I'm with katlaughing on this one - if it were me, I wouldn't be looking for an answer and I wouldn't want to hear (yet) that maybe it's for the best - I'd want a major hug and someone to agree that it's really awful that this happened after all the work I'd put into it.

When I was ready for alternatives or able to look on the bright side, I'd make that known. Till then, hugs and chocolate (or her preferred equivalent) and maybe totally unrelated get-her-mind-off-it things (walk in the park, trip to the beach, dinner out or a picnic or whatever works for your folks - not "to make her feel better" but because you want to be with her.

When I'm feeling undervalued, it's important to me to know that people want to be with me - not always easy, as I, too, tend to go ballistic towards my nearest and dearest when I'm stressed. The answer is not logic (even though I generally am logically-minded and usually respond to that) - the answer is a hug (and maybe a trip to town for a hot fudge sundae).

Good thoughts and hugs to you both,
JudyB