Brett, I am not impatient for you, I am concerned about you. I want you to be the healthy person you want to be. I have noted you are having a hard time getting started with making changes. But every day has the potential for change. You started this thread asking for help, for ideas, for support, for motivation. I have offered a great deal of that in a lot of posts, as have others. I am not doing that for my health, but for yours, because you asked. I just don't want to see you give up without giving it a good try. Sorry, I do not happen to be a molly-coddling type so if I seem impatient, realize there is real concern behind it. When you wrote you were "rethinking" the whole diet idea, that's what it sounded like to me. That frustrates me, because I am concerned about your health. I think you do want to get healthy, but I can't figure out what approach is best for you (which is why I have offered a number of different kinds of advice). Only you can figure that out, ultimately. But you did ask for help. I think if you see this as an "all or nothing" thing it will be even harder to do. Which is why I opined that there is absolutely nothing wrong with eating cereal, if you want it, as it is not an unhealthy food, with few exceptions. Do this any way you think will work, but do it reasonably. I agree with others who think the "one day at a time" approach is good...but to me that means that every day is an opportunity for you to get better.
Good luck.