...my approach to the last individual (guest) who criticized me thoroughly and also made me cry incidentally, was to respond honestly to what they said that was critical. that is another choice thus far has not been mentioned anywhere...I am aware that most of us are reluctant to criticize publically AND to sign our name. That is why people say things which might be construed as mean and don't sign their names. What does one do with negative feelings? I, for one, have backed off and decided not to voice any opinions about anyone elses written remarks on the forum. That is how I have dealt my own disappointment and my own negative feelings, and I am now mainly lurking. It suits my nature better to listen anyway......