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09 Sep 06 - 02:57 PM (#1830718) Subject: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST,long time member I've just told a friend that i had a very short ( one day)relationship with her husband. OK - he told me the as you would expect crap of the wife not understanding me = idiot I believed it - perhaps I wanted to..........but I had to tell the truth. She didn't go crazy but he might- I'm scared. Yes you might say ha ha you deserve this but I'm very scared - any ideas - what to do next? Why did I say anything.................I had too |
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09 Sep 06 - 03:22 PM (#1830727) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Bobert If you ain't willin' to do the time, don't do the crime... 1st crime: the fling 2md crime: tellin' his wife But, don't be scared... The guy ain't gonna hunt you down 'er nuthin' and even if he does he probably just wants to vent his anger on you... He'll blow it off and all will be, ahhhhh, not so well between you and these folks... Hang in there and jus' ride it out... |
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09 Sep 06 - 03:30 PM (#1830730) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST thanks for not being one sided - I feel so bad |
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09 Sep 06 - 03:31 PM (#1830731) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: John MacKenzie Personally I'd have said nothing, unless it was an ongoing relationship, that I wanted out in the open. Sounds like yours was a 'fling' and as such would have been better used as an object lesson, and not as it now might become, a lever! Giok |
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09 Sep 06 - 03:58 PM (#1830746) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Mrrzy Some truths don't need to be told... good luck with the fallout, flings happen but memories last... |
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09 Sep 06 - 04:07 PM (#1830754) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST made the mistake.............no point in beating myself again..........help! |
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09 Sep 06 - 04:16 PM (#1830762) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST,stupid guest The line should read very very stupid guest. We all make mistakes, there is a part of me that wants to make everything OK and I know its not goimg to happen. I'm trying my best |
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09 Sep 06 - 04:17 PM (#1830763) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Bert What to do next? NOTHING. As my Grandma used to say "Least said, soonest mended" |
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09 Sep 06 - 04:52 PM (#1830787) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Megan L self indulgent pap |
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09 Sep 06 - 05:10 PM (#1830799) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: kendall The past is by definition past. But, why did you feel compelled to tell? Did you think it would make you feel better by making him a target of his wife's anger? Explain reason. |
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09 Sep 06 - 05:38 PM (#1830821) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Kaleea "had to" ?? . . . gun pointed at your head? caught on video? lie detector? in the middle of a circle of psychics? wanted to get back at the husband because he "lied" to you? wanted to see the wife squirm? wanted to alleviate your "guilt?" feeling better now? Ditto what Bobert said!! |
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09 Sep 06 - 05:55 PM (#1830835) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST If he hadn't been full of the 'wife doesn't understand me' crap, meaning if he had treated you better, you would have had more than a one day relationship with your friend's husband. I guess you got hurt when you bumped into them in the frozen food aisle pretty soon after your one dayer, or maybe saw them looking very happy at a party, and you realised you had been stung. Well you've had your revenge now and personally you deserve all you get, whereas your 'friend' didn't deserve you. |
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09 Sep 06 - 06:15 PM (#1830851) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Zany Mouse I don't think I would want a friend like you. What good did you do? I suspect the telling was revenge related. Time to grow up! Rhiannon |
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09 Sep 06 - 06:56 PM (#1830870) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST,Bee I'm hoping you're very young and thus entitled to make idiotic decisions which you may regret and learn from at leisure. If you're over thirty, then IMO, you'd no excuse for your behaviour and compounded it by stirring the pot. If you live in a small town, consider moving. You asked. |
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09 Sep 06 - 07:02 PM (#1830872) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST Trolling, trolling, trolling Trolling, trolling, trolling, Keep this bullshit trolling, RAWHIDE |
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10 Sep 06 - 01:19 AM (#1830993) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST,long time member my motive was selfish - trying to sort out the guilt I felt. I thought I was doing "the right thing" I may have kick started my friend into moving on, I hope so because she deserves so much better. Call me troll call me whatever, I'm not a bad person. |
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10 Sep 06 - 01:41 AM (#1830996) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: Stilly River Sage When you engage in that kind of relationship, you rationalize for yourself why it might be okay. When it isn't, and you feel guilty, the guilt is all yours (and his). The telling doesn't fix anything, it just spreads more pain (exponentially) so it wasn't a good idea. If you felt that someone else was going to spill the beans and you wanted to get your version out there first--well, I still think it's a bad idea. I suspect that many of us have someone in our past who wasn't very good for us but who we felt we loved. Sometimes that love lasts for a long long time because of the obstacles that never let the relationship run its course--it stays pent up, it doesn't peter out (no pun intended). Finding out that someone is a rat is an all-too-common discovery, but it's part of growing up to be discreet about the relationship and try to avoid causing pain when possible. I made a mistake similar to yours, many years ago. I learned a lot from it, and won't make that mistake again. I'm sure I'll make others, but not that one. "Full disclosure" may be ethical in journalism; it's a luxury few can afford in clandestine relationships. SRS |
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10 Sep 06 - 01:59 AM (#1831001) Subject: RE: BS: telling the truth From: GUEST,long time member STS - I think you are right |