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dianavan BS: Poverty in the USA (1252* d) RE: BS: Poverty in the USA 06 May 07


But Dani - Being in a nuclear family does not protect you from any of the set-backs or pitfalls that you mention. Its not single parenting that creates any of those problems and nuclear families are no guarantee that the parents will be capable of handling those problems, either. I know couples who are so busy making each other miserable that they have little or no time for their children and others who think if they give their kids everything (except discipline) they will be loved.

All parents are overwhelmed at times. Most parents can cope with pressure and stress and still have time to devote to their children - being single or married doesn't make the difference. A double income might. It certainly helps if healthcare is paid, you have housing and some sort of assistance to see you through the tough times. As a single mom I had to deal with injury, serious illness and academic challenges but with part-time work and student loans, we made it.

As I said before, single parenting is not the cause of poverty and does not lead to more poverty if there is social assistance. I had no spousal support or immediate family to help me. The only thing that helped me overcome was universal healthcare, an educational loan and govt. assistance (School clothes and supplies for the kids, Christmas and summer holidays) when we needed it.

Just because my children have been raised by a single mom does not mean they do not want life-partners. My son has found his life mate and they are very happy. My daughter is still looking but in the meantime, she has been going to university and looking after herself.

Those of you who are hanging on to the notion that single parents are a blight on the landscape, are doing the children of those families a great diservice. Both of my children had to overcome that prejudice. It certainly doesn't help when society thinks that you don't have a chance.

I am totally grateful to be living in a country that gave me and my kids opportunities but at the same time, we need to provide more support for those who do not have the skills to overcome the many obstacles that are placed before them.

Neglect and abuse create poverty.


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