Virginia, aside from a few grumpy old (or young..ish) catters, there's also a bit of a cultural divide at times, I think. Sometimes I've misconstrued a friendly or at least neutral comment because I'm not used to the linguistic mannerisms of people from various countries and districts. Best to think about a comment that dismays or puzzles until you can figure out the intent.
I try not to be unpleasant, but some would disagree bytimes.
And welcome, anyway - hope I haven't been a source of discomfort to you!