You and your family will continue to be in our prayers.
If you haven't already, see if your community has a chapter of Compassionate Friends. They are a support group that was very helpful to my sister when her first child died being born. Your pastor or people at the hospital should be able to connect you.
Can you share with us how to make a donation for the stained glass window? I am sure I am not the only person who would be honored to send a check.