LH

I don't think opinions are essentially about ego for everybody.

In the same way, I distinguish between the person and their actions at times.

I have found it immensely frustrating discussing with people who think when I argue with something they say, that I'm attacking them as a person. I'm not. I'm just saying e.g. something they've said doesn't fir the facts; or is illogical.

I'm playing the board, not the person.

If someone says something that is, for example, incoherent, I can say so, and still hold them in the same regard as before as a person.

When any teacher points out errors to students, they don't [or shouldn't] think any less of the pupils.

Just because the other chooses to see their opinions as so them that to attack one is to criticise the other, it doesn't follow that if I criticise their view, that i'm criticising them.

Projection's terribly tricky.