I understand where you're coming from Tom, my wifes Father died in June and this is going to be her first Christmas without him, she's doing her best to get over it but she says exactly the same things as you, "It just won't be the same!" Her mother and father would have been married 50 years in November just gone, they didn't quite make it. All you can do is remember all the good times you've had with them, and don't forget, part of them will always be alive as long as you are!My sympathy.