Thankfully, the relative with the Ecstasy/MDMA and its consequences has been preoccupied with I-don't-care-what-else and so I am not the focus of that relative's attention. The relative turning my way now is the drama queen who periodically threatens that they don't think they can live with the way that things are anymore. The signals coming my way are "no more mister nice guy." Like I ought to be surprised? It is typical of this relative to put noisy threats out. Earlier this month, an exchange of e-mails took place between me and a bank administrator, all very civil and no resistance or hostility. But the e-mails did reference the operatic relative who did not make direct contact with me. "Periodic" is the clearest way I can describe the pattern that has been established for these behaviors. There will be a temporary period of intense attention-seeking and when the period inevitably ends, an indefinite period of silence. This alternating pattern has been maintained for a good thirty years. The signs are that the moment has arrived for some more passive-aggressive hostilities. My own conclusion is that peace is the thing, at this point, for which sacrifices and efforts are worthwhile. The old relationship, on the other hand, is not worth fighting for. Thanks for listening.
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