Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 06:07 PM

As a complete aside: Sandra, I first heard Michael Row the Boat Ashore from my cousins when I was very small. My paternal grandfather was barely literate, and didn't read music. My much older cousins would learn songs and sing them for him when they'd come to visit, and my grandfather would then learn the songs from them. And he'd sing them to me.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 04:17 PM

Thanks, Sandra.

A productive morning!

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 09:06 AM

... Hallelujah

Sister help to trim the sails, Hallelujah ....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Sep 18 - 05:41 AM

Thanks, Rap. Coming from you, how could I not believe that?

I ended up, to be sure I'd get enough sleep to NOT bring a "bull" into a very tightly laid out "china shop," trying a sleep med that bought me one 12 hour sleep, and one about half that. A few more days for that situation to ripen, and all will shift back to where I can bring my unique skillset to bear on it.

I think it's been the waiting-- for that moment-- that's had my tight abs levitating me off the bed. I also woke, from that 12-hour sleep respite, remembering that when my son got stuck in the birth canal and they said to stop pushing until the c-section team arrived, I'd used a keening scream to keep from pushing thru what (by then) were oxytocin-fueled monster contractions. (You can't push with an open throat!) So, after the sleep meds wore off, I just sang-howled to my service dog every time my belly tensed. She'd wag, I'd laugh, the day passed. A new anti-anxiety alternative.

These meds run against my whole mind-management belief system and practice. I decided that since I'd had to forego that practice for the duration, a few days' use could be ok, and so I'll schedule extra time for that practice once I get out of the "china shop."

"Michael row the boat ashore...."

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 31 Aug 18 - 10:02 PM

wysiwig, you CAN do it. You have it within you. Believe me, for I've been there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 31 Aug 18 - 10:00 PM

Still on sub-lurk. Just 'busy'. Hugs to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 Aug 18 - 03:00 AM

With you there on embarrassment, Rap. (Fu**it!)

I'd appreciate a short tow behind the Rainbow. There's a situation that has another week and a half to run, and I need sleep (not advice) SO BADLY. All indicators are that I'm handling that sitch beautifully, but it kicks up just about every trauma of my difficult childhood. None of it is anything I can post about in further detail; I am getting good counseling sessions 4x/week. But not sleeping even with pretty srs meds. I'm a little "dinghy"!

Thank you, sailors. I can sing out a few spirituals from back here.

"Climbing high mountains":
"... still on my journey..." 3x "tryin to get home."

~S~

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 30 Aug 18 - 10:02 PM

I long ago decided I'd rather be mortally embarrassed than dead. I have an appointment with Dr. (Katie) Fritz, the surgeon, on the 11th. In the meantime I continue cardiac rehab for three more visits.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Aug 18 - 02:41 PM

It all sounds monumentally embarrassing.
Take care of yourself in the meanwhile.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 10:10 PM

Oh, yes. Contrary to popular opinion, the laxatives I had to take for the prep did not make me disappear completely!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 10:09 PM

Last Thursday, after two days of prep and liquid diets, I had a colonoscopy. Nine polyps, none seemed malignant to the doc. But to my chagrin I have a polyp on a hemorrhoid (which I didn't know I had and which I didn't know grew polyps) and it will have to be surgically removed and biopsied. Well, that's for late November/early December -- too much is going on beforehand. AND I've moved from a 10 year cycle for colonoscopies to a 3 year one.

I'd say, "S**t" but it doesn't seem appropriate somehow. Well, it's better than the alternatives!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 09:53 PM

Life goes on...There are now some ashes where her parents and one brother are buried, some scattered on the trails and beach at a nearby state rec area we frequented, and some along the Martha's Vineyard beach near her other brother's summer place, where we spent a few days most summers. In a week I set out for the Greek Island of Naxos, where we visited twice and would have returned if it could have been. Most of the remaining ashes will go along in a little cardboard travel urn. It took something of a comedy of clerical errors to get through the paperwork for that, but fortunately I got into it well in advance. Naxos turned out to be kind of our place in the whole world, so I've really wanted to do this. I'm spending some time with friends most days, and starting on a small (n) scale train layout. I'm sure I haven't had my last incidental meltdown, but I'm not in desperate straits.
                Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Aug 18 - 04:22 PM

Ranger1, hope your siblings are mending swiftly and feeling better.

Thinking of frogprince as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 14 Aug 18 - 06:52 PM

Yes I am polite but 'permitting' you to speak up would be presumptuous if not impossible. You detect subtleties well. I daresay your posting rate exceeds mine, not that there is anything wrong with that.

Well maybe there is but this community has become too polite to complain. Well Joe complained but he is a founder and chief...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Aug 18 - 04:42 PM

Yes, the post about Donuel's brother Steve was submitted to the BS thread on Puerto Rico, with reason, since it was in the aftermath of the Hurricane Maria catastrophe that the death took place.

So one of our own long-time Mudcatters is experiencing that catastrophe in a way very close to home.
Thanks for your graciousness in permitting me to speak up.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Aug 18 - 10:01 AM

In posting for about 20 years I have presented a vulnerable side. Vulnerable in the sense of TMI to the emotionally compromised.
Regarding mixed feelings about the dead and not speaking ill of the dead in mixed company, first I have been unable to obtain a death certificate from PR and only have private accounts to o by. Second I have not seen Steve in 52 years and rely solely on telephone communication. Third, Steve is/was a half brother. Until finality can be officially established there is not much to be said.

Death always involves some mixed feelings we generally do not discuss.
I do not advocate doing away with discussing the mixed feeling side of death but only acknowledge its existence. Unreasonable guilt can result from an obsession with mixed feelings.

Keboroxu, we all have an appointment with death so the social convention of honoring the dead to some degree is good for everyone.

It can be challenging to honor a near stranger, a Scalia or a Trump but it can be done.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Aug 18 - 03:20 PM

...and Amos has posted to the Mudcat that he is feeling better.
Thinking of
frogprince and gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Aug 18 - 06:23 PM

thinking of Amos and gnu.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Aug 18 - 05:52 PM

Actually I was referring to Donuel's brother.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Aug 18 - 04:30 PM

I think of people who face a close bereavement and my tacit support goes with them. My situation amounts to no more than an empty nest.
While I appreciate the notion of empathy, healing hearts could go toward those in need. In photos we smile but in life we don't smile on command. Smiling times come and go.
For those who need support there is no loss too small or too large to be shared and healed over time without judgement in 'Jane's Rainbow'.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Aug 18 - 03:13 PM

Mudcatter Donuel chose to be very private about his loss,
in Mudcat posts this year.
It is now a number of months since the bereavement in Donuel's family.
Slow as I am, I just understood it today, this very minute.

I respect Donuel's privacy and his choice to be discreet in his posts.
And I am sorry beyond words
for Donuel's and his family's bereavement.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Jul 18 - 12:30 PM

I expect your beach hut was a welcome respite from the blazing sun Wendy !

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Jul 18 - 10:44 PM

Thinking of you, gnu,
and of those to whom you are attached.
Hang in there.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Jul 18 - 04:33 PM

Lovely to hear that, Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 06 Jul 18 - 12:39 PM

I spent a wonderful day yesterday with our lovely Nigel. We have been friends here ever since he started this Rainbow voyage but had never met. We often said he would come here and spend a day at our beach hut in the little seaside town where he enjoyed many childhood holidays and yesterday at last, Billy and I welcomed him to our home and the hut by the sea. We even managed to climb to the top of the Trinity House Tower at the Naze (111 steps to the top)

This Rainbow crew have shared many sad times but also many happy and funny memories. Nigel and Ann will always be in our thoughts and of course Jane and her family, without them many friendships would never have happened but more importantly the love and compassion shown by all on board has been so important to all who sail with us.

Sending much love and thanks to Nigel and Ann, may our little ship sail on and on for all who need love and healing thoughts.

All my love Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Jul 18 - 07:52 PM

Nigel and Ann, take care of yourselves and each other. If you need us, we'll be here.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Jul 18 - 10:01 AM

rapparee, hope that heart of yours is negotiating a healthy compromise in its conflicts.

Donuel, hope all is going well for your son.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jul 18 - 06:29 PM

Adding my good wishes to Nigel and Ann, as they continue to grieve Jane.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Jul 18 - 03:25 PM

Seconded.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 29 Jun 18 - 09:30 AM

We will miss you, Nigel. Best to you and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Jun 18 - 09:43 PM

If anyone wonders where I've been.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 28 Jun 18 - 04:36 PM

G'night, gnu, you have a place in the thoughts and prayers of us all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 07:19 PM

calm sea & a prosperous voyage to Nigel & Anne

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 05:43 PM

Nigel. If you read this... I understand.

Thank you for this journey.

I will check back from time to time, as I have, but my situation weighs heavy and I too may simply have to take a long(er) break.

Thanks to all.

gnightgnu

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 12:10 PM

Jane's Rainbow is now 126 pages deep,
and that is a fairly solid anchoring.

Someone else will take the wheel now,
and the ship will continue to sail.

Thanks, Nigel and Ann.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 27 Jun 18 - 02:58 AM

I have made few, meaningful posts for sometime & have come to the decision that I should withdraw from 'Jane's Rainbow'. Ann & I continue to grieve for our belovéd Jane, quietly & privately. Much good has come from the Rainbow since she first set sail, six years ago. Long may that continue.
            Ann & I wish you all a calm sea & a prosperous voyage,
                                                                                                      Nigel & Ann Paterson.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Jun 18 - 03:42 PM

I did remark that there were storms on the horizon.
It never rains but it pours, doesn't it!
Take care and feel better everybody.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 09:40 PM

Ranger: Don't talk about the death of a dream. Maybe this dream died, but a new dream rises from the ashes of the old one. Does this Hallmark make phoenix cards?

Bye,
                                                             Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 08:12 PM

Ranger1, you and your family are certainly having a tough time. I hope the future brightens soon!
Wendy, I'm glad Billy is starting to feel better!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 08:41 AM

Thanks, Sandra. And caterpillar dermatitis isn't contagious, it's a histamine reaction.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 07:46 AM

I have been away from this ship for too long. No real excuses but Billy has had shingles for 6 weeks. He is left handed and the nerve pain is in his left arm. I now know how much he does for me when he is well, 6 weeks of watching him either sleeping( strong meds) or being in constant pain when awake has meant he could do nothing. So trying to run the business, do all the driving, gardening, cooking and being a nurse has been quite a challenge. He actually said the the perforated appendix some years ago and all the chemo he had were easier to cope with than the past few weeks. The pain has reduced him to tears! However I am hoping he has turned the corner as he managed to mow the lawn on Wednesday and yesterday we went out for lunch with my daughter to celebrate my Birthday.
The good news is that he saw his consultant this week for his 4 month check up and all his blood results were good, still on the clinical trial so back in October. God bless our N
HS and Colchester Hospital. All free and available to my New Jersey boy.

Wishing love to everyone aboard, I have been catching up with all the news here. Shall I put the coffee pot on, I have coffee cake

Much love Wendy xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 Jun 18 - 03:39 AM

sending hugs - good thing they are virtual cos I'd hate to get caterpillar dermatitis.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Jun 18 - 11:06 PM

It's been a rough week for members of my family. The grocery store my brother put his heart and soul into for the past 13 years finally closed for good on Saturday. Hallmark doesn't make a "Condolences on the death of your dream" card, but they ought to. And yesterday, my sister fell off her deck and broke her ankle, compound fracture, and will need surgery to have a permanent plate to hold everything together. Me, I'm just itchy from caterpillar dermatitis.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Jun 18 - 02:04 PM

Hope Amos is feeling more like himself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Jun 18 - 12:01 PM

Remembering Pat 'catspaw' Patterson. His witty intelligence has rarely been matched. Taken far too soon,
               Love you Pat,
                                     Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 20 Jun 18 - 07:39 AM

We didn't really fall of the edge of the ocean; it's just the curve of the Earth that makes it look that way.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jun 18 - 02:54 PM

There are explanations under each picture.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 13 Jun 18 - 02:51 PM

I also put what I wanted to share here. The first two images. Once again, if you get an adult content warning, I promise that this isn't a link to any garbage.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Jun 18 - 12:57 PM

Froggy, my life is Facebook-free so I can't view it,
but thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Jun 18 - 08:59 PM

a couple of recent things that were good for me