i had a boss who harassed me on a regular basis, trying to break my will and make me reject a particular case, by working in a way that was illegal and unconscionable (what a word!). He used to come and stand over my desk and lecture me, regularly, humiliating me in front of colleagues. It was hard, but I politely disagreed with his arguments, and let him know.

One day when he came over, I let him know that I was going to a funeral that afternoon, and that it wasnt a good time for me, and could he come back another day to argue about the particular case. He stayed for another 40 mins.

The mistake I made was to offload about him to a woman who I later found out was having an affair with him. So he heard everything I felt, but through another source.