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Wedding songs for 2nd time around!

06 Jul 99 - 11:26 PM (#93009)
Subject: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: PattyG

Hi strangers! Trying to help a friend with her wedding and she needs just the right song for the soloist. This is second time around for both due to loss of mates to death. They both have grown children (so can't use such tunes as "True Love" or "Love is Lovlier the Second Time Around":) Have any ideas? Thanks much. PattyG


06 Jul 99 - 11:47 PM (#93016)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Lovely Locks (inactive)

Hey PattyG. Is the solist going to be a man or a woman?


06 Jul 99 - 11:55 PM (#93018)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: DonMeixner

Tom Paxton's "Outward Bound"

Pat Sky's "Love Will Endure"

"October Roses" is a favorite of mine but might and might not work here.

There must be hundreds of "perfect songs"

Don


07 Jul 99 - 09:29 AM (#93064)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: PattyG

Lovely Locks and Don,

Thanks much for the replies. The soloist is a female soprano. Don, could you tell me where I might find the lyrics to the songs you suggested? And I agree, there are probably lots of beautiful songs that would be just right for this occasion, but I've already exhausted my supply and am not coming up with just a whole lot. (My brother says absolutely NOT to "You Light Up My Life!") But then all I did was ask for his input so they could still use that! If ya think of any others, please let me know:)


07 Jul 99 - 09:50 AM (#93070)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Peter T.

Just a question: Why can't you use "The Second Time Around"? There is no mention of children in it. Nice song, too.
On a completely different note: if your friends have any interest in classical music, one of the most beautiful songs by Richard Strauss is "Morgen" (Morning). It is in German, but it is lovely. It is a song about people who have been through a lot in life, and who will embrace on a morning shore. There is an exquisite recording by Gerald Moore and Janet Baker. I once heard it sung by a soprano at a wedding for two 60 year olds, in England. Beautiful, slow, moving piece.
Of course there is always that old standby for second marriages, "Back in the Saddle Again" (joke). yours, Peter T.


07 Jul 99 - 10:12 AM (#93077)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: PattyG

(PeterT wrote) Just a question: Why can't you use "The Second Time Around"? There is no mention of children in it.

////Because part of the lyrics are: "love is lovlier the second time around......." My thought would be that the children of the first husband/wife would feel as though it would demean their parent's "original" love.

if your friends have any interest in classical music,

////Not sure that they do......

one of the mostbeautiful songs by Richard Strauss is "Morgen" (Morning). It is in German, but it is lovely.

///But could be sung in English, I assume!

I once heard it sung by a soprano at a wedding for two 60 year olds, in England. Beautiful, slow, moving piece.

///Sounds lovely - where might I see lyrics?

Of course there is always that old standby for second marriages, "Back in the Saddle Again" (joke). yours, Peter T.

////Smile. Yes, that would rank right up there with "Why Don't We Get Drunk and S_ _ _ _!"


07 Jul 99 - 01:09 PM (#93140)
Subject: Lyr Add: THE VERY THOUGHT OF YOU (Ray Noble)
From:

THE VERY THOUGHT OF YOU
By Ray Noble

The very thought of you,
And I forget to do
All the ordinary things that everyone ought to do.
I'm living in a kind of daydream.
I'm happy as a king.
Funny though it may seem,
To me it's everything.

The mere idea of you,
The longing here for you,
You'll never know how slow the moments go till I am near to you.
I see your face in every flower,
Your eyes in stars above.
It's just the thought of you,
The very thought of you, my love.


07 Jul 99 - 01:45 PM (#93158)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Patty Gates

Yes, that is a lovely song. I also had thought about "Only You"

Only You....can make this world seem right. Only you....can make the darkness bright. Only you and you alone..can thrill me like you do and fill my heart with love for Only You...... Only you...can make this change in me for it's true..you are my destiny. When you hold my hand, I undersand the magic that you do, You're my dream come true, my one and Only You........

I also had even thought about the song, "The Last Time I Felt Like This"..........I was falling in love (Johnny Mathis and Jane Oliver sang this for the movie, "Same Time Next Year."

Also wondered about the song "In My LIfe" by Lennon and McCartney........interesting lyrics for the circumstances, don't you think? Almost pays tribute to their deceased spouses while professing love for each other.

Whaddya think?


07 Jul 99 - 01:51 PM (#93161)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Peter T.

"In my life I love you more", "And these memories lose their meaning" sort of fits into the "Second Time Around" category, don't you think?
yours, Peter T.


07 Jul 99 - 02:08 PM (#93165)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From:

Yes, Peter, I think that song could be pretty awesome as long as the lyrics were taken in their entirety and absorbed in that vein......(or artery....:)

My brother suggested "Always" which is, of course, a good standard. I just wanted to offer them a variety of suggetions.

I still need directions for finding the lyrics to:

Tom Paxton's "Outward Bound" Pat Sky's "Love Will Endure" and "October Roses"


08 Jul 99 - 12:37 AM (#93321)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Tom on Comfort

Bill Morrisey's "Off White Dress" is nice. About doing what you want to on the second ceremony.

The chorus goes something like

"We'll find a band that won't play "Proud Mary" at all No matter how late it gets Just me in my suit as I waltz you around And you in your off white dress"


08 Jul 99 - 11:13 AM (#93404)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Patty Gates

Ha! I love it. The irony is that my son is the DJ for the wedding and I'll betcha someone will, indeed, request Proud Mary of the likes thereof! Where might I find the rest of the lyrics? I love this!


08 Jul 99 - 11:31 AM (#93407)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Fadac

Don't know about 2nd marrages. But my favorate boat name is, "Never Again III"

-Fadac


08 Jul 99 - 12:15 PM (#93413)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Jeri

Kate Wolf's "Give Yourself to Love."

Lyrics are here.

A short clip of the sound can be found here. There's an e-mail address, and info on how to get the sheet music by e-mail.


08 Jul 99 - 09:09 PM (#93546)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: patty Gates

Jeri,

Thank you. I visited the site and the song is lovely. (As are some of the others.)

I sure have appreciated everyone's input! Another song that might be pretty is, "Because of You."


09 Jul 99 - 10:18 AM (#93674)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: l;ovely Locks

I was just browsing through some wedding song books yesterday and I saw two in there that weren't too bad, but they might not be what you are looking for. You've Got a Friend, and Stand By Me. Just a couple more suggestions, I'll still keep looking though. Good luck!!!!!!!!!


09 Jul 99 - 03:45 PM (#93759)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Llanfair

My sister and her husband are celebrating their 25th anniversary by renewing their vows (or saying I STILL do, as Jim describes it) She's asked me and my son to do an appropriate song atthe ceremony, and we've chosen "In my life" it's the most appropriate. (I've been married 25 years, too, but to three different people!!! Bron


09 Jul 99 - 09:57 PM (#93832)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Patty Gates

///Thanks for the new suggestions........keep 'em coming:)

LLanfair wrote: we've chosen "In my life" it's the most appropriate. (I've been married 25 years, too, but to three different people!!!

////SMile:) I think that counts. Sometimes it's difficult enough to live with *one* person for 25 years, let alone *three!*


09 Jul 99 - 10:04 PM (#93835)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Duckboots

I've sung "In My Life" at about 20 weddings (friends' weddings that is) and every couple is still together! On two occasions I was asked to sing "The Wedding Song" and BOTH marriages broke up! Maybe they sould sue Paul Stookey.
Rick


10 Jul 99 - 01:31 PM (#93948)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Patty Gates

*Very* interesting! I'll tell my friends about that! (Now, I'm going to have to admit to not knowing exactly which song is, "The WEdding Song." What are some of the lyrics - perhaps I know it by another title?


10 Jul 99 - 02:50 PM (#93957)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Jeri

Here are the lyrics to "The Wedding Song."


10 Jul 99 - 03:02 PM (#93964)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Peter T.

I think it is completely bizarre that people would use "In My Life" at a second wedding, involving people from the first set of families and/or friends. It only goes to show that no one listens to lyrics. "All these memories lose their meaning, and I think of love as something new, though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before....In my Life I love you more!!!" (I mean, trash the past or what?)
If you aren't going to listen to the lyrics, why not play "Je T'Aime, Moi Non Plus" and get it over with. Really bizarre.
Yours, Peter T.


11 Jul 99 - 11:57 AM (#94116)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Rick Fielding

Peter T, the most bizarre wedding song was performed at the reception for Richard Leslie Fielding and Heather (no middle name) Docherty in Cambuslang Scotland in 1989.
The bride's sister had pestered the confused groom to be for months with questions like: What are ye gang tay wear? (he didn't know..but didn't own a suit) What kind of music are ye gang tay have? (anything but the kind of crap he'd often been asked to play at others' weddings)
Well, upon being informed by future sister-in-law that jeans and a tee shirt were verbotten, he bought a cheap, ill-fitting suit, and she was so relieved she completely forgot about the music issue.
Came the reception (where the groom suddenly realized he'd have to DANCE!!(at least for a bit) and it was decided that the two "best Men", Tony Quarrington and Bill Harrison (imported from Toronto) would provide the music...until the groom was finished with official protocol, and would join them to make a trio! Well, the only waltz that these two could play together was "The Brand New Tennessee Waltz"...which the bride and groom took the floor to. I doubt if any of the assembled Docherty relatives knew (or could understand) what the lyrics were. But I did!
It was OK though, the older relatives were still getting over the shock of the bride dressing in a black mini-skirt!
Despite all this, 'twas a wonderful day, and I'd do it again in a second!
rick


11 Jul 99 - 12:46 PM (#94123)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Pete Peterson

Other appropriate songs

Beware O Take Care

God Made Woman After Man (and she's been after man ever since)

The Man Who Wrote the Home Sweet Home Never Was a Married Man

Sorry the Day I was Married

Stern Old Bachelor

Never Be as Fast as I have Been

I have sung some of the above at three weddings now-- and they are all still together! As some previous poster has said, nobody listens to words anyway. PETE


11 Jul 99 - 01:34 PM (#94132)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Banjer

If I had judged life solely by my first time around and was lookimg for an appropriate song for the second time, I would have chosen 'A Fool Never Learns', but as it turns out the second time is far better than the first and has lasted 22 years so far. The first ran for about a year and a half!


12 Jul 99 - 12:11 AM (#94272)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Patty Gates

Okay! I think it's settled!

The groom's daughter will play harp music prior to the wedding

The soloist will sing, "Someone Like You"

The bride's two children and spouses will walk in with the minister

the bride's two grandchildren will walk down the aisle as a junior bridesmaid and ringbearer, respectively

The couple will walk down the aisle together

The nuptials will take place

The soloist will sing "One Hand, One Heart" as a benediction

The newlyweds will leave the church (and if I can find the "statement" I heard at one wedding, there will be no music for the recessional, but the minister will intone, "Wither thou goest, I shall go....whither thou lodgest, I shall lodge....thy people shall be my people (etc., etc.)" (from the Book of Ruth)

The first dance for the reception will be "Keeper of the Stars" (we think) and the second dance will be the bride with her son and the groom with his daughter and they will dance to, "Always" (the chorus only, of course) Next dance will be for guests to join in and we haven't gotten that far for a song selection, but that should be a piece of cake after all of this!!!

THANKS to one and all for your help and input! Much appreciated!


12 Jul 99 - 01:06 AM (#94281)
Subject: Lyr Add: OFF-WHITE (Bill Morrissey)
From: Tom on Comfort

Well congratulations on getting all that settled. And I've tracked down the lyrics to the Bill Morrissey song that I mentioned earlier. So even if you don't use it (and since I don't know how to post the music to it, it'll be hard for you to), here are the words, 'cause I think they're rather sweet.

It's in a waltz time:

OFF-WHITE

We'll invite our families
And some of our friends
And maybe they'll even throw rice
And we'll have us a party
Then get out of town
And not listen to any advice

We both feel so new
And this time we know
We'll never have any regrets
And we'll hire us a band
That won't play "Proud Mary"
No matter how late it gets

(refrain)
Yes we'll hire us a band
This time around
That plays nothing but our requests
Just me in my suit
While I waltz you around
And you in your off-white dress

We both were married
We both were young
We both have made our mistakes
We know how it feels
Both when love is real
And when a heart truly breaks

So take care of the food
I'll find us a band
And together we'll rent us a hall
Maybe you weren't my first
The way I wasn't yours
But the last love is the sweetest of all

(refrain...)

(On his "Inside" album)

Y'all have a lovely time, now, for sure.

--Tom


12 Jul 99 - 09:17 AM (#94368)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: Peter T.

Rick, that is hilarious. You seem to have gone through the thick and thin part on day 1!
yours, Peter T.


12 Jul 99 - 02:26 PM (#94447)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: PattyG

Tom - I love the lyrics! And I shall print them out and offer that for folks who are divorced and having another go at it! I really like that!

Also - could someone tell me about the revised rendition of "The Tennessee Waltz?" The words are different? Haven't heard it.


22 Mar 00 - 02:07 PM (#199269)
Subject: RE: Wedding song for 2nd time around!
From: GUEST,BOCKPATR@QUABOAG.ORG

Can anyone transcribe the chords to "October Roses?"