Subject: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Little Neophyte Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:31 PM I was speaking to a girlfriend of mine who mentioned she had developed a close friendship with a man she was corresponding with through email but that their correspondence had to stop because his wife was feeling uncomfortable about the amount of time he was spending on the computer chatting to another woman. I knew another woman who spent so much time On-line playing backgammon and chatting with her ICQ friends that one day her husband picked up the computer monitor and smashed it onto the floor. Soon afterwards she and her husband seperated. I spoke with her husband some time later about their separation. He felt that much of their marriage problems were due to the fact she spent way too much time with her internet friends and not enough time with him. Made me wonder if other Mudcatters find they have family members who feel somewhat neglected due to the amount of time they spend on the computer. Little Neo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:38 PM Naw, I just get them online too! And I have been assured that one's 3D love can do things one's virtual loves cannot, and encouraged to play and seek things I need to bring back into our 3D world. It helps that I am extremely open with my partner about my online activities (so be advised, all you 'CatPals o' Mine!). So the occasional neglect, perceived or actual, doesn't last very long. 'Course I waited till I was nearly 40 to pick the winner. And I tend that 3D love with care and intention, too. ~Susan~ |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,Neil Lowe Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:40 PM Yes. I wouldn't be surprised if someone had not already compiled statistics listing the percentages of divorce due to "Internet Addiction." Neil |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Clinton Hammond2 Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:44 PM MY wife loves the fact that I'm online and staying the hell out of her hair!! LOL!!!! That's why I love her, and how I know we're gonna be together forever.. we stay the F^@K away from each other!! LOL!!!!!!!
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Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:44 PM Well addiction is another topic-- a friend is struggling with her husband's and it's the nasty sort too-- Arseholes are arseholes, tho, surely no one HERE is one of THOSE??? |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: dick greenhaus Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:50 PM Check out The Lament of the Computer Widow in DigiTrad. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Date: 27 Mar 00 - 01:59 PM Well, my on line life is rich and varied with a wide range of compassionate, erudite, witty, articulate and disparate points of view, all coming together on the monitor. BBW, my acronym for Best Beloved wife, on the other hand, has one (usually) point of view, which is also wiity, erudite, articulate, and often compassionate too! So its comparable, except that she is but one voice. And my online life is scores of voices of similar caliber. So I can see where it could be a problem. But as the lioness said when mocked by the whelping hyena -- yes, it is only one. But that one is a lion. And sad though I would be, if it came to a fork in the road, I would be off-line in half a minute and my cable modem sold at a swap meet. And BBW knows it too. But it is not a problem because she spends as much time on her own online life as I on mine. I was worried about not spending enoug tme with Barky, but then she joined the Cat too. Smart kid. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Date: 27 Mar 00 - 02:16 PM Oh, I lied. There ARE voices I hear demanding I sign the hell off and go back to my old haunts--the soap opera characters I had grown co-dependent with!! Hahahahahaa! I told them to get a life!!! ~Susan~ |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh Date: 27 Mar 00 - 02:27 PM Well....my mother complains sometime...but then i ask for a drive into town and she quiets down. My Dad introduced me to the mudcat, so he's not allowed to complain! ceit |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 02:33 PM My parents complain all the time, but I multitask to make them happy, and they seem to enjoy it. I sit at the computer in the dining room, while they watch TV in the living room, I yell out suggestions, comments, and witticism from my swivel chair. That way I can interact with both AT the same time, provided my well loved (at least in my family) non-sequitor humor while writing music to lyrics by a net buddy who lives a few thousand miles away (which is what I'm doing now, actually)! --Mbo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: TerriM Date: 27 Mar 00 - 03:15 PM I don't get grief from my SO for internet time but my addiction to computer games ( Dungeon Keeper, check it out!) gets the odd frown or two; I suspect he sees one as sociable and the other as certifiable. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Date: 27 Mar 00 - 03:34 PM Naw...Rog is a vicarious Mudcat because I share so much of it with him; it also gives us alone time, which we both need. Usually, if one of us is upstairs on the computer, the other is downstairs watching a favourite program or working on something else, in his case broadcast equipment, in mine, music, or reading. We get along better and are happier with some time apart. Our computer is a gift, in a way, from his mother, as we bought it with some of his inheritance. This happened just before my physical activity became more restricted and has been a gawdsend, mindsaver, eye/worldopener and there isn't a day that goes by that one of us doesn't give a silent thanks to her for this blessing. I think it depends on the people, how much they trust and love one another and how much the are NOT codependent on one another. Good thread, LilNeo
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Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Linda Kelly Date: 27 Mar 00 - 03:52 PM my husband loves the internet. since it allows him more time to nip off down the pub.God, I hope he never gives up drinking! |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Caitrin Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:04 PM Well, myy brother makes fun of me (in a goodnatured way) about spending time with my imaginary friends. I keep telling him you guys aren't imaginary, but he doesn't believe me. : ) |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,ajgoodkids Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:09 PM LOL, Susan. Don't feel sorry for those soaperstars. Rest assured there are still plenty of dumb, attractive soaper dopers out there for them. Remember, you're on the Net 'cause you can spell! I once had a girlfriend complain "You love that truck more than you love me." I responded "And ... ?" Computer time vs. family time is not so much how much as when. Your own time, whenever it is, is your time. Just don't put the kids to bed early so you can have more "time to your self".
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Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: canoer Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:09 PM Ummmmmm......ummmmmmmmm......I think I should go now ....(grin but not too big...) ... got some TCB pending ..... |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:10 PM I don't know Caitrin....your brother might be right. Are you *sure* we're not all just figments of your overworked mind? ceit (or so you think...) (maybe berkely was right, after all!) |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:15 PM AJ-- U a member here? Join!!!!!!! I can tell yer one of us! Is THAT why Max didn't bother to giove us a spelcheeckerr??? ~Susan~ |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:20 PM Um...that would mean I'm a figment of my own imagination? Man, now I'm REALLY confused! Just tell Little Richard that if he STILL don't believe you, he can meet us IN PERSON in May! --Mbo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:24 PM No Mbo, you're a figment of *caitrin's* imagination. ceit |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:25 PM I invent myself, therefore I am! The solipsist's answer to Descartes! Awwright, this beats Philosophy 210 all to pieces! Whattya mean, circular ... so it's circular...what's your point? You got sumpn against circles, man???? |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Caitrin Date: 27 Mar 00 - 04:38 PM Ceit's got a point. Maybe y'all ARE just figments of my imagination. Or maybe this is an elaborate communist plot! |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Date: 27 Mar 00 - 05:31 PM Solipsists of the world, Unite! You have nothing to lose but your Existence!· C, the proposition is logically tenable but humanly provides a very tenuous (not to say treacherous) footing for real living. It is one of those things that takes infinite steps to disprove and therefore gets very attractive to sophomores who want to impress ladies on campus. I can guarantee you if you go around and condemn all your friends to the status of figments, they'll find friends more ready to believe in them reciprocally. It's much nicer that way -- here...I'll believe in your figment, and you can believe in mine! A |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,TTCM Date: 27 Mar 00 - 05:37 PM Quoting MBO: ''Um...that would mean I'm a figment of my own imagination?''
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Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,TTCM Date: 27 Mar 00 - 05:40 PM Perhaps the monikerfont face=arial color=blue> DWEEBO would be more appropriate.
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Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: skarpi Date: 27 Mar 00 - 05:46 PM Well ,Hmmmmm at first my wife was not happy about the time I spend on the computer, but after I started to help my wife with all the housework when we come home after work it is okei,I mean we both have free time right. I think I spend not long time on the computer every night about from ten to one hour at most. all the best skarpi Iceland. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST Date: 27 Mar 00 - 05:50 PM My computer boots up faster, and stays up until I am finished with it. Once my computer knows my birthday, it never forgets. (or in the event that my computer needs a better memory, I can buy one for it). Any others?
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Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Ebbie Date: 27 Mar 00 - 05:59 PM Thread creep... Mbo, you're a breath of the fresh stuff. I always check to see what your opinion is on a given subject. So keep it comin'! Ebbie |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Little Neophyte Date: 27 Mar 00 - 06:13 PM 'The Lament of the Computer Widow' in DigiTrad was mentioned by Dick greenhaus, but I can not seem to find it. Is that an old thread I overlooked? And if so, I would grately appreciate if another Mudcatter would be able to blue clicky it onto this thread. I would really like to read it. Maybe I should take up Neil Lowes suggestion to me on the Cyberspace Friendship thread to write a sociology research paper on this subject. Lord knows I spend enough time around here analyzing the psychology. Dr. B. Neo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Date: 27 Mar 00 - 06:19 PM here ya go, dear "Dr." |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Date: 27 Mar 00 - 06:35 PM Actually, truthfully, I wouldn't be so into the internet if my mom spent more time with me and less time with her computer. She's always doing something that has to do with a computer. She's a damned good computer consultant, so she's almost always away consulting. Then, when she gets home, she works more for her clients, or for her regular work. Always on the computer. And, as ceit said, my dad introduced me to the 'Cat, so he can't complain. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Date: 27 Mar 00 - 06:40 PM OK. I've just read the entire thread, and I'd just like to say one thing. TTCM: If you even THINK of saying ANYTHING bad to Mbo while I'm around, I will personally make sure that the rest of your life is a living hell. Got it? Good.
Everyone else: don't be worried, and don't send me any personal messages relating to this message, PLEASE! This guy has gotten to my last thread. Thanks. You can e-mail me though.... I like getting e-mail. *BG* ~Barky |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 06:50 PM And we're MIGHTY pleased you are here, Barky lass! --Mbo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: catspaw49 Date: 27 Mar 00 - 07:12 PM Karen actually enjoys the 'Cat too and stays up on what's going on........I think a lot of the things that happen as far as relationships and the like go are very weird. These guys who have affairs on the Net were probably heading that way to begin with. Like life in 3-D, it is what you make it. But I will agree that its much nicer to live at Mudcat than in most towns I've lived in. Rarely do you get a group of people together who are so well versed in so many topics. Spaw |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Date: 27 Mar 00 - 07:27 PM Pleased to be here! Creeps like him ruin fun things like this for the rest of us. ~Barky |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 07:37 PM MUDCAT YOUTH UNITE!--Mbo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Date: 27 Mar 00 - 07:45 PM Only if you let it, Barky. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Date: 27 Mar 00 - 07:51 PM Too true, kat. Doesn't really ruin it... t'was said in the heat of the moment... please, I bow down and beg forgivness... *kneels, and raises huge puppy eyes filled with tears to kat* pweeeeeze????? ~Barky "watch out or I'll start the lip trembling" Amosdaughter |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 07:59 PM Don't cry Barky...I always start sobbing when the girls let the tears doon fa'... --Mbo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Caitrin Date: 27 Mar 00 - 08:19 PM So how 'bout the Communist plot idea, Amos? Hm. I note that you don't address it...you must be one of THEM! |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Date: 27 Mar 00 - 09:09 PM What Communist plot is that, C? I had it beat into me when I was your age, by a North Philly cop, that I was part of one, but hadn't even known about it until then. Actually, though, circular logic is a Commie favorite used for suppressing enemies of the State. When you reflect on it, communism is an extension in some respects of the same unworkable notion that solipsism is. And just about as successful. Tell them they are figments, and your friends will go off to find better friends. Tell them "From each according to their ability, to each according to their need", and sooner or later your citizens will find other means of survival, not because it isn't a sweet idea but because it doesn't work. The truth may not be nice, but it kinda stays true regardless. |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 09:28 PM WORKMEN OF THE WORLD, UNITE! --the proletariat has spoken :-) |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Date: 27 Mar 00 - 09:35 PM Gee whiz, Mbo -- you get out of the box one day an' you come back a dramatizing radical bolshevist! I swan! Wherefore do you need thes eoverpowering generalizations? How's about we just set and talk person to person a spell, and leave all them collective nouns off in the woodpile where they belong, huh? |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Date: 27 Mar 00 - 09:47 PM Actually, my daddy's a "commie pinko faggot" ~Barky |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Date: 27 Mar 00 - 09:48 PM Sorry... It's a "pinko commie faggot bastard" (This ain't what muh daddy is... is wha' he wuz call-ed) ~Barky |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Date: 27 Mar 00 - 10:03 PM Barky, git up off your'n knees and wipe away them tears, womon! Ain't know apolgising necessary nor explanation needed. I was jist makin' a opsirvashun. Now, Mr. Amos, you said, "From each according to their ability, to each according to their need". That might not have worked too well in a societal context as in pinko commie structures, BUT, in my experience, it can work mighty well in the spiritual realm of cooperative give and take, IMO. boy, those cops didn't know what the haitch they were talling about, eh? Course, ya knwo there's still some who'll make that claim. One fo my favourite bumper sitckers a frined of mine sported was "I might be straight, but I am not narrow!" all the best, kat |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 10:04 PM Ouch. Barky....isn't that a little harsh? And Amos, if it weren't for a collective of united Mudcatter shoving me, I wouldn't have got out of my box for one day. --Mbo |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: canoer Date: 27 Mar 00 - 11:04 PM Actually, a Communist plot is where Barky's dad and I raise vegetables. *BG* |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Date: 27 Mar 00 - 11:11 PM OH NO! HAIL SPODE!!! "Something...something...BICYCLES!! Yes, very good...something...something ASPARAGUS!!!" "The British knee is MUSCULAR!!!" --Mbo (P.G. Wodehouse fan, sorry...) |
Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: canoer Date: 27 Mar 00 - 11:23 PM I assume the P.G. stands for Pretty Garbled? |