Phew!! I sense some sort of resolution to the main thread and the many sub-threads. I think the main problem is that our views are coloured by our very individual experiences. Personally I must have been very fortunate through life for I have met so many people I would call friends and very few I wouldn't. It was some 40 years ago when I first visited Eire at the time the border guard's hut was blown up at Newry. On my travels I met all sorts of people in Dublin, Naas, Cork, Bantry, Galway, Dingle etc and everyone welcomed me. I have been back many times and still continue to make good friends. Funny thing is the same thing happens in Europe, Central America and Southern England, Wales & Scotland oh! and Yorkshire!!!!