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17 Mar 09 - 07:14 AM (#2590861) Subject: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 We got some very frightening news from my niece (Kendall's granddaughter) last night. It seems her husband Ezra and a friend went out to the Old Port section of Portland, Maine last Tuesday night (3/10/09) to celebrate the friend's birthday. Ezra has not been seen or heard from since. We're at 7 days now and at a complete loss. The police are involved, though they had to wait 72 hours to file a missing persons report. My niece has made up a poster to be distributed as far as we can get it and our next step is to get the media involved. Please, we could really use all the good vibes we can get right now. Also any helpful suggestions on things we can do would be appreciated. Thanks for taking the time. |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:18 AM (#2590862) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie All the good vibes I can muster are headed north, Becca. Is the friend also missing? Janie |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:22 AM (#2590866) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Of course, Becca. I'll PM my telephone #. maeve |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:24 AM (#2590867) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Mrrzy How very frightening! Good luck! Hope he's found soon! |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:25 AM (#2590868) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bryn Pugh Love, Blessings and good thoughts for you and yours. Erica and Bryn |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:27 AM (#2590871) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Janie, His friend went to use the bathroom at closing time and when he returned to the table Ezra was gone. |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:40 AM (#2590879) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Megan L Becca in uk we have a missing persons helpline do you have something similar over there they are really good at getting the information out there and have contacts a family might not even think of. Ezra and all who love him are in our thoughts and prayers. |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:42 AM (#2590880) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Rasener Becca I really hope things work out OK and my thoughts are with you all. |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:26 AM (#2590893) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Keith A of Hertford What a terrifying thing. I am so sorry for you all. May there be a happy outcome. keith. |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:34 AM (#2590906) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Becca, Anything at all - just ask. I can put up posters in Old Port as well as South Portland. Mary |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:37 AM (#2590908) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Morticia the stuff nightmares are made of, thinking of you all and keeping things crossed for the best possible outcome |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:45 AM (#2590916) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: beardedbruce Let us ( mudcat) know if there is anything we can do. Sending good thoughts..... |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:04 AM (#2590934) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Me too. ~S~ |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:08 AM (#2590936) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Sins, I sent you a copy of the flyer Meghan put together. If you could put them up around work and home that would be a great help. It pains me to say it, but the Old Port is not a safe place for a young confident black man these days. There have been several incidents of people of different ethnic backgrounds either getting beaten into a coma or killed in the last few years. Ezra has never been one to back away from a fight, either. I don't want to even think that's what happened, but with no information to go on your mind tends to fill in the blanks all on its own. |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:18 AM (#2590943) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: RangerSteve My prayers and thoughts are with you. |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:21 AM (#2590947) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sandra in Sydney adding my best wishes sandra |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:25 AM (#2590950) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: bfdk Thinking of you and yours, Becca. Bente |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:36 AM (#2590958) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Oh dear! Thoughts and prayers. |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:56 AM (#2590973) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said Sending positive thoughts! |
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17 Mar 09 - 10:19 AM (#2590994) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Catherine Jayne Sending positive thoughts from here too. Hope he is found safe and well soon |
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17 Mar 09 - 10:21 AM (#2590995) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Firing up good thoughts and gentle care. |
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17 Mar 09 - 11:20 AM (#2591045) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing I am giving thanks for Ezra's immediate and safe return home; this, or something better, for the highest good of all concerned. May the Great Spirit hold him close. So mote it be. {{{{HUGS for Ezra and family}}}}} kat |
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17 Mar 09 - 12:45 PM (#2591114) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Positive thoughts winging their way from California. And hugs all round. Claire |
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17 Mar 09 - 01:00 PM (#2591133) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Azizi Positive vibrations from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. I hope your family & friends get good news soon. |
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17 Mar 09 - 01:13 PM (#2591147) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Bob Ryszkiewicz Good thoughts for the safe return of Ezra... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Rita_of_Cascia BR |
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17 Mar 09 - 01:13 PM (#2591148) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: fat B****rd Kindest thoughts and good wishes from Charlie in Dunfermline. |
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17 Mar 09 - 01:25 PM (#2591156) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: olddude You got my good thoughts and my prayers my gosh how awful ... |
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17 Mar 09 - 01:45 PM (#2591169) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: number 6 Whew ... Thoughts and prayers are with ya from SJ. biLL |
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17 Mar 09 - 02:17 PM (#2591197) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall I contacted my rep. to the state legislature, the woman whom I helped get elected, and she said she would go directly to the Attorney General. I guess it pays to get involved in politics. I'm grateful that I lived long enough to see a man of mixed race who now has the right to enter the White House through the front door. I hope I live long enough to see racism die out. |
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17 Mar 09 - 02:17 PM (#2591198) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam from me too |
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17 Mar 09 - 02:21 PM (#2591202) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Thanks for your update, Kendall. You know where we are if we can be helpful. maeve |
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17 Mar 09 - 02:29 PM (#2591209) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,mg It doesn't sound like a racial beating to me..with no commotion, no signs of a struggle etc. I would get the FBI involved. It almost sounds like a Shanghai but hopefully we are in the wrong century for that...but if he was taken against his will he would have had to have been doped and taken out through a window or something..have you checked out the window and exit situation there? Of course he could have been threatened and asked to go quietly or they would hurt family or something. Hate to get this way but no stone must be left unturned. Is he from this country? Could he have unsavory connections,involuntary? Could he have been lured to this particular bar? COuld there be old trap doors etc. from previous times? Of course it could have been totally voluntary and not great reasons, such as another woman, escaping debts, etc., but at least he would be safe if that were the case. mg |
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17 Mar 09 - 03:47 PM (#2591271) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Partridge A positive outcome - in my thoughts Pat x |
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17 Mar 09 - 04:06 PM (#2591286) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Becca, you know how to contact me. Let me know what I can do to help. Jason works in the Old Port, send me details and I'll have him put his ear to the ground. |
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17 Mar 09 - 04:33 PM (#2591309) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Tami, I sent you a copy of the poster, too. Let me know if you didn't get it. We would greatly appreciate it if Jason is OK putting some up around the area he works. |
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17 Mar 09 - 05:00 PM (#2591328) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: topical tom A very sad and frightening thing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all (from Quebec.) |
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17 Mar 09 - 05:07 PM (#2591333) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Becca, forgive me if you've already mentioned this and I missed it, but have you contacted ALL of the media? The tv news crews should be doing a missing persons report with a photo of Ezra on their screens, as well as radio and print media and not just local, but statewide, plus into neighbouring states. If you need some help writing press releases, finding contact info, give me a holler. Since we're still in broadcasting, we may have some resources for addys and such. I'll ask my Rog, if needed. |
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17 Mar 09 - 05:51 PM (#2591358) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sorcha And could WE possibly have a photo of Ezra? If he left voluntarily, who knows where he might turn up. Put one up on Flicker or something? If I were investigating this case, there would be a LOT of rather uncomfortable questions asked, but I'm sure that Kendall knows that too. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:01 PM (#2591366) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike what about witnesses...how frightfully shocking... please keep us posted on any news. hugs to all Ezra's family and friends... and best of luck to all... |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:06 PM (#2591369) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Good point, Sorcha... leave no stone unturned. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:11 PM (#2591371) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sorcha I really hate to say it, but a LOT of adults DO just 'up and leave' voluntarily. If they don't want to be found, they can't be forced to go back. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:14 PM (#2591372) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Hain't read all this since the first posts, but is there a Facebook or other online effort going with a "virtual poster" yet, and if not, would one make sense? Has the nearest NAACP been contacted yet about some help looking and getting the word around? Have local ministeriums been asked to BOLO for someone (Ezra) seeking safe sanctuary because some bad folks have him running (thru no fault of his I am confident) Have area welfare agencies been asked to BOLO for anyone needing emergency cash, maybe due to a robbery (poss head injury, not knowing he's himself) Have local yoot orgs (scouts, 4H, etc) been asked to BOLO? School officials in case a young black man is hovering, hurt, in a playground, who they may otherwise dismiss as a perve? What org has a local email network that would blast a BOLO? CNN with an angle on the biracial overtones-- "another young [black] man [white] people may not care enough to look for or to SEE"? I know you are doing all you can think to do-- I also know you that are probably pretty overwhelmed and that it's easy to miss a BOLO vector in a situation like this. ~S~ |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:14 PM (#2591373) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,mg What is the involvement of the bar or whatever it was? Have they been cooperative? Hush-hush? Of course they don't want it publicized as they would lose business but still..Have they provided architectural drawings to police? Made a list of customers they recall from that evening? This is not something to linger on. mg |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:18 PM (#2591376) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: pdq Check for activity on all of his credit cards. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:26 PM (#2591380) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Jeri Becca, I'm sorry and I hope he turns up soon. There's little I can do and nothing helpful I can say. I'm in your corner though, and I'll keep Ezra in my thoughts. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:28 PM (#2591381) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike i presume BOLO means Be On the Lookout? |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:34 PM (#2591383) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I know you all mean to be helpful but right now the family needs prayers and positive thoughts. The police are doing their job and all of your points (all excellent) are or will be covered. I stopped by the bar Ezra was known to have been in on Tuesday and the manager was very concerned and helpful. He asked for a poster and said he would put it on a post between the men's and the ladies' rooms. Everyone who walks in the place will see it. Posters are going up and without exception everyone who saw them was concerned. One man who works in an ER promised to check out the John Doe records of all the local hospitals. Portland is usually a very friendly town. We all know the possibilities. Let's join together to support, Kendall, Jacqui and Becca as they requested. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:50 PM (#2591389) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Thanks, Mary. |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:53 PM (#2591391) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yup. ~S~ |
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17 Mar 09 - 06:58 PM (#2591392) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sorcha Just trying to cover some bases here is all.......yes, I'll be thinking about them all |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:06 PM (#2591399) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Yes, SINS... yes, Sorcha. |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:08 PM (#2591402) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Love and good thoughts for you all. Michelle |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:43 PM (#2591419) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Yes Sorcha. And I thank you. |
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17 Mar 09 - 07:47 PM (#2591421) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL The local news has picked up the story. I suspect Kendall's political nudge helped. He was seen on Commercial and in Bill's Pizza (around the corner from the Old Port Tavern where he first met his friends). Hopefully, someone will remember seeing him after he left Bill's. |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:03 PM (#2591432) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall I can't tell all I know, but I believe he will turn up. Dead.And, I no longer believe it is racially motivated. |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:06 PM (#2591435) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Oh my. |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:26 PM (#2591443) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Love, Hope and prayers Keeping you all in my thoughts! Hugs.....loads of them, Lucy x |
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17 Mar 09 - 08:58 PM (#2591457) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert What can I add other than I am so sorry to read of this terrible situation... Warm thoughts and prayers just seem to come up short... I am so sorry that you are going thru this... I am sorry that this young man has gone thru whatever he has gone thru... I am sorry for his family, too... Bobert |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:07 PM (#2591460) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sorcha I still haven't seen a link to a photo of this Ezra...the US IS a very MOBILE place...in case he just wanted a dissapear |
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17 Mar 09 - 09:30 PM (#2591471) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Photo and article |
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17 Mar 09 - 10:29 PM (#2591486) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 First I have seen this thread and as I read through it I kept hoping I'd find the situation resolved.......***sigh***...........Y'all got my very best thoughts on this one, a truly tragic situation.........Hoping in Ohio for a positive outcome........ Spaw |
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18 Mar 09 - 12:21 AM (#2591520) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Barry Finn My hopes & wishes are with all of you that this turns out for the better. Barry |
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18 Mar 09 - 12:28 AM (#2591522) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Maryrrf Add my hopes that all will turn out for the best. |
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18 Mar 09 - 12:47 AM (#2591529) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D How very terrible. Good thoughts for a good outcome from ohio. Neil and Christina |
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18 Mar 09 - 05:17 AM (#2591582) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Keith A of Hertford Kendall, Mary and I are so sorry that this is happening to your family. You are constantly in our thoughts. keith and Mary. |
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18 Mar 09 - 05:24 AM (#2591584) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Liz the Squeak Horrid news... I hope it isn't as bad as it sounds... Take care all. LTS |
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18 Mar 09 - 06:44 AM (#2591622) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve The purpose of this thread is to offer positive support to Ezra's family and friends - as requested in the original post. Here is a follow-up article with more information. http://pressherald.mainetoday.com/story.php?id=245514&ac=PHnws maeve |
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18 Mar 09 - 07:37 AM (#2591638) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 I second my father's thoughts on this. It no longer looks like a crime, but more like a 22 year old out doing some stupid stupid stuff. The general feeling is that he is in Casco Bay, unfortunately. I hope and pray we're all wrong but it is a very bleak outlook indeed. None of us who know him believe he willingly took off. |
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18 Mar 09 - 07:37 AM (#2591639) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Mrrzy Still thinking of you. Hoping strongly. |
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18 Mar 09 - 08:12 AM (#2591660) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I don't know Meghan or Ezra well but I have seen them often enough to know that neither would take off without warning the other. They are very young and have worked very hard to build a life for themselves. It hasn't always been easy but they have stuck it out together with a maturity far beyond their years. It seems so unfair that one night of drinking should cost them everything. For now, the single most important thing is finding him. |
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18 Mar 09 - 10:45 AM (#2591760) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Yes, Mary. This weighs heavy on my mind. May the finding, whatever its nature, eventually lead to peace. maeve |
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18 Mar 09 - 06:38 PM (#2592142) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Sending love and support your way, Kendall and family! What a dreadful thing to go thru. Light and love shine on Ezra, wherever he is. Allison |
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18 Mar 09 - 07:08 PM (#2592163) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Still sending love and light to all of you, Ezra, and all who love him - and hoping for a miracle. |
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18 Mar 09 - 07:19 PM (#2592171) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Thinking of you all tonight. maeve |
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18 Mar 09 - 09:51 PM (#2592248) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Andy Jackson In my thoughts also tonight, Praying for good news. Andy |
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18 Mar 09 - 10:04 PM (#2592253) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Same here. May there be peace and knowing whatever the outcome. |
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18 Mar 09 - 11:08 PM (#2592282) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Gweltas Sending my good vibes and fervent prayers, from Cornwall, UK. |
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19 Mar 09 - 08:08 AM (#2592463) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Another day is here, full of thoughts of Ezra, his family and friends. maeve |
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19 Mar 09 - 08:12 AM (#2592466) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Thank you all for including us in your thoughts. There have been many many updates over the last couple of days and the plot continues to thicken. I won't give details because nothing is certain at this point but it is still considered suspicious. The police are going back over the land they've already covered today and tomorrow and Saturday they're bringing in the helicopter with sonar to check the water. |
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19 Mar 09 - 08:15 AM (#2592469) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Becca- Thank you so much for taking time to check in here. maeve |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:05 AM (#2592510) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 The police lost vital investigation time on this one. He was declared missing Friday and the case sat on someone's desk until Monday. The police also let him go after kicking him out of the marina, even though he was visibly intoxicated (in public). |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:07 AM (#2592512) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I asked that when it was first reported that the police "caught" him in a boat at Dimillo's. Now I am offering useless speculation...sorry. My thoughts continue to stay with Meghan and all of her family. Becca, are we continuing to put up posters? Mary |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:14 AM (#2592513) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Hard to avoid it sometimes. Love to you all, maeve |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:22 AM (#2592519) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL The police said that they would not provide divers for a search because of lack of funds. I wonder if they would react differently if it were Susan Collins' son who was missing? Surely, if there were foul play, the sooner they find the body, the more evidence they are likely to recover from it? This whole business is beginning to stink. PORTLAND (NEWS CENTER) -- The Portland police department needs the public's help in searching for a man who has been missing for a week. 22-year old Ezra Milan was last seen out with his friends in the old port last Tuesday night. Police say he and his buddies were drinking for a friend's birthday. Just minutes before he went missing - police caught him at DiMillo's marina trespassing on someone else's boat. No charges were filed and he and his friends moved across the street to Bill's Pizza. From there, neither the police nor Milan's friends seem to know what happened. Police have been actively searching for Milan since Friday, when he was officially declared missing. They say it is possible Milan fell into the water, though they haven't spotted him, and diving is one of their last options; for one, because that area is deep and murky, and another because they at this point they don't have the resources to dedicate to that. At this point though, they remain hopeful Milan is still alive, just lost. Family members say Milan hasn't missed a day of work at Dick's Sporting Goods in over three years... police are calling his disappearance suspicious. Ezra Milan is described as a 6 foot 3, 180-pound black male. He has short black hair and brown eyes. Milan was last seen wearing a black Carhartt coat, blue jeans, and a white t-shirt. Anyone with information is asked to call the Portland police |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:49 AM (#2592544) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Holding the thought, here. ~S~ |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:50 AM (#2592546) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Sent you a PM, Sinsull. maeve |
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19 Mar 09 - 09:56 AM (#2592551) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I apologize for my rant. I was the one who asked that we stay to the job at hand - supporting the family. |
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19 Mar 09 - 10:05 AM (#2592558) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu It's undestandable, SINS. |
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19 Mar 09 - 10:05 AM (#2592559) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Sinsull- Often the friends who offer the most support need comforting too. It is a powerless feeling when there seems to be no way to help. You've done a lot. We understand. Love, maeve |
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19 Mar 09 - 10:29 AM (#2592579) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Actually, I have done nothing. And common sense says that the police are not telling all they know to the newspapers. Patience is not a strong point of mine in situations like this. Local radio is continuing to release reports. Something will break. |
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19 Mar 09 - 10:50 AM (#2592595) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Sending love and support. My 8-year-old son led a beautiful family prayer for Ezra (the Power listens to children.). How I wish we could do more. C |
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19 Mar 09 - 10:53 AM (#2592598) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 The police have been very helpful and supportive. Meghan met with them for almost 2 hours yesterday.I'm not bashing them, I just have some concerns. I'm also concerned about the bars who continued to serve him. |
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19 Mar 09 - 12:52 PM (#2592695) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg That's OK Becca, say whatever you need to say here and ignore any responses that are not helpful. ~S~ |
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19 Mar 09 - 02:24 PM (#2592758) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu I agree... and I think it goes for everyone. Pretty rough stuff. |
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19 Mar 09 - 05:43 PM (#2592893) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Still sending out good vibes. |
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20 Mar 09 - 02:35 AM (#2593148) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: KT I've just now seen this......adding my prayers to those of everyone else.....for your whole family Becca. KT |
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20 Mar 09 - 03:36 PM (#2593533) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Still thinking of you all. ~S~ |
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20 Mar 09 - 04:17 PM (#2593564) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker still thinking of you all here too :0) Love and hugs, Lucy x |
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20 Mar 09 - 04:31 PM (#2593571) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Each time I see this at the top, I hope for news. Very frustrating. |
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20 Mar 09 - 04:45 PM (#2593581) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam I am still following and hoping too. |
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20 Mar 09 - 04:48 PM (#2593586) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Me too , SINS.... which is why I have been also Googling "Ezra Milan" often. |
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20 Mar 09 - 11:42 PM (#2593824) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Me too, but I am pretty sure that when there is news, a mod will adjust the thread title. I just want it up near the top so Becca et al can see it easily when they want it. ~Susan |
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21 Mar 09 - 09:43 AM (#2593996) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Thanks to everyone. We're still in a holding pattern at this point. This morning the Coast Guard divers are searching the bay, the police have the dogs out and this afternoon they're bringing in the SONAR helicopter from Cape Cod. This has been a horrible, horrible week. |
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21 Mar 09 - 09:58 AM (#2594001) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: billybob loving thoughts from England,lighting a candle wendy |
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21 Mar 09 - 10:12 AM (#2594008) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I have to type words because Mudcat is all about text. But what I MEAN is just: I'm loving you all, from here-- hurt or no. So if you see a "blank" post from me here, just take it as one person holding one end of the line, softly but firmly, in fair weather or foul. ~Susan |
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21 Mar 09 - 12:27 PM (#2594047) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing From here in Colorado...you have never been far from my thoughts this week and always in my heart. |
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21 Mar 09 - 01:47 PM (#2594074) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL There are no words Becca. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.Stay strong. |
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21 Mar 09 - 02:08 PM (#2594080) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve What Susan said, Becca. maeve |
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21 Mar 09 - 02:31 PM (#2594093) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie And from here, continuing to hold all of you to the light. |
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21 Mar 09 - 03:23 PM (#2594111) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Ditto... |
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21 Mar 09 - 04:15 PM (#2594140) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Yeah........I'm rarely without words but like the others all I can do is keep you all in my thoughts............ Spaw |
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21 Mar 09 - 04:19 PM (#2594143) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hollowfox Oh my. I just found out. Much prayer now, and of course, a %$#!-reduction candle as soon as I get home. |
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21 Mar 09 - 10:17 PM (#2594315) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Nights can be so long. But we're in this one, with you. ~S~ |
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21 Mar 09 - 10:39 PM (#2594323) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: meself I don't know how I missed this thread earlier. Very sad and of course disturbing. You have all my sympathy at this trying time ... |
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22 Mar 09 - 08:07 AM (#2594454) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Daylight again, and we are here thinking of you all. maeve |
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22 Mar 09 - 04:48 PM (#2594748) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Kendall I'm waiting for that shoe to drop, and dreading it too. |
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22 Mar 09 - 05:22 PM (#2594782) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Hi, Kendall. I know. We're thinking of you as well. love, maeve |
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22 Mar 09 - 05:38 PM (#2594794) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yup. ~S~ |
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22 Mar 09 - 05:58 PM (#2594821) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D Still saying prayers and hoping for good things. Also praying for strength for you and your loved ones during this trying time. Neil and Christina |
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22 Mar 09 - 06:11 PM (#2594838) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said Still sending positive thoughts! |
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22 Mar 09 - 06:25 PM (#2594849) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Fortunato Kendall and friends, I just learned of this when speaking to Sinsull. I'm very sorry and I add my hopes for a positive outcome. cheers, chance |
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22 Mar 09 - 08:53 PM (#2594964) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Goodnight friends. maeve |
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22 Mar 09 - 08:57 PM (#2594969) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie I keep hoping... May you all find the strength to keep on keeping on. |
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23 Mar 09 - 12:36 AM (#2595066) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Can't sleep. Bet it's not just me. We're here. ~S~ |
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23 Mar 09 - 08:05 AM (#2595209) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Still praying and putting up posters. i have enlisted the various religious types of the Sullivan clan to join in the watch. For Meghan's sake, I hope he is found soon. Today's What Is is too painful. |
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23 Mar 09 - 08:52 AM (#2595242) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yes |
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23 Mar 09 - 09:36 AM (#2595271) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Lit a candle, raised the prayers, seems like there should be something else I could do....I'll pass along some extra hugs to all I love today and send each one to all of you. tinker |
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23 Mar 09 - 10:50 AM (#2595326) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 The "Big" search over the weekend turned up nothing. We're still holding. Thanks again for all the good thoughts. |
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23 Mar 09 - 01:06 PM (#2595414) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Becca, The waiting is wearing me out. I can't imagine what it is doing to all of you. Stay strong. Mary |
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23 Mar 09 - 02:32 PM (#2595476) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg And remember that letting go (getting mad, falling asleep in the middle of a sentence, tears, etc.), is also, sometimes, for some people, part of strength. Be gentle with yourselves and take all the room you need, to encompass this impossible thing. ~S~ |
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23 Mar 09 - 05:05 PM (#2595593) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: skarpi Becca , sending lights and thoughts over the ocean. all the best Skarpi |
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23 Mar 09 - 06:49 PM (#2595679) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,saulgoldie Sending my best thoughts and prayers up your way. |
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23 Mar 09 - 07:01 PM (#2595696) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Still holding you all in my thoughts and prayers. Lucy x |
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23 Mar 09 - 08:18 PM (#2595755) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Marie and Joe Meghan, Elaine, Becca, Debba, and Papa Kendall I am watching for updates daily from Rhode Island, I am praying that Ezra is found, safe and sound. I am keeping all of you in my thoughts and hoping that the Police, Coast Guard and all the searchers find him. I love you all so very much, and it pains me that I am here and not there helping you somehow. I sent the post to everyone I know, and hopefully God will hear the prayers of so many. Meghan, keep strong happy thoughts, (I know its hard during this time of unknowing), know that your family and friends far and wide support you right now. Air kisses oxoxoxo (Fern) Marie and Joe |
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23 Mar 09 - 09:09 PM (#2595780) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike may there be a solution to this mystery soon... and a good one, as well.. the not knowing is harder than anything.. hugs to all who wait for news.... |
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23 Mar 09 - 10:15 PM (#2595802) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing C'mon, Mudcat Magic...let's give this an extra boost tonight and tomorrow and give thanks for an immediate solution and, as open mike says, may it be a good one. This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. SO mote it be! Love and hugs to all involved. |
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23 Mar 09 - 10:32 PM (#2595814) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: TRUBRIT Sins just told me of the young man's identity.....Becca, Kendall and Jacqui - my thoughts are with you all...and my love. |
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23 Mar 09 - 10:58 PM (#2595822) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Even when I sleep well, I wake often. When I do, tonight, I'll be thinking of you. ~S~ |
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24 Mar 09 - 06:58 AM (#2595974) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Again we see the new morning, and again renew our hopes. May kindness surround you. maeve |
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24 Mar 09 - 09:06 AM (#2596044) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I have run out of platitudes. This sucks. Pure and simple - this sucks. Maybe anger will be less stressful than grief and fear. |
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24 Mar 09 - 11:48 AM (#2596184) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Still thinking of you and your family. Michelle |
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24 Mar 09 - 12:16 PM (#2596208) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing This might be a good time for one of my favs. when all else has been done: To Ezra: "I fully and freely release you to your highest good." |
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24 Mar 09 - 12:41 PM (#2596232) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I give thanks for and bless the life of Ezra, a person I do not know but who clearly who can inspire such energy of caring and concern. It is always a blessing to have such a one in our midst. ~Susan |
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24 Mar 09 - 02:42 PM (#2596317) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Morse Clan: I love you all, holding Ezra and the rest of you in my heart and soul. Let me know if any of you need anything. |
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24 Mar 09 - 02:52 PM (#2596325) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Kat and Susan, you've brought tears to my eyes. Thank you all so much for your good thoughts. When she's ready I'll pass this all on to Meghan. She is extremely fragile right now, though, and isn't ready to deal with anything more than minute to minute. |
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24 Mar 09 - 03:01 PM (#2596333) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie I just had lunch with Kendall and Jacqui, and gave them a Mudcat hug that I should have told them to pass on to the whole family. Meghan, you are surrounded by light and support in this terrible, terrifying time of uncertainty. Wish we could take this from you. We can't. But we stand with you. Janie |
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24 Mar 09 - 03:41 PM (#2596374) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Becca, thanks, darlin'...sometimes it is the only thing I can think of to do. It can be a tough one, though. We never want to even think about letting go of our loved ones even when they are around, let alone when they are missing. The "highest good" bit eventually sinks in and helps, but it can still be tough. |
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24 Mar 09 - 04:05 PM (#2596391) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 It has been tough, but we are all pretty sure, barring a miracle, what the outcome will be from this one. Letting him go will be a big step to healing our family, when that time comes. I have to share a story. My sister Deb was at Meghan & Ezra's apartment last Wednesday (7 days after he went missing) and went outside for something. When she came back in she happened to look down at the stoop because there was dog shit near it that she was trying to avoid. She found a small silver charm in the shape of a sneaker, which she brought in to Meghan. Meghan said that it had fallen off Ezra's keychain about 2 weeks prior and they'd been looking for it. Deb is adament that it WAS NOT THERE the 4 or 5 other times she passed over that stoop that day, nor was it there for the 2 weeks Meghan and Ezra had been looking. She had looked down each time to make sure she was clear of the poop and there was no charm. I have chosen to take that as a sign that Ezra was checking in on Meghan from where ever he is and while I'm sad he's not here with us, I'm glad to know he's still near is some sense. |
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24 Mar 09 - 04:24 PM (#2596411) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Whooo, thank you, Ezra, blessed be. |
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24 Mar 09 - 04:52 PM (#2596442) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Becca, I can gather from your posts just in this one thread that you will know how to support Meghan, be it via celebration or consolation, as events continue to unfold. Just remember that you, too, can be lifted up, supported, etc., right here-- so that you can be reminded of your own strength even as you expend it. PM anytime, continue to use this thread, or run any other thread-- you will know what you need to do. Don't hesitate to do it. love, ~Susan |
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24 Mar 09 - 04:53 PM (#2596443) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,kendall Becca, we are headed home tomorrow.I can't stay any longer. |
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24 Mar 09 - 08:27 PM (#2596582) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Still sending love, healing and prayers from Cornwall to you all. Keep strong, Lucy x |
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24 Mar 09 - 09:25 PM (#2596619) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Not here but elsewhere, garg. His mother was the first to realize he was gone. Let the family mourn in peace. |
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24 Mar 09 - 11:28 PM (#2596674) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Sharing in the waiting -- waiting for the peace.... Holding all of you close tinker |
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25 Mar 09 - 12:09 AM (#2596692) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Not religious, nor Roman Catholic, but in thinking about this, tonight, and listening to Tom Russell's song, Guadeloupe, (scroll down to it) I find some solace in the words and poignant tune. |
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25 Mar 09 - 08:33 AM (#2596877) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Another day. One day closer to finding Ezra. |
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25 Mar 09 - 09:30 AM (#2596914) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yes. One day closer to bringing him home. ~Susan |
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25 Mar 09 - 06:49 PM (#2597366) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Still thinking, praying and sending healing to you all Much Love, Lucy |
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25 Mar 09 - 07:17 PM (#2597388) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Still holding vigil in North Carolina.... |
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25 Mar 09 - 07:39 PM (#2597404) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear And in California. Peace be with Ezra, and with all who seek him. Once again, I wish that I could do something more than pray and visualize, but so be it. My love to all my dear Maine friends in need of comfort--Kendall, Jacqui and Mary--and my support to you, Becca and Meghan, whom I've not met yet. So sorry for your trouble. Claire |
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25 Mar 09 - 08:03 PM (#2597429) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Becca, Again, I am not religious nor Christian, but I do find this Prayer of Protection by James Dillet Freeman very helpful. One of the astronauts who walked on the moon took it with him. I would substitute "me" with "Ezra." The Light of God surrounds me. The Love of God enfolds me. The Power of God protects me. The Presence of God watches over me. The Mind of God guides me. The Life of God flows through me. The Laws of God direct me. The Power of God abides within me. The Joy of God uplifts me. The Strength of God renews me. The Beauty of God inspires me. Wherever I am, God is! |
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25 Mar 09 - 08:21 PM (#2597441) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz I just found this thread - Kendall, Becca - I'm so sorry to hear this. Somebody earlier said that the waiting and not knowing is extremely tough, and I'd agree. At least with bad news, there's an emotional place to go with it. It's hard to grieve when some are still holding out hope. All my good thoughts are with you, and I hope and pray that you all find good and joyful ways to remember him. Dan |
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25 Mar 09 - 10:49 PM (#2597486) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: TRUBRIT I don't understand why there is no news in the local paper -- no update - nothing? Thinking of you all...... |
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26 Mar 09 - 08:27 AM (#2597669) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Because there is no news, TB. Maybe we need to plan a candlelight vigil in Old Port and get some publicity just to keep Ezra in the public eye. Any thoughts, Becca |
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26 Mar 09 - 09:30 AM (#2597709) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 My sister Elaine (Meghan's mother) called the local news station that covered the original story and asked why there have been no updates. She was told that they are watching the police blotter and there has been no news, therefore nothing to report. |
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26 Mar 09 - 10:07 AM (#2597735) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg And Elaine will know what she needs to do, just as you do, Becca. (It's up to us to just sit back, respect that, and share the wait as calmly as we can.) And we're still here. Take what you need and leave the rest, and know that we're here at your disposal. ~Susan |
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26 Mar 09 - 10:48 AM (#2597763) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Thanks, Becca. No harm in offering suggestions. Sins, a vigil sounds like a good way to keep the attention on this and may be helpful to those involved. Still sending good thoughts and thanks givings from Colorado. |
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26 Mar 09 - 09:50 PM (#2598244) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Thinking of you all. ~S~ |
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27 Mar 09 - 07:49 AM (#2598431) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Micca I am thinking of you all, My Dear friends in Maine, in these troublesome times , and thinking and waiting along with you. Micca |
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27 Mar 09 - 10:03 AM (#2598527) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hollowfox Good thoughts and prayers still flowing from Ohio (as well as $@#!-reduction candles). |
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27 Mar 09 - 01:22 PM (#2598685) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike best wishes to all who are waiting for news abouot Ezra. |
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27 Mar 09 - 01:51 PM (#2598700) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam I keep dropping in to this thread, possibly over hopeful. Still thinking about Ezra and his loved ones. |
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27 Mar 09 - 02:35 PM (#2598728) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Thanks to all for continuing to come back. We still have no news... |
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27 Mar 09 - 02:39 PM (#2598733) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg That's not going to mean we forget that you are all still living it, every day and every night... or that we need updates if there is no news... or anything from you if you just want space. We'll just keep letting you know we are here, holding one end of the line. ~Susan |
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27 Mar 09 - 02:40 PM (#2598734) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu I have not been coming back, simply because I have no words. I check this thread at least a half dozen times a day and the same for Googling Ezra Milan. If I did have words...... |
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27 Mar 09 - 03:21 PM (#2598769) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c We spoke to Meghan on the phone a couple of hours ago. She's holding on but it is hard. We're arranging a family dinner for next week, all coming to our house for the evening. Meghan knows that she can call on us any time, day or night. It is so frustrating to not be able to do anything substantial when someone you love very much is going through so much pain. All we can do is be here for her. |
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27 Mar 09 - 03:51 PM (#2598800) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg It is so frustrating to not be able to do anything substantial when someone you love very much is going through so much pain. All we can do is be here for her. I understand how you feel; I think we all do, here, to the lesser extent that is appropriate for the lesser role/closeness we have... but I want to say this very clearly: You ARE doing something substantial, to stay close to someone you love very much, when they are going through pain. It IS substantial just to be there-- for anyone. I could tell you a million stories where real people have told me, deeply moved, how it mattered in practical ways as well as in "heart"-ways, just to know someone-- even just one person, even just for a moment-- was really there for them. I know that will not stop the powerless-to-help feeling, but remember that support is huge help (and also can mean the supporters need to take occasional, short, step-back breaks). ~Susan |
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27 Mar 09 - 05:53 PM (#2598871) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Nothing to add, just that I check this thread and the news on a daily basis and I hold you all in my thoughts. |
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27 Mar 09 - 06:33 PM (#2598891) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 ***sigh***................I am so sorry to have absolutely no wonderful words of encouragement and compassion. Like most of the rest here I send you all whatever good thoughts I have in the hope that as they pass over Youngstown, Hollowfox can give them an added boost.......... There are some things that life can sometimes bring that no one should have to endure. This is one....... All My Very Best.... Spaw |
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27 Mar 09 - 06:43 PM (#2598899) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Maryrrf Also checking and hoping for resolution. |
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27 Mar 09 - 07:45 PM (#2598931) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Still here... Bobert |
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27 Mar 09 - 09:23 PM (#2598978) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre I'm still here too...thinking of you all. Michelle |
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27 Mar 09 - 11:05 PM (#2598998) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: frogprince I haven't posted to this before; we've had a rough few days here ourselves, with a tragedy involving close friends.(that situation is as least resolved, though painfully). But I have been following this, and my heart is with you. Dean |
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28 Mar 09 - 01:53 AM (#2599038) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve You have my first thought in the morning, my last thought before sleep, and each day more often than I can count. maeve |
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28 Mar 09 - 05:47 AM (#2599091) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said Still hoping, sending positive thoughts! |
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28 Mar 09 - 10:27 AM (#2599223) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Tonight, when the lights go out worldwide, I will light a candle and pray for Ezra's return. As I do every night. |
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28 Mar 09 - 10:46 AM (#2599228) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c This is the latest from the free paper this morning. |
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28 Mar 09 - 10:52 AM (#2599231) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Noted. And still here. ~S~ |
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28 Mar 09 - 10:55 AM (#2599234) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Megan L Aww jacqui my heart cries for that girl and all of you keep putting one foot in front of the other and know that folk are sending all the lovestrength and peace they can find. |
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28 Mar 09 - 11:12 AM (#2599247) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Thanks Jacqui. Still holding Ezra and all of you in my thoughts and prayers. |
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28 Mar 09 - 01:54 PM (#2599332) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D What can we say? Still here, still hoping... Neil and Christina |
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28 Mar 09 - 02:45 PM (#2599368) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,E -Been following since I found out.. endlessly hoping and praying- |
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28 Mar 09 - 04:32 PM (#2599428) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: freda underhill beck,jacqui, kendall and all I too have been reading this thread since it started, hoping for good news. I had a relative go missing fifteen years ago and experienced the tension, anxiety and exhaustion of hoping. freda, thinking of you all the way from sydney |
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28 Mar 09 - 05:54 PM (#2599472) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Sitting still and waiting ... like so many of you it is not the mode that comes most naturally to me ... but I'm checking here daily. And I'm holding all of you in my prayers. Blessings and Light tink .....Thanks for posting the newspaper link |
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28 Mar 09 - 06:03 PM (#2599475) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Ezra will be in my church community's prayers tomorrow, and so will his distressed family and friends. I ache for you all. Claire |
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28 Mar 09 - 07:08 PM (#2599505) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Becca, if you are in contact with Ezra's parents, sibs., etc., and it is appropriate, please pass along to them our care and concern. |
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28 Mar 09 - 09:54 PM (#2599573) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg For those posting their own parallel experiences, I'm thinking of you, too. ~S~ |
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29 Mar 09 - 01:24 PM (#2599893) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Marie and Joe Meghan, Elaine, Becca, Debba and Papa Kendall, Still watching the thread and updates, I am still uncertain as to why the papers are not updating daily or at least every other day. I am still hopeful that Ezra is found, and safe. I pray for the strengh that Meghan needs right now. How she must be suffering inside while trying to remain strong, during this unknowing state of the situation. I love you all very much, and I remain as ever a concerned friend. Air kisses oxoxox Marie and Joe |
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29 Mar 09 - 10:11 PM (#2600150) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike Why was the news about the bridge not included in earlier accounts? Please let this be solved soon! |
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29 Mar 09 - 10:49 PM (#2600165) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Waiting, with you. ~S~ |
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30 Mar 09 - 12:14 AM (#2600191) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: M.Ted I somehow missed this thread--I extend my most positive thoughts and prayers to everyone involved, and I hope for a positive conclusion. |
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30 Mar 09 - 04:57 AM (#2600250) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sandra in Sydney I've also been opening the thread every day, & sending good thoughts sandra |
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30 Mar 09 - 07:49 AM (#2600320) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall There was a piece on Ezra this morning on WGME in Portland.The currents under that bridge are quite strong which makes diving hazardous. |
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30 Mar 09 - 08:10 AM (#2600335) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Still holding you all in my heart. |
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30 Mar 09 - 08:10 AM (#2600336) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Three weeks tomorrow. I keep Meghan in my thoughts and prayers. |
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30 Mar 09 - 08:42 PM (#2600872) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg One day closer. ~S~ |
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30 Mar 09 - 11:20 PM (#2600951) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Celtaddict I did not know. I am so sorry for all who are trying to bear the unbearable. My care and concern and most positive thoughts to all of you. |
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31 Mar 09 - 10:52 AM (#2601288) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Gentle thoughts and supporting care still flowing to you and yours.... Love ya tinker |
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31 Mar 09 - 11:06 AM (#2601305) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL http://www.portlanddailysun.me/cgi/display.cgi?sectionid=100 This is the story in today's Daily Sun. I hope they are wrong. |
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31 Mar 09 - 11:53 AM (#2601347) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 We (the family) have the answers to some of the questions this story asks that have not yet been released to the public. It's part of an ongoing investigation and I, for one, am glad they are not releasing everything to the media. It would make the job of the police much much harder. |
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31 Mar 09 - 12:42 PM (#2601393) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Thank you, Becca. Continuing to wait. maeve |
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31 Mar 09 - 01:34 PM (#2601423) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Thanks, Sins and Becca. It is best, I think, that they do keep some particulars from the public; it will help on the side of justice should the need arise. With thoughts of peace and resolution, kat |
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31 Mar 09 - 06:35 PM (#2601701) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz Ugh - it's all horrible. You are all in my thoughts and care - Geeta's too. Dan |
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31 Mar 09 - 06:57 PM (#2601722) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Nothing more to say. Just letting you know that like so many others, I'm still here. |
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31 Mar 09 - 09:27 PM (#2601793) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yup, around the clock. ~S~ |
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01 Apr 09 - 10:53 AM (#2602226) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Stopping by to leave a morning note: Y'all would be amazed to know just how many people care about Ezra and his family and friends. You are surrounded by love amidst the worry and weariness. maeve |
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01 Apr 09 - 11:41 AM (#2602269) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Exactly what maeve said...there are a lot of us holding your hands, virtually, and lending shoulders to cry on, whatever the need, we'll do our best to help. |
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01 Apr 09 - 11:48 AM (#2602284) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Truer words never spoken. I wait and watch with you. Claire |
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01 Apr 09 - 02:00 PM (#2602420) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL My entire office checks in with me weekly - they are all thinking of Ezra and his family. Still keeping watch here. |
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01 Apr 09 - 04:57 PM (#2602561) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing This chant/song has brought comfort in times past: LISTEN TO MY HEART'S SONG Listen, listen, listen to my heart's song. Listen, listen, listen to my heart's song. I will never forget you, I will never forsake you. I will never forget you, I will never forsake you. |
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01 Apr 09 - 09:15 PM (#2602723) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Dani ... another who checks in daily and thinks of you all. Dani |
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01 Apr 09 - 11:06 PM (#2602763) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie And another. |
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02 Apr 09 - 06:58 AM (#2602929) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Let this morning be full of goodness and light. ~S~ |
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02 Apr 09 - 08:30 AM (#2603007) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL It is raining in Maine, Susan. But goodness prevails. Surrounding Meghan with peace and acceptance. |
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02 Apr 09 - 08:47 AM (#2603018) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yes.... it's total fog here, but I choose to see the light illuminating it; I know it's there, somewhere. I wish its glow for Meghan, and that it make itself clearly visible. ~Susan |
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02 Apr 09 - 09:38 AM (#2603068) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Celtaddict Holding up the light down here too. |
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02 Apr 09 - 10:09 AM (#2603091) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,LilyFestre Still thinking of you & your family with lots of good thoughts and love. Michelle |
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02 Apr 09 - 03:08 PM (#2603348) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Sending the light from the southland of New Jesrsey where the daffodils are beginning to blossom. |
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03 Apr 09 - 01:06 AM (#2603691) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Morning, noon, night, and in between. ~S~ |
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03 Apr 09 - 01:06 AM (#2603692) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing In it for the long haul...though giving thanks it is shortened and answers are forthcoming. In Light and Love, kat & Rog |
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03 Apr 09 - 08:18 AM (#2603814) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Another day, another prayer. |
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03 Apr 09 - 08:35 AM (#2603822) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c We had a family gathering here last night - lots of pasta and lots of laughter, which always is the case when this family gets together. Meghan has a strong, caring family around her and we tried to make sure, last night, that she knows that we are there if she needs us. It's now 24 days since Ezra disappeared with what seems, to us, not a lot of progress. All we can do is wait. |
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03 Apr 09 - 09:46 AM (#2603880) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall She is so tired, but at least she is able to talk about it.I've never felt so helpless.I wrote a letter to the Chief of Police but I don't expect an answer. |
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03 Apr 09 - 11:03 AM (#2603942) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,flyingcat (moira) I've been keeping my eyes on this post in the hope to hear good news. Please pass on my best hopes and wishes to Meghan. Keep strong everyone. Love, moira xx |
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03 Apr 09 - 12:09 PM (#2603973) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: frogprince One heart still with you in Michigan |
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03 Apr 09 - 02:02 PM (#2604031) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Kendall, Meghan is surrounded by women. I will bet it was a huge relief for her to be able to get a bear hug from you and feel as if she were safe just for a short time. |
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03 Apr 09 - 02:07 PM (#2604035) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker still praying and sending love and good thoughts from Cornwall Lucy x |
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03 Apr 09 - 06:49 PM (#2604207) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Andy Jackson And from Wales. Andy |
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03 Apr 09 - 07:32 PM (#2604220) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert There is a passage in Mathew that goes something like this: There are no secrets that one day won't be known... That thought was conveyed by Jesus to Mathew and I have found that to be true in my life... Things do get sorted out... This will get sorted out... Until then, like others I am here... Praying, sending soothing thoughts and waiting... Bobert |
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03 Apr 09 - 07:37 PM (#2604223) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Still sending the best I have..... Spaw |
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03 Apr 09 - 07:50 PM (#2604230) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall Meghan often told me that there are two men in her life who are important. I'm still here. |
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03 Apr 09 - 08:47 PM (#2604267) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Several work mates made a point of telling me that they pray for Ezra daily. Every prayer and good thought helps. |
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03 Apr 09 - 08:57 PM (#2604277) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Still here. Blessings and light for all who love Ezra, as well as for Ezra himself. Especially prayers and comfort for Meghan and Ezra's blood family. |
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04 Apr 09 - 09:56 AM (#2604488) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg What an eerie feeling, knowing that for me, it's a new morning, and for Meghan (and others), it probably isn't. From that sense, I hope for the family's respite: A laugh in the day. A moment of thinking of something-- anything-- else. An encounter with people who have no idea about any of this, and who thus have "other" conversation to share. A break of any kind. A chance to breathe. And with respite or without-- we're still here. ~Susan |
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04 Apr 09 - 01:50 PM (#2604624) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike checking in and sending my daily hug to Meghan and all involved. |
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04 Apr 09 - 02:30 PM (#2604652) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: KT I've been out of town and just now checking back in ~ Ezra and all of his family are in my daily thoughts and prayers. Wishing peace for all of you. KT |
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04 Apr 09 - 09:21 PM (#2604815) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Night comes. Still thinking of you all. maeve |
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04 Apr 09 - 11:12 PM (#2604847) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,E not a day goes by... |
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05 Apr 09 - 12:00 AM (#2604871) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg As I close my day, I find myself wanting to hear all the wonderful things about Ezra. ~S~ |
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05 Apr 09 - 09:15 AM (#2605015) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: freda underhill still here and sending my hope to you, a sense of hope to keep going through this painful mystery. freda |
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05 Apr 09 - 12:29 PM (#2605083) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Every day begins with a prayer for Meghan and the hope that today we will find Ezra. As young as she is, Meghan is no one's fool, a very bright and independent woman. She has the strength to handle this and the friends and family to see her through it. |
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05 Apr 09 - 01:06 PM (#2605098) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall Sure she's my blood kin but I still must declare that she knows more than some whole families. |
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05 Apr 09 - 07:23 PM (#2605284) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Still praying for news, good thoughts and love to you all. Lucy x |
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05 Apr 09 - 07:42 PM (#2605295) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Into the evening..... Ezra. ~Susan |
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05 Apr 09 - 08:14 PM (#2605317) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Under the starry sky, standing with you all tink |
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05 Apr 09 - 08:27 PM (#2605333) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Joe and Marie Still watching and waiting and praying for Meghan and the whole family. I know you are all being as comforting to Meghan as you all can be. Just know I am there with you all in thought. Rhode Island is praying. Air kisses to alloxoxooxoxo Marie (Fern) and Joe |
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06 Apr 09 - 03:32 AM (#2605460) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said Still hoping and sending positive thoughts and love, Hil |
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06 Apr 09 - 08:54 AM (#2605563) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg There's this simple little lens called Mudcat where all the pain in the universe intersects with all the goodness in the universe. That lens is aimed at Ezra's people, beaming love and strength into the heart of grief, worry, and heartache. ~Susan |
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06 Apr 09 - 03:27 PM (#2605863) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Janie Just checking in to let you know still holding all of you in my heart. |
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06 Apr 09 - 06:05 PM (#2605986) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert~ |
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06 Apr 09 - 11:26 PM (#2606188) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Good night, Meghan. I hope this night brings refreshing sleep full of happy memories. ~S~ |
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07 Apr 09 - 12:57 AM (#2606219) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Its snowing here in Ohio.........Maybe it means a change will be coming soon in Maine as well.........Best.... Spaw |
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07 Apr 09 - 08:22 AM (#2606393) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Heavy rains and winds yesterday and last night. Maybe bringing a sea change and news. |
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07 Apr 09 - 09:45 AM (#2606462) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Donuel Its snowing cherry blossoms here in DC. A hard freeze is expected tonight. There were not enough bees or insects to pollinate the pear trees. The magnolia trees will be done before they fully bloom. Hyacinths fill the air. Good thoughts of a better year ahead are with you. |
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07 Apr 09 - 01:24 PM (#2606640) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Becca and family...you are in my thoughts every day. |
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07 Apr 09 - 03:26 PM (#2606740) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 It is 4 weeks tonight/tomorrow and we have not had any news in almost 2 weeks. It is very frustrating. Thank you all for continuing to check in and share your good thoughts. I wish I had something to tell you. |
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07 Apr 09 - 04:20 PM (#2606791) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Ah ain't aimin' to quit, neether. ~S~ |
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07 Apr 09 - 04:25 PM (#2606795) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Jeri I keep reading this thread and hoping. Haven't been able to think of anything intelligent or helpful to say, but y'all are in my thoughts. |
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07 Apr 09 - 04:26 PM (#2606797) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL None of us are, Becca. We will keep this going until Ezra is found. |
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07 Apr 09 - 04:29 PM (#2606805) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Waiting of this kind is so hard; we hope to carry some of the load, Becca. maeve |
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07 Apr 09 - 04:45 PM (#2606829) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz We all wish you had something to tell us too. We are with you all in this time of uncertainty. Dan |
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07 Apr 09 - 05:33 PM (#2606858) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: georgeward Becca, Kendall, Jacqui, I've been following this thread since I came late to it a few days ago. I can add nothing to what others have said, except that there's another person out here keeping you in his thoughts and hopes. - George |
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07 Apr 09 - 08:30 PM (#2606976) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 And I know you can add George as another who is now here for the duration! Spaw |
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07 Apr 09 - 11:17 PM (#2607061) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Night shift punching in. Not that this is routine-- anything but. ~S~ |
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08 Apr 09 - 08:44 AM (#2607251) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Sunshine this morning. Hope it brightened Meghan's world a bit. One day at a time... |
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08 Apr 09 - 08:47 AM (#2607256) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Sunshine, yes- and honey-scented snowdrops are blooming. Thinking of you, Meghan and all. maeve |
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08 Apr 09 - 08:51 AM (#2607259) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I carry Ezra and Meghan around in my heart while I'm doing all the crazy-busies my life includes. ~Susan |
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08 Apr 09 - 12:02 PM (#2607388) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Thinking of Ezra and Meghan and all of us who watch and wait. Still here. Claire |
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08 Apr 09 - 12:27 PM (#2607402) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike still here, waiting in solidarity with all Ezra's loved ones.... take a deep breath...and hope for resolution soon.... (((((Ezra's family and friends))))) |
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08 Apr 09 - 12:28 PM (#2607403) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Watching a few snowflakes gently fall here in New Jersey. Keeping you softly held in warm thoughts and prayers tinker |
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08 Apr 09 - 05:02 PM (#2607579) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SussexCarole So sorry that we have both missed this thread until tonight. We both send our love to you all. Carole & Andrew xxxxxxxx |
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08 Apr 09 - 06:30 PM (#2607665) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Jason and I still have you all in our thoughts. |
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08 Apr 09 - 08:46 PM (#2607731) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D Still hoping |
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09 Apr 09 - 08:57 AM (#2607968) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Good morning. ~S~ |
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09 Apr 09 - 05:58 PM (#2608309) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said More positive thoughts, Hil |
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10 Apr 09 - 01:29 AM (#2608488) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Hugs, ~Susan |
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10 Apr 09 - 08:36 AM (#2608613) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg [no words] ~Susan |
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10 Apr 09 - 11:17 AM (#2608676) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I spoke with Deb, Becca's sister, yesterday. The family is following this thread and grateful for the support.There is nothing new from the police. And so they wait. What a hard way to learn patience. I pray every day for Ezra's return. |
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10 Apr 09 - 11:22 AM (#2608682) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu I read this thread every time I see a new post. I wish I had words others have not posted. All I have are my thoughts and prayers. |
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10 Apr 09 - 04:27 PM (#2608857) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Light still shining... |
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10 Apr 09 - 04:37 PM (#2608863) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve I plant seeds, and think of you all. There are uncounted possibilities in tomorrow. maeve |
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10 Apr 09 - 05:59 PM (#2608911) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,flyingcat (moira) I look in every day to check for news, best thoughts,love, moira & Malc (UK) |
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10 Apr 09 - 08:04 PM (#2608960) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert~ |
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10 Apr 09 - 08:23 PM (#2608967) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall Still no reply from the Chief of Police. |
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10 Apr 09 - 09:15 PM (#2608984) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Not even a phone call? That's odd to me. Guess I am a backwoods boy... with some manners. |
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10 Apr 09 - 09:38 PM (#2608988) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Then again, maybe that Chief has to play by a set of rules different than me. Again, I have no words. |
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10 Apr 09 - 10:08 PM (#2608997) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Captain, if he has news it will go to Meghan first. There are very few times when things are completely out of our control. When it happens, it is hard and frustrating. Keep Meghan close and safe. For now, that is all you can do. SINS, who has waited. |
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10 Apr 09 - 11:06 PM (#2609014) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Barry Finn I keep looking in & hoping for good news too. I'll keep hoping along with the all the rest. My Best to all concerned Barry |
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11 Apr 09 - 05:41 AM (#2609105) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Good morning, Meghan and those who love her. We're still here with you. maeve |
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11 Apr 09 - 07:12 AM (#2609138) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Many more than 300 people are hoping, thinking, praying, remembering. maeve |
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11 Apr 09 - 10:28 AM (#2609186) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Ezra's story has touched so many people all over the world. Here in Maine, I have several women who keep asking me for news - they are terrified every time one of their sons goes out the door. And they pray every day for Meghan. My days start and end with a prayer for Ezra's return. It has to happen. It will happen. |
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11 Apr 09 - 10:36 AM (#2609190) Subject: Abrazos: Praying without Ceasing From: wysiwyg To Meghan and family, As a number of posts have indicated, some folks watching this thread closely do not post every time they look in. The following is an example of what I know a lot of us mean by "watching closely." Thanks are not needed-- just, wrap yourself in the knowledge of the energy this little "Mudcat lens" directs your way. With me, it may mean that as I go through the 3 hours of my (newly diabetic) husband's Good Friday services trying to make sure he eats when he needs to, leading a meditation of my own during the service and recording the service for an intern, plus the 2 added hours to re-set the church for the Easter Vigil while a homeless drop-in scares the heck out of the volunteers working hard after their 3-hour service participation, while I teach the volunteers about how helping is done and help the parish secretary get help for the homeless lady-- I'm also thinking of [praying for/sending good thoughts for/sending love and concern to family of/sending gratitude and strength for law enforcement about] Ezra. And Meghan. And Becca. And Kendall. Knowing that no matter how tired my legs, my feet, my mind-- THEY are tired beyond measure. It means that while I have a zillion things to do to get ready for a Monday biztrip, and another zillion things to do, tomorrow, instead of trip prep, to stand with folks and hour away in THEIR crisis, I'll also be thinking about Ezra. It means that during the travel for the biztrip.... the biz meetings... setting up the camper to be near the meetings..... etcetcetc.... at the Racism Commission meeting that will end the bizweek's biztrip..... Ezra. No matter what I am doing-- because I know that his family does not have the luxury nor has yet given themselves, probably, permission, to think of anything else, waking or sleeping, while they also have routine daycrap to deal with. You folks don't get a break-- neither do we who are standing with you. ~Susan |
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11 Apr 09 - 03:38 PM (#2609336) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Well, the hardest work I did today was a Yoga class. Picture me in three legged doggie pose with leg raised as far it would go behind me and my mind in terror that either I would fart and disgrace myself or not be able to get up. You know me, Morses. I love you all dearly and hope this bit of humor brightens the way a bit. Namaste, Mary |
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11 Apr 09 - 06:13 PM (#2609403) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall The questions I asked the Chief are not something that he would tell Meghan about. |
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11 Apr 09 - 10:44 PM (#2609498) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Still here. Janie |
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11 Apr 09 - 10:49 PM (#2609500) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Sitting quiet,praying,loving, waiting...... tinker |
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12 Apr 09 - 12:57 AM (#2609520) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Most of us are still here although not always posing every time. We love you all and hold onto good thoughts for your family and a good outcome. And somebody give Sinsull a Fire Hydrant..... Spaw |
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12 Apr 09 - 12:47 PM (#2609713) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Happy Easter, Morses. |
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12 Apr 09 - 01:06 PM (#2609724) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Peeking in again & still thinking of you and your family. Michelle |
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12 Apr 09 - 01:27 PM (#2609728) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam still here, still hoping |
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12 Apr 09 - 02:48 PM (#2609769) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Dani .... sent you all prayers from the beautiful early morning Easter vigil. May your vigil bear fruit of love and light. Dani |
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12 Apr 09 - 04:38 PM (#2609817) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Easter prayers for Ezra at my church too, at all three services. Standing with you. Love and strength. Claire |
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12 Apr 09 - 08:05 PM (#2609906) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Peaceful sleep to you. maeve |
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12 Apr 09 - 11:55 PM (#2609964) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Celtaddict A day of renewal and of hope; here are my wishes too for hope and renewal for all who love and care about Ezra. Peace. Peace will come. |
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13 Apr 09 - 08:15 AM (#2610098) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I was describing my yoga class to people at work - the Table, The Three-legged Dog, Greeting the Sun, The Tree. They asked if the three-legged dog peed on the tree. I went back to my desk. My password at work is about Ezra. I start every work day with a prayer for him and end it with a wish for peace for Meghan. |
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13 Apr 09 - 09:00 AM (#2610117) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Like I said, you need a hydrant.......THEN they'd respect you! Still hanging in with all the rest. Best thoughts..... Spaw |
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13 Apr 09 - 09:07 AM (#2610118) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 My sisters, brothers-in-law and I spent the day with Meghan yesterday. It was a very good day all things considered. She's an extremely bright young woman with a good head on her shoulders. I just wish we had some answers, if for no other reason than so that she can get on with the next phase. Not knowing is driving us all crazy. |
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13 Apr 09 - 09:16 AM (#2610122) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg One day closer. ~S~ |
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13 Apr 09 - 09:24 AM (#2610128) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Becca... still in my thoughts and prayers. |
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13 Apr 09 - 05:24 PM (#2610447) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Nancy King I had somehow missed this thread until Dan called it to my attention. What a horrible situation! Like everyone else, I fervently wish there was something I could do to help, but all I can think of is keeping Ezra and his family in my thoughts, and I surely am doing that! Becca, Kendall, Jacqui, Meghan -- here's one more source of positive thoughts coming your way. Love to you all, Nancy |
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13 Apr 09 - 07:51 PM (#2610564) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Still checking in daily here to see if there is any news. Love and prayers for a resolution and a hand to hold through it all from Cornwall. Lucy x |
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13 Apr 09 - 08:10 PM (#2610578) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert~ |
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13 Apr 09 - 10:01 PM (#2610640) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Charley Noble All too sad. I had seen some of the stories in the Portland papers and some of the posters but had not made the connection to this thread. Waiting for answers in a situation like this is the pits. Charley Noble |
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13 Apr 09 - 10:41 PM (#2610663) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Here. ~S~ |
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14 Apr 09 - 12:55 AM (#2610699) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: georgeward Still here in hope. - G |
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14 Apr 09 - 06:20 AM (#2610801) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sandra in Sydney checking in after a week @ a festival. love from sandra |
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14 Apr 09 - 07:45 AM (#2610847) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Morning prayer said. |
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14 Apr 09 - 08:00 AM (#2610856) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: freda underhill thinking of you all x freda |
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14 Apr 09 - 05:21 PM (#2611242) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Skivee My thoughts are with you all. DCraig |
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14 Apr 09 - 05:37 PM (#2611253) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike i check here several times for every once i post... wishing there will soon be news.... and closure.... |
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14 Apr 09 - 09:38 PM (#2611382) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Here and now; peace. maeve |
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15 Apr 09 - 06:36 AM (#2611540) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Sun is up; sky is blue with a tinge of pink. Good morning. |
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15 Apr 09 - 12:34 PM (#2611773) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST Still waiting. Still hoping. Still praying. Still here. |
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15 Apr 09 - 02:12 PM (#2611835) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Been away from home, but Ezra "et al" still in my heart. ~S~ |
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15 Apr 09 - 05:58 PM (#2611978) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,E still here, checking in every day- hoping and praying.. |
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15 Apr 09 - 07:26 PM (#2612028) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie M i s s i n g -Early in every morn', when suns light the rooms of this house, you are here- here, inside pictures on the wall- here in the silence of memories. Your movements are felt inside us, and we reach out to find you against gray walls, undivided, sensing your smile all around us, when thinking your name. There are those who walk with you, as angels in the dark... angels will find you, by your whisper. And always with you, they watch over you. And sometimes in the early light of morn', they gather to the shore of every ocean, looking out to the tall white waves, that come in their calling, and together, chant prayers for the missing, that may you find a sense of comfort there. You are lost, but not far from the single quiet whisper of hope, nor from the eyes of angels, and hearts of those, who still come to the silent waves, in wait of light's flicker... watching from the shore. You, are not alone. By David Culver Found at http://butterfly36109.tripod.com |
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15 Apr 09 - 08:17 PM (#2612060) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Beautiful, Janie. Thank you. |
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16 Apr 09 - 08:56 AM (#2612348) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Still here. |
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16 Apr 09 - 10:14 AM (#2612376) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Me too. ~S~ |
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16 Apr 09 - 10:16 AM (#2612378) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 G'd Mornin' Group....... Spaw |
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16 Apr 09 - 11:31 AM (#2612443) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: frogprince Checking daily for any word, and wishing strength and peace for your family. |
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16 Apr 09 - 11:53 AM (#2612465) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Another day to stand in the light, hear the breeze whispering through the fir branches, see the drift of cherry blossom, breathe a prayer, and wait... |
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16 Apr 09 - 08:41 PM (#2612812) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike Bringing this thread back up to the top of the list... and continuing to hope for strength and peace for all of Ezra's loved ones. |
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16 Apr 09 - 10:34 PM (#2612861) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Joined textually But mostly by hearts beating Strangers send love, peace. ~S~ |
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16 Apr 09 - 11:01 PM (#2612868) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Restlessly preparing for bed and sending a prayer off through cyber space .... waiting, remembering, loving.... |
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17 Apr 09 - 01:30 AM (#2612895) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Barry Finn G'nite "Dreams are sometimes the only peacefull places where we can talk to those that can't hear us durning the waking hours" (me) All my best, still Barry |
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17 Apr 09 - 05:49 AM (#2612979) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: freda underhill when one person is missing, the whole world is empty. |
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17 Apr 09 - 06:21 AM (#2612982) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: David C. Carter Hope,love and positive thoughts. David France Wish I could say it better but.... Love |
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17 Apr 09 - 07:57 AM (#2613018) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Another day. Still here. |
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17 Apr 09 - 08:26 AM (#2613034) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 We just passed week 5 and still no word. Meghan returns to work today. I think the routine will do her good. |
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17 Apr 09 - 08:36 AM (#2613042) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg [no words] ~S~ |
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17 Apr 09 - 10:38 AM (#2613104) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL You're right Becca. The first step into the next phase of her life. Damn, this must be so hard for her. |
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17 Apr 09 - 10:40 AM (#2613105) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Truly. |
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17 Apr 09 - 12:22 PM (#2613174) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg From all I have heard of Ezra, I am sure that he would want Meghan to be kind to herself, to do whatever it takes to be as strong as she can be, to be happy, and to have as many good things in her life as she is able to have. I am sure that returning to work will not FEEL like any of that.... because the heart says that it's never the "right time." But support for her, here, will still mark the passage of this waiting, even as she gets back into the routine. May she always find us right here, ready with a fresh word of encouragement. ~Susan |
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17 Apr 09 - 03:14 PM (#2613316) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Still sending love and healing thoughts to all, holding your hands and praying. feel helpless but its the best I can offer :0( Cheers, Lucy x |
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17 Apr 09 - 03:36 PM (#2613338) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Liz the Squeak There comes a time that no matter what the circumstances, life must return to its normal pattern. I hope someone is watching over Meghan, making sure she takes care of herself as she spends her energy watching for Ezra. (((hugs))) LTS |
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17 Apr 09 - 05:16 PM (#2613405) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert |
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17 Apr 09 - 06:15 PM (#2613451) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,suzi What WYSIWYG said...... luv and hugs. Suzi. x |
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18 Apr 09 - 05:38 AM (#2613693) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Good morning. ~S~ |
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18 Apr 09 - 10:09 AM (#2613782) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Familiar routines and some new horizons lie ahead. Good morning, Meghan. maeve |
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18 Apr 09 - 03:28 PM (#2613993) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: AllisonA(Animaterra) I don't post here often, but not a day goes by without a check-in, and a loving thought and prayer for Meghan and the whole network of family and friends hoping and waiting. Allison |
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18 Apr 09 - 07:35 PM (#2614124) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL And Good night. Rest easy Meghan. One day at a time; one step at a time. |
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18 Apr 09 - 07:56 PM (#2614133) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D Just home from the hospital and checking in,still in our thoughts. Neil and Christina |
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18 Apr 09 - 08:13 PM (#2614140) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Neil.... how are things with youse? |
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18 Apr 09 - 08:18 PM (#2614143) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,winterbright Just because I don't post daily doesn't mean you're not in my thoughts. Continued prayers... |
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18 Apr 09 - 08:32 PM (#2614147) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert |
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19 Apr 09 - 12:09 AM (#2614216) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Thought of you today as I cleaned up the garden. Still checking in, still praying, waiting in community. tink |
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19 Apr 09 - 04:10 AM (#2614257) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D Gnu, Hangin' in there. Doing well actually. Hope all is well wit youse too. |
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19 Apr 09 - 04:37 AM (#2614269) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said Still sending positive thoughts! |
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19 Apr 09 - 11:39 AM (#2614392) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Been away, but still "here." ~Susan |
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19 Apr 09 - 12:03 PM (#2614411) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL A kayaker was lost in Casco Bay right around the time Ezra disappeared. His body had been found. I pray the sea is willing to give us back Ezra as well. |
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19 Apr 09 - 12:24 PM (#2614434) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall I'm no longer convinced that the sea has him. |
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19 Apr 09 - 02:20 PM (#2614497) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Nor, I, Kendall. I haven't *felt* water ever for him. |
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19 Apr 09 - 02:37 PM (#2614507) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Still here, just can't always post. maeve |
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19 Apr 09 - 07:44 PM (#2614688) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz The other night my son asked to see the video of Kendall singing "Let the Lower Lights Be Burning." As I listened it watched I thought of Ezra, and it brought tears to my eyes. Dan |
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19 Apr 09 - 08:27 PM (#2614705) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Love and Light. Janie |
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19 Apr 09 - 08:30 PM (#2614706) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL The letter "D" in fancy script keeps working its way into my thoughts. From the beginning I knew he did not disappear at Dimillo's or the pizza place. He walked towards home. Danforth Street maybe? Or the big "D" in Damn it! |
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19 Apr 09 - 09:28 PM (#2614728) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Kendall or Becca, Would it be too painful to share some anecdotes regarding Ezra to give an idea of who he is? In one sense, it does not matter at all. On the otherhand, it would good to be able to have some sense, however limited, of the "suchness" of him to focus on in the mind and heart. |
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19 Apr 09 - 10:32 PM (#2614752) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Celtaddict Meghan, Becca, Kendall, and all. We are still holding all of you in the light. |
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20 Apr 09 - 04:50 AM (#2614841) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Good morning, Kendall, Meghan, Becca - Here's another new beginning with birds singing wildly outside. Pink violets and bloodroot's white stars are in bloom. Love, maeve |
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20 Apr 09 - 05:05 AM (#2614845) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam I haven't said much up until now. I am approaching anniversary of loss of my daughter and very recently a friend (another catter who shall be nameless) lost his son. So I am breaking my self-imposed decision to keep my thougts minimal. Why is it so hard to cope with the loss of a young person? Historically, it is not so long ago that many children often did not survive their parents. Illness, accidents, wars took them. I wonder, were parents better prepared for such circumstances a hundred years ago? I should say having had a dream some 2+years after my daughter's death that she had just disappeared, it felt worse than knowing she had died. The not knowing what had happened to her was more than I could bear. So - I am still checking, still hoping for resolution, still hurting in concert with you all. |
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20 Apr 09 - 01:07 PM (#2614931) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Here, even when the Cat is down. ~Susan |
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20 Apr 09 - 06:13 PM (#2615178) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg (((VT))) ~S~ |
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20 Apr 09 - 07:08 PM (#2615206) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Goodnight to all who are hurting. That common pain opens hearts to compassion. maeve |
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20 Apr 09 - 07:26 PM (#2615218) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall Janie, he was a young man of mixed race. Good looking, well built, attractive, well spoken. He worked as a manager of a local sports shop. He worked when he was supposed to and was quite trustworthy. Whenever I needed help he was right here and he refused to take any payment. His only crime was being a young man in the wrong place at the wrong time. I still haven't gotten a reply from the Chief of Police. |
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20 Apr 09 - 08:18 PM (#2615251) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Continuing to peek in and think of you & your family daily. Michelle |
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20 Apr 09 - 09:22 PM (#2615285) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Janie, Meghan and Ezra married very young and learned most of their lessons the hard way. They came through the hard times together with intelligence and dignity. Things were finally all falling into place for them. They had their own home, good jobs, and a good future together. I don't even remember what I needed done. Ezra showed up with Meghan and her brother Thomas and his girlfriend. All young and beautiful and decent. All willing to help. Maybe they delivered the futon from Kendall and Jacqui's. I spent very little time with him and Meghan - and always at Morse gatherings. I was always struck by their maturity and dignity - a strange word to use but the only one that fits. They had fun and laughed and were young but there was always a maturity far beyond their years. I wish I understood what has happened. Mary |
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20 Apr 09 - 10:09 PM (#2615310) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Good night, all. ~Susan |
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20 Apr 09 - 11:44 PM (#2615367) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Thanks Kendall and Sins. Even knowing that little bit will help to hold a more vivid and personal image of each of them in my mind and heart. |
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21 Apr 09 - 08:08 AM (#2615529) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Kendall posted this a few years back: This is a sample of her (Meghan's) writing. She wrote this when she was not yet a teen ager. Little Girl I saw the eyes of an old woman In the young face of a child. It was experienced and knew much Though tender, pained and mild. I saw the posture of a weakened woman In a body that had known a sad childhood. She carried herself without meaning Following orders without thinking if she should. I saw the strength of a warrior In a heart that knew only to survive. It brought itself to face each day And yet it was barely alive. I saw the spirit of an aged soldier Inside the lost soul of a mere baby. It had fought many battles And now it was crying "save me". I saw a little girl Who had grown up far too fast. She had already lived her life Though she barely had a past I saw all this, And it broke my heart to see. And then I looked a little closer And saw the little girl was me. |
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21 Apr 09 - 08:33 AM (#2615544) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall That still gives me goose bumps. |
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21 Apr 09 - 08:44 AM (#2615552) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL What i know of Ezra I know through Meghan. When they were together she was still that little girl in an elegant woman's body.Ezra was her match. Janie will understand what I am saying. |
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21 Apr 09 - 09:26 AM (#2615569) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Ezra would drop everything to help any of us in a heartbeat, as has been said. The one thing I want to add is to watch them together, when he looked at Meghan he absolutely adored her and everyone in the room could feel it. |
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21 Apr 09 - 10:09 AM (#2615592) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL I know I am not explaining this well but Meghan and Ezra together have a maturity and dignity all wrapped up in an almost childlike innocence. Neither would ever willingly leave the other. |
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21 Apr 09 - 12:49 PM (#2615602) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve You've all three expressed it beautifully. I thank you for your efforts, Kendall, Becca, and Mary. maeve |
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21 Apr 09 - 01:28 PM (#2615640) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall Life is trouble. Only death is not...(Zorba the Greek) |
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21 Apr 09 - 11:27 PM (#2616105) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Night, all. ~Susan |
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22 Apr 09 - 08:00 AM (#2616221) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Another day; another prayer. |
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22 Apr 09 - 08:39 AM (#2616233) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve In spite of the rain or because of it, I wish you a very good morning. maeve |
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22 Apr 09 - 09:08 AM (#2616242) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Sunny, breezy spring day here is drying the ground out from yesterday's rains. ~Susan |
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22 Apr 09 - 11:49 AM (#2616319) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Nancy King Still thinking of you all, and hoping for the best possible outcome. Nancy |
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22 Apr 09 - 12:20 PM (#2616345) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: freda underhill Thanks, Kendall and Sinsull, for the words about Ezra, and Meghan. He sounds a wonderful young man. Meghan's poem is all the more powerful and relevant in consideration of the tragedy she is experiencing. freda 2.19 a.m. sydney time |
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22 Apr 09 - 09:42 PM (#2616686) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Sleep well, ~Susan |
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23 Apr 09 - 08:33 AM (#2616893) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Another day... |
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23 Apr 09 - 09:15 AM (#2616915) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg We'll be away several days, but thinking of Meghan's peace. ~Susan |
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23 Apr 09 - 12:59 PM (#2617076) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker The moment we choose to love we begin to move against domination, against oppression. The moment we choose to love we begin to move towards freedom, to act in ways that liberate ourselves and others. That action is the testimony of love as the practice of freedom" Routledge Saw this quote today and thought about Megan and Ezra. Thought about finding freedom in the current situation for Ezra, for Megan and for all who love them... Still pondering |
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23 Apr 09 - 08:59 PM (#2617412) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie All is connected in the great web of creation. Strengh and peace. Janie |
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23 Apr 09 - 09:13 PM (#2617423) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 And another night arrives and I keep thinking that the older I get, the less I understand.........Best thoughts still in the air Spaw |
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23 Apr 09 - 10:05 PM (#2617444) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike another day closer to finding out ..... and closure.... |
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24 Apr 09 - 04:08 AM (#2617588) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said Still sending positive thoughts and hoping! |
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24 Apr 09 - 06:04 AM (#2617629) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Light returns; good morning. maeve |
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24 Apr 09 - 08:03 AM (#2617688) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Maybe today we will find him. |
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24 Apr 09 - 10:08 PM (#2618256) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie Heartfelt... |
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25 Apr 09 - 11:10 AM (#2618501) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike another day....best wishes to all who wait... |
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25 Apr 09 - 11:40 AM (#2618514) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL And we wait... |
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25 Apr 09 - 08:24 PM (#2618777) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Marie and Joe Checking in on any new developments. Its been weeks and I am trying to figure out why the Police are not doing any updates at all? How is Meghan and Elaine doing? Pop Kendall how are you holding up? Becca and Deb?? Haven't heard from you in a while. Keeping the prayers going, and hoping that Ezra is found. Air kisses to you all.. oxoxoxo Marie |
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26 Apr 09 - 10:22 AM (#2618979) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 We haven't received any news in about 4 weeks. I wish I had something different to report, but there you have it. |
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26 Apr 09 - 10:46 AM (#2618985) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Thank you, Becca. maeve |
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26 Apr 09 - 11:37 AM (#2619017) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike hugs and holding hands ..... in solidarity .... |
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26 Apr 09 - 11:44 AM (#2619020) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Becca and family, a question? Would it be better to let this thread go away for a small bit? NOT that we would stop caring and thinking, but I was wondering if it causes more grief and discouragement seeing it at the top every day? Just a thought...we could all of us let it go for a bit and wait for further word from you. Again, I am NOT suggesting we let any of our care go, just what may be a painful reminder of the lack of any news. With concern, kat |
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26 Apr 09 - 12:02 PM (#2619037) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie I've been wondering the same thing, Kat. |
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26 Apr 09 - 01:36 PM (#2619100) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Kat, I have family (who do not belong to the Cat) who check in daily to read the words of care and encouragement. It isn't taken as a painful reminder but as an expression of support so no worries there. While I read the thread daily, I don't contribute much simply because of the lack of new information. I'm fine with whatever happens (whether the thread drops off or stays up top). |
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26 Apr 09 - 03:03 PM (#2619156) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Thanks for that, Becca. I appreciate your letting us know and will proceed accordingly. Much care and good thoughts from Colorado to all who wait and wonder. May there be Light. |
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26 Apr 09 - 03:53 PM (#2619193) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I think of this thread as one of those "I'll never forget" bracelets. And I know it means a lot to others whose families have suffered a loss. Saying I will not forget just isn't quite the same as posting to say so. As long as we post, the family do not need to assume we care-- they can know for sure just be looking in. ~S~ |
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26 Apr 09 - 04:05 PM (#2619205) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu I know that all the Maineacs know I care, even tho I post seldom. As I said before, I check this thread every time I see there has been a new post and I (less often now) Google to see if there has been anything in the news. I know many others do the same. Continued thougts and prayers. |
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27 Apr 09 - 03:12 AM (#2619337) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Andy Jackson Well I check in every single day. I don't know any of the people involved personally but they are an important part of the Mudcat family and having a son myself I can only guess what they are all going through. I have nothing to add by constant posting but I like to see the thread still at the top. Good wishes, Andy |
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27 Apr 09 - 07:28 AM (#2619456) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam It was a brilliant idea to ask the family to post descriptions and stories about Ezra. 4 years on (tomorrow is deathiversary) and I still want to tell about Andie. I want new people to know her and love her. And yes I find it very comforting 9and upsetting) to go into Live Journal and other websites that post memory pages for her. While I am able to learn more about her through friends tellings I am reassured that they are still thinking of her and missing her. So may this thread reassure and comfort Ezra's family and friends. |
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27 Apr 09 - 08:35 AM (#2619514) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve I'm still here. maeve |
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27 Apr 09 - 02:44 PM (#2619806) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Me too. |
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27 Apr 09 - 04:03 PM (#2619880) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,flyingcat (moira) me to fromacross the pond xx |
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27 Apr 09 - 06:02 PM (#2619975) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Polly Squeezebox I've never posted on this thread before, but thought I'd let you know that I too check back every day hoping for positive news and holding Ezra's loving family in my thoughts. Sending brightest of blessings and Reiki energy your way. Polly |
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27 Apr 09 - 06:50 PM (#2620009) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Time for sleep. May your dreams bring joy, and your sleep sweet peace. maeve |
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27 Apr 09 - 07:05 PM (#2620022) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Im still here too, waiting, hoping, praying......... Love, Peace, Healing and Light to all the family. Lucy x |
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27 Apr 09 - 07:14 PM (#2620028) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hollowfox Just a note to let you all know that good thoughts and the @#$!-reduction candle series continues here in Ohio. |
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27 Apr 09 - 07:45 PM (#2620050) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert |
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27 Apr 09 - 08:11 PM (#2620072) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: frogprince and Dean. |
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27 Apr 09 - 08:14 PM (#2620074) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Barry Finn I'm still wishing & hoping Barry |
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27 Apr 09 - 08:41 PM (#2620083) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Me too. Peace. Rest. Light. Claire |
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27 Apr 09 - 09:19 PM (#2620101) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Good Night. |
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28 Apr 09 - 06:49 AM (#2620330) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Another warm, sunny day on the way here. May the birds sing for Ezra, Meghan and family. |
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28 Apr 09 - 12:53 PM (#2620563) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Good days and good thoughts......... Spaw |
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28 Apr 09 - 02:20 PM (#2620611) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Been thinking boutcha all. You too VT. ~Susan |
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28 Apr 09 - 02:58 PM (#2620631) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Fair winds,clear skies and distant views.... Watching, waiting and weaving Memories and new days Continuing onward Together |
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28 Apr 09 - 03:17 PM (#2620649) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam Thank you Susan. I have not fallen into the pit of despair (so far). I can still come into this thread and hope with all the other good folk. I am feeling relatively strong which is unusual and makes me feel a bit guilty. I suppose I should be doing week long weeping as I have done every year until this one. I truly think Mudcat helps me focus less on my own sadness. Max should bottle this stuff. He could make a fortune, as it is a very addictive tonic. Love and peace to Kendall and Becca and Jacqui and Meaghan and all the friends. |
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28 Apr 09 - 04:13 PM (#2620686) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 And the same back to you, VT. |
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29 Apr 09 - 07:41 AM (#2621106) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Ezra's picture is on my desk; his name is part of my password. I start every day with the hope that today will bring some answers and some peace to Meghan. To you too, Ms. Tam. |
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29 Apr 09 - 08:02 AM (#2621114) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Meghan's 23rd birthday is Friday. |
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29 Apr 09 - 08:10 AM (#2621118) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve That will be a hard day. I know you will all be loving her through the laughter and tears of the day. Meghan, I hope you will find joy in your birthday. So many people are glad you were born! Blessings to you in your new year of living and loving in this world of ours. maeve |
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29 Apr 09 - 10:35 AM (#2621214) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Jason and I are still here for you. Every day, Jason combs through the newspapers hoping to find something. |
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29 Apr 09 - 11:41 AM (#2621262) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Here. ~S~ |
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30 Apr 09 - 12:05 AM (#2621657) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: TRUBRIT Here too....... |
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30 Apr 09 - 10:44 AM (#2621933) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Me too |
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30 Apr 09 - 11:40 AM (#2621971) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Thinking of you daily........ Much Love, Michelle |
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30 Apr 09 - 01:07 PM (#2622019) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg It's much more than a "daily" thought here, too, as I am sure it is for most of us. But I "speak" it daily. On This Day……… Mend a quarrel. Search out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicions, and replace them with trust. Write a love letter. Share some treasure. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth. Manifest your loyalty in a word or deed. Keep a promise. Find the time. Forego a grudge. Forgive an enemy. Listen. Apologize if you were wrong. Try to understand. Flout envy. Examine your demands on others. Think first of someone else. Appreciate, be kind, be gentle. Laugh a little more. Deserve confidence. Take up arms against malice. Decry complacency. Express your gratitude. Worship your God. Gladden the heart of a child. Take pleasure in the beauty and wonder of the earth. Speak your love. Speak it again. Speak it still again. Speak it still once again. (author not known) |
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01 May 09 - 07:28 AM (#2622491) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam here I am again ... it is quite pretty outdoors blue blue sky, white fluffy clouds and song birds all vying for sound waves. peace |
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01 May 09 - 07:35 AM (#2622494) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Happy Birthday, Meghan. May this new year bring you peace. |
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01 May 09 - 10:29 AM (#2622605) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre It's your birthday? Well Happy Birthday and I'd like to add to Sinsull's wish for peace! Michelle |
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01 May 09 - 10:41 AM (#2622617) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Celebrate yourself today, Meghan, being present in each moment as it arises. Janie |
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01 May 09 - 10:47 AM (#2622625) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie On yesterday's walk I passed a parked car whose license plate began EZR. Sent a prayer into the universe. |
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01 May 09 - 11:19 AM (#2622652) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Happy birthday, Meghan. ~Susan |
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01 May 09 - 04:21 PM (#2622810) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Night falls and memories creep Laughing faces -- body's heat Replaced by routine and empty seats This day belongs to you alone But love still surrounds and fills those zones Held tight in memories love still keeps This day is yours and precious sleep Dreams and hope and future meet |
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01 May 09 - 11:35 PM (#2622989) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Celtaddict Yma o hyd. Still here. |
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02 May 09 - 01:57 PM (#2623202) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Another day. ~Susan |
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03 May 09 - 11:18 AM (#2623504) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Maybe he will be found today. |
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03 May 09 - 01:29 PM (#2623559) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg One day closer, anyway. ~Susan |
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03 May 09 - 06:09 PM (#2623673) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Just checking in. Light and love. Janie |
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03 May 09 - 06:27 PM (#2623682) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Pears and apples are about to burst into bloom. Goodnight, maeve |
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04 May 09 - 01:17 AM (#2623781) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Peeking in........... Michelle |
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04 May 09 - 07:38 AM (#2623852) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Monday morning... wet and gray Monday morning sometimes it just turns out that way... |
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04 May 09 - 07:48 AM (#2623856) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Sunny here. Rain tomorrow. |
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04 May 09 - 08:07 PM (#2624275) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Joe and Marie Rainy Days and Mondays, always think of the Carpenters song when I wake up on Mondays and its raining. Hoping prayers are heard from Rhode Island, Joe and I are still watching the thread and pulling up the Press Herald for news... any news. Elainakins, Debba, Becca, I love you all.. and think of you often throughout the day. Love you all.. air kisses oxoxox Joe and Marie |
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04 May 09 - 09:21 PM (#2624305) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike Please excuse me if this is not approppriate...but perhaps there could be an expanded search involving other agencies besides local ones? Perhaps some missing persons agencies could be brought in to this case, or F.B.I. or C.S.I. or maybe even one of the crime shows on T.V. would take on the task of searching...I know this is not a confirmed homicide, and i do not know how long it takes to be called a "COLD CASE" but there needs to be more effort put into this search. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Without_a_Trace http://www.coldcasecenter.com/ National Center for Missing Adults..They Are Missed.. http://www.theyaremissed.org/ncma/index.php http://www.blackandmissinginc.com/cdad/index.cfm (this site has a page where you can report a missing person...needs to be filled out by a relative) again, please pardon it this is out-of-bounds, but i know many of us are wishing and hoping that there will be news soon. Blessings on all the friends and family members who await the news. |
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04 May 09 - 10:26 PM (#2624343) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike some other helpful info here perhaps.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_persons \ http://www.theyaremissed.org/ncma/content.php?webid=hope2support http://www.myspace.com/missingpersons (this might be just from Australia) Ezra is listed here: http://mainemissingadults.com/ and here: http://www.helpfindthemissing.org/forum/showthread.php?p=558438 and should be here: http://www.maine.gov/dps/msp/criminal_investigation/missing_persons.shtml |
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04 May 09 - 11:56 PM (#2624396) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Like open mike, I'm not sure how appropriate or helpful this might be. Perhaps I am posting this more for the benefit of these many of us who are here holding vigil but not intimately involved. I'm a psychotherapist, and the link which follows is from the professional literature regarding amiguous loss. It is definitely dry and somewhat technical. It may be helpful to Meghan and family. And maybe not. If not, simply drop it into "file 13." Ambiguous loss I can only imagine, but do not know, what it must be like to not absolutely know what has happened when a loved one simply vanishes. Love and peace. Janie |
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05 May 09 - 08:08 AM (#2624525) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Crossed the Casco Bay Bridge and said my morning prayer. Another day. |
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05 May 09 - 12:12 PM (#2624690) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Here is something I have found emormously comforting and helpful when times have been dark: DAILY EVENING PRAYER |
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05 May 09 - 12:20 PM (#2624696) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg And lovely, with music: THREE-MINUTE RETREAT ARCHIVE ~S~ |
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05 May 09 - 12:33 PM (#2624704) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Maryrrf Although I don't post much, I too check in every day, hoping that at least there will be closure. |
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06 May 09 - 06:47 AM (#2625303) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Another morning and it could be a good one. Never lose hope. Spaw |
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06 May 09 - 08:10 AM (#2625350) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Another rainy day. Good morning. |
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06 May 09 - 08:24 AM (#2625355) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve I see new beginnings all over the garden; all responding to the blessing of rain on parched earth. May the rain bring comfort to you. maeve |
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06 May 09 - 09:57 AM (#2625409) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Goodness is never beyond reach. ~Susan |
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06 May 09 - 01:06 PM (#2625571) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL LOL I found that exact quote in a fortune cookie recently, Susan, along with "A handful of patience is worth more than a bushel of brains." I stuck the "bushel of brains" one on the board over my desk. No disrespect intended. |
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06 May 09 - 01:58 PM (#2625615) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Um, I only have about a jot of either, can I swap with anyone? :~) (Sins, are we FINALLY getting on a good wavelength!?!?!) ~S~ |
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06 May 09 - 02:10 PM (#2625623) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam simple hug from me |
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06 May 09 - 04:46 PM (#2625765) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,E -E- |
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06 May 09 - 10:30 PM (#2625954) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Goodnight Sweet Prince... |
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07 May 09 - 01:06 AM (#2626017) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 I got up this morning thinking good thoughts and I'll go to sleep tonight doing the same....................... Spaw |
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07 May 09 - 02:00 AM (#2626025) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: georgeward Checking and hoping |
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07 May 09 - 06:33 AM (#2626126) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Good morning. Step by step. maeve |
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07 May 09 - 08:31 AM (#2626172) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Rainy day, kamikazi drivers, good morning. |
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07 May 09 - 09:07 AM (#2626192) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Mostly cloudy with shafts of bright light breaking through high-wind-scudded clouds. ~S~ |
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07 May 09 - 11:43 AM (#2626317) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D Still hoping... |
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08 May 09 - 02:43 AM (#2626892) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike i saw a road side sign about Ezra temple and offered up a prayer on the spot. |
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08 May 09 - 06:40 PM (#2627378) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Here through fog and weird columns of more fog eddying up from mountain ridges and valleys. ~S~ |
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08 May 09 - 10:40 PM (#2627478) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie The name Ezra is apparently derived from a hebrew word meaning "help." What you have shared about him makes clear it is a very fitting name, as he was quick to offer, and generous with his help. Thinking of Ezra and family tonight. |
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09 May 09 - 07:48 AM (#2627636) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Bit of a gray morning with chances of sun -- sitting and waiting for the bright moments. |
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09 May 09 - 12:49 PM (#2627754) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Becca72 The Portland Police found a body in the harbor last night. We are waiting for the results of DNA testing, but they are pretty sure it's our Ezra. While we all suspected this outcome, it's still very hard to have it confirmed. Continued thoughts are greatly appreciated. |
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09 May 09 - 12:53 PM (#2627756) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie Oh Becca. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) |
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09 May 09 - 12:57 PM (#2627758) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 Becca, we are all still here and holding out for the best........And whatever comes of this latest news, we are still here and sending good thoughts to all of you................but you know that don't you? Much Love Spaw |
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09 May 09 - 01:02 PM (#2627761) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Still here, sitting, waiting, loving .... |
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09 May 09 - 01:03 PM (#2627762) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Of course, Becca & all. Thank you for posting that painful information. Love, prayer, thoughts surround each one of you. maeve |
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09 May 09 - 01:47 PM (#2627785) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Tears..... |
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09 May 09 - 01:49 PM (#2627786) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Strength and light... |
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09 May 09 - 01:55 PM (#2627788) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Just as it may be that the suffering of one ended, so will the suffering of others eventually reach healing... for today, wherever one may be in that stream of life, peace and the comfort of strong arms. ~Susan |
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09 May 09 - 02:25 PM (#2627809) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Maryrrf Gentle and healing thoughts being sent towards all of you. I cannot imagine how difficult this must be. I know that all of you will be there for Meagan. |
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09 May 09 - 03:21 PM (#2627833) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,E Light and love <3 |
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09 May 09 - 04:29 PM (#2627863) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Thank you for letting us know, Becca. May love sustain you all and bring peace. Love and hugs for you all, kat |
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09 May 09 - 04:51 PM (#2627883) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Jeri Love to you. |
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09 May 09 - 06:01 PM (#2627935) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL thank you, Becca. Now Meghan can grieve and heal. |
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09 May 09 - 06:58 PM (#2627960) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: TRUBRIT Oh Becca -- what to say, what to say? Your family has so much love coming to you that it will help....and Sins has it right, if it is Ezra now Meghan, pretty young Meghan, can grieve and heal. Life can be shit sometimes. |
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09 May 09 - 07:01 PM (#2627961) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Checking in from away. Morse clan, you have my love. |
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09 May 09 - 07:14 PM (#2627966) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Liz the Squeak Sometimes the knowing is worse than not... thinking of you all. LTS |
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09 May 09 - 07:19 PM (#2627968) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre (((((((((((((((((Love...lots and lots of love))))))))))))) Michelle |
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09 May 09 - 08:26 PM (#2628004) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bat Goddess Knowing...or not knowing. It's not easy. Holding you all in my heart. I'm surrounded by music, but you're very much in my thoughts. Linn |
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09 May 09 - 08:42 PM (#2628013) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Nancy King Still thinking of you all. Either way, it will be hard to deal with. Much love, Nancy |
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09 May 09 - 09:24 PM (#2628039) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Joe and Marie Becca, This is not the news we've been praying for. I have no idea how you are all getting by with this news. I am sooooo sorry, for Meghan and the Morse Family, I love you all so very much. Ezra's family have my prayers for the healing to begin. air kisses oxoxoxox Marie and Joe |
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09 May 09 - 10:01 PM (#2628050) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Did I miss that we are not still awaiting DNA? Also, there may be other details yet to come that will require additional support. Let's just share the wait and saty close and relaxed.... ~Susan |
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09 May 09 - 10:36 PM (#2628059) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Deep breath, rest ... night |
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10 May 09 - 12:02 AM (#2628082) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie May light surround you and permeate your being. {{{{{ALL}}}}}} |
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10 May 09 - 03:57 AM (#2628138) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Sleeplesss and seeing God's view. Including my own mistakes, and not valuing people while I had the privilege of knowing them. Trust, like life, is both unbreakable and so fragile.... and we, mortal and immortal human beans. Grand and ridiculous. ~S~ |
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10 May 09 - 04:25 AM (#2628143) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Sandra in Sydney tears sending more love to you sandra |
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10 May 09 - 06:41 AM (#2628169) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Still here, still waiting. Love, maeve |
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10 May 09 - 08:44 AM (#2628224) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Bobert... |
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10 May 09 - 11:33 AM (#2628305) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I never noticed till last night, am I the least to see-- dandelions close up each evening and then fan out all over again each morning. They're very pretty closed up, seen through tall, uncut spring grass. ~Susan |
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10 May 09 - 11:53 AM (#2628320) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Eve Goldberg I have been following this thread for weeks, checking in every day to hear if there is news. I am so sorry this is happening, and even though I don't know you, Becca, or Meghan, or Ezra, I am sending my good thoughts to all of you and hoping for the best. |
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10 May 09 - 12:31 PM (#2628342) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Dani Still thinking of you all, every day. Dani |
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10 May 09 - 01:13 PM (#2628370) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike special hugs to all the mothers who watch and wait....for news.. |
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10 May 09 - 09:16 PM (#2628637) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Waiting for Becca's news, calmly, knowing it will come when it can come. ~Susan |
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10 May 09 - 10:17 PM (#2628659) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL The Morse clan gathered for Kendall's birthday. There were a lot of stories and laughs. Some tears. Meghan is hanging on supported by her family. She is loved and cherished by so many but especially her grandfather who adores her. Time will heal; meantime tears and support. Note to Morse clan - Jonathan looks the best I have ever seen him. He looks great and seems genuinely happy. |
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10 May 09 - 10:18 PM (#2628660) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg About what we would expect-- thanks for telling us. We're just here to expand the lap and add numbers. ~Susan |
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10 May 09 - 10:35 PM (#2628669) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz I just saw Becca's latest post. I am so sorry, though if it is Ezra, relieved that at last you will all be able to begin the difficult process of grieving and moving on. Ugh. Dan |
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11 May 09 - 01:16 AM (#2628719) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL Meghan was beautifully dressed and "made up". She had taken the time to make devilled eggs for her grandfather. She is quite remarkable - not surprising really. She is a remarkable young woman. Smart, beautiful, resilient, strong - she is quite remarkable and was long before this this tragedy. Nothing about her is ordinary. And again I think of dignified when I see her now. No drama; no theatrics; genuine grief and resilence. |
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11 May 09 - 01:19 AM (#2628723) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL add an "i". and Good Night |
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11 May 09 - 03:19 AM (#2628751) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: KT Wishing you all peace and healing....sending lots of love..... KT |
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11 May 09 - 04:37 AM (#2628775) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: freda underhill I'm very, very sorry to hear this sad news, and await further news. freda |
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11 May 09 - 06:08 AM (#2628838) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Misty magical morning with warm, goldpeached sunlight shafting through dewfrost evaporating to the tune of mourning doves. Ah, mouring doves, THERE's just the ticket-- soft, strong, singing, going about their business of tending nests, living Spring. ~Susan |
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11 May 09 - 06:40 AM (#2628860) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam Good morning Ezra's loved ones. Still thinking and wishing over here in the UK. |
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11 May 09 - 07:11 AM (#2628876) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: LilyFestre Wishing you a peaceful day. Michelle |
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11 May 09 - 08:45 AM (#2628936) Subject: RE: BS: Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Hugs to you all, and love, kindest of thoughts and a hand to hold. xx Lucy |
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11 May 09 - 04:40 PM (#2629235) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Becca has asked me to change the thread title. It has been confirmed they have found Ezra. Not the outcome we'd all hoped and prayed for, but at least they will not be left to wonder any more. Please continue in your support of his families as they face this final ordeal. May their god/s be good to them and bless them with strength, love, good memories, and the ability to see beyond such terrible grief. Becca, Kendall, Meaghan and families, thank you for allowing us to help. With much love and sympathy, kat & Roger |
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11 May 09 - 04:43 PM (#2629239) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Oh my. |
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11 May 09 - 04:48 PM (#2629248) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz Oh dear. At a time like this there isn't much to say. I'm glad there's closure, but this sure wasn't the way anybody wanted it to end. I hope and pray that Meghan is able to move on, though it won't be easy. If nothing else, all of you know that you are not alone. My thoughts and energy are with Meghan and Becca, and the whole family - and to Kendall and Jacqui, my dear friends - large hugs for you both. Dan |
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11 May 09 - 04:52 PM (#2629254) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST Police say they have found body of Ezra Milan |
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11 May 09 - 05:20 PM (#2629275) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam Still here to take a share of the sorrow, if I may. |
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11 May 09 - 05:22 PM (#2629280) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Eve Goldberg So, so sorry to hear this. As someone else said, this is not the resolution we hoped for, but at least the roller coaster of not knowing is over. My thoughts are with all of the family and close friends. |
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11 May 09 - 05:53 PM (#2629297) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: Janie I'm so very, very sorry. Janie |
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11 May 09 - 05:59 PM (#2629300) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg The love that has sustained Ezra's people through this thus far will continue to provide much strength and comfort-- stay close; remember there is love and support here... and that more than 99.99999% of the world is goodness. Goodbye, sweet man so few of us had an opportunity to know, so briefly. Thank you for the blessing that you were to your dear ones and, through them, so many others. ~Susan |
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11 May 09 - 06:05 PM (#2629309) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Staying close -- sending care and concern. |
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11 May 09 - 06:07 PM (#2629311) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,lox This is very sad. My deepest sympathy. Lox |
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11 May 09 - 06:40 PM (#2629338) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST "Good thoughts needed, please" You know, dear ones; there are so many here folks concerned for your well being. Please remember that as the days progress from this turning point. maeve |
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11 May 09 - 06:43 PM (#2629340) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,maeve cookies crumble, and so has mine. maeve |
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11 May 09 - 07:04 PM (#2629355) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: open mike holding you all close in my thoughts... deep breath and and sigh in the wake of this news... wishing all the strength to cope... we are here to help hold the weight of this... |
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11 May 09 - 07:31 PM (#2629371) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Beer Late arriving here. But not to late to send my thoughts and prayers. Adrien |
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11 May 09 - 07:52 PM (#2629389) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Bobert Geeze Louise... We have all prayed and/or hoped that the outcome would be different... Our hearts go out to Exra's family and friends... You are in our thoughts and our prayers... Bobert and P-Vine |
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11 May 09 - 07:59 PM (#2629400) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: frogprince You know for certain now that Ezra never meant to leave you, though from what's been said of him there was really no question of that. I'm confident that you are wise enough to weep together unashamedly. Printing words to someone you haven't met can be easy, but our hearts are truly with you here. Thank you again, Jacqui, for extending your kindness to us even as you were all facing through this. Dean (and Judy) Elkins, in Michigan |
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11 May 09 - 08:28 PM (#2629431) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Nancy King So very sorry to hear this news. It surely is not the way anyone was hoping things would turn out. Just know that there are many kindred souls around the world who are thinking of you and wishing you the very best. Much love to Meghan, Becca, Kendall and Jacqui -- Nancy |
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11 May 09 - 08:41 PM (#2629440) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall I've never felt so helpless. |
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11 May 09 - 08:55 PM (#2629450) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Kendall. I thought of PMing immediately upon the news. But, I had no words. I still don't... "helpless" seems to be just the way it is. Thoughts and prayers to all of the family. |
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11 May 09 - 08:57 PM (#2629452) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Emma B My condolences to the family of this young man whose act of youthful foolishness has resulted in so much heartbreak for his wife and parents. May I also wish that good thoughts be continued for those battling with life's injustice against disease Good Thoughts for a good friend please |
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11 May 09 - 08:59 PM (#2629457) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Maryrrf What a tragedy. I'm so sorry it turned out like this - the worst possible outcome. Now that there is closure, the healing can begin. Bless you all. |
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11 May 09 - 09:03 PM (#2629466) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Love is never in vain. It will FEEL helpless, but it's not-- at all. ~Susan |
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11 May 09 - 09:03 PM (#2629468) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL RIP |
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11 May 09 - 09:06 PM (#2629473) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: KT I'm so very sorry. Sending you lots of love. KT |
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11 May 09 - 09:07 PM (#2629475) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: Sandra in Sydney tears & love to you all sandra |
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11 May 09 - 09:22 PM (#2629491) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: Azizi My condolences. Those of us who didn't know Ezra got to know him, respect him, and care about him as a result of this thread. |
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11 May 09 - 09:28 PM (#2629495) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: Janie Dearest Kendall. You are helpless to shield Meghan from the pain of loss and grief. But you can and will walk beside her, letting her know of your steadfast love, sometimes grieving with her, sometimes offering an arm or shoulder, or a distraction, and always respecting, validating, and allowing her the space of her own pain and process of grieving. You have experience at the pain and losses that are inherent in being alive, and wisdom and solace as well as unconditional love. Never under-estimate the value of these gifts that you offer. Love to you and Jacqui, whom I know and cherish, and through that shared connection, to Meghan, Becca, Ezra's blood family, and all others who knew and love him. Janie |
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11 May 09 - 09:38 PM (#2629506) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Skivee How very sad. My heart goes out to all who knew him. |
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11 May 09 - 09:40 PM (#2629508) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: TRUBRIT I think closure must be better than what went before -- but so sad for all of you... |
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11 May 09 - 10:28 PM (#2629541) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg The thing about closure it that it does not feel like closure when the "closing" event happens or comes to light. It's like a death, because no matter how hard you work to accept something as inevitable, there is that relentless human quality of hope that has to be murdered by the news that comes. It will only seem like closure later. Right now it's just insult added to injury, not fair, not comprehensible, not part of what the couple knew as what they were as a couple. It's a searing loss. It's the fire you have to walk though to get to the safe place. Walk there, Meghan, and be brave now, and let your people call you to their safe harbor. It really is there. Just walk right to it, dear. ALL the best of Ezra, all the joy you shared is what will remain after the pain burns off. I'm so sorry this is before you now. ~Susan |
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11 May 09 - 10:34 PM (#2629545) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: ranger1 Kendall, Becca and Meaghan, Jason and I are so sorry. Youi know how to reach us if you need us. |
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11 May 09 - 10:51 PM (#2629547) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: meself Deepest sympathy. |
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11 May 09 - 11:53 PM (#2629572) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Dan Schatz What Janie said. All you need to do is be you, Kendall. Love Meghan and make sure she knows it. Just be with her. Dan |
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12 May 09 - 12:27 AM (#2629579) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear Nothing to add but my sorrow, my solidarity, my strength, my support and my love to all who mourn and all who love those who mourn -- and that's everyone here. Claire |
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12 May 09 - 03:22 AM (#2629628) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam Love is never in vain. It will FEEL helpless, but it's not-- at all. Very trues words, Susan. Closure when referred to the loss of a loved one somehow doesn't fit. Grief for me has been an ongoing process. Just when the sorrow, anger, pain are easing a bit something reminds you of the person lost and you are hit with the full force of the loss again. But those events become fewer as time passes and you recover quicker from them. Meghan and family still have a long rough road ahead. |
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12 May 09 - 03:43 AM (#2629633) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: catspaw49 All my best to all of you................Very sad............. Spaw |
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12 May 09 - 04:51 AM (#2629667) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Hawker Hand to hold still here, So very sorry to hear the news, Helpless, here, but thinking of you all and sending prayers and healing. Much Love, Lucy xxxx |
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12 May 09 - 05:04 AM (#2629681) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: fat B****rd I'm so sad for you. Please accept mu very best regards and kind thoughts. Charles Stenger. |
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12 May 09 - 05:20 AM (#2629683) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Catherine Jayne So Sorry, in sympathy |
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12 May 09 - 06:27 AM (#2629705) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall It's time such as these that make it tough to be a Deist. |
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12 May 09 - 07:53 AM (#2629747) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c This poem, to me, really represents the loss of a loved one. Funeral Blues Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead. Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong. The stars are not wanted now; put out every one, Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun, Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods; For nothing now can ever come to any good. -- W.H. Auden I think that we all need to reach that bottom before we can rise up to the light again. Meghan will have family anf friends around her to support her through that time and she has the strength of character to come back. |
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12 May 09 - 09:39 AM (#2629840) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg She'll see that in your eyes and follow it to harbor. I KNOW this; Hardi and I spent yesterday giving our eyes to about 400 people, and every last one of them that knew us made beelines to us to do another little piece of the hard work: feeling their way through fire. For those of you who do not know what I mean, it's the instinctive response to relationship when the eyes hold truth and compassion, a knowing without flinching that also sees the inherent strength of the mourner and delights in their fineness instead of offering a "poor you" pity. Yes, poor you, of course, poor you-- but not "Poor you." Knowing that no matter how hard the blow, they're better than the worst that can be dished out. Parents and grandparents, who have helped to build that fineness, can offer that from just the eyes, the tone of voice, the way they touch. Even while their own hearts are breaking. ~Susan |
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12 May 09 - 03:46 PM (#2630171) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Jack Sprocket Becca/ Kendall: I've been so wrapped up in my own fears that I didn't spare a thought for you. Forgive me. I'm not good at words, but at least let me give back some of the love that others have sent to us- they gave far more than I at least deserved- and may that love act as a catalyst to start the healing process. Remember that as far as we know, it's only people in the whole Universe that care, and that they care about you. |
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13 May 09 - 08:08 AM (#2630722) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: AllisonA(Animaterra) I've tried to follow this thread while on my trip, but was without internet for the past several days. What sad news to come home to. Meghan, Kendall, Becca, and family, I am now and will continue to hold you in my heart and send love and light to you all. It's true that love is never in vain. It is also true that love NEVER dies. Ezra's love for you will go on and on, and so will your love for Ezra. The love of this Mudcat community will continue to flow to you as well. Peace, Allison |
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13 May 09 - 08:09 AM (#2630724) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam Still here. It is grey today. I cannot bring myself to sing or play anything these last 3 days. The sorrow weighs heavy. |
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13 May 09 - 02:22 PM (#2631018) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,winterbright So very, very sorry. Love to all. |
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13 May 09 - 02:30 PM (#2631033) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Becca et al, how can we best help, now? I will never forget Ezra. ~Susan |
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13 May 09 - 04:06 PM (#2631092) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 Susan, That's the perfect way to help. That and to keep Meghan in your thoughts. She really is a remarkable person. |
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13 May 09 - 04:53 PM (#2631127) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie I think of all of you, and especially Meghan, everyday, envisioning light and comfort for the heart. |
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13 May 09 - 06:06 PM (#2631156) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Becca, is it useful to keep the thread going, and in what direction do you see it going, if any? For instance, would it be helpful to say ways in which the experience here and remembering Ezra will go out in our lives? (For me, remembering is most usually action.) Or is it just better to know that we will keep on keeping on, generally? Thanks, ~Susan |
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13 May 09 - 06:55 PM (#2631189) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Yes, a sad chapter...I would think it'd be painful to be reminded, esp. coming to Mudcat as often as Becca, as a member, might do. |
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13 May 09 - 08:23 PM (#2631234) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Nobody asked me and I don't purport to speak for anyone but me... I think a new thread at some point in the future would be a wonderful tribute. In the meantime, again, I have no words of wisdom or solace. And, I find it difficult to read the posts in this thread since the recent news. I shant open this thread again, unless it does become a tribute thread and the thread title is changed. Again, my sincerest thoughts and prayers to all of youse. gnightgnu |
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13 May 09 - 08:29 PM (#2631241) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Emma B Bereavement is a normal, task-oriented process that we will all experience, and it needs to be addressed in a nonpathologizing manner. Some important steps in the process are - sharing the reality of death sharing the grieving experience constructing meaningful rituals of remembrance and finding closure and moving forward with living. It can sometimes be therapeutic, as well as healing, for those who have lost a close family member, whether a spouse or child, to write their personal thoughts as they move through their grieving process; some may want to share their writing, while others may choose to keep their work private. and remember - some forms of 'help' can normalize grief, but for others it can overwhelm them. |
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14 May 09 - 08:40 AM (#2631571) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg ..... I think I'll make sure there's at least a daily "refresh" so folks who have not heard the sad news have an opportunity to post a word of condolence, until it seems time to let the thread go.... ~Susan |
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14 May 09 - 09:01 AM (#2631590) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: M.Ted I've been following this, and thinking about what it must be like to deal with it all. Every day I checked the news, hoping for the best, and trying not to think of the alternatives. In the end, there is not much to say, except that I am terribly sorry that you've suffered this loss, and to wish you strength. Remember that you're all in our thoughts and prayers. |
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14 May 09 - 09:44 AM (#2631615) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 I have no problem letting the thread drop off naturally. I don't feel the need to refresh it every day, nor do I feel the need to have it closed. As I've said before, I have family members who are not part of the 'Cat who check in several times a day and find it comforting. We don't view it as a painful reminder. We have enough of those every day and this thread isn't one of them. |
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14 May 09 - 10:23 AM (#2631649) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie "We don't view it as a painful reminder. We have enough of those every day and this thread isn't one of them." {{{{Becca}}}} |
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14 May 09 - 10:32 AM (#2631657) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I have family members who are not part of the 'Cat who check in several times a day and find it comforting. We don't view it as a painful reminder. We have enough of those every day and this thread isn't one of them. Becca, thanks for letting us know this thread has met what I am sure is the goal for many of us, if not all. The thread has proved a comfort to others who may not have posted too much, as well, who have had their own losses recently and in the past. I will never forget Ezra: that any one human being on this planet could evoke so much care and so many, varied expressions of that caring is a sign of our connectedness that will always, to me, be linked in my mind as "Ezra." I give thanks for that, and for Ezra. ~Susan |
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14 May 09 - 12:18 PM (#2631767) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,flyingcat (moira) I too have been out of range of the forum for about 10 days. I am so sorry to hear the news and my thoughts and prayers are with you all. xx |
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14 May 09 - 12:31 PM (#2631777) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: VirginiaTam Selfish as this may sound (please forgive me Meghan, Becca, Kendall, JacquiC, et al) This thread helped me to think more about Andie and rekindled my desire to share her. I should dedicate her Birthday Memorial thread to Ezra. It was the descriptions of Meghan and Ezra actually, of which I would like to see more. Remembrances of actual events, personality bites, etc. bring Ezra as an individual and Meghan and Ezra as a couple to the fore. That kind of information, stories, and such will live forever (well as long as mudcat lasts) here. An archive of this loved one that can never be lost. |
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14 May 09 - 07:12 PM (#2632064) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: RangerSteve I'm not good at finding things to say at a moment like this. So I'll just join everyone else in saying that my thoughts and prayers are with you. |
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14 May 09 - 08:28 PM (#2632115) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Sue the Borderer I, like many others, I believe, have just been a watcher on this thread. First, just waiting and hoping, - and perhaps hoping to find the 'right words' when in fact there are none. All I can say is that even more 'good thoughts' are winging their way to you across the pond. Oh that the whole world was more like the mudcat family at its best. Sue |
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14 May 09 - 09:39 PM (#2632164) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Donuel I'm so sorry. I've harbored this fear for quite a while now as I am sure others have as well. so many young men, so sad |
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14 May 09 - 10:22 PM (#2632195) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: Janie One idea that has risen repeatedly as I have monitored this thread, is the sense of shared loss, even with most of us not knowing Ezra or Meghan. The same occurs anytime any of us choose to post to ask for good thoughts regarding a loss or trevail. They touch on each of our individual experiences of loss and as well as our own fears of loss, and the empathy resonates throughout the community, drawing us closer as we recognize our human connection. I have often thought about my sister's struggle with breast cancer and her death as I have read here, and taken time to think and reflect on Ezra and all who loved him. I have thought about how the experience within my family of that terrible time and that terrible loss also brought us together and opened our hearts to one another in ways that we had never before imagined. I do not believe that there is any inherent meaning in loss, but I do believe we can and ought make meaning from these infinitely painful and frightening experiences that are integral to existence. We have the capacity to find gifts buried in the pain. As John Donne wrote, "No man is an island. No man stands alone." Becca and family, especially Meghan, and others who experience tough times or exquisite pain, and then post here to ask for support, also understand that in doing so you give a gift to us who respond or read, and strengthen our connectedness to one another and to the whole. Hope this has made sense. Blessing and light. Janie |
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15 May 09 - 08:30 AM (#2632456) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c Beautiful words Janie. Thank you. |
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15 May 09 - 08:43 AM (#2632472) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Yes, Janie. That makes sense. It also carries truth. maeve |
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15 May 09 - 11:14 AM (#2632576) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: Sandra in Sydney yes |
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15 May 09 - 11:49 AM (#2632593) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Yes, Janie, it makes enormous sense and my own experience bears it out, especially this line: We have the capacity to find gifts buried in the pain. Thank you again, Ezra. ~Susan |
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15 May 09 - 12:50 PM (#2632642) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL "gifts buried in the pain" Beautifully expressed, Janie. Last night, Meghan's aunt and I talked about how Meghan will find new ways and new opportunites through her loss. I wish I had your gift for stating it so simply and elegantly. The wise women who surround her will help her walk the path. Meghan's life is filled with wise women - Becca, Jacqui, Ezra's mother, Deb, Melissa - all wisely experienced in life's painful and frightening but maybe more importantly in laughing at the worst of it together. |
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15 May 09 - 12:59 PM (#2632651) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I've been thinking about Ezra's mother, too. I bet a lot of us have. ~Susan |
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15 May 09 - 04:07 PM (#2632770) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: VirginiaTam yep |
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16 May 09 - 02:12 AM (#2633107) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Celtaddict I am just back on the 'net. I am so sorry. Meghan, Becca, Kendall, Jacqui, all who loved him, love and peace to you. Shortly after my father died, the only thing anyone said to me that helped at all was when a friend said, "You live your life so that if anyone does not know you love him, he is just not paying attention." Ezra knew you loved him. Your sharing your pain and loss is more a gift to one another and to us than you can know. |
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16 May 09 - 04:48 PM (#2633531) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Neil D Just back from the hospital and checking in, so very sorry. Neil and Christina |
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17 May 09 - 02:20 AM (#2633671) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Barry Finn So sorry that Ezra's gone & for the pain, grief & saddness this causes those that knew & loved him. All my hopes, wishes, & prayers go out to you who had him for way to short of a time. Barry |
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17 May 09 - 04:30 AM (#2633714) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: My guru always said I'm so sorry to hear that Ezra is gone, sending positive thoughts for your healing and grieving for a fine young man. Love to Meghan, Becca, Kendall and Jacqui. Hil x |
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17 May 09 - 07:40 AM (#2633791) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall The funeral is this afternoon. I hope my dear sweet little girl can move on. And, I would like to thank every one of you for your incredible support in all this. You will never know how much it is appreciated. |
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17 May 09 - 08:04 AM (#2633800) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Tinker Thanks for letting us know about the funeral today. I'll be in Church this afternoon and will raise a song or two in his name. With joy for the living and the love and the laughter that Ezra brought to you all. |
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17 May 09 - 08:54 AM (#2633821) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I'll remember Ezra privately tonight at a service, with thoughts for his family. I'll raise a song, too. ~Susan |
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17 May 09 - 10:26 AM (#2633868) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: ClaireBear And I, this morning. Ezra will be remembered in the Prayers of the People at my church -- as he has been for weeks, but this time in the prayers for the departed. And my voice too will be lifted in memory. Love to all, Claire |
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17 May 09 - 10:47 AM (#2633878) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam When I read the news that Ezra had been found, a wish went from me to Andie that she seek his spirit and make him welcome, show him around. Wouldn't it be something if spirits of our loved ones not known to each other could meet and share stories about those of us left behind? |
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17 May 09 - 10:56 AM (#2633883) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: olddude In my thoughts and in my prayers always Dan |
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17 May 09 - 11:45 AM (#2633911) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie Today I am meeting with a couple of friends for music and I will tell them about Ezra and the people he left behind and we will sing a song for Ezra. |
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17 May 09 - 12:47 PM (#2633939) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu My thoughts and prayers are with you and the families, Kendall. |
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17 May 09 - 05:35 PM (#2634176) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Meghan and Ezra, and their families and friends, have been on my mind all day. Maybe Meghan would like a tree planted somewhere special? maeve |
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17 May 09 - 09:36 PM (#2634341) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL That is a beautiful thought, Maeve. We'll ask. Meantime, the funeral was attended by a large crowd of people - babies to elderly, black, white, Asian and I don't know what else. It was a simple and moving service followed by a buffet and a toast. The strain of the past two months was on everyone's face. Time to reflect and move on. |
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17 May 09 - 09:53 PM (#2634358) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Thoughts during the service we had this eve. included not only Ezra, Meghan, his mom and the whole clan, as I had indicated would be so-- but VT's Andie and Tam, too. A general mood of giving thanks for the mothering and women's side as well as the loss of the individuals themselves. Privately, not aloud, from Hardi and I. ~Susan |
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19 May 09 - 01:35 AM (#2635412) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,celtaddict on the road I held my baby granddaughter today and sang for Kendall's granddaughter, and those she loves, and who love her, and who share this loss. Blessings on you all. |
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19 May 09 - 02:18 AM (#2635422) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, pleas From: georgeward If we live on, it is (so far as we can prove) in the way that others think, feel and act that they would not, had they not known us. One need not be old to make this impression." No man," Donne wrote, "is an island entire of itself." Even those of us who "knew" Ezra only through this odd, electronc world carry a miniscule bit of him with us. It is not what his family and friends carry. Still, it is there. Wish I'd known the real man. You who did are blessed. Hence the pain. And hence my condolences, - G |
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19 May 09 - 06:37 AM (#2635535) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c The memorial service went well. We learned a few things about Ezra that we didn't know. One thing that stays with me is his two favourite films. This very modern young man loved The Wizard Of Oz and The Sound Of Music. |
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19 May 09 - 10:07 PM (#2636211) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: maeve Thanks for that detail, Jacqui. maeve |
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20 May 09 - 04:10 PM (#2636870) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg Oh yes.... a wacky mix, great films... ~S~ |
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01 Jun 09 - 02:10 PM (#2645723) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: VirginiaTam Well I was thinking about Ezra and his loved ones and decided I might as well say so. |
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01 Jun 09 - 03:22 PM (#2645781) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: wysiwyg I do too, often. ~S~ |
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01 Jun 09 - 11:16 PM (#2646116) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie I discovered a license plate that begins with EZR belongs to a friend of mine so I, too, often think of Ezra. Just on the off chance that a thought/prayer reaches the recently 'departed'... |
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17 Jan 10 - 07:29 PM (#2814578) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: kendall I had lunch today with my favorite grand daughter. There was much she wanted to share and discuss with me, the pain and disappointment that the love of her life is gone for ever. I believe it did some good, I'm her favorite man in the whole world and was able to get her to laugh through the tears. No one can convince her that time will heal the wounds because she is unable to hear that at this point. I take comfort in the fact that time will heal the wounds. |
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17 Jan 10 - 07:32 PM (#2814582) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,WYS-out Oh Kendall. That you took time this week not only to do that but to tell us. NOW I can see you. ~Susan |
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17 Jan 10 - 07:52 PM (#2814609) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Ebbie Hmmmm Just yesterday I thought of Ezra when I saw that license plate again, but I didn't realize it's been a whole year. Time, I swear, not only moves swiftly but is almost meaningless. |
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17 Jan 10 - 08:01 PM (#2814617) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: gnu Unable is understandable. Time, indeed. |
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17 Jan 10 - 11:36 PM (#2814698) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Funny, that, Kendall. When I read about your thinking all night about what use would a singer be without a voice, etc. I was going to remind you of the need your granddaughter still has of you. Should have known you'd need no reminding. Good for you Gramps! |
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18 Jan 10 - 08:25 AM (#2814852) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: GUEST,Dani Your good presence will be a reminder of how we can heal, move on, grow with time, if we allow ourselves. I'm sure it's hard for her to see that alone, or with friends her age. It's good for her to be around us old(er) ones who've been knocked around a bit, and are often the better for it. Never to make light of her loss. Dani |
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18 Jan 10 - 08:46 AM (#2814867) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: AllisonA(Animaterra) << |
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18 Jan 10 - 08:48 AM (#2814869) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: SINSULL A year March 10. Meghan is strong. Time will help. She is lucky to have Kendall in her life. And Kendall is lucky to have Meghan. |
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18 Jan 10 - 10:02 AM (#2814904) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 I've spent a lot of time with Meghan over the past year and it truly amazes me what a strong person she is. She will get through this in time. I've been thinking about Ezra a lot recently and it's no easier now than it was a year ago. Kat, It's not only Kendall's granddaughter who needs him but also his daughters, grandsons, wife and friends... |
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18 Jan 10 - 10:05 AM (#2814907) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: jacqui.c Too true Becca. |
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18 Jan 10 - 11:12 AM (#2814947) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: katlaughing Of course, Becca, sorry I didn't mean to exclude anyone. |
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18 Jan 10 - 11:21 AM (#2814953) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 No worries, Kat...just wanted to remind him, really :-) |
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10 Mar 10 - 01:25 PM (#2861171) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Becca72 I debated refreshing this old thread but it's been a year today since we lost Ezra and I'm having a really crappy day. |
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10 Mar 10 - 01:28 PM (#2861173) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - Good thoughts needed, please From: Janie {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} to all of you. |
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10 Mar 10 - 01:38 PM (#2861179) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: SINSULL Becca, This has to be a tough anniversary for Meghan and the family. Every time I drive over the bridge I think of Ezra. So sorry, once again. Mary |
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10 Mar 10 - 01:45 PM (#2861182) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: VirginiaTam My thoughts are with Meghan now. Thanks for bringing it back Becca. |
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10 Mar 10 - 02:01 PM (#2861189) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: gnu Take care as best youse can. |
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10 Mar 10 - 02:03 PM (#2861193) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: GUEST,Kendall I hope you can feel our love walking with you my sweetheart. If I could talk I'd call you. |
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11 May 10 - 07:45 AM (#2904392) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar From: GUEST,Kennebeq One year ago today, it was reported May 11, 2009, Ezra Milan's body was found floating in the Fore river. The cause of death accidental drowning. |
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11 May 10 - 11:20 AM (#2904486) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: wysiwyg Remembered, prayerfully. ~Susan |
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11 May 10 - 11:27 AM (#2904495) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: katlaughing {{{{HUGS}}}} to all. It was such a tough time. We lost our best friend the same day: Roger Curtis. |
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11 May 10 - 11:46 AM (#2904508) Subject: RE: OBIT: Ezra Milan - One year ago, today 10 Mar 2010 From: Becca72 Can we please close this thread? It was not revived by anyone I know and this has been a painful enough weekend without adding more fuel to the fire. |