Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Micca
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:02 PM

It has Just been announced on Fb That Tom Passed this afternoon,another of the good friends I have made on here has passed and will be much missed by me an many others

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Megan L
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:12 PM

As good a passing as could be wished for. Linn I am thinking of you tonight and over the coming days. Find peace and joy where you can and rest when you need to.

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: GUEST,Giok
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:14 PM

The journey continues. Bon voyage old friend,

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: GUEST,Manuel
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:22 PM

If Micca has it right, may Tom's soul rest in peace.

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: GUEST
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:29 PM

Sincere condolences, Linn.

Bruce M

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:34 PM

Linn... "Speaking of experience, Tom said the other day this he's looking forward to this...this new experience."

Have at er, Tom.

Peace and love, Linn. We are here now and in the days to come.

g

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: mg
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:36 PM

May he rest in peace.

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Jeri
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 03:59 PM

He was surrounded by Linn, the love of his life, and by family and friends. I'm not making distinctions, because we were one and the same. The staff of the hospice brought chairs for musicians and there were songs and tunes. He slipped away during "Whiskey Before Breakfast", and was very peaceful. I've heard people sometimes pick their moments. I don't think that, if he HAD to go, Tom could have picked a better one.

Being there brought home the fact that Tom has been a major part of local music history, and many lives, and was so, so loved.

---

Correction: the tune was "Farewell to Whiskey".

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: GUEST,Giok
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:01 PM

Tears

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: RTim
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:12 PM

Rest in Peace Tom - but enjoy the singing up there in the Great Chorus.
Condolences to Linn and all Tom's friends in and around Portsmouth NH.

Tim Radford

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:16 PM

A sweet passing for this man who has contributed so much,   Rest easy Tom then get on with this new adventure. Much Love to you Linn.


Spaw

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Maryrrf
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:23 PM

If there is a good way to go, this was it. Linn, I'm so sorry for your loss. The love between you and Tom was evident from your posts, and you surely enriched his life and eased his passing. RIP, Tom. It sounds like you left a wonderful musical legacy in your community.

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:24 PM

Oh! So fast! But so good to have you around and with the music. Hugs to Linn and all of you who knew Tom personally and are experiencing this hard loss.

Maggie

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: fat B****rd
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:25 PM

Please accept my sincere condolences, Linn.
Charlie.

Subject: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:28 PM

From Linn Schulz on facebook:

Tom Hall has left us, but with a wealth of songs and tales.

Here is the Curmudgeon in Hospice thread with more information.

RIP Tom. Hugs, Linn

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: JudyB
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:35 PM

Thank you for your post, Jeri.

(((((Hugs)))))

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: maeve
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:35 PM

Tears and relief. Love to Linn, and to the friends and family who managed to be there today. Thank you all.

Jeri and Tami, I'm thinking of you both with gratitude. You both showed evidence of love in your actions- the simple and not-so-simple things you both did to help Linn and Tom. Thank you.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Firecat
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:53 PM

RIP.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: My guru always said
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 04:56 PM

Good memories of Tom, RIP. Candle lit.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,olddude
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:05 PM

I am so sorry to hear this sad news ...
in my prayers

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:08 PM

So good that he had friends and song to send him off to "his new experience". Those who will miss him will treasure memories of all the joys and gifts he left behind.

RIP Tom, you done good....

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,kendall
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:09 PM

Well old buddy, the singarounds won't be the same without you. At this moment I'm lifting a dram in your memory. It's not Laphroaig, but it's close enough.
Sleep well.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Morticia
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:13 PM

So sorry to hear this

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: GUEST,Kendall
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:14 PM

I miss him already. Linn, you have my deepest sympathy.
The older I get, the more busy the Grim Reaper is.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: kendall
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:17 PM

He was 10 years younger than I; that gives me pause. In the service we used to say, "It's a drill that no one is excused from."

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bobert
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:19 PM

Sniff...

B:~(

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Peadar (formerly) of Portsmouth
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:23 PM

I cannot put into words the impact Tom's mentorship and friendship has had on me. I had one last glass of Connemara poitin left and I'm currently having it and celebrating his memory. Love to Tom and Linn.

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: crism
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:23 PM

Linn, I am so sorry. I am grateful that I was able to learn so much from Tom; I will sorely miss him, as will the thousands of others he's taught, scolded, enlightened, entertained, and given The Look. It is good he had such wonderful company at the end, and I wish I could have been there.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: jacqui.c
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:29 PM

Sad news, even though it was expected. RIP Tom. You will be missed.

Love to you Linn. Take care of yourself.

The past few days my own curmudgeon has been getting a lot more hugs.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Charley Noble
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:34 PM

Yes, Tom Hall will be sadly missed but not forgotten by anyone who ever sang with him.

Our love to you, Linn, and hugs when we see you next.

Charlie and Judy

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:41 PM

We were privileged to have him among us. All love and comfort to you, Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:54 PM

That really is sad. We never met but I read his postings with great interest and I will miss that.

Rest in Peace, Tom.

Dave the Gnome

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 05:57 PM

I never met the man but I did hear lots about him, all good. It was about four years back that Tom began to face serious hardships that affected his mobility and music, but the combination of his courage and Linn's support created a beautiful portrait of what it means to have lived well and died well.

Bruce M

PS Rumanci told me about meeting Tom once for a short time--ten/fifteen minutes--and they talked about English concertinas. She says the man knew his stuff and parenthetically he mentioned what a bugger they are to play at times. Doesn't get much better than that if you ask me. Rest well, Tom.

BM

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: SINSULL
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:01 PM

Rest easy, Tom. You have earned it.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: KT
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:01 PM

Rest in Peace, Tom. Heartfelt sympathy to you, Linn....

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: mouldy
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:17 PM

Sweet dreams, Tom. You have earned your rest.

Every sympathy to Linn, and all who are directly affected by his passing.

Andrea xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:20 PM

Rest in Peace Tom. All sympathy to you Linn, from roy & Elaine Harris.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: LilyFestre
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:24 PM

Rest in sweet, sweet peace Tom.

And Linn......all my love and deepest sympathies.

XOXOXOX

Michelle

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: MaineDog
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:25 PM

Very sorry to hear this.. One of the benefits of modern medicine is that the unfortunate can have a reasonable life intil very near to the end. Tom did well.
I knew him only from a few sessions at Mary's, but I will miss him. Linn has been an angel, and deserves love from all of us.
Jim

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ranger1
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:26 PM

I don't have the words yet. I am honored that I was there to help sing him on his way, and I will miss him terribly. Going to go bawl for a while and eat lots of chocolate now.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Noreen
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:43 PM

My heart goes out to you, Linn, and to everyone who loved Tom.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:43 PM

Another singer was needed Elsewhere. Take courage, Linn. Remember the good times, the way he sang. He'll always be there.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:54 PM

Hugs winging their way through the cold night to you Linn, and to Tom's friends, those able to be with him, and those far away.

How wonder-ful that he could be surrounded by so much love and support. I don't suppose I"ll ever hear "Whiskey Before Breakfast" the same again : )

Dani

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Leadfingers
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 06:58 PM

Another Catter I never met , and now never will ! My loss is not as great as yours , Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: gnu
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:03 PM

r1... "Today, I sat with my friends Tom and Linn, and a bunch of other friends at the hospice where Tom was. He passed amid friends who sang him on his way."

Imagine that! He passed with many friends by his side. Singing! Oh, Tom. You lucky man. We should all be so blessed.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: billybob
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:10 PM

Linn

just sending love

we have followed this thread and though we never met we feel we know you and Tom through your words and the love you shared.

sending all our love, and wrapping you in strength and friendship,
God bless you and Tom.

Wendy and Billy xxxxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: artbrooks
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:11 PM

Jenn and I are very sorry to hear this news. One never knows what to say. Take care.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:17 PM

Thank you, Maggie, for starting this. Tom wrote obits for altogether too many of our friends, but I guess I'll have to write his. But not tonight.

Thank you all so much for the outpouring of condolences, great memories, tributes, hugs, love and comfort both here at Mudcat and at Facebook. The hardest thing for me right now is knowing that I can't read all of these posts to Tom.

I'm reading here and at Facebook right now, but I won't be posting much for a little while. Maybe tomorrow. I'm...I'm...I don't know what I am. I'm tired, relieved, teary, laughing at good memories, talking to the cats, making lists, but most of all, grateful that Tom had a gentle, beautiful death surrounded by friends and music. I am so, so grateful for our many friends.

I need some quiet time tonight...to read, absorb, let the tears wash some of the cares and worries out of my system...

I've never been a widow before. And they forgot to give me a script... But I have a wealth of friends.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:30 PM

Bless you, Linn. We're here when you need us. You know that.

I only met Tom a few times over the many years but always was touched by his kindness, his musicianship, his sense of humor, his intelligence... go well, good man.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Larry The Radio Guy
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:31 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. I enjoyed his posts. Rest in peace.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:47 PM

My deepest sympathy! RIP!

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Elmore
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 07:58 PM

A sad day for Mudcat. Sincere condolences to Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 08:13 PM

Very sad to think I won't hear his voice around here anymore. Wishing him a peaceful rest, and comfort & blessings to Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Charley Noble
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 08:21 PM

Really nice to read how well folks appreciated Tom over the years.

And, Linn, know that you were and are appreciated as well.

I do so want to be at the Press Room on Saturday but that's not going to happen. I need to focus on my own family right now. No crisis, but a very special art event that my mother is involved with, and my brother's family is coming up this weekend to participate in it as well.

Charlie

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Janie
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 09:41 PM

I'm so sorry, Linn.

Also very grateful for all your open sharing of the long road this has been.

Love and light.

janie

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Joe Offer
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 09:57 PM

You know, I never felt Tom fit his Mudcat name, Curmudgeon, very well. He was a friend to everybody, and he had a lot of love and wisdom to share. But he sure had a good sense of humor. May he rest in peace.

Blessings to you, Linn. He loved you, that's for sure.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:07 PM

To Tom:
We have listened to you for many many years at the Press Room Friday nights. We loved your music and your presence-you always put a smile on our faces.

May you continue to do so, the angels have a lot to learn!!!

To Linn,
Our hugs to you. You said it right when you said they forgot to give you a script for this new journey. May the love of friends, the many years of shared memories, music,and song bring remembered joy and peace.

with prayers and loving thoughts,
R&D

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: YorkshireYankee
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:07 PM

Like so many others, I have been reading your thread regularly and crossing my fingers for you, though not posting much. Have never met either of you, but am so very sad to learn of this news - and that it seems to have come so much sooner than expected.

Wishing you both peace, and the knowledge that you are loved by many.

Vikki/YY

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Paul Schurr
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:09 PM

Tom's songs were sweet, his heart shared with many, and his friendship treasured, Charlene and I send our love with Tom and to you Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:19 PM

Aw, no.

Linn, virtual hugs, or even real ones, aren't enough, but they are all I can offer.

You have wonderful memories to treasure.

I am glad that people came and sang to Tom. I am sure many others wanted to join them.

He lit many flames that you and others will keep burning.

Love and Peace to you.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Barry O'Brien
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 10:40 PM

Linn,

My heart goes out to you, Linn. It's a sad passing, but I will long remember Tom's looks and kind words of support. How he truly loved community music!

He was a constant, and so happy to be surrounded in song. He made a life long impression on me.

Best,

Barry

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: KathWestra
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 11:14 PM

Much love to you Linn. Tom was blessed to have you as his dear heart's companion for so many years, right up to the end. Wishing you comfort and peace in the difficult days ahead. Your many friends--and the life-long friends that your gentle Tom made along the way--will be by your side for this part of your journey, too. Sharing your sadness, and thankful for Tom's life. Kathy

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 11:42 PM

Tom's passing through our lives left its trail of friendships, memories and moments of happiness. These can never been undone. They exist forever, and many people are therefore richer for his having lived. R.I.P Tom, and thank you.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Nancy King
Date: 14 Nov 13 - 11:57 PM

So very, very sad to hear this news. Linn, I've been thinking about you and Tom a lot lately, and I expect that will continue for a while now. He was a fine, gentle person, and I know you have a lot of great memories.

Do take care of yourself, Linn, and know you have many friends wishing you well.

Nancy

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,JohnB
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 12:02 AM

Another joins the Big Band in the Sky, condolences to his close family and friends.
JohnB

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Little Robyn
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 02:35 AM

((((((((((((Linn)))))))))))

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 04:47 AM

I wish I'd known Tom; sung with him; got to know him as so many of you have. Nevertheless, I am saddened to hear of his passing. To Linn, his Family & Friends, I send Love & comforting thoughts.
             My Sincere Condolences,
                                                   Nigel.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 05:39 AM

Just logged on and caught up with the news, many condolences, Linn, another Mudcat stalwart taken from us.
RtS

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: wysiwyg
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 06:01 AM

+++(((Linn)))+++

~Susan & Greg

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 06:12 AM

Condolences indeed. Another one gone, and another glass to raise.

Pete

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Wee Jock
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 06:32 AM

I started reading this thread yesterday, and was very moved by all the messages that were put on by fellow Mudcatters, and also the strength you had Linn in keeping us informed of Tom's illness,it could not have been easy. Even though i never knew yourself or Tom i felt i did when reading all that was written about him . The folk music family is a fantastic family, mine is in the UK, but wherever it is, and tragedy occurs, people will be there thinking of you.      

Look after yourself, and accept all the help that people offer in you time of need

Wee Jock

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 07:36 AM

Linn

Echoing the feelings of many here, how fortunate and sweet a passing you have described. Tom lives on through the memories of those who have known him as well as his posts here. Anyone can call up his legacy of wisdom, humour through Mudcat at anytime and remember or get to know him.

Linn this time is now for you. I know you will have much to deal with in the coming days, weeks months. You report that you have a rich resource of friends to support you nearby and further afield. Please take full advantage of that.

All peace go with you both and your very different journeys.

love from Tam

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ranger1
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 07:45 AM

My favorite picture of Tom.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 07:46 AM

Sorry. That last "guest" post was from me on different PC.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Charley Noble
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 08:56 AM

Tami-

I'm also sorting through our folders for photos of Tom.

Yours is a keeper.

Charlie

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:34 AM

For those who missed it a number of months ago, the last 4 pics on this page show Tom at the Getaway in 2005...

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:42 AM

Great photos, everyone. Bill D, if you move them (since MyOpera is closing) remind me and we can redirect the link. Tami, that photo is wonderful and I'm sure will bring a huge smile to everyone!

SRS

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:46 AM

Who does this resemble?

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Padre
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:46 AM

Rest in Peace, Tom

Linn, our sympathy to you on your loss.

Padre

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ranger1
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:50 AM

That link is more appropriate than you realize, Guest. One of the friends there when he passed yesterday was telling us about a dream he'd had with Tom as Gandalf.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: maeve
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:52 AM

GUEST on Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:46 AM "Who does this resemble?"

...'Twas I without my cookie.
********************
Linn, you are in my heart.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Allan Carr and Jane Rothfield
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 02:08 PM

So sorry to hear of Tom's passing. I always enjoyed our late night music and conversations out on the porch at Indian Neck. Love and condolences to Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 02:32 PM

Chris Hislop (who wrote the article about Tom in the Herald Spotlight in September) is writing a piece about Tom for tomorrow's Portsmouth Herald. He told me that he has never in his experience as a writer had such a wealth of material available on his subject as he had with that article...and now with this one.

I'll post a link after it's published tomorrow.

Tammi Truax of the Herald had written an article about Tom back in 2010 -- Tom Hall Shantyman She said in an end of the year article that she had more responses and clicks on that article than on any other she had written.

And Chris Vaughan had called in about Tom's passing to this morning's NHPR week in review show of "The Exchange" with Laura Kinoy. Animaterra heard it and I'm looking forward to hearing it either online or when the show is rebroadcast this evening.

I had some quiet time last night after I got home, and then a good long talk with my sister. This morning the phone has seldom been on its cradle. I managed to heat up some leftover Chinese for breakfast or lunch sometime around 1 p.m. I'll be heading out to the Press Room session in about 45 minutes -- still have some phone calls to make if there's a break in the incoming calls.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: stallion
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 02:47 PM

I was privileged to have sung a song or two with Tom, Hugs Lynn, Peter

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: SussexCarole
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 04:39 PM

We made our last meeting with Tom this September - precious memories. A wonderful and gracious man. Our love and thoughts are with you Linn xx

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Irene M
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 04:56 PM

Very sorry to hear this.
Best wishes Linn.

Irene

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: Dorothy Parshall
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 09:29 PM

Thank you for that report, Jeri. Sounds like he had a great send off.

Grieve well, Linn - and all.

Subject: RE: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
From: GUEST
Date: 15 Nov 13 - 11:09 PM

Dear Linn,

Thinking of you, both, with love. You have, certainly, fought the good fight! Now, it's time for rest.

Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:17 AM

It's very late and I'm very tired. I'll post more tomorrow. It's much later than I've come home from The Press Room for a long, long time. But...well, I didn't have to be home early to help Tom to bed.

Life has definitely changed...and I'm only beginning to discover the new rhythm of my life.

The Press Room session tonight was unbelievable...and, as far as I know, spontaneous. I mean, I don't think there was a plan to have a blow out session in Tom's honor, but so many people I haven't seen in way too long converged. Bar and wait staff from decades ago, friends, musicians...

On entering the door, I was greeting with a tremendous hug from Kat, our most recent session waitress. On the piano behind the session table was a huge white flower arrangement from the Press Room staff. It took me awhile to reach it, there were so many hugs and greetings.

Kevin Scanlon -- another person whom Tom had seduced to the joys of folk music -- was, by chance, in the area from his home in North Carolina.

The stories I heard tonight about how Tom touched so many people, encouraged them to sing, play, recite, or just enjoy the music... I laughed, I sang, I cried...

Right now I really need to go to bed (and do some serious cat petting, too). I'm up way past my bedtime and it was a pretty intense day, mostly on the phone.

Good night.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:26 AM

Sounds like a great evening, Linn. Sleep well!

SRS

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:31 AM

condolences to Linn & family & friends

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Joe Offer
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 04:31 AM

I crosslinked all the "Curmudgeon" threads this evening, and I couldn't believe how many there were. My first thought was, "Gee, this was a man who was loved." May you rest in peace, Tom - and may your many friends treasure your memory forever.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 07:37 AM

Proper job, Joe.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 08:32 AM

Here's the article in this morning's Portsmouth [NH] Herald --

Music Legend

I got home too late, woke up too early...

Press Room Sea Music Singaround this afternoon...

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 09:17 AM

Beautiful article, Linn. Hugs.

Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: EBarnacle
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 10:24 AM

As my mother says, "When I was younger, I hoped to live a long time. Unfortunately, my friends are all leaving me."

On to the next horizon. I only met Tom a few times or two at Old Songs. Remember the shared dinner at Kendall and Jacqui's camper.

On to the next horizon.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: gnu
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 10:45 AM

Read the article. Reached for a tissue. Nuff said.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Jeri
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:16 PM

He never was at Old Songs, EB.
Sea music session at the Press Room today. I don't know how much I feel like singing, but I suppose I'll find out when I get there.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: maeve
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:22 PM

Sending my love with ranger 1. I want so much to be there.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: The Sandman
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:23 PM

r i p

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 12:26 PM

Something that I wrote last night. I asked Linn if it was alright to post it to this thread and she gave me the ok. Along with being a folkie, I also play video games, and I blog on a gaming site. This is about a game, Tom, and how the two inter-connect: Journey, Music, and Death.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 02:22 PM

EBarnacle, I think you may be remembering Sinsull's house after the Portland [Maine] Sea Music Festival back in...Mary, what year was that? 2007?

An hour or so ago I went up to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription I'd left there last week and to return both unopened packages (we didn't know which was the right size) of filters for Tom's nebulizer since he won't be needing them. And I picked up the last two copies of the Herald.

I explained about the filters and pointed to the article at the bottom of the front page of the Herald...and said that Tom had led the weekly Press Room session for 30+ years, the monthly sea music singaround for 10, been the major organizer of the Portsmouth Maritime Folk Festival since 2005... The pharmacist was captivated. He'll be coming to Mudcat to read more about Tom...and the music, and to the PMFF website. We may get him to come to one of the session or next year's festival.

Tom Hall is still getting people interested in folk music and songs of the sea...

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: gnu
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 03:07 PM

"Tom Hall is still getting people interested in folk music and songs of the sea..."

That is wonderful and comforting. Thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: JennieG
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 04:14 PM

Linn, sending you (yet another) cyber hug!

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: bradfordian
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 04:48 PM

Condolences Linn.
What a wonderful contribution to New England life in general and music in particular. A wonderful legacy of memories. We have been enriched, thank you Tom. R.I.P.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Nov 13 - 05:46 PM

Great blog post, R1. The Herald's article was good, too.

More hugs for Linn from me.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 09:14 AM

Tom's passing, at least as far as day of the week and month, could not have been better. You have no idea how much I needed the Friday Press Room session and yesterday's monthly sea music singaround.

Music and friends... Singing is the best therapy to cure an aching soul. Singing TOGETHER is the best medicine of all.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Carly
Date: 17 Nov 13 - 12:44 PM

Tom's gentle and generous soul has touched so many, and his presence will be greatly missed and long remembered. The sorrow I feel at the loss of this remarkable man who I was privileged to know is eased by the knowledge that he passed surrounded by love and music, in the arms of his dearest. Linn, thank you for letting us share in your journey with Tom. Now you must be sure to take care of yourself as you face the changes in your life; know that we who are your friends will continue to help in what ever ways we can. I know by my own experiences that this community that comes together for love of music also can offer amazing support in all sorts of ways in times of great loss. I echo what a dear friend told me at such a time, " you have chits out all over town; now is the time to collect them."

Sent with sympathy and love.

Carly

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,highlandman at work
Date: 18 Nov 13 - 09:41 AM

Sorry for your loss, Linn. It is good to know it was a blessed passing. Peace
-Glenn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 05:18 AM

What a loss! Goodbye old friend. Go find those who left before you and wait for the rest of us.

Linn, you are an inspiration. Lean on friends when you need and laugh when the time is right.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,flyingcat(moira)
Date: 19 Nov 13 - 08:24 AM

so sorry to hear this Linn, it was good he had his family and friends with him.Keep strong
XX

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 20 Nov 13 - 12:08 PM

Just wanted to let everyone know here that Tom will, indeed, have an obituary in the three newspapers of southern New Hampshire: Portsmouth Herald, Foster's Daily Democrat, and the Manchester Union Leader. The obits are set to run this Sunday.

The holiday season is not the right time to have a memorial, but we will be having a memorial celebration of Tom's life at The Press Room in Portsmouth, NH soon after the first of the year. I'll make sure the date doesn't compete with the Mystic fundraising event, but will try to coordinate it so that it may be easier for friends from further away who will be attending that event to be able to get to Portsmouth.

Thank you all so very very much for your affection, comfort, and support. I'm overwhelmed but in the best of all possible ways. One of the hardest things for me right now is to not be able to read Mudcat and Facebook and everything else to Tom as I have since he lost his eyesight, but I am so very sure he KNOWS.

Thank you.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: RTim
Date: 20 Nov 13 - 03:36 PM

Hi Linn,

Just to warn you - There is a Youth Song Weekend being held on Jan 3rd to 5th.
Some singers may be there (I am)
http://youthtradsong.org/

Tim Radford

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 09:48 AM

There will be an online obituary at Phaneuf Funeral Home where I can post the articles written about Tom as well as the many photographs old and new (such as from last Saturday's Press Room shanty sing) that I can't, of course, post here -- and not all of you (or some other friends) are my Facebook friends or do Facebook at all.

It should be up today -- and the page is mine forever, so all of that information about Tom will be readily available.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 01:09 PM

Okay, the obit is posted and I've added (under Multi-Media) links to Saturday's front page article in the Portsmouth Herald, Chris Hislop's "Ode to Tom Hall" in the Herald from September just before the Portsmouth Maritime Folk Festival, and Tammi Truax's 2010 article on Tom Hall, Shantyman.

There are also two YouTube videos that Joe Stead (of Kimber's Men) recorded a couple months before Tom lost his voice in 2009.

Tom Hall permanent obituary page

I'll be adding more photos as I get permissions (and find time).

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Nov 13 - 11:15 PM

Well done, Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: maeve
Date: 22 Nov 13 - 08:49 PM

Very good work, Linn.

Sleep well.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 22 Nov 13 - 09:55 PM

You may use any of the Getaway photos I posted earlier, Lynn... if wanted/needed.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 08:13 AM

Bill, I believe you can post them yourself, if you like. And I'd like -- I especially like the one of Tom sitting on the porch with his concertina next to him.

I'll start posting some at some point -- My days are still rather full of necessities and the details of my new status.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 11:23 AM

And my life just got even more complicated -- I just got a call from my sister that my mother, who entered hospice earlier in the week, has just taken a turn for the worse, so I may be heading to Milwaukee for a funeral sometime soon.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Nancy King
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 11:52 AM

Aw jeez, Linn, that's just too much. So sorry! Thinking of you!

--Nancy

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 02:10 PM

My mother passed away this morning. My sister-in-law called in transit from Iowa to let me know (I think my sister called me while I was talking to her).

Funeral date uncertain at this point, so everything is a bit up in the air right now.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 02:55 PM

Huge hug sent your way, Linn. Two of the most important people in your life are gone, but they are out of pain, and I know for me, that would be a relief.

It's a hard time of year to travel, so stay safe in your comings and goings.

Maggie

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Charley Noble
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 05:21 PM

Linn-

So sorry to hear about your mother passing away as well.

Charlie

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 23 Nov 13 - 07:32 PM

I added the porch photo.. It seems to require approval to be seen, and before I add others..(I have 3 more)

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: billybob
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 02:26 AM

Dear Linn,

so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, sometimes life is difficult to understand.

Take care and know we are all thinking of you

With love

Wendy
xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: gnu
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 10:54 AM

My sincerest condolences, Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 06:50 PM

The photo is there, Bill. And someone added another photo, too. I experimented a little last night and I think all you have to do is identify yourself and type in the letters shown in the box.

There are two photo sections: Family Album and Community Photos. Your photo is in Community Photos.

My mother's funeral isn't until the middle of December, which gives me some breathing space. I still really hate flying between New England and Milwaukee between November and April...

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Mrrzy
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 06:57 PM

So sorry for your loss. A dear one will be missed.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Nov 13 - 09:32 PM

Oh, Linn. I'm sorry about your mom.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,Mike O'leary-Johns
Date: 25 Nov 13 - 01:53 PM

I have just picked this up.
I am so sorry to hear the news Linn............
We only met once (in 2003) at the festival.
It was a Joy to meet you both .
Another brick removed from the wall.
take care Linn............Mike.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 08:38 AM

Just wanted to note that I've posted more photos on Tom's tribute website --Tom Hall

They are in the "Family" album. This is a reminder, too, that friends may post photos in the "Community" album.

I wish the people leaving comments on the obits in Sunday's New Hampshire papers would leave them instead at the above website -- which is mine forever and doesn't disappear at the end of December like the newspapers' ones.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 11:34 AM

I 'think' I added a 2nd pic. in 'community photos'.. I tried 2 days ago, but it hung.... this time it said "thank you."

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 11:38 AM

Ah... yes. it's there. A couple more at some point.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bill D
Date: 28 Nov 13 - 11:54 AM

Ok...it 'took' one more, of Tom being an attentive audience during a Getaway concert.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 29 Nov 13 - 07:59 AM

Bill, I've noticed that every once in awhile the site will do little hiccups when I try to add a photo. By the way, if you hover (or maybe click) on the photo, you should be able to add a caption and/or credit to the photo.

I have to call Buddy Phaneuf and see if there's any way to transfer tributes from the various newspapers' obituary comments to the Tributes.com site.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 12:16 PM

I was just going through the past couple weeks of the Spotlight section of the Portsmouth Herald and found this notice in Jeanné McCartin's "Gossip" column (you'll have to scroll down to it) --
A Special Farewell

She got a couple things off by a little bit: date of Tom's death, the spelling of my name, and the Portsmouth Maritime Folk Festival was founded by Peter Contrastano and Jeff Warner, though Tom took over the reins in 2005 (I think). And he, of course, did not run the show solo, we have a hard-working board and volunteers.

Here it is if you don't want to scroll down to look for it --

A SPECIAL FAREWELL 


Tom Hall, an arts' community pillar who long championed traditional music on the Seacoast, died surrounded by family and friends Thursday, Nov. 15.

 [Thurs., Nov. 14]

"His wife Linn (Schultz) [Schulz] and musician friends were there. They were singing him out," says Press Room general manager Bruce Pingree. "I believe they were playing 'Whiskey Before Breakfast' when he passed, that's what I was told. … It was very peaceful." Hall, a concertina player and vocalist till losing his voice to cancer a few years back, founded and led the weekly Friday Night Traditional Sessions at The Press Room for more than three decades, handled the venue's St.

 Patrick's Day hoopla till recently, and ran the monthly Sea Shanty Sessions, says Pingree, who knew Hall for 30-plus years.



Hall was instrumental in launching the Maritime Fest and performed with the Great Bay Company, and countless venues and festivals.



"When it came to keeping traditional music alive he was a huge force," says Pingree.

He also mentored countless musicians, Harvey Reid and David Surette among them. "He was well-known as a curmudgeon.



He had a business card that said 'Tom Hall' Curmudgeon,'" Pingree says with a laugh. "But he was a very generous person, a really nice person."



And one the entire art com­munity will mourn.



Thanks, Tom, for all your outstanding contributions. We're all richer for it. The Press Room plans to hold an event in his honor in the near future.



Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 12:50 PM

Thank you, Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Thompson
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 01:27 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. The least curmudgeonly of Curmudgeons. Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam dhíl.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: gnu
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 01:42 PM

I echo GUEST... Thank you, Linn.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: GUEST,maeve
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 02:09 PM

Sorry- Guest was Maeve.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: SINSULL
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 08:21 PM

The mailman just returned my card to Linn as undeliverable. No PO Box? So sorry, Linn. Please PM the new address.
SINS

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Dec 13 - 09:21 PM

Another nice article. Thank you for correcting the inaccuracies.

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 03 Dec 13 - 07:52 AM

Jeanné got a couple other things a bit off besides date of Tom's death and the spelling of my name.

The Portsmouth Maritime Folk Festival was founded by Peter Contrastano and Jeff Warner, though Tom took over the reins in 2005 (I think) when Peter moved to North Carolina and Jeff was touring too much to take on the responsibility. And Tom, of course, did not run the show solo; we have a hard-working board and crew of volunteers.

And I'm not sure how much Tom "mentored" Harvey Reid, but he DID introduce him to Joyce Anderson...

Mary, we haven't had a PO box since May of 2004 when Tom was in the middle of his heart surgery. I've PMed you my street/mailing address.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Hollowfox
Date: 10 Dec 13 - 10:31 PM

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, BG. Tom had a good life, especially with your love for each other. He doesn't hurt anymore, and he's having a well-deserved rest. Now you have to take care of yourself. When you've been under this much stress, your attention span will shorten, your reaction time will slow, and your reading level might well go down. They'll come back, but write yourself reminder notes, drive carefully, don't make decisions too quickly, catch up on sleep, don't drink alone, keep moving, and give yourself time. Bossily (and lovingly) your Momfox

Subject: RE: Obit: Tom Hall (Curmudgeon) Nov. 14, 2013
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 11 Dec 13 - 05:06 PM

Thanks for the advice, Hollowfox! I AM starting to be able to read again (without rereading the page 3-4 times and talking aloud to...whom? Tom? the Universe? the cats? myself? And I'm continuing to read M.F.K. Fisher's "An Alphabet for Gourmets" aloud...to Tom? to the cats? to myself? We were about a 100 pages from the end when he died.

In two days I fly to Milwaukee for my mother's funeral...more stuff to be done.

Today I called the life insurance company to find out when I might expect a check...and was referred to the funeral home which the insurance company claims needs to mail some documentation rather than fax it. Waiting for a call back from the funeral home. (I'm sure THEY'D like to be paid...)

Meanwhile, I just received an interest notification on a life policy I didn't know about. (Thought it had been a term policy that no longer existed.) So called on that. They're mailing a claim packet for which I'll need another certified copy of the death certificate. So just got home from town hall where I got another two copies just in case...

I'm not sure when life will smooth out enough to be able to figure out what the new rhythm of my life will be. Still haven't set a date with The Press Room for a memorial gathering in January.

It's been a weepy week...probably because I'm spending a little less time on the phone and have the time to luxuriate (I'm not sure if that's the word -- but crying makes me feel a bit better) in a good reminiscent cry.

I was worried about how to deal with our "other anniversary", the double anniversary of the night we met and then that night, while celebrating knowing each other for a year, we decided to get married the following June. Sigh. This year it will be sandwiched between flying to Milwaukee and my mother's funeral. I think I'll be distracted...

Linn