O.K. guys. I finally decided I need a woman. I gave up trying to find one for many years, figuring I was perfectly happy single.

All of a sudden, bam! I actual care now! big dummy: everyone's married. has kids. is divorced. etc. etc. Tried some of these dating sites: nothing but hook-ups, casual encounters, bi-sexuals, poly-amorous etc. etc. etc.

Basically, the same problem I had in my teens and twenties, no real people, no real commitment, no real love, no real substance.

Every girl I met is warm body material and hormones only, and mostly short term relationship oriented. (why are there so many people this way? Why is their love so cheap and worthless? that is why I never dated much while in my prime, frankly it disgusted me to date, and believe me I was far from not being interested in sex, I just didn't want to ruin it for myself and never have somebody I could trust or relate too. its the same probelm today only worse!

For example: I Met a lady last week. Talked on the phone to her. Now our relationship is over. She wanted me to go to bed with her after only knowing her for a week. She wanted me to move into her upstairs apartment and move to Minneapolis (told my co-workers all this and they were high fiving it!) I turned her offer down though, and she broke my heart in two. Do I look that stupid? BTW: She had a slut score of 62% on OK cupid, higher than that of most porn stars. Swore to me she would be my one and only.

Basically, I'm having a mid-life crisis, that is not being helped by the sad state of today's love starved society. Could be hormones too, that has put me back in the game- I kid you not! At the age most men are cheating on their wives, I'm finally thinking about getting in the game of love? Go figure? what is wrong with me? I haven't got a clue.

All of a sudden women are looking extra good to me now, and they never even did when I was in my twenties. They looked like more problems than they were worth. Now I'm getting where I don't even care about the problems (at least somewhat) Sex, would be nice thing for me now, of course, but it would still have to be with the right person that I could trust (still) and she would commit to me (still). I've been out of the loop for a long, long time.

Any idea where I can find, a decent moral person at my age that is looking for a long term relationship. Shacking up with someone just to satisfy my biological desires, sometimes may be tempting, but I still know its wrong, and would probably not do it, when actual push came to shove. Can't say I haven't been tempted to though, I mean we all have needs(LOL)

Laugh it up guys. I just know that I am a horny middle aged gentleman that doesn't want to get myself into trouble, but would like to be near someone, hopeful in the near future as I am not getting any younger.

Would like to know where to start my search for a decent female to admire and express my affection toward.

thanks for any help/ advice you could give.

And of course let the jokes begin (LOL)

BTW I'm not shy! I would ask any woman out, and have one heck of a time to boot, but there are other issues now, manily there is not much to choose from around here.