Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 18 Sep 14 - 05:00 AM

a thoroughly deserved day.

may you have many more days filled with simple pleasures

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Sep 14 - 04:43 AM

Thank you all for your good wishes. Ann & I had lunch at our favourite restaurant (Tomassi's in Southend on Sea), followed by a leisurely drive home through the Essex countryside. A light supper...a couple of good documentaries on TV...and so to bed. Simple pleasures that made for a gently memorable day. Many of my Friends & Former Students 'bombarded' me with a plethora of affectionate comments on FB too...I'm still basking in the afterglow of affection from soo many good people.
                                           From my Heart to Yours,
                                                                               Thank you, thank you,
                                                                                                                Nigel
                                                                                                                xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 04:26 PM

Happy birthday from me, too, Nigel!

Pete, I hope you can keep all those balls in the air and your hands, but yes, they do bounce.

Wendy, I hope the bungalow sells quickly and for a good price.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 05:33 AM

Thanks Pete, I often drop them all at the same time, bad juggler I am? But they always bounce back up!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY dear Nigel, hope you have a very happy day

with love and best wishes to all,

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

PS The bungalow is on the market, the brother could not argue with me, mum's solicitor and the estate agent, whoopee at last !!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 05:04 AM

Happies atchya, Nigel.

Juggling... good description. Hope nobody drops any balls.

I notice this thread will soon stand at 4000 posts. That's a big rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 04:35 AM

and may you have a good one, nigel.
sounds like you are busy , wendy. we are looking after granddaughters while mummy is unwell also, but she is out of hospital now, and has her son back as of last night, with the plan of having the others back as she, hopefully. continues recovery. dementia club sounds promising. sometimes it feels like juggling, don't it?. you wonder when you gonna drop a ball !    blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 17 Sep 14 - 04:02 AM

67 today...it's just a number...I'm only one day older than I was yesterday!
                                              With Love,
                                                             Nigel
                                                             xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Sep 14 - 05:14 PM

Climbing to the top o' the mast again!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Sep 14 - 06:26 PM

Wendy, the dementia club sounds like it could give you a break even if your mother never moves into that home.

Sending love to all of your family, hoping your daughter improve, and glad you had some fun with your granddaughters.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Sep 14 - 06:05 PM

Been on shore leave for a while, looking after the grandaughters while mummy is feeling poorly.But my thoughts have been on the crew and hoping for good health and good news for you all, as anniversary dates have come and bought tears but also happy memories.

Thank you Maeve for the special thoughts, much love to Pete, Janie, Mary and of course Nigel and Ann.

As the health of my daughter is still uncertain I am thinking I may need respite care for my mother so, just in case, I visited a nursing home on Friday last. The only one in the area that had been recommended! ( I did do a reccy 3 years ago and the homes I saw were horrendous) However this one is like a 5 star hotel and ticks all the boxes. The good news is they have a dementia club once a week so mum can go from 11 till 4 and enjoy the activities etc. Then if we do need respite she will be familiar with the surroundings and staff. One more step forward?

On a happy note Billy and I took the little girls to their first barn dance on Saturday and they loved it, danced every dance!Plus the band were Skinners Rats so Bunny and Pru were delighted to see "Uncle" Barry playing his violin.Happy Days

Sailing on

Much love Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Sep 14 - 11:31 AM

I'm still here, too, Pete--well, in Rhode Island, but my heart is with you and your daughter.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Sep 14 - 06:12 AM

Thoughts and prayers from here, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Sep 14 - 05:12 AM

Our Very Dear Pete...Janie is right...Katherine is in a safe place where she will be cared for, 24/7. Her recovery will almost certainly take a while. Progress is usually made in tiny increments with recovery & relapse going hand in hand, but ultimately, recovery will triumph.Your love & patience will be rewarded. There are many of us on 'The Rainbow' who are thinking of you & Katherine at this very moment...know that we are here.
                                              Much Love to You Both,
                                                                                  Nigel
                                                                                  xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 09:32 PM

Indeed, Pete, holding her especially, and all of you in my thoughts. She is where she needs to be to be safe right now. It can take time, but she will get better.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 09:24 PM

& me

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 07:55 PM

Still here, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 12 Sep 14 - 03:57 PM

my daughter Katherine is still in a bad way and has had dark thoughts that might be dangerous for her, if she were not in hospital.
so anyone care for a prayer, thankyou.    bless you all      pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Sep 14 - 06:23 PM

Thank you, Nigel, for remembering.

Potato salad? Maybe just a bit salty. It went down well with a glass of water though. (Grin.)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Sep 14 - 04:01 AM

All flags to half mast on 'The Rainbow' today.

                                                                   "We shall remember them"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Sep 14 - 11:53 AM

froggy spelled 'potatoe' properly! Homeland security is probably in the white van across the street from him by now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Sep 14 - 09:24 AM

(((Sinsull)))
SRS, reconciliation is good stuff

I was just nibbling odds and ends in the galley; did anyone else notice something funny about that potatoe salad ? : )

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Sep 14 - 05:59 AM

Yes, ChanteyLass, 'bittersweet' is a word that sums up the day perfectly, but our mood was by no means melancholy. We were greatly cheered at lunchtime to discover that two good friends of ours who used to run "The Best Café in Town" & were forced out of business by some extremely suspect property deals, have taken over the café in our local library. Yesterday's lunch was a happy time, with much 'catching up' & free cups of coffee.

Thanks Pete...new works have been a bit thin on the ground for several months...totally deserted by my muse (if I ever had one!). I am, however, revisiting a piece I started ages ago & never completed...that happened yesterday too...see, I told you the 9th September was a special day!

Gnu...bless you too.
                              With Love,
                                             Nigel & Ann
                                             xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 04:47 PM

echoeing chanteylas' sentiments. have you been writing anything lately, nigel ?.          blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 02:01 PM

Nigel, hugs on their way as you and your family remember Jane's birthday which I imagine must be bittersweet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 11:33 AM

"a work in progress"

So our journey is. And, sailing together eases that work. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Sep 14 - 05:19 AM

The 9th September is special...it's Jane's birthday. She would've been 49. Many memories upon which to reflect & just a few too many 'If only...' It's also special because Jane, being the clever lady that she was, managed to give birth to her first child on the 9th too. Her son, now a strapping 25 year old is forging ahead with his career, so we are compelled to look to the future. The balance between "What was" & "What is to come" is a work in progress, but with the passage of time, a balance will be achieved. To complete the picture, my first, late Wife's birthday was also the 9th September. If I were a numerologist, I'd be having a field day!

                   Much Love to You All,
                                                    Nigel & Ann.
                                                    xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 14 - 03:48 AM

Any plans for Friday night, Amos?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 08 Sep 14 - 03:36 AM

Ditto Janie and CL. Good and hopeful news.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Sep 14 - 11:37 AM

Always good to leave a door open and to mend fences.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 07 Sep 14 - 11:25 AM

That is good news, Maggie. Not just good, exciting!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 07 Sep 14 - 11:10 AM

Here's a generally positive report to help lift the mood.

Our family (four siblings) fell apart to some degree when our parents died within six months of each other in 1997-98. One sibling is a sociopath and made life hell for a couple of years. It caused a general chilling effect for the rest of us, and hard feelings from the trouble he stirred up. It took a long time before I was finally able to ask the other two "what were you thinking?" about some of their actions in response to the youngest's tumult.

I think we've all lost track of the youngest, he has separated himself and isolated his child and former partner from our family, but we wish him well. I am grateful that the other three of us are back to being on good terms. When my nephew turns 18 I'll reach out and offer our friendship, and hope his view of the rest of us hasn't been poisoned by his father's behavior. I bring this up now because my recently-graduated son has moved to start a new job in the area where my brother and sister live, and they have welcomed him with open arms and good advice, in those few occasions when it seemed suitable to offer it.

It's good when you can put [most of] your family back together.

SRS

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 10:16 PM

condolences & hugs to Mary

love from sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 02:26 PM

What Sinsull said.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 07:50 AM

Oh Mary, I'm so sorry.   I hope you did have the opportunity to tell him of your love. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 06:40 AM

Gnu, I agree absolutely, but I've been wondering recently if some of us are suffering from what might be termed: "Thread Fatigue"? To quote your words: "I think just being here or checking up when one can is contributing to the journey and crew. We're all in the same boat eh?
    It's all too easy to feel guilty about not contributing/posting. Chasing one's tail for that "Mot Juste". If we do what we can, when we can (guilt-free!), then I see no reason why "Jane's Rainbow" shouldn't continue her voyage for as long as we have breath in our bodies & wind in the sails.

    My Dear Janie...not another word about "pulling your weight" or "earning your keep"...please (-:

    The occasional refresh might be needed, but so be it.

    So, no guilty feelings, no recriminations, we do what we can, when we can, safe in the knowledge that we are members of a crew; a team of likeminded individuals, looking out for each other & ready to respond when Life throws one of those unexpected, curved balls.
                      Much Love & many hugs & kisses to you all,
                                                                                        Nigel.
                                                                                       xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 05:39 AM

My sincerest condolences, Mary.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Sep 14 - 12:08 AM

For Wendy...and all who treasure a loved one who is far away in one way or another: "...I'm lovin' you right now"

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 06:19 PM

Sorry to hear that, Mary.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 05:57 PM

Hugs to all. Janie, love, at least you're present. I wander off for weeks at a time. Mary, so sorry to hear of your loss. Everybody else, I love ya all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 04:52 PM

wishing you comfort, mary.
may the memory of the better times , soften the bite of grieving.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 03:03 PM

Mary, my love to you.

Janie, I'm sure I'm not telling you anything new- just saying, "You are cherished."

Starboard, port, bow, stern, peerie peapod alongside, or folk wha' paddle in the waves...canny man or wifie or bairn...thank you to all who travel with us.

Maeve, who does well to post a couple of times in a month of silence.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 02:30 PM

Janie, I think posting the link to Rap's thread proves that you are pulling your weight. Besides, some of us are on port watch while others are on starboard. We aren't all on duty at once. Mary, I'm sorry about your youngest brother.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: SINSULL
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 12:43 PM

Janie,
Guilt is anger turned inward. If you are beating yourself up over not posting often enough (by your standards) here, take a good hard look at what is going on in your life. Why are you angry? Who is the culprit? Sort it out and be kinder to yourself.

Meantime, I am mourning the loss of my youngest brother. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died less than a month later. One day he working full time and fine, the next he was bedridden and wasting away. Never let a day go by without telling the people you love that they are precious to you.
Mary

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 07:05 AM

Mysha- Brilliant and accurate reply to Janie- Thank you!

Janie, if you're gonna go into uncalled-for-guilt-mode on account of not having the energy to post deeply meaningful and personal replies to each and every post here on the Rainbow, I'd better just quit trying right now.

Piffle, Woman- we're all having struggles or we wouldn't be part of the crew.

Love,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Mysha
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 06:35 AM

Hi Janie,

Sitting down in the middle of a boat increases its stability.

Bye
                                                                Mysha

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 05:07 AM

definitely!

hugs to Janie

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 03:51 AM

I think just being here or checking up when one can is contributing to the journey and crew. We're all in the same boat eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 12:41 AM

I check in daily, read, and carry every concern in my heart and meditations, but I am aware I am not posting much. So many of you are able to post something individually addressing the concerns of each person. Right now, I simply an not capable of doing that, and I am sorry. Always on board, even if not pulling my weight or earning my keep.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 05 Sep 14 - 12:23 AM

Rap doesn't post here, though he may lurk occasionally. Really doesn't matter whether he does or not. Needs some extra mojo for his beloved partner. thread.cfm?threadid=155476&messages=4

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Sep 14 - 02:36 PM

What they said.