I was invited to join a band by the bandleader. All the guys are very dedicated, awesome people,and quite probably better musicians than I am. (I've never had to write songs with other people before and my memory is shit right now because of life issues so once a riff is played I can't remember it afterwards especially when someone else is noodling.)
However, the rest of the band wants a more democratic process and a slightly different sound than the bandleader does. Really not sure how to handle moving towards a democratic base without hurting the guy's feelings.
Leaving is not an option. I need to learn what I can and they need to get used to playing with a singer who isn't familiar to them. :)