I can't begin to comprehend your loss. I am terribly sorry to hear of it. I've lost my mother, three grandparents, and a number of dear friends over the years but nothing to commpare to what you are going through now. The Lord already holds your daughter, so my prayers are with you, the one left behind. Now on the other subject that's reared its ugly head, nearly every decent definition I've heard of folk music mentions the condition of the human spirit, the sharing of something dear, the celebrating of our joys and easing of our pain, the love of our family, friends and heritage. On any level this thread is folk music. It's why we have folk music. "It's a dirge that is murmered around the lowly grave, Oh Hard Times Come Again No More." Regardless, I have seen people I absolutely despised pass on, and I wouldn't tell their grieving families,or give them other cause to suffer any more than they already are. That's petty, disgusting, immoral, and just plain wrong. I'll pray for you too. Getting back to the matter at hand , My heart and prayers go out to you, Metchosin, and I'm sorry you had to put up with this. Love, Rich