Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:34 PM

r1... awwww. Have you told him you really want to keep the property in memory of yer dad and want to work out a deal? Sorry if that is too persona;. I'll not comment again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:22 PM

Glad you are still around Wolfhound/Paws......It is so damn tough as we age and find friends, many of them too young, are so ill. We all know death is coming but that doesn't make anything any easier. It is simply rhetoric. Tell your friends there are many others who care deeply for the situation they are in and while there is so very little we can do, we all know the power of supporting thoughts and prayers or just the plain Mojo that happens.

We're not a prayer group or anything even remotely like that but we do care and all of us have had the experience of knowing others care too, even those we have never met.

Keep us posted, huh?

RANGER......old friend.......Sometimes life just sucks so bad you think Hoover should be your name. Wish I had some advice. For a long time I tried to keep some remembrance of my parents until one day I saw that the best remembrances were inside of me. And guess what? From that day on those memories multiplied at an unbelievable rate. I mean really! Even now with both of them gone 40 years I have things almost daily that trigger some tale of something related to one or the other.......today was one about a Baby Grand and my Dad.

It gets better. Much Love,

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 May 13 - 12:03 PM

ranger1, i still mourn the loss of the old Victorian farmhouse my parents had to sell when they divorced. it not only was a major part of our family, but it also had a commmunity personna. So, imo, you have nothing to worry about, no problems. Have a good cry and a lots of hugs frofrom all of us!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 May 13 - 11:26 AM

so good to hear of richards recovery.prayerful thoughts for terry and kate.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 May 13 - 10:48 AM

big hugs!

sandra (sending warm fuzzies)

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 May 13 - 07:40 AM

I feel so silly about this, so many others are dealing with much bigger issues, but I really need some warm fuzzies right about now.

My father died very suddenly five years ago at the age of 62, without a will. The understanding was that I was supposed to be his heir, but he never told my brother this. I get on really well with my brother, and didn't feel like this was an issue at the time, so I never said anything. Why create rifts when we both felt such sorrow at his passing? New Hampshire law is clear: no will, all heirs inherit equally. My brother was executor, as he lives closer. All I really wanted was the property. I offered to buy my brother out a while ago, but he dithered. Now he's willing, and I no longer have the money that I'd been hoarding for this. We agreed that we have to sell it. It's stupid, but it's like I've lost my dad all over again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Wolfhound person
Date: 02 May 13 - 07:22 AM

I've been reading regularly and thinking of you all, though I didn't feel the need to add to what others have said so well.

Earlier in the year I butted in with an appeal for my friend Richard who has now made a complete recovery from bowel cancer (checkups, obviously, but its as good an outcome as could be hoped for). Thank you all for your comments on this.

Now I know of two others who would appreciate your thoughts.

One is a local singer, Terry, who's just been diagnosed with mesothelioma, not good: and his partner, an English player of the mountain dulcimer would probably appreciate the collective support.

The other is a Morris dancer whose long-term partner, Kate, has terminal cancer and only a few weeks to live. Although the caring situation is under control with Macmillan nurses and so forth, its obviously a huge strain for both of them. This latter has only one outcome, unfortunately, so any dancing thoughts you may have available would be welcome.

Some of you may know who I'm talking of, though I believe none of them are actually 'catters. But I don't think that matters.

Thank you.

Paws

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Billybob lost my biscuit?
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:09 AM

oooh that was me,
Also wanted to thank Nigel for his lovely words! xxx
Wendy

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 02 May 13 - 05:07 AM

We luvyou Kat, glad you are getting better and Spaw ....keep UP!

Glad to report that I feel so much better today, all your love has lifted my spirits,so thank you. Also Billy and I went out last evening to a concert!!We saw my favourite folkie Vin Garbutt, wonderful humour, I laughed and laughed, but beautiful touching songs.
It was great to catch up with him and Pat, they met 40 years ago at my old folk club Farningham in Kent, ah where did the years go?

Sailing on
with much love
Wendy
XXXxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 01 May 13 - 11:14 PM

How many times have I been told, and passed on, "Take care of yourself first, or you will not be able to take care of any one else?" A lot and every one is true. Wendy, love yourself FIRST, then that LOVE will be a natural which flows out to others. I know several of us have already benefited from it. Look at me, typing IS getting better like gnu says!**bg**

Thank you to the biggest group (in my world) of beautiful, bountiful, love & light-filled people I count as my friends. You are all priceless and I cherish you.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:57 PM

Good idea Janie and it fits in with my schedule for Friday! I've had the urge for some Cioppino and I make great Cioppino. I've got shrimp, scallops, oysters, clams, crab, and lobster ready to go. No mussels but a couple of cod loins. I'll cheat using clam juice into a basic red sauce (garlic,red onion,Romas,Basil,Oregano,Bay) with a full can of anchovies plus extra fennel, wine and some sugar.

Cook it all up for awhile and serve it up with Lemon slices and Garlic bread for soppin'........Ya' know originally Cioppino was made to use junkfish and leftovers/not sold shellfish from the market. Nowadays their ain't no way to do it cheap.....but you can still make it GREAT!

Get your bowls ready...........Who's making some good Garlic Bread. We need a salad too. And dessert! And a good red wine. Sign up!


Spaw

PS.....This is one of those times I really wish we WERE all together in the flesh.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:32 PM

I agree! That is good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:21 PM

good news!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 May 13 - 10:10 PM

"less than half the time to recover, maybe even less"

YEEHAAAWWWWW!

Poke Spaw?... eeewwwwww!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 May 13 - 09:52 PM

Eyes and fingers crossed for good blood counts, Spawser, and especially glad to learn of faster recovery times. Guess we ought not poke you in the belly just now as if you were the Pillsbury Dough Boy, eh? In that case, get to the galley to conjure up one of your wonderful seafaring dishes to serve up to a hungry crew!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 May 13 - 04:59 PM

Just had to say how much better I feel today and each day after the chemo. It is taking less than half the time to recover, maybe even less. Now I wait til Monday to see what the blood says! The worst part at this point is the belly after a week of 15 shots. Feels like I pulled stomach muscles plus very warm to the touch. Better today though than yesterday.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 04:27 PM

you might feel selfish,wendy,but selfish is not what you is!
you are dedicated to your mum,continually caring for her despite having other pressures.not every son or daughter even tries.God bless you,-i reckon theres a "well done good and faithful servant" over you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 06:43 AM

I wish I had words, Wendy. Ts & Ps.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 05:34 AM

My Dear Wendy,
                        Please don't apologise for ranting. You have a deep-seated need to rant as much as you need. I'm with Spaw, I don't know how you cope with the dementia that at one & the same time, 'takes your Mother from you' & yet physically, she remains with you. I can only guess at your frustration & your inner turmoil. I am moved to read that you choose to share your distress here. For sure, you have chosen wisely.'The Rainbow' is well provisioned for the heart & soul as well as the mind & body.
         Kat & Spaw, rest easy in your bunks, there are enough of us to trim the sails, check the course & keep an eye on the glass. Rest easy & recover. Healing takes time, take all the time you need.
         Janie, you're right, we're on the move again.....
                                                                               With Love,
                                                                                              Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                              xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 12:38 AM

more love & hugs to Wendy, kat, & spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 12:28 AM

Wendy (((((((hugs))))))))).

Hope you are stabilizing Ms. Kitty.

Up Spaw!

Wind is picking up a bit as we move out of the lee of the cove. The jib is starting to fill....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Apr 13 - 12:28 AM

Wendy, my parents both died before I was 23 and hard as that was, I feel that I may have been spared so much else. I listen to you and others and wonder how you do it. Anytime you want to rant and ramble I'd be proud to listen.   I'm not sure I could do it...............


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 29 Apr 13 - 11:27 PM

Aw, Wendy, I'm sorry about your mother's confusion.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 29 Apr 13 - 05:01 PM

Had a bit of a wobble today, probably just feeling sorry for myself, but I had made a cup of tea for mother and a slice of cake for us both. So when mum came into the kitchen I said" here you are mum take your cake into the sitting room and I will bring the tea." She went into the hall and simply didnt know where the sitting room was, pure panic on her face! I got her sitting down and gave her the tea and cake, then went upstairs and had a good cry, horrid, horrid dementia!
Feel very selfish but I really miss her and yet she is here! I know she is very happy and has no idea how I feel and that is the most important thing but, sometimes I find it really so very painful .

Sorry for the rant but I cant share this with anyone else, thanks crew

Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 29 Apr 13 - 09:00 AM

"pulpy OJ, broccoli, arrugula, oysters" All of them favorites of mine! I eat broccoli by the bushel; I guess it needs oysters to really work! I'm still draggy, but up and off to work today. Thanks for the tip, Spaw-me-dear! UP you go!

Kat, I am holding you in light and love and seeing you feeling whole and well. Many blessings and love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 28 Apr 13 - 04:51 PM

gnu, thanks. It doesn't look as good today. If there isn't one already, I may start one.

Thanks and luvyakat

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 10:06 PM

kat... good news. Hope it continues.


"oysters" Spaw? I heard they make ya stemie... two birds eh?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 08:09 PM

Keep it UP, Spaw and Kat!

Abby Sale and his lovely daughter drove an hour to come kidnap me this afternoon to go hear a band of which Abby is fond that was playing at a street festival only blocks from my house that I otherwise would have ignored attending. After the band's set ended we all retired to a Tappas bar where the service was lousy but food, drink (once they arrived) and company were grand, and Abby even led us in the singing of a chantey - something quite rare to occur in public in Mebane, North Carolina.

Today was a good day.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 03:24 PM

we be pretty well,though i have high blood pressure but otherwise feel pretty much ok.tommy is doing well again.he turned 14 this week.when we took him on he was not expected to live that long!
sailing on.blessings pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 12:07 PM

love the name! it istantly reminded me of the Patons' Golden Ring Cycle, specifically, "This a song for all the good people..." lovely song.

I trusted my docs and upped a med I had wanted to dump. Can't believe the change! Lost almost four lbs in water wgt. (plenty more to go) have more energy, too. we were talking hospital yesterday. by monday i think they will reall be happy.

luvyakakay

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 11:49 AM

Well a grand new name that hits me as just abiut right for a crew that's ragged but right, so to speak.

Just finished another round of Vidaza and did much better this time around probably because I went in with my blood in better shape to handle the drop. I'm doing fairly well but I'm anxious to go in Monday for blood work and most probably an Aronesp shot. If this is in fact working as we hope it is, the next week should tell us a lot. I'm hopeful as I feel a bit lousy but overall a lot stronger than before. Maybe I'll get multiple weeks of feeling better..........

The flu sucks Double L......pulpy OJ, broccoli, arrugula, oysters....all flu killers........folic acid too.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 27 Apr 13 - 04:48 AM

Billy and I be well, thank you Nigel and Ann, love the new title! May Jane's Rainbow sail on and on through calm and troubled waters bringing love and comfort to all who sail with her

Wendy xxxxxxxxx

Up Spaw! Get well Allison x

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 11:22 PM

I be well! Well & fit for the new voyage

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 08:10 PM

How be me? I be likin the new title. Almost gets the water in my eyes to my cheeks and it would if I didn't stifle myself because it's only proper.

Thanks, Nigel. For sharing the journey. And for sharing the next. And for giving us all a place to share whatever journeys come to be.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 07:39 PM

A lovely new name, fitting for this motley crew! I now be better than I "been", still recovering from a week of flu, the most sick I've been for a long time. Every day feeling a bit better, but quite draggy. Heading to the shop tomorrow to try to find some immune-system-boosting vitamins, and to buy more fresh fruits and veggies, which I crave! So I haven't been computing quite as much, but you've all been on my mind.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 10:43 AM

As to the title, nothin' wrong with making what I was thinkin' a bit more concise.

My wife and I "be" very well these days, thanks; the recent doctor visits have all taken just long enough for the docs to say "everything looks good, see you in __ months", with one doc saying "discontinue those pills" and another saying "cut back to one of those every other day".

UP SPAW!
                  
               Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Apr 13 - 06:47 AM

Dean, it's you we have to thank for our new name, slightly shorter than your original suggestion because available space is an issue. I hope everyone is happy with our new appellation. Thanks to Joe who was swift to respond &, as ever, cheerfully helpful.
       So, my Dear Friends, the faithful, loyal crew of The Rainbow, it's time to cast off & set sail. Through the magic of metaphor, our new course will set itself, guided, as it is by need & Life's vicissitudes.
       Janie, 'How be Ye' is a phrase I find myself using more & more. It has become part of my daily conversations with Ann, often the first thing I say in the morning. Ann & I be well in body & mind, nurturing our memories of Jane with Love & Care & a surprising amount of humour! So Janie, how be thee?
       And in conclusion, I echo Janie's words: "How be all of ye?
                                                                   With Love to You All,
                                                                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 10:33 PM

Lovely!

(and lovingly.)

Still here, whether I post or not, and so appreciate the presence of so many, whether they post or not. When I have to choose between time to think about what to post and time to intentionally reflect with loving kindness, the latter is the priority. But still with the crew constantly and checking in everyday to read and reflect.

How be all of ye?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 10:20 PM

And a very nice title change it is, too!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 08:48 PM

an apt choice of words nigel.likewise blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Joe Offer
Date: 25 Apr 13 - 07:58 PM

Thread title changed per request from Nigel Paterson.

Nigel, blessings to you and your family.

-Joe Offer-

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Apr 13 - 11:35 AM

Spaw, we really would just as soon you stick around for a while yet...

So far your sense of humor hasn't driven us more than half or two thirds of the way up the wall...

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Apr 13 - 04:45 AM

beautitul vid frogprince.
UP SPAW. encouraging news from you and wendy .blessings   pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 09:45 AM

This game is not a loser, Spaw, it just ends sometime...UP!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 07:08 AM

I like the (proposed) new title & the good news from Spaw & Wendy.

I'll steal gnu's line - Keep it up, Spaw.

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 05:54 AM

Great news, Spaw and Wendy!

Keep it up, Spaw.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Apr 13 - 05:33 AM

My Dear Spaw, that is the best news I've heard in a long time...really lifted my spirits. Clearly you, your docs & the drugs have all been striving in their own particular way. You are on the way UP!

There is a growing consensus that the new title of our thread should include Jane's name. That would be my wish too. Dean's suggestion: "Jane's Rainbow: a thread for all those in need of support and comfort" has considerable appeal. I'll write to Joe for guidance, but in the meantime, Joe, if you're reading this, any words of wisdom?

An acrostic for Spaw:       U nique
                                       P edagogic
                                       S cintillating
                                       P ulsating
                                       A mazing
                                       W underkind

                                                          With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann.
                                                                         xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 11:46 PM

Nigel, please keep Jane's name in the title. She is the reason this thread was created.

SPAW, you are welcome to all my UPS. Were they delivered in the usual big brown truck driven by someone in the brown uniform?

UP, SPAW, again!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 11:33 PM

FaNeFFingTasTic, Spaw!!! (and wouldja throw the darn gameboard away?LOL)

JANE has to be in the title, imo!

luvyabucketskat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 22 Apr 13 - 11:23 PM

"Call me anything you like, just don't call me late for supper," as the old saw goes.

Change the name or leave it, I don't have an opinion. If it gets changed, however, just make sure I can still identify it to bookmark it.

Love you, Spaw.