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22 Aug 02 - 02:04 PM (#769734) Subject: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,Dating Again Any good ideas for a gift to give a man on a fifth date? He brought me flowers and treats for my cat on our third date. |
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22 Aug 02 - 02:35 PM (#769747) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: EBarnacle1 I don't know. My lady friend and I keep surprising each other. The other day, she got me a razor with a mermaid handle. Even though I am a beardo, I appreciate the humor of it. A few weeks ago, I gave her a pair of earings which I had been holding until she wore something blue. She was surprised at how well they matched her clothes and how prescient I was. Stay loose and be prepared. |
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22 Aug 02 - 04:36 PM (#769800) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Kim C A book. |
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22 Aug 02 - 04:57 PM (#769807) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: SharonA If by the 5th date you don't have any idea what he might like, you guys need to talk more! *G* But seriously, I think EBarnacle is on the right track. Something small, but something chosen with his personality and preferences in mind, rather than a generic gift. |
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22 Aug 02 - 05:09 PM (#769813) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Sorcha I'd counsel against jewlery for a bit longer........books, wine, a small tool for his hobby if he has one. |
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22 Aug 02 - 05:29 PM (#769819) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,dating again SharonA I know what he likes, I was just thinking something generic...like baking him cookies or something! |
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22 Aug 02 - 05:34 PM (#769822) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Sorcha Cookies are good!! |
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22 Aug 02 - 05:37 PM (#769823) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,Just Amy Home Baked Cookies are perfect because the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Also, it is a thoughtful, inexpensive and not too personal gift which is perfect at this juncture in your relationship. And it is just a bit old fashioned. |
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22 Aug 02 - 05:41 PM (#769826) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amergin actually i thought the way to a man's heart was through his reproduction system.... |
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22 Aug 02 - 06:19 PM (#769844) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,Just Amy No, I been with the same man for 20 years now and I can still get him with a home cooked meal. Oh, heck, he's a man, I can get him with almost anything! |
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22 Aug 02 - 06:41 PM (#769856) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Lyrical Lady Gifts??...we're suppose to give gifts!? Guess I have a lot to learn about this dating business! I've been out of the loop for so long ... I had no idea! LOL! LL |
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22 Aug 02 - 07:08 PM (#769866) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST Amy, Sorry to burst your bubble, but he pretends that your cooking has won his heart. Us blokes tend to like an easy life, but we're not stupid. You can only get him with almost anything because he lets you. Compliments from men have one purpose, they save on the nagging... |
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22 Aug 02 - 08:09 PM (#769883) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: gwonya I'd really appreciate a D28 myself. Why...that'd just impress the heck outa me. And if he does'nt like that please get back to me and we can have coffee or something. |
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22 Aug 02 - 08:22 PM (#769886) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: C-flat Why don't you make him a tape of your/his favourite songs. If your relationship has a future you could be laying foundation stones through a piece of music that has some significance to you both. Doesn't every couple have a song? |
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22 Aug 02 - 08:38 PM (#769893) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,dating again Apparently my baking skills leave much to be desired...can't quite seem to get the cookies to turn out right! Back to the drawing board... |
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22 Aug 02 - 08:57 PM (#769898) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amergin a skimpy outfit usually works.... |
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22 Aug 02 - 09:10 PM (#769901) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Bobert Hey, as a member of the dumber sex, I'd suggest a CD. By now you know of his musical tastes (or should) and find something that he hasn'r quite heard but might have heard about. This will open up an entire area of conversation for the 6th date. I'd say, cookies, with strawberrys, maybe some candles and Declan Masterson for down the road a bit... Good luck, Bobert |
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23 Aug 02 - 12:52 AM (#769958) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Mudlark I heard somewere that the way to a man's heart is thru his chest....but be that as it may, a well-made cookie or loaf of bread is always a good plan. Also like the CD idea if he has any musical sensibilities...and if he doesn't...oh dear... |
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23 Aug 02 - 09:37 AM (#770126) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,Fred Miller I've never actually dated. I still can't get a DATE WITH MY WIFE. Oops, I hit the cap key, but okay. But as a gift for someone I can't figure out what to give, The Onion books are always good--it's a mock newspaper in Madison, very funny. Funny headlines and news stories written in deadpan parody of journalese. Once someone finds favorite things to laugh about, shared jokes, it seems personal enough. If he has no sense of humor, dump him. Women dating guys like that is tragic, a waste of our natural resources.
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23 Aug 02 - 09:50 AM (#770132) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Trevor How about a Ducati 998S Testastretta. |
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23 Aug 02 - 10:37 AM (#770174) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: SharonA Try this site for gift suggestions: http://dating1.indiatimes.com/date/karki_gifts/ |
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23 Aug 02 - 11:08 AM (#770201) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,dating again Thanks SharonA! |
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23 Aug 02 - 01:53 PM (#770324) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: EBarnacle1 It's always fun to share the Times crossword on Saturday night/Sunday morning. Consider something to share. |
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25 Aug 02 - 07:34 AM (#771211) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Hrothgar Yes, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, if you're not confident about getting the knife between his ribs. |
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25 Aug 02 - 07:47 AM (#771212) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,dating Seems to be some bitterness about this subject... |
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26 Aug 02 - 11:07 AM (#771727) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: EBarnacle1 DA, I don't know how far your relationship has gone. My friend and I were discussing this thread and she pointed out that if [and only if] the relationship has progressed to the point where you are both looking at commitment, a good symbolic gift would be a toothbrush in whichever bathroom you use most, so that the guest does not have to bring his/her own. Keep me posted, I will try to help. Eric |
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26 Aug 02 - 12:04 PM (#771761) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: SharonA "Dating again": You're welcome! I can't say much for the music "suggestions" on that site (it's just a link to a shopping page, though why one is linked there when one says one has no money is beyond me!), but some of their other gift ideas are pretty creative. I wonder what "karki" means? |
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26 Aug 02 - 12:28 PM (#771771) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,Just Amy so, have you had the date yet? What did you give him? Your loving Auntie Amy |
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26 Aug 02 - 01:07 PM (#771791) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,dating again Actually I did end up giving him the cookies with apologies that they didn't taste better! I think he ate most of them anyway. Gosh, this dating thing is really agonizing. But I suppose the benefits make up for it...Still I can't shake the feeling I will be single forever! And SharonA, karki is a new word to me! I have no idea. |
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26 Aug 02 - 03:39 PM (#771868) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos It's obviously Indian slang from the context. Probably something akin to "economical". A |
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27 Aug 02 - 10:51 AM (#772333) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,not dating anymore Well I must have poisoned him...I'm getting the old runaround. Why can't you guys just come out and say you're not interested? Would save an awful lot of wondering... Damn men! |
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27 Aug 02 - 11:48 AM (#772369) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: EBarnacle1 Damn us not for the sake of a fool. Next time you see him just slip him an ipecac laced chocolate chip cookie and smile. Meanwhile, consider that there are plenty of others out there just looking for a proud beauty like you--and wondering where you are. [No, don't wear a sign.] You will also find that the more relaxed and happy you are, the more you will be approached. this will be especially true once you get a good relationship going and don't feel any need to look. |
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27 Aug 02 - 12:06 PM (#772374) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,dateless You're right EBarnacle, it's just frustrating and disappointing. Ahh well, I'll bounce back soon enough. |
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27 Aug 02 - 12:52 PM (#772409) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos Dateless, you're not alone; the endless time-honored battle between Mars and Venus is still in full fury, spilling the blood of countless innocent hearts all across our sorry planet. You grab any four people off the street and three of them will be in or just out of a damn heartbreak of frustration trying to wig-wag a message across to the opposite sex. (Why DO they call sexes opposite, anyway? Aren't they supposed to be on the same side???) If we really wanted to end war, we should figure out a reliable decoder ring for all these tongue-tied men and women who are so smart and able and frozen at the stick to the point of not communicating worth a damn. SOmething that can parse obscure gestures, translate hearts and see through obsessive reluctance. Wotta concept!! That would really put a new look on the international situation!! Just imagine -- real communiucation between men and women!! Holy Moly!! Revolutionary!! A A |
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27 Aug 02 - 05:25 PM (#772474) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: SharonA *sigh* Did I not caution against a generic gift for a fifth date? (...especially after he gave you the rather personalized gift of treats for your beloved kitty two dates ago...) Oh well, nobody listens to me in the 3-D world, either. Anyway, I truly am sorry to hear of your troubles. Hope things go better for you the next time 'round. Who knows, maybe Kitty-Treat Man will come to his senses! If not, well, if you'll pardon the expression, that's the way the cookie crumbles. |
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27 Aug 02 - 06:57 PM (#772535) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,date free Ahh, SharonA, somehow I doubt a less generic gift would have avoided the present situation! I'd give you the rant I've been giving out today, but it'd just be wasted bandwidth. Suffice it to say that I am very careful and observant - and despite that I was completely fooled this time around! So, anybody got an unmarried male relative that needs a date? :-D |
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27 Aug 02 - 07:55 PM (#772568) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amergin well date free....it is their loss... |
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27 Aug 02 - 08:32 PM (#772594) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos Being careful and observant is a two-edged sword, DF -- sometimes the observing ruins the experiment. Remember the old physics lesson about Schrodinger's Ball? :>) Just an observation FWIW. Best regards, A |
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27 Aug 02 - 09:02 PM (#772612) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,df Can't say I remember that lesson, Amos. Though it does seem that no matter what I do, I should have done something else. Gets tiresome after a while, you know? :-) |
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27 Aug 02 - 09:50 PM (#772638) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos Sure, I understand. My instinct under such circumstances is that there's a hidden, uncommunicated standard you're being measured against, but not told about, which makes it quite unfair and really, IMHO, not worth messing with!! A |
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27 Aug 02 - 11:14 PM (#772676) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Yorkshire Tony Am I the only single man reading this thread? You sound a nice thoughtful person DF. If you want to send me a PM we can at least console each other by e-mail. Best wishes Tony |
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28 Aug 02 - 10:17 AM (#772905) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,df Thanks Tony. Perhaps I'll do that. |
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28 Aug 02 - 10:59 AM (#772940) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos Uhoh!! The vibes are starting!! Look out world -- another madcap Mudcat mooshy story is in the making!! :>) A |
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29 Aug 02 - 11:21 AM (#773655) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Dave Bryant A rather shy bloke was dating a rather worldly girl. One evening he appeared with a huge bunch of flowers. The girl was very touched by this and told him to wait while she went into her room. A minute later she called him in, and he found her naked with her legs wide apart. "This is for the flowers", she said. "Oh", he said, "Don't you have a vase ?". |
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29 Aug 02 - 11:51 AM (#773677) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos In your dreams, Davey!! LOL!! A |
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29 Aug 02 - 12:07 PM (#773687) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,JTT Dating/Not, your fate has cleared the way for a nicer fella. One so nice that you won't have to wonder what he'd like for a present, you'll have a thousand ideas just from thinking about him. |
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29 Aug 02 - 12:17 PM (#773689) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: EBarnacle1 I just got this in an EM from another friend: Love like you've never been hurt and Dance like no one is watching." I believe the reference a few threads back is to Heisenberg's uncertainty principle--You cannot observe both the speed and location of a particle. It is similar to the rule I try to get my friends suffering from GHAB [Gotta Have a Boat] to follow. Have someone else give you the pros and cons, then decide for yourself. Keep on goin', gal. |
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29 Aug 02 - 12:36 PM (#773703) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: GUEST,date free LOL Dave Bryant! Thanks for that statement, JTT. I can only hope it comes true someday! Well, guess I'll have to start being proactive about this. I've never been one to initiate contact with men but maybe now is the time! Of course, there's always the possibility of remaining single, which might not be such a bad thing... |
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29 Aug 02 - 01:01 PM (#773721) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Amos Dear Date Free: Being single is certainly not a bad thing!! Consider that it is our natural condition at birth, and it takes millions of dollars in TV advertisements and cultural bigotry to get us to even begin thinking about changing it! Allowing yourself to be suborned into a Hallmark mindset might conceivably be a serious error, unless you seriously want to settle for the careful construction of a life-long companionship. You pay a lot for such a decision, including putting up with laundry and another person's farts under the covers. You also get a lot in return. It is a matter of how you place your values in designing your life, of course. However if you intend to continue the experiment, by all means go jump a few bones, and see if it succeeds -- at least it will be an adventure!! Doctor Abby
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29 Aug 02 - 03:39 PM (#773800) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Irish sergeant DF: It sounds like Mr. Kitty treats just doesn't appreciate a good woman. Chin up and keep plugging. Cookies on the fifth date would have done it for me! (Actually if I make it to a ffth date a rubberband would do.;~) ) have a good week and good hunting. There is some lucky guy out there that just doesn't know it yet. Neil |
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29 Aug 02 - 05:38 PM (#773868) Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas From: Mr Red avoid ties - wrong message - associations. Socks - not. If all else fails buy the drinks. My reaction is one of circumspection. Don't start something you can't sustain. The slow-down of these offerings has to be handled carefully. Joy liked my singing (no honest) and holding hands etc - call me a cheapskate but I have sustained that out of preferrence for 18 months and don't see it changing. Mind you I bought her a mobile phone on day 3 so we could conduct textual intercourse daily. |