Linn, It's so hard to understand why things that seem obvious to us, don't seem as obvious to them. Eventually Tom will "get it". In the meantime, he's fortunate to have someone as caring and patient as you to help him.
My decluttering in the garden was put on hold today with what appears to be the start of our usual six months of snow. Last week's 1600 km "Adoration of the Infant", (grandchild #15), trip, prevented me from preparing my two big flower beds for winter. I'm hoping that there may yet be a melt that will allow me to access them, but will have to wait and see. I was able to rake up and compost most of the fallen leaves before it snowed, the night that we arrived home.
I loaded all the toys from my roof space that would fit into my Vibe for the baby's older siblings to enjoy. Slowly, the roof space is becoming less full. Somehow, I have to empty it faster. I can't put off getting my knees done much longer.