Hey WYSIWYG: I was once in a band that recorded and released an album.
We were quite good! Unfortunately, one of the members was strapped for cash and felt set upon to "donate" his vehicle along with everyone else's to transport the band and its gear. So, he decided to request payment by the mile as reimbursement. Unfortunately, those of us who drove did so as well, using "government" stats as the guideline. Therefore, most of the gig pay went to transport. Of the 5, I was the only one who had a "real" 9 to 5 5 day a week job. Two members were part time guitar and mandoling teachers and one even was taking mandolin lessons from a local mandolin virtuoso of international fame, so he could not make ends meet. When it was decided that our success was such that we could buy a used Greyhound bus and outfit it ourselves, with the help of a financnial backer, two members decided that was that, including the one who started the whole reimbursment deal. The decision to quit was made solely on financial reasons as well as emotional reasons. Rules are great! Policies are great! Just when the policy is initially made, write it down and agre to it and NEVER WAIVER!!! We NEVER agreed to the reimbursment plan, we just greedily did it!

When is it time to leave? When unrealitic demands are made of the group, such as threatening its rinancial health. IF the group is together for th fun of it, than leave when you aren't having anymore fun. If you can't exist with an "all for one and one for all" attitude and can't remember there is no "I" in "TEAM", then leave. No amount of clerical intervnetion is going to change anything. And feelings have toenter into it. Afterall, we areonly human and our feelings are one of the reasons were are humn!

BTW, Susan, W L D's proposal of bigamy sounds like it might be fun, but one heck of a swim!

MadDawg