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15 Feb 08 - 07:02 AM (#2262926) Subject: BS: my dad From: ranger1 My brother called me about 20 minutes ago to tell me that our dad died last night from a massive heart attack. He was only 62. It doesn't seem real yet and I hope it stays that way until I get the 130 miles between here and there. It wasn't always an easy relationship, but it had become a very good one. I miss him already. |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:17 AM (#2262936) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: theleveller You have my sympathy, Ranger, even though I don't know you or your dad. It's a very young age to die – just 3 years older than me. Several of my peer group have died in the last couple of years and it makes you realise that life is not a rehearsal. Perhaps the words 'old age shall not wither them or the years condemn' may be some comfort. |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:20 AM (#2262940) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: The PA So sorry, you must be heartbroken. At least you know it was quick. Exactly the same happened to me three years ago, on my birthday, as we were all leaving the house for dinner. It does get a bit easier, just takes time. Take all the time you need. Drive carefully. |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:36 AM (#2262946) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: maeve My dad died just as suddenly, Tami. You will find your own ways of grieving and rejoicing. Please take care of you in the midst of the confusion and sorrow. Let your friends have the honor of listening when you are moved to speak. Love and prayers, maeve |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:41 AM (#2262950) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Micca Tams, I am with you in spirit, if there is anything I can do, please feel free to ask, |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:42 AM (#2262951) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Mooh Very sorry to hear that. Look after you and yours right now. You have our hopes and prayers. Peace, Mooh. |
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15 Feb 08 - 08:10 AM (#2262972) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Jeri Big honkin' hug from me. If I can do anything, please let me know. |
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15 Feb 08 - 08:29 AM (#2262983) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Bee My sympathies go out to you. It is not easy, losing a parent, and telling you now that it will get better is not likely much comfort. |
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15 Feb 08 - 08:36 AM (#2262993) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Beer Deepest sympathies to you and your love ones. It won't be easy but you will get through it. adrien |
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15 Feb 08 - 09:01 AM (#2263010) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Jeanie So sorry to hear this. Will be thinking of you and your family. - jeanie |
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15 Feb 08 - 09:12 AM (#2263018) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Big Mick I am so sorry to hear this, Tammie. Remember your friends are here for you. Your post gives a hint that you will have some things to deal with, and those of us who know you want you to know that we care. God be good to him, Mick |
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15 Feb 08 - 09:21 AM (#2263025) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: gnu Thoughts and prayers. |
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15 Feb 08 - 09:49 AM (#2263051) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Megan L With Gnu on this thoughts and prayers lassie. Hold firmly to good memories let time soften any bad ones and love yourself enough to let them drift like campfire smoke on a gentle breeze. Dauvitt and his Meg |
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15 Feb 08 - 09:52 AM (#2263053) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: fat B****rd I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my best regards and concolences. Charlie |
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15 Feb 08 - 09:59 AM (#2263059) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: katlaughing {{{{{{Tami}}}}} Lots of love and good thoughts sent to you, now. Sometimes folks just have to check out and we'll never understand why, esp. when they are relatively young. May you find comfort in the good parts and let your friends help as we may. luvyakat |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:03 AM (#2263064) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Stilly River Sage Aw, Tami, when it rains it pours. We go through tough years, then things level out and you'll find you're stronger. But right now it's full-fledged shock. Take time to take care of yourself. Maggie (SRS) |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:03 AM (#2263065) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: GUEST Sorry to hear of this. My sympathies to you and yours. |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:04 AM (#2263067) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: jeffp The above was me. Don't know where my cookie ran off to. Again, my sincere condolences. Jeff |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:05 AM (#2263070) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: artbrooks Hugs and tears. There are no good words. Art |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:53 AM (#2263124) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: kendall Tami stopped here on her way to NH. A couple of bear hugs seemed to bring a smile to her dear face. |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:55 AM (#2263125) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Megan L No Kendal that wisny a smile it wis a wince when ye broke her ribs :) weel done lad they were backed up by all o us |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:08 AM (#2263131) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Becca72 Oh, Tami...I'm so sorry. Don't hesitate to ask if you need something. And you have full access to my dad whenever you need one! |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:21 AM (#2263142) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Amos Ach....Tami, hugs and sorrow. Keep breathing; and if you get the opportunity to send him some last messages, take it. It sometimes happens... A |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:21 AM (#2263144) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Ebbie (((((Tami))))) |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:26 AM (#2263152) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: open mike you have been through so much.... hang in there, be strong, and also take time to NOT be strong when you need to -- and let others help -- don't be afraid to ask for help....people will often say "if there is anything I can do to help" but they don't know WHAT to do. I am glad you are getting hugs.. more hugs here: {{{ranger}}} time will heal. |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:29 AM (#2263155) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: bfdk Becca, if you're selling that dad of yours on shares, I want a couple, too!! Tami, I'm so sorry to hear your news, it's the most dreadful wake-up call you can get when someone calls to tell you you've lost a parent. There are no words that will make it easier, and so I won't resort to platitudes. Just know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you strength to face what lies ahead. A big hug from your mate in Denmark, Bente |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:32 AM (#2263158) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Morticia (((((((hugs)))))) |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:38 AM (#2263167) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Leadfingers Deepest Sympathy Tami |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:48 AM (#2263175) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Rapparee There's nothing I can do or say except that my thoughts are with you. |
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15 Feb 08 - 01:48 PM (#2263304) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Partridge I'm thinking of you Tami, its a horrible place to be in. I cant give you a hug physically but please know that I am mentally. Think all the happy memories of your Dad. Breathe. love Pat xx |
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15 Feb 08 - 02:37 PM (#2263330) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Oh, Tami, I'm sending light and love your way during this dark time. Take care, my dear. |
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15 Feb 08 - 02:59 PM (#2263354) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: skarpi Hallo Tami , I am sorry to hear this , but hugs and lights from us here in Iceland , all the best from Skarpi Iceland P.s travel save . |
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15 Feb 08 - 03:06 PM (#2263358) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: SINSULL Tami, I just left a message on your machine. I am sorry this happened and that it happened so suddenly. Anything at all - just call and say it. Don't ask. You don't have to. Let Jason look after you over the next couple of days. Love, Mary |
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15 Feb 08 - 03:06 PM (#2263359) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: SINSULL Jacqui is thinking of you and will call as soon as she can. M |
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15 Feb 08 - 04:54 PM (#2263432) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: topical tom My sympathies, thoughts and prayers are with you. |
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15 Feb 08 - 05:00 PM (#2263438) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: SussexCarole So sorry to hear this news. We're thinking of you & your family Tami. Love & hugs from us both Carole & Andrew xx |
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15 Feb 08 - 05:25 PM (#2263450) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: skipy So sorry to read this thread, take care of yourself during these troubled times. Skipy |
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15 Feb 08 - 05:47 PM (#2263465) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Irish sergeant My deepest condolences to you and your family. Neil |
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15 Feb 08 - 06:31 PM (#2263498) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Tinker Just opened this thread and stopped. You know there are ears ready to hear you whenever you need. Til then cyber hugs will have to do... ((((Tami)))) Love and Light tink |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:00 PM (#2263511) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: ClaireBear Me too. Sorrow and love, my dear. ((((Tami)))) Claire |
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15 Feb 08 - 07:04 PM (#2263513) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Maryrrf I am so sorry to hear this Tami. Deepest condolences. |
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15 Feb 08 - 10:52 PM (#2263598) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Barry Finn So sorry Tammie, lots of hugs & squeezes, oh, stop that. All my best to you Barry |
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15 Feb 08 - 11:41 PM (#2263608) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Janie Oh no Tami. I'm so very, very sorry. Holding you close in my heart and mind. Janie |
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16 Feb 08 - 12:21 AM (#2263618) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: catspaw49 Late to this thread Tammie, but I am so sorry.......Nothing makes this anything but hard for you but take whatever we all have to offer and know the thoughts and hugs are real, even if virtual. Much Love......Many Hugs Pat |
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16 Feb 08 - 05:51 AM (#2263685) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: maeve Good morning, Tami. Thinking of you and yours this morning. maeve |
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16 Feb 08 - 08:53 AM (#2263739) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Jean(eanjay) Tami, I'm sorry to hear this sad news. Thoughts and prayers sent from North Yorkshire. Take care. Jean |
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16 Feb 08 - 11:07 AM (#2263817) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Cats My Dad died when I was just 18 years old, at the age of 54. Jon's dad died suddenly last year and we were 250 miles away. Whatever age or how many miles makes no difference. He's still your dad. Remember the good times. |
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16 Feb 08 - 12:03 PM (#2263852) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: maeve ((((((((((Tami and family)))))))) maeve |
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16 Feb 08 - 12:23 PM (#2263865) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: LilyFestre ((((((((((((Hugs and Prayers to you and your family)))))))))))))) Michelle |
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16 Feb 08 - 01:12 PM (#2263896) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: George Papavgeris Heartfelt condolences. Be glad that he went quickly and did not suffer, and that you did not witness it. Above all be glad that you had him for 62 years and that your relationship had been good at the end. Celebrate the miracle of his life, and continuing living as if he can see you. Learn to smile at his photograph once in a while. Not for him. For you. |
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16 Feb 08 - 02:50 PM (#2263994) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Bill D Little I can say that has not been said. Do good things with the best of your memories. It's never easy..... |
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17 Feb 08 - 03:40 AM (#2264359) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: alanabit It's all been said already. You have my sympathy too though. |
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17 Feb 08 - 09:53 AM (#2264491) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: SINSULL Tami called this morning. The family is planning a memorial service for Monday so she will be down in New Hampshire until Tuesday. Jason is with her and she is doing well. The single most important thing is that she and her father had come to a working relationship over the last fifteen years. He knew she loved him and she knew he loved and respected her. Tami asked me to thank you for all your support. She is computerless at the moment. Mary |
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17 Feb 08 - 12:39 PM (#2264589) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: maeve Thank you, Sinsull, for posting the update. maeve |
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17 Feb 08 - 05:07 PM (#2264837) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Slag My heart's with you, Ranger. My Dad has now been gone a year and a half and I still miss him so. It is something you never really get over. Time just carries you beyond it. I'm with you and hope you are holding up OK. God bless. Tom |
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17 Feb 08 - 05:36 PM (#2264854) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Hawker Tammi! So sorry to hear this, I lost my dad suddenly last year, the shock is terrible and though I didn't visit him half as often as I should when he was alive, maybe 2 or 3 times a year, I miss him terribly. Time is a great healer, don't be embarassed to cry, grieve well, I bottled it up and almost lost the plot, which, now I can see straight, I know he would not have wanted. I talk to him every day, I dont know if he can hear me but it helps. Sending you love and hugs and the strength to get through the early days, my hand id holding yours! Lucy |
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18 Feb 08 - 03:45 AM (#2265141) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Ebbie Refresh |
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18 Feb 08 - 08:49 AM (#2265291) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: jacqui.c I spoke to Tami last night. she's holding up, with support from Jason and her family. Spare a thought for her today at the memorial service. We will be here for her when she gets back to Maine and she knows that she only has to pick up the phone or drop by when she needs us. She will be surrounded by her friends here who can give emotional and practical help through this time. |
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18 Feb 08 - 10:01 AM (#2265335) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: katlaughing Thanks, Jacqui and Sins, for the updates. Still thinking of her and sending lots of love. |
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18 Feb 08 - 10:43 AM (#2265368) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: ranger1 Thank you all so much. I'm at my big bro's right now, stupid driveway is too slick to get my truck back out and we're waiting for the sand guy to come. I was supposed to be taking my niece to breakfast. Maybe she'll accept a raincheck for tomorrow. It's not quite real yet. I think the tough part will be the little things, like calling him on Sunday mornings to tell him all the silly little events of the week, or having coffee with him in the early mornings when I'd visit, going for rides in his 1960 Thunderbird, or just driving around on back roads in his pick-up. My brother and I were talking about it the other day and he feels the same way. And this is one case where I can honestly say I have no regrets and no unfinished business. The song running through my head the past couple of days has been Dave Carter's "When I Go." When we have the memorial service that Ritch (my brother) and Sue (Dad's significant other) and I had planned originally in the summer, I plan on singing it for him. |
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18 Feb 08 - 03:43 PM (#2265607) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: maeve Hey there Tami. Thank you for your update. Hugs and tears, laughter and a companionable silence are all awaiting you. Maeve |
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18 Feb 08 - 03:52 PM (#2265615) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: Peace The lyrics were posted by SharonA in July of 2002. When I Go © 1998 Dave Carter / Dave Carter Music (BMI) come, lonely hunter, chieftain and king, i will fly like the falcon when i go bear me my brother under your wing, i will strike fell like lightning when i go i will bellow like the thunder drum, invoke the storm of war a twisting pillar spun of dust and blood up from the prairie floor i will sweep the foe before me like a gale out on the snow and the wind will long recount the story, reverence and glory, when i go spring, spirit dancer, nimble and thin, i will leap like coyote when i go tireless entrancer, lend me your skin, i will run like the gray wolf when i go i will climb the rise at daybreak, i will kiss the sky at noon raise my yearning voice at midnight to my mother in the moon i will make the lay of long defeat and draw the chorus slow i'll send this message down the wire and hope that someone wise is listening when i go and when the sun comes trumpets from his red house in the east he will find a standing stone where long i chanted my release he will send his morning messenger to strike the hammer blow and i will crumble down uncountable in showers of crimson rubies when i go sigh, mournful sister, whisper and turn, i will rattle like dry leaves when i go stand in the mist where my fire used to burn, i will camp on the night breeze when i go and should you glimpse my wandering form out on the borderline between death and resurrection and the council of the pines do not worry for my comfort, do not sorrow for me so all your diamond tears will rise up and adorn the sky beside me when i go |
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18 Feb 08 - 08:58 PM (#2265843) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: TRUBRIT Tami - sorry to be so late coming to this thread. Much love -- what a tough tough year you have had. Hope to see you Saturday for music and good cheer...... |
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18 Feb 08 - 09:22 PM (#2265861) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: maeve I just talked with Tami. She is surrounded by loving family and music, and is grateful for the PMs and the empathetic good wishes here. She's a keeper, that one! maeve |
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18 Feb 08 - 10:26 PM (#2265890) Subject: RE: BS: my dad From: katlaughing Thanks for stopping by, Tami. Carter's song is one of my favourites and my family know I want them to play it for me when I go. Just be good to yourself if it becomes too overwhelming to sing it at the service. We'll send all the energy we can to help out. luvyakat |
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19 Feb 08 - 03:34 AM (#2265983) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: GUEST,KT Aw, Tami, I'm just now seeing this thread. I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love your way, darlin'. Take good and gentle care of you. KT |
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19 Feb 08 - 04:35 AM (#2266003) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Bryn Pugh May the Great Mother and the All Father comfort you. I lost my Da a couple of months before my sixth birthday. It won't always hurt like this, promise you. You might find some confort in thinking of him in the Summerlands, free from pain, safe in the arms of the Great Mother, and knowing the loving smile of the All Father. |
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19 Feb 08 - 04:50 AM (#2266011) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: goatfell My father died suddnly as well, he was out fishing when he was pulled into the water, he was 81 and as near as fit as could it be and I was was on holiday with him at the time in Western Australia, in 2006 and 16 years before also on holiday in Western Australia my mother also died. So I can understand how sad it is when anyone loses a loved one. Tom |
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19 Feb 08 - 07:04 AM (#2266076) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Severn Yet more thoughts and condolences as you sort out your memories and deal with the pain. |
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19 Feb 08 - 07:45 AM (#2266104) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Ella who is Sooze Hi Ranger, I'm truely sorry, I lost my dad on 7th February 2007. It's just a year, and it's been a hard year, but it is getting easier. My sincere condolances to you and yours. My dad was only 63, far far too young. Treasure your memories, talk to those around you, and stay healthy. EWIS |
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19 Feb 08 - 08:09 AM (#2266122) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: My guru always said So sorry to hear your news, thinking of you and your family, Hil |
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19 Feb 08 - 08:22 AM (#2266134) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Bobert I'm so sorry for your loss... May peace grace your familiy during these trying times... |
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19 Feb 08 - 09:20 AM (#2266186) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Mrrzy Very, very sorry, sweetie! Love to your family... |
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19 Feb 08 - 09:47 AM (#2266215) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: SINSULL Tami called last night. There was lots of music and good companionship yesterday. I think the service and family time has helped Tami cope. She will be home today. Probably grateful to sleep in her own bed. M |
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19 Feb 08 - 10:16 AM (#2266240) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: GUEST,saulgoldie Condolences. Thoughts and prayers your way. |
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19 Feb 08 - 10:29 AM (#2266257) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: wysiwyg Condolences... In the days ahead, leave a little space in those times that had been your times with him, for the savoring of memories that will come to the surface. Give yourself permission to feel them, and trust that your mind will sort out anything that comes up. Drink lots of water, and remember to put some attention on the unfolding of spring. And know that you are doing what millions of other human beans have done in their own time, and that the ones you know here at Mudcat are always here to share it with you when you need us. ~Susan |
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19 Feb 08 - 03:52 PM (#2266622) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: GUEST,Bob Ryszkiewicz May he Rest in Peace... |
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19 Feb 08 - 04:00 PM (#2266635) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Pistachio I don't know you. May I offer my condolences and ask you to let your grief out whenever it rises and smile at your happy memories. I lost my Dad to a heart attack, on his 66th Birthday in 1984. The pain won't go but it will ease. Take care. I add my 'Mudcat Hugs' too. Hazel.x |
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19 Feb 08 - 04:08 PM (#2266644) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Charley Noble So sorry to hear this, Tami. 62 is far too young to leave this earth. It's difficult not to feel robbed. My father lived a whole lot longer but I still miss him. The good memories are some comfort. Charley Noble |
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19 Feb 08 - 06:52 PM (#2266861) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: ranger1 Thank you all so much. I have almost 39 years of good memories, there were a lot of hard times, but we sorted those out 15 years ago. Dad once told me that he felt lucky to have two great kids and that we were not only his kids, but his best friends, too. There is pain now, but I know the pain will fade in time, leaving the love, laughter, and precious memories behind. Many of my relatives brought old family pictures to the get-together yesterday. There is something comforting about going through old photographs and seeing my dad growing up, his graduation picture from high school, his graduation picture from basic training, and all the snapshots from family gatherings, Christmases, and photos of him with my nieces and nephews and young cousins acting like a big kid himself. As for the get-together, one cousin brought a guitar and someone else brought a fiddle. There were reels and jigs, bluegrass and country, some Johnny Cash, some old timey stuff and some of my cousins singing spirituals in harmony. Dad would have loved it. Its easy to see where I got my love for music from. |
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19 Feb 08 - 08:45 PM (#2266963) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Hollowfox "Good times and hard times, they're all worth the telling..." My condolences for your loss, and my prayers go with you and yours. |
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19 Feb 08 - 10:16 PM (#2267006) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Raptor Thoughts and prayers. |
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19 Feb 08 - 10:41 PM (#2267021) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Alice Tami, so hard a loss, you have my deepest sympathy. Alice |
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19 Feb 08 - 11:10 PM (#2267051) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Donuel With so many feeling some are bound to be mixed. drive safe |
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19 Feb 08 - 11:16 PM (#2267055) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: maeve Welcome home. ((((((((Tami & Jason))))))) |
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20 Feb 08 - 12:31 AM (#2267088) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Lonesome EJ Ranger, my Dad died in 1993, and it took years before I finally stopped thinking, when confronted with a practical problem that he could usually puzzle out with logic, that I ought to call Dad. Good healing to you. |
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20 Feb 08 - 02:34 PM (#2267660) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Rog Peek Lost my Dad just two years ago. Thoughts are with you. Rog |
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20 Feb 08 - 02:35 PM (#2267662) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: JudyB (((((Tami))))) My deepest sympathy. JudyB |
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21 Feb 08 - 02:41 AM (#2268287) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: Ella who is Sooze I still go to put a place out at the dinner table for dad. Habits and tradition. He'll always be close. EWIS |
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21 Feb 08 - 03:35 PM (#2268827) Subject: RE: Obit: my dad From: gnu Tammie... it really struck me when you mentioned those backroad cruises. My dad, who always would have rather been in the woods huntin or fishin or crusin, passed in '83. Whenever we are up country, we tell stories about Dad and we always look upward and say, "Thanks, Dad." You will too. The tears get less with time, but they never go away, thank goodness. |