown back, but he'll have a couple of permanent small bald patches from the deeper wounds.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Nov 16 - 05:19 AM

Thank you all for your good wishes. I've had to have this procedure before, so I know what to expect, which doesn't exactly fill me with joy! Essentially it involves removing suspect, internal tissue that has proved to be benign so far. I have to be checked every three years. A small but uncomfortable price to pay for peace of mind.
                Sending love & hugs to all in need & all who would just like a hug!
                                                      Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Nov 16 - 07:49 PM

Ranger1, I'm sorry about your tough week. I hope you get those gingersnaps and they bring you comfort.
Nigel, again, I hope all goes well. Let us know when you are able.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Nov 16 - 06:00 PM

Thinking of all- especially Nigel and Tami... and you!

Anyone know where billybob/Wendy is? No word since September, if I'm not mistaken. WENDY, if you're there in the bow sipping hot cocoa, please look upstairs for the Secret Santa thread. Your Santa needs to hear from you there, please. If there are some current challenges keeping you from Mudcat, please let one of us know how you are, by PM if nothing else.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Nov 16 - 06:55 PM

Ranger1's friend Beau is a most photogenic little dog. I'm going to re-open a DOGS Mudcat thread, in hopes that we can continue checking up on Beau over there, not to mention the dogs that other Mudcatters have brought home since that thread went to sleep.

In the meantime, the world is under a heavy atmosphere of confusion and uncertainty these days, which is challenging enough when one is well in body and mind. My heart goes out to everyone who has asked for prayers here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Nov 16 - 12:20 PM

Nothing original to say or add. I just feel kind of empty, and I need to let myself be filled by something greater than I am. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Nov 16 - 02:48 PM

Come have cocoa and gingersnaps in the galley with me and Beau, Keberoxu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 16 Nov 16 - 03:21 PM

I did a radio show WBBF about the death of a pet. The call ins broke all the records.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Nov 16 - 05:21 AM

Felt pretty wretched Thursday evening & Friday...excessive, post-procedural pain & an adverse reaction to the sedation being the main contributors. On Saturday, I managed to leave the house & made it to the shops. Today, Sunday, I'm feeling considerably better & may continue with a new piece I'm writing. Sincere thanks to all who sent PMs & emails...hearing from you makes such a difference. Benign is the word I'm looking for when the biopsy report appears in a few days time.
                Much love to You All,
                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Nov 16 - 07:14 AM

Glad to hear you are feeling better and I do hope you get the "good word", Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Nov 16 - 08:19 AM

Oh dear, so sorry I had no idea everyone was wondering where I was.All safe and well here.

First do hope you are feeling better today Nigel, keep warm indoors if you have the wet and miserable weather we have here at the coast, hot chocolate and a good movie for me I think.

So an up date, had a little scare with Billy as he had "tummy trouble" for ages and of course said nothing!Men!! Anyhow the Dr sent him fast track to Colchester Hospital and after a few unpleasant procedures they diagnosed Diverticulitus so that was good news as we were thinking the worst. So no more spicey foods.

Then our daughter had a housefire caused by a very old Tumble drier, the girls were sent out to the garden in their jimjams and bare feet, but were impressed when the firemen sat them in the fire engine while they checked out the house. Sam had put it out with an extinguisher , good thing as the fire brigade were the wrong side of the duel carriageway, Sam could hear the sirens but they were lost for a while! Did a few thousand pounds of damage to the laundry room but all the family were safe !

It is nearly a year since we lost my darling mum I miss her more every day, and sometimes photos of her pop up on facebook which cause a little heartache, but we have had some lovely family gatherings this year and she is always in all our hearts.

This time last year ,today in fact, Billy and I went to New Jersey to see his family for the holidays. How quickly this year has gone. So wishing all of you over there a very Happy Thanksgiving on Thursday. I will go to the galley and make coffee and get going on the pumpkin pies!!

lots of love and wishing all the crew health, peace and happiness
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

PS thank you Maeve I am in touch with Santa xx Ho Ho Ho

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Nov 16 - 12:48 PM

Nigel, after an experience like that one, there is nowhere to go but feeling better....I would probably be cursing a blue streak under my breath if I was that uncomfortable. Keeping you, and that lab report, in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 20 Nov 16 - 01:07 PM

Good thoughts, Nigel, that you feel better soon and that the word is benign.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Nov 16 - 08:28 PM

Nigel, I'll add my prayers to those of others.
Wendy, I'm glad that everyone in your family is okay in spite of unexpected bumps in the road. Catch my hugs when you feel sad.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Nov 16 - 06:42 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Nov 16 - 02:03 PM

Special concern and thoughts over this North American holiday weekend, for the Mudcat member who will experience this year-end family-reunion season in the absence of his adult daughter. Surviving the suicide of a loved one is especially tough during this season.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Nov 16 - 11:01 AM

Wishing all my American Friends the happiest Thanksgiving Day. If you're down Dallas way say hi to Ann for me & remind her that she's due home next Wednesday!
                            Much love to You All,
                                                               Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Nov 16 - 10:04 AM

An après holiday refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Nov 16 - 05:35 PM

Thanks, Nigel, hope you are recovering comfortably and will soon have good news.

Keith must be well along with treatment -- keep him in thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Nov 16 - 08:49 PM

best wishes to all - healthy & not so healthy

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Nov 16 - 11:30 AM

How are you recovering, Nigel?

In my little corner of the world, I had a lovely Thanksgiving with J-boy's family. They are lovely people and have treated me like I belong there from the day I met them almost 18 years ago. I also stepped on a scale and discovered I've lost twelve pounds and an inch off my waist since I got Beau. I was getting kinda pudgy there for a while.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Nov 16 - 11:38 AM

Twelve pounds...that has to be a substantial percentage of an elf...

       ; )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Nov 16 - 02:40 PM

Dean, I weigh more than most people think. It used to be all muscle, now a bunch of it is pudge. Looking to get back to mostly muscle and less pudge, thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Nov 16 - 06:13 PM

Keith A of Herford is still alive and has posted to his ongoing thread, which is good news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Nov 16 - 01:47 PM

Janie, after looking back over recent pages of this thread, I notice that earlier this year, you were keenly focused on November, when a number of things might change or present options you didn't have before, like Medicare and your employment.

If it isn't too personal, would you please update us? Best wishes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Dec 16 - 11:43 AM

Thank you for the enquiries about my health. I have no test results yet, not helped by the fact that my GP is off sick! I feel ok...I drove to Heathrow yesterday to bring Ann home. I've shopped, tidied up the house prior to Ann's homecoming & even managed a few bars of music. Energy levels are low, but providing I stick to 'slow & steady wins the race', I'm not left feeling wrecked. I will post updates when they become available. It's good to know that you're all out there,
                                                          With Love,
                                                                            Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Dec 16 - 03:24 PM

Well, I learned this morning that because of morbid obesity, emphysema, and pain pill abuse my sister has about six months to live.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Dec 16 - 04:11 PM

Rapparee, I am speechless, and my heart goes out to you. You are not alone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 02 Dec 16 - 08:34 AM

She's being moved to a nursing home today, and will be receiving hospice care. We knew that this day would come and my brother and I have been planning for it -- we had hoped it wouldn't be soon, but that's always the case.

Needless to say, the phone calls have been numerous. The family -- cousins, friends, in-laws -- is rallying, preparing for the inevitable. We never approved of her lifestyle (laying in bed literally all day and night, eating pizza and swilling soft drinks, only going out to go to the emergency room) we knew that there would be no change. Prayers assailed Heaven, but we knew that any change had to come from inside her and it hasn't.

And so....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Dec 16 - 08:34 AM

best wishes to you & your family

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Dec 16 - 03:37 PM

Nigel, hope you get the test results you wish for, and sooner rather than later.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Dec 16 - 06:23 AM

I have only that you are in my thoughts, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Dec 16 - 07:50 AM

What a horrible situation Rap , and you tried so hard to help her, with all your family pulling together . Blessings on you             Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Dec 16 - 01:21 PM

Tis (at least almost) the season

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Dec 16 - 06:54 PM

don't let the sun set on this rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Dec 16 - 11:52 PM

My post last night disappeared!
Nigel, I'm glad Ann is safely home again.
Rap, I'm sending hugs to you and your family, including your sister, of course.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 04 Dec 16 - 12:17 AM

Sorry to hear that, Rap.....people are as they are, aren't they. Having lost a brother a couple of years ago I can say that nothing really prepares us for the loss of a sibling.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Dec 16 - 03:17 PM

Thinking of Mysha and Wendy with the holidays nearly upon us. It's quite a time to be vulnerable and grieving. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 04 Dec 16 - 10:39 PM

I lost my youngest brother five years ago. My sister is the youngest of the four. Soon it will only be the Old Farts left.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Dec 16 - 12:15 PM

Becalmed, but still very much afloat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Dec 16 - 01:55 PM

Nigel, thanks for telling us, as you wait for your news, that you have no news....hoping for a happy result for your tests.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Dec 16 - 07:41 PM

My good thoughts to you, your sister and your brothers, Rap. We all have people in the family who make bad choices over a lifetime. No matter how frustrated we may get, for most of us, we still love and care deeply about them. With our siblings, we have all that history going back to our earliest days.

I'm reminded of my youngest aunt. She was the 'wild one' and Mom and her brothers were frequently frustrated. Still, not long before she died, (the youngest of them, but the first to go,) Mom and my uncles flew to Texas to spend a weekend with her. Was a beautiful and special to all of them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Dec 16 - 08:44 PM

keberoxu - just saw your inquiry. I retired, sort of, December 1. Still have my private practice and a number of folks I was seeing at the clinic are moving to that. Have also been going to a flurry of medical appointments now that I have good insurance, so not feeling retired yet as I have yet to be able to sleep in a little or have a day free - but that will come. Will just take some time. The holiday season is always tricky with my private practice schedule, and with adding 8-10 new clients is a bit chaotic but will get sorted out.

Getting stuff taken care of and seeing to screenings I have put off for 2-3 years due to poor medical insurance. All good so far, and Medicare and my Medigap policy will cover the minor issues that have emerged.

Here is a little something for the season I hope y'all enjoy. My sister, Annie Williams, playing fiddle Christmas Morning 2015 in Mom's living room.
Jingle Bells fiddle

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Dec 16 - 10:25 PM

Rap, I'm sorry to hear about your sister.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Dec 16 - 12:55 PM

Beau would like to send greetings to everyone on the Rainbow. Woof!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 14 Dec 16 - 01:01 PM

Janie... love the video! r1... WOOF!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 14 Dec 16 - 08:24 PM

Love back atcha Nigel, how are the little things?
Rap, Self sabotage is a stubborn thing that's hard to watch. Sorry.

Janie, that was fun how about an orange blossom Xmas?
I'll check out a how to you tube for dummies and give it a shot.

My corneas took a turn to the clarity of an azure sky so I binge posted lately. Dean is no better but the school officially declared him with an emotional disability and will give him school sponsored focused help.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Dec 16 - 03:06 AM

2 pieces of good news, Donuel - your vision, & you son's diagnosis.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Dec 16 - 07:43 PM

Ranger1, give Beau some pats from me.
Donuel, I'm glad your eyes are working. I hope things at school improves for Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Dec 16 - 10:19 AM

Thank you for the good wishes. I'm seeing my GP next Tuesday to get my results, but was reassured on the phone by her secretary that had there been any malignancies reported, I would have been contacted immediately. I don't subscribe to: "No news is good news", but on this occasion it would appear to be true.

               Love & thanks to everyone who has PMd &/or emailed. 2017 is fast approaching...'twill be the fifth year of our Grand Voyage,
                                                             To absent Friends,
                                                                                           With Love,
                                                                                                          Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Dec 16 - 10:46 AM

That sounds reassuring Nigel !    Indeed to absent friends , and family . The joy of Christmas often tinged with sad but fond remembrances                   Blessings all Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Dec 16 - 08:31 PM

Well, you may still be waiting for your test results, Nigel, but that word of reassurance doesn't hurt at all. Hold that optimism as Tuesday approaches.

WOOF back atcha Beau. Rejoice in the snow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Dec 16 - 05:04 PM

Glad things are relatively smooth for all at present. cARRY ON. sMOKE EM IF YA GOT EM.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Dec 16 - 06:39 PM

Keep the Rainbow above the surface.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 03:24 AM

My sister, Martha, died at 10:15 p.m., December 18, 2016.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 05:14 AM

Rapparee, my sincere condolences to you & your Family. Wishing you well over the coming days & weeks,
             Holding you in my thoughts,
                                                          Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 05:28 AM

My condolences, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 01:09 PM

Rapparee, again words fail me, but my heart goes out to you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 02:06 PM

Expected but always hard . Condolences from me too rap ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 02:28 PM

So sorry, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 07:28 PM

Keeping you and yours in heart and mind, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Dec 16 - 09:55 PM

Aw, Rap, I'm sorry. Hugs and tissues are all I can offer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Dec 16 - 06:15 AM

Adding my condolences, Rap, to you and all of your family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Dec 16 - 09:32 AM

Flying out the 28th, obsequies on the 30th. Her ashes will share my father's grave.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Dec 16 - 02:10 PM

The holiday for the Nativity always leaves me with mixed feelings to start with. Stuck somewhere between my heart and my gut feelings, is this unfortunate dread: when everyone else rejoices in the Nativity of the infant, I am thinking, Ye gods, what a hard road that little boy has to travel. I can't get "Let this cup pass from me" out of my mind for some strange reason.

So, although there is grief and loss when someone passes on, -- depending on whether the passing is expected, or a complete shock -- it consoles me to consider that someone has been released from suffering.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Dec 16 - 10:24 PM

adding mt condolences to Rap & family

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Dec 16 - 05:59 AM

Sending all my love Rap, so sorry to hear about your sister

Love to Nigel too, hope yesterday's results were good news

fondest love to all

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Dec 16 - 04:27 PM

Don't forget Keith, who is due for a scan to see if the latest course of treatment has shrunk the tumor.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Dec 16 - 12:24 PM

Thanks for the reply, Janie, and hope your first Christmas as a retiree is a very healthy happy one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Dec 16 - 06:31 AM

I wish each & everyone of you peace & joy over the Christmas Holiday & trust that 2017 will be filled with the goodness Life can bring. My sincere thanks for your loyalty, compassion & wisdom. You are an exceptional Crew.
                                                             Much love to You All,
                                                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 23 Dec 16 - 02:27 PM

Hi,

This is the moment where I finally feel strong enough to post again, only to find that I don't actually have much to say for now. c-:

I read the posts, and I sort of sound along with the good and the bad, like a resonance string. I guess I wish people for the continuation of the good times, where appropriate, and the change of fortunes where things aren't going so well; calmer times for those who lost kin and/or loved ones. Well, no matter your fortunes it comes down to:
I wish you smooth sailing.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Dec 16 - 04:36 PM

Thank you, Mysha. You reassure us all by poking your head around the corner. It feels good to see you, even if you are not back at full strength just yet.

Hope Skarpi is now fully recovered from what was bothering him several months ago.

Be careful and be happy this holiday weekend, everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Dec 16 - 06:33 AM

MERRY HO HO!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Dec 16 - 06:47 AM

I am in the galley, the stove is warming up, I have mince pies, mulled wine and merry music. Who will join me?

Wishing you all a very Happy, Peaceful Christmas, health to all who are not too chipper, Happy memories of Christmas past with loved ones who are no longer here.

I was not looking forward this year till I heard some words of wisdom from a good friend " Wendy, your mother loved Christmas, she loved seeing the little ones open the presents, she loved the shopping for all the family, she spent Christmas eve making mince pies and sausage rolls listening to the carols from Kings College, she made the family traditions that you carry on in her memory "

Happy Christmas

with all my love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 24 Dec 16 - 12:37 PM

My sister.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 24 Dec 16 - 01:30 PM

That's a beautiful image, Mike. I just attended the memorial service for a friend, and thought of your sister and her whole grieving family.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 24 Dec 16 - 03:09 PM

Looking at the obit notice for Rapparee's sister, is to observe how grief sometimes is grief squared:
one power of grief for the actual passing on;
and grief to the second power, over the person who you remember from many years before, who has been someone different-looking for a long time. Especially so, if you did what could be done to support some form of recovery, and the person wasn't having it.

That one is going to smart deep down.
Until it is time for you to travel back for the observances, Rap and better half, eat and sleep well, and take good care of yourselves, the better to be present for the other grieving survivors where you are bound. Holding you and your grief over my heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Dec 16 - 08:44 PM

Rap, my heart goes out to you and your family who are grieving at this time of year.
Wendy, everyone should have a friend like yours. I'll join you in the Galley presently, and I'll bring tea for anyone who won't join us in drinking your mulled wine.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Dec 16 - 11:10 AM

Thinking of you all on Christmas Day. Thanks for being on board.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Dec 16 - 09:22 PM

Merry Christmas (or whatever you celebrate), y'all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Dec 16 - 06:38 PM

This holiday season I am grateful not to have been greedy and excessive, at least not this year, so the day after Christmas feels healthy and stable for me. I spare a moment for communion of spirit with those whose feelings are bruised and whose bodies need more time to recover, because the holidays can be a bruising and battering occasion, and I know whereof I speak.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Dec 16 - 11:13 AM

When I sent the previous post, I had yet to hear about the mall fights....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Dec 16 - 08:54 PM

Off tomorrow at 0430 MST for the bus to take us to the plane to take us to Denver to catch the plane for St. Louis where we'll overnight before picking up the car to take us to Quincy for the funeral and things. We're staying here, in a "suite" of 450 square feet. That's almost half as big as our first house! Cost: USD 70 to USD 90 per night.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Dec 16 - 10:01 PM

Holding you and all your family in my thoughts, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Dec 16 - 09:17 PM

Rap, when you have to deal with family sorrow, you might as well do it in nice digs! I'll send comforting hugs to that address.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Dec 16 - 05:53 AM

I assume, Rap, that you'll be staying in the Executive King Suite?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Dec 16 - 12:42 PM

Rapparee's sister Martha's obsequies are today. Keep that family in your thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 30 Dec 16 - 02:31 PM

This crew is very good at remembering, even long past the usual time of concern. ;)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 30 Dec 16 - 06:24 PM

Rap may your room have free qorn.

miss the good.
I am missing cat laughing and others who are missing in action.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Dec 16 - 06:57 AM

To all who visit here & sail with us & those who have ventured over the far horizon, I offer this for the New Year:

"If there is righteousness in the heart, there will be beauty in the character. If there is beauty in the character, there will be harmony in the home. If there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nation. If there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world.
So let it be!" (Gaelic blessing)

Bliadhna mhath ur! • [ blee-unna va oor ] HAPPY NEW YEAR!
                                  With Love,
                                                    Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Dec 16 - 07:58 AM

Happy New year

sandra in Sydney 11.55pm NYE

pics of Sydney's 9pm fireworks with 5 mins to go to midnight -

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Jan 17 - 09:26 PM

Well, this has been an exciting day! We were going to go to my brother's place a couple of hours driving away to visit and work over some of the problems my sister has left.

So we had lunch and on the way back to the car -- Pat took a tumble. A ride in an ambulance ensued, as did four and half hours in the emergency room.

Dislocated left index finger and a banged up knee. The dislocation has been reduced and she's sitting across the room with ice on her knee.

I do hope that this is a foreshadowing of a really good year. You know, get the bad out of the way early....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Jan 17 - 10:02 PM

Rap, I hope today was your and Pat's worst day of 2017!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Jan 17 - 10:09 PM

So sorry, Rapparee and missus, and keep accentuating the positive. We are thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Jan 17 - 04:41 AM

an excellent idea, Rap - getting the bad out of the way in the earliest part off the year.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 02 Jan 17 - 10:59 PM

We went out to dinner tonight. I drove.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Jan 17 - 07:50 PM

Reported by Rapparee, on the Mother of all BS Threads, that he and his wife will spend another week in Quincy, IL.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Jan 17 - 06:18 PM

Oh dear. Again. How distressing, Rap. My best to you both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 Jan 17 - 12:07 PM

A whole bunch of creditors aren't going to collect a cent. Ain't nothin' but bills.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 05 Jan 17 - 12:44 PM

Rap, I hope Pat is feeling better after her tumble.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Jan 17 - 02:01 PM

Keith A and Mary of Hertford made it to the New Year, and as many of you know, are planning to travel. Bon voyage!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 07 Jan 17 - 12:32 PM

Pat is black and blue, and has been in pain from the joint bruises, fro a week now. We fly home on Wednesday next and she will go see the our doctor(s) there, complete with a video of the x-rays and CT scans and all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Jan 17 - 12:37 PM

Ouch, and ouch, and again ouch.

Such a shame about your sister and the mess that she has left for her brothers to clean up after her, Rap. But dealing with the mess now means that those things can be put in their place once and for all. Hoping that your family makes decent progress with that sad task before you and your wife return home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jan 17 - 02:32 PM

Terribly unfortunate. My thoughts are with you both, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Jan 17 - 05:30 PM

Mysha, are you hanging in there?
It was most thoughtful of you to post recently.
Keep on keeping on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 12:27 PM

Here is hoping Pat's tumble will not require surgery or a long term cane.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 12:47 PM

Good advise, Maeve. I know I have occasionally not been sufficiently mindful of that.

Rap and Pat - time for the two of you and your extended family to have a long, smooth stretch of calm and contentment. I'm sending out ethereal vibes to the ether to try to entice the Universe to go along with that plan.

I'm accepting that my leg is never going to be 100% and also figuring out that I can do a lot of stuff regardless, just not as well or as strenuously as I once could. Not letting fear hold me back as much, and think I have figured out the difference between pain as an alarm system and pain as something to not worry about.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 02:15 PM

An apology from me is due to all at Jane's Rainbow in particular, and at the Mudcat Café in general. I regret any offense given.

It isn't the first time someone has taken me to task for line-crossing, and knowing me it won't be the last, no promises there. The beauty of the Mudcat is that civil exchanges and corrections are possible in this community, as well as interactions outside civility. I sincerely appreciate Maeve's example setting. Thanks everybody for putting up with me, and I'm sorry for giving offense.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 02:48 PM

Thank you. It begins to look and feel like stalking. To correct that appearance, one might politely request that a moderator remove personal information that has been mistakenly posted without the owner's consent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 02:54 PM

err. advice. I should proof read before posting, not after.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 08:18 PM

Tomorrow to Springfield to meet with my brother and his wife. Tuesday to St. Louis. Wednesday, well....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 08:59 PM

Travel safely, and enjoy your visits, Rap!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jan 17 - 09:52 PM

m... you are a treasure. Glad to know you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Jan 17 - 01:06 PM

Keep the Rainbow sailing, and hopefully I won't do anything to mess it up again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Jan 17 - 01:38 PM

Jan 12th is our fifth anniversary. It is the date Jane received her diagnosis. I reached out for help & you responded swiftly, unselfishly & as it turned out, unstintingly. Unwritten 'protocols' regarding disclosure, privacy, advice-giving & support have evolved naturally over time. It is my earnest wish that our voyage continues thus.
                   Ann & I send love to you all & wish you a very Happy New Year.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 09 Jan 17 - 02:43 PM

Hello, Nigel. Love to you and Ann- and to Rap and Pat. Still sailing!

Maeve

(Thanks, Janie and gnu.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 10 Jan 17 - 07:45 PM

Safe journey home, Mr and Mrs Rapparee.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 11 Jan 17 - 06:02 PM

Please, folks, be careful not to invade anyone's privacy in a thread like this - or in any threads, for that matter. Respond in this thread to what people say about themselves in this thread, but don't go posting information about people other than yourself.
-Joe-

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 11 Jan 17 - 06:54 PM

Thank you very much, Joe. You've helped resolve a most upsetting situation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Jan 17 - 10:37 PM

We are home. Now to collapse, at least for a time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Jan 17 - 06:54 AM

12th January, 2017, our fifth anniversary...how wonderful! My, we've covered some miles. None of this would have been possible without Max's vision & the creation of Mudcat, so please, if you can afford a penny or two, make a donation...Mudcat is one of a kind.

Joe, thank you for your kind, clarifying words.

Thank you to all who visit here, regulars, passers-by, whomsoever ye may be.

Wishing everyone a "calm sea & a prosperous voyage",
                                                                                        Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Jan 17 - 07:50 AM

Any 'Catters living on or near the east coast of England...Suffolk & Essex in particular? Following the severe weather warnings, are you safe & well? I heard on the news this morning, at least two thousand people have been evacuated inland for their own safety. There is at least one crew member who lives in that neck of the woods...hoping to hear from them.
                                             With Love,
                                                             Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Jan 17 - 04:30 PM

Yeah, there are a few Mudcatters that I know that are there as well, Nigel. One reported that all was okay so far but that, before the storm, massive flocks of birds were on the go and crapping all over his solar panels. That scenario never occurred to me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 14 Jan 17 - 05:23 AM

Morning all,

Hi Nigel, all safe here in sunny ( !!) Frinton. Yes they were very worried and I do feel for those who were evacuated from Jaywick, but if anyone goes there they will see that the dwellings are small holiday type chalets and below sea level , the sea wall is only a couple of feet high. Many people drowned there in the 1953 floods. A lot of folk braved it out but if the wind had not dropped just after midnight there would have been a dreadful disaster.
My thoughts were with our local coastguard and lifeboat crew , many of them are our friends and were out two nights running in very cold and unkind weather keeping everyone safe!

We have had a lovely New Year, too much "bubbly" maybe but once a year eh? Billy has now started a very bad cough and fever but antibiotics kicking in, hopefully he will feel better soon, I do worry as his immune system cannot fight on its own but his last check up with his consultant was good so fingers crossed.

We are celebrating our youngest granddaughter's 8th Birthday tomorrow, today she is taking 17 friends roller skating in Colchester for a Birthday treat , bless mummy and daddy they are very brave or s......?

Good news the family have bought a new ,to us, beach hut at the Naze, my favourite beach so this summer Nigel and Ann we WILL get you down one Sunday for a proper get together!

wishing everyone on board lots of love

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Jan 17 - 05:55 AM

So pleased to hear from you, Wendy. I was fairly sure you wouldn't be in harm's way, but there's always that element of doubt. Aah, a beach hut at the Naze...memories of beach cricket & my Father charging down the pristine beach in his woollen(!) bathing trunks to dive into the sea. I agree, we must meet this year.
Gnu, some folks on the east coast did get flooded out, but the storm surge turned out to be weaker than forecast. A bad start to the new year, but not the catastrophe of biblical proportions that was expected. As for the solar panels...words fail me!
          Set a course for the sun, Mr. Mate,
                                                                  With Love,
                                                                                  Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 14 Jan 17 - 05:56 PM

Tommy has been ambulanced to hospital    Septic pneumonia . Looks bad , praying ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Jan 17 - 08:52 PM

Oh, Pete! I'm praying along with you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Jan 17 - 09:48 PM

We're here, Pete, come what may.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Jan 17 - 10:23 PM

Good thoughts and prayers, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 05:44 AM

With you every step of the way, Pete,
                                                            With Love,
                                                                            Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 06:40 AM

My thoughts as well, Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 09:48 AM

Hi,

Yeah, I'm hanging in there. (Apparently I missed a bit of rough sea, but I expect that's for the best for me.) I think I overdid things a bit, this week. Busy at work, plus the people from the auction came to take away stuff for auction. That was a bit too much, though I'd parked the emotionally-laden stuff out of the way.
Curiously, I don't mind the idea of the auction that much. It's just stuff, and they are going to put prices on it, etc. It's more difficult to sell something myself, as it feels like cheating: Things that are of no value to me, but that I have to claim are worth something so buyers can pay for them.

Oh well, if that, and getting rained, hailed and snowed upon in yesterday's weather, are the worst of my problems, I should count my blessings.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 11:58 AM

Holding Tommy (and all of you) in my thoughts, Pete.


For some reason my posts to this thread have not been 'taking' the last 3 days. Not having that problem with other threads. Hoping this one shows up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 12:18 PM

Hi, Mysha. It seems you are letting go where needed. It is good to focus on what matters to you. I'm glad to hear from you. Thanks.

Pete, we're gathering around although we are miles apart from one another.

Janie- I sometimes forget to hit "Send". Any chance that's part of it?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 03:44 PM

So sorry to hear this about Tommy, Pete; joining with all the crew here in pulling for him and for strength and comfort for you family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Jan 17 - 05:38 PM

He's been putting up a fight , sometimes literally as he hates invasive medical work. On antibiotics and oxygen but his infection markers are high. He is also very compacted and the bowel flushes through his ace stoma are not working well. Thank you for your support and prayers

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Jan 17 - 02:11 AM

best wishes to Tommy & his family & friends

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Jan 17 - 05:35 PM

Pleased to say that the worst seems to be over and tommy is far brighter and making progress . Still in high dependancy unit but looking much brighter and alert. Thanks again for your kind comments , well wishes and prayers .       Blessings.       Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Jan 17 - 07:46 PM

I hope Tommy's condition continue to improve.
Mysha, I'm glad you are hanging in.
Rap, are you and Pat done collapsing?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Jan 17 - 09:30 PM

An electrician is coming tomorrow to begin the installation of a new gas cooktop.   The electric one we have lived with for thirteen years is down to one heating unit that works pretty well, one that sometimes works as it should, and two that don't work at all. We are moving from electric to natural gas and the cooktop area is being redone. A new exhaust fan, surround, light, and all. This was all planned to happen before Christmas, of course.

Recovering? "A consummation devoutly to be wished!" I hope that she gets in to see a doctor soon about the aftereffects of the fall. I'm doing better, I think.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jan 17 - 06:21 AM

News to 'warm the cockles' from Pete, Mysha & Rap. Long may it continue.
                                     Love to you all,
                                                             Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 Jan 17 - 11:14 AM

Sending love and hugs to you and Tommy Pete, hoping Tommy is feeling better day by day.

Keeping in a corner in the galley as Billy and I are full of cold germs, Billy is on steroids for a dreadful cough, I am trusting on hot lemon and honey for me.

Roll on Spring,

with love

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Jan 17 - 07:24 PM

Here's hoping Mrs. Rapparee gets the right pain meds -- it is hard to live with that kind of pain (hematoma!), whether it is your own pain or the pain of your better half.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Jan 17 - 08:26 PM

Well, you see, higher dosages of ibuprofen are prescription-only in the US. That is, 400 mg or higher. Of course, you can always take two 200 mg tablets, but (just theoretical, you understand) if someone was in Europe it might be possible to obtain higher doses per tablet and bring them into the US. One's husband might also have specifically asked a surgeon after a knee surgery to prescribe 800 mg ibuprofen instead of, say, Tylenol with codeine. Mind you, this is all supposition because you're not supposed to do those things.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jan 17 - 05:44 AM

Rapparee, your eloquently tangential prose is worthy of publication in 'The Lancet' (-:
                         Wishing you both Good Health,
                                                                            Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jan 17 - 07:54 AM

Well, the day has arrived...is America & possibly a sizeable chunk of the rest of the planet on the verge of four years of the 'DTs'? (Intentional play on words) or could we be pleasantly surprised? Ann & I will be glued to our TV at 15.00 hrs (UK) to watch the inauguration. A final thought, 'Jane's Rainbow' has unlimited capacity, so do come aboard if it's all getting too much!
                                           Love & fingers crossed,
                                                                                 Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 20 Jan 17 - 09:34 AM

With type 2 I was hoping diabetes drugs would forgive the indulgences of the holidays. The doctor called me today over my blood test and ordered me to come in for immediate insulin treatment.

Its time to get skinny and serious over diet. I still have cargo to throw overboard to stay afloat longer. So far so good.

Upon starting a 15 ft. painting called 'equinox' a remarkable thing happened. My eyes became as sharp clear and acute as when I was 20.
This can happen with Fuch syndrome but is always in variable flux.
That night I could see the silhouette of people in high rise windows 3/4 of a mile away.

I am getting Dean a sugar test.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Jan 17 - 05:12 PM

Nigel, I also refer to our new president as DT when I'm not calling him "that man." I'm trying to avoid actual name-calling, but it's hard! I have avoided the tv all day but I am enjoying the classical music radio station near me.

Donuel, T2 diabetes is a progressive disease, and it's inconsistent and unpredictable. Some days I think I've done everything--diet, exercise--right, but in the morning my fasting glucose is high. Other days I know I've overindulged in the wrong foods, but the next morning my glucose is fine. I know eventually I'll need meds and suspect that an A1c will soon indicate that. What I'm saying is, don't beat yourself up. (Though I probably will when it's my turn. It's much easier to give advice to others!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jan 17 - 06:02 PM

Donuel, ChanteyLass is spot on regarding T2 Diabetes. Mine is controlled by medication (Metformin) & diet. I have a six-monthly foot checkup & Hba1c blood test plus an annual eye test for Retinal Neuropathy. Despite being 'well controlled', T2D has caused capillary damage & nerve damage in my feet. I too indulged over the holidays & suffered as a result. To use your own words: "It's time to get...serious over diet". I can't emphasise the importance of those words enough. There will come a time when my tablets will have be replaced by Insulin. I want that moment to be as far away in the future as possible. Please PM me if you want to discuss T2D in more detail. I'm not a doctor, just a patient who was diagnosed a fair few years ago. I applaud your decision to get Dean's sugar tested.
               Wishing you both good health,
                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Jan 17 - 09:09 PM

Since I have never watched or listened to an inauguration before, my record stands unbroken. Instead, I cooked dinner the new cooktop. Installation was completed yesterday and now I have to learn to cook on a gas stove again.

Dinner was carrots and parsnips in a butter/honey/mustard sauce, green beans, and very thin pork tenderloins seasoned with very little salt and a bit of pepper. Dessert was fresh strawberries with creme fraiche served on slices of toasted pound cake.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jan 17 - 04:51 AM

Rapparee, having watched the inauguration as a concerned bystander, I find myself wishing I had spent the time with a new cooktop on which I could've cooked a similar mouthwatering feast. A delicious meal vs. listening to DT...that's a no-brainer for me! I wish you many more culinary delights, courtesy of your new gas stove,
                                                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 01:13 PM

A gentle pull on a sheet & up we go.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 04:59 PM

adding my bit

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 06:51 PM

Tommy has had a serious dip today with some episodes of panic suctioning to clear gunk off his chest and bring his sats levels up . Very close to losing him , and consultant says next couple days critical . However, when I left him he was sleeping peacefully and without struggle .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 07:02 PM

Pete fssl, hoping for a happy outcome, as scary as the ups and downs are.

Keith A in Hertford, happy to see (posted) that he left on his travels as scheduled.
Hope he and his wife have a pleasant, happy, well deserved holiday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 07:21 PM

keberoxu: "Keith A in Hertford..."
No. Please remember what we've said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer - PM
Date: 11 Jan 17 - 06:02 PM

Please, folks, be careful not to invade anyone's privacy in a thread like this - or in any threads, for that matter. Respond in this thread to what people say about themselves in this thread, but don't go posting information about people other than yourself.
-Joe-

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 08:33 PM

Maeve, please chill. Keith said this himself, and keberoxu is just repeating it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 23 Jan 17 - 09:55 PM

Prayers, Pete. Prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Jan 17 - 01:07 AM

Pete, I'm certain the combined emotional resources of 'Jane's Rainbow' are supporting you & Tommy, every minute of every day.
                                 With Love,
                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Jan 17 - 01:28 AM

'Jane's Rainbow' has never been a thread of dissension or 'news-mongering'. For many, including myself, it has served as a haven, a sanctuary if you will. Please preserve, protect & respect our founding ideals.
                                             With Love to All,
                                                                      Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jan 17 - 07:08 AM

Thoughts and prayers, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Jan 17 - 12:50 PM

Here, just being quiet in the corner.

Pete, thinking positive thoughts for Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Jan 17 - 06:47 PM

Oh Pete. Holding Tommy close in my heart.

Rap and Pat. Keep healing. Probably should not attempt sled riding just now.

Maeve, may it be cozy inside.

Went to PT for the ulnar nerve this morning. Not sure the PT or the splint is gonna help, but won't hurt, and as I do research, leaning away from surgery even if the PT doesn't help at all. It isn't clear at all that surgery has more than a 50% chance of being helpful, and is apparently very painful with a long recovery time, whether it helps or not.

Did some work in the yard today. Not a lot, but some. Got new hand clippers for Christmas, plus had done some oiling, cleaning, sharpening of larger clippers so they work better and require less hand strength. The right hand tools, and well-maintained tools make a difference. Plus it was a good leg day. The old gray mare ain't what she used to be, but still plugging along.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jan 17 - 09:28 PM

I'm stopping by to wish relief to all who are suffering, or to their loved ones who are. Whether your pain is physical or emotional, I wish you well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 25 Jan 17 - 05:00 PM

Monday was a year from when my grandmother passed. It also hit me that there will be no hand-made Valentine's Day card and package of cinnamon red hots in the mail for me, either. It's always the little things, isn't it?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Jan 17 - 10:14 PM

It's the little things that surprise us by how much they hurt, ranger1. Is there a child in your life, niece or nephew perhaps, for whom you can make a card and send with cinnamon red hots? If you gran's cards were elaborate, you can make a simple one. I've folded red card stock in half and cut the outline of one side of a heart so that when unfolded it is a whole heart. I'm glad you have Beau to hug when you feel sad.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Jan 17 - 06:13 PM

Janie, glad to hear that you keep on keeping on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Jan 17 - 01:57 PM

sometime quiet, always needed and appreciated.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Jan 17 - 11:46 PM

Pete & Tommy, Ranger1, Janie...we're all here for you.
                                     With Love,
                                                    Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 31 Jan 17 - 02:46 PM

My heartfelt sympathies to the Mudcat member attached to a broken ankle.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Feb 17 - 03:44 PM

Tommy has got through it and is now home . However his left lung is still down , but he is looking pretty well , though still weak . The medics didn't expect him to survive and they have warned us that they don't expect the lung to heal , reminding us again that it's in the last stages. But we have heard that before ,and though we have increased care to give him , he is still with us . Thanks again for the prayers and well wishes offered            Blessings.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Feb 17 - 05:10 PM

sending love & good wishes to Tommy & his family & frirnds

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Feb 17 - 06:11 PM

My prayers for Tommy and others will continue.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Feb 17 - 07:25 AM

Sending love and prayers To you and Tommy Pete.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Feb 17 - 11:04 AM

Glad to hear Tommy is home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Feb 17 - 08:51 PM

Tommy's tough!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Feb 17 - 09:56 AM

He's thrown a couple of wobblers last couple of days ....a good sign really !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Feb 17 - 11:08 AM

Glad he is home, Pete. May he continue to strengthen.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Feb 17 - 04:00 AM

Pete, the news about Tommy has given my Sunday morning the something it was lacking...hope. That he is well enough to return home is such an achievement. Where do you all get the strength from?
                      With Love,
                                       Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Feb 17 - 03:29 PM

Thanks . In answer to your question Nigel ,I'm sure you won't be surprised that I would say ultimately I believe it is God and my Christian faith. I would add that I believe His strength in my weakness is displayed by family and friends too , that send kind thoughts and offer prayers , not the least of which being the crew of this fine ship.                         Tommy seems better today than yesterday , and though we've been told again not to expect him to live another year , we don't give up hope .            Blessings.          Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Feb 17 - 05:55 PM

Pete, I just did a little looking back in this thread, I didn't read all of your posts about Tommy, but I read a few more. It helped because I am a relative newcomer here, so did not know about Tommy's myotonic dystrophy.

Also did not know that Tommy has been with you for over ten years, and for all of his teenage years, or that he was not expected to live to see the teenage years.

It's all very eye-opening and humbling for me.

My background has been in a family of origin where people have great physical resilience but they share emotional and psychological dysfunctions which few, if any, admit to or offer up for healing. Said another way, my family has a long history of people playing at being victims and martyrs, the hypochondriac sort, and often as not they outlive everyone else. Up close and in contact with them often, as in my childhood, what you witness is people draining each other.

So it is really humbling and edifying to see people giving to each other instead of taking from each other.
Sorry for going on about myself and my history this much.

Much gratitude for this thread and the hard-working humanity of those who keep this thread going.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Feb 17 - 11:03 AM

A gentle nudge upwards.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Feb 17 - 04:20 PM

With two deaths in the family things will be up in the air for awhile. There is an efficient advantage in a two-fer one situation like this.
No need for the sweet talking circling pet vulture of the grim reaper to personally respond or the folks with the private email address' of angels on high to ask for special dispensation. The departed will be deeply missed.

When the unfortunate are 82&90 as well as distant in laws, you can understand the mixed feelings.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Feb 17 - 08:24 PM

Oh, dear! Regrets regardless, Donuel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Feb 17 - 04:40 AM

Donuel, mixed feelings fully understood. Sincere condolences from Ann & myself.
                                                                   Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Feb 17 - 11:34 AM

Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Feb 17 - 07:20 AM

morning,

fingers and everything crossed please as Billy is seeing his leuchemia consultant this morning for his 4 monthly blood tests and check up.

We had bad news last week about our ten year old granddaughter. Most of you know that she has a bad hearing loss and wears hearing aids. She has never had a diagnosis until now. She had an MRI last June and ( after 7 months??) had an appointment Friday last with the top Consultant. They say she has EVA and there is no treatment unfortunately. The really bad news is that she must never have a bang to the head as this may cause immediate complete hearing loss. So no gymnastics, horse riding, contact sports. But for 10 years she has done all the cartwheels and sports etc as no one knew of the risks. If mummy had known when she was first born I am sure she would have been wrapped up in cotton wool so it was probably a case of ignorance is bliss! So now we have to try to keep her safe without making her feel different or making a fuss."Be carefull" will be very difficult not to say!

Off to put the coffee on,
love to all, extra to those worried or unwell.

While I have been typing this Billy phoned the tests were all clear, no sign of anything bad. He is still on the trial from Leeds University and has been clear for 3 years!! Next appointment in 4 months. Whoop de doop, might open some fizz when he gets home, glasses at the ready for the Rainbow crew.

much love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Feb 17 - 11:28 AM

Glad to hear about the tests, Wendy. Too bad about the young lady. I hope she "is careful" but doesn't lose out on anything.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Feb 17 - 12:41 PM

Seems like the 'ignorance is bliss ' has been a blessing for the previous years Wendy . Let's hope having to be more cautious now won't be too upsetting for her . Great to hear continuing clearance for billy though.                                                                                 Yesterday was a nice sunny day , and it was also the first day since tommy came home from hospital that we got him out , and he was pleased to be pushed around the village in his chair . He had also stood for a bit unaided .   Things looking up here !                   Blessings all.         Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Feb 17 - 09:18 PM

Pete, hooray for Tommy!
Wendy, hooray for Billybob's and hix test results! I'm sorry about your granddaughter's diagnosis, though. That's sounds like it will be tough to deal with.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Feb 17 - 09:58 PM

Awakened this morning with muscles on the inside of my left elbow hurting like that-unpleasant-place-sinners-go and it did so all day. Saw the baby doc this evening at the clinic and I'm wearing a sling for the next couple of days. Basically, they have no idea what the problem is. However, it hurts to turn my left hand palm-side up or to touch it in places. I'm supposed to be in Oslo on the 15th! AAARGH!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Feb 17 - 07:23 PM

C'mon, Rap! If it hurts, don't do it!
I hope you're soon out of pain.
Oslo--nice, but not with a sore arm.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Feb 17 - 09:40 PM

Most likely I've torn the bicep loose at the elbow -- a distal bicep tear, just like the one I did to right arm some years ago. Because fixing this will involve surgery I've stopped taking aspirin and ibuprofen for pain and am using acetaminophen with mild codeine. I will see the hand/arm doctor Tuesday (Monday's a holiday) and I will get an MRI. I still hope to cruise the sunny shores of Norway from the 15th of March through the first week of April. Relaxing on the deck of the M/S Trollfjord, dancing under the stars until dawn...actually it's an educational trip to investigate the Aurora Borealis. I do hope I can go!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Feb 17 - 06:26 PM

Oh, my! I certainly hope you can go, and without pain or restricted movement. That was supposed to be my next trip, with the same line of ships but on a less luxurious one. I was hoping to do it in 2018, but just learned that my son's family is going to Disney World this fall and I may join them there. If I do, it will take some time for my budget to recover.
If you do this trip, I hope you'll share a lot of your adventures and photos where I can see them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Feb 17 - 04:43 AM

Rap, you & your wife have done your bit for the medical industry over the past few years, fingers crossed for you - again!

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Feb 17 - 04:30 PM

That looks very nice rapparee

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 21 Feb 17 - 07:03 PM

Surgery Thursday morning to reattach the left bicep at the elbow. The doc didn't even need an MRI -- he could tell by looking and feeling. It's about an hour procedure and no overnight hospital stay. The doc feels that I'll be able to visit Norway if I'm a good boy and really, really careful. Being on a ship means staying in one place for a couple of weeks, so it shouldn't be too bad once I get aboard.

AND! Pat has a biopsy on her right breast tomorrow. Something about the architecture therein. She won't do anything until after Norway, though.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Feb 17 - 08:28 PM

I'm glad your arm can get a quick fix. I hope you have calm seas and don't need to reach out suddenly to steady yourself.
I also hope Pat gets an "All Clear" for her biopsy results.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 21 Feb 17 - 11:41 PM

Rap if you see a pale beer in Norway called Giraffe get it. It has a long neck with spotted foil. You will find it amazing and you won't need pain killers or the ability to stand. It will be imported since it is brewed in Denmark.

Keb, If you are going to make summaries with people's permission you should know what the facts are which are far more encouraging than your words portrayed. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK1165/

I met the 80 year old next door neighbor of my son who lives off campus. They both share an interest in history. After chatting I noticed we had a similar knowledge base, psyche and curiosity. I asked if he was an aviation engineer and he surprisingly said yes. The last plane he helped engineer was the 767. I believe he is a national treasure if we had that designation in our society as they do in japan. We share the same first name among other things like a fascination with pre history. My son's vitality and drive is infectious and refreshing. I hope they continue to look after each other with support and comfort.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Feb 17 - 04:35 PM

Donuel, clicked on your link about myotonia and certainly recognised a lot of tommy in there. Could not work out your comments though , or whether they related to tommy or someone else. Or to how it related to keborux , though he did comment on tommy and our care of him. But thanks for the link ( where it was not too tech for me !).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Feb 17 - 12:57 PM

I should probably stop posting on this thread.
However I sincerely send good wishes even as a lurker to the thread.
And I hope Rapparee is on that cruise ship off of Norway soon, even if he has the use of only one arm.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 25 Feb 17 - 07:10 PM

Hm, Hurtigruten! That brings back memories. I never went myself, but my mother went, and she liked it very much. She brought back shiploads of photographs, and it was the topic of one of the presentations (?) that she would do around the province, and sometimes abroad. Happy memories. (-:

It also inspired some word smithing of mine at one time. It made it to the WWW to my surprise; it may still be around. Oh dear, another one I should probably list on myshas.net, I guess. When will the list ever be complete?

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 26 Feb 17 - 10:01 AM

I am not the person to draw a line between privacy and summarizing someone else's issues without a PM to ask permission.
For one thing privacy no longer exists and I become more old fashioned with every passing year.

I brought this up in what I thought was a tactful way but was instead cryptic. Without Keb I would have been in the dark so his post is a good thing. I was also worried. What if someone posted a prognosis regarding a child who was not told of a dire reckoning and read the post ?

I over think most things so if there is no problem there is no foul,
which means Keb should post to his heart's content.

btw Dean and us got into the top tier of support in the country for his condition of wanting to hide.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 Feb 17 - 05:40 PM

No problems keberoxu or donuel . We are well aware of the gravity and danger of tommys condition. And I am sure you both meant best. .       Tommy still doing quite well despite the deterioration , though we are having infection problems with the catheter.       Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Feb 17 - 08:27 PM

Donuel, good news that Dean will get that level of support.
Pete, dang those catheters and their infections! I hope they clear up soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 28 Feb 17 - 11:44 PM

I don't check in to Mudcat as often I used to so can fall very behind here. My brain also ain't what it used to be so after reading through the posts here and the many cares, concerns, and also good news, when playing catch up, by the time I post I can no longer recall each and every concern by name of person even though I just read. My apologies for my lack of brain cells.

Still sailing and a hand on deck, even if I'm simply up in the sails and don't make eye contact when I shuffle down onto the deck, grab a cupppa then scurry off to my hammock.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Mar 17 - 09:20 PM

So this is what Janie's doing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Mar 17 - 09:31 PM

Janie, aloft or below, it's good to have you aboard.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 02 Mar 17 - 08:42 PM

Next Tuesday afternoon many things will be known.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Mar 17 - 11:08 PM

Rap, good things only, I hope!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Mar 17 - 08:49 PM

I see the doc to get the splint off and clearance for the Norway trip -- and we meet with the surgeon about Pat's infiltrating ductal carcinoma...surgery AFTER Norway!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 03 Mar 17 - 11:28 PM

Rap, have a good time in Norway. I lived there for three years when I was in my pre-teens. As you sail down the Oslo Fjord, wave at a little town called Drøbak for me, will you? You'll know it, they'll probably point it out, it's the narrowest part of the fjord and there's an island with a fortress called Oskarsborg in the middle. It's where a German ship called the Blucher was sunk just prior to the occupation in WW II, which slowed down the Germans just enough for the King and the Parliament to escape to the west coast and from there to the UK, many of them smuggled over on fishing boats. And if you get the time, check out Akershus Fortress and the Resistance Museum in Oslo. That was one of my favorite things to do when we'd get a day in Oslo.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Mar 17 - 02:13 PM

Thank ya, Ranger1. That was on the List Of Things To Do In Oslo, as well as have lunch with Harald and Sonja at kongehuset. Haven't seen them in, like, forever!

Pat had lymphoscintigraphy today. As soon as the surgeon knows the results we'll know the results and be able to plan surgery and the followup. Norway is not optional.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Mar 17 - 07:45 PM

very big word!
Lymphoscintigraphy (sentinel lymph node mapping) is an imaging technique used to identify the lymph drainage basin, determine the number of sentinel nodes, differentiate sentinel nodes from subsequent nodes, locate the sentinel node in an unexpected location, and mark the sentinel node over the skin for biopsy.

enjoy your trip

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Mar 17 - 07:50 PM

Well, back when she had thyroid cancer at 17, the doctors at DC's Georgetown Medical Center took out her thyroid, parathyroid, and 71 lymph nodes. She says she was "peeled from neck to armpit." There might not be any nodes to discover! That was better than half a century ago and things have improved somewhat, I guess. Oh! The thyroid cancer is linked directly to the x-ray treatments (!) she got when she was 7 to treat...poison ivy.

This will be her fifth type of cancer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Mar 17 - 09:58 PM

Oh, my! That makes me want to avoid all medical treatments that haven't been used for at least 100 years!
Hugs to you both!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Mar 17 - 09:30 AM

They found a sentinel node! This makes it easier to decide where we go from here!

Medicine, especially surgery, isn't pretty. It does seem to advance, though, and Pat would have been dead years ago if it weren't for those advances. So would I, for that matter.

There's a billboard here touting the skills of a doctor who is the "only surgeon" in the area who does shoulder replacement surgery as an outpatient procedure. Personally, if I have to have a shoulder replaced I want some time in the hospital afterwards!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Mar 17 - 11:43 AM

It sounds like the diagnosis could have been worse, but still . . . .
I would rather not have an outpatient shoulder replacement, either. Hospitals are no fun, but I've nobody at home to help out, and I'd want to be sure my shoulder was working before being sent away. I suppose even after an inpatient surgery I'd soon be sent somewhere for therapy. Of course, now it seems insurance companies, not doctors, decide what one "needs."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Mar 17 - 08:54 PM

Well, mister and missus Rapparee, it is what it is. Thank goodness you can go on your Norway cruise. As you have posted in the past, if you stay at home, the doctors will get you....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 14 Mar 17 - 02:30 PM

Hi,

OK, I added those lyrics on my site.
(Not above the line as it's the wrong genre.)

Rapparee, if you read this message before you sail: This one will tell you where you're going: Lyrics.
Enjoy yourselves, the both of you.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Mar 17 - 02:46 PM

Hoping all our folks in the Northeast USA and Canada are tucked in well and safely out of the storm.

Y'all check in when you can.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Mar 17 - 05:20 PM

In RI, we had snow which changed to rain. I got the snow off my car while it was still snow, before it became wetter, heavy, and slushy. It is still raining. Temps are expected to drop to below freezing in a few hours, and there may be a few snow showers followed by wind. My home hasn't lost power, though others have.

A wind turbine has toppled. It powers the bathhouse at a small state beach and was erected about two years ago. The winds were too strong. I hope others in the state and those yet to be built are/will be sturdier.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 14 Mar 17 - 05:29 PM

I'll second that

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Mar 17 - 05:46 PM

Hunkered down here on the coast of Maine. So far, so good, as long as I don't lose the power. I don't have to be anywhere for the next several days, and I have plenty of food in the house. All else fails, I can strap on my snowshoes and walk to the market, it's not that far away.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 17 - 11:36 AM

Our power and cable were out from 2 - 8:30 AM. A drunk hit a mainline pole with his truck. So the storm was only really bad for him. A mere inconvenience for most of the rest of us. Mum was freaked out, of course but she's getting back to normal now. Damn weather terrorists, scaring the elderly like they do... even naming winter storms now to get betters ratings.

I waited for light, did my usual "storm stuff" at Mum's, cleared the snow from the garage door, had a bite, and headed back to Mum's to get the generator hooked up (big job). It's nineteen steps door-to-door. When I opened the door, the power was back on. >:-D

Must check the weather in Chicago... hope the Raps get away without delay.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 15 Mar 17 - 01:52 PM

No power loss here. I did lose Beau briefly in a snow drift. I thought it was funny, puppy not so much. I have half the porch cleared off, the plow guy has been here, and I still have no place I need to be, so I will take my time clearing a path to the car and clearing around the car. I will need to get out sometime today or early tomorrow morning. I am out of coffee.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Mar 17 - 07:09 AM

Very belated good wishes to any Crew Members & all 'Catters affected by the inclement weather. It's not usually this bad in March is it? I can remember sitting in my Daughter's garden in March when she lived in Charlotte NC, wearing a short-sleeved polo (& jeans, natch!).
       Please keep us on your positive thoughts list. We're both going through a rough patch, physically & emotionally...nothing that can't be sorted........eventually, but 'getting there' is proving very tiring.
                              Much Love to All,
                                                          Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Mar 17 - 11:39 AM

Will do, Nigel.

Update : "The Raps" checked in to Comfort Hotel Grand Central.
Just now · Oslo, Norway

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Mar 17 - 08:31 PM

Thank you, gnu, for letting us know that Mr. & Mrs. Rap have begun their journey.

Nigel, here in Rhoe Island I remember snow as late as May, but that was a brief and surprising storm which melted away quickly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Mar 17 - 10:25 AM

Nigel, every couple of years we get a big snow storm around St. Patrick's Day. It surprises many people who think that winter is over and makes the rest of us who know better say naughty words that turn the air blue. The day of my birth, March 21st, 1969, there was snowstorm bad enough that my father was out plowing the roads for the town and my mother had to call and have dispatch radio him to come home and take her to the hospital. They got there about two hours before I made my appearance.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Mar 17 - 01:03 PM

Ranger1, your post reminds me...I was a home birth in one of the coldest '40s winters on record. We lived at the top of a hill; not particularly steep, but cover it with snow & ice & 'steep' takes on a whole new meaning. My Mother was delivered by a Midwife whose only modes of transport were a bicycle & her brogues. Somehow, she made it through, delivered me & if my Mother's recollections are true, Nurse Fisher had at least one other delivery to make the same day. What an amazing woman!
                               With Love to All,
                                                          Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Mar 17 - 10:55 AM

High tide, time to move on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Mar 17 - 06:55 AM

Nigel... what?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Mar 17 - 10:48 AM

Afternoon, just catching up and enjoying a coffee. Sending love and thoughts to Nigel and Ann, hope you are both feeling better and not too stressed. This year you really must come down that dreadful A12 ( it was closed Monday AM with a multiple accident at Rivenhall and Billy and I were taking our Niece and 2 nephews back to Heathrow for a flight home to New York! We got them there with just an hour before take off!!) and come and spend a day at the new beach hut, it is on Hipkins beach at the Naze. We must arrange a date when the warm weather comes .
We spent a lovely two days showing off London to our American young, we walked 7 miles on Saturday, from Borough market to Westminster, river bus to the Tower and dinner in St Katherines at the Dickens Inn, then back along the embankment to the flat. London is so beautiful at night with Tower Bridge all lite up. Then on Sunday we were back home and I cooked roast lamb for 14 family. It all went far too quick but was such a lovely few days.

Sending love to all, lots of coffee cake left anyone care for a slice?
With love
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Mar 17 - 12:33 PM

Ooh! Cake! Can I have a candle on mine?

Much beloved landlady-who-is-almost-family (who lives next door) fell yesterday crossing a very busy road with neither sidewalks nor pedestrian crossings and hit her head and broke her wrist. Consultation with the orthopedic specialist tomorrow to see whether she will need surgery. Luckily, a passing motorist stopped to help. Good thoughts for Elizabeth would be greatly appreciated.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 17 - 08:12 PM

Good thoughts for Elizabeth from me, ranger1. I marveled at your birth story and at yours, too, Nigel.
Wendy, I'm glad you got your family to the airport on Monday. I think London and Heathrow must be buttoned up tight after today's horrible event.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 17 - 04:07 AM

'Jane's Rainbow', a colourful name for our wondrous ship, dedicated to a lady whose life was full of colour. On the 23rd March, 2013, it was revealed to Jane, our eldest daughter, that rainbows do have an end with a Pot of Gold. Jane was our Pot of Gold. She shines as bright in our memories now as she did in life.
                                                    With Love to You All,
                                                                                     Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 17 - 04:20 AM

Gnu, apologies if I alarmed you, my 'HighTide' post was nowt more than a rather clumsy refresh!

Wendy, agreed, we must brave the A12 & head for the Naze, the location of many, childhood holidays for me. Has to be one of the finest beaches along the east coast.

Trusting that London 'Catters were not caught up in yesterday's horrors at Westminster.
                                                       With Love,
                                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Mar 17 - 07:40 PM

Nigel, even though most of us in this crew never met her, Jane shines surprisingly brightly in our memories, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Mar 17 - 08:36 PM

Good thoughts from this quadrant!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 26 Mar 17 - 03:18 PM

Hi,

The words "A12 & head for the Naze" mostly call up "Harwich for the continent" for me. But then, on the bicycle I don't go on that kind of road if I can help it; these are much older memories.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Apr 17 - 01:15 PM

For my Mom. She laid my Dad down easy. Yesterday was the anniversary of his passing. Wasn't easy for her, but that remarkable woman made it as easy as possible for her mate of 63 years. Easy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Apr 17 - 01:17 PM

Thoughts to you, Janie. (BTW... "This video is not available.
Sorry about that.")

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Apr 17 - 01:56 PM

That's because YouTube hates you, gnu.

Hugs to you and yours, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Apr 17 - 06:42 PM

Aw, Janie, hugs to you and your mom.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 01 Apr 17 - 09:35 PM

Did anyone else order their google gnome from google today? Check it out if you haven't; sounds great !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Apr 17 - 01:18 PM

r1.... Hahahahahahaa! (Running joke.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 02 Apr 17 - 06:07 PM

Taking a quiet walk around town one evening, I heard two joggers behind me. As they got closer, I heard one of them tell:
"... 'But why?', he asked."
Then they passed me and ahead of me I could hear:
"And she replied: ...".
As they turned the corner, I could hear the other jogger laughing; then all was quiet again.

Bye
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 06 Apr 17 - 07:29 PM

Oh dear, I probably shouldn't have described a running joke. It's suddenly very quite.

On the upside, there seem to be people willing to buy my mother's house. It's probably a bit of pressure to get it empty in time, but there's hope that after this I'll get to enjoy Summer without having to wonder how to get rid of the house and its mortgage. I might even feel like singing some folk songs. (-:

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 07 Apr 17 - 10:12 AM

Pat's breast cancer surgery, which we thought and were told was to be April 6, is now scheduled for April 13. Pray that she doesn't get ahold of the hospital administration!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Apr 17 - 08:40 PM

Rap, I'm sending a GRRR to the hospital administration--but not to any of the staff who will be caring for Pat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 07 Apr 17 - 09:22 PM

Good news today from the surgeon. A lymph node was found on an ultrasound and it looks normal. A simple mastectomy, maybe a little radiation, perhaps tamoxifen. It all depends on what is found when she (the surgeon) gets inside. AND the drains may come out only a week later, instead of three weeks last year.

Yes, it was a year ago today that she had a left mastectomy...a complicated one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Apr 17 - 07:24 AM

Good news - YAH!

best wishes heading Pat's way for next week. I'll be away from the 12th to 18th, but I'll be with JennieG @ National folk Festival & as she has a laptop we can follow your news.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Apr 17 - 03:45 PM

Ditto Sandra on the news, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Apr 17 - 06:43 PM

Oh, dear. 13 April, Maundy Thursday, and "let this cup pass from me."

Easter Sunday you all will still be waiting for news about the outcome of the surgery, and still recovering.
Keep it positive. Holy Week is a good week for prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Apr 17 - 08:33 PM

I'm always glad to read good news. Now I'll hope for more!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Apr 17 - 02:37 PM

Keith A of Hertford posted what he called amazing news to his "chemotherapy" thread.

When he started the thread, he had a pancreatic cancer diagnosis, and the doctors had concluded that surgery was not an option given the progression of the cancer. That was over a year ago.

Numerous treatments later, the doctors find that much of the tumor is no longer discernible on the scan. This means they can attempt to operate.

Keith posts that the surgery is scheduled for 24 April.
I reckon that he would welcome all the well-wishes, thoughts, and prayers of anyone so inclined; I certainly send mine.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Apr 17 - 09:37 PM

As will I.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 17 - 11:15 AM

We know only too well the nefariously unpredictable nature of cancer. Keith's news makes very good reading. Ann & I send our sincere good wishes to Keith, his Family & the medical team who will be in attendance.
                                  With love to all concerned,
                                                                            Nigel

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 12 Apr 17 - 12:18 PM

'Hoist the sail'

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Apr 17 - 07:20 AM

Been away at Winchelsea . Tommy still reasonably well , though we have had problems with his cathurter. Next week is his 18th , an age he was not expected to reach ! I trust Pats surgery has/is going well raparee . Sounds good for keith . Blessings all.         Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Apr 17 - 07:33 AM

Pete, lovely to read that you've been to Winchelsea...beautiful part of the coast. What an achievement that Tommy reaches his 18th birthday next week. Your caring, love & devotion has played a significant part in guiding Tommy through many difficult times.
                                 Sending love to you both,
                                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Apr 17 - 01:00 PM

Thanks, Pete. She's in surgery right now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Apr 17 - 05:49 PM

Rap, by now I hope Pat is out of surgery and doing well. Please update us at your convenience.
Pete, I'm sending early Happy Birthday Hugs to Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Apr 17 - 07:42 PM

She was out of surgery and recovery around noon; about 1 p.m. she arrived in the hospital room. She'll be there at least tonight. The surgeon said all went well and she believes that there was no spread beyond the original place. A "simple" mastectomy was done, i.e., the chest wall muscles, etc., weren't touched.

When I left she had just awakened from a nap of 90 minutes or so and the massive headache she had after surgery had abated to the point of tolerance.

Fifth bout with cancer and the first recurrence.

Going to dinner and then back to the hospital.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Apr 17 - 04:44 AM

Rapparee, thank you for your update. Quite how you found the time amazes me. Ann & I send our sincere best wishes for Pat to make a complete recovery, soon to return home. We are thinking of you too. The 'carer's rôle' is not without it's difficulties. Take good care...your health & strength play a significant part in the 'bigger picture'.
                                                   Sending love to you both,
                                                                                           Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 14 Apr 17 - 09:14 AM

Thanks for the update, Rap - will also let Sandra in Sydney know, we're at a folk festival this weekend. Pleasr pass our best wishes on to Pat for a speedy recovery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Apr 17 - 08:37 PM

Thank you, Rap, from me, too. I'm glad the surgery went well and that the outlook is good. I hope Pat quickly recovers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Apr 17 - 09:07 PM

She's home and wandering around the house. Tomorrow the intake nurse from home health care comes. Yes, she's in pain, especially when she does something which she shouldn't. She'll be back asleep soon; she's doing that a lot just like she did last year. Now comes my part.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Apr 17 - 11:42 AM

Glad to hear things went well, Rap. Take care of you both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Apr 17 - 11:38 AM

Happy Easter to the Rapparees, and relieved to hear that this year's procedure went more comfortably than last year's.

And Keith A from Hertford, happy that you are here for Easter.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Apr 17 - 02:38 PM

Adding my amen to the above !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Apr 17 - 04:26 PM

Update:
Keith A of Hertford posted to his "chemotherapy" thread the other day.
His surgery schedule has been moved forward.
The operation was today.
He says when he is able, he will post.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Apr 17 - 07:30 PM

sending best wished to Pat, Keith & everyone

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Apr 17 - 09:53 PM

And today I have my first EVLT for venous insufficiency in my legs. My right leg will be done next week. It has not stopped me from doing anything today. Not varicose veins, just the blood not returning as it oughta.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 21 Apr 17 - 12:00 PM

Sending my love to all of the above, good healing thoughts to everyone in need.

Had to get new locks on the salon door this morning, some "kind sole" had tried to jemmy open the door in the middle of the night, no real damage done but made me quite cross. There have been a number of break ins in the Frinton shops over the past few weeks, very unusual but we live in unusual times don't we?

onward and upwards, going to a music session in Walton this evening, dare I sing, such a long time since I have.... but maybe

fondest love

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Apr 17 - 09:54 PM

join the chorus & SING!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Apr 17 - 07:29 AM

Thanks Sandra, actually I sang " Live not where I love" , we had a wonderful evening
Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Apr 17 - 09:34 AM

wishing you many more wonderful evenings (& days) singing

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Apr 17 - 07:42 PM

Rap, I hope your right leg treatment goes well, too.
Wendy, I hope your new locks do their job.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Apr 17 - 06:35 AM

It's St. George's day, so for all of us fighting personal & collective 'dragons' I wish strength, perseverance & an eventual end to the conflict.
                                                                            With Love,
                                                                                             Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Apr 17 - 04:02 PM

Well, tommy was born 18 yrs ago today , with his own battles. He was not expected to get here , but here he us , and in good health considering his condition. We had a little thanksgiving section in this mornings service during which Becky said a few words , and I sang a song about him beck asked be only a few days ago to write..       Blessings all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Apr 17 - 12:07 PM

Pete.... wonderful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 25 Apr 17 - 07:13 AM

Wishing Tommy a very happy 18th Birthday

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 25 Apr 17 - 07:44 AM

A landmark birthday for Tommy in more ways than one. Love & congratulations from Nigel & Ann

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Apr 17 - 09:09 AM

& from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Apr 17 - 08:00 PM

Just want to say, Mysha, nice to hear your wry wit in your posts. Hope you are feeling stronger and less of what one wise priest once called "the oceanic ache" inside. Keep on keeping on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Apr 17 - 09:11 PM

Go for it, Tommy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Apr 17 - 06:16 PM

Haven't been on Mudcat for longer than usual, and just catching up. Happy Birthday to Tommy. Go Pat! Go Rap!

Many good wishes for all.

maeve, you and TL doing OK?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Apr 17 - 01:55 PM

Just seen the news on the chemotherapy thread looking very encouraging too .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Apr 17 - 10:23 AM

I, too, have been away from Mudcat for longer than usual. Belated birthday wishes to Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 30 Apr 17 - 05:43 PM

Hi,

Thanks, keberoxu. I think the wry wit scares some people, so, I'm happy to see it's also appreciated in some way.

I actually had one of the worst New Moon scares since years this week. Nothing medical, though: Suddenly all this clearing the house seemed completely impossible. Fortunately, one of my colleagues from work was in the house with me and she helped me stay active, though it was very confusing. All good again the next day. (-: I often wonder how other people feel a New Moon. Are any of you more panicky when it's New Moon? (Or vv., mm..)

And congratulate Tommy with his 940th septimanaversary. Or was that yesterday? I get confused with the time-zones, sometimes.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 May 17 - 08:53 AM

In binary, Tommy is 00010010 years old. Over 10,010!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 May 17 - 05:32 PM

Mysha, that sounds more than a little bit post-traumatic, that incident.
Good thing someone was with you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 May 17 - 08:41 AM

Mysha, panic attacks (which is what this sounds like) can be minimized or alleviated. See a good psychologist, preferably one trained in Cognitive Behavior Therapy or Prolonged Exposure Therapy -- both work.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 05 May 17 - 04:16 PM

Hi,

Yes, I guess they are panic attacks of a kind, as people with Asperger syndrome are indeed supposed to get. But since by now I know what causes them, I can mostly handle them.

E.g., I just found that something in my shopping bag had leaked a bit. On 27 days of the moon I'd wipe every item as I take it out of the bag (regardless of whether it needs it), and throw the bag in the laundry. At Full Moon, I'm likely to take a more active solution, like moving the contents of all items to other containers, so I can dump all the packaging immediately. At New Moon, I may leave the shopping bag as being impossible. (The next day, I'll rescue what I can.)

I did look into this one, but it's hard enough to find someone who doesn't look funny when I say the Full Moon influences my daily cycle. If I were to say those panic attacks Asperger literature talks about are actually New Moon-related, the reaction might for me be hard to cope with.

Anyway, not to worry: It's only once or twice a year that I notice it's New Moon from the scare I'm having, and this was a bad one, as such scares go. But thanks for the advice.

Bye
                                                               Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 May 17 - 06:46 PM

Mysha, I'm glad your colleague was with you and able to help. May you always be with such a person when a new moon arrives!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 07 May 17 - 04:38 AM

Hi,

Thanks ChanteyLass. With New Moon being during the day and me working in a school there's fairly good coverage where that is concerned. (-:

Oh: "who doesn't look funny" should probably be read as "who doesn't give me funny looks". I'm rarely talking with clowns or mimes about things like this.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 May 17 - 05:33 AM

A gentle upwards nudge. Greetings from London,
                                                                               Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 May 17 - 05:42 AM

Ann returns home from TX tomorrow...suddenly a month is transformed into a few hours. She celebrated her birthday whilst she was away, so we're going to have a 'welcome home birthday bash' as well.
                     Love to All,
                                       Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 May 17 - 08:25 AM

Say Happies Atchya for me. Partaaaay!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 May 17 - 10:50 AM

welcome home happies from me! enjoy your celebration, Ann

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 May 17 - 08:32 PM

Um, Nigel, will the bash before or after Ann recovers from jet lag?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 May 17 - 07:54 AM

Welcome home and Happy Birthday Ann xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 May 17 - 11:54 AM

Thank you for your good wishes, all passed on to Ann. 'Birthday Bash' was something of a misnomer. Once Ann has worked her way through the 'six hours behind', we'll probably go to Tomassi's in Southend-on-Sea for a leisurely lunch. Good mains & more homemade, Italian ice-cream for desert than you've ever dreamed of! She's currently unpacking...it's 16:50 our time. I think she might just make it to supper, plus an extra hour or so & then, in the words of my Dear Departed Grandmother: "Up the wooden stairs to bedfordshire".
                                          Much Love to all,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 May 17 - 07:26 PM

Sweet dreams... to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 May 17 - 12:11 AM

Ah! Sounds like a good plan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 04 Jun 17 - 10:00 PM

Working the sheets for a bit.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Jun 17 - 06:35 AM

Treasured memories of Pat Patterson, 'Catspaw', who slipped over the side, 20th June. Pat's PMs would make a great 'Life Guide'...The World according to Pat Patterson.
                                                    With Love,
                                                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Jun 17 - 08:30 AM

the wit & wisdom of spaw -29362 messages from 1998 to 2014

his final post was on on this thread 29 May 2014


    WOW......First to Wendy with my thanks for such a wonderful post.

    AND SINS!!!!! Simply unbelievable is all I can say but I do have some inkling of how you feel. May the feeling hold and get even better.

    Bottom dropped out for me the day after I posted but we're coming back. Not sure where the problem is, whether I lost the balance or the daccogen has some strange twists to it.....Whatever it is I got a couple of pints and and we're going along fine.

    NEED GOOD AND GOODER THOUGHTs FOR OLD DUDE !!!!

    Dan is going in Friday for a single bypass surgery. I would have hoped the Robotic surgeries would have been everywhere by now but they will be cracking his chest which takes some recovery time. Stint doesn't do it so....Let's all send some good vibes to St. Vincent's Hospital in Erie, Pennsylvania for our old friend. I love this guy a lot and I know you do too.


    Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 21 Jun 17 - 10:15 AM

I commend you all for being who you are, that takes a giant step beyond what you do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Jun 17 - 12:41 PM

Pat's words, taken from a PM. The full PM remains tucked in my wallet & accompanies me everywhere I go:
                           
                         "...Words cannot explain how important this thread has become to me and many others. Your terrible struggle shared by Ann and of course the rocky road your precious Jane traveled became a touchstone for me and I felt a closeness to all of you and our fellow travelers aboard the Rainbow. We have so many here that offer so much of themselves it has buoyed my spirits and my sense of friendship in a way I would never have believed possible in the cyber world. To this my contribution always felt so small and the only tools I have in hand are a sincere empathy for my friends and a strange, warped' and often too quick, sense of humor. I live with the words of two men always in mind:

There is only what is. What should be never existed......Lenny Bruce

If I laugh at any mortal thing, tis that I may not weep......Lord Byron..."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Jun 17 - 05:38 PM

Thanks, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 23 Jun 17 - 08:56 PM

We're back from the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance (SCCA). Good news! No radiation, no chemotherapy! Pat has to take an aromatase inhibitor for five to ten years, but the side effects of that are known and can be dealt with! She's already set up an appointment here for Monday, and SCCA will be "patient-sharing" with a doctor here (who she really, really doesn't care for) on here treatment. The best outcome would have been that nothing at all need by done, but we'll take this!

I hope that the outcomes for all are at least as good as ours.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Jun 17 - 10:36 AM

YAH!!!!!! loud cheers & happy dance ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Jun 17 - 11:03 AM

That's good to hear Rapparee. I hope any reservations about the designated doctor share have no negative effect on medical care.                                                                  Tommy has been in hospital again, but it wasn't too serious and only 6 days. I must confess to feeling a bit stressed lately with the kids . Got quite a cough and not feeling as well as I could , and I have to remind myself that I have very little to complain about !. But tommy goes into respite for a few days next week , so perhaps I shall be more refreshed after !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 24 Jun 17 - 02:10 PM

Great news, Rap!

Glad to hear things are pretty good, Pete.

My best to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Jun 17 - 03:14 PM

What gnu said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jun 17 - 07:56 AM

Echoing gnu & ChanteyLass...best wishes to all. 'Those who would do us harm' seem to be able to strike as & when they choose, so do whatever you can to stay safe, remain vigilant on your travels but keep on keeping on. Edmund Burke's quotation was never more appropriate:

          "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 28 Jun 17 - 04:59 AM

Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Jun 17 - 03:48 PM

Waiting to hear whether Maine State government passes the budget or shuts down and whether I'm considered "essential personnel".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Jun 17 - 07:15 PM

sending good wishes & hugs

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jul 17 - 06:07 AM

Ranger1, what on earth is happening in Maine? We get all the 'TrumpStuff' in the UK, but this has slipped under the radar. Sounds pretty desperate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Jul 17 - 09:28 AM

The governor and the legislature couldn't agree on a budget by the end of the fiscal year (midnight last night) and the governor shut down the government. Only "essential" personnel are working until further notice. State police, corrections, warden service, fire marshal's office, psychiatric hospitals, and state parks. We're only essential in parks because it's the middle of summer, a holiday weekend, and public opinion, and we're running the parks with far too few people. I did get deemed essential, along with two other people, but two other members of my crew did not. It's a mess. This news report is pretty accurate: Maine government shutdown

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 17 - 10:41 AM

r1... sad stuff. I hope it gets sorted soon. I hope you saw my FB thread about softwood lumber and noted my quote about Irving changing the bill set aside in your legislature before closing session for the summer. All of the people in Maine need to be educated about, and to beware of, Irving. Already the largest private landowner in Maine (BTW, on earth), they will crawl right up your

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Jul 17 - 11:23 PM

We are back from Seattle and the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance said that Pat only need take anastrozole (spelling?) for five to seven years. NO radiation. NO chemotherapy. AND the SCCA is "patient sharing" her with the cancer center here. To put it mildly, YIPPEE!!!

For you in the UK, also take a look at the state of Illinois.... Universities there are in danger of losing accreditation, the folks who manage the lotteries are pulling out, debts are unpaid, and the state debt only gets larger. No budget for 2+ years....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Jul 17 - 11:32 PM

great news fro Pat.

Are any other states in similar trouble, Rap?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 02 Jul 17 - 08:54 PM

I understand that 11 haven't passed a budget for the budget year starting July 1. The budgets for some simply haven't yet been signed by the Governor. Seems like there was a LOT of overestimation of what the states thought they'd take in....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Jul 17 - 10:45 AM

do they have the same deep divisions as in Washington? or is there another reason?

sandra (with apologies for this brief excursion off topic)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Jul 17 - 08:08 PM

Rhode Island has no new budget. As of July 1, we are continuing to use the old one. RI is almost completely run by Democrats, including the state's speaker of the house who had his own Trump-like temper tantrum. Here's a progressive blogger's opinion. http://www.rifuture.org/ripda-new-speaker/

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Jul 17 - 08:28 PM

The article I saw in the New York Times pointed the finger at Republican governors.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Jul 17 - 08:31 PM

Oops, here's the clicky. http://www.rifuture.org/ripda-new-speaker/

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Jul 17 - 08:51 PM

thanks, Chanteylass

I love this comment -
As long as the RI legislature continues to elect speakers who work in real estate we shall continue to have policies that are based on a misunderstanding of the economy. In addition, most corruption in the USA is based on real estate, and having real estate industry members in leadership guarantees a corrupt atmosphere.

Real estate workers are very prominent in political life in Australia! One of our most prominent (in court again at the moment) is notorious for his over-the-top wedding that illegally blocked off streets, as well as voting on matters concerning his own properties.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Jul 17 - 08:17 PM

The issue in Maine was partly due to us vs them mentality, and partly due to our governor being a petty tyrant. He got his way, they signed the budget, and I got to make the call recalling our two "non-essential" crew members back to work this AM.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Jul 17 - 12:58 AM

Stumbled across this tonight. Brought up sorrow I've held back for several years.

In memory of of some one. Wish I could have helped them remember spring would come.
Lo How a Rose/ The Rose

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 06 Jul 17 - 08:11 PM

Exquisite, (((Janie))).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Jul 17 - 05:56 AM

Wonderful news, Rap!

Thanks, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jul 17 - 06:57 AM

Bravo, ranger1 for saving your colleagues.
Janie, echoing frogprince's "exquisite"...beautiful arrangement, beautifully performed. I'm not surprised you were deeply moved.
Underscoring YIPPEE! for Rap & Pat.
                                                            Love & Greetings from sunny London,
                                                                                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Jul 17 - 04:32 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jul 17 - 11:20 AM

Could do with a 'refresh' in hot, humid London. Energy sapping, 30℃ 🌞

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Jul 17 - 11:13 PM

35 C. here. Has been for days and will continue so for the foreseeable future. Unlike Great Britain, though, here in the high desert county it's a dry heat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Jul 17 - 05:06 AM

Yes, it's the humidity that gets me every time. Need to get to the coast, but not possible at the moment. Keep cool, Rap 😅

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jul 17 - 04:27 PM

88F or 32C here with high humidity. Walking outdoors is like walking through a pan of warm broth cooled just enough to eat safely. We had a break in the humidity on Friday which followed several days like this. It's only July. I'm dreading August.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Jul 17 - 07:22 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Jul 17 - 07:33 AM

Up She rises...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 26 Jul 17 - 09:27 AM

In DC the humidity is often 100% while the humility is 0%

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Jul 17 - 10:26 AM

It's supposed to climb to 81F by 1 p.m., right now it's 66F with 67% humidity. My humility is 100%, of which I am very, very proud.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Jul 17 - 09:04 PM

Remember, Rap, pride goeth before a fall--a fall in the temperature and humidity, I hope.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Aug 17 - 08:49 PM

I hope lack of postings on this thread means everyone is well, but I doubt that's possible. This is one of the kindest below-the-line Mudcat threads which offers encouragement and sympathy to those feeling unwell.) That explanation is for Mudcat newbies who may not know this thread's purpose.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 05 Aug 17 - 05:49 AM

Thanks, ChanteyLass, it is so often you who pops our thread back to the top of the list. I wouldn't mind a little TLC at the moment...struggling with Diverticulosis & Large Vessel Vasculitis. A very limited, 'low residue' diet (soo boring!) with surgery just around the corner. Summer holiday in Greece cancelled...not a very happy bunny.
                               Love to All,
                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 Aug 17 - 01:47 PM

Do what the doctor(s) tell you to do. Neither thing is very much fun.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Aug 17 - 05:06 PM

Sorry to hear that Nigel ; any music projects lately ?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Aug 17 - 05:30 PM

Aw, Nigel, that's no fun. I hope your health improves and you can reschedule your trip.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Aug 17 - 04:53 AM

Rap, I have good doctors. By 'good' I mean they seem to know their stuff AND they listen to my concerns & answer my questions. I do what they tell me & thus far, it has worked for the pre-op routine. I am most troubled by the thought of a general anaesthetic.

Pete, not much composing at the moment, but I'm using the time to work with a friend who is developing an app to enable severely disabled folk create their own music; melody & harmony.

Chantey, you're right, not much fun around right now. By the end of the year, I should be in better shape.

Thank you All for writing...it means a great deal to me,
                                                                                        With Love,
                                                                                                       Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Aug 17 - 11:51 AM

Make it so, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Aug 17 - 08:00 PM

you have a good health system & excellent doctors (they listen to you!)

best wishes for your speedy recovery

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 10 Aug 17 - 12:48 AM

Sending good thoughts. Isn't That What Friends Are For.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Aug 17 - 05:11 AM

Thank you, all, for your good wishes...the posts, emails & PMs. Surgery is scheduled for 25th August.
Janie, unfortunately, that version of the song is not playable in the UK, but no matter, I know it well & it's a lovely thought.
Today, 17th August is the anniversary of the passing of my first Wife...almost too many memories with which to cope.
                                                Love to You All,
                                                                        Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 17 Aug 17 - 05:22 AM

sending hugs

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Aug 17 - 07:01 AM

Hugs received & reciprocated in abundance, Sandra.
Janie, I found a version that DOES play in the UK...I'd forgotten just how beautiful it was. "Isn't that what Friends are For?" is the perfect choice for today too; your ESP is working well!
Gnu, making it so, slow & steady, but making it so..(wouldn't that be a great line for a song?)
                                        Love to All,
                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Aug 17 - 08:20 AM

Nigel, it probably doesn't help ease the pain, but one of my beautiful, sweet, loving nieces turns 23 today.

Good wishes headed your way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Aug 17 - 12:32 PM

ranger1, your use of the words: "... beautiful, sweet, loving..." in the context of your neice's birthday are so heartfelt, they cannot fail to comfort.

"In the midst of death we are in life" ( John Marsden)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 18 Aug 17 - 12:50 PM

Who is that bastard who came up with the phrase 'going under the knife'?

Gall bladder surgeries are the deepest intrusions.
Nigel yours is simple and far away from everything important.
There will be things you will actually enjoy
So enjoy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Aug 17 - 06:49 PM

I check in. Kinda busy. Nuff said. Keep the faith.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 21 Aug 17 - 10:59 AM

Sounds like a worthy music project Nigel .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Aug 17 - 10:30 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Aug 17 - 06:16 AM

it's 25th Aug already here in the land of Oz ...

beautiful photos to look at while waiting

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Aug 17 - 02:03 PM

Thinking of Nigel today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Aug 17 - 08:13 PM

There is a cozy, soft chair and a cup of tea waiting for you on deck, Nigel, assuming the seas are relatively calm otherwise and the wind not too brisk. Otherwise, we will move it and you down into the cozy galley, near the song circle, so you can join in or simply relax and listen - whatever suits.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Aug 17 - 10:58 PM

Great photos, Sandra. I only looked at the top set but will go back later. I did see one taken in Ballarat. I've been watching the Dr. Blake series which is set there.

My thoughts, too, are with Nigel, and I'm looking forward to his next post.

My thoughts are also with the people along our Gulf Coast, especially those in Texas. There's a new thread about Texas. I hope everyone can weather this storm. Hurricane Harvey sounds dreadful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 10:10 AM

photos

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 11:47 AM

Thank you, all for your kind thoughts. My surgery was cancelled, early Friday morning; a cancer patient needed urgent attention. So, the waiting begins again...the hospital said they would endeavour to reschedule within the next week or two. I'm left thinking about the cancer patient...did all go to plan? Was this their first operation? Does the future now look brighter for them? I'll never know...just hope they are doing well.
          Thank you, once again,
                                                Much Love to everyone,
                                                                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 12:31 PM

Thinking today of a book I read many years ago by Joan Borysenko, "Guilt is the Teacher, Love is the Lesson."

I'm a natural born caregiver. It is in my DNA. One of the hardest things for many of us so constructed is to ask for support for ourselves when we need it to be able to continue to care for others.

From my life as a social worker I am acutely aware of how abundant the circumstances of my own life have always been, even during personally difficult times. You folks are part of that abundance.

So I feel guilty and narcissistic reaching out to say that I can use some good thoughts and support for myself right now. I feel like I ought to be asking for good thoughts and prayers for those I am supporting instead of support for myself, but I'm gonna take the 'lesson' seriously, and ask for what I need. Since I retired from clinic practice I no longer have the support and ear of colleagues and friends in the same field and who are much like me to lean on and help me keep perspective.

4 people I am very close to are facing end of life issues. They expect and need for me to be fully present with and for them, and that is what I want and need to do for them. But I am often feeling overwhelmed with sadness and fear that I am not equal to the task and will fail them, or somehow try to meet my own needs through them to their detriment. I'm spending way too much time questioning myself and my motives, or feeling like a young child lost in the wilderness.

This is a hard post for me to make. Because it is about me and not about the greater needs of these 4, dear people. Thing is, I know I am up to the work I have been given to do, but only if I reach out to ask for the support I need.

Thanks, Y'all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 12:45 PM

So, Nigel, cozy up in that chair with this warm cup of tea while you wait. There are some youngster seabirds wheeling around and occasionally landing up in the rigging that are fine and fun to watch.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 05:44 PM

Janie, you need to have those "me" moments. Otherwise you can't be there for others. Self-care is needed in order for us to help take care of others. It's not selfishness, it's survival. And you know this, dear one. So make the post and absorb the comfort and love to be found here.

And on a totally different tack, my mom handed off my share of my grandmother's ashes to me Tuesday AM at our biweekly breakfast out together. I will scatter them in beautiful places that I know she loved or would have loved to visit. The first place will be on the island that is an osprey nesting sanctuary at the park I work at, once the ospreys leave for the year. And some will go to Popham Beach, where I once took her. She hated having her picture taken, but she was so absorbed in beachcombing and watching the breakers roll in that she never noticed me taking half a dozen photos of her. She was so cute in her little blue rubber boots and her rain jacket. And other places will call her name in time. In the meantime, her urn is on my kitchen windowsill, with the birds, wildlife, and wildflowers in full view.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 07:44 PM

(((Janie))) amen to what Tami said. I don't know that one person could possibly do all that their heart might be tugged to do under these circumstances.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 08:34 PM

Sandra, by now I've seen those Harvey images and videos on tv, and they're horrifying. I always wonder if I was told to evacuate, would I? I'm pretty sure I would as quickly as possible. And if everything I owned was lost, I think I'd have a nervous breakdown!

Nigel, having prepared yourself emotionally for surgery only to have it postponed must be draining. I admire your concern for the cancer patient. When you have a new date, please let us know.

Janie, please take care of yourself. I'm glad you could tell us about your situation. You are aware of the help available to caregivers in your area. Use it and don't feel bad that you can't do everything without help. Of course, whatever help is available can't possibly be enough. Take all the advice and comfort you have given others and apply it to yourself. And stay in touch with us. Even if we can't be "there" for you, we're "here" for you.

Tami, I'm glad you have a plan for your grandmother's ashes. Because of your work, you must have several beautiful sites in mind. Indeed, it sounds like you do. She's lucky, your gran.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 26 Aug 17 - 11:03 PM

Such lovely, and loving, word images you paint of your grandmother, Tami. Thank you.

I can barely stand to watch or read the news regarding Harvey. So much suffering all over the world.

I need joy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Aug 17 - 12:03 PM

Paradoxically , Jamie , your worrying that you are thinking of your own needs is rather evidence of how caring you are , and I suspect you are a great help to people you are caring for . With a prayer that you will pace yourself , and have rest and energy for the rest             Blessings all          Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 29 Aug 17 - 03:53 PM

Still chillaxin' in the Great Green Fly Infested North Woods. I check in but don't have the energy or will to post much. Carry on. Smoke 'em if ya got 'em.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Aug 17 - 03:58 PM

I gotta quit smokin....again

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 31 Aug 17 - 02:34 PM

Joining the rest, Janie, in thanking you for reaching out to us -- it is an honor to support a caregiver like yourself.

Nigel, hope the hospital does not hang you out to dry for much longer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Sep 17 - 06:42 PM

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Sep 17 - 01:50 PM

keep this vessel on the horizon

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Sep 17 - 12:01 AM

Up with the tide!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Sep 17 - 08:08 AM

keberoxu said - Nigel, hope the hospital does not hang you out to dry for much longer.

I'll second that

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Sep 17 - 08:21 PM

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Sep 17 - 05:51 AM

Yaaay after a four week cold, lost voice fever cough sneeze fest I woke up today after a drenching sweat and I emerged the victor over that little annual virus. I can swallow again without pain.
No medicine or suppressants this time. This thorny Rhino virus had a big horn.
It was as though I didn't get better until I got a bit scared.
Fear is a motivator when taken in moderation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Sep 17 - 04:56 PM

Thanks for the PMs. I must clarify my last post.

Those of you who know me know that when I post "gnightgnu" it means I am gone. Well, ahhh, yeah. That's it for now. I may be back in future. Please, no more PMs.

I'll see ya when I see ya. That's all. At ease. Smoke 'em if ya got 'em.

Keep yer stick on the ice. Stop the puck first and worry about the pain later. And keep yer head up when yer comin' across the Blue Line. That Blue Line will fuck you up late in the game. So, keep your laces tight.

Ha! Don't know why I add this but some will understand. Tight lines and straight shootin'!

Again, don't respond and don't PM me.

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Sep 17 - 08:38 PM

Donuel, I'm glad you're feeling better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Sep 17 - 11:07 PM

Red Green, it is you.

Do ya think the immune response is not just autonomic but has an emotional trigger as well? If so, dread, fear, desperation and giving up may be powerful healing positives. I have anecdotal evidence this may be so. This flies in the face of current "positive attitude advocates".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Sep 17 - 01:32 PM

No response other than to say goodnight back atcha, gnu, and hurry back soon; some of us will genuinely miss you.

Please be back in time for your next birthday, anyhow.
To whom else can I sing Flanders and Swann:

I'm a GNU spelt G N U
I'm g-Not a Camel or a Kangaroo
So let me introduce
I'm g-Neither Man or Moose
O!
G-no, G-no, G-no,
I'm a GNU
?

(okay I'll shut up now)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Sep 17 - 11:27 PM

Most of my family lives on the east and west coasts of Florida. Satellite Beach and Melbourne on the east coast and Sarasota on the West Coast. Because of the tremendous gridlock on roads and at airports since Wednesday, evacuating the state has not been a reasonable option, combined with the inability to really predict just where this huge, monster storm will go. Family has not been able to ascertain which coast to shelter on, or even if sheltering much further inland is the best plan.

I'm nervous and fearful for them as can be. They have all been in Florida for many, many years and this is not their first rodeo, but they are all clearly scared about this one. Please hold all Floridians in your thoughts, meditations, and prayers.

I'm always concerned for them when hurricanes hit Florida, but right now I am really anxious and scared for them. Maybe more than is warranted. I'm not usually a hand=wringer, but can't help myself at this particular time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Sep 17 - 12:15 AM

Janie, I hope your family comes through this safely. Let us know after things have settled down.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Sep 17 - 04:22 AM

Janie, best wishes to you & your family & others in the danger zone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 11 Sep 17 - 12:46 PM

Glad to report that all my Florida family have checked in as safe. Some can't get back to their homes yet to assess for damage - but all are safe, which is the main thing.

Still waiting to hear from friends on Little Torch Key who did not evacuate. I know Little Torch and Big Pine were hit very hard, both with wind and with storm surge. Very little info coming out thus far, but search and rescue missions are beginning to deploy. Hopefully more info will be coming soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Sep 17 - 03:36 PM

Janie, I'm glad your family members are okay. I hope you soon learn that your friends are, too. I also hope their properties are undamaged.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Sep 17 - 03:26 PM

An acquaintance who lives outside of Sarasota checked in, post-Irma.
Their property really suffered very little considering what they expected. They were able to restore power, so they are not deprived that way. Many old oak trees are on the property, around both house and barn; the trees, amazingly, still stand. Obviously a lot of branches are no longer on the trees, but the trees still stand.

Minor repairs are needed to the house and the property fencing.
The pet cats are well.
She says the bats are all right as well. Not sure, am I, regarding the bats: I suspect they are not pets, but that her property has ecologically approved bat-dwellings constructed, and that some bats have made themselves at home there.
And her colony of bees also survived.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 17 Sep 17 - 05:15 PM

Update on Dean;
He attends a special school and a children's hospital out patient program.

To my surprise they seem to be ignorant in the treatment of the biggest mental health crises for children born after 1999.

read
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/darwins-subterranean-world/201707/the-mental-health-crisis-is-upon-the-internet-generation

or listen
https://ww2.kqed.org/forum/2017/09/12/psychologist-jean-twenge-on-how-the-smartphone-has-shaped-a-generation/

I believe the prescription treatment he receives is 180 degrees the wrong way. This is something that must be addressed.
At least Dean is in an enormous group that will be seeking similar strategies in life.

Old school advice of "you'll put your eye out" or "you will go blind" or "It'll rot your brain" is no better than new school advice.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Sep 17 - 06:15 PM

Oh, dear! I hope someone will come into contact with Dean and give him the help he needs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 18 Sep 17 - 03:50 PM

for all needing comfort and support who wear short shorts.

Ow

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 18 Sep 17 - 03:54 PM

Dean is among the millions of kids who are depressed and suppressed by the internet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Sep 17 - 05:36 PM

I've got love and prayers no quick fixes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Sep 17 - 01:09 PM

Sympathy for Nigel:
he cancels his holiday in Greece
and then the hospital cancels the surgery
that he was to have had instead of the holiday.

Expletive deleted.

Or should that be,

Murphy's Law?

Hang in there, sir.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 19 Sep 17 - 08:40 PM

Reprise of the wit and wisdom of Spaw courtesy of Sandra of Sydney

5K page book

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Sep 17 - 06:07 AM

Surgery rescheduled for Monday, 25th September. If all goes to plan, I should be 'drifting off' around 13:00 hrs, UK time.
                                           Much Love to All,
                                                                      Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 23 Sep 17 - 05:41 PM

Good luck, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Sep 17 - 10:03 PM

I was wondering where you were as I opened this thread!

Best wishes for the surgery

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Sep 17 - 07:30 PM

Will be sending good thoughts your way, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Sep 17 - 05:12 PM

I've been away from MC for a few days. I just read about
Nigel's rescheduled surgery. It must be done by now! I hope all went well and look forward to reading that it did.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Sep 17 - 08:44 AM

Logging in briefly to joyfully report, as of an hour ago Nigel tells me "I'm back home…recovery time anything up to a month…pain control is the main issue at present."

If anyone would like to send encouraging notes, reasons for joy and laughter, and links to beautiful music, kindly post them here (or via PM to me) and I'll forward them directly to Nigel as well, since it may well be a wee while before he feels like accessing MC himself. Thank you. Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Sep 17 - 07:41 PM

You GO Nigel!!!! Give 'er all she's got and don't back off 'til she breaks, me son!

Don't know if you ever heard this before but it's the ultimate piece of humour I have ever heard.

Da Yammie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 27 Sep 17 - 09:24 PM

Thank you for letting us know, Maeve, and it's good to hear from you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Sep 17 - 09:28 PM

In a recent clean up (part of the slooooowly ongoing downsizing) I discovered/uncovered the label of the CD which died in the 70s & found it on youtube & have been listening to it ever since! On it's previous appearance some years back it was not on youtube, good thing I kept it.

Providence - "Ever sense the dawn" - Full album

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Sep 17 - 11:16 AM

We still have Mudcatters we need to hear from, post-catastrophic-weather. Are you and yours surviving?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 28 Sep 17 - 02:08 PM

The first installment of good wishes and music/laughter links has been sent to Nigel. Thank you! Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 Sep 17 - 09:56 PM

& thank YOU, maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Sep 17 - 05:11 PM

I've been away and wrapped in my own concerns. Glad the surgery went well, Nigel. May the recovery be swift. Not sure how appropriate this is for your specific situation now, but certainly kinda how I think we compatriots on this ship of hope and caring may feel about each other, even if we have never met in person.


Old Friends

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 29 Sep 17 - 05:14 PM

One of my old friends died this morning. She was moved to hospice the weekend I was at the Getaway.

Good thoughts, please, for her family and all who loved her.

My newer friend who I have been taking to treatments, is not responding well. My heart is heavy.

I need some hugs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 30 Sep 17 - 11:28 AM

long warm hug Janie. May your recollections be full of wonderful memories.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 30 Sep 17 - 12:42 PM

I've got another one here for yuh, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Sep 17 - 09:35 PM

Janie, hugs! More hugs. And hugs again. Lots of hugs.
I wish I could give you my hugs in person.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 01 Oct 17 - 06:20 PM

Hmmm love will find a way. Dean still is avoiding school but this week an internet friend from Tennessee came visiting. She is just as socially inept or shy as Dean so they celebrate a common life trait without any awkwardness. Well some awkwardness but its better than depression.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Oct 17 - 09:27 PM

Donnelly, your post makes me smile.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Oct 17 - 06:26 AM

I must say I am so sorry that I have been AWOL for weeks, no excuses I had the most miserable summer all over a misunderstanding with someone I love very dearly and have never fallen out with before ( not Billy I must tell you, he had a miserable time worrying about me) All is well now as I invited the person to lunch and we both poured our hearts, and tears, out, both of us felt as bad as each other over nothing!!

enough about me, I want to send all our love to Nigel ,who as Capt. of our ship, has been there for all of us for all these months . Now it is our turn to give all our support to you Nigel, I hope you are recovering well and resting and relaxing as you should. We still haven't met up at the beach hut but one sunny day I hope we can do so soon, who knows maybe October will bring a late Indian summer? Meanwhile lots of healing thoughts from me to you and Ann.Janie hugs to you too.

Billy has just gone off to see his Consultant for his 4 months checkup, fingers crossed!

Putting on the coffee pot,

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Oct 17 - 07:36 AM

fingers are crossed!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Oct 17 - 12:46 PM

Thanks for reporting in, Janie. Thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Oct 17 - 10:28 PM

Dratted auto-correct! My previous post was for Donuel, not Donnelly!

Wendy, please let us know about Billy's check-up.

And like everyone else here, my thoughts are with Nigel, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Oct 17 - 05:29 AM

Morning from "the sunshine coast" UK. And it is indeed very sunny, and Billy's blood counts were all spot on, still on the trial and next appointment 4 months, whoo hoo!

More healing thoughts to Nigel and all our crew.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Oct 17 - 03:12 PM

Thank you to all who have posted messages for Nigel; he says he appreciates it. Here's an update:

*"Yesterday was something of a crisis, pain-wise. Having finally achieved some control & (miraculously) sleeping the night through, today, Thursday, I feel much easier & comfortable, relatively speaking."*

Nigel really enjoyed the link from gnu- says the presentation reminded him a bit of Bob Newhart's humour. I suspect the music links will be enjoyed as he recovers- rather a long journey. Continued encouragement would be appreciated.

Maeve

(Hugs to those who need 'em. Raising a mug of tea in honour of those needing healing, encouragement, respite, to those who are celebrating the little and large successes of life, and those for whom life seems very hard right now. I salute you!)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Oct 17 - 10:40 PM

Thank you again, Maeve, for sharing Nigel's update and letting him know about our messages. I hope he is turning a corner in his recovery.

Wendy, I'm delighted to read your good news about Billy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Oct 17 - 04:41 PM

Janie, thinking of you while you care for others who need you.
You have so much goodwill and support and open-heartedness surrounding you on this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Oct 17 - 06:45 PM

Tommy had been doing well . Bucky had started doing blended diet and reducing the formulae milk food. This seemed to sort out his health for the better . However , it has not kept him out of hospital and he is back in today with septic pneumonia . So he is in danger yet again....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Oct 17 - 07:04 PM

Septic pneumonia sounds as though it SMARTS.
Circle the wagons for Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Oct 17 - 07:28 PM

sending good wishes to Tommy & his family

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Oct 17 - 03:40 AM

Thank you ,we almost lost him yesterday but is far better this morning, so hopefully he's pulling through again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Oct 17 - 08:20 AM

sending love to Tommy and to you Pete, prayers for his recovery and for you to have extra strength, often the carers struggle on and thoughts for them are very important xxx.

Maeve thank you for keeping us up to date with Nigel's progress, give him all our love xxx.

More good news,yesterday Billy got the all clear from the skin cancer Consultant, 5 years on from a huge op, lymph nodes etc, he has been discharged whoop de doop.

so lots of love to everyone here, wishing you health and good news and hugs where needed,

much love Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Oct 17 - 12:28 PM

Great to hear the good news. Just the opposite to hear about Tommy... virtual hugs are sent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Oct 17 - 07:04 PM

what gnu said

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Oct 17 - 08:07 PM

thinking reassuring thoughts for all thread participants
who need reassurance the most.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Oct 17 - 10:44 PM

Pete, Tommy and Nigel, holding all of you especially close in my thoughts.

Thank you, maeve, for the update on Nigel.

My friend - he is more than a friend - is not doing well. I know what is coming. The downward spiral is starting to spin faster. Taking it a day at a time, each day a new 'normal.'    And each day a gift to be savored as best as can be.

It'll Shine When It Shines.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 04:39 PM

Thinking of Tommy and his caregivers ... over another weekend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 05:16 PM

Glad to see your good news Wendy : cause for thankfulness.   Tommy's doctors are sure it's the end approaching in days for him. Accordingly he is now on palliative care , rather than working for recovery. The assisted breathing machine is off , and moniter probes removed. But at present , tommy is not seeming to follow the programme , preferring to make excited sounds while watching his I pad. It's an emotional roller coaster , esp for Becky. We expect to lose him , but then get hopeful , remembering that the doctors said he would not pull through at the beginning of the year .                         With empathetic thoughts for Janie in her love and care for a friend       Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 05:23 PM

A good song from the osarks janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 05:26 PM

Pete you and your loved ones sound like you are being torn to pieces, which is certain. Please hold all those pieces together in tremendous hugs, surprise hugs, desperate hugs, thankful hugs.
extra love
Don.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 08:36 PM

Hard and precious times, Pete. Surrounding you and your's in light.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 09:40 PM

Thinking of you, Tommy, and the rest of your family, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Oct 17 - 06:36 AM

Sending prayers and holding your family in our thoughts Pete.

Wendy and Bill xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 04:23 AM

Tommy slipped away from us last night. We were with him , as we he passed, assuring him of our love and singling in his ear . We had a few precious times when he became bright , as though he were well, and a few time though when he struggled , but passed peacefully .       Don't know who wrote this : I know it from the Grateful Dead                   Sleep on beloved / sleep and take thy rest/ lay down thy head upon the saviours breast / we love you well, but Jesus loves you best / so we bid you goodnight .....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 06:13 AM

Pete, there is little I can say or do to comfort or aid you other than to send my Love. I am in awe of your dignity & compassion. May your Faith be your Rock,
                                                                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 06:36 AM

Just sending love and prayers Pete. Such a long journey of amazing love you have shared here with us. Heartbreaking to hear of Tommy passing, but your strength over the years has been inspirational. God bless you.
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 08:37 AM

I can't add much to what Wendy and Nigel have already expressed, Pete. Sending love. Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 11:14 AM

Pete- Well done, all of you. Living to the fullest, loving to the brim. Good night, Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 11:35 AM

Well done, indeed. Your Tommy has completed schooling and he is a graduate now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 11:36 AM

Pete, bless you, and your Mrs., for all that loving care given.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 04:20 PM

Pete.

That's all I have to say. I have no words... just tears.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 05:55 PM

more tears.

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 10:16 PM

Pete, so sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Oct 17 - 07:05 PM

Pete, I've been reflecting on all that you have shared over the past several years regarding the journey of Tommy and the rest of your family.

I am grateful to you for that sharing - for allowing us in some way to share the journey also.

Tommy graced all of our lives through your unselfish sharing with us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Oct 17 - 07:28 PM

What Janie said. I still have no words of my own.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Oct 17 - 08:25 PM

I have no words to add to what has been said, Pete. Remember though that he is now at rest, all troubles over.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Oct 17 - 08:38 PM

I've been away and am trying to catch up. I'm glad to read some good news.
Wendy, I'm delighted to hear that Billy is doing so well.
Nigel, it's good to have you back aboard.
Janie, while you care for your friend, I hope you can care for yourself, too.
Pete, I'm distressed to read the sad news about Tommy. I wish I could think of something to ease your sorrow. You and Becky took such good care of him. He was blessed to receive so much love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Oct 17 - 06:16 PM

Some losses take a long, long time for the ache to ease.

Thinking of everyone who has reason to ache with loss today,
while aching with memories, myself,
of losses from a while ago.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Oct 17 - 08:35 PM

Keberoxu, I hope you find comfort.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Oct 17 - 11:07 PM

So do I !!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Oct 17 - 12:36 AM

Leaving this here, because it's a beautiful song and may offer some comfort. Come the Wind

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Oct 17 - 11:18 AM

That is beautiful, Tami. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Oct 17 - 06:27 PM

Yes , a fitting and evocative piece .                            We are in the aching void in between time now . Tommys thanksgiving for his life is not till 7 November . We have had lots of people visiting and we expect a lot to the service at our church. It will be hard , but we are comforted by there being so many who thought so much of him. Thanks for your support and expressions of love and sympathy too.                Blessings.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Oct 17 - 02:44 PM

Thinking of Rapparee / Rapaire and his whole family
as the first-year anniversary approaches
of the difficult passing-away of one of his siblings.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Oct 17 - 09:23 PM

It was a long process, but she's at peace now. Thanks for the thoughts

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Nov 17 - 07:42 PM

And now on day three of storm-caused power outage. My neighborhood isn't scheduled to be restored until Friday night. No lights, no heat, no water. One tree down blocking me into the driveway, it tore the phone lines off my landlady's house, but no other property damage. And we've got the generator hooked up and running the refrigerators for the two properties, so all our food won't spoil. Could be a lot worse. I have drinking water, it's not too cold outside, and the biggest inconvenience is having to hike through the woods to the pond with a couple of gallon jugs to haul water to flush the toilet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Nov 17 - 10:06 PM

Ranger1, I used to live in a house that lost power and water for days at a time, and I didn't have a generator. I did have a fireplace and an outhouse, though. It was no fun, and at my age I'm glad I no longer live there. Stay warm, dry, and safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Nov 17 - 10:38 PM

And when I got home from Jason's, my landlady's house was lit up. Ah! Still no running water, hoping the pressure switch didn't get blown by the power surge and brown out around midnight on Sunday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 08:09 AM

Water working this AM. Oh, happy day!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 08:18 AM

& happy dance?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 12:11 PM

I dunno if I danced, but I did cackle gleefully as I flushed the toilet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 05:43 PM

Yay, ranger1! Dance away!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 12:33 AM

Tami, are you sure you're not just pullin' our chain ?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 11:03 AM

Dean - cellar!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 07:00 PM

Laughter is the best medicine--unless you laugh so hard it hurts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 07:31 PM

On a more serious note:

A week ago a woman I've known and sung with (strictly for fun) that I met two years ago had survived Stage 2 breast cancer a few years before we met. At least that's what she thought. Last year she couldn't get out of bed one morning and was rushed to the hospital--actually three hospitals because the first two weren't equipped to treat her. The third hospital is affiliated with a prestigious university. The staff there diagnosed her with Stage 4 cancer. Wth treatment she has done surprisingly well but told me last week she has decided to halt treatment. I was startled because it seemed like she was having few side effects especially when compared to what she said she'd experienced with Stage 2.

My daughter-in-law's stepfather has also decided to come home from a hospital and get hospice care. I had no idea his situation was so serious. A few weeks ago I'd asked my daughter-in-law how her mother and stepfather were. She'd said that her mom was well but her stepfather was having some health problems that were slowing him down. She didn't elaborate, and I didn't pry. I knew her dad had become insulin-dependent and a little more than a year ago had had a serious back problem. Two weeks ago I sent him a birthday card and his wife emailed that he'd been in the hospital for five weeks and my card had brought a smile to his face. Again I didn't press for details. I thought the hospital staff was trying to balance his insulin, pain meds for his back, and other meds but couldn't get the balance right, that he was having side effects or something. Then last night his wife posted on Facebook that in spite of chemo (which I didn't know about) and dialysis (which I didn't know about) his condition was deteriorating more rapidly than expected. That's why he's decided to come home and get hospice care.

Of course I respect their decisions, but I was unprepared for this news from either of them, so I'm stunned.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Nov 17 - 07:14 PM

Thinking of Pete and his family
as they get ready for what Pete called, above,
"thanksgiving for Tommy's life."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Nov 17 - 02:38 PM

Check in with everybody when you're good and ready,
Pete from seven stars,
and not one instant before.
This cannot have been easy or painless for you and your family.

The rest of us hold you as we are able,
with wordless empathy,
with respect and admiration.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Nov 17 - 12:03 PM

Thanks keberoxu. Though obviously sad , the service lived up to being a celebration of tommys life . It was conducted by a man who's been at the church longer than we have ( from our youth ) , so knew tommy and us . He made it very personal , with stories of tommy doing things like going over to the flowers to touch and smell . Becky bravely delivered a lovely tribute, on auto pilot , she said , but which failed her at the committal .tributes also from his head teacher , and a nurse involved for most of his life . The worship section included songs he seemed to most enjoy at church and school .his favourite song we are sure was my song ' monkey biz' was played with photos projected on the screen . The church was packed , and the ladies provided abundant refreshments. Though it was a hard day , and we have an aching hole in our lives , it was comforting that so many people turned out for him, and us . Thanks again for your all your thought and prayers for us          Blessings    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Nov 17 - 09:23 PM

It sounds like a lovely and meaningful service, Pete, well worth adding to your memories of Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 08 Nov 17 - 09:38 PM

For the good news portion of this thread - today was my daughter's first day as a full-time librarian in a job with benefits. She was in a local museum librarian fellowship (2 years) and they liked her, so after 8 months in that job they let her know a librarian position was open. She applied, and it was hers within hours.

My heart if full and my job is done - both kids are employed with benefits and are debt free because their father helped them with the costs at the university. They did the work, but met our mutual goal.

6000. Good thread, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Nov 17 - 09:55 AM

well done kids! & well done parents who raised them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Nov 17 - 07:17 PM

Nigel, hope you are in less pain these days.

Janie, you asked for us to support you while you supported those who most needed you.
Still keeping you in my heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Nov 17 - 09:35 PM

My daughter-in-law's stepfather, whom I wrote about on Nov. 3, came home for a few days and died last Sunday. The memorial service was today. Since my son married my daughter-in-law 8 years ago, I have spent most major holidays with her mother, stepfather, and the rest of her family, and I was invited to enter the church and sit with the family for the mamorial service. After that, there was a collation in the church hall, and then the family invited me to join them for dinner at a nearby restaurant. The family, including his wife, is bearing up well. I will miss this kind, caring man; his family and friends will miss him more.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Nov 17 - 12:46 AM

some people leave a great hole when they die.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 17 - 06:28 PM

Haven't read many posts for a long time. Dealing with 'stuff'. My heart goes out with joy to some and sorrow with others. I now fill my days with trivial pursuits on Facebook between chores. Keeps my mind off of 'stuff'. Bless you all.

6000+ posts! Like Acme said... "Good thread, Janie."

Peace. Out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Nov 17 - 10:30 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 02:34 PM

I'll put this here, and on another thread; it's taken me a few days to do it. For any here who wouldn't know, my wife suffered total heart blockage in June 2012. It was twenty minutes between total arrest and resucitation. She recovered with no real physical disability at all. She has been able to do her own personal care, other than keeping track of pills and insulin. It's been up to me to cook and keep track of any schedules, but, no big deal; we've traveled to interesting places and life has been good.

Life-long diabetics are very subject to dementia, and to early onset. Judy's neurologist confirmed probable alzheimer's a year or so ago. Her ability to do things for herself began slipping away. We arranged a care-giver for three days of the week, and with that respite, we've been doing okay. A couple of weeks ago, her condition dropped off abruptly, to where she would not allow me to give her necessary care safely at home. Our care-giver came in daily while I arranged placement in a nearby facility; even so, I had take her for emergency hospitalization for a couple of days before we got her situated.

In the hospital she was restless, but cooperative with nurses and doctors. We took her to the care home Friday morning, a week ago. Thursday they asked me to come in for a meeting. She has been refusing to take her meds, or get up for meals. We arranged hospice status. By their definitions for hospice, they will continue the same care she would have received, so far as remains possible without force or restraint. They will not send her for hospitalization. We had completed a DNR a couple of years ago.

I think she is in the hands of good people, who will do the best that can be done. But my heart is in pieces.
                            Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 02:54 PM

Ahhh....Dean. Was just about to post myself that I am not afraid of experiencing my heart breaking, but need folks around who understand and will keep me safe without trying to keep it from happening.

Breathing with you.

Love, Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 07:15 PM

Dean, you've made a wise but difficult decision. I'm sending love to you and your wife, and if I could find heart-mending glue, I would send it, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 11:01 PM

Hugs, to both you and Judy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Nov 17 - 07:40 AM

Dean, I really don't know what to say...your situation & the burden you have to bear is at the outer reaches of life's vicissitudes. That you have my love & long distance support goes without question. Finding the strength & courage to post says much about you, Dean.
                Holding you & Judy close in my thoughts,
                                                                                    Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Nov 17 - 04:28 PM

Sorry to hear this Dean. So hard. She does have the love of a good man , but it's tough bless you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 05:12 PM

About nine this morning, as I was about to start down to the care home to spend time with Judy, my phone rang. She is gone. I went down to see her. It was plain that she had slept peacefully, and slipped away. Cremation is arranged, I've chosen a simple urn. The pain is what it is, but no more miserable confusion and frustration for her.

             Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 05:41 PM

Dean, my heart is full of sorrow for you, and overflowing with gratitude that your dear Judy, loved deeply and faithfully, has been released from that confusion, pain and suffering.

Thank you for your courage in caring for her as she needed to be cared for. Thank you for opening this window into your life. I salute you both.

Gardenmaeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 06:00 PM

Just this moment read your post, frogprince.

All day I have been wondering
why I feel as though
I am being crushed absolutely flat as an envelope.
Now that I have your news,
I believe I know why.

Keep breathing, good and trusted friend, even if you feel squashed flat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 06:27 PM

froggy... I have no words. None that could convey my feelings. I read of your relationship with her in the past in your posts many times. I hope you can carry on, dear friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bobad
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 07:11 PM

Condolences on your loss Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 07:31 PM

I can, and will, carry on. I had something of a rehearsal, five years ago, for losing Judy. As it turned out, I had years more of loving her, and of being loved by her. There are good hearts in the world; Judy's was one of them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 08:40 PM

You were blessed to have Judy in your life, and she was blessed to have you in hers. I hope memories of your good times together will comfort you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 03:22 AM

"As it turned out, I had years more of loving her, and of being loved by her."
That was my first thought, Dean. For that, both of you can be congratulated. The love you shared is a special thing, something that many,many people never have.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 06:07 AM

Dear Dean, these uncredited words will have to speak for me:

"When we take our vows and say, "until death us do part," we are fooling ourselves. Death only brings a physical departure. A marriage and the bond between a husband and wife make two people into one. That means that even when we lose our wife, we are still left with that special love that burns inside and never dies. That internal love burns on even when our wife is no longer with us. Clinging to that love inside us, even though it can never be physically expressed again, can carry and sustain us in her passing". (edited)

                                                                Much love to You, your Family & Friends,
                                                                                                                                  Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 10:18 AM

Meeting you and Judy was a joy. I sorrow in your physical loss, but I am glad she is free from the pain of losing herself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 12:04 PM

Nigel: Oh yes...oh yes.
Thanks, all of ya.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Nov 17 - 02:20 PM

Jerry Rasmussen's wife Ruth passed away last evening. Jerry doesn't post here any more, but I wanted to put this here for those who knew him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Nov 17 - 05:28 PM

Nigel... beautiful.

r1... thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Nov 17 - 08:55 PM

Thank you for the information about Jerry Rasmussen's wife Ruth, ranger1. If you can, tell him ChanteyLass sends her condolences.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Nov 17 - 06:02 AM

I'm mindful of the fact that for some of our Dear Friends, this Thanksgiving will be different & full of mixed emotions. Nevertheless, I trust it's not inappropriate for me to wish all here a Happy Thanksgiving Day. May your time round the table strengthen the bonds, right some wrongs & give you hope for the future.
                                                               With Love to You All,
                                                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Nov 17 - 08:25 PM

Nigel, hope your recovery is moving in the direction needful, and that you are feeling well enough.

Janie, thinking of you as you support others and ask for support from those whom you trust.

A respectful moment of stillness for those who are recently bereaved.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Nov 17 - 11:32 PM

My friend of 57 years, who set me up on a blind date with Judy, and was our best man, invited me to their family thanksgiving at his daughter's home. I was taken a little off guard when they said very little, and then no more, about my bereavement. But I came to realize that that was what was right for today; I had a freer, happier day than I could have imagined.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 07:07 AM

good friends are a treasure

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 01:56 PM

Got a phone call from the ER this morning. J-boy slipped getting out of the shower last night, fell, broke his arm, and banged up his face on the way down. Luckily, no concussion, but he does have a rather spectacular black eye. Picked him up and brought him back to my place for a couple of days. Healing thoughts would definitely be welcome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 06:22 PM

Owww J-Boy!

Good friends are a treasure indeed.

Hospice will be coming to evaluate my friend’s needs in the next few days. We have been taking turns staying with him for the past week or so and that will continue.

Thankful for friendships, old and new. Thankful for all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 07:04 PM

Janie, thank goodness for hospice and people like you.

Ranger1, will J-boy tell others how he got hurt, or will he make up a dramatic story about skydiving or something?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Nov 17 - 04:37 PM

A dear friend of mine is seeing her adult son through his convalescence.
He'll make it, but it was scary.

All his young life he has participated in things like snowboarding
and has trained hard and well,
managing to compete without any really dramatic injuries.

Then he gets an invite to a party at someone's house.
There's going to be food, so he shows up hungry.
Coming in, there are some kind of flashy strobe-ey lights going on.
When he gets clear through the door,
he does a face-plant, just passes out cold.
It's a hardwood floor.

So now they are wondering if the lights triggered a seizure.
The facial fractures required plates. Yeeks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Nov 17 - 04:10 PM

Only just catching up . A bit of a shock seeing frogprince 's news , and so soon after my last post. May precious memories help the healing : bless you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Nov 17 - 10:12 PM

Ranger 1, just tell everyone that he finally annoyed you beyond your limit and that's what he got. My left arm is going to be in a splint/sling after cubital/carpal tunnel surgery on Monday next and I'm certain that Pat will tell people that. Or that she caught me trying to swipe some cookies.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 07:43 AM

surely you're not still swiping cookies at your mature years, Rap?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 08:30 AM

Sandra, have you met Rap? He'd be my first suspect if cookies went missing!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 01:50 PM

Continued good thoughts please for my friend and Dear Companion, and all who love him. Moving to hospice as soon as a bed is available.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 05:52 PM

Janie, I wish your friend comfort.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Dec 17 - 06:33 PM

Thinking of our frogprince
preparing for the memorial service for his better half.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Dec 17 - 08:08 PM

best wishes to Janie & her dear friend

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Dec 17 - 08:51 PM

The service will be this next Saturday. I think it's about laid out. Opening with Ann Hills and Cindy Mangsen's recording of "Land Where We Never Grow Old". Mid-way, a friend who knew Judy from childhood singing "Far Side Banks of Jordon". Concluding with "I Can See You Now", written by Bruce Murdoch. In between, A couple of more "churchy" songs, and words from family and friends.
   Did I ever mention here that she had a huge collection of collectible frogs? Quite a few of them will be on a table for folks to take as mementos or for children; she would have loved that; maybe we can say "She'll love that".
   It will be at the church where she has been very much a part for almost if not forty years. I'll sit down with the pastor tomorrow to go over it with him. Tomorrow would have been our 34th.

               Dean, the frogprince

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Dec 17 - 08:09 AM

Sending love, Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Dec 17 - 10:09 PM

Yup, 8:45 a.m. MST tomorrow.

Dean, I'm so sorry.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Dec 17 - 08:48 AM

Chuck died Saturday afternoon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Dec 17 - 11:21 AM

To quote Gram Parsons, "Sometimes all you can do is sing a gospel song."

Sing Me A Song

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Dec 17 - 02:43 PM

Sorry for your loss Janie . I have thought of you and your friend over the last few weeks and offered a prayer , as also for frogprince . The vid was not available here. Wishing you peace               Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Dec 17 - 02:45 PM

Thinking of you Janie.
And Pete and Frogprince.

Rapparee, hope you have a comfortable pain/med balance while you recover.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Dec 17 - 07:08 PM

Oh, Dean, your song choices should be on target, and I love what you'll do with your wife's frog collection.

Janie, I'm so sorry. Hugs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 Dec 17 - 08:04 AM

I'm doing okay and may even go out today. I am using a tablet so don't expect long replies.

It seems to be the time of year for people to pass on. This time of year and Spring. No words can help except to let others know we care.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Dec 17 - 01:47 PM

I knew the cost of the ticket when I bought it and handed it over to be punched. Doesn't make the journey easier, but I know I will survive it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Dec 17 - 07:28 PM

Glad this thread is here --

in fact, I'm especially glad it's here
in the lull inbetween storms.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Dec 17 - 06:53 AM

Echo

By Christina Rossetti

Come to me in the silence of the night;
Come in the speaking silence of a dream;
Come with soft rounded cheeks and eyes as bright
As sunlight on a stream;
Come back in tears,
O memory, hope, love of finished years.

O dream how sweet, too sweet, too bitter sweet,
Whose wakening should have been in Paradise,
Where souls brimfull of love abide and meet;
Where thirsting longing eyes
Watch the slow door
That opening, letting in, lets out no more.

Yet come to me in dreams, that I may live
My very life again though cold in death:
Come back to me in dreams, that I may give
Pulse for pulse, breath for breath:
Speak low, lean low
As long ago, my love, how long ago.

(Source: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/echo-by-christina-rossetti)

Tomorrow, Friday, I shall be attending the funeral of a former student. We kept in touch over the years & in all that time, he unfailingly addressed me as 'Sir'. Most students make the change from 'Sir' to 'Nigel' or 'Mr.P' eventually, but not M. I remained 'Sir' until his letters stopped.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Dec 17 - 08:05 PM

Ahhh. Hearts breaking open and releasing love into the world.

Terrible. Beautiful.

Somehow, we sail on.

Pete the song I linked to that wasn't available in the UK on that link was written by Ola Belle Reed. I am aware of 3 recordings. 2 by Ola Belle Reed and one by Critton Hollow String Band. I think you would really like it so maybe your own google search will turn up a recording available to you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Dec 17 - 08:54 PM

Nigel, that student must have valued his time with you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Dec 17 - 02:43 PM

Sending sympathy to frogprince as the memorial service takes place this weekend.

Hoping Rapparee continues healing with as little pain as possible.

Thinking of Mysha, and hoping you're finding and keeping the fragile balance.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Dec 17 - 05:48 PM

I found the song Janie. Good song . I was singing to tommy at the end of his journey too

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Dec 17 - 10:17 PM

Rapparee is recovering with as little pain as survives the pain meds. The splints came off yesterday, now it's just elastic bandages and good gauze pads. And meds. Suggestion: if you ever have this sort of surgery, do not accidentally stretch or knock the injured parts. That causes you to say things that would cause Sister Innocenta of the Spring Flowers to swoon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Dec 17 - 03:55 AM

My apologies to all; the Christina Rossetti poem was intended for all who grieve, for all whom loss & sadness are unbidden, unwelcome visitors. I did not make that clear in the post.
          Season's Greetings & a Happy New Year to the Rainbow Crew & 'Catters everywhere,
                                                 With Love,
                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Dec 17 - 06:21 AM

That's how I understood it Nigel - bless you.                                                                      It will be a hard day for frogprince but I hope he finds some comfort in it too       Blessings all.   Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Dec 17 - 01:54 PM

Just checking up/in. A bit busy lately. I hope all are doing as well as they can. In case I don't get back soon, MERRY HO HO!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Dec 17 - 07:56 PM

Rapparee, I'm glad you are recovering but wish you were pain-free. I'll try to remember your advice but hope I never need it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Dec 17 - 10:06 PM

The cut at the base of my hand is perhaps a half an inch wide. The one on the backside of my elbow is about five inches long. Both hurt, the long one the most (unless I bang one or the other and then that one hurts the most).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 10 Dec 17 - 12:52 PM

Rapparee, I don't envy you this,
and I sincerely hope the results of the surgery
are successful and an improvement
over your condition pre-surgery.

Is this carpal-tunnel stuff
from a lifetime as a librarian?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Dec 17 - 06:53 PM

Refresh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Dec 17 - 06:57 PM

Good evening, sweet frogprince, wherever you are.
No words, only thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Dec 17 - 09:13 PM

I'm at home (Michigan) running the snow blower a little for the first time this season, and preparing to fly over to my family in Minnesota next week, which will be the first time I've gone alone in 34 years. I'm holding up okay, and getting reminded of how good some of our friends are. Printing and stuffing Christmas cards today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Dec 17 - 10:00 PM

my...our...Christmas card for this year

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Dec 17 - 09:17 AM

Oh dear, I have been away for far too long, just catching up and reading of so many sad losses of loved ones, words are never enough to heal the sadness but they are all we have. I lost a very dear cousin two weeks ago and although he had been very ill for some months and fighting bravely, it is still a shock to know that he is no longer just a phone call away, and there will be another empty chair at the Family Christmas dinner.

A death of a loved one is never easy but at this time of the year when others are full of joy and happiness it is very hard to put on a brave face.As many of you know I lost my darling mother at Christmas 2 years ago, the loss is still there, sometimes it catches me out when I see a familiar figure in the street and then realise that it isn't mum, but an elderly lady with the same hair or walk! But Christmas was her favourite time, she loved to see the children open their gifts, her delight was a full house, everyone sat round the dining table sharing Christmas memories of years past. So the circle turns and our memories this year will of happy times we shared with mum and remind ourselves how lucky we were to have her in our lives.

Wishing you all much love, healing thoughts and prayers, happy memories of loved ones no longer here.

Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 15 Dec 17 - 10:11 AM

Went to the surgeon yesterday to have what stitches there were out. He's pleased and I'll see him again on the 25th. My massage therapist isn't pleased and won't work in me until after I next see the surgeon and get clearance. Yes, there is still pain, especially when the healing edges of the cuts are stretched, but it's nothing that can't be handily handled.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 15 Dec 17 - 12:37 PM

Since it got mentioned again: you may get an adult warning if you click my link (I guess because Flickr allows just about anything) but you won't get connected to anything but the card.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Dec 17 - 07:26 PM

Merry Ho Ho to you as well, Mudcatter Gnu.

Thinking of you all
especially
Pete, frogprince, Mysha, Janie, and ranger1's J-Boy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Dec 17 - 07:27 PM

Respected Rapparee,
forgive the pedantry,
but about your massage therapist --

was that
won't work in you,
or won't work you in ??

(rather vivid non-verbal image)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 19 Dec 17 - 07:03 PM

Long and tough haul here. Haven't taken the time to do any heavy lifting. Just tending FB groups and such. Might even do some laundry tonight... or tomorrow... whatever. Keeping it light. Merry Ho Ho. Dog bless us all, Tim.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 24 Dec 17 - 04:51 PM

Hi,

It's Christmas Eve (here). A time for reflection, it seems, but I don't have any profound words of wisdom to share. I'm just grateful for you guys (f/m) turning things over for me sometimes, so I get to see the sides I can't see on my own.

I guess, this evening I'm a bit nostalgic for easier times. So, forgive me my reference to a sentimental ditty from some 75 years ago.

                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 24 Dec 17 - 05:24 PM

Christmas eve is a good time to update the progress of Tiny Tim.
He has had some adventures like his 21 year old girlfriend and showing his face but still not going to school. A boarding school out of town is in the works where there are no laptops and freedom is earned by a point system. It drives mom to tears but the real world is a jungle he needs to learn to navigate. My proposition that children deserve intellectual freedom has failed. He is participating in Christmas customs which feeds hope a snack. Its like tiny Tim has gone from two canes to just one.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 24 Dec 17 - 05:57 PM

Best wishes to all for a season of peace and love, no matter what you celebrate....or whether you celebrate at all.

Slightly anxious time here for two aging parents. Our younger son Doug The Canaussian who lives in Toronto, Canada, had a hand operation a couple of days ago. Some time ago he was diagnosed with a vascular tumour in his left hand which although it isn't cancerous behaves like cancer, so is treated as such. Chemotherapy didn't work so he went under the knife to remove several tumours, and also had reconstructive surgery including bone grafts. He no longer has a left index finger, it's gone. Apparently the surgery went well and doctors are pleased.

Seems he is one of only 50 cases known world-wide. We always knew our boys were special - but that's not how we wanted them to be unique!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 24 Dec 17 - 09:07 PM

It's been a hectic few days.

On the 17th my (first) cousin Kathy passed away from brain cancer.

My massage therapist wouldn't work on me until I clearance from the surgeon. But we went over to her house today and had brunch with her, her husband John (who was on EMT calls last night -- he works with the fire department), her kids, her dogs, and her parents. A good time!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Dec 17 - 04:53 PM

Christmas best wished to all the crew . Like others here it's not all plain sailing , but with us it's just the deep sadness and tears of Christmas without tommy .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Dec 17 - 08:50 PM

Yes. This is a happy and sad season.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Dec 17 - 12:50 AM

Yes. Happy and sad. A time for reflection.

So much wisdom is shared here, on this Rainbow ship. Wisdom that can only be gained from the direct and long experience of sailing the sea of life.

No wonder then, that this ship sails on, fair winds or foul.

Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Dec 17 - 07:37 PM

It's bitterly bitterly cold outside.

Thanks be for the warmth of this thread
and those who keep posting to it.
Awfully glad you're here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Dec 17 - 05:47 PM

Gnu, {{{{hugs}}} to your Mum, and also to you.

It occurs to me that this song is about all kinds of love. This ship is carried by love/agape. This Love

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 31 Dec 17 - 03:11 PM

Thanks, Mysha, for checking in -- good to hear from you.

It's gotta be cold where Gnu and his Mom are.
Wishing them a warm happy healthy New Year.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 31 Dec 17 - 06:33 PM

you could have some of our warmth! It's 30C (86F) here, already 2C past today's expected maximum at 10.30am on New Years day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 Dec 17 - 08:07 PM

Happy new year to all the crew

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Jan 18 - 02:25 PM

Wishing everyone a very Happy and healthy New Year.
Much love
Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Jan 18 - 05:19 PM

Fellow mudcatter Gnu, have you all dug yourselves out from the storm?
Thinking of everyone here
who has reason for a deep ache inside.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Jan 18 - 10:51 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 11 Jan 18 - 11:56 AM

Just checking the sheets.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Jan 18 - 03:38 PM

Hoisting an extra sail as we head into 2018.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jan 18 - 11:55 AM

We first set sail on 12th January, 2012...Happy belated Anniversary
                   With Love to All,
                                              Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Jan 18 - 06:02 PM

That long ago? How can that be?
Thank you, Nigel, for creating this thread which has brought comfort to many.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Jan 18 - 06:13 PM

Thinking of frogprince and gnu. Hope you and yours are hanging in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Jan 18 - 10:40 PM

Thanks; I think I can say that I'm getting back to where I'm not a real mess too much of the time. I'm getting back into some of the positive parts of old routines, and have stumbled into a new hobby that absorbs me in some creative thinking.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Jan 18 - 01:14 PM

Good to hear from frogprince!
No words can convey the desolation you are having to live through.
Thanks for keeping in touch.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Jan 18 - 01:53 PM

refresh

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Jan 18 - 06:16 PM

good to see you have a new interest that involves creative thinking

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 23 Jan 18 - 12:15 AM

The mystery in plain sight is solved. Dean has what 50 million other kids get in the world but recovery is possible. He has IGA specifically. I have been complicit in causing his depression and withdrawal from life. I have been giving him heroin for 10 years,
digital heroin.

Neurological resets take up to two months but to recover the 8% of lost white fiber connections beneath his brain's grey matter will take much longer, perhaps a lifetime.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 23 Jan 18 - 11:54 AM

Internet Addiction is in most cases simply abuse (6.5 hours a day) but in cases where it alters sleep cycles it is a moderate addiction. It become a serious health hazard when withdraw from real life and depression occurs. As with any behavioral addiction there is little research and a large skeptical suspicion of its existence. The creators of the games or platforms are not going to take responsibility.

What is being thrown at the problem are anti-depressants. You can look at the increase in prescriptions in the UK but that is only anecdotal. The number of kids worldwide who are seriously depressed from an addiction to digital heroin may be as high as 30 million.

The emergent problem is a deliberate attempt to addict for profit and is only 9 years old. What will it be like in 15 or 20 years?

Physically the problem coincides with up to a 8% loss in connective white fiber tissue. It can be restored. Time can not.

The symptoms present in different ways in certain cultures, some hideous and some just sad.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 23 Jan 18 - 12:26 PM

I had a long conversation with Dean that bowled me over with his knowledge of receptors, dopamine and addiction. Mainly his insight rivals some of the most insightful folks here. Real gritty and tangible progress is being made without the blame games that plague our infantile Congress.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 23 Jan 18 - 02:09 PM

I Think Of You.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 25 Jan 18 - 08:28 AM

Had good news yesterday when we saw Billy' s consultant he said his blood counts were excellent and he will see us again in 4 months, still on the trial so regular appointments continue. He also told us that the research into the chemotherapy that has been done in the USA shows that the results for patients like Billy can be very positive and they can be in remission for a long time, year 5 now so fingers crossed.I have said before that the NHS treatment in our local hospital has been incredible and I am so sad when they get a bad press, just takes one bad Apple!

Went into Colchester town for shopping and celebration lunch, it was pouring down with rain and as we went into one shop the marble floor was wet and I went flying and today I am in bed with a very painfull knee and stiff back and hip!! Lucky I didnt need to return to the hospital, nothing broken except my dignity??

I should be tackling the mountain of ironing but enjoying a lie down,cup of tea and good book.

Sending love to all the crew
Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 25 Jan 18 - 02:29 PM

Ouch, Wendy! Pamper yourself! And great news about Billy.

I've been down for the count with the flu since Sunday. Been about 15 years since I last had it, so I guess I was due. But I missed my snowshoe race on Sunday :(

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 25 Jan 18 - 05:53 PM

But be wary when you're shopping
Where there's marble on the floor
For the customers go flying
When the rain's come in the door.

(With a nod to Les Rice.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Jan 18 - 06:49 PM

Ranger1, my condolences. Especially for the fact that you are down for the count, and you have a Tennessee Brat Terrier with enough energy for several of you . . . hope Beau is not going stir-crazy.

Donuel, you are onto something, and you and your son are lucky to have each other.

Gnu, I know you're a tough hombre, and you'll be back amongst us eventually, but I worry for you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Jan 18 - 08:45 PM

I went to my massage therapist today and she asked what the red dots on my arms were.

An hour after the massage therapy I had an appointment with my dermatologist. He said, "Strep psoriasis" and ordered a corticosteroid cream, twice a day for fourteen days and call then if it's not any better.

Well, it's annoying. Still, it could be a lot worse. No, no itching or anything. Just dry skin and red dots.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jan 18 - 07:55 PM

No need to worry. I am on sub-lurk. Just got 'stuff' to tend to.

Carry on. Smoke 'em if ya got 'em. Tight lines and straight shooting to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Jan 18 - 02:10 PM

Sticking my neck out and asking for support feels, gosh,
humiliating somehow, but here goes.

Estrangement from my family of origin
has been a necessary compromise
after an upbringing complicated by abuse and trauma.

Last year one parent died.
This year the remaining parent is suicidal: at least making the threats.

There's a lot that I don't know because I am keeping my distance.
However this year turns out,
pressure is being brought to bear, and that will continue.
One reason for this is that there are legalities and estate planning
all mixed up in the oldest generation passing away.
A more obvious reason is that nobody lets go in this family of origin.
One grandparent of mine died thirty-five years ago
with lasting legal and financial consequences,
and thirty-five years later
some people have their minds firmly closed to the notion
that things might be different now.
You get the idea?

I seriously can't predict what's coming,
but I dread the worst. Thanks for listening.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 29 Jan 18 - 10:45 AM

Go to the funeral, if it happens. Stay in a motel, not with family. Be courteous and polite, but not intimate -- you left long ago. When asked why you're in a motel, reply "Because I didn't want to trouble anyone" (which is completely true). If someone brings up the past, pass it off with a kind word and keep your thoughts to yourself. Don't involve yourself with hate and despair.

"Do you know that in 1947 he called my mother a gross fat pig eating slops???"
"Really?"
"You didn't know that?"
"Why, no."   

Don't point out that whoever "he" was/is was three years old. Feign polite interest in a story you've heard a thousand times and quietly leave as soon as you can. Don't take sides -- they're all probably in the wrong.

As a daughter you might be in line for some inheritance. Pay for a decent lawyer and let the lawyer handle things, and you refer everything to the lawyer (that's why you're paying a lawyer). If asked why you politely say "I wanted to be certain everyone and everything was done right." Don't fight the will (if any) but don't fold up like a cheap chair, either. The lawyer's fees will be worth the lack of hassle you'll have, and I know about that.

What has happened is past. Don't let it carry into the future. If they never speak to you again, so be it, but they are probably aware of situation and may be trying to "make the most" of it in whatever way best suits them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 29 Jan 18 - 11:39 AM

What Rapparee said, except:

When the time comes:
Don't bother with the inheritance business if you don't care and are not required to. Do bother with a ceremony of departure, but it need not be one with a coffin and people you don't care about.


Whatever the year brings, make sure to share with those you feel near to.

Bye,
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Jan 18 - 07:19 PM

thanks, everybody,
for helping me "gird my loins"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 30 Jan 18 - 06:21 PM

I did everything Rap mentioned last summer. It works.

If doing the same thing over and over doesn't work , its insane to do it again. So Dean is off to boarding school with Psych help on staff.
It feels like sink or swim.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 Jan 18 - 06:17 PM

Donnelly, I hope it's swim for Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Feb 18 - 07:28 PM

Make that Donuel, not Donnelly, in my previous post. No, thank you, auto-correct!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 05 Feb 18 - 10:13 AM

Well, "sink or swim" is when it's time for a life-line/raft/boat.

Someone in the water may need help. Helpers are coloured heroes in the press for jumping in after. But how much more courage does it require of the looker-on to admit being unable to help by himself and to go find other help?

Bye
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 Feb 18 - 10:42 AM

Looky here!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Feb 18 - 12:17 PM

Keeping Gnu and those he cares for in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Feb 18 - 12:07 PM

And thinking of frogprince as well.

And I hope Rapparee has less to cuss at with his recovery from surgery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Feb 18 - 06:14 PM

Refresh you bodies, refresh your spirits, and refresh this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Feb 18 - 08:21 PM

lovely thought, ChantyLass

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Feb 18 - 11:03 AM

This one is needed
ABOVE the horizon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 06:04 PM

After much personal debate, I've decided to finally come out publicly here as transgender. Those of you who know me on Facebook, please don't mention it publicly there, because J-boy's family doesn't know and I'd like them not to learn of it from Facebook.

Those people in my real life that I've told have mostly been extremely supportive (Mum just saying "It's about time, I've known since you were a toddler" was a huge relief). My co-workers at the market have all been fantastic, too. I realize not everyone on Mudcat will be supportive, based on the most recent thread about gender-neutral language, but whatever. It's a huge relief to finally be me publicly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 06:43 PM

Good for you!

                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 06:47 PM

Thank you, Mysha.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 07:02 PM

What Mysha said!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 07:40 PM

Thanks for the PM, ranger1, and to repeat myself:
Welcome out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 07:43 PM

Hey, ranger1, I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to tell us!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 09:03 PM

Congratulations on your decision, ranger1!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 14 Feb 18 - 09:37 PM

You go, Calvin! 😀

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Feb 18 - 06:20 AM

ranger1, I applaud your courage & sing your praises to the rafters.
             Wishing you every happiness,
                                                             Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Feb 18 - 04:49 PM

needed more than ever.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Feb 18 - 05:41 PM

I second all the above!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Feb 18 - 12:30 PM

Thinking of gnu and frogprince.
Hang in there, gentlemen.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 19 Feb 18 - 08:11 AM

Well done Ranger1, sending lots of supportive thoughts and love from Billy and me xx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Feb 18 - 02:32 PM

Get this ship back above the horizon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Mar 18 - 07:26 AM

Morning all.
Snowed in down on the Essex coast, unbelievable snow drifts , roads closed, schools shut, people are complaining that their roads haven't been gritted . One of the wonderful girls who cared for my lovely mum sent me a video of her being dug out by 2 snow plough on the road to Harwich, she has been out since 6 am trying to get to elderly people living on their own in rural places. Amazing people have been out all night ploughing the country roads and the police and ambulance crews are doing a wonderful job, and others are moaning about lack of grit!!!Put on your boots, leave the car in the garage and pop next door or down the road to see if the elderly neighbours need a bit of shopping or a cup of tea and a chat!

I won't start saying when I was young .............
But hey folks it is WINTER ??and we don't often get proper weather, if you don't have to go out to feed the farm animals, work in a hospital,or do something essential, then light a log fire, read a book, cook a stew, listen to music. Stay warm and feel lucky .
Lots of love
Wendy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Mar 18 - 09:42 AM

When I lived in bad snow country along the edges of the Great Lakes (one place had an average of 120 inches [305 cm] and all winters were above average) I often wished I had the power to chain those who shouldn't be out to the walls of their homes. AND do something to remind people who HAD to go out to turn on their headlights even if snow wasn't falling, stop speeding, clean off their cars and not just the windshield(screen), and mostly to act like rational, thinking human beings!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Mar 18 - 01:21 PM

I know a priest, a Dominican-order friar, who was born and raised in Minnesota not far from the state line with North Dakota. You can imagine what the snow THERE is like.

When he was a young and able-bodied teen, and a storm hit, his father, a decent working-class man, would order his son to bundle up and grab the shovels. The two of them would get into the family auto, and they would carefully venture out onto streets and roads. They would look for drivers and cars that were stranded or stuck, and make it their mission to dig them out and push the cars out of whatever ditch and get them rolling again.

That was his father's idea of being neighborly. The mother was similarly neighbor-oriented. You can imagine what a good pastor this friar is -- the world could use a score more of him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 01 Mar 18 - 04:56 PM

Well we had a good Samaritan. We were going to look after the grandchildren for 4 days while mummy and daddy flew to Berlin with 8 friends for a 50th Birthday celebration. The roads were blocked with drifts and we couldn't get to them and they couldn't get to us.

Then one of their friends came and picked us up in a 4 by 4 and avoiding the blocked roads they got us here in time for the parents to drive to London this evening. They fly out of London city airport in the morning ,fingers crossed.And Billy and I can have a 4 day holiday in a lovely cottage with the two little girls.

I don't remember weather like this in the UK before, Billy of course, New Jersey boy that he is, finds the country grinding to a standstill hilarious!!

Keep warm crew members over here, and lots of love to everyone

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Mar 18 - 11:50 AM

Mysha speaks sooth in his 5 February post.
Some of us are living that particular experience --
watching someone else who can't do for themselves,
and knowing better
than to try to save them.

It can drive you mad if you don't know better,
and even then, it is a trial.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Mar 18 - 11:16 PM

Now that we're between winter storms,
let's get this boat moving again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Mar 18 - 02:23 PM

r1... thank you. Nuff said.

k... thank you. Nuff said. As for the men with shovels, that used to be a pastime in my youth. Get a box of beer and load the lads in my Bug with the studded 6.5s on the rear and shovel out and/or push peoples' stuck cars out of the snow. Great fun. Got a cop car unstuck one night. Buddy asked if we had been drinking. I said, "Yeah. See ya later." We jumped in my Bug and roared off. He put the lights and siren on and came after us. I did a 180 with the hand break and floored it. He tried to do a 180 in his big-ass Chevy and ended up in the snowbank. Stupid move. We didn't go back to help him. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 10 Mar 18 - 09:29 PM

gnu, that cop deserved to get stuck that second time! Thanks for the chuckle.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Mar 18 - 10:12 AM

although I am an ignoramus about ships and boats,
I remember hearing the phrase
"batten down the hatches."

And I always associate it with the acts of God known as
inclement weather.
My area has a blizzard forecast . . .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Mar 18 - 01:11 PM

Keb, you got it in one. Hatches are the openings on the ship's deck, battening them down means to close them up tightly. Mostly so below decks doesn't fill up with water.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Mar 18 - 09:54 PM

Someone needs a day trip to Mystic Seaport where there are lots of opportunities to ask staffers what sailors' expressions mean. But not tomorrow! Wait until a glorious day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Mar 18 - 05:20 PM

it's a glorious later summery/early autumn day here on the other side of the world

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 16 Mar 18 - 12:45 AM

It's also quite pleasant here on Maui. However, I have a nasty cough (saw doctor), as does my wife. Same thing happened when we came here two years ago. Come to Hawai'i, get sick.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 17 Mar 18 - 04:03 PM

Hi,

Maybe you really have to travel by way of the Arctic grounds when rolling down to old Maui. It might be a way to build up resistance, or something.

Bye
                                                               Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Mar 18 - 09:45 PM

Well, Rap, what did the doc do for you and your wife?
Maybe you should avoid Hawaii.
Do I sound jealous?
Yup!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Mar 18 - 06:21 PM

grrrrrr.

Rap gets ill
and
we get snowed on.
I know I'm supposed to say uplifting things on this thread.
There's another nor'easter coming.

grrrrr.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Mar 18 - 06:30 PM

Hope frogprince knows that all of us are thinking of him.
Gnu, keep on keeping on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 21 Mar 18 - 10:17 AM

frogprince has been on a long roll of keeping track of the thread, and feeling appreciative of the folks here, without thinking of much to say. I've gotten back to what was our routine of morning walk and exercise at the town "community center" (primarily a fitness center) and coffee and gab afterward with regulars there, so avoiding becoming a complete hermit.
Flu has been going through town here like the black plague, but it hasn't got me yet; I've been lucky in that respect for some years now.

                   Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Mar 18 - 07:36 PM

Nice to hear from you, froggy. Really nice.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 03:54 AM

Tomorrow, 23rd March marks the fifth year of Jane's passing. Many a mile have we sailed since that desperate day. If you have a moment or two to spare, visit page 35 of our thread...deeply felt comments, poems, music, an outpouring of love & support, the like of which I would have never thought possible. You will also see the names of other dear Friends who have joined Jane beyond the horizon.
                               With Love & Gratitude,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 06:09 AM

page 35 is pain & joy filled & very moving - so much love & reminders of other lost friends.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 08:54 AM

Nigel and Ann

That page 35, just filled with so much love, 5 years on we are all still here sending the same love to you both.

This thread is an everlasting tribute to Jane and has brought so many wonderful people together in times of need.

Bless you both

Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 10:45 AM

The doctor prescribed some medication which was marginally useful. I see my own doctor in an hour.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 07:56 PM

Let us know if the doc came up with a better idea, Rap.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 08:11 PM

And now that I've reread 35, yes it was a very good page, but just one of the many very good pages on this thread. However, I won't read them all tonight!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 08:13 PM

He did. Nebulizer, Advair (not yet, too expensive, he's looking into a cheaper alternative), lots of liquids (not whiskey, whisky, vodka or any of that stuff), rest (I've have about 9 hours sleep in the last 48). He also wanted to give me a codeine cough medicine, but I already had some left over from the last time I had a bad cough.

My wife leaves for DC tomorrow between something o'clock and oh dark thirty. She, too, is coughing, but very much wants to make this trip to her high school's 150th anniversary (no, she was not in the first graduating class!). If she's not some better when she comes back on Monday she's going to the doctor.

We may not go back to Hawai'i, nice place though it is.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Mar 18 - 11:17 PM

Just re read page 35 ; all those loving expressions. May some sweet memories of Jane ease the sadness of this anniversary of her passing Nigel            Blessings. Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Mar 18 - 06:42 PM

Just to say thank you to
Pete, Mysha, frogprince, and Gnu
for keeping the finger on the pulse
and letting us know you are doing so.

Thinking of your losses, and of your healing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Mar 18 - 01:34 PM

...and don't forget Mrrzy who has been keeping us updated
on a family crisis. Keeping you in my prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 03 Apr 18 - 04:56 PM

Looks like the worst of the weather is behind us. Time to unbatten the hatches.

Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Apr 18 - 10:29 AM

Mysha on deck! A welcome sight.
Hope gnu is hanging in there.
Gnu is far enough north
that he may still be contending with SNOW...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Apr 18 - 07:58 PM

Keeping this boat afloat!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 Apr 18 - 10:25 PM

I hope gnu is doing okay. We've had our own problems here in the Idaho Rockies -- the coconut palms keep dropping their coconuts on cars and people, the surf hasn't been much to speak of, and the hibiscus aren't out yet. The breeze has even been too brisk and warm for comfort!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Apr 18 - 10:29 PM

but have the hummingbirds come back from Mexico?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Apr 18 - 12:13 PM

Thinking today of Petefromsevenstars.
His household is still healing and grieving from loss,
although the immediate changes have been seen to.
Such mourning takes time and patience to endure.
You are not forgotten
nor is the one you lost whom you so loved.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Apr 18 - 03:52 PM

Thank you keberoxu. Becky and I were talking about it this evening. Much of the time we are ok though it's always below the surface. I had thought I was getting over it , but then there was talk of putting down the dog we had got for tommy , and I fell apart for a bit. Fortunately following a second visit to the vet and steroids and other tablets , she quietened down and rarely nips now.                         Blessings all.   Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Apr 18 - 01:54 PM

Out of sight for the better part of a week!

Need you back!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Apr 18 - 03:17 PM

Lurk lurk.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Apr 18 - 07:04 PM

Your Imperious Rapturous Rexness,
how was your wife's reunion trip, by the way?
(re your post a few weeks back)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Apr 18 - 01:30 PM

Keep this ship above the horizon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Apr 18 - 12:51 PM

Hey, get back up there ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 24 Apr 18 - 02:12 PM

So some happy news from me. Although my feet have blisters and my hips and legs are aching. (A sign of age maybe) our family went to London to watch the Marathon at the weekend. We walked a few miles, Tower Bridge to Westminster, hence the weary legs, but the atmosphere was amazing.
Some of you know that our eldest grandaughter is deaf, she has hearing aids and lip reads, she has perfect speech and does well at school however her parents have always been told, by health professionals,that she does not need to sign. The National Deaf Children's Society have said signing is so important in case she should lose her hearing suddenly by a blow to the head or high temperature.So the whole family will start learning in September.

Bunny has an amazing godfather, who decided to run the Marathon to raise funds for the NDCS , it was the hottest day of the year and many runners suffered dreadfully, however Stuart completed in 4 hours 25 minutes.He raised huge £6,000 which will pay for many families to learn to sign. In total £140,000 was raised for this wonderful Charity.

There are some photos on my Facebook page(hopeless at blue clicky here??) feel free to look.

Sending love to all the crew
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Apr 18 - 06:46 PM

Signing is a wonderful skill, as wonderful as speaking another language. Of course I hope your granddaughter never loses her hearing, but even if she doesn't, you may someday come across someone who needs help and can only communicate by signing. When I taught elementary school every morning my class and I would sign the alphabet, but that would be a tedious way to communicate. I know a few other signs, too, mostly because they are used in children's songs! You probably know that the sign languages used in the US and UK are different. I had read somewhere that because of a genetic disorder, many people on the island of Martha's Vineyard off the Massachusetts coast were once hearing impaired, so most people on the island, hearing and non-hearing, could use sign language. This is no longer the case. I always assumed they used American Sign Language, but I read recently that the island people had developed their own sign language. I can't be sure that's true, though.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Apr 18 - 07:59 PM

waaay back in the 90s my colleague sat next to a deaf woman so learned to sign to communicate with her. She became an official signer in our office & as her colleague became a close friend, her children learnt Aslan - Australian sign language too, & it was fun watching her 5-yr old daughter using English & Aslan in the same conversation when she visited the office.

This girl & her older brother spoke 4 languages as their parents were Italian & Greek!

sandra (who only speaks one language)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 24 Apr 18 - 10:22 PM

My wife's reunion trip went very well. She saw old friends and her relatives, although her uncle (90+) seems to be failing. As she said, "What will be, will be." Last of his generation -- worked on the Berlin Airlift.

Come May 15 I fly to Illinois for a reunion celebrating the 50th (a half century? NO!) of the activation and federalization of my National Guard unit. My brother Tony, at least 8 cousins, 2 sets of twins -- all went to A Country In Southeast Asia. Me, I went to the sunny DMZ in South Korea. The day after our sweating-in, my youngest brother, Ted, went off to Air Force basic training; he was trained as a linguist in...Vietnamese! This was not my widowed mother's happiest few years.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Apr 18 - 08:51 PM

Swearing-in, right?
that darned spell-checker.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Apr 18 - 08:53 AM

No, we were sweating it. My brother and I had to pull out of college; somehow staying alive in a place full of unfriendly folks became more important that the Ossian Cycle.

Here's part of the reason for the sweat: In January, 1968, an Ordnance Company that repaired trucks and things became a Quartermaster Company that distributed food and fuel. An Infantry Platoon (me and others) was slammed into the QM Company as the Bath and Laundry Platoon w/attached Graves Registration Unit. Save for the supply room and the company clerk, no one was qualified in their job. No one knew what they were to do. NATURALLY we were the only unit from Illinois which could be activated! However, we brought back a second "Meritorious Unit" citation and streamer for the company flag and had a (not activated with us) guy in the company earn a Silver Star for bravery (posthumously).

Oh, yes -- that Bath, Laundry, and Graves Platoon was chopped off and the individuals sent to various other units, mostly Infantry. All of us got a chance to serve overseas, including a bunch that went to Canada to test chemical warfare equipment in not-very-dilute mustard gas.

The best part of it all was about August 15, 1969, when we came home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Apr 18 - 11:58 AM

I stand corrected, Rapparee, thank you.

Thank you, Petefromsevenstars. Touching disclosure about the pet who remains with you.

Frogprince, from your photographs that you have in the past shared with us, spring is a time of year that has a lot of meaning for you.
It's easy to guess that spring will be bittersweet this year.
Thinking of you as you get through it all.

Mysha, hope you are more and more secure in the here and now, and that your emotions and feelings are healing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Apr 18 - 09:18 PM

In some ways, K, it was more of a swearing-at. We stood on a drill floor and were sworn into Federal Active Duty. In the background, someone had put on recordings of martial music -- one I remember distinctly was "Lili Marlene" and I felt ready to rush into Europe and do something or other with the Germans. Harmonize, maybe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Apr 18 - 08:40 PM

This afternoon I had a pain in my chest. It seemed to be moving to include my jaw. I mentioned it to my wife.

The urgent care place didn't have the equipment so off we were to the Emergency Room.

I was jabbed to start an IV and blood was drawn for test. An EKG was done. I was hooked up to a cardiac monitor. I was given three nitroglycerin tablets.

Then we waited. Various doctors and nurses checked on me. Eventually I was allowed a sandwich and to visit the bathroom.

EKGs were again taken and blood tests done. Nitro was sprayed into my mouth.

All tests showed normal. They will tell on me to my doctor and I'll probably have a stress test.

Everything normal, but when I sneeze the nitroglycerin explodes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 29 Apr 18 - 08:37 AM

I've had pains that move around my body , but only minor stuff . Here's hoping yours is just a tempory problem and 'normal ' is the continuing accurate diagnosis Rapparee

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Apr 18 - 02:09 PM

Wonder how Amos is maintaining --
he could use our good will during treatment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 01 May 18 - 02:37 PM

"Its wonderful to have such a friend that it is so hard to say goodbye."
Milne

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 May 18 - 06:33 PM

Amos wrote, in part, 22 hours ago:

I have just returned from a loverly weekend in the wilding hills of West Virginia where a clan of song-loving folkies gather to spend the days and evenings swapping songs at a rustic inn called The Brazen Head. A long long drive. But well worth it for the chance to get my fix of people in song. :D

On the 8th of May I will be delving into the unknown as the amazing technology of modern medicine again converges on my mortal shell to tweak and remodel it. This time it will be a robotic surgeon with six arms which will be moving in through six very small incisions to remove my trusty bladder and some auxiliary bits including the seminal vesicles and prostate gland, so that when I awake I will have to re-learn the rare art of urination all anew, but this time en plastique. As far as I can recall I was an average student of micturition in my first training on the course back in the 1940's, and improved steadily to the point where I could write my name in the snow. I am not sure how well that will work with this new system, but the nurse who was trying to coach me on what to expect reassured me cheerfully that I would still be able to point the stream. Preserve the small pleasures, that's what I say.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 May 18 - 07:50 PM

Oh, my.
Thanks, Rapparee.
Amos ... oh, my. I'm not going into joke territory.
This doesn't sound like any joke to me.
Thinking of you and yours.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 May 18 - 01:59 PM

Now Amos prepares for his hospital procedure a few days hence,
while today Rapparee -- as he has disclosed --
is given a stress test.
Keeping both in my heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 May 18 - 10:50 PM

The test is over and since I haven't heard from any doctor I suppose nothing immediately fatal was found. However, going 13 hours without food or drink (save my own spit and two sips of water to take pills) I was very, very hungry and thirsty. Now I'm just tired.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 May 18 - 08:45 PM

I'm glad you jumped that hurdle, Rap. Of course I'm hoping for good results. Let us know. In the meantime, get plenty of rest.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 May 18 - 09:19 PM

Amos needs all the help and good thoughts he can get. See MOAB.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 May 18 - 04:29 PM

Definitely thinking of Amos today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 May 18 - 09:02 PM

From Amos, 12 hours ago:

"I am about to leave for the hospital, to deliver my weary bod into the hands of the Boojums and the medicos for a few days. I am particularly intrigued by the prospect of 4-6 hours under anaesthesia while my plumbing gets reconfigured. I would prefer to sit on the ceiling watching every move, but my spiritual powers may not be up to such prowess as an act of will. So I may just slip into darkness and (I would hope) slip back out again into wakefulness at the turn of a valve by some kind anaesthesiologist who (one hopes) is paying close attention."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 May 18 - 09:39 PM

From the Conclusion of my Nukleer Stress Test Report:

"Perfusion imaging is abnormal. There is evidence of prior infarction in the territory of the right coronary artery. The left ventricle is dilated. Left ventribular systolic function is moderately reduced."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 May 18 - 12:52 PM

A is on my mind too, Rap. Plus, all things in moderation... keep yer stick on the ice.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 May 18 - 07:23 PM

Rap, what happens next?
I hope we hear soon about Amos, and of course I hope things went well.
I'm sending love to everyone sailing on Jane's Rainbow. Steady on!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 May 18 - 01:08 PM

Have a thought for Mrrzy as well
(see Mrrzy thread).

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 May 18 - 08:32 PM

I went to the doctor today. He said that I had a heart attack at some point in the past, didn't know it, and it's water under my bridge (his words). He changed two medicines and took me off another and said, "Git outa here! See me in a month."

From AMOS:

IT's not the same place I left a few days ago, but I am home. The dog recognized me. I got through all the hoops in some record short time, I think, but I am burdened with more instructions and gadgets than I would have believed possible. USing the urostomy bag is a major learning experience at first. There are seven kinds of doohicky you can use for night sleeps, hiking, etc. Not to mention the barrage of prescriptions they fired at me as I was leaving the hospital. Sweet Mother of Gawd! Poor Daly has her hands so full trying to just handle message and phone calls and the like, not to mention laundry and (now) giving me injections of some kind of blood thinner.

I have to get to work puzzling the schedule out. But I wanted you to know I have survived surgery and am home in one piece.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 May 18 - 09:34 PM

Good news, Rapparee, this means that you can go to that reunion this month that you mentioned a few posts back -- be safe en route.

Amos, if the dog says you're you, you're you, regardless of what has changed. Dogs are a blessing that way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 12 May 18 - 01:36 PM

Great news from A. And home so soon! Glad all went according to plan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 May 18 - 09:49 PM

Yay, Amos! I'm glad you are home. Give that dog some pats from me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amos
Date: 13 May 18 - 10:07 AM

hanks so much for all your encouragements. I am home and spending a lot of time doing f**k-all, for which I am always apologizing while being told it's expected. Very unusual circumstance. The bladder is out and gone. The doc says everything looked normal, no visual signs of cancer metastasis, etc. We await patholog

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amos
Date: 13 May 18 - 10:09 AM

...pathology's report and meanwhile I am learning the meaning of pain and the joys of surrendering yourself to the Great Pharma. I still reserve judgement, though.

Hugs to all.

AMos

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 May 18 - 03:37 PM

Heal well and fully, Amos.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 May 18 - 07:14 PM

best wishes to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 May 18 - 09:30 PM

Can't say I envy you for this experience, Amos. You're under strict orders to rest as appropriate and heal fast.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 May 18 - 02:22 PM

Stay well, Rap, for that reunion this month.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 15 May 18 - 07:37 PM

I know I don't post much, but I do pop in and keep up with this thread pretty regularly. If anyone has any spare good vibes to send out into the universe, my friend's talented and humorous teenaged son is dealing with cancer for the third time in five years. Connor goes in for surgery on Monday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 May 18 - 10:28 PM

Good vibes on their way from Rhode Island, ranger 1. Please keep us informed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 16 May 18 - 09:22 AM

Pain is but a moment of memory but an eternity in the now.
Unless you gotta ticket.

We are wishing Conner well

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 May 18 - 09:06 PM

Weather appears quite varied. Sea of life, eh? Deck chairs on the main deck, and tea and scones in the galley. Passage ways clear enough for passage to and from, as weather and circumstances dictate.



Deep caring to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 May 18 - 11:55 AM

Amos has reported elsewhere that the pathology report is good news; although a little trace of carcinoma was acknowledge,
nothing had spread or metastasized.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Amos
Date: 19 May 18 - 12:13 PM

Many thanks, brethren and cistern, for your encouragements.

The pathology reports no carcinoma in major places (bladder, prostate, etc.) but two microscopic traces of carcinoma in a couple of lymph nodes that were excised along witht he rest. This may mean more BS or may not. Meanwhile, recovering from the razor-blades that were flying around inside my belly is the first order of business.

My current theme song from the sainted Canadian songbird, Stan Rogers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 May 18 - 06:53 PM

Good song choice, Amos!

I wish you continuing recovery with rapidly diminishing pain. I would wish you no pain, but you've already indicated that you've suffered.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 May 18 - 11:12 PM

sending good wishes across the wide Pacific Ocean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 20 May 18 - 12:03 PM

Amos never forget that the lymph system is the sewage system for the body to eliminate internal garbage. Lymphomas are an entirely different animal from what you had.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 May 18 - 03:01 PM

Thinking of everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 May 18 - 02:05 PM

Amos must be feeling better
as he is calling Rapparee names again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 May 18 - 02:49 PM

Keep Mrrzy and family in mind and heart -- I am, for sure.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 May 18 - 10:24 AM

Memorial Day is not a bad day
to remember the ship that is this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 May 18 - 10:58 AM

Mind the stormy weather.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 31 May 18 - 05:07 PM

Storms on the horizon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 31 May 18 - 05:59 PM

As a conclusion to the Dean Saga, who stopped talking four years ago and refused school, Dean is moving out this week.

The magic potion, the magic bullet, the magic medicine is love.

He is moving into his girlfriend's place in TN. He is adking questions and beginning to learn about this strange world.
Better a babe in the woods than a hermit in a room.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 31 May 18 - 09:13 PM

Thank you, Donnelly, for your update. That sounds like progress to me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Jun 18 - 02:22 PM

Ach, ChanteyLass, we all know who you mean, regardless of the spell-checker! Those spell-checker programs are such an annoyance. They are all the more reason to check that "preview" box here so as to check the checker...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Jun 18 - 11:18 PM

And what good news, Donuel, about Dean.
Glad you didn't cave in with those people who gave your son a pessimistic evaluation.
It's been a long haul for you and him, both.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Jun 18 - 01:35 PM

Hey frogprince! Been thinking of you. Hope you are keeping on keeping on.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Jun 18 - 02:04 PM

I need this [relation]ship, more than words can say.
Keeping it visible on the horizon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Jun 18 - 10:05 PM

Well, Rapparee made it there and back for that Fiftieth-Year reunion.
And now he has been through an exam of his heart
and ... he needs our thoughts and prayers, again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 Jun 18 - 10:50 PM

I just noticed something and must reply:

Amos, that addlepated jackanapes, would never dare to call me names! I would never engage in a duel of wits with such an unarmed logomaniac as he.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 Jun 18 - 09:17 PM

Rappparee has a meeting with the cardiologist tomorrow at 0840 MDT. He'll there learn at least part of His Fate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Jun 18 - 09:29 PM

Here in Arizona's Arizona Time / Pacific Daylight Time,
I will be thinking of you,
Rappparee.      And of Rapparee as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Jun 18 - 05:55 PM

Feeling a little low, myself, without any excuse for it.
Hope all is well with everyone else.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Jun 18 - 06:44 PM

Keb you remind me of the guy who makes good will Christmas wishes and hope of Peace on Earth all year long.
Not that there is anything wrong with that. (a la Seinfeld)

May you enjoy summer Festivus.

Rap, may you never have KFC again.

Most of us have had appointments in which we have gone to Helen Beck.
Afterwards we are clearly changed. Here's to making that change constructive and at peace with love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Jun 18 - 08:08 PM

Kentucky fried chicken?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jun 18 - 08:25 AM

Remembering Lina Lalandi. I knew her for the final ten years of her life.

Lina Lalandi, who has died aged 91, founded the English Bach festival in 1962, and was its director from the first festival, in 1963, until her death. Its early performances of both modern and baroque music took place in Oxford before, in the 1970s, London became the focus, with guest nights at the Royal Opera House and concerts at the Banqueting House, Whitehall. Igor Stravinsky was the first president, succeeded on his death by Leonard Bernstein. Over time, the EBF moved away from modern music and concentrated on baroque opera, in period dress and with period instruments, in countless performances in the UK and abroad, at venues including the Palace of Versailles outside Paris, and the ancient Odeon of Herodes Atticus in Athens.

Lina was born in Athens, daughter of Nikolas Kaloyeropoulos, former director of the Byzantine museum and subsequently Greek minister of education, and his wife, Toula. She studied the piano at the Athens conservatoire. After the second world war, both Lina and her mother received certificates of appreciation from Field Marshal Sir Harold Alexander for "faithfully and loyally" serving the allied cause. By Lina's own account, she successfully led allied servicemen across Athens to safety, occasionally hiding them in her own bed. This must have been a memorable moment for those servicemen, as Lina was a famous beauty and became for a while a Chanel model.

After the war, Lina came to London to study, and was an early and gifted exponent of the harpsichord, as well as an eager advocate for the clavichord. She made her first solo appearance at the Royal Festival Hall in 1954 and during a successful solo career played with Ernest Ansermet and the Orchestre de la Suisse Romande.

Stravinsky, Bernstein, Iannis Xenakis, Oliver Messiaen, Karlheinz Stockhausen and other wonderful musicians were tempted to Britain by Lina, many for the first time. So many musical "firsts" were scored by the EBF that orchestras were well advised to check with her office before claiming one for themselves. Just as she had championed Bach and Couperin in her harpsichord recitals, so she proved to be an ambassador for French baroque opera, as well as operas by Gluck and Handel, through the EBF. In recognition of her work, Lina was made an OBE in 1975, an Officier de l'Ordre des Arts et des Lettres in 1979 and received, from Greece, the Gold Cross of the Phoenix and the Great Prize of Music.

Late successes for the EBF were Gluck's Telemaco in London and Athens in 2003, Rameau's Platée at the Megaron in Athens in 2006, Monteverdi's Orfeo at the Banqueting House in 2007 and, finally, Handel's Alceste in London – a work never performed in Handel's lifetime and eventually premiered by the EBF in 1989. It was repeated at the Royal Opera House in 2000 and, as her very last performance, at the Banqueting House in December 2009.

Nicholas Kenyon writes: Life in the English Bach festival office was never dull. Artists would ring: "I've just had a half-hour conversation with Lina – can you explain what it is I've agreed to do?" Working for Lina was an immersive baptism of fire for those of us starting out in the music world (it was my first-ever job, in the mid-1970s), and many of today's arts organisations are populated by Lalandi survivors who learned rapidly the challenges of mounting a supremely adventurous music festival with minimal resources. The festival was run out of houses in Belgravia that diminished in size as the festival's losses grew: Lina relied hugely on her impassively affectionate second husband, Ralph, both for support and money.

Lina was always ahead of the times: Messiaen came in the early years, and his wife Yvonne Loriod played the Catalogue d'Oiseaux to a half-empty Oxford Playhouse: but by 1973, the Messiaens returned in triumph to London, and the festival became an annual distinctive shot in the arm to London's musical life. The critics, fed by Lina's enthusiasm and cooking, loved her.

Lina's festivals were fuelled by emotional turmoil and occasional sharp practice (when she asked Paul Tortelier to play all six Bach cello suites in two concerts, she charged the audience twice, but tried to pay him one fee). They were informed by her acute artistic taste, her penetrating judgment of artists and repertory, and a visionary approach to the next thing that audiences would enjoy. Many contemporary composers have cause to be grateful for her advocacy – above all her fellow Greek Xenakis, for whose gritty and elemental music she led an enlightened crusade over the years.

But it was in Bach and baroque music that her greatest impact on current taste was felt. She was a pioneering supporter of the old-instrument generation of Philippe Herreweghe and Ton Koopman, Roger Norrington and Trevor Pinnock. She led with others the contemporary rediscovery of Rameau's operas, mounting quixotic single performances at Covent Garden on Sundays: while her strong belief in "authentic" staging did not win through, seeing the dances brought to life and hearing the intricacies of the music on period instruments was a revelation.

Lina was capable of great affection and warmth, even if there was often an ulterior motive beneath the charm. For all the chaos, working with her was immense fun; for all the complications, it was artistically wholly worth it; and for all that she was infuriatingly volatile and unpredictable, we all owe her a massively inspiring musical education. She opened our ears.

• Lina Lalandi, harpsichordist and music promoter, born 1920; died 8 June 2012

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Jun 18 - 09:32 AM

The above obituary has been edited from the full text, originally published in The Guardian. The full obituary may be read here

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Jun 18 - 07:26 PM

Rapparee, how goes it? Been thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Jun 18 - 10:12 PM

Awful. I'm near death, laying here and awaiting the Grim Reaper. It's terrible. One artery is 20-30% blocked and my ejection fraction is about 50%, with a norm of about 60%. Some cardiac muscle tissue is not functioning as it should (could be due to a past viral infection). I can't run even an eight minute mile, bench press 400 pounds (181 kg.), jog to the top of Kinport Mountain (6,438 feet/1,962 meters above sea level) without stopping, hike 8 km. with a 45 kg. pack, HALO jump, or anything! (I did once run a mile in under 8 minutes, but I was 18 years old.) Mind you, I can't imagine why I want to do any of these things, but just the idea that I can't is enough to make me give up all hope.

Okay, I'll have to do other things instead.

The doctor has referred me to Cardio Rehab, and when that's over I'll get into some fitness club or something.

Who's there? You! The Grim Reaper! Ain't nobody here you want, so just get the hell outa here! NOW! Don't make me disjoint you! SCRAM!

Good. That critter skedaddled!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jun 18 - 12:14 PM

Can't HALO jump? Me neither. It's not that I am scared of heights... just very fond of the ground. I like terra firma. The more firma, the less terra.

I know you like puns, Rap so I gave it a try. yw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Jun 18 - 02:08 PM

Thanks for telling us, Rapparee.
Gnu, decent of you to de-lurk for a post or two as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Jun 18 - 08:59 PM

a couple of recent things that were good for me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Jun 18 - 12:57 PM

Froggy, my life is Facebook-free so I can't view it,
but thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jun 18 - 02:51 PM

I also put what I wanted to share here. The first two images. Once again, if you get an adult content warning, I promise that this isn't a link to any garbage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jun 18 - 02:54 PM

There are explanations under each picture.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 20 Jun 18 - 07:39 AM

We didn't really fall of the edge of the ocean; it's just the curve of the Earth that makes it look that way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jun 18 - 12:01 PM

Remembering Pat 'catspaw' Patterson. His witty intelligence has rarely been matched. Taken far too soon,
               Love you Pat,
                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Jun 18 - 02:04 PM

Hope Amos is feeling more like himself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Jun 18 - 11:06 PM

It's been a rough week for members of my family. The grocery store my brother put his heart and soul into for the past 13 years finally closed for good on Saturday. Hallmark doesn't make a "Condolences on the death of your dream" card, but they ought to. And yesterday, my sister fell off her deck and broke her ankle, compound fracture, and will need surgery to have a permanent plate to hold everything together. Me, I'm just itchy from caterpillar dermatitis.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 03:39 AM

sending hugs - good thing they are virtual cos I'd hate to get caterpillar dermatitis.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 07:46 AM

I have been away from this ship for too long. No real excuses but Billy has had shingles for 6 weeks. He is left handed and the nerve pain is in his left arm. I now know how much he does for me when he is well, 6 weeks of watching him either sleeping( strong meds) or being in constant pain when awake has meant he could do nothing. So trying to run the business, do all the driving, gardening, cooking and being a nurse has been quite a challenge. He actually said the the perforated appendix some years ago and all the chemo he had were easier to cope with than the past few weeks. The pain has reduced him to tears! However I am hoping he has turned the corner as he managed to mow the lawn on Wednesday and yesterday we went out for lunch with my daughter to celebrate my Birthday.
The good news is that he saw his consultant this week for his 4 month check up and all his blood results were good, still on the clinical trial so back in October. God bless our N
HS and Colchester Hospital. All free and available to my New Jersey boy.

Wishing love to everyone aboard, I have been catching up with all the news here. Shall I put the coffee pot on, I have coffee cake

Much love Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 08:41 AM

Thanks, Sandra. And caterpillar dermatitis isn't contagious, it's a histamine reaction.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 08:12 PM

Ranger1, you and your family are certainly having a tough time. I hope the future brightens soon!
Wendy, I'm glad Billy is starting to feel better!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 09:40 PM

Ranger: Don't talk about the death of a dream. Maybe this dream died, but a new dream rises from the ashes of the old one. Does this Hallmark make phoenix cards?

Bye,
                                                             Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Jun 18 - 03:42 PM

I did remark that there were storms on the horizon.
It never rains but it pours, doesn't it!
Take care and feel better everybody.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 02:58 AM

I have made few, meaningful posts for sometime & have come to the decision that I should withdraw from 'Jane's Rainbow'. Ann & I continue to grieve for our belovéd Jane, quietly & privately. Much good has come from the Rainbow since she first set sail, six years ago. Long may that continue.
            Ann & I wish you all a calm sea & a prosperous voyage,
                                                                                                      Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 12:10 PM

Jane's Rainbow is now 126 pages deep,
and that is a fairly solid anchoring.

Someone else will take the wheel now,
and the ship will continue to sail.

Thanks, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 05:43 PM

Nigel. If you read this... I understand.

Thank you for this journey.

I will check back from time to time, as I have, but my situation weighs heavy and I too may simply have to take a long(er) break.

Thanks to all.

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 07:19 PM

calm sea & a prosperous voyage to Nigel & Anne

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Jun 18 - 04:36 PM

G'night, gnu, you have a place in the thoughts and prayers of us all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Jun 18 - 09:43 PM

If anyone wonders where I've been.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 29 Jun 18 - 09:30 AM

We will miss you, Nigel. Best to you and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Jul 18 - 03:25 PM

Seconded.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jul 18 - 06:29 PM

Adding my good wishes to Nigel and Ann, as they continue to grieve Jane.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Jul 18 - 10:01 AM

rapparee, hope that heart of yours is negotiating a healthy compromise in its conflicts.

Donuel, hope all is going well for your son.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Jul 18 - 07:52 PM

Nigel and Ann, take care of yourselves and each other. If you need us, we'll be here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Jul 18 - 12:39 PM

I spent a wonderful day yesterday with our lovely Nigel. We have been friends here ever since he started this Rainbow voyage but had never met. We often said he would come here and spend a day at our beach hut in the little seaside town where he enjoyed many childhood holidays and yesterday at last, Billy and I welcomed him to our home and the hut by the sea. We even managed to climb to the top of the Trinity House Tower at the Naze (111 steps to the top)

This Rainbow crew have shared many sad times but also many happy and funny memories. Nigel and Ann will always be in our thoughts and of course Jane and her family, without them many friendships would never have happened but more importantly the love and compassion shown by all on board has been so important to all who sail with us.

Sending much love and thanks to Nigel and Ann, may our little ship sail on and on for all who need love and healing thoughts.

All my love Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Jul 18 - 04:33 PM

Lovely to hear that, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Jul 18 - 10:44 PM

Thinking of you, gnu,
and of those to whom you are attached.
Hang in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jul 18 - 12:30 PM

I expect your beach hut was a welcome respite from the blazing sun Wendy !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Aug 18 - 03:13 PM

Mudcatter Donuel chose to be very private about his loss,
in Mudcat posts this year.
It is now a number of months since the bereavement in Donuel's family.
Slow as I am, I just understood it today, this very minute.

I respect Donuel's privacy and his choice to be discreet in his posts.
And I am sorry beyond words
for Donuel's and his family's bereavement.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Aug 18 - 04:30 PM

I think of people who face a close bereavement and my tacit support goes with them. My situation amounts to no more than an empty nest.
While I appreciate the notion of empathy, healing hearts could go toward those in need. In photos we smile but in life we don't smile on command. Smiling times come and go.
For those who need support there is no loss too small or too large to be shared and healed over time without judgement in 'Jane's Rainbow'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Aug 18 - 05:52 PM

Actually I was referring to Donuel's brother.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Aug 18 - 06:23 PM

thinking of Amos and gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Aug 18 - 03:20 PM

...and Amos has posted to the Mudcat that he is feeling better.
Thinking of
frogprince and gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Aug 18 - 10:01 AM

In posting for about 20 years I have presented a vulnerable side. Vulnerable in the sense of TMI to the emotionally compromised.
Regarding mixed feelings about the dead and not speaking ill of the dead in mixed company, first I have been unable to obtain a death certificate from PR and only have private accounts to o by. Second I have not seen Steve in 52 years and rely solely on telephone communication. Third, Steve is/was a half brother. Until finality can be officially established there is not much to be said.

Death always involves some mixed feelings we generally do not discuss.
I do not advocate doing away with discussing the mixed feeling side of death but only acknowledge its existence. Unreasonable guilt can result from an obsession with mixed feelings.

Keboroxu, we all have an appointment with death so the social convention of honoring the dead to some degree is good for everyone.

It can be challenging to honor a near stranger, a Scalia or a Trump but it can be done.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Aug 18 - 04:42 PM

Yes, the post about Donuel's brother Steve was submitted to the BS thread on Puerto Rico, with reason, since it was in the aftermath of the Hurricane Maria catastrophe that the death took place.

So one of our own long-time Mudcatters is experiencing that catastrophe in a way very close to home.
Thanks for your graciousness in permitting me to speak up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 14 Aug 18 - 06:52 PM

Yes I am polite but 'permitting' you to speak up would be presumptuous if not impossible. You detect subtleties well. I daresay your posting rate exceeds mine, not that there is anything wrong with that.

Well maybe there is but this community has become too polite to complain. Well Joe complained but he is a founder and chief...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 04:22 PM

Ranger1, hope your siblings are mending swiftly and feeling better.

Thinking of frogprince as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 09:53 PM

Life goes on...There are now some ashes where her parents and one brother are buried, some scattered on the trails and beach at a nearby state rec area we frequented, and some along the Martha's Vineyard beach near her other brother's summer place, where we spent a few days most summers. In a week I set out for the Greek Island of Naxos, where we visited twice and would have returned if it could have been. Most of the remaining ashes will go along in a little cardboard travel urn. It took something of a comedy of clerical errors to get through the paperwork for that, but fortunately I got into it well in advance. Naxos turned out to be kind of our place in the whole world, so I've really wanted to do this. I'm spending some time with friends most days, and starting on a small (n) scale train layout. I'm sure I haven't had my last incidental meltdown, but I'm not in desperate straits.
                Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 10:09 PM

Last Thursday, after two days of prep and liquid diets, I had a colonoscopy. Nine polyps, none seemed malignant to the doc. But to my chagrin I have a polyp on a hemorrhoid (which I didn't know I had and which I didn't know grew polyps) and it will have to be surgically removed and biopsied. Well, that's for late November/early December -- too much is going on beforehand. AND I've moved from a 10 year cycle for colonoscopies to a 3 year one.

I'd say, "S**t" but it doesn't seem appropriate somehow. Well, it's better than the alternatives!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 10:10 PM

Oh, yes. Contrary to popular opinion, the laxatives I had to take for the prep did not make me disappear completely!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Aug 18 - 02:41 PM

It all sounds monumentally embarrassing.
Take care of yourself in the meanwhile.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Aug 18 - 10:02 PM

I long ago decided I'd rather be mortally embarrassed than dead. I have an appointment with Dr. (Katie) Fritz, the surgeon, on the 11th. In the meantime I continue cardiac rehab for three more visits.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 Aug 18 - 03:00 AM

With you there on embarrassment, Rap. (Fu**it!)

I'd appreciate a short tow behind the Rainbow. There's a situation that has another week and a half to run, and I need sleep (not advice) SO BADLY. All indicators are that I'm handling that sitch beautifully, but it kicks up just about every trauma of my difficult childhood. None of it is anything I can post about in further detail; I am getting good counseling sessions 4x/week. But not sleeping even with pretty srs meds. I'm a little "dinghy"!

Thank you, sailors. I can sing out a few spirituals from back here.

"Climbing high mountains":
"... still on my journey..." 3x "tryin to get home."

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Aug 18 - 10:00 PM

Still on sub-lurk. Just 'busy'. Hugs to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 31 Aug 18 - 10:02 PM

wysiwig, you CAN do it. You have it within you. Believe me, for I've been there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 05:41 AM

Thanks, Rap. Coming from you, how could I not believe that?

I ended up, to be sure I'd get enough sleep to NOT bring a "bull" into a very tightly laid out "china shop," trying a sleep med that bought me one 12 hour sleep, and one about half that. A few more days for that situation to ripen, and all will shift back to where I can bring my unique skillset to bear on it.

I think it's been the waiting-- for that moment-- that's had my tight abs levitating me off the bed. I also woke, from that 12-hour sleep respite, remembering that when my son got stuck in the birth canal and they said to stop pushing until the c-section team arrived, I'd used a keening scream to keep from pushing thru what (by then) were oxytocin-fueled monster contractions. (You can't push with an open throat!) So, after the sleep meds wore off, I just sang-howled to my service dog every time my belly tensed. She'd wag, I'd laugh, the day passed. A new anti-anxiety alternative.

These meds run against my whole mind-management belief system and practice. I decided that since I'd had to forego that practice for the duration, a few days' use could be ok, and so I'll schedule extra time for that practice once I get out of the "china shop."

"Michael row the boat ashore...."

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 09:06 AM

... Hallelujah

Sister help to trim the sails, Hallelujah ....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 04:17 PM

Thanks, Sandra.

A productive morning!

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 06:07 PM

As a complete aside: Sandra, I first heard Michael Row the Boat Ashore from my cousins when I was very small. My paternal grandfather was barely literate, and didn't read music. My much older cousins would learn songs and sing them for him when they'd come to visit, and my grandfather would then learn the songs from them. And he'd sing them to me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 07:21 PM

lovely memory, Tami. I have no memories of my grandfather even tho I was 7 when he died & didn't live too far away (my other grandfather died before I was born)

Susan - just re-read your last post & wondered about the effect of your keening screams in the birthing room on the staff!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 11:28 PM

Sandra, they egged me on.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Sep 18 - 02:42 PM

First leg of the journey to Greece this evening: crossing the border to a motel, to catch an early train to Toronto tomorrow. I'm running on very mixed feelings...anticipation, to visit Naxos again, distribute ashes, and spend some days in Menorca while overseas...trepidation, at making the journey without Judy. Thinking of all the support the "crew" here have given me, and of the waters that are rough for some of the rest of you.

            Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Sep 18 - 05:23 PM

6300 posts!

Froggy... Bon Voyage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Sep 18 - 07:17 PM

Susan, forgive me for this, but...:

They called her a screamer,
Well, maybe she was,
But you'd have to hear for yourself...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Sep 18 - 08:09 PM

I can't wish you a "happy" holiday frogprince, but I hope you find what you need. Sending good wishes & hugs.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Sep 18 - 09:14 PM

I can only wish you peace, and may your travel (getting from one place to another) be boring in the extreme.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Sep 18 - 08:41 AM

Dean, I can't speak for anyone other than myself, but knowing that the ashes of my loved ones are someplace meaningful to both myself and them gives me comfort.

My uncle spread his portion of my grandmother's ashes over the cellar hole of the house she was born in, now a piece of protected land belonging to the people of the State of Maine. I will spread some of my portion on the osprey sanctuary after the osprey leave for the season, and take the rest with me to leave in beautiful places that she would have loved to visit herself.

Safe travels, my friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 05 Sep 18 - 09:06 AM

Dean, +++

I think I can cast off today (I'm waiting on a word of news). Soon I'll be able to speak openly about the situation that made my seas so rough, and the smooth winds will leave me in place to catch the current for home.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 05 Sep 18 - 12:27 PM

Word received.

My Episcopal priest husband's formal announcement of his surprisingly-soon (Jan 1) retirement is now publicly known in the parish (after an unavoidable one week delay). This affects me in so many ways only another clergy spouse of my vintage can understand.... And there are none near me.... my only almost-peer is dealing with her own equally serious stuff two states away... and there are now only a few days open to me to support hubby and parish full of dearly loved elders and a few potentially negatively-reactive folks. I'm at least able now to bring my unique skillset to this brief and intense moment. Sunday morning will be especially chaotic but an avalanche of community blessings and cursings can fall on us at any place or time-- some fell on him this AM. And we're clearly too old to deal with this all "easily".

His first plan was 2009 early retirement after 25 years' exhausting ministry. The market wiped that plan out. I started later, 25 years ago, and for me it's not early. I'm 65 and facing a family dementia history. No one in the parish knows that yet. We arrived here as newlyweds. We'd like some honeymoon time. Now.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 05 Sep 18 - 11:00 PM

Dean its a voyage to remember or maybe even have the surprise of your new life.

wysiwyg I second that emotion and honeymoon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Sep 18 - 03:25 PM

There can't be many ministers and their wives stayed with the same church or parish for so long wysiwyg . We'll done and blessings to you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 06 Sep 18 - 03:52 PM

Aw Pete. Just the right thing to say.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 09 Sep 18 - 04:33 PM

Well, crew, I've been enjoying Naxos, if not as fully as would have been. There are now ashes in each of the four beach areas where we swam together "as nature intended" each time we were here. (I haven't explained that part of the significance to everyone.) There always happened to be a be a few too many folk around for me to walk along scattering, so I would sit and scoop down in the sand beside me and cover a portion of ash. That leaves just a handful or so at home that wouldn't quite fit in the little travel urn; I have to decide where those go. Some like to keep at least a portion, but for myself that feels a bit like keeping a finger as a holy relic. As Ranger1 noted, I too am finding a certain comfort in knowing these remains will be in places meaningful to Judy.
                            Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Sep 18 - 06:04 PM

Thanks for checking in, frogprince.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Sep 18 - 09:29 PM

November 29. Hemorrhoidectomy. Me. What a pain in the...you know what. But it's best to find out about the polyps that are there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Sep 18 - 10:17 PM

Ouch!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 14 Sep 18 - 04:49 PM

For all the friends and family I can think of: "Today in Menorca"
Before I left home, I booked with "Jeep Safari Menorca" for today. So glad that I did. We set out into the countryside on miles of one lane "roads", between stone walls, that would have destroyed a sedan in a fraction of a mile. The driver/guides had made sure we fastened our seat belts; they weren't kidding. First stop, a huge limestone quarry, now like parkland in a canyon, where you could see the difference in how blocks had been cut to a certain depth by hand chiseling and then by power saws. (Most construction has been concrete for decades now). More country roads, and a maze of one-way streets in some old town. On to an overlook with a very long view of island and sea. Just after that we stoppped momentarily while the drivers manually locked up the front hubs for four wheel drive; we had come to the really interesting part of the road. Actually the ride wasn't as violent as it had been, because we were slowed way down for a ways. On to a lighthouse, with adjacent man made cave, used for armaments during the Spanish Civil War. An excellent, very Spanish, dinner at a farm with no other civilisation in sight. Final stop, an hour at a very nice beach. I laid back a while after being dropped back to my hotel, and walked a little way to one of a string of street cafes. Just as I started back to the hotel, the street resounded with brass and drums playing ...something...followed by "When the Saints Go Marching In" and other standards. I found the street totally packed with so many people following the band, kids on shoulders, that I couldn't see a sign of the band somewhere up there. After a few blocks they turned into a hotel complex and circled the pool, and I could see it was about two dozen young people in white shirts and dark slacks. They sounded like any professionals you could ask for; some of them might have been in high school, but several couldn't have been above fourth grade. It was a sublime conclusion to a good day.
          Then it got me.                  Judy would have loved it so much.
I'm okay, everyone, but I'm still kind of a soggy mess.   
                      DDE

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 14 Sep 18 - 05:53 PM

(((Dean)))

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Sep 18 - 07:54 PM

I kept a blog that was letters to my dad for a couple of years after he died, my way of working through my grief. That end to your day that Judy would have loved? That was the kind of thing I'd put in those letters. Doesn't have to be electronic, the old-fashioned paper and pen variety work well, too, if that's something you think might help you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Sep 18 - 02:15 PM

Ranger1, are your relatives doing any better?
That post a ways back in this thread
sounded like you had a whole cluster of calamities.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Sep 18 - 03:30 PM

Keb, that question's a can of worms I really don't want to open right now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Sep 18 - 01:57 PM

Done it again. I apologize, Tami.

We still need this ship on our horizons.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Sep 18 - 02:45 PM

sail on, sail on

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Oct 18 - 01:02 PM

Safe journey home, frogprince.
We're still here and still thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Oct 18 - 01:19 PM

I finally came out as transgender on Facebook the night before last. Earlier in the day, my manager at the market made me a new name badge with my new name on it. That, and a friend telling me that the people who really mattered wouldn't care and those who couldn't accept it didn't need to be in my life were the nudge I needed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Oct 18 - 04:53 PM

ranger1, that friend was right. You will know who your true friends are. Many of us will never find out, or we'll find out in different ways, like who sticks with us through a serious illness.
I didn't spot you at the PMFF but wondered how you were doing. I'm wondering what your new name is.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Oct 18 - 06:21 PM

I had to work during PMFF this year. And it's Tamson. Close enough to the one I was given at birth so as not to make things too difficult for those who have known me as Tami.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Oct 18 - 07:26 PM

Go, Tamson! I'm pulling for you.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Oct 18 - 09:37 PM

Actually, I've been back home for a week. I'm glad that I made the trip; I enjoyed it as a whole, and had some non-predictable moments with people I met that were genuine fun.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Oct 18 - 09:41 AM

yah! Tamson

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Oct 18 - 05:44 PM

Okay, Tamson! Sorry you had to work and missed the festival.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Oct 18 - 11:46 AM

Good to hear from you, frogprince.

Thinking of gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Oct 18 - 06:37 PM

I ought to have addressed you as Tamson rather than Tami,
but you know who I meant ... best wishes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 04 Oct 18 - 09:13 PM

I will NEVER use the name Tamson in Mudcat! That there be r1. Always was and always will be. r1 has been a good buddy of mine for a long time. And r1 will always be a good buddy of mine. A person I respect, admire, and learn from. Even more so, now.

Thanks for being my friend, r1. Yer 'one of the good ones'.

Oh... while I am briefly here, I shall add... life sucks and then you die. That is all. Dismissed. Smoke 'em if ya got 'em. >;-)

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Oct 18 - 09:47 PM

Aw, shucks, gnu.

Keb, don't worry about it. It's all good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 05 Oct 18 - 04:51 PM

Being as I've just met "R1" on one occasion, I guess I won't be seriously tempted to blather "One of my best friends is...", but, between that meeting and our history here, I certainly count him (you) as a friend. For a good share of my life, I would have been really put off by the transition. Now, however I toss it around in my head, all I feel is happy to know that a good person has made a decision that needed to be made. Y'know...it feels good to know that about myself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Oct 18 - 07:24 PM

Keep fighting the good fight, gnu.
Maybe life sucks and then you die,
but wherever your mother is going to go,
there will be a reward for you in due time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 09 Oct 18 - 07:07 AM

Tamson, just sending love and best wishes to you,I read a beautiful poem in another place,written by you. So wonderfully constructed and sensitively written. Might you share it here with this special crew?

All is well here, enjoyed a huge family gathering at the weekend to celebrate my cousins golden wedding. Four generations of cousins, their children and grandchildren and 2 Aunts from the generation before.It was so good to see all the little ones getting on so well together,shyness evaporated almost immediatly.Meanwhile us"oldies" found ourseleves on the wedding photos, did I really wear such short skirts and the big hairdo.

Medical appointments for my daughter this week ,for an unpleasant procedure and then Billy has his 4 monthly appointment and trial results,fingers crossed!

Coffee pot on....

With love
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Oct 18 - 02:12 PM

October, for some reason, is an anniversary month
for some of the most challenging bereavements.
I won't list the anniversaries here, for the
Jane's Rainbow crew:
you all know who you are.
And my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Oct 18 - 02:58 PM

Keep this vessel above the horizon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 15 Oct 18 - 08:09 AM

I have a difficult anniversary every Xmas/January. Never know how it will manifest each year. This year's falls on my husband's long-anticipated retirement, with some house-leaving.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Oct 18 - 04:07 PM

Thank you keberoxu for you thoughtful comment ; it is one year today that we lost our Tommy. I remember how this crew took a strong part in supporting us through that . Blessings all       Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 15 Oct 18 - 05:47 PM

Pete, my salute to you on making it through the year.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Oct 18 - 10:54 AM

wishing you a peaceful anniversary, Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Oct 18 - 01:26 PM

Have a thought and a prayer
for Keith A of Hertford,
who has his own thread above the BS section
where people who can't post in BS
can add their posts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Oct 18 - 11:30 PM

I've been away from Mudcat for several days and dropped in to catch up. This is a busy time of year for me, but I'm still sending my love to all and keeping you in the Light.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Oct 18 - 10:23 PM

Don't forget Mr and Mrs Rapparee --
they have a tough anniversary or two at this time of year.
Himself is bracing for an ow-that-smarts surgery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 24 Oct 18 - 06:19 PM

Easy does it, everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 26 Oct 18 - 12:07 PM

I didn't post this earlier, as I didn't want to intrude on the remembrance of Tommy.

Here's the poem Wendy mentioned. I wrote it for my mother, who was reliving her memories of sexual assault during the Kavanaugh hearings. I felt that if she, and other women, could be brave enough to come forward about what had happened to them, then I could be brave enough to come out as transgendered.

I understand now why you didn't want sons
Even though you got one anyway
Born into the wrong body
My life might have been different
Knowing now what we didn't know then
You knew I was different
But the way you raised me would have been the same
You protected me and camouflaged me
Until I was ready to be the real me
You may have been born in the year of the tiger
But you have always been a dragon
Fiercely protective
But with a wisdom you rarely credit yourself with
I don't know if dragons have larval forms
But I think they must
Because I have finally shed my chrysalis
And become my own dragon

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 Oct 18 - 12:45 PM

Tamson, that's beautiful. Than you for posting.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Oct 18 - 05:48 PM

seconded!

congratulations on a beautiful poem

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 Oct 18 - 06:25 PM

Tamson, I love that poem.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Oct 18 - 07:35 PM

This is a fine place for the poem,
and in fact
it would be equally at home on the Poetry Slam thread, it's that good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Oct 18 - 01:12 PM

Don't let this vessel sail out of sight.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 31 Oct 18 - 06:44 PM

... and no news, in a sense, is good news ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Nov 18 - 05:17 PM

Dog rest ye all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Nov 18 - 11:11 AM

Sail, Rainbow, sail.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Nov 18 - 02:57 PM

So as not to give offense, I won't identify the Mudcatter by member name.
But the member casually let drop, on a music thread,
that an elderly parent died in October (last month)
and that the member not only spoke at the parent's funeral
but made music, in spite of being intensely emotional about it.

Go ahead and jump on me for my anonymous comment if you must, but
I want to say that the member in question
has my deepest sympathy and appreciation. Thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Nov 18 - 07:34 AM

Morning crew, we have just had a wonderful 10 days with nephews and a niece visiting us from New Jersey, they managed to take in Windsor Castle, stone henge, Bath, London with all the usual"must dos" london eye, Buckingham Palace, Greenwich and we all enjoyed the Eagles game at Wembley. Two days in Edinbrugh then a day in Suffolk. We saw them off at Heathrow on Friday. What a whirlwind visit but much love and hugs to enjoy plus the great news that Billy had another 4 month check up with his specialist and he is still in remission.
Having a restful day today looking at all the photos, coffee pot on if you would like a cup
With love
Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Nov 18 - 09:49 PM

congratulations to Wendy and her family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Nov 18 - 08:42 AM

WTF, a migraine symptom returned just now but without agony. whew

They begin at puberty and are suppose to abate at man/menopause.
The symptom is a thin moving wriggling bright rainbow lightning bolt that shimmers in my field of vision no matter which eye I close. It has drifted to a right side peripheral position so it does not block the sweet spot. I would encourage future research to focus on sex hormone - migraine connections. Poof, it just disappeared. The lightning bolt, not the sex. :^/

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Jeri
Date: 07 Nov 18 - 08:56 AM

Don, I have a friend who goes blind (usually in just one eye) because of a migraine, with absolutely no pain. Mine were different, pre-menopausal, to the point where I didn't tell my neuro how many I was getting. Now, it's mostly weather and fatigue. Funny, but Feverfew (prophylactic flower/herb) worked great before, and doesn't work now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Nov 18 - 11:23 AM

I believe that visual anomalies like these usually precede a headache. I always thought the pain was vascular in origin when the blood vessels constrict but since the brain has no pain receptors where does the pain come from? How can blood vessels have their own nerves? Perhaps the brain does feel pain when it is oxygen restricted. The pain is associated with the eyes from the eyes to the occipital and neck region.

Obviously something is disrupting/blocking visual impulses. Drugs that open neural pathways seem to restore normal function but often by too much like LSD. Detectives of migraine phenomena often point to biochemical causes with a trigger mechanism. What if it is merely a short circuit that migrates like epilepsy but with no convulsions?

By comparing experiences the cumulative similarities will advance our own musings. Sometimes we are our own best doctors.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 09 Nov 18 - 02:49 PM

So... the annual anniversary I deal with at the dark of the year is the death, in utero, of my identical twin at about 4-1/2 months gestation. It was a late twinning, meaning that the egg division was completed with timing that resulted not only in a shared placenta, but-- so rare-- a shared amniotic sac. I have the complete memory of dying (co-experiencing with my twin what she experienced), and the complete memory of struggling to survive her dying.

It's very rare for one to survive the other's death within the shared sac. The dissolution and resorption of the one affects the other. So, part of the annual cycle for me usually includes being grossed out by smells and disorder around me.

I work on this hard in counseling, and every year it manifests in a new way that I don't see coming. This year, it happens that when my energy will be at its annual low, my husband is retiring from a busy parish at the busiest time of the year. For both our sakes-- he's very tired-- I've negotiated that our actual final moving process will wait till March. Our retirement cottage in Ohio is furnished "enough" that we'll depart PA with two mattresses and kitchen essentials, and any valuables we don't wish to leave in the empty house.

I head back from Ohio to PA Dec. 5. I'm trying to simplify everything I can, now, so that our retirement goes smoothly.

And I just spotted one way it's come up already this year-- worrying that hubby may die of exhaustion. I'll have to work on that!

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Nov 18 - 02:17 PM

this is a tough time for a lot of us
hang in there, everybody

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 11 Nov 18 - 03:03 PM

wysiwyg I agree with -in utero- memories. Those who never had formed them and repeated them in later years as a result of crises can not even begin to imagine the concept or clarity of in utero memories. Revealing what they have to say can be exceedingly important but memories are not the boss of a damn thing.

How you incorporate near death incidents are entirely your choice.

btw did you ever have a preference for left handedness?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Nov 18 - 06:07 PM

Have a thought for Rapparee, whose surgery is in roughly a week's time, and it could indeed feel rough -- among other feelings.
I'll be keeping him and his better half close to heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 24 Nov 18 - 04:49 AM

Keith has passed. Thinking of his family and friends.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Nov 18 - 01:13 PM

Thinking of Rapparee, who has been shopping for sitz baths online,
and otherwise girding his loins -- literally, I don't doubt.
In preparation for, ugh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Nov 18 - 09:13 PM

But before that happens Rapparee gets lasered in the right eyeball on Tuesday! Something about clouding of the back of the lens following cataract surgery and blasting a hole through the cloudiness. It's not supposed to hurt and Annie Thesia isn't supposed to be necessary.

Girding my loins? I'm girding top to bottom, if you'll pardon the pun.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Nov 18 - 10:55 PM

A Mudcatter (of note), many years ago taught me this terminology... I am on sub'lurk. Still here but not.

Carry on. Smoke em if ya got em.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Nov 18 - 03:42 PM

I haven't even been lurking. Sometimes life (just busy with other things) gets in the way. In the meantime, you are all in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Nov 18 - 11:10 AM

Funeral this week for Mudcatter Keith A of Hertford,
see obit thread in the upper section of forum threads.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 29 Nov 18 - 01:51 PM

I'm just now entering that annual cycle. It peaks around Christmas and stays at the peak through February.

I'm SO tired of hearing why/how others struggle at that time each of year-- in their rush to be heard about their story, they dismiss and then exacerbate exactly what is too hard for me-- it's too much like the dead, rotting mess I can't escape, polluting my space. "Tell somebody ELSE" is how I feel, but never say.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Nov 18 - 11:16 AM

This past month has had a difficult anniversary for Rapparee.
And he had to spend last night in hospital on top of that.
Hope we hear from him soon, and that 'B-9' is the verdict.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Dec 18 - 06:31 PM

This thread has a number of earlier posts
concerning Mudcatter Donuel's son.
There has been no update on that situation of late,
and hopefully the absence of recent posts
means that Donuel's son is in fact doing really well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 01 Dec 18 - 08:03 PM

I'm home. See MOAB for my last comment on the surgery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Dec 18 - 12:14 PM

how did your ocular surgery work out?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 08 Jan 19 - 12:33 PM

When days are short and travels seem too long
Our destination may seem out of reach
With storm and seas against us in the night
How hard it is see the merest light
Yet, hope can always be a guiding star

                                                                  Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jan 19 - 04:05 PM

I like that, Mysha!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 11 Jan 19 - 02:45 PM

'They' say no news is good news but no news is just no news.
'They' are optimistic in the dark and sing to salve no news worry wounds.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 11 Jan 19 - 04:35 PM

My last post here was full of stuff people probably misunderstood because as a former twin, I'm STILL forgetting that no one else is automatically reading my mind/heart.

I worried I or hubby would die and instead I loast two of the best friends I ever had, during this hardest time of the year.

:-(

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Jan 19 - 04:15 PM

Everybody here must know by now that Amos went in hospital.
When word is sent updating his treatment and progress,
it may be to a thread different than this one.

It's been a few days since the last update. But then,
progress might be slow at this point.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Jan 19 - 05:02 PM

See the thread in the section above the line,
"Amos is ill,"
for a mailing address
in the rehab center portion
of the North Carolina Memorial Hospital,
where he will be spending some time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Jan 19 - 08:19 PM

Amos needs me to write him. I think I shall.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Jan 19 - 08:20 PM

Amos Jessup
Room 7342
North Carolina Memorial Hospital
101 Manning Dr.
Chapel Hill, NC 27514

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Jan 19 - 09:39 PM

Okay, I did. I'll mail it tomorrow, if the PO opens.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Feb 19 - 10:19 AM

surely I have not sunk the Rainbow?

Mudcatter MMario has passed away,
there is an obit thread for him.

And Mudcatter Amos
was due to be discharged from
the hospital's rehab wing and sent home
with much outpatient continuing care.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Feb 19 - 11:47 AM

No Keb, it was probably me. Let's pump her out; she'll be floating in no time.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Feb 19 - 01:52 PM

Broke my shoulder. Slipped on ice, Jan. 20. Shoulder surgery on Jan. 28. Housebound, can't drive, live alone. A waterproof substance was supposed to be applied so I could shower, but the hospital was out of it. Let's hear it for US healthcare! Sponge baths only until at least my post-op appointment on Thursday. Nerve blocks were used just before wheeling me into the OR. I wasn't sedated yet. Gasps of pain. A friend who'd had knee surgery said she was partially sedated when hers were administered and felt no pain. I'll ask about these things at the post-op appointment. Probably won't be able to go back to the Y for 3 months, and then I'll only be able to do chair yoga for a while until my upper body strength builds and I can rise from my yoga mat. At least yoga has given me the flexibility to dress myself!
Trying to decide if I should sue because the parking lot where I fell hadn't been sanded yet. The manager said she'd called for the sander but it hadn't arrived yet. I've never sued before even when I might have had cause.
Other than that, life is good.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 02 Feb 19 - 08:48 PM

Check on insurance coverage before, and instead of, suing. You're more likely to come away with at least the medical costs covered. This is advice my wife (my live-in attorney) gives/gave when asked about lawsuits in similar circumstances. She also said mediation is always better than litigation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Feb 19 - 04:09 AM

ChanteyLass, may your life continue to be good & your shoulder heal in good time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Feb 19 - 06:35 AM

I have been away from here for too long, Too many worries to go into but, none of them mine, meaning I am well but just getting older. ChanteyLass sending love and lots of healing thoughts from sunny England, hope your shoulder heals quickly and you have support from friends, it must be horrid to be housebound and living alone.
My daughter has to start chemo on Thusday, a "new " treatment for crohnes desease, terribly expensive but after lots of meetings our wonderful NHS has got the funding. Might take a year but so much better tban more operations. A few prayers please, cannot tell you what a beautiful soul she has, the most kind giving and spiritual girl she is and a wonderful mother to her girls.
Fond love to all the crew,
Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Feb 19 - 08:58 PM

Have a care, ChanteyLass,
for someone housebound and alone
the Mudcat Recovery Ward could be especially tempting.

And some of us in here [Ward] are trouble!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Feb 19 - 08:39 PM

Thank you, everyone, for your support and suggestions.
Wendy, I hope your daughter's chemo goes smoothly and yields positive results.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Feb 19 - 05:29 PM

Thank you Chanteylass,love to you too
Wendy,xxx
Feeling wobbly but have to put on brave face tomorrow and keep my daughter calm. (Good at holding hands at the right time, deep breath, smile, onward and upward :-) )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Feb 19 - 05:49 PM

Wendy, best wishes to you& your daughter, & your brave smile.

chantylass, I hope your healing is progressing well

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Feb 19 - 04:08 PM

Hope your daughters chemo course will not be too hard on her Wendy , now that it has begun , and achieves the desired results          Blessings.   Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Feb 19 - 07:14 PM

Progress! I can now shower and drive, but I need to wear this bulky slingy thingy for at least another month. I will have a therapy evaluation next week. And now I have a cold!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 10 Feb 19 - 07:21 PM

Ah, Chanteylass, it is that time of year
of which I have indelible memories from
my undergraduate University years.
February, I called it "infirmary month."

The break between semesters was over,
and it was never long enough, as summer is,
for a nice bouncing-back.

The weather was frequently forbidding and inhospitable.

And there were colds and 'flu's galore.
And Spring Break was too far away yet!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Feb 19 - 05:31 PM

YEEHAW!

From Facebook...

Amos Jessup shared a post.
4 hrs ·

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Feb 19 - 05:36 PM

[e-mail]
Journal entry by Daly Jessup — 4 hours ago

Amos Jessup asked me to et everyone know that he's doing well. He has improved at least 75% since the Big Fall, and continues in slowly get better every day. He wants to thank all the people who have so kindly expressed concern and encouragement. He just came back from an assisted walk up the block and back. He's started playing guitar and singing with friends. He feels that through time, he is going to recover 100%.

Love,
Daly

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Feb 19 - 07:04 PM

Good for you, Amos.

Good on you, Gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Feb 19 - 07:23 PM

Yay for Amos!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Feb 19 - 12:25 PM

Thinking of billybob's family during treatment.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 20 Feb 19 - 08:44 AM

thinking of Amos & billybob & her family

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Feb 19 - 11:25 AM

Thinking of all the Mudcatters, and loved ones,
who are trudging on through stormclouds and heavy rain.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 26 Feb 19 - 11:52 AM

Elmore is in need of kind thoughts right now. His wife died yesterday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Feb 19 - 09:02 AM

Alan Moorhouse
·
Time for an update for those of you who have been following this saga. It's been three weeks now since the massive operation, The Whipple Procedure, removed my pancreatic tumor, biliary duct, duodenum, gall bladder and some other bits. It has been just nine days since I got home and two weeks since I had to stop the painkillers, which my battered stomach just could not face any more.
I think I am getting better. I am able to eat now and although it is agony, my digestive system is starting to work again. The pain comes from three sources: The incision (still partly open and deep) the messing about with my insides (it feels as if a medieval battle has just taken place inside it) and the returning digestive process. The latter is by far the most painful and usually takes a chunk of at least two or three hours out of the middle of the night.
The CBD oil may be having some effect, but it is hard to gauge how much. It still bloody hurts! I am told that enhancing it with some THC will help it to work more effectively. I have nothing against that in principle, but I don't really want to spend my days stoned - and I seriously dislike smoking these days!
I do seem to be getting stronger though it's all about very small steps. The weather is lovely at the moment and I enjoyed sitting out in the sunshine in the hulk of my ancient Transit bus. I am hoping that in early summer I will be fit enough to resume work on it. Wouldn't it be wonderful if both owner and bus could come back from the dead in time for summer?!
Yesterday I completed four circuits of my sister's beautiful garden. It's not like proper training, but in this condition it's progress. I am surrounded by love and kindness and I thank all of you for your support!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Mar 19 - 06:21 PM

Saw the bone doc again today.
I no longer have to wear the sling for my broken shoulder. It's time to step up the physical therapy. He's pleased with my progress so far, though. I'll see the doc again in a month, and that might be my last time seeing him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Mar 19 - 06:25 PM

Good for you, ChanteyLass!
Hang in there!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Mar 19 - 08:53 PM

Holy Mega Moose gnu, your 'adjustment' goes way beyond massive.
Just the gall bladder removal is considered the deepest surgery you can have. You sound like your old self. Your activity will bypass adhesions and the like. Do what you gotta do to enjoy what you can as yu get better.
Chanty Lass you poor dear. I hope your exercise music will be fun.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Mar 19 - 09:01 PM

Donuel, bless you, you didn't look at the name at the top.
The name at the top of gnu's post is the person who is recovering.
"Alan Moorhouse" is Mudcat member "alanabit."

Gnu was just the messenger ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 10 Mar 19 - 12:14 PM

A thought for long-time Mudcat participant
akenaton. He can't post below the line these days.
But it's been less than a year
since he became a widower.
I keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Mar 19 - 05:39 PM

And there has been an Amos update,
posted by his sister.
Amos is getting impatient with his progress however
those around him are not only supportive but pleased
at how well he is doing.
And a medical checkup
showed that the cancer
for which he initially had surgery
is stable, and until a change manifests
then his treatment can continue as it is.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 13 Mar 19 - 07:51 PM

Amos' sister Deda started the thread, but the update was from Janie, who lives near Amos.

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Mar 19 - 08:31 PM

Just got off the phone with Amos. He sounds pretty good. Give him a call, eh? Maybe wait until later but... you can always ask Daly first... should ask first.

[e-mail]

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Mar 19 - 09:00 PM

March 13, 2019
Journal entry by Janie Endres — 4 hours ago

Hello All,

A bit of an update regarding Amos, provided with his permission. He says to say he would post himself but his 'puter is on the blink. He also won't know, until his computer is fixed, how well he can manage the keyboard as fine motor skills are still a work in progress.



He is at home and is continuing recovery efforts from his severe concussion. To those of us around him, he progresses by leaps and bounds. To Amos, the progress seems frustratingly slow. In-home speech, occupation and speech therapy have been discontinued and there is serious slogging through bureaucracies going on to get outpatient therapies scheduled. His speech is clear, and he has made very significant progress on syntax, inflection, etc. Struggles sometimes to find the right words to use - but this amazingly articulate human being is already more articulate than most of us, even if not back to his prodromal levels.



He is able to sing - pretty well in imho, but not up to his own standards, and working at making some strumable chords on the guitar. Still needs a walker because the internal gyroscope still ain't working right, but there definitely continues to be improvement. Fine motor skills have a ways to go, but again, definitely continuing to improve.

Although fatigue can be an issue, and rest and naps are very important to promote healing after brain injury, he enjoys company and outings. He thinks he is a pain to take somewhere because of the walker, but, believe me folks - that is his imagination. He needs the walker for balance, not because his legs are injured and can't bear full weight. It is a piece of cake to chauffeur him to a local restaurant or coffee shop for an outing, as long as the steps can either accomodate a walker, or there is a sturdy handrail - though, for local folks, I would not recommend lunch at the Saratoga Grill at this point, with their full flight of stairs.



In terms of the cancer, he had a full scan a few weeks ago, and the cancer is 'stable.' No new metastases. Of the already present metastatic lesions, half have shrunk a little and half have grown a little. At present, focus continues to be on recovering from the concussion. Any decisions regarding further experimental treatments or clinical trials are deferred.

There some ways that local friends can help support the family.



1. Take Amos or Daly out to lunch, breakfast or dinner. Separately, so they get a break from one another. If taking Daly out, good idea to make sure Tucker is home, or that some one is there to keep Amos company. My schedule is somewhat flexible, so feel to call me to see if I can come visit Amos if taking Daly out. 919-259-5079. I do work part time so some pre-planning is helpful. Amos doesn't generally need assistance, but he knows he is still physically vulnerable and it can be a bit nerve-wracking to him to be home alone. If staying with Amos, take a book, in case he decides a short nap is in order, and make clear you are perfectly comfortable not being entertained if he needs to nap.

2. Invite yourself over for a meal with the family, and either bring the meal with you, or fix it in their kitchen. Lunch or dinner, or even a brunch!

3. Bring a meal over that can be heated up. Check with them first so they don't get overloaded with brought in food. Most local folks know that Amos loves meat and potatoes, especially beef or buffalo, or ham, but is not averse to sauted chicken breasts with a savory glaze. No seafood for Amos, but Daly loves sushi!

4. Amos has a lot of doctor appointments right now. Check with Daly to see if you might be able to take him to an appointment so she can have some time at home alone.

Once outpatient therapies get scheduled, they will probably occur on a routine schedule, and I will set up the planner (see above links under ways to help) for folks who have time during the day who might be free to take him to PT/OT/ST.

5. Just go visit! If you are a musician, bring your instrument, hand Amos his guitar, and go to work!



6. I'll reiterate - get Daly out of the house, just make sure some one is staying back at the house.



Thanks for reading, and thanks for caring.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Mar 19 - 11:47 PM

Oh, that is good news about Amos!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Mar 19 - 10:03 PM

Amos has died.

I believe we will all be needing a little comfort and support.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Mar 19 - 10:59 PM

Between cancer and a severe head injury it was a matter of time, but in the end to have so little!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Mar 19 - 07:20 AM

Amos was known to me in name only, but it was obvious he was loved & respected. If I may, I would like to add my sincere condolences to his Family & Friends.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Mar 19 - 06:17 PM

Oh, so sad.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Mar 19 - 07:27 PM

Sorry to hear about Amos , and my best wishes also to AKheneton on his loss .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Mar 19 - 04:51 PM

Now Sandy Paton's widow Caroline has passed away peacefully.
She was known and loved by so many Mudcatters,
and again it is to the bereaved
that my sympathy goes out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Mar 19 - 01:42 PM

ChanteyLass, how's that there shoulder? Hope it's better!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Mar 19 - 06:45 PM

Thank you for asking, Keberoxu. It still needs more therapy for strength and range of motion. Many movements with that arm are awkward. I'll have another evaluation by the therapist soon and more X-rays in early April. It still aches, but gradually less and less. Some daily tasks, like getting into a coat, can still be amusing!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Mar 19 - 01:39 PM

Break out the cake and candles (and bring a fire extinguisher!). It's my 50th today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Mar 19 - 05:32 PM

Happy birthday, ranger1!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 19 - 03:39 AM

Today, 23rd March is 'Jane's Day'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 23 Mar 19 - 06:59 PM

Sending love to you Nigel and Ann ,on Jane's anniversary.
Jane's Rainbow has brought so many people together, a special place of peace and calm.
It has joined so many people together who have never met in person but have shared sadness, sometimes joy, a place to share unspoken worries, deep despair,words of wisdom, but most of all friendship.
Bless you Nigel and Ann, we share your sadness today but thank you for sharing Jane with us and creating Jane's Rainbow. A very special ship

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Mar 19 - 08:38 PM

Yes,this is a special ship. Thank you again for creating it, Nigel, and hugs to you and Ann on this special, but sad, day. Always hang on to the good times you shared with your daughter.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Mar 19 - 03:55 AM

I'll third that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 24 Mar 19 - 11:36 AM

Blessings on Nigel and Ann, and above all-- blessings on Jane.

Love,

~Susan

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Mar 19 - 07:17 PM

Wendy, thinking of you and your loved ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Mar 19 - 08:29 PM

The stitches came out of my forehead this morning and no brains fell out! The doctor says that I had a "calcified hematoma" that had to be pretty old because it had formed a little ridge of bone on one side. The ridge stays, as it would need to be chiseled out and we agreed that it wasn't worth doing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Mar 19 - 09:21 PM

So, brains and ridge stay in? Sounds good to me!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Mar 19 - 12:29 PM

Kind words from kind people...Thank you. Not always the norm on MC, but always the norm in this small corner of MC. Sail on, dear friends.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Mar 19 - 01:11 PM

Rapparee's post, sharing that
his forehead was opened up
but no brains fell out,
has me thinking, for no obvious reason,
of H. P. Lovecraft and Cthulhu.

Sorry.

Back to your original programming ...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Apr 19 - 11:28 AM

Have a thought for Mudcatter Gnu
during Palm Sunday and Holy Week,
as a family commitment
has him walking
a Via Dolorosa of his own.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Apr 19 - 08:28 PM

best wishes, gnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Apr 19 - 11:55 AM

LilyFestre's husband Pete is in hospital.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Apr 19 - 01:46 PM

Somebody is going to smack me up
for posting LilyFestre's news here,
since the news appears on a different thread.
Too bad.

It's a big deal for her to have her husband Pete in hospital.
He was there for her throughout her previous illness and recovery.

She is even spending nights at Pete's bedside,
working on charts for her work while he sleeps.
They have a child and a farm,
however she doesn't want to be away from him.

Keep LilyFestre and her family in your thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Apr 19 - 05:51 PM

Hang in there, LilyFestre.
Worrying situation
and at least one of your fellow Mudcatters
is worrying right along with you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 17 Apr 19 - 09:24 PM

I was taken by ambulance to the hospital this morning. Chest pains. Nitroglycerin, aspirin, EKGs, etc. Nothing untoward found, but I have another stress test at 8 a.m. Friday. The diagnosis was "Atypical chest pain."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Apr 19 - 02:45 PM

Rap,
I remember your posts about examinations of your heart,
and infarct ... thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Apr 19 - 08:21 PM

Rap, I'd get stressed if I had to look forward to a stress test. I hope it goes well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Apr 19 - 08:59 PM

Now it's put back to 11:30 a.m.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Apr 19 - 10:30 PM

Delays add stress!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Apr 19 - 09:01 PM

So does being a Type II diabetic and going without food or drink for 10 hours. My heart rate went to 127 on the treadmill, the target was 124. Then they injected me with Technetium and a robot camera peaked into me. A break, then back to the robot camera again. I must say that I'm glad I have Medicare AND insurance.

I was told that the Technetium leaves the body in 3 days so I'm unlikely to achieve critical mass and explode as an atom bomb. Nor will I become a mutant who can tear down a city and shoot laser beams at other, annoying, drivers from my eyes. Both of these are probably good, but I would kinda like the laser beam thing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Apr 19 - 09:57 PM

When do they contact you, Rap, with the test results?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Apr 19 - 08:53 PM

I'll bet you look forward to the end of those 3 days! When your body will only contain normal stuff again!
127 when the goal is 124 doesn't sound so bad to me, but what do I know?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 22 Apr 19 - 09:40 AM

During the Manhattan Project two scientists were working on a circular radio wave -- a long shot, but nobody knew what would be needed to make an atom bomb.

One day, the younger exclaimed, "I have it! I've diagrammed a circular radio wave!" and thrust his paper at the elder scientist.

The old man said, "You young fool! This is nothing! A naught!" and he rolled the paper into a thin tube and thrust it into a pencil sharpener, the shards falling to the floor.

Immediately they were surrounded by a large group of very angry janitors complaining about the mess.

Then a huge explosion happened and a mushroom cloud rose into the air.

And that's what happens every time you get a critical mass at ground zero.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Apr 19 - 05:45 PM

Thinking of LilyFestre and her loved ones.

Not forgetting Wendy at billybob, and her loved ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Apr 19 - 06:16 PM

Gnu, Gnu, thinking of you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Apr 19 - 09:01 PM

I do hope that the results of the stress test are available soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Apr 19 - 09:13 PM

I hope so, too, Rapparee, and I hope they are good!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 28 Apr 19 - 10:22 PM

I've been hiding in the shadows on the deck for too long. I've continued to listen in on the rest of the crew, and you are in my thoughts. I think I can say that I'm healing okay, though I'm sure I haven't shed my last tear. I have a regular weekday morning routine of walking and a little workout at the city "community center" (primarily a rec center) followed by coffee with others on the same schedule. Judy initiated that while she still had the capacity, for which I'm thankful now. I put in some desk shifts at the local art gallery, as required if you have work in our local art association's section of the gallery; I usually have at least some photography up.Just now bracing myself to sign up for a 6 or 7 country look around Europe.
                Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 29 Apr 19 - 02:08 PM

Good of you to check in, frogprince.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Apr 19 - 05:05 PM

I'm glad to read that you are healing. It takes time as you know. I think having a routine helps. Keep at it!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Apr 19 - 07:24 PM

& enjoy the thought of travelling, then the trip

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Apr 19 - 08:01 PM

Rap I hope that your experience will merely teach you what a heart attack does not feel like. You are already atypical. Being attacked by your heart would be such a betrayal. 127 ain't bad.

Frogprince, some pithy old sayings are none the less true like "it takes a year". In a wierd way I think its good you knew a friend worth suffering for.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 May 19 - 02:34 PM

Billybob/Wendy has been absent from the Mudcat for a month or two now.
Last heard from, she was helping her daughter
get through chemo for Crohn's disease …
hope she and her loved ones are holding their own.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 02 May 19 - 08:13 PM

The mysterious trials and tribultions of Dean have been resolved. The answer was staring us in the face with his face the whole time and lies in the deepest recesses of the endocrine system.

Celebration emoji https://images.emojiterra.com/google/android-pie/512px/1f595.png

I was wrong. YAY!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 May 19 - 05:28 PM

Congratulations to Donuel and family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 May 19 - 06:46 PM

This is one time when it is happier [Donuel]
to be wrong than to be right.

Rapparee, I hope that the stress
of waiting for the results of your stress tests
will be relieved soon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 May 19 - 06:00 PM

Imperious Rex Rap!
hasn't it been, like
ten days or more since the stress test?
What HAPPENED ??

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 May 19 - 03:00 PM

Thinking of LilyFestre
with her husband in hospital.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Jun 19 - 12:37 PM

LilyFestre's husband
released, went home,
then hospitalized a second time.

Thinking of her and her loved ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Jun 19 - 10:54 PM

Just retourned home on thé 8th from a very enjoyable 14 day group tour all over Western Europe. Sat down for a bit to catch up on computer. Suddenly very tender around one eye; looked in the mirror and it looked about like a chicken about to hatch. Local ER sent me a few miles to one with more relevant docs. Multiple consultations. just had a biopsy of the temporal artery. Have had some intervenous steroids which have calmed things down, but they all agree they needed to check for an inflammatory condition which might call for aggressive treatment to keep my vision safe. I’m not panicking, but I’m concerned.
                Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Jun 19 - 12:52 PM

Dean, you need to get checked for Giant Cell Arteritis, GCA for short. Along with the temporal arterial biopsy, ultrasound arterial scanning is increasingly relied upon. Check out the work of Prof. B. Dasgupta. He is the world authority. If GCA is diagnosed, please do all you can to get the steroid treatment started asap. I've been down this rocky road myself & your post has a familiar ring to it. Time is of the essence.
                                                                  Every good wish,
                                                                                             Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Jun 19 - 04:14 PM

Nigel: Bingo; I just asked for a catch-up on the terminology jumble. I’m actually getting the steroid regimen for giant cell while they wait for biop results to ascertain. Appreciate your input!   Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Jun 19 - 03:40 AM

Dean, I'm very pleased to read that you are receiving the appropriate treatment promptly. Early, aggressive intervention with steroids is key to getting control of GCA. Ask about ultrasound, arterial scanning, an approach developed by Prof. Dasgupta.
                Every good wish,
                                           Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Jun 19 - 03:00 PM

Froggy,
what you and Nigel Paterson describe
would frighten the life out of me.

Have courage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jun 19 - 04:13 PM

Whew: results back, no terrorist cells at all, inflammation went right down with treatment. Just have a seam on my temple to salve for a few days. Have rescheduled a routine appointment with my regular optho that I would have had while entangled in this, so will have that for assurance.
                      Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 14 Jun 19 - 04:44 AM

Dean, I'm delighted to read that it turned out not to be GCA. Your ophthalmologist certainly should be able to give you the extra reassurance you need.
                                                    Good Health,
                                                                         Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Jun 19 - 05:40 PM

And LilyFestre reports
that her husband was discharged from hospital,
continues treatment as outpatient.
They hope it won't come back.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Jun 19 - 12:23 PM

Severn has had a rough time of it,
this calendar year.
Something about a pacemaker I think.
Thinking of you, Severn.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Jun 19 - 08:12 PM

No news is good news, I reckon, regarding Frogprince
since his last update is positive.

Here's hoping that Froggy never again has to go through that eye business.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 29 Jun 19 - 12:01 PM

Thanks, Kerb and all; The eye has been fine since the first couple of days of steroids after the initial abrupt symptoms. Monday I had a couple of docs each shine 4 or 5 k watts in my eyes while a herd of others stood by and discussed, and no one saw need for further treatment. Incidental goofy factoid: I had had a mention by phone of the need to have the STAPLES from my biopsy removed while there. I was sure I would feel staples, and that there was little or no chance that staples would be used for the incision I had, but figured it was a slip of the tongue and I needed sutures removed. I had soluble sutures, as I should have suspected all along, and I think they were gone completely by Tuesday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Jul 19 - 05:23 PM

sail on, sail on, o rainbow ship.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Jul 19 - 05:40 PM

Happy Fourth.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jul 19 - 06:16 PM

Been checking in from time to time without posting . We've been pretty busy . Fostering another child with complex needs who's been in hospital more than out of it , and Becky with him much of the time . Daniel is two , and had a bit of a risky op this week , but came through and recovering .            Blessings all , and happy fourth to the Americans

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 03 Jul 19 - 08:08 PM

sending good wishes to Pete's family

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Jul 19 - 09:24 PM

Joyful July to all!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 08 Jul 19 - 11:37 PM

On Facebook Bobert shared news of P-Vine's second bout of cancer, this one more ominous and taking it's toll. I hope they can both be comfortable (I'm an atheist, so the spiritual end of things will have to come from someone else.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Jul 19 - 07:45 PM

I can keep P-Vine and Bobert in the Light.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jul 19 - 11:44 AM

sending good wishes their way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jul 19 - 12:02 PM

To my post on 09 July I should add that I've been keeping many of you in the Light. I just don't get here as often as I used to, and when I'm here I don't post as often.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Jul 19 - 09:46 PM

hey!

keep the ship above the horizon ...

don't let the great white sharks get you down!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Jul 19 - 06:36 PM

A few thoughts FWIW.

I'm sure Bobert appreciates all the good thoughts and prayers over his wife's health situation and his long and painful history with cancer-- he lost his first wife to it.

I would like to point out though that he always speaks of her as THE P-Vine,and for those of us who pray, it matters to get the name right.

Also, Bobert (as Dharmabum has done) has chosen Facebook as his live platform from which to provide health updates and requests for support. News here will tend to be out of date, as a result. There have been some hopeful updates at FB, but it's undeniably a scary and dangerous time, regardless.

My own health is dodgy enough nowadays that I no longer run the Mudcat Prayer Chain which used to operate very actively in email. In those days, Mudcat had to work very hard to keep the peace around issues of spirituality. People heading those efforts were known and respected members with experience in such matters IRL.

In this work, it's so important to keep boundaries in mind, and check with folks going through troubles about what's OK to post-- for example I know the P-Vine's real first name, but I use Bobert's name for her here-- because he does.

We've lost so many dearly loved members here, and some quite recently, that I think it serves the community best when we can provide accurate information, since any info is likely to really worry a lot of folks. Or to allude to troubles just very generally, when it's not our own troubles we're posting about. These recent, hopeful FB comments from Bobert, due to the nature of the FB medium, were buried in Comments on Comments-- easy to miss. Yet it's still where the actual updates are.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Aug 19 - 03:09 PM

She's back!! She's back!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Aug 19 - 07:37 PM

YAH!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 22 Aug 19 - 05:11 PM

Wise words wysiwyg ; blessings to you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Aug 19 - 06:56 AM

Thank you very much, Max. Despite the fact that I have withdrawn from regular posting, I am heartened to see the restoration of 'Jane's Rainbow'. I will never be able to 'let it go' completely,
                                 Love to All,
                                                 Nigel Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Aug 19 - 05:15 PM

Yes, without Max she would not have reappeared.

Thinking of Donuel, who has been silent of late,
and of gnu, likewise.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Sep 19 - 05:02 PM

Keep LilyFestre and her loved ones in the light.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Sep 19 - 01:11 PM

This is the beginning of a difficult season of the calendar year.
For some reason
many of us have sustained bereavements or crises
in autumn and going into the year-end holiday season.

So this is a sensitive time with difficult "anniversaries" triggering intense emotions and distracting memories.

The Rainbow is needed now more than at most times.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Oct 19 - 02:07 PM

Keeping Jon Freeman in thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Oct 19 - 08:42 PM

Not forgetting frogprince
and all those Mudcatters
who are observing difficult "anniversaries."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Oct 19 - 11:07 PM

Just dropped in and caught that post. I won't ask for grief support just now, but cross some fingers for me. I ventured onto Silver Singles site recently. After a bit one woman and I found ourselves focusing in. We progressed to email where it's easier to flow a little more, and have been on the phone regularly for a while now. Sunday we drive a little to a halfway point for a first face to face. We've already covered a lot of ground; I know that she's a very intelligent, thoughtful person, the pictures are up to date, our thinking on a lot of basics is very compatible, and we communicate with warmth and humor. I should say cross some fingers for US: that at minimum we come out glad to have met, and that we both make right decisions beyond that.
                   Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 04 Oct 19 - 07:52 AM

Oh my goodness it is October and the summer has sped by, I have just popped by to catch up,sending love to everyone here and good health and happiness.
Thank you kereboxu for asking about my daughter. She has had 7 chemotherapy treatments, now 8 weekly,and the latest MRI scan shows an improvement so the treatments will continue.I am amazed and so proud of her, so stoic,never complains, looks after her two gogeous daughters, runs her husbands business and is just starting year 2 of British Signing Language with her eldest daughter who is hearing impaired.I tried to learn the alphabet, so difficalt.
Billy had a setback while we were away last month,his type 2 diabetes went haywire,however,reluctantly,he has started insulin injections and his count is coming down.Meanwhile his leukemia is still in remission ,he sees his consultant again in a few weeks.
As for me I am fine,still working 4 mornings a week with my lovely clients, they keep me young!!Lots of afternoons reading at the beach hut, how lucky am I to live in such a beautiful place.
Sending love
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 04 Oct 19 - 09:14 PM

Tomorrow we are hosting a...wake? celebration of life? what?...at our house for a friend who died of head injuries while we were in Ireland. Here because he just "wasn't a churchy type."

He got a cup of coffee, told his wife he'd see her downstairs, she heard a heavy thud, he never regained consciousness....

Well, we're happy to do what we can. It's not something you refuse if asked; folks are coming from literally from thousands of miles away. Buck was a good one and will be sorely missed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 05 Oct 19 - 09:51 AM

I hadn't heard from wysiwyg for a while, and when looking her up on Facebook learned that she is recovering in a hospital now, moving to rehab late next week. That post was from her husband, pointing people to updates from a friend on her Facebook page. Sounds like a stroke. If you're a friend of hers on Facebook look for updates posted by her friend Sabrina.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 05 Oct 19 - 10:01 AM

Oh no, another stroke. May she heal completely like she did before.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 Oct 19 - 09:25 PM

The thing went well, with about 50 people attending at any one time. I'm sorry for the family, but they are taking it step by step. The youngest, a 4 year old grandson, keeps asking where grandpa is.

I'm sorry to hear about wysiwyg and I hope she is on the way to recovery.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Oct 19 - 02:51 PM

We need this ship above the horizon now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 08 Oct 19 - 09:21 PM

Well...my youngest nephew, a 1LT in Marine Reserves, has been ordered to up to a year's deployment in Tblisi. While an officer who deals with hearing, water supply, sewage, and other utilities he's still a combat engineer. The Georgia Deployment Program lost three Marine reservists in Afghanistan earlier this year.

Neither his father (who got the news today as his birthday present, I guess), his mother, and me are unworried.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Oct 19 - 01:26 AM

don't go away!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Oct 19 - 06:11 PM

Wishing you every happiness frogprince ; hope the meeting went well .   Blessings all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Oct 19 - 08:38 PM

best wishes to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Oct 19 - 09:50 PM

Thanks, Pete & all. The lady and I met for lunch, and talked for two and a half hours. We won't be a couple, but I can't recall ever feeling so positive about something despite a trace of disappointment. We were both really glad that we met in person and talked. I'm back online, seeing what's to be found.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Oct 19 - 12:40 PM

thoughts and light to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 13 Oct 19 - 08:38 PM

Send good thoughts and vibes to gnu in Moncton, NB. Apparently he's in the hospital in pretty sad shape AND his mum died September 27. As you may know, she leaved next to him and he cared for her. I do not know if the two are related.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Oct 19 - 05:52 AM

I've heard back from friend gnu. I'd respectfully suggest that those who care about him allow him to post or not as he wishes. It's a matter of privacy. From what he has told me, he will be ok, and I'll let him know Mudcat friends are concerned.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Oct 19 - 09:23 AM

Of course. I just wanted GT&V headed his way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Oct 19 - 07:31 PM

Thank you, Maeve, for those wise words.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Oct 19 - 03:28 PM

Sustaining the link between this ship
and New Brunswick.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 19 Oct 19 - 03:56 PM

A second- or third-hand report to the Mudcat
indicates that
a bad fall was the reason
that Gnu was admitted to hospital,
and that he will be there for some time.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 19 Oct 19 - 04:57 PM

Gnu is reaching out to friends now with a computer he has with him. Sounding better every day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 25 Oct 19 - 11:02 AM

I have been checking in on Susan Oldberg Hinton's Facebook page (WYSIWYG) and find that since the last time I looked I am no longer a friend, so I can't post a remark asking how she is, and the friend Sabrina, who Greg said to look to for updates, hasn't posted anything for weeks.

There are still 16 mutual Mudcat friends who can see more of her account. Please start asking about how she's doing and reach out to her husband if necessary. If she's in rehab it would be nice to know, and to be able to send cards or call (if allowed) directly.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Feb 20 - 06:52 AM

Has 'Jane's Rainbow' still a useful part to play on Mudcat or should I ask Joe to close the thread? There is no doubt in my mind that since I first posted on 12th January, 2012, the 'Rainbow' has served our community well. However, as you can see, the last post (no pun intended) was from Stilly River Sage on 25th October, 2019, so have we come to the end of our glorious voyage? Please let me know your thoughts.
                                                                                     Nigel Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 15 Feb 20 - 07:49 AM

In other words, Has empathy died alone and abandoned?
Nigel wants the thread euthanized or declared dead.
Should Joe pull the plug?
I vote for inaction.
Especially in the
coming months
of Covid 19
travails

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 15 Feb 20 - 07:15 PM

Its certainly dropped off , and been a few months since the post before yours Nigel. Personally , I have looked in quite often when someone’s posted, even if I’ve not commented. If closing this would bring some sort of closure for you ,not that losing a loved one is ever forgotten , then that would be fine with me : something else could always be started .          Blessings all.         Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Feb 20 - 08:52 PM

beautifully expressed, Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Feb 20 - 05:44 AM

To be perfectly clear, I most certainly do not want this thread to be "...euthanised or declared dead". Because I relinquished my stewardship of Jane's Rainbow some time ago, leaving the thread to self-perpetuate, thereby shifting the emphasis from 'my thread' to 'our thread', I felt the right thing to do was to seek opinions. My wish is for Jane's Rainbow to remain accessible to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 16 Feb 20 - 09:57 PM

I see no reason to end it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Feb 20 - 06:44 AM

Nor do I.

What Pete said.

PS As for me, I am still recuperating, as best I can in the frozen Acadian Forest. Spring will (eventually) spring and I should be able to use a wheeled walker in the out-of-doors such that I can gain leg/back strength.
Thanks for all the well wishes.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Feb 20 - 08:47 AM

Thanks for checking in, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Feb 20 - 03:27 AM

Pete, thank you for your kind words. You have always reached out to others, even when your personal circumstances were close to overwhelming.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Feb 20 - 03:47 PM

Thanks Nigel , that’s very kind of you .          We still miss Tommy , as I’m sure you , Jane , and others bereaved on their voyage on the Rainbow .    Sadly , it’s likely we will lose our current foster child at some point , and he has had some close calls and is in hospital a lot , with Becky with him most of the time . But it’s ongoing and daniel might do better and live longer than expected , just as Tommy did

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Feb 20 - 06:32 PM

Pete, you & Becky are very special people! Best wishes to your family.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Feb 20 - 04:54 PM

And don't forget our own Stilly River Sage,
recovering from knee surgery .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Mar 20 - 01:54 PM

Coming up on the one-year anniversary
of the death of a universally beloved Mudcatter.
Take what comfort you can here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Mar 20 - 08:55 PM

Keep this ship sailing, she is needed here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Mar 20 - 06:59 PM

We still need you, Jane's Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Mar 20 - 07:14 PM

Don't sink below the horizon!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Mar 20 - 07:35 PM

Thanks, Keb, I hadn't thought to look in here for a while. I'm nearly a month out and many of the more difficult parts of knee replacement are over; no more deep vein thrombosis cuffs, or rigorous physical therapy (when she left I was sometimes sore for a couple of days). But now it is battling the effects of long-term pain killers and heavy-duty antibiotics, and the daily urge to do too much (walking) and paying for it for hours or days after.

The whole world needs to take a long break. Literally. Who knew it would ever come to this—well, some smart people did, but they were Casandras in this world of populist government officials who don't know how to govern or how to listen to scientists.

Stay healthy and safe, everyone.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Mar 20 - 09:46 AM

Still lurking in the shadows, me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Mar 20 - 03:30 PM

Thanks for letting us know you're there, gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Mar 20 - 02:40 PM

https://www.facebook.com/events/1962791890520173/

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Mar 20 - 02:55 PM

Thinking of those Mudcat members
whose loved ones and relatives are seriously ill now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Mar 20 - 08:00 AM

Today is Jane's Day...seven years have passed since our belovéd daughter made her final voyage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Mar 20 - 06:21 PM

Ah Nigel, we always remember and there's always that sadness ; bless you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Mar 20 - 08:02 PM

a friend gave me this verse a few days ago

Death leaves an ache that no one can heal,
Love leave a memory that no one can steal.

google says it comes from an Irish headstone, & it appears to be a common saying, so it might have been posted before.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Mar 20 - 05:53 AM

Thank you for your kind words, Pete. Your generosity of spirit marks you out as one, very special man.
       Sandra, those two lines are beautiful & priceless. The true origin of sayings like this are often impossible to identify with any certainty, but someone, somewhere DID write those lines for the first time & how wonderful that they did.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Mar 20 - 07:45 PM

Beautiful couplet Sandra ; don't think I've seen that sentiment expressed so well in so few words

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Mar 20 - 06:04 AM

Ditto Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 26 Mar 20 - 10:48 AM

Those kinds of anniversaries are heartbreaking to observe.

A little over six weeks out from the knee replacement and I managed my first night's sleep without the narcotic painkiller. There was a tough spot in the wee hours when the Rx Ibuprofen wore off and everything felt awful, but the next dose kicked in after about 30 minutes. Note to self to overlap them a bit to avoid that again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 Mar 20 - 08:15 PM

So here we are, all aboard the Rainbow, in such troubled waters such as we have never known before.
7 years since Jane left us and since then her boat has given so much love and help to so many.
All our troubles have been supported and lessened by so much love by this wonderful crew.
I have had so much support, while my husband had treatmdnt for leukaemia and the support I had lookimg after my mother for 5 years when she had dementia.The love from you all kept me going whem the situation was so very difficalt.
Now we all face very frightening times, here in the UK we are confined in our house for who knows how long? Although Billy is in remission it is un wise for us to go out, we rely on others to buy food and essentials. Our daughter who is on chemotherapy for Crohns has been told to stay indoors for 3 months and is in isolation with her 2 daughters and we cannot help or see them.Our step grandaughter is a nurse in London nursing coronavirus patients.She is working 100 hours a week and is exausted.
But we know others have more desperate situations, so all my prayers and loving thoughts go out to everyone who is trouble ,frightened and may be alone with no support. So sail on Rainbow bring us all into safe harbour as soon as you can.
Fondest love
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Mar 20 - 08:17 PM

wishing you & your family all the best, Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 26 Mar 20 - 08:21 PM

Oh and all my love to Nigel and Ann, without them the Rainbow would have never set sail.
Love, love ,love xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Mar 20 - 12:32 PM

My Dear Wendy, I missed our rendezvous aboard The Rainbow last night. When I tried to logon, the site was down. After that, an ageing brain, coupled with increasingly heavy eyelids, put paid to the rest of my evening. You still retain your optimistic, glass half full attitude, despite everything that has happened & continues to happen in your life. It is your positivity that has endeared you to so many, here on Jane's Rainbow. Like you, Ann & I are in isolation for three months & like you, we rely on friends & a neighbour for our supplies. Having spent a day with you & Bill the other year, I look forward to the time when we can meet again, freely & cheerfully, with nothing more to bother us than removing some sand from between our toes.
                     Much Love to you, Bill & your family,
                     Keep well, stay safe,
                                                      Nigel & Ann xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Mar 20 - 09:19 PM

So off we go looking for calm waters,but maybe stormy clouds are threatening.
Now the Rainbow offers a safe berth, to share our thoughts and fears, some of the crew may be on their own without someone to share the wee small hours of the morning when it is difficalt to calm the mind.
Be safe and keep well,share your thoughts, I am putting coffee on the stove in the galley,and have made a naughty coffee cake, come and share,
Sending love
Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Mar 20 - 10:04 PM

cakes aren't naughty! they are perfect.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Mar 20 - 09:18 PM

It's not a big deal, but the surgeon is "fusing" my left thumb on April 1. (It's a big deal for me, of course, with general anesthesia and being cut open. I moved to Idaho and have lots of surgeries ever since.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Mar 20 - 08:33 PM

maybe you need to move to somewhere more healthy - the moon, or another planet?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 29 Mar 20 - 10:37 PM

I applied but my immigration was denied by the Galactic Overlord.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 30 Mar 20 - 11:00 AM

There is heartbreak all around today. Alas, this thread is bound to grow much longer.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Mar 20 - 11:08 AM

Stilly RS, you've been with this thread since day one. Your wisdom & life experiences could prove to be very valuable assets. Stay well, keep safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Mar 20 - 11:13 AM

Bee-Dubya-Ell's wife Susan died yesterday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Mar 20 - 11:13 AM

Not the virus! She had a series of strokes, he said on FB.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Mar 20 - 03:15 PM

It has been a long time since I visited the thread as I rarely come to Mudcat anymore. I've never stopped sailing along with the rest of you, sending good thoughts into the waves and the ether.

Rap, I sure do wish you, as well as your better half, would stop with needing the surgeries already. You hear me boy?

The rest of you - please fare well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Mar 20 - 06:17 AM

Janie, it will always be a matter of regret to me that we were unable to meet when I was in NC some years ago. Very good to hear from you now. Keep well, stay safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 31 Mar 20 - 07:46 AM

Sulking lurking sorry and sad.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 31 Mar 20 - 10:48 AM

"Sulking, lurking, sorry & sad". That doesn't sound like the Donuel I respected & looked up to. What's up, shipmate?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Apr 20 - 10:53 AM

Thinking of Rapparee during his surgery today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Apr 20 - 01:23 PM

Apparently they chipped a tooth in OR. The hospital just called to see how I was doing and I told them. The person who called said she'd let the department know about it. Naturally, my dentist is closed until April 16.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 03 Apr 20 - 03:37 PM

whose tooth was it, Rapparee?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Apr 20 - 07:06 PM

okay, your Imperial Rapness, I apologize ...
(anesthesia? is that how it might have happened?)

Have a thought, everyone, for
Eliza/Senoufou.
Her sister has been rushed to hospital
and is on a ventilator.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 04 Apr 20 - 08:00 PM

Oh my God! I hope all goes well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Apr 20 - 07:00 PM

The thread Pandemic: a sense of community has details.

The hospital which admitted Eliza/Senoufou's sister
is the hospital where the sister worked, before retirement,
and it seems that she trained most of the ICU people herself.
If the people she trained are still there,
they will be wanting her, in particular, to pull through and recover.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 20 - 04:01 AM

Keberoxu, please refrain from disclosing so many personal details of folk about whom you post. Alerting us to someone in need or distress is one thing, but the extent to which you often disclose additional, personal information is, in my opinion, inappropriate.
                                        Please desist.
                                                               Nigel Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Senoufou
Date: 06 Apr 20 - 04:33 AM

Nigel, I posted all those details myself on the community spirit thread, and I don't mind at all that people know. But thank you for your concern about it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 20 - 05:16 AM

Senoufou, thank you for clarifying your situation. We live in a world where privacy has all but evaporated. Indeed, aspects of our privacy have become commodities. I trust that your sister is being well cared for & she makes a speedy, complete recovery.
    Keberoxu, I apologise for jumping the gun somewhat. I hadn't read your post of 5th April carefully enough.
    Nevertheless, I assiduously guard what elements of my own privacy I can, whilst, at the same time, adopting a 'moderator-like' rôle on 'Jane's Rainbow'. Looks like I've re-taken the tiller of this fine ship.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 10 May 20 - 10:26 PM

Had so much fair weather lately that I'm cursing the weather girl (f/m) for announcing that tomorrow we'll have only a few drop of rain. I want to hear: "The rest of the month we'll have plenty of rain, with streams of water in the streets." That way it would be more real. At the moment I self-isolate and when I look outside it'll be a sunny day. I could almost bank on that at the moment. Not much to do; just like it's all a fake. Like the lady they caught on the news who hadn't thought it was actually going to be a lock-down for months; she had just expected maybe a week of being closed, and then they would be up and running again. But we're in the doldrums it seems. Hm, I wonder if there's a doldrum shanty. (Sorry, that should have been above the line, but I just now thought of it.) Anyway, set the stunsls out and fly the water sails, and hope that we'll get at least some wind, until we get some honest foul weather to make the world see normal again. (Well, my kind of normal, I guess.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 May 20 - 06:14 PM

Our little Daniel was out of hospital for two weeks , but has had to be re admitted with severe bleeds from his stoma site . Op planned for tomorrow ,and is on the list for a liver transplant . We are hoping and praying for his safety through all this , and it's tough on Becky , there with him.             Blessings all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 May 20 - 08:50 PM

sending love & hugs to you & your family

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 04 Dec 20 - 09:59 AM

Someone posted today asking for good thoughts and I realized I hadn't seen this thread for a while. And if ever there was a time this thread would be helpful, it's now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Dec 20 - 05:52 PM

well done, stilly

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Dec 20 - 07:53 AM

Hi all . Just to update , Daniel did have a liver transplant and has been doing pretty well . Blessings all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Dec 20 - 04:41 PM

excellent news

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Dec 20 - 11:08 AM

Heartwarming to hear some good news for a change, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 08 Dec 20 - 11:44 AM

We're all keeping our fingers crossed that our COVID-19 precautions are adequate to the challenge. Every member of this family has pre-existing conditions regarding age or previous health conditions that required surgery. There is absolutely nothing remarkable about this family, every family out there, when they stop to think about it, probably has factors that make this a dangerous time.

It was heartwarming to see that in the UK the first woman to receive the COVID-19 vaccine is a 90-year-old from Coventry who went down to her local hospital for the immunization shot. All eyes are on the UK now, to see how this unrolls.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 16 Sep 22 - 12:52 PM

I was reminded of the purpose of this thread in a back-channel conversation this morning. We seem to have lost track of it during COVID, but there are people with individual struggles who might like the company of this thread. It was started when Nigel Patterson's daughter was diagnosed with a bad cancer and has followed a lot of people through health issues. So here's a big "Refresh" for this trusty old thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 16 Sep 22 - 01:07 PM

Mental health is a rising issue.

Remember Alani Morrisette? If she is not a catter she should be.
She claims she is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and that she is part of the 20% of the population that is the polar opposite of the 20% narcicist population. HSP's have too much empathy, creativity, self consciousness and feel they don't belong. They feel different than other folks. I think she has a point and science agrees. Brain scans reveal some real differences in the amygdala and reasoning centers.

Move over Carl Jung there is a new personality type in town.
The highly sensitive person is normal but feels things more deeply and thinks about things more/too deeply. This is not a disorder but is confused with autism, Aspergers and anxiety. There are advantages to this personality but has drawbacks as well. Alani says people love the   good part of her trait but don't want to deal with the bad side.

I hope this rings a bell.

As for pandemics, opioid deaths are almost equal to Covid deaths over here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 18 Sep 22 - 11:42 AM

This thread would be perfect for anyone with long COVID to share ongoing progress. I know we have a couple of members with family who have the condition.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 19 Sep 22 - 12:31 AM

Interesting reading, going back through earlier posts here. And I think WYSIWYG's whole episode with the most recent stroke is only mentioned in passing. Here is the thread her husband Greg started in November 2019. I didn't think to link it when I remarked on the event back then.

Susan does come back to Mudcat on occasion, so maybe she'll catch us up on her progress. I'd be willing to bet she has "traced" this thread.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 19 Sep 22 - 10:36 AM

10 years ago scans revealed that my knee and back should be painful but they they felt fine. Now I have to strap up for any physical work.
I haven't tried those new pressure bandages.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 19 Sep 22 - 05:20 PM

I've always regarded myself as a resilient sort of chap. Generally, I never worry about my health and I tend to avoid doctors. I had covid a few months ago and shrugged it off. I've had a struggle with my back for many years and have had surgery, which didn't stop the backache but which did stop the searing pain in both legs. But since May 2020 I've been afflicted four times with cellulitis in my legs, one leg at a time, but both legs this last time. I've just finished the most recent course of high-dosage antibiotics, including three days'-worth of intravenous ones. It makes a mess of my lower legs every time and I have to be vigilant in case the infection spreads further, as sepsis is a serious risk. This time, a blood test revealed that my kidney function had nosedived to a critically low level, my kidneys damaged by dehydration, by the infection, by the tablets I've taken for years for back pain, or by one, two or all three of these.

The cellulitis has gone though I'm shedding skin from both legs. My kidneys are rapidly recovering. But I picked up a really bad chest infection in the hospital and this has knocked me for six on top of everything else.

The weather is lovely and I went up the lane with my shears this afternoon to snip the invading brambles that threaten to scratch everybody's cars. That's the only gardening I've done. My garden has gone to pot as I've been out of action for over two weeks. The grass is growing out of the chimney pots!

I can shrug stuff off, but I'm 71 and I've found it very tough this time. I might get the mower out tomorrow and see if I can do a bit at a time.

Subject: RE: word to the wise
From: Donuel
Date: 20 Sep 22 - 07:46 AM

Dehydration bad. Water good.
No salt or alcohol.
As older tissues become twice as thin, allowances must be made to support good health.

My pain de jour is hip, knee and lower back. The seasonal change is saying " hello I'm back ".

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 21 Sep 22 - 10:52 AM

I didn't share my knee surgery saga because it was an elective procedure (X2), but here goes. It's uncomfortable and you're wearing pressure cuffs for a couple of weeks and wearing ice packs for a whole bunch of weeks; a good night's sleep is hard to come by. I'd say it took about two months this summer before I could just roll over in bed and go to sleep without special positioning with a spare pillow or retrieving ice packs for the large Velcro holder thing they send home to support the packs. The first surgery was right at the beginning of COVID, about three weeks before hospitals were shut down for elective surgery.

It does mean prosthetic knees that set off metal detectors and need special care - I lost 40 pounds this summer to get to my normal weight so these things last as long as possible before needing any surgical adjustments. Knee surgery is tough, harder than hips, and not to be taken lightly. That said, it is wonderful that I have a full range of motion and don't find myself suddenly with the grind of bone-on-bone and wondering if I'm going to stay upright or fall over.

I'm entering my bionic phase.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 24 Sep 22 - 11:27 PM

I'm going to the gym three times a week now, and my gait when I'm walking distances is getting closer to normal. I do have to exercise every day to stretch out the knees, if I'm not at the gym (where I stick pretty exclusively to the recumbent bike; my next move will be to add laps in the pool.)

I watch others workout from my position on the bike up on the balcony overlooking the central equipment area. Every so often I see someone coming in for a rehab kind of workout; that was me for the first few times I was in. Now it's just for the exercise.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 25 Sep 22 - 10:21 AM

This week I met a lady bounding about who had a knee replacement one month ago.
I asked, "doesn't it take 3 months to regain stability"?
She said she was the poster child for quick recuperation.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 25 Sep 22 - 02:56 PM

I finished my PT and the doctor was happy with my results at 6 weeks; it takes a while longer to get the full range of motion (stretch out both legs and see how straight you can make the leg, and bend the knee and see if you can make the bend as sharp as the other knee). I was back at the gym six weeks after the surgery, working on that. The scar tissue is "sticky" - it adheres the wound area to the bony area beneath and you have to work it loose also. I still have kind of a dimple above my knee from the scar tissue; YMMV.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 25 Sep 22 - 04:29 PM

People have different kinds of scar tissue that can make a big difference. There is a type of an abundance of scar tissue which complicates matters or makes ugly built up scars.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Sep 22 - 09:14 AM

I have an eye syndrome that causes me to see rainbows around a light source. A salty gel removes them in the morning. If this ever becomes worse there is a new surgery called decementation that would be a cure.
If I ever start seeing rainbows and unicorns, that would be a different problem.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 29 Sep 22 - 11:11 AM

A friend of mine has just had his second cataract surgery and is now discovering the joy/tyranny of "readers." I've offered to send him a three-pack from Costco, because the best approach seems to be to leave them scattered around the house, with one pair living permanently at the computer. He's also loving his 20/20 non-blurry vision.

My cataract surgery last year was preceded by the usual doctor's approval for the surgery, and with blood work she found that my thyroid was low, so while I was glad to have the vision corrected, I was really glad to have my energy level restored once the synthroid kicked in.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Sep 22 - 02:03 PM

I have 20 reading glasses scattered about ranging from 2.5 to 4 power.
Variable eye pressure makes each one the solution for that hour.