thanks kat,
re the video messages, I think everyone should take a moment and leave one for their loved ones, now it is so easy with webcams etc..
but the reason I did it, was after listening to a radio podcast about a woman whose mother died of cancer, and since she was only a baby at the time she knew very little of her mother. She would have loved it if the mother had written a letter to her to read when she is grown up.