Thanks Nigel and all,

We had the meeting with the Social worker yesterday, she had already made her mind up which boxes to tick, although she has never spent more than a minute with mum! However I have to admit mum is borderline for this extra funding so I wasn't surprised that she turned us down. Regarding my brother if he refuses to agree to the sale of the bungalow I will have to go to the Court of protection to have him removed as POA. Very unpleasant and very involved. But, and it is a huge BUT, we have exhausted all mums savings and the care bills are mounting up at a frightening rate. My brother thinks I should give up my business and look after mum 24/7. The salon is my sanctuary and I only do part time hours (as you know by the time I spend at the beach hut,) but I do need to work for financial reasons as well as my sanity! I have to say that my "rock" Billy has been wonderful as usual but our " golden times" that we shouted about a few weeks ago seem all too few and far between.

Will need all hands on deck this evening for the next confrontation with my brother, haul away lads and lasses I need calmer waters,

much love and thanks

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx