"...and asked him if he is ever asked whether he is a man or woman. Crisp replied that it happens all the time. "How do you respond to such questions?" the interviewer asked.

Crisp said, "I usually ask them, 'Does it matter? What do you have in mind?'"

Maybe it matters sometimes. Part of my daughter's job at a beach facility was handing out locker room keys. One day a guy came in wearing a bikini top and asked in all earnestness "Should I go to the men's or the women's?" She wasn't quite sure what to tell him.

Meanwhile a gay fellow who's very proud of his orientation is a dancer in a troupe. And he's always enthusing about all the men he gets to undress with and see naked. Not sure if I'd be comfortable with another man looking at me naked with undisguised pleasure.