Sorry; I used hoisting to mean needing what it's for. The Other ½ has a temper on him too but he stays where he is. The only reason I explode is cos of said problem. When I drink a bit less it goes, too, wearing those skirts helps – one of the medications does make me dry, so I drink more, which kind of defeats the object of taking it.
When I put music on, it goes, both the feeling & the pain, only to come back when I put it off; which suggests to me a lot of it is the fear of what might happen.
My parents used to do my care, but they managed to lift me & I could stand for about 2 secs – I should've had one done when I they/I could no longer do that.