Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 14 Jan 14 - 02:46 PM

Thanks to 999 for posting. Many here are thinking of you as well.

Spaw, Nigel, the wholeheckofamightyfinecrew- Dealing with some horrible and wonderful experiences here. I read this thread most days, and most days cannot post. Please know you are in my heart.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 12:24 AM

Often speechless, but always here, as is the case for many folks. Very gladdened that at present there is a fair wind blowing for so many.

May we each and every one take pleasure and solace in every fair wind, and also find that which is fair in every wind that blows, and every sea that rises.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 02:20 AM

often wiping away tears while reading posts here

I'm heading to a 4-day festival in the morning (eek, 18 hours to sort stuff & pack) see ya when I get back

love & hugs to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 06:18 AM

Great news, Pete!

UP yours, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 06:58 AM

Maeve, you pipped me to the post; so good to hear from '9' & agreed, in the thoughts & hearts of many of us.

Janie, like you, I check in most days...like you & Maeve, I am often lost for words but desperate to say something meaningful.

Sandra, wouldn't it be amazing if we could collect all the tears shed & transform them into a balm that would cure all ills, comfort the distressed, ease all pain & suffering. I long to live in such a World.

Yesterday, Ann & I asked our Doctor for a Bereavement Counsellor referral. We've muddled along as best we could, but the enormity of what happened in March last year has finally hit home. We've been kidding ourselves that we were 'ok', clinging desperately to the 'day at a time' mantra. Only time will tell.
                                                With Love,
                                                               Nigel & Ann
                                                               xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 11:45 AM

A good move Nigel. I think we all will agree that you and Ann shared a personal loss far harder than most. No one should have to bury their children. You have the support of this crew and my personal best thoughts as you begin your journey. The two of you deserve the very best and I hope this step helps to get you there.

Much Love

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 02:07 PM

I am with Spaw. Good on yas.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 02:40 PM

Nigel and Ann- Good. Wise move...we'll be here and you'll make a different sort of journey exploring the depths and dizzying heights of your loss and love for your family and one another.

Nigel..."we could collect all the tears shed & transform them into a balm that would cure all ills, comfort the distressed, ease all pain & suffering. I long to live in such a World." That's the germ of a song, young man.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 03:15 PM

Sorry to say, we have a set back. Tommys lung has weakened again and he has infection in his feeding tube site which is feared could be dangerous so an op to change it was scheduled today. This has been put off till tomorrow due to other emergencies. However he dipped badly tonight which caused a flurry of activity, and if it had happened during op might have been fatal. Needless to say ,it is worrying, so all prayers appreciated.                        Nigel...wishing you and Anne solace and comfort.         Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 05:12 PM

Oh my... all I can say is... nope, I got no words. Only hopeful thoughts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 05:35 PM

best wishes heading your way, Tommy & Pete

andra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 07:39 PM

Pete, I am a long-time admirer of yours, as you may or may not know. Although I 'have no truck' with religion, I have all the time in the world for good people, and that means people like you. BM

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 07:50 PM

Yeah.....I got off that truck a long ways back myself. But time, good thoughts, encouragement, love, and hope, are all things that require only living fully as a part of the human experience.

All my best thoughts and hopes to Tommy right now.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Jan 14 - 11:24 PM

Nigel, I think you made a wise decision to seek out a bereavement counselor. That's why they exist! People shouldn't have to handle some things alone. Grieving is a journey, and this will be one more step in that journey.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 06:44 AM

More good thoughts going several places at once.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 08:51 AM

Pete xxxxxxxxx much love and prayers
Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comf
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 12:50 PM

The op went ahead this afternoon and though he is still coming round , it seems to have gone well.the x ray prior to the op was clear of the whiteout shown on the x ray of the previous day apparently. There was a lot of infection to clean out ,so op took a lot longer than scheduled but hopefully he will start to mend now. Thanks for your prayers and kind thoughts. Bless you.   Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 01:43 PM

Thank you Pete, for keeping us informed re Tommy. Still lifting him in my thoughts and wishing all good energy towards his healing.

Lunch time today I really bad reaction to chemo I took this morning. Battled on through work regardless. Still sick so no dinner tonight. Maybe bowl of cornflakes later. Decided to take tomorrow as a flexi day. Need recupe time.


Love and hugs to all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 02:49 PM

Mods, kindly clear out my duplicate post just before this. Thanks.

Pete- What a relief to have that muck cleaned out! I hope this will enable Tommy to heal.

Tamara- Thank you for taking care of yourself. Rest easy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 07:23 PM

More love and healing thoughts and prayers to Tommy, Pete, Tamara .

Oh and

Spaw,

Nigel and Ann and

All the crew,

Billy is sleeping, mum is asleep with a carer holding her hand,

I have my kindle and a glass of wine . So I will take the night watch,
God bless all, sleep tight,may the morning bring in a sunny day

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 09:27 PM

I wish that night and the sunny day that follows for you too Wendy. As a matter of fact Wendy that's a great idea you have there for whole crew. I'll second that!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 10:01 PM

Just thoughts and prayers for all. It's all I got but I send them with all my heart. Bless.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Jan 14 - 10:03 PM

Pete, glad Tommy's op went well, but it must have worried you that it went on longer than expected.

VirginiaTam, I hope you feel better soon. Sorry the chemo set you back.

Wendy, I wish you a sunny day, too. Enjoy your wine!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Jan 14 - 12:15 AM

Made a long post, then deleted it.

In each of our lives, great storms, little storms, and more often storms that aren't epic, but go on and on. As we sail that is the case also. With each clearing or break in the clouds, or even remarkably beautiful play of light on clouds layered on clouds in the angled light of morning or twilights, may we lift up our wings and fly.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCANAmQizdc


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKjgJ3oLJqE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFGO4iKh-aM&playnext=1&list=AL94UKMTqg-9Dp38Ds6I3G60UakegICiJ1

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Jan 14 - 08:25 PM

Thanks for the music, Janie.

Goodnight and sweet dreams, all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 17 Jan 14 - 08:33 PM

Thank you Janie.........And I hope this finds Tommy still on the comeback.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 06:28 AM

G'mornin all.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 07:27 AM

My thoughts are focussed on Pete & Tommy, as they are, each & every day. Hoping, hoping, hoping that Good Health will be Tommy's constant companion. Hoping, hoping, hoping, Pete, that your Faith will guide & sustain you.

Janie, your knack of choosing "La Musique juste" is quite uncanny. Thank you & thank you for introducing me to two singers who are new to me (very out of touch these days).

Spaw, just as Janie manages to find great Music, your knack of finding "Le Mot juste" is equally uncanny. I read & re-read your posts. They are for all to read, but I always have that feeling that you're speaking directly to me too. Like the way a good actor can make you feel that you're the only person in the auditorium.

Wendy, I feel I know You, Billy & your Mother as if we'd been neighbours for years. You have allowed us into your world with your movingly intimate posts. I've laughed & cried in equal measure.

Virginia T., despite the complexity & persistence of your health issues, you continue to search for positive outcomes, frequently putting others' needs ahead of your own. I applaud your courage & fortitude.

Gnu, would you join me up on deck? The air is crisp & fresh & the sound of the waves gently breaking against the bow, makes Music that none could play, but all can appreciate. I would enjoy some time in your company.

Maeve, ".....a germ of a song". If I write the lyrics, would you like to compose the melody? If I'm to achieve anything at present, collaboration seems to be my only option, for I can create nothing 'in my solitude'.

          To you all, I send my Love & Gratitude. Just knowing that you're there, regardless of how near or far you may be, is a great comfort,
                                                                        With Love,
                                                                                       Nigel
                                                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 07:44 AM

Nigel- What a good post!
And a tune for your song- of course.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 08:00 AM

I have to post this. Pure joy! A happy tune.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 12:10 PM

Tommy sleeping peacefully this afternoon. Tube removed from him this morning and he has seemed much brighter and less tired. He is on bi pap breath assistance because of the weak lung.....hopefully a temporary measure...........hope you are having a better day today tam.........peace and comfort to you Nigel, and creative juices flowing again.......blessings all.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 01:42 PM

Glad to hear it, Pete!

Nigel... I am honoured.

maeve... thanks.

VTam... enjoy your fav sweets. The senders must be reeeeal sweeties.

Janie and Wendy... I echo Nigel ineloquently.

Spaw... you know. >;-)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 01:44 PM

Dancing a jig. Great visit with TheSilentOne's parents in Strat u Avon today. Dad was a awake in chepper mood and Mum was more lucid than we have seen her in months.

Jigging more. Walked to and from the pub (lunch) without angina pain or pain in hips and ankles. What's more, I took stairs alternately. Usually my ankles and hips make ascend and descend one step at a time.

Spent the near 3 hour trips to and from Strat u Avon, singing. Kept voice and only had one coughing bout near end of the trip home.

Once back foud lovely surprise from couple of US mudcatters waiting. See Mudcat Magic thread.

Very good to read the very good news about Tommy.

Love and hugs to all you magical mudcatters.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 03:34 PM

Joyful indeed maeve.    May each and every one of us, each day, be open to the opportunities for joy. Even nanoseconds of joy are potent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Jan 14 - 06:07 PM

Friday's yoga class was followed by a 15-minute breathing meditation. My focus was on Tommy.

VirginiaTam, I'm glad you had so much energy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 06:48 AM

a lot of good stuff!

keep up the good news

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 01:07 PM

I'll second that!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from tommys bedside
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 01:59 PM

And I,ll third it......ESP the big lift for tam.             Tommys discharge is planned tomorrow.    He has been a bit. Cranky today....sure sign he,s feeling better

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 06:59 PM

Oh, good for Tommy and you, Pete!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 07:04 PM

Cheers all around!

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 08:47 PM

just a bit? may he continue healing & expressing his personality.

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Tinker
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 09:55 PM

Okay I'm a little shakey. Could be so much worse. Spent all day yesterday with my son getting him a usded car. He let this morning for Oxford, Oh and had an accident 3 hrs shy of getting there.

Ben's okay. No other car involved. The car -- we'll see. It's just 10 days over a year since my daughter totalling her car when we were on the way to North Carolina.

He has friends going to pick him up, but .....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 19 Jan 14 - 10:34 PM

Welcome aboard, Tinker. I'm so relieved that your son is ok. Time for a cup of tea and some slow breathing.

Hugs from Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 06:14 AM

Things do NOT always come in threes Tink! Glad Ben is okay and now try to concentrate on breathing....LOL.....Glad you came by today. Keep us posted.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 10:47 AM

I found another quotation that may speak to some here:

"If stories come to you, care for them. And learn to give them away where they are needed. Sometimes a person needs a story more than food to stay alive."   ~ Barry Lopez, " Crow and Weasel"

And a song from a Canadian singer, Dan McKinnon "Simple Things"

And it's simple things I send to all on board the Rainbow.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 01:36 PM

Thinking of Ben and you Tink,

Cars can be replaced, sons cannot! So pleased Ben is safe,

Welcome to The Rainbow, the best place to be comforted and share troubles,

much love to Pete and Tommy

Wendy xxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 07:17 PM

Oh my, how an evening can change your world!

I thought I would spring clean mothers bedroom, so, with her carer, we took down the curtains, washed the windows and paintwork, put up some new curtains that were a lovely shade of duck egg blue, all well with our world .

Then as I was standing on a chair , I thought the top of the wardrobe needed dusting, so took down great granddads tin box, inch of dust, two speakers, unplugged and not needed and very dusty, mum's hat box with Buckingham Palace hat(much prized) and very dusty, and found in far corner funny little black thing ( luddite that I am !!) Turns out that my brother, who I have had issues with over spending mothers money to pay for her care, has been bugging mother's bedroom and my home

I think he is worried that his inheritance might be going ? Spending mothers money on 24 hour care? But all I care about is looking after my mother, even so, it does not excuse bugging my home?

I am sure it is illegal as he has bugged the carers, and Billy and my daughter are livid!!

What do I do next? Solicitor? Police ? Oh dear ,if ever I need a voice of calm....... here I am! Need to know what to do in the morning?

Bewildered and very unhappy

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 08:19 PM

Wendy- I would also be livid, but there will be time for anger later. Right now you need to be calm. Any chance your brother knows about your posts here? if so, watch what you post.

Yes, I would contact my solicitor in your place, but I wouldn't allow anyone at the house to discuss the issue where they will be overheard by bugs, nor would I make that call from home. Careful and calm is what's called for.

The ducks egg blue curtains sound lovely. You are taking the best loving care of your mother, so rest easy tonight.

Hugs,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 08:33 PM

I join Maeve....good advice. Stop conversations inside that might be picked up and check other rooms too. Turn a radio on in the kitchen and talk there. Go outside to call your Sol.

Now try to relax and maybe make a note or two of things you need to ask or say in the AM.

We all love ya' and you've already gone through far worse than this!!!


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 20 Jan 14 - 08:50 PM

What maeve and spaw said, Wendy.

Family issues can be so complicated. Sending double dose of love and and caring.