(I still think the pastor's involvement could and probably would be invaluable - I mean only that the approach requires careful planning.)

The age of consent in California is 18 for males and females. I'm not sure yet how it plays out with both of them as minors, but I believe Amos. It must be a legal violation. (One web site says that with two year's age difference it is a misdemeanor; three years difference would be a felony. - It's possible that she's almost 15 and he's barely 16 - I don't know, or even how the age difference is exaclty quantified.)

As for missing facts, here's a firinstance that I left out: The boy's dad supposedly died of AIDS when the boy was young. That might mess with a youngster's head.