Sorry, guest above is me - lost my cookie. Some more tips - when baby sleeps, you sleep. It's so tempting to use that time to get things done, but you need to look after yourself. Maybe take a nice long bubblebath. Dinnertime used to always be stressful for me, so make sure hubby helps. If people really want to know what you need, TELL THEM. Don't hold back. One thing I found good for people who couldn't really afford much is a homemade voucher system. 'This entitles you to one hour (or three) of free babysitting' or 'One casserole/foot massage/romantic evening out' - whatever you need.
And you're gonna get lots of advice that won't work as well as stuff that does...I remember a disapproving mother-in-law at the less than pristine state of the house...as long as my kids were fed , clean and happy I didn't beat myself up if the house wasn't perfect.