hi ake, there isn't much more to add. i will just say that i think having a serious car crash might have 'similar' effects on ones confidence and health as rape.

i don't think the majority of rapes are people getting into bed with strangers. maybe they have seen them around for a few weeks? we won't get to know.
most are aquantance rapes. where people are friends or family friends or have known them a while.
thats why i said people can make you beileve they are good people, buton the inide you really never know.
as someone who was 'friends' with a peadophile. he was very very good at hiding who he really was.

i am trusting to a degree yes, still get things wrong of course. still if we didn't make mistakes we would never learn. but i also know not to label everyone the same.
see why you think the way you do ake, i just think you are on the wrong path for the right reasons.....sorry that sounded really patronising, but i can't be bothered to retype it! it was a compliment..honest.

take care hun.
jade x x x x x x x