ok, i have been avoiding mudcat lately and even when i came back i stayed above the line, and some of the opinions on this thread has shown me i was wise to stay away.

however, this is a subject very close to my heart.

HOW DARE anyone say that rapists have an excuse!!!!!

what does it matter where you are, what you are wearing or not.
what should it matter if you are married?

if there was a woman in the street naked, saying come on then and decided to change her mind, she should be able to do so, without fear.

no one has the right to make you do something that you don't want to do. it should be safe to do, go and dress anyway you want to.

lizzie i am appalled at your reason and logic. how can you be all about freedoms and rights, when the most basic right to respect, you say is tosh?

ake, ok, to explain to am man, (sorry to be patronising). imagine you have left your curtains open and a bit of expansive jewelry on your bed. someone breaks in, not only stealing what is yours but trashes your house and pisses all over your bed as well. not only are you outraged and scared but feel violated as nothing else could make you feel.
you tell your friends whats happened and all you get is a smile and told well you shouldn't have left it out in view.
in priniple, you should be able to have anything in your house and it be safe and secure, no one should have the right to enter your house without you inviting them. if they behave inapropriatly, you have the right to change your mind and throw them out again.

rape is no different, apart from it is to do with a persons body.
it is the attitude of the purportrators that is different of course, from hearing stories, it is the control they desire. provoking fear is all part of the 'buzz'.

i will leave you all to think and give myself time to calm down.

take care all
jade x x