Oh, goodie. It worked.
I'm pleased that you folks found something worthwhile in my post.
Little notes back:
Amos, yes, the old Prot. Eth. In relation to us never getting credit for the good stuff, there's a quote I love: "Whatever you attribute to God, you take away from mankind." (Marx)
Little Bonnie hit most closely the type of experience out of which I wrote.
Barbara, consider, it's the feedback from others that helps us know ourselves. I suspect that without others' help, we are largely mysteries to ourselves, don't you think?
John Gray hits the "applied" part: it can be pretty tough to know how much to say, to whom, in what circumstances, without doing more damage than good. John, looking at it as one from the States, I'd say you laid it on pretty thick in relation to what "guys" can take in public. On the other hand, jeez, did he cry just because you were recognizing him for his character as he had never heard anyone do before? I think I might cry too. Maybe no one had been this honest to his face – which is where my post began, the good that is left undone by appreciations not spoken.