Jim, that's an unfair assumption - they did decide they both wanted to have kids before they got married. They even picked out the names. The issue is when.

I figure she has a trump card in that she's 37 - it's pretty much now or never (or expensive fertility treatments). But she wants him to agree to have kids, not feel pressured into it, so she's looking for advice on how to broach the subject: "Honey I want to get pregnant now!" or "Have you thought about when we should start having kids?..." I'm always in favor of a direct approach, but I've never dealt with a procrastinator and I thought being too direct might trigger the delay response.

I was hoping some Mudcatters would have dealt with something like this sucessfully and pass along their advice.