I wish you luck finding someone. Please post again and share the process if you are willing. I'd love to hear.
I'm in the same position here in the San Francisco Bay area although I also have a master's program I'm trying to finish in addition to work and music. I wish my guitar playing was about a million times better so I wouldn't be so dependent on others... perhaps a good and bad thing... :)
Wishing you the best in finding a great musician (and hopefully a new friend),