BS: The hardest thing in the world

Subject: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Bill D
Date: 04 Sep 23 - 04:53 PM

Not to intrude on the other thread, which is personal..


"The hardest thing in the world.... to know how to do something, and to watch someone doing it wrong, and to refrain from comment."

I have a friend who can barely watch, much less stay quiet.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Sep 23 - 07:01 PM

I have a parent who also can barely watch in anything like calmness.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: G-Force
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 08:20 AM

My wife regularly achieves this using little more than flour and water and the application of moderate heat.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Charmion
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 09:01 AM

For me, the hardest thing in the world was listening to the engine lug and not telling Edmund to gear down.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Bill D
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 01:58 PM

Oohhh Charmion.. when I went to Mississippi in VW van in '64 with 9 others, the owner did NOT refrain from saying something to the relief driver.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Amergin
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 05:17 PM

The hardest thing in the world was to watch and listen to my gramma repeat her sentences, her stories, or watching her become enraged and paranoid when I reached for her water bottle to refill it with ice water.

I didn't have to watch her decline further, and watch as she only recognised two people out of the whole family...and they both lived with her. I didn't have that heartbreak...but this was hard enough.

If I were to get dementia, I'd medically off myself before it got too bad.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 07 Sep 23 - 12:49 AM

Understood. Sad, but understood.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: MaJoC the Filk
Date: 07 Sep 23 - 05:30 AM

Most definitely understood here too. One of the hardest things for us was seeing my grandmother being unable to communicate: it looked like she was fairly fully aware, but trapped inside herself, which must have been frightening for her.

I'm told that my father was called in at the end because she was distressed. He said a prayer with her, and she calmed down, and went peacefully. Rest in peace, Nan.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Sep 23 - 02:44 PM

Watching the agonal breathing of a loved one.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 01:22 PM

striking a match on soft soap

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Mrrzy
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 01:28 PM

The hard part about watching someone die is that they're sying.

The hard thing about watching someone untie knots is fighting the urge to take it away from them.

Watching someone die is way easier than not saying Here let me just...

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Ebbie
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 01:58 PM

Age- and experience- changes a lot of thinkin'. I was one of those who fairly itched for the opportunity to 'fix' things for others, whether to undo a knot or tangle, or to give my opinion.

I can't say whether my new response is better but it is different. I have learned to relinquish, to delegate, to say "I don't know".... It is amazing how much simpler and easier life is now.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 03:05 PM

Big Al, I tried a similar light-hearted post about the hardest thing but it was deleted. It was not what you are thinking..

[Is it so hard to tell when a thread needs to be taken seriously? There are plenty of places for light-hearted thread drift.]

Mudelf

Subject: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Bill D
Date: 04 Sep 23 - 04:53 PM

Not to intrude on the other thread, which is personal..


"The hardest thing in the world.... to know how to do something, and to watch someone doing it wrong, and to refrain from comment."

I have a friend who can barely watch, much less stay quiet.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Bill D
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 01:58 PM

Oohhh Charmion.. when I went to Mississippi in VW van in '64 with 9 others, the owner did NOT refrain from saying something to the relief driver.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Charmion
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 09:01 AM

For me, the hardest thing in the world was listening to the engine lug and not telling Edmund to gear down.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Ebbie
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 01:58 PM

Age- and experience- changes a lot of thinkin'. I was one of those who fairly itched for the opportunity to 'fix' things for others, whether to undo a knot or tangle, or to give my opinion.

I can't say whether my new response is better but it is different. I have learned to relinquish, to delegate, to say "I don't know".... It is amazing how much simpler and easier life is now.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Amergin
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 05:17 PM

The hardest thing in the world was to watch and listen to my gramma repeat her sentences, her stories, or watching her become enraged and paranoid when I reached for her water bottle to refill it with ice water.

I didn't have to watch her decline further, and watch as she only recognised two people out of the whole family...and they both lived with her. I didn't have that heartbreak...but this was hard enough.

If I were to get dementia, I'd medically off myself before it got too bad.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Mrrzy
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 01:28 PM

The hard part about watching someone die is that they're sying.

The hard thing about watching someone untie knots is fighting the urge to take it away from them.

Watching someone die is way easier than not saying Here let me just...

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Donuel
Date: 07 Sep 23 - 02:44 PM

Watching the agonal breathing of a loved one.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 03:05 PM

Big Al, I tried a similar light-hearted post about the hardest thing but it was deleted. It was not what you are thinking..

[Is it so hard to tell when a thread needs to be taken seriously? There are plenty of places for light-hearted thread drift.]

Mudelf

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 07 Sep 23 - 12:49 AM

Understood. Sad, but understood.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 01:22 PM

striking a match on soft soap

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: G-Force
Date: 06 Sep 23 - 08:20 AM

My wife regularly achieves this using little more than flour and water and the application of moderate heat.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: keberoxu
Date: 04 Sep 23 - 07:01 PM

I have a parent who also can barely watch in anything like calmness.

Subject: RE: BS: The hardest thing in the world
From: MaJoC the Filk
Date: 07 Sep 23 - 05:30 AM

Most definitely understood here too. One of the hardest things for us was seeing my grandmother being unable to communicate: it looked like she was fairly fully aware, but trapped inside herself, which must have been frightening for her.

I'm told that my father was called in at the end because she was distressed. He said a prayer with her, and she calmed down, and went peacefully. Rest in peace, Nan.