Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 11:06 AM

kindness of strangers.

love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 06:46 AM

A good samaritan indeed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 03:58 AM

What a wonderful thing for the framer to do. I was talking to my step-granddaughter the other day, who was concerned about all the bad news in the world. I told her that there are a lot of good people doing good things - they just don't make good news. I will pass on this amazing piece of generosity to her.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,alison
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 01:06 AM

so very sorry for your loss

alison

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:47 PM

Kindness is good, especially from a stranger. Crying is good, too. Let your tears flow. Keep the hankies handy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 08:29 PM

Nigel... afetr reading your post, me too. Be well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 02:10 PM

that was so lovely of the framer.when we lost a dear friend who was an artist we had one of his paintings framed.he had given us the norfolk seascape not long before he died.the framing was expensive but sets the painting beautifully.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:42 AM

ChanteyLass & Janie, between the two of you, you've managed to fill my afternoon with joy & tears in about equal measure. I love good stories that are told directly from one's Life Experiences & I love good songs that derive their genesis from Lifes' Experiences. You gave me/us, both.
          I spent most of this morning getting a beautiful photograph of Jane enlarged & framed. It will stand alongside her coffin on Thursday. I cried at the copy shop & I cried at the picture framers & then I cried some more because the framer refused to take any money for his work. He said he couldn't imagine what we were going through & the framed photo was a gift that represented his condolences. That, from a complete stranger....I'm crying again.....
                                           With Love to You All,
                                                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:16 AM

Still with you all each day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 06:19 AM

thanks for the post, ChanteyLass.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Apr 13 - 02:09 PM

A few years ago I took ago I took Qi Gong classes at my local Y. Among the participants were a woman,, M, and her adult daughter, S, who was the mother of a school-age daughter, A, who was too young to participate in the classes. Regarding M and S, I thought, "How nice that a mother and daughter are taking these classes together, although sometimes I thought M was being overly protective. S was very thin and often said her lower back hurt. I told her that one yoga technique was to simply bend over, resting torso on thighs and lowering head toward floor. (We were seated during this portion of class.) She tried it and said it brought some relief and did it again during the next several weeks of classes. I occasionally wondered why a woman so young and slim could have such severe and frequent back pains but never asked because I didn't want to pry. Then for a few weeks M and S were missing from classes. One week our instructor told us that S had died from cancer. I went back through the online obits to find hers. After her diagnosis she had embraced alternative therapies and shamanism. Mary returned to class a few times, really to say goodbye to us and say that A and her dad were doing as well as could be expected under the circumstances. That was the last I saw of M until few weeks ago when she appeared in a yoga class ((My Y no longer offers Qi Gong.) The class was too hard for M, but I told her about some other classes that are better for an older beginner and she has been coming to some of them. She now meets her granddaughter when she gets off the school bus and cares for her until her father gets home from work. The point of all of this is that yes, life continues, but sometimes it takes a few years to get back on track and head in a new direction, though of course she will always miss S. And I'm aways delighted to see M when she comes to a class and happy that she didn't give up after her first too-hard yoga class.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 07 Apr 13 - 12:13 PM

I remember feeling stunned that life rolls on, even though I couldn't understand how that was possible.

Nigel, as we have noted, I'm not a religious believer either, but am certainly culturally Christian and faith based songs still bring much comfort, and healing tears as metaphor. I think immortality is real - in memory, and in influence, even after those with memories have passed on themselves. The following brought tears to my eyes, as well as solace. Hope there is some solace for you also.

Life Goes On

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 05:22 PM

may the children be comforted and blessed,with you,nigel and ann also.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 04:26 PM

I will be there!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 02:19 PM

Sending out energy to you, maeve.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 01:18 PM

Sending all the best to the kind folks here. I'm not online much, being very busy with some tricky caretaker responsibilities, but I do keep track of this thread.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 07:24 AM

Bless you, Nigel. We will be there. May you feel our loving arms around you, hear our voices raised in song, and know that you are being supported on Mudcat angel wings!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 05:56 AM

Wendy, I hope your numbness is receding, to be replaced with hope & optimism.

Spaw, holding you in our thoughts with Love & Care. As my namesake (the 'T' issue is of no consequence at times like this!), please get well.

Kat, may the healing rays of the spring sunshine warm you & restore you.

Most of Jane's funeral arrangements are done now. Just a few small details to attend to &........

Be with us on 11th, 1:00pm (UK time) if you can. Sing, rejoice, give thanks for a beautiful lady who brought joy into so many peoples lives. Her generosity, kindness & zest for life lives on in her Children,
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 08:10 PM

Got you tucked in right next to 'Spaw, Kat. Whether you have energy and mobility to post much right now about how you are faring, know that you are surrounded by a sturdy and supportive crew.

Thinking about what a broad and beamy boat this is, and in terms of the heart, caring and concern, always at safe harbor to the extent safe harbor means surrounded by fellow travelers who are paying attention and joining together with loving kindness.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 05:02 PM

Holding you all close'

much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 03:35 PM

reckon i know how it is nigel,it has been good of you to post at all at this time.you will see that friends have been here when you feel ok to post again.
good news wendy
hey spaw and up you rises!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 10:34 AM

When my first wife fell seriously ill, my boss said simply "go and do what you have to do and come back when you can".

Do what you have to do, Nigel, we'll be here waiting for your return.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 07:38 AM

Meh, it's just the flu. This thread gives me perspective. Thanks for the good wishes, though!

Nigel, we'll be keeping watch even when you aren't a visible presence.

Wendy, that is wonderful news. Holding you close.

Spaw---- you know. UP YOU GO!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 06:44 AM

GREAT NEWS, Wendy!

UP SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 03:17 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 09:47 PM

Glad to read that Billy's in remission.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 07:48 PM

Wendy, your post caused happy chills to run down my spine.

Nigel, I know you know you and Ann are tucked tightly in all the hearts that make up this crew also.

Spaw, got you tucked in especially close right now.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 04:09 PM

Wendy, here's a favorite poem for you:

James Hogg (1770-1835), also known as the "Ettrick Shepherd". He was born in Ettrick, in the Scottish Borders.

    A Boy's Song

    Where the pools are bright and deep,
    Where the grey trout lies asleep,
    Up the river and over the lea,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Where the blackbird sings the latest,
    Where the hawthorn blooms the sweetest,
    Where the nestlings chirp and flee,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Where the mowers mow the cleanest,
    Where the hay lies thick and greenest,
    There to track the homeward bee,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Where the hazel bank is steepest,
    Where the shadow falls the deepest,
    Where the clustering nuts fall free,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

    Why the boys should drive away
    Little sweet maidens from their play,
    Or love to banter and fight so well,
    That's the thing I never could tell.

    But this I know, I love to play
    Through the meadow, among the hay;
    Up the water and over the lea,
    That's the way for Billy and me.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 10:44 AM

It's a beautiful clear, sunny day on the Michigan area of the deck. Just a bit cool, but the warm blanket here is more than adequate.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 08:55 AM

Sailing with you Nigel and Ann, with love.

Billy had a call from his research nurse this morning, the results are back from Leeds University where the Trial he has been taking part in is based.
They have said he is in remission! I am feeling a little numb at the moment, but want to thank everyone on The Rainbow for sailing with us this past year, just sending so much love to you all.

Nigel and Ann, without you both and Jane none of us would be here together in calm or rough seas, so thank you , thank you.
Bill and I will be with you on Thursday and sailing on.

With much love from Billy and I

Wendy
XXXXXXXXXXX

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 07:50 AM

See ya when we see ya, Nigel. Thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 06:00 AM

With Jane's funeral getting ever closer, I won't be posting much, if at all, for the next week or two. Stay on board 'The Rainbow', no need to set a course, she knows exactly to where she's heading next Thursday. I have it on good authority that fair winds & a calm sea are guaranteed.
                  Ann & I carry you all in our hearts, our Dearest, Most Caring & Loving Friends.
               
                  Until next Thursday then,
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 05:41 AM

checking in again with best wishes.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 01:09 AM

Hope you are on the road to recovery, Allison. Enjoying the memories vicariously you are sharing Wendy, on the other thread. Holding Spaw close as well as the rest of you in my heart. Aching for you Nigel and Ann,....and headed for bed now, way tooooo late.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 04:57 PM

Wendy... good on ya! AA... hope ya got tissues with moisturizer.

Nigel... see ya when ya get back. Take care.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 04:52 PM

I've been here, too, although I am having a computer (laptop) problem. Not the internet connection this time but a screen that fades to dark if it is not opened to exactly a certain narrow acute angle, the degree of which seems to vary from minute to minute. Sometimes I can barely poke my nose between the keyboard and screen. Anyway, the date and time of Jane's funeral are in my old-fashioned calendar book, so I'll be thinking of her, Nigel, and Ann at that time whether or not my computer is functioning.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 11:20 AM

I've been sick in bed with the flu for the past few days, but I've been here in spirit.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 07:33 AM

also still here.
it is those long term memories that mean so much to the elderly.my dad loves to recount those days.i plan to take him on another tour of romney marsh soon and revisit his farming,country life youth.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 03 Apr 13 - 04:23 AM

Morning crew,
spent a beautiful sunny day yesterday, walking through the woods at Marks Hall Essex, taking photos of where mum was stationed in WW2 for a memory book I am making for her. ( letters from 1943 thread)

Still here Nigel and Ann XXX
UP SPAW

Wendy

xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 02 Apr 13 - 11:51 PM

Goodnight, friends. Updates welcomed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 02 Apr 13 - 04:06 AM

back from a cold winchelsea caravan but otherwise nice time.my thoughts and prayers with you.may memories bring solace as well the inevitable sadness.
good to hear encouraging report on billy .blessings on all .    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Apr 13 - 03:24 AM

it's good to be back home/mudcat & catch up with everyone.

good news Wendy

keep up the good work, spaw

& much love to Nigel & Ann & their families.

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 01 Apr 13 - 07:55 PM

Up, Spaw.
Good news, Wendy!
Goodnight, Ann and Nigel.

Row b'ys, Row!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 07:52 PM

Sorry- the 1800th post at Date: 31 Mar 13 - 11:17 AM was mine...dunked my salty cookie somewhere.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 07:15 PM

Still sailing and rowing with all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 03:39 PM

Yes! Thank goodness you fucked up again, Spaw. I would have had to cancel an appt with the cable company! and you know what they could do to me for trifling with them. As it is, I do have a committment for A11 but I think I can work around it.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 11:17 AM

Here's the 1800th post for Spaw as he rises (to healing and the bait) yet again.

Wendy- Thanks for such welcome news.

Nigel and Ann- I'll be here on the designated day, and will sing the new song.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 31 Mar 13 - 10:58 AM

My wife and I are on the way to her father's house (half hour drive, then probably to the home of one or another of his long-time girlfriend's descendents for Easter dinner. But thinking of you all this morning.

       (UP SPAW!)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 05:01 PM

Wendy, that's good news about Billybob.

Spaw, I hope your chemo goes well. And I should be around for at least part of the wake for Jane.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 02:51 PM

Thanks kat and all.....Geez, can't even get the date right.....***sigh***......Okay, try again!

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