I'm quite taken aback by the response of Susan (who, after all, started this thread) to Eliza's obviously well-intentioned contribution to the discussion. It could quite easily have been me, rather than Eliza, who chose to bring up, in suitably general terms, the unfortunate experience of someone else with fire. If you felt so strongly about contributions of this kind, Susan, you ought to have made that clear from the outset, on opening your thread. In my respectful view, you have not been fair to Eliza, who has once again demonstrated to the rest of us, by her entirely unnecessary apology to you, what a wonderfully polite and sensitive human being she is.