Good article, Ed - tks for posting. Here's a couple more, from the male perspective Friends with Benefits Rules and the female Suggestions for ladies considering a FWB relationship Comparing the two is interesting -- HE says Treat her no different than any other friend, male or female, until the benefits are abound ... You are only helping each other to release some sexual tension ... The best advice is: if feelings develop, stop having casual sex! ... make sure you are not allowing her to take you away from the important things in life! Don't put her before your other mates, job or education ... you need a life to live while you're not getting your rocks off. Make sure you keep it in perspective Geez, he makes it sound so alluring, eh? Probably has to beat all his friends off with a Big Shtick =] Meanwhile, SHE says It's a very, very rare woman who can screw one guy exclusive and not grow at least semi-attached to him... Don't be dependent: You are a wonderful woman even without some horn dog licking at your heels. If you are not emotionally stable on your own you should -never- give any man any sorts of benefits, friend or boyfriend...do not let him treat you like a prostitute .. You are a proud, intelligent, independent woman who does not need a man to fullfill your life. Love your body, love your mind, love your soul. There are plenty of men out there who will give you everything you want... Well, at least they agree on a few things: the importance of communication, safe sex, and having a life of your own while indulging in mutual masturbation sessions. There's hope for the species yet, I suppose :)
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